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| 1 | Does a man with a high body count impresses you?Having sex for fun and flings isn’t having 100% LTR mentality. It’s a spectrum- some people are only about casual/fling and some are only about sex in the context of commitment and love (and many are anywhere in between). A man who has zero interest in casual sex would probably have no more than 1 new GF per year since he turned 16 (aka, a max of 15 lifetime partners). I was just talking about a rough average for someone who’s extremely relationship oriented. Not because of “should” and “ideolog… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/22 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Does a man with a high body count impresses you?Early 30s woman, and I find it frightening. I would assume such a man is either a sex addict or a narcissist. I would completely avoid such a man. Usually when people have “high counts” they are mixing up deeper psychological needs with sexuality (ego, validation, loneliness, or even just “needing thrills” because they are empty and dead inside). | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/22 04:20 AM |
| 2 | Is it true that being a wife is like being a second mother to your husbandAll you can do is set and defend your own boundaries. You can’t change someone else or force him to do anything. Just don’t do those “mom” things FOR him, ever. Men who expect to be “mommed” will get upset or push back and that’s how you know what kind of man you’re dating. Also I have a strict anti-chasing rule; I never double text and refuse to do anything unbalanced like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/22 05:46 PM |
| 13 | “Men/women are disposable” sentiment is HORRIBLE and needs to stop immediatelyIn my opinion. RP itself promotes a nihilistic and inflammatory view that nobody cares about men, and that as a man, all you can do is become dark triad and manipulative to feel valued temporarily, sexually, by women. It’s true that each person needs to be self protective and healthy boundaries (avoid both codependency and narcissism). But this is not equal to “people not valuing/caring about you”. RP also promotes women as disposable with misogynistic rhetoric about basically how women are inte… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/11/21 08:13 PM |
| 5 | Do women only care about what you can provide?Okay here’s the gray area: For SOME women, yes it’s everything. For others, only part of it. For others, it’s a perk but who he is as a person is most important. For others, doesn’t matter at all. Women are human beings. Human beings vary in their moral fiber, priorities and values. Same with stereotypical concerns about dating men, I used to live in fear that all men want is frequent sex and for me to have a perfect body. Some men actually are like that, but men are a spectrum. So my goal is as… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/11/21 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Books for MEN?Jordan Peterson also doesn’t have a healthy relationship with his own wife. He admitted part way through a speech that I tried out that he loses his temper and yells at his wife. That’s not a man who feels secure in himself or his relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/21 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Books for MEN?Trying to change someone else is called “codependency”. You can’t change other people, you can only accept or reject what is within your own life and boundaries. Sometimes submissive acting men will take more of the lead, if you back off completely (don’t chase, don’t initiate) and then they will need to take the lead if they want something to happen. Some men really like this kind of encouragement and realize it’s natural and fulfilling to take a new role. I highly caution you about staying if … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/21 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Is TRP right about the 80/20 pill? Evidence against it.X | /r/ExRedPill | 13/10/21 01:10 AM |
| 3 | Is TRP right about the 80/20 pill? Evidence against it.X | /r/ExRedPill | 13/10/21 01:01 AM |
| 0 | “Apps promised to revolutionize dating. But for women they’re mostly terrible“-Nancy Jo Sales for The GuardianBy Nancy Jo Sales I’m not exactly sure when I decided that dating apps were not for me. Maybe it was the time I went on a date with a guy who tried to recite the entire script of the 1988 horror movie Child’s Play (“And then Chucky says, ‘Wanna play?’”). Or maybe it was when I was on a date with a guy who grabbed my crotch under the table not 10 minutes after I’d sat down. But by the time I was ready to permanently delete these apps, I was also hooked: hooked on platforms meticulously designed t… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/10/21 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Is there really such a thing as "she's out of your league?"Who cares? If two people consent to a relationship, why bother what others think about each person or what “league” they’re in? Also, if someone is so fussed about leagues, they should try to improve their own lot in life rather than convince others to accept them. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/21 11:31 AM |
| 5 | When the woman loses the divorce, the manosphere loses empathy.Same reason some men like porn featuring slapping, choking, pain-anal and dominance of women. They feel powerless to control women so take glee in seeing women get “owned”. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/21 11:28 AM |
| 7 | When the woman loses the divorce, the manosphere loses empathy.It’s revenge fantasies, RP men love to see women suffer because they hate women and blame women for their pain and suffering rather than realizing we all get hurt. Regarding divorce payouts; a prenup seems like a possibility for all marriages. If either party cannot consent to the prenup, the marriage and/or the relationship should not continue. Marriage is a contract of fidelity, I actually do agree that it seems problematic and could even incentivize divorce by making it a way to snatch someon… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/21 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Do women really have that many options ?Well, narcissists see monogamy as oppression. People who actually give a shit about the other person are overjoyed to give monogamy and security to each other. Narcissism is a relational disorder, narcissists value hedonism and gratification over honoring their commitments to other people. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/10/21 10:47 AM |
