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What I say isn’t surely for clouts/upvotes, I don’t sell anything, I don’t have blogs/vlogs/products to share. In this context, the potential audience is irrelevant, I just share my knowledge and experience, I don’t give names to it. If people agrees, especially the usual experienced ones, it’s because there’s tangible proof of it. As I said I’ve started BEFORE Mystery. Does it work that way? Maybe when I was 11-15 yo, I did something like that, but today I’d say it’s ridiculous to say the least…
/r/seduction01/02/26 01:11 AM
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The fact is that this isn’t theory, is just how being the best version of yourself. I’ve started doing this stuff way before Mystery and RSD people discovered the existence of pussy, so I don’t need their teaching or theories, I’ve my style: I wear what I want, even a dungaree at a posh party (I pass the dress-code because I’m with the DJs) because IDGAF, and this reflects also on my posture and the way I carry myself. I have my real piercings and tattoos because they are I want on my body. It’s…
/r/seduction01/02/26 12:20 AM
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This.
/r/seduction31/01/26 11:42 PM
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Difficult to understand? It looks like it has been written written by a primary school student. It’s a “system” made of 16+ steps, with over-complicated logic and workflow diagrams that reminds a junior programmer (like he was, indeed). I laughed a lot when I’ve read it. The techniques? A bunch of gimmicks that are more appropriated for a 1990s teenager than an adult in 2026. The only takeaways I might concede are the macro-steps Attraction-Comfort-Seduction, even if I personally prefer to work …
/r/seduction31/01/26 04:58 PM
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I haven’t had the time to check the post before the author removed it, so I can’t have an idea about it. However, there’s no need for an explicit policy because, in the past, good content has been kept (just like when people asks for recommended books). There’s a thin line between self promoting legit stuff and scammy bullshit, so this needs to be evaluated for each single case.
/r/seduction27/01/26 09:38 AM
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This.
/r/seduction23/01/26 01:17 PM
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I wouldn’t describe it as “pushing buttons”. Psychos are somehow authentic, that’s charming. White Knights aren’t authentic because they are constantly afraid of doing/saying this or that. If you can align being respectfully authentic, which also involves social skills and context awareness, then you reached the sweet spot.
/r/seduction23/01/26 11:44 AM
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If by attractive you’re referring mostly to posture, charisma, confidence and self grooming, then yes, that’s almost obvious. If it’s the usual non actionable mantra about what you can’t change (first suspect: height), then you can remove yourself from here.
/r/seduction23/01/26 11:36 AM
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Social media and dating apps are the least effective way to approach someone very popular, unless you have a very good profile and/or you approached with a very clever and original way that, for some reason, has got their attention. Meeting them in person (parties, social circle) gives you at least the chance to interact with them, in which you can show your confidence/banter/style/posture and other non verbal cues.
/r/seduction14/01/26 02:01 PM
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Imitation doesn’t work because you lack the vision, which is to not think about girls/women as sex objects and sex isn’t a goal. You meet someone, you like them, you show your interest, and you follow the flow until they let you do so. It’s not a goal, it just is.
/r/seduction12/01/26 05:26 PM
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Not removed by me, kid. But I’m removing you for multiple accounts and trolling, considering you haven’t expressed any arguments except personal attacks.
/r/seduction09/01/26 08:50 PM
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Uh yeah, multiple fresh accounts to corroborate a wrong statement. You had the benefit of doubt, and everyone here has always had the right to express their ideas (but expect people with more experience to contradict you). Next time, come with your usual account, especially before accusing someone to be a keyboard warrior.
/r/seduction09/01/26 08:48 PM
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It’s always funny when people throws extreme examples to validate their point. A Danny De Vito can actually bang 18yo as well, maybe not by spam approaching on the streets, but you’d be surprised how many young girls are looking for much older dudes out there. There’s nightgame, parties, even apps…
/r/seduction09/01/26 04:04 PM
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So, you’re telling me I’m a keyword warrior from a random fresh account, while still unable to bring any meaningful arguments. The irony.
/r/seduction09/01/26 03:46 PM
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You’re promising from a 8h old account. how cute of you.
/r/seduction09/01/26 08:21 AM
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I’ve been here for 7-8 years, never heard of something like that.
/r/seduction08/01/26 06:20 PM
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Being the type of only 1 out of 250 is a problem laying somewhere else.
/r/seduction08/01/26 06:19 PM
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Ok, let’s debunk your bullshit: having the “best game on planet hearth” means you have a lifelong skill which keeps getting the result you’re looking for. It’s beyond age, and speaking as a late-40 I still have young girls around me without seeking for them. For the record I’m not a model and my game is just me behaving like I always did. having a good look and having the age for your desired demographic, then sure it will give you some abundance with basic to no game. But it fades, soon or late…
/r/seduction08/01/26 04:01 PM
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Am I, as a mod, for the content here? Sure, up to some extent. And in fact, we already remove dozens of shot posts every few hours. I’m curious about how you’d solve this.
/r/seduction08/01/26 01:39 PM
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I’m arguing that you’re posting ridiculous numbers while stating to be “experienced” and spamming your website where you’re also selling a book. That’s not sharing a learning journey, it’s poor spam. SocialAnimal did a genuine job about this, with way better results, doing it for free. That’s the difference.
/r/seduction08/01/26 10:32 AM
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235 approaches to get: 35 numbers 6 dates 2 insta-dates 1 lay (0.4%) I don’t know what technique you’re referring to, but it doesn’t look to work. Also, you’re the same that stated to be an “experienced daygamer” in a precious post here. Please, stop spamming this bullshit. There’s a difference between sharing a learning journey with trying to get views or sell books.
/r/seduction08/01/26 09:43 AM
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Dear OP, reading the post and your comments, you’ve described a very common situation for your age/marriage. Let’s summarize some points (which have also been addressed by some member here): Fix logistics: this should ne your first priority. rent a small apartment or something similar. A girl/woman might understand your “home divorce” situation, but can’t accept to have sex in your family home. “staying for the kids” is a huge “delayed bill” that you, your wife and kids will pay in the mid-long …
/r/seduction04/01/26 10:34 AM
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There are thousands of posts about escalation if you use the search feature on this sub “to help others too”
/r/seduction04/01/26 02:54 AM
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Yeah, I forgot the fact you don’t text them, that’s an interesting point. I text very often with mines, also because they’re distributed relatively far. Also, it’s clear you’re on the social-extrovert side of the spectrum, that’s why you basically get energies from social interactions while you feel drained without them. I’m more balanced on that, I need both social interactions and time alone.
/r/seduction02/01/26 11:58 AM
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If you refer to plain fuck buddies, I agree. I prefer FWBs for that reason.
/r/seduction02/01/26 11:52 AM
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I suppose he refers to having 5fwb, to keep in constant rotation. I’m usually on 2-3 (plus friends), leaving room for new entries, but without diluting too much energies.
/r/seduction02/01/26 11:48 AM
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So, to put your numbers into a meaningful perspective, you’re saying that you had: ~30% from approach to number (that isn’t a metric, but let’s continue) ~14% from approach to date 1.6% from approach to lay (or ~25% from date to lay, ridiculous) In what way this makes you an “experienced gamer”? I mean, you played the numbers game, and got some results which are more like a beginner with a lot of willpower than something to brag (unless your audience is made of desperates and incels). An experie…
/r/seduction01/01/26 12:31 PM
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Don’t confuse shy with introvert, they’re two different things. Maybe sometimes they overlap, but they’re different. Introvert is someone who consumes more energy when it comes to social interactions, and needs time alone to “recharge”. It doesn’t mean they can’t stand a conversation, it’s just that they’re more comfortable at listening than talking. Shy people are afraid to open themselves, for whatever legit reason, but it’s a very different dynamic. Then, when they’re “warmed up” and comforta…
/r/seduction15/12/25 03:48 AM
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There’s verbal and non verbal consent. That’s it.
/r/seduction27/11/25 07:38 AM
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Experience, high standards and personality. But I have several FWB, I love them, they love me. But I actually don’t want any commitment or exclusivity. I already did my job: had 20 years marriage, had kids, had another marriage. I tried some other relationship, but I’m so happy to be alone that when they are around my house too much (say, 2-3 days straight), I get anxious about my space and time. My sweet spot is having a good rotation of FWBs (usually 3-4) during the week, text them regularly (…
/r/seduction25/11/25 05:28 PM
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How about owning it and saying you aren’t drinking alcohol? There’s nothing wrong with it, except when you hang out with someone who drinks a lot.
/r/seduction24/10/25 08:25 AM
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Whatever example he compared to, the point is that you have infinite opportunities to learn/skills and make experiences through life that you can re-use in other contexts. This is how you develop confidence and lets you to be natural.
/r/seduction22/10/25 08:01 PM
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There isn’t a timer, things flow if they give you the time and attention. It’s also about topics and overall mood of the conversation, you can go intense in 2-3 messages, then joke to shift the mood, and so on. You set the date as soon as possible. Once they agree to go out, is just a matter of finding the right day for both.
/r/seduction16/09/25 03:57 PM
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Something like that, yes. The good part is when she’s out of school and gets to my house for a quick fuck :-) I never thought I’d be able to do that with a girl so young, but she’s into much older dudes, so…
/r/seduction13/09/25 07:58 AM
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One of my FWBs is still going to high school (she has the legal age, for the record), and we have a 30+ years age gap. None of her friends knows about me.
/r/seduction13/09/25 01:39 AM
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Doesn’t smell AI, despite the good formatting. Btw you can flag/report posts that aren’t suited here so that mods can act faster.
/r/seduction11/09/25 07:36 AM
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This post is bullshit and it will be removed. You can’t simply link a rejection/ghosting to just shit tests. And there isn’t any “formula” to pass them. And no, I don’t care if this silly simplification is just for “didactic purposes”, it’s out of any common sense.
/r/seduction09/09/25 03:15 PM
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You’re assuming/projecting that OP is a freak, spam approaching everywhere. There isn’t enough context for this.
/r/seduction09/09/25 10:42 AM
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You’d be surprised how many girls enjoy to go with older dudes and keep it as a secret to their peers. It happens, a lot.
/r/seduction08/09/25 07:26 PM
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Age gap works for both genders, and it usually means that at least the older side wants easy fun. My actual youngest FWB is 30+ years younger than me, we both want a good friendship with benefits, every other idea for a relationship is unthinkable. So, that’s it.
/r/seduction07/09/25 01:01 PM
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Ask about whatever they have in the cart or something they’re checking on the shelves. Last time I was asking where they found the trash bags. If they want to talk, they’ll talk.
/r/seduction04/09/25 02:03 PM
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Super revealing about what? I’ve approached, number closed and dating tonight. I’ve dated 8 girls only in the last 30 days, some of them came from cold approaching. What’s your point? You have 1 anecdote from years ago? I have thousands, is this your point?
/r/seduction04/09/25 11:32 AM
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We went out from there and got numbers, then left. Going out tonight at my friend’s house.
/r/seduction04/09/25 11:05 AM
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I’ve explained that later, when you asked about it. But again, you’re looking in the wrong direction, my point was about a different thing, the accuracy you’re asking for isn’t the key of my argument.
/r/seduction04/09/25 11:03 AM
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It wasn’t a field report, that was just a quick example of my latest anecdote, the point was about not doing the mistake to spam-approach everyone in a venue, especially when you aren’t getting any results. I agree I should have been more detailed in general, but in this specific example, that wasn’t the main point of my comment and it doesn’t change the meaning of the content.
/r/seduction04/09/25 08:49 AM
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In fact, you are at the stage in which you go out there and can talk to others by approaching. The numbers are saying you’re doing something wrong.
/r/seduction04/09/25 07:29 AM
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One, the other has been pulled by my friend.
/r/seduction04/09/25 07:27 AM
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You have to focus on getting dates, not counting how many approaches you do. If you approach random girls and/or you don’t play your cards well, it means that you’re doing something wrong. I’ve seen several guys approaching for the sake of it, without results. Last Saturday I have seen 2 guys doing this with all the girls in the club. I managed to pull two girls that had rejected these dudes only few moments before. These guys had clearly no game, I’ve seen them at work: they got 0 results out o…
/r/seduction03/09/25 09:04 PM
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If they weren’t in italian, I’d paste here screenshots of my chats, and you’d see that it’s not rocket science. I just go to the point: “hello [name], nice to meet you”: this is my standard opener. It tests if they’re eager to reply or not. “how’s going? I’m doing X, Y, Z [possibly in a joking way]”: that’s my second test. The X, Y, Z activities are exactly what I’m doing in that moment: laundry, cooking, playing a set, gaming, reading, or whatever. I’m not worried about impressing them or not. …
/r/seduction01/09/25 07:32 PM
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OP, you’ve got some good advice, and it sparked some good conversations between members (except some trolls, which have been removed). I’d just elaborate a bit on the “just spark a conversation” advice: you can use simple “indirect approach” in which you use whatever excuse to break the ice. Asking directions/info, a comment/joke about the situation, etc…
/r/seduction27/08/25 01:22 AM
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When they openly talk about it, you just follow up. You can whisper whatever you want, even a joke, a sensual thing… it’s calibration, it depends by context and how she’s comfortable on each step of the escalation.
/r/seduction14/08/25 05:20 PM
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Can you stop spamming this sub with the same question? You’re so overthinking this that whatever date you’ll have, the vibes will be killed by your obsession to get her at your place. The truth is very simple: when you both have a good time, there’s chemistry and some proper, calibrated escalation, things will flow and you’ll get at your place naturally. You can just ask in a direct way: “Do you want to go at my place?”, or indirect by talking about some activity/excuse to go at your place. If t…
/r/seduction12/08/25 09:35 AM
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It’s embarrassing when people still think that there’s some magic spell to “obtain” something. Few people here have pointed out the real thing: context. It’s never about what you say, but everything else: what person she is, what she wants from you, how/where the conversation is flowing, the vibes, etc… If a girl/woman wants to have sex with you, the rest will come easy.
/r/seduction12/08/25 08:17 AM
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That’s why I consider them scammers. Real “pros” don’t sell that shit.
/r/seduction11/08/25 09:05 AM
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I only partially agree with the suggestions, but I disagree with the overall frame. An artist/expert does things and gets predictable results, regardless pf specific conditions. It doesn’t mean you need to do it every day. A good seducer is someone which can get laid most of the times for each interaction they have. Not someone that needs to spend 90% of their efforts to get laid. The list you made are things achievable by everyone, with the right planning. I’m nearly 50, have kids and work from…
/r/seduction10/08/25 01:08 PM
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Many years ago I’ve been a dj/speaker at a local radio station. The best exercise was to record myself while simulating to be in air for some minutes. Then re-listen as if you were another person listening and notice the issues, then iterate on it. One trick was to smile while talking, you won’t believe it, but smiling while talking gives better vibes to your voice tone, even through a microphone.
/r/seduction06/08/25 09:50 AM
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[my reply has been removed in some way] Yeah, smells like a ChatGPT, but it’s right.
/r/seduction05/08/25 02:49 PM
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Agree, but paradoxically, it (ChatGPT) said something right.
/r/seduction05/08/25 02:34 PM
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Attractiveness is made of many things, not just look. Average look with strong confidence makes a total difference, but the contrary isn’t true, except when a girls has already decided she wants to fuck anyway.
/r/seduction05/08/25 10:50 AM
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If you were also confident in yourself, nobody would try to turn you down, and if it happens, you would know how to handle it. I’ve pulled dozens of girls/women flattered by my genuine and natural kindness. Being a NiceGuy is a problem, being a good person is an asset.
/r/seduction04/08/25 11:16 PM
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I hope for you that you know really well the culture and religion of these countries, you might end in serious/deadly troubles even for something that you think it’s “normal” in your country. I suggest you to ask your coworkers how it works there. I’ve heard that you need to get somehow authorized by the girl’s dad or brothers, before you can even think to date sone girl.
/r/seduction04/08/25 09:42 PM
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It might work if your vibes are on fire, like being on cocain. That’s a kind of frame that you have to handle.
/r/seduction04/08/25 09:11 PM
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Each club/bar has quieter areas, moreover: clubs are for dancing, you go there and dance. The magic happens on the dance floor bars are for music and talking, you don’t need to yell depending by the context, you don’t need to close immediately. You can set anchors with casual talking, then you can go to them later, when they are more open to talk. They already talked with you, getting back to talk is much more easier talk with everyone, not just girls, you need to stay in a social mood for fun, …
/r/seduction03/08/25 10:35 AM
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Having fun also means you aren’t afraid to talk with random people while at the venue. Yesterday I went to the same place I’ve been on Thursday (check my latest FR in my post history) and I spoke with around 3-4 sets for the sake of it. No numbers, but I neither invested that much, just casual banter FOR FUN ;-)
/r/seduction03/08/25 10:30 AM
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I’m living one of the best times of my life after I bought a house for myself :-) The end of LTRs are though, but it’s just a matter of framing. I don’t have plans, but I’m sure I don’t think I would accept other cohabitations. Age is a number, I have a good rotation while spinning multiple plates at once and I’m ok with it ;-)
/r/seduction01/08/25 05:02 PM
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It happens, I still have a wonderful relationship with my ex. I took it as a new chapter in life, and an opportunity to start over again. 2 years later I had another LTR (cohabitation) for 2 years. It ended as well, BUT that time I was prepared. So, few weeks later I was already rocking again ;-) Regarding the coaching, I did it for free/online for some guys, but I don’t want to ask for money. Also because this staff hasn’t measurable results, just like selling SEO services: you can’t grant the …
/r/seduction01/08/25 03:02 PM
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Well, there was a time where I literally had to start from scratch after a 20 years LTR, at 40+ years. That’s how I discovered this sub, and all the rest. The problem is that when I’ve read Mystery Method (and manu other books in this galaxy) for the first time, I laughed and said to myself: “I’ve been doing this shit for years, and now there are books and coaches?!”. Being initially alone, without wings, I went straight for solo gaming. And I’ve rebuilt several social circles (including DJs, pr…
/r/seduction01/08/25 10:51 AM
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Thanks for feedback ;-) yes, doing this since forever (my very first pickup from cold approach and kiss close happened when I was 11yo, 35+ years ago), excluding LTRs. Most of my teenage/early-20s years hookups/FWBs/relationships came from cold approaches (in pre-internet, pre-PUA-industry) times. I decided to write this FR because the specific dynamic was “classic cold approach” rather what I usually do at my actual age. Being a clubber/DJ puts me in settings where it’s pretty easy to meet a lo…
/r/seduction01/08/25 10:24 AM
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I call him (not myself) like that for joking, that’s not his nickname. Btw, it’s apparent that the whole problem for you is just a side detail, while ignoring the content of the entire post. You sound much more envy about it, and frankly I don’t give a fuck about your personal moral about it. But if you want to play on this field, I guess it’s much more weird to have sex-workers as friends.
/r/seduction01/08/25 08:27 AM
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So, can you admit that those high numbers aren’t the norm for someone that isn’t a sex worker? Your question is an irrelevant provocation, but I replied with my question which is more relevant in this context.
/r/seduction01/08/25 07:59 AM
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Do you know many people with those numbers? That’s not keeping the numbers one by one, that’s just a rough estimation (hence the range) based on his lifestyle.
/r/seduction01/08/25 07:36 AM
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The point is not the counting, it’s the huge number. Sad or not, it is what it is. My friend has been doing this for decades. The fact that I mentioned it is because I mentioned this thing several times in my comments. Btw, that’s only a small detail of an entire FR, from an OP’s point of view, that’s sad as well.
/r/seduction01/08/25 07:18 AM
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As far as I can tell, AI texts are cringe or corny to say the least (even if you gave it context through prompts) Sometimes, in the right context, it might be helpful to refine, or get some ideas, but I wouldn’t take it as a good output. Other users have already pointed it out: if you need an AI to write texts, what happens during a real life date?
/r/seduction31/07/25 09:43 AM
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One where you’re close, possibly without a table between you (or you just grab the chair and put it near her, a power move). Loud environment is a double edged sword: it’s difficult to talk, SO you need to get close with your mouths to talk, or whisper in her ears.
/r/seduction29/07/25 10:55 AM
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OP permanently banned. Irrelevant content. It has already been banned for 3 days.
/r/seduction28/07/25 12:14 AM
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Blocking and removing this thread. It looks like an incel show. OP, your question is too vague and broad, you can’t simply find one explanation. Whatever factor you choose, I can give you the exact contrary that worked as well. I have thousands of anecdotes from my experience and from people I know. Money, look and status will bring results for sure, but you can’t lean on them: they all fade, soon or later. Then there are the factors that will help you for the lifetime.
/r/seduction27/07/25 07:53 PM
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These kind of questions have already the answer by changing the form into sentence.
/r/seduction27/07/25 05:45 PM
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I have some stories with several wingmen. The worst ones: an old friend I’ve met after several years, even if he was average/good looking, he was insecure, goofy, sloppy in clothes, hygiene, traumatized by his GF dumping him one week before the wedding (which happened 10 years before we met…). We went out some times, I brought him to my usual venues, but he was unable to have interactions. One night I’ve introduced him to around 20-25 girls I had befriended there (I luckily had some friends ther…
/r/seduction23/07/25 10:19 AM
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Just avoid Coldplay concerts \s
/r/seduction19/07/25 11:31 PM
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Stop spamming this question! Rule #1 How many times do you want this post removed? 3 days ban.
/r/seduction17/07/25 10:56 AM
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So, what’s your point? I already should ban you for advertising your services here, but I still don’t get your point. A professional therapist has studied years before getting their diploma/degree from a recognized institute. A coach has paid some thousand dollars and in few weeks they’re a “something-coach”. Maybe they were a plumber or a construction worker, but with money and some weeks, they become helpful for others?! Come on… I have a social psychology degree, I have read hundreds of books…
/r/seduction14/07/25 12:10 PM
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I talked about inner work AND how to get help about it, which, in terms of money, it’s better to go for professional therapy, rather than going to random strangers which paid to sell themselves as “coaches”. And yes, a great part of questions here are about lacking confidence and inner work. The rest are social skills (which can be learned with practice) and self grooming (mostly same, even less). You’re right, you WISH there was a rigorous process, but actually there isn’t. From my point of vie…
/r/seduction14/07/25 11:24 AM
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Yeah, you spend 2500-5000 dollars/euro and you get a “certification” from an unknown institute. That’s close to scam.
/r/seduction14/07/25 10:24 AM
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Exactly, there aren’t official certifications, everyone could be a coach. If someone needs to spend money, then it’s way better to go for professional therapy. After all, it’s 99% about inner work.
/r/seduction14/07/25 08:53 AM
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This sounds just like as a commercial pitch. I don’t want to dismiss the life/dating coaches out there, but you missed several points. everyone can pay for a coach certification, this means there aren’t grants about quality humanity evolved without them
/r/seduction14/07/25 08:25 AM
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Awareness.
/r/seduction13/07/25 03:53 AM
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I check 8-9 points in OP list, and I’m far from a model in terms of looks (let’s say a 7+).
/r/seduction12/07/25 09:59 AM
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You don’t need to go into details (unless they ask), just say your field/activity, and maybe add what you like about it or your career plans. This is basic social skill which applies to all. For example, I work in IT, which isn’t a great conversation fuel, so I don’t describe my bare activity, but I talk about the fact that I work from home which, instead, can be a better conversation fuel.
/r/seduction09/07/25 08:57 PM
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Thread locked and removed. OP has been banned 3 days, for aggressive or irrelevant comments. Thanks to the users who tried to explain to OP what bullshit he wrote.
/r/seduction07/07/25 07:53 AM
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Keep it civil, or you’ll get banned. The user above said much more than you in less words, have some respect.
/r/seduction07/07/25 07:50 AM
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Well, I’m not a native English speaker, but according to dictionary, “several” is a vague quantity, and might even mean “many”. What I was trying to say, is that the number of approaches is relatively low compared to the “spam approaching” way. I never came back home with more than 5-10 approaches each time, but I’ve also got numbers, kiss/sex closings and relationships most of the times anyway. So, the ratio is a lower number of approaches and an higher rate of success. Experience comes from re…
/r/seduction06/07/25 12:09 PM
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Does “several” mean a specific number for you? Let’s be even more pedantic: “field” is the seduction, not the activity of cold approaching. Third, I never did “spam approach”, if not very rarely, because I’ve always seen it ridiculous and desperate.
/r/seduction06/07/25 06:13 AM
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It depends by when you start counting, and knowing my actual age, which is close to the 50s
/r/seduction05/07/25 11:59 PM
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My first rejection at 5 (yes, kindergarten). By the age of 8 I already kissed two girls. My first successful cold approach with kiss close few hours later happened at 11. Since then, 90% of laids and relationships came from cold approaches, until my early 20s. This covers a period happened way before Mystery & co or the PUA industry (or internet, for that matter). You really want to teach me second hand advice from supposed “top mentors”? LOL
/r/seduction05/07/25 11:57 PM
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Dude, I have nearly 35-40 years experience in the field, I’m not a “student”. I know how social skills work, and to read people, etc… What you said is just overthinking, in fact, you didn’t even reached 10 approaches. But 1000 is a number, what you do with that number can’t be known. Same goes for jobs: you could have 10 years on the field, or 10 times 1 year. The latter keeps you as a junior anyway. Good luck.
/r/seduction05/07/25 05:23 PM
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That’s only a waste of time and energy, other than killing your self esteem if you aren’t used to rejection. You can do 5-10 well-executed approaches and learn from them. I pulled several girls from cold approach back in the day, but I don’t even think to have ever reached that number of approaches in my entire life.
/r/seduction05/07/25 12:10 PM
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Age is a number. I’m nearly 50 but I still look 35 and I don’t hide my age. There are guys in late 20s who look older, that’s something you can’t control too much. Regarding the age range, in theory, you could go 25-45, in practice you can’t predict that. Put your best self out there and see it by your own. I have to lock this thread, because it’s going off topic.
/r/seduction03/07/25 09:21 AM
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While I might agree with the content, I also think that the starting premise is dangerous. You learn a skill, like playing an instrument, because you are interested in it, not to attract interest from others. Also, music is ubiquitous, it gives opportunities to easily establish connections: concerts, clubbing, DJing, playing an instrument or in a band… The rest of your wall of text can be summarized in: practice makes perfect. I don’t want to take down your post, but gives the newbie vibes in wh…
/r/seduction02/07/25 12:22 PM
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On a seduction sub no less, things like Group Theory should not be rocket science. Nothing about seduction and social skills is rocket science, but you mentioned Mystery Method which, in facts, over complicated the process into rocket science.
/r/seduction01/07/25 08:18 AM
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The simplest gold rules: Do what you want, when you feel it. No need to play games or overthink about timing etc… observe actions, not words, and adapt accordingly If you have time and will to reply fast, then do it. I reply when I can and want. Be it in real time, or after several hours. Never had an issue. Texting timing isn’t a metric or a strategy; despite many people think so.
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:15 PM
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Still moderating and commenting when possible ;-) Spinning plates as usual, when I’m single.
/r/seduction28/06/25 10:35 PM
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“Ok, thank you for letting me know” Then you move on. They don’t owe you anything, so whatever you say other than what I wrote above (or similar), comes as immature.
/r/seduction28/06/25 09:46 PM
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Welcome back, it has been some time ;-)
/r/seduction28/06/25 09:42 PM
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My DMs are open
/r/seduction27/06/25 02:11 PM
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I don’t have these kind of issues, I’ve been teased and shit tested but I usually improvised something back, because I’m decently witty and confident to take jokes and roast people back easily. When I get jokes about my nose, I have several ways to handle it (ask to any grown up GenX). When it becomes boring (like the only joke they can do) then I pay them back.
/r/seduction27/06/25 11:59 AM
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Well, in my experience, it doesn’t kill the vibe, instead, it makes you stand out when you can confidently mention some flaws. Of course, it’s not about dumping your past traumas, it more like owning it and showing you can handle that anyway. When you barely know a person, that’s the best opportunity to kindly set boundaries, if needed. Again, it’s an act of confidence when you can do it in a genuine and appropriate way. I’m there to screen as well, they can’t get me for granted. And this puts m…
/r/seduction27/06/25 10:32 AM
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Well that’s your trigger, maybe you can work on that. In the worst (or best, I’d say) case scenario you can be vulnerable and say that height is a confidence issue for you, and those kind of jokes will make you upset. This is way more sexy and masculine than trying to fake it or reacting in bad ways, because you had the balls to open yourself genuinely, without dramas.
/r/seduction27/06/25 09:28 AM
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It is actually easy, indeed. You can summarize that whole wall of text in 3-4 bullet points sentences. u/norwegiandoggo has shown the easiest way in just 8 words. another one is to just keep the interaction flowing, assuming they’re single until they don’t tell you explicitly (which happens most of the times when they’re happily taken).
/r/seduction27/06/25 09:14 AM
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Have you ever considered the “how you carry yourself” factor? A lot of times I see dudes craving for attention and gazes, maybe because of their expensive clothes, haircuts or fit body. They not only smell insecurity, but it also backfires in terms of results. A lot of times I’ve got approached by girls/women because I was enjoying my own fun without caring about others, most of the times they said that they noted just that.
/r/seduction27/06/25 12:05 AM
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This comment said it all. Locking the thread.
/r/seduction26/06/25 07:30 AM
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Keeping this thread because, even if it’s about a specific situation, it’s also common and generic. Let’s keep it for a bit.
/r/seduction20/06/25 10:13 PM
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She’s already in with that text, and she’s bored. You can ask it in a very lighthearted way, she’s free to reject it with some reason/excuse (her hairs aren’t ok, for example) but continue by text, after all, she initiated the contact.
/r/seduction20/06/25 10:12 PM
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I don’t get the issue here. What are you thinking you were supposed to reply? Also, your story lacks context, but you’re worrying about this small detail. A genuinely confident person, isn’t afraid of what frame others try to put them, they stay in their own frame without the need to prove anything. That’s to say, once again, that it’s not important what you say or do (or don’t), but how you do it. A confident person will stay confident anyway, an insecure one won’t. That’s the difference.
/r/seduction14/06/25 04:39 PM
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It’s not only too broad, but also actually lame. Rate texts? Really? This isn’t a poetry sub and, honestly, the advent of AI might help better, if that was the purpose. BUT, the principle is wrong. There aren’t good texts or bad ones. At most, there’s “text game” in which the goal is to setup a date as soon as possible, not becoming pen pals. And, again, it’s not very different from real life: a person which is interested, will make your life easier. You text something to check the waters, they …
/r/seduction10/06/25 07:40 PM
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I’m an old timer, and I would call it: “common sense trick”. There’s no script or routine (like the old technical PUA), just a positive natural frame which can be applied almost everywhere with everyone. So yes, it’s excellent advice, but not very old school.
/r/seduction07/06/25 01:58 PM
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Yes, but that’s not a magic wand, like any other single aspect taken alone. There are things that should be taken in clusters, put into some contextual perspective, etc… The image you give to people is like a puzzle made of many pieces, which can be also combined into different blends.
/r/seduction04/06/25 02:40 PM
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There’s a sure thing you aren’t doing: they’re taking risks by making their intentions clear. Maybe they also created some tension, and played in ways you haven’t seen (like DMs/text on social media apps…). You can be nice, but being just nice doesn’t work: too much comfort, platonic and friendly vibes kill attraction. You can be nice and make them feel comfortable, but you also need to calibrate with other elements that can shake their emotions. not making a move or not letting them know your c…
/r/seduction04/06/25 12:33 PM
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Indeed. MDMA helps in that way. It’s not coincidence its other name is “extasy” or “XTC”.
/r/seduction03/06/25 04:29 PM
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Challenge them jokingly about something they said or did, that’s a form of teasing.
/r/seduction03/06/25 07:50 AM
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It seemed that to them because that’s an effect of MDMA, even more if others around them had took MDMA as well.
/r/seduction03/06/25 07:47 AM
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Too broad and generic, it should be removed. However I’ll leave it here with comments blocked, as a reminder for those who still think that looks matters as much, regardless of inner game and personality.
/r/seduction31/05/25 12:47 AM
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There isn’t, because you can’t have generic statistics about that. If you don’t pull, there might be a lot of reasons: for example your expectations based only on the fact you consider yourself a 7/10 in looks and you lift weights. That’s not how it works. Removed, Rule #5
/r/seduction29/05/25 07:31 AM
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It’s off topic, other than getting inspiration from an anime in a Renaissance setting. Pure fiction. I’m sure you can get some clues and hints for reasoning and hypothesis, but you can’t extrapolate real life concepts. Even scientific books and research about social dynamics are never aligned or granted. If it was that easy, then there would be “bibles” or “instruction manuals” about human behavior since at least some centuries. Too many variables to consider: age, location, culture (including r…
/r/seduction27/05/25 03:27 PM
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You can check our (we mods) post history to have a proof that we don’t accept misogyny/hate/self entitled gurus/coaches/generalizations/etc We encourage respect for other people, we welcome other genders here, and so on. And we also push for inner game and confidence way before the look department. I’ve been here for 6-7 years now, and that’s the shape we’re trying to build for this sub. HOWEVER: there’s a grey area in which we tolerate some content that relies on having routines and other techn…
/r/seduction25/05/25 11:03 PM
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Context and chemistry. She was already into him (2nd date), and he was genuinely brave enough with that move to impress her in the moment. It’s not a trick you can do with everyone and/or everywhere.
