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The Favorite Mrs. the Hun's right elbow isn't going to know what hit it tomorrow.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/20 05:56 AM
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Here's some food for thought...the US public school system is based on the Prussian school system, which was developed to produce obedient soldiers. The US system instead produces obedient workers. Since 1880 not much has changed. (Pick up any of John Taylor Gatto's books for more explanation.) At the end of the day, parents have the responsibility of raising their children. This means every aspect of their being: intellectual, physical, emotional, and spiritual. Choosing to place them in an edu…
/r/RPChristians01/02/20 11:31 PM
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When homeschooled kids end up socially awkward it's 100% the fault of the parents. Socialization is a terrible argument against it. If you're taking full responsibility for their education and not outsourcing it to under-paid, over-worked babysitters with lesson plans, then you should also assume the task of getting them acclimated to society.
/r/RPChristians01/02/20 11:02 PM
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Women are primarily sexually responsive. I had stopped giving her anything to respond to. Maybe I'm just navel-gazing, but you're scratching at some philosophical stuff here that applies to leadership in general. People without direction need something to push against (positively or negatively) which leadership provides. Men, being the generative sex, are responsible for creating that which women respond to.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 09:04 AM
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Women believe that because they are more emotional, somehow emotional acuity is their forte. It's not. Emotional volatility is, and those aren't the same thing. Pearls. Just because you use a tool often - and in a haphazard, uncontrolled way - doesn't mean you have mastery over it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/19 02:41 PM
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Definitely check out this sub OP, even if your mom isn't a certified narcissist (based on info you provided, I'm betting she is, just not properly diagnosed). You have to wade through a lot of "woe is me" and other attention-seeking posts, but there are actionable points. There are also resources on "toxic parenting" out there to consider. But like most others here are telling you, don't treat her any differently than any other woman with RP tactics.
/r/askMRP19/03/19 08:11 PM
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I get your point. Prayer is not a tool to "get" what we want like some spiritual slot machine where "if I just say this specific prayer enough times, the game will pay out!" We cannot change the will of God. Prayer is meant to affect change in us. Though I can speak from experience that whenever I practiced that specific devotion, I was never disappointed.
/r/RPChristians08/02/19 09:18 PM
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God will always answer prayers for humility. Google the "Litany of Humility," pray daily, say goodbye to pride.
/r/RPChristians08/02/19 05:50 PM
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Lifting, boxing when I can. RPish for 4 years-ish. There's your problem. Half-assing it doesn't help matters. Yes, it's tiring, but this isn't a sprint.
/r/askMRP08/02/19 05:48 PM
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I think the key difference is not expecting something like divorce rape to influence your decisions and actions to the point where it's the guiding force. It's one thing to be aware of the possibility and prepare for it, it's another to behave as if it's an inevitability.
/r/RPChristians22/01/19 05:43 PM
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Heck, not just women, but life in general - especially your professional life. Per the FI community, have multiple streams of income in addition to your 9-5/W2 revenue. Not at that financial stage yet? Go on interviews 2-3 times a year so that if your employer goes belly-up or decides to "restructure" you out of a job, you've got options. The deciding factor for the ability to have abundance and therefore OI comes down to how you act/what you do to build your safety net.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 05:38 PM
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This is borderline poetic.
/r/askMRP16/01/19 04:32 PM
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You missed the opportunity to say, "one of my girlfriends."
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/18 04:38 PM
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Embrace the suck. Do this, and you'll negate its depressive influence. Jesus embraced the cross and all the related suffering and brought forth the salvation of mankind.
/r/RPChristians28/12/18 03:32 AM
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Can't elaborate on daily schedule as the Mrs. stays home to handle. She has pieced together 2-3 separate curriculums; currently teaching pre-K, 1st, and 3rd grade. I will do an occasional math or science lesson with the older 2 kids. Am planning on administering regular coding lessons for the 1st and 3rd graders next semester.
/r/RedPillParenting24/12/18 10:16 PM
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There is no finish line with this, all of us are students/practitioners to a degree, some just started sooner than others. So don't hesitate to mine the collective wisdom of the community or pose 1:1 questions...just be prepared to accept hard facts and tough love
/r/RPChristians24/12/18 05:24 PM
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I'm curious, how would you debate with an RP zealot - who would cling to the argument of the pill being amoral - that acting in self-interest is best done in the context of virtue?
/r/RPChristians22/12/18 04:29 PM
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Maybe not white-knightish but definitely contrary to the "me first" mentality found in RP. The Christian tenement of self-emptying love presents an obstacle to the full realization of the RP ideal.
/r/RPChristians22/12/18 03:38 PM
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Lifelong Catholic, never fell away though I had a "reversion" around college that led to further study of Church teaching. Have been RP aware for about 4yrs. Didn't commit to the "program" of reading, lifting, OYS at first, but have been at it for a little over 2 yrs. There's a lot of truth in RP wisdom which is why it works. Though I'd offer a generalized line from the likes of Aquinas and classical philosophy: accept what's true, leave what isn't.
/r/RPChristians22/12/18 02:12 PM
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"societal element"...care to expound? Edit: spell-check
/r/RPChristians22/12/18 01:46 PM
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Concerning oneself with the details while ignoring or sacrificing the fundamentals is akin to being busy all day while not accomplishing anything truly productive.
/r/RPChristians17/12/18 12:17 AM
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Marriage is not your mission. It very likely can be your vocation, and a means for God to sanctify you in this life, though it's not your mission. Don't confuse those two and sacrifice the first thing for the second thing. Also, the fruits of marriage are not yet yours, so don't go enjoying them before it's time. If she's not yours, she's someone else's.
/r/RPChristians04/12/18 11:32 PM
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As odd as this is going to sound, try focusing on and harnessing your active, though negative, outward-focused emotions. Anything that spurs you to action can be used as fuel for motivation and personal improvement. This is why some RP-aware men will encourage others to embrace the anger phase. You must be careful with this though and not act out the particular flavor of emotion you're experiencing (like anger, lust, desire, etc). Use the emotion as fuel, but redirect it towards a useful end (ta…
/r/RPChristians12/10/18 03:52 PM
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When i became a father, one useful piece of advice my dad gave me was, "better they cry now, than you cry later." Doesn't have to be physical discipline, their little dopamine receptors are likely tuned to something that would cause pain if taken away.
/r/askMRP16/08/18 09:57 PM
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Amen! Odd...in the past couple of weeks I've either heard in a presentation or podcast, or read in a book, about the physiological benefits gained from exercising gratitude regularly (if not daily). Good reminder.
/r/RPChristians28/06/18 06:56 PM
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Men's value is time and commitment. And if you are spending your time with your feelings you are telling the world what is the most important thing to you. Key insight here. Similar to the "ignore words, watch actions" measuring stick.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 06:12 PM
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Lol. Dude is busy builidng a beard oil empire and co-founding a manly facebook copycat.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 04:37 PM
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You are now the director of FireTempered's SuperPAC
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/18 07:40 PM
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The Saturday after Stir-Friday...for those who prefer szechuan-style
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 08:17 PM
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Some women warm up like a microwave, others like an oven. Don't judge OP's wife for being two sticks and some kindling.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 05:51 AM
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She wears her old sweats, puts her hair up and says she wants to be comfortable. Congratulations, you're married to a human being. If up-hair and sweats constitutes looking like excrement, then two things: 1) it's your fault for letting her get to such a low standard and 2) you're scale for standards needs to be calibrated in regards to her relation to you on that 1,000ft rope that's not yet taught, rambo. She doesn't care to be attractive at home, which is most of the time when I see her. I've …
/r/RPChristians23/01/18 04:02 AM
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Shit, where were you with this nugget a few months ago? I was on a business trip for a week and decided to dust out the cobwebs and make several approaches like OP. Conversation with one nibble got to the point where she starts saying stuff like "you keep in good shape, how come you're not married?" I just sheepishly shrug, look at my ring, and then she backpedals.
/r/askMRP20/01/18 03:51 AM
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A real endocrinologist will treat the symptoms not shoot for a number. This. A guy i know in his late 50s went through his own TRT journey of research and being seen by several specialists. Took him about a year or two before finding someone with enough brains to identify that his personal low would be considered "high" or "acceptable" for others.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 06:00 PM
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5 different archetypes was there a post on this at some point?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 06:55 PM
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While working on yourself and pushing your own boundaries, don't hesitate to bring them along for the ride. It doesn't have to be a formal, planned out lesson for them to learn.
