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Dealing with the Ex / STBXDaddyNoBux/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 11:03 AM
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DaddyNoBux/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 06:03 PM
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Women see men as dumb creatures. They really do. They think they are so above us that’s they can pull some of the most insane sh*t during a marriage. And they do with aplomb. Because we go along with it as we have way too much to lose or at least we think we do The road is strewn with the corpses of men who endured a brutal marriage just so they could spend every day with their kids or at the very least, keep a roof over their head. In essence, marriage is the biggest mistake a man will likely m…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/24 08:39 PM
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You’re doing fantastic, keep going brother. Things will only get better
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/24 06:38 PM
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Having to find a new house was probably the most stressful part of the divorce process in all honesty. It’s stressful at the best of times so being part of a divorce is PTSD material lol.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 03:14 PM
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Any man who’s been married, has a female sibling and has a daughter will know what I mean with this… There are patterns of behaviour that you see. It’s the deadly combination of uber entitlement and failure to acknowledge responsibility. They demonstrate this at all ages. From the 4 year old daughter who starts to blame her brother because she never ate her sugar puffs The teenage sister who stays out all night, thinking nothing of putting their families nerves through the shredder Your pensione…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 07:00 AM
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There’s 2 ways to address You go round to their house, grab the guy by the scruff of the neck and tell him that if he even looks at your kids the wrong way, you’re going to beat him to a pulp. Problem with this way is that you’ll likely end up in the county jail, with your anus being eyed up by the local inhabitants. Also throw in the fact that it’s going to mess up your access to the kids you’re trying to protect. Or you can accept that you can’t control anything that doesn’t happen within your…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 06:32 AM
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Mate I was like you at the start of the year. Quivering like a leaf. Rightly so as well because this is a brutal situation. However once the dust settled, I started to analyse the battlefield, assess my options then execute The fog of war will clear for you eventually Lawyer up, hit the gym and get jacked, get on a dating app just to even talk to some new chicks Focus on you and leave the divorce stuff to your lawyer We’re now at the end of the year and I’m in a blossoming relationship with a co…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 03:47 PM
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The crazy thing is that you ‘struggle’ to think of her having sex with someone else Do you think she will ‘struggle’ to have sex with someone else however? The reality is that the next one, if he already doesn’t exist, is going to get the sex show that you were denied. Real freak behaviour. That’s what they do mate. Let it go mate Go and get your dick wet. It’s never been easier with the apps. She’s gone
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 05:57 AM
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Jesus man, tell her to sling her hook. My kids go ape at times man. It can be overwhelming however the idea of texting my ex for a parenting consultation is mind boggling. Keep this up mate and you’ll be round mowing her lawn while her new man is sipping buds and watching NFL in your old chair.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 04:14 PM
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I honestly don’t know why they do it man. It’s weird. Denying your children access to their father because you hate him is some seriously twisted logic. One that will turn round to bite them in the arse at some point may I add
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 11:23 AM
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I respect the positivity from your post mate and I’m sure it will help a lot of guys. Agree with the last point as well. Many a strong man has been crushed at the hands of a woman. Some crumble however some rise from the ashes
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 10:01 AM
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Withdrawing is intentional
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 06:49 AM
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Therapy to me is just wishy washy woo woo clap trap, lining the pockets of some guy who ‘listens’ Good friends and family do that for free. I get that it works for some however for me it comes down to this…. Some guys take divorce as an opportunity to grow, knowing fine well, the stress accumulated during this process will result in growth. Iron sharpens iron. Some will just wither away, prepared to take back a wife who has had her anus completely prolapsed by Coworker Chad. Just like some guys …
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 06:27 AM
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They’re not really The ones that do tend to crow about it from the rooftops, making you think it’s becoming the norm The majority of men are sleepwalking through life, even more so when they’re married lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 06:17 AM
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You asked her if someone else is involved and she has denied it They always do until they get caught lol Mate your wife sounds like a nightmare. She’s done you a favour. Pick your stuff up, get some cash flow coming in and start building from there She’s gone man. She’s off like a circumcised foreskin.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/24 07:02 PM
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You know what they are like mate You take it back and she uses it against you. You can never win Tell her to stick it up her arse
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 08:40 PM
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It’s a gift mate. Do you demand gifts back from people when they piss you off? I think you know the answer to that one man Let it go. It’s a bad story.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 08:31 PM
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If she’s dropped the bomb then there is high probability that someone else is waiting in the wings. Regardless it’s over. Lawyer up, get jacked, 50/50 everything, dating apps, take your life back brother. The time is now
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 08:28 PM
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Great to hear mate! It’s amazing how guys gain that clarity during this brutality and learn to fight for what is theirs! And let’s be honest mate, you’ll be back…. Why? Because men need your help. All the best bro!
