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| 2 | I think “shy / anxious / socially awkward” traits are common in society. I think they affect men’s dating prospects vastly more than women’s. With this in mind, are women too often dismissive of men’s dating struggles?Women perceive men with a lot of confidence and emotional intelligence (ability to read the room) as masculine Alphas, because these men essentially become the leaders of the pack. If the guy comes across as shy and anxious, he probably gives the impression of being feminine and weak and womanly. The vast majority of heterosexual women are generally not attracted to feminine men. No normal straight girl is looking to date a man that acts like a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 04:09 AM |
| – | The impact of AI and robots on relationshipsThe robots don't have wombs and are incapable of creating your genetic child & actually properly raising them from birth. The men who have their primary relationships with AI bots basically doom their genetic family lines/heritage to die out. Ironic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 10:48 PM |
| – | Which Person Would You Choose To Date?There's not enough information given about the type of commitment level each person is looking for. If both individuals (let's say they are men) are only looking for short-term relationships, I'll pass on both of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 10:46 PM |
| – | Patriarchy 2.0 Is ComingI see your points, but to be honest, unless the dating apps get banned, I don't really see patriarchy truly resurging. As of 2022, Tinder is 72% male and 28% female while Bumble/Hinge are 65% male and 35% female. AI isn't an actual substitute for a real female human who can have your genetic children and actually raise them from birth. The women will still control the dating app market, due to the sheer amount of men who won't be able to find suitable marriage/family partners (due to the overwhe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 10:43 PM |
| – | In the coming decades, we will see a resurgence of marriages and monogamyI agree with most of your points, but I think the fact that the dating app market is skewed mostly towards women is what will actually drive people to marry. Women have the choice of who they want as long-term marriage partners. (As of 2022, Tinder is 72% male and 28% female while Bumble/Hinge are 65% male and 35% female.) Women's prospects for marriage will still be good since there is a scarcity of them in the dating app market, while most men will not be able to marry since most of these men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 10:06 PM |
| 2 | Apple VR + AI porn will probably make porn even a more realistic alternative to sexI think it'll actually be pretty ironic/funny to watch, because most of these men will probably die childless since they aren't unable to physically be intimate with a real woman. It's basically natural evolution weeding out the most easily manipulated of males from procreating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Question for women: Would you submit to a rich man?Nope. Your uncle is probably a narcissist. No amount of money is worth that BS. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 09:35 PM |
| – | What is a low value man?A good husband can be a HVM if he respects and provides for his wife/family and can be depended on for the rest of her life. He also commands respect and leadership from his peers because he respects himself. If she's an HVW, she'll inherently understand this. If she's a toxic, slutty LVW sleeping around for easy dopamine and validation, she won't be able to see that value since she doesn't have the same life values. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 08:08 PM |
| – | What is a low value man?Low-value men are cheaters/fbois, toxic, narcissistic, selfish, non-committal and abusive. This includes men who are too RP and see women as things. I honestly just don't see them as quality family men that I'd want to raise a family with or spend the rest of my life with. They bring you down spiritually and waste your energy and your life in the long run. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 08:05 PM |
| 2 | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?The blue-collar men come across as more masculine, strong, and tough. A lot of the STEM white-collar dudes come across as more feminine and weak, especially if they're too skinny. Most girls aren't attracted to feminine men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Do you think people can have meaningful relationships with AI?To answer your question, it's likely that men would probably use an AI chatbot doll as a temporary fix for loneliness (basically an emotional therapist version of OF). However, at the end of the day, it's still a machine, not a biological human being. The men who invest all of their time into falling in love with a machine basically doom their genetic family lines to die out... because they can't have real biological children and families with these synthetic AI chatbot dolls. So, in an ironic w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/23 07:15 AM |
| 1 | CMV: In today's age, men are expected to take on both the feminine AND the masculine roles in a relationship, while women are only expected to take on the feminine roles.Dude, if you're a single 30-year-old man living by yourself in a 1 BR apt and you don't know how to cook a basic meal for yourself or clean after your own bathroom messes, that is embarrassing AF. Do you expect your mom to come by and clean and cook after you or something? LOL. Send a picture of your apt so we can judge. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/23 06:16 AM |
| 1 | AI is generating "hotties" at a rapid pace. Will there be a hottie renaissance or oversaturation?Lol, doesn't matter if it's a Megan Fox AI or if it's a walking, talking sex robot doll - it's still fake and not an actual real person. You can't procreate real, natural biological children with a silicone sex robot AI doll. The men who indulge in non-living AI-generated people / sex robot dolls doom their genetic family lines to die out. It would be an unwitting evolution of survival of the fittest - in this case, those who are unable to find a real human partner to procreate with will die out… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/23 09:15 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Red Pill dating strategy for men is effective but unfulfillingTRP for men is a temporary solution that leaves the men (and the women involved with them) spiritually and emotionally drained. It's probably why Roosh V (of early 2010s PUA fame) turned from TRP to religion ("the God pill") in 2019. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 07:42 AM |
| 1 | Romantic Chivalry and "being a gentleman" is institutionalized pedestalizationSorry, coming from a girl's perspective, I disagree. If a guy who looked like Henry Cavill or Chris Hemsworth (classically good-looking and rich) acted like a gentleman in NYC, he'd be scoring dates on the apps left and right. And he definitely wouldn't be single for very long. The main factor that you forgot to mention in the whole picture is physical attraction. Women like good-looking chivalrous gentlemen. If you're not physically attractive but you act like a nice guy, most women notice the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 07:26 AM |
| 1 | What is personally a hot man for you?Probably looks like Andrew Copp (formerly NY Rangers, now Detroit Red Wings) and acts like Nate from That 90s Show or Eric from Entourage. I like big men (either big-muscular or even chubby) who have beards and can make me laugh. He probably likes hockey and football and is a big family man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 06:39 AM |
| 1 | Liberal women are probably the most judgmental and demanding when it comes to wanting Alpha qualities in a man.Hmm, I'm based in NYC and I notice that the liberal NYU/Brooklyn women here tend to go for the artsy Timothee Chalamet types instead of the muscley Jersey Shore bros. It's why the West Elm Caleb TikTok incident occurred here. West Elm Caleb comes across as an artsy softboi, and liberal leftist women in NYC love softbois. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 06:20 AM |
| 1 | “If having regular sex in our relationship is not important to you, then it is not a big deal if I find it somewhere else. It’s either important, or it’s not.” Thoughts?“But you said lifelong devotion and love don’t require sex. So by your own rationale, someone can have sex with someone else and still be devoted and completely in love with their SO, right?” I said only that lifelong devotion and love (marriage) DON’T require sex. I NEVER said that “someone can have sex with someone else and still be devoted and completely in love with their SO.” Those are YOUR words that you literally made up to deflect from the point being made. Don’t put words in my mouth; t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/22 02:29 AM |
| 1 | “If having regular sex in our relationship is not important to you, then it is not a big deal if I find it somewhere else. It’s either important, or it’s not.” Thoughts?Because you’ve basically betrayed your partner and your marriage vows to stay committed to that one person for the rest of your life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/22 02:09 AM |
