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| 2 | Considering legal action against my ex GFShe's an adult, don't let that "talk to my daddy" bullshit fly. Take her ass to court, find receipts, whatever. She's shown you her true colors and she's hoping you'll be too intimidated by her father to do anything. Also, you dodged a major bullet with this women. Most women, at the end of a relationship, especially when assets/kids are involved, will flip personalities, so think about that if you ever think you want to get married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/26 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Feel divorce is coming and it's tearing me in twoDude, I've been on this sub for 8 years. I can tell you this is the same story as thousands of other posts in this sub. Some guys will tell you it was her, others will tell you it might be environmental factors (such as covid after -effects). My honest opinion, you did too much for her. You were too nice, you didn't stand up for yourself, etc. She lost respect for you, for whatever reason. Unfortunately it doesn't matter now. Once you lose respect it's gone. You could try to stand up for yoursel… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/26 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Feel divorce is coming and it's tearing me in twoYou lucked out. A vast majority of women don't necessarily want "bad boys", they are biologically programmed to seek out men who can provide protection and resources, their hormones push them towards men that bring excitement into their lives. It's basically the same as the flood of hormones in men's brains that override logic and common sense just prior to sex then get flushed out during ejaculation (and I mean in the brain) leading to post-nut clarity. IMO women seek out "safe" men to procreat… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/26 03:02 AM |
| 4 | Of the 173.6 million women in the U.S., 171.8 million did NOT go see “Supergirl”.I wouldn't say "great". It sounded like you enjoyed it, which I applaud you for. There are movies that I think are "great" movies but I didn't enjoy. Obviously there are people who enjoyed the movie, but the marketing, cast behaviors/statements, etc all created an environment where people had preconceived notions about whether they would enjoy it or not. Then when it failed so spectacularly the studios, cast, and media blamed men. That is OPs point. | /r/MensRights | 17/07/26 02:51 AM |
| 2 | Dissipation of marital assets - will this come back to bite me?My suggestion would be to pay the $10k to your lawyer as a retainer. The court won't consider legal fees as dissipation and it sounds like you'll have to pay your lawyer more than that anyways. Just wondering, what's your expected difference if you did or didn't use the $10k for house fixes/updates? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/26 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Dissipation of marital assets - will this come back to bite me?Filing for divorce puts a hold on the debt. Anything debt she accumulates after filing is on her. This is why men should file for divorce first and without warning. How do I know? My ex put a $15k cash advance from a credit card (in my name) down on a retainer for her lawyer the day before I filed. I was on the hook for that. Her normal retainer was $5k, so she just decided to prepay her lawyer an additional $10k at my expense, then I had to pay it to avoid the 30% interest rate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/26 02:13 AM |
| 2 | Do they consider it wrong to be a right-wing (gay) man?Traditional conservatives absolutely don't want gay men killed. Religious conservatives, who often overlap with traditional conservatism, are against gay-marriage because they believe it goes against the institution of marriage as a religious practice, but that doesn't mean they want gay men killed. Sometimes there are extremists who do think gay men should be executed, but there are also extreme feminist who think that all male babies should be aborted. so either broad definition of Right and L… | /r/MensRights | 05/03/26 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Do they consider it wrong to be a right-wing (gay) man?Feminism=Misandry=Anti-Male The patriarchy doesn't exist. There is no systemic oppression of women in western culture. Go away. | /r/MensRights | 05/03/26 01:30 PM |
| 2 | In a sexual intercourse where both parties are drunk why are the women considered the victims?Bingo! If a woman can be held responsible for her decision to drive while drunk she can be held responsible for her decision to have sex while drunk. The only difference is that once a man enters the equation the responsibility is automatically transferred to him. | /r/MensRights | 04/03/26 02:31 AM |
| 8 | Ex wife asking me to watch her kids.Disregard the moral/ethical aspects... If she wants to pay you $100 to watch her kids she's paying you for a professional service. Are you licensed and bonded for childcare services? If not then you personally could be liable for any injury or death that occurs when they are under your care. One of them falls and breaks a leg guess who's getting sued for $50k in medical bills. I hope you have personal liability insurance. This is a bad move, absolutely say no. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/26 02:14 AM |
| 3 | anyone divorced due to lack of intimacyDon't delude yourself into think she's not interested in sex, because she is, just not with you. There is no future state where she magically will begin wanting to have sex with you. Cheating should not be an option... You could make your life considerably worse for very little gain. High risk, very low reward. The hard question now is, given your current trajectory, where do you see yourself in 10/20/30+ years? Is that where you want to be? If not what are the steps you need to take to realign … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/26 03:54 AM |
| 3 | My fiance called me unromantic for wanting a prenup - why is protecting myself controversial?Terrible advice. | /r/MensRights | 20/02/26 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Women can’t expect men to care and help with their issues when they mock and belittle theirsthe decision on whether or not to abort should be only the woman's as shes the one who is undergoing the medical procedure Um, she's not the only person undergoing the medical procedure. | /r/MensRights | 13/02/26 08:02 PM |
| 5 | Wife's spending and alcoholismShe's hiding those statements from you for a reason, and she'll most likely find ways to defer revealing them to you ("got lost in the mail", "I guess they forgot to send them", etc)... And she's right now coming up with a strategy to use against you in the divorce. Assume Silver Bullet method, hope for the best but plan for the worst. I made the mistake of handing over my finances to my ex, I thought she would be a responsible adult. Man, was I wrong, she went on spending sprees then hid/destro… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/26 07:59 PM |
| 3 | Women’s sexual health advocate (with thousands of followers) thinks female on male rape and sexual assault is ridiculousAgree 100% https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/s/76IyI6WIAB | /r/MensRights | 13/02/26 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Does the Ex feel like a parasite?want both parties reaching their fullest earning potential for the benefit of the child. I certainly didn't get this from my interactions with the family court system. My ex has the capability to earn twice as much as me per hour. We asked the court to impute her at the average rate for her profession in our state, the court in all its wisdom decide to impute her at minimum wage. We're in a red state and that number is unfortunately very low, therefore I'm responsible for covering 95% of our chi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/26 02:42 AM |
| 1 | MGTOWYep, unfortunately the last sub was r/MGTOW2 and it was banned around 2020-2021. | /r/MensRights | 11/02/26 01:33 PM |
| 9 | Divorcing a nice womanYou and other commenters are talking about "love and respect"... But are you HAPPY in your marriage? I'm not asking if she makes you happy, I'm asking if you derive overall happiness from the marriage itself? At 40 you probably shouldn't expect somebody to blow your socks off, sure the sex might be great but there's also a high probability she has other significant issues (most women around your age do) that will offset the good sex long-term (not to mention good sex almost universally decreases… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/26 01:30 PM |
| 2 | STBXW $35k in DebtMy ex, right before I filed ( the day before), charged $15k for her lawyers retainer (well, $5k for the retainer then an extra $10k for her lawyer costs) on a credit card I didn't know about. It was run as a cash transaction, then my ex paid the minimum each month. I didn't find out for 11 months after that. Then, interest continued accruing for the next 12 months at 30%. Guess who had to pay that... Yep, me. My lawyer argued her ass off but the female judge said that it was marital debt, even t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/26 03:05 AM |
| 4 | Could the Epstein files trigger a new #MeToo style backlashThe 4 female co-conspirators are unsurprisingly not mentioned whatsoever in any of this. So far 5 people have been indicted and charged and found guilty, 4 of them are female. Also, notice how it's open season on male name dropping but all the adult females in the emails and pictures have their faces blocked out... This is a society-level witch hunt happening right now. Frankly, I don't give a shit what people say, what I do care about is actions, so unless people committed acts then there's not… | /r/MensRights | 09/02/26 02:52 AM |
| 1 | STBXW - Threatening to take children - GeorgiaDude, contact a lawyer Monday, have them file Tuesday. It's a simple form, every lawyer will have a template and they fill in a few fields and it's done. Once the paperwork is filed you can chill for a bit because things slow down real fast at that point. But you MUST get the paperwork filed asap. Also, your wife is mentally unstable. Women like that strap their kids into a car and drive the car into a lake. Frankly, I would file for full temporary custody, until a court-ordered mental evaluatio… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 04:40 AM |
| 1 | I think divorce is my only optionBro, sounds like you need to get your shit together. I get it, we all do dumb things, and it sounds like you are trying to own it, but what's important is what comes next. You are correct in that your marriage is over, it was over long before you realized, then you gave her reasons for for claiming you are the problem. Step up and do the right thing and divorce her, for both your sakes. The process sucks, but you'll be happier in the end. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 04:32 AM |
| 2 | Young men: beware the "Tradwife"Don't sell, or let her sell, the trains. They aren't the problem, so getting rid of them will have no affect on your situation. Put on some headphones, crank 'em up, and have fun with your trains. Fuck her, do it anyways. | /r/MensRights | 08/02/26 04:27 AM |
| 1 | Being Honest About My Asexuality Didn’t Protect Me in Marriage — I Was Outed After Divorce.Oh, she knew about your sexuality, but she sure as hell won't admit that to her friends and your family. Judge a woman by her actions, not her words. She's got issues, you need to Gray Rock her. She's not entitled to know anything about your life. Anything you tell her will be used against you at some point. If you give her nothing she will eventually get bored of your non-engagement and leave you alone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/26 04:04 AM |
| 3 | Being Honest About My Asexuality Didn’t Protect Me in Marriage — I Was Outed After Divorce.To resolve conflict, inflict pain, or enact retribution, men utilize physical violence, women use social violence. This is what why she did this to you. It's women's nature. I have a feeling there's more to this story, a perspective of hers that we're obviously not getting, but she believed she could benefit from this marriage and then at some point she realized her mistake. Maybe it was money, maybe social status, I don't know, but that underlying reason is there. I'm glad you made it out the o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/26 03:24 AM |
| 2 | Ex wife is claiming I owe her half the value of MY inheritance from my late father, my GA divorce lawyer isnt helpingDiscovery is simply where individuals are ordered to produce information, it has zero to do with entitlements. OP never stated that he hid anything, he stated that he kept the inheritance separate from the family finances. You are giving very bad advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/26 03:19 AM |
| 2 | What would you reply to a feminist who claims that women can’t be as evil as men, by blaming all crimes on men alone?https://www.reddit.com/r/WomenAreViolentToo Edit: forgot this: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleSexPredatorNews | /r/MensRights | 20/01/26 01:18 AM |
| 0 | What would you reply to a feminist who claims that women can’t be as evil as men, by blaming all crimes on men alone?Is that a debate with someone who is open to hearing the other side? No point in wasting time and energy talking to a wall. OP is talking about feminists. | /r/MensRights | 20/01/26 01:17 AM |
| 45 | Speaking as a gay man, why are women taking over all of the *very* few spaces we have?At least you're gay. If you were straight you would get cancelled for asking the exact same question. | /r/MensRights | 19/01/26 06:00 AM |
| 1 | Josh Hawley is a problemI have no doubt that a huge portion of politicians simply don't have the willpower to advocate for abolishing conscription, so considering they're all the same IMO he's not an anomaly. Frankly, conscription is low on my priorities, as compared to circumcision which is an immediate male concern, but is also something that practically no politician will attempt to abolish. We're in agreement on this, I'm just less invested in this specific cause, but I appreciate you're viewpoint and your enthusia… | /r/MensRights | 17/01/26 01:11 AM |
| 2 | Josh Hawley is a problemOk, I think we're talking around each other. I agree, selective service is immoral. But that's a different argument than "if men have sign up for selective service then it's only fair that women do as well". You initially posted that Hawley has to go because he opposes females being drafted. You're moving the goal post. | /r/MensRights | 16/01/26 07:34 PM |
| 4 | Thinking about taking the plunge - financial considerationsI was in the same boat as you: a wife who was financially illiterate/uncaring, verbally and emotionally abusive, and also an anti-white male feminist. Take a look at my past posts and comments in this sub. I had a middle-class income, but we were living paycheck to paycheck. I tried to start a budget multiple times, but each time it turned into me financially abusing her. Eventually, knowing basically no portion of my life with her was even enjoyable, much less getting better, I decided that I h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/26 04:47 PM |
| 0 | Josh Hawley is a problemFirst off, for purposes of this discussion, let's assume that women=female. "physically fit"... This is a very generic description that obfuscates a number of important factors that dictate if somebody is combat capable. The reason women are in combat "roles" now is because the standards were changed. Very few women are actually "in" combat, and I'm specifically referring to the combat roles that would be filled by a draftee. You are using superficial terms that imply you haven't actually put mu… | /r/MensRights | 16/01/26 04:36 PM |
| 5 | Josh Hawley is a problemI voted Democrat for 2 decades. After the Hillary Email server scandal back in 2015 they have lost their minds and unless there is a huge change to their platform I don't foresee myself voting for them ever again. When I see politicians speak, between the two parties, I certainly don't agree with many Republican policies, but I can understand the reasoning behind their positions. Democrats have gone off the deep end, so if it's down to a Republican I don't agree with versus a Democrat spewing no… | /r/MensRights | 16/01/26 03:42 PM |
| -1 | Josh Hawley is a problemNot everybody is fit to serve in the military. By and large men are capable of serving given the right physical training. As for you specifically: the draft isn't about any specific person. That being said, I think, unless you are exceptionally feminine, that you are capable of serving, at least physically, unless you have a physical disability. | /r/MensRights | 16/01/26 03:31 PM |
| 1 | What system are you guys using to document everything without losing your mind?I recorded everything using an app on my phone. Every night at night I stopped the recording, saved it to a "Daily Recordings" (with the date on the file name) in folder on Google Drive, then I started a new recording (she would wake me up at all hours of the night to yell at me, so I made sure it recorded 24/7). I also had a Google sheet that I tracked arguments, comments, etc on, I classified each row with a type column. The sheet had a timestamp on it so I could easily find the event in the r… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/26 03:31 AM |
| 9 | Dear women of the subreddit/female MRAs: based on your experiences of interacting with other women, how common is it for women to have compassion towards male suffering?Men have cognitive empathy, women have emotional empathy. They are different and manifest themselves differently, especially around others. Since you don't clarify who are the targets of the "expected" empathy, then it's hard to understand if your experience is aligned with reality. No disrespect, but if you're saying they don't seem to express empathy for coworker's suffering then I'd say they empathize with the person but don't see a benefit in showing empathy like a woman does. If you're refe… | /r/MensRights | 15/01/26 03:03 AM |
| 16 | Serious advice for men: Don't date broke womenMy experience is 50/50... In fact, one woman I dated in my mid-20s who was my age and we had the exact same job at the same company (yeah, I was dumb and dated a coworker) with exact same incomes. She expected me to pay for dates, and was very OCD about her money but not so much mine. One night we're were meeting friends at a club, the cover was $20 cash and I only had my credit card on me and I didn't know there was a cash cover until we were there (it was in the middle of nowhere, basically no… | /r/MensRights | 15/01/26 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Just need to ventThere are plenty of instances where one partner does basically everything right and the other partner makes decisions that any logical person would say "they sure did fuck up a good thing". This was the case in my marriage. I wasn't perfect, I never claimed nor implied that I was, but any deficiency I had in the marriage was inconsequential compared to the extreme change in personality that my wife went through. I never claimed I was the victim of feminism, in fact I firmly believe my wife was t… | /r/MensRights | 14/01/26 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Just need to ventThanks for the support. I wish what I wrote was fake, because what I lived through is something no man should have to experience. Some people, like this other commenter, clearly can't understand that some impressionable people take extreme viewpoints, even to the point where they demonize people in their own lives. | /r/MensRights | 14/01/26 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Just need to ventPlease explain what part of my "story" indicates to you that it is fake? | /r/MensRights | 14/01/26 05:13 PM |
| 2 | IncidentThen maybe it's a grammer issue, because the way it's written is implied the "all good" was referring to the police helping with the dropoff. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/26 11:23 PM |
| 3 | IncidentI didn't do anything wrong, so I'm good. Dude, this isn't how the world works. This was pure luck. Never assume the police are on your side. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/26 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Service Day!My ex would go in and purposefully take my sentimental items to use as leverage then threaten to call the police if I touched her. So I slowly, over the span of two years, snuck out my personal items and put them in a storage unit that was tied to a CC she didn't know about, all this was registered under a random email address that she also didn't know about. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/26 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Wife frequently calls me a “useless piece of shit”Agree completely! I'd say about half of the men I know are in terrible marriages that they don't have the willpower to get out of. I had one coworker/friend tell me the other day he wishes somebody would "take him out" because he would prefer that to being married. It sucks because he's a really good guy but he made a really bad choice picking his mate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/26 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Trapped in Marriage"can't afford to live in my own" - can you clarify? Is she the primary breadwinner? What is each of your incomes and where do you live? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/26 05:47 PM |
| 13 | Wife frequently calls me a “useless piece of shit”I was exactly where you are right now. The moment I decided to divorce my ex was when she was following me around the house calling me a piece of shit. I did basically everything after our kid was born except the breastfeeding. I worked, came home to a trashed house, she handed me the baby and laid in bed Doomscrolling FB while I cleaned and cooked, except nothing was ever clean enough and the food wasn't cooked to her liking (she would literally order delivery while the food was still warm). Fo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/26 05:17 PM |
| 34 | Just need to ventI divorced my (now ex) wife because of her behavior, most of which was based off of her gender views. Her views progressively became more extreme and she started in with feminist groups and started blaming all her problems in white men (also, I'm white). I think she eventually started seeing me as part of the patriarchy, and thus it became her responsibility to emasculate and belittle me in front of family, friends, and coworkers. When Trump was elected (even though I didn't vote for him) our ma… | /r/MensRights | 12/01/26 05:07 PM |
| 1 | The dogNo judgement, but if your son never leaves his room, does he work, pay rent, and share the cost of utilities and food? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/26 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Man’s rights and DEIThanks! | /r/MensRights | 11/01/26 05:14 PM |
| 6 | Man’s rights and DEIRead Gad Saad's "The Parasitic Mind", he talks about these men and what they get out of it. He calls it the "Sneaky Fucker Mating Strategy", but applies it to the idea that the person changes their strategy to mimic others in order to get others to think they support the same thing to show they are part of the group. | /r/MensRights | 11/01/26 04:50 AM |
| 2 | Man’s rights and DEISurvey link please??? | /r/MensRights | 11/01/26 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Does this make sense in the agreement?If I'm reading this correctly you will never get you kid on Friday nights or Saturdays during the day? With an 8PM swap the kid will be going to bed very soon after the swap when you get them Saturday night. Meanwhile she gets them every other full Friday and Saturday and Sunday, then during odd months SHE gets an extra Saturday??? You'll never be able to take your kid somewhere for the weekend, while she can twice a month. This is a terrible schedule for you, it's fantastic for her. I'm guessin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/26 04:41 AM |
| 7 | Where to meet women - Hot Yogahyper-materialistic personality This 100%. Park outside and look at what they drive. Most of them are stringing along some asshole who's working his life away to keep making the payments on that Range Rover or Lexus GX while they're doing hot yoga in the middle of the day. Eventually they'll leave those dudes, take their money and kids, then live the good life spreading for the tatted loser working at Yarn Barn while he's a shell of a man living in an apartment eating $0.25 ramen packets simply … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/26 03:35 AM |
| -4 | I don’t understand the gender warsDon't be so pedantic. There is a standard type of female, and the statement "women are all the same“ is a colloquialism, it's not meant to be exact. Of course edge cases exist, but those are certainly not the standard nor do they disprove the implied claim that "women are all generally the same". It's like saying to a cat person "never trust a cat, they will turn on your at any moment" then every cat person bends over backwards to prove their cat would never do such a thing while everybody in ea… | /r/MensRights | 09/01/26 03:23 AM |
| 4 | She wanted to prove she could do it without me 🤣This can backfire easily. Directly telling them runs the risk of either them thinking dad is lying (I'm making the assumption here that mom will deny it to the kids) or it makes dad look resentful/vindictive. For this to work properly the kids need to figure it out themselves... i.e. "accidentally" leave out a legit document for one of them to find that has the recurring child support payment labeled clearly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/25 05:51 PM |
| 2 | “Never move out”?She told me if I didn’t, she would tell the kids we are getting a divorce, before Christmas. This is fucked up... Why would you want to stay married to a person who is willing to fuck up your children's Christmas for something they have nothing to do with? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/25 07:08 PM |
| 4 | Don’t let anyone convince you your entire worth is defined by your hardest moments.They can't provide emotional support for us, and when life is tough, they will look for other men who can provide them the security they need. This is true. Females require emotional support from males and the males are expected to provide it, although the emotional support varies by female and they are typically reluctant to express what it is they actually need. Conversely, they do not provide emotional support in the way males need. Most females believe that the inability to control their emo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/25 06:42 PM |
| 7 | My bro is now on the hook for lifelong child support because his 'gf' decided to keep the baby - after they agreed they didn't want kids!Frankly, this is fraud on her part. Granted, we don't live in a world that holds women accountable, this is why it's not. But you're also right, buyer beware. The guy didn't take the necessary precautions on the front end, now he's gonna pay for the next couple decades. It's a bit hard to have sympathy for him, though I do understand OPs frustration. | /r/MensRights | 15/12/25 07:50 PM |
| 2 | I think I’m done, but the pain of divorce is crushing meThat's really good news. Many men, including me, learn the hard way what their wife's true personality is after the divorce process starts. The woman you divorce is not the caricature of a wife you married. She put up a persona that obfuscated the truth of your marriage, and that is that you were never her first choice. In her mind she settled for you, and she resents you for not being what she wanted you to be. Don't fool yourself into thinking that woman you fell in love with is still in there… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/25 07:25 PM |
| 2 | I think I’m done, but the pain of divorce is crushing mePlease, for the love of God tell me you haven't sent this. Now listen carefully my dude, you don't tell the enemy your battle plan. You don't send them a letter telling them your shortcomings, your fears, or your weaknesses. NEVER GIVE THEM LEVERAGE OVER YOU. She's treating you like this because she's not fucking dumb, she knows exactly how bad a divorce will hurt you and SHE KNOWS THAT YOU KNOW. She doesn't give a flying fuck about you or trashing your family unit, why should she when she can g… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/25 02:58 AM |
| 6 | How has circumcission affected your life?Cut men ejaculate and call it a day, intact men are having a full body experience that is taking them out of this world. I recently spoke to an uncut friend about this, because he describe it exactly like that and I was wondering why I don't feel the same way... not even a fraction of what he described. Don't get me wrong, sex is fun, but it's also kind of meh too for me; but, for him it's like his entire goal in life and the way he describes it it's pure bliss. | /r/MensRights | 07/12/25 01:51 AM |
| 3 | Apparently there’s new discussion on TikTok and Twitter. If a man lies about his intentions, “pretending he wants a relationship,” it should be considered rape according to women. This is A EXTREMELY DANGEROUS LINE OF THINKING. Be safe men.Not silly, it's a strategy to promote female supremacy. | /r/MensRights | 04/12/25 03:21 AM |
| 7 | Apparently there’s new discussion on TikTok and Twitter. If a man lies about his intentions, “pretending he wants a relationship,” it should be considered rape according to women. This is A EXTREMELY DANGEROUS LINE OF THINKING. Be safe men.That would require accountability. | /r/MensRights | 04/12/25 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Normalized Female AbuseFinancial abuse... Women will spend "family" money, then gaslight men into thinking that any attempt to limit her spending is financial abuse against her. I experienced this firsthand, and my ex even claimed to the judge that I was financially abusive to her. Of course the judge believed her. | /r/MensRights | 16/11/25 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Man, 41, Asks for a ‘Gen Z Perspective’ After a Co-Worker, 24, Called Him Out in a Tense Work MeetingYes, he can report her. However, he then becomes the problematic employee who can't handle personal disagreements Ina work environment. If she reported HIM then HR would view it as him creating a hostile work environment. I worked for 6 years as a lead developer and one of the systems we supported was our company's HR system. I had access to all employee information, there is a fundamental bias in HR departments against men. | /r/MensRights | 14/11/25 01:58 PM |
| 144 | Man, 41, Asks for a ‘Gen Z Perspective’ After a Co-Worker, 24, Called Him Out in a Tense Work MeetingI work in a female-dominated company, and this is standard behavior. Her behavior was the definition of female toxicity... passive aggressiveness and publicly shaming him. She certainly could have brought this up privately, at which point if he was considerate, which it sounds like he is, then he would have publicly given her credit at the next opportunity. If he didn't THEN she can go to her manager. I basically had somebody throw me under the bus recently and I spoke with him privately and he … | /r/MensRights | 13/11/25 03:02 AM |
| 12 | I asked for divorce, twice, but stayedIt's hard to get past "I asked for divorce"... Sorry bro, you don't ask for a divorce, you don't need her fucking permission, you file the fucking paperwork. Filing the paperwork is easy, very easy, because you only need to tell your lawyer to do it and it's 2 pages and they already gave templates. Going through the divorce is hard, but you have to take that first step. Also, need to speak to a lawyer because in some states you can be on the hook for child support past 18 or while the kid is awa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/25 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Why Your Son Is Right WingThere are school curriculums that are based around CRT, but CRT itself is not a curriculum it's a theory. Maybe you should go try to educate yourself instead of spewing nonsense on here. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/25 09:02 PM |
| 0 | Girl dads are the biggest feministsWait, so YOU know what true feminism is??? Wow, that's reassuring. To think all those women who write books on feminism, those who create feminist organizations, those who lobby governments to create feminist laws, those aren't the real feminists. I'm so glad you're here to keep us straight in what true feminism means. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/25 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Why Your Son Is Right Wingbecause literally no one is teaching critical race theory to children in schools. This is a false statement. Sure, they might not be calling it CRT, but the concepts are absolutely there. When my son was in first grade he was taught that he oppressed black people because he's white. His teacher told a class full of children that if you are white then you oppress black people. This is CRT. DEI is a systematic form of oppression utilized to combat the fictitious basis for CRT, which is that white … | /r/MensRights | 12/11/25 06:31 PM |
| 6 | Okay, so as all mens rights guys probably know, the idea that 98% of rapists are men is completely false and bullshit so raises the question, are male victims of SA really more likely to be assaulted by another man than a woman?https://time.com/3393442/cdc-rape-numbers/ And now the real surprise: when asked about experiences in the last 12 months, men reported being “made to penetrate”—either by physical force or due to intoxication—at virtually the same rates as women reported rape (both 1.1 percent in 2010, and 1.7 and 1.6 respectively in 2011). In other words, if being made to penetrate someone was counted as rape—and why shouldn’t it be?—then the headlines could have focused on a truly sensational CDC finding: that… | /r/MensRights | 12/11/25 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Wife wants a divorce and it's ripping me to shredsbut when the intimacy returns more passionate that before - that's an even bigger red flag - usually guilty conscience. Bingo! She either is or was fucking somebody else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/25 06:08 PM |
| 1 | What's the reason behind this wave of extreme hatred against men on social media by feminists and women in general?But regular females also see this crap and bring it into their relationships. My ex hopped on the ultra-feminist bandwagon which is why I divorced her, and she 100% got all her information from social media. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/25 05:56 PM |
| 14 | I’m leaving work early tonight to go home and tell my wife I want a divorce.You're just kicking the can down the road, and giving her the opportunity to get a game plan together that will benefit her. If she wanted a good marriage she would fix her side of the problems. She'll say whatever she can to string you along. Tell her you want a divorce if you've made the decision, because you either do or you don't, it's a binary decision. If you don't want a divorce then don't even bring it up, just tell her the marriage isn't healthy then present ways you think each of you c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/25 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Here we go again. Divorce number 3That's tough. Sometimes our brains simply don't work in our best interest... We all have our foibles. And I'm guessing you also mixed your pre-third-marriage assets with the third-marriage assets? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/25 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Just a reminder that you're not a monster for wanting sexWomen want sex just as much as men; but, there's a difference between wanting sex and wanting sex with their husbands. | /r/MensRights | 15/08/25 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Man I’m just a wreckFrom my point of view you're doing what a good father needs to do. It's hard, but keep it up, you're kids will thank you for it. Don't forget to be proud of yourself. Good luck, stay strong. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/25 11:48 AM |
| 14 | Here we go again. Divorce number 3At this point you have more experience with divorce than probably 99.99% of the other men in this sub, congrats. :) But I do have a couple serious questions: I can understand going for a second marriage, but after that one failed what made you think a third one would be different... Are you a codependent person, addicted to pussy, or just bad at making decisions? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/25 11:44 AM |
| 2 | Ways to help cope with it allDeleting yourself won't help, period. You see your wife as a woman who's worthy of your love, but the reality is that's she's an emotional cancer in your life. Given all you've been through so far it doesn't seem like she's ever been good for you, so why would you hang on to something that is doesn't benefit your life? You've conditioned yourself to think of her as something she's not, you need to reframe your view towards her. It's hard, but you're worth it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/25 11:35 AM |