| 1 | How many Chads do women sleep with before going for beta and is it true that they do it?Which half of the Chad was her last go? 🤣 | /r/ExRedPill | 09/10/21 05:09 PM |
| 5 | Are women really the choosers?It’s possible but in my experience a bad idea. I initiated my last LTR with a man and he openly expressed that he accepted mainly just to have a placeholder for his loneliness and intimacy needs and not because he truly liked me. So I don’t trust that at all. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/21 04:50 AM |
| 3 | Are women really the choosers?Not at all, in my opinion men are the true choosers. Men control commitment and marriage. Men also control the level of effort, meaning like if the woman is going to be courted or just low balled with “Netflix and chill” type offers. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/10/21 04:04 AM |
| 1 | I’m so sorry I hate Kevin Samuel so much, instead of complaining about Modern women, why not teach men to be men, there’s a rise in rejection killings apparently, mostly towards poc.Lmfao, what if it’s actually his only income. Does anyone actually verify that he has a job. Or pays his own rent/bills even. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/10/21 02:05 PM |
| 10 | I’m so sorry I hate Kevin Samuel so much, instead of complaining about Modern women, why not teach men to be men, there’s a rise in rejection killings apparently, mostly towards poc.There’s nothing and nobody that could ever satisfy this man because he’s a narcissist (NPD). People like this want others to be a reflection of their ego needs only, which isn’t possible as needs coming into compromise is a reality of all human relationships. The contempt and spite he drops all the time is really just a projection of how much he hates himself (NPD are insecure). Needing to tear down others’ value and worth is a fact for NPD, because they interpret others’ selfhood as an ego atta… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/10/21 02:00 PM |
| 1 | How much does your social status matter to women?Then don’t date the women who want more. It’s that easy. People (men and women) can have any standards they want. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/21 09:50 PM |
| 9 | Do women really have that many options ?r/monogamy and r/monogamous but it’s mostly for people who had a partner or spouse who roped them into polyamory partway into a relationship which is called “poly bombed”. It’s also a community for pro monogamy people who are surrounded by friend groups and/or social culture where polyamory is promoted like major coastal cities. People talk about how poly is a cult in a way and uses manipulation tactics to get people to join and stay despite social harm. Some people even posted about becoming su… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/10/21 02:57 AM |
| 55 | Do women really have that many options ?Here’s the thing, unless a woman is ugly, diseased or obese, it’s very easy for women to find a man who wants to put his penis inside us, or go on a first date. Which usually ends in him trying to have sex and ghosting immediately after. It’s very, VERY difficult to encounter a man who truly respects us, wants to get to know us as people, will put effort and reciprocation into dating/courting us, and wants committed monogamy that will result in long term LTR/marriage. And that’s what I really wa… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/10/21 11:03 PM |
| 1 | WirginshamingFor what it’s worth I was the first partner for both my boyfriends and I didn’t mind that at all (they were both virgins before we dated). Not all women are turned off by it. I would rather have a virgin male partner than one involved in casual sex culture. Sometimes it means he just wants to lose it rather than he genuinely loves the woman he’s with tho. I won’t be used for a man’s ego. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/10/21 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Why do men fail to see that women are just people and aren't so different from each other?Porn addiction | /r/ExRedPill | 04/10/21 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Do women really have a bunch of orbiters waiting in line for their chance to get with her?That’s exactly what it is. Neglect and disinterest feels normal so they chase it. I did the same thing in my main heterosexual relationship. He was extremely intimacy avoidant and employed a lot of pushing away and distancing/neglect/ignoring(Despite being 100% monogamous for 3 years??? I’m the only sexual partner he’s ever had too…). | /r/ExRedPill | 03/10/21 03:54 AM |
| 4 | Do women really have a bunch of orbiters waiting in line for their chance to get with her?The age of social media also creates a false sense of intimacy, men can see women’s pictures and social media posts and it gives an impression of a “relationship” due to the false familiarity it generates. I deleted social media. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/10/21 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Do women really have a bunch of orbiters waiting in line for their chance to get with her?It’s a toxic belief that love can only be “earned” by being giving and sacrificing. I have that belief myself from narcissistic abusive parents, the idea that someone would just “like me” without me having to “do” a lot “for them” seems foreign. It’s unhealthy behavior. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/10/21 12:42 AM |
| 6 | Do women really have a bunch of orbiters waiting in line for their chance to get with her?Exactly, the idea that the woman’s current relationship is the only thing blocking him and her dating is usually delusional. Anything other than an enthusiastic yes is a no. People should never try to change a no into a yes. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/10/21 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Do women really have a bunch of orbiters waiting in line for their chance to get with her?Men who would do this orbiting behavior, have unhealthy attachment styles, low self esteem, or just no self respect. And that includes online orbiting like Facebook and Instagram lurking (liking every photo or commenting). Instead of hating on women, I wish RP would encourage men to seek healthy reciprocal interest. A big part of success in relationships is DISENGAGING when the other person is not returning your energy. Otherwise you will end up used only for what you have to offer, and not trul… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/10/21 12:37 AM |