| 1 | “If having regular sex in our relationship is not important to you, then it is not a big deal if I find it somewhere else. It’s either important, or it’s not.” Thoughts?Lifelong devotion and love doesn’t require sex. Your idea of lifelong devotion seems to require sex, while other people don’t require sex. As I mentioned earlier, your values are simply not compatible with your ex-wife’s, so she should honestly never have married you in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/22 06:11 AM |
| 1 | “If having regular sex in our relationship is not important to you, then it is not a big deal if I find it somewhere else. It’s either important, or it’s not.” Thoughts?When you’re in a monogamous relationship and married, you’ve made a commitment pact to be each other’s lifelong ONLY partner. If you want to be sleeping with other girls, the marriage promise of lifelong devotion is effectively over. Like I said, she should never have married you in the first place since it’s clear that your sex behavior is akin to a uncontrollable dog’s and she seemed to not like sex. You two were were never compatible and the marriage should never have occurred. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 03:20 AM |
| 1 | “If having regular sex in our relationship is not important to you, then it is not a big deal if I find it somewhere else. It’s either important, or it’s not.” Thoughts?The two were likely not compatible in the first place and should never have married. He places sex as a priority while she has other priorities that are not sex. She isn’t obligated to provide him sex like a bangslave. When you marry for LOVE, it shouldn’t matter whether you have sex or not because you both love and respect each other as human beings in a loving partnership. If he married just to have SEX, then he married to have a bangslave at his disposal and clearly has no respect for her per… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 10:13 PM |
| 1 | “If having regular sex in our relationship is not important to you, then it is not a big deal if I find it somewhere else. It’s either important, or it’s not.” Thoughts?It sends the message that this man married to have a living sex doll in the home and not because he cared for the woman and loved her as an actual human being. Values are clearly not compatible; I have no idea why the woman chose to marry this man in the beginning because he was clearly a terrible choice. It’s also clear that he prioritizes sex over everything else like a uncontrollable dog and should never have been in a marriage in a first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Ladies - how do you feel about the supposed trend that men are cold approaching less often these days?Yeah it’s been a positive effect. The men who tried to cold approach all gave me a creepy PUA player vibe. I’ve never taken any of them seriously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 06:52 PM |
| 0 | Even the most average girl still expects you to “woo” and convince her you are worthy of her attention, and this is why even above average men have grown tired and many even given up on actively datingI get 100+ likes a week and go on 2-3 dates every weekend. One thing I make sure to do never accept a low-effort coffee date from a man on the OLD apps. You would never have passed my test since you would have been ghosted and unmatched the day you suggested a coffee date. I’m also pretty sure you’re still single and unmarried since no sane attractive and marriage-minded woman with OPTIONS would really want to continue to waste her time with such a low-effort lazy turd of a man . :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Even the most average girl still expects you to “woo” and convince her you are worthy of her attention, and this is why even above average men have grown tired and many even given up on actively datingThat’s hilarious; my response was me pointing out that you read my original post wrong (since it was coming from the perspective of a cis female and not a man as you implied in your response). That was literally it; pointing out that you responded to the wrong gender and that it was a funny mistake. There was nothing there that was “hyper-emotional” or triggered; it was merely calling out that the fact you made a mistake in your assumptions when you responded. The fact that you wrote a three-par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Even the most average girl still expects you to “woo” and convince her you are worthy of her attention, and this is why even above average men have grown tired and many even given up on actively datingThis is honestly kind of a hilarious read; it should have been pretty obvious from my post that I’m a cis-heterosexual woman and not a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Financially investing in women early on to show that you're not just after sex seems logical. But when women take advantage of this by using men as free meal tickets or giving free sex very quickly to attractive men, men rightfully stop investing in women.They can claim to be religious but if they’re not actually following the Bible, then they’re fakes. REAL Christian men respect the Bible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Financially investing in women early on to show that you're not just after sex seems logical. But when women take advantage of this by using men as free meal tickets or giving free sex very quickly to attractive men, men rightfully stop investing in women.If they’re NOT respecting the rules in the Bible, then they’re not real Christians. Sorry. REAL Christians respect the Bible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Financially investing in women early on to show that you're not just after sex seems logical. But when women take advantage of this by using men as free meal tickets or giving free sex very quickly to attractive men, men rightfully stop investing in women.Can’t tell if you’re trolling or not, but the “religious” ones that you’re apparently meeting are probably not real/genuine practicers of the faith, since they are disrespecting the rules in the Bible about sex before marriage. There are people who are genuine practicers and those who are fake. Not sure what’s going on with your situation, but honestly just ghost the guys who try to pressure you into sex before you are officially engaged or married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 12:46 AM |
| 1 | If women are willing to date much older man, is the wall really that big of a problem?OLD is already correcting this issue. Tinder is 78% male/22% female and Bumble/Hinge are 65% male/35% female. There are wayyyyyyy more men on these apps than women… which means that there are men out there (with no matches at all) who are willing enough to swipe right on 35-65+ women and give them an LTR chance. Never underestimate the desperation of the male dating pool, especially when there are only 3 females for every 7 men. It’s a women’s dating market on OLD, regardless of age. Haha ironic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Financially investing in women early on to show that you're not just after sex seems logical. But when women take advantage of this by using men as free meal tickets or giving free sex very quickly to attractive men, men rightfully stop investing in women.There’s different types of conservative men (ex. Frat boy fbois, church men, etc). Don’t date the frat boy fbois. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 11:55 PM |
| 1 | If women are willing to date much older man, is the wall really that big of a problem?Haha, as the thirsty men in this comment section have pointed out (with their lust for older women), there is no WALL. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 11:31 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Why some of you withhold sex when dating ltr worthy men?We’re looking for the ONE who we will marry and raise a family with for the rest of our lives. You might be LTR-worthy, but if you’re not our fiancée/husband with a ring, you’re still not yet the ONE. If the man just wants a hookup, we ghost him and move on the next match. OLD ratios are wildly in favor of women (Tinder is 78% male/22% female while Bumble/Hinge are 65% male/35% female) which means that women have a ridiculously large pool of male options to choose from (while men don’t). A decen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 11:29 PM |
| 1 | raising a family worth it?People have children to carry on their family legacy. The natural consequence of your decision is that your genetic and family line will probably die out in 2110. Since you’re 25, you probably don’t care very much about that, but when you’re 95 with no family and the rest of your peers are likely dead, you’re probably going to have a very lonely last 5-year existence until when you die. Robots being a substitute is just sad and honestly not really adequate enough. I imagine robots would probably… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 11:17 PM |