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 08:25 PM
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I remember coming on here when my ex dropped the big D on me Within about 2 comments, some guy had posted she was having an affair My dumb ass, weak and feeble brain completely rejected the notion. 1 week later I caught my ex in the house with another man. According to her, their affair started the day after we separated. Sure it did babe, sure it did. This is how they operate.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 01:47 PM
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Dude you’re handling this like a boss. Your post resonates with me because it’s so true They committed acts of betrayal which could traumatise the strongest of men However when we look at it, it was not our faults. They were just evil people. We’re free now to become the men we really are
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 07:14 AM
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There’s no point comprehending it. To do so is to try and understand the female mind. Here’s a tip. Go and study nuclear fission. You’ll get a bigger return on your investment and it’s way easier to figure out. But I’ll tell you this brother. She’s done you the biggest favour ever. She’s gave you your life back.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 07:29 AM
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I hear you bro. I’m in a similar situation I’m getting close to this woman. She has more red flags than there are stars in the sky But my god, what an ass she has. It’s easy to give advice on this one however let’s be honest, it’s super hard to pass up a chance with an attractive lady
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 05:26 PM
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Believe me brother, it’s what you need. The namby pamby approach doesn’t work in this situation Once your stbxws repugnant behaviour sinks in, you’re gonna get angry. Use that to fuel your action in a positive way eg gym, therapy etc
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 09:32 PM
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Bro, some guy has been pummelling your wife’s anus and you want to ‘work things out’ She has betrayed you in the worst possible way. It’s over. She hates you right now and her and AP have a good old laugh about you after sweaty sex. Keep this in mind next time you catch feelings and want things to be warm and fluffy again. Be a man and lawyer up. Its time to go to war
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 03:22 PM
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Good man, you’ve got this brother Cool heads prevail. It’s business now
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 03:14 PM
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So true my man
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 02:21 PM
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Lots of folk suggesting seeking legal advice in here. I wonder why?….. probably something to do with the fact that it’s your top priority at this point LAWYER UP BRO. Your life has been blown apart and your wife does not care one little bit. Time to go to war
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 12:22 PM
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Dude this John Wick urban monk lifestyle might seem attractive right now however human nature is eventually going to overwhelm your logical thought and you’re going to seek, even yearn, for companionship. That’s how we’re wired. Don’t let the past dictate the future. You’re going into the next relationship a more battle hardened man, who will be able to see the warning signs down the line
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 12:15 PM
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This is what they do my man My ex had checked out and was banging coworker chad. Once monkey branch was activated and Chad gave the word, she engineered an incident over something trivial to end things. Lawyer up bro, it’s over and your life has just went into hard mode
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/24 05:37 PM
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I agree mate. They are quite pathetic in some ways however that’s the battlefield nowadays. Adapt or die. You’re right with the hippie retreat as well. If it works then have at it man. These are just my thoughts and I’m putting them out there. They will help some and annoy others
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 08:22 PM
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You’ll get over this mate. No mention of kids means things will be a bit more cut and dry than most My story is successful in some ways. Caught my wife having an affair Had my life blown apart in a day Moped about for a few days and found this place Lawyered up eventually Played hardball Took advantage of the affair fog Ended up with 50/50 custody and 50/50 equity Now have my own flat and life is great This all happened in the space of 6 months The defining factors that got me on track where… Re…
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 07:14 PM
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Why is it awful? A large percentage of guys on here, me included, suffered betrayal trauma HARD So we’re supposed to spend the next year healing while our ex wives are getting banged senseless by CoWorker Chad? No chance What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Have at it boys. There is nothing more therapeutic than a new piece of ass
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 06:56 PM
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Best therapy is signing up to Tinder and getting some ass. Better than spending hard cash at some hippy retreat, getting your chakras ‘re aligned’ then coming home and having a cry wank because you realised you’ve just wasted a shit ton of cash.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 09:05 AM
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Mate, you could take around the world in 80 days. Staying at a 5 star location on every stop and catering to her every whim and desire… And she would still find something to bump her gums about Because that’s what they do, even more so when they have ‘checked out’ Getting this woman out your life would pay off big time mate. She’s probably texting guys while you’re bursting your arse, being Mrs Doubtfire, thinking she’s ‘asleep’
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 11:10 AM
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Absolutely dude. Nothing more therapeutic than the legs of a new woman wrapped around you
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 12:35 PM
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That’s what I’m talking about brother! We’re free!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 12:34 PM
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It’s GRINDR dude. Need to keep up to date with the apps my man
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 12:33 PM
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No I actually did 40 something single dad is quite the catch on dating apps
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 10:56 AM
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I did a serious amount of banging via Tinder after separating from my ex. That was my therapy. None of this ‘work on myself for x amount of days’ airy fairy hippy crack. Just get back out and bang lol. It works guys and has done for years. That’s why there is a saying built around it!
