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| 2 | Books that changed your life and how?This book is highly recommended but I found the start to be very boring. Does the style of writing change or is it similar throughout? If not, what's the biggest take away from it? I just might try again over the weekend. | /r/askTRP | 21/01/21 08:37 PM |
| 1 | How do I change deeply rooted beliefs?I wish I could upvote this 10 times! The way you break it down is so basic yet powerful! And you're right! My gut reaction to such subreddits was always that off, meh, I know better, these guys are weird, too extreme etc. But the more I thought about it, it is slowly starting to dawn on me. As /u/Snowboard18 suggested, I've started reading the sidebar with a much more open and receptive mindset. My gut reacts in a very closed off manner to certain things, but I am keeping your analogy in mind an… | /r/askTRP | 03/05/20 10:49 PM |
| 2 | How do I change deeply rooted beliefs?You hit the nail on the head with feminine energy! I recently got into a bit of trouble and none of the female friends were able to come to my defense, nor they would have, had they been able to (cause they are just women facepalm. The ONE guy friend I have, came over instantly and stayed by my side till the issue was resolved! Made me re-evaluate my life and had I had more of such guys in my life, I would have been able to handle that issue better, but since I was emulating such pussy behavior,… | /r/askTRP | 03/05/20 10:39 PM |
| 1 | How do I change deeply rooted beliefs?/u/AshyLarry27 posted something below that made things so clear for me. And yes, I have had a hard time realizing how detrimental my base beliefs are to my own well being, that any new contradicting information leads me to force it out. Thus sticking with this! | /r/askTRP | 03/05/20 10:34 PM |
| 1 | How do I change deeply rooted beliefs?Thank you for the sidebar nudge! I have downloaded the pdfs and been reading it non-stop since yesterday. Lot's of things that are resonating with me and I even evaluated the behavior of the girls that are in my life, and yep, was able to see certain patterns. This even includes girls I eventually dated. The one thing that resonated with me a lot was this: https://theredarchive.com/archive/16315 I have a girl in my life (platonic friend) who msgd me asking if I was okay, or if I was ignoring her… | /r/askTRP | 03/05/20 10:32 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha? (within the context of confrontation).Exactly! 99/100 times walking away/diffusing the situation is the best course of action and I'm able to do that, my ego doesn't make me go all macho and beat up someone. It's the 1/100 time when that isn't an option and actually fighting is the right decision that I want to fix/resolve. This intrinsic cowardice in such a situation is what I want to overcome. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 08:55 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha? (within the context of confrontation).I understand and agree with what you're saying, and it has protected the many times I have been able to diffuse situations. The question is, if I can't escape a situation, to be able to put up a fight instead of getting beat up and suffering great bodily harm because I just froze. Get what I am saying? | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha? (within the context of confrontation).I am not looking for a fight, the issue is if someone was to come upto me and start beating me for whatever reason, instead of defending myself, I freeze. Has happened just a few times in my life since I always aim to deescalate the situation, it's the situations that I've been unable to that I want to know what to do and actually do, instead of freezing and just take a beating. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 03:52 PM |
| 2 | How do I become an Alpha? (within the context of confrontation).Yea, even for shows, I am watching shows with characters with a strong presence to get an understanding of their mindset. Reading books to get an understanding of why I am like this, and how to best to change it. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 03:50 PM |
| 2 | How do I become an Alpha? (within the context of confrontation).Yep, I've rarely been in fights since I prefer disarming the situation. Thus the few times it has happened I act like a deer caught in headlights. Violence isn't something I prefer, but if push comes to shove, I lack the primal switch to actually defend myself and others around me. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 03:49 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha? (within the context of confrontation).Yep, I signed up for muay thai classes, but they've been put on hold due to Covid. Thus want to do what I can while I am in isolation to work on myself. But exposure therapy is the best. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 03:48 PM |
| 2 | How do I become an Alpha? (within the context of confrontation).I have gotten out of many sticky situations in my life by disarming the other before it reached that state. My issue is that if someone can't be stopped or the situation can't be deescalated, I mentally freeze. So need to work on that inner strength of mine so I don't do that if a situation like this arises in the future. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 03:47 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha? (within the context of confrontation).Got it, shall start reading these and putting the stuff I learn into practice asap! Thanks. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 03:45 PM |