| 2 | Are heterosexual women who won't date bisexual men bi/homophobic or is it just a preference?Bisexual men are usually feminine, which is a massive turn-off. Cis-heterosexual women don’t want to feel like they’re dating another woman. Also there’s the risk that the bisexual men may carry certain diseases specific to the gay population, such as HIV or AIDS. Most heterosexual women don’t want their wombs exposed to these diseases, as it would affect their own health as well as the health of any future possible children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Financially investing in women early on to show that you're not just after sex seems logical. But when women take advantage of this by using men as free meal tickets or giving free sex very quickly to attractive men, men rightfully stop investing in women.Your main issue is that you’re dating very liberal (probably Democrat) women who have no standards about sleeping around. Actual Conservative women are usually a lot more picky about courtship, respect the courtship process, and wait for a respectable duration of time before intimacy. Conservative women date more like the old-fashioned women pre-birth control. Liberal women are usually the ones who indulge in hookup culture and are pro-abortion with no sense of biological accountability (for the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Even the most average girl still expects you to “woo” and convince her you are worthy of her attention, and this is why even above average men have grown tired and many even given up on actively datingLol, men who are stingy and cheap on the first date usually lose out to other male prospects who are willing to pay for dinner. The current male-female ratios on OLD as of 2021 are 78% male / 22% female on Tinder and 65% male / 35% female on Bumble/Hinge. There are wayyyyyy more men than women looking for dates on OLD. It’s a women’s dating market on OLD right now, which means women are able to choose from a much higher pool of male dating candidates (ex. 100 likes in a week in a major metro are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Dating apps make misogynist menYou mentioned that you were an ethnic minority of average looks, which at face value I’m going to assume means you’re South Asian/Indian, East Asian, or Hispanic. Honestly, the most strategic thing to do would be a) to date within your own ethnicity (either domestically or abroad, or even within apps geared specifically for your ethnicity) or b) realize that most OLD women who are not of your own ethnicity are going to need more physical social proof to get pass your bottlenecks (ethnicity and p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/22 04:36 AM |
| 1 | Q4W Can you describe/show what “attractive men” look like to you?For whatever reason, I find myself gravitating towards hockey dudes. Guys in the NHL who are super hot: -Andrew Copp -Adam Fox -Andrei Vasilevskiy -Alexis Lafreniere They’re all tall, athletic men who are amazing in the sport.👌🏒🥅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 08:14 AM |
| 1 | Do you think it's a good thing or a bad thing - or neither - that women dominate college and already have a foothold in dominating the economy? And why?Nah, he’s the one who admitted himself that women don’t take him seriously because he doesn’t have his life together. It’s not victim-blaming when he himself admitted the reason. Maybe have better reading comprehension next time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/22 06:45 PM |
| 0 | Dating for men is like looking or a job while dating for women is like recruiting for a positionTinder is 78% male and 22% female, with most of these females being bots and escorts. Good luck on the apps 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/22 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Do you think it's a good thing or a bad thing - or neither - that women dominate college and already have a foothold in dominating the economy? And why?To answer your question, women may be dominating college, but men are overwhelmingly dominating the online dating apps. Again, remember that as of 2021, Tinder is 78% male and 22% female while Bumble/Hinge are 65% male and 35% female. There is no shortage of men for women to choose from; if anything, there is a shortage of women for men to choose from. ”To my surprise, a lot more women are willing to be with me now that I am carefree. They don’t take me serious though but I am ok with that for n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/22 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Are men with high body counts more attractive?No, because he’s way more likely to have STDs as well as be an HPV virus carrier. Who wants to be with a disease carrier? I prefer not to get STDs from my partner, thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 07:09 AM |
| 1 | Contrary to popular belief, would women really be happy with just sex from men?I think you are conflating the views of Liberal sex-PoZzy, pro-Onlyfans women with that of normal women. Most normal women don’t want to be used for hookups or ONS. They are usually looking for long-term relationships that they could plausibly have for starting families. These are both extremely different types of women. Don’t conflate the two. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 07:07 AM |
| 2 | Why women talks about their previous experience ?No offense, but it has to be the types of girls that you’re somehow attracting (probably super liberal, progressive, sex-pOzZy, pro-Onlyfans types). I’m a female and I consider my friend group to be fairly conservative. If a guy tries to talk to me about sex on the first to fourth dates, it indicates to that he has douche red flag fuccboi traits, so I immediately do a hard pass, dump him, and move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Dating for men is like looking or a job while dating for women is like recruiting for a positionNah, if she’s decent-looking, thanks to Tinder and OLD - she’ll still get 40 -60 likes a week from men who are desperate for a match. Don’t you forget that Tinder is 78% male and 22% female, while Bumble/Hinge are 65% male and 35% female. 😉 OLD is a buyer’s market for women. 👌 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Dominant/masculine women, are submissive/feminine men a turn-off?I think MBTI (Myers-Briggs type) plays a factor here as well. For example, INFP guys are stereotypically feminine and I could see them going for an ENTJ (CEO boss planner-type) female. Personally I’m an INFP female and feel like I’m moderately feminine and girly (though I also do Muay Thai as a hobby for fun). Finding myself attracted to more dominant, traditionally masculine types who take the lead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/22 06:16 AM |
| 1 | Dating quality through agesDebunking your first sentence - honestly, OLD (Tinder, etc,) has completely disintegrated the wall for women. A decently attractive woman in her 30s in a large metro area can easily get at least 200 OLD likes in a week. Thanks to Tinder (which is 78% male and 22% female), there is no wall for decently attractive women in their 30s. Anyone who still has the “Women in their 30s hit the Wall as mentioned by Red Pill” mentality is stuck in pre-Tinder 2011. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/22 06:07 AM |
| 1 | How do you filter f$$k boys, vet guys better for a LTR? Do you actively try to keep a relatively low body count? how?Wait at least 6 months AND make sure he’s agreed to be your committed actual boyfriend before sex. If he’s an fboy, he won’t be able to take the wait and will weed himself out. Our parents’ and grandparents’ generation didn’t have contraception and were expected to wait until marriage before sex. If they could wait like that, then you can at least afford to wait at least six months. Patience is a virtue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/22 06:01 AM |
| 1 | Are women of today showing greater preference for physically less masculine men ?Skinny, lankier, feminine-looking guys look more like the normal regular peers of the 18-24 group. The older you get as a woman, the more you prefer older, masculine-looking men who look like they’re capable of protecting you. Lanky, feminine-looking men who look like they are younger than you and can’t protect you are not a turn-on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/22 05:57 AM |
| 82 | my red flagsAdding on to the friends point - if you’re dating him and his close friends are the type of guys who are constantly rating and objectifying women (ex. Celebrities, females they know in real life), you can almost be certain that you will have been one of their conversational topics at one point. Make certain to vet his friend group and make sure they’re not a bunch of misogynistic creeps who see women as toys to be rated. They aren’t about to change their behavior just because it makes you uncomf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Most women withhold sex because they are afraid they don’t offer anything elseNah, it’s because online dating is a buyer’s market for women (as of 2021, Tinder is 78% male and 22% female while Hinge/Bumble are 65% male and 35% female), and we’re looking for the one who is going to be the best match out of the dozens of matches and date offers we get each week. The man is essentially competing with the other men who also are offering introductory dates at the same time. Since online dating is a buyer’s market for women, the woman is taking the employer role and the man is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/22 11:49 PM |
| 3 | Feelings of loneliness is realDownload ClassPass and take a new workout class at a new gym every night. The novelty of all the new workouts will force you to be in the present moment and not think about things like this that don’t help you at all and only serve to hold you back. Also you mentioned this happened around Easter; book a solo trip out to another country the next time you have free holidays. Book your schedule out so you never have time to allow your brain to fester thoughts that don’t serve you. I find your post … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Women's two primary mating strategies (hypergamy and monogamy) cannot co-exist on a large scale in society. What can we do about this?Nah, instead of sticking for the top 20%, they’ll eventually go for the top 30-40% as they age. OLD has given women a virtual endless number of matches (any reasonably-looking 30-50 year m-old female can easily get 5-10 matches a week if she wants). The only losers here are the bottom 50% of men who can’t get any OLD matches. With current OLD gender ratios (ex. Tinder is 78% male and 22% female and it grows even more male by the day), the excessively lopsided demand for women in the online datin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Do women find Fighters (UFC, Boxing, Grappling,...) attractive?Depends on the man. Some of them have extremely high discipline and focus (high-value traits) and this extends to other parts of their life. Others are narcissistic players who abuse their girlfriends (or have addictions) and have trash personalities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 12:49 AM |