/r/seduction25/05/25 12:39 PM
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If you’re so focused on content quality, you can report toxic shit. We mods already remove/ban a lot of stuff, but with 700+k members, we can’t stop everything.
/r/seduction25/05/25 12:35 PM
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Everything depends, at least, by person and context, and nothing is black or white. If you’re on date, you’re escalating, and she’s still comfortable, you can assume she’s attracted, still it’s not granted, but you can slowly increase escalation. You meet a stranger and she’s kind, you can assume she finds you a decent person. If you keep up with the interaction, the taken ones will usually bring their BF in the conversation. Anyway, blind assumptions aren’t useful, you usually need some cues be…
/r/seduction21/05/25 11:58 PM
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Assume she’s taken until she states that she isn’t.
/r/seduction21/05/25 09:19 PM
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You can’t do that because chat-chemistry isn’t the same of real-life-chemistry, so whatever you might think before the date, it can suddenly change for whatever reason. As other users said, you can suggest it, but you’re also embracing the risk to get blocked or banned, it’s ok if that’s what you’re looking for.
/r/seduction19/05/25 08:18 AM
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I suppose charisma and personality. Yet another proof that looks fades and doesn’t matter that much, but your inner core stays.
/r/seduction18/05/25 03:44 PM
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Age is a number. Age gap shrinks with age. So 15-18 might be a problem, but 35-50 isn’t, and so on.
/r/seduction18/05/25 02:26 PM
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I used to manage one, but I have years of experience in relationships (even toxic ones, of course), have studied several books, and I’m enough centered and in a good place. They’ve been 5 months of dramas, (her) emotional roller coasters, and many other things. What I did is mostly what OP said: Don’t think to fix her, sometimes it looks like you might be able to do it, until they’ll “fall” again, it’s just a matter of time Don’t chase. Soon or later they’ll usually come back. Don’t give up on b…
/r/seduction17/05/25 11:37 PM
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It’s beyond me, instead, how you can take that joke so seriously. This is what an autistic person would do for real, and no, this time it’s not a joke. Autism is a spectrum, not a mental disorder, neither a kind of insult.
/r/seduction17/05/25 11:16 PM
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Same here.
/r/seduction17/05/25 11:12 PM
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Maybe OP introduced some humor in his post, but the content is right there. It’s not that someone goes for screening that specific demographic on purpose, but it might happen very often in some context. I dated some as well, they were all clubbers, so I can safely say I have experience on that field as well. It’s not flexing, is just experience with some irony and mostly self humor on top. Also, sometimes we attract that people, even if we aren’t broken.
/r/seduction17/05/25 11:11 PM
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I’m nearly 50, two times divorced, far from being broke or unstable. “every man is the architect of his own fortune“ (Appius Claudius Caecus)
/r/seduction17/05/25 11:02 PM
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This sub, and seduction in general, is about many things. The goal is not just getting laid, but also the whole process that gets you there. And one of the most important advices about going out is to not have the only focus on getting laid, because that’s usually the recipe for failure. If you don’t focus on having fun in the process, and the goal is only to get laid, it means that if you don’t close anything, then you haven’t fun, you wasted time, energies and money on the wrong goal.
/r/seduction17/05/25 07:55 AM
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This.
/r/seduction17/05/25 07:46 AM
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You should never go out with the hope of getting laid in general. Also, while appreciated, giving dress advice without context (age, or culture) doesn’t make too much sense.
/r/seduction17/05/25 12:25 AM
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Well, real life is always better than any app by principle, you learn much more social skills and experience from face-to-face interactions or rejections. The point is: you might do different types of approaches, not necessarily stopping strangers. Sometimes you might look for contextual opportunities, sparking conversations with everyone for the sake of it. This stuff sticks for the lifetime, pics on dating apps are just… pics. That said, nothing stops you to continue on dating apps, given that…
/r/seduction16/05/25 08:49 PM
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Well, she’s with you now, hopefully by her choice. Unless you found some heartless person, she has no reason to spin more plates at once. Girls/women are usually more monogamous than guys. They choose a partner when they are in a relationship AND they’re happy about it. So, don’t be afraid of her contacts. Of course, for casual sex, hookups, etc t
/r/seduction16/05/25 12:00 AM
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That’s true, but why a red flag? because she might replace you with him? does it matters? Who says you should be alone? Yes, I’ve been there, but when I’ve rebuilt a bunch of social circles, I have continued to regularly groom my contacts in a way or another. That’s how I managed to not stay alone when the next relationships ended. This is what I like to call a women magic trick, and it works wonders. I don’t remember where I’ve read it, but I quickly had real life proof when I observed what eve…
/r/seduction15/05/25 08:17 PM
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I’m afraid, but this is off-topic. This is a sub about seduction, not about mental disorders or anxiety. Serious mental issues need professional therapy, not a subreddit.
/r/seduction15/05/25 06:10 AM
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Well, I’m in this field since… 35-40 years now (yes, I’ve started very early, I’ve got my first rejection at 5yo, kissed my first girl at 8). I don’t react because I feel above it, I don’t even care about the supposed shit-test, I know how to read people, and I can recognize when a girl is playing the princess. But I’m just myself, I don’t need external validation, I’m confident in who I am, and the only times when I get caught off guard is when someone says I’m a brilliant person without having…
/r/seduction14/05/25 09:04 PM
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Let’s say this so-called AMOG just completely ignores you and escalates on her or just grabs her in some smart way. Uh oh, game over, your strategy already failed. The point is simple: you keep your frame and just act as yourself, and if you need to call her out, feel free to do it, or just walk away. This is because there isn’t too much to do here, competing for a girl is somehow ridiculous, and the game is the same: you play your cards and see what happens, but I won’t consider to compete. And…
/r/seduction14/05/25 08:26 PM
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As another user said, it’s a dating app. So you text her and setup a coffee/drink date as soon as she gives you attention. If everything goes right, invite her to your home.
/r/seduction12/05/25 08:38 PM
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Off topic, but all I can say is to do whatever respects your ethics (and thus others). There isn’t a right or wrong with personal choices that respect yourself and others. And yes, there are always those kind of hoes, but there isn’t anything exciting in that kind of transactional interaction.
/r/seduction12/05/25 11:24 AM
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The following traits make a person very attractive, they will stick with them for the lifetime, regardless/despite look-money-status (which aren’t granted to stick forever): confidence: this will make you shine like a diamond. You have no idea how many and how much people is insecure (or has some heavy insecurity) charisma/personality: this is mostly a byproduct of confidence. A confident person will show their personality and doing so they also gain charisma. humor: the ability to make people l…
/r/seduction11/05/25 10:06 PM
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Makes sense ONLY IF you don’t link attractiveness to just looks.
/r/seduction11/05/25 07:30 PM
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Clubbing, nightgame.
/r/seduction10/05/25 01:18 PM
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Same here.
/r/seduction10/05/25 01:17 PM
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She wouldn’t regret if the guy is a 5 in looks, but if he’s a 5 at the rest.
/r/seduction10/05/25 01:15 PM
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It might be a projection. They like you, and so they think that other girls like you as well. Take it as a compliment. Or a test. They want to check if you’re a player, the reason might vary, maybe they actually want a player for FWB, or they won’t, so they’ll avoid you. Don’t focus on that, it’s not important. As another user said, you don’t need to kill the mystery, you don’t have to clarify. Something like: “you think that? Mmm ok…” and switch the topic.
/r/seduction09/05/25 08:49 AM
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So much biases and bullshit all at once. If there’s chemistry, it will be the girl to remove the cockblock. Doing this for almost 40 years, and I can’t remember situations like that. It happened that there were male friends doing it, but they aren’t that difficult to neutralize, it depends by context and your social skills (and/or if you have a wingman).
/r/seduction07/05/25 07:06 PM
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I like this field report, seriously. It says a lot of your work into it. My only suggestion: you could practice cold approach with every human being (even dogs, they’re a bridge to get to their owners), regardless of age or gender. Why? Because it’s almost the same dynamic: you’re approaching a stranger trying to spark an interaction. So, if you join the mindset to talk with everyone, soon or later you’ll not make a big difference if it’s a gorgeous girl or an elder man.
/r/seduction04/05/25 09:39 AM
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It should have been more useful for the community if you shared some details. Coming here to brag or celebrate is somehow ok, but where’s the value if you don’t share something? In particular, your state of mind, how you did your moves, what has been their reaction, what you did good and what you should improve. Otherwise, it can’t be considered a Field Report.
/r/seduction04/05/25 09:27 AM
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Tone and vibes do 90% of the work. It happened countless times to me that strangers have opened up to me in a matter of minutes, without me saying or doing anything special. Vibes, confidence and manners go a long way, more than looks. Look might open the doors, but then you need the remaining 90%. Vibes/confidence/social skills do the rest of the work.
/r/seduction29/04/25 11:51 AM
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This. Very well put.
/r/seduction29/04/25 11:42 AM
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That’s the point of confidence. You start being confident when you’re genuinely aware that you would date somebody like yourself. If not, then that’s were you need to put the effort. The “work on your yourself” and “just be yourself” mean that. Confidence is more like a muscle rather than a skill, you need to exercise it to keep it up.
/r/seduction29/04/25 09:02 AM
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It depends by how much value you give to that rejection. Most of the time, it’s just in your head. If you think you played your game well, than rejection is part of the game, and you can move on. Otherwise, learn from potential mistakes and blind spots, so that at least you learned something new.
/r/seduction26/04/25 01:18 PM
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This. Exactly this.
/r/seduction26/04/25 01:14 PM
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Only if you know they enjoy dirty talking or enjoy that kind of submissive behavior.
/r/seduction22/04/25 08:50 PM
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You don’t know how to lead it and end in dead convos mostly because you’re in your head, trying to impress others while your brain is in panic. And people can smell this. That’s where being focused on having fun helps a lot. This is another topic which is regularly discussed here. Especially when talking about night/club game. There isn’t a tutorial for conversations, sure there are some do-s/dont-s but nothing more than having some common sense. And again, the sub is full of examples on that as…
/r/seduction22/04/25 05:04 PM
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Well, this is just one example I wrote some days ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/s/7U705orKMK What you won’t understand, however, is the fact that it’s how you say something, your vibes and confidence that makes the difference (given that you’re also decently self groomed with clothes, hairs and overall hygiene). There isn’t a script, you go with the flow in that context, you’re present in the moment, and you adapt your escalation (aka calibration). And all these topics are discussed eve…
/r/seduction22/04/25 11:20 AM
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I’m not here to convince you :-) This sub is full of topics about: cold reads: it mostly relates to body language and the ability to read the room vibes. This can’t be explained in short examples, there are entire books for that (for a reason), then you need to go out and try by yourself. escalation: again, there are thousands of posts/comments about it. Plus, several books which have been suggested here as well. confidence: one of the most cited topic here. You have everything under your nose, …
/r/seduction22/04/25 09:55 AM
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All I can see here is a lot of non constructive whining. There aren’t magic formulas or tricks, there are principles you need to understand and apply. And this sub is full of posts/comments about them. For example, if you don’t know what or how a cold read is, then search, learn and then go out to practice. Same goes for confidence, escalation, etc… These are high level concepts that once you understand, you will apply in your way in your specific situation. Pretending a tutorial with specific s…
/r/seduction22/04/25 07:50 AM
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This is the right answer to all this whining.
/r/seduction22/04/25 07:42 AM
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According to your posts, you posted very broad and basic questions (rule #5), that’s why they’ve been removed.
/r/seduction22/04/25 07:26 AM
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I once did exactly this, in 1998. There was this girl waiting alone, repeatedly checking her watch. I waited a bit, then I went for it. I asked if she was waiting for someone, she replied that she was waiting for her friend, which was late. I replied (I’ve been so bold and jokingly on purpose, I had nothing to lose and I wanted to have fun): “well, I would never let a girl like you to wait for so long”. She laughed. After some chitchat, I’ve got her (home) number, and set a date for the next wee…
/r/seduction19/04/25 11:12 AM
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Being 100% myself, 100% of the time, I can’t distinguish when I’m gaming or not, except for the escalation. When I’m in a relationship, I just do the same things, I interact with a lot of girls/women for several reasons, I don’t exchange contacts/chat with them without a “plausible reason”, my GFs are aware of it, that’s ok for all. Last friday I had a reunion with people from primary school, that I played and jokingly flirted with some female friends for the sake of it, and got attentions and f…
/r/seduction14/04/25 12:39 PM
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When I used to do cold approaches on the streets in my teenage years (90s) I’ve got several instadates, lays, FWB and short relationships. I got rejections as well, but the point is that when you are having fun in the process, you don’t mind a rejection, you just laugh it off and go to the next.
/r/seduction09/04/25 09:59 AM
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772k members in this sub. Hundreds of posts/comments removed each day. The fact that there are kids, desperates, incels and blackpill, what you see is the least it can happen. As another user said: “confirmation bias”
/r/seduction05/04/25 04:58 PM
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Age is a number. There isn’t a rule about that. Been there, still doing that at nearly 50, dating in the range of 25-50yo. Take your time to get back on your feet. You’ll fail the first times, until you’ll feel comfortable again.
/r/seduction01/04/25 07:39 AM
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Talk to everyone, literally everyone. Be genuinely interested in listening to them. Ask questions, add some comment. Just plain conversation. The more they talk about themselves, the more they will be engaged.
/r/seduction01/04/25 02:21 AM
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Those numbers are doable, regardless of being a full 10 in the looks compartment. My friend does it regularly, BUT he’s also on the major dating apps AND goes out 2-3 times per week. I have same experiences as OP, I get approached and asked out very often (99% times I go out, 1-4 times per week). When you go over-40, things can change a lot, and the demographic widens a lot as well.
/r/seduction30/03/25 09:12 PM
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Sorry, I don’t have nothing against weed, but this is off-topic in the context of seduction. NEVER rely on external factors or substances to pursue your fun goals. The moment you lack them, you lose your artificial super-powers. Same goes for alcohol, coke and party drugs.
/r/seduction30/03/25 06:21 PM
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I'm not sure why guys in here are so quick to be abrasive in their replies. You're bUtT hUrT hur hur! It looks like you aren’t aware of a lot of things. You got the reply you deserved when you wrote all that bitterness. often turns into a longer text for a lot of dudes. What dudes? Do you have all that wide knowledge and experience about what guys do? Or you’re just projecting your narrative out of nothing?
/r/seduction30/03/25 12:15 PM
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And who cares? If you weren’t butt hurt you would understand what I mean. You’re basically frustrated for being rejected and projecting her stuff for the sake of it. This will call more rejections. Being easy doesn’t cost nothing, you can also also gain some reputation.
/r/seduction30/03/25 11:36 AM
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I totally disagree. A kind reply is a gentleman sign. A simple “Ok, thank you for letting me know. All the best.”, is more than enough. You don’t have to burn bridges that way, even if you aren’t going to hear from her forever.
/r/seduction30/03/25 12:01 AM
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It honestly really happened rarely in decades of doing it. This doesn’t mean I didn’t get rejections when cold approaching, but I just didn’t focus on them, sometimes I’ve just kindly ejected and went to the next. You probably are overlooking or overestimating 1) the vibes you’re effectively giving and 2) your ability to read their verbal and non-verbal.
/r/seduction28/03/25 09:34 PM
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You mean “The Book of Pook”. Very nice read.
/r/seduction28/03/25 03:06 PM
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Rule #5 applies here. Search the sub for books, there are hundreds of threads about them. Then practice out there.
/r/seduction24/03/25 11:09 PM
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There are plenty of subs about relationships, teenagers, etc… this is the wrong sub.
/r/seduction23/03/25 11:01 PM
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It looks like your comment fits the username.
/r/seduction22/03/25 12:29 PM
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Hot is not tied to looks. My friend Mr1000 is very handsome (gets hundreds of matches on apps each week), and I consider myself a 7 at most. But when we go out together, I pull much more girls comparing the effort. He chases them, they chase me.
/r/seduction22/03/25 01:47 AM
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Search the sub for “calibration” and “escalation”. Removing this thread, Rule #5.
/r/seduction12/03/25 02:23 PM
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I said it for years. And like me, many others. Dancing (or clubbing) is for who genuinely enjoys it. As a general rule, doing social activities (ones where you have more chances to meet likeminded girls/women) you really enjoy is the key.
/r/seduction10/03/25 01:28 PM
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Whatever naturally puts you in a zen state of mind, will turn you into a magnet.
/r/seduction09/03/25 02:49 PM
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Let them entertain you through text? To me, at my age, that would be a huge red flag, but your mileage may vary. Meeting someone in a public place for a quick coffee isn’t crazy.
/r/seduction08/03/25 10:27 PM
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I don’t even know where to start. You’re asking for generic (or porn-inspired) questions about one of the most populated and variegated cities in the West Europe while most probably not having any clues about how to handle what you’re asking for. Also the biases about italian girls are just ridiculous, sounds like you didn’t go out very much. Thread closed.
/r/seduction07/03/25 01:12 PM
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⁠⁠Do it. ⁠⁠Success/Fail. Learn from success/failure. ⁠⁠Improve. ⁠⁠Go to 1. Thread closed.
/r/seduction07/03/25 11:21 AM
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Do you really think you need to say something interesting? Sometimes a lighthearted joke on the current situation is enough. Whatever you say or do, have a genuine smile, you can’t go wrong.
/r/seduction06/03/25 10:48 AM
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I don’t know. I go out 2-6 times per week, and I usually don’t approach: I just talk with people when opportunity arises. This leads to a constant flow of new connections which I can capitalize in the future.
/r/seduction06/03/25 10:41 AM
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I call with warning. Best time depends by their (and mine) daily schedules.
/r/seduction06/03/25 06:47 AM
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You don’t need to flirt or entertain people through text. You can use phone/video calls to talk. Use texts for setting up dates.
/r/seduction05/03/25 02:37 PM
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There’s the search feature. It’s full of threads with questions about certain topics and good advices in the comments. You can’t pretend to focus all the good advices on a single thread. Closing.
/r/seduction05/03/25 12:40 PM
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Not very common, but yes, there can be several degrees about it. The point is that he’s in a relationship, and I’m sure his GF wouldn’t be happy about him looking at your sexy pics. Not very honest on his side. Anyway, no faults on your side (especially if you’re comfortable with it), the one to blame is your friend, because there’s a difference between accidentally watching you naked Vs asking you to show him your sexy pics.
/r/seduction04/03/25 06:50 PM
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I’d go for places where to meet a lot of people in my demographic. But I don’t live there and I don’t know where those places are.
/r/seduction04/03/25 03:54 PM
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Care to elaborate? I love Amsterdam, but I only went there with GFs. Where should a single person go? Are there any clubs or bars worth it?
/r/seduction04/03/25 11:46 AM
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my statements included seveal IFs. while it’s true that on dating apps many girls have dozens of chats, one will surely emerge from the crowd, that one could be you IF you sparked some interest in them of course, having met them at least once, changes everything in the dynamic, but that’s obvious
/r/seduction03/03/25 02:37 PM
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They’re usually excited to talk to you again if they’ve been excited when they talked with you the last time. If they’re interested/attracted, they’ll let you know, at least by making things easier for you.
/r/seduction03/03/25 11:53 AM
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It’s been 2 days you’re continuously spamming content like this. Banned.
/r/seduction03/03/25 09:17 AM
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Whatever takes you into loving and accepting who you are (in terms of things you can’t change, and proud of what you changed or are changing). Accepting past mistakes as an opportunity to learn, to see failures as challenges for improvement. Your goal is to reach a state in which you’re happy with who you’re, happy with your path. You feel like you would date a person like yourself with enthusiasm. How? Little goals, the ones on which you have full control (eg: gym? study/work? hobbies?). You ca…
/r/seduction01/03/25 02:51 PM
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Very simple explanation: your look is attractive enough to get dates BUT you then show something of your personality/actions that puts them off. That’s, again, the practical demonstration that look matters only to a certain degree (and if you’re their type in terms of aesthetics) I have a very fresh anecdote: my best friend (the one I jokingly call MrThousands, because of his four digits body count) matched with girl on a dating app. They went to the date, then I joined them, alone. We spent the…
/r/seduction01/03/25 02:11 PM
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You’re misinterpreting the meaning of that quote. It can’t be fair to lie to them. It can be somehow “fair” if you lie to “others” to seduce them.
/r/seduction28/02/25 08:12 PM
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Maybe not the first time. But if you go to the same place over and over (given you’re enjoying it), it’s only a matter of time. Go there for 2-3 months (or even less) and people will start to recognize you, introduce to other people, etc… Bonus points if you genuinely state you’re there alone, it will trigger esteem and empathy for having that balls.
/r/seduction28/02/25 04:45 PM
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What seems obvious for you, might not be like that for everyone. Also being more conscious about these dynamics can help people anyway. If you ever read a book about social psychology, it’s full of interesting obvious concepts and observations. The important part is understanding them and keeping them in mind when you’re out there. This post hasn’t been removed because, all in all, it’s good content.
/r/seduction28/02/25 08:57 AM
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Well, I’m the first to go against these kinds of posts (which also smells like ChatGPT stuff). But OP also points outs that those signals should be evaluated in clusters, and that they only give clues, not granted proofs. That’s the main point.
/r/seduction27/02/25 12:33 PM
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You’re projecting about reassurance ;-) If they have interest, you won’t need to text them, they’ll stick to the plans anyway. Even more, it is indeed a solid signal of interest when they stick to the plans, so you’ll go to the date knowing you’re already starting from a solid base, and you can game and escalate from there. You can just say you’ll update them for the date details. And you’ll do it in the morning of the date day, telling them the plans (hour, place…).
/r/seduction27/02/25 10:03 AM
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Rather than speaking about “techniques”, you could apply “principles”: shit tests: you overcome them with confidence and being “unapologetically yourself”. Whatever they’ll throw at you, it will just bounce back in a way or another. That’s what an high status person would do as well: they’re confident in what they are, the fact they’ve high status helps, but you can be confident for what you’re as well. If you aren’t, then work on yourself to be so. push/pull: same as above. You can be confident…
/r/seduction25/02/25 01:21 PM
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Those comments aren’t an issue as long as you are confident. Most of the time you can just agree and exaggerate while owning your frame with lighthearted humor to flip the situation at your advantage. Shit tests are a problem only when you already feel shit. I’m usually very confident, that’s why I get many of those shit tests, they challenge me for something I did or said, and I just laugh it off, I own it and/or challenge them back while joking and teasing. If you’re genuinely confident and kn…
/r/seduction23/02/25 02:26 PM
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It is in this game, not in real life. The time constraint should measure, in theory, the fact that your frame will tell you what you say without thinking too much. However, you can’t simulate or measure the non-verbal, which is more important than time and words.
/r/seduction16/02/25 01:15 PM
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The game is also about a time constraint, so I don’t think you’d solve with a real time approach. The best solution would be to implement a speech-to-text (and maybe a text-to-speech as well), so that it might get closer to the real life experience. Of course the non-verbal is still a limit here, unless you also implement face recognition for emotions and find a way to evaluate the voice tone.
/r/seduction15/02/25 06:49 PM
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These are out of context questions in which you have to take time in reading and typing a reply. You can’t articulate sophisticated concepts and you can’t express the HOW you’re saying it
/r/seduction11/02/25 01:27 PM
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According to it, I got 70% confidence, 60% frame control, 70% emotional detachment on first try, in hard mode. Nice game. Maybe you should review the UX on mobile: difficult to read (big fonts) and to type a response in time.
/r/seduction11/02/25 01:22 PM
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In the former you’re trying to have fun for yourself, in the latter you’re making fun of yourself for attention from others.
/r/seduction11/02/25 12:34 AM
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Some girls say one thing while pursuing another, they hope to change the things silently. You can break the silence and introduce the discussion, or you could play their same game. You could hurt them, but you’re just playing their game even if you’ve been clear upfront. If you want to play this silent game, then you need to speak with actions, which means doing things keeping the boundaries in mind. If you perceive she’s having feelings, increase the distance. It’s not a push/pull thing, it’s j…
/r/seduction07/02/25 12:15 AM
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Weird and off topic and it’s going to be removed. However, just to leave a general hint: just like any sexual practice, it’s a matter of tastes, meaning that not everyone enjoys to give or receive it, and it doesn’t put any label about submission/dominance. Same goes for blowjobs, anal, BDSM, etc… This belongs to the “sex” topic, not here. PS: stop listening advice from people who haven’t had any experience in the field they’re talking about.
/r/seduction04/02/25 05:04 PM
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If they don’t give you attention, if they don’t let the interaction flow, then it means they’re aren’t interested and you should cordially eject. If you get their contact, try to ping them and, again, if they’re interested, they’ll let you know.
/r/seduction03/02/25 01:49 PM
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Off topic and very offensive. Rule #4
/r/seduction24/01/25 09:08 AM
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You could say “fuck you” in thousands different ways and contexts, each one would have a different meaning and outcome.
/r/seduction12/01/25 11:48 AM
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what HOW. FTFY.
/r/seduction12/01/25 11:44 AM
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Yes, ONSs and FWBs, no relationships.
/r/seduction10/01/25 10:51 PM
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48 :-)
/r/seduction09/01/25 09:07 AM
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He’s just doing it for 25-30 years, daily. No need to find fancy explanations.
/r/seduction09/01/25 09:06 AM
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My best friend reached around 1500-2000.
/r/seduction09/01/25 12:24 AM
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Sounds like the Squid Game player recruitment.
/r/seduction07/01/25 09:15 PM
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Chemistry wasn’t there. Period. You can speculate as much as you want, she has been kind and clear by telling you this fact (compared to ghosting, for example). A good conversation and kissing don’t necessarily mean something, you could also have had sex for that matter, it doesn’t change the epilogue.
/r/seduction06/01/25 09:22 PM
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“I always try to do my worst” is my usual reply.
/r/seduction04/01/25 02:50 PM
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This isn’t a sub for bored kids. Thread removed.
/r/seduction04/01/25 10:40 AM
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On the dance floor, you dance and escalate. No reasons to talk with them, it is what it is. You can move them out if/when the escalation lead to make out and things get hotter.
/r/seduction03/01/25 03:09 PM
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I appreciate the writing effort, but this post can be categorized into the silly generalization. There isn’t only one type of person, shy or not, hence there can’t be a “do this and that” which works in any situation. The real trick is always to be able to read people and context, then act accordingly.
/r/seduction03/01/25 01:50 PM
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It depends by situation and girl. I’m a DJ, so it’s likely to put on some Minimal/Electro/House tracks (getting a bj while mixing is a divine experience). Other times it might be a jazz playlist. It really depends.
/r/seduction30/12/24 03:20 PM
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A massive ego is when you disrespect someone while thinking you feel entitled to act like that. Confidence and boundaries, when clearly expressed, don’t represent a massive ego at all.
/r/seduction26/12/24 12:21 AM
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Everyone is a beginner when they start. I’m not selling courses, I’m just showing a way to improve.
/r/seduction23/12/24 08:14 PM
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My personal solution is to learn social skills during the process. It doesn’t require a girl to learn that. It’s just putting yourself out there and learn how interactions work. You can also complement with some specific books about body language and social psychology. It’s a longer path, but it also has lifelong benefits. The trap about routines is that they aren’t natural, and they are tied to specific situations (IF this THEN that), which means you either have a good amount of routines for ea…
/r/seduction23/12/24 03:11 PM
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Luck?! LOL! No, I’m just grounded and confident, and living the moment. I don’t need routines because I’m able to read the situation and act accordingly. I create opportunities on the fly, based on context, I don’t have a spell-book for every situation or person. That girl of last Saturday was grinding on me for a reason, I was escalating since before that. I’ve just took the opportunity flawlessly. It’s called being natural, and it’s the opposite of routines and gambits.
/r/seduction23/12/24 02:47 PM
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Playing middle (or even primary) school games as adults CAN be a lot of fun, depending by the context and people involved. It brings good memories back and sets the mood for the interaction, and it might also be easier to escalate into sex without passing through the usual stages.
/r/seduction23/12/24 11:37 AM
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I don’t have a routine, I just read the context and I go for the opportunity. Last girl I’ve kissed was this last Saturday at the club. She was grinding with her back (and her ass) on me, I’ve hugged her from behind (she obviously was compliant) and kissed her neck, she then rotated and we made out. Other times I’ve picked other opportunities in different contexts (hand of god, a hug that turns into a kiss, etc…) The point is that escalation is made of steps. Once you break the touch barrier and…
/r/seduction23/12/24 10:12 AM
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Times have changed a lot, many women are independent and don’t “need a man” to carry on. So this statement isn’t as true as it was some decades ago. Of course, if you can achieve your goals in life, you’ll be considered a “good catch” by many people, depending by culture and age as well. Btw, nothing is granted or determined, there are too many factors concurring.
/r/seduction22/12/24 11:09 PM
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Too generic question in general. For myself, I could say that I love “bad girls” (the ones who have more balls than a man) which preserve their femininity under the hood, because I’ve found they’re usually more direct and authentic with interactions, while I appreciate their being feminine in intimacy. I also would find more attractive a woman in pajama than one in high heels, because while the latter is easier to find attractive and feminine on paper, you can be sure about the former. When I me…
/r/seduction22/12/24 09:15 PM
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No, it isn’t. Looks matter and opens doors easily, but doesn’t keep them open IF you haven’t any kind of charisma, personality or confidence. An handsome guy could get hundreds of likes/matches in OLD apps and that’s it. He will get laid easily, but that’s not granted. An average looking guy with the above personal traits will attract a lot of women in real life and maybe very few on OLD. self grooming (hygiene, haircut, clothing, …) good manners confidence, charisma, humor
/r/seduction21/12/24 01:02 PM
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This, plain and simple.
/r/seduction20/12/24 11:32 PM
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I won’t, this post is against the rule #1. There are other subs for these kind of topics, not here.
/r/seduction18/12/24 11:39 PM
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They might have hundreds of matches and chats from guys. So they either: reply to their best option in terms of profile and, maybe, texting. put you in the queue and will reply to you when they’re done with the others before you look carefully at your profile and find some bits that they don’t like found you boring or less original than others aren’t that active on the app
/r/seduction16/12/24 09:09 PM
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My ex used almost only perfumes for men, and they smelled excellent on her! Some people just fits with very well with certain fragrances, regardless of their target.
/r/seduction12/12/24 10:57 PM
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I usually don’t stalk girls on IG (or any other social in general). I neither follow some girl that I don’t know in real life or hasn’t some interesting content (meaning that they don’t just have bikini pics, or other personal stuff). I don’t even look at stories, or at least, I only do for people I’ve some real friendship. That said, sometimes I’ve reacted to some stories from girls I’ve met and with which I don’t have a strong connection. Usually because I had something genuine to say or ask. …
/r/seduction12/12/24 10:51 PM
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This story lacks a lot of context and there are possibly several explanations: not interested/attracted to you: the easiest one, not your fault, it is what it is, you can’t be liked by everyone. you didn’t build comfort: maybe you rushed too early and made her uncomfortable? Maybe you came as thirsty or desperate? We can’t know. you were too platonic: there wasn’t any chemistry or spark because you were too accommodating, lacking tension, etc… a mix of the above
/r/seduction11/12/24 07:19 PM
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99% of influencers/coaches are, statistically speaking, bullshit. Their goal is to sell exploiting desperation. So, the usual rule of thumb is that when they promise to easily solve all your problems (getting laid, getting your ex back, get rich quickly, …) they most probably won’t. On the other hand, there are books that somehow became bestsellers, so chances are that many people have read them and can evaluate their worth. Also, books are 30-50x cheaper than any other influencer/coach and they…
/r/seduction10/12/24 04:37 PM
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I don’t understand where you took those ideas. When you travel you should exploit other dynamics: talk and interact with every human being, be social, make friends. Every simple connection is an asset, even if temporary, it has the value to introduce you to new situations, opportunities and people if you find someone interesting, you can use the warm approach and see where things go. You can’t start immediately with escalation. There aren’t signals, it’s just you interacting with them and, as fa…
/r/seduction10/12/24 02:05 PM
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My personal/anecdotal theory is that they studied psychology to solve others (and theirs!) problems. The moment they say they’re some psychology degree I feel in my natural habitat, except that then I remind myself that most of them still have many unresolved problems. And they usually fall into me because they perceive the communication is on steroids. For some reason, a lot of people considers me brilliant, even my therapists say that. Now imagine me going on a date with a psychologist…
/r/seduction10/12/24 01:33 PM
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Me too, it’s mostly because I did similar studies, I know the jargon and the topics, so the interaction flows easily. The problem is that most of them are unstable by themselves, so I lose interest in few weeks.
