| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 44 | Officially Divorced! | Success Stories | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 10:57 PM |
| 41 | The moment/incident you knew the marriage wasn't going to last? | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/22 07:33 AM | |
| 18 | Kids met ex new partner | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/23 05:14 AM | |
| 13 | How my marriage ended | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 06:18 AM | |
| 10 | Sex with ex? | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/23 06:56 PM | |
| 9 | Introducing kids to new partner | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/22 03:51 AM | |
| 7 | Before school cost? | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/23 12:54 AM | |
| 6 | wife doesn't want to pay for divorce | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/22 02:35 AM | |
| 5 | Next potential partner and protecting your assests/earnings | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/23 10:07 PM | |
| 3 | wife won't sign simple divorce | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/22 02:48 AM | |
| 1 | Started divorce process | Brilliant-Delay1410 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 08:41 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | Officially Divorced!Turns out the court sent her a copy. So that was anticlimactic. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 03:24 AM |
| 5 | Officially Divorced!Just some equity from the house. Got a promissory note to pay her back when I sell. No big deal. It was actually supposed to be the other way round but she ended up leaving the house instead of me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Officially Divorced!Good idea. Kids are with her this weekend. Might just buy a Just Divorced pin and go out to a bar. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/25 04:44 AM |
| 2 | Dating post divorceJuCo/ What does that mean? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 06:01 AM |
| 2 | How do you feel about your wife keeping your surname after the divorce?A bit annoying. Both teachers in same school board so everyone assumes we are still together. Pretty uncommon name as well. Apparently, changing it is "a lot of hassle" and "awkward" for a teacher. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/24 05:13 AM |
| 11 | To sleep with your eXShe also found Jesus about a year ago Prison is full of people who found Jesus after getting caught. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/23 12:32 AM |
| 2 | My stbx starting dating someone and it's pissing me off so muchMine started secretly dating her boss about 6 weeks after we had THE conversation. Still under the same roof, we were supposed to be coparenting for the foreseeable future. After saying she had no interest in anyone else but encouraging me to go and date as well. I still get pissed off. Usually because something new happens. She had a party and invited a good friend of mine and HE was there. She went on holiday with him and wanted me to watch the kids while she was away. She let him meet my kids… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/23 05:51 AM |
| 1 | Not sure if I should divorce...but wife moved in her ps5 guy friendAs a Christian, she can't possibly be cheating. It's one of the commandments. /s | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/23 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Before school cost?😄 | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/23 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Before school cost?Fair enough. Thanks for the insightful response. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/23 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Before school cost?Never had to go down that route as everything has been amicable. Custody agreement just says that child expenses are 50/50. First time this has come up. It's not a huge amount of money, 100 a month or something. Just thought I would ask. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/23 01:52 AM |
| 2 | Just had a thought after reading the "wait at least one year until after divorce to date"OMB III WTF? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/23 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Kids met ex new partnerMy plans for payback are mostly petty. I think the best ever revenge would be to fuck his (adult) daughter. His ex is fugly so would be a tough one. I do have a few devious ideas but I'm in no rush. Dish best served cold and all that. But as people have said the best revenge is just living a better life, looking better, and finding a better person. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/23 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Kids met ex new partnerWow, I was just thinking of putting those dick shaped valve cap covers on his tires. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/23 05:41 PM |
| 4 | Ex is DatingAmazing how quick they move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/23 05:40 PM |
| 6 | Ex is DatingHow long have you been separated? Mine didn't wait, immediately started up with her boss while encouraging me to "go have fun". I totally understand how you feel. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/23 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Kids met ex new partnerIt's public sector so a little bit different. I've heard from two other independent sources about his creepiness/inappropriateness towards female employees. He is at least 10 years older and a massive cunt. She is welcome to him. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/23 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Kids met ex new partnerTrust me, I know it didn't start before. I'm tech savvy (background in IT). She was more in the this thing won't turn on (it's unplugged) category. Literally had the same dumb 7 letter password for everything for over 10 years. And I mean everything! Google account, all social media, cell phone account. With that info, one can find out the very day it started. And he was working elsewhere by the time I had found out. And that would be a stupid thing to do anyway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/23 04:52 AM |