| 9 | Which scenario would you pick?From a woman’s perspective, #2 and #5 are both low-value NVM. A high-value woman is a man who has you and raising family as his priority and does not cheat on you with other women. Any man who cheats or triangulates you with other women is negative-value and needs to be dumped ASAP. You have the qualifications for high-value and low-value men mixed up. A player Chad (who is “high-value” in the RP world) who is entertaining a harem is basically low/negative-value for any serious family- and marri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 12:44 AM |
| 396 | Old men and their entitlement to young women (specifically their wombs) are poisoning the dating market for professional women in their twenties.This is why I don’t really take any guy over 35 seriously, especially on the dating apps. Some of them even try to hide their age, like on Tinder (making their profiles even more sus). There’s a reason why women his own age don’t want him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 11:33 PM |
| 74 | how to make men give up on (controlling) youI use the Dumb Fox Credo. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/e017h7/the_dumb_fox_credo/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf It’s easier to pretend to agree / be quietly neutral or just ignore what they said and just ghost them after. Less drama for you to experience. No need to waste your time/energy on them on a confrontation. This way you can also avoid becoming their active target. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 08:39 AM |
| 21 | Men are shamed for wanting women equally or less attractive than them and acting frustrated when these women act like they are out of their league, yet women act entitled to men far more attractive than them all the timeIf we’re using online dating and social media as an example, this is partly because a man (rated 6) will probably receive 2 or 3 matches every 2 weeks while his looksmatch female (also rated 6) will get 2 or 3 matches per day. It’s a matter of supply and demand, with online dating currently being a buyer’s market for women. For example, as of 2021, Tinder is 78% male and 22% female. Bumble/Hinge are 65% male and 35% female. There are wayyy more men than women on the dating apps, so women get the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 11:11 PM |
| 33 | don't date him "as practice" when you don't like him or saw red flagsI get what you’re saying, but I don’t know if I necessarily agree with everything in your post. For example, I don’t know that your friend is necessarily a PickMe in the sense that she is technically utilizing the FDS guidelines for multidating. If anything, multidating at least gives you leverage in the sense that you gain an abundance mentality and are thus not hung up on 1 or 2 options. Also, for those that had gotten out of a recent breakup, multidating (even if it’s just for practice or a f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 10:47 PM |
| 86 | What do we think about a man wanting to be treated like a trophy wife?To be super honest, I think it’s usually feminine (and possibly left-leaning?) men (who also embrace liberal feminism) who think this way. Guessing that they want to play the female (instead of male) role in a hetero relationship and that they are probably jealous of LGBQT men who are the trophy gay husbands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 03:02 AM |
| 75 | CLINICAL ANALYSIS of How A Cheating Male Narcissist Talks/Deflects in a Therapy Session (Demonstration - Video Example)This video provides a demonstration of the verbal behaviors a male narcissist (caught cheating on his wife) would use to deflect his behavior when talking to a therapist. Very useful and interesting to watch in order to spot/detect how gaslighting, minimization, deflection, playing the victim, faux intimacy, Machiavellian dominance, etc. all look like in real-world conversations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Online Dating observations: Tinder’s Algorithm is broken and optimizes for Dark Triad Traits (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy)This post is written primarily from a user experience perspective. Was hypothesizing on why Tinder seems to be the least efficient for filtering profiles even though it has the largest user base out of all the apps. Am on Hinge and OKCupid as well; I get a good amount of matches on all 3 apps but noticed the experience is inefficient on Tinder. Hinge and OKCupid save you time in terms of compatibility questions, whereas Tinder doesn’t really have them aside from the occasional holiday swipe nigh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 08:39 AM |
| 2 | Online Dating observations: Tinder’s Algorithm is broken and optimizes for Dark Triad Traits (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy)Agreed haha. Kinda wish Tinder’s product team re-format the app to be more like OkCupid or Hinge - de-emphasize the look aspect of Tinder and focus more on compatibility questions to sort or values. It seems that they did test drive this a mini version with Valentine’s Day; now it’s up to their product team to make it permanent. Ideally you have the people whose life and compatibility values match yours show up first on the feed, not the best-looking ones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Online Dating observations: Tinder’s Algorithm is broken and optimizes for Dark Triad Traits (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy)“Again this is what women choose when they are given all the options.” I get what you’re saying, but going back to my previous response, which was primarily about Tinder - Tinder isn’t showing women all the options. Tinder is showing only the best-looking men at the front of the cards. You have a woman looking for a normal guy on Tinder (who’s also interested in a relationship), but she never finds him because Tinder never shows her his profile card. They could literally be the perfect match in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 08:10 AM |
| 14 | Online Dating observations: Tinder’s Algorithm is broken and optimizes for Dark Triad Traits (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy)Lol hun, I’m a girl on Tinder who’s tired of the profiles that the feed keeps showing. I don’t want some 6-ft investment banker with psychopathic traits and is going to cheat; am looking for a normal dude who goes to church and cares about family. Tinder keeps showing the former. With Tinder’s algorithm, swiping left on the investment banker types ironically means I end up getting shown more of those types, instead of the normal guy that I’m actually looking for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 07:49 AM |
| 7 | Online Dating observations: Tinder’s Algorithm is broken and optimizes for Dark Triad Traits (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy)I get what you’re saying. I have the impression that most women are swiping right on the men in the hopes that these men are normal people that they can have a meaningful (hopefully) long-term relationship with, not just for a ONS. Unfortunately, the best-looking men usually have way too many options, so they are mostly looking for short physical flings. It would be ideal if Tinder was matching the normal dudes (who are looking for long-term relationships) with women who are also looking for the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 07:42 AM |
| 1 | Online Dating observations: Tinder’s Algorithm is broken and optimizes for Dark Triad Traits (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy)Agreed, it might be that Tinder has a large left-leaning user base or that it attracts left-leaning men who are into fashion or photography. Have noticed from the hobby filters (that Tinder provides in the profile settings) that it’s mostly options that seem oriented to the left (ex. “Black Lives Matter,” etc) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 07:28 AM |
| 3 | Online Dating observations: Tinder’s Algorithm is broken and optimizes for Dark Triad Traits (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy)Attractive people aren’t inherently narcissistic; however, the best-looking profiles would probably end up having the most right swipes or options, which would result in these users exhibiting narcissistic behavior (looking for multiple easy sources of supply for sex, attention, etc), Machiavellian behavior (tendency to manipulate, motivated by self interest) or psychopathic behavior (high levels of impulsivity or thrill-seeking, low levels of empathy) in terms of how they treat each of their ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 07:02 AM |