| 1 | How old is everyone?Do you have the same financial quality of life than you did before the divorces I'm way better now than I was while married. It took me 14-16 months to get my 401k back to where it was prior to the split. I also now have a fully funded Roth IRA 4 years in a row, plus a 527 for my kind and a number of other non-tax advantaged brokerage accounts and practically every other aspect of my life is in order. My wife was draining me emotionally and financially, and I'm not being hyperbolic... I went fro… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/25 08:58 AM |
| 1 | Feel like I have lost PPO remains unchanged. Looking for adviceYou have a penis therefore society hates you. She has a vagina therefore society loves her. It sucks but that's the way it is. Minimize contact with her as much as possible, record everything. If this PPO comes up immediately turn around and file one against her. Drown her in legal challenges, call CPS on her as often as you can. Make the system work for you, be proactive not reactive. Try asking chat GPT for advice, but be aware that it's biased against men, therefore you need to frame question… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/25 02:21 AM |
| 5 | I guess it's over.Count your blessings that you're only married five years and that you have no kids. Imagine yourself being married for 15 years most of that with no sex except for when she wanted to get pregnant then you're stuck with a roommate who resents you and two kids that you love but have chained you irrevocably to this woman. Being alone sucks but you'll adapt, being attached to somebody for the rest of your life and having to give that person a chunk of your hard-earned money every month is way worse,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/25 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Going through mediation. Need adviceThis can go in a number of directions. At some point it will dawn on her that her standard of living is going to drop sharply, at which point she'll start demanding more and more. Don't be surprised if she does retain a lawyer once she comes to that realization. Her being a sahm for so long is going to work in her favor and against you big time. Her lawyer and the mediator will probably bring that up and attempt to use that as leverage against you since you're the one who makes money. As the wom… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/25 02:10 AM |
| 3 | How old is everyone?When you say a "drop in income" does that mean household income or net after alimony/CS? My divorce was expensive (for my socioeconomic level) but I'm in a much better place financially now because I'm no longer supporting a financial and emotional parasite. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/25 01:59 AM |
| 1 | My wife wants a divor**I agree with all the other comments, lots of good advice here and you should take it all to heart. But wanted to add a couple things. She is your enemy. She is no longer the woman you fell in love with. At this point she's given you a peak into her strategy, don't ignore it. You need to start thinking long-term strategy then work out the tactical moves necessary to implement your strategy. Take nothing for granted, assume very little will go your way. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 03:00 AM |
| 2 | U.S. men are doing a record-high 100 minutes of housework per dayJust an FYI, only 56% of women in the US work full time as of 2016. https://www.bls.gov/blog/2017/12-stats-about-working-women.htm Due to COVID I believe that number has gone down, but I can't find the source for that. | /r/MensRights | 09/07/25 02:44 AM |
| 9 | Useless at 50This 100% and I'm the same age as OP. Since divorcing my ex 4 years ago I've taken multiple trips to Europe and in the process of planning another one. I work out, lost weight, am in better physical condition than I have been in 30 years. Can't do much about my hair but after losing a ton of weight I was forced to renovate my wardrobe so I met up with a couple well-dressed gay friends and we made a full day of hitting all the men's clothing stores. My cologne collection rocks and I do get some i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/25 02:34 AM |
| 1 | Girlfriend cheated, everyone takes her sideThe second would be to stay with her, but have trysts of your own. Maybe she’s impossibly beautiful and you have a hard time giving that up Then she ends up getting pregnant, who knows if it's his, and she puts his name on the birth cert now he has a ton of legal fees just to get out of child support.. and that's the best case scenario. | /r/MensRights | 08/07/25 02:25 AM |
| 12 | She bought lingerie…First off, you REALLY need to get your picture off Reddit. She can grab an old pic of your face and a simple Google search will bring up your reddit profile and she can see all your posts about the divorce. Also, if she's fucking some other guy you don't want that guy to know what you look like. Second, you shouldn't be anywhere near her phone... Don't look at it, touch it, or even think about digging through it. It's hard to get past, but that's your only option. You are in control of your reac… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/25 02:12 AM |
| 2 | I’m lost and dying insideFile for divorce now. You're not doing anybody any good being in the state you're in. Given your kid's ages it's not necessary for you to suffer simply so they can finish school or whatever bullshit reason you're telling yourself. The fact that you're wife is burying you in debt AND YOU'RE LETTING IT HAPPEN is all on you. Once you file she'll be on the hook for any debt she accumulates subsequent to the filing, but you need to file NOW and get her name off your credit cards or close any that are… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/25 02:42 AM |
| 11 | As a gay male how do I cope?I can relate in certain way. I am straight but hang around with way more gay men than straight men or women. Gay men are simply more accepting of my personality (I self-describe as a sigma). Of the single straight men I know, they tend to do their own thing and it seems like most aren't interested in hanging out with other guys. I don't hang around any straight men who are in relationships, I believe it's because I'm divorced and their partners don't want them hanging around a divorced guy. I ev… | /r/MensRights | 07/04/25 01:35 AM |
| 2 | We still don't ask a women out twice correct?Judge a woman by her actions, not her words. She's not picking a day, and yet you say she seems interested.... Isn't it logical that she's waiting for you to pick the day? When she couldn't make it the first time you should have asked her schedule, then picked a day she had free. Instead SHE had to ask you your schedule, which at that point you should have got the hint and asked for her schedule. She's trying to get you to ask her and you're just sitting around being passive. Mostly women don't … | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/25 06:37 PM |
| 3 | The r/AskMenAdvice just asked me to provide my pronouns.A number of the points you made are way off. I don't want to nitpick each one, because I don't think there's anything I could say nor any evidence I could provide that would make you think critically about any of these topics. I know this because you are repeating the leftist talking points of mainstream American media. | /r/MensRights | 06/04/25 06:31 PM |
| 11 | The r/AskMenAdvice just asked me to provide my pronouns.Watch out, even questioning the moral brainwashing that is pronoun-politics will start the dogpiling from leftists. Remember, left and right swapped political stances in the past decade, the left is now anti-free speech, pro-war, and pro-big pharma while the right is anti-war, pro-free speech and any-big pharma. So, those who were more left now don't tolerate dissent from the world view and will call you a conspiracy theorist or Nazi or fascist if you don't agree with them. | /r/MensRights | 06/04/25 05:53 PM |
| 5 | We still don't ask a women out twice correct?Do you want to be a leader in your relationship? Because if you do then you need to act like a leader. If she is looking for a leader and you're not leading then she's not going to step up. It sounds like she wants you to lead, but you're waiting on her to take the lead. It seems you two are not compatible. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/25 05:45 PM |
| 15 | Divorce is “catching”…I also heard they love being told statistics by men, especially when those statistics directly contradict their world view. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/25 10:57 PM |
| 3 | Would a man seek a lifelong relationship with a woman who has kids?There are plenty of men out there who are open to being in a relationship with a single mother of two kids. Unfortunately for you, they aren't the type of men you are willing to date. | /r/MensRights | 03/04/25 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Relocation QuestionsFile a motion with the court to prevent the relocation. This is often called a “motion to enforce custody order” or “motion to prevent relocation.” The court can issue an emergency or temporary restraining order if the move is imminent. You don't need a lawyer to file this motion. Make sure you bring the custody agreement to the trial. Per chatGPT: When filing the motion, the man should include a copy of the custody agreement as part of the documentation. That agreement is the legal basis for as… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/25 12:28 PM |
| 3 | Ex’s BF is overstepping with sportsChill out there Roger Ramjet! What the hell are you going on about? It's his ex-wife's custody time. If she doesn't want the daughter to go to a party it's her prerogative. If the situation was reversed OP should tell her to fuck off if she wants the daughter to do something. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/25 11:14 AM |
| 1 | I'm worried my kids are being coachedFile a motion with the court for a temporary custody schedule. If you have no formal arrangement in place then you have the upper hand if you are the one who files the motion. A 6yo and 5yo aren't old enough to make a decision, she knows that and she's hoping you'll go along with it to play nice. Don't. Use the legal system to your advantage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/25 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Tied to Mortgage After Divorce (WA State) – Need Advice (Yes, I Know It Was a Mistake)So you agreed to this arrangement, and now you're mad because of what? Or course you can't get access to the property, it's hers. What about "the family", do you mean your children? If so what is the custody agreement? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/25 01:24 AM |
| 9 | Estranged wife says “other parents” don’t want a man in the house during a sleepover.Never trust text message screenshots, it takes about 5 minutes to fake. https://ios7text.com/ I've been here about 5 years and this is probably the first time (that I can remember) I've seen somebody that used the term "estranged". Mostly people say STBXW, but you didn't. I sure hope that was a mistake and you're not actually still putting up with this instead of filing for divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/25 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Mens Rights Subs vs Feminist Subs & ContradictionsChange to anonymous mode and check out all the left-wing, anti-Trump, anti-male hatred that infests this website. It's a echo chamber and cesspool of feminist leftist psychos. If you're here then you're not seeing most of what the real reddit looks like. | /r/MensRights | 14/03/25 01:45 AM |
| 6 | Marriage is DeadFuck you man. I'm 50, I lost 35 lbs over the past couple years, I work out multiple times per week and I'm in better shape than I've been in the past 20 years. I now have defined abs and muscles that are visible all the time. I smell fucking good because I bathe regularly and I purchase high quality cologne. I don't have a ton of chicks hitting on me, but I get plenty of notices and glances/smiles when I wear well fitting, quality clothes. I feel good about my body when I'm poolside, especially … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/25 02:04 AM |
| 3 | I was talking to this girl I met on a dating app and the convo honestly shocked me to the level of misandry being spread around itWhen you're married it's an inexhaustible pit of consumption, and it's all lampshades and shit you would never spend money on if you were single. This is so true. Females run on emotions, they are addicted to the hormones that feelings produce. Shopping gives them that momentary rush of emotions, which is why for many of them they cannot stop. Sure, a small number of males are like this too, but it applies to the majority of females. Males look for things that will help them do stuff, females lo… | /r/MensRights | 13/03/25 01:53 AM |
| 5 | How to answer "But women have more suicide attempts"A study was published that calculated suicide attempts (and their outcomes) by males and females; males had higher success rates than females. Hospitalizations caused by typically female-based behaviors such a bulemia and cutting were included in those statistics, which biased the data towards females "attempting" suicide more than males. Now that bias is used as the basis for the feminist argument that females have a greater need than males for suicide prevention. | /r/MensRights | 09/03/25 04:57 PM |
| 6 | Why do we feel mad about the word patriarchy?More men than women are murdered each year, by large amounts. https://www.statista.com/statistics/1388777/murder-victims-in-the-us-by-gender/ In 2023, the FBI reported that there were 13,789 victims of murder who identified as male, compared to 3,849 victims of murder who identified as female in the United States. A further 75 murder victims were of an unknown gender in that year. In America it's's much more dangerous to be a man than a woman. Let me guess, that's also because of the patriarchy,… | /r/MensRights | 09/03/25 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Anyone here who has been divorced for 3+ years, haven’t been in a serious or even casual relationship since, and still feel miserable?I've not been dating, but even casual conversations with single women whom I'm not even trying to pick up typically end up with them asking these types of questions... Almost as a triage for a possible relationship. Granted, I'm mostly referring to playdate mothers and other single mothers that I meet with around my kids school activities. In fact, I went out last week to a PTA meeting and the women next to me asked if I was single, then within two minutes asked what kind of benefits I get from … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/25 12:08 AM |
| 1 | I was told I should fight for what what is half mine. But how does that work?I think you misunderstood what I was saying. I was basically warning you of what she could try to do if she has a slimy lawyer. If she "owed" you $100k, such as buying you out of a house, but she doesn't have a way to get the cash to pay you, she can try to get you to agree to NOT pay her child support in place of her giving you the $100k. You agree and sign the agreement then give her the title of the house. Then later she goes back to court and asks them to order child support, now you're on t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/25 10:57 PM |
| 2 | I was told I should fight for what what is half mine. But how does that work?Be aware, in the US, child support is always modifiable. Meaning, if you agreed in lieu of that $100k she owes you she will not ask for child support and you agree and sign the papers then everything seems fine for a while. Then a year later she goes to the judge and asks for child support, the judge will grant it (because it's "for the good of the child"), and that $100k agreement you made won't change whatsoever. She will have stole $100k from you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/25 02:14 AM |
| 4 | I reported a woman who made a sexist comment in my university/college classDepending on the state you can record the classes, then report it then post the video online if they don't do anything. | /r/MensRights | 27/02/25 08:57 PM |
| 13 | Wife suddenly left me and my world is crumbling apart.Just look at what you wrote... caught my wife flirting with a colleague she enjoyed the attention from a colleague I allowed it She was sending him pictures of her in the mirror I did tell her that I wanted to know when she would meet up with him. her affection towards me was decreasing She absolutely doesn't want couples therapy Given all that, how is the following statement true? She has been prepping this breakup for a year and left me clueless. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/25 08:23 PM |
| 7 | Well the affair partner just called me.lawyer strongly suggests doing an uncontested divorce as Good luck getting her to agree to an uncontested divorce. You should prepare for the worst (false DV/SA accusations, demanding unrealistic CS/SS amounts, and unequal division of assets) and hope for the best. You best case to get her to agree to an uncontested divorce is to threaten her with social destruction if she doesn't agree with your terms. Also, don't start negotiations with equal terms, you need to demand uneven terms then meet in… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/25 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Your wake up call.Any tips on setting up a female profile and getting into one of these groups? I've wondered if my ex has been talking on them. I will go on playdates with my kid and another kid's mom and after a couple meetups I get ghosted. I'm straight business with small talk, nothing personal and definitely no flirting or really anything that can be misinterpreted as me making a move. First I thought she was speaking directly to them, but then I would set up the meet without my ex knowing and the same thing… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/25 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Message to clothing companiesThis is the answer. Women crave external validation, men are biologically inclined to look at women's breast as indicators of female breeding quality, companies create a product that will sell, so messages over breasts is a perfect placement to sell units. If it wasn't then those messages would be on the backs of shirts where it's easier to read and produce. | /r/MensRights | 22/02/25 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Recent divorcee needing adviceThere are many important facts you didn't include... Such as location, home equity, your income and her income, etc. all those have an affect on what options are best. she wants to stay in the home with the children whilst I have custody for 2 days a week. Think about what she's asking. She's asking for the house, but she's hoping to get you to pay for the mortgage or give her you're equity; but, she's also asking to keep the kids a majority of the time. Do you think either of these is fair to y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/25 07:32 PM |
| 1 | USA: My husband's reaction to Taylor Swift at the Super Bowl told me he was still just a boy… now I'm divorcing him.Who's Taylor Swift, what's the Super Bowl, and what does this have to do with Men's Rights? | /r/MensRights | 20/02/25 03:10 AM |
| 7 | Sex drive messed up after separating.I think for many guys around 40-45 the hardness decreases due to simple biological. Add in the stress of a divorce and navigating the single life, new financial situation, etc and the compounding effect is more pronounced. Do you still get morning erection and if so are they the expected hardness? If yes then I'd say it's more psychological. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 04:51 AM |
| 2 | How do Democrats win back white men?They won't win me back, ever. Fuck Them. This election was the first time I voted for a Republican in the 3 decades I've been voting, so I have no love for Republicans. That being said, watching them wage lawfare on Trump, manipulate the media and social media, suppress free speech via back channel organizations, Clinton with her secret server, then paying for the fake Russian collusion hoax (which Obama and Biden fucking knew about this entire time), straight-up lying about things that Trump sa… | /r/MensRights | 09/02/25 09:17 PM |
| 6 | Found out my wife is a garbage human."For better or worse" is a fantasy that men are fed think that if they hold up their end their wife will as well. Except, that's almost never how it works out IRL. Maybe it applies when something unexpected and not self-inflicted happens to one of the spouses. But when they do something that will, to any rational person, damage the relationship. That being said, you were fucking stupid for thinking that letting her have sex with somebody else would work out well for you. I get that the idea of f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/25 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Trump's executive order "Keeping Men Out of Women's Sports" is heavily biased against men. There was an opportunity to use gender neutral language to protect everyone, but neither the left or right care about menWomen arent all up in mens space though WTF are you talking about, there are no longer any men-only spaces. | /r/MensRights | 08/02/25 01:37 AM |
| 1 | On the edgeWait until he finds out how much alimony (and maybe child support) he has to pay her each month. Hopefully he's not in TX, that's the worst place to get a divorce, followed closely by CA. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/25 02:19 AM |
| 4 | Wife wants divorce after just 14 months. What are my prospects here?She needs to be working. Try to get her to finish nursing school prior to the divorce if there's not much left, otherwise you could be on the hook for more CS. Alimony will be minimal (if any) considering the length of the marriage. Expect, nay demand, 50/50 custody with no CS. Or even better, demand she give you child support. Don't give her any equity in the house, period. She'll demand it, but unless the house appreciated significantly over those 14 months then too bad for her. If she gets an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/25 02:15 AM |
| 13 | I guess we all just feel guilty about our privilegeWomen process the world around them based on feelings, not reality. They see a guy, and if they feel he's dangerous, irrespective of the probability he is actually a danger to them, they will behave in a manner such that he is actually dangerous. They will then claim that they were actually in danger, because their emotions made them feel they were in danger. Another example is when a women dreams her man cheats, then wakes up and treats him as if he actually cheated. Knowing that frames every s… | /r/MensRights | 04/02/25 10:31 PM |
| 6 | The Blake Lively v Justin Baldoni case is far worse than you could have ever imagined. It's Amber Heard on steroids.I tried reading through those text messages and it was bizarre to me how they spoke to each other. Admittedly, I was only able to get thru about a 10th of the full document, but where I'm from people don't talk like that. The amount of praising of each other was so over the top it became obnoxious to read. | /r/MensRights | 04/02/25 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Too old to divorceWhy do you have to buy a house? Is renting not an option for some reason? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/25 01:53 PM |
| 23 | Just got this in my work newsletter. Why is it ignored that heart disease is the #1 killer of men, too?My company did this too. Our leadership jumped headfirst into the DEI cesspool; we have bias training, multiple ERGs (Employee Resource Groups), and white people (mostly white men) are excluded from most everything but especially promotional materials. So not only did they make this month about women but they also made it about non-white women by only putting women of color on all banners and website media. | /r/MensRights | 04/02/25 12:52 AM |
| 22 | Just got this in my work newsletter. Why is it ignored that heart disease is the #1 killer of men, too?Can't do that in the real world, HR will get involved and they are all feminists who don't tolerate even questioning the message. | /r/MensRights | 04/02/25 12:28 AM |
| 4 | Survey: how much custody % do you have as the father?Woah, that's crazy. How exactly did you ask out your ex-wife's affair partner's ex-wife? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/25 12:27 AM |
| 6 | Montana child support bill wants to destroy FathersThey won't. Most men will take any chance just to get sex. Damn the consequences. And it's not like those men probably even know these laws exist. Education is the only way, and the best way to do that is to teach it in schools, which won't happen because schools are run by woke progressive feminists. | /r/MensRights | 31/01/25 12:26 PM |
| 5 | Hot Bedroom Toxic RelationshipBased on your responses to others, I can confidently say that your wife is exactly like my ex. The sex was amazing, almost equal to top-level porn. Except she was a hoarder, and unbelievably bad with any kind of logic/reason when it came to money. My ex kept me living pay-to-paycheck for about a decade. In my case I tolerated it because she was able to hide or redirect to keep me off her case. All that being said, eventually her other antics when Trump was elected amplified her victim mentality … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/25 07:47 PM |
| 6 | Wife breaks every boundary.Gray Rock Method... Don't let her know what bothers you. If she doesn't get a reaction from you she can't get the drama-induced dopamine hit she desperately needs. Expect her to push harder and harder to get a reaction, and you can never give it. Just stop giving a fuck, or at least make her think you stopped. Record everything, run a recording app on your phone 24/7, you never know when she might turn a small argument into a DV claim. Many women are transactional, many women think they deserve … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/25 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Would primary residence be at risk in this scenario?NAL... In my experience, any equity in a property prior to marriage is to the owner, while any equity gained during the marriage is split jointly. This means you possibly need an appraisal to set the value for the negotiations. If it comes to that expect her to get one which will probably be much higher than the true value, you will need your own otherwise the judge will go with hers. You will need the paperwork from the purchase to prove the value and the equity when you purchased the property.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 03:40 PM |
| 5 | The Demonization of RecordingsWhen I came to court with thousands of hours in recordings I basically did the same thing and posted a comment a while back. In my case I recorded 24/7 because my wife at the time would turn abusive instantly and I couldn't get my recorder app turned on without making it obvious. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/s/Z2okx4jh6F I've saved these recordings, so when my kid is an adult he will hear the truth what I went through... if he wants. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 02:58 PM |
| 29 | Does anyone else get a bit bothered by dick size shaming?Yet women are allowed to put things like “only looking for 8 inches” or whatever in their dating app bios and no one says a thing. The reason is that it doesn't benefit a man to call women out, because they are thousands of thirsty men right waiting in line behind him at the chance to get their dicks wet. Unfortunately that need is part of men's biology and dating sites make money exploiting . The only way to stop it is for men to abandon dating sites en masse. | /r/MensRights | 25/01/25 10:43 PM |
| 1 | In debt, split custody with my kids, might lose my car if I can’t pay my extremely high insurance, out of options.Can you sell the car (without taking a loss) and get a cheap Honda or Toyota? Check out Dave Ramsey, his Baby Steps are good for people in debt who have lower income. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Will she submit discovery today?Did you file a motion to compel today? | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 02:11 AM |
| 4 | Broke up with my long term partner because simply put I fell out of love for her and now everyone on both sides of both families are mentally abusing ruthlessly. Any help available?If he's happy being single then it only shines a light on the unhappiness they are all hiding. Misery loves company is true when it comes to dating/marriage advice, this is why women have a higher chance of getting divorced if they have friends who are divorced... Or why people push others to get married. No guy ever said "I'm so glad I married this woman who I'm not in love with, who doesn't respect me, and doesn't have sex with me anymore". But how many guys say " I'm so glad I'm no longer mar… | /r/MensRights | 22/01/25 02:11 AM |
| 1 | [US/IL] EX’s Notice of Relocationreasonable GAL They don't exist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 01:45 AM |
| 7 | If sexual harassment includes unwelcome or inappropriate sexual behavior that makes other people feel uncomfortable, as feminists have defined it, then wearing sexually provocative clothing in public should be considered sexual harassmentAnd this doesn't even have to happen at work, he could meet her at a book store; then when she's back in the office she starts feeling like she's being harassed. Usually it's filed under "creating a negative/toxic work to environment". | /r/MensRights | 21/01/25 08:53 PM |
| 9 | If sexual harassment includes unwelcome or inappropriate sexual behavior that makes other people feel uncomfortable, as feminists have defined it, then wearing sexually provocative clothing in public should be considered sexual harassmentNot sure where you work, but at most companies the HR departments are run by feminists. At these companies a woman can accuse a man of sexual harassment simply because of how they feel. If a man looks at woman's cleavage and that makes her feel harassed then she files a complaint and he can't really defend himself and he loses his job. He can't really claim she was wearing provocative clothes because that would be taken as admission that he was looking at her cleavage. And this doesn't even have… | /r/MensRights | 21/01/25 04:46 PM |
| 1 | A republican introduced a bill to allow remote voting for new MOTHERS (only). Democrats converted it to allow remote voting for all new parents, including fathers. Write your congress-critters to support GENDER-EQUAL remote voting for new parents in congress.when many of the "feminists" they seethe at are actually right wing terfs. This isn't true even in the slightest. https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2020/07/07/61-of-u-s-women-say-feminist-describes-them-well-many-see-feminism-as-empowering-polarizing/ People act like feminist is synonymous with "left wing" Also not close to being true. There are sharp partisan divides among women as well. Three-quarters of Democratic and Democratic-leaning women say the term feminist describes them very or… | /r/MensRights | 21/01/25 02:39 AM |
| 2 | Will she submit discovery?File the motion to compel if she doesn't produce the discovery, even if she's a day late. It's a court filing, and it's proof that she was late AND that she's expected to follow the process and meet her deadlines. If you don't file the motion to compel and you try to bring up her being late or not even providing discovery the court will ask why you didn't file a motion to compel. Your lawyer should already have the motion to compel written and ready to file first thing tomorrow morning. If they … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 02:12 AM |
| 2 | Wife wants divorce, hasnt gotten paperwork yet, housing headache and need some kind of help.I said I wasn't trying to be judgemental. People can do what they want, I don't care if a couple is monogamous or not. You're the one who came here asking for advice, just because you don't like what we're saying doesn't mean it's any less valid. It sounds like, from her perspective, you've served your purpose, you had/have medical issues and you're going downhill financially. If she has better options she will take them. It's called female hypergamy. I expected her to have a reason she could ar… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/25 10:25 PM |
| 3 | Wife wants divorce, hasnt gotten paperwork yet, housing headache and need some kind of help.Not meaning to be judgemental, but you let your wife go fuck other guys, what exactly did you expect? You didn't include anything about that in your post. Women thrive on emotions, drama, and external validation (all of which are amplified by newness); eventually she was destined to lose interest in you because she's getting all of those things from others. Not sure what your medical situation is, but if it's exaggerated by stress then you're probably in for a rough time which can affect your wo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/25 08:41 PM |
| 18 | Why are women’s hormonal changes excused but men’s hormonal changes demonized?Why exactly would an anti-male feminist participate in a men's rights sub? Go somewhere else, we don't want you here. | /r/MensRights | 20/01/25 04:14 PM |
| 2 | “Entitled Mom” Demands To Know Why Man Alone On His Disney TripI've been to Disney World by myself; it's OK to be a kid-at-heart there. People see an adult male on the outside, but they don't consider that it's the kid inside that wants the picture with the characters. | /r/MensRights | 19/01/25 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Should I get married in the United States?Is the only reason you would get married so that you can work in the US? Do you think you will get other benefits out of it? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/25 10:59 PM |
| 2 | How would you feel about my wife’s donor choice if you were in my shoes?Your statements are correct. I think you're getting downvoted from those who are taking your statements as offensive to redheads. They aren't. | /r/MensRights | 19/01/25 04:50 PM |
| 21 | How would you feel about my wife’s donor choice if you were in my shoes?It sounds like the wife chose the donor's attributes based on her own personal preferences vs what's best for the kid. For me there's no way I would have let her make that decision alone, exactly because of what his wife did to him. | /r/MensRights | 19/01/25 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Man Loses Job, Gets Banned from Stadium for Calling a Woman an Obscenity During Football Game - Is that Sexist?Usually when videos like this are posted they don't include the events leading up to the part of the encounter that was shared. Also usually, knowing that changes the context significantly. A prime example is the interaction in DC between the kid with the maga hat and the native American protester with the drum. My guess is that this woman probably made some verbally abusive comments to him, he responded with his own verbal abuse; but people don't see the first part so they assume she did nothin… | /r/MensRights | 17/01/25 06:24 PM |
| 5 | Pending divorce, separation, Romantic rekindling? Advice wantedDude, WTF are you doing? Your relationship is terrible. First you can fuck other people, then you can't, you might get divorced, but then you fight, then you start fucking again and the kids think you're together, then she's fucking somebody else. It's a shit show and you're both the contestant and host. Nothing in that wall of text indicated any healthy behaviors on either of your parts. Stop fucking around, end it. Move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/25 08:59 PM |
| 2 | A Canadian girl I knocked up in South East Asia is making it hard for me to see my kid.Not meaning to be cold hearted, but what does it matter to you what happens to the kid? If she knows you want to see the kid then she has leverage over you. Not to mention, you have no proof it's even your kid... Except you have already kind of told her you are the father by your behavior of wanting to see the kid... And she can also you that against you. If I were you I would forget about it, take this as a lesson to keep it in your pants until you find somebody who you want to be entangled wit… | /r/MensRights | 16/01/25 03:26 AM |
| 19 | Did any of you deal with feminists irl? And if so, how?Totally agree. I wish I had recognized all the other red flags a decade earlier. I'm never getting married again, I made that commitment to myself and I have made no attempt to even date. My life is better when I'm alone. It does get lonely sometimes, but the tradeoff of living a drama-free life is worth it. | /r/MensRights | 16/01/25 03:20 AM |
| 39 | Did any of you deal with feminists irl? And if so, how?Typical liberal white chick. Born to a fairly well off family and not oppressed in any way. She was addicted to Facebook, HuffPo/WaPo, Elizabeth Warren, and virtue signaling... and mixing muscle relaxers with red wine, then yelling at me when I refused to fuck her in that state. | /r/MensRights | 16/01/25 01:44 AM |
| 55 | Did any of you deal with feminists irl? And if so, how?I was married to one, does that count? There was certainly a lot of screaming, and it got significantly worse after Trump was elected in 2016. I tell people my marriage started failing because Trump was elected. She went hard on the anti-white male rhetoric and patriarchy talk, then embraced her victim status. Of course, if I brought up how she constantly complained about being a victim she would declare she is a strong independent woman (who just happened to be completely dependent on me) and t… | /r/MensRights | 16/01/25 01:25 AM |
