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You dont ask. You file first before she does. The snake that bites first wins.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 10:15 PM
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I blocked her and deleted the contact. She says what she needs to in writing and I will write back but most of the time say nothing. If you have kids, communicate ONLY in writing with her. Then when they are 18 not one word ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 07:07 PM
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This is gonna get a lot of downvotes but here is my observation. Every female animal in the world uses reproductive rights in exchange for resources. Why do people think the human animal is any different?
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 11:58 AM
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Put it in a penny jar. My son found it and keeps it in a piggy bank.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 11:20 PM
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The whore did automatically
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 11:11 PM
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Im convinced that women are self preservational timid scared little reptiles. They slither off instead of run with a pack. Loyalty is relative, empathy is a switch in a panel, and accountability/honesty is based on feelings not reality. Its just who they are. I cant get mad at it, its primal. Dogs bark, and piss on things and shit in the woods and we dont get mad at them. Its heart breaking but I think marriage is a broken institution in general. Just date for a few years, then when it wears out…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 09:24 AM
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I have no idea. NC is the worst.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/25 12:33 PM
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My ex is going to drag this thing out for 5 years it seems. 2.5 years and seem to be going nowhere with this divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 04:37 PM
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I regret getting married and having kids with her. Not the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 03:31 PM
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Get a restraining order ex parte and lie that she is on meth and threatened you with a gun. Then you get the house and the kids and she has to spend thousands of dollars proving that isnt true but by then its status quo and shes fucked. Dont do that but women do it every day and get away with it. Talk to a lawyer before filing and they can advise you based on the county you live in, but its Cobra Kai rules. Strike hard, strike first and no mercy.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 09:27 AM
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Anger hurts you more than them. You release. You physically move and work. I left the office and became a tradesman. You create. You be a good dad. You find a new home. You find what you were before her or your genuine self. Read books, walk, build things, move on. She did a long time ago.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/25 11:25 PM
1

Be grateful. You could spent your life with such a horrible person and you didn’t.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 11:06 PM
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Look at them and smile, “You know thats not true.” They look crazy and give up. You look stable and trustworthy.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 12:58 PM
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I honestly think society doesn’t care. The state sees us as an ATM, dss does too, the courts does as well, your ex does as well. You have kids? You’re just a visitor. They belong to her and the state now. Men are disposable and women are the valued sex.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 05:28 AM
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At one time she was. Till she turned out to be more of an insect instead of a woman. She mated with her partner, then killed and cannabalized him; now keeps his corpse in a web so she can play with it any time she wants. If I didnt have kids with her, i would move to another continent.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 12:33 PM
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It takes two incomes for one home and somehow the family court thinks one man is gonna pay for 2 homes. Blackmail, extortion is illegal in all 50 states but if a woman says “give me what I want or I’ll take the house and the kids and your money!” The court helps her do it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 11:49 PM
7

Yes and having kids with her
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 08:02 AM
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I don’t wheel my trash down to the curb and go digging through it for anything sentimental. I don’t cry about replacing something broken or worthless around the house. You don’t ever go back to old girlfriends, jobs or towns
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 12:46 PM
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More than 10 years looks like she is banging a sugar daddy and you are creep. I really enjoy peace and freedom and dont miss the womans presence and transactional intimacy (do what she nags and bitches about or you get nothing in the bedroom).
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/25 10:10 PM
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Thats pretty cruel of her. What do you look like? Does she have male friends? Does she have apps on her phone? Has she lost a bunch of weight recently? See if shes been screwing around and get out if you can without alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/25 09:26 AM
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The best thing about leaving and losing your home and kids and dreams etc? The leaving part.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 08:45 AM
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Most men dont make it and commit suicide. But no one cares about us or the kids so theres no use complaining. Hope she slithers off and starts ruining another mans life and forgets about you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 04:57 PM
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I showed up on a Friday to get some things put of the garage. There was a verbal “you can get your stuff.” But not one in writing. Then an arrest for trespass.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 02:45 PM
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She deserved to be waited on hand and foot dont ya know. You should be thrilled to have had the pleasure and opportunity to serve her. Sex once a month was totally worth it. This is cynicism but damnit she was became a demanding unbearable person.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/25 05:16 AM
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Yep, and since its dating if things dont work out its good bye and shake hands. No fighting to keep half of your things!!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 09:09 PM
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I am aware now. I know a LOT more about female behavior and think instead of letting emotions or my need to get my rocks off run the show. I date and some women don’t “flip the switch,” either. I don’t need two degrees from the school of hard knocks either.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 07:52 AM
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Ive been arrested 4 times now. Had to quit my profession. Make more money in construction. Beat all the charges but one, she got the step son to help her and made it stick. Had to move out. These girls aint loyal.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 08:11 AM
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Its been over 2 years and now we are finally talking about temporary custody order. I want to fire my lawyer but my town judges wont wven speak to you without counsel
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 06:27 PM
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Take a look at the animal kingdom feminists and tell me your different, is my canned response.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 09:24 AM
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A long time ago those existed. Some still do.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 08:22 AM
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You said it the best when you said “she doesn’t FEEL wrong.” It’s feelings with them and don’t let reality get in the way.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 12:10 AM
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File first. Then file a restraining order so she has to move out or move out. She will file one and then you will have to pay for everything most likely, since restraining orders and divorce go together like halloween and candy. She wont get a job so she can get alimony. If she has cheated then some states will deny her alimony. Get a separation agreement asap so you can see your kid at least half of the time. Otherwise they will file a restraining order so they get the kids the house the money …
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/25 08:45 AM
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I for one dont like controlling unbearable bitches that go by “bossy.” I like want a partner not a tyrant.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/25 07:31 AM
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And you probably can have a place for your stuff too! Because it is your house, not her house and your the servant with a penis.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 10:00 AM
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15 years in career and married 5 years. Im going to throw up.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 12:39 AM
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Lets say you had a pension and you changed careers and lost pension due to this. Is she still entitled to half?