| 24 | What is the bare minimum that guys do not do?Hmmm… not sure if you want opinions from women or if my opinion on this is even worth anything (it may not be)… I’ve never owned a car or a house myself. In my opinion both are overpriced by inflation and an epic waste of money, unless you’re solidly middle class or above. Rather have cash savings. Working class people I think are better off renting and using bus/walk, the sudden big bills that tend to come with stuff breaking in houses and cars is just an insane burden for most people’s income.… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/10/21 12:40 AM |
| 18 | How much does your social status matter to women?Woman here not sure if you want opinions… if a man/woman is legit refusing to work or otherwise neglecting basic adult responsibilities then that’s an issue for me even as friends (chronically part time/unemployed, doesn’t save money, irresponsible and reckless behavior like addiction or buying $1k computer system rather than have an emergency fund). Life costs money. That’s an indisputable fact. Gaudy and tacky displays of money are worthless to me, however it’s real life that illness, retireme… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/21 11:34 PM |
| 3 | Women of exredpill, is it true you don't like it when men are vulnerable with you?Sure, there is a thread just today about men asking for support from women (gfs) https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/py5l68/can_we_discuss_the_whole_your_partner_is_not_your/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/21 01:26 AM |
| 3 | Women of exredpill, is it true you don't like it when men are vulnerable with you?It’s less about your intentions and more about how you come across whether you meant to or not. It could also just be that you actually have acquaintances rather than friends (some ppl like to keep things shallow and just hangout), or maybe your friends suck and hold toxic views about masculinity (also a possibility). “All women” can’t be put into the same group, some are really into deep friendships and don’t care about gender roles and others are very superficial in social situations emotional… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/21 01:11 AM |
| 15 | Women of exredpill, is it true you don't like it when men are vulnerable with you?Being vulnerable is very different from using a woman as a free therapist/expecting very large and unreciprocated emotional labor. It’s also different from neg-begging (putting yourself down and expecting her to comfort/flatter you in response). Btw, I’m a bi woman and have had both female friends and partners leave, because I was just too dysfunctional at the time. Adults get turned off by someone needing a caregiver. I’m not saying it’s right but it’s how it is. It’s not a woman thing it’s a “… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/09/21 07:11 PM |
| 2 | What are your family/parents like?Definitely yes on attachment styles 🙏 I get “fearful avoidant” on the quizzes which is a mix of anxious and avoidant attachment. Sorry you went thru that too. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/09/21 03:45 AM |
| 1 | What's the deal with FDS (Female dating strategy)?I like scrolling FDS, the reason is that I think it is good for women to stop participating in dynamics with men where we are just being used for sex or being roped into free labor (maid, therapist, companion). I also like that aspect of TRP too tho… men don’t deserve 1 sided relationships where they are being used either. FDS brings up some really good points about how to avoid dynamics with men where you are unappreciated and unloved, too many women actually stay with men who don’t love them a… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/21 11:02 AM |
| 1 | Men exercising their options is such a stupid double standart.RP wants women to be literal property. Like a dog that can be chained in a doghouse when not in use. They don’t trust that we would be loyal without overt force (which is sad and un-true), and they also have this mentality that women exist to serve men, and so a man should be able to select a woman like a cattle on auction and fuck/breed her until the end of her “use” (when she gets too old, disabled, has “too many” emotional needs). Anything other than literal property-like ownership with no fr… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/21 10:33 AM |
| 9 | Something red pull ignores: women are individual people just like men are.The foundation of misogyny is dehumanization yes. “Women as maids/sex machines, not people”. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/21 03:31 AM |
| 9 | Does waiting for sex make men actually respect you more?Waiting for sex is an effective weed out mechanism for avoiding men who will abuse, disrespect or ghost you. You should wait as long as you need to in order to see what kind of person he really is, in my opinion this takes a minimum of 6 months, I am very cautious about it. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/21 09:46 PM |
| 1 | How much do demographics make a difference ?Bahaha yes, RP discusses the world of trashy relationships. But, trashy is a mentality, not an income level. My parents are upper middle class and their relationship was extremely trashy (violence, cops called, both parents addicts, jerry springer levels of drama, gaudy clothes and other wastes of money, aggressive and legally drawn out divorce, stalking etc). Due to their narcissistic personality disorders/codependency lol. People with attachment disorders make a lot of drama. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/21 02:15 PM |
| 2 | 70% of women file for divorce. Hypocrisy.The guy commenting to you is just a misogynist. If we leave we’re wrong. But if we stay we’re wrong. If we dated him in the first place we’re wrong. But also if we don’t “give a chance” to date all men we’re wrong. See the pattern? Women are always wrong. Rule #1 of misogyny. You gave him everything possible to make a family and relationship possible and he ruined it all. It’s literally not your fault why it ended. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/21 02:08 PM |
| 13 | has anyone else noticed that a decent amount of red pillers have ridiculous standards and justify it by saying "it's just my biology"I am basically certain at this point that the most prominent red pill male activists are sex/porn addicts, entitled and toxic masculinity, and Narcissistically personality disordered. Homely looking, average income people have been dating, marrying and having sex for millennia. Otherwise, how’d we get 9 billion people on earth? That’s mathematically impossible if only Chad and Stacy (megaLolz) are getting the action. Most people have their time. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/21 03:11 AM |
