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Are you an immigrant or speak English as a second language (Assuming you live in a predominantly English speaking country?) There are several minor grammatical errors in the post. You may want to proof read your messages to these women more closely, I could see small grammatical errors leading to a bad perception from them.
/r/seduction05/02/22 07:53 AM
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If you feel this way, I'd say you don't have much confidence in your game. Which maybe is OK if you are just starting out. At this point. I will take my odds against 99% of random dudes you would grab at a bar - because I've been doing this a lot more, have more knowledge and game, am a funnier and more interesting person. Having other random bros just kind of being lame will actually help you stand out. I say step up to the challenge.
/r/seduction10/02/14 06:08 AM
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I think you may be deluding yourself. I don't have girls that are attracted to me running away. The opposite in fact. I think you are interpreting disinterest as a girl using a bad technique to get you. I don't think they are that clever for the most part - girls who like you generally a) don't leave a conversation with you b) return messages and c) agree to meet up. If she isn't doing those things, she probably just isn't that into you, so re-evaluate your approaches and build more attraction a…
/r/seduction23/12/13 10:26 PM
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This is a limiting belief. The majority of my first time random sex happens at a girls place and not mine anyways, I think they are more comfortable in general at their own place than a strangers. I know girls that I've slept with dozens of times who have never seen my place, so as far as they know , I could live with my parents too, so don't sweat it. You could always lie and say your roommate complains when you bring people back, but I wouldn't advocate dishonesty in general.
/r/seduction23/12/13 10:20 PM
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You mention going up to the hottest girls in the club, etc. Your lack of AA is admirable, but clearly you admit your game is not where you like it yet, what about starting with girls you still find attractive but are less likely to blow you out. Less hot girls are more forgiving for a reason, and probably better practice targets, because you can try different things and learn. As an analogy - imagine you want to be a Pro Football player when you grow up - you don't just go out there as a kid and…
/r/seduction23/12/13 10:17 PM
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I interacted with a beautiful older woman (10 years) in a professional context. Conversation got to how she had a pool at her place, she offered her personal number (which was on her card) and the next day scheduled a follow up appointment via Outlook invite. My response was an Outlook invite to "Pool Party" with location "Your place" on that Saturday. She was busy, but later called me and we went out and dated for over a year afterwards. Mine was a bold move, but it payed off. When we first cha…
/r/seduction23/12/13 02:48 AM
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Glad it worked - seems "too" clever, and scripted for me.
/r/seduction12/11/13 07:59 PM
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Haha, I could see that being really funny. Especially if you are kind of forceful and say "No, could we have a minute" which kind of forces that guy to leave, and then you start dumping her in a drawn out and hilarious way which makes you too laugh and he's outside of the conversation at that point.
/r/seduction12/11/13 07:58 PM
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To see my pussy. (Cat)
/r/seduction10/11/13 03:33 PM
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To be honest, I don't think I would want any girl who continues seeing other guys along with me to be exclusive with me. My experience is that the type of girl that you want to be your girlfriend exclusively is the type of girl who stops seeing anyone else after she becomes intimate with you on her own anyways. If she is still banging other guys while banging you, how much can she really like you, compared to these other guys? It seems to me that in her eyes, you aren't enough, so better not to …
/r/seduction04/11/13 11:45 AM
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I would say don't go straight for the apartment. Treat her like a new girl. Would you ask a new girl to come straight to your apartment - meet her for friends near your place instead and bring her back. Be charming. Pretend whatever embarrassing event didn't happen. As to whether she is seeing anyone else - not your problem - if she wants to meet up, you have a chance to supplant him anyways. But safe to assume that most reasonably attractive chicks are getting laid on the regular from someone -…
/r/seduction28/10/13 06:42 AM
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This girl already rejected you. Why would you care if she sees someone else do it? At least that way she won't feel special anymore.. anyone can reject you. In all seriousness, just relax and block her out of your mind. Your best chance of getting back at her (not that this should be your goal) is to be happy with another girl.
/r/seduction15/10/13 04:36 AM
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One thing I've noticed is that for the most part guys don't just "get lucky" with attractive girlfriends. It may not be readily apparent what a guy has going for him, but if you look close enough, there is usually some explanation - maybe he has a huge social circle and is well liked - maybe he is really funny, etc. I know this because before I became an attractive person, I never "got lucky" so to speak with attractive women. Attractive women always have options, and they pick the best - accord…
/r/seduction14/10/13 10:33 AM
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I'll just second that I think you should check out the rest of the book. He deals with overcompensation that a lot of us in PUA tend to do when coming from a nice guy background (as you say you do). It seems clear from your comments that you are a reformed nice guy, but I think you have swung the pendulum too far, and probably attract a lot of insecure women. The absolute best, most beautiful and confident women won't fall for the same bullshit negging etc, and these are the kind you would actua…
/r/seduction29/09/13 08:05 PM
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Yes. All the time. There is no difference. Ask them about the 80s. Make light of the age difference. Sometimes they will disqualify themselves and say they are too old for you. I typically say "Oh, is that a problem for you?" Which implies it isn't for me. Not sure exactly what the best response here is, I'll let someone else chime in.