| 1 | Kids met ex new partnerI'm taking the advice I had on here and elsewhere. No introductions till it's long term, serious and committed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/23 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Kids met ex new partnerNot everyone's situation is the same. Other than this one issue, my ex has been pretty reasonable. She even did my taxes for me last year and got me 6k back. I still live in the bigger family home, while she had to move to a worse area. And she has agreed not to involve her partner in my kids lives after I talked to her about the situation. But yeah hahaha bullshit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/23 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Kids met ex new partnerLuckily for me, her new man is not someone who could ever make me feel inferior. In fact that is what made me not clue in right away. The reaction was like, really? I thought you had standards. But oh well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/23 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Kids met ex new partnerThere would be nothing to gain of course. Other than fucking up her situation. There is nothing I can do that doesn't involve conflict. I can only explain to her how it makes me feel. Ask that for my sake she does not involve him in my kids' lives. Given the nature of how she started this relationship. But that's about it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/23 01:56 PM |
| 2 | Kids met ex new partnerThanks for comments. I totally agree that the best thing to do is move on. It just sucks as she has said all along that she is not interested in having kids meet any new partner. Then she just drops this at midnight last night. It will be very hard moving forward. Especially as the kids get older. And if I have to hear about the new guy. He has a boat for example, and you know they will be out on it this summer, living it up. Things are amicable. No issues. I owe the ex 60 odd k. That is on a fl… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/23 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Kids met ex new partnerWe have a parenting plan. One part of this agreement that she signed was informing the other party of intention to introduce kids to a romantic partner. Including the name of said partner. She hasn't done this. So.... | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/23 01:23 PM |
| 3 | Satan Promised WomenThe Bible became irrelevant once people learned to read it for themselves. No wonder the church resisted its translation from Latin. Many people don't hold a Bible and tell the truth. So what. I must have missed the verses about Hollywood in the Bible. Will have to reread it. The Bible is a big, long-winded tome of babbling nonsense, with the odd bit of common sense thrown in. You need to read more books and get therapy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/23 03:05 AM |
| 15 | Is marriage that bad?But after your marriage fails, come back for some quality advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/23 10:48 PM |
| 6 | Is marriage that bad?Asking folks opinion on marriage in this forum is a bit like going to the burns ward at the hospital to ask them about fire. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/23 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Sex with ex?Lol, yeah, that is the revenge thoughts I sometimes have. Her cunt boss starting hitting on her the second he found out she was having some marriage issues. She is obviously to blame but what vermin does that? He knew me, was my boss just the previous year. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/23 10:03 PM |
| 2 | Sex with ex?Fair enough, that part was supposed to be tongue in cheek. Should have added an evil smiley face. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/23 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Sex with ex?I said, "I'm not entertaining the thought." | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/23 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Sex with ex?Did you even read what I said? Literally said the opposite. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/23 08:31 PM |
| 0 | Sex with ex?I know, wasn't being serious. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/23 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Ex wife wont let my kids meet my girlfriendI have it in my parenting agreement/plan that the other person must consent to who is involved with the kids. I specifically put this in as I do not want my kids to ever associate with the rat fuck to which she monkey branched. The scumbag boss who abused his position of authority and was just comforting her when we had marriage trouble. However if she moved on from this vermin to an actual decent man then I would have no problems. My long winded point is that it depends on context. Does she hav… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 03:41 AM |
| 2 | When your ex-wife start dating someone newMine started seeing her boss when we were still under the same roof, not 6 weeks after the separation conversation. The creep moved on her the minute he found out her marriage was ending. Still with the rat fuck as far as I know. Our child custody agreement says that the other party needs to be informed before kids meet with any new partner. So in this particular case NEVER. Ex knows bet than to ask. Anyone else I would say at least 6 months to even a year. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/23 06:04 AM |