/r/seduction10/12/24 11:11 AM
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I think I’ve got to a 2-3, that night I took a mix of drugs at a rave party in London, I remember I’ve made out with a lot of girls without even saying a word, just me walking around a kissing girls (keep in mind that the 101% of the people there, assumed one or more drugs), then I briefly interacted with shadowed figure with which I did make out after few seconds, the next morning I woke up near her on the floor. Unfortunately I have a black out part of 2-3 hours in which I don’t know what happ…
/r/seduction06/12/24 01:10 AM
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I’m not ubiquitous or even always present here. Your only post that has been removed is from 41 days ago, I don’t see any other posts from you.
/r/seduction29/11/24 09:47 AM
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This sub is open to every genre. The fact that girls/women get some lame advice is because there are more guys that gals here, so you need to filter for quality. From a (personal) mod point of view, creating a sub for women won’t stop guys to participate, you can stop scammers/spammers, but you can’t distinguish genres from behind a screen.
/r/seduction28/11/24 10:32 AM
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OP, this sub is full of threads about clubbing and nightgame with tons of good advices, use search. Thread locked.
/r/seduction24/11/24 05:44 PM
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Usually it means an illegal/underground party. But as of today, the thing is a bit more “institutionalized”. Raves are similar to club parties, except that there’s more “freedom” in terms of drugs/dress code and all those things that are usually enforced in normal/commercial clubs. Usually the music tends more toward techno rather than the usual disco/house/revival. I’ve just given a very general summary, but at least now you can understand the term.
/r/seduction24/11/24 05:42 PM
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Learn about escalation. Thread closed.
/r/seduction22/11/24 11:07 PM
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You’re starting from wrong premises, like taking these concepts in a strictly literal way, comparing them. First of all, they’re complementary, and there are much more facets to add. Then, you should read them like a general concept that you should apply it in a way that follows your personality. A confident posture will give you more confidence, and inner confidence will be reflected on your posture. The ability to read people’s non-verbals will be used to mirror the other person to build rappo…
/r/seduction22/11/24 09:37 PM
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No, age is a number. Thread locked.
/r/seduction22/11/24 11:47 AM
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You’re ignoring the fact that Indonesia is in Asia and Morocco in North Africa, which is like comparing Italy and Philippines which are mostly catholic, but in different continents. I’ve explicitly mentioned that there are also different cultures and traditions to deal with, Indonesia and Morocco have really different cultures, despite they share the same religion.
/r/seduction21/11/24 12:04 PM
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Considering it’s mostly a muslim country, their culture and religion are strictly different from westerners. I know some Moroccan people living here in Italy, they’re kind and open, until you don’t interfere with their culture/religion/traditions. I might be wrong, but I wouldn’t bet that a moroccan girl would be let to freely date a non-muslim/westerner guy. The first rule of traveling is to know upfront culture and customs of the country you’re visiting. What you consider “normal” might be rea…
/r/seduction21/11/24 11:26 AM
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There are ones who give some well crafted advice (sometimes regardless of quality or agreeableness), and others that are removed/banned for plain spamming.
/r/seduction20/11/24 10:07 PM
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You’re misunderstanding the concept of “genuine” by narrowing it down to very specific (and wrong) cases. Liars and scammers in general are a thing, and nobody said that women are “lie detectors”. So, that’s not the part about being genuine, that would be honesty, at most. Faking a smile is not genuine, but technically it isn’t either a lie. Same for hiding your true intentions. Also, it’s much easier to spot a non-genuine act with a stranger than with someone you love or are already attracted t…
/r/seduction20/11/24 01:12 PM
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You approach them making it look you’re looking for something else, eg: the time (when smartphones weren’t available), directions, or whatever. In other words, it’s a different way to approach strangers by avoiding to directly show your intentions. Indirect approach isn’t better or worse than direct approach. Sometimes it depends by context, there are situations in which it’s better to check the waters and not being straightforward.
/r/seduction19/11/24 04:00 PM
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OP, you’re starting from the wrong premise, leads to wrong conclusions. Women are usually better than men at reading emotions and non-verbals. They don’t have a crystal ball, they just see things that others (most men) overlook. Everyone with good social skills (which, again, are usually more developed in women) can sense a creep or someone friendly outside with an hidden agenda. Just like when you can smell self-consciousness when you look at some selfie. And it’s not about having a open mind: …
/r/seduction19/11/24 12:40 PM
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Well, the key point here is isolation. You start socializing, then focusing on the one you’re interested in, if the vibes are going well, then you try to isolate in another area and part from the main group. From there, you can escalate as usual, and if you’re covered with logistics, you can easily end with a ONS.
/r/seduction17/11/24 03:18 PM
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Also words are just a very tiny part of communication, around 7% IIRC. Posture, gestures, voice tone, the way you look them, the way you sit or walk… You know the saying: it’s not WHAT you do or say but instead it’s HOW you do or say something. Here’s one piece of wisdom: body influences mind, and mind influences body. A confident person will project confidence also through overall body language, while a correct body language would give you more confidence and comfort. It’s a virtuous loop. Work…
/r/seduction12/11/24 09:13 PM
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Unfortunately I can stick this reply on top, but it’s the most simple, honest and clear advice OP can read.
/r/seduction10/11/24 09:13 PM
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I’m in my late 40s, my best advice would be: “go for it, don’t hesitate”. In this post what happened is that the 40yo man went in for action, maybe his vibes and confidence were on point, while OP hesitated too much.
/r/seduction10/11/24 07:25 PM
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“Yeah, I always try to do my worst”
/r/seduction09/11/24 06:34 PM
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I’m nearly 50 but people thinks I’m 30-35… It’s not that bad after all.
/r/seduction29/10/24 02:18 PM
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Because that’s not the correct frame to play your game. You aren’t there to be her friend or therapist, at least not in the initial stages.
/r/seduction28/10/24 11:39 PM
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Like this girl and others here said, it’s plain and simple: you’re very good looking, but you lack something beyond it. Some possible clues: you’re boring you’re insecure, or lack confidence in some way you lack some character/charisma In other words, you’ve attracted her on the looks side, but you’re losing points on the “inner” side. This is yet another proof that look matters only to some extent, but it isn’t usually enough to get laid.
/r/seduction25/10/24 02:00 PM
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I can’t understand why you are getting downvoted.
/r/seduction23/10/24 09:23 PM
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I don’t know that book, I’m going to investigate. My point isn’t about the age of the book (The Game, in this case), but more about the content (and its quality). What I’ve listed are basic points that are timeless.
/r/seduction23/10/24 12:12 PM
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The real point is to NOT think and being present, in the moment. What you’re reading in The Game has many flaws: it was written 20-25 years ago, times have somehow changed since then the author was already an established writer (he published best-sellers about celebrities biographies) and was already introduced into a celebrities social circle. in other words, he wasn’t a Mr Nobody which started from scratch tricks and routines and following some kind of strict script (like, in fact, Mystery Met…
/r/seduction22/10/24 10:09 PM
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Good wingmen are hard to find, but usually they are the ones that: can go out alone knows the game collaborates with your game (doesn’t cockblock, doesn’t try to steal, helps during interactions, etc) A guy with those requisites might be a good wingman. Otherwise, it usually ends in frustrating and awkward nights.
/r/seduction20/10/24 08:39 PM
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Been there, done that. I had similar stories to tell. That’s where I’ve started going out solo as well.
/r/seduction20/10/24 08:08 PM
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Just don’t overthink, nothing is granted. It happens you have that connection only in that moment and then it fades away for whatever reason. It just happens.
/r/seduction16/10/24 01:22 PM
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Short answer: NO, or at most, very rarely. Long answer: You can’t pretend to get a meaningful answer to this general question because everyone is different. Leo Di Caprio is well known to prefer girls under 25, but he’s a celebrity and his lifestyle doesn’t represent the average people. What you heard (on internet?) is just some point of view spreading through the echo-chamber of social media (Reddit, X, TikTok, etc…). It’s the same when girls list their requirements for men (like height, money,…
/r/seduction02/10/24 11:23 AM
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Locking the thread. These kind of absolutes aren’t useful and/or truthful. Commenters have already given enough counter-arguments.
/r/seduction30/09/24 09:02 PM
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This is incel bullshit, you haven’t proof. Just as a reminder: not respecting consent and/or crossing boundaries without some sort of calibration is indeed a form of violence. And NO, it’s not about being ugly, but mostly about being attractive, which is a totally different metric. I don’t need to wonder too much about why girls are repulsed by you if this is your mindset.
/r/seduction29/09/24 05:14 PM
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My point wasn’t about pushing for night/party-game, but highlighting that what you suggested in the first half of your post can be applied almost everywhere. Also, social settings usually give way more chances to meet people and start interactions that lead to something compared to approaching strangers during the day. Sure, you can’t go out every night of the week, but that’s not the point. A good night game can let you meet and interact with dozens of women at once, compare it with cold approa…
/r/seduction25/09/24 09:47 AM
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You had me for the first half, but IMHO the conclusion about daygame as the absolute solution ruined it. A better approach would have been about rising the number of interactions in general, which starts with getting out there and interact with as many people as possible and, in particular, the girls in the desired/appropriate demographic. This not only includes daygame, but also nightgame, clubgame, partygame, etc… There is never a one size that fits all. For example, an over 30-35 has usually …
/r/seduction24/09/24 09:37 PM
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Nothing to understand. Given it’s not an asian scammer, she has much more better options than you. You did fake abundance on early stages in an OLD setting. You played a game she laughed it off.
/r/seduction22/09/24 06:42 PM
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Locking the thread. OP, you already got several interesting points of views, and the common sense can be summarized in: it’s ok until you’re ok with it. But if you’re uncomfortable about it, or you’re faking your disinterest, then you should work to change it.
/r/seduction19/09/24 11:02 PM
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You’re generalizing in the worst possible way. If OP is happy with his life, and doesn’t feel that need, there’s nothing wrong with him. I might agree it’s a rare case, but it isn’t weird or impossible. Following your reasoning, I should be weird as well in the opposite direction, because I’ve started chasing girls at 5 while the great majority of guys wake up much, much, later.
/r/seduction19/09/24 10:50 PM
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You can even avoid to wonder if it’s either a shit test or not. If you’re confident and present in the moment, you just go with the flow. Shit tests are a controversial concept, sometimes it’s one, sometimes it’s just their way to tease or joke.
/r/seduction19/09/24 01:50 PM
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Everything is ok as long as you keep up your confidence. There isn’t an universal approach. You can hold your frame, you can laugh it off, you might agree (and, sometimes, exaggerate), or you can reply with another witty joke about them. Of course there’re also boundaries. If it turns from playful joke/teasing banter into plain offense/disrespect, you can end things there.
/r/seduction19/09/24 09:49 AM
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I’m usually honest and I reply with something like: I don’t have many available friends to go to that venue/event, but I wanted to go anyway so I came alone.
/r/seduction18/09/24 09:19 PM
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I agree in general, but I’ll add that you can just escalate anyway and then calibrate accordingly. I mean, you don’t have to wait for her IOIs, you can interpret that she has interest by checking her comfort at each step of your escalation.
/r/seduction18/09/24 09:02 PM
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But your anecdote lacks context. Sometimes a girl is talking about her boyfriend and then asks you if you’ve a girlfriend. So, the question itself means nothing. Nobody knows when/where/how she asked you that. Of course you extrapolated that meaning because you were there, but generalizing and telling others that when she asks if they have a girlfriend it automatically means she’s interested is wrong.
/r/seduction18/09/24 08:43 PM
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This is a meaningless, lame, list. Because: they should be observed in clusters. A single item, taken alone, is meaningless the context is fundamental interest can be manifested in several ways
/r/seduction18/09/24 02:35 PM
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I totally agree about the romance aspect when it comes to a serious relationship. Otherwise, like you already said, it would just be a FWB affair. I also agree with the realization that relationships require a decent amount of hard work to keep them healthy, that’s why I think that people should evaluate this aspect before concluding they want a relationship with someone.
/r/seduction16/09/24 07:42 PM
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True, WHAT you say or do doesn’t matter, BUT it depends by: HOW you say or do it WHEN/WHERE you say or do it WHO you’re dealing with Context is everything.
/r/seduction16/09/24 11:55 AM
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If the world was full of genuinely nice people, we would see a lot less breakups and divorces. Being genuinely nice and acting nice to sell a different personality aren’t the same. You can be nice and respectful, while still being confident and sticking to your values and standards. The difference comes from how you act when you aren’t reciprocated or, worse, disrespected: the fake nice guy will fall into rage and disappointment. the genuine one will just move on and, at most, acknowledge the ot…
/r/seduction13/09/24 03:15 PM
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“Just having fun” is just one way to put it. There are other honest answers that don’t look like you’re “using” them like a sex doll. As others pointed out, simply saying that you’re enjoying sex and attraction with them but that you aren’t looking for a serious romantic relationship is still honest, but more respectful.
/r/seduction10/09/24 12:30 PM
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Flakiness can go from 10-30%, above that I would consider there are some flaws elsewhere. Same for the closes, a good game can work up to 70-80% of dates.
/r/seduction09/09/24 11:59 PM
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Good job, I don’t want to be a jerk, but I would highlight some parts: You got 4 dates out of 307 matches? Or, let’s say, after 180 chats? Let’s say 3 dates, excluding the catfish. 2 kiss closes and 1 sex close. I suspect you’re doing something wrong from chat to date stages. 180 is a huge number! But 3 dates out of them is depressing. You did an awesome job with your body, and as you can see, this opens a lot of doors. But here’s also where you see that look is ok until a certain point, then yo…
/r/seduction09/09/24 10:48 PM
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Whatever, it just works.
/r/seduction09/09/24 06:56 PM
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If you did this for the past 25-30 years you have 30k “friends” on FB (yeah, he has multiple accounts) and other thousands followers on IG you’re on all major OLD apps and get dozens of matches daily you go out several times a week you’re also a photographer and have professional pics of yourself you fuck an average of 10+ different girls per month etc… Then it’s not an impossible number to achieve. Maybe he’s even beyond the 2000s for that matter.
/r/seduction09/09/24 03:20 PM
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It’s more likely you’re envious. He’s clean from any STD, btw.
/r/seduction09/09/24 02:43 PM
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I usually mention here about one of my best friends, which has a 1500-2000 body count. Well, he’s apparently pretty feminine (in terms of voice, manners and skinny body), and 6 out of 10 people will think he’s gay or bi at first glance. This has (almost) never been an issue, he knows how to game like a second nature, and results speak for themselves.
/r/seduction09/09/24 10:52 AM
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Wrong. This sub is open to everyone who wants to talk about seduction and general self-improvement to become a better, more attractive person. As long as content is in topic and respectful (both of the sub rules and of other people in general) everyone is welcome here.
/r/seduction09/09/24 10:03 AM
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Unfortunately we can’t know the entire context of the non-verbal. OP probably earned some “attraction points” for the fact of approaching, the way he interacted with her, and his confidence and manners. Women get hit daily in terms of quantity, but they rarely get hit by quality. That’s where look falls apart compared to genuine confidence, personality and manners.
/r/seduction07/09/24 11:45 PM
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There isn’t a protocol, and every case is different. That’s why specific situations aren’t allowed and this post will be removed.
/r/seduction07/09/24 11:10 PM
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People cheats when they miss something in the relationship. When they have (almost) everything in the relationship, they don’t fall for others, unless they have a problem with loyalty or monogamy. In general there isn’t seduction that works when a relationship is already working.
/r/seduction07/09/24 09:50 PM
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I’ve started somehow early, I got my first crush and rejection at 5. Growing up, between 6 and 11 I had my “kid relationships” and some rejection as well. My very first pull from cold approach and kiss close (in the same day!) happened at 11. She was a solid 9, around 12yo. Unfortunately I had to leave the town for 3 months, when I came back she has been “taken” by another guy. They’re married with kids, still together in 35+ years! 12-15 has been a bit painful, lots of rejections and overall ve…
/r/seduction07/09/24 09:30 PM
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Regret? You should be grateful to yourself for having found and fixed those mistakes. Mistakes are learning opportunities, it all comes down to mindset. Rather than going into depression, you should focus on how to fix them and then celebrate when you achieve an improvement. And yes, when you grow you’ll always find the old version of you in a bad way. But the good news is that you have grown, and that’s a good thing.
/r/seduction07/09/24 05:40 PM
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That’s just my opinion based on decades of experience, but that wouldn’t be fair to pin it. Before being a mod, I’m first and foremost a member of this community, I won’t impose my personal opinions through mod-powers. I usually pin the answers that need to be highlighted for moderation purposes.
/r/seduction07/09/24 11:49 AM
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You just friendly talk with everyone, you enjoy the music (hopefully dancing) and vibes, you drink something… that’s what clubs are made for. The rest usually comes alone with the flow. It happens to grind with some girls on the dance floor, you spark a conversation with someone while in line for bar or toilets, you get introduced to others etc… The worst mindset is going out with the expectation to pull someone rather than having a good night whatever happens. Nightgame is a context full of opp…
/r/seduction07/09/24 11:10 AM
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First of all, every generalization is wrong by definition because you can’t fit every nuance into a single label. I’m sure you haven’t carefully read ALL the posts here, so your opinion is purely anecdotal. Second, this subreddit is dedicated to seduction (which covers a wide surface, not just specific areas) AND self-improvement. Third, attractiveness can be represented and interpreted in several different ways according to a variety of traits and contexts (age, culture, gender, etc…). The fact…
/r/seduction07/09/24 10:55 AM
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I’d honestly say to invest those 1500€ into some books, a new wardrobe, hairstyle and then go for solo a trip somewhere for 3-7 days. Being alone in another city will force your social muscles to move forward. You’ll have a lot of casual interactions to practice. Those bootcamps are close to scam, you’re paying all that money to get some dude teaching you the absolute basics that you can learn with some books/videos and practice in real life. It’s not like a driving or musical instrument school,…
/r/seduction06/09/24 01:27 PM
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You can’t discern a good potential, long term partner by their looks. A girl/woman that is seeking a serious relationship, (usually) won’t stop at the look. A girl/woman that is just looking for fun and sex, will do.
/r/seduction05/09/24 10:31 PM
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It’s not a universal rule, but usually if a person is just looking for sex and has choice, every good looking person will be ok (unless that person is an idiot). On the other hand, LTR relationships require much more aspects to consider, including (but not limited to): emotional stability commitment economic stability loyalty competence common grounds and life projects personality some kind of attractiveness: when someone fully checks all the other boxes, it becomes much attractive because they …
/r/seduction05/09/24 10:18 PM
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Another saying is: Women hold keys for pussy. Men hold keys for marriage.
/r/seduction05/09/24 09:52 PM
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Done ;-)
/r/seduction05/09/24 09:48 PM
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I know. I’m older than you and been there, done that ;-)
/r/seduction04/09/24 10:46 PM
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Sounds like you’ve attracted their attention for whatever reason. You acted genuinely not interested at their attention and you kept your frame, but they somehow insisted. Your lighthearted confidence made the rest. Don’t necessarily expect they’ll be there on that day, unless they’re usual in that place. Sometimes it just happens the right night, but it doesn’t always have a follow up. For sure, if they’re really interested, you’ll meet them again there, no need of numbers.
/r/seduction04/09/24 10:21 PM
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What kind of question is this? Too generic.
/r/seduction03/09/24 08:37 PM
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You politely agree and wish them a nice day. Then you eject and go elsewhere.
/r/seduction03/09/24 07:49 PM
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Because alcohol reduces or eliminates inhibitions (but also the capabilities to control). I’m not against alcohol, but I’m against dependence on external factors to have fun or be yourself, like substances or similar. The moment you won’t have these “helps” you’ll be fucked up. That’s why you should first learn to work without any external help.
/r/seduction03/09/24 05:55 PM
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Well, 90% of bartenders will give you weird looks. I usually joke with them saying that I don’t have a good relationship with alcohol, then I add that I have a good one with drugs. Friends and people at the club ask me what I’m drinking and when I say “tonic water” it’s enough to start some conversation. People find so weird that you don’t drink alcohol that it makes you stand from the crowd.
/r/seduction03/09/24 03:40 PM
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Conversations shouldn’t happen through text. Period. Call her, or text to invite her on a date, that’s how you see if they’re interested.
/r/seduction03/09/24 03:23 PM
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Be more relaxed and avoid to compare yourself to others, that’s a starting point. If you take things in a more lighthearted way, things will flow much more easily. Also practice interactions with any kind of people, you need to feel comfortable talking with them while looking into their eyes. Finally, escape the mindset in which every girl you like is your only opportunity. You’re young and you’ll get thousands of opportunities, so keep calm and enjoy the moment. After every interaction, just th…
/r/seduction03/09/24 09:06 AM
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In my experience, I’ve found that plain tonic-water is a great conversation starter, because people wonder why I’m not drinking alcohol.
/r/seduction03/09/24 08:33 AM
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You know what’s better for you, but if you said you need to start from scratch, I’d suggest to take it slowly.
/r/seduction02/09/24 11:12 PM
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Some common sense suggestions in random order: Take your time to recover. Start going out again, interact with people, join parties and social circles, get introduced by others as well. Focus on yourself and your interest. Self grooming your body, your looks and your mind. You’ll might feel a bit “rusty”/lost/alone in the beginning, that’s normal, it’s part of the “healing”. With time you’ll find your pace again and things will happen naturally. Don’t rush into new relationships or “adventures” …
/r/seduction02/09/24 10:48 PM
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Your GF should be already capable to reject other guys by her own. You’re involved only if her rejection doesn’t work and the other guy insists. Just handle things in a diplomatic manner. Don’t forget to report these things to the gym if things don’t work.
/r/seduction02/09/24 02:43 PM
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Well, at least you can tame it. Shyness isn’t a problem, it becomes a problem when it blocks you from having good interactions. Leaving your comfort zone and challenging yourself to go a bit further each time will definitely help you in the medium-long term. Soon or later, many social situations will become easier to handle, you’ll be more relaxed, feeling less shy than you used to be.
/r/seduction02/09/24 12:01 AM
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Being genuinely nice is ok. Being shy is also ok, but it’s a spectrum, there are several shades on it. In general: having a strong personality and carrying it with confidence helps in raising your charisma having some kind of competence in something helps as well, especially if it’s about something that is valued/shared by your peers. This doesn’t mean to force yourself into something you don’t like. self grooming (hygiene, haircut, clothes that improve your appearance), staying fit (which doesn…
/r/seduction01/09/24 11:29 PM
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It seems you already know what it’s missing: more contact more flirting more escalation more confidence in playing the game Calibrate and proceed a step forward until you see she’s comfortable with that.
/r/seduction30/08/24 09:40 PM
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1.5% success rate is called luck, nothing compared to skills or experience.
/r/seduction30/08/24 12:12 AM
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Fixed :-) they have been auto-removed.
/r/seduction29/08/24 07:38 PM
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That’s the usual incel narrative in which they blame everything they can’t change rather than working on what they can.
/r/seduction29/08/24 01:42 PM
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Of course. You are one of the few experienced ones since a lot of time. I usually remember the ones who write meaningful content.
/r/seduction29/08/24 08:31 AM
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Do it, ping me if you don’t see it, I will do approval. Links to other subs or comments usually triggers the auto-mod filter and gets removed automatically. (It’s been some time since I’ve seen you commenting here.)
/r/seduction28/08/24 08:55 PM
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Because a lot of guys think that look matters more than personality. It’s a common misconception.
/r/seduction28/08/24 09:09 AM
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Looks and attractiveness aren’t always related. You can be handsome and look like a model, but not attractive.
/r/seduction28/08/24 09:06 AM
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Club/bars connections are usually very flaky. You either talk/make out/fuck that same night or it ends there anyway. Those are temporary interactions limited to that specific context or situation, outside of that, it’s another world.
/r/seduction28/08/24 12:10 AM
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There are other subs to talk about this topic.
/r/seduction27/08/24 11:45 PM
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This subreddit is made of members and collaboration, just report the shit posts like this and mods can catch them sooner.
/r/seduction27/08/24 10:16 PM
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It’s not an unpopular opinion, good manners work great! however, as always, it depends by HOW you do it. If done genuinely and with confidence, it makes a good impression. On the other hand, “fake chivalry” is creepy and lame.
/r/seduction25/08/24 08:01 PM
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In years of clubbing I always did this: get in the center of the dance floor (and/or near the DJ decks) and dance dance, smile, have fun with people around, if any take some break for drink, smoking or toilet go dancing again, maybe in a different spot, but never on the edges Opportunities to meet girls are in all these steps, just with different dynamics. I often see these poor desperates going back and forth with thirsty eyes looking for some prey. Those are the ones who usually go home withou…
/r/seduction23/08/24 02:22 PM
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I wouldn’t generalize that much. I know people who really enjoy to take pics of their activities (not necessarily to share them on social media). Others, like me, forget their phone and live the moment. Sometimes I regret to not have taken photos, they’re pieces of memories. Btw I don’t like to share my stuff on IG, it’s just for me.
/r/seduction22/08/24 09:23 PM
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Some examples: Being yourself, showing your best version of yourself and sticking to what you’re with confidence. Not having a hidden agenda and being straight with your intentions. Escalation and flirting are a basic example of this. Being genuinely kind for the sake of it, rather than to be liked or pleasing others (see previous point)
/r/seduction22/08/24 01:09 PM
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There is a “fake game” which involves manipulation, and a “honest game” in which you play your cards in a non-manipulative way. From there, the setting where you can meet someone may vary. I agree that setting a limit on age-range is a bit weird, but you know…
/r/seduction21/08/24 11:54 PM
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He did in the comments.
/r/seduction21/08/24 11:44 PM
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I’m around your age and my actual GF is 10 years younger (in the age range you mentioned). I used to date in the range 20-55, it just happened to settle with someone much younger. I don’t know why you’re looking for that specific age demographic if you want a serious relationship. Women in the 30-37 might want children, do you want to have children at 47? I already have kids from a previous relationship and at this age I can’t afford to start again from scratch in terms of time and energies. My …
/r/seduction21/08/24 09:57 PM
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Stop focusing on pulling girls and focus on your own fun and strengths. This will make you more confident (hence attractive). When your mindset is that whatever happens you will be ok, and that your focus is having a good time, things will look much more easier and lighter. If you see a good looking girl, you can just approach her and start talking in a lighthearted way, using good manners as well. If she’s interested, things will flow, if she’s uncomfortable, just kindly eject. Rejection is par…
/r/seduction21/08/24 03:07 PM
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You’re legitimately allowed to not believe it (we’re on internet after all), but I’ve seen it first person and I don’t care to say lies, that’s it.
/r/seduction21/08/24 02:59 PM
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One of my y best friends gets hundreds of matches and first date sex since years. He’s good looking and, most importantly, he has spectacular pics and good game. People like that exists.
/r/seduction21/08/24 02:01 PM
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I’m the opposite. I had low (not zero) success on apps, but in real life I get attention and approaches very easily. I also don’t have any troubles in approaching, considering I’ve started it since I was 14, around 35 years ago. As I usually say, apps work when you have good pics to show, otherwise they’re a waste of time. The same amount of time and energy can be spent with more chances of success in real life, given you know what to do.
/r/seduction21/08/24 09:42 AM
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I don’t know, I speak for myself and my experience. I love clubs and bars, I enjoy staying at home and reading a book or watching a movie as well, but I prefer to go out to meet people and enjoying experiences. Women are just a pleasant side effect in this context, not my first priority. I’m focused on enjoying my time doing things I like and that are under my control, like choosing the venue or activity. I can’t control if I’ll meet and/or pull some girl that night, so why should I put the eggs…
/r/seduction20/08/24 09:10 PM
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There aren’t strict rules, only common sense. If you barely know each other, and they don’t respond, it doesn’t make sense to double text. It’s not wrong to do it, but why you should do it? Not replying is already a reply.
/r/seduction20/08/24 02:24 PM
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It’s weird as long as you think it’s weird. Having a hunter mindset is creepy at any ages, trying to meet and genuinely connect with people without making the age an issue is ok.
/r/seduction19/08/24 10:20 PM
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You go out to enjoy your time within yourself. Period. Some years ago I’ve started going out solo because I wanted to have fun but I didn’t have available friends to go out with, or the available ones didn’t fit the vibes. I felt a bit weird the very first time I did it, but then I enjoyed it even more than when I was with friends. I did and got approaches without having to care about someone else that went out with me. After some time I’ve met new like-minded social circles as well.
/r/seduction19/08/24 10:15 PM
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IMHO, the bad part about photoshoots is that they look staged. Sure you bring different clothes and take pics in different locations, but you can clearly see they are staged. Maybe 1-2 professional pics could be ok on a dating profile or social media, but don’t expect to shine. Staged photos, to me, sound cringe and try-hard when your profile is only made of then, taken in 2-3 hours on the same day. The best ones are the natural ones, that you took during your experiences around. As others sugge…
/r/seduction18/08/24 01:22 PM
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Sure, telling experience can somehow help to give context and examples. However, it depends on what is being told and described. In some stories you can read of people who said this or did that, but the focus should be on the HOW and WHY rather than the WHAT they did something. Culture, age and overall context make a great difference. Not to mention that some stories are anecdotal, so you can’t get a rule from it. But you can debunk some beliefs. For example: if a short guy gets rejected several…
/r/seduction18/08/24 01:22 AM
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(I’m not quoting since I’m on mobile, but here’s my reply to your points) Gym and therapy aren’t a panacea but, again, if you have read posts and comments here, several people just needs at least one of these actions: 1) go out and experience real life 2) improve their social skills 3) heal themselves from toxic behaviors and beliefs (especially the ones coming from animes, movies and porn) 4) work on their self esteem 5) self-grooming (from clothes to basic hygiene) 6) doing some physical activ…
/r/seduction16/08/24 08:29 PM
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If you want to be pedantic about words, at least be sure to do it correctly. First of all, this sub is about seduction and self improvement, “puckup” is just one narrow point of an wider universe you can go out and approach hundreds or thousands of people, but without proper game (especially inner game), you won’t get results. If you want a proof, just scroll the posts here, it’s full of people trying to approach with 0.01% succes rate In the context of self improvement, taking actions means… we…
/r/seduction16/08/24 06:33 PM
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But you can’t improve your inner without action. Even going to therapy is action for inner work.
/r/seduction16/08/24 04:37 PM
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Taking action should be considered obvious to make a change, and is valid for both kind of games. And yes, outer game is complementary, but it usually doesn’t work alone. Inner game usually can work alone when done right because it brings charisma.
/r/seduction16/08/24 03:48 PM
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Inner game: everything about your inner self (confidence, self esteem, overall mental state). It’s harder to reach it because it requires a lot of inner work. Outer game: everything which can be seen from the outside (self grooming, clothes, your ability to have a conversation). To some extent, I’d also include look/money/status, but take it with a grain of salt. The two things don’t exclude each other, and the best way is to mix both. But, at the end of the day, what really makes a difference i…
/r/seduction16/08/24 03:20 PM
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I don’t get what you’re trying to say. Lesbians are still women after all.
/r/seduction14/08/24 06:39 PM
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It’s not necessarily about aesthetics, even if you’re right about how Tinder and dating apps usually work. Consider the following facts: there are at least 10x men for each woman on these apps an average woman gets at least 100x likes compared to (good looking/nice profile) men This means that women have a lot more options (but also the paradox of choice), and they somehow have to filter in some way. Using a food metaphor, if you’re starving, you’re probably going to eat whatever food you have i…
/r/seduction14/08/24 11:27 AM
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This thread looks like an incel party, so here there are a few points: OP, your experience is anecdotal. Just consider that being in upper class also means an upper lifestyle (especially including free time, clothes, personal trainers, hairstyles, makeup, SPAs, etc) which inevitably let people to appear much more attractive than the average class. You focus on height, weight and numbers ranking, but that’s not an universal rule. Tom Cruise is 5.6 and Al Pacino is 5.5, if they’re considered super…
/r/seduction12/08/24 12:28 PM
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Removed for the following reasons: isolating a single advice and interpreting it literally from a single book, ignoring the rest of the context and then jumping to personal conclusions about said advice not working, means nothing OP personal experience is just… HIS personal experience. Not to defend that book, but considering that it has been a best seller since almost a century, it means there are millions of other personal experiences saying the contrary. Concluding that looks and status are t…
/r/seduction10/08/24 11:15 PM
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Blocking the thread. OP is either trolling, or too limited to understand the dozens of well crafted answers many people tried to give. Incels have usually a lot of internal traits in common, this post and OP comments are the usual demonstration of this.