| 10 | Do y’all hate when men use the words “female” instead of women?Femoid 🤣🤣🤣 I’m a woman but I hope mods give me a flair for this sub that says Femoid GigaChad lolz | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/21 12:01 AM |
| 1 | “Women only want Chad” is sheer projectionIt’s over for SubEmmaWatsonFemoids 🤣 /s | /r/ExRedPill | 26/09/21 03:05 AM |
| 1 | How to support boyfriend who is ex red pill?Yup, this is the answer that veterans of the situation will give. All of OP’s unpaid emotional labor might be for nothing in the end. You can’t turn a boy into a man. I only accept men who are already evolved past seeing women as free therapists. I’m a person, not a servant. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/09/21 05:40 PM |
| 0 | How to support boyfriend who is ex red pill?I’m a woman, use extreme caution if you are thinking about playing therapist for a man. Use extreme caution about becoming co-dependent. You’re not responsible for tolerating low effort, emotional avoidance and lack of commitment because of what some other woman did. You’re not Barbara the Builder. You can’t drag him. I was the pick-me girl who was “chill” and tried to “help” the men I dated with their addictions and blatantly avoidant attachment and it was a huge mistake. This was despite the f… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/09/21 05:38 PM |
| 2 | When red pill men say “genuine desire” is the most attractive trait in a woman it reeks of unresolved trauma or childhood lonelinessHaving a woman’s vagina delivered doorstep like a pizza delivery while she begs for domination = true desire. Lol. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/21 11:35 AM |
| 2 | Do you thin there is a correlation between low intelligence and BP/RP? Or is it just lack of social skills and depression?I don’t personally think so. Contrary to red pills teachings, many women are socialized to take abuse and lack of effort/reciprocity and the FDS message is about setting standards to rule out men who do not respect or value women. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/21 02:54 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of this guys. I like to think i left the paranoia and lack of trust behind but this Twitter thread made me sick to my stomach brought back all kinds of terrible memoriesIf you go looking for examples of people being terrible you will find endless examples. If you go looking for examples of people being amazing you will find endless examples. Random threads on Twitter can’t heal your betrayal trauma (I assume you’re saying you were cheated on in your title). | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/21 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Are there any people here that are perpetually single, celibate and happy? How? Id like to learn you do it. The BP has made my life miserable.When you’re genuinely secure in yourself and living your best life with work, hobbies and friends, ironically so it goes, that’s when a relationship tends to come along anyways. People are turned off by learning the other person is desperate for validation and approval. Healthy people run from people who seek a relationship as their central focus. Making another person your whole world is codependency. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/21 01:12 AM |
| 1 | I don't understand if there's any hope for real.The biggest reason this is false is this: the human population is enormous and gets bigger every year (8 billion and counting). How is that possible if only Chad is having sex? | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/21 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Men are not the prize; Not even women.Dating is better when you have standards and boundaries. “Simping” (men) and “pick me” (women) are CODEPENDENCY ISSUES. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/21 12:39 AM |
| 6 | Do you thin there is a correlation between low intelligence and BP/RP? Or is it just lack of social skills and depression?Number 1 correlation is trauma and abusive families of origin, it’s not healthy to go through life believing that there is a magic formula for manipulating other people into giving you selfish benefit and unconditional love. Just typing that out, clearly it’s some type of personality disordered thinking, coming from a lack of love and validation from a parent to a child as a PERSON that is now in a grown up body. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/09/21 12:34 AM |
| 13 | When red pill men say “genuine desire” is the most attractive trait in a woman it reeks of unresolved trauma or childhood lonelinessI assume most people’s desire is built through steady and trustworthy interactions indicating affection and reciprocity, over time. “Instant desire” isn’t really a thing. That’s merely lust, at best. Also yes, those deprived on some level, of unconditional love in childhood (supposedly this is actually most people since childhood trauma is generational and widespread) … go looking for it in adulthood. It isn’t healthy for adults to expect other adults to love them 100% unconditionally. There sho… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/21 11:29 PM |
| 7 | Is hitting the wall even a thing?X | /r/ExRedPill | 22/09/21 02:32 AM |
| 3 | The brain rot has set in so deep that instead of saying “Feel better about yourself to attract people” they title their videos this…Typical narcissistic personality disorder | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/21 03:13 PM |
| 9 | I need helpNarcissistic personality disorder? | /r/ExRedPill | 17/09/21 03:12 PM |
| 7 | What would you say are core RP beliefs?That women are not human? We’re apparently evil incarnate, literally just a vagina for use, or a source of ego validation. I haven’t ever seen a RP man refer to actually loving a woman. Only using her. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/09/21 03:04 AM |
| 8 | Do the majority of women actually hate nice guys & are only interested in bad boys?The opposite, I am attracted to monogamous, respectful people who strive for physical, emotional and relational health. My favorite way of meeting partners is through friends. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/09/21 01:29 AM |
| 1 | how many women in this sub?Woman, former male partner had obvious contempt for me and MGTOW-like beliefs/reactions (women are evil and trying to smother him, a girlfriend is just a replacement mother/free sex/easy companionship). He also used me for money, I paid for most dates and he had his own savings the whole time. Spooked me from ever dating a man again knowing that he might actually feel disgust towards me and just see me as something to use. Haven’t dated a man in more than 5 years. Probably won’t ever again. Lurk… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/09/21 03:51 AM |
