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| 3 | Are the majority of men anti-MRA and gynocentric?That's fair. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/04/24 10:27 AM |
| 6 | Are the majority of men anti-MRA and gynocentric?Not OP, but it's worth pointing out that just because you can self validate doesn't mean all, or even most, men are capable of doing so. I'm a woman and I self validate rather than relying on such from others. That doesn't mean most women do. Unfortunately we live in a time when the majority of the population, both men and women, are hyperfixated on external validation, being "liked" by many strangers, and post everything that happens to them as if it's of utmost importance. Self validation is a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/04/24 09:30 AM |
| 3 | What are examples of women caring for their husbands / bfs when it's not tied to the man's status or money?I (39F) have never been married, nor do I have children. My lover (54M) is also never married and childfree. We don't live together, or have access to each other's finances. I make slightly more than him, and pay for all our dates. We've been together for almost 17 years. I have never received any status or money from him...he's an elementary school teacher. When he's sick, I bring him food and medicine. We talk everyday, either in person or on the phone. I've answered his calls as early as 5am … | /r/ExRedPill | 24/04/24 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Discrimination in hospital careActually in my country the feminist movement and most of the women claim exactly the same as you do: they say that in our patriarchal society women pain is not considered enough by a male centered all man medicine I'm sorry they do that to you guys. I'm not a feminist, nor do I believe in the "patriarchy" they constantly push. We live in a world where both sexes have privileges and oppressions, often but not always reversed. That is why I didn't say that "women pain is not considered enough by a… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/04/24 02:24 PM |
| -1 | Discrimination in hospital careI don't have time to read through the entirety of both again, so I did a "find in page" search for the terms you mentioned. Neither "talk down" or "talked down" were in either of the articles anywhere. The terms "ignore" and "ignored" were in one of the articles. Here's the sentence: Possibly both money concerns and the provider role operate as justification to avoid seeking health care—again in line with masculine gender scripts—and that married men ignore, downplay their symptoms, or are just … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/04/24 11:05 PM |
| -10 | Discrimination in hospital careI read both of your links, and while both were very wordy, I did not see your claim within either of them. Both links talked about topics such why more men than women avoid going to doctors, how masculine stereotypes hurt men's chances of accepting care, the harm of teaching boys to push through/ignore pain, and the fact many men view preventative care as unnecessary even when it's low cost. Maybe you meant to link to a different article? Or you could let me know which small segment I missed in … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/04/24 10:43 PM |
| -15 | Discrimination in hospital careIt's interesting how things are reversed where you are. In the US, we have the opposite problem where women's pain is typically claimed by male and female nurses/doctors alike to be "greatly exaggerated". Either way, this is medically and morally wrong, to assume someone who is ill or had a procedure is lying for attention or increase of painkillers. I'd recommend mentioning it to whatever supervisors you have, as it is incredibly poor care. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/04/24 09:00 PM |
| 7 | Sextortion Scams Are Driving Teen Boys to SuicideMy FWB fell for one of these scams recently, even though he's 54 and really should hopefully have known better. I helped him through it, but while texting with the "woman" myself it was indeed extremely manipulative and cruel. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/04/24 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Curious about the demographics hereSweet! What kind of questions are you hoping to answer? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/04/24 08:51 PM |
| 3 | Curious about the demographics hereUnfortunately it looks like there's only 13 of us so far. And 211 men, 8 nonbinary. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/04/24 08:50 PM |
| 1 | A Men's issue is becoming more mainstream: check out this discussion about paternity from /r/CanadaIt's just a bot, doesn't really mean anything. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/04/24 03:52 PM |
| 4 | Does anybody else realise the way men and women are treated differently online when posting pictures?When a woman posts a picture of herself doing anything, she gets lots of compliments from men and women alike saying “beauty” or “gorgeous”. I've always wondered what it would be like getting this kind of attention, but it seems reserved for women who are actually gorgeous/beautiful. Like I've seen such comments on my sisters Facebook and Instagram posts, but they are definitely what the typical young woman is like...tight or revealing clothing, perfect hair, makeup done, nails done, filters on.… | /r/EverydayMisandry | 09/04/24 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Rebel Wilson recently revealed she lost her virginity at 35, and she’s getting lots of praise for waiting- men who lose it at that age get the complete opposite reactionI think it's really going to depend on the area you're currently in. I (39F) was a virgin until 23. Didn't have sex until after graduating college, which was in a hyper liberal/extremely feminist town. Whenever my female classmates found out I was a virgin, they would hate on me hard for being a goody-girl, "upholding purity culture", "bowing to the patriarchy", and just generally being a weirdo for not wanting to sleep around. The slightly nicer girls would try to talk me into it by telling me … | /r/EverydayMisandry | 09/04/24 03:18 PM |
| 4 | Traditionalism/Conservatism is in many ways compatible with feminism.The recent mass protests in Iceland showed us an interesting sentiment in Icelandic feminism; they're demand for being compensated for household work would require that taxpayer money get funneled into their bank accounts, tax payer money that could come from single hardworking men. In other words, it's a husband responsibility placed on men who aren't husbands. A traditional role par excellence. Question, because I hadn't heard of this before now. Are these feminists saying that ALL household w… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 07/04/24 11:30 AM |
| 5 | Can you please tell about alimony/spousal support laws and practices in the state/country you live?Speaking for myself (39F, never married, childfree, left leaning) I'm in favor of alimony for spouses who have given up a significant amount of time in their careers to become a stay-at-home parent. I'm talking like 5+ years, not 1 or 2, where it would be easy to get back into the same or very similar position. However, it should never be a lifetime payment, and there should be a written agreement from the spouses detailing how long the stay-at-home partner will be doing so. Think of it like a p… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 31/03/24 02:08 PM |
| 0 | Gen Z women place more moral value in Care & Fairness. Gen Z men in Liberty & In-Group Loyalty, study findsHave you not seen how those red-pillers worshiped that Italian prime minister for her right winged beliefs, while nauseating at liberal Trudeau? Not lately, no. But I do see some interesting political views from both the manosphere and femosphere lol. I don't want to invalidate your experiences: I know evil men exist. Oh I don't think that the overwhelming majority of these guys are evil... my experience has only been maybe a dozen who were truly off the rails crazy. Most are either in pain/grie… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/03/24 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Gen Z women place more moral value in Care & Fairness. Gen Z men in Liberty & In-Group Loyalty, study findsMy belief of the in-group inherent in women stems from the existence of a fierce pro-woman sentiment in many men of both conservative and liberal circles. Take it for the anecdotal evidence it is, but in my experience it is less of an in-group bias for women, and more of feminist ideology. If you do not toe the line and enthusiastically repeat their talking points, having a vagina won't save you. The hundreds of downvotes, cruel comments, and vile PMs wishing you everything from harm to death wi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/03/24 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Gen Z women place more moral value in Care & Fairness. Gen Z men in Liberty & In-Group Loyalty, study findsI agree that past studies and surveys have shown a greater in-group bias for women, but wonder if that would still be true in the past 4 years. There's definitely a significant amount of men online, primarily in mgtow, conservative, and redpill areas, who have a strong in-group bias for men. It would be interesting to see what the numbers are in a 2024 study. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/03/24 04:06 PM |
| 7 | Abuse has no genderPrecisely this, 100%. I've never had an abusive romantic partner, but spent my childhood with 4 abusive/negligent parents (bios + steps). Although some of the tactics are different since young children can't leave and are more inherently at the mercy of adults, a lot of it is the same. The lovebombing (particularly from step-parents), the gaslighting, breadcrumbing, backhanded compliments, escalation, then pull back of abuse to keep you off your feet and make it difficult to guess their next mov… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/03/24 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Abuse has no genderThis analogy makes it seem like you think women are always "poor" and men are always "rich", which isn't true at all. Do you want to go into further detail? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/03/24 02:08 PM |
| 13 | Queer spaces are filled with man-hate, bi women most affectedYeah, it seems like you think both kinds of genitals are displeasing to look at, or at least not good looking. I was just saying I think both are pleasing to view. So...equality, but from opposite sides of the coin. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/03/24 03:24 PM |
| 18 | Queer spaces are filled with man-hate, bi women most affectedI'm on the opposite side of the spectrum, in that I'm a straight woman who thinks male genitals are just as aesthetically pleasing to look at as female ones. But yeah, agree 100% that there should be no shaming. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/03/24 02:14 PM |
| 18 | Male lawyer sues Mona over women’s-only ‘Ladies Lounge’I'm against any and all sex-based discrimination, including organizations, support groups, clubs, centers, gyms, doctors' offices, etc. So yes, this is just as unnecessary as all those and just as horrible. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/03/24 01:58 PM |
| 6 | Asking all colleges: Where is our safe space?True, but I'd say misandry is just as big. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/03/24 08:12 PM |
| 9 | Asking all colleges: Where is our safe space?Ah, okay. So probably a feminist event that wasn't well advertised outside... For what it's worth, I'm a 39 year old woman and have never been a feminist. Egalitarian or nothing. I have no tolerance for either misandric or misogynistic idiots. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/03/24 07:49 PM |
| 7 | Asking all colleges: Where is our safe space?What kind of "space" were you in? They still shouldn't have treated you like that, but I'm genuinely curious about what room you possibly could have walked into that they were so hostile? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 17/03/24 07:15 PM |
| 30 | I think some women confused indifference with misogyny.For example, hear a lot of stories about women talking about men not interacting with them in the workplace. And this shows how men are being misogynistic somehow. The only way this could be misogynistic is if it is not actually inaction, but negative action. Inaction/neutrality is just that. You don't interact with a female coworker because your duties don't overlap, you work in different departments, none of your meetings are together, etc. There's no activity between you because...well, why w… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/03/24 12:58 AM |
| 2 | OOP gets raped, posts story on r/offmychest, mods remove the story because "its fake"Yup. I believe it. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/03/24 06:41 PM |
| 1 | #MenTooThank you. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/24 07:08 PM |
| 2 | #MenTooSo what would you consider what happened to you and me? Personally I do consider mine to be rape, and not only because I was a child when those things occurred. This isn't me saying you have to call it anything, btw. If you don't feel comfortable doing so, or if you prefer to have a different view/definition, that's also valid. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/24 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Yougov survey indicates men are more supportive of sex-workers...I'd probably do work that contributes something to society and helps other people if I didn't have to worry about finances. Instead I log on each day to do very technical stuff that in the end doesn't really matter and we could do without as a society. Yeah, that's similar to other jobs I've had too. You log in, do the tasks, log out...and for what? Who's life did you benefit today? What kind of interpersonal connections did you form? Usually the answer is negative. Granted, my own business isn'… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/24 03:41 PM |
| 2 | #MenTooSerious question, and please don't feel like you have to answer if it's too hurtful, but do you not consider your first time having sex to be a form of rape? I ask this as someone who had a similar thing happen via my stepfather. Yes, my first sexual experiences were "given" to him as in I didn't fight back, but that's only because he threatened to kill my pets or touch my younger sisters instead. Likewise, your asshole girlfriend kept pressuring you nonstop for sex, and threatened to leave you/… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/24 02:50 PM |
| 2 | Yougov survey indicates men are more supportive of sex-workers...True, but only for the women who obtain the majority of their power/resources through the use of sex via their relationships. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/24 02:39 PM |
| 2 | Yougov survey indicates men are more supportive of sex-workers...If I wasn't financially coerced into work, I wouldn't do it. This is an intriguing statement. Do you mean you wouldn't want to do any work, or you mean you'd solely do work you enjoy? For example, I've been self-employed for almost 3 years, and since I'm the sole owner/employee, I love running my storefront exactly how I like. It isn't nearly as financially rewarding as the job I left (45k vs 85k), but it's so much less stress and I actually have time for myself rather than running ragged to mak… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 01/03/24 02:31 PM |
| 17 | Yougov survey indicates men are more supportive of sex-workers...Exactly this. Notice that I did not say they think it will lead to an increase in extramarital cheating. I chose my words carefully. 😉 It's the same women who are anti sex-androids, because in their mind the only reason a man and woman would spend significant amounts of time together is because of the potential for sex. Whereas those of us women with uncommitted/unmarried lovers understand that while sex is a big part of long-term hetero companionship, you also have to enjoy being around each ot… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/02/24 07:46 PM |
| 51 | Yougov survey indicates men are more supportive of sex-workers...Simply based on my own anecdotal experiences talking to hundreds of men and women over the years in gender/sex blogs, forums, subs, and irl...women in general are more prone to being against sex workers than men in general. The major reasons also differ greatly, with men either being against it for religious reasons OR because they think promiscuity is bad for society at large. The major reasons I've seen from women who are against sex workers is either they think it will lead to severe increase… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/02/24 01:27 PM |
| 10 | Anyone else wary of public spaces?What are you talking about? I'm not talking about OPs experiences, I already spoke with him directly and gave my support for the shit he's going through. I'm simply saying why your comment was confusing, because you said he was experiencing sexual harassment and I didn't see him discussing that. I was wondering if he had discussed something like that in the comments and I didn't read it, which is why I asked for clarification from you. I'm not femsplaining anything. Was only confused by your wor… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/02/24 01:10 PM |
| 7 | Anyone else wary of public spaces?Demonstrating a bias based on gender to that gender or in the presence of members of that gender can certainly qualify as sex based discrimination and sex based harassment. Correct. But that's sex-based harassment, not sexual harassment. Those are 2 very different kinds of discrimination and harassment. Like when my lesbian manager back when I was 18 made comments about my breasts "filling out my shirt nicely" and groped them...that was sexual harassment. In a different job, where a male manager… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/02/24 12:50 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else wary of public spaces?It's in a company's best interest to make problems go away, as quickly and quietly as possible. That is often not addressing the problem, but instead the complainant. If that's your experience, I won't argue against it. In my experience, the person who is likely to keep causing problems was the one removed. Obviously different companies and HR managers will react differently. The comments certainly qualify as sexual harassment I must have missed OP giving more information. The only thing I read … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/02/24 12:39 PM |
| 8 | Anyone else wary of public spaces?A couple points - HR is not your friend. HR is not there to advocate for the worker. HR is there to limit company liability. If they determine the simplest and safest solution is finding a pretext to let the worker go, they will. I understand that, believe me. But it's in a company's best interest to squash down allegations of sexism before they get slammed with a hostile work environment claim. I'm not saying OP must go to HR, but it would be worth it for him to know his options. Second - sexua… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/02/24 12:30 PM |
| 8 | Anyone else wary of public spaces?I don't think anyone here will be upset at you for offloading your feelings, friend. I have to go see my accountant now but will respond more to you later. You're cared about though. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/02/24 11:54 AM |
| 1 | More women may be psychopaths than previously thought, says expertIs it? Or only for the ones who are the "opposite" of what's traditionally considered masc and femme? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/02/24 11:25 AM |
| 26 | Anyone else wary of public spaces?Given the current climate of how the sexes act towards each other, I don't think your actions are necessarily bad. The toll on your mental health might be something to consider though, as even low level distress is going to wear you down and make you jumpy if it goes on for long enough. You also don't want to inadvertently create a gynophobic reaction to us, as then you may have trouble with necessary interactions in daily life. Are you seeing any medical professionals, either doctors or therapi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/02/24 07:55 AM |
| 1 | The Samaritans (the charity to help suicidal people) recently launched a campaign where a woman checks in on a man to see if he’s OKMe neither. I've been reading the manosphere and femosphere for the last 20 years. Really can't recall it being said prior to 2015. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/24 07:28 PM |
| 1 | The Samaritans (the charity to help suicidal people) recently launched a campaign where a woman checks in on a man to see if he’s OKMe neither. I've been reading the manosphere and femosphere for the last 20 years. Really can't recall it being said prior to 2015. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/24 07:28 PM |
| 3 | The Samaritans (the charity to help suicidal people) recently launched a campaign where a woman checks in on a man to see if he’s OKMe neither. I've been reading the manosphere and femosphere for the last 20 years. Really can't recall it being said prior to 2015. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/24 07:27 PM |
| 2 | More women may be psychopaths than previously thought, says expertI sure as hell hope the next iteration of the DSM provides the much needed context on these varying issues, however with how corrupt the field has become I very highly doubt it will be substantial changes to benefit the people. What corruption have you heard about? Is it mostly feminism like we talk about here, or have there been other issues you've seen people in the field mention? At least in the US they have basically stopped all reproductive studies, rendering pretty much all psychology as n… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/24 02:05 PM |
| 4 | More women may be psychopaths than previously thought, says expertI didn't know you were a mental health professional. That's awesome. Two of my guyfriends are too. I only have a minor in psychology, my degree is business management. As a layperson, it's always fun and insightful to talk with people who are directly involved with that field. Given that the psychological community has begun deviating from using the DSM-5, do you think the 6th will show these modern differences in diagnosis? Or are there internal issues that might might hinder the necessary chan… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/24 01:17 PM |
| 6 | More women may be psychopaths than previously thought, says expertTrans people have brain structures that adhere far more to their gender than their sex. So even if we want to talk purely about people with feminine brains vs people with masculine brains, those crimes/issues JK is referring to would still be done by women. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/24 12:31 PM |
| 9 | More women may be psychopaths than previously thought, says expertI never knew that narcissism was viewed as a male issue. Always thought it was women who were primarily diagnosed with it. That's really interesting! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/24 12:28 PM |
| 2 | More women may be psychopaths than previously thought, says expertI never knew that narcissism was viewed as a male issue. Always thought it was women who were primarily diagnosed with it. That's really interesting! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/24 12:28 PM |
| 2 | More women may be psychopaths than previously thought, says expertI never knew that narcissism was viewed as a male issue. Always thought it was women who were primarily diagnosed with it. That's really interesting! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/02/24 12:27 PM |
| 17 | The Samaritans (the charity to help suicidal people) recently launched a campaign where a woman checks in on a man to see if he’s OKThe severe lack of empathy for basically every man in the world they don't personally know is one of the main reasons the feminist ideology is harmful overall. One minute they're talking about how "feminism is for everyone" and "men suffer from patriarchy too". Then in the next breath they say "men are responsible for solving men's problems" and "women don't owe men anything". | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/24 08:55 PM |
| 3 | OOP gets raped, posts story on r/offmychest, mods remove the story because "its fake"There's a big difference between having a writing style and deliberately choosing flowery, over the top novelization language. If I ever heard someone speak like the latter example, they'd have to work extremely hard for me to take them seriously. When one is stressed, traumatized, in mental pain, recounting a horrible experience, etc they are going to be using simplistic vocabulary, and even then often trip over their words. In my nearly 39 years of life, literally the only time I've ever heard… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/24 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Ideas for local men's advocacyAh, okay. I live in the US, maybe we don't have them here. Or perhaps we do but they're in the larger cities. I live and work in a rural/subrural area, so hadn't seen anything like that before. It does look like a good place to hang out, I'd certainly go. Unfortunately I only own a small business by myself, and don't have the kind of funds to open another. At least not yet... | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/24 10:14 AM |
| 1 | Ideas for local men's advocacyThose are all great ideas! Thank you! I'll especially check in with my state to see how I could become part of that convict hiring program. I own my business and have been open for 2.5 years running it by myself...am currently looking at getting employees added to my insurance and obtaining an employer registration number. If I could give a job to someone who has difficulty finding work, that would be fantastic. You make a good point about clothing donations too. I live in a very rural area and … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/24 10:06 AM |
| 1 | Ideas for local men's advocacyThat's cool, I've never seen or heard of a social center or infoshop before. Closest thing in my region would be the ymca/ywca, I suppose? Which is only for kids 17 and under. The way you describe it sounds neat, I'd definitely go there too. When you say "the left" has these places, what do you mean? My store is already a bit of a men's social center, as my customer demographic is 98% male and they stay for an average of 4-5 hours lol. But obviously the focus is on games/socializing, not mental … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/02/24 09:51 AM |
| 7 | OOP gets raped, posts story on r/offmychest, mods remove the story because "its fake"I'm autistic myself, and survived 7 years of weekly sexual abuse and gaslighting by my stepfather, and sometimes step-uncle. I know that survivors can process as we talk about it for the first few times, and I know what it's like to be blamed for the abuse despite being a literal child. None of that is what I was referring to when I said over detailed. It would be kinder in the future to simply ask for clarification if you think someone is wrong or need more information regarding what they said,… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/02/24 06:08 PM |
| 13 | OOP gets raped, posts story on r/offmychest, mods remove the story because "its fake"Oh I'm well aware there's freshman boys of that size. I went to public school lol. Don't know why I'm being downvoted for trying to figure out why the mod was an asshole though. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/02/24 12:09 PM |
| 22 | OOP gets raped, posts story on r/offmychest, mods remove the story because "its fake"The bizarre thing is, this post isn't even remotely crazy sounding or over detailed like the obviously "creative writing" ones. It's straight to the point, seems like the author is genuinely confused, and it could easily happen irl. Edit: upon inspection, the mod removed it because they said the post is fake and OP is an adult. I looked at the 5 total posts OP has ever made. One is asking about uniform choices as a Kmart employee...maybe regarding his first job? Two posts are about the rape. The… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/02/24 11:02 AM |
| 1 | The view of what maturity means within the gender discussion.I agree with this take. What is commonly referred to as social skills in modern times is really just being able to pick up on nonverbal body language. While this can be helpful in certain situations, it also can give people incorrect ideas about how someone is actually feeling or thinking. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/02/24 04:22 AM |
| 1 | The view of what maturity means within the gender discussion.Fine, but that isn't how it works. Boys don't 'start maturity later'. Its that women's are accelerated in certain aspects in line with biological necessity. That is exactly how it works. It's well known that boys as a whole start puberty in later ages than girls. Not by much, but it's just a biological fact. Again, its not because the functions of men and women (at least up until modern industrialized civilization, one can argue past adaptations are now maladaptive for the current paradigm) fulf… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/02/24 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Are women more negatively perceived when being assertive?Thank you! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/02/24 03:12 AM |
| 1 | The view of what maturity means within the gender discussion.If someone reached their maturation at 18, and another reaches it in their late 20's than that's not equivalent. What are you talking about? Go read my initial comment again. I didn't say anything about 18 vs late 20s. No idea why you are. I said 7 years of puberty-based maturity each, with both ending before age 20. If you don't understand how staggered timeframes work, I don't know what to tell you. Also, it sounds like you and the other person are speaking as if the end of one's puberty stage… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/02/24 03:11 AM |
| 1 | The view of what maturity means within the gender discussion.It's not the same amount of time. It literally is. In my example, both the girl and boy matured physically over the course of 7 years. One started earlier and thus ended earlier. One began later and thus ended later. It's still the exact same amount of growth. The point he's getting at is that something maturing earlier generally restricts its potential. Yes...IF that is a lesser amount of time. For example, if both boys and girls started physically maturing at age 12, but girls stopped at 16 an… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 26/02/24 01:41 AM |
| 1 | The view of what maturity means within the gender discussion.Men only continue to physically mature via puberty a couple years after women do. So it ends up being the same level of body maturity. I don't know what you mean by later years being "more important"? Think of it like this: You have a girl who starts puberty at age 9. She has her first period, becomes much taller, and grows genital/leg/armpit hair. Her voice deepens slightly, develops breast tissue, and her hormones start going crazy getting her brain and body eventually ready for adulthood. Eve… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/02/24 10:42 PM |
| 9 | Does the legal system discriminate me?I'm only familiar with laws in the US, but one of the ways men are discriminated against is during arrests for domestic violence disputes. Most states have a difference between the Primary Aggressor vs the Dominant Aggressor. The primary is the person who struck first. The dominant is the one who can more easily control or harm the other person. Obviously in the majority of heterosexual couples, the man is going to be taller, stronger, and greater muscle mass. Ergo, males are predominantly arres… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/02/24 08:37 PM |
| 0 | The view of what maturity means within the gender discussion.Kind of, in that boys are playing catch up to girls. By the time age 25 or 26 rolls around, it's equalized. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/02/24 01:37 AM |
| 48 | Why do you suppose that subs like this don't get overrun by feminists?I've never been a feminist, but as an egalitarian woman I'm considered a traitor, pick me, and suffering from severe internalized misogyny. I've seen guys like yourself similarly torn to shreds despite doing your best to stay an ally. It sucks, but I'm glad you found a better ideology to live by. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/02/24 01:28 AM |
| 12 | Most insane serious article I have ever read.I have no problem hating men in one's life who deserve it, but spending every waking hour devoted to hating all men is to rid oneself of empathy and sanity. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/02/24 01:24 AM |
| 2 | The view of what maturity means within the gender discussion.I agree with you 100%. That's why I wanted you to know I'm personally in one such relationship, and I'm not against them at all. I've received literally 40+ harassing and disturbing comments from feminists and women here on reddit who tell me, in no uncertain terms, that they firmly believe I was groomed and even now am being abused. Simply because I chose a FWB who was older than normal. This usually comes with a side of ableism, since if they find out from my post history that I'm autistic, th… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/02/24 11:49 PM |
| 1 | The view of what maturity means within the gender discussion.I want to preface this by letting you know I'm a 38 year old woman with a significantly older male partner/lover. He's 15 years older than me... we got together when I was 23, just out of college, and he had just turned 38. So I'm absolutely not against age gap relationships. However, I also remember what it was like to have more assertive/sexually aggressive older men try to ask me out right when they knew I was 18. Typically, customers, coworkers, independent contractors my boss dealt with, so… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/02/24 09:13 PM |
| 2 | The view of what maturity means within the gender discussion.I think it's a combination of us hitting puberty earlier than boys, and the fact we are usually expected to care for our family/younger siblings more often than boys are. Biologically speaking, average age of first menstruation in girls is 8 years old - 12 years old. Age of puberty onset for boys is 10 - 14 years old. This means that, given a boy and girl who are both 15, it's highly likely the girl has been dealing with hormonal, mental, and physical changes longer. It's pretty well known that,… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/02/24 08:03 PM |
| 7 | Genuinely curious, would this go the opposite way?You didn't word it poorly at all, friend. It's just a standard kind of language that I try to make people think about whenever possible. It's so commonly expected that sometimes the nuance is forgotten about or even totally disregarded. You didn't do that though 👍 | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/02/24 01:14 PM |
| 3 | What do you think about UDHR, article 25.2?All they would need to do is change "motherhood" to "parenthood" imo. Why use sex specific terms where none are needed and it's not realistic? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/02/24 12:35 PM |
| 13 | Genuinely curious, would this go the opposite way?I read that one last night before it was deleted. As always, the guy received some decent advice but the majority defended his gf. Which yes, that is the right call. Depression is a bitch. I used to live with it in my 20s, and my FWB suffers with seasonal depression every winter like clockwork. It can be a struggle for both of us, but after 16 years there's certainly coping mechanisms for both of us to use. I think one of the major issues with relationships in modern times is how it's treated th… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/02/24 12:33 PM |
| 14 | Genuinely curious, would this go the opposite way?Fwiw, I'm not in favor of society pushing the idea of unconditional love. Love should be conditional...on how your partner treats you. Saying to either sex that you're supposed to stay through any and all rough times is how so many end up remaining in legitimately abusive relationships. I grew up in evangelical Christianity and saw this used constantly as a way to "keep families together in the lord" when it would have been safer and less physically or emotionally painful to separate. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/02/24 12:22 PM |
| 22 | Are women more negatively perceived when being assertive?I'm 38 years old and have been in 5 positions of management over the course of my life (not counting now, as I have no employees yet). My method of managing people is "praise in public, punish in private" and to give tasks to those who are simultaneously good at them AND play to the individual's strengths. If I have an introverted employee who is good at chugging through chores while listening to music, I'm going to have them go count inventory and clean. I'm not going to force them into chores … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 22/02/24 11:16 AM |
| 2 | All She LostI'm tempted to look it up on Google books, just to see if the author even attempted to justify the sexism of the novel. Like in a foreword or something. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/02/24 04:16 PM |
| 14 | Yes, there ARE incentives to alienate a child from their fatherI think it does exist and there are incentives to do that. It absolutely does exist, and is horrible not only for the child but everyone involved other than the abuser. My father attempted to do so, and in a weird irony one of his previous wives/my ex-stepmother tried to do it to him, with their daughter/my half-sister. So long as there's no abuse from the parent, there is literally zero reason to ever cut your shared child off from their father (or mother). | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/02/24 04:11 PM |
| 6 | All She LostYup. Two sides of the same coin. Where one sex gets a privilege, the other suffers, and vice versa. The thing is, even a lot of these privileges are really more like backhanded compliments when you stop and think. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/02/24 04:05 PM |
| 18 | Since “Men’s Rights Activist” has negative associations to the label, what would you call yourself?Same. On an interesting note, a significant portion of feminists I've spoken to in the past 10 years believe this label is now a dog whistle term for MRA, and is automatically considered to be synonymous with being anti-woman. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/02/24 10:26 AM |
| 22 | All She LostWe're seen as inherently more innocent, pure, and in need of safeguarding than our male peers. So it's the mindset of infantalizing female people of all ages, which is revolting and misogynistic, while adultifying male people of all ages, which is equally disgusting and misandric. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 21/02/24 10:06 AM |
| 2 | What victories or positive moments have you had lately?I recommend this book as a starting point: War Against Boys, by Christina Hoff Sommers | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 10:00 PM |
| 8 | Saw one of these in my apartmentSo if Jake was drunk, and Josie was drunk...either they're both guilty of rape, or neither is. Enough of this bullshit accusing men of being inherently predatory. Enough of this bullshit of infantalizing women like we're not responsible for any of our actions. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 09:49 PM |
| 1 | What double standards do men face?Lots of women owned businesses, going way more than 100 years back. Yes, there have been. But the overwhelming majority were not owned purely by individual women, but rather by her family and she ran it. The "wild west" was interestingly a great exception to that, it's a really cool period to learn about where the harshness of creating new civilization together actually paved the way for a very egalitarian way of life, not just financially but legally too. The restriction was on credit cards afa… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 03:42 PM |
| 6 | What victories or positive moments have you had lately?I was never a feminist (I wasn't anything) but I have always held the idea that men and women are moral and intellectual equals and need to work together to embrace our similarities and respect our differences. It was how I was raised and I see it as the morally and objectively correct way to run our societies. I've also never been a feminist, not in my 39 years of lice thus far, and I have no problem saying I never will be. Their ideology, much like the redpill ideology, are both too harmful an… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 03:23 PM |
| 11 | What victories or positive moments have you had lately?That was a great thing you did, wonderful that you had such a productive conversation! If most of your discussion was public in the comments, then even if you didn't change that one individual's mind, there's always the chance another man will come along and your words will resonate with him on a stronger level. But I told him quite firmly that he has what I consider an obligation to always place his own gender's issues first and never put them secondarily to women's. And I assured him that they… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 02:06 PM |
| 2 | What double standards do men face?Which changes in the last 100 years do you think will eventually bring society down? And when you say down, do you just mean changed drastically or complete anarchy? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 01:54 PM |
| 3 | What double standards do men face?No, no, I agree! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 11:23 AM |
| 2 | What double standards do men face?I could live without the internet. But I don't want to go back to being unable to own my business, open a bank account, obtain a mortgage, get birth control as an unmarried person, take out an education loan, have equal pay for doing the same job, be able to serve on a jury, and not face housing discrimination for being a woman. These are all laws that were federally passed within the last 100 years...my life would be so shitty and completely different (in a bad way) without them. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Five Reasons Why Legal Prostitution Will Improve Gender RelationsOh no, I've been on blogs and subreddits where it's supposed to be for "women supporting women, in all walks of life". You find out super quick, sometimes within a couple hours of joining, that support is entirely reserved only for women who are in total agreement with the hive mentality there. If you don't shout along with the echo chamber, you're scum in their eyes and will be downvoted, shadowbanned, or just straight up harassed in both the comments and DMs. The idea of women having a loving … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 08:11 AM |
| 55 | UN experts appalled by reported human rights violations against Palestinian women and girlsYeah, at that point it just sounds like unnecessarily sexist word salad. So many words used to avoid saying the word men. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 07:59 AM |
