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| 3 | How effective is Redpill relationship advice when it comes to marriage?The Red Pill is designed to help men who are failing at attracting women get laid. It is not fundamentally aimed at helping men make lasting or meaningful relationships, by design. If you're looking to make a marriage work, you need to think about balancing desire with intimacy. They're not exactly mutually exclusive, but it doesn't hurt to think about them as opposites. Desire is based on mystery, intimacy is based on closeness/comfort. RP stuff can help you create desire, but won't help with e… | /r/askTRP | 14/05/21 12:42 AM |
| 4 | PronounsThe intended point, as far as I know, is to normalize specifying pronouns so trans/etc. people don't feel weird being the only people who have to do it. The only people doing it currently in the real world are people people firmly in the gender activist camp or those adjacent. Some people doing it signalling they're part of a community... it's like wearing a cross on a chain to indicate you're christian. Some people doing it might be virtue signalling, but some honestly think they're making the … | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 08:40 PM |
| 1 | My brother plays video games all day and he's 26 with no job, job experience, or degree. What should I do?This condition is actually fairly common in Japan - it's called hikkikomori. Enough young people (mostly men, but a significant percentage are women) are hiding from the world that it's become a serious issue. Unfortunately, telling him what he needs to do, what he already KNOWS he needs to do and isn't doing, won't help. Just telling him what he's already beating himself up about internally won't help. There's something preventing him from wanting to put himself out there. Anxiety/fear of failu… | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 06:19 AM |
| 14 | Taking a girl to a nude beach...yay or nay?I don't think a bait-and-switch is a good idea. You can make a plan to go to "a beach," and before you leave you can propose going to a nude beach, if you think that's more spontaneous. Just my thought, tho | /r/askTRP | 27/08/20 05:31 AM |
| 4 | My confidence is fakeYou're welcome! And thanks, it's nice to feel appreciated. | /r/askTRP | 06/08/20 01:24 AM |
| 20 | My confidence is fakeThe only person you should be comparing yourself to is who you were. The best way I've heard this said is a movie analogy: Some people love the big hollywood blockbusters. A lot of people love them. But some people DON'T. Some people love indie movies, or off-broadway musicals, or local experimental fringe festival stuff. Wannabe Hollywood blockbusters don't make it in those venues, only the shows that put in the work to be the best in their own categories. Maybe that's you. Maybe you're not a h… | /r/askTRP | 05/08/20 03:41 PM |
| 6 | I walked away 1 minute after the first date- meeting herThis.... this is a parody, right? You're joking, correct? "This is our first date? Do this thing I say. No, I don't have a reason for it. If you don't do what I say I'm leaving." Congratulations, you completely missed confident and competent and veered into "petty and controlling." And now you say the only options available were her submitting or you submitting. I can't tell if you're insecure or an idiot. Both? And what do you mean by "pick a direction?" You're walking around a park, I guess? W… | /r/askTRP | 27/07/20 07:58 PM |
| 4 | I'm facing a very hard time nowDepression is a real thing. It happens to people, and you aren't less of a valid person for feeling that way. That doesn't mean you don't need to do anything about it. If you can find a psychologist/therapist you can make a good connection with, having someone to talk to can help, especially if friends aren't filling that need. If anyone tries to belittle you or tell you you're less of a man for taking care of yourself, tell 'em to fuck off. If you're really feeling like nothing matters, TRP won… | /r/askTRP | 17/07/20 07:30 PM |
| 6 | How to Quit Pot if Doing So Will Lose All of Your FriendsMost groups are like that. But sometimes you'll make a real connection with someone worth keeping, and then the question is whether you a) realize it and b) work to keep said friendship going after circumstances change | /r/askTRP | 17/04/20 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Need help to improve my Mental health situationKeep in mind that esports (like real sports) has a huge number of people who want to be involved and very, very few paying positions available. If you're trying to go pro, you've got something like a 0.01% chance of making it. You HAVE to go in with a backup plan and the understanding that the people you're competing with are willing to do utterly insane things to succeed. Are you willing to sacrifice every other thing in your life in order to be the best (or 15th best, or whatever) at a video g… | /r/askTRP | 06/10/19 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Girl wants to bring mutual (Female) friend on dateFair enough. If you're worried, might be worth checking in with B afterwards and letting her know you're interested in A (if you are). If she introduced you two, she's probably going to be straight with you about whether A's interested or not. | /r/askTRP | 22/09/19 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Girl wants to bring mutual (Female) friend on dateCould be any number of things. Maybe she's afraid she'll be too awkward and wants to have a wing-girl along. Maybe she honestly needs a ride home. Maybe she's nervous about meeting someone she doesn't know very well alone. My best advice is to not worry about it, go and have a good time, and if things get weird you can ask Girl B about it later. I mean, she's 19. She's probably insecure and doesn't have much dating experience and is just trying to figure stuff out like anyone that age does. It s… | /r/askTRP | 22/09/19 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Girl wants to bring mutual (Female) friend on dateSounds like Girl B is trying to hook you two up for an actual relationship, not something casual. If that's what you're interested in, then I don't see any problems here, go for it. One date with a wingman isn't going to ruin anything. If you're only looking for something casual you should probably let Girl B (and A) know, if you haven't already. | /r/askTRP | 22/09/19 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Swallowing the pill caused the death of my social life.I'm going to give you the same advice I give to my off-the-deep-end progressive left friends/acquaintances: "If the entire world looks problematic, the problem might not be with the world." Go back and watch The Matrix, and pay attention to Morpheus's speech about why they don't just wake everybody up at once. It's not your job to preach the truth to everyone you see, and getting mad at people for not believing what you do won't help. Society's attitudes are already changing slowly. If you deman… | /r/askTRP | 17/08/19 04:59 PM |
| 1 | As a religious man will the red pill work on me?Ah, okay. Good luck with that, then. | /r/askTRP | 11/07/19 09:35 PM |
| 1 | As a religious man will the red pill work on me?If you haven't yet, you may want to explore the works of Jordan B. Peterson, a psychologist who wrote 12 rules for life and does lectures about self-improvement, etc. He's also religious and also does lectures that involve understanding the importance of religious philosophy and stories from a secular point of view, and reconciling his religious beliefs with his scientific background as a clinical psychologist. You might find some of his speaking/writing useful. Other than that, byronshadow and … | /r/askTRP | 11/07/19 08:09 PM |
| 21 | What’s the most practical way to get a girlfriend?You say nothing about your personal situation, or the kind of girl you're looking for, or the kind of relationship you're looking for, or what's holding you back. You are absolutely being vague. When you ask a generalized question, you get a generalized answer. How do you get a girlfriend? Be the most attractive person available to at least one girl. How do you become more attractive? Improve yourself. To paraphrase Jordan Peterson, "Clean up your damn room before you worry about inviting someon… | /r/askTRP | 03/06/19 06:04 AM |
| 4 | Awarness of the red pill makes me depressedWell, to continue your analogy: drugs work by activating the reward centres of your brain, but do so to the point that regular good events can't match up to. And now your receptors' standards are messed up, so regular rewards don't feel good enough. Or maybe you're taking another drug that suppresses you emotions? I'm getting my analogy tangled up. In any event, none of those situations is particularly healthy. It's true that the fairytale romances out of romantic comedies don't really exist. Bu… | /r/askTRP | 03/03/19 10:59 PM |
| 3 | What makes for an "interesting life and hobbies"?What that means is when someone asks you "So, what do you do for fun?" You don't have to say "I go to the bar and drink." You don't need to be a millionare. You don't need to be an artistic genius. Go to a local community centre or something and take some beginner courses. If you're working a lot just do one at a time. See if you like it, and if not quit after the first course and try something else. Try guitar. Or tuba. Or pottery. Or blacksmithing. Or judo. Or salsa dance. Or volleyball. Or pa… | /r/askTRP | 03/03/19 10:31 PM |
| 4 | How to survive lonely times?Making friends requires being together with people in a way that permits/encourages social interaction for hours. Dozens or hundreds of hours. There's a reason why it's hard to make friends outside of school or work. If you want to makes friends, you need to find somewhere that you can be around the same people for months/years. Clubs, volunteering, sports teams or pickup games, etc. Be fun to be around and be patient. | /r/askTRP | 03/03/19 10:20 PM |
| 18 | Awarness of the red pill makes me depressedIt's good that the Red Pill helped you value yourself more. If it's making you depressed, it might be time to look elsewhere. TRP is designed to help you get laid, not find meaning in your life. Yes, there's a lot of pain and loneliness in the world, but there's also lots of awesome people, places, and things to do. You can choose what you focus on. | /r/askTRP | 03/03/19 10:16 PM |