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 05:50 AM
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Bit of a tricky one mate, you sound UK based for some reason? She’s at it mate, if your name is on the deeds/mortgage then you should be entitled to 50/50 on any sale, regardless of who paid the deposit. She’s guilt tripping you hard as well. She decided to split so she needs to take that one on the chin. It wasn’t daddy who decided to nuke the marriage Get in for the kill. There is a 99.9% chance that some sucker is banging her or sniffing about at the very least. Lawyer up as soon as. She’s no…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 06:18 PM
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“She is not your friend anymore. All she is now is your opponent in an expensive lawsuit and custody battle.” Divorce in a nutshell lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 09:35 AM
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Mate, lawyer up!!!! Yesterday!!!!! She’s playing a smart game and you’re falling right into the trap. Get a lawyer asap so they can take the reins. Things tend to settle down once lawyers are involved. They take the sting out the game
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 02:55 PM
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That wasn’t eggshells she was walking on during her all expenses paid LA adventure It was her vag tingling for Chad combined with the guilt of knowing she was fecking you over. Bear this in mind when you go into war mode. Time to take her down
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 09:04 PM
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If she was serious she would have filed. Maybe you should take the lead here mate.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 05:53 AM
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I went down the narc rabbit hole. It’s like cold reading to a certain degree. If you look hard, you will find whatever you want. I’ve settled on the ex being a c-unt. She definitely fulfils the criteria for that diagnosis
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 04:36 PM
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Of course she can get attention from other men. Lots of guys are thirstier than an infidel running through the Sahara desert, escaping the clutches of Saladin’s army. They would literally feck the hole on a dolphins head. There are videos on YouTube of guys doing tinder experiments, creating grotesque profiles with obese 75 year old women and they have chads lining up to bang them. It’s just the way it is man. You had your turn brother. Let her ride the wave of thinking she’s prize material when…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 06:30 AM
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It’s all a mindset. Some guys just want to bury their heads under the duvet every morning , thinking life is over. Not only did they hand over their balls over to their wife but they literally became a prisoner in their marriage. They’re like these guys who spend most of their life banged up, get released then go commit some low level crime so they can get hauled back in again because they can’t face the rigours of day to day life, preferring the state to feed them and provide shelter. Marriage …
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 06:19 AM
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I read on here once that you need to look at it like ‘navy seal training’ That says it all really I ‘cohabitated’ for 2 months. It was living hell. I wouldn’t even wish it on the guy my wife was cheating on me with. It’s that bad. Get out, or get her out, while you can
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 05:20 PM
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For me, it was being in IKEA the other day. Going to IKEA on my own, knowing exactly what I wanted, meant I was laser focused and in and out in about 5 minutes. Good for me because I fecking hate the IKEA experience While in there, I watched all the guys walking around with their wife. They were dead behind the eyes, shuffling about like an extra from The Walking Dead. That 1000 yard IKEA stare in full effect yet at the same time, feigning interest in whatever their wife would DECIDE what to pur…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 10:05 AM
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She’s not in pain. She’s living da vida loca While you’re ruminating yourself into next week aching for some scraps, dreaming that she’s feeling bad about what happened. Listen mate, you need to fill your time and you need to get back out there. You’re wasting time on this piece of trash when you could be turning that anger into fuel in order to become a better man. She gave you that opportunity. Use it brother
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 04:21 PM
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Cohabiting is an absolute nightmare existence I would rather spend a couple of months in in a North Korean labour camp than go through that hell again
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 04:07 PM
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“She said because it will get ugly” Translation “Divorce me cocksucker and I’ll leave you looking like a rug that’s been in a mosh pit” The brass neck of this woman
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 06:13 AM
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She’s got vag tingles for another man mate, however she wants to have her cake and eat it. Pull the trigger on this one. It will do you the world of good. I know this because my ex pulled the same stunt and there’s plenty guys on here in the same boat who had this bullshit ‘arrangement’ thrust upon them by a wife who had other plans
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 05:51 AM
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A good cleanser and moisturiser is all you need brother. CeraVe do good ones as well Make sure you’re flossing those teeth and cutting your fingernails as well!