| 8 | So what is the true point of this sub?I’m getting a lot of good out of it. If people don’t want my posts and comments they can let me know. RP is a philosophy for men, so probably it makes more sense to have a male only sub but this is one of the few places where I can talk with people about the subject. I was exposed to RP online and became terrified that men will never want women older than 25, also that women who aren’t perfect physically and mentally are doomed to just be hit and run for sex with random men with no actual hope f… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/21 03:45 AM |
| 3 | Being shy as a guy is definitely the worst possible trait, right?Yea, this is the sad truth. Men pursue what they want. I was the initiator for my longest monogamous partnership with a man and it was a mistake. He never actually loved me, just saw me as a convenient placeholder while he leveled up and decided what he really wanted. “Shy” men overcome it when they see a woman that they’re truly interested in. Shy is BS. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/21 03:30 AM |
| 2 | any comments? especially from women on this subject?I don’t agree with it, generally speaking. For me, attraction grows as a result of positive interactions that feel healthy, respectful, and without pressure. I personally feel too overwhelmed if a man asks for a date without at least a few days or weeks of interacting. I personally feel like that’s why shared common social spaces are so important. Allow people to spend time with each other and see a lot of green lights rather than the cold approach stab in the dark thing PUA/online dating style. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/21 12:47 AM |
| 3 | As a black piller transitioning out of black pill, I see red pill as a lesser of 2 evils and drawn to it.E! | /r/ExRedPill | 08/09/21 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Why is male virginity rising?Pornography addiction is the #1 culprit in my opinion. It increases the degree to which men have poor social skills and messed up behavior and attitudes towards women. Also, other forms of media dependency in the digital age. People are indoors on computers and tv's a lot now. Church other places traditionally popular for meeting mates has dwindled in popularity. Also, I would name the economic situation as a big factor. Women and men have to work full time to make ends meet. Few people make a t… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/09/21 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Do women really see men as just walking ATM’s?The opposite, I have only dated 3 men in my whole life (30F) and all were either students with me at the time and we both had an entry level part time job along with school (1), underemployed (poverty wage/low hours with no plan to advance) (2), or straight up unemployed, this one just never launched after college ended until I got him a job, literally I arranged the interview and recommended him as well as shared gig work with him (3). I did love these men. Growing up, my mom is a sociopathic n… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/09/21 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Can you be an average looking guy and score a very attractive woman? How much do looks matter to women?A lot of people say that women just groom better rather than the idea that more women are attractive. Since birth, women are conditioned to style our hair, do our makeup and dress/wear jewelry and accessories in a way that maximizes our features and pleasing appearance. This is actually a lot of pressure which is why women have more eating disorders and cosmetic surgery than men. Many men would upgrade their overall attractiveness just with better styling, hygiene and grooming including weight l… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/09/21 04:20 AM |
| 4 | Is it just me or is there an influx of posts that are barely not redpill?People just want their opinion validated. They want the world to fit into neat little boxes… it doesn’t. Pill teaches that if you just do x,y,z, you’ll be happy, you’ll have sex and your partner won’t leave or hurt you. Or if they do, you’ll have an insurance policy against it relationally. The truth is that all relationships require vulnerability and trust. Unfortunately there is almost no way to guarantee not to make mistakes with it. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/09/21 03:49 AM |
| 9 | I'm scared of women..I think it’s mainly about educating yourself to spot the red flags and block/delete/no contact at the first warning, and also learn effective tactics to stand up for yourself. Abusers go through life looking for “easy” targets… it sounds like victim blaming but the truth is that it really is sound advice to try and reduce the degree to which you’re an “easy” target. Also quit porn permanently, it’s extremely warped and toxic for your mind. Edit: it really sucks how few examples of healthy and po… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/09/21 03:34 AM |
| 23 | I'm scared of women..I’m a woman (age 30). My mom is a narcissistic sociopath and my dad was an enabler, I get what you mean. I used to hate myself because I was a woman. It lead to some very toxic and strange dynamics. Same as you, I also suffered bullying female colleagues and school bullies. Healing the wounds of narcissistic abuse, is the best course. I would actually say, it’s okay to keep peaceful distance from women in general until you get really solid on how to spot the bad ones and avoid/repel them, especi… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/09/21 01:34 AM |
| 2 | What percentage of women would you say are affected by redpill thinking in potential partners?Oh yeah, fundamentally narcissistic thinking | /r/ExRedPill | 02/09/21 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Are all Red Pill methods for attracting women bullshit?Lol exactly. Do they wanna be a baby daddy to a woman who’s insecure and traumatized? Do RP. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/09/21 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Redpill Cowardice“Chad” is a projection of their own teenage developmental fantasy of being fulfilled sexually and psychologically through validation from the opposite sex. No man is actually a “Chad”. The concept is a caricature and a stereotype. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/09/21 04:33 PM |
| 8 | "It's not an ideology. It's a praxeology."How could someone have action without ideology to dictate what actions should be taken? Of course it’s an ideology. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/09/21 04:28 PM |