| 5 | Anyone struggling with nihilism?You seem to be misunderstanding what other people here are saying, so I'll try to explain in a different way. The Red Pill is not a philosophical truth. It is a tool to help men who are failing at male-female relationships to reduce the amount of "beta" they convey and increase the amount of "alpha" they convey, which will lead to appearing more desirable. Or more desirable to a certain subset of women, at least. The Red Pill is not the only way to understand the world. It is not 100% right all … | /r/askTRP | 03/03/19 10:07 PM |
| 1 | How can I fake social proof without friends?Be around people. Join clubs, volunteer, stuff like that. Making friends requires being around people for 50-100 hours, so get out there and do it. Don't fake it, go out and actually improve yourself. | /r/askTRP | 25/10/18 12:31 AM |
| 10 | Dealing with feminazi at dance classYour hand should be higher than her bra line. They aren't telling you to not be a creep, they're telling you to put your hand in a position to correctly communicate what you want your follow to do. Your hand should be closer to her armpit than her waist, roughly in line with her shoulder blade. Maybe it sucks to have another student offer you a correction, but getting better requires you to accept that you aren't perfect. So suck up your wounded pride, stop being a princess, and say "thanks for … | /r/askTRP | 17/10/18 03:59 AM |
| 3 | I always see some variant of "unless you have some facial deformity, this element of TRP will hold true." I got fucked in the birth lottery and that's me. Question(s) inside.This. If your face is messing with your first impressions, you need to long game girls who are around you enough to find out more about your than your appearance. I'm super short for a guy, and a lot of girls just don't see me as a man. At first. | /r/askTRP | 09/10/17 06:55 AM |
| 2 | How to approach as an Asian guyCan you change your ethnicity? No? Then what benefit do you get from worrying about it? The problem here isn't how American girls treat immigrants, it's your personal anxiety. You need to feel like you're awesome enough that nothing else matters, and if you don't feel like that you need to improve yourself. Be interesting and fun. Be in good shape and dress well. This isn't rocket science. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/17 04:44 PM |
| 22 | Best way to deal with a stutter?I'm not a psychologist or an occupational therapist, but have you tried any public speaking clubs like Toastmasters, or even tried singing? Not necessarily to try to 'fix' your stutter, but just to get more self-confidence with public speaking? You need to start thinking "I'm such an awesome person, it doesn't matter if I have a stutter." If you don't feel that way, you need to work on self-improvement until you do. If you believe it yourself, other people will start to believe it too. People ar… | /r/askTRP | 17/08/17 12:22 AM |
| 1 | were there less men in the past?Check out a book called Is There Anything Good About Men by psychologist Roy Baumeister. He talks a bit about this. Apparently humans today have roughly half as many male ancestors as female ancestors. i.e. more men died without reproducing than women. Successful men had children with multiple women, while unsuccessful men had none. In terms of your actual question, men and women are "meant" to be born in equal amounts. Men are "meant" to compete with each other, and women decide who to mate wit… | /r/askTRP | 26/07/17 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many men get offended if you don't use the word "please" with them?Two possibilities: 1) Something else is going on in his life giving him a short fuse and he overreacted. 2) The way you phrased your request made him feel disrespected. If it's number 1, there's not much you can do. Everyone has shitty stuff happen in their life, and there isn't much you can do to control other people feelings. If it's number 2.... well, the bottom line is that if you don't own the business you need to fit in to the workplace culture. If you're the only one who doesn't use court… | /r/askTRP | 06/07/17 06:54 PM |
| 10 | If you must co-habitate, what are your tips to avoid ruining it?If you have to live together, make sure you both have individual time. The number 1 way to hate something (or someone) you love is overexposure. | /r/askTRP | 14/06/17 05:51 AM |
| 1 | Happy LTRs without RP mentality?What's the point of your question? There's already a TRP term for women with qualities like 'won't cheat.' It's "Unicorn." If you want to argue that at least one woman exists who would never, ever cheat, then I would agree that's probably true. But for those of us without the resources to search the world with a perfect knowledge of every woman's personality, we still have to find someone we can be happy with. The entire point to TRP is to remember that women are human beings. They have flaws. T… | /r/askTRP | 22/04/17 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Happy LTRs without RP mentality?Two things. First, the way relationships look in public is different than they look in private. Second, seeing people in a relationship gives no information about how that relationship started, how long it will last, or how it will end. AWALT is not a rule, it's a warning. It's a reminder to not assume that you got lucky and your woman is the exception. | /r/askTRP | 22/04/17 08:15 PM |
| 3 | Is it normal to be unbearably ugly after bracesYou seriously need to chill out. Having straight teeth will improve your looks in the long run. Worry less about your looks and more about what you're doing with your life. Do sports, or play a musical instrument, or write books, or something. Anything. If you don't think there is anything interesting about you right now other than the fact that you have braces, you might want to change that. | /r/askTRP | 10/02/17 08:23 AM |
| 12 | Attraction and Desire – What I learned from taking estrogen and living as a girlVery interesting read, thank you for posting. It's fascinating (and sometimes worrying) to think of how much the way we think depends on our brain chemistry. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/10/16 09:59 PM |
| 2 | I work with the girl I have oneitis for (night club) so I can't ghost on her. What to do?Be professional with her at work but don't go out of your way to talk to her. Be too busy to hang out with her outside of work. She's most likely just leading you on to avoid workplace drama. Meet other girls. Work on yourself. Stop fantasizing about how you'll get back together and idealizing how good it was. Your case is far from unique, it's what happens to anyone who gets involved with a coworker and has a breakup. If you want to get any use out of the red pill, you need to accept that you a… | /r/askTRP | 17/10/16 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Masculine PolarityI think you're only looking at a very specific case - where women are already involved with very high-quality mates. What about women who are attached to less-desirable guys? The point I was trying to make is that biology and society both treat men as disposable (or expendable, if you prefer). If the "real man" you're talking about stops being strong or rich or handsome or whatever, any women involved with him aren't going to consider him a prize any longer. | /r/askTRP | 17/10/16 01:06 AM |
| 2 | Masculine PolarityDo you want the underlying theory, or just how it'll affect your own life? I can provide an introduction to the former. In order for the human race to survive, biological pressures over millions of years have resulted in sexual dimorphism - men and women have different bodies and they also think differently, with the 'goal' of these differences being to create the best conditions for strong, healthy babies. Women have a biological imperative to reproduce with the highest-quality mates, which mea… | /r/askTRP | 16/10/16 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Is bald and Indian worst combination?I don't understand what the point of this post is. Are you trying to brag to random people on the internet you don't know? Are you trying to shit on a demographic to make yourself feel better? Are you actually a bald indian guy looking for sympathy or some blue piller trying to get TRP to act like the racists you already believe we are? Fine, I'll take your question seriously just for my own amusement. The answer is: "Who Cares? It doesn't matter." Everyone here is trying to improve themselves, … | /r/askTRP | 16/10/16 06:02 PM |
| 3 | Asian and Indian girls (lately) are most racist fucksIt's fine to vent when you need to, but when you've calmed down you should look up 'psychological projection.' | /r/askTRP | 21/09/16 06:28 AM |
| 1 | How do I interact with people like a man?It's absolutely possible to talk slowly and confidently without being boring or too serious. If you want an example, I recommend Orson Welles on the old Dean Martin celebrity roasts. Go on youtube and search for "Orson Welles on Dean Martin's Singing Career" to get started. | /r/askTRP | 21/09/16 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Will she be faithful while I'm in basic?Ever heard of a "Dear John letter"? If it only happened rarely there's wouldn't be a label for it. Split up, let her and yourself be free. If she really wants it to happen, she'll still be around when you're done. If not, you dodged a lot of grief. | /r/askTRP | 05/09/16 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with losing a friendIf you're having a disagreement with someone and they're getting angry, usually it isn't that you're disagreeing on reasoning, the disagreement is in your fundamental assumptions about the world. There are things each of us believes as dogma that inform how we understand the world, and when people call those assumptions into question we get angry. For a Christian, it might not be as developed as "God wants us to be happy," it might simply be "God exists." For an atheist, it might be "My senses p… | /r/askTRP | 05/09/16 06:54 PM |
| 4 | What is Wrong with me? I do not like being physically close to girlsYou are using pseudologic to justify your emotions. It seems pretty clear to me that you have actual straight-up non-feminist-bullshit mysogyny, or possibly more accurately gynophobia - an irrational disgust/hatred/fear of women. You need to figure out what the underlying reasons behind your feelings are. I don't see a point in offering logical arguments to the points you've raised, because your rationalizations aren't based on reality, they're based on fear. Most of your points can be reduced t… | /r/askTRP | 15/08/16 07:52 AM |