| 11 | What victories or positive moments have you had lately?The food pantry workers were very happy with my donation, yeah. I've been trying to find other male oriented ways to help, or even ones that are dedicated to equal assistance, but it's proving to be difficult in my area. I'm considering doing my next one for a local organization that trains support dogs for military veterans, but will have to look into them more. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 07:57 AM |
| 3 | What double standards do men face?Thank you. I'm an egalitarian and always try to show how, despite our differences in societal expectations, stupid bullshit affects both of us. Depending on the topic at hand, either men or women can be considered "human doings" and if you haven't done what is "required" there's no shortage of horrible people to remind you of your supposed failure as an adult. Imo if we talk about what happens on either side openly and honestly, men and women who actually give a shit will understand we're not so… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 07:52 AM |
| 3 | What double standards do men face?Yeah, it depends on a few factors, and I've been hit/punched/kicked by both sexes in public and private too. Generally it does seem like women are less likely to care about getting caught, whereas men generally want to preserve their public reputation. Or it could be that they know being called out by other men or even punched themselves is a possibility. I wonder if the different reasons are in any of those studies. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 07:46 AM |
| 28 | What victories or positive moments have you had lately?I successfully ran a food drive/cash donation at my store from December 10th thru February 10th. Made sure my customers realized that this was not an excuse to clear out a bunch of canned vegetables they'd never eat, and stressed that it was for those who truly had little good, nutritious food to begin with. I turned the "tip" feature of my register back on for the occasion, and collected a total of $486 to donate along with over a hundred boxes and cans of non-perishables. I was proud of my com… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 06:32 AM |
| 2 | Five Reasons Why Legal Prostitution Will Improve Gender RelationsOk, my apologies, I appear to have misread your initial comment as it "increase[s] the amount of sexual human trafficking." So I was responding to something you didn't write. No worries. I was very confused with your reply lol, but glad we sorted it out. I don't think the workers themselves would be in favour of this, as it would greatly limit their clientele. In my little section of the US, all the escorts and most of the sex workers and strippers who engage in "extracurriculars" with regular c… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 06:17 AM |
| 4 | What double standards do men face?We are in agreement then. You're not saying that bringing "just" yourself to the table is the delusional part, but rather that it's extremely unfair that one side does while the other side typically needs to bring much more to have a shot. This is precisely why I'm in favor of men going their own way in current times, whatever that means for the individual. It's certainly a better option for many, from the hundreds of accounts I've read over the last 20+ years. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 06:09 AM |
| 3 | What double standards do men face?Thanks for the response. Yeah, biologically speaking, that's nothing but sociologically things can change quite drastically in only a couple generations. This can be due to civil rights, technological advances, medical achievements, legal changes, etc. Compare 1924 US and 2024 US...not a single physical difference in our species, but holy shit is our general society a whole lot better for so many people! Most wouldn't want to go back in time 100 years, even though it is an incredibly short time … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 06:00 AM |
| 1 | What double standards do men face?I'll watch on my way to work. I assumed you meant a "failed man" as in he's being deliberately antagonistic, but wanted to make sure. Never said that most men are assholes, or that most men would act like those parents I cut out of my life, or classmates I got away from. All my friends are men, and the overwhelming majority of my customer base. I'm well aware most men aren't abusive towards girls and women. I was simply pointing out that saying "a man wouldn't dare punch a woman" is not as true … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 05:48 AM |
| 6 | What double standards do men face?I understand that's not how things currently are for the majority. My question was about the future, not the present. Do you think it's inherently delusional for both men and women to love and cherish their partner based on who they are? Like if 100 years from now most relationships are similar to mine, would you still speak against them like in your above comment? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 03:03 AM |
| 2 | What double standards do men face?What do you mean by "failed guy" in your example? I've been hit by a few men in my life, including both family members and strangers, so I don't really see that concept of privilege as a firm stance. Sure, in public with a bunch of people around it doesn't happen often but in private that's a totally different environment. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 02:59 AM |
| 6 | Five Reasons Why Legal Prostitution Will Improve Gender RelationsAccording to the radical feminists, yes. Especially when they define "trafficking" so broadly that it includes virtually all sex work, making their claim tautological. In reality, no. That's interesting, I've never spoken to a feminist who was in favor of sex work, especially radfems. They're always highly against it, to the point of harassing sex workers in comment sections who try to explain their career decision. When I was referring to the decrease in trafficking, it was from conversations w… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 01:19 AM |
| 7 | What double standards do men face?I, as a male rape victim, was told by a woman to my face that my experience didn’t matter. Well, she was a bitch, and an incorrect one at that. I'm sorry you had that happen to you. So many women expect the men they date to give them the world while simultaneously deluding themselves into believing that bringing ONLY THEMSELVES to the table in exchange is a fair trade. Wouldn't it be better to work towards a future where more men can bring "only themselves" and be loved, accepted, and desired fo… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 12:55 AM |
| 16 | Five Reasons Why Legal Prostitution Will Improve Gender RelationsHasn't it also been shown to decrease the amount of sexual human trafficking, pimping, slavery, etc when it's been fully legalized? I'm already in favor of things like destigmatizing sex as a whole, making sex work legal for both providers and purchasers, furthering our research into sex bots, and so on. These 5 points seem worthwhile too, although there also needs to be discussion on STDs and mandatory health screenings. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 12:33 AM |
| 2 | What double standards do men face?She will not be denied the privileges of womanhood. Most male privilege will not apply to him. Which privileges are you referring to here? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/02/24 12:11 AM |
| 4 | What double standards do men face?To a point, yes. I'd say that balances out in one's 30s. This is due to the fact Society won't consider you a "real man" unless you're financially successful, and won't consider you a "real woman" unless you're a mother. For any man above 35 who isn't entirely stable in his career, and any woman above 35 who is childfree, both are deemed failures and childish/immature. Edit: I'm curious about the reason for the downvotes. I certainly don't agree with this gatekeeping, and as a deliberately child… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/02/24 10:04 PM |
| 3 | What double standards do men face?What does this mean? I think I know what you're getting at, and might disagree, but don't want to put words in your mouth. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/02/24 07:43 PM |
| 2 | We need to talk about r/whenwomenrefuseProbably because those are the guys that have never once been the object of a women's hornyness. Eh, that's kinda weird imo. We're the same species, we are all human beings...it never occurred to me, even as a child, to assume boys don't experience the same bodily things I do. It would be like assuming boys don't get itchy skin, or stomach aches, or feel hunger, or sweat when they're nervous. I never had to talk to a boy about any of these normal physical reactions to just automatically know the… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/02/24 07:30 PM |
| 2 | We need to talk about r/whenwomenrefuseA lot of misandrists insist that women aren't sexual beings, and that makes women morally superior. I agree, and would add that I view these people as misogynistic too. In their eyes, heterosexual sex...even when 100% enthusiastic and consensual by both people...is inherently damaging or subconsciously undesired by the female partner. These whackjobs literally think that we do not get horny, do not want any form of penetration, do not have erotic fantasies, experience no lust or desire for our m… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/02/24 05:13 PM |
| 38 | What double standards do men face?It would be easier if I (or any of us here) knew a bit more of what you're looking for. Like have you genuinely never noticed how differently men and women, or boys and girls, get treated in society at large? I'm not being snarky, but trying to figure out where you're coming from with your question. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/02/24 04:49 PM |
| 15 | What double standards do men face?Okay, any particular aspect of life or society? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/02/24 03:14 PM |
| 6 | We need to talk about r/whenwomenrefuseI really think women's sexual desire not being discussed, let alone in a healthy and productive manner, has done quite a lot of damage. It truly has. A lot of it is generally cultural, at least here in the US (like we can be sexy yet aren't considered sexual), but a large part has to do with religion too. I grew up in very traditional, evangelical Christianity and it was confusing, horrible, and made me feel ashamed for "daring" to be horny as a teen because "good girls don't feel those things" … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/02/24 03:14 PM |
| 88 | What double standards do men face?It is okay for a single woman to walk/sit near a playground or school, whereas a single man is viewed as highly suspicious and likely a pedo. It is okay for a woman to insist that her date pay for the entire thing and still be seen as a capable, financially independent adult. If a man tried to do this, he'd be seen as a broke ass loser and severely decimate his dating opportunities. It is not only socially accepted but sometimes openly encouraged for women to use sex as a form of coercion on the… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/02/24 02:07 PM |
| 21 | We need to talk about r/whenwomenrefuseImo the reason is twofold. First, the myth of the "always aroused man." I've met grown ass men and women in their 40s, 50s, and even 60s who still perpetuate the ridiculous claim that males are horny 24/7/365, basically from age 13 onwards. I've met women who have said they broke down in literal tears when their bf or husband told them he was too tired for sex, needed time to decompress, didn't feel like being touched anymore after watching their kids all day, or was sick. The stupidest one was … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/02/24 01:56 PM |
| 22 | We need to talk about r/whenwomenrefuseThis is how things are when you're on the extreme sides, unfortunately. On the feminist side it's YesAllMen. On the redpill side it's AWALT (all women are like that). It only serves to create rampant hostility, inherent distrust, and all around sexism since these fools appeal to some pseudoscientific concept of "male nature" or "female nature" that apparently nobody could ever grow against. It's a huge problem and only getting worse, when people see and talk about the opposite sex as an entirely… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/02/24 01:28 PM |
| 5 | Circumcision is a term used to normalize genital mutilation.Thanks for the information. I was afraid that if I tried to look it up, most of the news would be in German and I'd miss context. As for the idea that fgm is worse than mgm, it isn't inherently. As grotesque as it is, there's different levels of both. Some are just ritualistic cuts on the male/female glans, some involve cutting off the foreskin/clitoral hood completely, some involve removal of even more parts. The only thing I know of that could be considered worse for women is when these sadist… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/02/24 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Circumcision is a term used to normalize genital mutilation.Why did the German feminists oppose the mgm ban? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/02/24 12:56 PM |
| 2 | William Collins anyone familiar with his work?Haven't heard of him, but thank you for bringing him up. His books look like they're worth reading. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/02/24 11:14 AM |
| 6 | Circumcision is a term used to normalize genital mutilation.Idk if this has anything to do with it, but the rest of my family is highly conservative and religious. Neither my sisters nor their husbands believe in "my body, my choice". They're all forced-birthers. I'm the only one who's pro-choice (and atheist...go figure). So as much as it fucking sucks, I guess at least my family members are consistent about not giving a shit regarding bodily autonomy. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/02/24 11:12 AM |
| 13 | Circumcision is a term used to normalize genital mutilation.Absolutely this. I am childfree, but begged my sisters to not cut my nephews. I sent them videos, testimonials by men, and scientific research showing it is wholly unnecessary 99% of the time. All for naught. My 3 nephews were all cut. I thought I'd gotten through to my sister/brother-in-law when my first nephew was born, but he made the decision that "my son is going to look normal like me". Imo that kind of thinking shows, at least in the US, male genital mutilation is cyclical just like it is… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/02/24 01:48 AM |
| 7 | "Ugh. I'm gonna be on the dad's side."Precisely this. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/02/24 05:58 PM |
| 4 | 71% of UK men have experienced some form of sexual victimization by a womanFwiw, I think part of the reason you're being so heavily downvoted is your joking assertion that the 29% of men who haven't experienced sexual harassment are all single/lonely. Just because a dude has never been sexually assaulted doesn't mean he's unwanted by respectful women. Much like when we get harassed or assaulted by men, it doesn't matter if we're single, married, engaged, or otherwise in a longterm relationship. It doesn't matter if we're happy being alone or if we're incredibly lonely.… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/02/24 03:31 PM |
| 1 | For Gen Z, an Age-Old Question: Who Pays for Dates?I'm sure that's indeed what they think a "true man" is lol. Jokes on them, a true man is whatever he decides to be, not blind adherence to antiquated gender roles. Maybe one day they'll learn that, same as they learned for themselves. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/02/24 02:44 PM |
| 1 | For Gen Z, an Age-Old Question: Who Pays for Dates?Funny how the "conservative" women and liberal women agree on that part... | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/02/24 02:35 PM |
| 1 | For Gen Z, an Age-Old Question: Who Pays for Dates?The twenty-something’s actually insisted on paying the first date, almost every time. Pretty crazy. I (39F) am in a long-term relationship with a 15 year age gap, that started when I was 23. I can say with confidence that the reason for us paying at that age is to make sure we're starting off on equal financial footing and not seen by older men as gold diggers or users. It also really helps when we're defending ourselves against older women who think we're idiots and our dates are "creeps". | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/02/24 02:34 PM |
| 8 | For Gen Z, an Age-Old Question: Who Pays for Dates?This isn't only a Gen Z thing, it spans every modern generation. I'm an older millennial and this was something I always made sure to discuss prior to going on the first date with guys, so they knew beforehand I'd absolutely be paying for myself, and him if he wished. There was a very stark difference between the men who were cool with splitting vs wanting me to pay for it all vs refusing to go on a date with me for wanting to pay. I think this is something that doesn't get brought up much in su… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/02/24 01:51 PM |
| 16 | "Ugh. I'm gonna be on the dad's side."Yes, because the paternal grandparents get to have far less of a role in their grandchildren's lives Ummm, what culture is this from that the paternal grandparents inherently have less of a role? Call me an ignorant American, but I've had friends and coworkers from countries across South America, Canada, and Europe. Never heard of a culture where this is done. I told her I had zero awareness of any of this cultural context, and she said "of course. You're a guy." Well you can tell her that this … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/02/24 10:27 AM |
| 6 | What are some little known men's rights issues?As they should. Only someone who is a sadistic psychopath could think it's moral to cut off part of a literal baby penis. Like seriously, what the actual fuck. It's uncalled for, nonconsensual, and harmful mutilation, pure and simple. All for what, some weird appeal to either religion or aesthetic. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/02/24 10:08 AM |
| 14 | British boys more at risk of modern slavery than any other group in UK, says studyTo be more hopeful, maybe at least some journalists are wanting to help men before we see even higher suicide rates. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/02/24 09:16 PM |
| 3 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingNo worries, I understand the question and yeah, I've had similar observations. I think even Karen Straughan admits in her early videos that she didn't think anything of men's rights until she had sons. It seems extremely typical. But nope, I'm childfree. Have always had zero desire to ever procreate, and will hopefully hit menopause in the next 4 years lol. I think it's because ever since I was in elementary school, my best/closest friends have been boys/men. I have a lot of difficulty relating … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/02/24 09:06 PM |
| 12 | 71% of UK men have experienced some form of sexual victimization by a womanWithout going into details… I’ve even been violated while sleeping by a feminist who was soon going to court to testify against her presumed rapist. Her excuse was simply "you’re just too hot I couldn’t resist". First off, that's horrible and disgusting. I'm so sorry you went through that, and hope you're doing okay now. Not for nothing, given that she apparently has zero understanding of what rape actually is, I wonder if she was even was. Not saying it's impossible but it sounds more like she'… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/02/24 12:23 PM |
| 9 | 71% of UK men have experienced some form of sexual victimization by a womanWhile I understand what you're trying to say, being objectified and harassed is completely different than being desired as a lover. Think of it as someone grabbing you and forcing a sandwich down your throat vs someone wanting to take you out to lunch. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/02/24 12:02 PM |
| 20 | Female On Male TraffickingMy reply has always been that it doesn't matter if it happens less often. A wrong is still wrong, a crime is still a crime, harm is still harm regardless of who's experiencing it. This isn't a zero sum game. Talking about issues that men face alongside women does not, in fact, take anything away from us. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 11/02/24 11:55 AM |
| 18 | 71% of UK men have experienced some form of sexual victimization by a womanThat's revolting. I'm sorry you were objectified in such a gross way. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/02/24 11:43 PM |
| 1 | I think language is massively underrated in discussionfor the first, it would be understandable they might treat some ethnicities as cattle. for the latter it would be understandable for someone to have a family member who has a different race relative who they love, and see as human, but just an inherently different type of human and apply generalizations to them and treat them differently (but not necessarily worse) because of it. sexism, specifically conservative sexism, is only the latter. What experiences or conversations have led you to this … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/02/24 11:39 PM |
| 82 | What are some little known men's rights issues?This isn't necessarily a little known issue, but it may as well be for as often it's dismissed as inconsequential. Male genital mutilation, aka circumcision. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/02/24 11:13 PM |
| 7 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingI'm autistic too, and had incredibly low self-esteem as a child and young adult, partially because of my awkwardness and speech lisp, partially because I was raised in highly conservative evangelical Christianity that frankly acted as though women were inherently more sinful/immoral/inferior. I permanently left my parents home at age 17, became an atheist at age 21, and finally had sex at age 23 after graduating college. It took a ton of introspection and years of working on my self-worth to get… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/02/24 11:01 PM |
| 1 | I have a question for LeftWingMale AdvocatesThat is an excellent way of looking at it! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/02/24 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Seeing the genuine wrong vs the prioritization of woman's comfort over menWhile it is true, many have called feminism a weaponising of borderline against autism. I believe it. They don't like us (autistic women) either. We're often accused of internalized misogyny and being pick mes. A lot of us have significant trouble understanding typical female social cues and body language/vocal changes, and doublespeak (which is used more by women) is particularly confusing to someone who's brain is wired for direct verbal communication. So naturally we act more masculine and gr… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/02/24 09:38 AM |
| 8 | I have a question for LeftWingMale AdvocatesI can say it because throughout my entire life, my closest friends have always been men, and the traits I see in them are the ones I've also had as a naturally masculine woman. Usually, when a feminine woman tries to act masculine, she overdoes it since it's not something that she is familiar with. This is especially true for the ones who have no male friends and/or think they must be masculine to obtain any admiration from their employees/coworkers. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/02/24 09:21 AM |
| 8 | I have a question for LeftWingMale AdvocatesI don't believe that heterosexual couples are the only ones capable of raising children in a healthy and respectful manner, but will agree that both feminine role models and masculine role models are necessary. For example, in the case of a gay couple raising their daughters, they should have some close female friends/relatives in the kids lives. And vice versa for sons raised by lesbian parents. Other than that, I think we're in agreement. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/02/24 03:06 AM |
| 25 | I have a question for LeftWingMale AdvocatesIt works between you two cuz it's still that interplay between masculine & feminine energies. My best friend & her husband have very similar dynamic. Yeah, it works precisely because there's no competition of masc/masc or fem/fem. When you still have pretty traditional gender roles, just reversed because it's individual preference, it's really not significantly different from the norm. Issues would only arise if one or both of the partners were being forced into roles they didn't want to perform… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/02/24 02:07 AM |
| 3 | I have a question for LeftWingMale AdvocatesThank you. What kind of opportunities? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 11:45 PM |
| 6 | I have a question for LeftWingMale AdvocatesAnd that's an okay opinion to have, so long as you're still polite to trans people. Personally I believe in brains determining one's gender, since that's the actual person. Like if you lost your dick in a terrible car accident, you'd still be a man because your brain is structured in a masculine way. I do agree that feminine men and masculine women exist too. I'm the latter, in that I greatly prefer male gender roles but acknowledge that I'm female sexed. But that's different than being trans, w… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 11:31 PM |
| 3 | I have a question for LeftWingMale AdvocatesCan I be in the left if I don't believe a man can identify as a women, BLM movement are hypocritical because they don't care about black on black crime, and all white (men) people are evil? If not, I can't support the left like that. I would say you couldn't accurately identify as being on the left, but that doesn't mean you can't support men's rights. Also, transmen exist too. Sorry, I just find it really odd when conservatives only talk about transwomen, and completely dismiss the entire other… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 10:44 PM |
| 27 | Interesting study: “Some Sex Differences are More Problematic than Others”Question: is a "gender gap" problematic if it occurs naturally, due to letting people select their own occupations? (Assuming that there are actually no unfair/sexust deterrents at play, of course.) | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 10:12 PM |
| 14 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingPrecisely. It's all an excellent example of living with perpetual cognitive dissonance. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 09:59 PM |
| 9 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingOh it's terrible. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 09:57 PM |
| 7 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingOnce that was said, I realized it's something I've heard too. And yes, mainly from women, though also from specifically feminist men. Likewise about men with guns, motorcycles, or large dogs. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 09:24 PM |
| 55 | I have a question for LeftWingMale AdvocatesIf there are no discernible differences between the two sides, I am inclined to distance myself from both the Left and the Right and instead advocate for the support of men throughout my life. The main difference I've seen, as a female member of LWMA and a former reader of the MRA sub, is this one has far less inclination towards any redpill/AWALT statements. It happens every now and then, but not to the extent it makes one feel unwelcome as a men's rights supporter from the "wrong" sex. On the … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 09:21 PM |
| 7 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingTotally fair lol | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 08:01 PM |
| 9 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingWell said, agree 100%. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 06:24 PM |
| 46 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingThere's also not as many of us working in sanitation collection, sewage maintenance, general contracting, or mining. Still waiting for feminists to protest the lack of women in those jobs. I say this as an almost 40 year old woman who has worked as a cashier, warehouse shipper, landscaper/outside maintenance, stable cleaner, traveling sales manager, wildlife rehabilitator, permit contractor, and now works for myself full-time. So many different jobs are available for both sexes, including labor … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 04:58 PM |
| 8 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingIt does, but is just as fake. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 04:49 PM |
| 59 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingTruth. It's like how every loudly feminist woman I've ever spoken to irl has somehow also been very pro-traditional gender roles for men. When I would point out that this is not equality, they'd claim it was fine because "women are still below men as a whole". What, so just because there's still blatantly harmful misogyny in some other countries, it's okay for women in the US to have the men here "make up for it"? Fucking bizarre viewpoint. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 03:53 PM |
| 17 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingI'm glad it helped. Anytime someone tells you something that sounds ridiculous, ask around a bit here to see what everyone else thinks. Hell, you can message me directly. There's so much asinine bs floating around about men, women, sex, anatomy...Basically insanity, as you said. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 03:31 PM |
| 42 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingYeah, they're lying, bro. Nobody out here being psychic or reading minds lol. Like I've seen women in other gender discussion subs say to incel/struggling dudes that "women are able to tell you're misogynistic from looking", and I'm just like...nah. That's not real. You cannot figure out someone's thoughts/beliefs simply from seeing them walking around. Body language can give extremely general insight, but even that isn't 100% accurate. It's like how some redpill dudes I've spoken to said they'r… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 03:24 PM |
| 25 | Insecurity in men is largely considered a moral failingI swear, as much as people tell you women can "sense" your personalities and insecurities, there seems to be a lot of people who take others at face value. I've heard this from some pickup artists/men unlucky in dating, but never in the general public. Is this something that's being toted as "true" nowadays? Can say that I have absolutely no way to just "sense" any random man's insecurities without actually speaking to them about it. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 09/02/24 02:38 PM |
| 33 | New EU Directive on Femicide has been approved: Male Victims are second class citizens in EU nowAnd here I thought things were getting better for men, at least from a legal standpoint against violence. Apparently not. The cyberbullying part is bad of course, due to the whole "are we dating the same guy" groups online. But I'm particularly pissed about the lack of protection for infant boys genital mutilation. Yes, by all means, please do prevent our vulvas from being cut up and sewn shut. But stop hospitals from offering unnecessary circumcision too! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/02/24 11:48 PM |
| 4 | Have you watched Karen Straugan's YouTube video "Feminism and the disposable male". The cancel policy on MRA.It shouldn't even matter if we have sons or brothers. Egalitarianism is the most equal path, regardless. If you see someone suffering, and you have even a mote of empathy for other humans, your instinct should be to aid them. Frankly the issue seems to be just a lack of empathy for men, and to a slightly lesser extent, boys, all around. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/02/24 09:38 PM |
| 7 | You don't need to show or concede any sympathy to either Feminism or 'Women's issues' in generalIt would be far fairer and easier to be prepared by having a discussion in one's relationship about making sure both partners have a separate bank account, in addition to their main shared one. This doesn't even have to be created with the idea of needing to escape one's spouse someday. It could simply be used to differentiate one's personal spending for hobbies or friend vacations, so it doesn't get accidentally spent on household expenses. Surely something like this, that both people know abou… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/02/24 09:31 PM |
| 7 | You don't need to show or concede any sympathy to either Feminism or 'Women's issues' in generalWhat world do you think she lives in? Personally I think it's incredibly surprising for her to do. Given that she didn't make the go-bag due to past trauma/abuse, or because her husband ever acted dangerously, but rather claimed to have only done so because of reading mommy forums. One of the main aspects of being an adult, either woman or man, is to not automatically accept every piece of advice you read online. Especially if it doesn't pertain to your own life. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/02/24 09:08 PM |
| 8 | You don't need to show or concede any sympathy to either Feminism or 'Women's issues' in generalYes actually, and don’t shoot the messenger. Just look at how many women are choosing to stay single now that Western society has removed social pressure on marriage and granted women economic independence. Speaking from just my own experience as a 39 year old woman, the reason I never got married has nothing to do with fearing men or thinking my hypothetical husband would abuse/oppress me. It's because I think the main reason for marriage is to raise children in a stable, 2 parent household. Si… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/02/24 08:52 PM |
| 9 | You don't need to show or concede any sympathy to either Feminism or 'Women's issues' in generalOk, so all heterosexual and bisexual women practice celibacy and abstain from men 🤷🏾♀️ Why do you assume this would be the result? It's not as if all of us (speaking as a hetero woman here) are afraid of men as a whole. Have there been men in my life I was fearful of? Yes, my father, stepfather, and step-uncle were legitimately abusive towards me for the majority of my childhood. Does that mean I should be fearful of all men? No, my male longterm FWB, my friends, coworkers, clients, and neighbo… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/02/24 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else just bothered at the mere notion that as a man as you get older you have to be or at least look so serious and rugged about everything?Women are allowed to look, be and act as innocent and youthful about things as possible Speaking from my experiences as a 39 year old woman, it's not so much that we're "allowed" to act youthful and innocent, but that we're expected to do so and get stigmatized/dismissed when we don't. Unfortunately, I look about 12-14 years younger than I actually am. Frequently I'll have new coworkers or clients assume I'm 26, like I just finished college a few years ago. Even when when informed of my real age… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/02/24 08:26 PM |
| 1 | People go about separating feminists and traditional women from each other in a very disingenuous way. And this is harmful for male issues.Thanks, I also enjoyed our conversation and hope it gave you some new perspectives to consider moving forward in our fight against sexism towards both sides. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/02/24 04:03 AM |
| 3 | People go about separating feminists and traditional women from each other in a very disingenuous way. And this is harmful for male issues.I think there are a few, simply due to having minor differences in brain structure. After all, transwomen and transmen exist, and it has been shown they have structures corresponding far more closely to the opposite sex. But these differences are minute, and have more to do with how information is processed by the brain, not what kind of personality, flaws, or strengths they have as individuals. I would say that automatically assuming you will encounter negative or positive traits from someone b… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/02/24 03:39 AM |
| 3 | People go about separating feminists and traditional women from each other in a very disingenuous way. And this is harmful for male issues.There's nothing wrong with saying that a certain trait is shown by one sex more than another, whether positive or negative. After all, the unfortunate truth is that boys and girls are raised with incredibly different sets of social rules, expectations, types of discipline, even toys and education. It would indeed be strange if somehow the majority of women and majority of women ended up 100% the same as adults, when we've been forced into becoming so different. Again, the issue at hand is that t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/02/24 03:03 AM |
| 3 | People go about separating feminists and traditional women from each other in a very disingenuous way. And this is harmful for male issues.No, I haven't seen the movie. I didn't get good reviews from my friends and it seemed like the underlying message would be misandric. Regardless, I know what you're referring to and saw it happen to some girls (and boys) in middle school, high school, and even freshman year of college. This herd mentality does exist, certainly. My comment wasn't denying that it occurs, most especially in teenage girls/boys, and into very early young adulthood. Peer pressure and the intense desire to be accepted … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 04/02/24 02:19 AM |
| 5 | People go about separating feminists and traditional women from each other in a very disingenuous way. And this is harmful for male issues.It's unlikely this is our "nature", otherwise it would be seen in nearly all of us, regardless of age, income, culture, ethnicity, worldview, etc. Rather, it's a case of those specific individuals being two-faced or trying to make the current conversation work in their favor. These women shouldn't be given the excuse of "oh it's just female nature to be disingenuous", because 1) it's inaccurate to base on merely having XX chromosomes, and 2) they should be held responsible for their cognitive di… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/02/24 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys also get mixed reactions from women in real life, when talking about your views on gender-based topics?Same. I'm an egalitarian woman, anti-feminist and in favor of true equality for both sexes. That goes for all aspects of society, not just the legal sector. The number of other women who've accused me of having internalized misogyny, being a Pick Me, or wanting to otherwise suck up to men is absurdly high. Ironic when you think about it, given that supposedly "real" feminism is all about treating men and women as totally equal...but then when you're fighting for that, it's misogynistic. Losing p… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/01/24 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Narcissists may engage in feminist activism to satisfy their grandiose tendencies, study suggestsI'm a bit confused. I said that women like you previously described aren't worth being around or dealing with. What part of that comment are you "not going to believe"? I agreed with you 100%, but your reply sounds like it's defensive for some reason. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/12/23 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Narcissists may engage in feminist activism to satisfy their grandiose tendencies, study suggestsThanks for the response! Fwiw, nothing you mention sounds like pua behaviors. It just seems like you learned to not pedestalize us, treat us as social equals, banter and joke rather than be gentlemanly/prudish. A huge mistake that so many young men make is to talk to us like we're old-fashioned noble ladies...like they refuse to curse around us, refuse to tell any jokes, refuse to accept that we enjoy sex too, refuse to see us as normal, flawed human beings exactly like themselves. Being pedesta… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/12/23 11:56 PM |
| 3 | "Feminism is only seen as Misandry because it puts men on the same ground as women"Hey, no worries dude. Tbh I didn't even consider that your original comment was referring to women. The post is about Feminism, so I'd assumed you were talking about Feminists in general, not women in general. I do hope you'll one day find a far better and moral woman than the sad excuses your friends have encountered. I'm 39 this year. Been with my lover for 18 years, he's my only sex partner ever, and my best friend...that necessarily means I've shared myself with him physically and emotionall… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/12/23 02:38 PM |
| 10 | "Feminism is only seen as Misandry because it puts men on the same ground as women"Fwiw, sounds almost like a winning move to not have Feminists want to be around you, though. Hell, I'm an Egalitarian woman and don't want them around me either, as their entire modern ideology is based on a constant narrative of "men bad, men always bad, even good men are subconsciously bad". People like us never had their respect in the first place, so it's not something to lose. All we can do is speak out against misandric issues and hope our voices eventually get loud enough to drown out the… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/12/23 12:07 PM |
| 7 | How do i respond to people who claim that domestic violence against women is more serious bec. It result in more death than the other way around?However, the point of gender symmetry is not to minimize how women (or men) suffer from IPV/DV. The point is that society cannot solve the problem of domestic violence if it only addresses the problem of male perpetration and only provides help to female victims. This is the best response, and one I've recently begun using. Of course, some feminists will still insist that more "needs" to be done for women than men, but if you keep them talking long enough, their female supremacy ideology will st… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/12/23 12:46 AM |
| 4 | Narcissists may engage in feminist activism to satisfy their grandiose tendencies, study suggestsEdit: sorry if I seem a little hostile but even a whiff of the "oh no look at this awful thing men did to themselves! they woke up one day with these beliefs that exist completely in a vacuum of their own man-doing" rhetoric and I'm gonna say something, this framing is too wide spread. That's not hostile, that's just calling out stupidity. Anyone who says that men "did this to themselves" is victim blaming on a social level. Also, I saw you responded to my other comment but other than a tiny bit… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/12/23 12:31 AM |
| 3 | Narcissists may engage in feminist activism to satisfy their grandiose tendencies, study suggestsI'm going to be honest though, I was sceptical and saw PUA stuff as sexist at one point, but I decided, after many failed dates using the advice of women and getting nowhere, to try their methods....... and it worked immediately. Would be willing to discuss some of the things that worked? I've had men attempt to use various redpill/pua tactics on me, and they only served to make me laugh awkwardly or cringe away. This goes not only for obviously new pua types, but guys who were more subtle/"natu… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/12/23 12:11 AM |