| 250 | Man admits he uses liberal feminism to his benefit to save money on 50/50 dates & get easy sex on the dating market. He loves 3rd wave feminist women who “flooded the market with easy sex.” Straight from the horse’s mouth - Lib. Feminism benefits MEN. Get rid of LibFems now & replace them w/RadFems.All the more reason to block and delete when they ask you to go 50/50. To be fair, 78% of Tinder and 65% of Hinge/Bumble are male, so men are at a huge disadvantage on the dating market anyway. If you’re on OLD, let the LVM out themselves and ghost them once you see the red flags. As the saying goes, men are like buses and you’ll meet a new one every 15 minutes. As for liberal feminism, the current cultural libfem publications and leaders (Cosmo, LibFem writers and producers) all need to replace… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 05:22 AM |
| 4 | "But hon, in this city no one will want to wait 2+ months to have sex with you" -- female acquaintanceHer situation, in which the guy knew basically her since high school (so he’d been basically pining for her for at least 5-7+ years already) is TOTALLY different from the hypothetical situation you proposed, which was dating/sex/getting pumped and dumped after 2 months of meeting a stranger. It’s apples and oranges. The guy who’s marrying her didn’t know her for only 2 months; he’s been pining for her for 5-7+ years. I gotta say, she sounds pretty arrogant gaslighting you into thinking the 2 sit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: What should a woman do if she wants to punch above her attractiveness level?Yes, because the man realizes he is in a much lower-status position compared to the female celebrity, who is a household name. Granted, in the cases of Amy Schumer and Tilda Swindon, both woman are also well-respected for their work/performing arts (Amy being comedy and Tilda being acting), and the men probably realize that the women have wayyy more capital (networking, connections, income, agents, etc) than them in those areas. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: What should a woman do if she wants to punch above her attractiveness level?The last sentence in your original post literally said: “What do these women have, besides looks?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 10:51 PM |
| -9 | Let's leave dating apps behind this month : who's with me!It might be the apps you’re using. Tinder and Bumble don’t let you filter enough or ask enough questions for compatibility. OKCupid at least lets you answer 10 to 200 compatibility questions and then filters your matches with a percentage score based on your answers. Tinder and Bumble honestly need to step up their question game to let users more quickly filter out the pool. Edit: Getting downvoted here, but I think part of the point I’m making that’s probably pissing downvoters off is that it h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: What should a woman do if she wants to punch above her attractiveness level?A)The women either met them long before these men got famous - when these men were struggling actor nobodies basically - (ex. Matt Damon/Hugh Jackman/Clive Owen and their wives) or B) the woman already has fame/status that the man doesn’t have (Amy Schumer and Ben Hamich, where Amy is the famous one and Ben is still relatively unknown; in that case, Ben is the lower status person… This also applies to Tilda Swinton’s relationship, where Tilda is the more famous/higher status one). Brad Pitt chea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 02:15 PM |
| 0 | West Elm Caleb Mega-ThreadHow long ago was the catfishing? TikTok didn’t really blow up in the US until 2019/2020. If you wanted to post about the catfishing on TikTok now, you probably could. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 08:41 AM |
| -2 | West Elm Caleb Mega-ThreadThe projection and woman-hating is strong with this one. If a person is doing shady deeds and bad behavior (sexual or not), who cares about gender at that point? A rotten apple is a rotten apple, gender be damned. By all means, expose them. The beauty of TikTok is that it’s the digital form of karma coming back around to bite back bad actors, regardless of gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 03:12 AM |
| 0 | West Elm Caleb Mega-ThreadHaha, this will actually be hilarious to watch. Caleb doesn’t have Joe Rogan energy; he comes across more as a slightly straight Johnny Weir. Anyhow, gender doesn’t matter if a person is a rotten apple committing bad behavior. I’m on the TikTok algorithm’s side; let’s see what “Daquiri Man Caleb”’s got and if it’s viral-worthy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 02:52 AM |
| -7 | West Elm Caleb Mega-ThreadDear Caleb, Our algorithm can now connect all of the women you pumped and dumped and have them expose and gossip about your secrets to the world. We’re the new “neighborhood gossip,” guess you never foresaw that? If you don’t want people gossipping about your fboi pump & dump behavior to the world, maybe try not to screw over a bunch of ladies who all live within the same TikTok local algorithmic network/city. It’s not 2012 anymore, hun. 😉 Love, TikTok 💝 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 02:27 AM |
| 9 | West Elm Caleb Mega-ThreadLol, the main lesson here is that in 2022, the TikTok algorithm is capable of exposing your dating secrets and connecting people that you dated and screwed over. Without TikTok, the women wouldn’t have found each other’s videos, but they all had Caleb’s phone number, which TikTok’s algorithm figured out. TikTok’s video algorithm essentially takes the form of ”neighborhood gossip,” where everyone gossips about which guy is acting as “community dick” and why to stay away from him. It was never bef… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 02:23 AM |
| 12 | Women are interchangeable (seen on IG)Would bet good money that this man has NPD or some other variant of a Cluster B personality disorder. He exhibits the following tactics used by NPDs: Emotional blackmail, inappropriate restrictions Objectification Triangulation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 02:02 AM |
| 61 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?I thought this would be helpful to add to the list. - “41 Abuse Tactics Used By Narcissists, Manipulators & Sociopaths” - https://abusewarrior.com/toxic-relationships/narcissistic-abuse/harmful-manipulation-tactics/ Abuse Tactics: • Intrude & Interrupt • Emotional Blackmail • Changing the Goalposts • Gaslighting • Invalidation • Emotional Barriers • Deflecting; refusal to take accountability • Guilt Trip • Objectifying • Inappropriate Restrictions • Hurt & Rescue • Rationalization • … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 09:40 AM |
| 44 | “Interview with a Sociopath” - Sociopath admits he actively hones in to manipulate when he senses a person is weak; Behavior is similar to that of LVM/NVMs. Perhaps many of the LVMs/NVMs discussed here also have Cluster B personality disorders (including sociopathy, narcissism, etc) like this man.Thanks for your response. The one thing I want to point out is that he was already diagnosed by his psychiatrist with ASPD / sociopathy as well as bipolar disorder. It’s normal to be skeptical of these YouTube videos, but if he’s already been diagnosed by his psychiatrist with these comorbidities, would you be saying that you’re disagreeing with his psychiatrist’s diagnosis? Just coming in from another perspective and curious about your thoughts. From a psychiatry perspective, sociopathy/ASPD ru… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:59 AM |
| 3 | Liz and Big Ed are a cautionary tale (90 day single life spoilers)Liz is trauma-bonded. I feel bad for her because it seems like she’s in such a deep trauma bond black hole that she can’t see out of it. She needs to see a therapist; however, I’m not sure she’s willing to go to therapy right now in the sense that she’s still benefiting from the 90 Day exposure and paychecks. If being with Big Ed wasn’t providing her fame and a paycheck, I feel like she wouldn’t be so hesitant to bail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:53 AM |
| 90 | West Elm Caleb: Women Warn Each Other about LVM on TikTok, Patriarchy Immediately Freaks OutTikTok’s viral discussion culture provides a form of real-time accountability that the dating apps currently don’t have. In the past, the news of “West Elm Caleb” manipulating 15+ women to sleep with them and later ghost them would’ve caused him to be excised out of the local community. OLD apps removed the boundaries of having a local community carefully watching men for bad behavior; however, TikTok in the 2020s provides a way to bring the “local community” back and airs “community gossip” out… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 01:29 AM |
| 1 | What's a belief you hold that the ideology you identify with would vehemently deny?Speaking from an FDS perspective. 1) Am pro-life and repulsed by the FDS pro-choice fandom. 2) Am not liberal or woke. I get the impression that a lot of FDS women are Democrats. 3) Preference for height and income in a man are overrated. 4) Not all women are victims. For example, I have no sympathy for the woman who chooses to seduce a married man. That’s a morally sociopathic choice that she made on her own. 5) I am religious, and I don’t agree with the FDS Atheist/leftist views about separati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/22 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Men who plan to marry in their 40s are ruining the dating marketHun, most women on FDS are 21-25 and in college or post-college. The largest group of women is 21-25 and the second largest group is 25-29. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/k9c3b2/how_many_years_do_you_count/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Lol, so sorry that you never thought that 21-25 year-olds would eventually catch on to Red Pill Chad BS. The basic standard is that a marriage-minded man is infinitely more valuable to a woman and her goals for childr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/22 09:45 AM |