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 08:43 PM
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Level up your wardrobe. You’re likely coming out of a divorce with dress sense that would make Ernest P Worrell point at you and laugh. Plenty of YouTube channels to get the ball rolling. ZZ Top were right. Every girl is crazy about a sharp dressed man. Invest in some quality colognes. Start a skin care routine. Your skin likely resembles Clint Eastwood’s scrotum after years of neglect because you were too busy trying to make your ex ‘happy’ instead of taking care of yourself. Be playful when co…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 08:14 PM
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I’m the opposite I’ve been on dating apps and taking advantage. A 304 phase but with a masculine twist. There is nothing more therapeutic than getting your dick wet after a divorce. In my opinion of course
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 03:23 PM
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You rationalise it by accepting she has moved on and chose the shityiest way to do it In other words, you’re better than her. She has to live her life knowing she blew up a family due to vag tingles whereas you manned up and took care of the kids. You then take that rational thinking a step further by lawyering up and going for yours while she’s pre occupied with butt plugs and scrolling online for Victoria’s Secret lingerie for the dumb shmuck who’s took her on
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 05:08 PM
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Did I write this ???
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 08:32 PM
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One thing I learned through this experience is keep details minimal with your mother and sisters if you have them They get highly emotional and will want blood. They will give you advice that could seriously feck up the divorce process
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 02:48 PM
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It’s the residue of codependency Once you identify it, you’ll catch yourself in the moment At that point you think ‘wtf am I thinking’ and snap out of it. Over time you’ll break free
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 05:47 PM
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Time to man up brother and take the fight to this scumbag She’s trying to call the shots. Don’t back down. Play her at her own game. Lawyer up. Voice recorder up. Go into robot mode. Show no emotion. It’s cold, hard thinking from this moment on. LAWYER UP
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:00 PM
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You’re bargaining bro. It’s normal You’ll eventually realise she screwed you over
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 04:30 AM
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Lesson learned mate Are you going to ask her to give you back the money for all the meals and other gifts you paid for while you were trying to get into her pants? Exactly Time to live life mate. Just thinking about this stuff consumes energy that is best required for going out there and kicking ass my man
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 06:13 AM
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When my ex first proposed separation, she put forward the idea that we should have a ‘parenting marriage’ I was dazed like I had went 12 rounds with Mike Tyson so accepted but something didn’t feel right. Why didn’t it feel right? Because it ISN’T fecking right. My gut was screaming at me. Yours is too. Listen to it man
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 10:09 AM
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My memories consist of The washing machine constantly being on, sending bills sky high A nagging wife Condensation when she refused to open a window when having a shower, causing mold The thermostat being bumped up, even on a hot summer day Anxiety and tension My parenting skills always being questioned But yeah, family home and all that Feck that Now you get to live life on your own terms brother Time to rule the world
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 06:36 AM
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Bro we’ve all simped. It’s the bargaining part of the process. A phase of the healing journey so to speak. The fact you’ve recognised it is a positive. Keep walking through the darkness brother. The light is slowly approaching. You just need to keep walking
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 04:22 PM
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So she starts a new job and within 2 years wants to separate Hmmmmmm Sounds to me like a co worker has been sniffing about her. Get a lawyer asap brother. They will take the sting out of the game This hurt you’re suffering is going to turn into hatred pretty soon. Use that as fuel to get everything you deserve
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 07:12 AM
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Mate if the opportunity arises to get your dick wet then get in about it like a dog eating French fries. There is nothing more therapeutic than getting some new vag.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 01:18 PM
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Blindsided - check Nothing you do will ever make her happy - check Yep, she’s got new dick feels bro. Time to push the button man
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 07:57 AM
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I cannot for the life of me, remember any ‘good times’ I had with my ex All I remember is the tension, anxiety, passive aggressive behaviour, gaslighting and discontent. Which is probably why I got over her pretty rapid. The only ‘good time’ I remember now is the day she asked to separate. That was the day I was set free
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 02:33 PM
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320lbs man. That would be like Andre The Giant coming at you
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 07:24 AM
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Yeah man Gym goer and love to hike Yet never a full body photo in the profile I always remember my old man telling me you would have more chance understanding nuclear physics than women. I wish I’d listened to him man
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 08:06 PM
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That’s about as absurd as Sean Connery playing a Spaniard in Highlander
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 03:48 PM