| 11 | Those with daughters. Knowing what you know, how do plan on raising you kids?You're not their parents, but there's a lot you can do for them by being a role model. Be the kind of man you want them to meet eventually. Show them what positive masculinity looks like so they can recognize it in others, and help them to develop self confidence and a good work ethic so they can succeed in life. There's a few more specific tips that come to mind. Girls tend to assume their capabilities are innate rather than developed through effort, so complement them on their hard work, not o… | /r/askTRP | 14/07/16 04:41 AM |
| 4 | Trying to get a party girl to complete a project we're working onEveryone has priorities in life, and they make time for the things they care about. I really doubt there's anything you can say to make her care about finishing this project if she already doesn't. Since it's obvious she doesn't care enough to put work into it to get it finished... you'd have better luck finding someone else to take on her part. If you really want/need her time, you're going to have to pay her. | /r/askTRP | 11/07/16 05:43 AM |
| 3 | Cheated on LTR. She wants to give me another chanceOkay, let's ignore the morality of it for a moment, then. Your LTR is broken. You've broken your word and lost her trust. You aren't ever going to win it back the way it was before. No matter what she says, she's never going to forget it. Now, it's possible you could establish some new equilibrium for your relationship where she just trusts you less but you both somehow work it out. But it's going to take a long time to get her to even halfway trust you again, and it's still never going to be th… | /r/askTRP | 09/07/16 01:29 AM |
| 1 | How to make male friends?The best male friends I've ever made, I either met in school or in clubs/teams. The biggest commonality was that we were all working together towards some goal. so it was obvious to see who was willing to work hard and who wasn't. The best male friends I've made in the last two years are the members of the band I joined. Your hobbies aren't necessarily as introverted as you think they are, if you're willing to put in some effort. Check out what kind of classes/workshops are offered at your gym a… | /r/askTRP | 07/07/16 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Do any of you have phimosis?A month isn't enough time. Being able to retract it in a flaccid state is a start... keep working at it. It might take 6-12 months but you will feel a change. | /r/askTRP | 24/06/16 06:36 AM |
| 0 | I think my location is a large factor in why my dating life sucks.You need to put yourself in situations where you're more likely to encounter fit women in your age range. Since you're on the west coast, you could try yoga classes? | /r/askTRP | 14/06/16 08:27 AM |
| 3 | What is a personal skill worth learning?Pick up skills that interest you enough that you'll be happy working hard to get better at them, or skills that aid with self-sufficiency like cooking. I'd recommend an instrument if you want something artsy... guitar is common but they're cheap, portable, and popular, and you can have fun playing alone. But yeah, your choice really depends on what interests you and what you have the space/resources/time to do. | /r/askTRP | 07/06/16 04:14 AM |
| 7 | LTR was sexually assaulted, I broke up with her, got ostracized from my social circle. What do I do next?The reality of life is that it's not enough to be innocent, you have to look innocent too. It's not your fault that she got raped, and yes you are allowed to break up with her immediately, but it looks bad. Really, really bad. The message you have sent to everyone around you is that you are unreliable and too self-centred to be trustworthy. You have told everyone that they shouldn't count on you for anything important, and that they should absolutely not invest in you emotionally at all. It does… | /r/askTRP | 31/05/16 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Friend needs good advice on how to handle a cheaterMaking her pay for one meal seems like kind of petty revenge, but I doubt he's thinking logically at this point. I say prevent him from breaking the law or doing anything that will permanently damage his reputation/future prospects, but otherwise let him work through his anger his own way. | /r/askTRP | 28/05/16 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with atomic hamster?You might have been able to get away with that at a club somewhere, but at a family event, especially a formal one? Let's assume for a second that she did find it exciting... you think she's going to show family and friends etc. that she's into that kind of thing? You think she can afford to look like a slut in front of her family? Even if they weren't there, word would have gotten back to them. | /r/askTRP | 21/05/16 08:50 AM |
| 2 | how do i confront my boss?I'd say make an appointment and talk to her directly about the situation. Be 100% professional - don't say anything about rumours or about your co-workers. Absolutely do not blame her for the change in your hours. Just say that you're not getting as many shifts as you'd like and ask if there's anything you two can do together to work out the situation. Do your best to frame the question as you two working together to sort out a problem. Again, don't blame her for doing it, or imply it was her fa… | /r/askTRP | 21/05/16 08:37 AM |
| 2 | on taming a feministShe likes being with you because it's the forbidden fruit. She loves having that secret. You could tease her by jokingly threatening to tell people about her 'other' side, but if you actually do tell anyone so she'll probably get really, really mad. Congratulations, you are The Bad Boy. This is textbook red pill: You are the opposite of everything she says women should like, and what she actually responds to. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/16 11:17 PM |
| 2 | How do Asians fare badly on the dating scene of some of Asian pop culture is popular with Americans (Nintendo, PlayStation, anime, porn)?For your answer, look at manga or anime intended to be male romantic fantasies, like Love Hina or Nana to Kaoru. The male protagonists are shy, bland, and completely unwilling to make the first move, put themselves out there, etc. They get swept reluctantly into a romance with a strong-willed girl who does all the work because she likes the hero for.... some reason, despite his blandness. Or the hero works to become the best at some skill or magically develops some power and therefore girls floc… | /r/askTRP | 02/05/16 08:03 AM |
| 1 | I think I have the wrong paradigmIf you make the right choice, it doesn't go your way, and you can still make that same choice next time it's correct, you're using outcome independence correctly. The danger is apathy. If you truly don't care about something, why would you do your best at it? Would you really put your best effort into something that doesn't matter at all? Don't be okay with failure at things you care about. Accept failure as an important step on the road to success, and as an unavoidable possibility in any ventu… | /r/askTRP | 01/05/16 10:07 PM |
| 12 | How do you combat an inherent baby-face?Laugh it off now, and laugh at other guys when you're 35 and still look like you're in your 20s. | /r/askTRP | 01/05/16 09:47 PM |
| 0 | Why does TRP acknowledge gender differences, but it hides behind some PC idea that all races are equal?Because the races not being equal is a cop-out excuse some men us to justify not trying. As much as I love hearing all the new hypotheses about gender relationships and development here, at the end of the day people come to TRP because they're unhappy with their lives and want to make them better. Nobody "hides" behind the idea that the races are equal, there's just no point to dwelling on the differences. | /r/askTRP | 01/05/16 09:44 PM |
| 9 | Do you ever feel sorry for women?It is sad, but the worse part is that many women refuse to acknowledge their biologically-based tendencies, and understand how their behaviour is influenced by it. By refusing to believe they could act that way because it's so stereotypical, they make themselves more likely to act in just that manner (and, of course, justify it after the fact). The male equivalent is probably insecurity based off competition and disposability. Boys are constantly fed stories of men tempting fate and beating the … | /r/askTRP | 20/04/16 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Advice for a teenager?That's awesome! In that case, I'd recommend keeping a portfolio of things you've built... pictures and a short writeup of what you did and why you did it. If you want to get into a mechanical engineering program (or something similar) in college, it'll make your application stand out. | /r/altTRP | 15/04/16 01:14 AM |
| 2 | Advice for a teenager?If you're a teenager, it's entirely likely you've never even encountered the activity that will become your passion. The best thing you can do to better yourself is to try to experience as much as you can and learn as much as you can... What you learn in your core classes isn't what will make you an interesting human being. Practice working hard on projects... if you hate something you've got to do for school, try to find some aspect about it that interests you. The best thing I ever did in my l… | /r/altTRP | 14/04/16 11:59 PM |
| 6 | Is there any way to remove the creepy guy vibe?"Creepy" is the result of acting with a woman at a level of intimacy you haven't 'earned.' Either she's not comfortable enough with you or not excited enough by you. Likely both. My guess is that you're probably trying to escalate things too fast | /r/askTRP | 11/04/16 01:53 AM |