| 11 | What do you guys think the average women wants in a man?Women are human beings. Each woman can be very different from each other. I personally am most attracted to strong moral character and personal responsibility. Also, prioritizing his (and my) health. I’m very devoted to my self care and health practices and he should be too. He should also understand the responsibility of sex which means that despite best efforts, pregnancy can happen and I expect him to be by my side for any abortion, adoption or birth/parenthood. I don’t have sex with men who … | /r/ExRedPill | 01/09/21 03:02 AM |
| 11 | What percentage of women would you say are affected by redpill thinking in potential partners?Can you even date red pill men? I assume they are trying to “pump and dump” me so I immediately reject any man who seems red pilled/PUA/mgtow | /r/ExRedPill | 31/08/21 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Is the basis of the red pill repressed homosexuality?Yeah, honestly it’s mega sus how important it is to be seen as alpha/socially approved by other males in this group. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/08/21 05:23 PM |
| 14 | Highly extroverted (F22) dating my wonderful introverted partner (26M) - looking for advice on keeping myself entertained while my man recharges!Have plans in advance for a recurring check in. Like, “everyday at 8pm we have a 30 minute phone chat/every Sunday at 10am we meet up to watch a movie”. That way you concretely know that you have a next thing to look forward to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/21 01:04 AM |
| 2 | Hypocrisy in the “women are only emotionally driven people” statement.How dare you be a complex human being with your own needs and thoughts! /s | /r/ExRedPill | 24/08/21 08:28 PM |
| 6 | Career/success & its impact on datingI think it’s important for both men and women. I think the idea that successful and well off men are ok with dating a woman who works in fast food, as long as she is hot, is completely false and delusional. For the majority of the middle and upper class, they date within their class. Meet at university, jobs, country/social/business networking club etc. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/08/21 06:35 PM |
| 16 | What are the negative effects that redpill left in your lives?Female, doomscrolled RP and RPW for a few years. Utterly toxic waste of my life. Relevant: am a survivor of childhood narcisstic, physical and emotional abuse so the idea that I'm worthless to men (something my mother actually said to me) really hit those wounds. I'm completely terrorized by the idea that men think women are worthless, used up and disposable after 18-30 or whatever the cutoff of the day is. It feels like they hate us the day we start puberty to be honest tho. Women can’t ever do… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/08/21 06:09 AM |
| 30 | Hypocrisy in the “women are only emotionally driven people” statement.It’s mostly men who snap and kill their partner in DV situations… and that’s not emotional? Being a porn addict (also male dominated) isn’t emotional? Lots of things that misogynistic men do are extremely reactive. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/08/21 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Do women only want alpha men?X | /r/ExRedPill | 23/08/21 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Despite having your own reasons for leaving TRP, do you hold onto any values/ideas/beliefs from the community that you still go by?I absolutely resonate with the idea that hookups emotionally harm women. I’ve never had sexual intercourse (PIV) outside a relationship, but I had a few other experiences that taught me that sex is deeply intimate and I WILL personally experience trauma and mental illness from any level of casual sex, even if it was not violent in any way and even if he is not a bad man in any way. It’s just not for me. I hate modern consumerist liberal feminism, PUA/RP, and misogynistic pornography for promotin… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/08/21 04:24 AM |
| 9 | My partner doesn't acknowledge how hard I'm tryingYou don’t want to be emotionally abused and you think this makes you a nag...? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the "great conspiracy" to stop women from staying homeBeing able to enter the work word is a blessing for women seeking to avoid LVM. In history, we used to have to partner with the first man who offered us shelter and food in our adulthood and often money would change hands between men to sell adult daughters to husbands, in some cultures it is still this way. Many men are NOT worth staying home for. Many men are stingy and would create a situation of abuse and tit for tat because “he’s paying for everything”. A true HVM who seeks traditional gend… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 05:56 AM |
| 6 | Female relationships in the workplaceWomen can have narcissistic, antisocial and borderline personality disorders... same as men can. Also. A lot of women who are shackled to LVM, by choice, by marriage or because of kids, are extremely miserable and bitter and will hook their anchor around your neck and drag you into their misery to feel company in it. It is NOT your responsibility to “heal” these women through attempting to bond with them. That’s codependency. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/21 05:15 AM |
| 1 | When chasing Younger Girls go completely wrongHe would have to be deeply insecure to respond that way. His ego was clearly bruised. A simple “ok, no problem” and walk away after asking would be appropriate. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/08/21 06:18 PM |
| 8 | How "normal" is the sexualization of teens/young women by men?Gail Dines (author of the book PornLand) talks a lot about how male pornography viewers get groomed by the porn industry to sexualize younger and younger women due to the insidious “BARELY LEGAL TEEN GETS F**” and “STEPDAD F* STEPDAUGHTER” on every porn front page. Nobody can deny that the major porn companies push incest, CP, and age gap. As porn addictions develop, men need more and more extreme stuff to stay turned on like fetishes, CP, violence, and other hyper stimulus. Your normal everyday… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/08/21 06:07 PM |