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 10:51 PM
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I remember not long after married and she said only once a week was enough. I told her a womans need to “talk or be heard.” Is the male equivalent. So it would be in her best interest to not be a frigid control freak.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 12:59 AM
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She wrote the letter to the court with all the boxes checked for her “editors” to look at and make it more believable for the incoming Silver Bullet Method Divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 12:30 AM
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Here’s a good argument for your lawyer or if you’re pro bono, “it took two incomes for one home, what kind of logic does it take to think that my one income will support two homes?”
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 06:47 PM
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My friend is a barber after prison. He makes a LOT of money. Stick with it. I left my BS office job for a skilled trade and am so much happier.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 05:48 PM
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We had 3 kids, which she demanded. I worked and did the chores etc 90% of the time anyways since she was too good to help out around the house. When i was exhausted and she wanted “excitement because I’m bored all week;” I would go for a walk or recharge. She started banging some ugly dude that makes 3 times what I make and now the kids just stay at her parents while they spend time together. So a deadbeat, entitled, using the kids as gold bricks, single mother. I don’t know if it was the kids. …
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/25 04:27 PM
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Block her on everything man, even after the divorce. Let her leech off someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/25 12:57 PM
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If she can do the ultimate disrespect and then you allow it she OWNS YOU, and it thrills and disgusts her at the same time. You dont ever wheel your trash down to the curb and see if there is anything sentimental in it. You dont cry about replacing something broken or worthless around the house. Go to the doctor and find out what happened to your balls or your spine, if sucking up to your ex is what your about. I am civil with her around the kids but I aint partners, friends etc with that at all…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 01:42 AM
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They’re gonna ask you when they are ready.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 05:19 PM
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My ex nuked the family on valentines. It didnt phase me at all. At some point the WoMan is responsible for her shit, not you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 12:34 PM
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I didnt really have a choice. File now before she has a “fight with you,” and you are arrested for domestic violence, etc and she gets a silver bullet method divorce. Then you really will be hopeless.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 09:15 AM
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The divorce, affair, her AP doing stuff to the kids and not sleeping etc. Ive gotten laid etc but the morning wood, etc isnt like when I was living with a woman.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 07:03 PM
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I just turned 40 and mine is gone.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 08:36 AM
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Save them. Get a google drive and save them there then “delete them off your phone.”
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/25 09:33 AM
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No.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 01:12 PM
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Mine gets within intimacy distance at custody exchange. I’ve asked her to not stand close to me, not touch me etc. It’s disgusting 🤮.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 10:24 PM
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Men who fight back usually do well. When they fold up because they are “still in love with her,” and she was done with him a year before filing and could cut his throat and sleep like an infant. You have proof of her engineering that criminal stuff? Two years ago she thought i was done and I did too. Now her dad is begging me to take a deal of 50/50, etc. The scale is tipping in MY favor and im gonna mash the proverbial boot into the throat.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 11:37 PM
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Tell his wife, fuck her and sue the both of them is my attitude.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 03:15 PM
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Crazy broads are good lays. They are also more problems than they are worth.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 01:15 PM
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Talk to all of them and tell them everything. The. She cant get one because its a conflict of interest?
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 08:04 PM
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You better file first. You get to dictate the terms. Separate finances, etc. drop it all in one day. Keep the house and the kids. She can live with him.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 05:59 PM
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I have a daughter. She was 2 when her mother decided to get into a brawl with me while holding her to bounce me out of the house, and move her AP in the house. She dislocated my daughter’s arm. My little girl aches to see me. She fights with her brother for my attention and its hard on him because he gets less than nothing from his mother and I have to share. I guess my point is this, you will have a little girl that loves you more than a wife ever could. I cant leave mine. I have work opportuni…
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 11:52 AM
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File a motion to compel?
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/25 08:37 PM
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My daughter gave me a little pink fox to “hold while she was gone.” I gave her a big hug. I had a picture of the fox on IG. The ex found it somehow (she’s blocked from the separation) and spanked our daughter for the affection she showed me. She grounds them for “telling Daddy you love him.” I try not to think about them because it does hurt, always. I have to hide our time from the ex and treasure the time I have with my son and daughter. A good parent is RARE. Reliable, Accessible and Responds…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/25 09:34 AM
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He wasn’t there when i went to pick stuff up. I had a witness when he said it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 10:46 PM
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I spent yesterday in the county jail because her dad said i could get my stuff out of a detached garage (50yds away from the house). I went by and she said i had to leave and i called the sheriffs department (my home no restraining order). Took a warrant out for trespassing. Then asked for a restraining order and i wont see the kids for weeks now. I had the advice of the sheriffs department the entire time and she still can go make shit up and have me arrested.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 11:41 AM
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Yeah I’m not gonna do something like an isis interview with my kids. I have an audio recorder on the phone and i just hit record when I get them.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 07:10 AM
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Her boyfriend put a cigarette out on my sons leg (5) and scratched up my daughters (3) vagina to say I was hurting them. I had a video of the kids describing it and the case was thrown out. But when they investigated them, they said “We’re not together.” So CPS didnt take it any further. I have a former marine recon friend who is a PI that is on them. (It took a few months to get a hold of him.). This also happens to be the guy she spent afternoons with while I was coaching football or driving a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 09:49 AM
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I was a teacher for 12 years before I became a plumber. Keep being a good dad, most kids grow up to hate their mother for this stuff and leave her as soon as they can.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 09:42 AM
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I happen to have one. She is good we are 4 and 1 in the courtroom. The first time she got some BS through but after that its been nice watching the ex slam doors on the judge and pitch fits in the courtroom room.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 09:40 AM
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I will. Is it a case or a documentary or something? Edit: Wow, i just read the document. They are working on that list pretty hard and i have been taking the “high road.” I need to address some of these things asap. Thank you so much!