| 1 | When you decide you don't want your dreams anymore.You original dreams appealed to you because they filled some fundamental need within yourself. Do some soul-searching and figure out what those were. Maybe it was a desire for respect, or prestige, or something else entirely. When you figure out why those dreams used to appeal to you and why they no longer do, you can start figuring out new goals to aspire to. | /r/askTRP | 05/04/16 03:33 PM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on ADHD?ADHD is definitely overprescribed, but it does exist. Source: I actually have it. The part of my brain responsible for concentration, willpower, and putting off immediate rewards in favour of achieving long-term goals basically shuts off when I try to concentrate. Back in high school, I felt like the only time I could get work done was after midnight, when everyone else in my house was asleep, because the world had finally 'slowed down' enough that I could focus. If it's not too severe, you can … | /r/askTRP | 03/04/16 08:59 PM |
| 2 | Can you overlook a simple first offense?You're probably overreacting. Send another one and if she doesn't respond to that, then start to worry. | /r/askTRP | 01/04/16 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Mid 20 Y.O. Struggling to find my creative outlet.If you liked the dexterity of controlling video games, you might find it fun to learn an instrument. I'd recommend guitar: it's easy to get a decent sound even as a newbie, you don't need music theory to learn "Tab" notation, and there's tabs on the internet for nearly every song you could want. You can get a decent used acoustic guitar at a pawn shop for pretty cheap, or a decent electric guitar bundle at a music shop for $300 or so. Look up reviews of bundles online if you choose to go that ro… | /r/askTRP | 27/03/16 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Can I be "nice" when in a LTR?To keep an LTR going you need to balance excitement (alpha traits) with comfort (beta traits). The point isn't to keep her jealous or insecure enough that she's a nervous wreck or thinks you aren't interested in her, the point is to do just enough to make her think she has to work to keep you. Lovey-dovey stuff will make her more comfortable with you, which is certainly important in maintaining a LTR. But if she gets too comfortable she'll take you for granted and lose respect for you. | /r/askTRP | 15/03/16 05:58 AM |
| 1 | Law 38: think as you like, but behave like others QuestionDiscussions about politics and other sensitive subjects can end very badly. Often those different opinions don't come from different interpretations of facts, they come from different fundamental assumptions about how the world works. And when you (even unintentionally) tell people that their basic understanding of the world is wrong they get ANGRY. If you're in a group of people who are open-minded and have great self-understanding, then maybe you can tell them you have different views without … | /r/askTRP | 15/03/16 05:26 AM |
| 3 | How to deal with feelings of inferiority?Find areas where you have more experience than her. You don't need to be the best at everything, but you should try to be the best at something. I'm not saying you should talk about those constantly, that definitely reeks of insecurity. I'm just saying that you need to keep in mind your own strengths. | /r/askTRP | 12/03/16 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Date ideas in a small town?If you're rural, use nature to your advantage. Find the most picturesque spot on a local river or lake. Go swimming, or even skinnydipping when it gets warmer. Go horseback riding. Find the closest tourist trap you've never been to. You could always stay in and watch a movie, if the weather doesn't cooperate. | /r/askTRP | 09/03/16 04:07 AM |
| 1 | Should TRP support feminism?I'm fine with feminism when it realizes it's a lobby: i.e. "we're working to make thing better for women." I'm not fine with it when feminists act like it's more of a religion: i.e. "If you don't agree with everything I say, I don't need to know anything else about you to decide that you are a horrible person." | /r/askTRP | 05/03/16 07:11 PM |
| 2 | What if everyone became an Alpha male? What would be the societal consequences of such a thing happening?If every man became the same in that way, people would find other ways of distinguishing between them. There will always be people on top and people on the bottom, that's how human society works. | /r/askTRP | 02/03/16 08:59 AM |
| 2 | Women without drive/ambition/responsibilitiesI dated a lazy girl for a while... I wouldn't recommend it. Just imagine 5 years down the line, when you get married and now you're paying for everything she wants/does. If she can't take care of herself, you'll have to take care of her. Do you want to be her dad? Do you think she'd be a good role model for a daughter? Marriage is supposed to be a partnership. If you want to go the single-income route, then the other partner's job is to manage the household. It doesn't sound like this girl would… | /r/askTRP | 26/02/16 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Question about Alpha AttitudeYou're correct, there's a lot of overlap between leadership and "alpha." Or to put it another way, being an effective leader requires alpha traits. | /r/askTRP | 11/02/16 10:03 AM |
| 1 | I don't know if this kind of question is allowed here, but I want to know how you guys feel about abortion and related issues.Best-case scenario would be easily-accessable contraceptives for both genders, so kids only happen when both parents want one. The problem with framing the problem as "women's reproductive rights" is that it completely ignores the male side of the equation. I absolutely believe that women should have the right to control what happens with their bodies. But the feminist point of view is that "reproductive rights" are things only women should have, because any power given to men in this area would… | /r/askTRP | 11/02/16 07:07 AM |
| 1 | succeeding in some areas, failing socially?Volunteer. It'll get you talking to people, give you something to talk about, and get you references for when you're looking for work. | /r/askTRP | 11/02/16 06:56 AM |
| 1 | Talking to strangers in the NordicsI'm pretty sure it's generally true that that people in colder countries tend to keep to themselves more (and also walk faster) than in warmer ones. Might be easier to talk to people in places where people congregate/linger than just on the street/bus. | /r/askTRP | 09/02/16 11:19 PM |
| 3 | I need help. Seriously.Here's my interpretation: you sound like a teenager. It sounds like this is your first time really feeling affection towards a girl and you have no idea how to cope with it. I was there once and it was a miserable experience. Here's my advice: You need to give up on her. You have no chance of getting what you want from her. None at all. She doesn't feel the same way you do, and the intensity of your words towards her probably scared her. You say you're committed to loving her, and you probably t… | /r/askTRP | 08/02/16 06:53 AM |
| 2 | Can woman show unconditional love?"unconditional love" exists in stories, because stories have endings. In the real world, time exists, and there is nothing that never changes. So yes, women can show unconditional love, for a time. Just like men can. But time changes both feelings and circumstances. | /r/askTRP | 07/02/16 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Best cities in Canada for a college student out of these?Victoria will have the mildest winter by far. If you're going to canada to see snow, you'll be disappointed there. It's not a huge city, but it's not the most boring place I've been. | /r/askTRP | 07/02/16 04:58 AM |
| 1 | What to say when a girl says that she's not beautiful although she isMost girls don't see themselves as they are. Instead, they have a mental image of the Perfect Woman in their heads, and all they can see about themselves is the ways they're different from their perfect woman. If they fix one thing, they'll find something else to obsess over. She's either fishing for compliments or insecure, probably both. If you're just friends and have no desire to be anything more, you can complement her, sure, but don't expect her self-image to change based on anything you s… | /r/askTRP | 07/02/16 04:50 AM |
| 1 | felt like shit after hanging with rich ass kidsIf you're going to talk to people about not going to college, make sure to describe your choice in a positive light. Talk about wanting to get life experience. Talk about how you want to wait to attend college until you know what you really want to study. Undergraduate degrees are the new standard for most jobs, so if you don't have one you're going to need to convince people that you have the experience needed to be competent. What this means practically is that you are going to NEED to get som… | /r/askTRP | 07/02/16 04:42 AM |
| 1 | What is the root or essence of game?Okay, here's what I think 'game' should mean to you in its most fundamental level: It's not pretending to be interesting, it's actually being interesting. Stop thinking about choosing between a thousand techniques, nobody consciously does that - it would take too long. They find one attitude or style of self-presentation that works for them and master it. Do you want to be the joke-cracking life of the party? The stoic, quiet man? Something else? Trying to be too many different people won't work… | /r/askTRP | 06/02/16 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Going on a trip. Invited a girl I'm interested in.You said you've gone on a few dates and are really into her. Sounds far too early to be paying for a trip for her, unless you're trying to impress her by throwing around money like it doesn't mean anything. | /r/askTRP | 06/02/16 12:25 PM |
| 2 | Bad memory affecting social standingIf you can't fix the root cause, develop coping mechanisms. If you're bad at directions, research your route(s) at home beforehand and write them down. I'm really bad with names, myself. Whenever I'm in a new group I'll surreptitiously write people's names down as they introduce themselves, and if I have time something about their appearance. | /r/askTRP | 06/02/16 12:23 PM |
| 1 | What is the root or essence of game?Any explanation of "Why" you'll find here is pure speculation. As far as I know there has been no scientific investigation into the psychology of why some things work and others don't. And likely it won't happen, because it'll politically incorrect. As for how to do it? That's a far too in-depth question for me to answer here. People hang around here for years trying to get better at it. Google "red pill frame" and do your own research, come to your own conclusions. Think for yourself - that's t… | /r/askTRP | 06/02/16 12:14 PM |