| 3 | How do I become an Alpha? (within the context of confrontation).That "Primal switch" is what I am lacking, you hit the nail on the head with that! | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 03:44 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha? (within the context of confrontation).I said I had to wait for Covid to die down to go to the classes since everything is closed atm. "I wanted to start taking self defense classes so I am more confident in general facing others, but due to Covid-19, that is put on hold. But I wanted to develop that mental state while I wait for things to start getting normal again." The purpose of this post was I don't wait around and start now. | /r/askTRP | 23/04/20 03:43 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?No you're absolutely right. By confident I meant in general day to day occurrences I am not a timid guy at all. I've done hosting at events with crowds of upwards of 1500 people in attendance, I've been in sales since a young age so can put up a pretty good false bravado, I am very confident dealing with gnarly clients that others get intimidated by so if you were to ask anyone, they'd be like..what? That guy is so confident! (you get the idea) But tbh, it is this part of me that I am just unabl… | /r/seduction | 13/04/20 09:29 PM |
| 2 | How do I become an Alpha?Yep, I signed up for a few classes but can't go anymore due to covid 19 lock down in place. I wanted to do what I could mentally before jumping back in. Heck, I'm willing to pay extra for a few one on one classes with someone that can push me around and teach me how to snap out of such a situation so I can train my mind not to freeze in such moments. Was thinking of joining a Krav Maga class since self defense is their primary focus. For me it's honestly not about winning, it's just not freezing… | /r/seduction | 13/04/20 11:44 AM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?Oh yea, just went back and read your original comment! Thanks man! I spent a good deal of last night reading it and honestly felt like the book was explaining so many aspects of me that it might have had me in mind. Will continue reading it this week, but if any other book comes to mind that falls in the same line of thinking, do let me know. Really appreciate it :) | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 09:33 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?Women are the least of my concerns. It's being a strong individual man that others don't fuck with is what my primary concern is. That is the purpose I want to pursue. | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 07:01 PM |
| 2 | How do I become an Alpha?These are some deep questions, took me a while to think about these. Honestly I think it is genetic. My father isn't exactly a strong role model and a pussy if I'm being completely honest. I've seen a lot of parallels in my personality and his when it comes to confrontation. I've seen him completely shut down physically. Recent example was someone broke into my house and started beating me (long story I'd rather not get into) and it was my mother and sister that stepped in while he just stood by… | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 07:00 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?Oh I know. I have very little male friends since most guys I've known feel highly insecure around me cause their girl friends take a liking to me. But I need to find better men to hang around with. That much I've realized. | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 06:46 PM |
| 2 | How do I become an Alpha?Someone recommended No More Mr Nice guy and holy crap is that me! Just the first 15 pages in, but damn! Really helping me understand my own issues. Also the talk is really good, half way in. He talks a lot about the kind of attitude to have in life, but doesn't really give specific ways on achieving it. But it is a good start. | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 06:45 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?Someone recommended No More Mr Nice guy and holy crap is that me! Just the first 15 pages in, but damn! Really helping me understand my own issues. | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 06:42 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?I am working with a coach on these things, but it is a struggle wont lie. Thus asking around to see if something clicks from someone else. And I did join a muay thai class, but Covid 19 has kinda put a dampener on things. I wanted to focus on the mental side of things while in isolation, thus reading up. Someone recommended No More Mr Nice guy and holy crap is that me! Just the first 15 pages in, but damn! Really helping me understand my own issues. | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 06:42 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?It's an emotional response I can yet not control. It doesn't come naturally to me. Thus trying to figure this part out. | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 10:49 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?My aim is not to become overall macho, I don't get those people tbh. But when you say don't take shit from anyone, I get scared. How do I overcome that fear if someone is taking a shit on me? | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 07:31 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?I am generally very confident. I am looked up by many due to my skill sets. But put me on a deserted island with a bunch of aggressive men, and I'd probably be the first one dead. I also go to the gym and am physically fit, it's the mental strain of confrontation that freezes me. It's