| 2 | Men who plan to marry in their 40s are ruining the dating marketI think you might be generalizing from a pool of older Gen X women, especially if the women have already been divorced. Gen X women are the ones who usually eschew online dating and this wouldn’t be exposed to the current OLD 2022 male-female ratios. In addition, the most popular OLD apps are all a relatively recent phenomenon, with Tinder and Hinge starting in 2012 and Bumble starting in 2014. The online dating marketplace really only began to drastically change and affect the male-female ratio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/22 06:42 AM |
| 5 | FDS couldn't exist in a healthy dating marketYour definition of “high-value” is not the same as the FDS definition of “high-value.” Your definition seems to be the RP definition of “high-value” which is “Alpha Chad spinning as many female plates as possible.” The FDS definition of “high-value” is a loyal marriage-minded man who will treat you well, provide for you and your children, be a good father, and not abuse or gaslight you. FDS views RP men as a giant waste of time, since almost all RP men are not marriage-minded and are only lookin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/22 05:54 AM |
| 1 | FDS couldn't exist in a healthy dating market“FDS tells women to be demanding without considering why a man who meets her standards would want her in the first place.” It’s because the online dating market already overwhelmingly favors women. Tinder being 78% male and 22% female with a 4-to-1 male-female ratio (Bumble/Hinge being 65% male and 35% female, with a 3-to-1 male-female ratio) means that women on OLD have their pick of the litter. Due to OLD having such an overwhelming ratio of males, men are the ones who have to compete with oth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/22 05:44 AM |
| 3 | FDS couldn't exist in a healthy dating marketLol, it would appear that you think RP men (ex. “Alpha Chad”) are “high-value,” but any smart FDS woman knows RP men are a giant waste of time. FDS women are looking for loyal marriage-minded men, not some deluded RP narcissist who tries to “spin plates” on them with other girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/22 05:38 AM |
| 1 | FDS couldn't exist in a healthy dating marketTinder is 78% male and 22% female, with 4 males for every 1 female (Bumble/Hinge are 65% male, 35% female) so we aren’t concerned about finding quality men to date because the numbers are overwhelmingly in favor of women. Ha, if anything, men should worry about all the thousands of other males in their area competing for the small same batch of OLD women. Tinder’s 22% female base can afford to have the pick of the litter compared to the 78% male base. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/22 05:35 AM |
| 1 | FDS couldn't exist in a healthy dating marketThe online dating market overwhelmingly favors women. Tinder is 78% male and 22% female, which means 4 males for every 1 female. Bumble/Hinge are 65% male and 35% female (3 males for each 1 woman). Women have a lot of online dating options and can easily get 20+ matches in a day. With the current dating market so heavily in favor of women (ex. Tinder being 78% male), RP men should realize that their leverage is dropping fast each year. The ratios for males on the OLD apps get worse by the day, s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/22 05:28 AM |
| 4 | FDS couldn't exist in a healthy dating marketThere actually does exist such a subreddit; it’s called r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/22 05:17 AM |
| 34 | Even OTHER men can sense LVM/NVM/ZVM’s red flags with women at the beginning of a relationship, such as “being too busy.”Hmm, I read it more along the lines of “if he says he is focusing on himself,” that’s a dog whistle that says “please pass on this guy now and don’t waste any more of your time.” Basically if you hear a guy say that, please just cut him off; there’s no need to waste any more time on him. You aren’t obligated to talk to him any further. Don’t gaslight yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Men who plan to marry in their 40s are ruining the dating marketTinder has 66 million monthly users, with 78% being male and 22% being female. 78% of 66 million is 51,480,000 male users. 22% of 66 million is 14,520,000 females. That’s basically 4 males for every 1 female, with 51,480,000 males competing for 14,520,000 females. It’s pretty clear that there is an overwhelming surplus of males all competing for the same female 22%. Males also register for the app at a way faster rate than women do, so the ratios keep getting worse for men by the day. Bumble/Hin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/22 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Men who plan to marry in their 40s are ruining the dating marketI think you are projecting your own opinion of OLD as a brothel. The actual data shows that 39% of couples in the United States in 2019 said they met online. “In 2020, 270 million adults used dating apps worldwide, which is almost double the number from five years ago. In the U.S. alone, 39% of couples in 2019 said they met online. This number is set to continue growing as the volume of 18-29-year-olds joining dating apps to meet romantic partners is increasing.” Source: https://www.adjust.com/b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/22 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Men who plan to marry in their 40s are ruining the dating marketI feel like I’m repeating the same thing over and over again, and you’re purposefully deflecting and ignoring the points I’ve already made. At least ONE man of the THOUSANDS of matches a woman receives across ALL dating apps (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OKCupid, CoffeeMeetsBagel, Match.com, Upward, etc.) in any given year will be looking for commitment. For you to generalize that all men on dating apps are not looking for a relationship makes you woefully naive to the whims of desperate men who rarel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/22 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Men who plan to marry in their 40s are ruining the dating marketAs I’ve already mentioned, women on OLD can easily get 100+ matches across the apps in a month, and percentage-wise, the woman only needs 1 person out of the 100+ matches to be compatible; and she’s good to go. Does she want a man who’s willing to wait for sex and commit for her? All she needs is ONE man out of the thousands of matches across all the current dating apps in any given year. Also, you drastically underestimate the desperation of men on OLD apps; there’s going to be at least 1 man f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/22 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Men who plan to marry in their 40s are ruining the dating marketIronically I agree with your comment. A smart FDS woman looking for marriage should have been able to identify your time wasting signs right away and cut you loose from her dating list. Tinder is 78% male and 22% female (Bumble and Hinge are 65% male and 35% female) so she’d have no problem getting new male matches to replace you. She just needs 1 match out of the 100 or so matches per week to fit her compatibility standards, and she’s good to go. The online dating market has overwhelmingly beco… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/22 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Men who plan to marry in their 40s are ruining the dating marketDoesn’t matter, the numbers are still overwhelmingly in favor of women, with 4 men for every 1 woman on Tinder, for instance. A women on OLD can easily rack up 100+ matches across the OLD apps in a week if she really wanted to and go on a new date every single day. She can do rotational dating for at least 3 months without sleeping with any of the men until they’ve demonstrated a clear commitment as boyfriend/fiancé. Percentage-wise, the woman just needs 1 person out of the 100+ matches to be co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/22 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Men who plan to marry in their 40s are ruining the dating marketI think it’s up to women to quickly identify the warning signs of a male time waster so that they know already not to waste time on these men. As is, OLD has dramatically changed the dating landscape in 7 years so that online dating has actually now become a definitive women’s market. The overwhelming surplus of men on the dating apps means that women currently have the pick of the litter. It’s funny because RP men doesn’t seem to realize that they are totally replaceable, and that there are mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/22 07:11 PM |
| 2 | girl whatThat sounds like a Chris Watts type. shudders | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 03:52 AM |
| 245 | Men that push for 50/50 still don’t realize that dating has become a ladies’ market in 2021, with Tinder being 78% male / 22% female and Bumble & Hinge being 65% male / 35% female. Men outnumber women 4-to-1 on Tinder and 3-to-1 on Bumble/Hinge.It’s funny that men still think women should go 50/50 and/or take the initiative… since they don’t seem to realize the overwhelming surplus of men on the apps means that women currently have the pick of the litter. The man who made the Reddit post is butthurt that “women don’t take enough initiative,” but he doesn’t seem to realize that he is totally replaceable, and that there are more than enough other men on the apps willing to initiate and take over his spot. Tinder: 78% male, 22% female. Bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 06:17 AM |