| 2 | A discord server I was part ofYeah, that's definitely discriminatory. Good catch. Any thoughts on what can be done? Maybe file a discrimination complaint with Discord? | /r/MensRights | 14/01/25 12:50 AM |
| 3 | A discord server I was part ofTrying to understand the issue, so apologies if this is a stupid question. What I see is that females have the option to join the female channels AND the male channels, while males aren't given the option to join the female channels. Is that correct? | /r/MensRights | 13/01/25 08:02 PM |
| 1 | UN Report: Percentage of women among civilians killed in war DOUBLED in 2023. Guess what the percentage is AFTER doubling.Sorry mate, but Israel isn't indiscriminately killing anybody. They call people and send text messages to people in an area prior to dropping bombs. They have what's called a "tactical warning munition" that is used to warn residents in a building *before" the real bomb is dropped. That's not indicative of typical genocidal tactics. However, the rockets that Hamas has been launching into Israel for years had no guidance system beyond stabilizer fins. Only recently have they begun using even basi… | /r/MensRights | 13/01/25 03:08 AM |
| 1 | SHOCK VIDEO - LAFD Assistant Fire Chief Kristine Larson says if a man needs a female firefighter to pull him out of a fire to save his life, "He got himself in the wrong place" ... THEY WANT YOU TO DIENormally they are pretty good about covering up their hatred, but she's saying it out loud. Extraordinary. Of course nothing will happen to her, she'll probably get promoted for her man-hating. | /r/MensRights | 13/01/25 02:52 AM |
| 7 | Anyone who moved out of house first and then started the divorce process?!Bro, first off, use spell check. If you're foreign then state that in your post. Secondly; be aware that you are male. Your only purpose in our society is to produce something that can be exploited by others. You have little to no value to society if you don't produce anything. The family court system looks at you based on your ability to provide. Unfortunately, the family court system also considers your wife superior to you in almost every way. You have an uphill battle in front of you. You're… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 04:26 PM |
| 2 | My wife and I simply cannot stop fighting. How to know it's time to divorce?Is her current behavior a continuation of her behavior prior to the brief "good times" that produced the child? I ask this because it's possible she was playing nice to get pregnant. In my experience women in the mid to late 30s and after who don't have a child yet will be nice to get pregnant because they're time is running out, then they revert almost immediately after the kid is born. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 02:55 AM |
| 4 | Girling the Boy Scoutsthe primary reason for it was to gain access to the social power the name "Boy Scouts of America" commands Close, it is the Eagle Scout rank and the prestige that came with it that they wanted. It's all about the recognition, and being an Eagle Scout means a lot (well, it did) that's why back in the day presidents, astronauts, and other leaders would talk about earning the Eagle Scout rank. Women heard that and hated the idea there was a rank men could get but women could not. | /r/MensRights | 08/01/25 02:36 AM |
| 1 | To divorce or notThis is good advice. She still has sexual drive, it's just no longer aimed at you. She resents and no longer respects you for whatever reason (probably not because of anything you did), and when there's resentment and lack of respect there's no turning things around. Because of that she thinks she can do better. That will be stuck in her head forever. she might fake it, or ignore it for a while, but at some point in the future it will come back. Hell, you could work things out then 5 years from … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 02:25 AM |
| 1 | To divorce or notAsking for and getting a divorce Why did you ask? What if she said no? | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 02:18 AM |
| 5 | Wife left 4 year old home alone to go to marketI go outside (to get the mail or trash to dumpster) for 5-10 minutes and leave my kid in the apartment, even when he was 5-ish. It depends on the kid, some will sit there and stare at the TV while others will immediately grab the kitchen knives. Considering you were there, the only problem that I see is that she didn't inform you. Not sure how easy it would be to leave a meeting on your part, but my guess is if your kid was in trouble you could step away. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/25 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Went by the Ex's house yesterday and I'm honestly worried about her... and also relieved.My ex was incapable of cleaning up after herself, our house has "aisles" of boxes and other junk that required navigation to get past. She never did the dishes, but without fail she would stroll into the kitchen right before I'm finished doing them and say "oh, I was going to do those"... Man, she was so full of shit. Now, I live in an immaculate apartment (do with I could afford a house) and there no clutter whatsoever. All items on display are thoughtful and have actual special meaning, not so… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/25 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Are any of you in this group on good terms with your ex?I'm the same with my ex for the most part. We no longer get into arguments, one of us just ends the convo or phone call; immediately hang-up is sometimes necessary... Then the next time we talk it's like that never happened. It's kind of weird, but I think we both know there's no longer a point to the arguing, I think she's an idiot and I'm sure she thinks the same of me and we both know we won't change the other. Also, my ex is also a mess of a human and her life has gone into the shitter since… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/25 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Is day care normally included in child support?Sorry, not familiar with the Texas family law system, outside of it being ass-backwards and anti-male. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Is day care normally included in child support?The way my lawyer explained it to me was that in our state, AR, the combined income is what CS is based off of. Assuming 50/50 custody, the one with the higher percentage pays more to offset what the other cannot pay. Then out of that each pays half expenses of everything. It's an option to have a separate child care expenses assigned to an individual, but this is for specific situations (like one parent pays health insurance the other pays child care). I say this as a starting point for a discu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 03:47 PM |
| 5 | I'm on the mortgage (solely), but I gave the house to her. How do I make it so that she becomes responsible for paying off the mortgage and also the insurance?Be aware, child support is ALWAYS modifiable regardless of the initial agreement. In other words, you agree to equity in place of CS, she can go back to the judge in 6-12 months and ask for child support (even retroactive) and the judge can/will give it to her. You won't get any credit for that equity. This happened to a buddy of mine. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/s/qsS6pwod7N Child support is always modifiable. You both agree to x-amount of CS, the she can come back 6 months later and d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Are they banning circumcision in USA?Circumcision was a late 1800s solution to stop masturbation that didn’t work Circumcision is the oldest known medical procedure in the world. There are 4000 year old texts that reference it. we keep going this way and we’ll be talking about limiting all sexual pleasure for everyone. As for this, I'm sorry to tell you that you have TDS. Turn off MSNBC and CNN and go talk to normal people. | /r/MensRights | 24/12/24 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Are they banning circumcision in USA?I've never heard of anybody arguing against circumcision itself, only arguing against it being done on anybody under 18 without a medical reason. | /r/MensRights | 24/12/24 01:34 PM |
| 3 | Are they banning circumcision in USA?There's no real reason other than a person's preference and family ideals Sorry brother, this is the most ignorant statement about this topic that one can possibly make. I'm glad you're happy your parents circumcised you. I'm NOT happy that my parents cut off part of my dick because they were as ignorant as you. I assume you're OK with female circumcision as well? | /r/MensRights | 24/12/24 01:32 PM |
| 4 | I need some feedback. Posts keep getting removed. Can someone offer advice?Try posting your question on r/MensRightsMeta | /r/MensRights | 21/12/24 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Thanks for nothingHave you tried therapy and if not do you have the ability to go to therapy? | /r/MensRights | 20/12/24 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Thanks for nothingThose are a bunch of issues for one person to be facing, especially when that person feels like they are alone in the world. Do you want to fix them, or do you even care anymore? | /r/MensRights | 20/12/24 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Thanks for nothingLooking at your post and comment history you are getting plenty of responses, and you've basically posted the same thing for the last 11 months. Except, you literally don't say a positive thing in any of your comments. It sounds like you don't even want to help yourself at this point. You don't say much about your actual situation; but your responses imply that you were bullied at some point in the past (as in years ago), you have never been in a relationship, you're overweight, you don't have a… | /r/MensRights | 20/12/24 08:16 PM |
| 6 | Losing hope. How to rebound?"Rebound"? I don't particularly care for this word, because it implies a high-point that may be unrealistic. You need to adapt, analyze, then iterate. Pick a point to strive for, anticipate what things may stand in your way, then work through those problems. Kind of like in the book "The Martian", each problem is an opportunity to solve and grow. As for hope, I would say that's a fantasy. Hope is equal to wishing. If you're in a funk emotionally then you have another problem to solve. I know all… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/24 06:32 PM |
| 0 | Diddy Accusers' Lawyer Tony Buzbee Sued, Allegedly Gave Woman Venereal DiseaseUm, I don't think you do in the US. If there's a law then I've never seen it. | /r/MensRights | 20/12/24 03:25 PM |
| 9 | How do i emotionally support my male friends?The "woman are more emotionally intelligent than men" claim is false. Women are less emotionally regulated than men; but only in a feminist world is lack of control of something spinned into being better at that thing. As for supporting your mates, sometimes men just need to talk, so some non-judgemental questions can help them to open up. Sprinkle in some humor here and there. Don't try to fix or offer solutions/advice unless they ask. And NEVER discuss what they say with others. If you hear th… | /r/MensRights | 20/12/24 02:37 PM |
| 0 | A question for the massesThanks for posting again. The moment I realized I needed to divorce my (now ex) wife was when I came to the conclusion there's no path forward where she would change. All the changes she needed to make has to come from within her; nothing I could do would change her. The financial irresponsibility, the screaming, the lack of sex, the refusal to get a job, hoarding crap... I wasn't going to change any of that and I could not continue living that life. She begged me not to, and when that failed sh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/24 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Seeking Advice from Those Who’ve Been There: Am I Ready for Divorce?It's a bit annoying that you want us to bestow our hard-earned knowledge on you and you don't even take the time to provide basic info that is expected on all posts... Read the sidebar man. From Sidebar: Please include the following in new posts: ‣ State (if in the U.S.) or country • Children, how many, what age • Whether divorce or separation agreement has already been filed, and on what grounds • Whether you already have legal representation • Your living arrangements (do not leave your home) … | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/24 02:32 AM |
| 9 | The fate of a married man in the bedroomMy best advice to guys is to absolutely avoid repeating anything, ever. In other words: "guys, you're not doing the right things to keep us interested. Do better!". But there isn't better. She's interested in sex, just not with the man she's with. It's a fundamental problem with the female sex. | /r/MensRights | 19/12/24 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Feminist lie about women not caring, if men cry/show their feelingsI cried in front of my wife once. Ten years later, while divorcing her, she brought it up in front of two lawyers and a mediator (all women); she was trying to emasculate me. Women don't forget these things, they just keep it in their back pocket. | /r/MensRights | 18/12/24 09:44 PM |
| 1 | I Dread the Holidays: My GFs ex is always thereHer and her sister's behavior during that first meeting told you all you needed to know. They knew exactly what the situation was, and they got caught. That's a huge red flag. What else is she hiding from you? Judge a woman by her actions not her words... She is constantly choosing to allow him to be there even if you don't like it. She's shown you that this guy will be in her life forever, and she doesn't care how it negatively affects your life. Break up with her or be OK with it. Considering … | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/24 08:46 PM |
| 5 | This is why men need testosteroneI only read the first two pages, I didn't want to read any more. It's rather filth. Sounds fake. That being said, adults can do what they want. How is this related to Men's Rights? | /r/MensRights | 15/12/24 03:45 PM |
| 3 | STBX lawyer asks me to pay half her appraisal on my homeI should have been more clear. Current equity minus equity at the time of marriage is the equity gained during the marriage. She gets half of that. Maintenance and updates are irrelevant. Edit: my guess is that the judge would say at the time of separation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/24 02:59 AM |
| 3 | STBX lawyer asks me to pay half her appraisal on my homeShe lives there the next 6, not paying 1 penny towards my expenses repairs, she had no role in the home, no chores or anything, no cooking or cleaning Anything, including appreciation or equity in a home previously owned by just one spouse, acquired during the marriage is half hers. Doesn't matter if she did anything or not, cheating doesn't matter, none of that matters. Because of that, you both need to know the value of the home prior to the marriage and the current value. She's entitled to ha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/24 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Post-Divorce Free Time & HobbiesTry a sailing club. They usually need crew on deck for the sailboat races, it's low impact and many clubs let anybody crew for free plus free meals after the races and usually plenty of women who participate or even older folks who have daughters that might be single. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/24 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Post-Divorce Free Time & HobbiesWhere you live has a major impact on what you can do.... So that would be helpful info. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/24 02:37 PM |
| 5 | I’m losing my kids to a world of feminismThe day after the election I was picking my kid up from (elementary) school. It was a nice day, so I had the windows were open. The kids standing in line were chanting "we hate Trump" over and over. I'm talking like approximately 100 kids, basically all of them that were waiting to get picked up. My kid gets into the car, and immediately tells me how terrible Donald Trump is and that he wants to throw all gay people in jail. My son is in 2nd grade and this is happening in a solid red state. Ther… | /r/MensRights | 12/12/24 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Andrew Cuomo sex harass accuser drops lawsuit before she’s set for deposition but takes vicious parting shot: ‘Better off dead’https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_York_COVID-19_nursing_home_scandal On May 10, 2020, Cuomo rescinded the previous order issued on March 25, which directed nursing homes to admit patients carrying COVID-19. Cuomo repeatedly stated that the order was based on CDC guidance issued by the Trump administration. PolitiFact rated that statement as "mostly false" because the guidelines issued by the CDC and CMS indicated that a medically stable COVID-19 patient could be discharged from a hospital to a n… | /r/MensRights | 11/12/24 01:49 PM |
| 1 | What to do if she drains the bank account?My ex, right before the divorce papers were filed, charged $15k on my credit card... It went to her lawyer. I was stuck with that debt in the end. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/24 02:15 AM |
| 7 | Andrew Cuomo sex harass accuser drops lawsuit before she’s set for deposition but takes vicious parting shot: ‘Better off dead’This probably won't be a popular opinion here, but what the hell.... Frankly, this guy did some real shady shit with nursing homes during covid. If he's willing to do that my guess is he probably did what she accused him of, which it sounds like was making inappropriate comments. Many men, especially those in positions of power, use it thinking they can get sexual favors. Many men do get it because the women who give it up think they will get something out of it. Some men just do this. I don't t… | /r/MensRights | 11/12/24 02:12 AM |
| 3 | Wife Broke Into Private SpaceHave digital paperwork as much as possible. Get two new Gmail email accounts; one for direct emailing and another as your main email account for all your online accounts and file storage. Have your main email accounts pull in emails from the direct account, and have it send emails "thru" the direct account such that they look like they are send from your direct account. The goal being to disconnect the email your ex sees from the email you actually use. The main account is where you store all yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/24 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Wife wants M-F, I want 50/50. How to get her to agree?This is rough. Can't think of anything to help other than to fake a reconcile, move to a more equal state, then divorce her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/24 02:05 PM |
| 12 | Wife wants M-F, I want 50/50. How to get her to agree?I had a convo with another father from Texas recently who made way less than his wife and yet he still has to pay child support. Apparently in Texas the non-custodial parent pays child support to the custodial parent REGARDLESS of the income of the custodial parent. This is why she wants you to agree to give her more than 50%.. she doesn't want to pay YOU for child support, she wants you to pay her. Get. A. Lawyer. Also, never get married (or divorced) in Texas. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/24 02:44 AM |
| 2 | Is divorce really the right decision?I'm sure she'll try to limit or even sever our relationship even though that's probably not what's best for the kid. Unfortunately, it's not your kid so any fight about her will be one you will lose. It will be heartbreaking for both you and the child, but it's also something your wife can use against you, because you sound like a loving person and she'll see that as weakness. Based on your spiteful comment you should be prepared for her to turn into a different person. And watch out for the Sil… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/24 02:44 AM |
| 5 | Is divorce really the right decision?And more than anything else, I'm terrified of how it'll effect my children. You're kids will adapt. You staying in an unhealthy, unhappy marriage will be worse for them in the long run. Your youngest will certainly be fine from a divorce standpoint. The affect it will have on her kids is irrelevant (I'm assuming you didn't adopt them). Sounds like you've already come to the conclusion that you need a divorce. It's been 10 years of the same behaviors from her, and unfortunately people rarely magi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/24 01:39 AM |
| 3 | Lawyers Feesbut she's with me thurs night to Mon so mom can have her free time. You don't want this to be your final co-parenting schedule. You need some weekend time to yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/24 06:44 PM |
| 13 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?It seemed like they're looking for a government solution, like subsidizing childcare costs. It's more likely they are looking to create legislation aimed at providing women with more benefits. "“Investing in women well-being isn’t just good business - it’s a blueprint for societal progress.” | /r/MensRights | 05/12/24 06:38 PM |
| 4 | Need advice: wife left me with the kidsYou HAVE to make the time. Not sure how old the kids are, but if necessary find a babysitter or ask a family member to watch them so you can meet with a lawyer. Initial consult is free, use a credit card if necessary (better if the card is in her name) for the retainer. Most important is to do it now, as in start calling today or tomorrow, aim for a Monday meeting, ask them to file the paperwork immediately. Details can be worked out later, the initial petition for divorce requires very little i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/24 06:26 PM |
| 1 | At what point?What's really odd is that once this is all over, and the final settlement is reached, she won't bring it up again. Pick ups, drop offs, has a date and needs you to take the kids, etc... no problem. Beca I agree with everything you said 100% up until this point. There are plenty of examples in this sub where the ex-wife is continuing to throw false accusations towards the ex-husband. If she doesn't get her way she could keep this behavior up for the next 15 years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/24 02:57 AM |
| 40 | Woman gets 1 year in prison for murdering her sleeping father by dousing him with drain cleaner.I don't know if she's some kind of feminist or what. But I bet that wouldn't happen if it was a son doing that to his mother, even if she was abusive somehow https://www.oakgov.com/government/courts/circuit-court/judges/civil-criminal/hon-victoria-a-valentine | /r/MensRights | 05/12/24 01:58 AM |
| 6 | 'Narcissist' the most over used word of 2023/2024You're 100% correct. I heard the same thing from my (now ex) wife: Family budget = financial abuse $100/day limit on personal spending= financial abuse Expecting her to not shred credit card statements before I see them = financial abuse Refuse to take a loan out of my 401k for a vacation= financial abuse $40k limit on a new car (in 2009) = financial abuse I could keep going. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/24 01:53 AM |
| 22 | Caught wife cheating, she claims she’s sorry and doesn’t want a divorce.How sorry was she when she was hiding his text messages from you? How sorry was she when she was driving away from your family to meet this other guy. How sorry was she when she was letting him take her clothes off? How sorry was she when she was getting it doggie-style on his bed? How sorry was she when she was screaming his name as she orgasmed? How sorry was she when she was swallowing his load? How sorry was she when she came home and kissed you on the mouth? Open your eyes man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/12/24 01:41 PM |
| 8 | American Democrats, take up the cause!Tell me you'll improve my life as a man. Specifically, tell me that men as a whole will get your undivided attention and care going forward. Man, I won't vote for those a-hole again. I don't want them to tell me what they are going to do, I want them to DO IT. FFS, how many politicians actually do, or try to do, what they say? Exactly none. Donald Trump, for all his flaws, actually does what he says he's going to do. And I don't mean the fake things the media tells people he is going to do. Wake… | /r/MensRights | 03/12/24 02:38 PM |
| 8 | Divorce on the horizonEmotional affair, now she wants to separate??? Your marriage is over, just pull the plug. Google "female hypergamy", she's looking to move up the ladder and your hanging on to her leg keeping her in place. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/12/24 01:58 AM |
| 6 | Divorce on the horizonThis is the third post today in basically the same situation. It always gets busy in this sub in December... My guess is that the pressure of the holidays mixes with bad relationships to the point where people just can't take it any more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/12/24 01:55 AM |
| 10 | Separation = divorce?As others have stated, this is a common wife tactic she's using. Beware, not only is she attempting to manipulate you, she's actively planning multiple ways to get you out because she knows once you leave she can legally keep you out even if you pay the mortgage and bills. Research the "Silver Bullet Method", that's the next step in the escalation if her first ask doesn't work out. Does she have any divorced female friends, if not immediate does she have any on social media? Watch out for funds … | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/24 07:52 PM |
| 3 | Is Feminism= Female Supremacism?Then it's not "equal rights" that are being advocated for. This goes to the heart of feminism's push for female supremacy. | /r/MensRights | 02/12/24 02:25 PM |
| 1 | It’s looks like I’m being droppedThat first Christmas my family has already planned dinner and presents to be Christmas evening, then she had our kid in the morning with her family and did Christmas lunch. It was easy because we had already planned on separate family gatherings. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/24 02:21 PM |
| 5 | Is Feminism= Female Supremacism?My feminism means that men, women, and children all add something valuable to this world and that I should treat everyone around me with the utmost respect. Yeah, sorry, you can't just make up your own definition of feminism. You see, words and their meanings are important. So what you're saying is that you, a commenter using a username on an internet forum are the true feminist, and the feminists actually responsible for changing the laws, writing the academic theory, teaching the courses, infl… | /r/MensRights | 01/12/24 10:05 PM |
| 5 | Is Feminism= Female Supremacism?I do think fighting for womans right is good, What rights do males have that females do not? | /r/MensRights | 01/12/24 09:49 PM |
| 1 | How did you decide on a place to live not knowing if you’ll be on the hook for child support?This sounds terrible. I'm not familiar with child support in Texas. How is it possible that you would owe her any significant amount of child support if she makes 4x your income? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 09:47 PM |
| 7 | It’s looks like I’m being droppedI was in the same boat, happened right before Christmas a few years ago, except that I was the one who made the decision. We have a kid who was young so didn't exactly understand what was happening. That first Christmas I basically laid it out for both our families and told them I wouldn't be attending her family's Christmas and she wouldn't be attending my family's Christmas. It sucked given the timing, but not having her around to create unnecessary drama was fantastic. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 08:11 PM |
| 5 | Almost 10 years later and life isn’t good.Man, you're 41. If you take care of yourself then you have 30 years left to save up some money and make you're situation better. You've only been an adult for 23 years. That means you have more time left as a working adult than you have been an actual adult. You need to clean yourself up. Cut all substances out of your life, this means no pills, alcohol, drugs, inhalants, nothing. Some of them require detox, and I'm guessing you already know which ones do, so research and figure out what your pa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 05:36 AM |
| 2 | Unpopular opinion: toxic masculinity is a real thing, but feminists use the term in a misandric wayLet's not forget that what is acceptable from a woman's viewpoint changes depending on several factors; her mood, what kind of day she has had, (I'm just gonna say it) where she's at in her menstrual cycle, or what the guy looks like. If she's attracted to a guy she will tolerate aggressiveness, overconfidence, and bravado. If she isn't attracted to him then it's all considered toxic and usually other derogatory terms are thrown in such as "little dick energy" or something else relating to his g… | /r/MensRights | 01/12/24 05:10 AM |
| 10 | My wife has deleted text messages I had saved on my phone. Can I have her records pulled for the last few years?Do you have any type of automatic cloud backup configured on your phone? Also, change all passwords on all accounts (make them all random) and get a password vault. The only password you should ever need to remember is the vault password. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/24 03:52 AM |
| 2 | It’s been a month since my wife cheated on me and asked for a divorceI divorced my ex, she didn't want to get divorced. The divorce took 2 years, we lived together thru COVID and then for 6 months after the divorce was finalized (long story). So for me moving out was a total relief, my stress levels went from 100 down to 10 instantly. However, I'm pretty sure I have PTSD from my divorce, so I was having terrible nightmares for 6 months. I lost my love for her a long time before the divorce due to her abuse and her behavior during the divorce reinforced my belief … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/24 02:43 PM |
| 3 | It’s been a month since my wife cheated on me and asked for a divorceGood for you. I'm sorry you're going through this. My ex had a pill and drinking problem in our relationship, she would get hammered and demand sex then fly off the handle when I refused. It was a rollercoaster 24/7 and it negatively impacted my mental and physical health. The drama-free single life is worth every penny you have to spend to get her out of your life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/24 02:13 PM |
| 7 | It’s been a month since my wife cheated on me and asked for a divorceI didn't read all of this, it's a lot. I did this for our family. Which is her and the 3 dogs. Dude, this isn't a family. Dogs are property and she's not a wife. Stop having sex with her; otherwise this other guy will knock her up then she will claim it's yours and you'll be tied to her for the rest of your/her life. Don't wait for her to file, she doesn't sound responsible enough to do it in a timely manner. Do it yourself, for your own self-respect, and get out of this toxic relationship befor… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/24 02:00 PM |
| 1 | How much was your divorce? Did it go to trial?Here's what the divorce cost me financially: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/s/Z0Y9hq4mat | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/24 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Need some helpAfter getting divorced it's now obvious to me how much I disliked being around my (now ex) wife. She made life intolerable. I also now see how so many men I know have had their spirit broken by their wives. Men walking mindlessly behind the woman at the grocery store; or staring off into nothing at a restaurant while their wife is on her phone. Those poor men are everywhere. It sounds like you are now one of them. From my observations of couples, once the woman loses respect for her man then it'… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/24 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Question about taxes during separation (road to divorce)I'm certainly not a tax expert, but I deal with this every year with my ex over our kid. In order to protect yourself you need to get her to sign the form (not sure what being pretty, unless you meant petty) or have a court order stated who will be claiming the kids (although the IRS really doesn't care about that either). But realistically, no you can't claim them without her consent. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/24 04:17 PM |
| 6 | Am I being too nice?Child support is modifiable by a judge regardless of what the two of you agreed to and signed in the divorce agreement. You better hope she doesn't decide to go back and ask for that child support, you could end up paying her $3600/mth if she realizes your mistake, and all it will take is a smart new BF or a pack of bitter divorced women to let her know her options. Since you didn't state your income it's kind of hard to tell if you're being nice since $2200/mth would be devastating for most peo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/24 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Question about taxes during separation (road to divorce)Here is where ChatGPT is your friend: When a couple files taxes as Married Filing Separately (MFS), there are specific rules regarding who can claim dependents, particularly children: General Rule: Only one person can claim a child as a dependent. If the children are not his, typically the custodial parent (the parent with whom the child lives for more than half the year) has the primary right to claim them as dependents. Non-Custodial Parent: If the man's wife is the custodial parent but they a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/24 02:23 PM |
| 16 | Imagine the backlash if we started a refuse to penetrate movementSorry, women don't care as much about sex as men do. You want to get to them, hit them where it hurts, in the bank account. Except instead of one day make it a month where men don't spend money on women. I'm talking no woman whatsoever. No waitresses, no dinners, no movies, no food, no nail salons, nothing. Find places that are owned by men and spend money there. | /r/MensRights | 24/11/24 01:40 AM |
| 3 | Preparing for divorce from abusive wife, seeking adviceRead "A Man's Search for Meaning" by Victor Frankl. It will help you process what you're about to go through. Not gonna lie, it will be tough. At this point you're practically divorced, you only get limited amount of time with your kids, guessing there's no sex, you sleep in different rooms, etc. be aware half that debts is hers. Get a new credit card with a zero interest balance transfer offer, use it to pay off a credit card that's in her name then put a retainer on her card. Get a new account… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/24 11:19 AM |
| 5 | Keep Fighting or let it go...?This is not a healthy marriage. I've been on this sub for 5 years, I can't tell you how many posts are exactly like yours. The wife only wants the money, the sex is a chore and typically dries up very quickly after marriage, then becomes a "treat" that is handed out when they want something. The guys have very few outlets to talk about what's happening to their marriage, and after counseling they hopefully realize that the marriage counseling industry is a scam. You now know that her behavior is… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/24 10:58 AM |
| 7 | Asked for divorce for the second time in 8 years yesterday. She said yes today. I was honestly hoping she would try to change her behaviour towards money, but just agreed. I'm sad and feeling hopeless about my future. Any advice?I don't understand why you "asked" for a divorce multiple times. When I divorced my ex I didn't "ask", I told her that I was divorcing her, then I filed the paperwork. There was no agreement, and I didn't ask her opinion. I say all that because it sounds to me, based on your short post, that you weren't an advocate for yourself. You let her spend money to the point where it was negatively impacting you, for a decade. I suggest you read "No More Mr Nice Guy", stand up for yourself, don't let othe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/24 10:45 AM |
| 3 | I came outI should have told my ex that I'm gay when I divorced her, maybe she would have been amicable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/24 10:07 PM |
| 43 | “You don’t want to one of those Creepy men”I agree 100%. Females have an in-group bias, meaning they have a preference to side with other females over males. It's biologically programmed into them because it was necessary from an evolutionary standpoint, and this therapist's behavior is a perfect manifestation of her biological programming. | /r/MensRights | 20/11/24 04:11 AM |
| 15 | I came outCongrats on finally being honest with yourself. Frankly, this will probably be a relief to her as well. That being said, you have been lying to her for more than a decade, so if you're getting an amicable divorce from her you should count yourself lucky. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/24 04:06 AM |