| 11 | @feminitydoc on IG says “that salary can’t suck your toes” 🤢🤮 I’m sick of these female version of RP that are leading other women to slaughter!RP in general has an extremely messed up relationship with money. And yes, a man is not a plan (never thought it was, myself). I do think that a lot of people are rejecting “struggle love” (aka codependency and enabling) nowadays, though and that’s a good thing. It’s not about the money, it’s about the way money contributes to the health of the overall relationship. It’s about the idea of each party being an emotional ADULT and realizing that life costs money, especially the pending future of re… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/08/21 05:39 PM |
| 3 | Being a player/womanizer is overratedYeah, narcissistic, anti-social (sociopath), or borderline personality disorders. That's what RP men are, or are hoping to be. Since many women had parents like that as children, the bullshit and suffering feels familiar, so they gravitate towards it until they wise up. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/21 04:41 AM |
| 2 | Sadly, this is from the shooter in UK. Please, please, please take care of your fellow Red Pill/MGTOW homies. Come on, we can do better. 💪❤I think it should be classified as a form of extra-malicious internet addition. Feeding your brain the terminology, posts and memes through the screen makes people sick. The remedy should be to completely cut the phone/computer access for 6 months and see if it helps. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/08/21 04:41 PM |
| 4 | Sadly, this is from the shooter in UK. Please, please, please take care of your fellow Red Pill/MGTOW homies. Come on, we can do better. 💪❤This malicious form of internet addiction is killing people. His thinking is so warped. He was brainwashed to death and took innocent people with him. “Red pill” is not “the truth”. r/nosurf I recommend cut your WiFi and switch to a dumb phone if it’s getting bad like this. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/08/21 04:38 PM |
| 2 | I want out.r/nosurf Have you considered cutting your WiFi and switching to a “dumb/flip phone” for a few months? I did that last year and it was so helpful. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/08/21 04:00 PM |
| 15 | Is Kevin Samuels really red pill?In my humble opinion, he is just a straight up old school misogynist. I am not sure he really even believes in a certain framework it just feels like he loves insulting and putting down women. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/08/21 06:30 AM |
| 9 | What made you exredpill?Realized that RPW was basically just dressed up codependency. And RP men was narcissism. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/08/21 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Does redpill mean ill die alone?The redpill sphere is mostly low self esteem, abused, neglected and otherwise traumatized or even PERSONALITY DISORDERED men and women fucking up each other’s lives. Other than the basic advice to take care of yourself (maximize your appearance, financial responsibility, and grow your social skills/friend group), which isn’t even a redpill idea it’s just common sense, the rest of it is formulaic and unhealthy. Also, these people really need to go outside and take their blinders off. There are ma… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/08/21 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Besides sex - HOW do men need women?Hey, disregard fresh and fit. The creator was recently exposed as having a profile on a prostitution website... and his profile is disgusting. Not only is it weirdly racially charged but it’s overtly misogynistic. Check it out: https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/p30q33/myron_gaines_exposed_as_a_sugar_daddy/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/21 05:28 PM |
| 8 | “She’s not wife material”Ok hear me out. “Spinning plates” is a big cope for secretly wanting committed, sexually active monogamy, but simultaneously being too afraid of women/hateful towards women/dysfunctional to actually attract or retain connections with quality women. Red pill is fundamentally unhealthy, it’s attachment disordered and low self esteem men trying to manipulate women to feel a taste of power and control since otherwise, they feel powerless and out of control in their dating lives. Ironically like you … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/21 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Do men really get better with age?It has pros and cons. The only real “wall” is not taking care of your health. Extra weight, alcohol, smoking, partying and terrible eating and sleeping habits are survivable in your 20’s... it catches up to you as you age though. Also, for both sexes, if you didn’t take your money seriously or made reckless decisions, you start to realize that those have long term consequences. Lots of people have the best health (and therefore appearance) of their life in middle age because they start taking it… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/21 09:24 PM |
| 3 | "A key that opens many locks is a master key, but a lock that opens to many keys is a shitty lock"They want to be alpha but they hate women for actually having the quantity of sex required for some men to be alpha. They want a woman who puts out ASAP but somehow she also has to be a virgin because he won’t take chad’s leftovers or something omg can’t believe I typed that so sorry. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/21 05:52 PM |
| 2 | "A key that opens many locks is a master key, but a lock that opens to many keys is a shitty lock"No he wouldn’t be risking in my case, because I don’t have any STDs at all... as for generally speaking like my original comment, it’s always a good idea to ask a new partner to be tested at the doctor together. If a man is “red pill” he is having as much random sex as possible no? So his test results could be worthless and inaccurate within the week. This is a totally different risk level than people dating monogamously. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/21 12:21 PM |
| 16 | "A key that opens many locks is a master key, but a lock that opens to many keys is a shitty lock"Condoms break and pills fail, more than people think. And carrying a human in your body is a level of commitment absolutely not equal to potentially owning child support. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/21 05:02 AM |
| 11 | SO is too wrapped up in TRP and I need helpDo you think he would accept a request to detox for 30 days? As in, don’t watch the show at all or read the content for a month? You could present it like, what about a break- as if he could go back to it after the break if he really feels it’s necessary. I feel like, with constant exposure to the ideology, it can really re wire the brain. But if he can take a break and spend his free time going for walks in the park, learning a hobby, spending time with you. Maybe he would come out of the fog. … | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/21 01:57 AM |