| 5 | Woman in Denial About being in an Abusive, "open" Marriage.A sociopath and his victim. Psycho eyes and narcissistic behavioral traits + lack of empathy are a dead giveaway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 05:59 AM |
| 42 | Woman in Denial About being in an Abusive, "open" Marriage.I’m both cringing and sad for her while watching the video. Even her 2 friends in the video have this “WTF” expression in their faces as they ask her about her open relationship. Girl, he doesn’t genuinely love or respect you if he’s having sex with other women; he likes your bangmaid and cooking/cleaning benefits and that’s it. You’re an object who’s replaceable to his narcissistic self. Someone help this woman wake up from her abuse. You can even tell she’s subconsciously embarrassed about her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 11:52 PM |
| 3 | What’s your dating experience in nyc like?I think Manhattan and Brooklyn men tend to be Peter Pans looking primarily for hookups. Manhattan is definitely plagued by the pervasive liberal feminism hookup culture there. I stopped searching in Manhattan and had much better luck with more family-oriented men (mainly locals who grew up here) from northern NJ, Staten Island, and Long Island. Manhattan tends to attract narcissistic, out-of-touch, career- or hookup-oriented men with a lot of red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 05:03 AM |
| 8 | Is it me or are the dating apps dead or declining in numbers of men?It might be your location. As of 2021, Tinder is 78% male and 22% female in terms of users (Source: https://datingzest.com/tinder-statistics/). Bumble and Hinge are 65% male and 35% female. If anything, the dating apps are declining in terms of number of women, but the number of men keeps climbing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 10:27 PM |
| 207 | Female Researcher undertakes research on Ayuhuasca with NVM Shaman (while trying to be politically correct and ignoring her instincts) and is later sexually assaulted - Sexual Assault in the AmazonThe article discusses the story of Lily Ross, a Harvard Ph.D researcher who set out to research Ayuhuasca in the Amazon. She chose to study with a shaman in a remote village, who had her ingest Ayuhuasca and brugmansia, both of which caused her to become drugged. She ignored her instincts when he asked her to strip to her undergarments, as she was afraid of offending him and didn’t want to present her “western-morals framework” as an obstacle to her research. He later sexually assaulted her whil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Submit your Handbook Recs!“Negotiation Tactic: Always be willing to walk away.” https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/rcrbvu/negotiation_tactic_always_be_willing_to_walk_away/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 12:58 AM |
| 4 | LVM/NVM Child Predators Grooming Young Teens For Nudes in the Guise of “Sex Positivity” - Mom Says She Tried To Prevent Daughters From Falling Victim To Online Predators, But They Were Still GroomedI wonder if it’s possible to advocate for a no-phone/advanced digital device policy in the classroom (particularly elementary school) and if other parents would be on board with this as well. For example, the parents would agree that the kids are allowed to have at max a pager or non-internet flip phone and that’s it. Public schools likely don’t have the fortitude to do this, but private schools and homeschool pods likely would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 09:51 PM |
| 114 | LVM/NVM Child Predators Grooming Young Teens For Nudes in the Guise of “Sex Positivity” - Mom Says She Tried To Prevent Daughters From Falling Victim To Online Predators, But They Were Still GroomedDefinitely agree. What are your thoughts are the daughters in the video? What struck me as concerning was that it seemed that the 14-year-old daughter actually seemed to enjoy the attention from the adult men; she seemed to find it “empowering” and that she also did it as a way of rebellion against her mother. This makes me wonder if the daughter had somehow absorbed the liberal feminism argument that “sex work is empowering” without realizing that she was being groomed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:47 AM |
| 122 | LVM/NVM Child Predators Grooming Young Teens For Nudes in the Guise of “Sex Positivity” - Mom Says She Tried To Prevent Daughters From Falling Victim To Online Predators, But They Were Still GroomedA mom discusses how her 14-year-old daughter and 12-year-old daughter were groomed by adult men on Snapchat and TikTok to send nudes and graphic media. The 12-year-old said she did it because the men made her “feel beautiful.” I don’t have kids yet, but this genuinely makes me worry about how to raise kids in the future, if the digital environment is going to be saturated with this type of “sex positivity”, “liberal feminist” pro-porn environment (where kids are groomed to be sexualized at a you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Submit your Handbook Recs!How to spot and identify if the D.E.N.N.I.S method (commonly used by LVM and predators/abusers to hook women in) is being used on you: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/hg1fmy/the_dennis_system/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 09:15 PM |
| 2 | THE D.E.N.N.I.S SYSTEMThis is super useful. Requesting to put this in the official FDS handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 10:22 PM |
| 20 | Tinder didn't kill dating... but it didn't help eitherI guess this is the Tinder stereotype, but surprisingly I can’t say this is 100% all the time. Am based in NYC and have actually met a couple of normal guys off there (not fbois). One was a super Christian whose only other dating app he used was Upward, and he definitely wasn’t an fboy. I think there’s still a splattering of men who use Tinder mainly because they don’t know about the other dating apps (Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, etc). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:14 PM |
| 58 | Tinder didn't kill dating... but it didn't help eitherI see your point. FDS does mention to cut men off at the first sign of any red flags. If you get signs that he’s an fboy or LVM, then cut him off and move on to the next match. The fact that men outnumber women by 3-to-1 on Tinder means that women have much more chances now to find someone who’s an HVM if they’re playing the FDS strategy right (rotational dating, no sleeping with him until after 4-6 months when he’s asked you to be his girlfriend and had already proven himself / demonstrated goo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 08:41 AM |
| 131 | Tinder didn't kill dating... but it didn't help eitherFound some Tinder stats and thought it was interesting that in 2021, over 78% of Tinder users are male, and only 21.9% are female. https://datingzest.com/tinder-statistics/ Ladies control the online dating scene now. 🎉 Men outnumber women by more than 3-to-1, so at least any FDS ladies using Tinder have way more opportunities to find that someone (if they’re using the app and doing rotational dating). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 06:59 AM |
| 7 | Importance of political beliefs?I think this quote by u/circescircus in another FDS thread says it all (Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/kxui7l/the_vibes_of_liberal_men_towards_me_since_i/) “Liberal men are wolves in sheep's clothing. A lot of the times, they are the most misogynistic men out there. They openly love porn, sex work, they exploit women's labor, they love BDSM and kink, they get cunty when women have ANY expectations for fairness, they feel entitled to choking women sexually abusing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 06:57 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with rejection?Honestly, I’d consider it a badge of honor that he chose to pursue the 25-year-old because what it really looks like to me is that this guy was looking for someone that he could easily manipulate and control. He saw that you are accomplished and have a lot of life experience, so you would be harder to control and manipulate in the long run. He wants someone who will fawn over him, make him feel like he has complete control, and has little to no boundaries so he can consume and then discard her w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 03:50 PM |
| 32 | JFK, the Harvey Weinstein NVM of his time who cheated on his wife Jackie Kennedy with more than 30 women: His conga line of concubinesI agree with you that we are not living in a post-sexual-predator society. However, for this specific case, given that JFK was president and a high status figure, it’s likely that in today’s social media paparazzi era, he would have had a much harder time getting away with all the nights of infidelity without the paparazzi hounding him at every corner. In addition, his secretaries in today’s time would have had recourse to name him publicly in a sexual harassment lawsuit. The number of women nam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 08:29 PM |
| 101 | JFK, the Harvey Weinstein NVM of his time who cheated on his wife Jackie Kennedy with more than 30 women: His conga line of concubinesHonestly, I feel bad for Jackie Kennedy, who I think was partially a victim of her era. There was no FDS back then, and the 60s had just barely started. I think she knew that she was something of a hostage in the marriage, but was afraid to leave due to the fear of 50/60s era societal repercussions. If she was alive today and this happened, I think she would have had way more courage to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 06:16 PM |