not like I lose fights, I just mentally shut off so won't even throw a punch. Like THAT is how bad I am mentally speaking. | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 07:30 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?I think my issue isn't surrounding picking up women, wrong sub I know! But I feel a lot of men here have overcome the fear aspect thus wanted to ask for advice in that regard. The trait I would consider to be "alpha" are those of protector. Like not an asshole that goes around beating other people, but someone that stands up to someone in the wrong. Like a guardian? I am generally a confident guy but when an asshole starts being physically aggressive, I get scared. Like legit. If people who knew… | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 07:24 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?Thank you. I'm generally a very confident guy, sure of myself and can deal with social situations easily. I think the fundamental issue I face is I get scared of confrontation thus wimp out. I've had instances where guys have intimidated me into backing out and I've frozen, legit frozen mentally. I workout and am decently fit, but its like an emotional switch goes off when someone threatens me (has happened a few times) and I just shut off mentally. So my issue is pretty deep down in me, general… | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 07:17 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an Alpha?I was talking more generally (not in a competing to get girls kinda way), I find myself being a general pushover when it comes to competing with strong men in general. | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Do I look different than 5 years ago to not meet this girl again? U.K.Why does your looks changing matter if you were to meet her or not? If you're interested, go for it. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Seduce her on Instagram.Any tips? Yes. Get off insta and meet people in real life. But if you're really committed, become one of the 100 people she follows and is interested in meeting you. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 12:49 PM |
| 0 | Do I look different than 5 years ago to not meet this girl again? U.K.You're over thinking this. 5 years is a long time. Respond to her and get the ball rolling as if she didn't know you or had a crush on you 5 years ago. | /r/seduction | 03/01/20 12:13 PM |
| 2 | A girl likes me but I can’t ask her outBest way to go about this is to hang out and just look at her as if you find her as the sexiest thing alive. Communication is mostly non-verbal. Heck I've never really asked any girl out, we're hanging out, things get escalated and then, I just kissed them. I mean, why ask a simple yes no question. It's easier by just showing. | /r/seduction | 27/12/19 08:03 AM |
| 3 | Man punched lady hard asfTrue.. But generally speaking.. The bigger they are the harder they hit. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 01/05/19 01:05 PM |
| 1 | How I start conversations effortlessly and get numbers and other random tips.Wow. I wish I was that young again. I started back then and my biggest issue was just reading a lot about this and actually doing nothing. I fact I got my first girlfriend after watching a David wygant video where he literally got on the floor and literally pretending to pick a woman up. Really hit home the idea of actually doing it! Instead of watching videos and reading things which tricked my mind into thinking I was improving when in reality, I was at the same state in life. | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 11:46 AM |
| 1 | How I start conversations effortlessly and get numbers and other random tips.Yea, next time you see her, don't think, just go in. The best way to overcome that is to start practicing opening with almost everyone you come across, so by the time you see her, your mind doesnt start messing with your emotions and you're on autopilot. Best of luck! | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 01:30 AM |
| 1 | How I start conversations effortlessly and get numbers and other random tips.So my go to line for misinterpreting something is "That's what she said" Take anything remotely sexual and just saying that..with a subtle smirk. Anything with a description of short, long, quick can be pretty much misinterpreted with that in my experience, but then again, use this if it makes sense in your head. Don't just randomly start saying it cause it'll look weird. This works for me because this comes very naturally to me now. Exaggerations, I do by mimicking something someone did and jus… | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 01:21 AM |
| 1 | How I start conversations effortlessly and get numbers and other random tips.Thanks, appreciate it :) | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 01:00 AM |
| 1 | How I start conversations effortlessly and get numbers and other random tips.Situational openers are the lowest risk in my experience. If you're conscious, it's because you're expecting a certain type of response. I've had guys give me cold responses as well, so try it out with everyone you run across so you just don't care and improve as a result. | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 12:59 AM |
| 1 | How I start conversations effortlessly and get numbers and other random tips.That was the point of sharing this. I am by no means amazing, so open to hearing ideas and feedback from others since it'll help all of us improve :) | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 12:55 AM |