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 09:37 AM
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No its pre-final
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/25 09:10 PM
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I changed careers and am an apprentice, by the time the divorce is over I’ll make more money. A lot more.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 10:08 PM
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No that is monthly after a 1000$ health insurance premium for the kids. Because fuck her spousal support and child support. I pay the daughters tuition at her day care. Im trying to make her a broke miserable single mom
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 10:07 PM
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I am an “apprentice” plumber. I changed careers and make 20$ an hour. When the divorce finalizes the boss is raising it to 30s$. On the plan to print money now. The exercising wasnt an issue ever. Drinking beer wasnt healthy but she isnt around buying it all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 09:52 PM
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If she depends on something other than herself for happiness ie you, the weather, her nails etc; you are gonna have a miserable woman that divorces YOU one day when she “isn’t happy anymore.” If you depend on her for your happiness, then you are disgusting to her. Like a weak, needy, little boy she has to take care of instead of a man she RESPECTS. Try counseling and clear direct language with her and see if it improves. Dont give up so early, but knowing when its time to leave is hard for men b…
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 10:32 AM
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No. I have a crazy story though. She was with a pharmacist. Her mom wanted me to look like a monster and had her millionaire cousin get me pretty drunk and took me to a whore house. I said this isnt my thing man lets go. He bought one and brought her jn the car. So i took my phone out and called the cops. She ran, he took me home and nothing happened. When their “plan failed.” She took out a restraining order ex parte and i filed for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 08:06 AM
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They do that. It’s a form of manipulation. Its what they do…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/25 10:41 PM
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Less than 5% workout long term according to statistics and my lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 08:42 PM
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Mine already was BEFORE she “didnt want to be married to me anymore!” How did I handle it? I told the coward, “Thanks for taking out my trash man.”
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 08:37 PM
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How did you meet her? App, friend, etc. Asking for a friend ;)
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 02:33 PM
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Thats why i have a couple friends i can stay the night with or not.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 08:29 AM
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Well, it’s like this for me. I have work, my kids and I’m lonely. I want to date and be with a woman who isn’t going to cram a relationship down my throat and then start listing demands. It’s nice to take it slow and see what she’s like when she stops making her best effort. What is she really like? I would maybe talk to him, he doesn’t know what you’re feeling etc yet? If he doesn’t text you, let’s be real the most attractive guy is the one you can’t have. If he comes at your every beck and cal…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 10:53 AM
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When my son told me about watching her and her friend for “play dates.” But she was the one that was playing.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 01:18 PM
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I’m living it. I talked to a therapist when this started because I was there. And when I feel hopeless, sometimes reading stuff like that really encourages me man. I was in a hell, and now it’s just a big scar and I came a long way from where I was. Hang in there and never stop fighting for yourself and your kids. You’re not a lone that’s for sure, there’s a lot of “us.”
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 09:48 PM
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I did a lot of first things with my ex also. Turns out there are a lot of us that were unappreciated “father figures” for these girls. I have been separated 2 years and some mornings I wake up and tear up over something. It’s horrible, to me it is worse than a death. I grew up with my ex wife as well man. I guess they way I framed it, is like this. If she could care less about everything between us and the history, house and kids; why am I wasting another second hurting over her? It will take ti…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 09:29 AM
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Fight back for yourself and your kids. Don’t settle for anything less than half. Get the meanest, smartest lawyer you can afford. The better lawyer wins. I’d make sure his wife knows full well what he’s doing and then sue for alienation of affection if your state allows. Take care of yourself and don’t drink like some guys do. It’s a drawn out “campaign “. Not a battle. Only communicate with her in writing, do not move out if you can help it but she will file a restraining order sometimes. I’m s…
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/24 02:44 PM
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File first, file hard, no mercy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 04:41 PM
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Tom Brady wasn’t good enough. Brad Pitt wasn’t good enough, etc. I have some divorce guilt man but about 75% of the blame belongs with my ex and all the other women in this world that thinks “nothing is ever good enough for her.”
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 09:35 AM
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Read “say goodbye to crazy”
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 03:09 PM
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I had a 4 year old son and 2 year old daughter. Caught her screwing a pharmacist that is 5’6”, smokes, buck teeth but makes 250k a year. I filed. It was horrible for my son because he would say “I want my family back.” He figured out why because she rubbed his face in it, but it was just terrible for him because he was old enough to know I wasn’t ever coming home and old enough to remember good stuff we did together.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 09:00 AM
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Gaslighting doesn’t exist, it’s just a made up concept. Quit being so sensitive.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 03:54 PM
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My favorite part about the holidays is taking the family to 5 different things per holiday for her family but if my parents wanted us over it was an act of congress to make it happen. The constant guilt of not decorating like Karen Smith’s husband was more annoying than the decorating. She was always looking for better or better options it seems. A content woman is something that may exist.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 09:07 AM
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When you have a child with someone and are married to them for years you become a part of them and they become a part of you. It hurts getting a divorce. I will tell you you from experience, a woman like that isn’t capable of loving you back or the kid. They will only love themselves and what they can get from you. They enjoy watching your emotions. The way you protect yourself is do not ever share anything with that woman ever again. Only communicate with email, meet at a secure location, recor…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 10:22 AM
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Whenever you feel like it. If she files like 75% of women do, then she’s done. If she’s sleeping with someone else, she’s making a new connection and your old one with her is done. I took mine off when I realized it was over and never coming back. I gave it to my son and he keeps it in his treasure box/piggy bank.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/24 08:47 AM
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When she was fucking this ugly pharmacist because of his revenue stream. Can’t turn a hoe into a housewife.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 09:20 AM
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It hurt at first, sometimes it still does; it does hurt less though with time.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 09:19 AM
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If you touch her with a single finger, she can take out an ex parte restraining order. You now pay all the bills, she gets the car, you’re now a monster and she’s a damsel in distress. 1) record it 2) call law enforcement 3) avoid conversations, contact etc with her at all times. She could escalate and your fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 02:10 PM
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This. Don’t move in till maybe 2 years of dating and she can bring a purse to the table. If she is into you and can bring something; she is a partner. If she is like a hooker and only brings herself to the table and debt, and entitlement, and like the controls and is very disagreeable if she doesn’t get her way; you will know it by then and will have dodged a bullet.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 11:15 PM
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I would file for divorce unless she admits it. If she admits it and you can live with it then that’s you. But she doubled down on a lie. Either she shot dope or screwed around.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 07:10 PM
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You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife. Jay-Z
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 11:21 AM
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Can you sue for alienation of affection in your state?