| 41 | How exactly is AI generated pornography negatively affecting women exactly?It's not surprising that so many people on here don't understand how generative AI works, although a few do. An AI model is trained on billions of images. AI generated porn is simply the output of a prompt into a training model and algorithm that processes the prompt. Any individual women's image or likeness is effectively zero in regards to the final generated image given the total number of training images. As for the original question, it doesn't affect women individually or as a whole EXCEPT… | /r/MensRights | 19/11/24 10:43 PM |
| 1 | HowApologies, I'm not understanding what you mean. Net worth is assets divided by debts. Are you giving away part of your assets in lieu of alimony? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/24 01:54 PM |
| 53 | Male coworkers and bosses are usually so much more chillI work in tech and easily half the females I work with are intolerable. Even the females hate working for other females, they actively look for male supervisors and managers, yet the company actively tries to promote females to management positions. My company is female-dominated, females outnumber males at all levels except the c-level, and yet all we ever hear about is the challenges that females face on a daily basis. International Women's Day is celebrated, but any mention of International M… | /r/MensRights | 18/11/24 08:54 PM |
| 11 | Upcoming divorce. Need adviceThe purpose of a lawyer is to make sure you don't make any decisions without understanding the ramifications of those decisions. For example, a buddy of mine did a lawyerless divorce. He agreed to a higher alimony in place of child support (his wife told him that it would be easier/cheaper then putting it through the state money support exchange), plus she got their home. He basically started back at square one. Exactly 6 months after the divorce was finalized she filed for an adjustment in chil… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/24 03:49 AM |
| 199 | Man is killed by police after struggling with female who broke into his homeNeither will the cop. | /r/MensRights | 18/11/24 12:01 AM |
| 2 | HowI am losing 75% of my net worth Why is this not 50%? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/24 11:58 PM |
| 2 | Alimony and child supportShe only wants YOU to not get a lawyer, she can have one in the background for herself giving her advice and reviewing documents. She will be agreeable until you start disagreeing to her demands, then shit will hit the fan. Given your financial situation and the amount of assets/debt/income involved you need a lawyer who has experience with all the things you don't know. You are in a "fuck around and find out" situation; and you cannot afford to fuck around. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/24 07:21 PM |
| 11 | Are you 'mankeeping'? How women are bearing the brunt of the male loneliness epidemic New research finds women are under pressure to support the increasingly isolated men in their lives, risking emotional burnout1 article in a medical journal 1 from the university of flordia It was a meta-study of 5 federally funded studies. You're a troll. Go away. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/24 04:33 PM |
| 16 | Are you 'mankeeping'? How women are bearing the brunt of the male loneliness epidemic New research finds women are under pressure to support the increasingly isolated men in their lives, risking emotional burnout1 in 6 women in the United States alone are sexually assaulted by men. Let that sink in. Think about 6 women you know. Statistically one of them has been raped. First off, you're a moron because sexual assault and rape are not the same. Secondly, women sexually assaulted men at an equal rate as men sexually assault women. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4062022/ In 2011 the CDC reported results from the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey... The survey found that men an… | /r/MensRights | 13/11/24 03:07 PM |
| 47 | Are you 'mankeeping'? How women are bearing the brunt of the male loneliness epidemic New research finds women are under pressure to support the increasingly isolated men in their lives, risking emotional burnoutIt’s clear whoever wrote this article has never dated a woman and has no idea what it is like. https://www.india-block.com/ I write and talk about architecture, design and technology. In particular, I am interested in how these topics intersect with futurism, politics, housing, human rights, LGBTQ+ issues, sustainability and anti-racism. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/24 02:46 PM |
| 26 | Are you 'mankeeping'? How women are bearing the brunt of the male loneliness epidemic New research finds women are under pressure to support the increasingly isolated men in their lives, risking emotional burnoutSo what do you want feminists? Do you want men to express their emotions, or must women be saved from having to emotionally support the men in their lives lest they risk "emotional burnout?" Feminist like to signal to other feminists that "their man" is emotionally mature, but they don't actually want to hear about the challenges "their man" faces because they know that "their man" benefits from the patriarchy and cannot possibly have any real problems; and certainly none that even compare to a … | /r/MensRights | 13/11/24 02:42 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with adult daughter, similar to relationship with ex-wifeIf I disagree with her on anything, she threatens to stop speaking to me Is this really anything, or is it certain topics, such as politics? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/24 02:34 PM |
| 14 | I'm...very messed up.Man, it sounds like you're still fairly close to the beginning of the end of your marriage. Here's the thing, this is the worst it will get. That may not sound very reassuring given the powerful emotions you are experiencing right now, but it's the truth. There will be ups and downs, some days will be worse than others, but it will get easier. Some women are simply selfish, and yet they are able to mask that selfishness by manipulation of their man's emotions. Soul mates don't exist, she was nev… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/24 02:45 AM |
| 4 | "We as women don't owe you anything"Statistically men are more likely to be the victims of violent crimes. Many crimes are crimes of opportunity, and as you stated females are simply less capable of defending themselves vs males. When a female has a male accompaning them the opportunity decreases significantly, as does walking in a well lit high traffic area and a number of other factors. That being said, males do have to watch they back just as much because there's zero difference between a male with a gun attacking a male or a f… | /r/MensRights | 12/11/24 02:35 AM |
| 21 | Do you guys ever financially recover?Divorced 3 years: My financial situation was terrible prior to me filing for divorce; I was making $100k but we had no spare cash due to her spending and refusal to work or even budget (every time I brought up budgeting she would say I'm being financially abusive), we lived paycheck-to-paycheck, and she was hiding credit card statements from me. During the divorce I thought I would be financially ruined for the next 15 years (or longer) because my paycheck couldn't keep up with support myself an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/24 04:25 PM |
| 5 | So like.. are we ready to bring back a certain "go your own way" movement yet?most MGTOWS withdraw from every part of society except their personal bubble And why is that a problem? Don't say because it "makes them extremists" because that can be said for any type of movement, including ones that woman advocate for. Discrimination against those who favor MGTOW is still another form of discrimination against men. | /r/MensRights | 09/11/24 01:16 AM |
| 3 | Gentlemen, why don't we speak out beyond this sub?Imagine if I took part in a Men's Rights march, and my picture was taken and posted on a local news site. A female coworker from my company might see that, think I'm anti-female, feel uncomfortable around me and report that to my HR department that is run by feminist. They will investigate me for creating a distressing environment for the female coworker, and I would probably get terminated unless I took some extra diversity and inclusion seminars that our DEI department (yes, our company has a … | /r/MensRights | 09/11/24 12:06 AM |
| 3 | Would getting a paternity test cause me more harm than good?If she was sure she wasn't cheating on you when you child was conceived AND she has a history of cheating, then she should be bending over backwards to prove you are the father. If she's trying to convince you that you are the father, but doesn't want to get an actual test performed, then you have you're answer. Thus, you have to get it done without her knowledge in such a manner that she cannot intercept the results and change them before you see them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/24 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Advised regarding girlfriend and childWe already have court ordered custody arrangements What exactly does the court order say? If you are granted a certain amount of time by the court to see you child will she be violating that order if she takes your child to another state? Or is the court order for 4 days per month and you're living with her to get more time with your kid? | /r/MensRights | 06/11/24 01:14 AM |
| 8 | Debunking feminist studies, #1: “1/3 of men say they would rape a woman if they could get away with it”I remember reading one that showed that a majority of women have had r*pe fantasies at one point in their life and were interested in roleplaying rape fantasies with a partner. | /r/MensRights | 05/11/24 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Strip Down Seach for DrugsYes, I meant population. Thanks. | /r/MensRights | 04/11/24 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Strip Down Seach for DrugsMost people don't realize that this includes maritime borders and 80% of the US falls into this category. | /r/MensRights | 04/11/24 02:07 AM |
| 2 | I need affectionthat's the first time I've been touched by an adult female (Hugs from my girl kids don't count) in 7 years I was the same way, but for about 5 years... Meaning zero physical contact with a woman outside of hugs from family members. After getting massages I no longer crave that contact. I go every couple weeks for an hour each session and it's cheaper than a girlfriend. I told my therapist my situation after the third session and she was absolutely supportive of the positive benefits of touch, an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/24 12:47 AM |
| 7 | Wtf is this adKind of ironic considering how many women are giving their husbands and boyfriends ultimatums “if you don’t vote for Harris we’re through” This: https://www.cbsnews.com/philadelphia/news/website-encourages-females-to-break-up-with-men-if-they-vote-trump/ | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 06:02 PM |
| 5 | Wtf is this adI wouldn't tell my (now ex) wife I was voting Republican to avoid fighting. I didn't care who she voted for, but she would scream at me if I didn't vote for a Democrat. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 05:58 PM |
| 3 | How to Live an Exciting LifeI went dirt bike riding with a buddy recently, and realized that I didn't care for the dirt part but I loved riding on the road. I always wanted a motorcycle but always had somebody in my life who convinced me not to get one. Now I don't so I'm looking into a riding class and getting a license. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/24 05:49 PM |
| 2 | Thinking of leaving herI agree with every person who says GTFO now. Don't wait, don't try to fix her, nothing. Don't let her know anything about what you are planning, find a lawyer that is not local (i.e. not possibly affiliated with the cult), open new bank accounts, move half of the money, change emails in all financial accounts, set up new email address, get a PO box, hide keepsakes and personal items, set up a trust and change life insurance and other beneficiaries to the trust. Get a new place to live, file, the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/24 02:50 AM |
| 14 | The gender pay gap doesn’t exist and even if it does theoretically exist, it’s not gender influenced.As Jordan Peterson stated in the infamous Cathy Newman interview, the gender pay gap is a multi-factorial problem but feminism refuses to acknowledge any factors outside of gender discrimination. | /r/MensRights | 02/11/24 10:30 PM |
| 2 | I need affectionI also go to a massage therapist to get physical human touch plus it helps with recovering from workouts. Of course it's nothing sexual, but getting touched in that setting still produces endorphins, dopamine and serotonin. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 10:11 PM |
| 4 | Privacy (the lack of)Here's a comment I posted a while ago about this very topic. https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/s/yK0cgOgtVQ | /r/MensRights | 02/11/24 09:58 PM |
| 21 | Are you tired of being told vasectomy is the right way because of safety?Same thing happened to a buddy, she basically demanded he get it and refused sex with him until he did but then when he did she still found a reason to avoid sex... Then he found out she was fucking some other guy for 6 months, they divorced right after that. She ended up pregnant with the other guy, so basically she could have simply refused sex and left but didn't want him to get anybody else pregnant which might have affected the amount of child support she received after the divorce. Men und… | /r/MensRights | 02/11/24 09:54 PM |
| 88 | Celebrating femcels, and the media which embraces ‘toxic femininity’Over six episodes she stalks and attacks those she deems deserving of punishment, and you honestly kind of root for her for it, even though you know you shouldn’t. Skuse’s young adult novels were once described as a linchpin in the rise of “antiheroines”, girls behaving badly in literature, but today they might be known by another, more modern, more internet-friendly name. They would be considered femcels. Unlike its more sinister cousin, the incel... Just to be clear, the show glamorizes female… | /r/MensRights | 02/11/24 04:45 PM |
| 3 | I need affectionAre you a man or animal? Marriage/Divorce is the modern Gom Jabar. Sexual gratification is a base instinct, giving in is equivalent to pulling your hand from the box. If you are a man you find a way to control yourself, if you're an animal you follow you base instinct and suffer the consequences that follow. I had the same concerns as you prior to filing for divorce, then I learned to channel that base need into productive pursuits such as accumulating assets and reducing liabilities; building p… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 03:37 PM |
| 7 | Not even Joey Swoll is safe from misandrist womenIt's a three-for-one win for the female. Base-goal is simply attention, over that is views for clicks by men wanting to see women working out, but as a bonus getting a video to go viral will bring big money. Female viewers only watch for outrage at the creepy men, so the influencer doesn't care about them; thirsty men will continue watch no matter how repulsive the female's behavior is. The only ways to stop this are for gyms to ban filming, which also hurts everyday people who are interested in… | /r/MensRights | 02/11/24 01:40 PM |
| 31 | I can't live with this settlement. How screwed am I?"Your honor, after further discussion with my attorney and reviewing the terms of the agreement, I can no longer in good conscience provide my signature. I apologize to the court for any further delays this may cause and respectfully decline this settlement agreement." Don't sign anything you are not comfortable with. Women back out and change there mind at the last minute all the time. It's nothing new to the judge. Watch out that your lawyer is suggesting deals that are not at least equitable … | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 01:31 PM |
| 8 | Apprently an old friend no longer wishes to have anything to do with me because I’m a man. Honestly infuriating.Nope, I would never let a woman have that level of influence over me. Good point. | /r/MensRights | 02/11/24 01:18 AM |
| 37 | Men ActivismImagine if I took part in a Men's Rights march, and my picture was taken and posted on a local news site. A female coworker from my company might see that, think I'm anti-female, feel uncomfortable around me and report that to my HR department that is run by feminist. They will investigate me for creating a distressing environment for the female coworker, and I would probably get terminated unless I took some extra diversity and inclusion seminars that our DEI department (yes, our company has a … | /r/MensRights | 02/11/24 01:15 AM |
| -13 | Apprently an old friend no longer wishes to have anything to do with me because I’m a man. Honestly infuriating.I can understand her reasoning and don't think it's being sexist. After my divorce, and up to this day, I keep women out of my personal life. Not because they are bad, but because my life is better without them in it. I interact with women at work and normal life activities and I'm pleasant and respectful to them, but I don't interact with them on a friendship or relationship level whatsoever. Does that make me sexist? I don't think so. But frankly, I don't care if it did either. | /r/MensRights | 02/11/24 01:02 AM |
| 10 | Understanding some of mens and women's struggles. Do you think the movie Zootopia can highlights them both?I always considered the female sheep antagonist as the representation of modern feminism. She creates false narratives in order to bureaucratally strangle the predator/masculine traits. | /r/MensRights | 31/10/24 11:57 PM |
| 5 | I lost my shitDon't wait for her to file. She has issues, and no amount of therapy will help her. Sorry you're going through this, but your marriage is dysfunctional and you don't have to live like this if you don't want to. Everyone has their moments of weakness, don't think this one moment defines you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/24 07:44 PM |
| 5 | Vacant motherShe seems to have no problem with the current situation because she's getting what she wants, you file for divorce, don't wait for her. Don't move out unless your lawyer gives you the OK. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/24 03:41 PM |
| 6 | Going through the Big D and I don't mean Dallas.I want kids The two of you are not compatible. She won't change. File for divorce tomorrow, don't wait for her to do it. No more sex with her, period. Having a child with this woman (even accidentally) is a terrible idea and will fuck up your life. Protect yourself from false DV accusations. Research "Gray Rock Method" and "Silver Bullet Method". | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/24 03:00 PM |
| 5 | PTSD. Reactive Abuse. Mediation.She was hitting you and you took it, you touched her once and she called the cops. She's been playing you, so now you know the rules of the game. You, like many of us, have been trained by society to tolerate toxic female behavior. It's time to start advocating for yourself, be proactive and strategic. Read "No more Mr Nice Guy", don't let her see you reading it. Research the "Gray Rock Method", apply it in any interaction with your STBXW. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/24 01:36 PM |
| 20 | Been 2 years….If I had known being divorced was so awesome I would not have suffered in a miserable marriage for as many years as I did. Lack of drama is pure bliss. As for getting laid; sex toys are pretty good these days, enough so that getting a nut is very fun and there's none of the other bullshit that is required when a woman is in the equation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/24 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Do you think my case is not thard?!It's not the end of the world. My quality of life increased significantly once my divorce was completed. Just beware the single tax when you get divorced. Also, you need in your agreement that she's not allowed to take your child out of the country... If she does there's no guarantee she'll ever come back with the child. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/24 09:22 PM |
| 3 | Caught my wife cheating and I'm guttedWhen you file that will lock everything "in theory"... But it doesn't always happen that way. Create a new Gmail account with a password she will never guess. Get a password vault (I use Keepass), save it somewhere, use a password she will never guess. Update all your personal accounts with the new Gmail account, this will prevent her from using the password reset to gain access. Use random generated passwords, save them into the password vault. That password vault should become your best friend… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/24 08:44 PM |
| 3 | have you guys heard of the blue tax?Health insurance force males to subsidize female medical costs. In other words, male medical costs are much less than female medical costs, yet males are required to pay the same as females. It's OK for vehicle insurance to charge males more, but not OK for health insurance companies to charge females more. | /r/MensRights | 29/10/24 05:53 PM |
| 6 | Ex Wants to Take Over Health InsuranceWhy is she wanting it to be changed over to her? Assume there's a benefit to her to do that... Which means it will likely cost you more money. For example, if her company provides an HSA with a yearly company contribution she will get more if she adds a child. She might only get $1000 per year for just herself, but $2500 for a family (even one child can make a "family"). She can then pay all her side of the costs with the HSA (or ask for reimbursement), meanwhile your CS goes up since you're not… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/24 05:39 PM |
| 1 | What’s the real truth about gamergate?"Official Idea"? What does that mean? That's nonsense. The news media and certain politicians running for office clearly and repeatedly stated that Trump told people to inject bleach. Frankly, I don't care if what he said was plausible or not, he didn't tell people to do anything. Did people hear him say that, probably, because there are idiotic people out there who would do that type of thing; just like there are idiotic people who hear AOC claim that the world will end in 12 years and think it… | /r/MensRights | 28/10/24 10:09 PM |
| 2 | What’s the real truth about gamergate?This injection "situation" (not sure what else to call it) has fascinated me for a while. There are two camps here, people who dislike Trump hear him directly telling people to inject bleach, while those who don't hear him saying that they might be investigating that option (he literally turns and asks a woman offstage if they are going to investigate that idea). Personally, I hear the latter. Especially since he turns and looks. | /r/MensRights | 26/10/24 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Singles looking for Companionship45 is a senior? Damn dude, that's harsh. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/24 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Could divorce ruin pending retirement?Sounds like a baby-trap situation to me. Sure, the marriage length is unusually high for the typical baby-trap but if she came from a very poor family then it's possible $75k was a major step-up in lifestyle for her. OP needs a paternity test to make sure the daughter is his. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/24 01:40 AM |
| 3 | Contempt for not paying spousal support ???I agree with the other's opinions. Not terrible; worst thing is the judge will order you to pay the amount you owe plus a penalty. Considering your lawyer told you not to pay then it's a valid reason for you to believe you weren't required to pay... I assume you have this advice from your lawyer in writing? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/24 01:35 AM |
| 7 | My son wants me to take care of my sick ex-wifeYou're divorced, you're not responsible for her health beyond whatever is in the divorce agreement/order. Once you start it will be very hard to stop and not become the bad guy. What exactly is your son expecting you to do for her? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/24 02:00 AM |
| 15 | Huge fight with husbandWrong sub, this sub is for supporting men before/during/after divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/24 01:34 AM |
| 3 | Ex-Wife is going to Adult Theaters nowMany/most women lose sexual attention to their husband after a year or two, sexual stuff after that is only for procreation or manipulation. Personally, I think it's when the woman realizes her man isn't going to change like she expected. Not matter what you did, it would not have been enough to keep her sexually attracted to you... Being emotionally supportive, making more money, doing more/all chores, none of it is ever enough. Don't beat yourself up, just understand that her expectations were… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/24 12:44 PM |
| 3 | Women who say male victims of rape don't suffer.Luckily, I am no longer friends with those people. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/24 12:18 PM |
| 6 | I am litteraly done, have you ever experienced this feeling?She's not getting her way so she's escalating the responses... First the brother, then the mother. Eventually when the medical accusations fail she will file false domestic violence accusations against you. She won't magically decide she needs to do something to fix herself, she likes her carefree lifestyle and in her mind you are taking that away from her. Divorce her now, before she makes it worse and you end up in jail. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/24 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Am I in an OK spot? Marriage is OverBe prepared for her to overestimate the value of the tools, both emotionally to you and their cash value. Most likely she won't simply want to take half of them (because she knows they're value is both lower than her estimate and she has no idea how to sell them); but she will try to claim they are worth a ludicrously overvalued amount then want her half of that ridiculous amount to be credited to something else. Once the reality of her financial situation post-divorce hits her she will start as… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/24 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Finances after separationYou didn't include the actual pertinent information. How long were you married. Do you have a lawyer and is there any separation agreement in place? Did the lawyer OK you moving out? The answer to your question about your financial responsibilities depends on what you have and haven't done up until this point. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/24 03:29 PM |
| 8 | Male artists ‘peak in their 40s,’ Tracey Emin says “Women have the capability of doing that (carrying on) as long as they’re given the opportunity to do it,” Emin said. “I think a lot of men peak in their 40s and women continue"she underwent a six-and-a-half hour operation in which surgeons removed her bladder, urethra, uterus, fallopian tubes, ovaries, part of her colon and part of her vagina. Not so much anymore. | /r/MensRights | 16/10/24 12:50 PM |
| 14 | My wife is begging me now to stopt the divorce process!Mine was the same way when I filed. After years of threatening to divorce me whenever she didn't get her way I finally told her I was done and she totally flip-flopped. It was a hard decision to make and stick with through the divorce, but I knew I couldn't/wouldn't go on living in a terrible marriage. Stay strong and keep your eye on how great your life will be once you're back in total control of it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/24 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Swap days-grandma is trying to stopping me from picking up kids early.I could understand from the grandmother's perspective how it would be frustrating that the time varies. It can be hard to plan things to do with the kid if she's not sure what time pickup will be. Vut yeah, she can't just say when you can do pick-up. If she doesn't like it then she needs to either offer an alternative or stop watching the kid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/24 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Swap days-grandma is trying to stopping me from picking up kids early.Pickup time should be agreed upon by your and your ex, that time needs to be communicated to the grandmother, the grandmother should abide by that agreement. If possible make it the same time every pickup. Is there a specific work-related reason why the pickup times aren't the same rah time? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/24 06:31 PM |
| 3 | Swap days-grandma is trying to stopping me from picking up kids early.So it's unbounded, so it will be hard to argue in court that you have the right to pick them up whenever you want. A good lawyer would have put a timeframe around it or specified in the agreement that pickup time is at your discretion. "Children shall stay with the grandparents during the day until no later than 5PM when pick-up shall occur unless otherwise agreed up by both parents". | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/24 05:18 PM |
| 5 | Swap days-grandma is trying to stopping me from picking up kids early.Does your divorce agreement/order specify what time the pickup will occur? If not what is the exact wording of how pickup will occur? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/24 05:05 PM |
| 38 | Professor who suggested shooting men who won’t vote for female presidential nominee leaves universityUnfortunately there are plenty of other people who think like him that are still teaching in public schools and universities. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/24 01:57 PM |
| 3 | UK: Police seize cars from men for catcalling women joggers who were in fact undercover female officers in disguiseIt won't. Feelings aren't reality. Women process the world through feelings, thus this will have zero effect. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/24 01:54 PM |
| 14 | UK: Police seize cars from men for catcalling women joggers who were in fact undercover female officers in disguiseFour cars were taken away by officers as part of an initiative to help women feel safer when out exercising, after a survey found 60 per cent of women feel intimidated when they go for a run. The police are now protecting women's feelings. | /r/MensRights | 13/10/24 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Child Support ModificationChild support orders are always modifiable since the support is "supposed" to be in the best interest of the child. She's probably worried that if she cannot find a job and can no longer provide housing for the child you will ask for full custody. She also knows that she has a high earning capacity and will reflect poorly upon her if she has to explain to the judge why she isn't working. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/24 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Divorced, financially secure, considering having a child: Thoughts?Having a child is awesome. Having 50/50 custody is awesome, you get half the time by yourself and they are happy to see you when it's your custody time. Having an ex-wife that you have to negotiate everything relating to your child is terrible. It all really depends on who you have your kid with. If you have a child then you're taking a huge chance with the woman; getting pregnant and giving birth can really fuck with some women's hormones and behaviors. Marriage is a legal agreement between you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/24 03:22 PM |
| 109 | UK: Police seize cars from men for catcalling women joggers who were in fact undercover female officers in disguiseI grew up in a small town (10k population) in the southern US. Catcalling was not a thing. I saw it in movies, but never in real life. I don't even really remember it in school. I've asked friends about it and literally nobody, including females I've asked, have ever told me they've been catcalled before. Is this a big-city thing? | /r/MensRights | 13/10/24 03:15 PM |
| 4 | Canned soup for dinnerI was the opposite of my ex, she wouldn't clean whatsoever. I'm not OCD but I keep a very clean and uncluttered apartment. She says my apartment is sterile and unlivable, and yet she won't let anybody in her house because it's such a mess. I can sit on my floor and not get cat hair all over me, I can walk around without shoes on and don't have to worry about small chunks of dog poop sticking to my feet. The bathtub drains actually drain, and I never lose anything. To each their own. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/24 05:14 PM |
| 19 | My girlfriend keeps making comments about mansplaining and men's humour... EtcCouple issues you have that won't end well for you. Splitting costs like that isn't bad, unless she isn't splitting other things like dates. If she's keeping her own money and not spending it on you or the two of you as a couple then she has the "what's his is mine and what's mine is mine" mentally. Run away quickly. The mansplaining comments are truly scary. As a guy who was married to a hardcore feminist, I can tell you that such behavior will only get worse. Every time she has a problem in li… | /r/MensRights | 12/10/24 01:51 PM |
| 3 | Wife wants me out of house by 11/1/24Don't expect the sale of the house to occur anytime soon after the divorce is finalized. She will drag her feet as long as possible. My ex was required to obtain a new loan and it took her 19 months; during that time she was late on payments multiple times and guess who's credit it hurt. I wanted to buy a house when I moved out but could not because I already had a loan, now I can't afford a house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/24 01:00 PM |
| 1 | UK: Heinz apologises for 'shocking' tube station ad after commuters accuse brand of 'erasing black fathers'I think it's racist to assume she has a black father. Maybe the white parents are her parents; maybe she's adopted by the white couple, and his mother died and his father remarried a black women then his father died and his new black mother is the only parent he has left. Or maybe her mother is black but her father is white. Need I go on? | /r/MensRights | 11/10/24 06:08 PM |
| 15 | UK: Heinz apologises for 'shocking' tube station ad after commuters accuse brand of 'erasing black fathers'JFC: this is what our society has come to now? People need to get off their phones and turn off social media. | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 04:02 PM |
| 9 | Found my boyfriend's porn stash, what do I do nowThis should be on r/AskMen, it has nothing to do with Men's Rights. This is not a relationship sub. | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 12:49 PM |
| 5 | Just been essentially bullied for having 'man-flu' by my female colleaguesOf course they may have whoa-man-flu. Is that the one they come down with once a month and lasts seven days? | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 01:04 AM |
| 3 | In USA: after divorce, can I claim SS benefits of my ex?It doesn't decrease the benefits the primary receives, and the primary doesn't even know it's happening. The government simply prints more money and gives it to the spouse. | /r/MensRights | 07/10/24 12:42 AM |
| 7 | So evidently we are a redpill/incell sub nowI received a 7 day temp ban last week for a comment about modern women lacking accountability, to a post about women lacking accountability. My ban was automated... As in, no human was involved in the process . I requested an appeal, and if course it was denied with zero explanation. | /r/MensRights | 05/10/24 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Ex wife now has oral herpesYou're redirecting... I didn't give that story to prove it's a non-issue, I gave it to prove that it's possible to spread it to somebody who might not know they have, and THAT person can spread it. You sound like those asshats who say "I was circumcised and I can have sex just fine so it's not a big deal". For somebody who posts on JBPs topics I would have expected you to be capable of critical thinking. Well, at least I'm willing to admit I can be wrong. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/24 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Ex wife now has oral herpesShe probably has it but hasn't had an outbreak. I also have it and I've never kissed anybody during an outbreak but have spread it to girls (I've always warned them ahead of kissing). My father gets outbreaks, I got it from him as a child, or so I assumed, but later in life I made a comment to my mother and she tried to imply there's no proof it came from him so she said "I've been married to your father for 30 years and I never got it", so I asked her to have a test and she tested positive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/24 08:51 PM |
| 4 | Ex wife now has oral herpesI'm just saying it's not an STD Genital herpes can be contracted by someone with oral herpes who performs oral sex on them, regardless of the person having an outbreak. The daughter can kiss somebody, then that person performs oral on her, then she has sex with them... Now both of them have both oral and genital herpes. You are ignorant about this subject and need to keep your ignorant advice to yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/24 08:15 PM |
| 5 | Ex wife now has oral herpesThis is 100% not true. A person can spread the virus even when they are not having an outbreak. https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/transmit-hsv.html#:~:text=Yes.,%2C%20oral%2C%20or%20anal). | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/24 08:10 PM |