/r/RedPillParenting14/01/18 01:52 AM
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Children are such a blank slate that I'd be suspect of any resource that claims to have even some of the answers. You're correct to work on yourself so as to set a good example. But with regards to instructing them, I'd suggest infusing them with a sense of confidence and responsibility. Confidence is built through experience and acquisition of skills. Give them ample room for failure and time to learn from mistakes.
/r/RedPillParenting13/01/18 07:54 PM
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Seconded. Merry Christmas all
/r/RPChristians25/12/17 05:45 PM
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Sounds like you could've benefited from some AM in the moment, to draw attention to and dismantle her covert communication. If this is truly the first year she's taken part in wrapping (let alone the initiative to do it in advance of your standing tradition) then her ongoing "noise" is just typical, drawn-out womanese for "look at me, I'm actually helping this year. geez, what a chore this is."
/r/askMRP22/12/17 07:58 PM
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Yeah, it's a bitch when this happens (and keeps happening). Convert any depression into frustration and use that to fuel action. Like that inspirational quote about lighting a candle rather than cursing the darkness...just not so cheesy.
/r/askMRP20/12/17 04:13 PM
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Tossing one's cookies at realizing truth isn't the worst that can happen. Sitting in the vomit and not picking yourself up to start living your life is.
/r/askMRP20/12/17 04:11 PM
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Much like you alluded to, attractiveness is often an outward sign of an inner reality. As beings with a spiritual component to our existence, we are keenly aware of the Three Transcendentals (Truth, Goodness, and Beauty) and how they relate to each other. Truth is good and goodness is beautiful, therefore we recognize beauty as a sign of truth (B>G>T) and are drawn to it. However, this concept can also be perverted in the same way Satan tempts with lies disguised as truth. Make-up, cosmetic surg…
/r/RPChristians16/12/17 03:12 AM
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Of course she is, just like every other one out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 02:22 PM
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Hah, this read like a comic strip
/r/askMRP10/12/17 09:08 PM
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How about sharing whatever you were doing during the two hours between your initial exchange and her flake? If you were dicking around and that was her way of giving up on you (hints of butt-hurt on her part at the end), then you've got further to go than you realize or are willing to admit. However if you were in the middle of something (project, etc.) then don't hide the fact that you're time is valuable and you're busy using it wisely. Cuddle-time requests are usually just an opportunity for …
/r/askMRP06/12/17 11:19 PM
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she did it because she "had to" to keep you from whining about it anymore. Hence the "you don't really deserve this" line. It was a chore for her.
/r/askMRP04/12/17 09:44 PM
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Nice tactic. This is a great example of why meditation/mindfulness is key to one's RP journey. It's where you come to know and define your preferences or plan for future success. Construct your own world (frame) or live in that of others, there's no middle ground.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 06:25 PM
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I agree with /u/Red-Curious that it's more the spirit of the statement than the face-value license to be hedonistic. Everything is temporary this side of heaven and even in the afterlife, things won't operate 100% according to what we already know. The same "spirit" of the maxim could be taken as a practical guide to approaching dating relationships - casual, committed, or engaged - in a virtuous manner. If the woman you're with is not yet your wife, it's probable that she will be for someone el…
/r/RPChristians22/11/17 05:40 PM
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I'm holding back here, but "getting sex without sin" is a painfully weak mission. Focus more on yourself and pursuing a greater purpose in life. The other stuff will follow.
/r/RPChristians22/11/17 07:43 AM
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I'm not a HR expert, but I'd guess it depends on your pay agreement. If you're an hourly/non-exempt employee, they legally owe you pay for any hours worked over your standard per-week hours (37.5, 40, etc). If you're salaried/exempt, then they could technically dump tons of work on you without owing you a dime more than what you're receiving. For the exempt scenario, if you can qualify AND quantify your extra work - results achieved, not just extra time put in - and can make a case for a bonus, …
/r/RedPillWorkplace09/11/17 11:08 AM
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Sounds like they're either grooming you for the promotion (increasing responsibilities that lead to a justified pay raise/title upgrade) or they're taking advantage of you and getting work done on the cheap while stringing you along. Not that you asked, but my advice would be to: kick ass at what you're doing, don't expect the promotion but gladly and graciously accept it if/when it comes, and explore your options at other companies.
/r/RedPillWorkplace09/11/17 05:35 AM
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So what's the difference between caveman and hot monkey sex?
/r/RPChristians02/11/17 11:52 PM
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Before adopting RP terminology, i always referred to people who use you as an "emotional tampon" as emotional vampires.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 05:34 PM
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You need to click the link to his blog to read the rest. But in regards to your question, you could also classify "Spiritual" as mindfulness. Basically, "outwardliness"...considering others or something bigger than yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 05:29 PM
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Either you have too much of a stretch going on between examples, or your narrative thread needs some tightening up. (Appreciate your effort as always though)
/r/RPChristians24/10/17 04:47 AM
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Reminds me of a previous post (maybe podcast interview?) of yours where you talk about the necessity of men embracing suffering because that's what men do. Wake up early or stay up late in order to achieve your mission/MAP. These daily sufferings are like mini deaths; death of comfort, death of preference, death of laziness...all for a greater, more noble end.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 02:41 AM
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As /u/ReddJive put it, she probably expected better of you in that situation. Not sure where you are in the journey, but she's may still be trying to make sense of your improvement and hopes this (slightly) uncharitable behavior won't be the new norm.
/r/RPChristians19/10/17 07:39 PM
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It's part you being upset with yourself for being (having been) equally pathetic, part disappointment with them not striving for awesomeness with you. You'll get over it in time. They are forced into my life and there are moments when I can't hide from Those moments at least, I should be able to be at least pleasant and fun... Nope. Get this right out of your head. You are not owed pleasurable relationships with family any more than you are guaranteed love or respect from a spouse or child. Some…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 02:35 PM
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It's alright. Mailman cuck fetishes rear their ugly head at the weirdest times...let rpr have his moment to vicariously fantasize
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 05:24 AM
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Lifting has been constant for the past 1.5yrs. I had a company gym at my last employer, changed jobs in April and finally decided to ditch the gym membership for a home set-up. Also, Mrs. is preggo atm, so I take the hormones with a grain of salt.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 06:57 PM
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At the start, I was generally dissatisfied with myself and my state in life which prompted me to seek change. Eventually came across NMMG through personal research which led to finding TRP and then MRP on Reddit. I lurked for about a year while digesting the truths/reading sidebar and member posts before deciding to commit. Per your other comment, yes, some early fuckarounditis. (Analytical by nature...deliberation is a strength/weakness depending on the day)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 06:52 PM
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Hey everyone, should we tell OP that hard truths are hard for a reason? Or let him enjoy his fantasy world?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 03:02 AM
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Strongly encourage him to work on himself.
/r/RPChristians11/10/17 01:34 AM
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Whatever you do, don't stifle that anger. Use it as fuel for your journey. And just when you think that things may be improving enough to let off the gas, come back here and reread your post, letting the memories reignite your drive forward.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 04:26 PM
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So goes the maxim around here..."you do you"
/r/askMRP07/10/17 04:22 PM
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"Always be active" is one of the most prominent lessons I've gleaned on my RP journey. Laziness or inaction is such a strong signal that one is blue pill.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 03:49 PM
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I think you might have a coffee addiction.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 03:14 PM
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I agree, it could be a double-edged sword. But OP's wife needs something to help her come to terms with the beast she calls mom - something that can articulate the thoughts and feelings inside her that are seemingly at odds with what her mother has touted for years. Story time: my mom is a hoarder and if she were to be clinically tested, I'm sure she'd be diagnosed as such along with one or two of the accompanying disorders (like narcissism or OCD). Her crazy became amplified while my wife and I…
/r/RPChristians05/10/17 05:53 AM
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Give your wife your copy of WISNIFG and tell her to read it. She's not going to stop being affected by her mother's negative behavior until she decides to not let it bother her. Don't be afraid to tell the MIL off or set hard boundaries; not for the sake of being "Mr. BigToughGuy", but for the sake of protecting your family and the mental well-being of everyone therein.
/r/RPChristians05/10/17 03:03 AM