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 10:13 AM
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The day my son told me 3 days after I had to leave, he watch her ride his dick. Then he got up and threw my son into his bed and as he laid there crying. She got back on the job. A fucking reptile. It’s in a jar, some day I’ll explain to them why I took it off.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 03:47 PM
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No such thing as a single woman.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 11:15 AM
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Find out your state law. In my state you can record without their permission. I just audio record in my pocket, she has no idea. She lied and said I was aggressive and yelled at her etc. I played the dates she said, it was nothing said or a civil minimalist convo. It ruined her credibility.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 06:05 PM
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I’m living at my parents. I’ll probably be in a financial vice until the kids are older. Hang the person that invented alimony, spousal support.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 02:34 PM
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It hurt a lot when I had to leave. I ached to come home from work and see my family before separation. Knowing I wouldn’t see them for a while was some tears that stung. I remember how much it hurt to say goodbye to the kids when custody ended and I just wanted to die. You had an idea of growing old with her. Of being a family forever. It died. You’re experiencing grief, and it’s worse than death because you still have to see these people imo. It does get easier. My ex made it really easy to lea…
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 05:04 PM
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Get a restraining order before she lies and said it was self defense because “he’s a woman beater, oh I’ve suffered so much and am afraid. Oh and he smokes meth and drinks liquor and has 6 handguns.”
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 10:30 AM
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I have the kids this week and I’m not doing a goddamn thing for Mother’s Day.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/24 07:41 PM
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This. Make it really obvious she means less than nothing to you. That will sting a lot more than giving her attention. Indifferent rejection is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:57 AM
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Ex-fucking-xactly. Mine moved the loser in 3 days after I moved out.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 04:21 PM
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“What are you getting into this weekend?” Is that creepy for a 40yr old divorced guy?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 11:48 PM
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Get evidence so she can’t ask for alimony and spousal support.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 04:52 PM
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Just don’t settle for anything less than half. If it goes to trial, then fight for half.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 05:16 PM
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Give him my address and you can have my ex partners. We’ll trade ass kickings. Like the Hitchcock movie! Just get a text message, or something of him screwing up and get more custody and make her pay you child support?
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 09:23 AM
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Say Goodbye to Crazy
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 10:54 PM
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Affairs work out long term less than 7% of the time. My wife and her affair partner are terrible people and deserve each other. They can be miserable together. I’m trying to enjoy the peace I have without her. I guess if you can detach from her/him you can really start to feel better. It’s hard but not impossible.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 06:49 PM
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He is a retired sheriffs deputy. I’m gonna ask him or another one.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 07:03 PM
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A PI won’t do it because of the restraining order. It’s extremely frustrating. I have to wait to get more custody time instead of weekends. Then they can tell a judge. They have told their play therapist. Son is 5, daughter is 3. I’m going to get someone to do it and break the law I guess because jail is better than watch this happen.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 02:04 PM
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It’s real. I’ve turned them in. Documented it all. She lied about him and her parents did as well. The cops said I had to prove he was coming over. I can’t get a picture of them because she took a restraining order out initially. This isn’t stretching or attention seeking behavior. It’s a living hell.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 09:04 AM
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My lawyer said “divorce for men isn’t so bad if you make 150k. It’s really hard if you make <50k”. I make 42k. She’s asking for alimony, spousal support, child support etc. won’t let me see the kids any more than the minimum. Let’s her boyfriend hurt them, but denies relationship and he gets away with it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 06:38 PM
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She went in ex parte and got everything with the restraining order. The judge gave me 4 days a month. When the restraining order ends, it’s up for grabs until court when they can put temp parenting plan in place. So I’m going to email her and pick them up and if she won’t cooperate she’ll look terrible fkr a judge.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 02:53 PM
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15 months ago. Three days after I got tossed out, she was riding some other guys dick like a stolen horse in front of my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 10:45 PM
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It’s a restraining order
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 07:48 PM
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All of them last a year in NC. No bruises, etc. I had my infant daughter in my right hand. She was clawing my face and blocking the door I was trying to leave the room. So I use my left hand to make space and she tripped over a pile of laundry by door. She had drank two bottles of wine. Then started looking for my handgun in a cabinet. I left, she took the kids and got my step son to say she did nothing and I just hit her. They gave her a restraining order in court I said I pushed her away. If y…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 07:47 PM
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Make an email just for her. Not for Amazon, not for newsletters etc. block her on everything. Only speak to her in email about the kids as little as possible. Put your phone on record at exchanges etc, and don’t say anything. Eventually she will slither off and ruin some other guys life.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 06:16 PM
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I’m a 6’4” 240lb, football player; 8+ years in mma (not just BJJ but real mma ie striking/wrestling). I’m also a construction worker. I have teared up more in the year of my separation than probably my whole life. My son asked for his family back last Christmas. My wife was a cheater. It fucking hurts man and you will have problems sleeping, tears, etc. love broken down to the molecule is like heroin/cocaine and your gonna have withdrawals. All men hurt through this, even your poster boy machism…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 07:46 AM