/r/seduction09/08/24 02:44 AM
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From the second half of your comment it looks like you’re listing the real reasons for which you don’t want to divorce. You can pursue your dreams anyway with enough time and effort. Divorces are like earthquakes, you just need to rebuild everything from scratch.
/r/seduction09/08/24 12:32 AM
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You marry the one you believe it’s the right person to share and improve your life. You can love someone as much as you want, but if you’re unhappy or feel you need something that that person can’t or won’t give, then there’s the divorce. Sex might not be the first priority in a relationship, but it represents a 50-60% of it (unless you’re both ok without it). I had two divorces, they still love me and I still love them, but relationships need to end when you can’t live a fulfilling life with th…
/r/seduction09/08/24 12:28 AM
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You’re too afraid of what others do or think. But this is also a flag that shows your inner insecurity. If you think you objectively aren’t doing anything wrong or disrespectful, then just don’t give a fuck about others around you. And, as purely anecdotal experience (mine, but also from some close friends), when another man acts like that, it usually means you’re doing good with women and they are envious or insecure. Sometimes I get bad looks from husbands/BFs or other men in general, while at…
/r/seduction06/08/24 10:47 PM
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Seduction is a journey, not a goal. You keep seducing her every day, even after 10 or 20 years. This is valid if/when you truly love her and you have been honest and genuine. After some time in a LTR, some dynamics are different (you know each other in a very deep way), but there are things that SHOULD NOT change. Someone said that love is like fire, you need to feed it to keep it going.
/r/seduction06/08/24 05:34 PM
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Physical attraction is way different from overall attraction. People is not defined by plain looks. Very few people would like a partner just for their looks without some personality or charisma. A man could say that a Playboy model is gorgeous and would make sex with her if he had the opportunity. But I’m not sure he would go out for a dinner with her. On the other hand he would probably ask his coworker for a date.
/r/seduction05/08/24 11:42 PM
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Look and height aren’t important. It usually is because at least one of these reasons: lack of confidence/charisma (this is where a lot of short guys fall: they’re rejected for their lack of confidence because they think height matters) lack of self grooming you aren’t their type (even if you’re conventionally attractive) lack of social skills lack of manners/style Stop blaming external traits like height or money, they’re a problem when you make a problem out of them.
/r/seduction04/08/24 09:50 PM
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So you watched two videos and then came here to repeat what you have seen without even trying to experience it by yourself? Voice tone can help in general, but it’s out of context in a club setting. There’s more wisdom in the top comment.
/r/seduction02/08/24 10:36 PM
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“Everyone is special, nobody is irreplaceable.” This is valid in almost any social setting, like work or relationships.
/r/seduction01/08/24 10:49 AM
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I have to block this thread before it becomes a huge flame (to say the least). However, I want to leave some some sort of generic answer: you can’t fit an entire population (males in this specific case) into a single box regardless of gender or age, everyone is different, there’s some people which is a “chronic cheater” for whatever reason (usually, total lack of confidence and craving for validation), while others are loyal at any cost as you said, everyone has preferences in terms of look or s…
/r/seduction01/08/24 10:34 AM
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You are handsome in those pictures, but your eyes scream insecurity. Sounds like you lack inner confidence, and that’s a huge turn off for women. Yet another practical example that looks helps, but won’t get you laid if you lack personal aspects.
/r/seduction29/07/24 04:19 PM
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You’re both partially right and wrong. Reality is more nuanced than that. Art and skills can be trained. Someone is more talented than others, but everyone can achieve results given enough time, effort and practice. Advices are like theory, except that they aren’t universally applicable for everyone, so people should take them with a grain of salt and adapt accordingly. Social science is a thing, but like for the previous point, it’s not exact, reproducible or predictable like math or physics. T…
/r/seduction29/07/24 03:52 PM
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Post removed for nonsense. OP banned 5 days for insulting people disagreeing with post.
/r/seduction28/07/24 07:01 PM
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You can almost always escalate in whatever setting. Most of the times you create opportunities for getting closer or touch her: whispering something in her ear (maybe you are in public and want to say something only her should listen) grabbing her hand to check her rings, nail polish or play hand reading hugging her when you meet at the start of the date, perhaps giving compliments for her clothes, hairs, shoes or some other detail in which she has put some effort (which means, avoid physical co…
/r/seduction27/07/24 09:55 PM
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If you have 2-3k budget, then there are better ways to spend that money: professional therapy travels books gym self grooming (clothes, hairs, …) According to your answers, you just putting a relatively low effort like approaching in gyms (which is wrong 99% of times, unless you meet someone organically) and online (which isn’t real life at all). Going out, living your best life, learning from mistakes (which are the best way to learn) and going forward. Paying a dude of which you barely know no…
/r/seduction22/07/24 11:57 AM
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Trying these stupid acts in workplaces (either yours or theirs) makes people uncomfortable to say the least. If you’re considered attractive, then you can pickup outside your work. Post removed.
/r/seduction21/07/24 02:11 AM
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A genuine smile won’t be considered a gay thing at all. Like in almost any other aspects, it’s never about the “what” you say or do something, but the HOW you deliver it.
/r/seduction21/07/24 12:04 AM
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Re-read what you wrote (also fixes ng the typos) might be good a starting point.
/r/seduction20/07/24 11:56 PM
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I usually summarize content when is worth and relevant, this post doesn’t qualify for that. (Also, OP opened the post saying he wants to write a book, it’s already enough to keep it here). Of course you can summarize it if you dare to contribute.
/r/seduction20/07/24 11:53 PM
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Despite some good points here and there, these look like a bunch of disorganized notes, also badly worded. Nice try, but not very useful for readers.
/r/seduction20/07/24 03:24 PM
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Girls that ask for number on dating apps and then disappear might be scammers. When they act snob it’s usually because you aren’t their best option. When they disappear after some chat maybe it’s because they lost interest for some reason.
/r/seduction18/07/24 11:44 PM
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You can improve both, especially personality.
/r/seduction10/07/24 10:24 PM
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I think this is yet another generalization plus misconception. Being not afraid to show your vulnerability with confidence is different from showing weakness (which might happen in several ways, like emotionally overreacting to some joke). It’s not the specific act of crying to be a turn off, it depends by the context and a myriad of factors, including the level of rapport established. And regarding mental health/issues, it depends if they are thing of the past or an actual one. Nobody would sta…
/r/seduction19/06/24 11:35 PM
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My fault. Thanks.
/r/seduction19/06/24 08:12 PM
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You miss the point in which playing the game doesn’t necessarily involve to be a clown or being manipulative. Honest flirting and escalation are game as well, just played in a more natural way.
/r/seduction19/06/24 11:49 AM
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Being honest doesn’t mean to treat women like pieces of meat. Or, at least, you can do that knowing that 90+% of women will just reject you in the worst possible way, considering you’re a stranger to them. Neediness concept is close to “desperate”, which means that you’re trying at all costs to get laid because that’s all you feel you need. There aren’t paradox, it’s just you misunderstanding.
/r/seduction19/06/24 11:47 AM
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Blocking this thread, it’s becoming an incel-party.
/r/seduction19/06/24 11:27 AM
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Nope. Confidence or social skills don’t come from looks or external attentions. Your height or skin color don’t matter as much as your mindset. The fact that your inner self is believing that these external traits are limits, is the true limit.
/r/seduction19/06/24 12:31 AM
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Where did you pick these ridiculous stats? Have you ever spoken with or experienced any girls or women? Yours is a very narrow and biased view based on… nothing? Women are attracted by much more aspects than plain looks, except when/if they’re explicitly looking for some quick fun, and even then, they’ll need something beyond just look. One simple practical demonstration is the fact that a lot of nice looking people are posting here their struggles, like when they get several matches online and …
/r/seduction19/06/24 12:07 AM
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The biggest flaw in this reasoning is thinking that women are only attracted to looks and just want sex. Reality is much more complex than that. Your mindset is also the foundation for absolute failure with women because of self-fulfilling prophecy.
/r/seduction18/06/24 11:42 PM
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First of all, I don’t understand the use of your words. “attacking”, “I have info” are pretty childish. Then, you can make a girl comfortable and escalate, that’s part of calibration. Finally, there aren’t rules or limits to the number of dates. The problem is when you can’t read the signals and the person, going at a different pace and hence killing the chemistry. This means that too fast or too slow are usually a turn off anyway.
/r/seduction17/06/24 09:35 PM
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It’s part of moderation, which kicks in when some posts might spread potential misinformation for other non-experienced readers. If it was total bullshit, it would have been removed, in this case it has been added some clarification.
/r/seduction17/06/24 05:22 PM
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The premise is conceptually correct (if everything and everyone was perfect, there wouldn’t be excellence), but the content is wrong: looks and money aren’t reliable metrics for human value because they’re outer and ethereal qualities. Sure, depending by age and culture, these aspects could have some temporary importance, but in the end, self-improvement is about developing inner qualities, the ones that stick and make a difference in life. Money or looks are helpers, but aren’t enough: you can’…
/r/seduction17/06/24 09:43 AM
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Attractiveness is mostly subjective, except for some very vague and general traits like confidence, charisma, intelligence, or even grooming. Everyone has their own definition after all. “boring nice guy” doesn’t bring a specific meaning because it’s open to interpretation: what makes a person boring? It depends, I find a lot of things boring which others find exciting (ie: soccer or some pop music or romcom movies) what’s the meaning of “nice”? Is it about NiceGuys or “good guys”? Also, sometim…
/r/seduction08/06/24 02:16 PM
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Wait till you go over 40-45-50 and people will still think you’re 27-30-35, lol I haven’t a strictly baby face, but I’d say a “younger” one. I’ve some grey hairs and beard never grew on my face (except for decent mustaches and enough on the chin to make a goatee (but I didn’t).
/r/seduction07/06/24 11:06 PM
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Excellent advice, and a great part of it is also linked to the concept of confidence. When you’re yourself and appreciate who you are, that’s what makes you confident. Unfortunately, a lot of people in this sub/thread still aren’t getting it properly.
/r/seduction07/06/24 09:20 AM
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Doesn’t look so. It’s more he expects women do his job.
/r/seduction02/06/24 08:54 AM
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The fact that you are good at some stuff like coding or combat sports doesn’t make you more attractive just because of that. It’s still about you, your personality/confidence and social skills (which statistically lacks in many nerds). Having hobbies and a fulfilled life does help, but doesn’t grant to fill a bigger puzzle.
/r/seduction01/06/24 08:53 PM
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One thing doesn’t exclude the other, it’s just that you’re more focused on your stuff. Opportunities to grow your social circle (including women) will come naturally. For example, hanging out with colleagues or joining parties or accepting invites. Keep an open mind and try to manage your time accordingly. Time is like money, but the former only goes away, while the latter has two directions.
/r/seduction30/05/24 08:00 PM
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Then you’re doing it right. Giving precedence to your needs is a good strategy for self improvement.
/r/seduction30/05/24 07:22 PM
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Money and status are only “relatively important”, but they aren’t nothing compared to your inner peace and mental wellbeing. A lot of nice looking, decent status and wealthy people struggle with dating because they lack a lot of fundamental personal traits. The truth is that look, money and status are totally ephemeral, they can come and go very quickly and outside of your control, but what your inner self stays there. Being in your 30s means you’re at the top of your life, you still have a lot …
/r/seduction30/05/24 06:00 PM
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I can only suppose you met a “different culture” which varies from your town for some reason. Another concurrent reason could be the fact that being new, maybe you have subconsciously changed your vibes in some way. In Italy, you can clearly see a difference in culture even moving to towns near 5-10km (which in terms of geographical distance should be considered irrelevant). However I think you’re having the right mindset, taking this as an opportunity to learn something new.
/r/seduction30/05/24 11:47 AM
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It’s full of posts and comments about these topics in the sub. There aren’t specific recipes other than good principles and a lot of practice.
/r/seduction29/05/24 09:51 PM
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Not only this post is breaking rule #1. But it’s also full of bigotry and moral judgement for no reason. Of all these bullet points, the only thing you should consider is the fact that she isn’t into you. What people do with their life, body and time isn’t your business.
/r/seduction29/05/24 09:26 PM
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Then you found something to improve.
/r/seduction29/05/24 04:39 PM
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Confidence and social skills are a developed personality trait, not a technique.
/r/seduction29/05/24 04:38 PM
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Many girls know they have options. The moment you show you’re a good one, then they’re into you. I never said it’s about verbal or body language, but a lot of personal traits concur in making them interested in you.
/r/seduction29/05/24 04:37 PM
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The usual steps to sex are mostly the same which are discussed here (talking, attraction, flirting, escalation…), except that they’re executed faster when you know what you’re doing, especially if you did them countless times for years with an insane amount of different people. Again, no secrets, just a lot of experience and practice on the field.
/r/seduction29/05/24 03:51 PM
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It looks like you’re using random inappropriate words to describe something which is way more simpler and easier than what you’re depicting. It’s not a fight, there aren’t unicorns, victories or defeats, it’s just social interaction which could lead to sex or some kind of relationship given that the involved parties are aligned. How/if this alignment happens is partially determined by the process of seduction (which includes talking, attraction, flirting, escalation, etc…). But it’s not an exact…
/r/seduction29/05/24 03:38 PM
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This is even more bullshit, indeed. Even the term “unicorn” is very stupid in this context. Simple and plain follow of the flow with appropriate escalation and calibration are more than enough.
/r/seduction29/05/24 02:05 PM
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If it turns out that you’re a poor idiot, that same girl could easily change her mind. No need to blast OP for this report. At least, OP kept his ground and just went with the flow. We can’t call it “seduction” in proper terms, he got laid with minimal effort from his side, but who cares? He won a new good memory for his life.
/r/seduction29/05/24 12:36 PM
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Being honest doesn’t imply self-deprecation, while faking it can’t mean you’re trying to show yourself as a “worthwhile and a great person” (whatever you meant with that wording), because you can’t control what other people “wants” from you. What you said in the last part of your comment is in fact working on your inner self, it’s not faking. Using different words to describe yourself is part of the process and still genuine. The attitude comes from yourself and if you haven’t it, you need to wo…
/r/seduction29/05/24 09:37 AM
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But confidence is something you have to build regardless of others. Faking might open the initial door but it’s a matter of time that your true self comes out, given you aren’t caught from the start. So rejection is still behind the corner, and sometimes it’s even worse when you get fooled and mocked like a poor “wannabe” idiot. That’s why it’s better to always be genuine and honest, which at least shows your true self and often it’s more acceptable than faking anyway. Rejection is part of the l…
/r/seduction29/05/24 08:39 AM
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Indeed, faking confidence isn’t worth the effort at all, other than the fact that it will be easily recognized (especially by a woman), hence obtaining the opposite result. I’ve never been a fan of “fake it till you make it” for this reason.
/r/seduction28/05/24 07:24 PM
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If you’re getting dates and sex, I wouldn’t bother about what someone in particular is saying.
/r/seduction28/05/24 06:23 PM
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That’s my point. You usually can’t “act confident”, you either are confident or you aren’t. Being confident also depends by context: you can be extremely confident in something but not in other situations. However, when you have inner peace with yourself, it’s already more than enough. Even genuinely admitting your limits (or being vulnerable) without embarrassment is a form of confidence. That’s why confidence is considered one of the most important things when it comes to charisma and attracti…
/r/seduction28/05/24 05:40 PM
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Being calm, keeping eye contact, showing you have time constraints it’s usually a subtle sign of confidence. Also confidence is reflected on your body language, but it’s unconscious. It’s hard to fake (or keep a fake) body language.
/r/seduction28/05/24 03:41 PM
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Find those 15-30 seconds to talk alone with him and exchange contacts. Then make your move and contact him to set a date. That should be more than enough to show your interest.
/r/seduction28/05/24 12:25 PM
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Except that it’s not what you say or do, but HOW. This is terrible advice because it doesn’t consider the inner factors and the context. Sure, what you suggested might work in the right conditions and done in the right way (which usually includes confidence and genuine respect), but it’s not a magic spell or a math formula.
/r/seduction27/05/24 02:04 PM
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The only outcome should be yourself, which happens to be the only thing under your control.
/r/seduction27/05/24 01:49 PM
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First of all, forget about your self limiting beliefs: You’re tall, but even if you were short, that wouldn’t be a problem. Dick size matters only if you need to be a porn actor, otherwise almost every dick will be ok if you can grant a “good experience” (passion and intensity will arose a girl much more than just your penis size). It’s not the tool, but how you use it. if you focus on dick erection, you’ll almost surely lose it. If you focus on giving your best sex while enjoying it, you’ll kee…
/r/seduction26/05/24 09:11 PM
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More than quantity, that’s a combination of not wanting to commit to a relationship AND meeting a lot of people. Fun fact: he never cheated in those rare stable relationships he had. I wouldn’t label it a mental issue. He hasn’t a sex addiction.
/r/seduction26/05/24 06:29 PM
1

Social media aren’t a representation of reality. Women can say whatever they want and then do the opposite.
/r/seduction26/05/24 08:57 AM
1

That’s your opinion, not facts.
/r/seduction26/05/24 08:56 AM
1

He tells them, if they don’t understand, he ghosts.
/r/seduction26/05/24 08:22 AM
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Your choice. I don’t have reasons to lie.
/r/seduction26/05/24 07:38 AM
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Silly excuses and self limiting beliefs.
/r/seduction25/05/24 10:14 PM
1

Is that important?
/r/seduction25/05/24 10:13 PM
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Defending?! He’s one of my best friends since decades and I’m mostly keeping the argument. That’s not simping, that would be weird.
/r/seduction25/05/24 10:13 PM
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With your mindset I can assure you that height isn’t your issue. I’ve seen girls fighting for a dwarf guy, or my barber which is a very short guy which pulls girls with nonchalance. Just like you can read posts in this sub where tall/nice-looking guys struggle with women.
/r/seduction25/05/24 06:06 PM
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He just learned to carry clothes confidently, but in terms of style is mostly casual. Fun fact: he mostly learned this from me when we were young, he was attracted by my casual/hazardous style and then iterated from that principle.
/r/seduction25/05/24 06:03 PM
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You’re generally right, I usually stick comments which I think people should read (and they’re free to downvote as well) for some particular reason. In this case I sticked it to debunk the usual bullshit about looks/status/secrets and other incel stuff. I didn’t write any personal opinions, just facts.
/r/seduction25/05/24 02:03 PM
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He gets more than 1 girl each week. Sometimes 3-4 in a week. An average of 4-16 different girls per month. It’s not linear, for obvious reasons. Feel free to not believe it, I’m not here to convince people.
/r/seduction25/05/24 01:58 PM
3

According to his statement, he can last hours and hours non-stop.
/r/seduction25/05/24 12:42 PM
3

Rome, Italy.
/r/seduction25/05/24 11:30 AM
2

Never seen his dick, but I think so.
/r/seduction25/05/24 11:29 AM
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No, the contrary. He always says he has a small dick, which he jokingly calls “passpartout” because it easily enters everywhere, especially asses ;-) In fact, having a big dick is usually not “inviting” for anal sex by girls. The amount of anal sex he had is another guinness world record.
/r/seduction25/05/24 11:01 AM
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He just continued for his path, nothing special. He carried on with his life, doing things he liked. He never focused on “getting girls”, instead he just invested in the quality of his own life and fun (which included chasing girls and opportunities in general, but not as a daunting job).
/r/seduction25/05/24 10:57 AM
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He doesn’t spend too much time on social media right now, just a bare minimum. But he did it when FB was a thing, and now he has this pool of tens of thousands connections which sometimes comes in handy to connect to even more people or know new friends-of-friends, like “oh you know X? me too! Bla bla…”
/r/seduction25/05/24 10:12 AM
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He prefers to not commit at all. If he can’t turn the relationship into a FWB, he prefers to interrupt contacts and leave things to a ONS. He had some short relationships, the longest one lasted around 2years. He usually says he doesn’t want to settle because he becomes bored by the usual demands of a stable relationship. In some ways, he’s like a Peter Pan and he knows it.
/r/seduction25/05/24 10:06 AM
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According to what? He has his “game” and personality, and it works for him. That’s the point of my comment.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:59 AM
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According to your post history, I’m not surprised by your reaction.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:44 AM
2

Maybe more. Do some math: an average of 6-15 different women each month for 20+ years…
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:42 AM
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Well, he doesn’t need to do 1000+ random approaches with weird canned lines. He does a lot more and differently than just “cold approach”. He’s so organic that it doesn’t matter how he meets or approaches girls.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:40 AM
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You didn’t get the entire picture then.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:38 AM
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Being handsome “helps”, but that’s not the main point to get those results.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:37 AM
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This sub is full of tall&nice face guys who struggle with women. What’s your point then? You extrapolated two single traits from a much wider picture.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:36 AM
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He has a dog.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:34 AM
3

You’re right, you described the situation.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:34 AM
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Found the incel.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:32 AM
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Sure, I’ve never depicted him like a super human, but the thread was asking about these kind of people, and I brought a real life example.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:23 AM
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I know it’s hard to believe. It’s even harder when you see him doing this in real life ;-) I skipped some details, but he naturally applies all the best practices and suggestions that you can read here. For example, he naturally sexualizes conversation without worries by talking about his “experience” with women which if you think about it it’s basically pre-selection at work. His way to lead the interaction confirms that experience. His abundance mentality is plain obvious, so it happens that h…
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:21 AM
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He’s really afraid to receive a bad rejection. So his workaround is to find a way to speak with them in some way. Of course I’m not talking about going on the street and approach people. But, for example, it could happen at a mall or grocery store. Also, to clarify, he doesn’t go out with that goals in mind. He goes out and makes things happen, which is also my same mindset.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:13 AM
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He got tested several times (not regularly), always ok.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:10 AM
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The age range is 20-50, I won’t share his insta ;-)
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:09 AM
1

I know how he does it, and there isn’t any weird secret or technique.
/r/seduction25/05/24 09:05 AM
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Zero, lol ;-) he wonders the same about how he never got any std until now.
/r/seduction24/05/24 10:42 PM
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Problem? That’s his choice… he isn’t sex addicted, he doesn’t suffer any pain when not having sex (ok, rarely). That’s just his lifestyle. I’m not into that, but I respect him for what he is.
/r/seduction24/05/24 10:40 PM
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Well taken shots. He smiling, with his dog, doing something… nothing special.
/r/seduction24/05/24 10:38 PM
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There isn’t a silver bullet, but one of my best friends is close enough to what you say. Indeed, he had sex with around 1500 girls/women, if not more. And just to clarify for the incel like-minded people, here there are some details about him: he’s not rich or famous, he spent many years completely broken he’s tall, but skinny as fuck. I do concede he’s a nice face he has a feminine voice and manners, a lot of guys bully him for this and many people think he’s gay. and a lot of girls who matched…
/r/seduction24/05/24 09:00 PM
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A kiss is just a signal to say “ok, I like you, there could be something more, let’s see”. That “potential” might end in nothing else, a ONS/FWB or some relationship. If you’re on a date and you break the touch barrier, a kiss is just the next natural step, and even after that, it’s not granted you’re going to get a second date anyway.
/r/seduction23/05/24 11:06 PM
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Given that 6 hours are nothing in terms of defining it a ghosting, as others have already pointed out, you think the date went great and you somehow already broke the touch barrier BUT you didn’t even kiss her, which (usually) translates to zero emotions or sparks. You gave the same vibes of a friend, brother or colleague, not a potential partner. Even if you’re looking for a relationship, it doesn’t mean you should act platonic or asexual, that’s mostly a turn off. Keep this lesson in mind for …
/r/seduction23/05/24 10:53 PM
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Banned.
/r/seduction23/05/24 01:11 PM
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Speaking with numbers, 0.2% success rate (or 2% of dates) should at least teach you something: it doesn’t make sense to repeat the same actions if they don’t work for each failure, you should have focused on what went wrong and why, then working to improve there isn’t a math formula for seduction, but there are principles about social skills and how to deeply connect with people, reading them and adjusting the interaction Going back to a recent discussion about cold approaches, this is also the …
/r/seduction22/05/24 04:48 PM
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As others said, a fragrance isn’t going to make a woman horny without working on other traits or without proper game. Also, whatever fragrance is suggested, it depends on your skin, that’s why you should try by yourself at the store, asking for help to a competent shop assistant. Avoid the top sellers (unless they’re new products which aren’t already massively popular) like Dior Sauvage, because it won’t distinguish you from the mass: imagine going to a club where 80% smells the same…
/r/seduction20/05/24 10:27 AM
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Unfortunately Sauvage, despite it tastes really good, is so abused to become a meme. Many women started to hate it for this reason, who wears it becomes one of the thousands which went for an easy path for the fragrance. It’s way better to try new products and pick the one which tastes good on your skin and fits your personality.
/r/seduction20/05/24 10:19 AM
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"Once again - if you have prepared openers, it's NOT cold approach. Cold approach is off topic in this subreddit, as it involves zero preparation before approaching." Where did you take this statement? It’s not part of this subreddit rules. Also, 90% of removed posts here are about specific situations, incels, spammers, wannabe coaches, off-topics, etc. It’s full of posts/comments about cold approaches and, sometimes, field reports, which weren’t removed. So, what’s the point of your post? Also,…
/r/seduction14/05/24 07:47 AM
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You’ll always find someone who will have something to say against you or your behavior, tastes, friends, etc… As far as you’re a good and respectful human being, there’s nothing to worry about. Yes, age gap can be a tricky topic, but age is a number and every person or situation is different, so nobody can draw any universal rule about it. If there are respect, consent, clear communication and enough maturity from both parties, age comes last. Also, having a date/hookup/ONS is very different fro…
/r/seduction07/05/24 11:17 PM
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What’s your country/culture to ask a question like this? I live in Italy, and members of the family can date whoever they want and it’s not my business. Even if they’re my daughter, I could barely “suggest”.
/r/seduction07/05/24 06:23 AM
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Flirting is (or should be) a fun game, not a boring job. It also depends by context and situation, good flirting happens naturally, if you have to force it, it obviously becomes boring (or creepy).
/r/seduction03/05/24 11:52 AM
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Same here (45+). As a bonus tip, I usually say: “Let’s play a game, how old do I look?”, this set the context in a playful vibe. Sometimes I get the “You have my mom/dad age” answer, and I reply with a sarcastic tone: “Nice, you should introduce me to them, I’m sure we would get along!”
/r/seduction02/05/24 02:33 PM
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Well, once you’re in the circle, things come naturally
/r/seduction01/05/24 07:12 PM
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None of these. Being a clubber/DJ makes things a lot more organic. When I use apps (rarely), I usually match in the age range of 35-50. I used to do cold approaches decades ago (90s-early 2000s), now it’s a bit different because I don’t go out with that purpose. Actually, I approach by just talking with someone.
/r/seduction01/05/24 08:42 AM
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I’m in my late 40s and I deal with girls/women 25-50. I don’t need to act like a dancing monkey, I’m just myself and some people finds me attractive, while others don’t. Some girls are attracted by older dudes, sometimes it’s just for sex, more rarely it’s for a serious relationship. But it’s not valid for all the girls and it doesn’t apply to all the dudes.
/r/seduction30/04/24 09:40 AM
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Your mistake wasn’t the poem, but the lack of calibration. You went like killing a mosquito at 100 miles with a cannon. I’m sure you did it in the most genuine way, but ask yourself why you felt the need to write a poem to someone you barely know in a professional setting. Also ask yourself why you became obsessed, it sounds like neediness (or desperation for lack of options). This mindset is a recipe for failure in 90% of cases. Learn to be calibrated with people, don’t rush because you don’t h…
/r/seduction30/04/24 09:23 AM
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Body count is irrelevant. Quality over quantity is the key.
/r/seduction22/04/24 06:32 PM
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“Interested” and “desperate” are two different things (despite the former can be a manifestation of the latter). There aren’t rules about timing for texting or calls. When things work, they flow naturally. He texted you, you decide to text him, he replies, and so on. The difference is in the overall dynamic: you text once, then you wait for a reply. No need to bomb with texts if the other doesn’t reply. No response IS actually a response, unless they have a solid reason which prevented doing tha…
/r/seduction22/04/24 01:24 PM
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More than chasing big money, in your situation I’d first look for a reliable source of income in general. Once you have a budget, you can decide how to spend it to pursue activities, explore new ideas, etc… You’ll probably meet new people in the process and you’ll have clearer ideas on what to do next.
/r/seduction18/04/24 09:50 AM
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This is a very narrow and limited generalization of what girls want or are looking for. This is also the kind of bullshit on which a lot of young people grow their insecurities. Sure, having good pics on OLD and social network apps will attract attentions, matches etc… but it’s only one small factor in a much wider picture. Betting on shallow aspects, mostly outside of your control, is fragile. Looks, status and money can fade away in many unpredictable ways. Betting on yourself as a whole perso…
/r/seduction18/04/24 09:21 AM
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You’re just insecure and inexperienced, while she’s sex positive and curious. No need to be offensive toward a person who didn’t nothing wrong.
/r/seduction17/04/24 07:30 AM
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I honestly follow a very simple path: I usually open with some joke or reference to their profile I ask them how’s going their day I follow the flow from their responses (given they respond, which isn’t always the case) when I realize they’re giving me their time for the conversation (and it’s almost clear we aren’t two psychopaths), I propose to meet in person for a coffee/drink in 1-2 days if they accept, I then ask for their number I wouldn’t define it “text game”, I think it’s just common se…
/r/seduction15/04/24 10:36 PM
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Same here, except I’m too old to properly handle drum&bass or jungle, so I mostly rely on house/disco and old school techno ;-)
/r/seduction15/04/24 05:05 PM
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You can be a man anyway. The difference with being creepy is the level of desperation and the lack of calibration with the context. Going into a club with the only goal of approaching every girl, regardless of everything else, it’s totally creepy.
/r/seduction15/04/24 02:18 PM
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One of the most common (and best) advice to meet people is to go in places you like, doing activities you enjoy and therefore meeting like-minded people. Going to clubs is clearly not your best case then. How do you think you can attract someone in an environment you don’t like at all? Only because you see or hear about people picking up girls in clubs, doesn’t imply that clubs are places where everyone can get same results, especially if they start from your premises. I don’t drink or do drugs …
/r/seduction15/04/24 02:13 PM
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He had mental issues AND issues with finding a girlfriend. Correlation doesn’t necessarily imply causation. I didn’t follow the news in depth, but if I had to think about what his parents have said, I still can’t find the link of causation. There are a lot of ignorant and over protective parents who try to explain/justify the bad acts of their children by focusing on small details and ignoring the real issues going on.
/r/seduction15/04/24 12:14 PM
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I really don’t know if you’re trying to sell something here or just telling your “story “ (assuming it’s true). I have some friends who played with these AI on their local computers to generate funny pics of themselves and, from what I’ve seen, they look extremely fake, more than the usual “filters” people use on socials. This stuff is evolving at a very high speed, so maybe you reached better results. However, this post smells like an attempt to sell something because you didn’t disclose HOW yo…
/r/seduction12/04/24 08:50 AM
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NiceGuy is a specific behavior in which a guy acts “nice” in the hope to get something back from a girl, however he gets angry and spiteful when he doesn’t get what he didn’t even express. It’s lack of honesty/confidence and clear communication. They usually think that by just acting nice will make the girl in love with them. Then, when they’re rejected, they’ll show all the resentment and rage, like if it’s a girl fault to not appreciate those fake acts. This is completely different from a genu…
/r/seduction10/04/24 08:13 PM
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I didn’t know the guy, the girl was keen. But I didn’t want to hurt that guy. For a brief moment, I thought I could give him a sort of live (and life) “lesson”, but that wasn’t the case, he was nearly to cry.
/r/seduction09/04/24 10:41 PM
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I really wanted to help that poor guy in a better way, I can’t forget those eyes, he was dying inside. I’m sure he didn’t go anywhere that night, but I didn’t want to be an asshole anyway.
/r/seduction09/04/24 10:14 PM
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It exists as long as you respect it. To me, the last time happened a month ago, when I casually met a latina in a club, she was on a date with a “not so experienced” guy. He was barely trying to escalate in an awkward way, while she was clearly giving her attention to me and doing some spicy chitchat. I looked at that guy, I’ve seen he recognized what was happening and his eyes were screaming “OH Nooo! Again!” while trying to hide it in some way. I ejected few moments later and wished them a goo…
/r/seduction09/04/24 08:58 PM
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There isn’t a “truth” with love, except genuine feelings and acts between two (or more) people. Closing thread.