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I love you but I’m not in love with you AKA I’m riding the cock rodeo but if Chad dumps me, maybe we can work this one out Lawyer up bro
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 03:40 PM
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This is why I shake my head when I see these guys on social media shouting from the rooftops about having a ‘traditional housewife’ and how they’re doing the hard graft while she ‘runs the house’ Wait until she overdoses on Tik Tok relationship advice and starts getting vag tingles from the local pool cleaner You will get hit with the alimony hammer so hard you’re going to come out of that divorce looking like a rug that resides in a meth heads living room Thank god my STBXW had a full time job.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 03:37 PM
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Wise words brother Any man taking back a an ex after she’s been pumped and dumped has issues that they need to address
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 11:56 AM
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Listen to this man He knows what he’s talking about
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 08:18 PM
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The thought of reconciliation with a cheating wife blows my mind What a hellish existence that would be. Move on with your life OP. She’s given you your life back, although it probably doesn’t feel like it right now.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 08:07 PM
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Forget the back story mate. She could have been Mother Theresa for the last 19 years for all you care but the bottom line is that she has new dick feels and she’s riding it right under your nose. That’s the respect she has for the last 19 years. Callous behaviour. It’s business from here on in mate. She’s a ghost to you now. It’s going to be tough brother. I’ve been there and I’m coming out the tail end. It will get better because one day a light bulb is going to go off in your head and the hatr…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 07:32 AM
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Mate if you feel you’ve moved on then you likely have. Everyone’s journey is different. I say this because your timeline is similar to mines. I’m 5 months in and could not give a flying feck what my ex does. She’s a ghost to me now. Dating apps helped me and getting my dick wet only amplified the process.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/24 07:16 PM
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Mate she has admitted to being a dating site. Thats a bigger red flag that Putin has on his bedroom wall. She’s riding new dick. Lawyer up HARD. Bunker down and get ready for war
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/24 04:23 PM
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I was told send 2 letters max. Anything after that and you’re practically burning money.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/24 03:57 PM
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Check out Divorce Support For Men UK on Facebook. Lots of great info on there. I actually met a guy on there who after chatting on the phone, put me on the right path.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/24 01:32 PM
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Respect for willing to dip into your pockets however it’s his fight. Not yours. Don’t get caught in the pain/revenge loop as well. That will likely result in more expenses for a short term buzz. Not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 02:50 PM
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There are two lessons I learned in life Play fighting always ends in tears and dead bedrooms end in divorce
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 05:27 AM
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I’ll crack the jokes mate
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/24 06:14 PM
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Ride off into the sunset and then what? Feeling good for 10 minutes then slowly realising you gave her what all woman crave.. A dramatic reaction All the whilst she’s riding some new dick into battle then indulging in post shag giggles, talking about the ex husband who never got over her. Let it go brother. You should have said it to her at the time. This sh*t is tough but we come out stronger in the end. If you’re going to say anything to her, it should be that.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:39 AM
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Thanks bro This place has helped me a lot and there’s a few guys on here who dispense gold. Youll figure out who they are
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 08:33 PM
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The usual suspects. Tinder and hinge
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 08:09 PM
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It’s actually pretty easy, plenty of video on YT will put you in the right direction. Take it from a guy who 6 months ago was dressing like a homeless bum
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 08:09 PM
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Starts with T, ends with R and has inde in the middle
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 05:09 PM
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The woman who left my house this morning definitely wasn’t created by Chat GPT that’s for sure
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 02:53 PM
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Really? I’ve been blazing through them and it’s been very therapeutic
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 12:51 PM
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Jesus, do not send the poem man. This isn’t The Notebook mate. She isn’t going to get doey eyed and think about what once was. She’s going to roll here eyes and laugh about it with the next dick she rides. Seriously bro, just get your head down and smash life. You’re doing well man.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 06:52 PM
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I don’t get this ‘healing’ process. It’s a vague term If plowing through chicks takes your mind off things and makes you feel good then have at it. There’s a reason why they say ‘the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else’ Because it’s true Plenty of cheating wives got over their relationships by riding new dick. That form of ‘healing’ seemed to have worked for them