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For me, I had to forgive her for my peace. Being angry at the cheating, bullshit restraining order and taking my kids/home, character assassination, financial harassment etc was ruining me. The loss was horrible enough without adding anger.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 08:50 AM
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My wife went from sex multiple times a week, to a year after marriage “once a week.” Then less. She used to help me with chores and cooked supper a few times a week. Then no help, no supper ever (but complained about what I cooked). I found out she had cheated with two guys in the end. I went from a high output husband that gave my best to a “fuck it, you’re on your own.” I don’t think women in general understand reciprocity. The daddy’s little princess garbage, etc I don’t know really. All I kn…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 08:44 AM
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That is how they accuse you of being unstable etc.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:39 AM
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I will “tape” the binuaural beat
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:38 AM
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I wake up and read a lot. My son woke up with stuff about his mom’s boyfriend hurting him.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:37 AM
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I get off work and the guys want to grab a few. Today for example I dug, sawed and drilled. I see your gym and I raise you trades. Money and muscle. The depressant rebounds and you wake up. But even if it’s weeks of no 2-3 beers with my friends I still wake up.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:36 AM
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I can fall asleep. I wake up at 2/3:30 ready to scrap because I scored a 36/42 on PTSD scale.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:33 AM
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I do 2 and 3. I’ll add #1 to the list
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 05:25 PM
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Women get complacent with a relationship way easier and earlier than men. Men go from 95% effort down to 90, then 85% and don’t go back. Why? She won’t reciprocate or do a fucking thing I ask. It’s serve her, worship her or she can just move on with the state crime family extorting you for money and your children. There is no fucking incentive for a woman to be a wife or mother at fucking all anymore. At all. Until there is legal prostitution everywhere then there will be at least competition, I…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 09:45 PM
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My son and daughter “wanted their family back for Christmas” during the separation. I told them this You’ll always have your family but your mom and dad are going to live in different houses. Just because we don’t love each other anymore, I will never stop loving you. It isn’t your fault, it isn’t your job to fix it and I’m sorry I couldn’t stop this. It wasn’t my decision. I know you aren’t supposed to bad mouth your ex because it hurts the kids. They love both of their parents. I messed up whe…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 06:41 PM
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When my cheating, child abusing, alcoholic whore of an ex tries to talk to me etc. I just nod my head and keep moving. No eye contact, no words, block her shit. Get an email just for her and only talk through it about the kids or money and don’t use it unless it is an emergency or serious. Be indifferent. Send the message over and over that she means less than nothing to you, eventually she’ll get bored and slither off to ruin some other guys life. I would recommend reading “say goodbye to crazy…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 08:13 AM
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When a friend got divorced the judge said “if she can’t agree to something fair, I’m going to end it right now. 50/50 for everything!” I too am divorcing a high conflict entitled woman and this situation encouraged me. Just show how you’re trying to be fair and reasonable, let her show her ass and I got a feeling a judge won’t tolerate it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/24 09:01 PM
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Don’t ask. Just file, or she’ll go take out a warrant and restraining order and lie that you’re a substance abusing, domestic violence threat 5150. And she’ll get it since it’s ex parte and your ass is against the wall defending yourself against this horse crap. Then you’re paying all her bills and can’t see your kids or dog and homeless.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/24 12:48 PM
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My left leg has been rebuilt from a wrestling injury in my early 20s. The hip hinge movement really protects the knees. Some basic stretches like sitting in a squat or downward dog will really help too man.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/24 12:45 PM
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GMB fitness programs. You will get stronger, more flexible and have more coordination. You will “feel” a lot better and aches and pains go away. I go to parks for walks and see single women there and chat it up. Waiting to get my half of the house before I get a new place to live. When my son told me “Dad when I grow up I want to be just like you and nothing like my mom.” That spoke volumes. Keep your head up, fight back for nothing less than half, take care of yourself and enjoy the peace and q…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 05:25 PM
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“The last time she was doing something “spiritual” she was in her knees praying she wasn’t pregnant.” Bill Maher
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 05:09 PM
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My old lady tried to do this once. Because I was sarcastic and said, “sometimes I want to hang myself.” Spent Christmas in my car. Came home because legally she had nothing. Then a year later she started hitting me and my daughter and I was arrested for pushing her off of us. Restraining order, probation etc, took the kids. I filed for divorce and here I am. I talk to a therapist and do a lot of writing for PTSD. I have destroyed some of my teeth from anxiety. It’s just sickening how sociopathic…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 03:46 PM
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I do a full body routine 3x a week. Think push, pull, squat, hinge, torso for 2 sets. Warm up and cool down. Some walking on off days and music or podcasts.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 11:25 AM
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That’s a good way to describe it. I’ll have a great day at work and laugh with my friends. Then go to sleep and have a nightmare that she tried to send me back to jail because I asked for half.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 09:31 AM
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Must look this past time up. When I feel like it ;)
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 11:47 PM
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I know what exactly what that’s like. She was horrible to the kids during the divorce and after just because I wasn’t the parent that abused them and they missed me. She had her boyfriend do stuff to them, etc. if I had a friend with benefits that would be perfect but I really enjoy the peace and quiet.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 07:56 PM
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When a woman moves on, they really move on. They cut emotional ties and have made new ones. If you beg etc, it just disgusts them more. Don’t speak to her ever again. Really don’t.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 07:32 PM
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Send her the George Jones song “she thinks I still care.”