| 1 | Just retired, what to doSo many retired people in my neighbourhood. Empty nesters insist on living in a big house. My elderly nextdoor neighbours live in a huge 4 bedroom with a large yard. Husband has had a stroke and is extremely limited on one side. All they do is blow snow, cut grass and rake leaves. That and bitch and moan about loud kids. I'll be downsizing when my kids leave. Studio apartment, maybe a boat that I can live on in the summer. 🙂 Travel in the winter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/23 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Just retired, what to doWatch your back, this is how all those true crime stories start. Rich person, big life insurance policy, has an 'accident'. Use your money for good causes. What does your local community need? Are there local organisations that you can join to help your community? You can't take it with you, and you can't take the meaningless objects you buy. Yes you will be temporarily happy, but real human connections are the true measure of wealth and the key to long term happiness. You want to do a lot of go… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/23 05:11 AM |
| 2 | Divorced men in your 40s, have you had any success OLD?Yes and no. Straight after separation I hit the apps. Got a quick hookup with someone that I wasn't interested in dating. Then had a summer fling with a girl who was 29, I was 42. Was fun but I didn't want to mess her around. She was really nice but wanted more then i was willing to commit to. Took a break for a bit, but then decided to try out an alternative app for meeting folk. I had tremendous success there, lots of hookups with very hot girls. And ticked a few things off my wish list. Since… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/23 04:14 AM |
| 15 | Where do you draw the line on favors for your ex-wife?I've put up a basketball net for the kids at exs house. I've moved around my schedule when she took the kids on holidays, and looked after the dog, (it's as much my dog as hers but goes back and forth with kids) I drew the line at watching the kids and changing the schedule when she wanted to go on holiday with the guy she left me for. And when she was hinting at doing some basic DIY stuff at her house I said no way. If her new man can't work a screwdriver then she can pay someone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/23 01:27 AM |
| 1 | It's a tough time reading this boardAll the best bits of Christmas are pagan. And nowhere in the Bible does it say Jesus was born on Dec 25th. Lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/23 12:58 PM |
| 2 | Selling your ringMy understanding is that all jewelry is highly marked up. And you will be lucky if you get half of what you paid for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/23 03:39 AM |
| 1 | It's a tough time reading this boardI understand where you are coming from OP. Lots of good advice on here! However, due to the number of guys who have had a very bad divorce, there is often a lot of negativity towards women in general. Which I also understand. If been pretty lucky with the finance and kids aspects. But less so with the post split interactions with ex. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/23 03:25 AM |
| 2 | It's a tough time reading this boardCome on, you can still appreciate the tree! Afterall, what has a "Christmas Tree" go to do with Christ? 😉 | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/23 03:22 AM |
| 4 | Question - anybody experience all this too?My ex was the exact same. Albeit only about 7 years in. Coincided with kids being born and the toddler phases, so that masked things a bit. In her case it was sex with ME, not sex in general that was the issue. The minute we were done she her libido improved pretty quickly. Start planning for the exit. Sounds like the relationship is over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/23 12:46 AM |
| 3 | How to deal with the alone timeThis! The acoustic is for relaxing, electric is for blowing off steam. Lol Don't even have to be good to have fun with it. And the sense of achievement when you gradually get better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/23 03:47 AM |
| 1 | tremorsGo to a doctor and get everything checked out. I had something similar. Extreme fatigue, brain fog, muscle twitches. Thought it was every possible disorder. Everything was fine physically but after being diagnosed with depression and taking meds for a few months I felt normal again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/23 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Next potential partner and protecting your assests/earningsThanks for some actual advice. Seems like a reasonable thing to say, especially early on. I had a date last night that was set up by a mutual acquaintance. She is a server at a local restaurant. I didn't know anything about her other than name and age. She is 29 though and I'm 42. Had a lovely time, she was sweet, and really attractive. But wants kids and I made it clear that I don'twant more. So I'm not expecting a 2nd date. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/23 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Next potential partner and protecting your assests/earningsI am just asking questions on a forum. I also wasn't burned. I have 50% custody, kept my two cars, and still live in the same house in a nice neighborhood, with a pool. I know I was lucky compared to many guys on here; my ex has been pretty reasonable throughout this separation. My post was specifically asking how to AVOID a compromising situation next time around. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/23 11:37 AM |