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Look at it in financal terms. She made am investment of commitment in you. (You did the same with her, but let's ignore that part of the equation/analogy) Your negative behaviors were like massively compounding debt that accumulated over years and you've been putting off payments until recently. The monthly invoices turned into thrice-daily (or more) harassing calls. Now that you're finally owning up to the responsibility of payments, you're upset that you're receiving these reminders and want t…
/r/askMRP28/09/17 04:53 PM
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You aren't responsible for any of these women unless you've married or impregnated them. And you aren't their savior. Leave that up to Christ. Lastly, focus on something other than women. Male friendships or a hobby/skill. Let God send you someone.
/r/RPChristians27/09/17 01:53 AM
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Thanks for your insight Cpt. Obvious. However, your analogy interpreter is broken.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 07:40 PM
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Also, don't be autistic and think anyone is suggesting you completely avoid her for the time it takes for hair to grow back. For all you know, she could decide that's her new look for years. What then? If short hair truly is that much of a boner-killer for you, I'd say your still too wrapped up in her frame and not OI enough. Heck, i like hair long and a curvy body, but if i were on the open market and had a chance with a petite chick sporting a pixie-cut...I'd take it. Try lifting more/harder a…
/r/askMRP26/09/17 07:34 PM
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My sister went through a phase when she was dating a guy "in a band." My mom confided in me that she disapproved of most of the clothes she was wearing during this period but was lost on how to get her (sister) to stop; whenever my mom brought up the subject, my sister's emotional blast doors came down. I suggested to my mom that she compliment whatever outfits my sister wore that were acceptable and ignore (but not badmouth) the "inappropriate" ones. I can't say that this was the silver bullet …
/r/askMRP26/09/17 07:25 PM
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Clearly she has her own mindset about it and how she styles her hair is no different than what outfit she chooses on a given day. And it doesn't sound like she's at a place of wanting to go out of her way or to avoid her own preferences to please you. So my question to you is: Are you sure you want to die on this hill? IMO, this is a low-impact matter as I doubt you'll want to divorce over the length of her hair. What you can do to help reinforce your preference is to compliment her on her long …
/r/askMRP26/09/17 05:00 PM
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Took part in them both during college and for about 2-3 years after. Thought they'd be useful for at least networking, but was ultimately disappointed. They're ok if you are looking for a formalized casual time suck, though I'd argue that you'd be better off just organizing your own monthly drinking/card/chat night with a group of higher-value men from your social and professional circles. If you want a better ROI for your time, seek out entrepreneurial community or sign up for a class and inves…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 09:49 PM
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Pay attention Noobs...this is the fruit of meditation.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/17 07:57 PM
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Are you aware of your own opinion of your family - collective and individuals - and how you convey this to your wife? BP-me used to be indecisive or apathetic towards time with my family. If an event came up (bday, holiday, etc.) I'd gripe about feeling obligated to attend or not care as much because it was routine for me. This gave her permission to not value time with my side to the point where it became a point of contention with my family and eventually me. Once i decided which occasions wer…
/r/askMRP09/09/17 08:33 PM
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You sound like a trophy husband. But one of those chincy, little league deals. You think and talk too much about your wife...MRP isn't about the woman, it's about you.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 04:16 AM
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Your question, as written, is hard to understand. But frame isn't something you compartmentalize. It's a constant that's determined by its degree of strength. The application of it varies depending on which person you're interacting with or what situation you're in. E.x. An expression of your frame with a coworker will vary from that with your wife/S.O. And the expression of frame with your wife/S.O. will vary from situation to situation (AM vs. removal of presence; direct vs. indirect).
/r/askMRP02/09/17 03:08 PM
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Seriously? How musically illiterate are you? How about hard-driving rock to fuel your lifting...ambient electronic or chillhop while you focus on work...folk and americana with killer storytelling. Expand your horizons.
/r/TheRedPill30/08/17 02:17 AM
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Funny how close this method is to what works when trying to get through to children...raise the voice > gain their attention > lower the voice to communicate message (keeping it raised just desensitizes them)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/17 08:16 PM
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I'm surprised at how much energy you have to provide such lengthy responses to so many low-value posts.
/r/askMRP22/08/17 08:47 PM
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http://lmgtfy.com/?q=kindle+reader+text+to+speech
/r/askMRP20/08/17 01:57 PM
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Much like Morpheus's line to Neo about dodging bullets ("when the time comes, you won't have to..."), after properly digesting the red pill long enough, you'll realize the triviality of plates or sex in general. Self improvement via RP will bring you to a place of abundance where "release" will be possible in many other forms and outlets.
/r/RPChristians19/08/17 10:52 PM
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In case you were unaware, the Kindle reader app has a built-in read-text-aloud feature. You can go between listening and reading at your leisure.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 11:08 PM
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Find a professional mentor and schedule regular meetings. Demand they be brutally honest with you when necessary.
/r/RedPillWorkplace15/08/17 12:29 PM
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I think your mistake started with offering her some of your meal to make up for her lack of enthusiasm in her sub-par ribs. A simple "whelp, sucks to be you!" followed by over-enjoying your own food would've helped lighten things up earlier on. She saw you trying to please her rather than set the tone for a fun evening. Also, depending on how long this has been your weekly routine...how do you expect her to get tingles from such safe, hum-drum motions? Come up with something different for a chan…
/r/askMRP14/08/17 03:32 AM
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This all started with me reading a book about fasting. You really going to drop this gem of a post on us and not share the catalyst?
/r/RPChristians13/08/17 06:47 AM
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I have found that I more happy when I spend less time with her though. Well no shit, probably because the time you were spending with her in the past was of terrible quality - choreplay, disrespect, supplication, etc. - and you've come to associate "time with her" as displeasing. But that's not her fault...it's yours. Just because you now realize that you don't need to live like you did before, doesn't mean that you can't spend time with her. She's just as eager to enjoy the new and improved you…
/r/askMRP13/08/17 06:36 AM
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Don't forget backrubs and footrubs...as often as you can give them.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 12:40 PM
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Sounds like the other side of the Negative Assertion coin from WISNIFG. I like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/17 07:47 AM
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Kids will be gluttons for your attention if you let them and it ought to be moderated just like anything else you allocate with them - like sweets or screen time. As you noted, it's important to spend quality time when possible, and to prioritize important events with them (ball game, dance recital, etc.), though you shouldn't need to be an on-demand source of engagement. I have 4 under 10yo and it'd be impossible to spend time with all of them in the amount each of them desire, so my wife and I…
/r/askMRP30/07/17 02:53 PM
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Where's the question? Also, to echo FT, seems to me you're making a big decision from a place of overall weakness and depression. Unless I misread, you're still off track from your MAP, expecting positive reactions (warmth, etc.) from your wife in response to half-assed effort, and you think all these are signs that everything is over?? Of course she'll agree that you two are done if every indication you've given her points to you giving up.
/r/askMRP26/07/17 03:40 AM
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No man, lifting always trumps cardio
/r/askMRP24/07/17 09:16 PM
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The universe doesn't ask the planets of a solar system what orbits they'd prefer around their star and nature doesn’t consult with sea-side property owners before it hurls a hurricane at the shore. Stop viewing the metamorphosis you're working to achieve in the context of your spouse. Start looking at it in light of what it means for you.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 05:02 PM
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a "nice" man who seethes with resentment when he tells you what you want to hear and expects you to read his mind in return. IOW, a woman Every woman with whom I've ever discussed the concepts has ALWAYS admitted at the end that she would love to cede some (or in more than one case ALL) control to a capable man. Women want men to be men so they can be women...huh, who'd have thought!?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 03:59 PM
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My wife's family used to be the same way; every piddly thing was a reason to hang out. While it's nice they're all close, it got old for me fast. You mentioned dominating the calendar...but forever might be a bit of a stretch at this point in your RP journey. Here's something to try: for the next 3 months, plan out every Fri/Sat/Sun of your weekends, blocking time off on the calendar if you have to. Account for things that you should from a leadership POV (scheduled kids activities, etc.) But fo…
/r/askMRP21/07/17 08:21 AM
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Right, because women accidentally fall on erect dicks whilst naked.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 06:05 PM
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If you are craving visceral interaction, seek out opportunities to thicken your skin, both literally and figuratively. In addition to lifting, a lot of guys here join BJJ/boxing/some other martial arts discipline. You can also spend time working in a predominantly masculine field where you need a strong backbone and solid pair of cajones to survive (think sales/labor/construction).
/r/askMRP19/07/17 02:33 AM
4