| 310 | JFK, the Harvey Weinstein NVM of his time who cheated on his wife Jackie Kennedy with more than 30 women: His conga line of concubinesThis article discusses JFK’s long history of infidelity, reporting that he cheated sexually on his wife Jackie Kennedy countless times with a long list of women, including Marilyn Monroe, his 19-year-old White House intern Mimi Alford, his 2 secretaries Priscilla Wear and Jill Cowan (nicknamed “Fiddle and Faddle” by the Secret Service), Jackie Kennedy’s press secretary Pamela Turnure, and Jackie Kennedy’s own sister Lee. JFK also used his special assistant Dave Powers to procure and hunt down ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 05:38 PM |
| 20 | The Bachelorette Viewership - Internalized MisogynyI agree that Katie started out as a bit of a PickMe at the start of her season, but she seems to have grown out of it by the finale (especially during After the Final Rose, when she said she re-watched her episodes, saw what happened throughout the season with Greg, and then confronted him in the finale). She at least appears to recognize that Greg walked over her by claiming that she wasn’t validating him enough when he was getting a first rose each week. Greg’s behavior was problematic in that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 02:16 PM |
| 34 | Realization about “not like other girls”I agree with most of what you said. The one exception I was wondering about is that sometimes the serial monogamist guy does end up committing to the forever gf, but it’s usually because the guy thinks he’s now past his peak (approaching 40-45, overweight, balding, growing old) and doesn’t think he can do better and/or has gotten used to the forever gf. You do see some marriages arise from this situation (LVM marrying the PickMe because he doesn’t think he can do better). I agree with the princi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:24 PM |
| 8 | Lovely bit of standard shaming by TikTok Pickminique 🙄She’s mad/bitter that other women don’t want to accept the low standards that she’s given herself as a Cool Girl Pickmeisha clown. So she tries to pull other women with standards down to drag them to her level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 02:03 AM |
| 5 | Being a Cool Girl is a trapSadly the Cool Girl trope dominates a lot of movies, music, TV (ex. HBO’s “Girls,” Carrie on SATC, New Girl, Avril Lavigne’s songs, etc.) Really hoping we’ll get less Cool Girl/PickMe media and more FDS-inspired media during the next decade. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 07:13 AM |
| 68 | What is FDS’s thoughts on this? Joshua Jackson responds to wife Jodie Turner-Smith saying their relationship started off with a one-night-stand: 'Technically it was a three-night stand'True, it was 10 years. It looks like this might have been a case then too where he, as an LVM, felt like he was starting to reach his peak/expiration date (he is 43), so he decided to marry the next PickMe who threw herself at him (Turner-Smith). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:12 AM |
| 72 | What is FDS’s thoughts on this? Joshua Jackson responds to wife Jodie Turner-Smith saying their relationship started off with a one-night-stand: 'Technically it was a three-night stand'As a staunch FDS poster, I’m finding myself a bit confused by this. Jodie Turner-Smith does give me strong LibFem PickMe vibes. What are your thoughts on this? I honestly have no idea how they ended up getting married after the relationship started off on such a PickMe foot. I really can’t tell if Joshua Jackson is supposed to be HVM or not; it’s possible that it’s a case of LV people deciding to stay with each other. I read in an online interview that he said doesn’t believe in monagamy (https:… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Is the new Bachelorette Katie Thurston a Pick-me?Agreed, thanks for your response! I was trying to figure out why I couldn’t get behind her 100% and you articulated her “Cool Girl” vibes down perfectly. Really hoped she wakes up and doesn’t let herself get taken advantage of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:42 AM |
| 8 | How to spread the word of FDS & warn other women about TRPAs a POC female in the NYC area, I have to say that I disagree with some of the viewpoints that you’ve raised. From my experience in NYC, some of the most misogynistic behavior has come not from the right, but actually from the far left. A lot of these self-proclaimed “feminist progressive” men (a mixed list of every race by the way... Hispanics/blacks/whites/etc) have been some of the worst LVM offenders I’ve ever met. They’ll try to force polyamory, polygamy, kink, bondage, LibFem BS down your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 12:02 AM |
| 90 | Beware of self identifying 'feminist' men and performative feminism.He sounds like a narcissist who uses feminism as a pickup cover. Glad you saw the red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 11:52 PM |
| 7 | FDS Approved Stand-up ComedySindhu Vee. Her humor is more HVW/alpha female-oriented, no libfem cringe BS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:33 AM |
| 8 | So many bitter men over the age of 24The problem with Tinder is that there are too many people and not enough filtering mechanisms to filter incompatible people out. If you’re still looking to online date, try OKCupid, which at least filters incompatible people for you automatically from the get-go. Answer at least 50 questions and only go out on dates with people that have a 90% match with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Why Good Women Are Losing On Dating AppsThat may be true, but with FDS, I make it very clear to them that I won’t be physically intimate unless we are already engaged. Almost all of them will likely never make it to that stage unless they have the genuine patience and dedication to do so, so if hooking up is their main goal, they’re only wasting their money and time. Anyway, if anything, it’s a gain on my end because the men pay for the dinner dates and I get to vet them carefully on my time. They don’t get the benefit of being physic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 09:39 PM |
| 2 | Why Good Women Are Losing On Dating AppsI understand. My own OKC experience has been different though. The parameters I used (men ages 30-44 within 50 miles of NYC that have a 90% or higher match) had brought about several good dates with long-term potential. (Also, with FDS, I made it clear to them that I wouldn’t be getting physically intimate with a man unless we were at least already engaged.) I’d rather select from people who have already confirmed via OKC’s algorithm that they are looking for a long-term relationship. I feel lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 01:51 PM |
| 3 | Why Good Women Are Losing On Dating AppsYou’re doing OLD wrong. Avoid Tinder and Bumble and any non-filtering dating apps like the plague. The most efficient and effective app for higher quality matches with OLD is OKCupid. Answer at least 50 compatibility questions and only match / talk to guys who match you with a score of 90% or above. Also, look through the guys’ publicly answered questions for fuckb0i responses regarding commitment/sex (ex. “How long do you want your next relationship to last?”, etc.). Unmatch anyone with low-val… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:04 AM |
| 2 | Insecure around certain women?“ These women often brag about doing drugs(including major ones like acid, cocaine, etc), all their hookups, threesomes, offering to strip during a drinking game, etc.” The women you’re talking about aren’t really receiving genuine respect from the men. They’re getting this male attention because the men think they can use the women for an easy one-night stand and then ghost them after. Tbh, I really wouldn’t be surprised if these women develop serious mental issues in due time after they’ve bee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 05:46 AM |
| 5 | Is Dating Even Worth It Right Now?Most guys in their 20s (and especially in college) are LVM who are looking to hook up or have short-term flings with no intention of marrying. It seems like most men don’t think of serious commitment or marriage until their 30s. I’d say you have the right intuition. I wouldn’t really bother dating unless it was someone who had clear intentions of commitment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 05:41 AM |
| 59 | Racist LVM Scrote blogs about FDS and claims that FDS Women are delusional and mostly blackExactly, he completely mischaracterizes FDS women as “dating rejects who are at the bottom of the dating pool and need help getting dates from men.” Boy, we don’t need help getting dates from men, we’re trying to figure how to WEED you out, because none of us wants to be stuck on a date with a gross LVM like you (who preys on mothers and daughters and bounces after preying on women for sex after the 2nd date). It’s funny because the reviewer reveals himself to be a complete narcissistic gross pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 04:15 AM |
| 3 | Peak Pickmeisha humor is promising blow jobs in exchange for basic responsible adult behaviorPatti is a transgender comedian who was previously male. I’m actually not quite sure I consider her a true PickMe in the FDS sense because I find a lot of her humor comes from a trans- and LGBQT male perspective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 07:33 AM |
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