| 2 | A failed marriage and feeling like a failed DadI filed for divorce when my son was the same age. Kids adjust to new circumstances rather quickly. You shouldn't feel like a failure for not having a "proper" family for your daughter, you have to do what's right for you so you can be a good father for her. Being stuck in a bad relationship is not healthy and was necessary for you. You picked the painful path because it was the right path for you and your daughter; that's the sign of a good man and a good father. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/24 12:31 PM |
| 10 | Just Ride It OutI showed my kid the Star Wars movies... 4, 5, 6, 1, 2, 3. 7, 8, and 9 are terrible. :) Glad you're having fun with your kid. Life is so much better single than married. Less stress, less burden, less drama, more money, more time, more freedom. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/24 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Will be filing in next few days.Own a house that I bought You purchased the house prior to the marriage? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/24 07:33 PM |
| 1 | something i realized about gay bars and male spaceshttps://www.atlantarow.org/ This type of club has the structure, it just has different focus and different membership requirements. | /r/MensRights | 04/10/24 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Most slurs related to LGBT community are against man yet women are always seen as the natural ally. It is even more baffling when it has been proven that women use these slurs as much as man.She cried because she realized she was making ridiculous statements AND doing it in front of the entire world. | /r/MensRights | 03/10/24 04:08 PM |
| 5 | something i realized about gay bars and male spacesMember-managed clubs have positions where specific members are tasked with the appropriate care of their area. I'm a member of such a club. We have a full board, facility managers, etc. Some of the work is handled by the person over a specific area, others are outsourced based on available funds. In order for somebody to do something, such as handling specific pieces of equipment, we have them go through certification/training that is handled by the manager of that area. We have liability waiver… | /r/MensRights | 03/10/24 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Most slurs related to LGBT community are against man yet women are always seen as the natural ally. It is even more baffling when it has been proven that women use these slurs as much as man.Generally when a man doesn't give a woman the validation she seeks she will call him gay or state that he has a small dick. It's the go-to shaming tactic for most feminists. Yesterday somebody posted a link to the whatever podcast where a female stated that a man who owns a nice vehicle has a small dick, but a woman who who owns one has style. | /r/MensRights | 03/10/24 02:29 PM |
| 19 | something i realized about gay bars and male spacesIt would need to be a property owned by a private organization; it cannot sell a service and not be considered open to the public. Females are not able to become members and only members are allowed into the facilities. Maybe something similar to the Freemasons. | /r/MensRights | 03/10/24 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Wow, just wow.I receives a 7 day account suspension last week because I posted in r/Divorce_Men stating that modern women have no accountability, in response to a post about woman's lack of accountability. The suspension was automated, meaning nobody actually reported my comment. Be careful what you post boys, even AI is now out to get us for our opinions. | /r/MensRights | 03/10/24 01:09 PM |
| 8 | Son, 5 yo Not doing well with divorceLook, I get what other commenters are saying about telling the kid the truth, but he's 5... He's not emotionally equipped to be told anything about why the divorce happened, regardless if you tell him it was mutual or if you told him it was her fault. Is he lashing out because she isn't parenting well? I read your other comment on how you think she's probably neglecting him to some extent. If she's not bonding with her then he will lash out or misbehave for a number of reasons and can include at… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/24 02:31 AM |
| 3 | Young men and women are moving in opposite directionsCox notes. Social media content and algorithms may be one key reason. Large corporations, DEI consultants, movie and TV studios, video game companies, certain left-leaning political parties, and government agencies are actively working to exclude men, especially white men, from education, the workforce, and society in general. But yeah, it's social media that's the problem. | /r/MensRights | 02/10/24 12:56 AM |
| 73 | On what planet is this true? Women are literally the favorite genderThis crap is typically feminist echo chamber content, she even describes herself as a strong independent woman. Here's the first sentence in the "about" section of that website: Ms. magazine has been at the forefront of feminist journalism for half a century. When you link these articles then men here read them, which provides advertising money to these feminist companies. Use Internet Archive links instead. | /r/MensRights | 01/10/24 10:04 PM |
| 2 | Am I headed for Divorce- wife searching men online and FB dating, no sexSure, and please excuse the harshness. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Am I headed for Divorce- wife searching men online and FB dating, no sexYeah, it was harsh. I was so amazed that nobody cared about all the bullshit my ex put me through. My lawyer basically gave me the same speech and told me to stop focusing on it; she told me from that point on I needed to focus on the task at hand. Unless I had video evidence or police reports, none of it mattered. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 08:22 PM |
| 9 | Am I headed for Divorce- wife searching men online and FB dating, no sexOpen your eyes, she's been checked out for years. At some point in the future, assuming one of you isn't dead, you will be divorced. Your marriage won't magically get better, she won't magically change her mind; so how much longer do you want to live this life you're in? Frankly, none of all that stuff you wrote matters, it's only the things that happened to get you to this point and can only serve as a reminder of the reasons why you need to divorce her. You lawyer won't care about that stuff, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 05:19 PM |
| 2 | Are there any success stories for staying involved with the family of the former spouseI still consider myself very good friends with my ex's family. However, my ex causes drama, so when I talk with or see her family we keep it on the DL simply to avoid her drama. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 01:03 PM |
| 4 | The will to meaning...You have oneitis... You think she's the only one for you, except there are literally billions of women out there. Your wife isn't special, in fact I would say her behavior is rather typical of how wives treat husbands. You're worth to her is dictated by what you can do for her. She never viewed you as her soulmate, in her mind she settled for you, and there will never be anything you can do to satisfy her. Read "No More Mr Nice Guy"... If you apply the principles in that book it will teach you t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 09:55 AM |
| 3 | Any advice for dealing with differing views on religion and Santa Claus with kids?My ex and I have significantly different political views, I'm a libertarian and she's a die-hard pussy hat wearing progressive that literally thinks all the world's problems are caused by white men. Recently she decided to tell our 7yo about how our country will be over, and she will be thrown in jail (for her beliefs) if Donald Trump gets elected. Of course, this has our kid terrified. Unfortunately, there's really no way I can stop her from saying such insane things to our kid on her time, so … | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 09:47 AM |
| 2 | Separating and Divorcing after 20+ years, worried about getting back in the dating game after so long...Oh, sorry, it should be years married. I fixed my comment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 02:49 AM |
| 5 | She wants a divorce after 40 yearsOP, you absolutely must take this advice. Split things equally, as in half/half, don't fall on your own sword with this one because you think it's what you should do as a man. Her personality will change once numbers are put to paper and she is handed a pen. She's no longer the person you loved, she's now a pissed off customer who didn't like what she purchased and she's going to want to be made right, which means she will expect you to give her what she wants. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 02:28 AM |
| 3 | Ex wife keeps threatening courtIf she wants full custody she will need to prove (to the judge) that a change in custody is in the best interest of your child. She can threaten you with a hearing (think of it as a hearing, not "court", less psychologically distressing) all day long, don't do anything until you get a summons. Watch out for any kind of false allegations, especially around abuse, that she might conjure up... If she's going to get anything this will be the way she goes about it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 02:19 AM |
| 5 | Separating and Divorcing after 20+ years, worried about getting back in the dating game after so long...General advice is wait the same number of months after the divorce as years you were married. But not all guys follow that, and many have been burned by not following it. That's about all I can say, I'm never getting involved with a woman again. Life is simply too enjoyable for me now, I cannot imagine in what way a woman would make it better... But I can think of plenty of ways where one would make it worse. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 01:31 AM |
| 75 | UK: Music venue apologises for 'strange' treatment of solo male fans at "The Last Dinner Party" concert. OP: I can see a legal claim for discrimination here.X account with the name 'How to build a festival' recognised the venue's apology as a good step but queried why the Last Dinner Party hadn't issued a statement of their own If it was women being treated like this the band would be raising hell, but since it's males they couldn't give a shit. | /r/MensRights | 01/10/24 01:12 AM |
| 1 | My ex left me with debtsFirst off, what's your location? Second, what type of debt did you take on? Credit card debt, or a loan from a bank or some other kind of debt? What's the amount and payback terms? Did you pay for the car or did you give her the money and she purchased the car? In other words, who's name is on the title? | /r/MensRights | 01/10/24 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Women hit men in the facewhere the man was always made to look like an idiot. They are still doing it. Check out this recent Subaru commercial... https://youtu.be/boSgMaMdcaY | /r/MensRights | 30/09/24 12:51 PM |
| 12 | When do you know it’s time? Are you happier now?If a woman is bringing up divorce it means she's was already thinking about it prior to vocalizing it to you. If she's using it during arguments in an attempt to coerce you in any way then she is literally threatening you with specific consequences if you don't do what she wants. A healthy marriage does not involve threats of divorce. My wife did the same thing for years, and I was terrified of the what divorce would look like. I never threatened divorce, but one day after countless arguments, h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/24 03:59 PM |
| 1 | STBXW claiming she can’t workState? Her age? Hopefully she hasn't been the one handling the financial aspect of the marriage. I did that with my ex and it was a terrible mistake, she ran our finances into the ground. Have you calculated exactly what the total cost of her and the kids are? If not you need some financial tracking software and perform a cost benefit analysis on staying separated or divorcing. If you two are separated then you're on the hook for her medical bills, and I guarantee they will just keep going up. B… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/24 02:17 PM |
| 3 | What are some of the methods you have used in co-parenting when you both absolute hate each other?Man, not sure if it's healthy to be stewing in what happened in the past. You doing OK? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/24 02:09 PM |
| 3 | How do men usually survive any domestic violence or other violence against them?The downside to this is all the simp jocks who start pummeling any guy who defends himself against a female. There was a video of this exact situation a few years ago, 5-6 dudes came out of nowhere. | /r/MensRights | 21/09/24 01:23 PM |
| 3 | YayBecause she posts in mommy subs and refers to herself as a female: (I am youngest of 3 and only female) Go whiteknight somewhere else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 05:23 PM |
| 1 | YayIf you're implying it's because she's a man, she is active is female subs and refers to herself as a female: (I am youngest of 3 and only female) Go whiteknight somewhere else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 05:22 PM |
| 4 | YayWhy the fuck are you posting this in a sub for men? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 02:49 PM |
| -3 | YayOP is a mother, thus she is a female... In the world I live in that means she has XY chromosomes. She's in the wrong sub. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Pretty sure my ex-wife's AP is lying to get my 10-year-old son in trouble.Or buy the kid a pair of shoes that stays at OPs house. That's what I did, my kid has everything at my place because my ex would continually forget or lose stuff I purchased. When he leaves to go to her place I take a picture of him in the clothes, text it to her and tell her I expect each item back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 12:41 PM |
| 1 | What do I do / how do I live while nothing is happening?You need that paperwork filed ASAP, tell the secretary that if your lawyer cannot give you a date it will be filed then it's nothing personal but you will find another lawyer then demand your retainer be returned. I lived with my (now ex) wife for two years during the divorce, including through covid, and then for 6 months after the divorce. It was a high conflict divorce too. I'm surprised I survived, it was hell. Get a new email account, like Gmail. Put a recording app on your phone, have it r… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Question Re: Potential DivorceHow old are the first two kids, how long have they had the dog, and is there something specific about this dog that she doesn't like or would she act the same way with any dog? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 01:35 AM |
| 3 | Married men should never buy a house; always rent from your parentsI've got mediation scheduled for next month then I'll officially be a member of this bummer of a club Man, I hope it works out this quickly for you. My ex drug out our divorce for 18 months after our mediation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 12:37 AM |
| 4 | When does it get easier?She's probably fucking somebody else but wants you on the hook for child support which is why she's still fucking you. Unless you're shooting blanks you're seriously playing with fire. You don't mention any current kids, but her getting pregnant will fuck up your life for the next two decades or longer. That wet hole is absolutely not worth it, control yourself and end it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 12:35 AM |
| 3 | URGENT - how can I stop her from accessing my bank records one year after divorce.My (female) lawyer told me to always use cash when visiting a casino, brothel, strip club, bar, or liquor store. Closing an account won't magically make those records go away, unfortunately. Are you concerned about large cash transfers or actual charges? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Parenting timeMy ex pulls crap all the time, though not at the level that your ex is. Such as, threatening to go to the court because I don't want to send my kid to an out-of-network doctor (who I believe she wants to go to because of her mommy groups on Facebook) which would cost thousands of dollars of which I have to pay 80% of. Typically I call her bluff on it, though it does cause me heart burn. I eventually realized she was pulling this shit all throughout our marriage and I let her get away with it bec… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 12:11 AM |
| 3 | Parenting timeI get her 20 percent of the year. Every other weekend. I have been requesting more time with her for two years. We have 50 50 custody. This is going to sound harsh, but it's not meant to be... You let this happen because you've let this go on for so long. Typically if she isn't following the divorce decree and you didn't file for contempt then you set the bar for what you'll let her get away with. You need to start filing the necessary paperwork with the court. As an aside, unless you adopted yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/24 09:12 PM |
| 1 | STBX keeps complaining about inconvenience as a reason to get physical custodyYou're in for a hell of a shitty divorce... Sounds like you're just getting started and all her demands will only get worse. She's testing you now to see what she can get away with. Watch out for the mediator, just like marriage counselors, their future income is dependent on referrals and women bring in more referrals than men do so they typically have a pro-female bias. Don't be surprised if the mediator is a female, it's an entire industry that caters to females. What can you do about her beh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/24 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Ex wife won’t help with 17 yr old car or insurance. What do I do?You recently purchased the car and your daughter has already had an accident? Any chance your ex was driving? If not is your daughter ready to drive a car? I suggest a dashcam, tell your daughter it is required by insurance and stays on all the time. Part of the conditions of her getting to drive the car, including at her mother's home, is that it stays on all the time and you will be reviewing the video. She'll be less inclined to drive it, and hopefully will complain to your ex who will eventu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/24 01:58 AM |
| 1 | I hate what they’ve done to the Boy scoutsOk, so looks like in 2024 they are piloting "linked" troops. https://blog.scoutingmagazine.org/2024/07/15/what-you-need-to-know-about-the-scouts-bsa-combined-troop-pilot-program/#:~:text=Currently%2C%20Scouts%20BSA%20troops%20have,and%20on%20down%20the%20line. But up to this point they have been girls or boys, not mixed. | /r/MensRights | 17/09/24 11:31 PM |
| 0 | Just walked out of my marriage like a week agoOP, if you refuse to leave she can easily call the police and tell them she feels threatened by you and they will either make you leave or arrest you. Even worse she can simply claim you hit her and they will take you to jail... They always err on the side of the woman unless you have proof you didn't hit her. You need a recording device. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/24 02:27 PM |
| 4 | I think my ex is recording our conversationsDamn man, this isn't a good spot for you. She's your enemy, why are you talking to her about your family? Nothing you can do about it now. Except, if she thinks it will bother you she will use it as leverage. You can get out in front of it by telling those people, but either way they won't be happy with you. How many people and how bad are the things you said? You can record her saying some mean things about her family, then make it a Mutually Assured Destruction thing, but not sure how well tha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/24 12:29 PM |
| 2 | Navigating Betrayal; How I strategically protected myselfDamn man, that's awesome! You need to write a book, these strategies would be helpful to so many in this sub. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/24 11:23 PM |
| 5 | Navigating Betrayal; How I strategically protected myselfFantastic planning and execution. Do you think your ex ever realized exactly what you did? What was her financial situation like when the divorce was finalized vs your financial situation? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/24 07:05 PM |
| 3 | Is it worth it to fight?When a female says "amicable" that usually means she expects you to agree to her demands, NOT that she will agree to your demands... And her demands will be ridiculous. The old saying "what's her's is her's and what's your's is her's" is absolutely true, she will view every dollar she thinks you make as half hers while her income will be viewed as only hers. Others have given plenty of good advice, I only want to add that she has plenty of simpy lawyers who will help her simply out of a desire t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/24 04:48 PM |
| 9 | The real reason why women stop loving menFemale hormones are like crack to their brains. In order to get those hormones they need drama and excitement, which is usually in the form of new social or romantic relationships. Males do this too, but typically it's with things such as fast cars or motorcycles or dangerous adventures. Unfortunately, the types that females want are also the types that requires them to step out of the relationship. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/24 02:30 PM |
| 21 | The real reason why women stop loving menBoth end up disappointed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/24 02:23 PM |
| 27 | Thus article is disturbing and I am honestly worried for younger generations of boysI only made it through about 1/4 of this thinking that I can understand thought experiments and such, but then my mind immediately went to Hitler and how such nonsense masquerading as "science" and facts was used to support the concept of Der Untermensch in Nazi propaganda.... Then I read this: If, in the mean time, they can prevent males from destroying the planet as a viable habitat for humans Now the author is conflating a doomsday scenario as a justification for their arguments. Hitler did t… | /r/MensRights | 13/09/24 10:34 PM |
| 38 | Lawsuit: a university counselor initiated an unauthorized investigation against a falsely accused student who confided in her about the pain of being wrongly accused. This resulted in him being dismissed from the program.https://medicine.yale.edu/profile/taryn-anderson/ Woke universities are pumping out these types of woke, anti-male students by the tens of thousands each year. And this female is from what is considered one of the top universities in the US. | /r/MensRights | 12/09/24 06:12 PM |
| 6 | Perspective advice needed.He will probably get lambasted for criticizing a woman if he posts in those subs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/24 05:44 PM |
| 7 | Not even a month and she’s sending me stuff about couples that lasted longer than us.This was exactly what I was thinking. I know it's anecdotal, but I know of number of married couples who were into that and literally none of them lasted. They go have fun, then they are surprised that their marriage fell apart and I'm wondering how they can be so blind to something that is obvious to everybody else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/24 05:41 PM |
| 3 | I need suggestions on how to move on—both in terms of parenting time and finances!You're "friend" is giving you advice that is what he would do. Parenting advice is like financial advice, one cannot give good advice about what somebody else should do because their goals and your goals may not be the same. Do you want to focus on your career? Obviously your friend thinks career is more important than time with kids. But he's not you. When your kid is an adult will you look back and wish you had more time with them? Because when your kid is an adult your friend won't care one w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/24 03:36 PM |
| 10 | I hate what they’ve done to the Boy scoutsI was an Eagle Scout with palms, Order of the Arrow Vigil, and was a scoutmaster for 15 years, and led a Venture Crew for a decade. All my experience was prior to Scouting opening up to girls. In Scouting, the girls are in different troops than the boys. So yes, both genders are allowed but not actually together. Cub Scouts, I believe, have both genders within a pack. To me Cub Scouts it's not a big deal specifically because it's before puberty. Once boys hit puberty they need a space of their o… | /r/MensRights | 12/09/24 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Why do i feel bad when i fact check women but not with men?I know you weren't, I was wrong. Sorry, I was being an a-hole unnecessarily. | /r/MensRights | 12/09/24 03:09 AM |
| 9 | Why do i feel bad when i fact check women but not with men?Well, since you asked nicely and I do love me some protein powder. :) @GamerXZEN Sorry kid, didn't mean to be so harsh. | /r/MensRights | 12/09/24 01:32 AM |
| 14 | I CAN’T WAIT TO LEAVE MY EX WIFE AND KIDSSo you were treated like shit by her kids, she was cheating on you, you filed for divorce, then you kept fucking her? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/24 01:29 AM |
| 12 | Why do i feel bad when i fact check women but not with men?Says the highschooler with the 1 year old account. This sub is for Men's Rights, it's in the title. We don't need to advocate for women, they have 95% of society doing that already. | /r/MensRights | 12/09/24 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Our sub is seeing a LOT of "What do you think" posts, usually relating to pro fem lies. Often from accounts who've never posted in the Mens Rights sub/femtrolls, with new/rarely used accounts, or are bots being trained in AI that are scraping our data. Neither are good-see how to catch them...r/MensRightsMeta | /r/MensRights | 12/09/24 01:15 AM |
| 1 | The “Childless Cat Lady” Feminist Outrage Truly Proves We’re Living In Bizarro WorldIt's obvious you didn't read my comment, or you did and simply cannot process what I stated. Please look up the definition of dysphemism. If you have TDS then please tell me, because if so then there's no point continuing this because any facts I present will simple reinforce your confirmation bias. | /r/MensRights | 11/09/24 07:07 PM |
| 4 | The “Childless Cat Lady” Feminist Outrage Truly Proves We’re Living In Bizarro WorldHarris is married, so it falls flat logically too. How? She has no kids therefore she is childless, and if she has a cat then it does literally apply; but even if she didn't have one or more cats then the phrase "childless cat lady" is a dysphemism, which by definition does not need to be "logically" correct. | /r/MensRights | 11/09/24 06:08 PM |
| 23 | The reproductive rights of cat ladies v.s. the reproductive rights of construction workers.When I stop working I don't get a paycheck, I can't pay my child support, I get thrown in jail. If I don't get thrown in jail I might get my picture posted on social media, my HR department (that is full of feminists, male and female) at my employer sees my picture, I get fired (or forced to resign), I don't get a paycheck, I can't pay my child support, I get thrown in jail. | /r/MensRights | 11/09/24 06:00 PM |
| 9 | Went looking for answers..Rock bottom.she never gave one shit if you were happy, unless she could leverage it into a shopping spree or vacation that she wanted. The truth hurts, and it takes a man to tell another man the truth, because a woman will never admit this. My ex had a scheme where every time our marriage hit a rough spot she would say "buy me this ring, it will symbolize our renewed love for each other"... And of course I fell for that bullshit, otherwise if I disagreed then that indicates that I didn't love her. A total l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/24 05:44 PM |
| 5 | Our sub is seeing a LOT of "What do you think" posts, usually relating to pro fem lies. Often from accounts who've never posted in the Mens Rights sub/femtrolls, with new/rarely used accounts, or are bots being trained in AI that are scraping our data. Neither are good-see how to catch them...This seems like a good topic to post on the meta sub. Maybe a new rule so we can select that when reporting. | /r/MensRights | 11/09/24 05:38 PM |
| 1 | QuestionThat's the same response my 7 year old gives when he does something stupid and refuses to take responsibility... "I didn't mean to". | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/24 05:23 PM |
| 2 | QuestionThe question you should be asking yourself is: "Is it wise to get into a new relationship when I haven't even resolved my previous relationship?" | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/24 02:20 PM |
| 11 | Spousal Supporti told her i don't want alimony or her 401k which i am entitled to half. It's absolutely amazing how many men post on here about how they don't want what they are entitled to... If you think she wouldn't demand the same from you if the situation were reversed then you're a fool. Not standing up for yourself in this way is a sanctimonious act and you'll gain absolutely nothing from it other than proving yourself a fool. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/24 01:19 AM |
| 6 | Just Telling My StoryGiven the short length of the marriage you've dodged a huge bullet. It's possible she's been lining somebody else up for a while. It's also possible she's hiding a prescription addiction from you (my ex did that with with me). Be prepared for her to come back and cause more drama, but especially be on guard if she has some other guy in her life, that other guy could be a simp who's capable of doing anything to you. Change your locks ASAP, buy a firearm and get training on how to use it, then pra… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/24 01:39 PM |
| 3 | "Herbivore men": your thoughts"hoe face"? :) | /r/MensRights | 09/09/24 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Should I get an apartment?Two posts and basically no information whatsoever. Are you expecting us to just magically know your situation and whether or not it's a good idea for you to move out, or are you really fishing for somebody to seem interested in your situation and ask questions so you can get some external validation from random people on Reddit? Please read the sidebar for the minimum post information. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/24 08:18 PM |
| 2 | If you had the chance to be a stay at home dad would you?Absolutely I would. Here's the thing, I would also expect her to go out and mow the yard, dig up that old stump, rebuild the broken parts of the fence, change the oil, spark plugs, break pads, filters, and bushings on the vehicles, fix the appliances, and all the other shit I would be doing if the roles were reversed. Cleaning and upkeep is different than maintenance, cleaning is easier and it takes less brainpower. Of course things are easier now with the Internet and YouTube, but how many wome… | /r/MensRights | 08/09/24 02:52 PM |
| 3 | If you had the chance to be a stay at home dad would you?You're picking a specific case, where the man never received an education or trade training. In that case yes, they would be in a bad position should a divorce happen. It would be different if the male was educated and married a female who made more and they decided he could be a SaHD. Considering the way the US family laws are structured (to favor females) along with the move to no-fault divorces means that women are incentivized to divorce when they get attention from some other guy, then they… | /r/MensRights | 08/09/24 02:35 PM |
| 6 | Divorce starting, what to watch for?The other commenters are being nice so far. Somebody needs to be real with you, so apologies in advance.... WTF man, you've been basically supporting her for a year and a half until she had somebody else lined up. Of course she has agreed to everything so far she's been getting a free ride for 18 months. Once the reality of trying to live on $25k/yr in CA dawns on her she's going to do whatever she can to get as much as she can out of you. 17 years and two kids with that income disparity, you ne… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/24 01:58 AM |
| 2 | It's usually never a good idea for a single man to date single mothersI wish people would use spellcheck. | /r/MensRights | 08/09/24 01:03 AM |
| 3 | Should I stop depositing into my 401K?I'm in the US. I just checked my QDRO, the amount was split when the divorce was finalized. The QDRO was drafted and signed almost 30 days after the divorce was finalized. I stopped making contributions into my 401k right before I filed for divorce, on the recommendation of my lawyer. Date of Marriage: The Participant and Alternate Payee were married on February 1, 2008 and were divorced on January 8, 2021. Amount to be Paid to the Alternate Payee: The Alternate Payee's interest in the plan shal… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 11:35 AM |
| 4 | This is a vent on my wife….she loves attention from men and is happy to lap it up when she is going out with the girls she will stay out all night She’s impossible to communicate anything other than above surface level stuff she takes no responsibility She just flips everything onto me she won’t change doesn’t want to grow in this area Dude, look at all the red flags. | /r/MensRights | 07/09/24 02:40 AM |
| 13 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Length of marriage? Love doesn't exist. You're searching for an ideal that is simply propaganda that Disney made you think is obtainable. "Love" is transactional, once you stop providing she will end the "love". | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 12:24 AM |
| 7 | How long til the pain fades?Dude. You're marriage was over prior to the inappropriate comment, she was just waiting for you to do something so she could justify cheating (she probably already was or at least was interested in somebody else). The comment was just the excuse, so don't blame yourself because it could have been any little thing. Frankly, do you want to be married to somebody who has already checked out? She doesn't respect you, you can never get that back. Even if she did act like she was taking you back, it w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/24 08:00 PM |
| 0 | Do people in your country expect men to give up their seats to young healthy women on public transport?I don't ride public transportation much, it's not really a thing where I live (though I wish it was), therefore I don't have to worry about it. However, now that I think about if I'm in that situation from now on it I'm going to simply ask if she's a feminist. If she is she doesn't get the seat. | /r/MensRights | 06/09/24 05:51 PM |
| 44 | Former Bond Girl Gemma Arterton slammed after suggesting the word feminism 'excludes men' and has 'divisive' connotationsIt's unbelievable that people actually think that feminism promotes anything male. What a bunch of horseshit. If it did then it wouldn't be called "Feminism". What that ideology promotes is in the fucking name. | /r/MensRights | 06/09/24 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Obsessed with lowering child supportWait, I thought you said she is your ex. Typically when somebody says "haven't started the process yet" that means they haven't filed for divorce yet. Are you referring to requesting a change to child support? My question refers back to the original order for $1000 CS/mth, when the judge ordered that CS amount what did the judge think was her income? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/24 12:59 AM |
| 1 | Obsessed with lowering child supportReading your comments, it looks like she makes $90k and you make $115k. But she makes half of that $90k in cash? If so how much does the judge thinks she makes? Also, what state are you in (please don't say CA). How many kids? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/24 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Obsessed with lowering child supportIf she's not depositing that cash then bank records won't help. She can spend that cash on groceries/food, gas, product, etc and it's untraceable. If anything you need a to have her go under a financial audit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/24 05:12 PM |
| 3 | In the 2024 Democratic Party Platform, the word Women appears 82 times, the word Men, 4 times. Why don't the Democrats pay more attention to male voters since they trail among them in the vote?Thanks for sharing. Thats an edited clip, so I found the full transcript. He's praising The Heritage Foundation, not Project 2025. I found more videos, even back in 2017, when he gave the same keynote speech to them as well. Project 2025 wasn't published until April 2023. So he was speaking about the Heritage foundation, not about the document. Though he did comment about them releasing "plans", he doesn't make any references even to the name. https://www.rev.com/blog/transcripts/donald-trump-de… | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 10:16 PM |