In other words /u/CrippleSlap...initiate. Men propose, women accept or reject, and then we decide what to do with the response. If her acceptance is what we want or better, great. If it's half-hearted (e.g. starfish sex) we can still pass. If rejection, we DNGAF and focus back on ourselves. And this concept applies to more than just sex. In all aspects of your own life, you act for yourself. Stick your neck out, take a risk, DO something. In the end, you either reap the rewards or try again next…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 06:00 AM
1

What bullshit excuse has kept you from switching departments or finding a new job?
/r/askMRP13/07/17 06:38 PM
1

Reminds me of that Minnie Driver bar joke scene from Good Will Hunting
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 06:22 PM
2

Of course. And there probably are other mrpers here who can attest that focusing on /u/alphabeta49 helped cure their PE.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 03:36 AM
3

This single statement sums up the mentality behind having frame and passing shit tests surprisingly well.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 05:10 PM
3

1) God wrote two books, Scripture and Nature. In the same way humanity learns to live within our universe and subdue certain aspects of existence for our benefit, RP can be likened to a scientifically-proven method for achieving success in human relationships based upon human (specifically, feminine) nature. MRP is applying this concept on an individual level (macro > micro). 2) From single, personal encounters to large-scale group experiences, the practice of Faith has been reduced to little mo…
/r/RPChristians11/07/17 07:32 AM
2

Testosterone Replacement Therapy?
/r/askMRP10/07/17 11:27 PM
3

As OP mentioned in a reply elsewhere in the comments, this is a short-term "experiment" that is more of a pump primer than a long-term leadership strategy. Same outcome can be had by just doing/leading by example, this approach is more overt and strictly defined.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 05:12 PM
6

Are you actually struggling with this decision? Or is this some kind of a "look at what a bad boy I can be, but won't" humblebrag? While RP is described as "amoral" it ultimately boils down to things going in your favor when you're consistently striving for or living in a state of awesomeness. IOW, you can't argue with excellence and that always gets you further in business.
/r/askMRP06/07/17 12:34 AM
1

Along with heavy reading (consumption), you also need meditation (digestion). Cut out diversions and distractions (meaningless entertainment, video games, porn, even news or radio...especially noise for the sake of noise) and allow your mind to simmer on the concepts. Most people are uncomfortable with silence and/or themselves, so this is often a tall order. Also, get used to trial and error. Until you can read your wife and predict her behavior, you're going to fail repeatedly.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 11:45 PM
3

You know women want to be made to feel sexy right? Tingles and all that jazz. My wife knows I enjoy a good penis helicopter every now and then, but I'd never use that as my mating dance to initiate sex unless she was acting equally goofy and we were trying top each other. When in doubt, use a 10-second kiss to guage receptivity and prime the pump.
/r/askMRP18/06/17 01:23 PM
2

Works for kids too. When one complains about another not sharing/being nice/cleaning/whatever...my wife and i encourage them to figure it out or try a different tactic.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 07:05 PM
2

Women love their drama. Stop caring what they think/say/do in regards to the real and manufactured strife. If they try to rope you in (take a side, provide an opinion, adhere to an ultimatum) withdraw your time and/or attention. Same mrp conditioning you'd do in your relationship with your wife
/r/askMRP07/06/17 05:00 PM
3

It's all about one's perspective. Develop and foster an attitude of gratitude. A couple weekends ago, it struck me that mowing my lawn could be seen as a chore. Rather, I saw myself as fortunate to have a lawn to mow and take care of. The icing on the cake was having my two oldest kids join me out there with their toy lawn mowers and garden tools helping me in my responsibility. This sentiment also translated into "enjoying" the third wretched diaper change of the day; so many people are not for…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 02:55 AM
5

Deep down, they know you're going to enjoy their absence and it pisses them off so they try to make you enjoy it that much less. Then they call and say how much they miss you, waiting for you to reciprocate.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 03:05 AM
1

So if this situation is really as dire as you see it and I'm already wrapped tightly around her little finger, how would you suggest i curb her possessiveness? "Stop saying your my/I'm your work spouse, it makes me uncomfortable"? Or tease her about it til she stops?
/r/askMRP25/05/17 08:59 PM
1

database admin. Manage applications, make the computers do what you want/need them to, automate processes, run reports, etc.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 08:22 PM
2

Very good chance it has to do with "partner" feelz for her. Newbie, trying to understand the politics, wants to make a connection with someone but knows other women can be/are bitches.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 08:20 PM
2

Little early to tell, but I doubt it though. It's more likely her way of expecting me to be helpful to her. A DBA is typically more useful to someone in marketing than the other way around.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 08:12 PM
1

If the family culture is one that values respect in this sense...then coercion is probably also rampant. Re/reading WISNIFG would be highly suggested OP.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 06:09 PM
1

Pretty much what I was going to say. Make a point to have fun and be the captain of the fun ship, especially with the husbands (if you get along well enough). From my experience, it's always easier for men to enjoy themselves. Women are jealous of this and want to partake (enter your frame) and you can do what you want with this "pull"
/r/askMRP20/05/17 11:05 AM
3

Don't be a condescending ass. Definitely compliment/acknowledge her effort or (positive) results without overdoing it.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 12:15 AM
0

Can't quite place my finger on it, but something about this (and its carbon copy on /r/askMRP) just doesn't smell right. Troll?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 05:09 AM
2

That's some marketable-level prose there rnrchuck. You? Or someone else?
/r/askMRP22/04/17 10:14 AM
1

You think too highly of yourself, your wife, and your "knack" for being able to "say the right things and play the right cards at the right time" in the game of minor conflict resolution. Less talk, more action. And in response to her low-blows, remove your presence immediately until she associates the negative of you not being around with her emotional toying.
/r/askMRP22/04/17 06:41 AM
4

I consider myself an audiobook guy and the 10hr version was definitely long enough. Not sure if there are multiple versions, but the speaker had a quasi-movie-trailer voice the entire time ("in a world, where...") and it eventually got to me. Also, some of the Laws started to blend together or sound like a rehash of others. IMO, I'd recommend reading this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 02:23 AM
3

This is gold here OP. Practice the sample dialogue until it's ingrained in your mind AND you internalize the logic behind the words.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 02:25 PM
1

And here i was getting annoyed that Mrs. the_Hun has asked multiple times over the past two days whether or not i thought it'd be a good idea to have a garage sale this weekend. Despite the fact that I've given it the thumbs up seeing as how she's already taken stock/set aside all the items and enlisted help from her mom and sisters. In all seriousness, best of luck to you with managing her health. Don’t let the docs and nurses off easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/17 06:58 AM
1

Two thoughts: 1) consider a modified monk mode. abstain from sex, don't initiate, and if she brings it up, treat it the same as if you'd stop mid-starfish and say that you'd be happy to resume when she's interested again. 2) are you gaming her regularly? Generating tingles and desires so she actually wants to fuck when the time comes?
/r/askMRP31/03/17 04:43 AM
3

Dread is "a bi product of a man with value and options"... great realization there.
/r/askMRP31/03/17 04:29 AM
5