| 4 | Narcissists may engage in feminist activism to satisfy their grandiose tendencies, study suggestsWait until you find out that women also base a man's entire worth on how much women want him and thats probably why men are so self conscious about it in the first place. Male virgins are so universally despised by women that it is the go-to insult to impune their masculinity/validity as a "real man" even if sex isn't remotely related to the argument. Women who hold these kinds of ideas aren't worth dealing with or being around. Believe me, we find them to be incredibly cringe and sexist too. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/12/23 12:02 AM |
| 1 | What's your body count?...what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 12:36 PM |
| 1 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.Same, same, same! I don't give a crap about money or height...imo those things aren't even close to the top 10 traits that actually matter in a partner. I totally understand and acknowledge that for some women, those are definitely deal breakers. I know that! I'm not saying guys are lying when they have been rejected! It does suck, and I'm empathetic towards dudes who go through that! But just because X number of women care about those traits doesn't mean all of us do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.Which others have you noticed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 08:44 PM |
| 1 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.He is average, but that is more than enough for me since I have vaginismus. An above average size would be painful and horrible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 06:55 PM |
| 4 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.Doubtful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 07:49 AM |
| 1 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.Truth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 12:58 AM |
| 1 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.True, but amazing nonetheless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 12:35 AM |
| 4 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.Idk what a 3 series is, lol. But yes, they do frequently state that he must be absurdly tall (he's 5'10 and I'm 5'7...not a significant difference), or that he's rich (I actually make more and am debt free vs his multi thousand dollars of debt), or he's a swole gym rat (he has body fat of 30% which is sexy af...thicc men are wonderful). And of course, other women have had similar experiences that I've read here. It would be better for the conversation for the guys to ask more questions than to j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 12:34 AM |
| 1 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.We still aren't dating. As I said, we're FWB. We were normal friends for 2 years, and been FWB for 15 on top of that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 12:27 AM |
| 0 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.I was responding to the person who said: But they gloss over the actual things that initially attracted them to that guy. And that’s what the guys asking for advice want to know. Point being, it is many women's experience that even when we specifically and deliberately explain what actual things attracted us to our partners, we are...in general, not AMALT...told that we're lying. Either we can't possibly be attracted by those traits because it disagrees with manospherian ideology, or we are virt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 12:24 AM |
| 13 | I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women.Unfortunately, many men (at least in this subculture of the internet) will just brush off these exact answers if they don't conform to what he wants to hear. I've always been open and honest about how and where I met my FWB, what physical and social traits made me want to be around him, the reason we became sexual partners after being normal friends for 2 years, etc. Some guys appreciate this information...most claim I'm just virtue signaling. It's pretty frustrating to be asked an earnest quest… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 10:10 PM |
| – | For any man with abundance/options, there is no benefit to choosing a promiscuous womanYup. Precisely the reasons high N men are generally not worth dating, and aren't good choices for relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 01:17 AM |
| 1 | What does a modern woman bring to a relationship?Why | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 12:23 AM |
| 1 | What does a modern woman bring to a relationship?It makes perfect sense. He doesn't need to pay for anything when we're hanging out together because I take care of everything. I open my wallet so he doesn't have to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 11:23 AM |
| 1 | What does a modern woman bring to a relationship?I don't what, exactly? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 11:20 AM |
| 1 | What does a modern woman bring to a relationship?I don't know what you mean. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 01:57 PM |
| – | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVThat's unfortunate. You know a lot of immature women then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 11:47 AM |
| – | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVSure. But she'll blame him and his death grip, porn addiction, weird fetish. If she's petty or misandric, yeah. It couldn't possibly be that he didn't find her attractive, or she had bad skills, or a loose vagina. Or the most likely explanation of all, that he is human and sometimes one's body doesn't cooperate, no matter how much one wishes it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 12:35 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHow so? You don't think it's just as likely she's a low/average N woman who was raised with a princess mentality by her parents? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:51 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNah, just very different to find someone who is polite. There's like...10 of us lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 12:47 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat Megathread...are you not new? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 11:46 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNo problem. You're new here, I see. Or maybe just polite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 09:41 AM |
| 1 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?...what's always too much? Paranoia? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 09:10 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI do think a guy that has a genuine distaste for women or their behavior on a deep level (when would he be talking to women, honestly) would give his self away with micro reactions or outright biased rhetoric that doesn’t fit the interaction Idk about this, since many people are adept at hiding their true thoughts and beliefs when in public. Sure, a guy who is new to "red pill rage" and struggling with it mentally is probably going to slip up since he's currently frustrated and upset. But someon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 09:09 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadLook at yourself in the mirror and ask if you'd have sex with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:59 AM |
| 1 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?The cell phone paranoia thing would be the deal breaker for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:55 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadA bunch of us millennial women aren't as hypnotized by them as previous generations were. I'm not the only woman I know who doesn't really see a reason to get married if you're not having kids. Idk how old you are though, so this information may not help. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:54 AM |
| 1 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?Because as much as some people enjoy pretending that women have a bullshit or asshole detector, we don't. The most you could possibly say is that most neurotypical women are able to read body language slightly better than men, but it's extremely easy to learn to control this too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:37 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou're terrified by the idea of wanting to please him? Or you want to please him but are afraid you won't do it correctly/the way he'd like? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:35 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadMale chastity toy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:30 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI thought you were going to link to a Mormon dating site | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:29 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhy do you want to get married? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:29 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadFellas the way you truly feel about women will pervade every aspect of your interaction with them. THEY WILL PICK UP ON THIS. How are we supposed to do this? It seems the same as when some guys say they can "just tell" when a woman has a promiscuous past. Fwiw, I don't believe either stance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:27 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadJust saying neither is indeed a waste of time, but if you also point out the major reasons why both options are unacceptable to you, that could help add to the discussion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:25 AM |
| 1 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?So, always an asshole and has just to pretend otherwise when with the current object of his "affections". I was correct, shitty personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:22 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThat sounds like a forum for the Grindr app | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:20 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadFwiw, I'm glad you've moved from saying all like you were yesterday, to saying most now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:19 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI don't know about the other 2, but the Too Good To Go app lets you buy unsold food from local restaurants and bakeries at 1/3 or 1/2 the original price, since they would have thrown it out otherwise. Basically helps prevent food waste. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:17 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOh, I know I did. I'm too nice, give too many people the benefit of the doubt. Need to work on becoming more cynical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:10 AM |
| 1 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?Lol oh I'm sure. That's why it sounds like he plays mind games and is a player who doesn't know how to operate a phone. 😏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:09 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat Megathread2 is the only one I've struggled with throughout life, but have been getting much better at reining my workaholic tendencies in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:07 AM |
| 2 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?That's only 2 inches shorter than me, very well worth it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:03 AM |
| 1 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?B offers next to nothing though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 08:02 AM |
| 4 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?A would be my choice, he is closest to what I value and look for in a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 02:44 AM |
| – | I have a hard time believing Dad bods are inIf that's what the dude wants, absolutely. I have no problem supporting men who are into that stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 02:41 AM |
| – | I have a hard time believing Dad bods are inThat's sad. Thicc, rotund, plump, soft men are an absolute joy to behold. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 02:37 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIt has to be some weird mistake | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:37 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI don't know! 😑 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:36 AM |
| – | I have a hard time believing Dad bods are inUnfortunately, yeah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:35 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadPossibly. Could also be that they work inside more, and thus avoid the aging from UV | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:06 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOn the opposite side, I reported and blocked the guy who kept sending pics of his erections. The reddit report came back that they reviewed our conversation and he didn't do anything to break standard reddit rules. So...I guess the rule about sending unsolicited sexual content is cool now 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:05 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDo you see any kind of pattern? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:01 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhat does this actually mean to you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 12:59 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAnd then there's the reverse, where someone is in their 30s but still look like they just graduated college a couple years ago. Genetics is a big part, but gotta say that a healthy lifestyle seems to be a bigger factor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 12:58 AM |
| – | I have a hard time believing Dad bods are inYou are correct, and it is annoying 😒 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 12:52 AM |
| – | I have a hard time believing Dad bods are inEh, I just looked it up and bear mode apparently is only about 15%, maybe 20% body fat. That's definitely not enough for a nice thicc plump dadbod. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Q for Women: Does it bother you, not bother you, or flatter you, or just not care if men check out your ass while you walk by? I mean if they do it discreetly, and you notice it, and not overtly ogle you like a mouth breather.Guess I need to go buy a bunch of mirrors then lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 12:22 AM |
| – | I have a hard time believing Dad bods are inAs a woman who finds high fat/low muscle dadbods very attractive...yeah, the overwhelming majority of women don't like them. If you were trying to get the most amount of positive female attention and for them to think you're sexy, you should become fit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 12:10 AM |
| 8 | Q for Women: Does it bother you, not bother you, or flatter you, or just not care if men check out your ass while you walk by? I mean if they do it discreetly, and you notice it, and not overtly ogle you like a mouth breather.I have asked women I know and most of them tell me that they also know it's a common thing but that they don't really care as long as men don't bother them by leering or doing anything creepy other than a casual look and then back to minding their own business. Pretty much this. It's like when you see an attractive or interesting looking man...sure, they may catch you glancing but it doesn't seem to be anything insulting or bad. Sometimes people are just nice to look at. I also want to ask if yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 12:04 AM |
| 3 | Q for Women: Does it bother you, not bother you, or flatter you, or just not care if men check out your ass while you walk by? I mean if they do it discreetly, and you notice it, and not overtly ogle you like a mouth breather....why would anyone need to do that? Even if you want to make sure your pants are fitting well, or even look sexy, that's a lot of overkill lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 11:56 PM |
| 3 | Ladies do any of you here NOT want a relationship?I've answered this probably a dozen times lol. Let me see if I can find one of my previous responses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 10:17 PM |
| 6 | To the women who say the current state of the dating market and beyond isn't their problem I hope you plan on being child freeSo many women here and else where act like the state of modern dating isn't there problem because obviously it's going well for them. They're shacked up in happy relationships and have partners. And from an objective point of view it isn't "their" problem right now. Just because it's not my problem doesn't mean it isn't a problem though. Empathy is still important. hope you plan on being child free I absolutely am. And half seriously anticipate people will start dating androids/synths. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 09:23 PM |
| 7 | Ladies do any of you here NOT want a relationship?Is FWB a relationship according to you? Some people here claim it isn't one. If yes, then yeah, I enjoy it immensely. If no, then I've no desire for one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 08:36 PM |
| 4 | How do women honestly feel about guys that are genuinely going about improving themselves but still can’t get laid?I feel extremely empathetic towards them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Western Women hate it when men have sexual access as easy as they do CMVOh, I agree that many marriages are kept going for reasons of safety or because of pressure from family/social circle. There's many men and women alike in the dead bedroom sub, for example, who outright state that the only reason they haven't divorced to find a partner who actually wants to fuck them is due to the backlash they'd get from said people. It boggles my mind that leaving a relationship where your sexual and physical needs are being ignored, or worse, declared immature/horrible, could… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Western Women hate it when men have sexual access as easy as they do CMVUnfortunately, yes. It does sound like you've been in shitty relationships, and you have my sympathy. It sucks to be the one giving more if you don't want to be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 01:55 PM |
| 5 | Western Women hate it when men have sexual access as easy as they do CMVIn a healthy relationship, each person contributes something that improves the quality of their partners life, while receiving the same. Which is precisely what I think too. Hence why I said both people give their time, energy, attention, etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 11:25 AM |
| 18 | M/ in a LTR Essentially. Almost all Women Love Bad Behavior but Condemn it at the Same Time - And Literally Change Their Narrative From Week to WeekAs a woman who leans red (not in a tradcon red pill woman way, more a mgtow way) I'm just going to say the redpill stuff is helpful in some areas and not in others. It's good for general discussions but can fall apart at the individual level. You gotta take a step back from it now and then to maintain good mental health. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 11:05 AM |
| 3 | Western Women hate it when men have sexual access as easy as they do CMV...do you agree or disagree with my comment? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 10:59 AM |
| 2 | Western Women hate it when men have sexual access as easy as they do CMVDepends on where you live, obviously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 10:14 AM |
| 2 | Western Women hate it when men have sexual access as easy as they do CMVI ignored it in my comment because it's not inherent. Going Dutch is a common option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 05:10 AM |
| 25 | Western Women hate it when men have sexual access as easy as they do CMVThis just sounds like a normal relationship, each person "pays" with their time, attention, and energy at minimum since you're actively with the other person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 11:38 PM |
| 3 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadExactly. And it is logical that low N men don't want high N women. Idk why this is a difficult concept lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 09:53 PM |
| 1 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadIt's not high, it's below average for both millennials and Gen X lifetime numbers. I was a virgin getting into a relationship with an average N guy, at the very most. I would never be with a high N man, even casually. I don't know what you're talking about. Men can sleep around if they want, women can sleep around if they want. Men can stay low N if they want, women can stay low N if they want. Everyone can then figure out what N they're willing to accept from a partner. My point is that men who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't as touchy as men during sexYeah, I don't know if she was being sarcastic or not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Women aren't as touchy as men during sexSo you're willing to have bad/not as good sex because you want them to know what you want, instead of telling them "hey, I'd love it if you'd touch me more"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 09:43 PM |
| 1 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadWhat's your thoughts on N now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 09:41 PM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadMy bad! 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 09:37 PM |
| 1 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadFor guys there is no difference between 9 and 50. Both of them are above average. Depends on your generation. For millennials, which is my generation, the average for women is about 10.8, and the average for men is about 13.4 For Gen X, which is my FWB's generation, the average for women is 10.1, and men is 16.1 So with me being his 10th lifetime partner, he's below average for both our generations. 50 would be significantly higher than average. And both of them mean that he will be Mr Two-Digit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Women aren't as touchy as men during sexIt kind of made me feel less appreciated because I expected her to reciprocate the way I touched her. I noticed this not only with her but with other women too. Did they not change their actions when you told them what you wanted? Do you observe the same and if so, why is that so and what does it tell about women and men? I have extremely limited experience, but my lover and I touch each other pretty equal amounts. It probably has a lot to do with the dynamic of the people involved though. Like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 08:01 PM |
| -1 | Women aren't as touchy as men during sexEven when not sexual, male bodies generally are nice to look at. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 07:54 PM |
| 4 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadThis is the biggest point that people on both sides don't seem to realize. There is nothing immoral or unethical about high N. Low N people aren't better or purer. It's not even a guarantee that someone would or wouldn't have a STD or sexual trauma or hangups about sex. The issue about high N is, it shows that...at some point in that person's life...they didn't place a big emphasis on LTRs and probably see sex as just another fun thing to do on a Saturday night. Whereas for low N people, we tend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 07:47 PM |
| 3 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadWhich is odd, because when the genders are flipped, the one's who don't understand...suddenly do. 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 07:21 PM |
| 6 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadThanks for talking about your preferences and experiences! More of us need to, I think, since too many men believe low N women are just going to look the other way when it comes to a man's very promiscuous past. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 07:18 PM |
| 6 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadOkay then. 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 06:18 PM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadThanks, and yes, that's true. Imo: Low N man > average N man > virgin man, and high N man is waaaaay down at the bottom, not even a plausible option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 06:18 PM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadPersonally bodycount doesn’t matter too much to me within reason, I’d say over 20 would be a no go. Yeah, for me 15 is the highest I can go without ick. What matters more is that we have commitment and ideally he’s had long term serious relationships before and a deal breaker is a history of cheating on any partner. For me, deal breakers are one night stands/hookups and cheating. Longterm relationships are preferable but one or two short term relationships are acceptable. A lot of women virgins/… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 06:15 PM |
| 3 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadWhy is it so difficult for you guys to understand the difference between average and high N? Do you really not see a difference between 9 and 50? My argument isn't that low N women are unable to accept that men generally have more sex partners than women. My argument is we don't want sluts. There's a huge difference there. He's a friend with benefits. I'm not marrying him. Hence the fact that I was willing to lower my standards. If I was looking for a committed relationship, I would never be wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 06:10 PM |
| 7 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadPlease produce them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 05:57 PM |
| 0 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadI'm his tenth partner, that is nowhere close to being high N. What are you talking about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 05:53 PM |
| 1 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadWhy's that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 05:42 PM |
| 1 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadYeah, and I agree with you that a small percentage of us do want that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 05:34 PM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadSome low n count women do want guy with high n count, Sure, there's a minority of low N women who do want high N men. Similarly, there's some low N men who don't mind a high N woman. They just aren't the majority. because they think that high n count guy is less likely to cheat when he commit because he had he share and now he want to settle, Unfortunately this has been shown to be the opposite case. In general, (obviously not 100%) both men and women with high N have a higher difficulty in bein… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 05:23 PM |
| 12 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadExcept for the fact we get gaslit all the time here, or accused of outright lying or virtue signaling. There was one post a couple months ago where about 12 of us low N women in the comments specifically said "we do not want high N men, and we know other low N women who also don't want high N men". Guys came out of the woodwork to claim we are all outliers. Don't believe it. If a woman is low N, the likelihood she wants a husband, boyfriend, or lover who is a male slut is incredibly small. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 05:08 PM |
| 17 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadIt's kinda weird how some of the guys here get upset that low N women in general don't want high N men, but are cool with other men saying they don't want high N women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Men like sex, women like attentionAnd what was that guess based on? FWB is a casual relationship, just not a committed one. Idk what you're referring to by "chill with sex", like what does that mean? Most women aren't asexual or sexually traumatized, the overwhelming majority of us desire sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 04:36 PM |
| 4 | Men like sex, women like attentionUh, why are you pulling random assumptions out of your ass now? How does being in a longterm monogamous casual relationship = sex addict in your mind? I cannot imagine how you reach such a strange conclusion... Yes, most women, including myself, want relationships. We also want sex in those relationships, with said partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 04:30 PM |
| 4 | Men like sex, women like attentionDude, using the women at that sub to represent the rest of us is like using a mgtow forum to represent men as a whole. You're taking the most bitter and hurt people around to make assumptions about everyone else. We have sex with the men we desire because we want to fuck them and be both physically and mentally intimate with them. Again, attention doesn't satisfy one's libido. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Men like sex, women like attentionSorry, but no. Unless she is asexual or has some unresolved sexual trauma, that's wrong for the majority of women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 04:17 PM |
| 19 | Men like sex, women like attentionA woman who gets constant attention and no sex will also be satisfied. Speak for yourself. Attention doesn't relieve horniness or quench the desire to be intensely intimate and loved physically by another person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageThat sounds like a fun way to express yourself | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Andrew Tate was right, he shouldn't let his women drive his car. Andrew Tate taught us more without saying anythingSame, I thought it had randomly started without an announcement lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 02:19 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?...me? Oh wow, um. Thank you 🥹🥹🥹 I usually think my comments are just middle of the line boring and fence sitting lol. I'm blushing fr right now 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 02:17 PM |
| 2 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageYeah, thank you! Ya got it. What shows do you wear face jewels at? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 02:13 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?Yeah, I'll agree with that. It's one of the reasons I'm ultimately not a fan of Sleeping Beauty, Snow White, Cinderella, etc because of the happiness = relationship trope. I prefer Brave, where her goal is literally just to prove her own physical abilities and skills, very expressly making known her desire to not get hitched and just enjoy being a child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 01:58 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?It's possible that it began to turn me atheist because I already didn't like a lot of the things I was learning in my weekly Bible studies. So instead of thinking of fixing aspects of it, I was getting the inkling that leaving it behind altogether was better for me. I was predominantly raised Roman Catholic and then Jehovah Witness though...if you were in a less rigid version of Christianity, you probably had a different take on things. Like my FWB is Episcopalian and if I was raised that way I'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 01:53 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?Okay, but you made a few assumptions about how "my" version of the story would go. That's all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 01:37 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?I was just saying what my wish would have been, I don't care about balls and princes so my fairy godmother wish would have been to have my estate and wealth back so I could live as free and independently as a single woman possibly could back then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 01:27 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?It was very scary in it's own way but was also the first thing I can recall that made me start questioning religious beliefs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 01:24 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?Cool story but what's this "you" stuff? Should be saying she/Cinderella, you're not comparing me to El, you're comparing one fictional character to another. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 01:11 PM |
| 1 | What is the appeal of younger men (mid 20's) for older women (30's 40's)?Sure, the younger person can be manipulative too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 12:49 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?If I remember correctly he had an objective whereas cinderella was simply surviving, she was a mother to the animals but that's it. I've never heard of Cinderella Man, but she wasn't simply surviving, she was doing her best to keep up with not only her stepsisters and stepmother's constant demands, but also be a one-person superintendent for the entire chateau. After her father died, the stepmother squandered most of the family's wealth spoiling herself and her own daughters. The home was origin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Why men say the system wants to keep you single. The richest man on the planet makes handbags and shoes. Ladies do you realize the system has a vested interest in keeping you single?So ladies do you understand that the system has a vested interest in keeping you single or do you know and just not care? This is such a strange take. Expensive handbags exist so "the system" wants women to remain single and presumably childfree? You ask if we know about this plot, but I'll ask you why should any individual woman care that ridiculously costly purses exist? It's not like the average woman is buying them, or if they are it's maybe one to use at very fancy functions. Like most expe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 11:23 AM |
| 3 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?I often think that these essays are written by people who didn't actually sit down and watch the movie from beginning to end. Cinderella doesn't "wait to be saved by a prince", she just wants to be treated like her stepsisters and given the same opportunity to have a night off and go to the ball like every other eligible maiden. She doesn't seek out the prince and it isn't even until afterwards, when the proclamation talking about the glass slipper is posted, that Cinderella even learns who she … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 11:11 AM |
| 1 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?Hot personality traits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 10:20 AM |
| 1 | Is "chasing" women that said no to your date advances ever worth it?This does happen more often than it should | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Is "chasing" women that said no to your date advances ever worth it?Yup! 😊 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 02:37 AM |
| 3 | What is the appeal of younger men (mid 20's) for older women (30's 40's)?Yeah, you're cool. I was just agreeing with you. Some of these comments are giving me the same vibes as the 40 year old moms going crazy over Justin Bieber when he was 16. Just...nope. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 02:03 AM |
| 8 | What is the appeal of younger men (mid 20's) for older women (30's 40's)?I'm honestly very weirded out by this 😒😒😒 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 01:58 AM |
| 0 | Is "chasing" women that said no to your date advances ever worth it?Fair, but do you really think wooing is inherently the same as pedestalizing? Like, when I do things for my FWB like pay for dates, give small gifts or candy, plan mini vacations, etc I'm not putting him above myself or thinking he's "more" than he actually is. I simply enjoy making my partner happy, which in turn makes me happy and emotionally fulfilled. Pedestalization is when you hold some in such high esteem that it's exaggerated unrealistically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Is "chasing" women that said no to your date advances ever worth it?Okay, but how? Like what causes dudes to believe any of the shit they read instead of observing reality and making their own decisions to not pedestalize us? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 12:42 AM |
| 2 | Is "chasing" women that said no to your date advances ever worth it?How does media? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Is "chasing" women that said no to your date advances ever worth it?Meh, I prefer to do the wooing. More fun and less awkward that way, plus acts of service is my outward love language. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAlso I meant control as in steer him towards behaving in the way she wants. If this involves helping him become a legitimately better person, like gaining confidence in himself or getting over a harmful addiction or learning new skills...okay, sure. I can get behind that since partners are supposed to enhance each other's lives. But it shouldn't just automatically be "the way she wants". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadMy best life can't include controlling my partner though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 11:39 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadPlus its in women's best interest a man in his 30s doesn't know his value and is under her control. Wtf Chance...no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Reasons why older men date or hook up with younger womenBelieve it or not, most of the women here are victims of dirty old men that prey on younger (naive) girls Here as in...on PPD? 🤨 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 11:32 PM |
| 1 | What is the appeal of younger men (mid 20's) for older women (30's 40's)?🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 11:28 PM |
| 3 | What is the appeal of younger men (mid 20's) for older women (30's 40's)?Lol fair enough. I honestly cannot see any difference in my FWB's over the course of the years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 10:28 PM |
| 5 | What is the appeal of younger men (mid 20's) for older women (30's 40's)?Nobody likes saggy balls but anyway. I mean...that's just how they always are lol. They aren't round and perky like small tits can be. That's how I came to hate so much the idea that boys are just dummies that "society" indoctrinates as if we don't have minds and desires of our own. That's how I feel whenever someone acts as though a 23-25 year old woman is mentally the same as a 16 year old. Women do try to mold males into whatever they want them to be Yeah, still gross no matter if it's an old… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 10:08 PM |
| 3 | What is the appeal of younger men (mid 20's) for older women (30's 40's)?So a lot of times the men on that show are basically fucking for a place to stay. Hobosexuals 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 10:04 PM |
| 3 | What is the appeal of younger men (mid 20's) for older women (30's 40's)?She outright said "because they're easier to boss around". Ugh, that's so fucking gross. This is the kind of shit where I'll agree age gap relationships can potentially be manipulative, abusive, and harmful. I'm in one myself, not inherently against them, they can also be mutually respectful and beneficial, don't come for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 09:29 PM |
| 18 | What is the appeal of younger men (mid 20's) for older women (30's 40's)?more malleable Just my opinion, but this is a creepy thing to say. Like I had a whole huge discussion with a guy here who said one of the benefits of dating a much younger woman was that she's far more mentally malleable and can be molded to fit into your lifestyle. Sounded kinda predatory. Maybe you meant it in a different way? perkier balls ...is this really something you care about? 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 08:43 PM |
| 2 | How much do you relate to traditional gender roles?I absolutely agree! It's the ones like my stepfather who do want to be in charge 24/7 that you have to watch out for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 08:39 PM |
| 4 | How much do you relate to traditional gender roles?Not who you were responding to, but in some families/communities, it is still strongly upheld that the man of the house makes literally all important decisions. They aren't the tandem leader or sometimes leader...they are always The Leader. I grew up in a family with this dynamic, and unfortunately, since there was no mutual respect, it was abusive and shit. It doesn't have to be, but often is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 07:40 PM |
| 2 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVI agree with everything you've said. I find myself wanting to discuss more with you, but since we're in total agreement, it would probably be boring lol. My own degree is in business management, with minors in psychology and biology. Learning about different biological processes, neurochemicals, differences + similarities between the sexes, even some medical knowledge I use during wildlife rehabilitation is my fucking jam. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 07:19 PM |
| 0 | How much do you relate to traditional gender roles?I am basically your exact opposite, OP. Raised in a highly conservative and religious household with pretty strict gender roles + went to religious private school until 7th grade. Forced to wear clothes and act in ways that felt extremely unnatural to me as an individual, since I've always been a masculine woman, and in fact would identify as transgender if I was a child nowadays. I do firmly believe that one's gender identity is almost entirely biological, with only a small portion of it being … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 07:14 PM |
| 8 | Is "chasing" women that said no to your date advances ever worth it?That happens quite naturally, it's called the "women are wonderful" effect. It's quite interesting, give it a look. Yeah, I've been in the manosphere for about 19 years. Might have heard about it once or twice...😏 But I agree that a man should learn to fight that in order to avoid serious disappointment. Absolutely. I'm extremely in favor of being treated as a normal human. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 07:09 PM |
| 3 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVI mean it's apparently against the feminist policy to recognize biological differences between biological males and biological females I'm not a feminist, and don't follow their ideology. Fwiw, I think most of them aren't terfs and most would agree that cis men are generally physically stronger than cis women. There are some batshit crazy feminists, but I don't think they're the majority...just a loud and obnoxious minority. My question was really regarding Biggest's comment about "good luck fin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 06:13 PM |
| 15 | Is "chasing" women that said no to your date advances ever worth it?Ain't nobody got time to idealise women anymore Shouldn't do that anyway, it's dumb and unhealthy. We are just humans like men, no reason to pedestalize or idealize us unrealistically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 06:03 PM |