| 2 | What is the root or essence of game?You're asking some very complicated questions that don't have easy answers, but you also ask the same question several times using different words. I'm hardly an expert but here's a few ideas: What is at the core of game? I'd say it's 'frame,' keeping control over your view of reality and inviting others to share it. What are the heuristics that make game work when the brain is broken down to its fundamentals? If someone acts confident, we assume they know what they're doing. What is the dividin… | /r/askTRP | 06/02/16 08:50 AM |
| 3 | Mindset While Taking Women's Studies ClassJump through the hoops you have to to pass the course, don't bother trying to change people's opinions. As a man you are not allowed to form your own opinion on gender issues, so give them no inclination that you disagree with their dogma. If they ask you to speak up, make sure to formulate your comments starting from the assumptions that women ARE oppressed, etc. If anyone calls you out on being too quiet, say something about "not wanting to offend anyone by making comments that might be misinf… | /r/askTRP | 29/01/16 08:05 PM |
| 3 | Guilt for being maleThis has two possible reasons I can think of. a) You think that women aren't interested in sex. Either that or that they aren't mentally competent enough to make their own choices. You think that having sex with a woman is taking something from her, rather than the two of you sharing something fun for both. or: b) You think women just aren't interested in sex with you personally. In this case, you lack self-esteem and need to start figuring out what exactly you don't like about yourself and how … | /r/askTRP | 29/01/16 12:31 AM |
| 2 | I want my girl to have better confidence.You are still acting selfish and immature. You do not have your shit together now. How do I know? Because you're talking about wanting to change her personality for your own benefit, even though you cover it with a veneer of "it's for her own good." The thing that would "benefit you both" is doing exactly what you want? How convenient.... You come here for Red Pill advice? The red pill is about learning to accept the world as it is, not as you want it to be. You're going to have to accept that m… | /r/askTRP | 26/01/16 05:37 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with marriage and LTRs questions?The short answer is no. If you live together long enough you will become "common law" partners. The laws involved likely vary depending on which country you live in, I don't know enough about them to advise you on them. | /r/askTRP | 17/01/16 09:59 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with marriage and LTRs questions?I'm well aware that marriage rates have fallen to unprecedented levels, and of all the risks involved in getting married. Some men decide that the potential benefits are worth the risk. | /r/askTRP | 16/01/16 10:55 PM |
| 1 | highschooler, can how to go on dates without a car?Absolutely possible to date without a car, but it's still a good idea to be able to manage your own transportation if possible. If your city has a decent transit system, get acquainted with it. Bussing is common in high school, and if you bus together with your date it'll give you lots of stuff to look at and talk about - restaurants you want to try, etc. | /r/askTRP | 16/01/16 07:59 PM |
| 5 | How to deal with marriage and LTRs questions?To some extent, the Red Pill is a community of guys who have had bad experiences with women. Of course you're going to get horror stories and warnings. Guys who are in happy marriages with women who haven't cheated don't post here, for the most part. If you really would love to commit to her and have a kid and get married, then do it. Just be aware that when you love someone you'll unconsciously convince yourself to overlook problems that would otherwise we glaring warning signs. Don't let yours… | /r/askTRP | 16/01/16 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Mindset shift?There's no trick to confidence, it's the result of hard work and time. Confidence is what you get when you succeed in situations where failure has real consequences. There are ways to get there, though. Pick something you don't know how to do, and learn it. Something like... playing guitar, or learning to dance, or taking up a sport, or start taking improv comedy classes. Give yourself permission to suck at it at first, and keep working at it until you get better. As far as the mindset shift, fi… | /r/askTRP | 14/01/16 11:46 PM |
| 2 | What the fuck is wrong with /r/malefashionadvice ?Your answers are in their sidebar. They literally have a "I have $X, what should I do with it" link. And a "building a basic wardrobe" link. If you really need me to hold your hand, it boils down to "buy clothes that are generally useful, not specific outfits" and "buy clothes that fit you properly." | /r/askTRP | 27/12/15 12:10 PM |
| 3 | What if TRP never diedName checks out. | /r/askTRP | 23/12/15 09:32 AM |
| 1 | I can't help but think of myself as a total faggot.Self-confidence comes from succeeding in situations where failure has real consequences. There's no shortcut to it, it's something you have to work at. For instance, learning to play guitar and sing won't necessarily do a lot for your self-confidence, but going out and playing at open mics will. Learning to cook well will help a bit, but organizing dinner parties and cooking for all your friends will help more. | /r/askTRP | 18/12/15 08:17 PM |
| 4 | [serious question/rant] Why does everybody want me to continue with this life?Suicide is basically committing to the statement "Things will never get better." You're 22 years old and you're saying that you've seen everything life has to offer you, and ever will offer you. You're about to have a massive change in your life (leaving university), but you're saying that you don't think anything unexpected will ever happen to you. Look, nobody is going to be able to force you to care about the world or about yourself. And you can read all the TRP stuff you want, but you're not… | /r/askTRP | 17/12/15 08:12 PM |
| 2 | I'm Milo Yiannopoulos, AMAHi Milo, thanks for your time. I got into TRP and questioning feminist theory as a result of reading Dr. Roy Baumeister's "Is There Anything Good About Men?" In it, he talks a lot about many topics, but emphasizes male disposability. As a result of that reading and my own observations, it seems to me that culture has this attitude towards men: "If something's bothering you just suck it up and deal with it, or you'll be replaced by another man who won't complain." That makes me pessimistic that i… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/12/15 06:05 PM |
| 31 | Is there a way that the blue pill guys are right too?Nobody is right or wrong 100% of the time. The reason TRP is so down on 'beta' behaviour is that most of the men who come here have too much of it and that's making them unattractive. Once you've gotten away from the "beta is the only moral way to behave" mindset, you can look at it and realize what the benefits of that kind of behaviour are. It's similar to how TRP always talks about how All Women Are Like That - it's a warning to the unwary, not the exact truth. After all, it's more catchy tha… | /r/askTRP | 17/12/15 06:32 AM |
| 1 | How to keep friendships during/after a break up?Meet with individual members by yourself, not with the group. Establish individual connections. | /r/askTRP | 15/12/15 11:30 PM |
| 4 | GF browsing craigslist personalsIf you're interested in maintaining the relationship with her, treat this as a wakeup call that you're getting complacent and need to try harder. You need to keep improving yourself so she wouldn't even dream of straying. Get in better shape or something, and get her eyes back on you. I think you should absolutely NOT tell her about spying on her phone. Good way to kil the relationship. You should be the one to deal with this. | /r/askTRP | 02/12/15 12:04 AM |
| 3 | Is there any middle ground with trp? or is it all or nothing?TRP is about improving yourself to get what you need/want out of life. It's about accepting the world as it is, not as you want it to be, and making your decisions based on reality instead of ideology. It's about understanding that what people crave isn't necessarily what they think they want. As far as all the theory goes? Take it with a grain of salt and think for yourself. All the stuff about AWALT? It's a scare tactic. More accurate to say "All women can be Like That, but aren't necessarily … | /r/askTRP | 30/11/15 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Feeling shot upAll signs are that she isn't interested in you. If you can't find some way to kill your emotions towards her, you should just avoid spending time around her. This is textbook Friend Zone danger - you're interested in her but she isn't interested in you. She doesn't see you as a romantic interest, and there is essentially nothing you can do at this point to change it. And even if trhere is, it would be better for you in the long run to look for another girl. Trust me, no matter how hot she is it'… | /r/askTRP | 26/11/15 06:52 AM |
| 1 | About women and hookup culture.In my opinion, the most important principles you can take from TRP are to accept the world as it is, not as you want it to be, and to change yourself to get what you want out of life. The most important dating advice is to understand that what people respond to is different from what they think they want. If your society isn't as accepting of promiscuity, then you'll need to accept that and figure out how to get what you want. If you want casual sex you're going to need to find women who are als… | /r/askTRP | 22/11/15 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Should I speak up?Poor guy, he's going to learn the hard way sooner or later. :( If you do want to help him, and I certainly wouldn't say you're a bad person for wanting to, then I still think your best bet is to give him a hint of what she's like when he isn't around. If you really have taken on a sort of 'wise uncle' role there you might be able to get away with directly warning him about her behaviour, but like I said it could backfire. I hope you're able to help him out, if you decide to do so | /r/askTRP | 14/11/15 09:27 AM |
