So yeah, like others have reported, by the time you figure out the relationship is dead she’s already moved on to the next. We were separated in October for a 6mo trial separation, with the agreement that we wouldn’t see others and we would make a decision in March (keep trying, or give up). I admittedly half-assed for a few months, but around early December got my shit in gear and started actually trying heavy. Christmas was all-out, spared no expenses - gave the gifts her and her son always deserved, and then some. And flew her to a huge concert in LA in February and spared no expense, any souvenirs she wanted I bought, art sculptures for home, sure. Michelin star meal, ok, let’s do it!

In March, she officially said “I can’t go back” and that while LA was fun sometimes, she felt she was “walking on eggshells the whole trip”. I, however, was all smiles during the trip, fully focused on being the best husband I could moving forward. I was a full “yes man”, and genuinely enjoyed doing that.

I sent her some money last week because, during the divorce disclosures, I noted she had a low amount in her account. She had a bio-son, so I wanted to help give them some breathing room out of my own goodness of my heart.

Then today I stumbled upon a nugget of info - she has been in a relationship since Feb 9… We came back from the trip on Feb 5. I am devastated, I feel like I was cheated on, and taken advantage of. She’s been with a new guy while I’ve been the kind person genuinely wanting to help. Clearly feelings are 100% one-sided. So now I’ve trying to view this as solely a business transaction - the sooner I close this deal, the sooner I can move on with my life.

Thanks for listening to me rant.