/r/seduction09/04/24 07:49 AM
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I don’t know a coach better than Social Animal which is also free. He used to post his videos here too for some time. Really a great person.
/r/seduction08/04/24 02:01 PM
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Oh well, it matters a lot, because: if you don’t get shown on OLD, you don’t have chances, then you’re wasting time. in bars, the amount of guys that can approach or game appropriately is very low, giving an advantage to who does. This isn’t to dismiss OLD apps at all, but they mostly work with a binary logic: they either work well or not at all. In the latter scenario, it’s better to go in real life, where chances are way higher (given you have enough inner/outer game).
/r/seduction07/03/24 04:58 PM
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It depends by the “score” the OLD system assigned to your profile during the first 2-3 days. That score influences how many times your profile will be effectively shown to others. So, if a bunch of women have swiped left in your first days on the app, it means that your profile will go down the stack becoming actually invisible. So, sometimes, you won’t even be shown to 100 people in a day on OLD apps. That’s another reason why a lot of men struggle with dating apps.
/r/seduction07/03/24 04:47 PM
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You either didn’t understand the book, or you’re trying to manipulate few pieces for the sake of your argument. At this point I don’t think that adding more arguments will help the conversation.
/r/seduction06/03/24 08:00 AM
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First of all, there’s a huge difference between “easier” and “simpler”, this is why Mistery and Models are the opposite: Mistery method is overly complicated and mostly lies on outer game (looks, negs, routines). It’s basically a rigid set of behaviors to act. I concede it has some basic theory concepts which are correct, like the stages of the process (approach, comfort/attraction, escalation, closing), but it fails with the application of these concepts. It’s not simple, but it’s easy to follo…
/r/seduction03/03/24 09:42 PM
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“Simplified”?! Models is the exact opposite of Mystery method. Mystery method is the easiest to follow because it’s basically outer game with some acting by hiding your true self. Models is easier to read but usually much harder to apply for many people because it’s mostly focused on inner game, which a lot of people struggles with.
/r/seduction03/03/24 08:23 PM
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That’s the most horrible form of manipulation. DON’T DO THAT.
/r/seduction02/03/24 05:48 PM
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I really disagree with several of those points. The first 2-3d are somehow common sense in social interactions. The rest is are very self-limiting and often wrong, especially in the form of bullet lists like commandments. They aren’t. These points can make beginners more nervous than they already are. As long as you are honest, direct and genuine, there aren’t too much rules on this part. Rather than acting like an idiot, you can focus on flirting, escalation, but also joking and teasing. You ca…
/r/seduction02/03/24 12:44 AM
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Well, I’m an old “young soul”, with children. I still do clubbing and DJing. It’s not incompatible with having kids, especially if you’re divorced. Of course I have some “limits” for a good reason. The time I’m not spending with kids or at work, it’s “free time”, which means some nights each week.
/r/seduction18/02/24 02:01 AM
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Ok, maybe I have a twin brother in some part of this globe. Same for me.
/r/seduction17/02/24 06:59 PM
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Came here to say this. Same for me. Being 45+ male just opens the pool with demographic which goes around 20-50yo girls/women. That said, it depends by the person and context. 8 times out of 10, my problem is that interacting with young girls with the age of a potential daughter, and this turns me off. Unless they jump over me with clearly sexual intentions, which indeed happens 2-3 times out of 10.
/r/seduction17/02/24 06:57 PM
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Feeling awkward is natural the first 1-2 times, but then you realize that: Nobody is caring about you being alone. Seriously, if they’re with friends and having fun, why they should look at you? If they do, most often than not, they’ll admire you for having those balls. You feel weird, but you aren’t doing anything wrong, so that’s just your self perception. Have you ever looked at someone alone at a bar or party? Did you feel that person was weird? If you can enjoy yourself and your time, you’l…
/r/seduction14/02/24 11:37 PM
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That’s what every experienced member of this community keeps saying, while inexperienced/incels think that everything relies solely on looks.
/r/seduction12/02/24 08:45 AM
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Age is a number. It’s never to late to learn or do things, except for things that aren’t “physically appropriate” (eg: starting learning parkour or skateboarding in your 50s is very risky, because breaking a bone at that age is way more painful for recovery than when you’re in your 10-20s).
/r/seduction11/02/24 10:17 AM
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You got several good advices from members of this community, this topic is recurrent, so let’s break it down: Game and social skills can be learned. A redditor used the metaphor of “learning to walk”, which required a lot of falls but also a lot of fixes to your muscles, posture and movements. Don’t waste time and energy on blaming yourself, use those failures as learning opportunities. You must compete with yourself, not with others. You need to win against your insecurities. Other people is ou…
/r/seduction09/02/24 05:08 PM
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I usually start with drinks then I follow the flow, which means that if things are going well it will become a dinner elsewhere plus more after dinner, etc… My point is that I wouldn’t go for a dinner as first date with an OLD match. This is also a way to make them comfortable. I usually change 2-3 situations during a first date also for that reason.
/r/seduction30/01/24 11:24 PM
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All good reasons, but you forgot the first one: going to a restaurant is like a trap if any of you wants to eject as soon as possible for whatever reason.
/r/seduction29/01/24 10:16 PM
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I’ve received countless approaches from girls/women in clubs, and I’ve also seen them approaching friends or other people. So, they come to you. Not always or to everyone, but they do.
/r/seduction28/01/24 12:16 PM
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It’s a wrong generalization. People goes to clubs for different reasons, for example: they love clubbing, sex is included in the overall lifestyle. They go out, have fun, meet people… casual night: the: “tonight we will go to club!”. Mostly same as above. thirsty-ness/beginner: the “I’ve heard people gets laid when they go to clubs, never been there but let’s go and spam approach everyone to see how it goes”
/r/seduction28/01/24 01:45 AM
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If you firstly try to have fun AND make your approaches more casual, you’ll look like someone who wants to have fun. Otherwise you’re “the thirsty weirdo” of the night and, most importantly, you have had an awful night by yourself anyway.
/r/seduction27/01/24 11:09 PM
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This is a double edged sword tip. Given that whatever shortens the distance is good, and this one was funny and effective, the bad part is that it doesn’t consider the overall context, in which OP already had green light from her and he just had to escalate. This means that this “tip” only works in a context of attraction and intimacy. It’s not a magic trick that turns on girls. I know this should be already obvious for many, but “it’s better to remember two times than forgetting once”.
/r/seduction14/01/24 02:03 PM
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When I wear a dungaree I get dozens of jokes from men and tons of compliments and approaches from women. So yes, men perception is different.
/r/seduction02/01/24 08:42 PM
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Here are some rules of thumb in order of importance: clothes in which you are comfortable with fitting and curated ones appropriate for the context From there, it’s about your style and tastes
/r/seduction02/01/24 05:06 PM
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This community never went against any supposed “hypergamy”. The fact that your clients are having their biological alarm-clocks ringing after they achieved their supposed life goals has very little to do with their requirements for a man. If they don’t look for a partner which fulfills the real aspects of a relationship, why do they want children?
/r/seduction27/12/23 11:43 PM
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First of all, this is a sub for both genres, so your question has been put wrongly from the start. Second, it looks like the problem is more about your female clients not accepting a man that earns less money than them. As many commenters already pointed out, a lot of men don’t consider an issue the women achievements, so there aren’t “turn-offs for their masculinity”, this is a biased projection. Blocking comments.
/r/seduction27/12/23 10:22 PM
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Again: I never said that. I’m talking about vibes and fuckability.
/r/seduction09/11/23 10:38 AM
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You’re assuming too much for the sake of the argument. I never talked about emotional connection or said anything bad about ONS, I had plenty, but that’s not my point. The topic is about metrics and fuckability, which is only partially related to look. You should know that even hookups/ONS are made of that. Vibes can go to zero the moment anything is said or done or whatever else happens that kills them.
/r/seduction06/11/23 03:06 PM
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Indeed, you talk like someone who never touched a girl.
/r/seduction05/11/23 08:44 AM
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My standards involve a bunch of metrics, not just looks. Look fades, other traits not.
/r/seduction02/11/23 06:50 AM
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The bad part is objectifying a person and using only the look metric. And this kind of reasoning is also why a lot of guys complain so much about their looks, or the fact they can’t attract top-models, or they get anxious when interacting with a nice looking woman. There are many other personal factors involved in attraction, and OP is right when he says that it’s way better to use a binary classification. There are many 4-5s (in look) which are way more interesting and sexy and thus fuckable, t…
/r/seduction01/11/23 11:03 PM
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Just remember that introvert doesn’t mean socially awkward or lacking confidence. An introverted and confident person might spark mistery, which is attractive for many. A socially awkward person will just be like that, regardless of how they feel around people.
/r/seduction05/09/23 09:24 PM
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I would throw some thoughts in random order: confidence: you gain it with time and experience. I’m not confident with mechanical engineering because I’ve never touched that topic, but you should because you’re getting a master in it. Same happens with other contexts: the more you’re into it, the better you’ll improve. Not easy, but possible, just like your master in mechanical engineering. being introverted is not an handicap: it just means it requires more energies to interact with the outside …
/r/seduction18/07/23 12:01 PM
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You’re missing the whole point: You say something in a confident way for the sake of your own amusement, and THAT makes the thing hilarious by itself, regardless of any rational thought. It’s almost never about the line and a lot more about delivering and context.
/r/seduction05/06/23 12:25 PM
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more like: if you say something in a (very) confident and joking way, whatever you say will make them laugh and melt the ice, especially when it's absurdly unexpected. the contrary is also true: you might say the smartest/funniest/clever thing to someone, but if you do it with insecurities in mind, it will never work.
/r/seduction31/05/23 09:18 AM
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I partly agree depending on context. RSD is not a good source of what you call theory. Their product is based on selling even more theory. Hence, 242hours of plain practice with interaction and communication does much more than watching scammy videos for desperates.
/r/seduction16/10/22 01:02 PM
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I’ll be brutally honest about what I’ve seen in the pics: you’re average looking, but the pics make you look way below. choose clothes that fit AND curate details (no belt in the first pic?!). Pick a style that makes you somewhat unique. Wearing average random clothes won’t make you stand from the crowd choose an hair/beard style, one that gives you “points” and makes others think you care about your grooming you have a good smile, but your posture screams insecurity. Maybe some gym might help a…
/r/seduction08/07/22 04:00 PM
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How does it relate to my comment?
/r/seduction08/07/22 12:40 PM
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What’s the point of your reply to my comment then?
/r/seduction08/07/22 06:12 AM
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It’s just not the right (neither the shortest) path to effectively learn social skills or gain confidence. A newbie will put effort for 1000 to get a barely 0.1 when he’s lucky. And again, OP was referring mostly to daygame, when awkward unexperienced guys are trying to hit on random good looking girls/women, unable to catch any clue about their mood or interest in them, pronouncing some weird canned line like if it where a magic spell, hoping for the best.
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:23 PM
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You can achieve the same by doing nightgame in the proper places and contexts. Bonus points if you’re doing it solo. Cold approaches done in daily situations (groceries, streets, workers, etc…) is a waste of time (compared to actual results), usually creepy because 99% of people trying it haven’t any bare trace of social skills and thus making things worse for themselves and their “targets”.
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:05 PM
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Lesson #1: every girl, even a girlfriend, is not your “bro”. Lesson #2: nobody owes you nothing, they can change their mind whenever they want for whatever reason, even without acknowledging you. You’re young, learn from this and take it easy. You danced with others? She did the same and that’s also ok if a girl wants to kiss others (except if you’re both officially committed in a relationship, but that shouldn’t be the case when you’re 16 and would have a different outcome)
/r/seduction07/07/22 05:54 PM
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Not to mention that even if you’re barely decent looking, the ratio between the number of approaches and success is like 1-3 out of 100s. The average success for the same person in other environments and kind of approaches is way more higher. Also, if I was a woman, I’d be bored and tired to get constantly hit by (most of the times) creepy guys while doing normal daily activities.
/r/seduction07/07/22 05:41 PM
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many incel forums started idolizing Elliot Rodger for what he did…
/r/seduction05/07/22 06:00 PM
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Incels usually become spiteful toward the world around them. girls/women because they jave rejected them good looking males because they get laid their parents because of genetics they inherited etc… (whatever brings self-commiseration) The fact is that incel-status should be seen more like a mental disease where the person blames everyone and everything except himself. They have zero experience about life and social things They “imagine” women like if they were a different living being not belo…
/r/seduction05/07/22 11:17 AM
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Wrong sub, try r/sex
/r/seduction04/07/22 11:28 PM
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/r/seduction04/07/22 10:44 PM
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Trying doesn’t cost anything, but I bet the chances are low. Good luck, and don’t be “that guy” ;)
/r/seduction04/07/22 10:29 PM
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/r/seduction04/07/22 10:23 PM
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/r/seduction04/07/22 10:22 PM
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This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities. Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work? As for the last one, it is an a…
/r/seduction04/07/22 10:20 PM
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If she was interested, she would have continued the conversation for sure. Also, approaching her with that excuse and assuming/pretending interest just because she politely replied to your inquiry smells a lot of incel/creepy/fake nice guy. Usually the plot continues with the guy insulting the woman, and the woman blocking/reporting that guy.
/r/seduction04/07/22 10:18 PM
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It looks like you’re starting from a very good position, and your plan sounds good in general as well. I’d just like to add some inputs you might find useful to consider: I’ve seen a kind of pattern in your story: ok, you have a good look, but you attracted girls by enjoying and acting on things you like to do. by reading your words, it looks like you’re overlooking and/or diminishing your success with girls/women. you said you’ve been with the ones you were interested, so I suppose it’s just a …
/r/seduction04/07/22 10:09 PM
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Still waiting for the proof of what you said. Walk the talk if you’re so sure about this. This is coherent with your post: you didn’t get the point, still looking for validation from other incels here, and getting butt-hurted by those who told you a different explanation.
/r/seduction04/07/22 08:43 PM
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Quote an example like I did, otherwise it’s only in your head.
/r/seduction04/07/22 07:44 PM
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here's one of the examples of feedback you received: You weren’t rejected for being nice, it was for being timid. I think you’re taking away the wrong lesson from this experience. and here's your civil reply to that user (this comment has been removed): Jesus Christ man get your head out of you asshole. And here is how you replied when I told you that this story is anecdotal and you wrongly generalized (like incels usually do): Sir it’s not anecdotal. And I think your thinking capacity on this s…
/r/seduction04/07/22 07:12 PM
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Nobody attacked you with insults, people here said you misinterpreted the situation. You felt attacked for nothing. Instead, you replied with “bitches” and other butt-hurted insults. Just like every incel here.
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:38 PM
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If you feel butt-hurt for some feedback by other peers, it confirms what I (and others here) have written. Relating a singular experience to a general topic is called generalization. About the removal: besides the official rules, there’s also room for common sense in moderation by removing posts with low quality content, flame-prone comments, etc… you just came here with a story, you generalized conclusions based on your single point of view, then rejected/insulted any feedback with a different …
/r/seduction04/07/22 08:37 AM
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Your experience is anecdotal, wording and conclusions are very close to the incel-mindset.
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/r/seduction04/07/22 12:11 AM
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I can clearly see 3 points here: being a “fake nice” (aka NiceGuy) is obviously a turn off, it’s easy to smell. It’s dishonest, reveals a total lack of confidence and a lot of desperation. Giving unwanted attentions and eventually blaming the other person for not giving to you what you were secretly pursuing is an unhealthy mindset and behavior. being “nice” in terms of charismatic and confident politeness is a huge turn on for many women. A person can be nice while leading the interaction in a …
/r/seduction04/07/22 12:09 AM
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/r/seduction03/07/22 11:30 PM
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Why do you want to “approach the topic” while you can just follow the flow of escalation? This doesn’t require to be verbalized, especially in a context where you’re getting high. Keep logic out of the door and enjoy the experience.
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:21 PM
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Wrong sub, try r/BDSMadvice
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:14 PM
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This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities. Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work? As for the last one, it is an a…
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:03 PM
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That’s not really the point. Similar apps, like photofeeler are really useful to improve your profile on OLD apps like Tinder. Sometimes people thinks they picked good pics for their Tinder profile, then they get near to zero matches, the app assigns a low rate to your profile and finally your chances are gone.
/r/seduction03/07/22 08:32 PM
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Yes, a clear explanation about how it works (along with some clear and privacy-friendly policy) might improve signups :) for the chicken-egg problem, maybe talking about your app in subs/places where there are already communities of profile ratings might attract some people.
/r/seduction02/07/22 10:26 PM
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Interesting idea! I think it might be more useful to explain how it works (how are rated profiles? from who?) in the home page. If it’s built around a community dynamic, I can see two potential problems: chicken-egg problem: nobody signs up because there’s nobody in tunnel-vision bias: if the judged is also the judge, this might lead to false flags
/r/seduction02/07/22 08:14 PM
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I don’t know that one, but if it works for you, that’s perfect! :) I’ve mentioned the ones that are known to be very appreciated by women (and I can confirm). They aren’t the average/cheap colognes, and women’s sense of smell is usually way more developed and “deep” than men’s. You’re right that being recognized by your unique smell is a game changer. When in doubt, I suggest those colognes, but if you can find one that you like and is appreciated by others, you already won ;)
/r/seduction02/07/22 10:36 AM
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These are some of the most appreciated by women. They aren’t cheap, but you’ll stand from the crowd. Sauvage by Dior Creed Live by Yves Saint Laurent
/r/seduction02/07/22 07:29 AM
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Are you expecting them to throw themselves at you just because you’re fit? Dude, you aren’t the only available fit guy out there, you’re just one of many, and your body is just one of the needed ingredients to be considered attractive. How’s your grooming? Hygiene? Clothes? Demographic? Age? How about your charisma/confidence? Any ability in reading social clues? Flirting? As I said, your fit body is only a small piece of a big puzzle.
/r/seduction01/07/22 08:24 PM
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If you enjoy weight lifting and it makes feel you better, go for it. If you do it just to attract (more?) women, then be prepared for a lot of disappointment. Maybe, and it’s not granted, you’ll get some gaze, but are you able to deal with the rest? How do you carry yourself, your posture, your social skills, etc… can make a huge difference. Too many times I have seen super-jacked guys walking around in clubs desperately craving for gazes, but they get close to none, they just look like idiotic …
/r/seduction01/07/22 04:58 PM
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Maybe you have a good Tinder profile to get matches, but you lack some game to seduce them. This is yet another proof that having a good look it’s only a small part of a bigger picture.
/r/seduction01/07/22 04:46 PM
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Sometimes it might be hard, but rather than relying on social media, I’d suggest you to read some book (whatever), learn a new skill (a music instrument? drawing?). Also going out alone in venues/activities you enjoy might offer opportunities to build a social circle with people who enjoys that venue/activity (demographic might vary depending on this). If you don’t know where to start, go on something random, after all not doing nothing is a hopeless waste of time anyway. Try random things until…
/r/seduction01/07/22 09:26 AM
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You haven’t a crystal ball to understand if someone is “genuinely interested” or not, even if you were in real life. Instead, try to focus on what interests you, based on their profile and maybe after some chatting with them. Prepare to a lot of weird people, chatting and approaches online, but hopefully you might also find interesting ones. Women on dating apps are usually overwhelmed by likes/matches, so you might have to handle a lot of “attentions”. Mod note: as someone has already pointed o…
/r/seduction01/07/22 06:33 AM
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If genders have been reversed, what you call “miss huge cocks” wouldn’t have complained about how many girls he’s banged in college before her.
/r/seduction30/06/22 08:00 AM
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This is a 700k users sub, most of them are a mix of unexperienced, incels, nice guys, insecure people, and very young ones. Getting weird/incel/misogynistic comments to a post like that is inevitable. But luckily, you’ll also find comments/replies with more reasonable counter-points which are somewhat “more objective” than the subjective opinions about seduction styles. As a community, we need people with common sense and experience to help/educate others.
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:51 AM
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Again, you’re very young, don’t feel stupid for your feelings. Instead, feel you were so lucky to meet a unicorn. Enjoy the memories, learn from them, use them to fuel a bit of confidence.
/r/seduction28/06/22 11:31 AM
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I think you had a great ONS experience, take it as it has been. You’re young, and what happened to you is very rare (I mean, that’s a common fantasy for many of your age, but it stays a fantasy for the 99% of guys out there). Enjoy this experience, that’s a great anecdotal story, BUT also move on, because she has been clear (also the situation was: you meet someone and you had sex, no room for anything else).
/r/seduction28/06/22 08:09 AM
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I don’t thrust PUA coaches in general, maybe some of them might be useful but I don’t think they’re worth the money invested. You might start with the basics, by reading a book like “Models” by Mark Manson and putting yourself out there. The same amount of money might be spent in wardrobe, an haircut, a gym subscription, or traveling somewhere. The more you “build” yourself (tastes, habits, goals, confidence, boundaries, grooming), the more you’ll see “changes” in your interactions. If you have …
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:35 AM
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You don’t need too much words to explain concepts. If you need 2000 words for each reply, it usually means the concept isn’t clear for you neither. You did 3 posts in few days and pretend that what you said here is revolutionary new stuff? The problem is not length, it’s the ratio between length and the content you’re bringing to the discussion. That usually means you lack clarity and feel the need to prove you’re right anyway. If you did a search, you’d note that this topic (numbers game) has b…
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:22 AM
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Nobody has complained my mod style, and I’m not the only mod. Regarding the ego, check yours, considering you have to write 2000 words answers to explain basic concepts.
/r/seduction28/06/22 05:57 AM
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A definition of confidence I like is: “owning whatever you do or say, with the confidence that whatever happens you’re going to handle it with success”. Even if you don’t know what you’re doing, going with the flow and acting with unapologetic honesty it’s a sign of confidence.
/r/seduction27/06/22 10:42 PM
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You both have legal age. Age difference depends by the people involved. If you’re both happy, nobody should care.
/r/seduction27/06/22 10:29 PM
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Did a quick read just to see what you have to say in yet another wall of text. If you post stuff that I disagree, I’ll comment my way. If you post bullshit, I’ll just remove it as usual. Easy.
/r/seduction27/06/22 06:46 PM
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You write too much to express simple concepts, and I have no intention of “winning” any argument. I’ve already expressed my opinions and experiences, mostly for the other readers.
/r/seduction27/06/22 06:15 PM
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Cold approach is not the only form of seduction. Sorry, I didn’t read your last comment, too long.
/r/seduction27/06/22 06:01 PM
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Well, I replied, even if I don’t care too much about raw numbers. I’m more focused on people and having great experiences.
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:08 PM
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The kiss-closes where just referred to my teenage years. The rest is sex. And yes, you can achieve 60% closes IF you select the right context/venue, the right demographic, and play well your cards. Of course I don’t shoot blindly and I don’t spend my time doing cold approaches for the sake of it. I just go out chasing fun, and I either get approached or I decide to approach someone I find interesting at first glance. For me, it works with a fraction of the time and effort.
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:06 PM
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No, I meant cold approaches AND social circles. Yes, I had same outcomes at 40+ with 20-30-40-s girls/women.
/r/seduction27/06/22 09:03 AM
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Yes. Had sex or kiss-closed. Being teenager in the 90’s, at least in Italy, it wasn’t as easy to reach the “sex stage”.
/r/seduction27/06/22 08:09 AM
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Dude, I’m way over-40, and I did this shit for 30+ years (excluding the LTRs). I have a social psychology degree, plus I’ve read the great part of books dedicated to seduction, pickup, etc… I’m also a mod in this sub. That’s to say that whatever you write here, there’s a very high chance that I’ve already tried/did/read that. Even when I used to cold approach girls, my success rate was around 40-60%, my friends had even 80-90%, and we hadn’t to approach hundreds. If you put 100 to get 1-4, it wo…
/r/seduction27/06/22 07:59 AM
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This.
/r/seduction27/06/22 07:16 AM
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If it’s true that you made 8000+ approaches, using canned lines and getting at best an average success of 1-4%, to me it looks more like you’re experiencing a Dunning-Krueger effect.
/r/seduction27/06/22 07:13 AM
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You got a bunch of upvotes, that’s fine, but that doesn’t indicate 100% quality anyway.
/r/seduction27/06/22 06:06 AM
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No, but there’s a common sense rule to avoid bullshit that might damage newbies.
/r/seduction27/06/22 06:03 AM
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Well, it’s a subjective thing. I got several icebreakers with bartender girls because of this. When you ask for a non-alcoholic drink, they usually manifest the weirdness of this in a way or another (they tell a joke, they make some smirk), that’s where you can throw some joke or witty line.
/r/seduction26/06/22 11:13 PM
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I don’t drink. I don’t need to offer drinks to get time and attention. I wouldn’t even consider intoxicated/mildly-drunk women. Yes, I got laid anyway.
/r/seduction26/06/22 11:00 PM
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Want the easiest and actionable suggestion? Dance and have your own fun (if on the dance floor): they’ll do with you Smile and keep eye contact: they’ll smile you back Take their hands while smiling and dancing: they’ll give their hands, or they’ll just take them back Make them “rotate”, gently grab their hips, hug them (not too often, not too long, calibrate!) and whatever allows “touch” between you. This is a gradual and non-verbal escalation, if she’s comfortable, continue, otherwise stop the…
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:52 PM
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You dedicated 80% of your post to the numbers game. Then a bunch of other concepts here and there without digging into the core of, more important, concepts that need to be worked by a newbie. All that text, the wording (guru, secrets, success/conversion rate, talking about hundreds of cold approaches, etc…) IMHO this doesn’t make a great service to the average newbie reader here. Playing the numbers game usually requires a huge amount of time and effort with the lowest outcome possible. When yo…
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:15 PM
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It’s more than clear, considering I’ve read this same shit over and over, thousands times during the years. Numbers game is just one of the many “methods” that people tries to sell here. But as in many human things, what works for one, doesn’t imply that it should work for everyone.
/r/seduction26/06/22 06:09 PM
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I had, otherwise I wouldn’t have commented.
/r/seduction26/06/22 03:34 PM
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You wrote a huge wall of text to convince people that if they approach 3-4 people per day, they’ll have sex with around 1 to 4 of them. Unfortunately, math doesn’t apply to human behavior, so you can’t determine this “outcome” by just playing with numbers. Successful seduction is the result of many factors, some of them are just out of your control, others are (at least help a lot).
/r/seduction26/06/22 11:50 AM
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These venues are made for having genuine fun, including (to some extent) meeting someone and eventually having sex or just making new friends. Also, in these venues, people usually (ab)use drugs & alcohol, and can have unpredictable behaviors which might go from violent reactions to having sex with you and then reporting you for rape because they (almost always) don’t remember what went on the last night. Source: I did and do a lot of clubbing/raves.
/r/seduction04/06/22 11:41 AM
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You picked a weird emotion: “fear”. How about happiness, love, fun, etc? After their reply, you can go on describing how you experience those emotions to see if you’re relating to her.
/r/seduction04/06/22 09:48 AM
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Isn't it better to be "bad", make them suffer as if you flirt with other girls and so on? I read your meaning of “bad” like a sociopath or a narcissist behavior. In terms of romantic relationships, hence involving love, what’s the point in being bad? Also, do you think a healthy and mature person wants to waste their time with someone like that? Spoiler: NO! I mean, make them feel you are something worth it which they can lose at any moment, no? You can show your value in many other positive way…
/r/seduction18/08/21 01:01 PM
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how can you feel them safe and secure? "safe and secure" isn't necessarily meant in physical terms. there's also safety in terms of relationship: being present, loyal, careful, passionate, etc... are, to some extent, a form of safety too. why should a person (regardless of gender) invest themselves into someone which doesn't make them feel "safe" in terms o a romantic relationship? sure, there are attractive people which are good enough for ONS or a FWB, but not for something more serious. but y…
/r/seduction18/08/21 10:28 AM
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Given that not all women like money, status and the rest of your list to get attracted, the same goes for love. People in general is attracted by a myriad of different things, and to fall in love for someone requires at least that they are keen for a relationship, or that there’s incredible chemistry and the idea that it might be a good investment of time, energies and emotions for someone.
/r/seduction17/08/21 09:07 PM
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The fact that no girl has ever approached you in real life or on social media doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ugly. First of all, that’s quite rare, and most probably you haven’t a great profile and/or you don’t give the right vibes for them. Look matters only for certain girls AND almost always only to some extent.
/r/seduction12/07/21 11:20 PM
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Except that you were already scared and insecure by your own. Going (gently) in for the kiss or asking for consent doesn’t change things too much. If she want to kiss you, you’ll get green light, otherwise she’ll make sure it’s a No.
/r/seduction19/05/21 07:39 AM
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I’m the one who usually ends relationships after 3 months. After 2 months I start seeing what’s wrong and by the third month I understand I’m wasting my (and her) time. I had a 15+ years relationship, then I got back again to the 3-months ones until recently. At least for me, it’s something I feel in the gut. I agree that the honeymoon stage doesn’t make you think rationally.
/r/seduction17/05/21 11:07 AM
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Delivering matters the most. If you're also original, that's much better. Attraction comes also from there (despite many virgins don't think so).
/r/seduction14/05/21 07:58 AM
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It's a sub for many frustrated women, just like there are frustrated men hating women in a way or another. As far as I've seen, they usually talk about being "high value women", protect themselves from creeps and narcissists, etc... many of them have had bad experiences with men. It looks like the other side of the same coin. I'm not going to promote it, but neither to cancel it.
/r/seduction13/05/21 09:16 AM
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This post is made of wrong generalizations. Most advice given to men in dating seems to involve improving yourself/your life. Making more money, lifting more, be more confident, be more charismatic, read more books, improve your wardrobe. In other words they say you've always got to be adding something. Indeed, these are (good) general advices to people who can't get laid and ask how they can improve. After all, you have to start somewhere. What they are is exciting and fun, who give no fucks In…
/r/seduction13/05/21 08:36 AM
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In terms of relationships, I’ve always been with older girls/women because I’ve never found so much chemistry with younger ones. Then I met a special person which is 10 years younger than me (I’m 40+).
/r/seduction12/05/21 11:40 PM
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Everyone wants to get back to “normality” as soon as possible, regardless of gender or having just sex. Me and many other people I know were able to have sex anyway, it’s just that there were less opportunities to go out freely and meet people. Who, for whatever reason, wasn’t able to get laid before, won’t see any change if they didn’t change something about themselves during this quarantine.
/r/seduction11/05/21 10:17 PM
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I know what I’m talking about because I’m in the game since some decades. But you still didn’t reply about any success, and you’re feeling butthurt by just “feedbacks”. If had to be rude, I would have said that this post is bullshit coming from someone without any experience on this field. Yes, I’m just one of the mods here, and if this is the kind of contribution or debate you want to have here, then you can go elsewhere for sure.
/r/seduction11/05/21 08:00 PM
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Ok, how much did it worked then? Looks like a lame exercise. Many people says they get hundreds of girls from OLD apps, but 80% of other people don’t even get 1 match. Spreading random tips isn’t the way to help others.
/r/seduction11/05/21 05:23 PM
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As another commenter said, moving on is the right thing to do when it didn’t worked. Chasing someone in these situations usually means stalking/harassment or lame ridiculousness for yourself in the best case scenario. Chasing MIGHT be appropriate when things are going slowly forward AND you genuinely like someone AND the other person didn’t explicitly rejected you OR the rejection was somewhat “soft” (ex: “I’m actually busy” or “I’m not ready to date again because...”, which should be considered…
/r/seduction11/05/21 04:39 PM
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No, you aren’t helping. That’s cringe as fuck.
/r/seduction11/05/21 04:25 PM
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I’ve seen it working when it was very specific to a person and situation. And by the way the woman was definitely insecure by herself, she usually has sex with everyone gives her some attention (she’s a friend of my ex). Playing the numbers game on places where you go everyday will backfire and will come as the cringest/low-effort way.
/r/seduction11/05/21 01:20 PM
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You shouldn’t “be this” or “be that”. Be yourself: honest with your intentions, self-centered and confident. The rest is calibration: you give proportionally.
/r/seduction11/05/21 06:58 AM
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Yes, fun is a key part of the process. Even getting rejected can be taken with fun, rather than with frustration, it will help your self esteem by accepting that it didn’t go well, but it can only go better next time.