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 06:02 PM
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I have been typing it but that hand written, simple method is what I’m going to have to convert to.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 06:30 PM
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I’ve been there. You don’t want to go to the bars, but there usually is a lot of people there. You go and then maybe after a few times you have some drinks with a few of them. Then you get a dui, or an std, or hungover. I have a few girls I talk to like friends. I occasionally drink with them but I often don’t. It’s a waste of money and makes you fat. There are girls that take care of themselves in grocery stores, yoga classes, 5k runs, parks w dogs, coffee shops, pools, book stores, church. You…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 12:14 AM
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I cooked and my wife bitched. If it was pizza, fried chicken, burgers etc ie kids menu shit she ate it. Now I can make oatmeal or eggs for breakfast instead of frozen waffles. I can pack a Turkey sandwich for lunch instead of no space because of her takeout boxes. I usually have a meatloaf and broccoli, stir fry, pork chops and collards now and no arguments/complaints etc from a spoiled brat. There a quite a few taco trucks around here the kids and I will visit when I have them. They eat pretty …
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 11:48 PM
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I see young couples with their baby walking in parks holding hands and remember those days too. Unfortunately I held up my end and she threw all that good stuff away. Was I perfect? No, but I’m convinced not even a perfect man has a chance anymore with these spoiled, self-centered, entitled women in the modern world. My son asks for his family back every Christmas. It’s hard not to tear up and blame yourself for me anyways, but some of that is her fault and in my case a LOt of it was her fault.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 09:09 AM
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I don’t miss being turned into her “girlfriend.” She once refused to have sex one night and talked my ear off about bullshit gossip because “real love is talking.” This pattern killed the bedroom.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 03:25 PM
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I wouldn’t ever. She would take out a warrant and say I raped her. I will not speak to her. I will not text her. I will never be in the same fucking room as her. She has an email account just for her and I will email her something once every few months if it involves our son/daughter and it warrants a conversation, other than that she can fuck right off.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 10:44 AM
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Hey 19 yr old brave simp. When you get married, if you get married; the mindset of bending the knee and kissing the ass is repulsive to most women. Please stay desperate and white knight and get divorce raped.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 01:24 AM
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Mine was having an affair with the ugliest man in town but made a whole 60k more than me. Thought he was gonna pay for her every need, want, entitlement etc. then he started molesting my daughter. She’s now broke and maybe headed to prison with him.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 11:30 AM
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I absolutely hate my ex wife. If she had a sister I would really try to get her pregnant to make family reunions miserable. I still had a hard time finishing the job with a friend. Divorce sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 10:34 AM
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I started healing the day we got separated. It hurt at first, but that action and family destruction is on her. I’m grateful I didn’t waste my life with her. I feel bad for my kids who “want their family back.” But it wasn’t really my decision.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 10:37 AM
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I don’t know if I can either. But if all I think about is how she tried to railroad me, I’m gonna be a miserable and terrible dad. So I just try not to pick the scab and hope it heals. The loser she is with, had an affair with etc, will drink 5 days in a row and abuse my kids. I can’t wait till they burn the house down and I get full custody. Then she can pay me child support, I can dream right 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 10:12 PM
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It’s a concept that Rich Cooper brought up in a YouTube short. The algorithm suggests all this red pill stuff now since getting a divorce. Mine’s been nightmarish.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 10:08 PM
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Tom Brady’s wife wasn’t “satisfied.” Chris Rock once said “Women are always shopping.” He was right. They will leave your ass for another opportunity and are always looking for better options. They can do it without so much as a flinch. Check out “War Brides.” She could have been married to Lothar, king of the hill people; and Julius Caesar rolls through slaughters the town and she’s banging a centurion that night, along with a bunch of other widows that just moved on without a tear. Hypergamy i…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 08:31 PM
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It’s a lot worse than what is up there. She allowed her partner to abuse the kids, has made multiple false allegations, and is trying to get alimony, spousal support, child support and get me thrown in prison. But Ephesians chapter 4 also talks about how anger gives the devil a foothold. I go to work everyday and build houses. If I didn’t have a physical job, I would probably focus on negative things etc and the anger/bitterness would drive me insane. I get a lot of help from a therapist, a Bibl…
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 12:46 PM
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My wife works at a church. She cheated on me with 2 different men. I drank to deal with the hurt. We got separated and I was able to quit. Why? I wasn’t constantly reminded of the women I loved, had children with and wanted to spend my life with was an absolute whore and liar. I’m not miserable in a relationship with her. My kids are crushed and ask “when will we get our family back.” I told them “I never wanted this to happen, but it did and you’re always gonna have your family. Daddy and mommy…
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 07:16 PM
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That is exactly how I feel. I enjoy making money, peace and quiet and lifting weights. I just need a friend with benefits or an escort these days.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 05:25 PM
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Don’t put him in assisted living. Tell the vet he identifies as a dog and have him put to sleep. For the wife? Go to the magistrate and say you caught her cheating and don’t want to have a conflict and get a restraining order, file for equitable asset division and for custody if you have kids. Then make sure you have proof of affair so you don’t pay alimony and spousal support. Who cares embarrassment, she is going to be humiliated when the sheriffs dept brings papers to her. Do not talk to them…
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 11:56 PM
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Date for 18+months before marriage. I would strongly advise to never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 10:10 AM
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I cooked breakfast, made coffee, walked the dog while she slept in. She worked 4 hrs and laid the kids down for a nap, then talked to guys all day on IG. Maybe went shopping for groceries. I came home from work, cooked, washed dishes, played outside with the kids because they were stuck in front of a tv all day, then she demanded to read to them at night and sleep in the room with them. I went to bed to sleep and recover and instead of showing an ounce of affection or appreciation it was “Let me…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 12:39 PM
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Empty your bank accounts or move them before separating. Go work something that makes 30k a year. My wife ruined my life so I made damn sure she wasn’t getting a dime out of me, and if it is; it’s next to nothjngx
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 05:54 PM
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No your not alone. I never want a relationship ever again. I’d like to get laid but then I remember all the complaining, ridicule, walls, lack of support, being the absolute last thing in the world she would care about, the betrayal, the absolute lack of accountability for anything etc. So I am just enjoying the PEACE I have from living by myself and the time I spend with my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 10:52 AM
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I regret having two children with her. If I d known she would put them through all this I would have had a vasectomy. I love my kids, I just wish they didn’t have to experience this.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 04:44 PM
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It will help with alimony, spousal support, etc though. Cheaters don’t get alimony etc. best she’ll get is half of assets. Can you get her phone, social media etc? Do that now. Cheaters will often use a google doc that is shared for msging as well. Put a tracker on her car (if you own it) then follow it if it goes to an unknown house or a father of one of your children’s friends. Hire a licensed PI in your state so they can testify also. Put a nanny cam in the bedroom in your house to see what’s…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 06:50 PM
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Get a restraining order, ex parte custody etc. women do it all the time to gain an advantage. Lie about her doing drugs, violence, etc like they do too. Then tell the kids to hate her like these women work on alienation as well. Then start identifying as a women and ask for alimony, spousal support, child support and sue too. All sarcasm aside, do not speak to her unless by a separate email account just for her. Let the lawyers fight for you and do not settle for anything less than half. Most me…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 11:47 AM
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There is a good divorce book for men and their new partner with “high conflict women” ie some characteristics of a cluster B personality disorder. They could have a few traits or a lot of them, annoying or pathological; but if you have a horrible ex or stbxw I would HIGHLY recommend it. Do NOT use the terms NPD since it is as played out as ASD these days or adhd in the 90s. Say Goodbye to Crazy
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 05:01 PM
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Thanks. Civil suit for damages etc?