| 5 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVI mean, probably not with me lol. I am legitimately curious what you meant though. Want to talk through dm? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 04:15 PM |
| 7 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVWhy wouldn't we? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 02:22 PM |
| 6 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVIf a guy can’t come it’s his fault. If by his "fault" you mean the male body just sometimes doesn't cooperate...sure. Although it's not as if the guy in question does not want an orgasm. Typically it is frustrating for both partners and needs to be handled/talked about with compassion and mild understanding of biology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageYeah, you were, but you weren't a dick. I'd say something like "that shirt isn't flattering for your body type" in said scenario. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 02:44 AM |
| 1 | What (do you think) causes some people to want role reversal in a relationship?For some of us it's just the more natural way to be period | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageI mean, it's not like you said anything inaccurate or false lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 01:34 AM |
| 3 | My dating hawt takes (updated) what are yours?Oh, I do think it's controversial and it is the exact opposite of all my own friendships. But it is indeed hot vs the pretty mild ones from OP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 11:35 PM |
| 3 | My dating hawt takes (updated) what are yours?Now this is a legitimate hot take lol. 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Do Women Control Morality?No, women aren't any more or less moral than men, and we don't control morality either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 11:31 PM |
| 1 | My dating hawt takes (updated) what are yours?Fair enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 10:39 PM |
| 2 | My dating hawt takes (updated) what are yours?Are these takes really that hot? Seem fairly mild. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 10:35 PM |
| 5 | How fit women should deal with overweight men on OLDWhy would I care that his preference is for skinnier women? My preference is for plump/chubby men. So long as we're both cool with each other's body type and find it attractive, that shouldn't be a bad thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageNo worries, my dude. Skookum is cool with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 10:29 PM |
| 2 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageThis is truth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageI guess it's a good thing I prefer average men lol 😏 Imo there's a big difference between put-together vs beautified. Put-together is clean well fitted clothes, clear skin, clean and shiny hair, modest dress code, short clean nails. Beautified is tight clothes, makeup, styled hair, more revealing dress code, long done up nails. I don't do the second part, because it simply is not me. But I'm certainly put-together and don't look like a ragamuffin or hobo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageVery interesting! Just wondering, and this may not be the case, but do you perhaps act more friendly or confident when wearing makeup, too? I'm curious since people act that way with me, and I don't own any makeup...haven't worn it for the last 21 years. Both women and men brighten up and offer to do minor things for me, or are just very happy to see me. However I've actually been told by a few male strangers that "it's nice to see a woman who smiles and means it". So could it be that you are su… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageHow much nicer/friendlier would you say, as you mentioned it's significant? Like do people go out of their way to say hello or something? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 09:32 PM |
| 6 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageI prefer to actually have a dude think my unenhanced body is attractive, not fake things I do to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 07:59 PM |
| 7 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageRight? I haven't ever willingly worn makeup in my life, my face is perfectly fine as-is without a bunch of stuff on it. Still not sure how this supposedly is a disadvantage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 06:56 PM |
| 12 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageIn what way do you think that we are disadvantaged by not being able to do makeup and maybe not having the world's best fashion sense? Like what exactly is the harm? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Would you date these "overweight" women?Are you the gent who has a favorite you've hired more than the others for a number of years? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 03:34 PM |
| 4 | Would you date these "overweight" women?Just wondering, do you still have FWB or are you more of the volcel/Monk mode kind? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 03:31 PM |
| 1 | We (women) wear makeup for ourselves is not 100% falseSure, but you should really be talking to her about what constitutes her social circle, not me. I'm not the one who said I don't leave my home without makeup. I can't accurately discuss that mentality since I don't own any to begin with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 03:28 PM |
| 1 | We (women) wear makeup for ourselves is not 100% falseThat's true and I would never work for a company that forced me to wear makeup. But the person that I responded to specifically said that she only wears makeup outside of her house because of social expectations not because her job requires it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 01:55 PM |
| 2 | We (women) wear makeup for ourselves is not 100% falseYou're welcome, and yeah...if you want to wear makeup because you like the artistic style, and it allows you to show more self-expression, go for it! But if you're doing just because society says so, and it's really not something you enjoy putting on every day...fuck 'em. Your normal face is good as is! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 12:29 PM |
| 6 | We (women) wear makeup for ourselves is not 100% falseYou feel the social pressure when every woman around you wears makeup I agree there is a big expectation for us to use cosmetics, and there is some social pressure to wear it even on a normal, boring day. But why care about it? Like you can acknowledge it exists but also acknowledge it's stupid and just laugh it off. My mom used to make me wear makeup a few times a week when I was 15-17...I hated it, and as soon as I moved out at 17, I left it all to my younger sisters. Am 38 now and have never … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 10:09 AM |
| 3 | We (women) wear makeup for ourselves is not 100% falseFor example, it's hard to get people to simply admit that they care about what others think. It depends on the topic and the person. Would be more accurate to say "I don't care what random strangers think" or "I don't care what my family thinks, but I care about what my best friend thinks", etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 10:00 AM |
| 8 | Of these 2 scenarios, which do you think would lead to better relationships? Kinda RP vs BPScenario B will lead to a healthier, long-lasting relationship. Scenario A will lead to potentially less healthy, short-term relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 09:54 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you date a man who owns fleshlights and sex dolls?So long as I don't have to look at it ever, it's fine. I used to work at a sex shop, and we'd sell a sex doll maybe once every 3 months. They're very expensive, and helping my coworkers load them into the delivery boxes was a gross combination of uncanny valley and feeling like it was a corpse. I already am kinda creeped out by normal dolls...ones that weigh 150 lbs and look even more human are nightmare fuel. Fleshlights are totally cool, I have a ton of sex toys for myself and my fwb, includin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 09:49 AM |
| 4 | How important is it for you and your S.O to be on the same page?It is the same level of importance as me finding him sexually attractive, so very. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Honest opinion about porn, sex, and relationships.Are you sure? My guyfriends have all said they're imagining themselves as the guy when watching porn...they aren't watching it to think about another dude getting his own rocks off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: What happens when you come across the virgin who won’t sleep with you casually or doing dating?Ah, that rule rears it's ugly head again lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: What happens when you come across the virgin who won’t sleep with you casually or doing dating?No, because I always very expressly told them I did want to eventually have sex, and I paid for every date. Would you spend hundreds of dollars on someone you were rejecting? I'm demisexual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: What happens when you come across the virgin who won’t sleep with you casually or doing dating?I very much care about a man's sexual history. I would never possibly date anyone with a high N, virgin would be infinitely better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 05:56 PM |
| 4 | Discussion: What happens when you come across the virgin who won’t sleep with you casually or doing dating?I don't think there's a problem, but the guys I tried to date obviously had enough of a problem with it to leave even though I was bending over backwards to show them I was interested in non-sexual ways. It just is what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Identifying toxic and predatory womenI agree with that. I've heard from guys who've been point blank asked on a first date how much they make, how much they have in savings, how much his house or car is worth, etc. Imo these kinds of questions just screams out gold-digger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 05:07 PM |
| -1 | Discussion: What happens when you come across the virgin who won’t sleep with you casually or doing dating?Unfortunately you are. Believe me, I wish it wasn't true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:39 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: What happens when you come across the virgin who won’t sleep with you casually or doing dating?Lol oddly specific | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:33 PM |
| 6 | Discussion: What happens when you come across the virgin who won’t sleep with you casually or doing dating?You're an extreme outlier. But it's nice to know men like you are out there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: What happens when you come across the virgin who won’t sleep with you casually or doing dating?For how long until you get tired of it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:22 PM |
| 5 | Honest opinion about porn, sex, and relationships.About 31% of women watch porn at least once a week, number goes up if it's 2-3x a week. I don't have the study on me but iirc it jumps to about 50%. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:21 PM |
| 5 | Honest opinion about porn, sex, and relationships.No, I said watch, not read. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:17 PM |
| 4 | Honest opinion about porn, sex, and relationships.Eh, since a lot of women watch porn nowadays, it seemed an odd reaction. That's all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:12 PM |
| 5 | Honest opinion about porn, sex, and relationships.You said you'd raise your eyebrows at a woman who watches porn like a guy, which just seems to be how the average person watches porn, regardless of gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:08 PM |
| 6 | Discussion: What happens when you come across the virgin who won’t sleep with you casually or doing dating?I'm assuming this is going to be flaired as Q4M eventually. But to answer your question, the vast majority of men will simply leave after anything from 1-4 dates without sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 04:00 PM |
| 4 | Honest opinion about porn, sex, and relationships.Dude, it's not that deep. I watch porn a few times every week because it's easier to get myself off with a visual and using it to imagine my guy and I in those positions. That's really all there is to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 03:55 PM |
| 12 | Legalizing Prostitution would solve most of the issues western men face and women know it CMVAs nice as it would be to have a relatively easy solution (and one I'm strongly in favor of...sex work should absolutely be legalized imo) it most likely wouldn't be the cure-all you think it would be. Even the majority of virgin inc3ls don't use prostitute services, because they want to be wanted by women. They don't want to have to pay for it...this is a point of pride for a decent number of other men too. While it may help some men, like those going through a dating dry spell, it unfortunatel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 01:39 AM |
| 22 | Identifying toxic and predatory womenUsing sex as a reward/punishment system Asks about your finances on first date Treats service workers as lesser beings | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 11:27 PM |
| 6 | Talking to women "as people" first usually gets the guy friendzonedUnfortunately there's about a dozen guys on this sub who claim women in general are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Men don’t care about women’s career?This is true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 07:55 PM |
| 12 | Men don’t care about women’s career?It does not generate sexual interest Jobs and money don't generate sexual interest for women either though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 06:36 PM |
| 16 | Talking to women "as people" first usually gets the guy friendzonedBut Eulen, don't you know allllll women are demisexual? Y'know, except for the times we meet Chad, and then our demi magically goes away and we hookup 5 minutes later in his car. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 05:16 PM |
| 8 | "The Hoe Phase"Same boat, brother. Men who had a hoe phase give me ick too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 04:20 PM |
| 2 | Polyamory/open relationship is the same as FWB, but somehow FWB is looked down upon and misogynistWait...since when has normal FWB been looked down on more than poly relationships? The only reason I sometimes get looked down on is because of how long I've been in one. If I was only in my 10th month of being a FWB I'm 99% confident nobody would give a shit. FWB isn't misogynistic either, no idea where that's coming from? Poly relationships are definitely looked down on more. The men are consistently called cucks, and the women are consistently called cheaters/sluts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 10:57 PM |
| 9 | Is ghosting less immoral, or even amoral, for women to do because of safety concerns?Is ghosting less immoral, or even amoral, for women to do because of safety concerns? Unless he is actually showing signs of being dangerous/mentally unstable, I don't think ghosting is moral. In the majority of cases, the guy deserves to know that you're not interested any longer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 10:53 PM |
| 1 | How many LTRs have you been in?Nice! Hopefully everything is going well. I'm 38F, 1 casual LTR for 15 years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 10:51 PM |
| 3 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?Yeah, I don't believe anything of what I wrote above, and in my honest opinion none of it is true. A woman's live is no more inherently fleeting or long lasting than a man's. Sometimes a person will love you temporarily, sometimes they'll love you permanently. Sometimes you lose love due to their actions, sometimes you lose it due to your own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 08:37 PM |
| 5 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?It's a bitter fucking pill to swallow. Maybe life hasn't forced it down your throat yet. Hang in there long enough. Just curious, do you think I'm a man? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 08:13 PM |
| 4 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?Yup, this is true for some. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 08:09 PM |
| 9 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?You realize I was simply repeating what is frequently said here by a lot of men, yeah? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 08:00 PM |
| 6 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?Dearheart, I don't believe a single part of what I wrote. Of course sex is a physical urge for everyone, I just don't think it's as totally devoid of emotion for men as some want us to believe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 07:59 PM |
| 5 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?You understand that this is bullshit, and I don't believe a single word of anything I typed, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 07:56 PM |
| 3 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?You don't have any emotions during sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 07:35 PM |
| 10 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?True for some of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 07:34 PM |
| 21 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?Everyone wants to be loved and the fact that women can get that so easily OP isn't talking about love, just sex. They are two entirely different things, especially since the majority of men here believe that men cheating on their wives is not as immoral, as men in general can fuck without feeling any emotion whatsoever. Sex for men is just a physical urge, like pissing. It means nothing other than the woman is a warm body to stick his dick in. He can use whatever sweet words or charisma that's n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Do women actually approach men if they truly like them?I prefer approaching just as a general matter of course, it is easier to control a situation like striking up a conversation if I'm the initiator. However I know a lot of women prefer being the one who is asked. If they really like or are physically attracted to a man who isn't picking up her social cues, even a normally passive woman would probably approach though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 05:16 PM |
| 10 | Do you think men are privileged compared to women?No, I don't. I view society as two sides of a coin. On one side are men's privileges and issues, on the other are women's privileges and issues. They are almost always direct mirrors of each other. Nobody has 100% of their life on easy mode, regardless of which sex they are. People tend to think the grass is greener on the other side, but that's because they aren't seeing the trouble underneath. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:18 PM |
| 3 | Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shockI'm very glad you're okay too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Men and women project their expectations of an ideal partner onto themselvesThank you for the examples, I appreciate it. well actually compatibility dynamics are never gonna happen if the guy is not attractive enough for the woman to decide they are in a relationship Okay, this does lead me to think the disconnect in our conversation is because of demisexuality. For me, so long as he is not legitimately ugly, like a 4/10 or less, sexual/romantic attraction forms over time due to said compatibility. Regarding the paying on first dates thing, that seems like a very Americ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Men and women project their expectations of an ideal partner onto themselvesMaybe it's because I'm demi, not sure, but in my experience, compatibility dynamics is a huge part of finding someone attractive in the first place. But it's possible I'm misunderstanding you. Do you have an example besides approaching? For me, I prefer doing the approaching and hate being approached, because 1. I want to be the initiator and have control over the situation at first, and 2. I hate rejecting people. But when I've approached men and they liked it/accepted, it's probably not becaus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 02:46 PM |
| 3 | Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shockEnough of it happens in the US to still be worried about, even without going abroad. She's incredibly lucky, and I'd be afraid for a young man doing the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 02:34 PM |
| 5 | Men and women project their expectations of an ideal partner onto themselvesI'll halfway agree with this. Imo it's not so much that polar opposites attract, but rather moderates on two sides attract. If they're too different from each other, the relationship will be tense, have misunderstandings, they'll eventually get tired being around each other. If they're only mildly different, it can work out very well because each partner meshes with the personality areas that are lacking/lesser in the other. Like I'm introverted, stoic, reserved, very minimalist and my FWB is ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shockDid you mean to reply to me, or to According? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 12:55 PM |
| 14 | Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shockThat's precisely what I was thinking. Like, I'm so glad that apparently her "guardian angel" is working overtime, but I wonder if she realizes just how incredibly lucky she is to not have been harmed by now. Maybe she has level 100 vetting skills. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 12:28 PM |
| 9 | Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shockIt probably depends on where you live. Other than the college towns, I don't see anyone living the party life in my area. If I lived in a city/urban region, I'm sure it would be quite different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Its not that hard for a women to score a rich manI've heard that, yeah. I live in rural far upstate NY...like almost Canada...and I make $90k. That's very decent money where I live, not upper class but easy living. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 10:58 AM |
| 3 | Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shockThe fact she was able to pull all these things off safely and successfully, with people who are cool with it? Definitely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 10:54 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadSee? You took care of your doggo friend, so that's already one of my standards lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 04:01 AM |
| 7 | Its not that hard for a women to score a rich manMost likely, yeah. Not in my little town surrounded by cows and apples lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:55 AM |
| 4 | Its not that hard for a women to score a rich manHopefully this information helps someone actually interested in rich dudes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadSecond puberty? Is this a wives tale kind of thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:43 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI mean, you have a dog you presumably take good care of, so you can't be that bad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:40 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadLove ya, Peace 🫶 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:37 AM |
| 16 | Its not that hard for a women to score a rich man$300,000 a year??? Jesus Christ, I barely know anyone who even makes half that lol. Okay, so I meet all these standards...where exactly do you go to meet these wealthy men? How do you find them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:35 AM |
| 26 | Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shockMost likely! She's the type of person I'd be happy to listen to about her wild adventures while simultaneously being glad I didn't do it lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:32 AM |
| 2 | Do women really want commitment?commitment and sex don’t intertwine much for me Same. Sex and love/care intertwine greatly for me, but commitment doesn't matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:30 AM |
| 67 | Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shockOh absolutely! The very idea of getting into a brand new polyamourous relationship in a whole other country without any money of my own, relying on other people for my entire living expenses? Setting up numerous dates in new cities where nobody knows me? Having dates and/or sex with a bunch of new people each time I travel? Uh...that's gonna be a huge, underlined, bold font Nope! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 03:25 AM |
| 115 | Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shockI was just thinking this too, but I think he means average looking, not that the majority of women even consider living like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menThat's a good point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menThankfully I don't have to worry about any of those things | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 01:09 AM |
| 2 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?Yeah, I don't tend to think of normal/average/boring/not-unique traits as negative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?Are you a sadist? Just wondering why you're bringing them up, no judgment. I think it's closer to 90%, based on what friends in the bdsm community have told me. That number goes to about 80% if we include switches like me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?It's just surprising you never met an outlier, statistically | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?Except us "outliers", apparently | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?Not a single woman wanted to be the more active one? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Do men get jealous of other men who get prettier girls than them?Holy shit. Thank goodness you're okay, but damn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Do men get jealous of other men who get prettier girls than them?Yeah, it doesn't seem like a fully fleshed out story. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?Boring just means not interesting. If your or my or anyone's hormones are completely normal, that's not exciting or odd data. It's just average statistics at that point, not anything to write home about. Has nothing to do with the person the hormones are currently flowing through and isn't being negative towards them at all. It's not as if I said my FWB had a boring personality...that would indeed be negative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 04:19 PM |
| 7 | Do men get jealous of other men who get prettier girls than them?This sounds like either a fanfic or really unsubtle humble brag. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 04:08 PM |
| 3 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?I didn't? I greatly enjoy our relationship, and think he's a fantastic lover and wonderful friend. My comment said absolutely nothing about our relationship lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 04:06 PM |
| 10 | How do incredibly meek or stupid men get women?On the contrary, alot of people like that are different around people they like. They make boring small talk with you to conserve energy. I agree with this 💯 Whenever someone who had an intensely extroverted and superiority vibe approached me in high school and college, I'd talk about the most boring shit imaginable to get them to leave. I'd bet my next paycheck that this is what's happening to OP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 03:35 PM |
| 6 | How do incredibly meek or stupid men get women?Exactly this. And just because someone enjoys videogames or Magic tournaments or playing Warhammer doesn't mean it's their entire personality. We still have jobs, friends, family, coworkers...and the overwhelming majority of us are in relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?They aren't "more important than I think". I'm well aware they are important and already stated as such. OP in particular just often makes posts again and again that seem like he wants a concrete explanation of why he likes masculine women, and there is no such answer because we haven't yet discovered everything about the human brain. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 03:26 PM |
| 3 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?Yup. If someone is seriously concerned about their hormonal levels and cycles, a doctor will be able to help them determine if there's an actual issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?Like I said, it's just completely average. Not high, not low, not weirdly fluctuating. Just regular as they should be. People tend to jump to "I must have low T" or "I must have high E" to try and determine why they are consistently attracted to certain body/personality types. But it can literally just be what you like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:40 PM |
| 6 | Does testosterone affect what men are attracted to and want in a relationship?Testosterone levels can vary significantly from person to person and even have a daily cycle. That said, my FWB has always had T levels that are well within the range of completely, almost boringly, average for his age, and he still likes the same kind of women as you do. Hormones are important, but you are still allowed to just be attracted to whomever you're attracted to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:28 PM |
| 30 | How do incredibly meek or stupid men get women?Not for nothing, but this is my experience in the nerd/gamer community. People are constantly saying our men are losers, can't talk to women, can't get laid, never get into LTRs...yet the majority of them have numerous biological kids, are married or are in very long-term relationships, hell some are divorced and remarried which means they managed to woo at least 2 women. They tend to be better for women who are either also gamers/nerds, meek women who aren't attracted to the obnoxious knuckle-d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:09 PM |
| 2 | Alright, let's talk about the "female gaze" versus the "male gaze." As a dude, I gotta say, I get pretty damn irritated by the way people explain this concept. Can't we just appreciate different perspectives without trying to turn it into some kind of battle of the sexes? Let's discuss.Eh, a few of the guys here will try to tell women what we don't like, by claiming that we're "virtue signaling" when we talk about finding our partners sexy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 12:28 PM |
| 2 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:That's fair. And you did say in general, so my individual relationship is just different. Thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 10:35 AM |
| 2 | What is one night stand guy(criteria)Okay, this is legitimately the best answer I've seen all week | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 03:59 AM |
| 6 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:Nobody is screaming here, idk what you're on about. There's no need for you to get overly dramatic or emotional. Grooming is not necessarily child abuse. As I pointed out it can happen to people of any age. Yes, obviously no successful man or woman wants a hard-headed partner who hasn't accomplished anything in life. That's common sense. Nobody is against that. There's nothing wrong with becoming a mentor or friend to an ambitious man or woman. Again, nobody is speaking against that. But ambitio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 03:14 AM |
| 1 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:So what if the woman is like me, with one sexual partner in her lifetime? Seems to me it's impossible to be a hoe with N of 1, no matter your age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 03:00 AM |
| 1 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:The majority of men know that a hoe is different from a friend with benefits And I'm obviously not a fuck buddy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:21 AM |
| 2 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:Like what | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:18 AM |
| 1 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:I personally do but still just never heard of that weird stereotype | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:11 AM |
| 1 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:Damn, I'm glad I never heard of that stereotype before lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:07 AM |
| 1 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:...how is someone a hoe for being in a relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:04 AM |
| 0 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:I would suggest that you, and hopefully others, read this. https://www.anncrafttrust.org/signs-of-grooming-in-adults-what-to-watch-out-for/#:~:text=What%20is%20Adult%20Grooming%3F,often%20with%20gifts%20or%20promises. Grooming doesn't only effect children or minors, and isn't always for sexual purposes. It can happen between adults, in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships, and both sexes can be the perpetrators. This isn't anything against men, this is against anyone who specifically l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 01:54 AM |
| 1 | What is one night stand guy(criteria)Ah, okay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 01:35 AM |
| 7 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:Dude, you literally wrote about someone finding a "malleable" young woman who they can "conform" to suit their life. That's a huge part of what grooming entails. If my guy ever spoke like that even just barely, or acted like I didn't already have my own life going on as a self-reliant adult in my own right...I would have been gone so fast it'd look like a cartoon. When we initially became FWB, I was 23 and he was 38. Now I'm 38 and he's 53. In all these years, and especially in the first couple,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 01:34 AM |
| 3 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:Thank you for taking a rational approach, I agree with you about the potential dangers while acknowledging that there's no inherent abuse or unhealthy dynamics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 01:15 AM |
| 2 | What is one night stand guy(criteria)Idk who he is, but he's facially good looking...although he looks drugged/half asleep, lol. Why do dudes who look like male models always have a slightly concussed stare? Not as much weight as I prefer on men, but not everyone can be pleasantly chonky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 01:13 AM |
| 3 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:Yeah, I know since even today some members here will say it about me. I've seen it directed towards the rare few other women in age gap relationships too. I was just curious what OP thought, as it flips their initial post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 01:08 AM |
| -1 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:What do you think we are usually getting? Also, are you talking about a real relationship of some kind or a sugar "relationship"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 11:27 PM |
| 7 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:malleable women who can conform to their lives Speaking as a woman in a longterm age gap relationship where he's 15 years older than me...eww. Seriously, just no. Statements like this are exactly why people are concerned that women like me have been groomed by our non-predatory guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 11:23 PM |
| 3 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:Okay, so hear me out...what about older male/younger female age gap relationships where the woman is the initiator? Or at least the first one of the two to admit she finds him sexually attractive? Also, a man my own age is still stronger than me, so idk what that has to do with anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 11:20 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadEh, I think it's more sad for my FWB than me. I greatly prefer monogamy and have zero desires to fuck anyone other than him. Whereas I know he'd like to have another FWB, which would be difficult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 08:13 PM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadThat's really interesting! What were some of the hints? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 06:35 PM |
| 3 | Do you think having a wildly different worldview from others can affect a person’s personal relationships?For the guys here who say they specifically act like assholes to "get women"...yeah. I wouldn't have even thought of them as options for casual OR committed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 05:37 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'm unsure what you mean? Or do you mean it's weird to be a monogamous FWB? I'll agree with that, but it works for me as an individual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 05:05 PM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadOkay, but like...what would you say to her friends/social circle to find out her N? Just ask how many other guys she has introduced them to? How would that help in figuring out possible hookups? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 05:04 PM |
| 3 | Do you think having a wildly different worldview from others can affect a person’s personal relationships?This is so honest and self aware. Thank you, Grid. I think the disconnect for many guys or guys here is they feel like the guy who you commit to “lost.” The other guy “got sex without having to meet standards.” I suppose in my case you could argue this is true to a certain extent, but I'm unsure that any of the standards I have for a committed guys are enough to say he'd be "losing" compared to my FWB. My general standards are all still exactly the same...he has to be empathetic, kind, a gamer/n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 05:02 PM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadHow would this go, if you weren't friends with her friends and she only posted memes on her social media? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 04:42 PM |
| 5 | Do you think having a wildly different worldview from others can affect a person’s personal relationships?Do you think having a wildly different worldview from others can affect a person’s personal relationships? Oh, absolutely! I'm well aware that I couldn't ever date a very religious person, or someone who relied on/enjoyed hunting, or who was sexist/racist. Like, I simply would never be with someone who had the same values or worldview as my family...it was horrible as a kid, and there's no reason to invite that back into my life after leaving it. I’ve seen people say “you can date and be friends… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 04:32 PM |
| – | "There is no easy cheatcode for men"You want hetero men to act gay/bi? That sounds like it would just serve to perpetuate stereotypes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 02:27 PM |
| – | "There is no easy cheatcode for men"...so in other words, it doesn't help hetero men at all. Also, did you type this with speech-to-text? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 02:19 PM |
| 2 | You shouldn't bother getting married or having kids if you are primarily attracted to 18-21 year old's.If you're the type who doesn't want kids and primarily craves new sex partners rather than one constant, steady one...there isn't. Heck, I'm a woman and don't see any incentive for marriage either, so seems we agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 01:14 PM |
| 2 | You shouldn't bother getting married or having kids if you are primarily attracted to 18-21 year old's.It's really interesting, getting to see these 2 incredibly different viewpoints! It's a win win situation for the wife and for most husbands. She gets security and children provided for, he gets the legacy and sexual exclusivity (assuming she's not a hoe). Most men can't get women, let alone young ones. So they won't cheat, because they have no options. That's one of the reasons it's worth it for them to marry. So in your opinion marriage isn't worth it due to an assumed lack of sex vs the other… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 12:53 PM |
| 9 | You shouldn't bother getting married or having kids if you are primarily attracted to 18-21 year old's.This is why I always say that any American / Western woman who follows the advice of these red pill dudes when it comes to best strategies on marriage/their best time to get married and their value is fucking herself immensely. That's because redpill ideology is made for men who don't want to get married. It's literally the opposite of what any marriage minded woman should do or listen to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 12:37 PM |
| 2 | You shouldn't bother getting married or having kids if you are primarily attracted to 18-21 year old's.I agree, most men should never get married. It is a losing game for men in 2023. Why's that? I'm curious because a (seemingly blackpill) guy in the preceeding comments said marriage is a positive thing for men, so am curious about your opposite take. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 12:35 PM |
| 5 | Guys, you have 2 options, which would you choose?Thank you! I think it's terrible, this narrative of a literal young adult being inherently dumb, easily manipulated, etc. People here think I was groomed for goodness sake. Nevermind that by the time I was 23 I had just graduated college + been living completely on my own + working 2 jobs + paying my own bills/tuition for 6 damn years...Nope, obviously still a gullible and naive little girl, right? 🙄 It's very creepy, the way they try to infantilize young women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 12:08 PM |
