Hello everyone, I usually don’t post field reports because I meet girls/women organically, but tonight was my friend’s birthday (the one I jokingly call Mr1000, because of his bodycount which is around 1300 women) and we went to a very posh venue near Colosseum in Rome, full of models, escorts and tourists.

I don’t remember the last time I did cold approaches. Well, I naturally talk with random people naturally on a daily basis, but it has been some years or decades that I don’t do classic cold approaches for pickup.

All that goodness (the ugliest one could have been a 7 or 8) put me in the right playful mood, even if I wasn’t thinking about doing any game, I was just enjoying the moment of hanging out, as usual.

In a matter of minutes since we entered the venue and did quick exploration (it was huge!), we went to the bar for drinks.

First set, the Americans

While in the queue at the bar, I’ve noticed a group of 3 girls (20-something, I’m nearly 50 but I look younger, FYI). They were clearly speaking english, so I approached them, in italian :-) Why? I can speak english very well (I work in a international team/company, English is the official language to communicate), the average italian doesn’t, and I foreseen that they might be surprised to find an italian guy which can communicate with them. Their natural, puzzled, response was: “Do you speak English? 🫣”, easy: “Of course! 😁”, so I discovered they were from Boston, Massachusetts.

My friend was isolated because, you guessed, he doesn’t speak english at all. I was talking almost with one of the, she was engaged and was trying to include the other two, which were focused on their conversation, giving the backs to their friend. But we were in the queue, that point was stuffed with people going around and I somehow lost the group. I went near my friend which meanwhile was going to pay (he basically jumped the queue, a common bad habit in Italy, especially in Rome).

Few seconds later, the girl comes saying: “hey, you jumped the queue?!” in a smiling and jokingly way. I’ve replied with the same vibes:

[emojis provided for… emotions/vibes] Me: Sure! 😉 Her: but… you aren’t respecting the rules 😂 Me: Exactly! We don’t respect the rules. Didn’t you know that Italy is one of the few countries in the world that doesn’t respect the queues, or rules in general? 😏

And again, she was dragged away, to get the drinks at the bar. In matter of seconds, I’ve lost them. Not a problem, that was fun.

But, again, near the bar there was one of her friends, in a very stunning red dress, aligned with the “standards” in that venue. I just had a weird shirt, cargo-jeans, stan smiths and a g-shock, I think I was the cheapest dressed man in the entire venue. And I didn’t give a flying fuck, as usual. This girl never turned to me, so I wasn’t able to approach her as I would (spoiler: by complimenting her dress). Pass.

Second set, double birthday

Me and my friend sat on a couch, drinking and talking, enjoying the night. I notice several sets of two girls/women here and there.

I point at the closest ones, the lowest effort. At some point, one of the two women goes away, leaving her friend alone…

Now, despite the jokingly nickname, my friend Mr1000 is totally afraid to cold approach. I’ve never been. So I went to her and asked if she knew something about the dance floor, because I was new. She was new as well, so I asked something else, she replied and I sat in front of her on the same couch.

Mr1000 stayed on this couch, a bit far from us. I was waiting for the other friend coming back. When she arrived, I kept the set of two alone, while my friend was still watching.

I needed an excuse to introduce him, and I was lucky enough that they told be they were celebrating a birthday. What a coincidence, it was Mr1000’s birthday too! (for real). That ‘s how I introduced him.

From there, my friend perfectly knows all the steps, we knew each other since decades, we did this hundred of times. The game started.

My best weapon is confidence and witty talk. After playing the guessing game for age and job, I told her: “well, ask me anything, even the most embarrassing or vulnerable question, and I’ll reply without any problem”.

She did it, she tried to shit test me in every possible way, but I was totally comfortable, playful and relaxed. She was, instead, like a Poker player, and I jokingly called her out for that, saying it’s not a problem. By the way, she’s a boss/manager, a very interesting person.

Fast forward 2-3 hours of interaction, we go out from there together. At the moment to say goodbye, I asked: “so… do you want to continue this interaction in the near future? 😏”. She tried again to shit test: “do we have anything to say to each other? 😏”, that was easy: “I think so 😎”.

She handled her phone to me, it was an iPhone, so I took mine, put it near her one, and it automatically shown our contacs on each other phone.

Then she kissed me, and I told her: “I’ll text you tomorrow 😉”, “Ok”.

That’s it, that was fun, and I’ve found a new venue for doing game.

What you can learn from this

  • I’ve been relaxed, as usual. I went out to celebrate my friend’s birthday, we weren’t even thinking where to go.

  • I kept my frame and vibes, no matter what. I know my value, who I am, and I’m not seeking for anything. I’m somehow average looking and dressed in a not so proper way. But I never gave a fuck anyway. It was full of models (both genders), and I wasn’t afraid of those 8-9-10s (again, both genders) around, I am what I am.

  • being open to opportunities. It’s not a hunting game, it’s just that you see an opportunity while there and you play it for the sake of fun.

Hope you enjoyed it.