| 2 | Should I speak up?It might be better for him in the long run but he's not going to thank you for telling him, and it's likely he's just not going to believe a word you say. After all, why should he believe someone talking shit about his dream angel, when he could just assume you're a lying asshole? Current Me would have loved someone to convince Past Me that my first girlfriend was going to cheat on me. But I remember my mindset then, and I don't believe at all that anyone could have. If this guy is that into the… | /r/askTRP | 14/11/15 06:23 AM |
| 1 | My height is so pathetic, not like other tall Asian men who can get white girls.He's saying that you can't change your height, but you could actually improve your life if you spent your attention on things about yourself that you actually CAN change. | /r/askTRP | 13/11/15 03:26 PM |
| 3 | My height is so pathetic, not like other tall Asian men who can get white girls.Your trolling is bad and you should feel bad. If you're going to troll at least make an effort be funny. | /r/askTRP | 13/11/15 03:22 PM |
| 5 | What happens if there is no 'backlash' against the misandry bubble?It's the same thing that happens when any duality skews too far in one direction - other competing cultures that have a more healthy balance will out-compete the flawed one and become dominant. If north america can't find a way to make marriage more appealing to men and convince women to seriously consider where lasting happiness lies, other regions that are more likely to produce stable families will produce a more competent next generation. I'm not saying there will be no happily married coupl… | /r/askTRP | 12/11/15 07:24 PM |
| 1 | The "modern" feminist opinion on marriage: Don't DIVORCE SHAME!Yeah. It's designed to scare/wake up people who've never before been introduced to the concept of female selfishness, and it rolls off the tongue better than "Awcbltbanalt," - All Women Can Be Like That But Aren't Necessarily Always Like That. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/11/15 12:19 AM |
| 2 | How to not become paranoid about shit testing?Try thinking of shit tests as suitability tests. They're not trying to give you a hard time, they're unconsciously checking to see what kind of person you are. Failing a single test isn't the end of the world, and in time it'll get easier to recognize them and figure out what to do. | /r/askTRP | 31/10/15 08:51 AM |
| 1 | Self-effacing personality hindering game.Self-effacing comments can be useful if they're humorous and show that you're actually confident enough to joke about yourself. If they're not jokes (and obviously jokes), they can send the message that you have no self-confidence and you're fishing for confidence. The point isn't to come off as narcissistic (which is actually counterproductive), it's to come off as confident and competent. You might want to do some soul-searching to figure out just what your self-image is and how much self este… | /r/askTRP | 27/10/15 04:16 AM |
| 1 | AdhdI was in the same boat as you. For a long time I self-managed, by essentially bribing myself to start working on my master's thesis each day. Knowing there were small-scale but tangible immediate rewards each day tricked my brain into getting over my reluctance to start working on long-term-positive behaviours. Usually once I started working I'd get at least a page done, even if it took me 6 hours to do. Lately it's gotten worse and I ended up getting medicine, and it's been a world of differenc… | /r/askTRP | 14/10/15 12:29 AM |
| 1 | I graduated grade 12 two years ago but I still have no clue what I want to major at university so I haven't applied. How do I turn this into a dhv when girls ask me "what university do you go to?"Just tell them you want to get some life experience before continuing with school. That might lead to questions about what you do, so have some stories to tell of interesting stuff you've done or learned. | /r/askTRP | 11/10/15 09:44 AM |
| 2 | Is There a female-equivalent of Redpill vs Bluepill?TRP won't have any specific advice, but you can use the mindset in different scenarios. If you're trying to get a specific type of woman, then you need to figure out what appeals to them and become that. The 'strategy' behind appealing to a subset of women is trying to make yourself into a bigger fish in a smaller pond. If you're into sporty women you need to get active and fit-looking. If you're into scene chicks then get super fashionable and start going to those kinds of clubs. If you're into… | /r/askTRP | 07/10/15 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Serious question. Are we all here because we are or were betas?Most people who are happy with their lives don't feel the need to find support groups. It's possible a man who was naturally dominant to the point of not worrying about competition would want to help other less fortunate men, but the vast majority of people who seek out TRP do so because they're unhappy and want something to change | /r/askTRP | 07/10/15 06:08 AM |
| 2 | How to ACTUALLY stop hating yourself?The way I stopped hating myself was to work towards having actual accomplishments I could use to convince myself that I have value. The trick is to set long-term goals, and figure out how you can work towards them in the short term. When I found myself making no progress on my thesis, I bribed myself with packs of magic cards to do at least SOME work each day. If you're in college, join an activity club of some kind, preferably something physically active. Tell yourself it's okay to suck at firs… | /r/askTRP | 04/10/15 01:25 AM |
| 2 | I thing that i'm finally in the acceptance stage. After two years and see only negativity from TRP, is this normal?TRP is where men who are unhappy or have been hurt hang out. You aren't going to see posts from men who are in LTRs with loving, committed partners because those men don't need TR or look for it. If you look at what's posted here as representative of the whole world, of course you'll be depressed. Not much different than spending too much time on a forum for people with abusive parents and ending up hating the idea of family. The way I look at it isn't that all women are always 'Like That,' it's… | /r/askTRP | 27/09/15 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Best way to pass this shit test?Depending on what else you shave you could say something along the lines of "I'm just making sure the drapes match the carpet." | /r/askTRP | 27/09/15 12:20 AM |
| 1 | What does sadness really look like?Why are you living? What do you like to do? Nobody can answer these questions for you except for yourself. And if you think that everyone is coldly calculating, just using each other, that mindset isn't any better than a social justice warrior who thinks that Everything Is Problematic. You need to learn to accept the natural ugliness of the world and look past it to find the beauty. And sure, some people are happy to just try to collect wealth, or power, or sex, but some people aren't. Are you t… | /r/askTRP | 27/09/15 12:14 AM |
| 5 | On tipping waitresses...Compare these two statements: "I'm overweight and boring, but I don't believe social norms apply to me so I shouldn't have to look good to get a girlfriend." and "I'm a student and poor, but I don't believe social norms apply to me so I shouldn't have to tip when I go out to eat." See the parallel? The whole point of the TRP mindset is to take the world as it is, not how you want it to be, and tipping is just part of going out to eat in north america. I'm just as Canadian as you, and probably as… | /r/askTRP | 25/09/15 11:53 PM |
| 0 | This might be slightly outside TRP philosophy, but why is it men who are interested in video games and anime usually end up in community college while men with more interest in sport usually end up in university?I've seen plenty of gaming, anime, and other geeky pasttime clubs at every university I've been at, so I don't think people with those interests are more likely to end up at a CC. However, universities tend to be bigger than community colleges and therefore have the funds for larger athletics departments, and since they have more (competitive) sports teams universities are more appealing to athletics-focused men. Maybe that's what you're seeing? | /r/askTRP | 25/09/15 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Girl says she is into me but doesn't want sex/relationship with meIf she had prior relationship experience this might be anti-slut defence, but since she doesn't I think she's actually just scared of the unknown. You can either wait and coax her into accepting sexuality into her life (which she may or may not want to do), or find someone else who isn't afraid of intimacy and not have to deal with the waiting and uncertainty. If you're into her as LTR potential and she's interested in sex but reluctant, you could help her get comfortable with it by slowly worki… | /r/askTRP | 25/09/15 04:50 AM |
| 8 | [FR] This crazy playboy girl I met has a SLAVE!It's not so much that the sub is actively trying to promote hetero relationships any more than it is promiscuity, but TRP was created by men looking for that kind of thing so it's naturally the main focus. I'm glad the TRP mindset can help people who aren't just looking for that, though, with trp parenting and altTRP and such. Personally I'm looking for a new LTR, and I'm glad that my TRP experience can help me choose a better partner and preserve it better than my last. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/09/15 02:39 AM |
| 1 | I am fucking up a golden opportunity.Holy crap, man, is there anything you do? Do you have any non-work activities you could use to start a conversation? Because all you're talking about is what you don't do. I also don't drink coffee, but I'll still ask a girl out for coffee and just order something else when I get there, like tea or a hot chocolate or even just a coke. "Going out for coffee" is about meeting somewhere for a relaxed chat, what you order hardly matters. Learn to adapt advice to your own situation, don't just throw … | /r/askTRP | 20/09/15 05:04 PM |
| 1 | I am fucking up a golden opportunity.TRP game isn't about lying to girls to get them to sleep with you. It's about actually being interesting and respecting yourself. Most of these girls probably aren't actually interested in you. They just think that if you're the boss they can get preferential treatment by flirting. I guess you could try to get some dating experience by inviting one out for coffee or something after work, but they're trying to use sex appeal as a weapon and you might not want to play along. Now, if you find anoth… | /r/askTRP | 20/09/15 10:07 AM |