| 1 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenBut they aren't. I agree, it's curious that he wants to break up over that, but it's just not a fetish Actually, feeder fetishes are well known. So yeah, just because it isn't in the dictionary definition doesn't mean society hasn't recognized that it is indeed a fetish. I'm just saying there's no need to call something X just because we feel it should be X, when it's not X by definition. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. I'm going to continue to call it a fetish if someone can on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 11:54 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadTruth | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 01:13 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat Megathread...wow. I'm sorry, Possum | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 01:12 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDude, there's so many people on this sub who act as if making $100k is one step above poverty level. It's fucking crazy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 01:11 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNot the ones with legitimately delusional standards, no. If they realized it, they'd probably do some self-reflection and change. I don't think most of us are delusional though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 01:05 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI don't care what other people do with their lives. The only time I care is when they want their own choices to be accepted but insult mine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 01:02 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI don't have a cauldron unfortunately | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 01:00 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhy's that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 01:00 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'm monogamous unfortunately 🥰 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 11:44 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAnd I dont even use the toxic parts of Ppd So...you're saying you are illiterate 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 10:54 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadMore like overt benevolent misogyny. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 10:53 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 10:52 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThanks, but I'm just lucky to have a very frugal mindset that allowed me to pay off all my own student loans, credit cards, car loan, etc. If I was like many of my other family members I'd be broke ass in debt still lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenAll I'm saying is that, if you define it like that, it contradicts saying there are fetishes for body parts and age, cause you can see those, too. I agree with body parts and included it in my initial definition. You can't see age though. There's no way to just look at someone you don't know and tell they are a 18 year old guy vs a 21 year old guy, for example. In reality, yes, there are fetishes for body parts, but no, not for age, race, or weight/height. And if you think age and race should be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 10:49 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadSorry, I will fully admit to having an illogical and automatic bias against southern accents. I have to consciously remind myself that the person is likely not a total mouth-breathing idiot. Southern accents just make me think low IQ. I obviously know it's not true...it's just based on overwhelming experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 10:41 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI've offered to help pay off my guy's...he keeps saying no. Apparently you should be sexing me instead lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenThat's not helping me understand you. You can also see body parts. So then there're no body-part fetishes? ??? What do you mean? I think you might have misread my comment. I pointed out that fetishes are usually aimed at specific body parts. Like feet and tits are probably the biggest ones. In reality, fetish by definition is attraction to certain body parts, objects, and activities. Yeah, that's what I said already. Not properties. So no such thing as age or race fetish. I know that the diction… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenIs that how you define a fetish, huh? Yeah, it's usually in reference to objects or a very specific body part. But if someone literally only attracted to their partner due to knowing said person is specifically 18...I'd definitely call that a fetish. So men who are only attracted to nonfat women have a weight fetish? Nah, because that's actually related to something you can see. Physical and sexual attraction is based primarily on looks so that's normal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menMeh. Learned it very early in life from my actual family, never expect people to be in your corner. It is what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menI just find it easier to not expect commitment, full stop. It's greatly appreciated and obviously reciprocated when it happens but it's never a guarantee | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenI guess we just have different social circles and expectations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 08:53 PM |
| 6 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenYou really think someone who is 24 dating someone who is 18 cannot possibly be due to them liking each other...? Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 08:03 PM |
| 3 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenThat's why I specifically mentioned the issue of power dynamics vs just liking the person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Translation, part II (rape fantasies)How dare you make a statement about things numerous people involved in a specific community told you, rather than presenting 6 peer reviewed studies /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Mating StrategiesI like your username lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Mating StrategiesI'm an average woman. These women can have commitment-free sex with many attractive men. I agree that I could have hypothetically spent my youth having commitment sex with many conventionally attractive men. However, I'm an inherently monogamous person and instead spent it having commitment free sex with just one average man. We are not married, we don't live together, we don't share finances, I'm not a part of his family nor he a part of mine, and I pay for all our "dates" since I'm debt free a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Do you find close orbiters to be a huge turn-off? Q4W: Have orbiters impacted your dating results?You're quite welcome. Sometimes that will happen, different people will need different amounts of help. I have one guyfriend who I've known for 12 years and he has literally never needed my help for anything, whereas I have another guyfriend who I've known for 8 years, and he has asked me to pet-sit his dogs for free every other month for the last 3 years because he has a routine 4 day work trip. In a healthy relationship of any kind, it's important to remember that everyone's life is gonna have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Do you find close orbiters to be a huge turn-off? Q4W: Have orbiters impacted your dating results?Hmmm. If you're not meeting them it will be a bit more difficult, since you won't be seeing how they act around each other. But you should be able to tell based on how she talks about them. Is she respectful and caring when she refers to them? Does she mention times she went out of her way to help them out, either with an emergency or at an inconvenient time? When she talks about their vacations or meals out, who does she say pays and plans it? Have you ever heard her discussing the fact she nee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 03:44 PM |
| 4 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenDoubtful, most people in my region learned how to drive at 15 or 16. Remember that rural life is very different than urban life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 01:36 PM |
| 8 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenWell duh, lol. But people do grow up and having a relationship with someone who is 5 or 6 years older/younger when they return from college or the military isn't uncommon | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 01:13 PM |
| 12 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenBecause sometimes rural neighborhood friend groups have wide age ranges. With the "pack" I played and explored with, we had kids ranging from age 9 all the way to 16, and sometimes we could even convince the juniors and seniors to accompany us into the woods or hills so our parents wouldn't freak out about us getting lost. I was usually one of the older kids and you just watch out for the younger ones...the parents are gonna tell you to bring them with you anyway lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 12:55 PM |
| 6 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenBecause sometimes you grow up together and share the same friendship group as kids, then reconnect when you come back from college. Because sometimes people struggle in life and don't easily reach the typical milestones that society assumes, while someone else goes above and beyond expectations. Because sometimes you work together and hit it off when you meet someone who just has a great personality who clicks with yours. Because sometimes your family are already close generational friends, so i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 12:13 PM |
| 14 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenWhy? Not being snarky, honestly wondering since it's still fairly close in age and not at all weird to have such friendships in a small town. If someone lives in a city with high population density and more than 3 colleges...yeah, that might be a different story. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 11:52 AM |
| 25 | Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count womenEh, I'm going to go against the grain here and say that as long as everyone is of legal consenting age and wants to date/fuck, then there is no inherent problem with age gaps. Both people should be aware of the potential for power dynamic inequalities and consciously combat any that may occur, but there's no reason that such a relationship can't be good for both people. Now, if someone is only attracted to women or men who are 18-19 years old, as in they have an actual age fetish and would dump … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 11:40 AM |
| 4 | Q4M: Do you find close orbiters to be a huge turn-off? Q4W: Have orbiters impacted your dating results?Question for women over 35: What do you think of this type of behavior? I think that literally nothing you wrote in your post describes an orbiter, so long as the woman is reciprocating those behaviors. My friends currently are all men, and nearly all of them are married + have young children. We have deep conversations, eat meals together after going to the movies as a group, have cookouts/BBQs, go to week long game or comic book conventions, and share the same hotel room to save money. I will … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Sex is kind of stupid, and trying to get laid makes most guys act stupid.Thank you, I do my best to be | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Sex is kind of stupid, and trying to get laid makes most guys act stupid.If one is in a happy and equitable relationship, then yes. Even on days when one is tired, hungry, stressed, etc if you have a man or woman in your life who you truly love and loves you back, I don't believe that sex with them could ever be considered dull. It may not always be spectacular, but it will always be good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Sex is kind of stupid, and trying to get laid makes most guys act stupid.What's your secret? For sex...possibly the fact my only sex partner doesn't live with me, so when he and I do have time for sex it's always highly appreciated and anticipated. Whether it's a 15 minute quickie fuck or an amazing 2 hour long lovemaking session, it is wonderful 100% of the time. I find that anything in this life can be dull. That's part of life. Really? Anything? Even things you normally enjoy like sex, food, videogames, books, and hobbies? I can honestly say that while I do find s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Sex is kind of stupid, and trying to get laid makes most guys act stupid.I only have it about 5x a month unfortunately, so probably never gonna happen lol. Not a bad problem to have...? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Sex is kind of stupid, and trying to get laid makes most guys act stupid.I guess I'm just lucky to have never experienced this then. In my personal experience, being told that sex can be dull is like being told chocolate cake can taste like raw beef. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 07:36 PM |
| 2 | Sex is kind of stupid, and trying to get laid makes most guys act stupid.Hell, if they're a woman I'd say they might need a checkup too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Sex is kind of stupid, and trying to get laid makes most guys act stupid.Sex is one of those weird things that can be dull at times Why have it at that time if it's dull? How is it made dull in the first place? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Sex is kind of stupid, and trying to get laid makes most guys act stupid.Sure, if there was no feelings of pleasure and/or intimacy and love that we create in each other via sex, it's highly unlikely anyone would do it. But that's because it would probably not just be neutral, but actually unenjoyable and even potentially painful. So since in reality it is generally pleasurable and intimate...it's not stupid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them?Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them? Nope! I just want to know what the women here think or am I reading into your comments and reactions too much? I think you are, but only because this is a sub with a lot of hurt people on it and the lashing out you're seeing isn't directed at you personally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Men who have bodycount preferences are insecure about their dick size / don't get sexI don't see many women shaming men who prefer low N over dick size, but rather sexual abilities in general. There certainly are some women who bring up size, and that's not kind imo, but on average it seems most comments are related to how good he is in bed vs how big his member is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 05:58 PM |
| 0 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menHmmm. I'm not able to look it up right now, but I thought a recent study found a cheat rate of closer to 35% and 29%. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 01:14 PM |
| -2 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menHow does meeting a 6 ft tall Chad at a birthday party or a club and sleeping with him on the same night ensure commitment? It doesn't, that would be really fucking stupid lol while nothing in life is 100% guaranteed, one of the aforementioned scenarios is definitely more reliable when it comes to securing commitment. Not really. People cheat a lot more than you think | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 12:57 PM |
| 2 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menYes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 12:29 PM |
| 3 | Who buys the plan B?I'd think that they'd split it, honestly. Not a big deal for both people to pony up $25 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 11:31 AM |
| -1 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menHow does a ceremony ensure commitment? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 09:18 AM |
| 2 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menFrom personal experience, this is an excellent way to stay a virgin for a long time lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 09:15 AM |
| 4 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menHow do you determine exclusivity if neither of you ever asks? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 09:11 AM |
| 4 | Women who claim men left them after sex are just shifting blame to menWhy are you making such an unrealistic dichotomy? u/Equivalent-Disk4107 why do you think that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:56 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves?Y'know what, I believe it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:51 PM |
| 4 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....How many other men do you believe think like you? As in, do you believe most men assume an automatic lie if they see any person stating "no hookups"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:41 PM |
| 0 | Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves?I don't know how you were able to walk away with all your brain cells intact lol. That kind of mental gymnastics is 10/10 Olympic gold | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:39 PM |
| 4 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Re: your other reply... Do you count inuendos and banter/sex jokes too? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:33 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves?Wtf is wrong with them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:31 PM |
| 4 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....When I put it in my bio, I meant it lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:21 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves?Ugh, I hope not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:14 PM |
| 6 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....I just hate the whole "women lie about not wanting hookups...here's one example, it's evidence of all of you being liars!" It's not fair to do to women, and it's not fair to do to men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:11 PM |
| 10 | Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves?Exactly, all of these are good examples of double standards that need to be discussed and eliminated if we're ever going to become a more egalitarian society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 07:04 PM |
| 61 | Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves?Many women need to stop upholding traditional gender roles for men while simultaneously breaking down traditional gender roles for women. Either we will progress together or we'll go stagnant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 05:35 PM |
| -2 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....True lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 05:32 PM |
| 4 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Okay, so that (presumably real, but looks like a possible r/badfaketexts) person said no hookups in her bio but is potentially down for one if the guy has a big dick. So what? It's not as if she is a representative of all women everywhere, or that we all agree with her doing so. I personally am against hookups, although I think people have the right to do what they want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 05:30 PM |
| 10 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Let's consider a 25 year old woman who has a N of 1 and is actively seeking a husband. She's no longer a virgin, but why is the automatic assumption that her one previous partner was a hookup? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 04:57 PM |
| 6 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Those that want low n's generally have lower n's themselves. In general, yes. The same holds true for women...those of us who are low N don't want a high N man. Sexual values are important to a lot of people. I also don't think that many guys really or realistically are dead set on virgins. Not many, no. And a fair amount of the ones that do, want it for fetishized or religious reasons. Those that want relationships (most guys) really do prefer that you haven't fucked a bunch of other men. Why i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 04:51 PM |
| 10 | You can't expect women to care about "purity", as long as they keep getting inconsistent messages from men.....Willow, type 304 into a calculator and turn it upside down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 04:47 PM |
| 5 | Porn, High body count, unfair criticism and the red pillRight? I wouldn't date a man who has sex with other men or women for a job, because I don't want a partner who is able to view sex as a mere performance/entertainment. Same reason I wouldn't date a high N man, or a guy who's only body count comes from hookups instead of LTRs. If he doesn't view sex as something special and reserved for intimate lovers, then our values are too different for a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich?Yeah, I'm not disagreeing with wide hips being seen as more potentially beneficial to pregnancy, or that having a decent amount of resources is a trait many women (and some men) look for in a mate. I agree that we're still homo sapiens, we're not a new species yet. But we simply are not physically the same as we were 40,000 years ago. It's just a fact. Our bodies have gotten smaller, we've lost hair follicles, our brains have shrunk in general size while simultaneously growing more of a prefront… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich?I agree that we haven't gotten rid of many basic instincts. For example, our minds, ears, and eyes are still primed to look for patterns and immediately jump to conclusions of "danger!" to protect us. It's why we see rabbits in clouds and Jesus in grilled cheese sandwiches lol. But we just aren't the same exact people as we were 40,000 years ago. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 10:48 AM |
| 1 | Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich?Like many aspects of life our brains have not yet caught up with the modern world. We are still cavemen and women. Homo sapiens have been our own species for 300,000 years. The "caveman" days, where we primarily relied on hunter/gatherer food acquisition, was the era of 40,000 - 10,000 years ago. Agriculture emerged approximately 9,000 - 5,000 years ago, where we actively began cultivating and breeding our food sources. We made cattle fatter, fruits and vegetables fleshier, gradually removed tox… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 12:34 AM |
| 2 | Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich?Unfortunately that's how it goes sometimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 10:14 PM |
| 2 | Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich?Eh, I don't know about that. If a man is legitimately ugly...like think Ron Jeremy level of unattractive...I can't imagine wanting to have such physically unfortunate children. Yeah they'd be provided for but their lives will be plagued by unfairness and the horn effect. Why would you consciously fuck up your offspring's life? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 09:07 PM |
| 4 | Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich?What do you mean by don't care? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 08:05 PM |
| 7 | Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich?What do you think an honest answer looks like? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 08:05 PM |
| 2 | Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich?I am not turned on by money at all, it might even be a negative because someone with that kind of wealth disparity from me might not really have much in common with me. Precisely this. I'm middle class currently, grew up in an upper middle class family. I would never date any man who made significantly more than me, it just wouldn't be a good dynamic. Like I make about $90k...a guy who makes $120k would be my absolute financial limit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Women of PPD, how big of a red flag is a man having no relationship experience?Lol I wish we had that kind of power! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 07:53 PM |
| -1 | Women of PPD, how big of a red flag is a man having no relationship experience?The secret truth is that women can smell lack of experience on a man How? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 06:01 PM |
| 1 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.How is it not unreasonable for someone to have a count that high unless he's a sex worker or perpetual slut sugar boy? Like how do you have time to do normal things like work and go to college and spend time with your friends and family? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 05:33 PM |
| 1 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.Nope. We aren't allowed to link to specific comments to avoid witchhunting. But if you look at usually the mid to bottom ranked comments of most N count posts, you'll find them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 05:17 PM |
| 2 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.I agree that's what they think, but I don't see how it could be physically possible. Like let's say there's a small town and it has a population of 10,000 heterosexual adults ages 18-30. 50% men, 50% women...5000 and 5000. 20% of the men are Chads, that's 1,000 men. And let's say about 20% of the women aren't Chad chasers, so that's 1,000 women who aren't fucking Chad. How on earth are 1,000 men supposed to have the time to fuck 4,000 women? Do they not have jobs, or friends, or families? No hob… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 04:28 PM |
| 0 | What are women even expected to do during the courting phase?Speaking purely from my personal experience: Men need to initiate, whether this be the first message on a dating app or asking a girl out on a date I don't enjoy being asked out, rejecting people feels terrible and I prefer being the rejected one if that's how it'll go. So about 90% of the time I was the one doing the pursuing. Men need to further the conversation, aka dance like a monkey and make the girl laugh If this is necessary, it was always the last date. Men need to plan the date, have s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Women of PPD, how big of a red flag is a man having no relationship experience?I totally get that a man in my position would raise some questions. But if he's otherwise put together, takes care of himself, has aspirations, healthy relationships with friends and family, would being an adult with no real relationship experience be a deal breaker? Nope, not a deal breaker or even a yellow flag, much less a red one. I had a ton of trouble dating, trying to find a steady, committed boyfriend to hopefully share all aspects of my life with. In fact, I never did lol. But yeah, by … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Women, how do you know for sure that your good experiences with men have nothing to do with your easier time at dating?Okay, this is finally phrased in a way that makes sense. Yes, women get more positive and negative attention from men than men get from women. It means as a whole women have more dating options actively presented to us and we have more harassment and assault actively directed on us. In my idea of a perfect world, men and women alike would have the same amount of positive attention and the amount of assault would be zero. Is that the answer you wanted? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 03:12 PM |
| 9 | Women, how do you know for sure that your good experiences with men have nothing to do with your easier time at dating?I don't know what exactly you're asking here. It sounds like you're trying to skirt around an actual question... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 02:16 PM |
| 9 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.They claim it's all Chad...which is also mathematically impossible if there's truly only 20% or less of the male population that fulfills said requirements. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 02:14 PM |
| 25 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.A bunch of dudes here have said they think the average woman has a N of over 60 by the time they're 25 but the average man of the same age only has a N of 2 or 3. If they genuinely believe these extremes...well, it means they think most people are lying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Since most women lose sexual interest in their long term partners, what incentive do men have to settle down with and marry women?This is one of the reasons I think never living with my FWB has made our relationship last so long. Although we talk on the phone everyday, we only physically see each other once or twice a week. Granted, part of it is being demi, but I still only want him even 15 years later...I have no lust for anyone else. I'm confident that this is partially due to a lack of cohabitation. A lot of women, and men too, in longterm committed relationships will talk about how they begin to see their spouse in th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 11:50 AM |
| – | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureDamn, you know a bunch of really lackluster and lazy women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 06:14 PM |
| – | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureWell, not lifelong but otherwise true for me lol What do you think about men and women who don't start dating until late college | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 05:36 PM |
| – | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureAnd before 25 we have more realistic expectations? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 04:57 PM |
| 3 | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the future(You and I know that, but unless you claim to be a minority with these things, you'll get accused of gaslighting or virtue signaling for women as a whole.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 12:01 PM |
| 1 | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureThanks, this has given me a lot to listen to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 12:40 AM |
| 4 | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureWell, some of us do, even if we're an extreme minority | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 11:40 PM |
| 7 | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureYou don't think there's any outlier men and women who don't dream of meeting someone who is totally unrealistic, and just go through life assuming they'll find a relatively average-looking-but-good partner? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 11:07 PM |
| 3 | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureSo only below and above average women don't? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 11:05 PM |
| 26 | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureTo be clear, what percentage of women do you think honestly go through life thinking this way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?I'm not trying to be difficult, but repeating the same exact words doesn't actually explain anything. Let's try this: What's the difference between a regular adult vs an "adult child"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 04:50 PM |
| 6 | You should not shame people for liking someone that's fat, it's already hard enough to date as a fat personLol oh shit...that's a real book? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?Most redpillers aren’t really conservative or traditional—those groups tend to teach men how to treat a lady, not have sex until marriage, earn enough money to support a family. They don’t use dating apps, meeting through community and church is still very popular. Yup, exactly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?so...instead of giving love to children who require shit ton of work you swapped for a someone who understands you better, doesn't require shit ton of work and can give back Correct. A partner. someone like an adult child who understood what parents made for them I don't know what you mean by an "adult child"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 04:10 PM |
| 11 | You should not shame people for liking someone that's fat, it's already hard enough to date as a fat personMost people are not attracted to overweight people. The data doesn’t lie. I agree with you, obviously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?If someone doesn't want children doesn't that mean that she's not that much into giving love, which would make it (a bit) contradictory to OP statement about contributing to relationship? No, it doesn't mean that man or woman is "not that much into giving love". It means that we understand the sheer amount of responsibility, commitment, care, discipline, and yes...love for a child specifically...that goes into the successful raising of one's offspring. It is nearly 2 decades of your life spent m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 03:00 PM |
| 3 | What do you think of Roy Baumeister’s Sexual Economics Model?A comment that's both concise and true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 02:49 PM |
| 18 | You should not shame people for liking someone that's fat, it's already hard enough to date as a fat personHonestly, those of us who like thicc or fat men need to learn early in life that we're going to be mocked or seen as very weird for our weight preference. It sounds like you may be young? Unfortunately a lot of younger women haven't yet developed the fine art of Not Giving A Fuck What Other People Think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 02:48 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?Nice to see you didn't read anything else...🙄 Why do I care about having a "link to the future"? There's nothing so incredibly special or unique or amazing about me as an individual that I should force myself to undergo the terrifying and nightmarish body horror and mental torture that is pregnancy for me. Why but myself through something that would mentally and physically scar me for the rest of my one life to live, just so my very average genes get forced into one more generation? It's nonsens… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 02:01 PM |
| 1 | So, a guy in a different subreddit took someone's post from XXChromosomes, gender-swapped the text, and posted it elsewhere on Reddit...You're awesome, thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:57 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?Unfortunately people who reproduce don't inherently have a stake in the future, there's a large amount of shit parents out there who don't even care if their children are doing well as adults, much less loving and caring for them as younglings. On the other hand, people who don't reproduce don't inherently have no stake in the future. We still generally have younger family members like cousins, nieces, nephews + friends who have kids that we care about. For example, I'm not going to ever reprodu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:56 PM |
| 2 | So, a guy in a different subreddit took someone's post from XXChromosomes, gender-swapped the text, and posted it elsewhere on Reddit...Hey, if you're not allowed to post I'd be super interested in getting a link. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Obesity has absolutely nuked the chance to go on a date with even regular womenDamn. Where do you live? The rural South US (or hell, even parts of the rural north)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:49 PM |
| 17 | Obesity has absolutely nuked the chance to go on a date with even regular womenI have the kind of muscle where if I don’t wear multiple jackets to work all of the Caucasians around me get VISIBLY uneasy. ...what? Why would they get "visibly uneasy" just because you have muscles? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:44 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?Oh yes. Very "gross" to decide to not have kids lol. We're absolutely revolting, might as well live in a dumpster and roll in trash. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:40 PM |
| 7 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?What's the point? Sounds horrible - someone who you desire but can't fulfill the entire purpose of a LTR. Not everyone in the world shares your pedestalization of reproduction. That's why childfree LTRs can work extremely well if both the man and woman don't want children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 12:07 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?Are you both red pill? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 12:05 PM |
| 2 | My experience of being a 30M with a singular past sexual partnerTruth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 11:14 AM |
| 1 | My experience of being a 30M with a singular past sexual partnerAre you maybe demisexual? There's about 10 of us on this sub who are, as far as I've been able to count. 6 women (self included) and 4 men. It's essentially being asexual/not feeling lust for an individual until after you've created a strong emotional connection. We often begin learning our sexuality is different because friends or classmates will point out "sexy" celebrities or talk about "wanting to fuck that random hot guy/gal"...and we're confused because how the hell can you want to fuck a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 11:13 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?This description fits me, which is surprising, as fitting gender roles isn't something I can be accused of. It's probably because the traits he listed above aren't gender roles, it's just traits of a good partner who's only interested in LTR. The description fits me too, and I'm not traditional in the least lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 10:51 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?It works if both people are childfree. If one of them wants kids, then it can't survive in the long run. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 10:48 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts on women who are loyal, selective (eg: low body count) contribute to their relationships and make them worthwhile for their partners, but want to be child free?Except a lot of red pillers also say "enjoy the decline" and actively speak against getting married. Some are mgtow of course, but even red pillers who aren't a part of that specific ideology are typically not in favor of involving the government in their relationships. And some of them are childfree too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 10:42 AM |
| 3 | Who should men be listening to? For advice, direction, understanding.Sounds like a job for sex workers or tipsy club ladies lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Joining a hobby group with intentions to meet chicks is terrible advice...maybe it's a subculture thing. Most people I know have started to spread out their social circle after the pandemic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 07:27 PM |
| 6 | Joining a hobby group with intentions to meet chicks is terrible adviceDo don't think that at least part of our social calendars are groups or organizations we've joined? Genuine question, not being snarky...other than hobby groups and friends we met through those shared hobbies naturally, what do you think the average 30 year old woman's social calendar is full of? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Joining a hobby group with intentions to meet chicks is terrible adviceProbably because the people giving this advice assume that the guys receiving said advice have experience making friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 04:51 PM |
| 3 | Joining a hobby group with intentions to meet chicks is terrible advice/s I'm assuming | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Women's failed relationships and dating abhorrent men proves women's "intuition" is bullshitAhhh, it wasn't used as another word for sexual attraction in the post. Here's exactly what OP wrote, italics mine: Many women use "intuition" as just another word for sexual attraction, same as the "ick". If OP didn't say it, I wouldn't have either. Lots of women claim they have intuition when talking to men and can feel a creepy from a Mile away, etc. Just to clarify, do they say creep or do they say a literally dangerous person? Those are 2 very different things, and I've only heard the secon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 04:47 PM |
| 27 | I wonder if many of the guys that cannot date are actually enjoying the sufferingThis is the answer, thread is done. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 02:30 PM |
| 7 | Who should men be listening to? For advice, direction, understanding.You shouldn't talk to anyone about meaningless BS for hours at a time, unless that's somehow your mutual form of entertainment lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Women's failed relationships and dating abhorrent men proves women's "intuition" is bullshitIck I've heard before, and of course, intuition is a regular word. I've never heard of intuition as another word for sexual attraction, though. Like, it's supposed to mean understanding a situation without conscious thoughts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 10:12 AM |
| 1 | Women's failed relationships and dating abhorrent men proves women's "intuition" is bullshitTruth lol. I do think it's odd that apparently the term Intuition is being used as you stated though. Is this a more recent development or something mainly seen online? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 08:14 PM |
| 2 | Women's failed relationships and dating abhorrent men proves women's "intuition" is bullshitBut, as the rest of your reply points out, that doesn't necessarily tell you anything about the character of the guy she's judging. Correct. It can many times but nothing is certain. Someone else mentioned autism somewhere up the thread, which I replied to, but I'll make a similar point here too: as one might expect, autistic people are often seen as being "not quite right", "a bit off", or "creepy". Doesn't mean they actually are misogynists, or predators, or ticking mental health timebombs tho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Women's failed relationships and dating abhorrent men proves women's "intuition" is bullshitMany women use "intuition" as just another word for sexual attraction, same as the "ick". This is the first time I've ever heard such a definition. Must be fairly new slang. The fact is that sexual attraction has nothing to do with anything spiritual or mystical or ethics. Of course not. For starters, the first 2 options haven't been proven to exist and the 3rd is true. Intuition has nothing at all to do with ethics or morals. Women can be attracted to bad men and repulsed by actually decent but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 04:17 PM |
| 4 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Men besides the top 10-15% are still sexually and physically attractive. Someone who is a 6 or 7 out of 10 is certainly better looking than a 2 lol. I'm not trying to convince you the average woman would be okay dating an ugly man. That's not at all true. But I'm saying an average woman would be okay dating a slightly above average man. A dude who is not ugly, not average, normal amounts of good looking rather than the hotness level of Chad. There are so incredibly few 10/10 or even 9/10 Chads a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 03:57 PM |
| 4 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?I'm saying that for low N women who see high N as a total and complete deal breaker, it is far better to have a non Chad who shares your values than a Chad who does not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 03:44 PM |
| 10 | When is it OK to have unreasonable expectations?If you're okay being single, unreasonable expectations are perfectly fine. If you're not okay being single all your life, obviously unreasonable expectations are ridiculous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 03:34 PM |
| 4 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Thankfully there are still religious and low N Chads who are not sluts. Like men who have sex only within a long-term relationship, because they don't want to rack up a bunch of casual partners. They know that restraint and moderation is a valuable trait, and just because he can fuck a lot of people doesn't mean he should Essentially the same as low N attractive women...we could easily have a ton of sex partners but we don't. Regardless, for many low N women, especially but not exclusively relig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Correct, but that's not what we were talking about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 03:12 PM |