| 3 | How I start conversations effortlessly and get numbers and other random tips.That's the point. Again it's not what you say, it's how you say it. | /r/seduction | 15/01/19 11:03 PM |
| 11 | How I start conversations effortlessly and get numbers and other random tips.Nice perspective. Never really thought about it from that side point of view. Shall be more mindful of it. Thanks | /r/seduction | 15/01/19 02:09 AM |
| 27 | How I start conversations effortlessly and get numbers and other random tips.Agreed, I usually say it with a smile and a joyful attitude. Also was just a random example of something I said last week that turned into a conversation. | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 11:33 PM |
| 1 | How do I define my boundaries and not just be a SUPER nice and accommodating guy? How do I change myself?Your comment really made me want to write something. Here you go :) https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ag1ss5/how_i_start_conversations_effortlessly_and_get/ | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 11:25 PM |
| 1 | I’m so fucken confused lolWomen make NO sense. There. | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 10:50 PM |
| 3 | What is your opinion about RSDMax ???I signed up for the free mentoring program, where he would chose people to take on. During my initial call, after I had filled out the entire form, I instantly realized it was nothing more than a sales call. The guy hadn't bothered to read my notes and just asked me how much was I willing to invest in myself. All that is fine, since I understand they are a business. But was kinda put off with the whole cold call approach during the call. Also the fact that guys English was much worse than mine, … | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 10:48 PM |
| 3 | How do I define my boundaries and not just be a SUPER nice and accommodating guy? How do I change myself?Bad habit. I write informally the way I say it in my head. Clearly not the way to go about it. | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 10:45 AM |
| 2 | How do I define my boundaries and not just be a SUPER nice and accommodating guy? How do I change myself?I'll write somethings I've learnt over the years that work for me. | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 03:17 AM |
| 2 | How do I define my boundaries and not just be a SUPER nice and accommodating guy? How do I change myself?I can connect with people pretty easily since I started in sales ages ago. I can get a number from a total stranger in the amount of time it takes to go from the ground floor to the 3rd (depending Ofcourse) I just might write something on what works for me :) | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 03:17 AM |
| 4 | How do I define my boundaries and not just be a SUPER nice and accommodating guy? How do I change myself?The comments are really helpful. Hope they resonate with you as they do with me :) | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 03:15 AM |
| 21 | How do I define my boundaries and not just be a SUPER nice and accommodating guy? How do I change myself?Yes. Selfish. Damn I gotta start working on my priorities. I've given up so much and then get frustrated when people arnt there for me. Which is my fault, not theirs to begin with. | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 03:14 AM |
| 1 | No dates. What's wrong with me?Sexualize the conversation from the start and escalate if you don't want to be friend zoned. If it's not working, Sexualize some more. | /r/seduction | 01/01/19 07:37 PM |
| 1 | How do I improve my game if I am socially awkward and can’t even make friends?"I'd make a great friend" I had the same approach, "but I'd make an amazing husband/boyfriend" always loyal, caring, thoughtful etc. Only gave women permission to walk all over me. Ever since I became more of a loner, forging my own path, doing what I felt like doing did I get respect and eventually people that wanted to hang out with me cause "Dude, whats Bruce upto?" Discover your own value, you dont need friends to feel worthwhile. And like someone else said, true friends are very rare. Don't… | /r/seduction | 13/12/18 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Why do people just instantly change?Cest la Vie 🤷♂️ | /r/seduction | 12/12/18 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Why do people just instantly change?Nah, she was going through a divorce and was moving cities. It was a mess tbh, but I thought we could work it out somehow cause we both were at peace when we were with each other.. Been 5 months, I'm thinking to reach out and say hi around early next year, see how's she doing etc.. No expectations.. I've been dating other girls, but yea, she was special to me. As for the friend, you're absolutely right, and I'm not bitter. Just meeting her made me think of how one people just make a whole 180 tu… | /r/seduction | 12/12/18 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Virgin and dont leave the house because I’m hideously unikeable to girls how can I improve?If you think girls give a shit as to how a guy looks as opposed to how he makes em feel, you're dead wrong. | /r/seduction | 25/10/18 01:02 AM |