| 1 | Beta as evolutionary trait - why is it here?Humanity isn't like a herd of horses, where only one alpha mates with all the available females. There are plenty of beta-ish men who get married, have kids, and lead perfectly reasonable lives. But they don't need, look for, or post on TRP, so you won't hear about them. TRP is for men who are unhappy with their lives, almost always a result of too much beta in their personalities, trying to develop their alpha side. I think the reason beta characteristics survive isn't because being beta is a s… | /r/askTRP | 20/09/15 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Sister had a baby, how to act around it in a positive influence, compared to all this PC shit everyone spews?I want to second /u/msndream 's "cool uncle" suggestion, and want to expand on it by suggesting you focus on showing, not telling. Don't bother with trying to debate any PC crap people say, just be the kind of example of positive masculinity you always wished you had (or actually did have, if you were lucky). How to act? Be self-sufficient (i.e. knowing life skills like cooking, minor repair, etc.), be strong and athletic enough to dabble in most major sports, be knowledgeable about stuff that'l… | /r/askTRP | 13/09/15 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Should you verbally express attraction to LTR?To maintain a LTR you need a combination of beta and alpha, although the proportion is different for every woman. Alpha provides the sexual excitement and feeds her desire to keep working to maintain the relationship (i.e. indirect dread game), beta provides the comfort she'll need to want to maintain lasting emotional intimacy. So yeah, be willing to compliment her when she deserves it (or works for it) and you shouldn't feel like you're not 'allowed' to tell her you like her, but don't go over… | /r/askTRP | 13/09/15 08:44 PM |
| 2 | I'm not so importantNot giving a fuck is a side-effect of self-confidence. You gain this self confidence by succeeding at tasks where failure has real consequences. You learn to succeed by trying, failing, trying again, failing better. When you learn how to go from a failure to an eventual success, each individual failure matters less and you care about it less. It sucks to have to accept that you aren't particularly important in the grand scheme of things. And there will ALWAYS be someone better than you at everyt… | /r/askTRP | 13/09/15 09:57 AM |
| 10 | Today I saved a life.Absolutely right. The "and report back to me" is also crucial because it makes them feel like you're more likely to notice if they don't do it. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/09/15 12:17 AM |
| 15 | Every movement has its positive and negative side. TRP is no exception. What do you think has been the negative side of TRP ?It's certainly made me much more jaded about relationships in general. I know people can get married and be happy together forever, but those kinds of people never feel the need to seek out forums like this so all you see in TRP is the horror stories. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/15 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Namecalling... Am i being insecure/anal/killjoy?In some ways it's a shit test. "If his ego can't even handle being called names, he must be really insecure and therefore a loser." There's a difference between playful name-calling and actual mean-spirited abuse, of course. Generally the latter will come from people you don't really know and are competing with you or are already hostile to you. When someone is actually trying to dis you, if you're in a context where you're confident and well-known the right move might be to laugh it off to show… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/15 07:35 AM |
| 2 | How do I go about looking like a kid?Growing a beard might help you look older, as long as it doesn't just end up looking like wispy stubble. | /r/askTRP | 08/09/15 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Is it a good idea to make your LTR more confident and secure?My opinion is that it's pretty likely she honesty believes those words... at least she does right now, but people can always change. But yeah, like the other guy said if she's improving herself (through gaining confidence or whatever), you need to keep improving yourself too so that she still feels like she has to work to keep you. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/15 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Fight club opened my eyes... Need adviceYou answered your own problem in your post: "But now my life is full of anxiety attacks... My doctor gave me a prescription for a new SSRI, but I keep making excuses not to take it." It seems that you already know that you have a serious problem: your obsession with trying to control everything as a result of unhealthy amounts of anxiety. Nobody's going to be able to change you for the better unless the person most committed to that change is you, and if you keep finding excuses to avoid trying … | /r/askTRP | 23/08/15 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend going to college, confused on how to handle the situationIt might well be true for a while, but it won't last. It never lasts. | /r/askTRP | 12/08/15 07:54 PM |
| 3 | The fine line between not giving a fuck and needing others to like youAgreed. The point of TRP is improving yourself to the point where you know you're interesting enough that people will want to befriend you. The "not giving a fuck" attitude is about not basing your self esteem on how others feel about you, because if one person doesn't like you you can easily find someone else who does. Try to cultivate this attitude: "I'm going to do my own thing. You can join me if you want, but even if you don't I'm still going to do what I want." | /r/askTRP | 07/08/15 10:25 AM |
| 3 | Am I being used?No. Nothing makes it easier but time and emotional distance. :( Good luck. | /r/askTRP | 07/08/15 06:37 AM |
| 3 | How do you feel about men wanting to become women in the context of TRP? Are they accepted into this ideology?A lot of TRP advice may not be of much use to you, as it's for men trying to become more masculine. You can adapt the RP mindset to your own needs, but be aware that most of the people that frequent this forum aren't going to have much experience with what you want. The basic advice RP gives boils down to this: "Take the world as it is, not as you want it to be. Look at yourself as you are, and if you don't like what you see then change yourself." If you want to take on the female role in everyd… | /r/askTRP | 07/08/15 06:28 AM |
| 3 | Am I being used?If you feel that strongly about her, you might want to avoid spending time around her for a while and build up your own frame, self-confidence, etc. You can't just turn off how you feel about someone, but you can avoid negative effects of those emotions. She might well just be leading you on to convert you... some evangelicals believe anything is worth saving another soul. :/ | /r/askTRP | 07/08/15 05:37 AM |
| 1 | Stature insecurity/Social AnxietyI'm also short, and I've felt that way before. I think you need to build up some self-confidence, because the way others treat you is very dependent on how you feel like you deserve to be treated. The stereotypical suggestion is to lift weights, and it's not a bad idea. If you work hard over a period of time you can see physical changes in yourself, and you won't feel so much like you're trapped in a rut. Or take up a hobby that gets you out of the house. Hell, try the sports that short people e… | /r/askTRP | 06/08/15 11:23 AM |
| 1 | Cheating ex wants to be friendsThere's always the good ol' fashioned "What makes you think you have any right to tell me what to do?" | /r/askTRP | 06/08/15 11:11 AM |
| 6 | I found a very good girl, near unicorn. In an LTR and need advice from older TRP members.TRP prepares you for worst case scenarios, not for unicorns. AWALT is basically a warning saying "all women can be like that..." with the tiny, tiny caveat "...but they aren't all like that all the time." You've told us lots of good things about her, but we don't know the whole story. Six months is a long time, but if you really think she's the one for you then you can try. LTRs are really rough, but when there's a specific end date and you're both focused on other aspects of your life it can be… | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 09:49 AM |
| 1 | Asking friends to help with business.Just keep in mind that the qualities that make a good friend are different from the qualities that make a good business partner. If you're looking to go into business with someone you know, you have to really, really, REALLY trust them. Also, when you run a business you sometimes have to make tough calls, like choosing who to fire or who to skip over for promotion. There aren't a lot of friendships that can handle something like that without drama. Not saying it can't work, but if something goes… | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 09:37 AM |
| 2 | Insane "one-itis" triggered PLEASE HELPIt's late so I only skimmed your post, but I feel for you man. We humans are built to hope and to trust other people, and it can be absolutely crushing when things we thought we knew about the world turn out to be wrong. And yeah, pain can unexpectedly reappear. I think of it like this: Emotional wounds are just like physical ones. At first it feels raw and painful, but with time it lessens. It's like your emotional wound has scabbed over so it doesn't hurt as much, but if something pokes at it … | /r/askTRP | 30/07/15 09:29 AM |
| 1 | Indian guy nearing 40 - any hope?Yes there is hope, but you have to be willing to put in effort. An IT job may not be exciting, but it's stable and that matters to a woman considering a long term relationship. If you're worried that your job isn't exciting, you need to develop another aspect of your life that is. Find a (social) hobby that you like and get really good at it. My go-to suggestion is social dancing, but if the chronic back pain is a concern maybe something like pub trivia or competitive poker? Still, if you can do… | /r/askTRP | 27/07/15 04:16 AM |