| 3 | “Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates)I agree with all of this and is how I used to date. Or if we did go out for meals I would pick a cheaper place like a diner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 01:55 PM |
| 1 | “Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates)Lol I like you. So long as it's all good for you and your partners, labels don't matter. I was just curious about the details. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 12:06 PM |
| 3 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Being totally honest, I wouldn't date someone like this. We simply aren't compatible on any level. First, I'm an atheist. I'm 38 years old, been atheist since age 21. Originally raised Jehovah Witness by mom/stepfather and Evangelical by father/stepmother as a child and teen. Took me a long time to get over that indoctrination so someone who was deep into it for a far longer time likely is still mentally disassembling that and need to handle it personally. Secondly, the fact they had a sudden ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 12:05 PM |
| 1 | “Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates)So if you don't date, but you spend months getting to know each other, probably sharing meals now and then, hanging out doing fun things, and having sex...They're all FWB? I'm just trying to understand. Obviously I've nothing against FWB relationships! I've been in one for the last 15 years. Not judging. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 11:44 AM |
| 3 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Perfect. Do you think this is the general consensus? Among low N women? Likely somewhere around that number, give or take. Also, what if a man has been in a long series of celibate relationships before becoming sexually active? Like he had 4 longterm dead bedroom relationships? Or do you mean something different? Do you think non-sexual serious relationships have an impact? Possibly, I need more clarification. I feel like the thing that really underscores the effect it has on future happiness is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 11:40 AM |
| 3 | “Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates)Then what do you do? You may very well be a loveable guy, I've no reason to doubt you. But someone saying they're in love with you after just a couple hours is a huge issue. I'd back away slowly and not make eye contact lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 11:36 AM |
| 2 | “Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates)what I mean is that u spend time around them and they start to develop feelings for you, This is normal, but has nothing to do with a typical first date where you don't know each other. Now if you're talking about going out with a friend or close acquaintance who you already know pretty well, that makes sense. had a few girls straight up say they were in love with me Hopefully not on the first date. More red flags than a Communist rally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 11:32 AM |
| 5 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Probably not. Go ask her what she thinks of high N men. I bet my entire next paycheck she says not interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 11:28 AM |
| 6 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?N = number of partners High N for me is anyone with more than 15 sex partners. If you have fucked more than an entire Rugby team, that a big ick from me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 11:26 AM |
| 5 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Just because a woman isn't interested in sleeping around doesn't mean she finds it off-putting when guys do it. Not necessarily, but most of the time. People almost always want a partner who shares their values | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 11:05 AM |
| 7 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Well we certainly don't want high N boys lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 10:57 AM |
| 10 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Nope, I do the same against promiscuous men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 10:52 AM |
| 2 | “Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates)Exactly. Or even ones who are egalitarian, FDS, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 10:42 AM |
| 2 | “Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates)When the check would come, it was always a massive green flag if the girl was like “No, let me at least pay my part.” If I like the girl and got the vibe of it actually going somewhere, I would pay. Hopefully if she was serious about wanting to pay, you were cool with it though and didn't try to cover her portion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 10:40 AM |
| 1 | “Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates)Not OP, but the most logical alternative is to agree that the first few dates be a certain venue or price range that both find financially acceptable and it be split according to what each person orders/does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 10:35 AM |
| 2 | “Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates)women are willing to pay for men that they truly and genuinely love and desire Or, on a first/second/etc date we don't love and desire you yet since you're a total stranger, and we just want to start a potential relationship on equal footing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 10:31 AM |
| 8 | “Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates)Why should he have to? We're equals, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 10:29 AM |
| 0 | Would you be okay with your partner having a good friend of the opposite sex?It's perfectly fine. All my current friends are men, many of whom are friends with my lover too. And he has a bunch of female friends from work that he goes out for drinks with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 09:37 PM |
| 1 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?You think that the overwhelming majority of women are in longterm relationships with men they have no or extremely little attraction to? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Does the fact that a guy friend would bang his female friend if given the chance mean he's not really her friend?That's possible! It's all very weird imo lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Can someone rationalise men wanting virgins but not being willing to wait for sexOh dear. Nobody should be actively looking for codependency, that's really unhealthy and dangerous. But I'm unsure what that has to do with being impatient for sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Do you leave the seat up? Or do you put the seat down?...y'know, I don't think I've ever seen that before. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Can someone rationalise men wanting virgins but not being willing to wait for sexFor what purpose? Of either her or I? Note that idk the other woman's dating habits since I've never seen that episode, but in an effort to show I was caring and willing to contribute to the dates, I always either went Dutch or even paid for the entire date. That way the financial burden was equally split or all on me. Not sure what other kind of bait and switch there could be? Do you have any ideas? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 04:34 PM |
| 3 | Can someone rationalise men wanting virgins but not being willing to wait for sexIn her case, it isn't impossible. Perhaps extremely unlikely because obviously the guys on FnF generally aren't the type of man a woman with those values is looking for. But if they had wanted such a woman years ago and didn't make the decision to live as players, they would be much closer to being a good option for her. In my case, I'm atheist so had no religious issues and I don't want to get married, so that wasn't even a problem. I just wanted to meet a guy willing to last more than 1-3 date… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 04:29 PM |
| 3 | Does the fact that a guy friend would bang his female friend if given the chance mean he's not really her friend?Yeah, I think this is where I got confused with your comment. I'd always been taught platonic was simply friendship with the lack of sex, not necessarily the lack of attraction. I learned it was like that because Plato was one of the first teachers to put forth the idea older students and mentors shouldn't be sexually pursuing the newer students. I don't know if this is totally true, but that's where I heard the term originated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Does the fact that a guy friend would bang his female friend if given the chance mean he's not really her friend?Exactly this! Other than 2 of my guyfriends, one of whom I obviously accepted the offer from, the other 13 have never once said anything about sex with me. But again...they all have committed relationships. This is actually why it's a hell of a lot easier being longtime friends with taken men vs single men, especially at our ages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Does the fact that a guy friend would bang his female friend if given the chance mean he's not really her friend?Note that I'm not saying dudes won't pretend to be friends so they can get sex and leave after. I absolutely know that's something that occurs. I was just venting about how some black and red pillers tell me specifically that "men don't care about women other than sex" and "your guyfriends aren't actually your friends they just want to fuck and split". It's pretty misandric of them honestly, shows they don't think very highly of their own gender... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 04:08 PM |
| 2 | Does the fact that a guy friend would bang his female friend if given the chance mean he's not really her friend?Ah. But if all they want is sex and their friendship is all an act of manipulation to put themselves in a position to fuck you.. not a friend. Of course. But the majority of my friends are married, and we've been friends for anything from 7-18 years at this point. That's a fucking long ass time to waste at really, really unsuccessful cheating lol. I do believe the idea that if one person would have sex with the other, it is no longer a “platonic” relationship tho What would you call it, if both … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 04:02 PM |
| 4 | Can someone rationalise men wanting virgins but not being willing to wait for sexMaybe you're only wary, but unfortunately you aren't most men. Wary I could have dealt with as a teen and young adult. But the truth is I was undesirable. As OP put it in her post: I honestly felt bad for her, they were drooling over her for being “pure” and treating her with more far more respect than the other women on the panel, but then ultimately telling her that her values make her undesirable and the vast majority of men wouldn’t give her the time of day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Do you leave the seat up? Or do you put the seat down?I'm good lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 03:38 PM |
| 4 | Can someone rationalise men wanting virgins but not being willing to wait for sexI was until I was 23, precisely for the reasons FnF told that other woman. When you want to wait to have sex, even if not for religious reasons or after marriage, it makes you very undesirable in most men's eyes. Cold truth, unfortunately. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 03:05 PM |
| 1 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?This is true, yes. That's why it is important to look for both good personality as well as physical attractiveness when trying to make a relationship worth having. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 02:15 PM |
| – | Do options cause instability within relationships?In my opinion.someone who could be so easily swayed out of a relationship simply with that is not worth being with in the first place. Then again I place a huge emphasis on loil tea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 02:12 PM |
| – | Do options cause instability within relationships?No? What...? He'd only look shitty if he actually acted thusly. If he's the same as before, he's still a good option. That's like saying you'd suddenly dislike regular chocolate ice cream simply because someone offers you chocolate with sprinkles lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 02:01 PM |
| 14 | Do you leave the seat up? Or do you put the seat down?Eww, no. When you flush the toilet, a bunch of particles and water droplets with get into the air. Doesn't matter if a home has all men, all women, or is mixed. Before you flush, put down the entire lid so you don't get toilet stuff on your toothbrush. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 01:13 PM |
| – | Do options cause instability within relationships?If the guy they initially picked was their best option at the time, but as options go he still sucked as a human, then yes, it would be easy to see why she would leave. But if the initial guy was the best option and remains a good option, then it doesn't make sense for her to leave. If you have a good relationship going and you're both happy and content, no amount of other good options is going to make a sane and loving person leave. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 11:57 AM |
| 4 | Does the fact that a guy friend would bang his female friend if given the chance mean he's not really her friend?I've heard this so fucking many times, typically by black pillers or some red pillers. I don't believe it. Just because someone thinks you're attractive enough to have sex with doesn't mean you can't be friends. It's one of the dumbest things I've heard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 11:01 AM |
| 2 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?I think so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 10:37 AM |
| 1 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Donut isn't a girl, he's a man. But I'll go look later. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?And you're very nice! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?Sure, this is also true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?Yup, sometimes it happens! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 04:16 PM |
| – | Why do woman deny their preferences so much?The average woman, yes. The kind of women who actively chase after athletes, celebrities, musicians, etc? I really don't think so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?Only 1 of the women I've ever spoken to about this said she bled a little, and she has vaginismus like me plus her partner was a bit impatient to y'know...get in. It's understandable why she bled. The other dozen or so women I've had this discussion with had no pain or blood, just some soreness a few hours later. Pretty typical imo. I think the myth originally came about from ancient times, when there was a hyper focus on the man penetrating to consumate the marriage, and far less of any emphasi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 04:14 PM |
| 7 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?She sounds like a fucking psycho. You didn't chicken out, you were clear headed and brave enough to leave an emotionally abusive relationship at a safe time. That's something to be congratulated for. You did very well and I'm glad you're done with her. I haven't dated women for many years, but I don't think it's super common. But now you do know the red flags to watch out for, so can leave sooner if you accidentally find another bitch chick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 04:09 PM |
| – | Why do woman deny their preferences so much?Regarding society in general, I agree with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 04:05 PM |
| – | Why do woman deny their preferences so much?I haven't looked yet, are they talking about their own preferences or just society in general? Because I think knowing that rich and famous men get more attention and sexual offers from more women is fairly unoffensive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 04:03 PM |
| – | What strategy do women use when lying about the total amount of sexual partners?It is a problem, I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 04:01 PM |
| – | Why do woman deny their preferences so much?Yeah, of course. That's pretty obvious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:47 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOkay? Maybe I'm misreading your tone, it sounded like you were being sarcastic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:46 PM |
| – | What strategy do women use when lying about the total amount of sexual partners?When I was in college and still a virgin, I would tell my male and female peers that my N was actually 4. I did this to prevent being labeled a prude or to be mocked as I saw happen to a few other virgins. Figured 4 was a normal number, not too big or small. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:45 PM |
| 6 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Oof. I don't think I could have stayed. That just sounds rude af. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:43 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIs that bad or something? I also said my fwb and normal guyfriends is a 1. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:42 PM |
| 3 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?Fine, then I'm an outlier as usual | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:41 PM |
| – | Why do woman deny their preferences so much?I don’t even care that they like these things. It’s just the lying and the constant virtue signaling that annoys me. This is why I specifically say I am only speaking for myself when I discuss my preferences. I don't care about money, I only want men who are under 6' tall, I don't think muscular men are attractive, I have a strong preference for dadbods/pudgy or thicc men, etc. I also acknowledge that a great many women don't find that kind of guy attractive, and that most women do in fact care … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?No worries then. Ugh, I'm sorry man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:32 PM |
| 1 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?Doesn't answer my question though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?My point was that looking for blood after having sex in no way means a woman is or isn't a virgin. It's not about false negatives or positives, it's just an all around useless myth. I didn't bleed at all when I shared my virginity with my guy, but in the following years I've had very light bleeding 6 times I can recall (mostly from me being impatiently horny). So a dude trying to use the presence of blood to determine virginity is not going to help him in the long run. Edit: There's a lot of wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?Lol I knew that was were you were heading with that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:23 PM |
| 2 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?No, normal women can experience lust for men other than their 1 sex partner. Chad only tho So what's it called when the guy is not a Chad in any way | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:18 PM |
| 3 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?Then they aren't actually demisexual and are using the label incorrectly or to be a special snowflake. Real demi people don't experience lust/arousal towards strangers. I suppose they could have sex for reasons other than actually wanting it...like getting paid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:14 PM |
| 6 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?That sounds ominous | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?I was just sharing my "yea right" experience So...you don't believe me that not all virgins bleed/have pain their first time? I'm sorry you were just a rebound. Sounds like that would suck. Unless you didn't care, in which case hopefully you had fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?Geez, I was just asking because I've seen 2 people today refer to you as a woman. That's why I was confused. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?You're a guy...? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:59 PM |
| 6 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?It doesn't, scientifically speaking. Some dudes think that men can have dozens of different sex partners and it magically doesn't affect their ability to stay loyal when finally in a committed relationship. However, actual studies have shown that both men and women with more than 10 partners, both gay and straight, are more likely to cheat and/or report being sexually unsatisfied in a committed LTR. Of course, this doesn't mean it's a given. It is possible for promiscuous men and women to be hap… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:56 PM |
| 11 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?True, but then just keep looking for one who bleeds Why? If she's a virgin and didn't bleed, it's more likely you did a good job sexually. That's a huge plus! I didn't bleed my first time because my guy took a lot of time to ensure I was fully aroused and ready, plus insisted I be on top to control the speed/depth. Obviously this doesn't work for every virgin...some people do have hymens that don't cooperate...but bleeding and pain aren't things to seek out. You don't want to hurt your sex partn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:50 PM |
| 3 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?I'm not really sure what that has to do with my comment? Like, it's cool talking about your experiences, I'm down for it! But I was just referring to the myth that female virginity inherently ends with bloody sheets and is a painful experience. There's still dudes nowadays who think that their virgin gf had sex before since she didn't bleed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:46 PM |
| 17 | Those of you want a partner with an N-count of 0, how do you intend to verify the N-count?Just gonna put out there that virgin women don't necessarily bleed or experience pain during our first time, so trying to use that as an indication is no bueno. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Holy crap, that's adorable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:35 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadUgh, gross. It's like if Transformed Wife wrote books instead of blogging and YouTubing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:35 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou always have the best comments lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?It's all good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:30 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAttract = 1. Deal with my fwb or friends = 1 Deal with customers/random dudes = 3 Deal with my male family members = 7-10, depending on who it is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Same. I've done different things than you, but have had a very fulfilling and wonderful adult life at 38 so far. Still wouldn't trade a nice long sex filled day with my fwb for anything less than a large winning lottery ticket. Edit: lol well I see from the downvotes some people don't like sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:27 PM |
| 4 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Ah, I'm assuming it's at least partially because there's a lot of sex negative and/or very low libido women on reddit who talk as if they represent the overwhelming majority of us. So it can be confusing why a bunch of women actually enjoy and seek out casual sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?I don't see OP or anyone else trying to claim it is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:18 PM |
| 7 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?And that's totally fair! I don't much care about other people's sex lives either, unless it's the current topic of discussion. I was just confused because it sounded like you were telling OP that sex, in and of itself, isn't a big deal to anyone. Like that he wasn't missing out on anything by being a virgin. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Ah, that's right. You didn't get the cow farm until later. How old were you when you became rural? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:13 PM |
| 0 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Ah, that's right. You didn't get the cow farm until later. How old were you when you became rural? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Ah, that's right. You didn't get the cow farm until later. How old were you when you became rural? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?You're reading it wrong lol. What would I have to be offended about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?What do you think she's correct about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:59 PM |
| 11 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Lol Willow, now I'm picturing you literally lassoing a handsome guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Interesting. Thanks 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:56 PM |
| 4 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?Lol it is! As silly as it sounds, until age 15, I used to think that movies were the only place you could see people making out with each other quickly. Like that hookups were solely a plot device to speed the narrative up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Always found that women with more body hair (they may groom to whatever level) were more interested in casual sex. Did you find any correlation in traits of your male partners too? Like did hairier men want kinds of sex/positions that smoother men didn't? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:52 PM |
| 26 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Yeah, I've heard from a handful of women here that they view one night stands or hookups the same as having a favorite dessert or getting a really good pizza, or just another fun activity like sports or shopping with their girls. It's not a view of sex I can fully grasp but so long as everyone involved enjoys it, doesn't matter imo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:48 PM |
| 4 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Why do you think it's isn't a big deal? Or I guess a better initial question would be to ask what you define as a big deal? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:45 PM |
| 2 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?You're welcome. There's a sub for it too, in case you have more questions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:42 PM |
| 1 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?Apparently there's some here on PPD, if their stories of getting laid in the back closet of clubs or being stroked off in the back of a cab, etc are to be believed. I have a feeling that other people don't actually think it's possible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:42 PM |
| 7 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?Correct. When I look at a guy I can tell if he's physically attractive, ugly, hot, etc. But there's no arousal, no lust, no desire to have my way with him at all. Even if he's a really drop dead gorgeous man, it's about as "sexy" as looking at a beautiful painting or statue. Now, after I have a strong friendship/emotional connection to him as a good person THEN my mind takes all my hourly background horniness and dumps 100% of it into feeling lust for that one specific guy. There's literally non… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:35 PM |
| 2 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?Try telling that to some of the men here. I've been told 6 times in the last 2 months by separate members that "demisexuality isn't real" and "all women are like that, you don't need a name for it". Like, bruh...no. Most women aren't demi, they can easily tell if they'd fuck a man by simply looking at him. I swear, some people here be living in the Victorian era, thinking women don't get horny or experience lust for attractive men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?Great question! I've been wondering this too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:16 PM |
| 3 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?Like her, I don't take birth control. Never have needed to, my partner is vasectomized. I still at no point in my life have ever wanted to fuck a random guy regardless of how hot he is, until I spend a shit ton of time getting to know him as a whole person. We're a minority, most women don't have these setbacks, but we do exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:07 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhen I first heard it, I thought of the typical dad with 3-4 kids...slightly balding, beer belly, no muscle mass anymore because they work at a desk all day, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 12:48 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadEven better: put his name in your phone as Sex God, casually have it up on the screen when he borrows it for a minute. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 12:10 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHere is what I think of for dadbods | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 11:53 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'm currently overweight (working on it, thankfully only 15 lbs), but when I first started having sex with my FWB I was 20 lbs underweight. And over the years I've had a normal weight, it's only within the last year that I've been slacking off. In general it may be true, but some of us just like the look and feel of thicc, overweight men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 11:51 AM |
| – | Most officer violence against women accusations are dropped by the police.What are we supposed to discuss? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 11:47 AM |
| 2 | Q4W - Why did Maslow, in his Hierarchy of Needs, originally list Sex as a Basic, Physiological need?Not the person you were talking to, but from various conversations here, it seems the majority of women are reactively horny and only a minority of us are actively horny. So perhaps it's not so much that those women who insulted you were against horniness in general, but that they find active horniness unattractive/pressuring? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 11:41 AM |
| 8 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?He doesn't need game, he can be given the illusion of game from his job or the way he dresses, again given that he is hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 11:28 AM |
| 5 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?I really don't believe this is the case for a decent percentage of women. Far more women fuck based purely on looks than society wants to admit. Otherwise male stripper shows wouldn't have women literally trying to sexually assault the dancers and we wouldn't hear about people hooking up in bathroom stalls at a club after "knowing" each other for 15 minutes. For a healthy LTR both sexes need to be attracted to looks and personality. For hookups and ONS, you only need the looks, for both sexes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 11:14 AM |
| 7 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?This is what my fwb looks like: https://images.app.goo.gl/tWBHg6V7Nb6kCDDh8 Whenever I post this picture, guys here say I'm lying. So I think the range is more diverse than people here assume, you just don't believe us when we say our partners are average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 11:05 AM |
| 8 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?You should! There's about 5 demi men here and I'm sure they could give advice or we all can have a good conversation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 11:00 AM |
| 17 | How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!?The majority of women are not demi. Such a tired and inaccurate belief. If all women were demisexual you'd never have hookups, flings, one night stands, marking out on the dance floor within 20 minutes of meeting each other. I've seen and heard how many women can experience immediate attraction towards a random ass man, or how they can know by simply looking at him if they want to eventually fuck him, whether that's 10 minutes or 10 days from now. Demisexuality doesn't work that way, but we are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 10:59 AM |
| 1 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyRemember, a majority of them don't have any female friends or close female coworkers, so when they imagine the average woman's life, they're free to come up with all kinds of scenarios that don't reflect our reality. It's the apex fallacy...the top hottest/most popular/wealthiest girls get X treatment, ergo average women must too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 10:50 AM |
| 4 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyOnly to misandrists | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:45 AM |
| 4 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyTruth, hopefully not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:31 AM |
| 2 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyExpecting fidelity out of anyone with options over the long-term is unrealistic and unreasonable. How many options does someone have to have for this to be true in your opinion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:29 AM |
| 8 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyThis is also fact. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:24 AM |
| – | Is having racial dating preferences racist?A smart decision imo. I'd do the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 12:32 AM |
| 6 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyCould an argument be made that the financial/material provider isn't truly getting what he wants, but rather paying for a facsimile of what he actually desires? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 12:11 AM |
| – | Is having racial dating preferences racist?I find it kinda racist when someone says they'd never be attracted to anyone of X race. Like it's fine imo to say you don't tend to find certain features attractive, but it's not as if all people of a specific ethnic background all look the same. It's grouping huge swaths of people together under one small umbrella. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 12:04 AM |
| 6 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyI figured. Just wanted to double check before someone starts an unnecessary argument with you lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 11:59 PM |
| 4 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyEven so, if a woman is getting this much options in terms of sex and lifestyle, to bash on her for playing the field is silly. Isn't it the same as how people in general get bashed on for being materialistic or greedy, even though a significant amount of people are? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 11:59 PM |
| 12 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyImmoral or amoral? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 11:47 PM |
| 15 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyI agree, it's one of the things I disagree with red pill about, where the ideology generally acts like the majority of women have this kind of princess treatment when most of us don't. It's usually reserved for the hot women or the popular women who put themselves out there seeking such a lifestyle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 11:46 PM |
| 34 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyI mean, why wouldn't a woman do this? Because most of us are average, not hot, and we either don't get OR don't want "countless amount of affection in her late teens/early twenties which supposedly amounts to attention, presents, free trips, adoration." Like, I'm not trying to be snarky or mean, but the idea of getting all this stuff is pure FDS and for some of us it's even just gross pedestalization. Truly hot, top percentages of women can certainly get this kind of treatment but it's doubtful … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 11:39 PM |
| 20 | Do women want another guy when they end a relationship?Some want to find another guy right away, others preemptively have another lined up already, and still others will decide to be alone for a while before dating again. It's gonna depend on the individual and probably will have something to do with the reason for the break up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 11:27 PM |
| 7 | Actual evidence that women are treated better than men overall ?1000% all of this! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Q4W - Why did Maslow, in his Hierarchy of Needs, originally list Sex as a Basic, Physiological need?Probably because it is for the majority of humanity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 10:00 PM |
| 2 | Would you date a man who is deformed *if* he had the most amazing personality on earth?I'm gonna need some time to process this new information | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Would you date a man who is deformed *if* he had the most amazing personality on earth?Alright now I'm super curious what you're talking about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 07:57 PM |
| 2 | Would you date a man who is deformed *if* he had the most amazing personality on earth?Do you think I look bad for saying no, then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Would you date a man who is deformed *if* he had the most amazing personality on earth?Unfortunately, no. As much as I may like his personality, sex is extremely important to me and if I don't find him physically and sexually attractive, it wouldn't work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Would you sign a contract with a dating agency, to date someone they choose for you, for a week?Yeah, this sounds like an awesome idea. I think I'd probably use a matchmaking service way before attempting to ever date on my own again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Do men view everything through the lens of sex?I asked after laughing about it "for real though I'm curious how often does sex come up in your mind? Or is everything kind of seen through a lens of sexuality?" Not a man, but since I wish I was born as one I'll answer here lol. Sex comes up in my mind on an hourly basis. It's less of seeing everything in the world through a sexual lens...like puppies and most food and driving to work isn't sexual at all obviously. But there's kind of a constant low sexual desire/neediness always in the back of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 04:37 PM |
| – | Would you date a man that refused to raise kids that weren't his own?I have no problem with someone not ever wanting kids, I'm the same way. If I ever start dating again I also refuse to raise children. But that goes for ones with my genes too...I never want to be pregnant for even 1 second. So it would only work out if he was completely childfree too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 04:32 PM |
| 9 | Change my View : Cheating as a Man and as a Woman isnt the same, its a big difference. I am really curious if someone can change my view from a logical standpointFrom your post: I believe that any cheating is bad to some extent, but i believe that cheating as a Woman is way worse, then the opposite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 01:37 PM |
| 7 | Change my View : Cheating as a Man and as a Woman isnt the same, its a big difference. I am really curious if someone can change my view from a logical standpointNot the person you were talking to, but if you begin a relationship with the explicit understanding that it is open to other sexual partners, and she decides to stay with you anyway, that's totally different than cheating behind her back. Open relationships are called open for a reason, you're not only open to other people sexually, you are also open aka honest about who they are, that it's only sex, that you'll be tested for STDs, that you won't leave, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 01:10 PM |
| 6 | How do you feel about tomboys?I've always been a tomboy, and yeah there was that significant division in high school but that's because high school has a bunch of groups that don't really comingle at all. Like the jocks didn't hang out with the goths, the computer nerds didn't hang out with the skater punks, and the feminine girls didn't hang out with us tomboys and guyfriends. It wasn't like these groups couldn't mix...they just didn't. I don't dislike feminine women, we simply don't share the same interests or hobbies in g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 10:21 AM |
| 1 | How will sex robots affect dating?Lol that's precisely what I was thinking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 10:05 AM |
| 6 | Can you explain the thought process of this guy obsessed with my body count?Well that's not true at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Can you explain the thought process of this guy obsessed with my body count?How? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 11:21 PM |
| 9 | Men work hard to get sex so they're entitled to promiscuitySure, so you can admit McDonald's is popular, but you find no value in it. Likewise I can admit that Chads are popular but find no value in him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 11:21 PM |
| 10 | Men work hard to get sex so they're entitled to promiscuityNot to me, which is all I care about. Why should I care what other women like? I don't inherently value their opinions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 11:12 PM |
| 5 | Can you explain the thought process of this guy obsessed with my body count?Why is it difficult to believe that's her real number? 5 is low, and since she only sleeps with people when in a relationship it makes sense. I'm the same way, my N is 1, which again makes sense since I'm in one long relationship. Not sure where your hangup is coming from? Honestly curious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 10:29 PM |
| 4 | Can you explain the thought process of this guy obsessed with my body count?With that many sexual partners he is clearly a top tier man. Nah. If you need more than 3 hands to count your N, that's too many in my book. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 10:20 PM |
| 10 | Can you explain the thought process of this guy obsessed with my body count?You having that many would be.... evil Why? Or did you mean easy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 10:19 PM |
| 11 | Men work hard to get sex so they're entitled to promiscuityYes, and men are not entitled to women liking their promiscuity. Some men and women have absolutely no problem with it. Some men and women are iffy about high N but can overlook it if other factors are very good. And for some men and women a high N is a total deal breaker. That's just how people are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 10:15 PM |
| 13 | Men work hard to get sex so they're entitled to promiscuityImma cosign this as a fellow low N woman. HVM don't have to lie about who they are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 10:13 PM |
| 9 | Are western women really oblivious about men's looks?D) looks are equally as important as personality. Both are needed for a fulfilling and happy LTR. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Violence should never be expectedSure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 08:23 PM |
