I need help

BiWomanHealing · 2021-09-17T15:12:43+00:00

Narcissistic personality disorder?

LadylikeElectricland · 2021-09-17T15:04:52+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this, it sounds like complete hell. I obviously don't know your ex and what drives him, but my guess would be a combination of some untreated mental health issues and the fact that he is deeply unhappy with himself and his life. Add to this the redpill misogyny and he is stuck in this vicious circle in which he keeps convincing himself that you are responsible for everything bad in his life. Unfortunately, people like your ex always take their frustrations out on the physically weaker.

Whatever were those 'mistakes' that you made, you do not deserve this treatment. Couples who can't get along should be perfectly capable of living apart, especially when they share children. I know plenty of couples who couldn't stand each other while they were together, but are perfectly cordial co-parents who put their children's interests above their conflicts.

Your ex clearly has issues that need professional help and, I'm afraid, there is nothing that you could tell him or do that would make him stop harassing you. I recommend that you keep a detailed record of his abuse. Keep his texts/emails and record your phone calls. Make a list of all things he has done to you and date them properly. Unfortunately, unless he is causing you physical harm, the police won't help you with this. If you are in the US, you might ask for a restraining order, but that won't change his resentment towards you.

This is a terrible, terrible situation to be in. I would say continue grey-stoning him and instead of trying to 'understand' why he does this and how can you stop it, focus on yourself and your wellbeing. Get into therapy, start new hobbies and try to meet new friends. You might also want to look for some local support groups. It will stop one day, you'll see, but in the meanwhile, prioritise your own wellbeing and the wellbeing of your children as you pay as little attention to your ex as you legally can. I wish you the best of luck!

tiposk · 2021-09-17T15:23:59+00:00

Have you though about going to the police? That should be the first step if you haven't.

Aggressive-Complex79 · 2021-09-17T16:05:02+00:00

Sounds like he's taking his hatred towards you out on the kids because they are easy targets and the only current way he can hurt you. This is so awful and mentally damaging to your children. I'm not too sure what he's saying and doing to the kids, but if you think it's bad enough, find out what you can do to keep them safe i.e. limit visitation. Ultimately he will pay for his behaviour when they get older and can make their own decisions about who they want in their lives. I'm sorry that you are going through this

Psychoanalysis173 · 2021-09-17T22:51:41+00:00

100% is a narcissist, sociopath or a psychopath

EntertainmentNeat592 · 2021-09-17T14:36:35+00:00

How old were you when u got married to him and how old how old was he? What was the worst mistake u did when u were together? Need more clarification of the matter.

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bluehorserunning · 2021-09-17T17:16:17+00:00

You really need a good lawyer and a restraining order. If you're not already, start recording every single interaction you have with him and everything he does, no matter how far removed.

kalu777 · 2021-09-17T20:39:26+00:00

What did u do wrong?

Title	I need help
Author	rvenar
Upvotes	15
Comments	19
Date	September 17, 2021 2:22 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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