| 1 | Question about Cold ApproachesYou describe getting approached as though it involves getting pumped for personal information, but it's not an interrogation, it's more like getting drawn into an intriguing conversation. One of the prime tenants of the red pill is to improve yourself to the point where you're not some random guy, you're some random interesting guy. If you don't think you're interesting enough that someone would be happy to have the chance to talk to you, you're probably right.... but you don't have to remain th… | /r/askTRP | 27/07/15 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Why are gay men generally well dressed, in good shape and well groomed. While Lesbians are generally overweight, full of tattoos and piercings and un hygienic?Huh. I'm a little surprised that out of nearly 6000 women only 87 self-reported as lesbians, 1/2 the number of bisexuals and 1/3 the number of "something else." Also, you're more likely to call yourself bisexual if you were born in the 80s, whereas in the 70s just straight-up lesbian is the way to go, and if you were born in the 60s you just hate labels. Actually, the sharp dip in heterosexuality in the 40-45 age group makes me wonder if the "something else" is inflated by people considering the… | /r/askTRP | 26/07/15 06:11 AM |
| 2 | How do girls qualify for LTR?For me, it ultimately comes down to respect. If she looked like a potato, would you still respect her? Does she respect you? Mutual love gets two people together, mutual respect keeps them together. | /r/askTRP | 26/07/15 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Feels like my height is keeping my SMV near 0, no mater what I improveI'm only slightly taller than you, and have similar worries. One thing to keep in mind is that physical attractiveness is paramount when approaching strangers, but it's less so with people who've gotten to know you. Sure there are plenty of people who will discount you based on your size, so you'll have to put yourself in situations where your other qualities are apparent. SMV for guys is about Presence, and height is certainly a part of that, but competence and your social standing are also fac… | /r/askTRP | 26/07/15 12:28 AM |
| 1 | I'm a 16 year old male with incredibly low SMV, where do I begin?I've been in that situation before, where I more or less hated myself. It can be useful to sit down and try to seriously critique yourself. Make an actual list of everything you don't like about yourself. Be absolutely brutal to yourself, if you can - you're trying to be your own drill seargent. Next, take a look at that list and separate it into things you can change and things you can't. You might be surprised how many things don't actually belong on the "things you can't change" list. A lot o… | /r/askTRP | 26/07/15 12:03 AM |
| 2 | Do handsome guys get approached aggressively by plain and ugly girls while having to actually work to get the hotter ones?There are fewer women than men who will approach in general, but the ones who do generally built up the backbone to face rejection because they had to, in order to get the guys they like to notice them. Attractive girls who were rolling in attention wouldn't need to put in that kind of effort, and wouldn't have developed the habit. | /r/askTRP | 25/07/15 11:34 PM |
| 6 | Why are gay men generally well dressed, in good shape and well groomed. While Lesbians are generally overweight, full of tattoos and piercings and un hygienic?Part of it is observation bias and visibility, though. The most memorable (and obvious) gays are the flamboyant ones, and dressing stylishly is part of that. The most memorable and visible lesbians are the ones who overtly reject femininity, dressing in masculine clothes and seeing maintaining a slim figure as a sexist double-standard. I agree that the difference between the ways men and women approach relationships must have an effect, it's just hard to tell how much that is. I'd love to see so… | /r/askTRP | 25/07/15 11:27 PM |
| 2 | how do you tell if a woman wants to be chatted up?I'm still pretty shy around strangers too, but I'm working on it. My goal isn't so much to try to make women uncomfortable, but to not let worrying about that control me. Usually if someone is in a private mood they have ways of letting you know: wearing headphones, reading books, glued to their phone, etc. I practice chatting with strangers at the climbing gym I go to, because knowing we have a guaranteed shared hobby makes it less anxiety-inducing. Sure it sucks when I try to talk to someone a… | /r/askTRP | 25/07/15 11:13 PM |
| 3 | how do you tell if a woman wants to be chatted up?Sort of? Most women are savvy enough to know that the clothes they wear sends a message, and dressing revealingly attracts attention. What kind of attention depends on the woman's personal preference, mood that day, and attractiveness of the stranger. | /r/askTRP | 25/07/15 10:59 PM |
| 3 | How do you create a larger presence?Try thinking about your posture, it's an important part of your appearance. People may notice you if you're buff and dressed well, but if you're slouching or looking timid you still won't get the respect you want. People you don't know will treat you the way your appearance and demeanor tells them you deserve, and body language is a big part of that. Check your default, everyday way of standing in a mirror to see if you're slouching. If you are, stand tall and put your shoulders back... you want… | /r/askTRP | 25/07/15 09:55 AM |
| 3 | The less I ask, the less people think I knowI think in your first example your roommate knew all along he couldn't drive you, but subconsciously didn't want to feel bad about saying no. I bet he was trying to pump you for details to find out if you had another option and you were asking him because you were just lazy, or possibly even to find out if you had done something stupid to get stranded and therefore deserved to be laughed at instead of helped. It's cognitive dissonance in action. The internalized belief "I am a good person who he… | /r/askTRP | 22/07/15 06:28 PM |
| 1 | I have a question about the friendzoneWell put. Using the term friendzone implies a one-sided attraction, and if you try to be friends but you're still into her you're never going to be happy. I'm reminded of the "there are no girls on the internet" rant: http://i3.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/283/712/6cd.png Think long and carefully about whether her appearance is contributing to you thinking she's good friend material. And try not to worry too much about the great friendship you might be missing out on... the choice isn'… | /r/askTRP | 18/07/15 11:35 AM |
| 2 | It's Friday night. Your friends kinda suck. You have no plans. What do YOU like to do?Friday night is actually my favourite night to go to the climbing gym I joined a month ago. Specifically a bouldering gym so I don't need to bring someone to belay me (which I don't have, because I don't have any climbing buddies yet). Lots of fun, and I can slowly feel myself getting better. | /r/askTRP | 18/07/15 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Argued with a Male Feminist on Facebook. This is what he said.Same thing happened to me, once. The lesson here is that people post that sort of stuff on facebook not because they're looking for a discussion, they want an echo chamber telling them they're wonderful for their beliefs. Whatever your intentions were, when you disagreed with him you weren't asking him to re-evaluate a conclusion he came to, you were telling him his fundamental view of the world was wrong. Which is what his original post did to you, no? People get mad when other people do that t… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/06/15 02:09 AM |
| 7 | What MRA's could (and Should) learn from Gamergate.Although there is plenty to learn, I don't think tactics GG uses will work all that well for MRAs because the underlying goals of each movement are different. GG is ultimately an in-group conflict. It's a response to accusations from others within the gaming community, and although there are some attempts to change the general public's opinion (mainly through protesting one-sided media portrayals) the majority of GG's activities are focused within the community. Gamers who run across the controv… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 09:16 AM |
| 1 | [META] why's the concept of Red Pill so related to romantic relationships here?As I understand it, TRP theory grew from people looking at pickup artists' successes and saying "the prevalent gender relations theories say this shouldn't work, so why does it?" ... and proceeding from there to start trying to define modern-day masculinity. Part of the focus is based on its history. If I'm wrong, hopefully someone will correct me. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/11/14 09:53 AM |
| 2 | "Wait until she’s older and men start ignoring her" - A commentary on the 'Walking in NYC' videoShe's saying that's what feminist theory says, and I from my own research I believe her. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/11/14 10:20 AM |
| 1 | The Red Pill Truth that salsa dancers intuitively understandWhen you're just starting out find a progressive group lesson. Most dance schools have them, or if you're in university your school will almost certainly have a salsa club. They'll teach you some basic moves, which is enough to get started. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/14 10:14 AM |
| 7 | The Red Pill Truth that salsa dancers intuitively understandIn my opinion there are two kinds of people who go out to listen to jazz: people who are over 40 and university jazz students. Until recently I was in one of those groups. | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/14 10:09 AM |
| 16 | My hypothesis on PUA advice, personal experience.I have to disagree with you on this. Confessing to everything is something you to do make YOU feel better, by getting the other person to punish you enough that you feel you've atoned. She says she's told her husband enough about her past to get the gist, and he deserves to not have to know the details. I'm glad that she knows enough now to recognize a man who is good for her and appreciate him. If they have a happy relationship, who are you to try to take that away from them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/14 07:23 PM |
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