/r/seduction27/09/13 07:39 AM
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Fantastic post. This almost seems exactly like my story. When you are having the most fun at any venue, people (especially women) will be magnetically drawn to you.
/r/seduction09/09/13 07:16 AM
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Find a new girl when you get back. You took too long to escalate, should have kissed her second date. Good news is, you are attractive, because she went out with you, and liked you the first night. You will not have trouble meeting a new girl.
/r/seduction02/09/13 05:15 AM
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Might want to discuss it first with roommate. Never been in this exact situation, but most of my friends (male and female) are accustomed to me bringing different girls around on different nights. They like to joke about it, but as my friends, are tight lipped when I'm actually with a girl. Can you just go to Y's house? I find most casual hookups prefer their house to mine anyways...
/r/seduction02/09/13 05:08 AM
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If she is complaining about her BF, you already fucked up and are in the friend zone. Find a new girl and start over, no shame.
/r/seduction23/08/13 11:51 AM
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I would recommend weight lifting (for self-confidence, and also to give off a more menacing appearance) and a martial art. Not because you will fight anyone, but knowing you could will improve your confidence and the vibe you are putting out.
/r/seduction22/08/13 07:54 AM
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Don't be too cocky. While generally effective with the girl herself, her friends will pick up on overconfidence in a negative light.
/r/seduction21/08/13 06:19 PM
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Just had an amazing 4 day sexcapade with a friend from middle school that I'd only seen once since (I'm 30). I just hit her up on Facebook since I was visiting the town and didn't know many people. We ended up going out to a bunch of bars, and back to my place and hanging out the next several days. I didn't really game her at all, I did no techniques or anything, but I clearly displayed non-neediness and came across an a confident, attractive male due to my reference experiences and history with…
/r/seduction06/08/13 10:25 AM
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Maybe its just the women lately? I had a very terrible date where I ran out of stuff to say and we both felt awkward and looked at the time for way too long. Next week, I bring a different girl (that I'm more interested in) to the exact same place and the conversation flows perfectly. Don't assume the problem is always you. Could just be a string of boring/incompatible women. I find when I'm with a woman I'm really attracted to, her presence energizes me like a drug and I can go on and on, where…
/r/seduction16/07/13 01:21 PM
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I went to a concert the other day with 3 girls I've been intimate with. 1 was a friend who I have hooked up with a few times but don't want a relationship with, another was a girl I dated a year back and broke up with, and the third was a girl I had banged a few times recently but don't really like. I instructed girl #1 to deliberately cock-block me from girl #3, and it worked. Didn't go home with any of them (and wasn't trying) and joined my friends out on the town. I could sense a little jealo…
/r/seduction11/07/13 12:42 PM
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Then you aren't that attractive.. Or maybe you don't live in a big city, or you never go out at night. Though my girlfriends get hit on everywhere, including at work...but they also go out a lot and are pretty social and engaging to everyone they meet, male or female.
/r/seduction02/11/12 01:50 AM
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I tend to target females that aren't swarmed in male attention. Less attractive chicks are easier to get and keep, as you have pointed out. You've got to decide whether it is worth the constant challenges to date/girlfriend a very attractive socialable girl.
/r/seduction16/10/12 03:36 PM
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You go on the date.. next.. this post is just bragging ;-)
/r/seduction16/10/12 03:10 PM
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And all the good looking and fashionable guys are gay. Its a great place to be a single dude.
/r/seduction24/08/12 10:06 PM
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Austin seems fun from my experience as well.
/r/seduction24/08/12 10:05 PM
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Everything advocated by /r/seduction can come of as creepy, particularly if you are uncomfortable doing it. I wouldn't just write off being called creepy as a disinterested girl, I think it means you need to fine tune your approach. If you are smooth, your escalation will be more natural, you just need more practice. I find 'creepy' is almost synonymous with 'outcome dependent.' Girls find it creepy when they think a guy wants something from them. You can kino, etc without appearing overly inves…
/r/seduction24/08/12 06:40 PM
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Bar near whatever house you expect to be going back to.. Make sure to game her, don't not try just because you think it is already in the bag. Escalate, and get out of there..
/r/seduction24/08/12 06:23 PM
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Get out!