Good "testimonial" post, but are you this long-winded IRL? Also, curious...how many kids is "several"?
/r/askMRP24/03/17 01:57 AM
2

I agree, intentional fathering is leading. Any shmuck can plug kids in to a screen or do the bare minimum of making sure children don't die on their watch, but an engaging sitter isn't always available or cheap. And in addition to her occasional evening or weekend gigs, wife has her/girl time just like i have me/guy time.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 02:59 AM
4

Reality check: step up your dad game and she'll still feel overworked or "trapped" in her "workplace". I have 4 kids under 7 and barely flinch to take all of them with me to run a simple errand or handle dinner and bedtime solo; sisters-in-law even hold me up as an example to their husbands. Despite all this, and even though she's aware of my extra-ordinary contributions, Mrs. the_Hun still complains. It's the nature of the job of an involved parent to be exhausted. As with everything, check you…
/r/askMRP21/03/17 10:15 PM
3

A prior workplace of mine was about 70/30 female-to-male ratio and I was the only guy in a department of about 15 people. Naturally, I spent time at work with other men whose presence was edifying or at least even-keel. In one of my check-ins, my supervisor brought up that there was "a perception" among my colleagues that I was spending too much time in the IT department. My specific responsibilities were heavily technical in nature, so yes, I was spending larger chunks of time there when needed…
/r/RedPillWorkplace21/03/17 10:00 PM
1

Echoing the advice on finding a good tailor. Definitely test drive a new one with a thrift store shirt first. Banana Republic is a good brand to try. I also really like Eagle brand shirts, though the tailored (not slim) cuts are hard to find. My biggest problem is I am a true 35 sleeve and 34/35 shirts always fall just short. If you can find a old-fashioned men's formal wear shop, they may have single-size shirts (15/33, rather than 15-15.5/32-33).
/r/askMRP17/03/17 05:40 PM
1

Thanks for the feedback and suggestion. To expand on WAS's comment, could the "good question..." response also be a type of fogging? As in, "that's a good question, [inner monologue] let me mark that down and put it in my special file drawer labeled 'trash' "
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/17 03:03 PM
1

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 02:44 PM
8

It was the taco exchange for me
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 06:40 PM
1

Reminds me of the time i was arguing with my dad about something. I don't remember the exact context, but i know i was in high school and not dating at the time. I said, "...that's like getting married so you can have sex for free!" He lowered his voice, glared at me, and quipped, "Believe me...it's never free when you're married."
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 07:44 PM
2

pitcher plant You hopeless romantic you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 11:21 PM
2

because she is unable to brag to her friends about it Or plaster all over Facebook/etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 11:16 PM
2

Social credit is worth considering as well. You can be an average performer but well-liked company-wide and concerns can at least be alleviated somewhat. A company is more likely to keep someone on that get's along. High Social Credit/High Performer = Company actively does their best to keep you Average Social Credit/High Performer = You're OK for the most part, one of the last to be let go if it came to it Low/No/Bad Social Credit/ High Performer = Tolerated, hard to get rid of HSC/Avg Performe…
/r/RedPillWorkplace13/02/17 10:37 PM
3

If you can't quantify with actual dollars brought in (e.g. sales), you should aim to understand how else you're saving the company time and/or money. Improved efficiency of or automated a process? Calculate the ROI with [time saved by involved parties] multiplied by [hourly rate of involved parties]. Negotiated a better deal with a vendor? Annualize the [typical/past billing amount] minus [savings]; not impressive enough of a number? convert into %. This is the kind of shit that makes resumes po…
/r/RedPillWorkplace13/02/17 10:00 PM
1

Lol, unexpected chuckle of the evening award to you
/r/askMRP04/02/17 12:37 AM
2

What site is this? I'm surprised they do all the grunt work of taking photos and setting up the sale. Wife and I are adept at thrift-shopping and selling online, but have never approached either activity from a profit shopping angle. A service like this would be fantastic.
/r/askMRP03/02/17 02:23 PM
1

Only mentioned it because it treating those conditions deal with hormones and you were talking about "hormone replacement stuff". Will PM you what I got about the doc
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 01:33 PM
1

PCOS and Endometriosis run in my wife's family and one or both of those have played a factor in her general health and her cycles (still tracking and diagnosing). My FIL did a ton of research into the matter and found a solid endocrinologist in PA that has been helping her, her mom, and a sister who's probably the worst-off in the family; PM me if you want details.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 12:44 PM
1

Your wife is a twisted type of Alpha Widow. (I know, I married one) Until she's accepted you as an even moderately successful captain, she'll defer to Daddy both intentionally/actively and subconsciously. So hold fast and don't waiver from your MAP to appease her. Make (well-informed, thoughtful) decisions for you and your family whenever you can - even if it goes against your FIL's opinion - and then hunker down for the ensuing storm and endure until it passes. Exercises like this will be a par…
/r/askMRP27/01/17 02:37 PM
1

Reminds me of that scene in The Shawshank Redemption where the new, cocky, Elvis-looking inmate starts giving the old-timers guff; Red says something along the lines of, "we all took an instant liking to him."
/r/askMRP23/01/17 03:55 PM
1

I'm not my own best option either. When the inevitable shit-tests surrounding your new dedication to self-improvement come, don't DEER or talk about RP ("some random stranger on the internet shared a manly message board with me"). Rather, broken-record this fact with her; "I realized I was crap and wanted to put an end to that."
/r/askMRP23/01/17 03:53 PM
-6

More like an empty suit propped up by the rich and powerful.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/17 03:00 AM
2

We get an occasional morning session in from time to time. But when they're little, even plugging them into an episode of [kid's show] for 20mins doesn't always work as a deterrent. Hearing them whine or fiddle with the locked door can be a mood-killer.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 04:31 PM
2

I hope on of those hobbies is lifting heavy ass weights a minimum of three times a week. Yessir. Though this happens over lunchtime. I was working on exciting stuff...finances and file organization.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 04:36 AM
1

the juice really isn't worth the squeeze right now For shits and giggles, you should use this line on her if she happens to initiate. Don't give her the satisfaction of an explanation when she presses for one, just let the hamster run wild.
/r/askMRP16/01/17 10:07 PM
3

I consider myself to be in monk mode at this point. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Embrace it fully rather than merely accepting it as a consolation prize. Spend more time on introspection and meditation to help you better internalize the truths you're digesting while cultivating OI and self respect. No need to waste attention on her. You can't give what you don't have. While you want to sell an awesome life to others and are marketing this to those around you, they see your stock is either…
/r/askMRP16/01/17 05:29 PM
3

Exactly. I've got four ages 6 and under and I rarely hesitate to run my own errands with all of them. Much like "The L-spot" section in MMSLP, it helps ease daily stress on the Mrs. thereby stacking the deck more in my favor that she'll have energy for sex later in the day. It's also extra time working your leadership muscles.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/17 05:10 PM
2

Not a professional climber...but if you're hitching your safety line to your manhood, I think you're doing something wrong.
/r/askMRP13/01/17 05:58 PM
7

"Acta non verba"...next time, don't broadcast your intentions, just do what you want. Fogging also works with your example: "you're right honey, i don't need ketchup...i want it"
/r/askMRP11/01/17 08:43 AM
6

mute retard This very much sounds like it should be part of the vernacular around here.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 07:29 AM
2

Seconded, up your own SMV/self-esteem OP and she'll eventually not appear so out of your league. Work on your abundance mentality.
/r/askMRP07/01/17 01:23 PM
2

Passionate kissing would be an easy place to start. MMSLP is where you find advice on 10-second kissing. Try once or twice a day for at least a week - with no expectation of sex - and see her defenses start to come down.
/r/askMRP07/01/17 01:18 PM
6

Oh good...an alternative to baseball
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 01:16 AM
1

As of my writing this, the general consensus is to drop fat first then focus on maintaining a lower BF% while seeking to increase muscle and I agree. It's far too easy to lie to yourself that "diet doesn't matter as much because I'm lifting heavy and muscle burns fat better/faster than cardio blahblahblah." More often than you expect, your allowance of carbs or unhealthy sugars will scope creep and you'll just spin your wheels. After all, the aesthetics of fitness are about 80% diet and 20% exer…
/r/askMRP22/12/16 04:15 AM
2