| 5 | How to prevent shy women from dating (getting taken advantage of)?Yes. What the hell is "soft raped" supposed to mean? I'm hoping this is just a troll post. 98% sure, but unfortunately people have bad ideas. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 08:18 PM |
| 9 | How to prevent shy women from dating (getting taken advantage of)?...what on earth is this word salad? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 07:58 PM |
| 1 | How will sex robots affect dating?Ah. So it's not one of those bait n switch things, where the normal product is incredibly basic and to have any decent experience you need to purchase a very expensive "DLC"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 07:48 PM |
| 2 | How will sex robots affect dating?Hmmm. Then I think they won't be as popular as some people think. I guess it depends on the price. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 07:43 PM |
| 2 | How will sex robots affect dating?If they don't have a consciousness, does that mean they'll be regulated to a set pattern of behaviors? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Is it creepy if a guy from a league below in attractiveness approaches you?Is it creepy if a guy from a league below in attractiveness approaches you? Nope. Others insisted that only behavior is creepy, and the looks are not. This is the truth, imo. Doesn't matter if you're a 3 or a 9 in looks, behavior is what makes someone a creep. Creeps can be hot, average, or ugly. Please, assume that the guy is a normal adult of approximately your age and approaches you in a polite and no-pressure manner. Then he is not a creep in any way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 11:58 AM |
| 1 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?Glad you find whatever it is funny... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Demographic Survey Discussion Weekly Discussion ThreadLol I like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/23 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Violence should never be expectedEither that, or a botched lobotomy patient. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/23 10:44 AM |
| 6 | Q4W: Whats your score on the Female Delusion Calculator?not married any race any height any weight any income age 25-55 44.8% of men, which results in a score of 2/5 Down to Earth. If I put in my fwb's personal information instead, it is: not married white 5'10 any weight income of $80k age 38-55 Which is a score of 2.4% of men, 3/5 Aspiring Cat Lady | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/23 10:33 AM |
| 1 | Demographic Survey Discussion Weekly Discussion ThreadThat is a foolish stance, I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/23 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?I can tell from your response that you are a spiritually damaged woman. You might think it’s woo woo, but you simply don’t have the eyes to see. I'm an atheist, I don't believe in spirituality. So telling me I'm "spiritually damaged" is about the same as telling me the invisible dragon that lives in my closet has a papercut. Not trying to be mean, it's just roughly that level of imagination imo. You live a sad hedonist existence, I'm a minimalist, not a hedonist. and your life revolves around “m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/23 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?That’s an excuse which men make when they don’t really love their partner and don’t want to get trapped or have to pay alimony in the event of a divorce. Or if a man and woman are libertarian leaning. Which we are. You clearly don’t have a soulmate connection Nope, I don't believe in that woo stuff. It literally says that you are in a 15 year FWB in your tag. Right? Almost like I wrote it myself lol From a woman’s perspective, that a failure. That you are not good enough for someone to want to r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?I'm unmarried because I don't want to have the government involved in my relationship. I've been in a casual monogamous relationship/fwb since I was 23. So I've had a great man in my life for the last 15 years, we just don't live together or share finances or any of that committed relationship stuff. It doesn't appeal to us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Are women specifically dating the top X% of men, or do men simply not meet the "bar"?Thats not dystopian thats just life. But if you think thats dystopian, then you probably feel like life is in general. As this extends waay beyond dating Yeah, in general I think a lot of society is shit. Certainly better than even 100 years ago, but we're far from healthy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 08:36 PM |
| 3 | Are women specifically dating the top X% of men, or do men simply not meet the "bar"?Like why arent you still using an original Iphone, because the standard for what constitutes a fast usable phone has risen drastically since 2006. I guess this is why I think it's dystopian, because the only reason I've ever gotten new phone models is because eventually they stop working. I now have a Galaxy S22, but my phone before that was a LG Chocolate I bought in 2008. I used it until it literally got to the point where the Verizon rep said it had to be traded in because it wouldn't work on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Are women specifically dating the top X% of men, or do men simply not meet the "bar"?It sounds like a dystopia... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Are women specifically dating the top X% of men, or do men simply not meet the "bar"?At some time it has to reach a breaking point though...like the average height of a US man is 5'9". Okay, so sure, maybe in a few generations it'll be 5'11" average. I really doubt it could ever reach, say, 6'2" as an average...that means we'd have a significant amount of men growing to be 6'4 or 6'5. I don't see how this could be our future. Same with money or status or anything else. We're only human, whether male or female. There's only so much we can change. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?This is true | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 04:48 PM |
| – | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?Sure, I agree with that, and if someone is being called a sexist when they aren't actually one, that's unfair and unethical. Although both can be true simultaneously...someone can be honest about their thoughts and those thoughts can be sexist. Like if a woman says she thinks men are inherently more abusive, then she's being honest as well as sexist. Or like if a man says that women inherently are shit friends, he's being honest as well as sexist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 02:54 PM |
| 2 | For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan?I like bantering with some of the guys here lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 01:25 PM |
| 2 | CMV : Most Women wouldnt reject Mr Perfect just because he has a high bodycount, most Men on the other side would easily reject Mrs Perfect if she has a high bodycount.Imagine u meet a guy, 6'3. rich, modellike face, nice body, cool, charismatic, friendly, caring, high status etc, the only downside? he has a 80ish bodycount. The thing is, the number is not the "only downside". Actions, including having sex, don't exist in a vacuum. They become a part of your history, your experiences, your views and values and preferences. Speaking as a woman who would reject "Mr Perfect" if he had a N over 15, the number isn't the true issue, just like for men a woman's numbe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 12:27 PM |
| – | Have you ever met a man that you felt was "too nice"?I'll agree with this, yeah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menYup, precisely this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?I personally think that women with that mentality are delusional, but I see what you're saying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 12:15 PM |
| 3 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?Okay. I want you to at least be self aware enough to acknowledge I didn't "chime in" about anything. You were the one who said a woman being childfree is "hilarious". Not my fault I'm matching the energy you initially put out towards me, buddy boy. Take note that I didn't make any claims whatsoever that the majority of other women are like me. I'm not an idiot, and am not only knowledgeable about how difficult dating is for men, but also agree with some red pill issues, plus am an egalitarian wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 03:00 AM |
| 3 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?Some are, sure. Others are sexist. Others are ragebait trolls. And yet others are honest when they laugh at such edgy takes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 02:55 AM |
| 5 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menMaybe if we wear dresses and heels, we'll win the lottery! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Why do woman befriend girls who are similar in attractiveness?Sorry, I'm not a nlog kind of person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 02:06 AM |
| 4 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?My friend with benefits is not in the top 20% of men lol. Yes you were correct that I could have easily just sat back and waited for men to approach me if I wanted. But I am not speaking from a point of privilege because I never dd that. As someone who is more comfortable in masculine gender roles, I was the one who sought out men to date. I was the one who paid for 100% of the dates, and still do. I was the one to plan the dates and make the reservations. Your assumptions would have been better… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 02:01 AM |
| 3 | Why do woman befriend girls who are similar in attractiveness?As a nerdy tomboy myself, I gotta say that while I have no desire to partake in hobbies like going to clubs or joining sororities, I'm not going to say those activities are lesser or worse than mine. Saying "well attractive women have XYZ hobbies and less attractive women have ABC hobbies" just shows we (possibly) enjoy different things. It doesn't show that hot women don't bond through their hobbies, or that they don't care about their friends values. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 01:48 AM |
| 6 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?Or they find younger women without kids like my guy did with me, or they specifically look for childfree women who aren't going to want kids, or they date infertile/sterilized women who can't physically have them. Granted these are more difficult options but they do exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 01:43 AM |
| 4 | Why do woman befriend girls who are similar in attractiveness?...you don't think attractive or ugly women care about hobbies and values? Only average women? Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 01:39 AM |
| 5 | Why do woman befriend girls who are similar in attractiveness?Friends are usually people who are somewhat similar to yourself, so you're highly likely to have certain clothing or styles that both of you like. I've never made any friends, male or female, based on their looks but rather if we get along and have the same hobbies + values. If there was a "league" in any of my female friendships, I was never once aware of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 01:35 AM |
| 6 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?Lots of men and women my age or older have absolutely no desire to raise someone else's kids. It's spoken of quite frequently how most men don't want to date single mothers...yet you think it's "hilarious" a woman doesn't want to date a single father. Very cute. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 01:30 AM |
| 7 | Why aren't men's bodies lusted and desired as much as women's bodies are lusted and desired?I can and do have a strong preference for viewing the male body, think it is beautiful in a number of forms, and enjoy looking at both clothed and nude men. But unless he's my partner, it's just like looking at any other work of art...I want to keep gazing at a pleasant looking statue or painting, but I don't want to fuck it lol. Now, if we're going to talk about my FWB's body? I want to worship every inch of his skin on a daily basis, spend hours pleasuring him, and would gladly rip his clothes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 01:25 AM |
| 3 | For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan?Not the person you originally asked, but I'm in the same boat. Being financially dependent on someone else for my basic living expenses is something I've avoided entirely since age 17, and I wouldn't ever want to do so again. The power imbalance would be far too severe...I don't even want a man who makes more than me, although if it's a small enough difference I'd make due. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 12:20 AM |
| 1 | For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan?Reddit was acting weird, it showed your post was [removed] | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 12:17 AM |
| 1 | For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan?Everything okay? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 10:55 PM |
| 3 | For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan?I asked this question because women are allowed to have a backup plan but it seems like men are not. I'd argue that sometimes it is not only smart but also necessary, like if a guy is in an abusive relationship and needs to have the funds to leave/get a hotel room with cash so she can't find him. In a scenario like that, I don't see a problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 10:32 PM |
| 4 | For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan?Pattern, you know I'd never do that to you 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 10:29 PM |
| 18 | For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan?You're very welcome. To be more clear, I'd be absolutely fine with both of us having an account completely untouchable by the other. Honestly I think the healthiest way to split funds in a relationship is to have a main account for all shared expenses, then each partner has a personal account for their own mini vacations, fun purchases, safety nets, etc. I would of course prefer that we just acknowledge this openly for both of us, but if he feels like "hiding" a kind of account I'll have too...m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 10:05 PM |
| 19 | For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan?I'm not in a committed or financially sharing relationship, but if I was...I'd be fine with it so long as his squirreling away of those funds doesn't negatively impact our life together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 09:44 PM |
| 4 | Are women specifically dating the top X% of men, or do men simply not meet the "bar"?Would that make all men "dateable", or would women still be dating/sleeping with the top 5% of men? This just makes me think of Syndrome...https://youtu.be/e2hO2tALgCY But yeah, if everyone is 8/10 then more people will have sex but the same number of people will date/have LTRs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 09:41 PM |
| 18 | Question for women. What is your honest opinion when you see men and women go back and forth about relationship stuff on places like TikTok?I don't use TikTok, but I've come across such people both irl and on Facebook or reddit. Basically all these people are good representations for why cousins shouldn't marry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 09:38 PM |
| 14 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?What women do tell other women online is that women should not allow men into their lives, especially if they want to fuck them. Other than rabid misandrists who just hate all men and shouldn't be treated seriously, I've never seen this given as advice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:23 PM |
| 6 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?Oh yeah, that's always a possibility. Hell, it's a possibility with same sex people too! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:22 PM |
| 43 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?Could it be that women just do not like men that much? It doesn't seem like it, since most of the time it's men talking about how they think women as a whole are completely shit friends, that they only hang out with us in hopes of getting sex, and how if you are a woman with male friends you're inherently a horrible person for keeping "orbiters" around you instead of telling them to "leave". I do sometimes see women saying they greatly prefer female friends, but it is incredibly rare to see a wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:47 PM |
| 3 | Western women, how can you compete against an eastern/foreign woman?It was, and I thank you for it ☺️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:41 PM |
| 5 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menWell damn. I thought they were just really bored, snarky people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:40 PM |
| 21 | Have you ever met a man that you felt was "too nice"?Too "nice" imo is anyone, man or woman, who acts as though they have no opinions or beliefs of their own. They simply agree with whatever is currently being said around them, regardless of how they actually think. Like a perpetual "yes man". It's kinda disturbing, since you never know anything about them as an individual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Western women, how can you compete against an eastern/foreign woman?Oh... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Western women, how can you compete against an eastern/foreign woman?Its the misandrists that have to compete Fair enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menI'm 38, so luckily it seems I've got 2 more years. But shit, he's 53. So he's been saying it for 13 whole years too long! Oh no! Please, tell me what he can do to be cool again! 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Western women, how can you compete against an eastern/foreign woman?Most likely, but I don't want to put words in his mouth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 06:43 PM |
| 7 | Western women, how can you compete against an eastern/foreign woman?I probably offer much of the same things she does, especially if she's a tomboy too. In order to say how I'd compete against another woman I'd need to know more about what she brings to the table so I can compare it to what I bring. Just saying she's foreign tells me nothing about her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menThey aren't morbidly obese lol. But they have some beer gut going on, a few too many pizzas and McDonald's on the back or thighs. Y'know, typical contractors. It's rare to see one who looks fit unless he's an extremely young apprentice who just finished high school and still has defined abs and calves from the sports he probably played. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 06:14 PM |
| 7 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menLike we're all perpetually stuck as young teenagers rather than full grown adults with lives of our own... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 06:10 PM |
| 3 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?Who wants a scary partner 🤨🤨🤨 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 05:58 PM |
| 9 | Do most single women have a "Steve"?Yes, I currently know of 6 "Steves" aka men who I frequently see who have asked me out on dates in the last 2 months. They are all customers who come to my weekly events. Honestly, I don't know them super well, but they all seem like genuinely great men. Hygienic, gamers like me, working class, 5-6 in looks, intelligent, easy to talk to and get along with, my age +/- 2 years. ...unfortunately, they all have kids, so even if I didn't already have a sex partner they'd be automatically disqualified | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 05:24 PM |
| 5 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menPersonally I'm familiar with the idea, I just don't believe it. It's like you said, simply an idea. Apparently a lot of us don't subscribe to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 04:26 PM |
| 7 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menbut they are in fantastic physical condition Anecdotal evidence, but my eyebrows nearly flew off my forehead reading your comment lol. I work with roofers, general contractors, plumbers, and electricians in one of my jobs on a daily basis and about 75% of them are...more than a little bit on the plump side, even in their late 20s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 04:23 PM |
| 8 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menObviously you're not a man /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 04:19 PM |
| 10 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menOr trolls, sir. Don't forget about the under-bridge dwellers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 04:18 PM |
| 5 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menHistory Channel has entered the chat I'm not saying they're aliens...but they're aliens. 👽 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 04:17 PM |
| 11 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menDamn freaking straight | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 03:45 PM |
| 22 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menOkay...wait, wait, wait. You're saying if I wasn't a tomboy, I wouldn't need a job? How else would I be able to individually afford my apartment, purchase my car, buy groceries for myself and my birds, pay off my student loans, get gas for my car, or take my FWB out? People who are not mountain hermits live in society. Society means using money for all the stuff above. This isn't more true for tomboys and less true for femmes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 03:44 PM |
| 3 | Q4Men: How do you feel about taking male birth control?If you don’t mind me asking, because my fiancée is understandably a bit nervy, do you FEEL any different now you’ve done it? Or as soon as you recovered was there no noticeable change? Obviously not my own experience since I'm a woman, but my fwb got vasectomized when he was in his mid 20s (he's 53 now). He has told me a lot about it since I was curious what the procedure felt like and if he noticed any changes. He told me that the procedure itself only took 30 minutes. They had him sit in a gyn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 11:46 AM |
| 1 | CMV: trying to convert BPers or hardcore RPers is a wasted effort and it benefits normal men that they’ve effectively removed themselves from the dating poolExactly this, that's a good analogy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 03:16 AM |
| 5 | CMV: trying to convert BPers or hardcore RPers is a wasted effort and it benefits normal men that they’ve effectively removed themselves from the dating poolI think OP means black, not blue. Or at least it would make more sense given their post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 03:11 AM |
| 25 | CMV: Pretty women don’t even understand the value of money or how much things costThis is the truth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 09:16 PM |
| 5 | CMV: Pretty women don’t even understand the value of money or how much things costDepends on whether we've had to work for ours or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 08:31 PM |
| 0 | Saying you 'shouldn't do X' to improve your dating life because 'chad doesn't have to do X', is like saying you shouldn't take a higher paying job because billionaires exist.Fair enough. I obviously disagree with the blatant misandry that FDS spouts, but the fact remains they are still finding men who are sexually patient. I just think these men are almost certainly in their mid 30s or older vs young, hormonal 20 year olds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:22 PM |
| 0 | Saying you 'shouldn't do X' to improve your dating life because 'chad doesn't have to do X', is like saying you shouldn't take a higher paying job because billionaires exist.And yet the FDS women apparently find a bunch of men willing to wait. Idk how, but I'm going to bet the men they're finding are all older and not as hormonally driven. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:06 PM |
| 0 | Saying you 'shouldn't do X' to improve your dating life because 'chad doesn't have to do X', is like saying you shouldn't take a higher paying job because billionaires exist.You can't have anything long term without short term. Technically, yes, because that's how Time works. But dating with the actual intent to be long-term is very different than dating with the intent to be short-term or getting a hookup. Besides no offense, but you need to be once again reminded your personal preferences are far outside the norm and functionally 0% of the men you dated for a long term relationship actually stuck around on those terms. Yup, that was my own flaw, looking for boys m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 05:41 PM |
| 3 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.No, thankfully not every family is toxic or abusive. Believe me, I wish mine wasn't but I'm also incredibly glad that not every person has to grow up in a hellish environment. I appreciate my half-siblings and nieces and nephews. I do not and will never appreciate our parents. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.😊😊😊 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 02:32 PM |
| 6 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.Hey, thank you! I really appreciate that. It's not your fault, all I can do is ensure the cycle stops completely with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 02:09 PM |
| 7 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.My family is a highly toxic and all around abusive one. It's nice to see from other people's comments what a healthy and caring family dynamic looks like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 01:01 PM |
| 3 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.When it comes to desire, somewhere around 80% of women desire 20% of men. Do you actually have any controlled studies from the last 20 years to back this up? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 11:04 AM |
| 5 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.Comments like these are such a good window into average family dynamics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 11:01 AM |
| 6 | Saying you 'shouldn't do X' to improve your dating life because 'chad doesn't have to do X', is like saying you shouldn't take a higher paying job because billionaires exist.Appearance is the entire equation. (We're talking about short-term hook-ups, short relationships). I think this is the disconnect right here. Too many guys on PPD make statements like the first part, without including that they're speaking solely of hookups and flings. So you have women like me arguing that looks/personality is 50/50 importance, because we're automatically thinking of LTRs where your behavior is just as important as your attractiveness, in healthy relationships. Now, if the part… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 10:56 AM |
| 2 | Is playing video games an ick be honest?They’re skills she can live through vicariously How? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 10:48 AM |
| 0 | Is playing video games an ick be honest?However, if you do it more than 3 hours a day, then you have a serious issue. Not being snarky, but why did you choose only 3 hours? That's a pretty low number imo. Just wondering if you had a specific reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 10:47 AM |
| 1 | Is playing video games an ick be honest?For the same reason female gamers want a partner who plays videogames too. We want a man who shares at least some of our interests. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 10:42 AM |
| 3 | Q4a How sexually demanding are you in relationships?Sex five times a week? three? once a week? Waking you up with oral sex? Regular anal? Constantly trying new things? etc At a minimum I want to have sex 4x a month, but preferably more. Honestly any kind of sex is acceptable to me, but I do like trying new things every few months. ALSO are your requirements different for sex in relationships and casual sex? If so, how exactly? I don't have casual sex, so no. ALSO who is more demanding one in your current (or last) relationship: you or your SO? Me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 12:42 AM |
| 3 | Is playing video games an ick be honest?No, as a gamer myself it's a positive, especially if we enjoy the same games and can talk about the lore behind some of our favorite franchises. Anime is cool too, my FWB and I will watch the same series on our own time then talk about the character development and story lines during our walks each week. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 12:33 AM |
| 1 | A theory as to why women are liking more feminine guysI haven't seen an age difference for people who actually care about height but y m m v | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 07:02 PM |
| 2 | A theory as to why women are liking more feminine guysActively intimidating behaviors are things like prolonged direct eye contact, puffing out one's chest, speaking louder than is necessary for the environment you're in, deliberately talking over others/constantly interrupting, invading another person's personal space, crowding someone into a corner...stuff like that. When I think of presence, I just think of tall or large people existing. They can't help that they're bigger than usual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:52 PM |
| 1 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?Ah, this is good! You've now seen the difference between Nice Guys TM and legitimately nice men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:44 PM |
| 2 | A theory as to why women are liking more feminine guysA midget doing the same behaviors would be comical. That sounds pretty harsh. What kind of behavior are you talking about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:41 PM |
| 2 | A theory as to why women are liking more feminine guysMaybe? I think it would have more to do with active behaviors that are intimidating, not just "presence" yeah? Also, if mere presence was intimidating to women why would most prefer taller men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:32 PM |
| 2 | A theory as to why women are liking more feminine guysHmmm. I do think that aggressive behavior is scary, although I'd say that's not a part of traditional masculinity but rather harmful/toxic masculinity. Like traditional but cranked too high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:30 PM |
| 1 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?Why do you think they aren't nice guys, or at least men who would describe themselves as "nice"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:26 PM |
| 1 | A theory as to why women are liking more feminine guysWhat are they afraid of? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:25 PM |
| 2 | A theory as to why women are liking more feminine guysJust to clarify, are you talking about looks alone? Or are you including gender roles + personality expectations? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:24 PM |
| 0 | A theory as to why women are liking more feminine guysThat makes sense, although like I asked OP, does this only correlate with looks? Or with gender roles and personality expectations too? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:23 PM |
| 19 | A theory as to why women are liking more feminine guysMost women still prefer masculine men though... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:02 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?If I had an award, I'd give it to you. This is precisely what I've told people lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:00 PM |
| 1 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?Not in my experience, it doesn't. I stopped telling random guys who hit me up for dates that I had a bf because the response 95% of the time is "he's not here now" or "it can be our secret". Only a minority of men will back off if you say you're already with someone. Again, just my experiences throughout the years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?I wish other people accepted that too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?I like the fact that every other comment I make here I'm informed by each guy that I'm an outlier and my responses aren't valid except for a very tiny minority. And then you and one other guy say I'm not lol. It's just weird. Also, how else can you answer something? What would an unconscious answer look like? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 04:57 PM |
| 4 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?I don't think you are as much as an outlier as you think. I only said that to stem the tide of dudes jumping in to tell me I'm an outlier, as usually occurs here. I do this as a form of self-care. Right? It's so relaxing! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Are women more content with being sexless?Huh, that's really weird. On my Samsung tablet that's exactly where it is too. But on my Galaxy S22 phone, the button is a filter/slider looking icon at the top right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Are women more content with being sexless?Yup. On Android, maybe you are using Apple? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 02:55 PM |
| 22 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?It's well known that social proof is an attractive trait to women. The idea that the more women you are with, the more attractive you become to women. For me, this is reverse, and yes, I understand I'm an outlier. I find it attractive when a man has a few good, healthy friendships with both men and women. Him sleeping around is a total negative. It shows he thinks of sex as just another fun activity, which is the opposite of my view on it. He isn't wrong for being promiscuous, but we are automat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Are women more content with being sexless?Ah! I found it. It's not under the post options, it's a settings looking button up at the top right corner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 02:34 PM |
| 1 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?Interesting. You'd think that with how often "nice" guys berate and insult women simply for having a partner already, even when he's a fantastic man and not an asshole whatsoever, they'd also be eager to call out real assholes directly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 02:33 PM |
| 3 | Honest question. Women who are in relationships, what do you bring to your relationship?I bring the following to my casual relationship. Note that we do not cohabitate, are both childfree, and do not pay bills together. Money for dates. Because I enjoy being the provider in my relationship, he has not had a need to take out his wallet in 15 years. Sex. We love sharing the fun intimacy of adventurous and enthusiastic sex numerous times a month. Emotional support. Whenever he is happy, sad, frustrated, angry, excited, or any other kind of feeling, I'm there for him. He knows I do not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 01:15 PM |
| 14 | Are women more content with being sexless?Hi Always! I'm on mobile so can't sort by Top, but I read the first 70 comments and although I do see a bunch of women saying they're either asexual or essentially asexual, I haven't seen more than 1 woman yet saying she thinks sex is gross. I'll keep reading through, but can you give a rough estimate of how far down I have to go to find the ones you're referring to? Are they all downvoted at the bottom? And to answer your question, no, I would fail to thrive and become severely depressed in a s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Is the virginity rate among women rising too?Why do you think that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 01:01 PM |
| 1 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyYeah, grammatically it didn't make sense. Again, it read like you either wrote it using speech to text or that English isn't your first language. Which is fine if one of those is true, I'm simply pointing it out that it was not worded well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 05:32 AM |
| 2 | Is the virginity rate among women rising too?Oh absolutely! One thing I learned early in life is that you need to be responsible for your own mental health when dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Unpopular Opinion: Gold Diggers are just smart womenDude, c'mon. You sound like the History Channel 😂😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 11:36 PM |
| 1 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?What do you gain out of bullying them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 09:21 PM |
| 3 | Is the virginity rate among women rising too?Probably somewhere around 10-15% | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 08:22 PM |
| 5 | Is the virginity rate among women rising too?I imagine shy women will also have significant trouble dating, but not necessarily trouble having sex, since men will still approach them. Socially anxious women will most likely have trouble with both dating and finding someone who is patient too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 08:14 PM |
| 11 | Is the virginity rate among women rising too?Okay. Well, in my experience men are not willing to wait for sex, so any woman who is demi will be a virgin for longer than is normal. Likewise, women who are not demi will be having sex sooner, or at least they have the option to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 08:08 PM |
| 6 | Is the virginity rate among women rising too?I shared my virginity when I was 23. However if you're talking solely about "today's" young women, I'm currently 38. Not sure if you care about millennials. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 08:03 PM |
| 0 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?Ah, okay. I missed that part of the beginning sentence | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 07:01 PM |
| 0 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?So...your post above, about having a 5 woman harem who were all totally cool about sharing you like a community car, was actually a story about your friend? Or was it about you? If it was about you, you're literally a Chad. A high N isn't necessary. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 06:36 PM |
| 1 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?Lol dude you are the definition of a Chad 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 06:28 PM |
| 7 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?I'm curious...when Chad's come post things like this on subs like PPD, do their DMs get flooded with hate mail from nice guys? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 06:21 PM |
| 1 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyThen you have some typos or missed a couple words. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?This is true. Even in the bdsm community one of the frequent complaints is there's too many male subs and too few female doms. Of course these are 2 separate issues but the comparison is there. Idk if we'll eventually see that kind of turnaround. I unfortunately think there's not enough women like myself who enjoy and feel totally comfortable in reverse traditionalism to see that kind of shift. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 02:26 PM |
| 2 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyI’m a mum and more pro-choice than ever Awesome! Raising kids is hard, but in ops extreme example I would agree the guy should be able to opt out. He’d done everything within reason to avoid the situation including marrying a women that felt the same way, it’s unfair he’s trapped in a lifetime commitment because she changed her mind. I agree. It seems a lot of people don't, and just want to call him a deadbeat dad. However I also don’t think many guys would actually get a vasectomy, (it’s like g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 02:22 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?It does, thanks! I'm curious because of something you wrote in your post. You said that as a red pill man you're happy that some women still adhere to traditional gender roles. Would you ever date a reverse-traditional woman like myself, who is most comfortable in stereotypically masculine gender roles like paying for and planning dates, taking a more dominant/leadership role, initiating frequent sex, being the emotionally strong, supportive, and stoic partner, etc? Wondering since some red pill… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 02:09 PM |
| 1 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyI absolutely agree, I was just pointing out for the second part of your comment, that she doesn't have to actually raise the child afterwards. For what it's worth, I'm extremely pro-choice, and a childfree woman myself. I would absolutely do whatever it took to have an abortion if I somehow became pregnant, and just the idea of being in that state is body horror to me. I'm well aware of the dangers of pregnancy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 01:52 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?I find it interesting that you prefer a man who makes less than you. This is unusual, right? Would you care to explain why? It is unusual, but I put a lot of my self validation into my ability to be a financial provider to my partner. People talk about what they bring to the table, well I bring a strong work ethic, motivation to succeed in my personal business as well as jobs working for other companies, and the fact I find it a great source of mental pleasure knowing my partner doesn't have to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 01:49 PM |
| 0 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyThere's always adoption, either through a service that puts pregnant women with infertile couples actively looking for a baby, or orphanages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 01:35 PM |
| 1 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyThat's a good rule. Who is crying and slandering you for this decision? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 01:33 PM |
| 1 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babySo I know it wasn't in your scenario, but now I'm just thinking of a situation where both people are still childfree, it's just that the woman thinks it is morally wrong to have an abortion. So she makes sure to stay healthy and take the proper vitamins, carries it to term, delivers it, and gives the child to an orphanage. Essentially, both the man and woman have given up their legal parenthood, because again, both explicitly wanted to be childfree. I started thinking about this because of how m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?At least you're willing to say we exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 01:17 PM |
| 1 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyThe practicality and inherent logic should be enough since men biologically unless trans. Are incapable of having any right to autonomy by virtue of their existence Uh, no. What? Why do you think men shouldn't have bodily autonomy simply for being male? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 01:17 PM |