/r/seduction11/05/21 06:53 AM
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I’ve read your posts, another member gave you an excellent reply, I’d only add some tips: go to therapy, (possibly a woman, she’ll understand better and will help you getting some practice by just talking with her) start with a mindset of knowing people and having fun, not to have sex with women if you know your fears are based on bullshit, then don’t give a fuck about that bullshit practice makes perfect
/r/seduction10/05/21 11:08 PM
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Mushrooms are somewhat safer than LSD, it depends by which one you grab (I’d suggest the lighter ones if you’re a beginner). They usually put you in overall good mood. LSD can backfire if not dosed well (lucid nightmares) and they need someone sober around to guide you and prevent you from potential death/self-harming (most obvious one: you truly believing you can fly from a window). I’ve used both (and many other drugs, except heroin and crack) for recreational/experimental purposes (rave parti…
/r/seduction07/05/21 09:19 PM
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Plain and simple bullshit. Maybe girls/women don’t have the same way to express what they want in a male-friendly way, but if you have been with some woman, you’d know they are right for many aspects (it also depends by each person, of course). Many guys tend to ask for the exact formula/recipe and they want a step-by-step howto, while all they need is just some common sense to handle an interaction with a person of the opposite sex.
/r/seduction07/05/21 08:15 PM
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It has never been a good book except for the good narrative which created hundreds of thousands delusional people out there. It helped, to some extent, to build a giant industry of bullshit sold at crazy prices. That industry was already there, but more underground. Rather than reading it with the eyes of a desperate/frustrated incel, I did see only a desperate which learned some tricks to manipulate low value girls in the show-biz (which he already knew, given his job) by paying another insecur…
/r/seduction07/05/21 08:07 PM
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Epistemology and/or ontology aren't Epistemology and/or Ontology topics that you study for a Philosophy university degree? (don't know if it exists in all countries)
/r/seduction07/05/21 10:11 AM
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only if you're dating a philosophy student, why not ;-)
/r/seduction07/05/21 08:49 AM
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just remember that the rules of this game weren’t created by men the routines are designed to follow your rules with these words, you're basically putting responsibility on girls/women. but what you call routines are just a kind way to approach a stranger. the opener I've seen you from there and I just wanted to say Hello, if done with honesty, it's more a social protocol (or etiquette). you’d have hundreds of guys approaching you and saying the same thing every day I think it already happens to…
/r/seduction07/05/21 08:41 AM
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Nothing wrong in honestly falling in love for someone and showing it to them by “just be(ing) yourself”. The most common (and misinterpreted) mistakes are usually these: not calibrating your behavior in a healthy and honest way could be seen as too pushy/needy or, even worse, not genuine. If you fall at their feet after an “unreasonable” low amount of time that’s something that smells wrong. not being coherent in thoughts, words and actions: when people (for example) acts “alpha”/macho” and then…
/r/seduction06/05/21 11:07 PM
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Nice metaphor ;-)
/r/seduction06/05/21 10:16 PM
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/r/seduction06/05/21 12:42 PM
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It’s his choice, so he should accept what comes with it. I think every religion is something very personal: you either follow it, or not. There are different shades of acceptance, but in some cases (I think in particular to muslims and jews) their boundaries aren’t very clear because they mix culture, law and spirituality at the same time. For example, jews are citizens of Israel, an ethnicity (with a culture) and a religion at the same time, while muslims have culture, religion and law almost a…
/r/seduction06/05/21 12:07 PM
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Are you also religious? If so, "how much"? I know there's this bias toward muslims in western countries, but that's also because media (and sometimes, word of mouth) depict muslims in a rigid way (I've heard that religious values overlap the laws in general). I'm atheist, I give respect BUT I wouldn't date any religious person in general, especially the monotheist ones (christians/catholics, muslims, jews, ...). I tried to date a buddhist for some month, but it didn't worked (and I also got some…
/r/seduction06/05/21 11:04 AM
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this is a silly generalization, made from someone who doesn't even have any experiences with girls/women.
/r/seduction06/05/21 08:16 AM
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/r/seduction06/05/21 08:14 AM
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We’re 7+ billions in this world, the only thing you can control is how you behave.
/r/seduction05/05/21 07:31 AM
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You can carry on your life applying what you think is the right way to interact with girls/women.
/r/seduction05/05/21 07:08 AM
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AFAIK that kind of people need time to process emotions, they’re sensors and think in more practical ways than “abstract” feelers. The fact that he said stuff like “I missed you” is like an official declaration of love, he truly meant that, and it’s not something he would say easily to someone. Learn about the 5 love languages, and you’ll see that not everyone shows their love the same way.
/r/seduction04/05/21 08:59 PM
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It’s usually something reciprocal that you sense. You start making out, if it’s the right moment/place you also move your hands on her body, you hold her tight, and if she’s ok she’ll reciprocate in some way. If she becomes rigid or stops you, then “maybe” that’s not the right place/moment, or she doesn’t feel comfortable for a reason or another. I’d avoid public places or situations where you both know that you can’t escalate to sex, but if she’s reciprocating, then you might just say something…
/r/seduction04/05/21 08:50 PM
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There aren’t rules. Sometimes you might have sex at the first date, sometimes it’s just a friendly interaction to know each other. For sure, if you sense chemistry, it’s a green light for escalation.
/r/seduction04/05/21 08:39 PM
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Nothing wrong with a dinner, except that it’s too “static” and sometimes doesn’t give you opportunities for escalation, but that also varies by several factors.
/r/seduction04/05/21 08:35 PM
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When someone (no matter the gender) self-describes like that, it’s always a huge red flag. It usually means they have self-esteem problems so they prefer to “bark” to look more aggressive. A person which is confident, doesn’t need to state something like that.
/r/seduction04/05/21 08:15 PM
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That’s just common sense. As a male, I do the same when it happens to me, and it happens a lot. I made out with a lot of girls/women on the dance floor, almost never asked their name or number, it just happened there and it can stay there as well.
/r/seduction04/05/21 08:10 PM
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Whatever lets you to stay close and talking. The best path is a combination of more places/activities, for example: coffee/drinks then a walk in a park (or something like that) and/sitting on a bench then ice-cream or street food (something to consume on the way) then something else etc... Every new venue will sound like a new date, and for each step you can potentially escalate the ladder, like: first venue/activity: light or no-touch then elbows/shoulder then grabbing hands then kiss/make out …
/r/seduction04/05/21 08:07 PM
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You might have a lot of chemistry, but romantic connections take time to build. Maybe you’re just idealizing and overthinking too much. Let the things flow.
/r/seduction04/05/21 07:56 PM
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It depends by the person. Someone prefers plants to “cutting” flowers, others don’t even care. But, if you’re inspired to bring flowers, I’d personally go with a simple one, like a sunflower. Avoid roses, too cheesy.
/r/seduction04/05/21 06:49 PM
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Yes, but out those 30 “easy matches”, you should consider how many will eventually have sex with her. I get few matches on Tinder, but when I do, it also ends into a date in 2-3 days and (usually) I have sex with them. Matching on Tinder isn’t seduction, it’s just the first step to get in touch with someone, the outcome isn’t granted.
/r/seduction04/05/21 01:59 PM
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Maybe because most guys here are looking for exact math formulas, which is way far from how real life works in general. Many guys are delusional about thinking that “if you do THIS, then THAT happens”, and many others are frustrated because they can’t find what this magic formula is. I’ve seen hundreds of posts upvoted where someone says that “women are focused on emotions, while men are focused on logic”, then, when a woman states exactly the same, it’s considered not useful. Can you spot the i…
/r/seduction04/05/21 01:51 PM
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It depends by what men you’re talking about, and at the end of the day, it’s not the number of men to make something about women more true. According to the posts in this sub, many don’t even know what they’re talking about.
/r/seduction04/05/21 01:45 PM
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It isn’t a math formula for sure, but I think this post is accurate enough in general.
/r/seduction04/05/21 01:43 PM
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I didn’t mentioned ethics or manipulation. I was just pointing out that a 6 years gap (18 VS 24) might be a lot in terms of experience. A 18yo is fresh from high school and started recently to gain some independence, while a 24+yo has had 6 years more of that stuff, regardless of how much sex/relationships he/she had. A 24 Vs 30, or 30-36 gap is much different.
/r/seduction04/05/21 01:41 PM
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I think your comment is bullshit (and even a bit frustrated), because you didn’t get the core point of the post. it wasn’t about what to do, but more like how it works for girls/women in terms of seduction. Sure, girls/women have a huge amount of options at their will, but that doesn’t mean that we, as men, should ignore such details. 60% (if not more) of the guys here still think that there are magic tricks/words/actions to seduce women, but when a woman tells her perspective, it’s considered b…
/r/seduction04/05/21 12:31 PM
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Do not reply to this troll.
/r/seduction04/05/21 11:49 AM
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Maybe not necessarily borderline pedos, but neither healthy or mature people, considering that behind a seemingly developed body, usually there isn’t an enough developed mind in terms of life and experience. Like it or not, real life isn’t like the “teen” category in a porn website.
/r/seduction03/05/21 11:13 PM
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What’s the point in “just approaching, not relations”? Is this a way to say that you’d want to “fuck girls in their late teens, but not legally underage”? I’m not going to judge you for that, but if I were you, I’d ask myself what is the goal and reasoning behind that. Age gap isn’t an issue when people is enough mature and with a developed personality. A person in their teens, no matter what the law says, is usually not adult yet in terms of maturity. And if you think that it would be easier to…
/r/seduction03/05/21 11:06 PM
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To me it’s the same. I don’t have problems with alcohol or drugs, I like them a lot, I just don’t want to rely on them, especially in stressful situations.
/r/seduction03/05/21 03:10 PM
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I would replace your step2 preparation with a frozen shower and some pushups. I like to be as sober as possible, especially when going out solo. My rule is: never link a mental/physical state to any external aid like alcohol or drugs, because if you do, it will be much more harder (if not nearly impossible) the times you won't have it.
/r/seduction03/05/21 08:40 AM
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I started doing pickup in the mid 1990s, the techniques in the MisteryMethod are just childish to say the least.
/r/seduction03/05/21 08:13 AM
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except that you're training with the wrong training wheels
/r/seduction03/05/21 06:59 AM
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Acting with fake behavior, using negs and other manipulative techniques won’t help in the mid-long run. Even Mystery and Neil Strauss had to admit that.
/r/seduction02/05/21 11:13 PM
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I’m sure I won’t regret for many reasons. First of all I’m in my 40s, and I already had a marriage (with kids), so I know very well the rules of LTR game. Second, she also had many unresolved issues which I didn’t want to take on my back. Third, I actually found a person which represents what I’m looking for.
/r/seduction02/05/21 11:09 PM
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Yes, it works for many, but it’s outdated, defective of many other concepts and definitely not honest or genuine. I wouldn’t recommend it to any beginner.
/r/seduction02/05/21 10:55 PM
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Well, my intent was to give a different point of view. I agree that nothing could be taken for granted in general, but few weeks of dating can’t be reliable at all.
/r/seduction02/05/21 10:48 PM
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I’ve been on the “other side” some months ago, I can tell you what made me act in that way (without pretending it’s the same for your case). Things progressed very quickly, I had my toothbrush at her home, seeing her many times per week (mostly at night, when I’ve done all my daily duties, etc...). Great chemistry, great sex, she took a lot of care with me, she cooked delicious dinners for me, etc... BUT after few weeks, I’ve started feeling in my gut that something wasn’t totally ok. So much re…
/r/seduction02/05/21 06:00 PM
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No piracy material here. I’ve found it through torrent, I can’t remember how many GB it was, but I deleted it because it was an endless talking about basic concepts you can find everywhere. Of course, they had to put a lot of hours to justify the price, but to me it was scam bullshit, just like all the RSD material.
/r/seduction02/05/21 05:45 PM
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Well, I focused my attention on the overall principles (what it calls “the friend formula”), because once you understand (and somewhat internalize) them, you have more tools at your disposal. Also consider it wasn’t all new to me, I already applied many concepts by myself, and already had some knowledge of the topic. If you want to dig deeper on the body language topic, I suggest “What every body is saying” by Joe Navarro (yet another ex-FBI agent/teacher). My usual rule of thumb is to never tak…
/r/seduction02/05/21 05:39 PM
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It’s weird if you already think it is. No problem in holding her hand, it only depends by how you do it.
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:39 PM
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“MeToo culture” is yet another bullshit excuse for incels and redpillers to hide their failures at seduction. Just like the MeToo itself has been built to hide a toxic culture in the show business through hypocrisy. I met/dated several hardcore feminists, of all the problems I’ve faced interacting with them, I never had the need to ask for consent.
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:24 PM
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My usual rule of thumb is to not dig too much into details if I didn’t have sex with her yet. I know that a lot of guys like to talk about that from the start, sometimes might it be appropriate, sometimes it isn’t at all, because you’re building expectations for what is coming, but you can’t be sure of how it will go with that person in particular. The truth is that every sexual experience with someone is almost unique. So, regardless of how many partners she (and you) had, you’ll both know the …
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:17 PM
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Whatever tip I’d give to you might be inappropriate because every specific situation varies by several factors (for example: why you didn’t escalate at least at the second date?), but as a rule of thumb: if you gave goodbye-hug, then you can start from there and give her a hello-hug or a hello-kiss-on-the-chick (depending by your culture, in Italy kiss-on-the-chick is an informal way to greet almost everyone) after the initial greeting, I’d ensure to keep the touch by grabbing her hand or puttin…
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:03 PM
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Confidence, maturity, emotional stability are the first traits. We’re in 2021, and even if human beings still inherit some ancestral behaviors from the animal world, the importance of some traits is mostly faded away or mutated into something else. A modern woman can “survive” without the presence of a man: she’s economically independent, she isn’t more exposed to dangers than a married one, because even married ones go out alone and are potentially exposed like any other woman. If you’re lookin…
/r/seduction01/05/21 10:20 PM
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This. It’s the practical use case of “owning it with confidence”. The way you talk about it matters: if you sub-communicate in way that looks like a problem for you, it will be the same for her. If you own it like it’s something you don’t care at all, then (probably) she won’t care as well. When or how to talk about it, it’s up to you, but it’s part of your calibration in the interaction. Just for example purpose, it might go like this: you’re talking about something like health, or surgery or w…
/r/seduction01/05/21 10:12 PM
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Whatever the venue, if you didn’t even break the touch barrier the first two dates, I wouldn’t expect to go straight further at her place; it might happen, but it sounds unlikely. This stuff varies by every single case, but the constant is usually made through escalation, even if it goes at a slower pace. Once you arrived to the “making out” stage, then you can worry about where to have sex.
/r/seduction01/05/21 10:00 PM
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It’s not related to what happened to you.
/r/seduction01/05/21 03:24 PM
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It’s an AI trained with all the Shakespeare writings, then it can generate fake writings with the similar “style” in terms of words and syntax. Here’s one of the many experiments: https://github.com/burliEnterprises/tensorflow-shakespeare-poem-generator
/r/seduction01/05/21 03:03 PM
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That’s interesting. We mods have several spam-filters, sometimes they’ve ad-hoc tuning, but the one in particular you’re talking about is indeed very difficult to spot through automated filters. We usually do manual removal as well. Regarding the possible AI, I can’t exclude that. If you have a bigger enough dataset to train the AI, it’s not that difficult to setup one. Even a quick search on Github is enough to find several ready to use projects with decent models (the most common are the Shake…
/r/seduction01/05/21 12:20 PM
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Movies and fictional entertainment can’t be taken as a source of truth or even thought, because they don’t represent reality. Reality can also be much more complex and weird.
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:48 AM
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She was kind and crystal clear. It’s outside of your control, you can only decide if it’s ok to wait or move on.
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:45 AM
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Every person is different, whatever the reason behind them. Depending by many factors, you might be the kind of person which can make her more comfortable or not.
/r/seduction01/05/21 11:38 AM
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Totally agree. I also see some toxic behavior in some “extreme feminist” movements (the ones were “all the men are assholes”), but I see them as the female version of redpill/blackpill for men. Speaking about incels in general, I think that you got the main point: they are unable to adapt or even understand basic human interactions. Sometimes the only knowledge they have comes from Hollywood movies and porn which leads to very delusional “theories” about attraction, seduction and relationships i…
/r/seduction01/05/21 12:22 AM
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The cherry on the top is: “I need a girlfriend so I can finally have sex”, basically reducing girls/women to a “resource”.
/r/seduction30/04/21 11:17 PM
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If something like that ever exists, it would be clearly bullshit. The only fact that it is based on the dichotomy of “penis erected” and “wet vagina” in the context of sex, it raises a huge red flag about its validity.
/r/seduction30/04/21 11:13 PM
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Scientists are still trying to understand the dynamics behind sexual arousal, which FYI goes way beyond the simple “penis erected” and “wet vagina”. You clearly lack even the basic experience of having a sexual intercourse, or any kind of (verbal) fight with a girlfriend, otherwise you’d know how/why it usually ends with sex (or breakup, for that matter).
/r/seduction30/04/21 11:08 PM
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Agree. Many guys fail to understand the core of several concepts, they lack experience and then they build (or follow) these toxic theories: “being confident” becomes “to be alpha” and “treat women like shit” “being kind/nice” becomes acting like a “white knight which has to rescue the poor princess”, and then they blame women for not falling in love for them “after all the things” they did. Plus, all that pseudo-science bullshit about “social conditioning”, “evolution”, “hypergamy”, manipulatio…
/r/seduction30/04/21 10:55 PM
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Women dislike the NiceGuy (which is insecure and dishonest of their intentions), but usually are flattered by a guy which isn’t afraid to show his vulnerable side, his honest kindness , his clear intentions, etc... It always relies on HOW you’re kind. Their idealized Prince Charming isn’t a doormat or a NiceGuy after all.
/r/seduction30/04/21 04:27 PM
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The lesson here: when this shit happens, always keep an eye on the person/victim you're interacting with.
/r/seduction30/04/21 02:59 PM
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this clearly demonstrates how you never experienced what you're talking about.
/r/seduction30/04/21 01:35 PM
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because the stereotype has infested the subconscious of women she wont perceive it, she will play the script her subconscious, which was programmed by evolution girls treat nice guys one way, asshole another this is pretty redpill bullshit. i suspect that this is also the dynamics that happen during makeup sex or sex just right after fighting. women enjoy being treated like shit, again, bullshit. it's usually a way to release mutual tension and strenghten the relationship. a fight, just like sex…
/r/seduction30/04/21 01:24 PM
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I’ve read your post and your comments in this thread, and I’m leaving some points for you and, hopefully, other readers here. you’re overthinking too much. to the point that you’re so frustrated that you want to ghost her you’re putting expectations on how you think she should behave with you (eg: replying to your text in a more satisfying way) not everyone has the same “love language”, maybe you’re more verbal and explicit, but you can’t know if she has the same. The only fact that 1) she asked…
/r/seduction30/04/21 11:56 AM
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You need to detach/recover from the “marriage mindset” and start thinking with a “single mindset” again. It takes some time because you’re still thinking that the people you’re going to meet/date is “reliable” just like you used to be with your (now ex) wife. Instead, nothing is granted and nobody owes you anything. Having a chat or going out for a date, or getting a number means literally nothing. Learn to focus 100% on yourself as a single individual, with your hobbies, tastes, goals, friends …
/r/seduction29/04/21 11:43 PM
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Between being platonic and saying you want to have sex, there’s a “I like you” which is better than the other twos. There are also flirting and kino escalation. And of course, there’s calibration which should guide you during the entire process.
/r/seduction29/04/21 11:20 PM
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there's also bad/toxic knowledge and Dunning-Krueger effect for that matter.
/r/seduction29/04/21 03:55 PM
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words are important because they have a specific weight and generalizations are just lame. and if you express a concept the wrong way, even the results will be wrong. for example: To be confident first you need to first be high value not true. that's how this generates hundred of posts from frustrated/delusional people out there we live in a world of weak men. Where they don’t have any masculine traits same as above. that's a silly generalization which doesn't apply. "masculine traits" and "be h…
/r/seduction29/04/21 03:52 PM
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high value is always a vague term because is subjective and/or relative to a specific context, if any. confidence is when you feel comfortable whatever you do or say. assertiveness is how you express what you have to say, which usually (but not necessarily) involves confidence.
/r/seduction29/04/21 03:39 PM
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dominance and assertiveness/confidence are two differrent things. I've seen so many fake dominant people out there that I lost the count.
/r/seduction29/04/21 03:04 PM
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/r/seduction29/04/21 12:59 PM
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Exactly
/r/seduction29/04/21 07:04 AM
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Being yourself doesn’t exclude the fact that there’s ALWAYS room for improvement.
/r/seduction28/04/21 11:32 PM
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Your first mistake is to “act”. If you can have success being yourself, go for it. Also, there’s a huge misunderstanding between being macho/dominant VS “being able to lead”/having confidence. I’m far from the macho stereotype, but I’m bold, confident and with a genuine “I don’t give a fuck” vibe. I speak calmly with a somewhat “constant and low tone” (because if you want to hear what I’m saying you just need to shut up and listen, otherwise I don’t give a fuck anyway). It turned out that many (…
/r/seduction28/04/21 11:28 PM
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I’m 10+ years older than you (18 years LTR). Dated 22 to 50yo. Currently in a relationship with a woman which has your age. My dad has had dozens of women until his 50s, now committed to a woman since 20years. My best friend is 45+ fucks 10+ girls each month. The list goes on. Age is a self-imposed limit.
/r/seduction28/04/21 11:07 PM
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(as a mod) thank you for taking the effort to write such wise words. I really hope people will read and understand what you said. It honestly would deserve its own post.
/r/seduction28/04/21 10:49 PM
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Given I don't have money issues, I just focus on the Time part, which to me is more scarce. Dealing with time is like a financial investment where the goal is to enjoy how you spend it.
/r/seduction28/04/21 03:46 PM
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getting rewards for my efforts this can be a dangerous mindset. thinking you're doing an effort usually ends in you never reaching the goal. I've seen many people (even outside the "sex" context).
/r/seduction28/04/21 02:04 PM
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The main difference is that money goes and comes anyway, while Time only goes forward, and you can't have it back. If I only have 2 hours of my spare time, I need to make a choice. If I spend 100$ in something, I know I'll have new money within the next payday.
/r/seduction28/04/21 01:57 PM
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I don't know, I've never needed to pay, but I understand that for some poeple, that's the only way they see to get sex. I'd prefer OP's reasoning, rather than blaming the universe for the lack of sex.
/r/seduction28/04/21 01:53 PM
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exactly. I frankly don't care about the 0-100 or 50-50. I like to pay a beer to my friends, I might pay for my date, but it depends how much I'm inspired doing that and if she's comfortable. the sure thing is that I don't care about money. I have a well paid job. each month I add new money in my bank account. Instead, my time (as a 40+ man) is much more valuable because I can't have it back, so I put much more attention in spending it the right way with the right people.
/r/seduction28/04/21 01:23 PM
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I spend money every time I go out, regardless that it's a date or not. Money is not a valuable metric in this context: I'd spend it anyway. What I'm really spending are the points I listed above.
/r/seduction28/04/21 01:08 PM
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Sure, but my currency is not cash :-) I pay with: my (valuable) time my energy my attention my personality my funny witty banter my overall social skills but that's a (social) trade: I pretend back to have a nice experience, regardless of the outcome. To me, a successful date is when I enjoyed MY time with another person, which doesn't mean it would necessarily end into sex (even if it ends like that most of the times).
/r/seduction28/04/21 12:58 PM
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Not about seduction, but more into building meaningful connections. I liked a lot this book: The Like Switch by Jack Schafer P.h.D. & al. The author is an ex-FBI agent which worked into "recruiting" foreign spies, terrorists, etc... I think that once you know how to connect well with people, reading people in terms of body language (and/or micro-expressions) and having enough emotional intelligence to calibrate and communicate clearly, seduction is reduced to the minimum terms: being clear about…
/r/seduction28/04/21 10:45 AM
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Even if I’ve never been into the concept of “paying for sex”, I admire your maturity and consciousness about it. At least, you found a practical solution to your needs.
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:17 AM
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It has been scientifically proven that “words create thoughts”, so the metaphor of “prey” can’t really generate good thoughts. Same goes for terms like “target”, like if you’re talking about enemies to conquer. Social virgins can be helped with proper and clear advices, not with misogynistic metaphors. Women are welcome to participate in discussions with their points of view, and applying a better language can only help them for inclusion.
/r/seduction27/04/21 11:08 PM
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I’ll be short, I hope my points can help a bit: don’t suddenly put all your nice cards on the table. As the other commenter already said, niceness doesn’t build attraction in the short term, but you can surely show that it’s a conscious act from you if someone says you’re too nice, sometimes she’s telling you just a fact, other times they’re just overwhelmed because they aren’t used to it or they aren’t ready yet to receive all that kindness out of the blue you can calibrate/compensate your nice…
/r/seduction27/04/21 10:48 PM
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Movies and TV series aren’t even near something that can help. Instead they create a false image of the seduction. They’re made for entertainment. I’ve seen all (or at least most) of the titles you’ve mentioned, none of them will help for sure. Some of them are also ridiculous to say the least. The best advice is to go out, watching TV for mental masturbation is the path to become an incel.
/r/seduction27/04/21 09:55 PM
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Given you’re truly woman (which I personally doubt, but nevermind) , it’s clear you like a confident and dominant man, and I think is somewhat “normal”. I don’t know why you had to use the “alpha” term so often in your post, though.
/r/seduction27/04/21 09:45 PM
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You used a pseudo-proverb about fishes. Fishing is like hunt, therefore you compared women to preys as well. Does it make sense? About advices: as a general rule, you can take lessons and advices from everyone/everywhere IF you’re able to see and listen correctly and put it into perspective. If you take things too literally, you won’t find advices nowhere. If you can “read behind the lines”, you can learn a lot of stuff from everyone. And last but not least, I’m frankly bored by people insisting…
/r/seduction27/04/21 09:05 PM
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But according to OPs words, it isn’t the case of hidden agreement. You can be nice AND explicit about your feelings and intentions AND confident in delivering them unapologetically. I’m usually warm and nice with the people of my choice, and I’m not afraid to communicate my intentions, I’ve never been disappointed. At the same time, I can be really cold with many other people for whatever reason. And the fact that I clearly sub-communicate that I genuinely don’t give a fuck about what other peop…
/r/seduction27/04/21 08:55 PM
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You shouldn’t take advice from anyone else, for that matter. You have a very limited sight on the women world. But with the right eyes and hears you can learn a lot. Just the fact that you see women as “preys” demonstrates you still need to learn a bunch of things about human interactions in general. Which indeed is one of the main problems incels usually face.
/r/seduction27/04/21 08:42 PM
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I think you can be nice the way you are, given you’re genuinely confident and unapologetic. If/when someone tells you’re being so/too nice, you can always reply that that’s the way you are, it’s part of yourself and you do this with everyone because it makes you feel ok. You can also say you don’t give a fuck how people reacts to you being nice, you decide when and who deserves this trait of you. All this is valid if you’re truly genuine and coherent with your actions. Sometimes people (especial…
/r/seduction27/04/21 08:35 PM
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That book solves the Nice Guy problem, but it doesn’t look like OP has that problem. Nice Guy is when someone is nice only to expect/pretend something back, and they get mad and blame others when they don’t get what they want. Something like: “I’ve been nice with you, therefore you owe me something back”.
/r/seduction27/04/21 08:23 PM
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Well, maybe it’s true we have different worlds. Just to reply to your points: me and my friend are over-40s, dating in the age range of 20-50yo I’m more focused on meaningful relationships (even FWB, but it must be worth my effort in time and energy, because I have a busy life). My friend is mostly unemployed, but he even dates women with high status/career. None of us has never seen a woman asking for our income, for that matter. I actually live with my parents, because I’m divorced and I’m per…
/r/seduction27/04/21 07:22 PM
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Indeed, this is an incels mantra.
/r/seduction27/04/21 07:04 PM
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The only tangible proof of these reports is the excellent storytelling. Yes, stories like those can be real (and I know they happen, I have real life proofs), but people who read don’t get ALL the context behind them and thinks it worked because of the specific pickup line, etc... when in reality there are many more dynamics behind it: a great overall look, the right vibes, the right moment, the right confidence, etc...
/r/seduction27/04/21 04:50 PM
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There isn’t an answer that fits all. Common interests can help in many ways, but it isn’t a big deal if there aren’t any. What makes the real difference is the person you’re interacting with. If she’s open to new stuff (and you’re open as well), it gives you a huge opportunity to discover new experiences. On the other hand, sometimes your interests are so different that they make more difficult to connect. For example you might like hard-core clubbing while she enjoys silent outdoor walks, and b…
/r/seduction27/04/21 04:35 PM
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this smells like redpill bullshit. I don't even care about the so-called "metoo" movement, which in my opinion is just another way to hide hypocricy in the show business. the king has always been naked, no surprises. that being said, there's a very clear line between being disrespectful of a person's boundaries and lead seduction escalation. if you can't see it, blame yourself rather than putting "social constructs" into discussion. if you can calibrate AND "read" the situation AND being enough …
/r/seduction27/04/21 02:56 PM
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/r/seduction27/04/21 01:09 PM
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R\seduction used to not let women post at all and it was way better in terms of the quality of field reports I hope you can understand the two things aren't related at all. Other than removing hundreds of post each day and allowing different point of views from other genders, the quality of posts is made by the users of this community.
/r/seduction27/04/21 01:07 PM
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Lol no! Instead, he thought to sell “his services” several times, but never did. He’s both good looking to get many women throwing themselves at him and enough savvy to handle them. He just just pulls: OLD apps (hundreds of matches each week), social networks (has thousands friends/followers, even in grocery store he gets approached by women). He complained he can’t even have a friendship with women because they just “assault” him. I know it might sound unbelievable, but everyone who went out wi…
/r/seduction27/04/21 08:18 AM
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That’s what emerges from your profile history. I only talk for my experience, and that’s how I know I’m right. And of course I can’t take seriously someone which is still figuring out how to get laid in real life while pretending to teach what women want based on what he has seen on porn products.
/r/seduction27/04/21 12:43 AM
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That’s a fact, not a personal attack. He said something that in this context sounds like bullshit, without having any proof or background to bake it.
/r/seduction27/04/21 12:36 AM
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You’re sticking with two terms I used, still pretending to teach me something, while you’re struggling with faps and porn. I don’t know if you can see how this is hilarious and delusional at the same time. I don’t ban people which disagrees with my opinions. If you want to get banned, you just need to break the rules on the sidebar. Until then, your opinion is still legit, even if it’s just delusional and not baked by any proof from you.
/r/seduction27/04/21 12:34 AM
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It works much better when you know your own value (which is another way to talk about confidence) and you are just yourself. Talking about hookup like if they were some mystical goal is the worst mindset to seek any success.
/r/seduction27/04/21 12:23 AM
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I just don’t pass on these shit. I must admit it’s a flaw for me. See, if I were so butthurt, I could remove all the comments, lock the thread, or ban you. I didn’t.
/r/seduction27/04/21 12:17 AM
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Weird, because if you ever did a search for previous posts in this sub you’d find all the topics you mentioned.
/r/seduction27/04/21 12:12 AM
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I didn’t removed any comment, I don’t need that. But I see you prefer to say I’m a virgin to hide your problems. Have a nice fap for today.
/r/seduction27/04/21 12:10 AM
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Sure, I always say that one size can’t fit all. I’m always open to different opinions and point of views. What I don’t accept, however, is when a frustrated guy pretends to teach delusional concepts which he haven’t had any chance to apply in practice.
/r/seduction27/04/21 12:07 AM
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Not too different from these days when it comes to real life interaction. The real difference was mostly about what you already said: pre internet/social networks/mobile phones forced later interactions in a different way. number closing meant they gave you their home phone number (which also happened to be fake, sometimes, like today). No textgame, phone calls were used for small talk and set up dates (you can’t keep your home phone busy for too long, after all) there weren’t books, videos or e…
/r/seduction26/04/21 11:54 PM
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Lol, a guy with porn and fap addiction trying to teach me how to seduce women.
/r/seduction26/04/21 11:32 PM
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I’m afraid for your grandma loss, but this is off topic and I have to remove it.
/r/seduction26/04/21 11:28 PM
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You might start reading Models by Mark Manson, which is a much better book in terms of right advices. The Game was something between an autobiography and a fictional novel, where the author put too much emphasis (and in fact, all the characters in the book suffered relationships troubles). Other than books, start going out doing something you like. Even going outdoor with a bike is better than staying at home (ignoring Covid restrictions for a moment). If you don’t enjoy massive events, look for…
/r/seduction26/04/21 11:27 PM
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I can write books by myself with my experience and knowledge about the topic. Considering that I started doing pickup way before it was even a “movement” (and most probably, you weren’t born yet).
/r/seduction26/04/21 11:14 PM
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Sure, whatever.