If you belong to a fitness club, they may offer a test for a small fee (shouldn't be more than 20-30$). Otherwise, check with your doctor. If you can get someone - who knows what they're doing - to do the caliper/pinch test on you, it'd be far more accurate than a device that sends electric signals through your body.
/r/askMRP22/12/16 03:59 AM
1

So much this OP. Although, don't stymie your pursuit while still progressing along with your own improvement. Just be aware of your non-negotiables.
/r/askMRP15/12/16 01:22 AM
1

Edit....compare Holy shit that describes my FIL to a T. The man is an intimidating lawyer who raised 6 girls and the closest kin I have as an alpha example. He talks only if he has to/wants to, laughs off drama, (seemingly) engages his wife and daughters just to stir up trouble and poke fun, usually leaving them all in more of a tizzy than before...and (almost) all of them adore the man.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 03:32 PM
3

Two words...monk mode. Focus solely on yourself and devote just above average attention to the kids with any leftover energy and time. (Yes, even forgo the sad, once per week subjugating sex...not worth it.) If she brings up your lack of engagement with her, just broken record that you're "taking time for self improvement" and that's it. No debates. No discussions. No timeline. I want to suggest a witty retort about the infidelity to add to the mix, but I don't think you're yet in a place to del…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 09:43 PM
1

That makes perfect sense since rituals are external signs of internal realities.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 07:07 PM
2

If a man is debating on whether he wants kids, the answer to himself should always be no. I'll never forget attending a friend's wedding in my mid-20s. At the time, I was mindlessly blue pill with some accidental red traits; so marriage was a goal of mine I was actually striving towards. However I heard someone offer a prayer that God bless the newlyweds with children and I remember being immediately filled with a sense of terror. All in one moment I was struck by the full weight of responsibili…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 04:01 AM
2

The key prerequisites are that your SMV is high enough and you're owning your shit. With these in place, if you end up sacrificing some aspect of your MAP to handle her shit in addition to yours, she'll either: A) recognize the burden she placed on you, feel bad about her lack of responsibility, and correct course or B) experience a decrease in benefit from your relationship (e.g. less time for fun), dislike the negative feels, and correct course. Or to put it in /u/scurvemuch 's words...not bei…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 08:32 PM
1

"Sure hope he got a good treat after this trick. What else is in his repertoire?"
/r/askMRP23/11/16 05:31 PM
0

The whole conversation ended on a slightly sour note with her regretting bringing it up. Would it be worth returning to it with a clear head and ferreting out the catalyst behind her question?
/r/askMRP16/11/16 04:22 PM
1

"there's always room for improvement" I like that. Especially since it applies to so many aspects of life and relationships.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 04:02 PM
2

Our relationship as it currently stands didn't warrant the particular flavor of dread that took place. So I think my main mental obstacle was since that episode was still fresh, I was hesitant to capitalize on the situation. Otherwise, I would've been pleasantly surprised at the opportunity.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 04:01 PM
3

Looks like you've got the table of contents for a book there..."To dump or not to dump?: TFA's guide to vetting your S.O."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 08:54 PM
2

My fists are down at my side, I'm not going to punch you. Watch out for a headbutt or shin-kick OP!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/16 09:51 PM
2

I do not regret getting married. My life as it is now has it's equal share of joy and strife as does the life I'm striving towards for the future. As long as I aim to live on the positive side of the spectrum less attention is paid to regrets. What I do regret is going in to marriage with the correctable defaults I had at the time (bad habits, lack of frame, etc). Despite whatever I had going for me that made my wife choose to invest her future in me, there was plenty of room for improvement tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 08:32 PM
1

I never say "being a bitch" or "acting like a bitch" because that is the kind of thing that tangents another argument... and is made into "you called me a bitch." So much this. Not out of respect to her gender (or some crap like that), but because "bitch" in womanese is nuclear and will overshadow anything else in whatever discussion/debate/diatribe is going on. Calling out your Mrs. on being condescending or stubborn or [fill in the blank] will give her more pause and something to hamster on.
/r/askMRP31/10/16 01:50 PM
0

couldn't help myself
/r/TheRedPill21/10/16 09:18 PM
1

I'm no CSCS, just offering a suggestion on an app. With so many out there, it's easy to get analysis paralysis and wendler was one he mentioned.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 06:47 AM
2

I recently plateaued with a couple main lifts in SL 5x5 after about 7 months and switched to 5/3/1 to change things up. If you're looking at Wendler's program, I recommend the "Five3One" pro version (Android)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 05:07 PM
1

Not going is not an option for me as I'm committed to my decision. I see her declaration as a knee-jerk reaction that may not hold, especially since she made an effort to reason with me later on. So perhaps my question needs rephrasing: in the event that she backs down from not wanting to go, do I have preparations to accommodate the entire family or let her live with her decision? If you want to go, you should go. If you want your kids to be there, you should take them. This came up during the …
/r/askMRP17/10/16 03:39 PM
1

Her family is pretty tight-knit and we live in the same metro area as the majority of them. So while not impossible, it'd be a hard sell to declare any given holiday as "Hun Family only." We did this a few times when we lived closer to my family, though it was usually met with guilt from my parents which mentally stole away some of the fun.
/r/askMRP17/10/16 03:02 PM
1

Do you ever get flack with the "winter holiday" scenario? In the past, planning our family vacations was usually a joint effort though I have since taken full responsibility of all details for the past 2-3 trips. It seems as though I can't get away from at least one day peppered with gripes before she can just sit back and enjoy.
/r/askMRP17/10/16 02:52 PM
1

I was always of the "go along to get along" mentality, so boundaries have only started being more defined over the past few years. It's not so much that the Mrs. gets singled out and treated like shit as there has been underlying drama of "whose family is more important?" throughout our marriage. It really is a non-issue, but my mom has a knack for bringing it into almost every conversation; she has undiagnosed mental health issues that make it difficult for all parties involved, so managing tha…
/r/askMRP17/10/16 02:41 PM
3

You should know by now that this is your fault in allowing such a shitty situation to evolve. One thing to consider is to take ownership of that bun in the oven, and not just some auditory or sensory input...look long-term. You're letting the Mrs. dictate what that child needs ("do it for the baby") but ffs, one very important thing this child needs - along with your other child/ren - is a capable, healthy, and supportive (of you) mom who isn't a drain on the family unit. Help her achieve that. …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 08:29 PM
1

Uh oh...I think we're married to the same woman. Seriously though, I was where you are up until a few months ago, although it also included shit like neck rubs and whatnot. (I was half-assing the Pill for about a year or two, but have stepped up this year and been owning my own shit more.) We're a Christian couple, so I would always have nagging feelings of guilt that I wasn't "serving my betrothed" if I didn't comply. Eventually, I saw her requests for what they were and made a point to counter…
/r/askMRP11/10/16 03:23 PM
2

strip fetch This is brilliance. Sheer brilliance.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 03:20 PM
1

This is actually a good, succinct list of guidelines.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 06:49 PM
6

(why wasn't this in /r/askMRP??) I'm gonna echo what /u/RuleZeroDAD said and stress being proactive/leading by example. The most trusted leaders are those who are able - or at least willing - to do what their followers are asked to do. The catch is not doing everything for them to the point of them being useless. Also, you're probably right about her "do it for the kids" as being code for "I want you to do your work AND some of my work." Solution? Look at it from a business management perspectiv…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:13 PM
1

Pardon my ignorance, but what is the lawyer for in this particular situation? CPS and LE are understandable, though I'm just not exactly seeing the nuanced reason/s. A blanket "cover your ass" deal or something to safeguard against the Mrs. fabricating something in a potential divorce scenario down the road?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 08:11 PM
1