| 0 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyA vasectomy shows proof of the man trying to avoid a pregnancy (you can’t exactly prove you were wearing a condom each time) and a vasectomy is reversible should he change his mind True, although like all birth control other than abstinence and non penetrating sex acts, it comes with medical risks. It’s also unfair to ask a girl to go on hormonal birth control (or surgery too) to avoid a pregnancy but that’s somehow brushed under the rug Oh, I agree that the woman shouldn't be asked to have surg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 01:15 PM |
| 1 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyWell for starters, "unpmanned" doesn't necessarily mean using protection True. I do think most people who want to avoid pregnancy at least use condoms if nothing else, but some use nothing which is foolish. But even if they are, the difference is whether or not they have discussed what happens if she does get pregnant. Do you think the majority of people who do not want to be parents don't talk about their goal of not being parents with their sex partner? An example would be a casual hookup wher… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 01:06 PM |
| 2 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyWhy only a vasectomy? Granted they're not inherently permanent and most can be reversed at least partially, but it seems unfair to make a 18 year old get surgery just because he doesn't want to have a child at this point in life. Edit: I know OPs post makes it sound like an older couple but I'm trying to extrapolate it to any man who wants to have sex but not become a father. Because, just like for women, consent to sex is not consent to parenthood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:54 PM |
| 0 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyI don't think it could be made any clearer. You did a good job of making a neutral scenario, that gets to the root of the issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:49 PM |
| 2 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyIt isn't? Aren't something around 40-50% of pregnancies unplanned? So whether the man and woman are in a marriage or dating or just hooking up, if both people are using protection, isn't that a passive indicator that both people are looking to avoid pregnancy? I'm not being snarky, just trying to understand your view. Maybe you could give an example of how most pregnancies occur in your opinion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:46 PM |
| -2 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyHow is OPs scenario an extreme example? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?Hey, that's more than I get from most red pillers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:39 PM |
| 4 | CMV: men should have the right to opt out of parental and financial obligations for an unwanted babyI agree with this post. In the path towards full equality between the sexes, men need a way to eliminate their parental rights just as we women do. In the above scenario, where both people initially agree that they are childfree and take every precaution possible other than permanent sterilization to prevent pregnancy...both did everything correctly. The fact that the woman has now done a full 180 and suddenly switched from being childfree to wanting a kid would be hella sus in my opinion, but s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?Ymmv, but I don't see many women saying that hypergamy is a myth. Heck, I'm purple pill, not red, and I will absolutely admit it exists in society. I know a decent number of openly hypergamous women irl too. What I think is a myth is that if you just happen to be born with a vagina your brain is going to automatically be hypergamous. I'm not, and I've spoken with a few other women who aren't. So even if you'd want to say we're outliers, we do exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?Because a lot of red pillers erroneously believe only women can be hypergamous. I agree with red on some things, but not this one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:21 PM |
| 8 | CMV: Men and their issues must be recognised and highlighted on International Men's Day instead of being preached to be better .Can't change your mind, as I completely agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:19 PM |
| 5 | Unpopular Opinion: Gold Diggers are just smart womenI'd say the more accurate percentile is 80% of women dont even acknowledge the existence of 80% of men as sex catagory By that, do you mean that 80% of women don't consider those men sexually attractive, or do you mean they don't even acknowledge them as humans with a sexual side to their personality? Because it's one thing to say that you don't want to fuck someone, it's a whole other thing to just not acknowledge them as a sexual being. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?You're very welcome. So for that definition of successful it seems to be linked to social/community status, which I don't care about. I'd be very accepting of a man who is not successful as long as he's happy in his job. How about your definition of maturity? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:11 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What's your take on hypergamy?Women of PPD, what's your take on hypergamy? Some women are hypergamous, some are not. Is your ideal Prince Charming richer, more mature, more successful, smarter than you? No, I would not want to constantly be feeling inferior in my relationship. Or exactly the same level? I'd be fine with this. Or less rich, Yes, I greatly prefer a man who makes less than me. less mature, Depends on what you mean by maturity. What is your definition? less successful, Again depends on what you mean. Any clarifi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 11:54 AM |
| 2 | Unpopular Opinion: Gold Diggers are just smart womenThank you, I was working and couldn't do a tldr | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the future of RP?Exactly this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the future of RP?I'm literally only half joking. Pretty sure we're well on our way to this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the future of RP?I used to work at a sex shop and can confirm that a number of men will indeed drop a couple thousand dollars on non-moaning silicone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:56 AM |
| 1 | ladies, how do you feel about the idea of being a stay at home mother and housewifeThanks! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:13 AM |
| 7 | Unpopular Opinion: Gold Diggers are just smart womenAlso a distinct possibility | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:01 AM |
| 2 | ladies, how do you feel about the idea of being a stay at home mother and housewifeIt's ridiculously easy, since we're best friends. But it's mostly because our life goals align extremely well. Neither of us want to live together, we like our space. Neither of us are interested in marriage. We're both childfree, and he got vasectomized in his 20s before (he's currently 53). I enjoy paying for our dates, make more money, and am debt free, so that works out too. We enjoy the 95% of the same hobbies, are both great conversationalists, and have fantastic sex together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the future of RP?I think religion has been the ultimate tool into turning men into blue pilled, its the biggest con job or deception in history Interesting! What is your definition of blue pill? And since religion is so INGRAINED into traditional/conservative men, they have deluded themselves to not be able to see how its damaging their understanding of women I agree with this very much, having grown up in a very conservative, Jehovah Witness household. Although we probably disagree with what the damage is. I ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 11:24 PM |
| 6 | For the first time since 2010, the percent of women under 35 who have not had sex in the last year has surpassed that of similar aged menI'm sorry to tell you this, but that's the wrong place lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 11:08 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on the future of RP?Either way, TRP is and always has been a tool against the agenda the MSM or even religion And yet a very significant amount of RP men are religious. It's curious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on the future of RP?I was thinking more that the beginning will be like Chobits or Time of Eve, with androids being seen as lesser beings/servants. Then we'll slowly have more droid rights like in Bicentennial Man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:38 PM |
| 1 | ladies, how do you feel about the idea of being a stay at home mother and housewifeOh yes! I've been in a casual relationship for the last 15 years, since I was 23. It is wonderful. I'm just not at all interested in traditional stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on the future of RP?I'm only 50% joking 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:09 PM |
| 4 | [Q4A]Do you believe that genuinely ugly people exist?Agreed, it's very sad and disheartening. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on the future of RP?We're all eventually going to be dating androids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:03 PM |
| 18 | [Q4A]Do you believe that genuinely ugly people exist?Yup. Lots and lots of guys with body dysmorphia on reddit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:01 PM |
| 6 | [Q4A]Do you believe that genuinely ugly people exist?[Q4A]Do you believe that genuinely ugly people exist? Yes, unfortunately. I haven't met any irl but I have seen some online. There's just a very small percentage of people who are never going to be able to overcome physical deformities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:00 PM |
| 1 | RP men don’t like women, they’re just attracted to themVery true! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 09:44 PM |
| 2 | For the first time since 2010, the percent of women under 35 who have not had sex in the last year has surpassed that of similar aged menI'm glad you stayed calm, and that it essentially just ended up being a bad date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 09:42 PM |
| 6 | For the first time since 2010, the percent of women under 35 who have not had sex in the last year has surpassed that of similar aged menThe only part of this I'm surprised about is him actually using some of the terminology. Even men I irl who are mgtow are extremely careful about using any of those words in public. I wonder if he was a new reader of it... How did he react when you declined going with him? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 09:39 PM |
| 6 | For the first time since 2010, the percent of women under 35 who have not had sex in the last year has surpassed that of similar aged menWhat happened, if you don't mind saying? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 09:33 PM |
| 1 | RP men don’t like women, they’re just attracted to themIn the long run, you are absolutely correct. I'm extremely happy with my LTR, as unconventional as it may be. And I'm glad I shared my virginity with a man who was patient instead of just wanting to get his own rocks off immediately. But when I was in high school and college it was incredibly sexually frustrating and torturous, to keep taking guys out on dates with the hope of them staying long enough for me to be attracted to them. Lots of frustration, lots of money wasted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 09:32 PM |
| 1 | RP men don’t like women, they’re just attracted to themTrue. Although most men aren't demisexual, just like how most women aren't. The overwhelming majority of people can tell within just a minute if someone is sexually attractive to them. I'm an outlier since I can't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 09:12 PM |
| 10 | For the first time since 2010, the percent of women under 35 who have not had sex in the last year has surpassed that of similar aged menUnfortunately this is the truth. It may not account for a majority of these women, but it does for at least some. Even if it just means no more hookups during college. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 09:04 PM |
| 2 | RP men don’t like women, they’re just attracted to themAs I use the terms, I like people who I share multiple interests, hobbies, and values with. Aka friends. I'm attracted to men who have all that + I'm physically attracted to as well. Aka dates. I become sexually attracted to men who fulfill those 2 points above and who I spend a lot of time around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Pet NamesI don't know. I do sometimes during age-play sex, but I don't know anyone who does it outside of the bedroom | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 08:27 PM |
| 4 | Redpillers make women not want to date menI agree, and they're probably the person who literally just downvoted me lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 08:26 PM |
| 5 | Redpillers make women not want to date menI have become completely indifferent to posts like this. They still confuse the hell out of me. We in the west have a society that is systemically misandrist... I agree, unfortunately. But this women distrusts her own boyfriend because some small minority of men have extremist views probably exactly because of the amount of people that are like her. Make it make sense. Honestly hoping they are a troll. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 08:11 PM |
| 17 | Unpopular Opinion: Gold Diggers are just smart womenRight? I'm unsure if OP is an alien or not... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 07:55 PM |
| 32 | Unpopular Opinion: Gold Diggers are just smart womenIf you’re a woman and you even so much as have to tie your own shoes in the morning, you suck at playing the game. Why the holy freaking fuck would I want to play it? Lol. Getting everything handed to you in life sounds pretty horrible...humans need to get things for themselves, we suffer when life is too easy. Not to mention, using other people for money is a shit thing to do, ethically. Look up the absolute nightmare of the Mouse Utopia experiment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women, can you meet your own standards?Sure, in 17% of the country men are not berated for wanting traditional. Borderline negligible. Okay. However in 100% of the country women are still allowed to demand their man earns more than them. Anyone can demand anything they want. Now they have to go out and actually find someone who is that thing AND willing to be with them AND fulfills other basic similar values necessary for a healthy relationship. If they can't, then they will stay single or make compromises on what they're demanding. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women, can you meet your own standards?So we're in agreement that it depends on where you live, and it's not just an automatic default across the entirety of the US. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 01:28 PM |
| 3 | Q4Women, can you meet your own standards?Sure, but the difference is men are berated for wanting traditional no matter where they are. Not so, although it may appear this way where you live. I'm in a very rural area, a highly religious, firmly conservative/red, and all around traditional area in far upstate NY. The college towns are liberal but drive 10 miles outside of them and you immediately see most people upholding traditional gender roles and ways of life. In much of my region you'd be mocked, subtly of course, for not being a tr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 12:55 PM |
| 5 | Q4Women, can you meet your own standards?Do you believe the other women here are being being honest? Those that also think they meet the standards they have for men? I believe that most of them are being honest that they think they meet the same standards. Some I don't believe actually do based on their other comments, a handful of others I do fully believe are like me in that they're self aware and have put actual thought into these topics. Don't get me wrong I am not one of these people that responds to every woman that is sharing th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women, can you meet your own standards?Sex is either someone you deem as special for yourself and your partner or it’s not special. Saying that a woman must be pure while a man wracks ho bodies isn’t problematic because of an n-count preference, it’s problematic because it’s hypocritical. Thank you! I keep trying to explain this to men who think it's perfectly fine for them to have 50+ sex partners but then only accept a virgin wife. The issue isn't the number in itself. The issue is the blatant hypocrisy of saying one thing (sex is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women, can you meet your own standards?Depends on who you ask. I want someone who is very similar to myself in nearly every way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 12:33 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women, can you meet your own standards?Why should she be cruel to her partner? Misandry and shaming is not conducive to a healthy relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 12:30 PM |
| 12 | Redpillers make women not want to date menI’ve been reading a lot of redpill stuff recently just out of pure boredom because I like being timely and I started being extremely prejudiced against men. No offense, but it is foolish to become prejudice against an entire sex just because of something you read online about a small segment of them. I’ve asked here and there, solely based off the answers I got from women, they feel the same. I must have missed that post. If I'd seen it, I'd have let you know that I love and cherish all my guyfr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 12:27 PM |
| 2 | ladies, how do you feel about the idea of being a stay at home mother and housewifeNo, I would not. I'm anti-traditionalism for myself. Not only am I lifetime childfree, but I hate doing chores and enjoy being the breadwinner. I neither need nor want a protector or provider since my preference is to fulfill those roles myself. Of course, since I've lived alone from age 17 onwards, I'm used to doing all the chores and minor repairs myself. But if I was in the market for a cohabitating man, I'd seek out a househusband type. Someone who could keep our home clean and tidy, have a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Men aren’t creepy or gross for preferring young adult womenFwiw, I've been in a 15 year difference age gap relationship (not married) since I was 23 and he was 38. I'm now 38, and he's 53. I did think he was attractive then and still think he's attractive now. However, he's one of those men who has retained a fairly wrinkle free and youthful looking appearance as he has aged. If he didn't have grey hair now, you'd still think he was in his mid 30s. When I first met him, before asking his age, I had assumed he was only 5 years older than me. I don't like… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 12:04 PM |
| 4 | Q4Women, can you meet your own standards?Depends on who you ask. For men who want traditional gender roles, it's more difficult for them to find someone like you in urban regions, and even many suburban ones, so traditional women such as yourself become their ideal. Flip it around to egalitarian or non-traditional men who live in rural areas like mine, and it's more difficult for them to find untraditional women like me. So I become their ideal, because unlike the majority of other women in my area I won't hold them or myself to stereo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 11:44 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women, can you meet your own standards?My question is, can you meet those same standards? Absolutely. I hate hypocrisy and double standards are shit. If you have a wealth standard for men, can you meet that wealth standard yourself? Yes, my wealth standard is simply to have a job that pays basic bills as a middle class person. In my area, that's about $50,000 a year. I currently make $90,000. Honestly I'm fine with a man choosing to be a househusband too, even though I never want that role for myself. If you have a standard for body … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 11:36 AM |
| 4 | Do you plan on having children?But aren't finding babies cute and finding pleasure in imagining caring for your child examples of instincts as well? Adult men and women, childfree and parent-minded alike, experience the predisposition towards caring for/protecting "cute" beings. This includes most infant animals, not just our own. It's why people enjoy being around puppies, kittens, ducklings, chicks, kits, etc so much. So I'd certainly consider "protection of vulnerable young animals" to be an instinct, but that still doesn'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:54 PM |
| 2 | Demographic Survey Discussion Weekly Discussion ThreadInteresting. I'm sorry you have those troubles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:46 PM |
| 0 | Demographic Survey Discussion Weekly Discussion ThreadHow tall are you? You tend to have shorter women rejecting you more than taller ones? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Demographic Survey Discussion Weekly Discussion ThreadIdk, lol. Tryna come up with a logical explanation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:31 PM |
| 7 | Demographic Survey Discussion Weekly Discussion ThreadMaybe that's why most of us don't care about male height? I've read that generally shorter women are more likely to be height queens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Do you plan on having children?Because instincts are things like seeking beings or experiences that give us comfort and pleasure, or avoiding experiences that cause pain and fear. Procreation can be considered a biological need for the continuation of a species, but it's not an inherent instinct for individuals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:17 PM |
| 3 | Do you plan on having children?Biological instintcs. Yeah, no. I believe in biological instincts for certain things, but imo wanting children is not one of them. Oh, ok, seems like huge experience. Unfortunately, yes. I would have liked to have a childhood that didn't involve constantly caring for others, like apparently most people get to experience. But at least I'm able to be free in my adulthood. I understand you. No obvious benefits. Not for me, no. I'm aware that other women and men get a lot of fulfillment out of being… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 01:24 PM |
| 7 | Do you plan on having children?It's interesting, I thought women are kinda programmed into this. ...what do you mean "programmed"? Were you attending many situation with kids involved? I already gave an extremely detailed explanation about this directly above. But yes, I'm the oldest of 7 siblings, started babysitting other children for money by the time I was 13, and was volunteered by my parents to help teach Sunday school as a teen. I was constantly around children my entire childhood and teenage years. Nothing triggered, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts? 😂It sounds like a nice combination of satire and warning against being in a relationship just to say you're in a relationship. If a man or woman is already happy without a gf or bf, adding another person into your life to that extent (living together, sharing finances, etc) is not likely to make them happier. For some people it can, other people it will simply add stress and difficulty to their previously relaxed lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 12:27 PM |
| 3 | Do you plan on having children?How exactly is it cope? Please, tell me, all ears over here. I'm the oldest of 7 siblings and was used as a live in nanny by our parents since I was 10 years old. I know exactly what it's like to wake up at 1am to make a bottle for a screaming infant then rock them back to sleep, or have to change the piss drenched bedsheets of a kid who had a nightmare, or make dinner for a bunch of picky children while helping them with their homework, or hold a child's hair back while they vomit into the toil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 12:00 PM |
| 2 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Yes! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 12:21 AM |
| 15 | Do you plan on having children?Nope. I'm 38 and known for a 100% fact since I was 16 years old that I would be happiest if I was childfree. Have never regretted my decision to not reproduce, or even had any moments of doubt. Guess my biological clock is fucking busted lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 08:04 PM |
| 4 | Women of Reddit, what is your actual body count vs. the body count you tell the men you're with when they ask?We all know the classic "multiply by 3 when it's a woman's body count, divide by 3 when it's a guy," but is this accurate? It probably is for some people, but I don't think the majority. Any women here willing to share what their actual body count is vs. what they tell guys, assuming there's a disparity? My actual N is 1. I shared my (then) virginity status with my FWB when he asked, because I trusted him and he was the first/only person I was going to have sex with. It made sense for him to kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Thank you for the clarification and yes I agree with you. It does seem like that is the standard practice for breakups. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?That makes sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 02:02 PM |
| 5 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?I usually think you make good points, even when we disagree in general. So what answers do you see that don't appear honest (without calling out specific members, obviously)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 02:01 PM |
| 4 | Have you ever shut down a man BECAUSE he talks normal with you, barring other external factors?If I'm not looking for a date, it doesn't matter whether the guy is normal or weird or stellar/stands out. You don't buy things you don't need or want, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 01:28 PM |
| 3 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Very well put. I said something similar just a few minutes ago, pointing out that men and women in happy and fulfilling relationships aren't going to feel any desire to monkey branch away for the potential of an only slightly better partner. It's like a job. If you have a good job making more than enough to pay all your bills, afford nice things and a few vacations each year, you like all your coworkers and boss, you have good insurance benefits, it's a short commute back home, and you like the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Fair enough. So why did you decide to go out? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 12:34 PM |
| 8 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Exactly, so why do you insist on clutching to valuing commitment regardless of whether it’s for the best (or at least the projection of valuing it) over being open to an action (branch swinging) that would probably lead to a better life for everyone involved? Not the woman you were talking to, but if one goes through life constantly thinking the grass is greener elsewhere, it's impossible to have any contentment or longterm happiness. Settling is often seen as a terrible thing here, where one or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 12:33 PM |
| 4 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Some of us don't experience attraction immediately, regardless of how hot or good on paper the other person is. So when we date, we go in knowing we're not attracted yet but are hopeful it will happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Yes, it's a sad fact of life that sometimes there's things you just cannot plan for, or even imagine would be something to plan for. I'm glad you made it through. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 11:35 AM |
| 2 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Completely understandable! I'm sorry that happened in your relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 11:16 AM |
| 2 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?before the relationship suddenly got weird What does this mean, if you're okay talking about it? Did a personality shift occur out of the blue? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 11:08 AM |
| 23 | Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do?Ok. So this question has been asked recently but in a way that (kind of understandably) prompted a knee jerk, mostly virtue signalling reaction from women. If I'm thinking of the correct post from yesterday, I didn't see much virtue signaling. Were you expecting to see a bunch of us saying "yes we don't care about or love our longterm partners of many years, and are definitely just going to throw away a good relationship for a brand new Chad"? Why is not wanting to leave someone you have a healt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 10:54 AM |
| 0 | This sub has made me feel betterUgh, I just clicked on that link...they have a whopping 31 members and it looks like 90% of the posts are by some man named David. So just a dating guru's personal, likely scamming sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 10:47 AM |
| 2 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.I will readily admit to the legal leniency, which is misandric and terrible. It's the social leniency that I don't see as often, the stuff that happens in casual settings or from parents. But again, is likely due to regional or environmental differences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Women, what is your opinion on domenstic violence towards men?It does matter, a lot. That should never have happened and I'm glad you got away. You didn't deserve it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 02:16 AM |
| 3 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.And for their experience, that's fair. In my experience, growing up as a girl, you don't get away with anything, even small and meaningless accidents, but younger brothers are given more leeway and hardly any reprimand when they royally fuck up on purpose. So it likely depends on childhood environment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 02:11 AM |
| 4 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.Why do you think that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 02:01 AM |
| 0 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.Sometimes yes, sometimes no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 12:14 AM |
| 5 | As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men.Putting this under automod because given what OP described, I've met literal dogs with better manners than those women lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Would you look down a woman who let her husband fuck other chicks the same way you look down on a cuckold?I think it's better to find a partner who appreciates and acknowledges you as a sexual, emotional, and logical human being...who you do the same for. Failing that? Yes, be single. Don't stay in a marriage or dating relationship where you're not being cared for by your partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 11:40 PM |
| 2 | The two steps to flipping the power dynamic in datingThank you! I'm enjoying talking with you. I know most women aren't in favor of the mgtow philosophy but I've always been a proponent of it. Ugh, I hate when people just spew their stupidity all over the place. At least it makes it easier to avoid them... I was banned from it too lol. Can't even remember what I said, but obviously it wasn't neutral enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 07:39 PM |
| 2 | Discussion. What men are experiencing and witnessing in the real world.This sounds like the sex version of going out just to get drunk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 06:34 PM |
| 3 | The two steps to flipping the power dynamic in datingI don't think so. I used to visit over there and that wasn't the main content there. It wasn't the main content most of the time, but it was still present. Also some gatekeeping from other men. I recall a number of harsh arguments in the comments about whether "real" mgtow could still have sex with fwb or if you "had" to rid yourself of all female contact. I wonder if there's some archive copy to look at. That would be interesting. Does the Wayback Machine work with reddit? I'd be curious to see… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 06:23 PM |
| 2 | The two steps to flipping the power dynamic in datingI think it got banned because of the misogyny, not for the mgtow message itself. Similar subs like MensLib, and ones devoted to men specifically saving money or living less materialistic lives are still alive and kicking. If I went and made a mgtow sub that focused purely on the message of going one's own way, dismissing gender roles, finding pleasure in living a simple and frugal life, journeys of self discovery and fulfillment in being happily single...I'm 99% certain it would be allowed to co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Signals it's overTo some extent, you're probably right. I doubt after a certain age anyone who is definitely misandric or misogynistic can change their ways. I'm glad your current gf is good. Likewise, I'm glad my FWB is a good man, unlike the ones in my family. We "won" the relationship lottery lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Leftover men are still more useful to society than leftover womenOn the basics? Changing oil, fixing a pipe, etc. You think that more average, modern men know how to do these things than average, modern women? Perhaps a small amount more, sure, however I recall recent news articles from the past 2-3 years lamenting about how most people in their 20s have never been taught this. Both men and women are, especially in today's upcoming generations, becoming less and less able to do common tasks we were taught as teens (assuming you're over 35 like me). On finance… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Signals it's overAh, that helps explain it more. Yes, I understand where you are coming from. While I don't think that women who treat men's vulnerability as lesser or undesirable are evil, I also wouldn't say they are good people. Perhaps morally grey. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Signals it's overCan you go more in depth with your comment? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:46 PM |
| 4 | Leftover men are still more useful to society than leftover womenHowever, if you look deeper, older men are still more useful and have better and more useful skills than older women. What better and more useful skills does the average man have that the average woman does not? They also save more money manage it better. Do you have any statistics to support this claim, or are you just going based on personal anecdotes? Men also have many options to work... they can be CEOs or offices, or they can work on construction. And women can do this as well. There's man… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:45 PM |
| 5 | Would you look down a woman who let her husband fuck other chicks the same way you look down on a cuckold?Actual cuckolding is a kink where the guy is getting off on his wife fucking other men, while he watches or hears about it later. So since everyone involved is getting sexual gratification from it, I don't see any issue whatsoever. I'm glad when people find partners who share the sexual kinks they want, it's usually very healthy and freeing. If the cuckold woman or cuckold man is being forced essentially to allow their spouse to fuck other people, like if they're openly and blatantly showing off… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:27 PM |
| 4 | What do you do when 'Chad' starts flirting with you and you are in a relationship? How do you feel?Women: When a man who you know(maybe he works with you, he is in the same circle of friends, you have met him at least a few times) which you identify as a much higher value(much more attractive, more fit, more successful, more talented) than your current boyfriend(Not husband) begins to flirt with you, what do you do? I remain polite but firmly state that, while their offer for sex and/or dating is appreciated, I already have a great man in my life. How do you feel? I don't like being approache… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:20 PM |
| 7 | The two steps to flipping the power dynamic in datingMgtow needs to be pushed as more of an option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 11:43 AM |
| 4 | Signals it's overWomen don't have unlimited options lol. We do have more in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 11:33 AM |
| 5 | Signals it's overAnd in order to avoid being called as such there are things that work more often than not: Hopefully vetting would be the first step, so you don't need the other 3 at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 11:21 PM |
| 2 | Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR endsMen do indeed have options. Not as many, sure, but it's not zero or 1. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR endsAh, okay. Thanks for the clarification. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 08:12 PM |
| -1 | Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR endsWhat exactly is a "situationship"? I've seen it referenced a couple times but what does it entail? Off hand, it makes me think of the dudes who travel long times for work, and have a date partner for just the weeks they're in a specific city. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: what should women know about sex?Great response, I agree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 07:17 PM |
| 5 | Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR endsYes, in fact most single young men are getting zero sex and relationship. Zero sex and zero relationship? Of course, women get horny at seeing most men suffer, just as they get horny with men fighting to death for them I would hope not, that's disgusting and reprehensible. but my point is that you can be socially skilled and yet be inept on issues of dating and love. Sure, I agree that you can be. I'm autistic myself, and am aware that this is true for some people. However for most men and women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 06:09 PM |
| 4 | Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR endsHuh. That's not what most nice guys have told me directly. The majority of them have said their main issue is their lack of social skills, slight anxiety, autism, and mild gynophobia. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 06:01 PM |
| 5 | Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR endsSince when are "nice guys" good with their social skills...? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 05:53 PM |
| 4 | Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR endsThey aren't (or probably aren't...idk, could be in an open relationship) practicing pick-up skills, but anyone who works outside the house should be practicing their social skills. It's not like getting into a LTR means you now live in a bubble away from friends, coworkers, acquaintances, customers, strangers, etc. I'm saying this as someone who's only had 1 relationship in my entire life btw. Using your hypothesis, I should still have the same exact social skills now that I'm 38 as I did when I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 05:48 PM |
| – | Women and girls are reading the manosphere forums and subs, that makes them less likely to date.The very first manosphere blog I read was Angry Harry, and the first YouTuber I ever saw was either Stardusk or Chapin. Man, what a rabbit hole that was...I had 2 days off in a row from my job and just couldn't stop reading lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 05:40 PM |
| 3 | Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR endsI agree, and think that marriage is only necessary for couples who are going to have children. There's a reason my casual relationship has lasted 15 years, and why a bunch of other people here also have long-lasting relationships without full commitment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 05:36 PM |
| – | Women and girls are reading the manosphere forums and subs, that makes them less likely to date.We are, but larp as men in the comments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 05:32 PM |
| – | Women and girls are reading the manosphere forums and subs, that makes them less likely to date.Chateau Heartiste Goddamn, it has been so long since I've seen that name lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 05:30 PM |
| 5 | Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR endsYet another reason being a non-working sahm is a dangerous decision. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 05:27 PM |
| 4 | How would Women feel about a man who wears Make Up / Enhancements.That does sound fun lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 04:54 PM |
| 10 | Men committing to LTR are in a huge disadvantage if the LTR endsMeanwhile, men who get into long term relationships are in disadvantage as they don't develop the skills those men have. They only had to deal with one woman, and women are different. This sounds like you're describing a religious couple, where they chastely dated maybe a handful of people before meeting their bf/gf who they then married early on. I don't think the majority of secular/not very religious men and women are finding one person and sticking with them that early in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 04:53 PM |
| 4 | How would Women feel about a man who wears Make Up / Enhancements.Is he a drag performer, or was it a one time thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 04:46 PM |
| 3 | How would Women feel about a man who wears Make Up / Enhancements.I don't like makeup and don't own any myself, it just isn't something I've ever been down with using. Same with tattoos and piercings, just not my thing. As much as I like feminine men, I wouldn't like it if my FWB started wearing cosmetics or got tattoos. Natural looking body is better imo than artificially enhanced one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 02:59 PM |
| 23 | Women and girls are reading the manosphere forums and subs, that makes them less likely to date.I'm 38 now, been reading manosphere content since I was 19. It didn't make me stop dating, it made me even more aware of men's issues and certain men's feelings towards society, of which many are warranted. I wasn't more hesitant to talk to men or afraid of them, I still make eye contact and nod in greeting with strangers, although it did help me figure out some new red flags for vetting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 11:35 AM |
| 0 | Are hot women in their 20s actually interested in men in their 30s?It means you don't feel sexual attraction towards anyone until you have an emotional connection. You can acknowledge that someone is physically attractive, as in nice to look at, but you still won't have sexual desire for them unless you hang out a bunch and begin to like them as a person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 11:16 AM |
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