| 32 | "A key that opens many locks is a master key, but a lock that opens to many keys is a shitty lock"It’s always been so confusing to me because in order for some men to be promiscuous... some women have to also be, otherwise who would the promiscuous men be sleeping with? It’s a very toxic dominance/submission thing. A man dominates women socially by sleeping with us. We become inferior by participating. Also, when will men realize that random sex is generally awful for women. Being able to obtain garbage quality, no effort hit and runs isn’t worth anything. Let me ask men, would YOU love it i… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/08/21 12:32 AM |
| 9 | Why do some red pill men spend their time talking smack about women and other men online?Don’t forget the shameless plugging to spend money on BS coaching, otherwise spot on. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/21 10:47 PM |
| 5 | What is your take on chadfishing?As a woman when I read posts like this it just justifies the fact that I haven’t dated a man in 6 years and likely never will again. OP, major yikes. It just seems like you already hold a view that women are awful and untrustworthy and you’re looking for justification to fuel your mentality that you should be able to hurt women before they hurt you. Obviously, hookup apps favor hot people, however, hookups = / = relationships or real world dating. Casual sex from an image based app is a looks ga… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/08/21 10:45 PM |
| 7 | How do I stop feeling like a shit every time I get ghosted?A lot of times the person doing the ghosting actually views it as more polite than saying something. It would be confrontational and unnecessarily hurtful in their mind, to tell you that they’re not feeling it or that they don’t think it’s a good fit, ESPECIALLY not to the point of sharing the exact reasons why they feel that. Some women are afraid the man will become angry or argue if reasons are provided for saying no. Stop taking it personally too. Maybe her dog died and she isn’t wanting to … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/07/21 03:22 PM |
| 4 | Red Pill left me with a deep mistrust of both men and women - more so men.Do you thing you’ve been through a trauma or fear of abandonment? Even if the other person didn’t mean to inflict that? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/21 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Opinion on statement "Women don't care about your struggles. They wait at the finish line and pick the winners"?Thanks 🙏. I appreciate your kind words and effort. You definitely have my ex down to a T. That’s exactly how his psychology is, the projected shame and me landing into unhealthy roles from his subconscious (replacement mother, etc). My own father was an exploited and abused breadwinner (my mother is a vain, abusive, exploitative, psychopathic narcissist). So I’ve seen the toxic extreme in the reverse. In fact that’s why I never wanted to be her, so my relationship was like the other extreme. I’m… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/21 05:03 AM |
| 22 | Opinion on statement "Women don't care about your struggles. They wait at the finish line and pick the winners"?In my experience it was truly the opposite... I did my best to love my ex boyfriend unconditionally, loyal through severe depression and PTSD, and once he was his leveled up version, he criticized me in intense contempt and then dumped me. Oh and to top it off, this was a role reversal relationship. I paid for most things and I am the one who invited him for our first time having sex, and to be together. I loved him. At this point I see the benefits in traditional gender roles, because if you ta… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/07/21 04:05 PM |
| 3 | Their is now a Petition to get Kevin Samuels off YouTube.The best way to deal with a disrespectful partner is to communicate that you will be taking distance, then if you want to come back together to talk it out, if you don’t want to (or if the talking doesn’t help), break up with them. In the first 1-3 years of dating, each partner should observe the other closely and not be afraid to break off the relationship at the first sign of serious disrespect. DON’T marry a partner showing red flags. If you are unmarried, it’s really quite simple, tell your … | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/21 04:40 AM |
| 4 | Their is now a Petition to get Kevin Samuels off YouTube.If the level of vitriol directed at women was directed at any other group... people would have a meltdown. For some reason it is okay to be genuinely hateful towards women, the rhetoric is terrifying I can’t even relax around men any more after realizing how many of them easily lean towards hating us and want to hurt us especially if gasp we’re over 30. I haven’t dated a man since 2015, growing up I always wanted to be a wife and marry, I grew up wanting closeness with men and now I’m just utter… | /r/ExRedPill | 23/07/21 04:29 AM |
| 1 | what makes a man attractive?Well also, a lot of RP worldview is based on whether or not they can “pull girls” for casual sex. Many women are keen to date a wide variety of male appearances and incomes, of decent men, wherein these same women aren’t down to just “fuck”. Many women including me, are repulsed by, and anti, casual sex. What really amuses/horrifies me about red pill is the men will say all women are whores and these same men have PUA videos where they brag on sleeping with tons of women. Which just reinforces t… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/21 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Probably some RapepillerToday in, “porn addiction mixed with unresolved trauma, wounded ego and a sexist culture rots people’s brains”.... | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/21 11:42 PM |
| 1 | I gave up on my best friend of 20 years. He’s part of the collective now.You seem very thoughtful and aware of the nuances in life, your friend not so much. I think some men who get burned/betrayed/traumatized by women, look for some kind of magical formula to prevent ever getting burned again. Unfortunately being burned is part of life, not some kind of specific persecution. Ironically, this rigid seeking of total emotional safety/predictability tends to lead to more of the same. Going to make an assumption here that he thought getting a younger woman was an insuran… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/21 11:32 PM |
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