There was a MRP post recently about focusing on the "how" vs. the "why" that stressed experimenting. You can read all the books you want or attend seminars or sign up with a company that helps feed you clients, but nothing beats personal experience from trial-and-error. To this point, /u/bverse18 hit the nail on the head. Just start by doing. Don't hem and haw and get caught up on particulars, just start. Story time: Several years back I was underemployed for a stretch and quasi-depressed at the…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 01:59 PM
5

I know Uber can be a full time gig, but if you're still doing odd-job type jobs, consider being a training coach and help people come up with their plans. You'd be surprised how many people are lazy enough to throw money away for someone to tell them what exercises to do every time they workout.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 08:55 PM
4

Holy fuck this is revealing.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 05:37 PM
1

Damn...this shit almost got me teary-eyed. These success story FRs are like a fresh breeze for those of us grinding out the initial grueling pushes against the wheel.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 10:00 PM
1

Or the occasional rusty trombone
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/16 06:25 PM
1

What keeps people here > what gets them here.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 07:42 PM
1

Hey, all it implies is that his user name is amazing...says nothing about OP as a person.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 07:15 PM
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Hadn't had coffee yet...read the title as Appropriate Dread movies. "What the hell is a dread movie? Is there some Anti-Lifetime station that showcases stories about strong men who finally up their confidence and SMV enough to leave their crappy wives?"
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 01:41 PM
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Do not reproduce with her. At first, this gave me a hearty chuckle. But the more I chewed on it mentally, I found a lot of depth in that small statement, especially when looked at as a mathematical equation. Two negatives (sub-standard male + typical-or-worse female) do not make a positive (well-off child, healthy marriage, whatever). And a positive and a negative also bring the negative results. In order to have a positive outcome, you need two positives.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 09:29 PM
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Not that any of you would care, but has there every been any "fallout" from members of the 120 who couldn't cut the mustard? I'm curious because it never ceases to perplex me when I encounter divisiveness/back-biting/undermining politics/etc. in communities that are decidedly (supposedly?) Christian. On that note...with the common denominating factor of your members being Christian, can you speak a little to what role (if any) faith played in regular discussion and overall meeting structure?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 06:22 PM
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These men approached me after I spoke in front of the church about my marriage. Executive summary? Also, what did the transition from casual diner sessions to weekly meetings look like? Since NMMNG was the catalyst, did discussion primarily revolve around the book and its action points?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 02:56 AM
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Seemed to work out pretty good for this guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 08:15 PM
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I know beginners are usually told to "fake it til you make it," but being a source of value or having priorities is not something one can fake. I imagine this is where most newbies fall short in early implementation because you can't give what you don't have.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 08:07 PM
1

Not just a turnoff for women, your boss/supervisor greatly prefers someone who comes to him with solutions rather than problems and excuses
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/16 01:09 PM
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For shits and giggles, keep tally of the main asinine topics of conversation. At my old job, I worked in two different departments and was the only male in each (sought solace in the IT group). When I wasn't tuning out the background chatter, I was noting which subjects got discussed the most. It boiled down to one of the following: Fashion/shopping/clothes Food (places to eat, fad diets/trends, recipes) Gripes about significant others/family/personal life Gripes about colleagues/workplace Misc …
/r/askTRP18/07/16 03:40 PM
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If I'm reading your assessment correctly, I'd say that with both examples it boils down to frame. Where are you living your life and expending your energies? In your frame, or someone elses? In each instance you're seeking (the best possible) results. The difference is not only the means, but the "realm of motivation" as well. Important thing to identify is if it's your realm or the realm/s of others.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/16 09:43 AM
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So this will be a quick introductory post.... (12 chapters later)
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 04:12 PM
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Her finishing move though hasn't been done in that way for years. Enthusiastic. Haha, like Mortal Kombat..."finish him!" Some progress I guess? You'd like to think so, but unfortunately no. Like her earlier attempts at self-absolution, this is just another diversion tactic.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 01:39 AM
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she came to me to apologize but made it seem like I was "bringing out" the worst in her, and that she was sorry but it was all my doing...She brought up some counter argument of what I've done in the past etc.. And therefore her behavior today is justified (i.e. this is just tit for tat). While this is run-of-the-mill victim-speak to release herself of culpability for a day's worth of cunty behavior, her persistence in both is enough to make the blood boil. I forget the technical term, but there…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 05:51 PM
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She is mule stubborn, often to her own misfortune. I...I think we're married to the same woman
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 05:07 PM
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Had to look-up "eternal september". For those of you too lazy - and to go along with the "lift" mantra of RP - imagine if the "january gym rush" from new year resolution makers lasted all year, every year.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 02:17 PM
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Sounds like this is a "lack of follow-through" flavored shit-test. Either you are growing a project graveyard - in which case, let the kids do more self-guided play and get back to owning your shit. Or she just fails to recognize finished products - answer here is STFU (no amount of rationalizing will satisfy her) and resist the urge to seek validation when warranted ("See honey!? I do finish what I start!")
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 07:03 PM
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She jabs at me if I start a woodworking project or home repair and don't finish it in the same weekend (usually because times with kids) If this is really about time with the little ones, then it's the equivalent of your oldest child pointing out that you're not engaging the younger kids enough (could be valid or not). Suggestions on this point would vary based on how many you have and their age ranges, but I'll say A) you're not a single-parent and she can give them time too and B) your kids wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 05:53 PM
3

I finally got around to watching/finishing House of Cards and your take sounds similar to Frank Underwood
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/16 02:39 AM
1

I like this analogy. Similar to the video game version of "if you encounter (stronger) enemies, you know you're going the right way."
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 10:01 PM
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Oh FFS with the toilet paper...my wife's sisters came into town for a girls weekend years ago and nearly depleted our entire stock. I made them bring their own supply every time thereafter.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 09:40 PM
3

Acknowledging good behavior doesn't have to be that complicated and rewards don't need to be overt or even noticeable. This is one aspect of women in which the hamster can be an ally. Think of it as a Pavlov's dogs situation...she does something positive/non-bitchy, give the hamster a tiny pellet (passing compliment, brief expression of gratitude/"thanks for [abc]", understated praise/"I appreciated [xyz]", etc.) and she'll associate the warm-and-fuzzys with that behavior. The lack of pellets in…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 06:51 PM
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Loled at the "game" you made up
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 05:22 PM
1

Good golly crap, sometimes it's not so covert. When my old man helped me buy my first car, i told him I'd work at paying him back over time. He just patted me on the shoulder, shook his head, and said, "Don't worry about it...just take care of me in my old age." A decade later, heaps of toxic parenting leading to strained relationships and them not being in a great place due to poor life choices...now my sister and i can almost taste the anxiety of our folks as they worry about their future.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 02:16 AM
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As if you can accidently fall on dick. This visual never fails to crack me up. Whoops! Who put THAT there!?
/r/TheRedPill22/06/16 09:46 PM
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Plus, there's that feeling of inner satisfaction in proving anyone wrong who doubts you "got" whatever it is. Another thing to STFU about..."I told you so"
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 09:37 PM
1

I've always considered wisdom to be "knowledge acquired through suffering"...so your improvement analogy is a good one.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 08:57 PM
1

Because the remaining vestiges of my BP faggotry are hungrily yearning for validation?? ::shrug:: Part of me would like to believe that her unsolicited reactions (both comments and lifestyle changes) are signs that my leading by example is bearing fruit. With no reactions or undesirable reactions, I'd have to reassess and modify my behavior wherever necessary. As for the problems and shortcomings that are primarily hers to address, some bleed into my personal space and therefore end up concernin…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 08:31 PM
1

I'll save you some time... Diet: "You illiterate fuck, didn't you read the only bold words in the original post about not blaming others/other things for your failures?" Finances: "Plans don't mean shit without action." Parenting/Patience: "If your wife had a dick you'd probably be sucking it right now. This isn't a 'Tell us what you love about your spouse' thread. Go preach gentle parenting somewhere else you puke." Fitness: "Please note the 'No Humblebragging' sign." Game/Kino: "Weak! What a w…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 03:55 AM
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I stared her down because of her tone. I broke the standoff by smiling and waving Practice more ignoring and going off to do your own thing. Don't even engage her crappy behavior as it gives her attention she clearly doesn't deserve in the moment. This is one of the (many) ways women are like children. I believe it's mostly subconscious, but my kids will do something they know I disapprove of just to get any reaction from me, even if negative. My silence in disciplining often speaks the loudest …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 04:06 PM
1