/r/seduction26/04/21 11:12 PM
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Social Psychology degree and 30+ years of experience in dating and pick up. You’re right, I don’t know nothing, lol.
/r/seduction26/04/21 10:27 PM
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Not a bad book, it has valid points, but: it’s a bit outdated (the concepts are valid, how it’s written isn’t) too much words and anecdotes. It could be a lot more concise. Storytelling is great, but that’s too much it’s more about being liked as a person in general (which is good) rather than seducing. I’ve read much better books above this topic
/r/seduction26/04/21 10:15 PM
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Only if you can’t learn from a different point of view, which also happens to come from what you’re looking for. The mistake is to take words too literally, just like when people asks for exact words to say or actions to take, then they complain it doesn’t work.
/r/seduction26/04/21 10:06 PM
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This surely comes from someone who doesn’t know women or needs these silly tricks in the hope to get laid. A confident, mature man who isn’t afraid to be enough caring and nice with women doesn’t need to fear rejections for his actions. He just acts naturally, and he’ll feel ok if it either works or not.
/r/seduction26/04/21 09:57 PM
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You played your cards well, it looks like you did what many people here call “technical game” but in a somewhat natural way. Please don’t overthink about the alpha/beta bullshit, you put a time-constraint (fake or not, it was audacious), and it doesn’t matter if then you stayed a bit more with her. It might be interpreted like you preferred to stay there and delay your plans for her which might come as you giving some attention to her. Even if you left her to her friends, that would look like yo…
/r/seduction26/04/21 09:44 PM
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Fictions won't teach anything useful, it's something made for entertainment which doesn't reflect real life. Read books from professionals, go out there and learn by doing. Watching movies, anime and tv series for this purpose is a waste of time.
/r/seduction26/04/21 10:38 AM
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I think confidence can be shown in a wide range of ways, so it depends by what you really lack in the confidence compartment. Maybe you’re just shy or insecure about something, but you’re confident in other contexts. As a man in his 40s, I’d personally be turned off by lack of confidence in the “relationship” context. For example, a woman “depending” on me and waiting for me in almost anything in the relationship makes me run away soon or later. It happened to me several times, and the average d…
/r/seduction24/04/21 10:38 PM
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Edit the post and remove the google.com/au/amp/s/amp part. it should work
/r/seduction24/04/21 10:05 PM
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Can you edit the link to avoid google/amp? You can directly link to the post.
/r/seduction24/04/21 11:30 AM
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Stop overthinking. Do what you feel is right to do. You’re 16, live your life the way you like. Enjoy experiences, meet people, improve your social skills and the knowledge of how to be around other people. Then, IF you face some opportunity, decide what to do. Want to fuck? Go for it. Want girlfriend? Be selective. Etc...
/r/seduction23/04/21 07:05 PM
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“my skinny friend gets laid” my skinny friend is just one of many I know. him in particular has a very high body count, for that matter. therefore you don’t have to lift/lifting being physically healthy is always a good thing for personal health. if, as a side effect, it also makes you more attractive, then it's a plus. To me it’s common sense girls generally like muscle. here is where I strongly disagree: I don't see it as common sense in regard of girls/women. I think it's common sense for you…
/r/seduction23/04/21 03:34 PM
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The Game is mostly a novel, with some autobiographical content.
/r/seduction23/04/21 02:20 PM
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well, thanks for your comment, and I mostly agree in general. In case I wasn't clear about it: I'm not against workouts, I do workout for myself and my own health, not to get laid. The fact that I might be a bit more attractive with a jacked body is just a plus. Physichal activity has tons of advantages (I believe in mens sana in corpore sano which translates into healthy mind in a healthy body), but it isn't THE key for attraction and seduction. But when I see a post from a delusional redpiller…
/r/seduction23/04/21 12:40 PM
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English isn’t my native language, do you mean blowjobs? If so, it’s a personal thing. Many women also have orgasms when giving it, others do it because their partners enjoy that, others don’t like it. Does she enjoys you going down on her?
/r/seduction23/04/21 09:37 AM
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Don’t take those (good) advices too literally. Just get the general idea and work on it.
/r/seduction22/04/21 10:42 PM
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This isn’t r/seduction material. There are other subs for that.
/r/seduction22/04/21 10:39 PM
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yet another close minded post about outer game without taking into consideration basic self grooming and inner game. if your goal was to help others here, I'm afraid to say you didn't.
/r/seduction22/04/21 10:12 PM
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We know for 100% fact "we"?! speak for yourself, don't generalize or put me in that bucket. This is delusional for sure, though. You think fit women = attractive again, don't put words I've never said in my mouth. fit women are just a meaningless body without other important traits that I personally value in a person. In my experience, and I can say I have a lot, being nice looking is just a term of a much bigger equation. I spend my time, emotions and energy for who is really worth the effort, …
/r/seduction22/04/21 10:06 PM
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That’s your point of view and I respect your opinion. I agree with the fact that doing physical activity is a good thing for personal health, but I totally disagree with the equation “physically fit = attractive” tout court. Being fit is a plus, not a game changer in attractiveness. And I also have dozens of examples (both first and third person) as a proof. Being fit doesn’t give you charisma, doesn’t make you smarter or witty or even confident around women. And many girls/women I know/meet/fuc…
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:44 PM
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It might help in the look compartment, but not universally. Many women complained about how many jacked people (even cross-fit coaches) had many other personal issues with confidence and other stuff.
/r/seduction22/04/21 02:31 PM
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Came here to say almost the same about me (40+).
/r/seduction22/04/21 08:24 AM
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Everyone has their own triggers and ways to get crazy at some point, regardless of gender. You draw the line where your common sense tells you to do it. It also depends by the context, the person, their reasons, etc... A mature, healthy person is assertive and usually doesn’t need to be aggressive towards others. How you react to them is up to you.
/r/seduction21/04/21 10:49 PM
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I usually go (ehm... I mean went, sigh!) to clubs for dancing, music and overall fun. With that mindset, I almost never had to chase any girl, because it was them approaching me in a way or another. However, I’ve seen several anti patterns applied by many males, and they failed hardly each time. Here’s a short list: if you enjoy dancing/music, then put yourself on the dance-floor (possibly in the center, or near the dj-consolle) and... dance. If the dance floor is empty but you want to dance, go…
/r/seduction21/04/21 10:37 PM
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Ok, but why taking RSD as an example to follow? I mean, they’re just a business with a well known background which doesn’t make them any honor. I agree with the principles you exposed in your reply to my comment, but then I’d say that a book like Mark Manson’s Models is way more cheaper while achieving same goals. I have my opinion based on what I’ve seen about them. I once downloaded one of their “full courses” through torrent (The Natural, or a similar name, I can’t remember). It was all about…
/r/seduction21/04/21 10:16 PM
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I hate when people use the wrong words to say something, so let’s clarify: technical game IS manipulation. All these “pushing the right buttons” is basically bullshit to scam newbies. That’s how RSD (and many others) made tons of money. Yes, flirting and playing can be done in a more honest and natural way, but the core principle is to build a honest connection with the other person, not to fake things to get your penis in vagina, because that’s manipulation and almost misogyny (that’s also why …
/r/seduction21/04/21 09:28 PM
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Very good points, totally agree. I hope other members will read and learn these principles.
/r/seduction21/04/21 07:30 AM
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You’ve cheated on them and they called you out (even if I wouldn’t say you were selfish or narcissist, just not enough mature to handle this). I think the lesson you should learn from these anecdotes is to always be honest and clear about the kind of established relationship. if you’re their boyfriend (hence exclusive), then you don’t date others if you want to date multiple girls/women, you tell them that you aren’t looking for commitment or exclusivity, and that you’re also going out with othe…
/r/seduction20/04/21 09:10 PM
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Now think that this is the norm for 80% of girls and you’ll know how they feel after a bit ;-) Jokes apart, being nice looking gives you a huge vantage in terms of attracting a lot of girls/women, BUT they aren’t “filtered”. I mean, it’s like blind shooting to the crowd: you’re going to hit someone randomly, but not necessarily what you’re looking for. This means that you have at least 2 choices: you blindly get/fuck whatever comes at you for the sake of getting laid and having sex with as many …
/r/seduction20/04/21 08:56 PM
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The mighty mod himself has replied to my post, how lucky am I. not so much lucky. and I just wrote my comment as a normal member of this community. my mod role kicks in only for moderation purposes, and when I do, I take care to distinguish it clearly. And why are people willing to pay a lot of top dating coaches? well, there's also people who believes in Nigerian scams, so I'm not surprised if some desperate guy thinks that a coach is what he needs to adjust their dating life Because they have …
/r/seduction20/04/21 12:48 PM
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This sub is open to all genders, the rules are on the sidebar. More in detail, we don’t accept: pseudoscientific bullshit (alpha/beta males, NLP, etc...) coaches selling their services (???) to desperates misogyny and manipulation
/r/seduction20/04/21 12:37 PM
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There isn’t a valid response which fits all scenarios. A business card is just a piece of paper with your number and other personal information. How/when/why you give it to someone might vary a lot by specific situation. If she wants your number, she would accept it even on a piece of toilet paper or written on her hand.
/r/seduction20/04/21 12:13 PM
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I can’t really figure out the point of this post, except a bunch of well disguised lame wisdom. If you have a broken life, there isn’t anything more you can do to attract healthy people, except fixing your problems. If you have dreams and plans for your life, go with them (given that they should be some practical and reasonable stuff to pursue). “Having more women” is something between the desperate incel which masturbates daily and the misogynist who thinks women are a disposable object that yo…
/r/seduction20/04/21 12:04 PM
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This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities. Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work? As for the last one, it is an a…
/r/seduction19/04/21 07:14 PM
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You’re looking for different things (at least in the context of sex), that means that if she wants an orgy and you don’t, she’s going to be frustrated not getting it, or you’re going to suffer if she gets it.
/r/seduction18/04/21 12:42 PM
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Except that women don’t even think in those terms, and I don’t consider myself dominant. I’m just “balanced”.
/r/seduction17/04/21 08:01 PM
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This is plain bullshit. I’m socially skilled, outgoing, etc... I have my success with girls/women. I just lead interactions organically, but that’s mostly a passive process (people follows me for whatever reason) even if I’m not the kind of person who enjoys that position. I totally reject these crappy labels of alpha/beta bullshit, they’re lame and idiotic.
/r/seduction17/04/21 11:26 AM
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Whatever modern browser with integrated developer tools should be fine.
/r/seduction16/04/21 09:58 PM
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You’re overthinking to insane levels. The questions you mentioned are perfectly fine when you can follow up with other material for conversation. You can ask for more details based on their reply, you can relate about something and tell them something about you (“that reminds me of that time that...”). You can also tease or joke. There are infinite possibilities and everyone is different. Shy or introverts might react differently in terms of answers and maybe they would prefer to listen rather t…
/r/seduction16/04/21 09:27 PM
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Find a way to talk to him, give him smiles and invite him (or give him your number) for a coffee/drink. Even if it’s rare that a man would reject a straight proposal of hookup from a nice lookin girl, that also might disqualify you or scare him (like: wtf? Is she a serial killer which attracts guys and then kills them? Is she a crazy slut?). Just think about a (nice looking) guy that approaches you at the gym and asks for a hookup. What would be your reaction?
/r/seduction16/04/21 12:22 PM
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it all depends by the person. sometimes they tell you without you having to ask, other times you might want to ask, etc... also, if you focus on the moment, 99% of times you can sense her reaction to something. if she's rigid, maybe she isn't comfortable or she isn't enjoying it, or she's just nervous (especially if that's the first time with you). otherwise you see/feel/sense her enjoying what you're doing. a good tip is to make the first step by saying: "oh yeah! I like this, go on!", so maybe…
/r/seduction16/04/21 11:35 AM
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when I learned to be a radio-speaker, they suggested me to register my voice simulating a radio-session, then re-listen and see what's going wrong. try to talk endlessy, putting words one after another. the first times you'll feel dumb and awkward (especially when you're alone in front of a mic). do this over and over until you see improvements. it helped me a lot during university exams and job interviews too, because it looks like you're so smooth that you're totally in control about what you'…
/r/seduction16/04/21 09:28 AM
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If you can’t for whatever reasons, that’s your boundary. I’m not too much into alcohol, I drink sporadically and I don’t have problems saying it, just like I’m not afraid to tell them that I’m much more into smoking weed.
/r/seduction14/04/21 02:38 PM
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Ah cool, you got Dunning-Krueger effect too.
/r/seduction14/04/21 02:23 PM
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With ignorance, of course.
/r/seduction14/04/21 07:14 AM
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Your comment, in psychology terms, it’s called cognitive dissonance. Good luck ;-)
/r/seduction13/04/21 11:55 PM
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Of course phone calls are still normal for you. they are also normal for my friends, and other younger people. My social circle is made of people ranging from 20 to 50. Plus the kids I see around me. even better, many of them prefer video-call, go figure. And I still dont get why constant notifications make you afraid of answering the phone no offense, but it looks like you aren't getting a lot of stuff about this topic but you dont see anyone throwing their phone in the corner because they got …
/r/seduction13/04/21 09:43 PM
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Go to r/sex
/r/seduction13/04/21 09:24 PM
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You just read this online in a seduction forum. Thats nor real life stuff. Dude, I'm over 40, I have a social psychology degree, and 30+ years experience on the field (started doing daygame pickups in early 1990s). I know more real life than you and many others here summed together. Girls, and guys, these days dont have phone calls anymore as a general rule weird, because I still go with phone calls and they work perfectly. I date girls/women in their 25-45s. same for my friends, same for my kid…
/r/seduction13/04/21 09:20 PM
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Als je minder laf was geweest en in het Engels was geschreven, zou je minder idioot hebben geleken.
/r/seduction13/04/21 09:06 PM
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This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities. Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work? As for the last one, it is an a…
/r/seduction13/04/21 08:46 PM
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“work on yourself” and I wholly agree with it although I’m still a work in progress working on yourself is a continuous work in progress which lasts a lifetime. there aren't specific goals (and no, having success with women isn't a goal, but just a result of many things put together). I’ve been seeing a large amount of comments saying that it will not contribute much if the woman is not attracted to you to begin with this concept is a double-edged sword. if you improve yourself to become a bette…
/r/seduction13/04/21 08:43 PM
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people these days dont talk on the phone anymore. They get a light panic attack if they get an unancounced call. I think that's the result of receiving too many constant distractions/notifications 24h*7 Personally I think calling is better than texting I usually text before call. Something like "is it a good moment to call?" is a good way to handle this stuff. I do (and somewhat pretend from others) this with everybody.
/r/seduction13/04/21 08:29 PM
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I don’t know what 18yo kids exactly do in 2021, but I suppose there are some social circles dedicated to specific topics and activities, aren’t they?
/r/seduction13/04/21 07:32 PM
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Looking at your reaction, I can safely confirm that I was right. And last but not least: as a mod, this kind of language isn’t allowed here. So, consider that a ban for you is behind the corner if you comment like this again.
/r/seduction13/04/21 06:48 PM
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Every situation is different. You can text/call her to “say something” worthy. If she’s interested, she’ll be receptive in a way or another.
/r/seduction13/04/21 04:35 PM
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No offense but, in your case, basic hygiene is a minimal viable requirement that you shouldn’t even think about. That’s just universal common sense. Self improvement is about other things, and is mostly subjective to each person’s needs.
/r/seduction13/04/21 04:27 PM
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Have you ever tried to join meetups and events with like-minded people? Photography, yoga, cooking classes, outdoor activities, museums, libraries... the list is endless. There's a whole world beyond clubs/pubs/bars if they aren't the kind of venues you like. If you don't have interests, find one. Otherwise, what's your value beyond your grocery-list-like requirements?
/r/seduction13/04/21 04:03 PM
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Strongly disagree. The definition of "being a great man" is highly subjective and varies by thousands of factors (age, culture, country, ...). If you are a healthy person, with good human values and ability to handle your own responsibilities, you're almost done. No need for more definitions. I personally set and follow my own standards, not what others think or say. And I wouldn't waste my time discussing what makes a great man or not, I just try my best to improve myself in every aspect of my …
/r/seduction13/04/21 03:56 PM
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I've been on Bumble some times, I like its concept, but: there are very few people where I live (Rome, Italy) I've dated 2-3 women matched there, they were a disaster: they were different in real life compared to their pics. Of course, that's just my own experience, so YMMV. the "role reversal" thing seems cool a first glance, except than many women still didn't get that the first move is on them (many complained that men didn't do the first step) the time constraint looks much more like a scam/…
/r/seduction13/04/21 03:44 PM
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Adding some more to the comment of the other member: if she’s there, you can safely assume green light for other small steps don’t be afraid of potential rejection for something you do or say, as long as you feel it and you apply it in a polite way. I mean, grabbing her pussy out of the blue is a sexual assault, but grabbing her hand gently is a kind gesture which in the worst case scenario might be gently rejected (and in the other cases is building the foundation to eventually go for a kiss or…
/r/seduction13/04/21 02:34 PM
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I did a quick check, it looks a lot like a well disguised spam. Maybe it also have some decent content, but nothing worth an announcement here.
/r/seduction13/04/21 12:58 PM
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I was okay being best friends. Both of them friendzoned me Why asking here, then?
/r/seduction12/04/21 11:17 PM
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I did (some text and phone calls for a week before me violating lockdowns to meet them), but mostly because we usually clicked very well from the start.
/r/seduction11/04/21 08:16 PM
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I don’t think you can alone. You need to talk with someone you trust and which has some knowledge/experience.
/r/seduction11/04/21 08:11 PM
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Talk to a therapist.
/r/seduction11/04/21 07:56 PM
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Being envious of your friend and being outcome dependent isn’t even bad game, it’s a totally wrong mindset to start with. In the last 2 months I’ve switched from a relationship to another one. In the same time, my best friend has fucked at least 10 different women (his bodycount is beyond the 1500s). He’s happy for me, I’m happy for him.
/r/seduction11/04/21 06:45 PM
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You need to apply some calibration. What and how much is up to you. Just take into consideration your own value as a person. There’s nothing wrong in giving something more than the other person (with a grain of salt, and not forever), but you need to draw a reasonable line for your boundaries: not giving at all might discourage, but putting yourself “on sale” will only decrease your value. These are concepts/lessons that you’ll learn through life, and you’re pretty young, you have (valuable) tim…
/r/seduction11/04/21 06:38 PM
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No need to be rude, if you’re just incel with a childish mindset.
/r/seduction11/04/21 05:01 PM
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I have many success stories, they were all different to some extent. However I’d prefer to talk what NEVER worked: being afraid to let them know my interest/intentions being afraid of getting rejected for something I do or say (eg: making a move) not being direct or taking action as soon as possible (eg: asking her out to go for a coffee/drink date) I’m in my 40s, but when I was 13-14yo I had to learn these lessons the hard way with practice and failures. No books or internet to ask for advice. …
/r/seduction10/04/21 01:20 PM
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Had to remove it for too specific situation. Btw, the “rules” for a good date are quite the same for all (with some adjustment): be relaxed and focus on having a good time. In other words, don’t put any expectations and enjoy the moment make yourself and the other person comfortable. if he’s too shy, give him some “help” by leading things forward. Breaking the touch barrier is a good initial step. Smile! That’s the more effective thing (and hardest for many) to do to communicate you’re ok and ha…
/r/seduction10/04/21 08:08 AM
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Woah! This is a wall of text, and just read the TL;DR before removing it. Sometimes things just don’t click, sometimes people isn’t emotionally ready/available/mature, etc... No need to overthink it: set boundaries and stick on them until the situation stays the same.
/r/seduction09/04/21 09:33 PM
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I know it’s hard to get for many. But overcoming that fear is the main key to avoid rejections, flakes, etc...
/r/seduction09/04/21 09:18 PM
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It works when you’re truly honest with your intentions you deliver them in a clear and calibrated way you’re confident of what you’re feeling and not afraid to tell it, even by risking a rejection
/r/seduction09/04/21 07:11 PM
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Agree in general. But with covid times and remote working I had to rely on OLD apps as main choice.
/r/seduction09/04/21 02:02 PM
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I don’t know too much about lesbian dynamics, but I’d say it might work like for a guy seducing a girl, except that the seducer will have a more feminine touch rather than masculine. To some extent, you might have far less problems doing this because even if you’re lesbian, the triggers are female based. I say this after I’ve watched gay men in action. They both think and are triggered like a man, so (for example) they enjoy dick picks and other visual clues. In your case, what would arouse you,…
/r/seduction09/04/21 12:24 PM
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it's a sort of scam-network. the best case scenario is that you're going to interact with cam-girls. if it was legit, they would talk about it everywhere.
/r/seduction09/04/21 07:33 AM
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Maybe you text too much rather than going for a date (or a video/phone call, depending on your country’s covid restrictions). Once you texted 4-5 messages to check it’s not some crazy-killer, you should go for the maximum connection possible: date is the best, video call is better than phone call, phone call is better than texting, texting is just better than nothing.
/r/seduction08/04/21 09:27 PM
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You don’t need to explicitly focus on pickup/seduction topics, but there are a lot of topics that can be used. For example, there are studies about how the perceived “scarcity” about something makes it more valuable. Or the “similarity” principle which makes people feel closer to you when you have something in common. Books about body language and micro-expressions let you read and connect better with people, so that you can calibrate the interaction, escalate, verify their engagement, etc... Ot…
/r/seduction08/04/21 09:10 PM
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Totally agree. The “just be yourself” is all about keeping a coherent frame in a healthy, mature, manly way.
/r/seduction08/04/21 07:56 PM
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Well, I think that a good concept is (usually) valid regardless of the source, it also depends how deep it goes. I have a degree in social psychology and I’ve read MANY books about human interactions. If we’re talking about “attracting/seducing and building connections with women”, Models is a very good book about the fundamentals. Mark Manson’s book isn’t science and I don’t consider him an authoritative source (even if he’s a good writer) in terms pf psychology. The real value of that book rel…
/r/seduction08/04/21 07:44 PM
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I’ve seen two girls fighting for a dwarf guy. I know several short guys which have been with hot girls. All of them had great personality.
/r/seduction08/04/21 12:25 PM
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you can do all at once with the right discipline.
/r/seduction08/04/21 11:34 AM
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Maybe it’s also a matter of personal approach to learn something. Models gives ideas and concepts to think and adapt to yourself. It’s more “think about this and that”. 3% man is more structured in “do this and that”. You can see different approaches even in programming language books, there are the “tutorial way” (let’s build some stuff and learn the language during the process) VS the “reference” ones (this is how the language works, period).
/r/seduction08/04/21 10:14 AM
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This comment deserves standalone post. This review caught the essence of the book.
/r/seduction08/04/21 10:01 AM
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There aren’t specific indicators. You either sense it or you don’t. Some girls aren’t very explicit for many reasons (they don’t know how to do it, they prefer to wait your move and see what happens, they’re too shy, or they simply have a different language to express that).
/r/seduction05/04/21 11:44 AM
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This post is interesting in general, but off-topic in particular. Try to ask on r/sex or similar.
/r/seduction05/04/21 11:41 AM
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I’m sorry if you experienced this through DMs. You’re on internet, this is Reddit, and you made a post on a sub with more than 600k users. I’m not saying this is your fault, but take into account that what you do or say on internet reaches an infinite amount of people, which can have reactions far beyond your control. I’m removing this post because off-topic.
/r/seduction05/04/21 08:05 AM
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Start across, go next later. You don’t have to say anything if you sense she’s comfortable and engaged in the interaction.
/r/seduction04/04/21 03:55 PM
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In general, it’s better to stay near. But in covid times, it’s better to start across her and go near her later during interaction (or changing venue).
/r/seduction04/04/21 03:41 PM
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You calibrate and tease by feeling her.
/r/seduction04/04/21 03:35 PM
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You switch off you brain and go with the flow. That’s an experience, not a performance.
/r/seduction04/04/21 03:33 PM
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I like this post. This is the right mindset and path.
/r/seduction04/04/21 09:51 AM
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Take my angry upvote, lol.
/r/seduction03/04/21 07:22 PM
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Yeah, it’s a gamble that might affect the outcome of my fun pursuing. I agree with you if the goal is to pick up someone you noted in particular. But if I go out for my own fun, it’s somewhat rare that I’m going to actively approach someone. I’m more focused on dancing and enjoying my time, and this already makes me a magnet: people starts orbiting around me. I also got insta-kissed out of the blue by women which admitted they noted me not giving a fuck about them, go figure.
/r/seduction03/04/21 07:19 PM
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Being confidently straight about your intentions/emotions/feelings to a girl works more often than not. However, it also means calibration. The more she’s comfortable around you, the more you can go straight, be it asking her out, going for a kiss, etc... No need to be afraid as long you’re confident, polite, kind, clear. Even if she rejects you (which isn’t the end of the world anyway), she’ll be much more flattered than showering her with silly compliments. Even a “how about going to X... (pau…
/r/seduction03/04/21 05:40 PM
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If you were there to dance, you did it right. The night is long, no need to rush things. Maybe you might try to slowly get a bit closer while dancing by your own. If she wants to grind, she’ll do. No need to talk, just stay in the flow. I always stay on the center of the dance floor or near the dj, I move around while dancing. Because I have genuine fun, I usually get approached by someone or some girl/woman starts to grind, I’m there to do that after all and they sense that.
/r/seduction03/04/21 05:29 PM
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Physically ugly and personally attractive can coexist.
/r/seduction03/04/21 11:11 AM
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I dated a lot of women without asking their number (they gave me it later). Getting a date is more important than getting a number.
/r/seduction03/04/21 11:10 AM
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Your face is more than ok, you also have a nice smile. You look a bit like Tom Cruise, for that matter. Don’t think that with another face you’d do better with women. Your issue is inside you, work on it, and stop blaming your face. That said, I’m going to remove this post, because against the rules. Cheers.
/r/seduction03/04/21 10:28 AM
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I frankly don’t believe in alpha/beta male bullshit. That’s a concept borrowed by studies about wolves (which sometimes have to fight to death), not humans. Also, a lot of people misinterprets what it means to be charismatic and leader with being alpha-macho male. That’s just toxic. You can have or develop traits which make you more charismatic and leader to others (also depending by context), but that doesn’t define someone as alpha. Same for the so called “beta”s, they just are people which ca…
/r/seduction03/04/21 10:24 AM
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Without further details about context, it’s hard to guess, but something can be read. They’re observing (and evaluating) something or someone. For example, a super-hot woman is passing in front of them, and they just focused their attention on her, possibly fantasizing some sex scenario. Maybe they’re watching something happening in that moment (ex: a car accident) and they’re exchanging opinions about what is happening or what they would do.
/r/seduction03/04/21 10:09 AM
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Without further details about context, it’s hard to guess, but something can be read. They’re observing (and evaluating) something or someone. For example, a super-hot woman is passing in front of them, and they just focused their attention on her, possibly fantasizing some sex scenario. Maybe they’re watching something happening in that moment (ex: a car accident) and they’re exchanging opinions about what is happening or what they would do.
/r/seduction03/04/21 10:09 AM
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I somewhat disagree. I think this is a good advice even for beginners, because at least it makes them free from outcome. Too many times I’ve read beginners focused on number closing even when it was inappropriate, or they struggle in social settings, etc... Focusing on self enjoyment and outcome-independent interactions has more benefits, and improves social game.
/r/seduction03/04/21 07:32 AM
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Well, maybe r/sex is more appropriate for this topic. Also, it hasn’t nothing to do with seduction or techniques, it’s just one of the many things which could happen in bed. What happens in bed is highly subjective, you discover new stuff with practice, time and partner(s). Not with techniques from internet strangers.
/r/seduction02/04/21 06:24 PM
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Glad you got your ass licked for the first time, but this is mostly off-topic and not useful. There aren’t magic tricks, what happens in bed depends by thousands of factors. Same for a woman who enjoys anal sex is not granted she is going to have it with everyone.
/r/seduction02/04/21 06:01 PM
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Skipping the fact that some people doesn’t know what respect means, the rule is easy: You give respect, you pretend respect. You treat others just like you’d want to be treated from them. If they don’t, you call them out and state what/why you consider it wrong and how this represents a deal breaker. Of course, don’t take it too literal, every situation might require adaptations, but the general concept is valid. About leadership: you gain it by giving example. When people recognizes that you’re…
/r/seduction02/04/21 10:00 AM
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Start by going out alone to find fun for yourself. You need to go out more than one time before feeling comfortable. It will come natural with time. Then, it will become a second nature, and you’ll be able to socialize like if you were with friends.
/r/seduction02/04/21 08:21 AM
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I dated a similar girl when I was in my 20s. Very similar dynamics. I ended things after 2-3 months. Like others said, having different sex drives is a struggle for both: one gets frustrated, the other feels pressured. She probably likes you a lot, but you aren’t aligned about sex. Even if you happen to have sex once, it’s hard to foresee fireworks and “frequency”.
/r/seduction01/04/21 10:31 PM
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We welcome good content, even when it differs from mod’s opinions (we already have some different personal opinions about certain topics, but the fundamentals are commonly shared), the point is to bring value and usefulness to the community. We remove low effort spam, pirated material, scammer-coaches, misogynist-coaches, red-pillers, alpha-bullshit, you get the idea.
/r/seduction01/04/21 05:37 PM
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because seduction is mostly a brain dead process when done in a healthy way.
/r/seduction01/04/21 03:30 PM
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We let him to put the link because the content of the post already stands on its own and contains good, clear advices. side note: OP is also the author of Fundamentals of Female Dynamics, which is a good book after all.
/r/seduction01/04/21 03:26 PM
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THAT video should be considered a proof? Really?!
/r/seduction31/03/21 10:30 PM
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That’s why I stated that single parents aren’t for all. They usually fits better with other single parents because that puts a reciprocal foundation to establish a relationship where both understand the difficulties. I’m a dad, and I had to end (by my choice) more than a relationship with single girls/women because I’ve (obviously) put kids before anything else. There also are many single parents which prefer to go more casual, like FWB. But the ones who seek relationships will have to put much …
/r/seduction31/03/21 10:27 PM
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Still waiting for data. Still seeing bullshit. I’m over-40, single dad, degree in social studies, and several decades of experience. My actual age range in dating goes from 25 to 50.
/r/seduction31/03/21 10:16 PM
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Of course you’ll find other bullshit to put on top of the other biased and misogynistic shit you tried to put together to create an argument.
/r/seduction31/03/21 09:46 PM
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vaccinations will be available to most people starting tomorrow, and this pandemic should be heading towards its end in the next 2-3 months. I’d be careful with this statement. This sub has members from all around the world.
/r/seduction31/03/21 09:15 PM
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Men don’t leave a woman or don’t cheat on a decent woman single moms tend to be impulsive and make bad choices financially do you have any kind of data to bake this bullshit? I don’t want to raise other guys kid Exactly a part of what I was saying about the fact that single moms/dads aren’t for all.
/r/seduction31/03/21 09:05 PM
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Yeah, many reasons. Like husbands/men who cheat, have alcohol addictions or just decide to leave them there and go away. Single moms (and dads) aren’t for everyone, especially not for the ones kids-free. Some of them might want FWB for a bit, but soon or later they’ll look to build a new “family”, but many kid-free potential partners might struggle a lot to handle this.
/r/seduction31/03/21 07:31 PM
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You complained that after 20 mins of conversation they reject you, or they unmatch on Tinder. Demographic is the kind of girls/women that you meet in a way or another: might be age, venue or similar.
/r/seduction31/03/21 06:18 PM
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I agree with dropping the “you’re cute” and with the fact that it might sound creepy more often than not. Confidence can be genuinely shown in many ways, which aren’t scary for sure. A calm, firm, smiling voice with a relaxed posture (and respecting personal distance) is usually seen as safe. Also the context plays important role: I wouldn’t approach a woman on a dark street in some downtown or any other situation where a woman can’t feel safe or free to eject without pains.
/r/seduction31/03/21 06:12 PM
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It might work, given several requirements are met: confidence smile delivering of what you have to say posture, voice tone eyes, smile, etc... a decent look (even if you aren’t a male model, it’s easy to spot someone healthy and overall well groomed) If you meet these basics, maybe there might be a chance.
/r/seduction31/03/21 03:16 PM
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First of all, it looks like you’re doing something wrong. If they agree for a date and then they flake, it means they changed their idea for some reason. Second, the first clue is that you’re pretending to get them engaged after few minutes. So, at least you look like someone too tied to outcome, hence needy. Third, maybe, maybe, you’re looking at the wrong demographic, even if you said some of them agreed for a date.
/r/seduction31/03/21 03:10 PM
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When you fuck 3-5 different women each week (I know at least 2 people who do), even a man has to be picky.
/r/seduction30/03/21 04:21 PM
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he needs to be someone who fucks a lot.