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 12:47 PM
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Lawyer up If you don’t you’ll just spend wasted energy in survival mode. They’re expensive however they take the sting out the game
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 10:40 AM
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Haha yeah he had his ‘crawl space’ moment for sure
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 01:30 PM
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I think most of the guys in here would bite your hand off for 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 01:28 PM
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No kids is divorce on cheat mode
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 07:33 AM
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I feel you bro however my advice was regarding dating
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:32 AM
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You need to stop directing your jaded state towards woman however I totally understand where you’re coming from. They are what they are. Same goes for us guys too. Start doing bodyweight exercises at home, get a good skin care routine (a cleanser and moisturiser are quite cheap), a good haircut or shave it all off if you’re trying to cover a bald spot (grow a beard to compensate) and buy quality second hands that fit well from a good website. Don’t console yourself with ragewanks as well. Keep t…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 06:44 AM
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Fantastic post mate. Very practical advice and always refreshing to hear from a fellow Brit
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 01:34 PM
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This is all we can do brother.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 04:53 PM
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Feck her next move. Her next move will be asking if she can bring lover boy around to the house to test run her butt plugs, while you’re at work. And then you’ll be back to square one on the grief path. Get to work on your next move. That’s the only thing you can control
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 02:23 PM
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I hear you brother. That’s actually a good point you make and has provided food for thought My gym sessions during my marriage were swift as the ex would start nagging if I was out too long. That meant I couldn’t really kill the weights and a lot of sessions were on cruise control. However I’m also of the mindset that a man has to rewire their brain post marriage, helping to break those thought patterns that are steeped in codependency. If you’ve been training throughout your marriage then lifti…
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 12:04 PM
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As much as I love the gym, this advice really only applies to guys who let themselves go during their marriage. A lot of guys were training hard while their marriage was dying. For those guys, combat sports is the logical route. Something to truly occupy and re wire your brain. Either way, just fecking train hard regardless. Getting muscular and lean is going to put you way ahead in the game
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 09:08 AM
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Jesus, she has played you like a flute Heal up bro. Time to fight dirty
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 08:59 AM
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Jesus, that first paragraph hit hard. My STBXW was exactly the same. A clean freak who would launch into a cleaning frenzy anytime she was stressed. I cannot wait to get my own place and let my kids run riot. She doesn’t even let them jump on the couch.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 08:35 PM
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Great post
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 03:00 PM
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OP is actually a big help. Check his post history
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/24 04:26 PM
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This x 2 OP
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 06:46 AM
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As much as it hurts now be glad it’s happened because it gives clarity and allows true healing to occur. I don’t care what anyone says. Hatred is the platform in which indifference is created
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 10:45 AM
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Controlling behaviour. You’re only married to your wife therefore you shouldn’t have to run it past anyone bar herself. Everyone else will find out eventually.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 10:39 AM
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My STBXW has introduced my kids to her AP while we are still cohabiting Initially I put my foot down however it dawned on me that she could turn this against me and say I was controlling. I told her she was free to do as she wishes. She can do whatever she wants with the kids on her time. She would have weaponised this against me so I had to take the power back. At the end of the day it was going to happen at some point. May as well get it out the way and comfort myself in the fact that I would …
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 04:33 PM
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Gut instinct mate. It’s there for a reason
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 02:35 PM
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I’m sorry brother but calling a guy ‘cute’ would set alarm bells ringing for me. Throw in the shots with the boys and you have more red flags than a Russian military parade. Hard exit
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 03:43 PM
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Dude, your gut instinct is kicking in. Trust it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:05 PM
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Throw a combat sport in with that new fitness routine brother. I’ve started BJJ and it has been a game changer. Rewire that brain man. If you can handle being punched in the face or getting choked out then this divorce hell will start to become more tolerable and will add to the armour you’re building You’ve got this brother. The only way is THROUGH
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 05:44 PM
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Are you based in Scotland?