The wisest definition of "humility" I've heard is that it's not to have a low view of yourself, but to have no view of yourself. So, a kind of IDGAF about myself/I am not a special snowflake mentality.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 03:30 PM
2

Don't confuse a strong woman with one that's extremely manipulative or stubborn. A strong woman will keep to her convictions when they are threatened or despite the cost. A stubborn or manipulative woman will do whatever it takes to maintain or keep some level of comfort in her life. See the difference? Basically, it sounds like your wife is more of the manipulative breed who enjoys keeping you in her pocket or on the shelf, only to bring out whenever she wants or needs. Keep focusing on you and…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 03:02 PM
1

You better not be that old dude that walks around the locker room completely nude WITH THE TOWEL ON YOUR SHOULDERS. Relevant TheOatmeal.com comic
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 02:22 PM
1

Unclaimed Shit Diet: The past several months were more stressful than usual - new kid, relocation, new job, and everything that comes along with those - and I made lots of bad choices. There have been half-hearted counter-efforts on my part, get the bad habits still persist. The real kicker was that I let fitness slip as well during this period. (Thankfully, however, "Fitness" is currently not in this category.) Finances: Before my Q1 major transitions, I wasn't in the best place to begin with. …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 02:18 PM
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Ideally the situation in which you should find yourself is that SHE is counting the days. This. Just because her nether-regions are basically off-limits for several weeks doesn't mean you go cold turkey on the other RP aspects of game, kino, etc. Heck, reminding the Mrs. that her clit works just fine even though the rest of her womanhood is in traction might be enough to prime the mental pump that a sex embargo past 3-4months is unthinkable.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 04:03 PM
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Your people invented the Kama Sutra for crying out loud!...own that at the very least.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/16 03:53 PM
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I only had to tell her a couple times that my mom often annoys the shit out of me so acting like my mom wasn't going to get her anywhere with me We all know that women easily dislike other women, so the reverse application is also true. Mrs. the_Hun is fully aware of the shortcomings of her own mother and rants about them on occasion. The same wo-mannerisms creep in to her behavior every so often and I've learned to recognize when I'm hearing her mom speak through her. It's actually kinda fun to…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 09:17 PM
1

For anyone looking for the hamstering examples of the Tinder-story Youtuber, fast-foward to the ~5min mark. That's when the off-white lies ("I just had a few sips of his Jack Daniels"...[30sec later]..."I was tipsy") and behavior rationalization ("I know I shouldn't have [action]...but, [reasons]") start. They don't let up for the next 10mins or so, until she gets to her lessons-learned/moment of zen.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/16 02:37 PM
1

Hey, you're the one who originally commented "for the sake of argument"...so here I am arguring. And should does matter how you get to "the correct answer" for your own sake. Getting the results you're looking for in the most efficient way is just good praxis. The original author's pathway of crying in a shower and prayer to realize that he had control over himself alone, could have been a massive fluke, with future sobbing prayer sessions yielding varied if not incorrect hypotheses. I personall…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 08:29 PM
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I too noticed the article in question via Facebook and read it all before coming across the MRP subreddit post; was glad to see the discussion already started in this space. In the interim, it got me thinking...as a Catholic, I've heard a lot about sacrifice and what it meant/means from various perspectives (God, self) and in various contexts (family life, workplace, etc.). Though since unplugging and viewing the world through red-tinted glasses, the "choreplay saved my marriage!" piece forced m…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 06:45 PM
1

Stop it you guys...I'm at work.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 06:20 PM
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I doubt the vast majority of RP husbands/LTR men would engage in this level of strategic game play. Almost sounds like you're imposing a higher level of intelligence to his actions (even if he stumbled upon them via accident) the same way people interpret crap as art. I think OP's assessment of God "miraceling" his ass to a better place is a more likely explanation. "Grace builds on nature" - so the religious axiom goes - highlights that once he started not giving a shit about his wife's respons…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 06:16 PM
1

Most reluctant upvote I've ever had to give. Dude, do you even grammar?
/r/TheRedPill12/05/16 04:41 PM
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This Manosphere PSA is brought to you by Snickers
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/16 07:55 PM
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You pretty much said everything I was going to as I was getting upset for /u/rpnow just reading this (in the same way you feel terrible for a character in a movie who keeps doing cringe-worthy things). That, and it was a reminder of how persistent women are with their shit-tests...akin to a child's insatiable desire for play and games. Frustrations aside, my pat-on-the-back to OP along with everyone else for a great FR and for maintaining frame well. The inner voice lines highlight the need for …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 03:01 PM
1

i talk a lot about expecting better. expect better from yourself too. This is probably one of the hardest things for recovering blue pillers/nice guys...allowing yourself to be happy and receive pleasure/joy. Women will empty their "clip" with a variety of tactics to make you change your mind or feel bad. If you're putting in the effort, you should be able to enjoy the rewards.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 08:15 PM
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there's also the instinctual competition for status in the eyes of the man, and/or power to dominate him. Hitting the nail on the head there. They either want the benefits of a strong man or the dopamine rush from pushing him around. Story time: Mrs. the-Hun has 5 sisters and 1 brother (he's the first child). Guy was a solid alpha: started and ran his own small side business at a young age, made smart financial investments, exercised his talents, took care of his health, etc. Unfortunately, he m…
/r/TheRedPill18/03/16 06:51 PM
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This. Repeat after me OP..."I am not responsible for my wife's feelings" (again...and again...and again) I've got 4 kids under 6 and lately, Mrs. the_Hun is usually either tired or exhausted (rather than rested or tired). When she's having a pity party and pulls this kind of amorphous crap, I do not respond 99% of the time. The 1% I do is when I know she's completely depleted (a streak of exhausting days coupled with interrupted sleep) and I force her to have alone time to recoup by saying that …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/16 04:04 PM
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"Crikey! I've really pissed her off! Now I'm just gonna climb on her back, hold her mouth shut, and subdue her till she calms down."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 11:12 PM
1

Have you gone through a "monk mode" phase at all? Might be worth looking into/considering for a while. Can't speak to the specifics, but i presume it's even possible while in LTR/marriage. Would help you sort your own shit out some.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 03:19 AM
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I know feelings are feelings and sometimes they don't go away, but this sounds like a (hopefully only temporary) loss of frame. Ideally, she'd be concerned about it bothering you or possibly being an issue and get your input. A better approach would have been to calmly express to her that you're uncomfortable with the situation and that you prefer a different arrangement.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 01:56 PM
2

I agree with the whole "doing shit simply because it needs doing." Though there are those repeat offensives where I get hung up on either A) being direct in calling her out (with the likelyhood of having to deal with butthurt or irrational arguments afterwards) or B) making a point of letting something not get done to encourage responsibility (with the likelyhood of having to endure childish pleas for assistance).
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/16 08:27 PM
2

Even if Mrs. Winston wasn't as expressive with her gratitude as Cam noted, I see where he's coming from. Baseline thank yous can be useful as more of Pavlov's Dogs conditioning tool. They also help to negate much of that hyperbolic "you never [insert covert contract gripe]" garbage that women pull.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/16 08:11 PM
1

Self-actualization doesn't exist at the bottom of some slut's pussy. There's a bumper sticker waiting to happen!
/r/TheRedPill04/03/16 04:02 PM
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To add another reverberation to the consensus echo...yes. Story time: My workplace is ~70% female with a business casual dress code. About 2-3 years ago, I started dressing up every Tuesday for shits and giggles. [Improve SMV] If anyone asked - and I got a lot of questions - I simply responded, "It's 'Tie Tuesday'" or "I just felt like it" or "I'm trying to impress someone, is it working?" Shit like that. [Game, Aloofness/IDGAF] Not only did this attract positive attention [Power Law #6], but it…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/16 03:08 PM
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