/r/seduction23/08/12 07:10 PM
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Dude, been there. Almost a year ago, I ended an 8 year relationship that started freshman year of college. She was great- super caring, nicest person- took care of me, did my laundry, the works. I just wasn't super attracted to her to be honest, all along, but she had gained some weight which didn't help either. You know what- doing your own laundry ain't so bad. We still talk, and we both wish each other the best- both of us are better and more attractive people than we were together now apart.
/r/seduction23/08/12 12:00 AM
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Bravo! This embodies my attitude lately of doing things for the story. Obviously there is balance, and you don't want to alienate everyone you go out with, but I assume you don't do this all the time. Always keep game fun and lighthearted.
/r/seduction22/08/12 10:14 PM
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I typically only do this if I see that the girls are really not interested in the guys. By doing this, you are their hero and once other guys have wandered off, you can joke about how you saw them and came in out of charity. I will however, go in to a set with a dude that is obviously interested in a girl who he knows and went to the venue with - pretty much any time they aren't touching. My mentality is pretty much that if he was with her, or had a real chance, he would have his arm around her,…
/r/seduction21/08/12 10:05 AM
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Yeah, I think it was probably over a month, but I'm seeing a lot of other girls, so the time didn't really bother me at all. This is the first new girl I've F-closed in a few months though, as I've just been mostly going out with the same girls again and again.
/r/seduction21/08/12 09:53 AM
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Is it possible that she actually did like you, but you were too much of a pussy to act and she lost interest? If she said 'Would you kiss me?' and you didn't immediately try to kiss her you fucked up bro. It sounds to me like she was putting this out for a while, but you didn't reciprocate fast enough, and she instead met a guy with cojones.
/r/seduction21/08/12 09:40 AM
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I think you came on too strong with 'This is the most important one you will ever get.' She laughed, and replied, but I think that although you may see this as being very confident (which might seem good) to me it comes off as desperate. You are basically communicating that you are already envisioning a big future together, or that you've already decided that she's good enough for you, even though it is obviously a joke. You want her to be attracted to you, but you need to set the frame that you…
/r/seduction21/08/12 09:17 AM
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No, dating (and fucking) both. One for 2 months, one for 3. I haven't been friend-zoned since high school, now that I go for what I want early. I've had very solid interactions with both, but my concern is just that I will start being 'That guy that pays for me' to them if I just acquiesce. One in fact told me that she was dating this investment banker guy at first as well when I started seeing her. She told me that he always lavished her with nice meals and gifts and payed for everything, but t…
/r/seduction17/08/12 09:33 PM
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Maybe this should be a separate post, but I'm somewhat at a loss for how to handle girls who simply don't make as much money as me and can't really afford the type of lifestyle I have. I don't mind paying for things, but I know that sets a terrible precedent, and I kind of feel like a chump if I always pay. I've had 2 girls who I generally split things with just explain that they really like hanging out, but really can't afford to keep spending at the rate we do. Is there a way to keep going to …
/r/seduction17/08/12 06:07 PM
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Its guys like you who allow chicks to remain fat. I think if all quality men stopped lowering their standards, most chicks would try harder to be attractive and we would all benefit in the long run. LOL.
/r/seduction16/08/12 05:04 PM
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I don't even remember... One thing I've noticed in this and the past is that if you make a non-verbal gesture to a woman without saying anything, she will often open you up. I think it piques their interest in some way. Another girl I have been dating, I met by doing a non-verbal parting of the red sea to imply that I was trying to get in for a drink at the bar. She's very attractive, and the fact that I didn't even talk to her, and just was interested in getting by was probably attractive since…
/r/seduction16/08/12 12:28 AM
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I had a pretty memorable one last week. I was in the grocery store express checkout lane, buying a 24 pack of toilet paper and a pound of ground beef. There was a placard on the belt, which said 15 items or fewer, but sort of made the line look like it was closed. I see this cute blonde at the next line looking at it, as though trying to figure out if the lane was open. I point both fingers at the sign, then both fingers at her, then give 2 thumbs up. She comes over, and we start chatting - I sa…
/r/seduction15/08/12 05:15 PM
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Which is the default.. so essentially nobody turns this on. You can however see that the message was 'Delivered' which at least means that their phone wasn't turned off.