| 0 | In the 2024 Democratic Party Platform, the word Women appears 82 times, the word Men, 4 times. Why don't the Democrats pay more attention to male voters since they trail among them in the vote?I've looked and cannot find a single example where he stated that he endorses or has read Project 2025. He has had discussions about it multiple times and has been consistent in his comments about it... He's publicly stated that he agrees with things in it (which as he stated he's been told by others) and he's stated that here's things he disagrees with. Seems weird that he would write something then state he doesn't like things in it. If you get your news from liberal sources, if you watch/read… | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Hmm so girls are more likely than men to be the problem students, interesting....The professor who led the study is the head of the university's DEI program https://socialwork.illinois.edu/news/tan-named-associate-dean-for-adei/ I wonder if there's maybe some in-built bias in this study to favor devoting more resources to females. | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 07:20 PM |
| 1 | In the 2024 Democratic Party Platform, the word Women appears 82 times, the word Men, 4 times. Why don't the Democrats pay more attention to male voters since they trail among them in the vote?I'm asking you to provide the information... How exactly am I lying when I literally stated I haven't seen it and I'm asking you about it. Can you provide a link to these statements? | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 07:11 PM |
| 0 | In the 2024 Democratic Party Platform, the word Women appears 82 times, the word Men, 4 times. Why don't the Democrats pay more attention to male voters since they trail among them in the vote?I can understand how somebody, probably you and others I know, could make the association. But there's simply no evidence, and the policy positions and plans that are on Trump's website, which have been there for a while, don't all align with the Project 2025's positions. There is some overlap, but there is also some that don't. Acting like Trump wasn't all about that until he realized how unpopular it made him Has he ever endorsed or stated that he's affiliated with Project 2025? I've never see… | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 05:29 PM |
| 13 | In the 2024 Democratic Party Platform, the word Women appears 82 times, the word Men, 4 times. Why don't the Democrats pay more attention to male voters since they trail among them in the vote?Project 2025 is not a Republican policy document... It's written by the Heritage foundation. Liberals conflating the two is getting really old. Please educate yourself. | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 04:04 PM |
| 7 | Because work in Japan is SO easy (repost without names)Somebody comes here from r/Feminism and r/TwoX and calls everyone incels... How original, that's never happened before. /s | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 03:42 PM |
| 6 | Not listening to Taylor Swift is "Toxic Masculinity".Just remember guys, there's a good chance any conversation you have with a woman, whether it's about Taylor Swift or any other subject (no matter how disconnected from sex/gender you perceive it to be), this is what that woman will be thinking while she's smiling at you. | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Why is there HEAVIER emphasis on respecting women more than men?Because they (and Hitler) are the most extreme example of evil. So, if somebody doesn't like Trump they will equate him to Hitler. In my case, I used the most extreme example of people who don't deserve respect. | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 12:43 PM |
| 0 | Paternity TestYep. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/24 12:40 PM |
| 3 | I know i should not move from the house(not owning but renting together), but what if i have too?I filed for divorce. We have a kid together. We split time, kind of like an in-house custody situation. I spent time outside the house, I did outdoors type stuff and hung out with family. She tried to start arguments all the time. I ran a recording app 24/7, then a few weeks before our hearing date there was a final attempt to hash out an agreement, I made a greatest hits of her treating me like shit, yelling and swearing at me, many times with our kid crying in the background. I played that, 7 … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/24 01:29 AM |
| 1 | I know i should not move from the house(not owning but renting together), but what if i have too?I did it for 30 months, half of that during COVID. It will suck, but you'll survive. Gray Rock method will get you thru... That and a voice recording app on your phone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/24 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Paternity TestIf I'm not his father and the real father wanted him, I would use force to keep him So you would harm another human being, get yourself thrown in jail or killed by the cops, to "keep" a boy who is not yours, from his real father who may not even know he exists? Not to mention depriving your other child of his father. I hope this is just bravado and not serious. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/24 12:32 AM |
| 0 | Why is there HEAVIER emphasis on respecting women more than men?I'm not trying to use a whataboutism argument, because I'm not trying to distract you. Me providing the examples I did is a way to understand you're viewpoint by presenting an example that is counter to your statements. You keep using the terms "more" and "less", or variations of those terms. Maybe you know what they mean to you because you have some kind of conceptual image in your mind's eye, but you're not providing clarity about what that actually means. Back to the example of the runner and… | /r/MensRights | 03/09/24 09:59 PM |
| -4 | Why is there HEAVIER emphasis on respecting women more than men?just because person A is a male and person B is a female, that one is less than the other. What does "less than" mean? You are making these generic statements that sound great but you're providing no context. If a male and a female runner are competing against each other then yes, one will be "more" than the other. If an abandoned baby needs to be fed then the female who is producing breast milk will be "more" than the frmales who are not, and certainly "more" than the males. basic human rights … | /r/MensRights | 03/09/24 08:45 PM |
| 6 | Why is there HEAVIER emphasis on respecting women more than men?Everyone regardless of sex should be listened to, respected, and validated. What does this even mean? Why does somebody deserve to be respected simply for existing? Or validates for that matter? | /r/MensRights | 03/09/24 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Female commentatorsSorry, I thought you were OP. | /r/MensRights | 01/09/24 08:34 PM |
| 0 | Female commentatorsAre you OK with female commentators when they are talking about female sports? | /r/MensRights | 01/09/24 07:52 PM |
| 5 | Ex starting drama about how I ignore her fianceIt behooves you to get along with the fiance. You don't need to be friends, but being respectful will paint yourself in a good light in your kid's eyes. Indifference isn't being respectful. This guy isn't your enemy yet, if you're a good person and he is a good person and neither of you sees the other as a threat then you both benefit from being cordial. He doesn't have the experience with your ex that you do so he doesn't see her for what she really is; if anything you should feel sorry for the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/24 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Alimony to pay even if the wife is cheatingReligion doesn't matter unless your in a country that is based on Sharia Law. In the US one cannot simply say they are Muslim to get out of alimony. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/24 05:44 PM |
| 3 | I come in peace…Two things I've realized about women and relationships... Women are not romantic. They know what they think is romantic, and expect their partners to be that way, but they themselves are not romantic as much as they claim. It's like a pilot and air traffic controller (ATC); nobody would say the ATC person is good at flying, because they don't do it; but they certainly have to tell the pilots where to go and how they need to go about it and it's up to the pilot to know how to do the tasks and man… | /r/MensRights | 01/09/24 04:11 PM |
| 15 | Why don't we just let women create a womens-only country so they understand why men are important?OP is talking on a larger scale. Sure, day to day within the sphere of their own environment using tools that are provided to them then they can survive in their own. Except a vast majority of the tools they use on a daily basis are created and maintained by men. That's what OP is talking about, women can create their own nation where they provide their own infrastructure and utilities, food, shelter, etc. | /r/MensRights | 01/09/24 03:00 PM |
| 2 | Questionable MovieSorry, I wasn't meaning to compare. I get killing and murdering is bad, and it sounds like this movie has people doing really bad things. I guess the main reason why Shadow in the Clouds is so bad is because it portrays men as bad or incompetent because they are men. The single woman in the film is the only morally "good" person in the film. | /r/MensRights | 31/08/24 10:03 PM |
| 2 | Questionable MovieIn my opinion Shadow in the Clouds is the most misandrist film that has ever been made. The main character is an off-the-chart Mary Sue that puts Rey to shame, while every single man in the movie is portrayed as either misogynist or completely incompetent. It's worth watching simply to see how Hollywood really views men. The ending is quite possibly the most laughable ending ever. | /r/MensRights | 31/08/24 09:33 PM |
| 11 | Life in NYC for a 53-y.o. man.I agree with this. Moreso because my ex-wife, who I was married to at the time, lost her mind when Trump was elected. She started getting involved with feminist groups on Facebook, and generally took an attitude of "all the problems in the world are caused by white men". I divorced her a few years later because she looked at me as if I oppressed her (she was a SaHM so that jives with a feminist viewpoint). | /r/MensRights | 31/08/24 12:33 AM |
| 8 | Got evicted in my own houseCreate a new email account. Change any accounts in your name to paperless, have them sent to this new email address. Update all online accounts to use this new email address (protects against password reset requests). Remove her as an authorized user on all credit cards in your name. Remove yourself as an authorized user on any credit cards in her name. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Pretrial orderThe final agreement is usually where assets are divided. The pretrial order can contain things that the party agrees to so they don't have to be discussed during the actual trail, but I don't believe the actual division occurs until after the final order is signed by the judge. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 02:36 AM |
| 15 | Girls are not actually smarter and Women need to stop blaming men for being paid lessI think it's been fairly well documented that men score slightly higher in IQ than woman. A simple Google search provides plenty of examples. Among adults, males have slightly higher verbal and reasoning abilities than females and a more pronounced superiority on spatial abilities. If the three abilities are combined to form general intelligence, the mean for males is 4 IQ points higher than the mean for females. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0191886994900302#:~:text=Amon… | /r/MensRights | 29/08/24 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Modern feminism was created to destroy the nuclear family and further divide men & women.."the media" is now incentivized on social media to manufacture outrage-content geared toward specific demographics and identity groups in order make money. Females are the major consumers on social media, therefore content intended to outrage females is promoted by the algorithms to increase revenue. | /r/MensRights | 28/08/24 05:20 PM |
| 0 | Modern feminism was created to destroy the nuclear family and further divide men & women..We don't use that acronym around here... Unless you want this sub banned. | /r/MensRights | 28/08/24 04:45 PM |
| 2 | I have no idea what to do and it's killing meCan she admit she needs to improve? Unlikely This is exactly what I was getting at. If she can't even admit she needs to improve, to herself in the mirror when she's alone, then she'll never change. If that doesn't happen then are you OK with that? If not then you need to move on. It might not seem like it from your POV, but outside looking in, financially you're in a pretty good spot. Emotionally, socially, and physically she will put you through the ringer. I survived, we all do (mostly), some… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/24 10:09 PM |
| 22 | Why do we keep getting fed this stuff?30 years ago when I went to college, in my freshman English class, every paper we wrote was about feminism. No joke, we literally had to write papers explaining different parts of feminism, and why they were good. If we didn't write the paper as pro-feminist we lost points. This was in the 90s, this is how long feminism has been pushed in US colleges. | /r/MensRights | 27/08/24 07:08 PM |
| 0 | I have no idea what to do and it's killing meI might have missed it, but how long is your marriage? There is A LOT here... And frankly none of it sounds good. Time and time again we hear (in this sub) how women just stop caring about sex... Because those women are simply selfish. Sorry, but that's not something a wife can simply decide to stop and expect to continue to benefit from the other, just like a man cannot stop being home money and expect his wife to be OK. I'm not going over every point, but the overall flow for your marriage is … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/24 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Casual misandryA young man who has that much confidence and strength in his own skin, so much that he readily and tearfully cheers for his father on national television, doesn’t need any pity from the rest of us. I would question if that kid understood that he was on TV. Given the new video of Walz jerking his arm with an annoyed look on his face, I would question the kid's understanding of much of what all is happening. | /r/MensRights | 27/08/24 02:52 PM |
| -1 | IDF sexually molesting Palestinian men. At least there's some news coverage of this.I'm just questioning the veracity of the reporting. If you think CNN is a trusted news source then you live in a bubble. I've never voted Republican in my life, I'm not pushing a narrative, which is ironically exactly what CNN does every single day. If you don't want to talk about something then why are you commenting? Just move on. | /r/MensRights | 27/08/24 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Man or bear?I have been raped by multiple women in my life, sexually assaulted by plenty of others. If I had the choice between a bear and a woman I would choose the bear. The reason being, if I fought back against the woman I would go to jail. | /r/MensRights | 26/08/24 10:21 PM |
| 4 | Evolutionary psychology and divorceNot many people noticed, but over the 10 years or so many of the evolutionary psychologist in the world were pushed out of academia. This is because many of the leftist concepts (especially feminism) claim masculinity and femininity are social constructs and not evolutionary constructs, which also goes against gender theory. It's too bad, because the field of evolutionary psychology could help us fix some of the problems in our society. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 10:18 PM |
| 3 | Trying to make new friends…Get off Instagram. Think about the type of woman you will meet on there... Someone who looks to randos on the Internet for validation. How many dudes are dming her daily trying to get her attention? That's possibly the worst place to meet a woman unless you want to turn into a pathetic simp or get sloppy seconds/thirds. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 07:41 PM |
| 88 | It baffles me how male teachers are the ones associated with pedophilia in the school systemrevealed that at least 25 female teachers across 16 states have been arrested for sex crimes in the last year Um, that's a small fraction of the real number. | /r/MensRights | 26/08/24 07:13 PM |
| 7 | IDF sexually molesting Palestinian men. At least there's some news coverage of this.Definitely not appropriate treatment of a prisoner if it happened. However, CNN makes it's money off rage-bait articles and has a history of not adequately vetting sources in favor of breaking "news" first. It would have been better if this account came from a legitimate aid organization. Again, I'm absolutely not condoning such behavior on either side. | /r/MensRights | 26/08/24 05:36 PM |
| 3 | Men need to stop apologizing!I agree, if you didn't do anything wrong you should not apologize. It's common for somebody to say "I'm sorry your <so and so> passed away... But why would somebody apologize for that (unless they killed them)? It's better to say "my condolences for your loss". Same goes for "excuse me" vs "sorry to bother you" | /r/MensRights | 26/08/24 04:15 PM |
| 54 | Article: Why young men are turning against feminism?My first thought was that this article is accurate, then I realized that the article is framed such that the problem is that men no longer identify as feminists, NOT that men face problems in society nor that feminism doesn't seem to help men. | /r/MensRights | 26/08/24 04:11 PM |
| 4 | Ever hear of a divorce couple splitting a duplex and each living on one side?You both need a clear break. What will happen when you want to have friends over and she's having a bad day and doesn't like the noise, or worse you have a girl over? You might think she will be OK with, and of course she will say says OK with it, but then when that time comes you're taking a chance on drama. You two are divorcing, you don't want her in your life anymore, right? I hope the answer is yes, then why would you want to live right next to her? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 01:17 AM |
| 6 | Ever hear of a divorce couple splitting a duplex and each living on one side?Nope. Sounds like a recipe for disaster in most cases. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Unsure of what to doJust to reiterate what others are saying because it is so important... NO MORE SEX. Here soon her biological clock with start pushing her to have a kid. She'll either try to pressure you (we need to have a kid or I will go somewhere else), manipulate you (a baby will make our marriage stronger), or deceive you (I know you hate wearing a condom, it's ok I'm not ovulating right now) into having a kid. Dude, you're still relatively young. A divorce will only set you back a few years, and you have a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 09:44 PM |
| 3 | How to save for a divorcemoney to move out and get my own apartment, lawyer etc. Most men seem to think the order you listed is the priority, when it should be lawyer first, temporary custody agreement, then move out. Save money in a different account, it's still half hers but also it's yours to spend, so you can pay a lawyer retainer then file, and usually at that point you can start separating money. There a couple of key points you left out that would help us help you. How many kids, what is your and her incomes, sta… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 09:25 PM |
| 23 | Theory on Male victims of stalking and domestic violence/rapeShe was researching prison accommodations for her disability before sentencing. But her sentence included no prison time. Nowhere in the article that I saw did it state she had a disability. Funny how she magically now has one. I get that she's doing whatever she can to avoid jail time, but still, we're back to "man killed, woman most affected". If this were a man he would be in jail for the rest of his life. | /r/MensRights | 25/08/24 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Moved out. Filed. She doesn’t want kids sleeping at my placeAgree with the others, you should only have moved out after you had a temporary custody agreement in place. Now she has them and you don't. Your lawyer should have known this. You basically left them, regardless of what your lawyer stated. Ultimately YOU are responsible (and will pay the consequencea of these bad decisions, not your lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/24 01:37 PM |
| 4 | A small gesture, but it hurts.What's going to happen with them in the divorce? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/24 02:31 AM |
| 7 | What are your thoughts on the discourse surrounding Tim Walz' son getting emotional at his dad's speech during the DNC?For some people that's how they see everything that they don't like... Similar to how a feminist sees anything that isn't pro-female as being anti-female. I'm sure there are plenty of liberals who saw that and thought "that seems a bit much", I know because I've talked to some who thought exactly that. | /r/MensRights | 24/08/24 02:14 AM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on the discourse surrounding Tim Walz' son getting emotional at his dad's speech during the DNC?If I remember correctly people on Twitter were shitting on Baron Trump quite a bit for everything, even if he was just standing. This isn't a one side vs the other situation, cause there are major assholes on both sides. Both sides are hipocritical, both sides lie, both sides take money from rich people, both sides get rich from their positions. If you think otherwise then you've drunk whatever coolaid your side is handing out, nothing more. The real problem is that assholes that post these type… | /r/MensRights | 24/08/24 02:06 AM |
| 5 | A small gesture, but it hurts.What is she coming to, and into, your home to "care for" the dogs? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/24 01:57 AM |
| 1 | My stbx did thisThey left out political disagreements. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/24 06:45 PM |
| 3 | Court today. It’s over. After 30 years.My brokerage firm had an internal requirement for completing a QDRO of 90 days after receiving it in the mail, day 89 they sent it back because there was a misspelling in the header of the court order, that took 60 days to get the court to reissue another order, then we sent it but they changed PO box numbers (for QDROs specifically) since the first time we mailed it, so they mailed it back to us, that added another 40 days. Then, we mailed it back to them, and on day 75 after receiving they cal… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/24 05:17 PM |
| 2 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?I went to meet-the-teacher night last week. Hundreds of men dutifully following their wives are, keeping their head down. I was alone wandering around the school, my ex was 30 minutes late of course, walking with my head high and shoulders back I had people move out of my way, while husbands shuffling around were getting bumped left and right. I saw a former coworker (with his wife) for the first time since prior to my divorce, and he specifically told me I look younger and more energetic... I t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/24 02:46 PM |
| 5 | Was marriage worth it?I'm kind of in the same boat. The ex took half my 401k (which she spent in less than 3 years), which set me back about 8 years in my retirement portfolio. Unless the stock market does really good, I won't be able to retire until 70. I have another 11 years of CS which could go to 15 should the ex goes back to court and ask for an extension if my kid goes to college. I'm about to turn 50 and wondering why I did this to myself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Apparently we spread propaganda, disinformation, racism and sexismThere's nobody to sue. The company is privately owned, therefore they can decide what is acceptable plus they are protected under 230. The mods? Good luck with that. Nobody is held accountable and the mods on those subs don't care whatsoever about men. If a Reddit admin were to step in and do something they would be called racist, therefore there's simply no benefit to them either, not to mention they are all ultra-liberal pro-feminist anyways. | /r/MensRights | 21/08/24 05:51 PM |
| 6 | How pissed off should I be?she doesn't give a fuck about anyone but herself. I feel mad and I guess I'm here seeking validation/advice. It's in women's nature to be resource hoarders and consumers. Men throughout human history have worked to provide resources, then turned them over to women in exchange for the women bearing children. Women still have this instinct, but they also now have a legal system which helps them with this process. Your marriage was a legal contract between you and the government to which you agreed… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/24 01:39 PM |
| 3 | How to survive the first days...?Move back in, save money. In the US, the first thing we tell men is to not move out until either your lawyer gives you the OK or if there is a signed parenting agreement in place. Otherwise you risk your wife claiming abandonment. The first time I met my female divorce lawyer she told me the following: "the court doesn't care about fairness or logic, all it cares about is separating a men from their money." | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 11:01 PM |
| 2 | How to survive the first days...?Are you living in the house you're paying utilities on? | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 10:41 PM |
| 6 | How to survive the first days...?I've agreed she can stay in the house with the boys for at least until they finish primary school (5 years). Why are you sacrificing your time with and access to your children? I sure hope it's not because you believe that it's a man's responsibility to sacrifice for your kids. Over the past almost 5 years I've been on this sub I've seen so many guys with this attitude, and most of them get fucked over because of it. You are no less important in your kids lives as their mother is, in fact I woul… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 07:39 PM |
| 6 | It has begun.https://psychcentral.com/health/grey-rock-method#:~:text=The%20grey%20rock%20method%20is,interest%20and%20stop%20bothering%20you. This will save you from yourself and from her. Follow it to the letter. Re-read this article once a week if necessary. File the paperwork first, don't wait for her. Create a new Google Email account, use a random password she cannot guess. Get rid of paper anything, transform your life to digital only if you haven't already. No more paper statements of any kind. Chang… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 03:24 PM |
| 21 | Do you think it's fair for men to be stay at home husbands and women go to work?I was the primary breadwinner in my family (prior to divorcing my (now ex) wife. After our kid was born she stayed at home. All I heard when I got home was how hard it was to be her; the house would be a mess, dirty dishes and clothes, no vacuuming was done, basically nothing except keeping the kid alive and entertaining the kid I assume. If course the minute I got home I was responsible for everything related to our kid up to and including putting him to sleep, regardless of how my day went. Sh… | /r/MensRights | 20/08/24 03:19 AM |
| 1 | SoftwareYou’ll see the initial DNS request but you won’t see what she was doing there. Correct, that's why I only stated that OP can see the sites she's visiting. If it's a dating site or divorce lawyer sites then that's quite useful information. I'm only trying to help OP gather information. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/24 03:01 AM |
| 3 | Is it common for women to counterfile petitionsOne thing, don't use your cell phone to record. Cell phones stop recording when you make a call, in other words when you have to call the police you'll lose some of what is happening. I'm on Android, and I use the HiQ recorder. The recording does not stop during calls, but it does not record the call itself but I can hear myself talking on the call. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/24 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Pew Pew assets - sell, hide or lose them?First off, don't let her know how important the guns are to you... Especially don't let her know some are more important than others. I'm sure she's going to ask for some of that equity, she already asked me to sell my motorcycle. She's already in the mindset of what she can take from you. It's probably going to get way worse. Please tell me you have a lawyer? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/24 03:31 PM |
| 8 | SoftwareCheck your router logs, unless she's using a VPN you should be able to view the sites she is visiting. Try a USB keylogger (Google "keygrabber usb keystroke"), they are impossible to detect. Assume she's cheating. If she won't give you her password then she is cheating... Or she's planning a divorce and doesn't want you to know about it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/24 03:26 PM |
| 10 | A Memoir About Recovering From Men. Casual hatred of men in one of Americas oldest magazines.This women clearly has significant mental issues. Considering her behavior, I think it's safe to say she has zero accountability for her actions, thus the easiest target is the men in her past. But it also reads like she brings these things on herself to some extent; she is the typical female who in one breath complains about being objectified by men then in the next complains about nobody telling her how sexy she looks in her red dress. | /r/MensRights | 19/08/24 03:19 PM |
| 8 | Kids are NOT debts, 50/50 no child support.Why do men not stand up like women? A number of reasons, many of them are enabled by women group think and in-group support... Basically the sisterhood. Women are a voting block, and mostly lean left. No politician would anger so many women who are potential votes. Married men won't support the elimination of child support in fear of how their wives would react. Men who are not affected by biased child support laws don't really care as long as it doesn't affect them. (Same goes for MGM). | /r/MensRights | 19/08/24 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Fell out with friends over the stupid bear thingOne cannot change themselves from female to male. Their chromosomes are not changed. So they are changing their gender, which means they are superficially changing the way they look. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/24 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Controversial opinion: We should stop talking about dating and focus on other issues instead.Are you saying that feminism is lobbying and calling the ACLU to compel the Girl Scouts to accept boys? Um, no. I hope this question is sarcasm. And that the girl Scouts is no longer feminist because they refuse? No, the definition of feminism shift slowly left between over the past 80 years, and each wave is much closer than the previous wave and the shifting left has jumped significantly with each wave. The Girl Scouts haven't become more feminist, it's no longer feminist enough. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/24 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Fell out with friends over the stupid bear thingIt would be beneficial to learn the terms, simply to be educated in an argument with idiots who believe such fantasies. Trans guys = males who dress up as women and claim they are a woman. Cis guys = males who dress as men and do not claim to be a woman. | /r/MensRights | 18/08/24 01:55 AM |
| 3 | Controversial opinion: We should stop talking about dating and focus on other issues instead.The girl scouts (in the US) have been around for more than 100 years. They had plenty of opportunity to change over the years, and they have in many ways. Except the changes that feminism is pushing don't align with the values of the Girl Scouts, therefore the Girl Scouts are not considered "complementary" to modern feminism. The Boy Scouts included girls because they saw a business opportunity, given how basically all girls in our society are told they need to be more like the boys and the memb… | /r/MensRights | 18/08/24 01:51 AM |
| 1 | How tell the kids (and a couple other questions) with a potentially hostile partner?Are you in the US? And do you have personal or direct referrals for your lawyer? The reason I ask is that in the US there are plenty of instances where the wife claims abandonment when the husband moves out as a way to begin the process and the guy cannot "prove" he wasn't abandoning the family. Get the apartment lined up, but don't move out until you get a temporary custody agreement in place. Not to mention, you move out, you only see the kids a few times a week then that's the standard you se… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 12:46 AM |
| 2 | How to bring up divorce?At this point does it matter what she wants? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/24 07:47 PM |
| 1 | How tell the kids (and a couple other questions) with a potentially hostile partner?And your lawyer told you it was OK to move out? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/24 07:44 PM |
| 4 | Just slept with another woman again and ended up crying in my bathroomok guy to cry real mean cry This! Crying is a human function. Women view crying as a weakness and they've conditioned males to believe that crying is bad when it is not. However, never cry in front of a female, they are instinctively repulsed by seeing a man cry. Good male friends will not judge their buddy if he cries in front of them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/24 03:17 PM |
| 2 | How tell the kids (and a couple other questions) with a potentially hostile partner?I stopped at "haven't file yet". Unless you've retained and have approval from your lawyer, you are making a mistake if you are moving out of the home that is your children's primary residence. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/24 02:53 PM |
| 2 | The "hopeless divorced dad" trope is alive and wellAgree. Personally I know plenty of males and females who are divorced, and the males are by far more skilled at life in practically every single way. This bullshit is pure projection and more feminist bullshit that only serves to push the female superiority agenda. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/24 01:10 PM |
| 1 | What’s your response to the “wage gap”?The "earnings gap" and the "gender pay gap" (also called the "wage gap") are two distinct things. The "earnings gap" is real, the "gender pay gap" is not. I posted a bunch of comments about this on a different thread, here is the quote: Ok, so the way the average earnings are calculated is they take the total amount a person earns over a given amount of time, let's say a year, then they do that for everybody. They split them into two groups, men and women, then calculate the average amount the m… | /r/MensRights | 17/08/24 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Had a friend who owns a nice home but gets verbaly abused like a beaten dog by his "women." And he was also cheated on.r/Divorce_Men | /r/MensRights | 17/08/24 01:54 AM |
| 4 | Women don’t understand the impact of false accusations because they think those who get offended by them are a part of the problem.Try watching any congressional session from the last 4 years where female federal judicial nominees are being interviewed, it's absolutely terrifying what they think and advocated. And these are women who are populating federal benches across the US. BTW, they're practically all pro-feminist or liberal advocates; many even believe that individuals from "oppressed" groups should be held to a different standard than those from non-oppressed groups. | /r/MensRights | 16/08/24 04:26 PM |
| 24 | The "hopeless divorced dad" trope is alive and wellthis is clearly observed by someone who knows how quickly divorced dads fall apart and how much you have to control their lives. WTF! | /r/MensRights | 16/08/24 11:23 AM |
| 1 | What are my options that won't leave me crippled?She also doesn't respect me Sorry man, but once a woman loses respect for a man he can never gain it back. Your marriage is over. With no kids, and a relatively short marriage, so whatever you can to get divorced as quickly as possible. Then when you're no longer supporting her you'll be able to build up your wealth in a very short period of time. No matter what you do, no more sex with her, ever. Don't be surprised if she tries to say that having a kid will help your marriage by giving you both… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/24 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone here divorced someone they still loved? (TW - mentions of suicide)It's very surprising how close your story matches mine. Even down to The proposal part. Absolutely whatever you do do not have sex with this woman again. If you do your life will get dramatically worse, both from the standpoint of having a mother of your child who has mental health issues which will be exacerbated by the hormone imbalance that is caused by pregnancy and when the inevitable divorce happens it will be that much harder because then you will be locked to this person for the next 18 … | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/24 08:15 PM |