/r/seduction30/03/21 03:50 PM
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Relax dude, you look like an awesome man (in terms of person), don’t forget where you come from and what you’re able to achieve. Sometimes life and confidence go like a roller coaster, you can only relax and live the ride. That said, really, just relax, let the things go organically, don’t be afraid to be vulnerable (that doesn’t neither mean to put yourself down). I think if you talk to her with the almost same words you spoke here, you’ll be more than ok. You have good cards in your hand, just…
/r/seduction30/03/21 09:14 AM
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I’m wondering why you texted on Snapchat if she didn’t even replied on Tinder? What’s the point in doing this? Whatever medium you use to communicate, start with what you have and see where it goes, then you can escalate to phone number. Even if you matched, that doesn’t grant you she will reply to your texts.
/r/seduction30/03/21 07:53 AM
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Maybe r/sex is better for these kind of questions. However, I'd suggest: more foreplay changing positions (and finding the one that you enjoy the most) communicating avoid hammering like rabbits
/r/seduction29/03/21 04:01 PM
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Create a False Sense of Security if this is seduction, better to take an actor school.
/r/seduction29/03/21 02:27 PM
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hundreds (if not thousands) of people around the world (including women) said it's a good book. why OP should trust you on that? what's your authority?
/r/seduction29/03/21 02:26 PM
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I think you over-simplified what an entire book says, and sometimes you also took it too literally. I have read all the books you mentioned (and many others, for that matter). Never spent time on YouTube watching those ridiculous scammers. I think Models is still a great book for self improvement, many of the concepts it delivers are always valid and, more important, you have to adapt those concepts to yourself. I didn’t like No Mr Nice Guy, I’ve read it out of curiosity, but I’ve never been a n…
/r/seduction29/03/21 12:06 PM
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First of all: Ethic, not morality. Yes, I avoided many opportunities to get laid for a reason or another: from lack of condoms in that moment, to them being more emotionally invested than I was, or just because I didn’t want to cheat. Never do compromises between your inner values and getting laid.
/r/seduction29/03/21 08:12 AM
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I usually don’t talk on the dance floor, I let them to do it if they want: my mood is dancing, if they want to enter my world, I’m there. It works much like you do talking into their ears, except that I don’t even do it. Some eye contact is enough.
/r/seduction29/03/21 07:51 AM
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Psychopath, or yet another kid experiencing the Dunning-Kruger effect
/r/seduction29/03/21 07:44 AM
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Just be careful to not become a text buddy and being friendzoned. Always keep intentions clear, without being too pushy. Calibration is key.
/r/seduction28/03/21 07:47 PM
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If she’s still giving you her time (even in form of small pieces, but showing you she’s there), the you just have to be patient and understand that she has more important life priorities (exams, work, kids, whatever) and you can’t pretend more from this. Translating a proverb: “if they’re roses, they’ll bloom”
/r/seduction28/03/21 07:15 PM
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I’d start with “What every body is saying” by Joe Navarro. It’s focused on body language and it’s very well written. Also, “The like switch” but I can’t remember the author name (you can find it easily on Amazon). This book is more about having good interactions and connections, what the author calls “the friend formula” (where “friend” means “connection”, the opposite of being an “enemy”-stranger). These books are from experienced professionals, and they teach the above topics very well.
/r/seduction27/03/21 10:28 PM
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It’s a bit weird to admit, but men are more simple and logical than women. We’re mostly aroused visually (and this mostly explains why men send dick pics to women, and many gay men love to collect and share dick pics). So, the least you can do is a bit of female grooming and smile. That’s already enough to attract men in general. If you want to go deeper and find meaningful interactions, that is up to you to find what fits for you. That said, I think Models by Mark Manson might be a good book, e…
/r/seduction27/03/21 09:27 PM
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I have several first and second hand experiences that say the contrary. Chemistry plays a huge role. I’m average at best in pics, but I shine through text/phone/real-life. Just like I have heard stories from women that initially drooled looking at the pics (or texts/phone voice) of many men, but when they dated them, it was a total disaster for countless reasons.
/r/seduction27/03/21 09:07 PM
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Can you spot/feel when someone is nervous by simply looking at them? Can you spot something is wrong at the phone by just hearing the voice tone of someone you know? Some people just feel it, others have to study books about body language and social psychology, others do both. The more you can see in the other, the more you can find a way to connect with them.
/r/seduction27/03/21 07:13 PM
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Chances are that you’re wasting time. Just imagine how the date might go if she has that mindset. Maybe she’s interested but extremely shy. Whatever, the costs/outcome ratio doesn’t look worth to me.
/r/seduction27/03/21 01:31 PM
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Everyone has different standards about what they consider attractive. In general, it’s a mix of details: confidence (how much you feel comfortable, not afraid to be vulnerable, etc) look: pretty subjective. Not every girl likes a jacked one and ignores a skinny (or fat) dude. Also, confidence acts like a multiplier for your look. I’ve been with women that admitted they would have never dated someone with my look (I’m average, slim body, no beard, definitely not a male model), except they were tu…
/r/seduction27/03/21 12:56 PM
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Difficult, but not impossible. Otherwise I’d be like the Jesus of texting.
/r/seduction27/03/21 12:40 PM
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If you don’t dance, clubs are mostly useless for having fun. In general, some tips: be open to socialize organically. If you already know someone there go to them for some small talk, etc... clubs are mainly for dancing, so the most basic thing you can do is putting yourself in the center of the dance floor and dance like you’re alone, enjoy the music. You don’t need to be a pro-dancer, feeling the rhythm and moving the body at beats is more than ok. if you are close to some girl, try some light…
/r/seduction27/03/21 09:52 AM
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Yes, many times. And it doesn’t work in 99.9% of cases.
/r/seduction27/03/21 09:37 AM
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You’re thinking in a very small scale. Billions of daily actions have interconnections and consequences in a way or another. Admitting the presence of an “higher power” is indeed what you’re stating: absence of determinism.
/r/seduction26/03/21 10:43 PM
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Well, it’s all a matter of context and calibration. I usually exchange some text to see if we click in some way, then I’d prefer a date over a phone call. But in these lockdown times, I can’t always meet a person in short time (1-3 days), so rather than becoming boring text buddies, I ask for phone call. Voice is way better than text.
/r/seduction26/03/21 08:25 PM
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so are you living in a non-deterministic dimension?
/r/seduction26/03/21 04:25 PM
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Contact her, say (somewhat) what you stated in this post and see what happens. Just don’t push too much, start like if you’ve just matched on an app, except that you already know her a bit, so you can open with something less generic and formal than a stranger. If she gives you attention, go for phone or schedule a coffee date. Otherwise, she gave you a clear sign that you won’t have a second chance. This includes her ignoring your message, so don’t double text. There aren’t magic tricks: you pl…
/r/seduction26/03/21 01:23 PM
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Some tips: NEVER try to impress someone, anywhere always go for fun/easygoing/lighthearted texts. you really can't talk about serious stuff over text: it's boring and hard to express be exactly like you would be in real life (except that you have to be much shorter -> don't overtext or flood with one word messages) avoid double texting or putting pressure on her to get a reply. shot your message and consider it gone. when/if she replies, you'll consider what/how to respond. I've matched with wom…
/r/seduction26/03/21 10:27 AM
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Approach Anxiety
/r/seduction26/03/21 09:20 AM
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It depends if you take it literally, like buddhists, or you take it as an abstract concept that if you plant bad seeds, soon or later you’re going to harvest bad fruits.
/r/seduction26/03/21 09:13 AM
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Easy. When I met women like that I just respected the boundaries, especially at the first date. If the date is going smooth, the mask is not a problem. When the interaction becomes comfortable for both of you, take some distance, remove your mask saying that you need to breathe a bit. She might want to do the same, that would mean that there’s some progress. If she doesn’t, consider the context of the interaction, maybe she’s interested BUT too afraid to remove the mask. The more you build rappo…
/r/seduction25/03/21 03:23 PM
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IIRC he did a AMA here on Reddit recently.
/r/seduction25/03/21 02:25 PM
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Had to remove this post. You look very young, but at least you described yourself honestly (considering your age). There are other subs (and even apps/platforms) for these kind of posts. Check the rules of this sub on the sidebar (including the part about “Keep it civil and on topic”)
/r/seduction25/03/21 09:59 AM
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This post is being taken down because it violates Rule #2: it lacks body text and/or doesn't stand on its own.
/r/seduction24/03/21 03:06 PM
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It depends by what you're looking for. If you're looking for texting, anything is ok. If you want to go for phone-call, then go for number. You can ask for IG later, or you might talk about your side job and tell her you have an IG account. If she's interested, she will ask for it. It also looks like you have a good IG profile with your photography works, and having some "art nudes" are ok. Paintings in the Vatican are full of nudes and nobody bothers since centuries, after all.
/r/seduction24/03/21 09:22 AM
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Btw Never understood the short hot girl attraction and why guys love em in the small jar, there's the good wine (translated proverb, don't know if there are other ways to say the same in other countries)
/r/seduction24/03/21 09:14 AM
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They are shit at teaching confidence too. No experience with it. I have a medical degree [...] I think you can stop there, then.
/r/seduction24/03/21 08:33 AM
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Many if not most are scams, but so are "professional counselors" teaching dating that's why I said: professional counseling about confidence, life goals or similar. I didn't mention dating/seduction counselors, I don't event know if they exists. And yes, you're right, certification has a relative importance (that also happens with therapysts and doctors), but I was referring to the willing to throw/invest money in something more estabilished and recognizable, rather than a random guy who self-pr…
/r/seduction23/03/21 12:06 PM
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You need more clues before making a proof. Even the “asking for compliance” doesn’t fit, because that’s just someone trying to get something for free from you and nothing else. A woman with value won’t test anything except coherence with your frame.
/r/seduction23/03/21 07:50 AM
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I had to remove this post because it’s too much off topic. I suggest you to ask on r/askwomen or r/sex . Even better if you can ask to a real doctor.
/r/seduction22/03/21 08:42 AM
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Or a good way to have some witty banter.
/r/seduction22/03/21 08:13 AM
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Well, I think the overall structure is ok in general, less linear and less complicated than how it’s depicted. Yeah, DHV (and mostly all the MM) comes from a place of neediness. Same for outer game in general: it’s shallow, hence it only might work on young, inexperienced and shallow girls (or people in general) and it’s focused on the short term outcome. That’s why I wouldn’t suggest to read MM book to a newcomer. It might be a fun read for when you want to see something different, but it doesn…
/r/seduction21/03/21 09:38 PM
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I really can’t see any good stuff in MM, maybe except the overall structure of the interaction (even if MM makes it more complicated than it really is). Shit tests, DHVs and all the crappy jargon, are just bullshit (even if it helped someone getting laid)
/r/seduction21/03/21 02:23 PM
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Whatever example, framing it into a shit test is the wrong mindset. Just like thinking that you can behave same way in every situation. That’s just common sense, no need to overthink it. I’d do something for a (real) friend or someone I think it’s worthy. I wouldn’t do anything for free for someone I barely know, even if they have a pussy. And no, I won’t hookup with someone which asks for something back or upfront.
/r/seduction19/03/21 05:32 PM
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I think this is huge misinformation. First of all, it depends by the context. A girl asking for a cigarette is just what it is, also considering how she’s asking it. Anyway, I can’t see a shit test here. If she asks you to offer her a drink, she’s just her trying to get a free drink from you. If she gets it, good for her, otherwise she will look for another guy that will do it. Again, no shit tests here. If you either pay something for someone or not, it’s up to you to decide if it’s ok or not. …
/r/seduction19/03/21 04:49 PM
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honest self-reflection is invaluable many mass-murders and psychopaths said the same thing. how do you check/validate if you're truly honest in self-reflecting and the results of it? therapists aren't perfect, but they usually are professionals trained to listen people and give feedbacks and hints. being alone in your room and self-reflecting helps, but you won't have any validation/proof that somewhat confirms you're on the right path.
/r/seduction19/03/21 09:51 AM
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Honesty should aways be the priority, no matter the outcome. Feeling nervous the first time(s) is somewhat “normal”, but it doesn’t have anything related to lack of chemistry. If you don’t feel chemistry, then stop it there and let her know. don’t expect her to get it well, but at least you acted honestly and did the right thing. Ghosting or don’t replying to her without giving a reason is somewhat coward and disrespectful. Consider how much it would suck if you were into her but she ghosted you…
/r/seduction19/03/21 08:54 AM
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This is the most misogynistic, childish and desperate cognitive dissonance attempt.
/r/seduction18/03/21 05:24 PM
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/r/seduction18/03/21 04:32 PM
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MM is outdated and mostly the wrong way to go (maybe except some specific concepts and abstractions). More than just cold approaching, it overall focuses on "acting", routines, a buch of cringy "technical" terms and concepts mostly used to manipulate young-nice-looking girls with self-esteem issues. Instead, go for Mark Manson's "Models", you can find many reviews/comments/posts/summaries about it in this sub, if you search for it. Which is mostly focused on honesty and genuine self-improvement.
/r/seduction18/03/21 04:30 PM
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Dodging questions won't get you far. That's nothing wrong in stating that you aren't actually looking for a LTR from day 1. If your goals don't match, then move on. What's wrong is hiding your intentions to a person who wants a LTR, just for the sake of getting laid. Have respect for her and yourself, don't be afraid to miss a laid to stick for decent values.
/r/seduction18/03/21 04:20 PM
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im pretty sure she was interested ah ok, you're sure.
/r/seduction18/03/21 08:28 AM
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That’s OP’s own perception, not facts.
/r/seduction17/03/21 11:29 PM
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If OP isn’t her type, for whatever reason, there aren’t mistakes, only facts.
/r/seduction17/03/21 11:04 PM
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/r/seduction17/03/21 03:44 PM
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Maybe r/teenagers ?
/r/seduction16/03/21 11:11 PM
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What’s worse is that you feel entitled to public shaming someone for his (bad) behavior. People lies, cheats, manipulates and it’s not a gender specific issue. It wasn’t enough to talk with other women who met him (should we call them “victims”?), you had to share it to the world. So if a woman cheats on a man, is he legitimately entitled to stuff like revenge porn? Last note: women are more than welcome here, but this shit will always get removed, plus a ban if the user continues.
/r/seduction16/03/21 08:41 PM
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Maybe your gut is telling you they aren’t the right ones. Or maybe you’re afraid to commit for some reason (fear to get burned again?). At your age, I usually broke relationships in max 90 days. The first 30 went good, at 60 they started declining, ended around 90. Until I met one with which I settled for 18 years (+ kids). I’m actually back at the initial pattern since 2 years, and I’m fine with it.
/r/seduction16/03/21 06:38 PM
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Sorry man, I had to remove your post because it doesn’t comply with our rules. I suggest to post this on other subs like r/datingoverforty (which, unfortunately, has plenty of these stories). In these times, ghosting might happen (and sucks as well) at any age. Don’t waste time trying to understand, whatever the reason, she went for that path without further explanations. Good luck.
/r/seduction16/03/21 06:30 PM
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Putting “cold approach“, “method” and “building a relationship” into the same sentence is the mindset that turns an innocuous approach into something really cringe.
/r/seduction15/03/21 08:12 PM
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Wear decent clothes (I mean, like you would for a normal date), bring a little backpack with: condoms: 3+, not just 1 or 2. A box of 6 would be perfect sweatpants and a tshirt: you might need something comfortable to wear to sleep or wake up the next morning toothbrush underwear: because you might want a shower. Remember to bring some bag for dirty change charge wires for your phone (you won’t come back home with 5-0% battery That’s the minimum viable kit you’d need to sleep outside. Feel free t…
/r/seduction15/03/21 10:45 AM
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I didn’t give a specific response on purpose, because when I said “most”, I meant at least the basics. Then it comes the rest: confidence, charm, (possibly) similar interests/values/goals. Taking apart look, the “attractive traits” of person are mostly common in both genders. You feel chemistry, you feel that person is your type. Most of the advices in this sub are indeed valid for both. Don’t expect guys to make a checklist, that wouldn’t be significant at all.
/r/seduction12/03/21 11:29 PM
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Looks like only one guy said that, no need to generalize.
/r/seduction12/03/21 11:19 PM
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Almost the same advices for men are somewhat valid for women, except that women already know most of them (grooming, eating healthy, hygiene, flirting, etc...). Other aspects are subjective for age, culture and personal tastes.
/r/seduction12/03/21 08:17 PM
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You have indeed a boring routine. You just listed duties and survival activities. Where are the spots for fun, friends, hobbies, etc... ?
/r/seduction12/03/21 01:38 PM
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If someone learns a new skill, then most of the time they want to try out their abilities, right wrong. it's up to the person. you can apply those skills to "connect" with people, rather than testing or manipulating. only students play these games. Play other people. Test their prowess. it depends. you mentioned activities where there's a reciprocal consent in what they're doing. however the same could apply during a date, where you can play a reciprocal psychological game. you don't need many w…
/r/seduction11/03/21 09:52 PM
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so you're basically saying that all the people with a psychology degree should be singles for life? :-) I have the same tools to interact with a psychologyst and surely I don't fear to be laser-tested. If don't like it, I also can call her out, but this never happened with many women I met. This is a lame bias for others or a childish behaviour that usually vanishes with age. If you fear to expose or be exposed, then the problem is not about the person you date.
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/r/seduction11/03/21 02:00 PM
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I don't see the point or what you have to gain by saying that I do it for conversation. I've been with a woman which had a psychology degree (and I have a similar one), I wasn't afraid to tell her I've read/studied many psychology books. As I said, you have to deliver it in the right way in the right context. I don't think a lot of women are completely aware that what they're doing is shit testing I don't believe in the concept of shit testing, I don't feel I have to pass any test. I'm just myse…
/r/seduction11/03/21 09:04 AM
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There’s nothing wrong in saying something like that, if you deliver it in the right way in the right context.
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/r/seduction10/03/21 10:53 AM
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I can't do a comparison because I didn't read the other one. I can say the one from Joe Navarro is pretty good and practical. The author worked for FBI, he applied that knowledge on the field in real life.
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/r/seduction09/03/21 04:30 PM
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In no particular order: The subtle art of not giving a fuck (Mark Manson) - finding yourself Atomic habits (James Clear) - changing habits effectively What every body is saying (Joe Navarro) - body language reading The Like switch (Jack Schafer) - social skills
/r/seduction09/03/21 03:03 PM
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/r/seduction09/03/21 10:47 AM
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avoid it. LinkedIn is for professional networking, not dating. people there want to be seen as professionals, their profiles are tailored for that.
/r/seduction09/03/21 10:24 AM
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I've connected the dots with other knowledge and experience, like the fact that "people enjoys talking about themselves during a conversation" (cfr Dale Carnegie in "how to win friends and influence people" + several other researches in the social psychology field).
/r/seduction09/03/21 10:18 AM
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Stop generalizing then. I have enough experience to know what I’m saying, with possibly the right wording.
/r/seduction09/03/21 08:19 AM
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There’s need to be literal, because I meant “most”, not “all”. And that makes your initial comments out of context.
/r/seduction09/03/21 08:17 AM
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That doesn’t mean those “techniques” (the ones you listed aren’t skills) will work in 100% cases.
/r/seduction09/03/21 01:08 AM
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Most people is not everybody.
/r/seduction09/03/21 01:06 AM
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The real challenge is the so called “work/life balance”. Your life won’t be only work, only love/family, only something-else. Putting all your eggs in one basket is wrong. Learn from now how to manage a bit of everything during day/week/month. Focus on your legit startup dream, but don’t forget to also invest in other areas of your life. You’re in your 20s, you should have enough energy (and “fast recharge” compared to someone over 35) to manage more stuff. Don’t confuse “being disciplined” with…
/r/seduction08/03/21 10:55 PM
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Had to add the complete answer, it was posted by mistake.
/r/seduction08/03/21 08:42 PM
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Can we conclude that most people: is focused on their own talking, rather than listening doesn’t read signals from the other peer (which can’t be controlled consciously) to tell if they want to continue conversation and when not
/r/seduction08/03/21 08:39 PM
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That’s the usual outcome of doing blind/random fishing without a real vision about why you’re doing it, other than getting your penis into some vagina. It’s a numbers game if you see it as a lottery. It is to some extent, but you can grow more chances if you put a different goal: having genuine fun. This is the most motivating one, IMHO exercise your social skills, anxiety, etc.. this is a useful goal for yourself in general meet new people (this is mostly a mix of the previous twos) Moreover, t…
/r/seduction08/03/21 08:19 PM
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Nice story. I don’t want to discourage you, you played your cards well, but the outcome was somewhat anecdotal. Try it more times, see how it goes. If it works more than 50% of times, you got your own solid method and you’ll gain more experience as well.
/r/seduction08/03/21 08:16 PM
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Just a quick note, I don’t know what Tyler says, but I know that “cognitive dissonance” is another thing or, at least, it’s incomplete and incorrect.
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/r/seduction05/03/21 03:31 PM
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At least the bit about Neil Strauss is wrong. He's always been a writer, way before writing The Game. He was already known for "The Dirt".
/r/seduction05/03/21 11:16 AM
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They don’t work for all. If you see it doesn’t work, it’s better to avoid them.
/r/seduction04/03/21 11:58 PM
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I think OP is wondering why men don't approach her in real life, while they say they would approach her if they weren't on a dating app.
/r/seduction04/03/21 09:12 PM
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/r/seduction04/03/21 09:07 PM
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You aren't selfish at all. Instead, it looks like you're doing all the work to save the relationship. You're also right and legit to ask for other guys, because, why not? He might get jealous, but you might get jealous as well with other girls. So, I'd suggest to clarify this point, because it's important to give and get as well. Maybe you might start with a foursome? MOD NOTE: Thank you for sharing this here, however I suppose there are other subreddits where you might get more insightful answe…
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/r/seduction04/03/21 08:49 PM
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If you can rationalize enough, then you won’t find many opportunities to shout or punching, or at least they would be very rare and justified. My rule is to always give genuine respect, and pretend it back, otherwise it depends by the context. To answer your examples: if your GF says “fuck you”, you probably will understand that she said it to you without a valid reason, that she needs to boil down, and later she will give you her excuses (if she doesn’t, you can call her out, or even break the …
/r/seduction04/03/21 08:43 PM
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Yes it is. It’s only that Mystery called it “neg” because he’s found that it worked for him for his specific context (which isn’t what people usually experience, like going to a party where you can find people like Courtney Love, actors and rock stars. Btw, the goal of neg, as Mystery has conceived it, has the specific goal to lower confidence, dodge what he called “shit tests” and to play the push/pull game. Maybe it made somewhat sense in certain contexts, like the bored HB10 at the above part…
/r/seduction04/03/21 08:21 PM
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It may be manipulative but I wouldn’t say it’s unethical. this screams cognitive dissonance at his worst. manipulation, especially in this context, is unethical. Negging and push/pull are manipulative and unsecure as fuck. As a proof, it didn't end well for Mystery and Style, except a minimal number of laids.
/r/seduction04/03/21 05:01 PM
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That's plain teasing and humor. But that should be calibrated. Negging is just a wrong and outdated term.
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/r/seduction04/03/21 02:38 PM
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Neg is a technical term invented by someone who mostly ignored the concepts of "sarcasm" and "bad joke". Indeed, Mystery (the author of that term), was an insecure guy. despite someone depicted him as a social animal, he just learned to "act" in a way that got him laid, around a specific time, context and demographic. Sometimes, a teasing delivered badly might come as a neg (or worse, an insult). Unless someone explicitly mentioned negging, maybe you experienced some goofy attempt to tease you b…
/r/seduction04/03/21 11:24 AM
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Why do y’all neg? well, not all. only a part of people which thinks it works. usually unexperienced, insecure and needy people. IMHO, it's the contrary of having confidence: rather than showing (and working on) confidence, neg tries to undermine others' confidence to balance it. The term was coined and prescribed by pickup artists partially wrong. the term was coined by an old so-called Pick Up Artist many years ago. His techniques are mostly flawed and are inspired by neediness, insecurity and,…
/r/seduction04/03/21 09:24 AM
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Yes, you can pickup (or be picked up). The differences are relative to many aspects: you can pickup from 20s to 50s, so the age range is wider than when you’re 20-30 women 30-35+ are usually more mature overall (they know what they want, they have experience, and decided if they want to settle or have been in marriages you’re in your 40s, your mind, body, life goals, background rarely are identical to what you were 20 years ago
/r/seduction04/03/21 09:08 AM
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I think "shit test" is a wrong term because it's either generic, too broad or, worst, totally inaccurate. What many inexperienced people call shit test is usually one of these options: she's rejecting you, sometimes in a rude way she's teasing you that's her way to joke maybe, I mean, maybe, she's testing you My first pickups happened around 30 years ago, and I've seen a shit tests very rarely, when it happened, it wasn't event worth to demonstrate something. Remember that the concept of "shit t…
/r/seduction04/03/21 08:34 AM
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Well, I don’t believe in the concept of “shit test” in general, but if you want to see it in those terms, then yes. “Agree and Exaggerate” is a way to avoid negative stuff (like attempts to pit someone down) and turn them into a potential laugh if done well. There are times where you can use this trick to hijack the joke and put yourself up.
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One trick that always works is to agree and exaggerate, with a not-so-serious face expression. She might laugh, or she might joke and play the victim, which gives you the opportunity to break the touch barrier with a hug. “Agree and exaggerate” also works when the joke is at you, BUT in this case I’m usually witty enough to naturally “counterattack” with a well-put joke at their expenses (or even better, neutralizing the target while keeping the laugh).
/r/seduction03/03/21 08:58 PM
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The first point you’re missing is: in the cases you’ve mentioned, they’re a couple (they already know each other, they love each other, they don’t need to demonstrate anything for this matter), while you’re single looking to meet someone. Another point you might don’t know: several men (and also women as well) tend to “relax” a bit their grooming with time. When you live together for some years, it also comes natural after all. The relationship usually evolves under many aspects, and when someth…
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/r/seduction03/03/21 10:09 AM
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In the real world you have at least the chance to talk with someone, regardless of the outcome. If you go to a bar, you might randomly talk with whoever you meet. Online, if you get zero matches, you don’t talk at all. 2 hours spent in teal life will give you more chances for sure.
/r/seduction03/03/21 09:52 AM
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if she's actively reciprocating (like when you're making out), that's usually consent. if she steps back, or stops your hands going on her body, or becomes rigid like a tree, then I'd stop and/or ask her if all is ok.
/r/seduction03/03/21 08:31 AM
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Online dating is made of several factors, and it has a binary mechanism: you either get matches at a constant rate (from 3 to 50s per week), or you get zero at all. The key factors: attractiveness of your profile pics huge competition due to a 7:1 men to women ratio. You’re going to compete with much more attractive profiles, so consider that you’re also going to be swiped out by 80% of women. In this context, women have a delusional advantage, and you’re at a miserable disadvantage. how is big …
/r/seduction02/03/21 11:16 PM
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Sorry, but your post is between “off topic” and “specific situation”. This stuff is more appropriate for subs about relationships or something like that. For sure, it’s not about seduction or self-improvement.
/r/seduction02/03/21 10:59 AM
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Every random person on the internet can give whatever advice, or share their experience with you, but professional therapy or counseling are way more effective and trustworthy.
/r/seduction01/03/21 01:26 PM
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Maybe I misunderstood, but it looks like you're still confused by whatever happened with your ex. You can't stay better or feel sexy or want sex, if you don't "fix" the things that are putting you down before anything else. Maybe some professional therapy might be very useful in your case.
/r/seduction01/03/21 12:19 PM
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Relationships are mostly made of trust and commitment. That’s why they might be hard. Mystery undermines trust and, on the long term, it basically fades to make room for trust, because after N years of daily relationship, that’s nothing to hide (and there isn’t a reason to do it) to your significant other. You keep the fire going on with reciprocal gestures of love, passion and attention each day.
/r/seduction01/03/21 10:10 AM
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If you really want to try OLD apps and to throw money, energy and time at them, then the first step is to try to have a stunning profile, possibly professional photos. You might go from 5 to 7-8 with good pics. Even if you can super-like o message them, women have so many options that even a good opener won’t make the difference for sure. Everything enough genuine and beyond “hi, you’re beautiful” will work if you spark some interest in them.
/r/seduction28/02/21 03:01 PM
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Meetups, outdoor events, fairs are places where you might have fun while meeting like-minded people.
/r/seduction28/02/21 12:02 AM
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Too generic, there might be several wrong things that you’re doing (or good ones you aren’t doing). I’m assuming you’re good looking and use OLD apps if you’re having so many dates without closing. I suppose that if you don’t bring a spark during the date, you’d neither get a date at all if happened in person from the beginning. Am I wrong? So the wrong bit is something else that happens during the date, in person. Here there are some questions: do you care about grooming and hygiene? demographi…
/r/seduction27/02/21 10:04 PM
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The most useful advice is to be present in the moment. You gently escalate assuming her consent. If she stops you explicitly or you feel she’s becoming nervous/rigid, then slow down a bit, you might also ask her if she’s ok if you’re in doubt. There isn’t an answer that fits every situation, you need to learn by doing.
/r/seduction27/02/21 11:30 AM
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I’m 40+, I usually avoid old apps, even if my last relationship came from there. Before covid lockdowns, I used to go clubs, concerts, meetups. I built my social circle around clubbing (I became friend with bouncers, bartenders, musicians and DJs, I get free drink/entries/tables, etc...). I avoid daygame, I used to do it in my teenage/20s (yeah, 1990s), but now I don’t have time and it’s not very comfortable/fulfilling when you’re over-40, lol! Same for social networks. I have some, but I avoid …
/r/seduction26/02/21 10:49 PM
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Well, I agree, but I’d prefer a shower and clean clothes before going out.
/r/seduction26/02/21 08:43 PM
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Excluding some health issue (ask your doctor for that), I understand you might be tired at the end of the day, but pay attention to your lazyness. You know, when the brain starts saying “I’m tired, I can’t do that”, sometimes he’s right, sometimes he’s just lazy. That said, I can give you some tips that might help you: identify activities you know you would enjoy, or find something you’re curious about to discover: this is important because doing things you like generates eu-stress (the “good st…
/r/seduction26/02/21 08:41 PM
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Don’t worry, I know my stories and I know how to deliver them organically, to the point that many people told me I should write a book. That said, it still looks like you’re doing it for the so called “DHV” which, in my book, is needy and desperate as fuck, just like Mistery and Neil Strauss (based on their own admission, not my speculation). If you have something to tell because it fits the interaction, then go for it. How you deliver it it’s up to you, storytelling is a skill by its own, just …
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Several important aspects are missed (just like the Mistery method in itself): you actually need to have that ground story the ground story should be interesting to a given context/demographic. If you’re dancing in club, I don’t think people would be impressed by the fact you won the chess tournament at the local fair. Just like in a chess club, nobody would be impressed if you’re a DJ. delivery is key: how you tell the story, timing, wording, body language last but not least: if done wrongly, y…
/r/seduction26/02/21 09:00 AM
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Me too. I ended a “few months” relationship recently, which I already tried to end after the first few weeks. she was excellent in many aspects, but deep inside me I didn’t want to commit/settle again. At least not yet.
/r/seduction25/02/21 11:34 PM
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Same boat for me, dude ;-) my friends isn’t afraid to be single, but sometimes he confessed he would enjoy settling if he found a decent one.
/r/seduction25/02/21 10:11 PM
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Take this as a hard learned lesson. I don’t want to generalize, I’m sure there’s some decent/competent/genuine coach out there, but giving money to someone whose only proofs are YouTube videos is a blind hazard. Some theory from well established book authors, and a lot of practice in the real world is way more cheaper and effective. If you really want to throw/invest some money, you might want to look for professional counseling about confidence, life goals or similar. At least they’re certified…
/r/seduction25/02/21 08:57 PM
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I've been there some year ago, after 18 years relationship. I also had some other relationship later. It's hard to find a decent person for a relationship. No problem getting laid, though, that's the easy part, lol :-P
/r/seduction25/02/21 04:49 PM
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As another commenter pointed out, you’re confusing sex with relationships. Women can get sex very easily because they have armies of thirsty dudes hitting on them in the most weird and delusional ways. But women have strong difficulties to find a decent guy/man to establish a meaningful relationship. Considering that the thirsty dudes above usually don’t meet minimal standards. I mean, maybe 1 in 40-50? In the end, getting rejected from pussy (men), and inability to find someone for a relationsh…
/r/seduction25/02/21 03:21 PM
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Usually, posts which have “simp” starting from their title always trigger a red flag, however the content of the post is definitely reasonable. I’d say these “tips” are the ABC for decent human interactions. To some extent, they contribute to apply “Rule #2”
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