/r/seduction09/08/12 01:20 AM
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I would just facebook close her. Its weaker than a direct approach to ask for her number, but this stuff only really matters if she is only borderline into you. If you do everything else right, this detail isn't going to matter. It sounds like you did very well and she wants it. Let her have it. Source: One of the hottest and best all-around girls I'm dating now came through me adding her on Facebook (not even in front of her- she just had a weird name and happened to have gone to my undergrad) …
/r/seduction06/08/12 07:01 AM
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Well, I feel I need to chime in on this one. Get a cat, they are awesome. I've never had an issue with bedding a girl as a result of having cats at home. You can use it as an excuse to get them into your house, but that's not really my style- would rather just bring her up with no pretext. A large % of girls are allergic- and it varies from some sniffling to swollen eyeballs and full body rashes. I've had allergies cockblock me in the past, but usually I can just see them at their place in the f…
/r/seduction17/07/12 08:16 PM
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Good points! I've struggled with this a bit lately as well. One girl I'm seeing often invites me to join her friends, but when I do, I'm not in control of the situation, and I feel like a lap dog and she is obviously less attracted to me (for example one night after this, she didn't want to have sex that night or the next morning either). Things that I've found work are - meet her later, like at the end of her night, or bring my friends out with me when she invites me to join her friends. One ti…
/r/seduction17/07/12 04:36 PM
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I think cute is better for that reason. She will wonder why you didnt say hot, beautiful or gorgeous and try to qualify herself.
/r/seduction17/07/12 04:25 PM
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I think when it comes up, be honest about wanting something casual, but I would let it come up, not initiate that conversation yourself. If you see her infrequently (say once a week) and don't call/text her all the time, she will realize she isn't being treated as a girlfriend, but as someone you go out with. I'm deliberately avoiding spending 2 nights in a row with the same woman, because that sets a bad precedent, and can escalate to them wanting to see you too often, which usually makes them …
/r/seduction25/06/12 10:27 AM
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It really doesn't matter. Look at Ben Stein. That guy is fucking awesome. If you have interesting shit to say and are an upbeat person, I don't think your delivery really matters. But if it bother's you, by all means work on it. By the way, I'll plug Ben's book (only one of his I've read). It really helped motivate me, both with women and in other areas of life. http://www.amazon.com/How-Successful-People-Win-Bunkhouse/dp/1561709751/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1340606056&sr=1-1&keywords=ben+s…
/r/seduction25/06/12 06:35 AM
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This works. I was at a bar late a night, and start chatting with a girl who I going to buy 2 drinks, she has like $10. I convince her to get cheaper beers so that she can afford to buy me one too. Fast forward and me and her (less attractive) roommate are back at their place hanging out drinking until 4AM. Roommate goes to sleep and we start making out. She insists in calling a cab for me, I let her cab arrives, I get to the door and say: you don't really want me to get in the cab do you? She ag…
/r/seduction13/06/12 07:02 AM
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Well, I went out with this girl, really fancy dinner (because I wanted to go to a good steakhouse- not to impress her) and it went well, we ended up grinding on the dance floor later at a bar, but when I dropped her off, we hugged in the car, and she made a smoochy noise, but it was kind of awkward. Fast forward 2 days and I don't hear from her (usually I expect some kind of text after) and sent "had a good time the other night, let's hang out again soon." She replied with just a :). I assume sh…
/r/seduction01/06/12 11:04 PM
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Update: thanks guys, I need to stop second guessing myself. I ended up deciding not to contact her for the date on Monday, but she texted me and asked me what I was up to, I was hanging out reading at a park near her, so I told her, she met up and we ended up taking a day trip somewhere and hanging out all day, she came back to my place (didn't ask, just assumed) watched a few minutes of a movie and had some of the best sex.
/r/seduction29/05/12 01:47 PM
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11% seems low, I'd say 80% are down for a meetup after getting their number, and if you play your cards right, 80% of those will eventually have sex with you. Might take several dates though YMMV depending on your game and the girl.
/r/seduction28/05/12 05:43 PM
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I hit on and went out with this gorgeous Colombian woman who worked at the front desk of my dentist. I'm 27 and she's defintely mid 30s. When she called me back, she's like "there's an age difference I think you should know.." as if I would have a problem that she is older. I just calmly said "Oh I know, is that going to be a problem for you?" diffused the situation immediately. My last girlfriend was 35 (and looked nothing like it) but I figured it was not a good idea to share this fact up fron…
/r/seduction24/05/12 03:23 PM
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I have a roommate in a loft - his room is upstairs from the living room/kitchen with no door(just cloth separator), mine is up one more flight behind a door. This actually works great (which surprised me) but once a girl comes into my place late at night, we have to keep quiet and leave lights off and go to my room. Usually I'll bring beers from the fridge and we can sit on my bed, the things quickly escalate. When I didn't have a roommate it was a whole nother thing where we would start on the …
/r/seduction23/05/12 04:18 PM
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It's called the flop and stare. Friend of a friend coined this move in college. Just flop, and stare. Don't say anything. He claims great success rates. Not really my style though.
/r/seduction23/05/12 08:29 AM
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