| 3 | Social media etiquette during divorceDude, disable your social media accounts. The more information she has about you the more she can twist the truth to fit her abused-wife narrative. Post a picture of you at a free concert, she will claim you're out partying and living the high life while she's destitute and forced to live with her mother. She knows exactly what she's doing, she probably has a bunch of divorced female friends whispering all manner of insidious schemes in her ears. You need to prepare for a battle, start thinking … | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/24 03:56 PM |
| 6 | I commented this on r/twoxchromosonesBuild another shelter. And another. And another. That’s how women got where where they are today. Women have the support they need because men in the government saw an opportunity to get votes by promoting these things so public money was given to groups to set up shelters for women. When private attempts are made to create shelters (because public funds are not available for male shelters), by males or females, they are opposed by pro-feminist groups and eventually close. | /r/MensRights | 14/08/24 02:23 PM |
| 4 | Pillage During Divorce: How do you to Protect Your Assets?I lived with my ex during the divorce process and then for a few months afterwards, during COVID. She would routinely take my things (into "her" master bedroom where I wasn't allowed) as a way to manipulate me. For example, I went for a hike and she removed my computer from our home office simply because we got into an argument about something that had nothing to do with the computer. Thus I felt I had no choice but to take the actions below. I asked my parents to rent a storage unit for me. I s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/24 02:15 PM |
| 1 | 10 legal advantages women have that men don't haveOk, so the way the average earnings are calculated is they take the total amount a person earns over a given amount of time, let's say a year, then they do that for everybody. They split them into two groups, men and women, then calculate the average amount the men earn and the average amount the women earn. This is a different amount between men and women because it doesn't take into account things like hours worked, experience, etc. This is where the roughly 27% difference comes from. This is … | /r/MensRights | 14/08/24 01:33 AM |
| 3 | 10 legal advantages women have that men don't haveNo, pay and earnings are different. The pay gap is different than the earnings gap. You're saying the "pay gap" isn't real, but you're calling it the "earnings gap". Pay is how much a person receives for doing work for a discrete amount of time. Earnings are the cumulative amount a person receives over a given amount of time. | /r/MensRights | 13/08/24 09:52 PM |
| 11 | Australian FEMINISTS Warned: Hands Off the Presumption of Innocence!Because they don't create, they only destroy. | /r/MensRights | 13/08/24 04:43 PM |
| 10 | Australian FEMINISTS Warned: Hands Off the Presumption of Innocence!Everyone in this case are people who would rather focus on "oppression" as the building block of a country, then work on stopping said "oppression" by destroying the mechanisms that are the only real bulwark against oppression. | /r/MensRights | 13/08/24 03:38 PM |
| 18 | 10 legal advantages women have that men don't haveThe gender earnings gap is real, women work less than men over their lifetime thus they earn less. The gender pay gap is not real, women are payed the same (if not more, see Google, Citibank, etc) for the same work as men. | /r/MensRights | 13/08/24 12:42 PM |
| 8 | 10 legal advantages women have that men don't haveBut OPs statement is still true, it is illegal to perform FGM but it is legal to perform MGM... And this applies to more countries than it doesn't. In fact, I don't think there are any countries where MGM is illegal. except circumcision, which is popular and endorsed only in the USA MGM is legally performed in MANY countries. Hell, the Philippines they will circumcise hundreds of little boys at the same time. | /r/MensRights | 13/08/24 12:40 PM |
| 12 | Woman insinuates father of her future child is a future abuser because he wants men to get paternity testsThe crux of the issue for the male is due to female solipsism. Women in general cannot comprehend anything that occurs outside the realm of their own experience; in their mind everything exists in relation to them. Therefore, to them a paternity test is only about them; it's not possible for them to understand that maybe the man can 100% trust her but also want verification OR simply to verify that the child wasn't switched at birth. And yet, if the male brings up a paternity test at any time in… | /r/MensRights | 12/08/24 07:09 PM |
| 3 | Reality.They never change their mind do they? Of course they change their minds, they are constantly changing their minds based on their feelings. This is why women are never consistent with their words and you should always judge them by their actions. Why are you begging? That's a weak move, and women are repulsed by weak men. How often have seen a man beg for anything and gain respect for him? I'm guessing never. Your marriage is over, have some dignity and stand up for yourself and do what needs to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Looking for a replacement father for my son bas I am a toxic father.Yeah, because it's fake. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 09:03 PM |
| 4 | Wife originally told me she wanted a divorce because she is not “feeling” it anymore now she is saying she wants space and wants to hold off on the divorceSoooo.... So you really think, after being together 10 years and married for four, after she's already moved out and been with "family", had time "on her own to think", that somehow she's decided she can't live without you? Sorry man, you're not that interested to her. Sure, you could be a great guy, perfect husband, big dick, whatever. Women don't leave and magically decide they can't live without you unless they tried out some of their other options. to the core of it we dont have that many ac… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 06:30 PM |
| 4 | I want a divorce, and wife to take our children, but she says I need to ask her nicely and get my replacement"Ask nicely"? WTF does that mean? And what does she mean by replacement? Is she talking about you find another man to marry her and parent your kids? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 12:43 PM |
| 1 | What’s the best place to spend a week worth of vacation during a divorce?Germany too! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Wife refusing to do anything to progress divorceDepends on the state, some states have that requirement. Get the trail on the docket, even if it's a long way out, then just sit back and wait. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 04:23 AM |
| 3 | I really need some help... I am rock bottom...***So sorry you're going through this man. I'm not sure anybody on here is qualified to give you the level of advice that will help you. I wouldn't be surprised if her AP and the judge aren't golf buddies at the local country club. I knew a guy who went thru a divorce, the judge sided with the guy's ex on everything and wouldn't even listen to the guy. She got the house without him getting any equity even though they purchased it together during the marriage with his income, then after the divorce … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 04:07 AM |
| 1 | Need a Man’s OpinionI would like to think men and women are more similar than they are different. Unfortunately the ways in which we differ are amplified because those differences tend to be very impactful on our relationships. Best of luck with your research. | /r/MensRights | 10/08/24 03:53 AM |
| 20 | Campsite ObservationsSam's Club seems the same way. Poor guy's Saturday mornings are reduced to mindlessly following their fat wives around with the shopping cart. Poor bastards. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 03:43 AM |
| 4 | Need a Man’s OpinionAll men are different, some men will have sex with anything that moves, some men will only have sex with somebody that have feelings for. No men on here can tell you why he's doing what he's doing because there could be a million different reasons. He is good looking, has a good personality and wealthy, and he can easily find an attractive girl that he doesn’t have to pay to date. He's obviously not looking to date anybody. Having money means that paying somebody for sex, even if it's transactio… | /r/MensRights | 10/08/24 03:34 AM |
| 14 | “I HATE MEN”This 100% Women should be judged on their actions not their words, because their words and the meanings behind their words change based on their internal feelings. If a woman says something at any given time there is a very good chance she will not agree with that statement at any other time; therefore women's statements lack any credibility. A woman can say "I hate all men" to her friends, then go home and tell her boyfriend/husband that she loves him. To her those two statements/beliefs can co… | /r/MensRights | 09/08/24 08:57 PM |
| 6 | Ex 35f hit me 33m then had me arrestedSearch this sub for the word "banned", there have been plenty of discussions about it. | /r/MensRights | 09/08/24 04:23 PM |
| 0 | Transgender woman lies.Gender-segregated would miss the point. It should be sex-segregated. Except, if a male tries to start a male-only space then it is not acceptable. | /r/MensRights | 09/08/24 03:59 PM |
| 2 | Working out on a budget, add your routines and suggestions. Get after it, men!Frankly, I've given up on every meal being interesting... I don't remember what the fuck I ate in 2022, but I gained 15 lbs that year and every time i look in the mirror I am reminded that I ate like shit that year. I'm eating healthy, kind of repetitive food now that I cook in bulk and I'm being successful in my body recomposition journey. As a bonus, I no longer worry about cooking throughout the week so I can focus my mental energies on work, finances, and the things in my personal life that … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Hating Men Is Now The Democrats' Campaign Strategy.If Trump came out an explicitly said that he was looking for a white man then I would agree with your statement. He didn't. Biden explicitly stated that's what he was looking for, characteristics of a woman and who was black. Kamala Harris is underqualified for the position of VP, the reason she got the job was because of her sex and race, THAT is the definition of a DEI hire. | /r/MensRights | 08/08/24 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Hating Men Is Now The Democrats' Campaign Strategy.I never said he was not qualified. Look, you seem to be aiming for an argument, this is obvious fron your multiple comments to my single comment. Maybe you need to put down credit, turn off MSNBC, and go talk face to face with someone who doesn't agree with you politically... And try to understand their view instead of simply trying to one up them by nitpicking and making assumptions about their beliefs and thought processes. | /r/MensRights | 08/08/24 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Hating Men Is Now The Democrats' Campaign Strategy.Why would Biden have selected Mike Pence, they are a different party? What you're trying to argue is a fallacy called "whataboutism"... Having Vance or Pence as a VP running mate is a fine point of debate if we were talking about the most qualified Republican VP candidates, but they have absolutely nothing to do with Kamala Harris' qualifications. BTW, I also agree that Vance isn't a good running mate for Trump, but that's also besides the point. Harris is labeled a DEI running mate because ther… | /r/MensRights | 08/08/24 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Why are men always more friendly than women?There was a new type of theoretical bias called "Sigma Bias" that postulated that our society amplifies positive female attributes while minimizing negative female attributes and does the opposite for males. I'm not able to find that paper or anything about it on Google anymore. Hopefully it hasn't been scrubbed from the search engines. | /r/MensRights | 08/08/24 05:54 PM |
| 2 | Hating Men Is Now The Democrats' Campaign Strategy.Joe Biden explicitly stated he was looking for a woman as a running mate, then later he explicitly stated he was considering several black women. The basis for DEI hiring practices is to look for individuals who fit in specific identity groups while overlooking more qualified individuals. Kamala Harris was absolutely not the most qualified for the position of vice president, but she did fit into the DEI groups Biden was looking for. That other stuff you rambled on about is nonsensical... It's qu… | /r/MensRights | 08/08/24 05:45 PM |
| 11 | Hating Men Is Now The Democrats' Campaign Strategy.The leftists that have infiltrated this sub have been pushing more of their anti-male, pro-feminist arguments in the last couple weeks than in the previous 5 years combined. I guess their true colors are showing now that their DEI savior is within cackling distance of the Oval Office. Talking politics is one things, but when someone posts about women needing to be lifted up and it gets up-votes, then we know this sub's days are numbered. Honestly, I thought they would just shut us down like they… | /r/MensRights | 08/08/24 03:57 AM |
| 9 | Wife says to me - I think we should split upIf she's telling you now then she's been thinking about it for a while and is probably already talking to a lawyer. If it's out of the blue then she also probably a couple orbiters lined up and is keeping her options open. If she's lost respect for you then your marriage is unsalvageable. I told my wife I cannot move out, financially, emotionally nor physically (I have a LOT of stuff) and have built this place to be the place I live until I die. You didn't post anything about your finances, but … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 09:07 PM |
| 16 | Wife refusing to do anything to progress divorceDude, explicitly tell your lawyer to request a hearing date. Once the date is on the calendar things will start moving. Frankly, you should have been moving on this way earlier, stop being so accommodating to your leech of a wife and greedy lawyer. Step up, start advocating for yourself. Take control, stop being reactive. Record everything. Your life will go into the shitter in a single day when she learns what The Silver Bullet method is. If you don't know what that is look it up right now. Sta… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/24 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Woman as a friendI have a fairly close female friend, I've known her since '99. She knows we won't ever be a couple, and I'm a decent looking fit guy with a good job. She's never once offered to introduce me to a girl. In my experience non-wife/sisters don't introduce guys to other girls. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 12:57 PM |
| 2 | Woman as a friendIn my experience men who become friends with women tend to be more feminine around those women. Women like having guy friends because that increases their future relationship options, usually increases the amount of external validation they receive, and having someone stronger around to help with things is an added bonus. However, woman also always ask why they get along better with their guy friends than with boyfriends. I've heard so many times the line "why can't my boyfriend be more like my … | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 12:53 PM |
| 23 | How Women Treat Single Dads are WorkI remember a number of years ago my female manager made a comment about a guy under her... "He was such a better worker before he became a dad". This coming from a childless married woman. About a year later a female on our team had a baby, she came back from maternity leave and after a few months a smartass guy on our team made the exact same comment to our manager about the female coworker in a joking way... "She was such a a better worker before she became a mom." He was immediately told to g… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 02:42 AM |
| 4 | Finding a like-minded STBEX to survive financial crush of Divorce?Think about what you're looking for. There's a high probability any mid-divorce woman you are able to meet will be actively divorce-raping some other guy. You won't know if it's occuring because she's not about to show her true colors to you. Everybody should wait the number of months equal to the number of years of marriage, beginning when the divorce is finalized. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Don’t want a divorce, but maybe I do?Biggest challenge is knowing I’d see my kids less which is the hardest part. Losing time with our kids is a sacrifice that many of us made for our own well-being. I have 50/50, and it's not as bad as I thought it would be. We spend quality time together when we're together, and the other half the time I get to do what I want when I want. Plus my kid is actually excited to see me when it's my custody time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/24 08:42 PM |
| 8 | People don’t understand the pressureSo my lawyers office said that if they don’t get a final hearing soon that they will be the ones to ask for it. I'm calling bullshit on this one. Your lawyer can request a hearing date, there's no reason why they should wait outside of getting more money from you. Tell them explicitly that you want them to request the hearing date by EOD tomorrow. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/24 08:30 PM |
| 6 | Boy do I feel conned, duped, bamboozled.... the whole gamut.I said I'm not used to this, I haven't had someone take me up or offer me a plate of food in almost two years I haven't had a woman do anything nice for me in years either. First time I went to a massage therapist after my divorce, which was years earlier, I almost broke down because she was actually nice to me. Of course I was paying her, but still, it was so out of the ordinary to actually be treated like a human being after years of what I would call indifference from basically all women. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/24 05:37 PM |
| 5 | The Better Side of DivorceI've never met a woman who could control herself drunk. I've met plenty of dudes who get drunk and are chill, many who aren't.... but every single woman who I've met drunk are just out of control. I stay away from drunk women, literally nothing good comes of being a man around a drunk woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/24 05:28 PM |
| 1 | At whits end struggling dad needs adviceOP doesn't provide much info on how his stbxw is financing her lawyer fees; or what each of their incomes are... therefore it's kind of hard to know all the options available to him. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/24 05:25 PM |
| 1 | At whits end struggling dad needs adviceto tell the truth, $4800 in legal fees isn’t an excessive amount Compared to other lawyer fee then I agree with this statement. But for someone who has limited financial resources this is a catastrophic amount. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/24 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Separated - Unsure how to proceedShe also slapped me twice in a 3-month period, and I consider that very disrespectful. This is assault and domestic violence. If the roles were reversed you would be in jail. Next time call the police, at a minimum you need this violence documented. I was terrified to have sex for fear of getting her pregnant and later divorcing. This is a legitimate fear. The last thing you want to do is get her pregnant. No more sex with her, period. Jerk off every day if necessary to keep your hormones in che… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 08:25 PM |
| 5 | What to expect in TexasYou need to get a lawyer, period. If your stbxw is already pushing for more and more you can expect this to escalate, especially if she has female friends (divorced female friends are effectively instigators) or family that are whispering advice in her ears. Watch out for lawyers that want money for a consult... You need to find one that will do the initial consultation for free. Expect anywhere from $1000-$5000 for a retainer after the initial consult. Regarding all the assets, debts, etc. That… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 06:41 PM |
| 7 | Wife wants a Divorce While I am Deployed.I'm not military, so I don't know anything about the process you will face... But... Sounds like she purposefully waited until you were away from her before she told you to put you at a disadvantage. Watch out for false DV accusations that would fall under the Silver Bullet Strategy. https://www.reddit.com/r/ParentalAlienation/s/2MKYBbSORd If this is just out of the blue then there's a high probability she's got somebody else lined up already. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 02:56 PM |
| 2 | What the actual fuck guys? You ever seen this before? Are we nuts?days of good Reddit with true free speech It ended in 2016 when Trump was elected. | /r/MensRights | 01/08/24 02:36 PM |
| 18 | Why don’t men discuss experiences of being harassed by women?We do share on here... https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/s/DZ8yiKLZdQ You can look at my profile comment history and search for "drunk" and you'll see where I talk about it. | /r/MensRights | 01/08/24 01:39 AM |
| 10 | After 24 years it’s over.She's divorcing you of her own volition so she can be happy. No reason why you should sleep somewhere else, the master bedroom is yours too. There was another guy just the other day who posted basically the same thing, his wife took over the master bedroom and refused to leave. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/24 09:38 PM |
| 7 | All a woman has to do is marry an engineer in college, wait 10 years and she’s retiredBingo! Happened to me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/24 09:00 PM |
| 1 | To men, who initiated a divorce, are you responsible for finishing up divorce paperwork? Or how “eager” you are to walk out of the marriage?You have no idea what she has done. He could be trying to get his finances in order, maybe she ran up a shit ton of debt that he's trying to clear so he can get an apartment. I initiated my divorce, then my ex went around telling everyone that I was delaying, which is ridiculous because it was the other way around. This is a woman who's asking for advice, on a men's sub, on how to get HER HUSBAND to do something. If she's a female how exactly is this sub, which is for men who are going through a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/24 04:23 PM |
| 1 | To men, who initiated a divorce, are you responsible for finishing up divorce paperwork? Or how “eager” you are to walk out of the marriage?full of hatred Of course you did, and of course it gets removed because Reddit is openly anti-male, so how dare I criticize a woman. Must be nice to be part of the privileged class in our society. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/24 04:17 PM |
| 3 | Is there a general guideline or list of things I should start doing if I believe my wife and I will be getting divorced? (CA)If she's checked out, or lost attraction/respect then your marriage is over. Marriage counseling is a waste, but if you do decide to go that route I'm certain she will suggest a female counselor, because female counselors practically always side with the woman because it's better for their business. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 11:31 PM |
| 2 | To men, who initiated a divorce, are you responsible for finishing up divorce paperwork? Or how “eager” you are to walk out of the marriage?I thought start something and finish it up is what a kindergarten is supposed to learn This is the EXACT type of infantilizing, toxic, anti-male bullshit that men deal with on Reddit constantly. Next you'll be saying I have small-dick energy and call me an incel. You all read from the same playbook. Go away. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 08:56 PM |
| 4 | To men, who initiated a divorce, are you responsible for finishing up divorce paperwork? Or how “eager” you are to walk out of the marriage?Thirsty simps are out in force to help this woman push her husband around. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 07:57 PM |
| 5 | Feeling like a terrible fatherI'm the same way, and share 50/50 custody. My ex doesn't take my kid out much, they mostly stay at home and look at screens. I try to be the one who does stuff outside the home, but it's an uphill battle because when they come to my place after days of mom giving them screens then I have to push really hard to break that mindset. It's exhausting, and I know that my feelings aren't reality, but I feel like they are missing out on so much and I'm not doing enough to compensate for their mother's l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 04:06 PM |
| -1 | After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship.I'm not OP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 11:49 AM |
| 1 | After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship.I never said it did. But OPs description matches what Briffault's Law states. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 11:43 AM |
| 1 | Are most people here pro life or pro choice?I absolutely appreciate what you're saying. To me there there needs to be a cutoff even. Sure, it could be six weeks, it could be 12. Maybe a heartbeat (which is usually consider 6 weeks I think), but damn at that point the brain has already started forming. To me it's all fuzzy except the Zink Spark. Now, I also know that my opinion would never be anything considered as a law. But I also think that little boys shouldn't have their genitals mutilated, but that won't ever seem to be a law either. | /r/MensRights | 29/07/24 01:58 AM |
| 3 | Lift heavy shitAsking people what you should do regarding muscle workouts is like asking somebody else what stocks to invest in... No matter what they tell you they will give you bad advice YMMV: I started with body weight pushups and squats, go REAL slow in the eccentric part of the movement. I then moved on to a pair of adjustable dumbbells and a bench. First I hit the major muscle groups, 2 or 3 times per week. Then later I did split workouts. That worked well FOR ME. Cardio is a must; for me it's a stairst… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 12:54 AM |
| 0 | Are most people here pro life or pro choice?The Zink Spark is a definitive event that occurs where the egg becomes a zygote. The eight-week mark is an arbitrary milestone that separates an embryo from a fetus within scientific literature. That milestone could be 6 weeks, it could be 10 weeks. And yes, the Zink Spark is very early in the process. | /r/MensRights | 29/07/24 12:07 AM |
| 4 | Are most people here pro life or pro choice?Anywhere from several hours after intercourse up to 3 days. | /r/MensRights | 28/07/24 11:49 PM |
| -1 | Are most people here pro life or pro choice?I'm neither pro-life or pro-choice. Life isn't black or white, neither is this issue. I believe: Anything prior to the Zink Spark is just a bunch of cells. Therefore, any action prior to that moment is totally up to the control of the host (i.e. the woman). After the Zink Spark the rights of the fetus should override the rights of the host unless the life of the host is in danger (if the host dies so does the fetus). Sorry, rp doesn't fall into the category because the fetus' rights exist irresp… | /r/MensRights | 28/07/24 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Bill would let Ohioans sue over unintended pregnanciesThis is the equivalent of a signing bonus when applying for a new job. | /r/MensRights | 28/07/24 05:56 PM |
| 10 | She is refusing to get out of my Bedroom. What should I do?If you call the police they will probably tell you to leave since you are the man. Once she's in there one night it will become her bed in her mind. She's attempting to control what's happening and get a reaction out of you (women thrive on emotions, and they need you to react to get their emotional juices flowing). Your best bet is to not give a shit, don't show any emotions, just say OK and go sleep somewhere else. Gray Rock method is the only way to deal with a woman's bullshit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 02:45 AM |
| 7 | Purposeful Impregnationmake up shit https://rollingout.com/2014/02/04/woman-uses-sperm-oral-sex-get-pregnant-force-man-pay-child-support/ | /r/MensRights | 28/07/24 02:25 AM |
| 17 | After a failed marriage and seeing vows broken out of anger, I struggle to see the benefit of marriage. It seems many women's loyalty is conditional, depending on their options and the state of the relationship.What you're describing is Briffault's Law: The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Briffault#:~:text=writer%20and%20translator.-,Briffault's%20law,Robert%20Briffault%2C%20The%20Mothers. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 09:56 PM |
| 8 | “Marriage saves money. You will be on a double income and get tax breaks. So many economic advantages.”What you're referring to is also called the "singles tax". It exists, but also assumes that both spouses are financially literate and fiscally responsible. https://www.cnbc.com/2024/02/14/living-alone-comes-with-a-singles-tax-how-much-it-can-cost.html | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 08:54 PM |
| 2 | I just wonder whether the unfortunate calamity of divorce unlocked some superman powers or traits within you, O fellow divorced men!The specific claim she made was prior to me filing for divorce, basically in the middle of arguments when I dared to ask why we had no money. She tried to bring that up during mediation, but her lawyer literally told her to shut her mouth; even her lawyer was sick of her bullshit. And yes, I have a kid with her. We've been divorced a few years now. Things are going OK, for me at least. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Found the love of my lifeJust do what you have to do to protect yourself financially. No marriage, no commingling of assets or accounts, no cohabitating. If she truly is interested in you she will be OK with all that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 05:22 PM |
| 3 | Just Really Missing HerI'm almost 4 years out from my divorce, and I still deal with this sometimes. It was much worse at the beginning when I was alone, but I've adjusted and learned to focus on other things. If you keep yourself occupied (outside of work) your mind will replace her with more immediate concerns. The first few months are rough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 02:07 PM |
| 28 | Found the love of my lifeThis is the first line of your post from two years ago regarding your divorce... Got married 6 years ago thought I met the love of my life. And now the title of this post Found the love of my life Notice any similarities? | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Just thought this Interaction with Chat GPT was weird. Chat GPT is either Feminist or has a Feminist Bias. This is concerning every new tech comes preprogrammed with male disposability and female supremacist attitude. We need to liberate tech platform and make them fair and just for all.So when I do it with men here's what comes up. Notice that most of them are making fun of men, while the women jokes don't (mostly)... Sure! Here are ten jokes about men for you: Why did the man put his money in the blender? Because he wanted to make some liquid assets! Why don't men need more than one bookmark? Because they usually don't get past the first chapter. How does a man show he’s planning for the future? He buys two cases of beer instead of one. What do you call a man who lost all of … | /r/MensRights | 27/07/24 12:41 PM |
| 2 | Just thought this Interaction with Chat GPT was weird. Chat GPT is either Feminist or has a Feminist Bias. This is concerning every new tech comes preprogrammed with male disposability and female supremacist attitude. We need to liberate tech platform and make them fair and just for all.I just tried it and it worked: Of course! Here are ten light-hearted jokes about women: Why did the woman bring string to the bar? To tie one on! Why do women always take so long to get ready? Because perfection takes time. Why did the woman go to space? To prove it’s not just men who need more space. Why did the woman stare at the orange juice container? Because it said "concentrate." Why don’t women ever tell secrets on a farm? Because the potatoes have eyes and the corn has ears! Why did the … | /r/MensRights | 27/07/24 12:39 PM |
| 3 | First time trying to debate against misandry"caused"... That is the operative word here. Feminist love to pick/adjust the meanings of words (or adjust context) when it suits them. If their argument is because the man ejaculates and the effect is the female getting pregnant, then it also stands to reason that the woman opening her legs caused the man to penetrate her, which eventually caused the man to ejaculate, which caused the pregnancy. So really it's the woman's fault. | /r/MensRights | 27/07/24 02:43 AM |
| 3 | I just wonder whether the unfortunate calamity of divorce unlocked some superman powers or traits within you, O fellow divorced men!I'm the same way. Found out I'm actually really good at managing money and investing. During my marriage I made good money and I let my ex manage our money for the last few years of our marriage and she ran us into debt and living paycheck to paycheck. It was terrible, she hid credit card bills, had our power cut off, thousands in overdraft fees, etc. I didn't buy shit for myself, and every time I even dared to ask why we were broke she would pull the "your financially abusing me" card. Man, the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Alimony For a working spouse that has her MASTERS Degree.However, remember that she doesn't know either. She's probably as scared as you to go in front of a judge because for her she's concerned she won't get any for exactly the same reason. Don't agree to alimony, just agree on the division of assets (you get the $40k), then tell her that you two should let the judge decide the alimony amount. At the last minute, if you want and if she hasn't already caved, then offer her something low like $250/mth for two years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 05:40 PM |
| 9 | How can I prepare and strategize for the divorce to leverage the best outcome for me to start over?You have lots of questions packed into a single post: For those who have gone through it, what should I expect? How can I prepare and strategize? What can I do to leverage the best outcome so I have enough to adequately start over and move on? Start off by reading the sidebar. Every divorce is different, but many follow the pattern of: 1. woman demands the world 2. man takes the high road and gives woman unequal distribution 3. woman walks away with most/all the assets 4. man wonders why he's br… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 04:34 PM |
| 6 | Blackpill, redpill, and manosphere get dogpiled heavily by the masses only because they offer support to straight menI've never heard of a feminist speaking poorly about Muslims. In my experience feminists consider Muslims as a protected group simply because a majority have darker (i.e. not white) skin (and yes, I know there are white Muslims but feminists don't like to admit that). BUT when talking about women in Islamic countries they just say "women in 3rd world countries are treated poorly"... Because speaking negatively about Muslims is Islamaphobic. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/24 04:04 PM |
| 7 | False Allegations Once Again Ruin A Mans LifeNotice there's a 2nd set of SA charges from a different woman 4 months later. Woman #2 thought she could jump on that bandwagon. Considering the #metoo anti-male bias in our society today, dudes need to learn to keep it in their pants at work. That guy lost his career just to stick his dick in a warm hole. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/24 03:08 PM |
| 3 | Who's my emergency contact now?!?Not meaning to be rude, but you've lived in a location for 18 years and you have zero friends you could call in an emergency? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 03:03 PM |
| 6 | Alimony For a working spouse that has her MASTERS Degree.This is very dependent on the judge which is why your lawyer won't give you an answer; a conservative judge is more likely to order alimony especially if one spouse has no career. I believe the goal of alimony is to help the lower earner get on their feet after a divorce, not to equalize income; therefore , if she has a good income then I would ignore her alimony threat. If you can prove that she has the capability (imputed) to make 30% more than she currently does hold that for the judge (don't… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 01:47 PM |
| 1 | She retained an attorneyWhy are you waiting to file? | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Why don’t straight men read novels? "This idea of the hyper-capitalist man with no time for something as ‘pointless’ as reading began to take root in the Victorian era. In the 19th century, reading novels developed a reputation as a frivolous and feminised activity as bourgeois women"Agree 100%. Public transportation, sitting in office waiting rooms, the airport, etc... not many people do read novels but the ones who I do see reading physical books are men. That being said, it could be that the woman are reading a novel on their phones/tablets. | /r/MensRights | 25/07/24 03:26 PM |