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 09:14 PM
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Oddly enough the guy looks like a rodent.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 11:15 AM
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It’s done.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 11:15 AM
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My son is 5 and my daughter is 3
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 11:14 AM
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CPS was the people that referred me to the Sexual Abuse Nurse Examiner (SANE) nurse. I have turned in the confirmed paperwork and the sheriffs dept are interviewing the perp and my stbxw this week. Because they deny this man’s existence/relationship the lazy, incompetent CPS has not removed kids from the home. The judge when we presented a lB emergency custody order said since CPS hasn’t removed them, then they stay with the mom who has tried to cover this up. This isn’t some wolf ticket, it’s t…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 11:14 AM
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I did and her lawyer argued that because CPS hasn’t removed them from the home yet, it isn’t needed. I have confirmed sexual abuse doctors notes from a rape nurse investigator but they still haven’t removed the kids. I’m losing my mind trying to catch these bastards.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 01:31 AM
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Some women are disgusted and want to advocate for Justice ie blind. Depends if you get an idiot or an intelllectual.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 09:07 PM
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When I first got separated, I slept 2-3 hrs a night. I was exhausted and had a career change as well. I quit my job as a teacher and got into construction. The daily work outside and being around guys who have been in a similar situation really, really helped. I don’t know how I would have survived if I hadn’t done that. It does get better here are some things I would suggest. Get a good multivitamin, DLPA, magnesium citrate and l-Glutamine. All of those help with anxiety and depression. They re…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 03:05 PM
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With peace and quiet. It’s wonderful. No more screaming at me, shit breaking faster than I can fix it, no shit testing, no manipulation tactics and lying, no triangulation and gas lighting and most importantly no dead lays. I have female friends and I have two kids. I work a really physical job for the hell stress but I sleep like an infant after I get home, shower and read/watch tv. Call some friends up and go enjoy yourself
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 05:26 PM
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I’m gonna tell you something my female friends have told me when this started. “Most women emotionally check out a long time, like a year before they file paperwork. She might have regrets but she has moved on and don’t go back to someone who stopped loving you a long time ago.”
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 10:26 PM
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What I learned from my marriage fail was to date for 18 months+ before pulling the trigger or don’t pull the trigger at all.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 11:33 AM
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I worked long hours and we didn’t really make time for each other. When I tried to do things to spark things, it was usually rejected. I felt sorry for myself and that isn’t really a turn on either. She was seeing someone for months before we separated and had checked out a long time ago. I don’t know what the answer is, but in my case; lack of sex was a small problem compared to an utter relationship failure. Marriage is hard, I wanted to work on some things WITH her, she wanted to work with so…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 09:06 AM
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My wife said I don’t want to be married anymore. Then because I owned firearms got a restraining order. Three days after I’m out of the house she was fucking him in front of the kids….. something was definitely going on. So I confronted him and threw out a blanket statement, he was drunk and texted me everything. I may not have to pay alimony!
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 10:19 PM
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I’ve gone to yoga classes as a single guy. It feels good and relaxing. I put my mat in the front of the room so no woman would think I was “looking at her.” Think mosque etiquette I guess. Maybe don’t be flirty the first time? But if a woman notices you, you guys make eye contact a few times and you can tell if she likes you; go introduce yourself and chat it up. I genuinely enjoy myself at a yoga class and if I’m sincere (there to train/relax) then women can tell your the real deal and not a pr…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 12:29 AM
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Another good book is Men, Women and Relationships. Say Goodby to Crazy is great if your divorcing a cruel high conflict woman.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 05:43 PM
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My wife started banging some pharmacist while I worked my ass off to support her staying at home with the kids. 5yr old son and 2.5yr old daughter. Her boyfriend/AP is horrible to the kids and the judge is like “you’re vindictive!”
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 02:34 PM
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I have a charcoal grey we got married in and a navy one.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 11:34 PM
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Good idea. I have some black dress shoes I can use but it’s not my nice brown ones.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 07:03 PM
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She is going for DV and alcohol. Because when I caught her cheating I pushed her out of the way to leave the house. She has driven drunk 4 times with the kids I have proof of. I had drank some with her but nothing that can be substantiated. I had an evaluation by a doctor and no alcohol problem etc. she said under oath “there is no history of DV.” At the last trial.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 07:02 PM
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Thanks! She keeps doing this continuance and “make him miss work” garbage so I will get fired. I’m trying to make time off work count.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 07:00 PM
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The last one I had sure as hell did. I have heard this as well.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 06:58 PM
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Thanks man, I sure will!
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 09:37 PM
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The old “Golden Uterus” claim.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 05:22 PM
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My wife wants alimony. She had been fucking some dude and buys toys for the kids to lie about it. So I’m kind of trying to figure out how to fight that. Other than that, I couldn’t be happier without her.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 12:25 PM
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Tell her “I find your lack of commitment, disturbing.” In your best James Earl Jones voice. The push you away and pull you back manipulative behavior sounds like some Cluster B personality disorder. See borderline, narcissism, histrionic, and anti-social. Often people have overlapping traits in that cluster.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 09:11 PM
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When my daughter pitched a fit when I told her I had to take her home. No seriously; The hugs, the walks together, playing outside with my son, being able spend quality time in general with them without my wife flooding a schedule with a bunch of unnecessary social bullshit. Being able to teach them morality such as “we tell the truth at Daddy’s house, we say we’re sorry when we make a mistake, etc” without my wife telling me “that’s abusive!”