| 2 | Guys who were once in this situtation please help a brother out... girls never got interested in meAww and I love you, random internet stranger :) | /r/seduction | 22/07/18 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Guys who were once in this situtation please help a brother out... girls never got interested in meMy friend. Don't over think about things like these. Focus on the greater things in life. Read books. Follow what great leaders are all about. Watch movies/series with strong lead characters and try and emulate who they identify with. Watch fight club, the punisher series, the dark knight trilogies joker, bane and RAs al ghul, Hanibal lecture, agent Smith from the matrix, these are all villains but they all served a greater purpose and with that came strong conviction. Their actions simply emula… | /r/seduction | 22/07/18 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Guys who were once in this situtation please help a brother out... girls never got interested in meLove yourself a little? Love yourself more than anything or anyone else! Why do you want people to like you? Who cares if no one likes you? Don't put people on a pedastal by vying for their attention and approval. Only your own should matter to you. | /r/seduction | 22/07/18 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Field Report: Fucking my former oneitis and what it made me realizeSo true. People (myself included) think the solution comes from absorbing more knowledge. But 1 conversation in the real world is worth an entire book, if done right. | /r/TheRedPill | 09/07/18 02:05 PM |
| 2 | You can’t have my Number but you can have a Selfie - 100 Women in 50 Days - Day 6Is also advise to blur her pic up a bit. Even if you got her permission, down the line you have nothing in writing and could get open for libel later on in life etc. I'd rather not take the risk tbh but.. Upto you 😊 | /r/seduction | 09/06/18 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Honestly, do you have better luck with the women you approach with a desire to sleep with? With women who you don't care about at all? Or with playing the numbers game and going until you get one that sticks regardless of if she is who you'd normally go for or not?Damn son, I turn 29 next month and I wish I had half a cool life as yours. It's all about perspective. Height doesnt matter if you dont make it. Teeth ok, could be improved, but you're already doing that. Body wise I've been both fat and fit as fuck, the only difference in girls being attracted to me was that when I was fit, I felt more confident, but women in general have been with me in both cases. So yea, don't put TOO much emphasis on that. Just get fit, cause it makes YOU feel better. Conve… | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Honestly, do you have better luck with the women you approach with a desire to sleep with? With women who you don't care about at all? Or with playing the numbers game and going until you get one that sticks regardless of if she is who you'd normally go for or not?Agreed with the RSD point. But a lot of what I said does still hold true imo. Someone whose confident as fuck goes a long way compared to whose not. No? | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Honestly, do you have better luck with the women you approach with a desire to sleep with? With women who you don't care about at all? Or with playing the numbers game and going until you get one that sticks regardless of if she is who you'd normally go for or not?Out of your league? Honestly, the only one who can think/place someone in or out of your league is you. So stop? Look up instances of ugly ass men bedding women society would deem out of their league, if they gave a shit, they wouldnt be having those women attracted to em. What exactly do you think makes someone be in your league? Not sure if you've heard of RSD, but I saw a few clips in which Tyler literally just walk up to a girl on the street and just make out without saying much..granted its… | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 03:07 PM |
| 11 | Honestly, do you have better luck with the women you approach with a desire to sleep with? With women who you don't care about at all? Or with playing the numbers game and going until you get one that sticks regardless of if she is who you'd normally go for or not?They don't look at em as 10's. Your 10 might just be a 6 to them. | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 12:45 PM |
| 2 | I'm about to do my first approachesWhy only those who you're attracted to? Approach any and everyone.. 😊 | /r/seduction | 14/04/18 11:11 AM |
| 11 | The first time I saw sexual subcommunication in text. Texts w/ inner breakdown, for purposes of discussingYea.. I would have ran away from such harsh criticism etc.. Good on him, much respect :) | /r/seduction | 21/03/18 02:18 PM |
| 7 | I finally did my first cold approachDon't think of it that way. Open everyone you can. The mailman, the random person on the street, that person in line in front of you at McDonald's, person you're in the lift with. My friends are amazed at how quickly I make friends of complete strangers and its this habit of mine to quickly and naturally come up with situational openers that has been a result of me just talking to everyone. Be fine with awkward pauses.. I still get the odd weird look like why is this random person talking to me.… | /r/seduction | 01/03/18 04:24 PM |
| 10 | Don't know if this is considered a cold approach, but holy shit I just talked to the first girl ever on the streetDon't focus on the female gender. Talk to Everyone. The more you can strike up a conversation with random people the quicker you get better. | /r/seduction | 19/01/18 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Boredom is why you're betaHoly fuck. Are you me? :-/ | /r/seduction | 02/04/17 09:37 PM |
| 3 | I have NEVER walked up to a random girl and started chatting with her with the intention of asking her out. Where do I start?Everyone you know today was once a complete stranger. Think about that the next time you go up to make new friends :) | /r/seduction | 05/03/17 02:03 PM |
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