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 04:04 PM
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It’s over. The pick me dance will only rob you of your dignity and make you look even weaker in his eyes. Buckle up, ensure the kids are taken care of, figure out what you are financially entitled to and get moving
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 01:53 PM
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My stbxw has went full on WW2 style blackout. It’s actually quite funny to watch it play out
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 02:34 PM
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Anytime she enters your mind, flip the script and ask yourself this… “What can I do to make ME better?” Gym, combat sports, creating a side hustle, writing. Anything that occupies your mind and is focused on development. You’re going to have dark thoughts attack your mind constantly and you have to turn it round. You’re in a war right now and you’re going to lose that war unless you start prioritising yourself. She is gone. She’s not coming back and she deserves not one fucking iota of your ener…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 10:38 PM
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This is a great post
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 02:09 PM
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They’ve been banging for a while mate. She’s feeding you a ton of bullshit, hence her reaction to you getting in touch with scumbag AP. This is a common story. She’s your enemy now. Treat her as such
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 11:17 PM
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Listen to this man
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 04:59 PM
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If it is it’s a bad one because I never laughed at any point I was too busy embracing the motivation it provided I guess and no wonder, it’s a great post
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 01:15 PM
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Massive respect for your stoic approach mate. Once a woman experienced new dick feels, she’s gone. She’s a ghost. A man can take a physical beating to the point of death, dust himself off and accept his loss. However the effects of an affair are devastating on the emotions. Something that we usually lack the tool set to deal with. We have to overcome emotion with logic which is one of the most intense battles we will ever face. And if we defeat the emotion then we become better men in the proces…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 06:37 AM
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Do it man. You will not regret it
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 10:41 PM
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You can’t wrap your head around it. It’s alien behaviour. All you can do is control your response to it. Your response to the dark thoughts that will try their damn hardest to consume your mind. Rise above it and hold your head high. Men are bound by honour. You need to fill your time with something that is going to establish new thought patterns which will replace the deeply ingrained ones that were created in your relationship. People say hit the gym however as much as that helps, you’re basic…
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 10:11 PM
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Mate, you aren’t even married. Trust your gut, ditch her and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 05:17 PM
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The game is sold not told
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 03:50 PM
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Haha I think they prefer the direct approach nowadays mate. Knowing how things are nowadays, you could probably end up on a stalking charge for sending roses
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 03:26 PM
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Why just not ask if she’s single then get her digits. Sending flowers beforehand comes off as a bit creepy Remember you’ve been through a divorce and survived. You’re the man
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 02:47 PM
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Fuck knows. It’s like when, as a kid, you used to plug an AC adapter into the wall and you’d lick the end of it, knowing fine well it was going to give you a shock. You know it’s going to going to end in tears but you do it anyway. Why? Because humans are dumb animals
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 11:47 AM
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OPs name is ‘iwannabewithmyap’ for fucks sake
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 07:10 AM
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You fucked up mate. You cheated. Own it and move on and try not to dwell on the devastation that you’ve caused, which will be exacerbated when your kids are old enough to realise and process what you did. Buckle up because your wife is going to financially ragdoll you. You’re going to end up like a copy of Hustler that’s been passed about San Quentin. All because you couldn’t keep your dick in your pants.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 03:55 PM
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I’ll crack the jokes mate
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 03:45 PM
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Mines was an alcoholic adulterer who has put my FIL through hell. I know. Wtf was I thinking
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 05:40 PM
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‘It feels good’ Does it really? Sounds like torture to me. Let it go brother. If she really cared about how you feel then she would be minimising contact
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 01:21 PM
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Why are you trying to initiate conversation with her? It’s over. Any communication at this point is about the kid only. Pull yourself back. If she texts you for a chit chat, leave her hanging for a few days or even better, don’t respond at all. She isn’t your friend. She’s a memory and probably a bad one at that
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 01:13 PM
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This is the way I’m in the same boat OP. When I realised my wife was cheating, any feeling I had towards her died. Gone. Why should I (or you) invest any energy in someone who has zero regard for your mental health. She is gone. Other than a highly emotional incident over the last few days, a friend told me it was all about business now. That was a lightbulb moment for me. It’s a business transaction. It’s about getting what I want and getting the fuck out. Play the game. Suck it up. There’s lig…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 12:22 PM
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