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 10:10 AM
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The father of my son’s friend. Turned out those play dates, she was playing too.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 11:39 PM
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If my ex offered, while she is with the guy she is with I would jump on it. Then video it and send it to him so they would fight for weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:47 PM
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I needed to hear this. I’m having to restart careers and will need to find another house. Starting to get lonely but don’t wanna have some horrific dating experience with all the emotional baggage. Thanks for the encouragement here, we/I need some success stories! How did you meet your Redditor Girlfriend?
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 10:28 AM
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Haven’t seen that video, but I’ll watch it when I get a second this afternoon. She was amazing, soul mate material etc; then after we moved into a house together, married; she started the vindictive, control freak stuff. After the birth of our son, she got so horrible it was hard to bear. Then it was survival up to the separation. She had been sleeping with her next “victim” before I filed for divorce and then had him move in 2 days after we separate and he’s fucking her in my sons bedroom with …
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 07:40 PM
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She was damn near perfect for about 18 months, then the nympho left and I was just left with the maniac.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 11:17 AM
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Vindictive: She will never forgive & will hold a grudge FOREVER. It is never her fault, she has no form of accountability at all. Shame/Guilt is always someone else’s fault. She will enjoy making them suffer and there is no quarter. There is no such thing as enough suffering for her victim. Active Distrust: She will question every action as suspect. She will challenge your integrity. You WILL be as terrible as she wants you to be. She will spread false allegations about you and gas light you to …
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 11:16 AM
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I’m gonna do the journaling of negative thoughts. I have been just hyper focusing on the case etc, I’m my journal now. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 08:17 AM
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Yeah I’ll be 38 on 6/26 so maybe the age thing is a factor I didn’t account for.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 08:16 AM
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I weigh 240 right now. I graduated with a 4 pack at 220, so I really want to sleep better and not feel tired all the time and get back to prime specimen size. (6’4”)
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 07:25 PM
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I will watch the Sun come up, that sounds like a great idea. I haven’t heard about apigenin I’ll check them out!
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 07:22 PM
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I have been doing a bodyweight strength routine (pistol squats, chin ups, core, push ups, sprints)x3 days a week. I do a really physical job so I try not to over do it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 07:20 PM
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I’m gonna try those. I have been working on a much more physical job and it “cuts the mind off” but when I get home sometimes I worry about the kids, etc. Trying to tell myself “that’s something you can’t control, so stop trying to. Release, release etc.”. I guess I’ll be patient with myself and eventually it will get better.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 11:07 AM
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Thanks man! I don’t wanna take any meds if I can help it. I worry about it “looking bad” in the custody case.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 11:05 AM
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Gave up friends, family, time, money, mental and physical health, my career, and my future it seems during this divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 05:58 AM
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My wife had an affair with a guy and is 5 months in. I don’t really care. She’ll ruin his life too man. I have trust issues and probably will for a year or so after the divorce is finalized. Do you go to the gym? Do you have a club or church you hang out at? Do you hang with friends? Do you have some guys who’s wife can set you up with a friend at work? I guess I’m still in work/legal issue mode, but just trying to think of networking ideas for meeting a girl that you’re compatible with man. I w…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 11:06 PM
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So my wife was fucking some guy in front of my two kids two days after we separated. He’s a coward that carries a gun 24/7 when he’s wrecking homes. Otherwise, I’d shake the pussy’s hand and tell him “Thanks for taking out my trash!”
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 10:12 PM
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A redditor mentioned using someone to remotely to investigate them. Just needs their phone numbers and IG, FB handles and 500$ on cash app. Sounds like a scam and illegal with the federal wiretapping laws. She has a restraining order so I cannot follow or anything online, I blocked her on IG so she can’t accuse me of that. The actual PI near me charges a 1k retainer and is licensed so it’s admissible in court.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 07:36 AM
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Did your ex win no matter what? I have equity in the home and paid all the mortgage payments. Right now I am considering selling it to pay for my new house/legal fees, or she gives me 50/50 no child support and she gets to keep the home.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 09:29 AM
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She was drinking and unstable. She was slapping me and gouged an eye, tried yanking my daughter out of my hands and when I was begging her to stop, etc; I had pushed her away with my left hand. This “assault” got her a protective order. So now she has a domestic violence claim and a protective order against me. We can communicate about the kids and I see them every other weekend as “Uncle Dad” and get to visit my own fucking kids.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 09:26 AM
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If she was banging this guy with the same bed as the kids and they are witness to it, would that help my case?
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 09:23 AM
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Alright. Yeah I’m not worried about the no fault stuff but she is really neglecting them and lying about seeing this guy. It would 1) hurt credibility 2) show neglect. Thanks man!
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 11:25 AM
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At the trial she had added a bunch of stuff to the DV accusation. When asked why she added a bunch of things that wasn’t on the restraining order she said “there wasn’t enough paper.” The judge rolled his eyes. She said she had added stuff because she was mad I had filed for divorce also. So I have a transcript of her lying 10-12 times from the criminal/restraining order trial. Now she has to pay all the bills, take care of three kids, juggle her mentally I’ll mother, hothead alcoholic new boyfr…
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 06:39 AM
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I have visitation every other weekend. I filed a 50a (NC custody petition). She’s also got a DV strike on her, drunk driving, affair, previous divorce with identical playbook. I know I’m dumb for staying when I should have left earlier or done surveillance. I have over 100 picture messages of her/kids describing how I’m a great father. I have 50 character written character witness of parents since I taught/coaches their children. I have a transcript of her getting caught lying 12+ times in the c…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 01:10 PM
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So I have one of the best, if not the best in town. I was thinking about any kind of leg work/paper work or ideas to save money. I am not worried about money. I have stacked up savings.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 08:09 AM
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The lawyer said I’ll get half custody, maybe more
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 02:02 PM
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My wife has a 50B on me. I filed for divorce. I lost my job to the conviction of pushing her away during her slapping me and my daughter. Need advice on fighting a custody battle on the cheap.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 02:01 PM
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So with the slapping and eye gouging etc I figured they would see it as self defense. Didn’t know it was gonna end up with a conviction for a push. I thought assault was throwing hands/choking etc
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 02:00 PM
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