| -1 | Next potential partner and protecting your assests/earningsNo more bjs. Or at least grudging, unenthusiastic ones. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/23 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Next potential partner and protecting your assests/earningsI live in Ontario. I have read up on this. Common law is after 3 years, or 1 if you have kids together. It is also dependent on shared rent agreements, mortgages, bills etc. So technically you could cohabit and get around any issues in the future by not putting your partners name on any household bills. There are probably some other things I have missed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/23 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Next potential partner and protecting your assests/earningsA wife? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/23 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Next potential partner and protecting your assests/earningsI have kids already. Been there done that. Was just asking for advice from people who have actually found a good woman and how to navigate the potential problems that might happen in the future. It seems that the advice is I should avoid any marriage or cohabitation in the future. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/23 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Next potential partner and protecting your assests/earningsLovely analogy. Lol But my first hut didn't really burn down, and I still have all my limbs. Plus I have a dog. So I guess it's just me and Chewie the Shih Tzu from here on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/23 10:40 PM |
| 3 | Recently divorced, young kids, feel like I am failingFor me getting support through neighbours has been key. All my family are far away. I have a few fellow dad friends in my street who I can bring my kids over to hang out for play dates. Usually pretty informal spur of the moment type things. Once every couple of weeks I got out for dinner to a kid friendly restaurant. (I know the owner and she just set me up with a waitress there, who saw me in with my kids lol) Depending on age having a scheduled 'event'. For me it is Friday pizza/movie/popcorn… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/23 09:52 PM |
| 2 | To those who got divorced and had to live together untill the house sold. What's your best advice?Don't start dating anyone else until you move out. Not worth the drama. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/22 06:04 AM |
| 2 | How my marriage endedYes that is the type of thing I'm on about. Like almost childish stuff. I'm waiting for a long time though. So I'm a distant memory. Then hit the asshole with some grade school level fuckery. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 11:09 PM |
| 2 | How my marriage endedI saw a picture of his ex wife. Total munter. I wouldn't ride her in to battle. The wall passed her a while back. She's 44. I'm 42. Currently seeing a 34 year old. Her new guy must be pushing mid 50s. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 10:59 PM |
| 1 | How my marriage endedThe 100k+ salary is already achieved. Will work on the abs! Lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 08:45 PM |
| 0 | How my marriage endedNow as I know the boss. I know everything about him, address, work, cell, car he drives etc. I've always had a little notion for some petty revenge. My revenge on the ex is getting in shape, looking better than I ever have, dating younger hotter women, and being a great dad etc. But I just feel that this fucker needs a little bit of treatment. Nothing criminal obviously, but the guy is a scumbag. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 06:25 PM |
| 3 | How my marriage endedWas never that good at the BJs to be fair.lol And was looking up kegel balls! I didn't know what they were. Some bullshit thing woman stick up their twat to supposedly make them tighter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 06:19 PM |
| 1 | How my marriage endedJust mean that I should have been wiser and not made those choices. I played into her hands. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 06:12 PM |
| 1 | wife won't sign simple divorceI should clarify that all assets are taken care of. We have a separation agreement in place with the 60k included. It is a promissory note, which I know a good lawyer could pick holes in. I owed her 100k initially but already paid 40k after the sale of a rental property. I fully intend to give her the 60k when able to do so. This is what was agreed. The only reason $$ is owed is that we both decided to keep the house in one of our possessions, rather than sell and both buy again. This was to kee… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/22 02:53 PM |
| 2 | wife won't sign simple divorceCheers, I'm from Scotland, we got married there. I can get a copy but just a bit more effort involved. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/22 03:28 AM |
| 1 | wife doesn't want to pay for divorceThanks for the advice. My situation is pretty simple. All amicable, with minimal need for any legal costs. I'll just pay the fees myself. I feel really bad for you guys who were(are) being put through the ringer. Stay strong. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/22 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Introducing kids to new partnerI should have been clearer in my OP. I agree about waiting longer. It was more about the process of introductions latet down the line. Thanks for the advice folks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/22 12:33 AM |
| 6 | Introducing kids to new partnerGood point. I wasn't planning on doing this right away. How long would you recommend waiting? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/22 04:43 AM |
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