| 3 | male sexual assault on October 7Whataboutism... It doesn't matter who the perpetrators are, they should be condemned. | /r/MensRights | 23/07/24 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Adding new s/o to the will?Is it a correct assumption that the amount you're leaving to your child is a whole-number (not including 1) multiple of what you're planning on leaving to this woman? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 10:53 PM |
| 4 | Men Who Suddenly Wanted a Divorce From Their WivesThere are enough simps here to answer her questions without a second thought. They are probably sliding into her DMs already. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Female Delusions: one reason men are attack: “Who needs a man?”This is fake. | /r/MensRights | 23/07/24 10:47 PM |
| 4 | Wife took the kids without telling meTo OP: The thing is, her behavior needs to be reported to the police right away, even if they do not issue an amber alert (which they probably won't do without specific evidence that they are in immediate danger). Tell them your wife took your children, you do not know their location, they are missing scheduled activities,, and you are concerned for their well-being. They will err on the side of caution and put out an APB/BOLO on her vehicle and her and the kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 09:56 PM |
| 1 | I know many of you have been through some real shit - my situation is mild in comparison but i could use some advice…Nowhere in there did I hear a reason why you should stay together. You have no obligation to stay with her if you aren't happy (which is different than unhappy), regardless of how much time you two have been together. Why exactly would you not want to get divorced? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 09:51 PM |
| 30 | People will go through the most ridiculous mental gymnastics to deny simple truthThere have been uncountable times that women have lied about rape and somebody believed them. | /r/MensRights | 23/07/24 09:43 PM |
| 9 | Ex wife is asking that I make my daughter the beneficiary of my life insurance, pension and annuity. What if I have more kids?Absolutely do not take advice from your ex. If you do as she says, and you pass away, if you daughter is under 18 and there is no trust then it's possible the court can appoint your ex as the legal guardian of the fund, at which point she will have full control and can spend it on herself. I get that you don't seem to understand much about what you are asking, but it's concerning that you haven't done the research yourself, much less not already having a trust set up. You need to be thinking ahe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 05:05 PM |
| 3 | Impeccable timingFuck Yeah! You have your shit together brother! Keep it up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 02:18 AM |
| 3 | Impeccable timingGrey Rock through the entire divorce. Women are fueled by emotions, good or bad. Don't give her either, it will drive her crazy and it will make your life much less stressful. I didn't find this sub, and that method, until a few months into my divorce and it's like a switch flipped and the fighting basically ended at that point | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 01:35 AM |
| 6 | What do y’all make of someone who posts shit like this?Yeah, in most places in the US it is easier to get an abortion than to legally purchase a gun. Most of these people have probably never even fired a gun, much less know the process necessary to buy one. It's funny that they are advocating for the right to kill something, and use a gun as an example which is a tool used to kill something. Having an abortion is guaranteed to be a kill, owning a gun only a very small proportion actually kill something. Way more humans die by abortion each year than… | /r/MensRights | 23/07/24 01:30 AM |
| 2 | Holyshit guys It's possible that the presidential election will turn to Men vs Women controversyOh, you seriously think KH is qualified to be POTUS? Wow. You're a rare breed. | /r/MensRights | 22/07/24 07:26 PM |
| 8 | Holyshit guys It's possible that the presidential election will turn to Men vs Women controversyThere's plenty of negative things to say about Trump, but he's not a fascist. If you actually think he is then you need to educate yourself on what fascism really is. | /r/MensRights | 22/07/24 12:02 PM |
| 2 | Holyshit guys It's possible that the presidential election will turn to Men vs Women controversyYou forgot the /s | /r/MensRights | 22/07/24 11:59 AM |
| 0 | “Men commit more murders than women.”I said it is murder earlier in the conversation, it's just a legal form of murder. | /r/MensRights | 22/07/24 11:33 AM |
| 1 | “Men commit more murders than women.”Your example is for either conspiracy to commit a crime or accessory before the fact. Both require the act committed to be a crime, and knowing it was a crime means that the none-participating person is part of the crime. Abortion in this case is not a crime, therefore the man isn't responsible. If the abortion occurs in a place where the act of abortion is illegal then yes, they would be responsible under the legal standard. | /r/MensRights | 22/07/24 02:42 AM |
| 1 | “Men commit more murders than women.”You don’t get absolved of responsibility just because the woman has the final decision. Yes. If the woman has the final decision regarding abortion then she alone makes the decision to be solely responsible. | /r/MensRights | 21/07/24 03:58 AM |
| 9 | “Men commit more murders than women.”I'm going to nitpick here. Do you have any evidence on what proportion of abortions were opposed by the father? This is irrelevant except in sitations where the woman is forced by the father to abort the child. I'm not exactly sure how that would work, but will assume it happens but probably not very often. Otherwise, for whatever reason, the decision is the woman's. killing another adult because of greed or some kind of sick enjoyment, and killing a fetus that the majority of society tells you … | /r/MensRights | 19/07/24 11:37 PM |
| 5 | What is your attorneys hourly rate and how much have you paid already?Legal-expenses only totaled $40,000... $400/hr for my lawyer. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/s/TrCpObG4A2 | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/24 07:03 PM |
| 5 | Probable divorceYou really need to listen to the others in this sub. You've already made a number of mistakes, some of them will come back to bite you, HARD. Read the sidebar, the first thing it says is to stay in the home until your lawyer tells you to leave. Get a recording app on your phone and run it 24/7, have it connected to a secret Google drive account that has a password she won't guess and you won't ever forget. Start filing charges against her for DV, you need the paper trail. Fuck counselling, it's … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Going through a divorce, ex hasn't talked to me at all in the last 30 days, although I hear that is more common. It's made everything harder but Im working thru it.I would assume it won't get paid. Is she the sole breadwinner, or is she just in charge of finances? Either way, you need to assume that she's leaving you to your own devices regarding financials, especially if she's skipping two months of mortgage payments to cover her lawyer's retainer... That's unbelievably shortsighted if you two have any equity in the property, because the first thing the bank will do once they decide there are no further payments coming, will be to submit a lis pendens to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 01:29 AM |
| 23 | What is one line or quote you can share to help fellow divorced men?For those guys who think they can do something to win their wives back... True attraction cannot be negotiated. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 09:11 PM |
| 5 | Just signed the petitionI also filed, so I understand what you are going through. Hopefully it will be a relatively painless process, but stay vigilante... Hope for the best, but plan for the worst. Protect yourself from false allegations, protect your financials, and protect your rights with your children (if you have any). Good luck brother, let us know if you have any questions, it's what we're here for. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 09:09 PM |
| 3 | Newly married, maybe newly divorced.If she has a mental disorder, were probably talking about BPD, the only way to fix it is medication. If she did get it under control, which is a big IF, at some point in the future if she goes off her meds your world could come crashing down overnight. If that happens and your 10 years into the marriage with kids then you're fucked. Sorry man, but you need to get the fuck out while you can. Literally nobody will judge you harshly for it if you tell them the truth, except her, and even if they do… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Happened to Me Too“save or someone is coming to take it if you don’t” Dude, you were right in the first place... SHE was the person that was coming for your money. No matter how much you gave her it would never be enough. She knew this too, but she was willing to tolerate you for a free trip, and she knew that it was over that entire time. You can't buy love, you can't buy respect, you can't buy attraction. This is what it's like living as a man in the world of modern women. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 07:58 PM |
| 4 | Sins of Admission"Happy Wife Happy Life" Society has conditioned men to accept the imbalance in marriage that favor the wife. She can arbitrarily change the sexual circumstances of the marriage and the man is expected to accept it; meanwhile the expectation is that the man provides the same, or increases, the level of financial support, irregardless of the women's contributions to the family financials. All of this occurs under the threat of the divorce in which men are overwhelmingly forced into financial slave… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 06:23 PM |
| 17 | Sexual Aggression: What is the Millennial Shift?I agree... and this seems to coincide with the apparent increase in sexual abuse of male students by female teachers and the lack of coverage the media is giving to this trend. | /r/MensRights | 17/07/24 04:10 PM |
| 3 | Going through a divorce, ex hasn't talked to me at all in the last 30 days, although I hear that is more common. It's made everything harder but Im working thru it.(I think she may have not paid the mortgage for the last 2 months for her attorneys fees) You "think"? How do you not know? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Just discovered long affair while on vacationNot many children really remember much before 4, it's better than if the child is 6+. Kids are more capable of handling changes than we give them credit for. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Just discovered long affair while on vacationwhen a women is managing a full blown years long relationship theres nothing to save. Shes exited years ago. OP, you need to remind yourself of this every single day of your divorce. Every time you question your decision you need to repeat this to yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Just discovered long affair while on vacationI’m not sure I’m with the DNA test You absolutely have to divorce your wife If the daughter isn't his, and he divorces his wife, he will l be paying child support to his ex for a daughter that isn't his. IF his ex doesn't poison the daughters mind with a false narrative about him then maybe it would be worth it, but at some point in the future she (the daughter ) could simply turn on him (which seems to easily happen with daughters) and never talk to him again, so what did that actually get him? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 01:26 PM |
| 6 | I wanna talk to a girl in my class, but...Nature put men in a very disadvantageous position... We have a biological need to spread our seed but women's hidden ovulation and long investment necessary for procreation means they have the upper-hand in intersexual dynamics. At your age that need can be overwhelming. You, however, have other problems. Whether you should or shouldn't persue her is mute given your current situation... You're broke with no job and no money, the main things a woman is looking for in a mate. You need to work on y… | /r/MensRights | 14/07/24 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Gf wants to post me on “are we dating the same guy” fb groupsCheck this out man... This is what you think is great for exposing some real shady character https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/s/L32uu5NLNT | /r/MensRights | 13/07/24 03:43 AM |
| 13 | Why is the patriarchy presented as unfalsiable by feminists?There are more women in STEM than men, but these types of graphs exclude biological, medical, and healthcare sciences where women vastly outnumber men. | /r/MensRights | 12/07/24 10:51 PM |
| 3 | Social CircleSame boat, same age range. I've found a couple gaming buddies thru work, and a couple guys I grab a lunch or go hiking with. I'm simply not social enough to do the group hiking/biking meetups. Literally all the guys I've met are single or divorced; in my experience all the married guys, I suspect, aren't allowed to hang with divorced guys. I've even had a couple married guys explicitly tell me their wives don't want them hanging around me because I'm divorced. I've resigned myself to being mostl… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 07:59 PM |
| 8 | The Divorce TemplateFor me, I'm better off after the divorce in spite of paying her 15% of my after-tax income and also accounting for the single-tax. Being married, she specifically, used up all of her income and more of my income than what being single with CS costs me now. She of course has zero financial literacy, has debt she cannot pay and a number of accounts in collections, her income is minimal, and she's already spent her half of the split 401k. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 06:53 PM |
| 17 | Gf wants to post me on “are we dating the same guy” fb groupsFor the record I think these groups are great for exposing some real shady characters but they’re definitely abused Fuck you man! How fucking hypocritical it is for you to say it's OK for other women to post whatever about men, accusing them of terrible things and causing their social destruction with zero proof, but you don't want you name on there BECAUSE EVEN YOU ADMIT THEY ARE ABUSED!!! I hope she posts it on there so you can realize just how big pieces of shit both you and your GF are. | /r/MensRights | 12/07/24 03:05 AM |
| 8 | "You want to coddle men at the expense of women. That's not fair. Men understand how women get pregnant and they understand how to prevent it. If pregnancy happens, it's on them." A response from a man-hating feminist when I said that men should have "financial abortion" rights. Classic projection.Notwithstanding that abortion is murder. To me it's not either one or the other... Both understand and it's both of their responsibilities. If one party has the option to terminate their association with the child then so should the other. Claiming a woman has the right to abdicate their responsibility but a man does not is the epitome of hubris and entitlement. | /r/MensRights | 11/07/24 08:58 PM |
| 2 | My wife spends all my hard earned money and I'm left with nothingThe vast majority of women simply lack the emotional control necessary to be good with money. I've met a few that were cutthroat with money, but they are rare. Women are capable of understanding finances, especially family finances which aren't very complicated.... The underlying issue is that they are predisposed to becoming addicted to the high that comes with excessive spending. | /r/MensRights | 11/07/24 08:33 PM |
| 9 | Talking to STBXW about divorce, need help.Your marriage is over, it's been over for a while. Her threatening to unalive herself is a manipulation tactic, and situations like this never get better meaning the manipulation will escalate. You need to do absolutely everything you can to protect yourself. She's an adult, she makes her own decisions and is ultimately responsible for herself; you are not responsible for her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/24 05:04 PM |
| 6 | Went to see an attorney, she's definetly not happy.I agree with signal-dot, you shouldn't be helping her in any way. Don't try to talk sense into her, don't try to help her understand the process, don't show your hand in what you are willing to settle for. Helping her is only shooting yourself in the foot. No good dead goes unpunished. As for integrity; the court won't give a shit about your integrity, and there's literally no predicting if it will matter to your kids at some point in the future. Plenty of guys come on here talking about integri… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/24 04:46 PM |
| 20 | Men are separated on purposeThis sub has 320k members, r/feminism has 290k, but t/TwoX has 13 million. We've got our work cut out for us. | /r/MensRights | 10/07/24 01:06 AM |
| 2 | r/MensRights Do you have these thoughts?Link to the article. Most things in the media are bullshit, my guess is there is a spin on this as well. | /r/MensRights | 09/07/24 09:19 PM |
| 13 | Father Fights for Son Whose Mother Is Raising Him as 'Nonbinary'Wokism is a mind virus. Once people get infected with it they start thinking this is normal... This is how it spreads. | /r/MensRights | 09/07/24 09:17 PM |
| 5 | Home buyout furnishings valueHit up Craigslist or FB marketplace, grab some pre-90s furniture, it will last forever and is usually made of solid wood. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Closing bank accountNot sure what your overall financial situation is, but that may not enough for a retainer. I would go ahead and put it on a retainer anyway, otherwise you're taking a chance she will. I'm not sure what you mean by it will benefit her unless you're thinking of only using one attorney, which might not be the best idea. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Closing bank accountHow much are we talking here? If it's less than $10k then use it for your attorney's retainer. If it's more then use part of it for your attorney's retainer, take a trip to your nearest casino, pull the rest out from an ATM at the casino, then give it to a friend you trust or bury it in the middle of nowhere (grab those GPS coordinates). Tell her you gambled it away. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 02:04 AM |
| 3 | Mind Racing With Thoughts?I was always kind of athletic but never worked out, once I started (after my divorce) I have an entirely new outlook on life. Second best thing I did after divorcing my ex. I also suggest getting a massage. It's a fantastic way to get some physical contact without having to deal with the bullshit that comes with finding and maintaining a romantic relationship with another human. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 01:58 AM |
| 23 | Is chivalry oppressive to men?Women and children first... This is the epitome of chivalry, and is pretty much the expected standard around the world. I wonder how many men have died for women that would never die for them. | /r/MensRights | 09/07/24 01:27 AM |
| 15 | Oral Sex on Women, Consent and R@pe of Men to close the Orgasm Gap?The Orgasm Gap is fucking dumb. If women pick men who don't fulfill their sexual needs then that's on the women. Not to mention ALL research in this field is self- reported, meaning women can easily downplay the number of orgasms they have. But even if that gap exists, to simply ignore biology and the mechanical aspects of sexual activity in favor of a gender-based root cause is just another tactic out of the feminist playbook. | /r/MensRights | 08/07/24 09:37 PM |
| 5 | Despite feminists blaming men for online misogyny, researches showing that women atleast contribute to half of all the online misogyny.they blame men because it's easy to point fingers at someone who isn't around. And even most men won't stand up for themselves or for other men for fear of being cancelled. | /r/MensRights | 08/07/24 09:24 PM |
| 5 | Have any of you seen the Barbie Movie?I'm still stuck in the 80s and 90s when it comes to movies. Best decade ever, across practically all aspects of American life. Madonna, Prince, Cindy Lauper, GnR, Metallica, Def Leppard, Terminator/Aliens, Akira, ET, GI Joe and Transformers, Super Mario Bros, Swatch, latch-key kids, Knight Rider, German Reunification and even fucking Glasnost... This list could go on for days. Amazing things happened in the 80s | /r/MensRights | 07/07/24 01:43 AM |
| 6 | I feel nothing but abandonment, resentment and helpless. Many such cases.Offer to give the entire house to my ex to live in rent free in exchange for no child support so I can enlist. You're lucky she refused this, it was a REALLY bad offer. Child support is always modifiable (assume were talking about the US), which means you give her the home, she comes back and asks for child support and the judge will grant it and wouldn't care whatsoever that you gave her your home. | /r/MensRights | 06/07/24 03:36 AM |
| 1 | In your experiences - Is an inheritance usually divided? Does it matter whether it’s straight money or assets?This is the way. OPs father can make him the executor of the trust, and the money can sit in the trust until the divorce is over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/24 12:21 AM |
| 11 | As of July 1, 2024 men in Florida do not have to put up with no-fault divorces any moreI thought permanent alimony was no longer a thing in Florida. So, now women will just lie about DV/SA/RP, get a restraining order, then use that as justification for divorce. Either way men get fucked. | /r/MensRights | 03/07/24 01:34 PM |
| 2 | I’m starting to change emotionally.There's only one name on a credit card account, anybody else is an authorized user. Is your name on that account or is hers? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/24 11:02 PM |
| 14 | Do I let her goIf she's to that point she's already lost respect for you. Once she loses that there's basically no getting it back, and you do not want to be married to a woman (for the rest of your life) who doesn't respect you. You cannot negotiate desire; no matter what you do, no matter how much you give her, it will never be enough to make her desire you. Eventually she will start fucking around with other guys. The longer you wait the harder it will be to split assets. Additionally, in many states if you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/24 01:43 AM |
| 3 | Trial date finally setMy ex finally settled the day before trial. She drug it out for two years and would have kept it going had I not requested a hearing. I wish I had done that a year earlier. As an aside, she received much less that what she expected, her 2nd lawyer finally told her to STFU and she was being unreasonable. I don't think that would have happened without a looming hearing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 03:11 PM |
| 5 | Disdain.Records are important To OP: Screenshots of conversations that include date time as well as you clearly telling her the current time, the expected time of dropoff (or whatever the event is) and how overdue she is. Regarding the interactions, you need to follow the Grey Rock Method. No emotions, no engagement beyond logistics about your child. If she starts getting argumentative you simply say "this conversation is no longer productive, goodbye".. then hang up or walk away. It has worked wonders … | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Marriage is likely going to end soon. Need advice.Did you read the sidebar? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Ex-finance hit me and drove off across the state with my daughterTell the PI that your fiance has a history of psychological disorders and violence towards herself and others; and say "given <insert name>'s past history of violence towards me and herself, I believe she will physically harm or kill my daughter". | /r/MensRights | 30/06/24 12:52 PM |
| 1 | Isn’t it crazy how the same people that say we shouldn’t make generalizations perpetuate the concept known as toxic masculinityI posted another comment directly to OP. | /r/MensRights | 30/06/24 12:43 PM |
| 5 | Isn’t it crazy how the same people that say we shouldn’t make generalizations perpetuate the concept known as toxic masculinityA generalization is a semi-perfunctory first-pass function of decision-making. The ability to make a generalization is based on knowledge and experience; one's ability to generalize rapidly and efficiently typically increases over time. Generalization loses its effectiveness when one's biases are allowed to influence a generalization. Now, if you are saying that taking a generalization about a group and applying that to a specific person is bad, then I would agree IF the applied generalization c… | /r/MensRights | 30/06/24 12:26 AM |
| -3 | Isn’t it crazy how the same people that say we shouldn’t make generalizations perpetuate the concept known as toxic masculinityI came here to say this. Implying generalization is bad is itself generalizing. OP doesn't understand what generalization means. | /r/MensRights | 30/06/24 12:11 AM |
| -13 | Why most almost all people don’t understand the concept of equal rights?You keep posting about the same thing every few days. Sounds to me like you're karma farming. | /r/MensRights | 29/06/24 09:34 PM |
| 77 | OP asks why a coding bootcamp that includes freebies, gift cards, a loaner laptop and monetary support is free for girls but not for boys.The truth is, there are actually more women in STEM than there are men. Females/feminists focus on engineering and comp sci as if that is all there is to STEM, but health and behavioral sciences are also STEM and the ratio of females to male in those fields are so high they outweigh the opposite ratio in the male-dominated fields. | /r/MensRights | 29/06/24 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Moving out and Money QuestionOuch. It could be viewed as hiding assets, or at least using them up so she doesn't get them. Given the discrepancy in income there's a good chance doing so will be viewed by the judge as abusive or at least subversive. If it was 3 months I don't think it would be as big of a deal, but 12 months is a large chunk of cash considering her income. Hope you haven't been married for a long time. https://www.womensfamilylawyers.com/family-law/chicago-divorce-lawyers/spousal-support/calculator/#:~:text=… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/24 03:31 PM |
| 3 | Paid the retainerNot all lawyers are shitty, but many are. She should have informed you about this, that's what a professional would do. That being said, everything with lawyers and the court is hurry up and wait. In the grand scheme of the divorce process this should be considered a minor inconvenience. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/24 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Moving out and Money QuestionWhat state and what are each of your gross incomes? | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/24 03:10 PM |
| 8 | How much money did you lose during the process of divorce?Five months ago I made a post about this topic... https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/s/8Pnxix1nmA Straight up cost was $240,000; the cost over 5 years in "lost" money has been $450,000. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/24 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Is this a dangerous thing?I don't necessarily disagree that people should be able to wear what they want. I love wearing a kilt, it's part of my cultural heritage, and I would like to wear it to my corporate workplace, but I cannot whereas females are allowed to wear dresses which are equivalent to a kilt. It's definitely a double-standard. In our current society, excluding extreme countries such as Afghanistan, men are held to cultural norms while women are not. Criticizing women for not meeting cultural norms is consid… | /r/MensRights | 27/06/24 08:48 PM |
| 4 | Is this a dangerous thing?There's a significant amount of gray area between being a man wearing typical men's fashion and being a man wearing women's fashion. The closer you get to the latter the higher your risk of social repercussions or physical violence. For example, a man wearing red lipstick, would stand out more than wearing a women's blouse that may not be obvious to everyone who sees you. | /r/MensRights | 27/06/24 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Having trouble justifying divorceand even that she was at some random house all night the other day Picture some guy blowing his load into her mouth and her looking into his eyes while she swallows it. That's you wife, and that's what she's doing. Think about that next time she kisses you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Why does she keep asking how I’m doing?Gotcha, I didn't realize your children were older. Yeah, I want to know if he's eating healthy food, and how much TV he watches. I don't care if she's eating, just that he's being treated well. Typical I don't ask him about her specifically or her home. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 08:16 PM |
| 7 | Just a rant.I work at a company that is a majority female at every level across every department up to C-level, below supervisor it's 70% female, supervisor is 75% female. I can tell you that female management looks to hire females; meanwhile easily 80% of teams are only female but when a male supervisor only has males on his team then HR policy requires an audit of that team for bias in hiring practices. Were talking only IT here is affected by this because it is the only department that had some male-only… | /r/MensRights | 26/06/24 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Why does she keep asking how I’m doing?I ask my kid about things like what she feeds him, if he keeps his room clean, things like that. Not to find out how she's doing but to find out if she's treating him well. If you don't ask you kid those types of questions how do you know if there's any issues that can affect them? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 06:23 PM |
| 3 | If a drunk man has sex with a sober women, then can he claim rape?There was a case (in the US) a number of years back where a drunk girl borrowed a guys car, wrecked and killed somebody, he was charged with involuntary manslaughter and found guilty. She was charged with a lesser crime (related to the death) and got probation. Unfortunately I can't find that news article or I would share it. | /r/MensRights | 26/06/24 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Can't see my children anymore, absurdly unfair, losing confidence in society.most illegals aren't jumping the fence No, they are jumping the fence, going around the fence, and going under the fence. When were talking illegal immigration into the US it is mostly illegal border crossing. https://www.dhs.gov/ohss/topics/immigration/yearbook Table 35: Expulsions by CBP Office of Field Operations for 2022 is 2.2 million, over all was 2.5 million which includes individuals who were previously an illegal who never showed for their court date. https://www.cbp.gov/newsroom/stats/… | /r/MensRights | 26/06/24 01:56 PM |
| 4 | Started the Process todayMan, I don't think you get what we're saying. Each of your plans have significant downsides, they require all parties to stick to their agreements which is highly unlikely to happen... Given you yourself stated you wife is high maintenance financially she's not going to willingly decrease her lifestyle and will come back demanding more once the reality of her situation smacks her in the face. If she doesn't pay the mortgage then your credit gets fucked, if you pay her mortgage payment she goes t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Started the Process todayMan, you're lawyer should know that child support is modifiable, regardless of the divorce agreement. Therefore, if you and your STBXW decide to forego CS using your equity in the home then your ex can come back later and request the normal child support amount, irrespective of your ex getting equity from the home sale. Alimony yes, child support no. I would be VERY worried about your lawyer not bringing this up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 12:42 AM |
| 6 | Thought y’all would wanna see the comments I received todayIts an ideology manufactured by feminism inorder to minimise male issues as non issues. Feminism is a form of postmodernism and a bastardizations of Marxism. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Postmodernism | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 11:42 PM |
| 5 | How do you start over or move out of your toxic fucking relationship without destroying your credit?Don't leave, stay there until the divorce is finalized. It's your home too. Sell the house, split the equity, pay off debt, start over. I did, and it sucked, but it was worth the pain. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 11:25 PM |
| 36 | Has anything like this ever happened to you?People like the coach are the reason women lack any accountability. If the coach isn't the owner of the dojo OP should speak to the owner, explain why he's leaving. | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 08:03 PM |
| 13 | Can't see my children anymore, absurdly unfair, losing confidence in society.In the US the current administration wants illegal immigrants in the country (during the debate he stated he wants a surge at the border, link below), so they have effectively opened the border and are actively preventing immigrantion service officials from following the law. Additionally, the federal government is working to stop states from pooicing their own borders. The underlying goal is to gain votes to stay in power. https://youtu.be/rYwLYMPLYbo Edit: as for deportations, they catch illeg… | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 05:25 PM |
| 5 | How to deal with been physically terrified of marrying my girlfriendShe sounds great... Except for her age and wanting kids. If she's 36, she's feeling that her opportunity for having at least one kid is slipping away, which it is. 38 and older is considered high-risk pregnancy in most parts of the US. Here's the kicker, she could be saying whatever she thinks you want to hear so you will marry her. If something is too good to be true it usually is. You marry her, she gets pregnant, quits her job, and now you're on the hook for child support... And no prenup wil… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 03:27 PM |
| 0 | Any rebuttals to the "it's men who laugh at male victims" claim by misandrists?https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/s/ECFhRb9M7w | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 08:45 AM |
| 5 | Rape has no genderYou can believe whatever you want. There's no point debating this with you, you already know everything. Go waste somebody else's time. | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 08:42 AM |
| 2 | Overheard a conversation this morningOnce you see those men it's easy to recognize them anywhere. I see them in Sam's and Walmart all the time. Broken men, especially the older ones. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 02:25 AM |
| 3 | Were signs there before your divorce? Pre-marriage specifically?Man, this was absolutely me. It's weird, looking back it's so obvious, and I even recognized them for what they were, but seemed to purposely ignore all of them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Info please!How can she force you to do that? She can't touch you, so she can't physically force you to do it. She can threaten you, she can blackmail you, she can use the legal system to order you to sign it, but she herself cannot force you to do anything. You absolutely should not sign that passport, if you do there's a good chance you'll never see your daughter again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Feeling Trapped in a Unhappy MarriageYou know what you need to do... I think you're looking to us for validation that divorce is the right thing to do. Here's the deal, you can't force her to do better, you can't force her to change her attitudes, you can't force her to spend less, you can't force her to do any of the things you need her to do. Can you honestly say to yourself that there's any possibility she will change of her own volition? If you cannot then you know what you need to do. Even if you have to pay alimony it will be… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 02:14 AM |
| 1 | I'm at my wits' end in my marriageMan, you're not in a good spot. Recently, she brought up wanting to try for a baby, but I don't want to if we don't have a sex life beyond procreation. FFS man, this should be a big NO FUCKING WAY on your part. What is this shit you're saying being OK having a kid with this woman simply to keep getting sex??? That's a really fucked up thing to do to yourself, talk about being short-sighted. Your situation will absolutely not be better because of a kid, in fact your life will get much worse. Not … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 02:00 AM |
| 6 | Deciding if I should stayMan, I think my ex had BPD as well, though she refused to get it assessed. You need to run away as fast as you fucking can. No joke, at some point she will fucking crash, and you'll end up in jail or in the ground. You're in a rough spot with the kids, but when she crashes you need to have your life straight so you can be the father who provides a stable home for the kids. You need to get paternity tests for your kids, verify they are actually yours. Get copies of her medical records showing her… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Panic attack on way back from veterinarianThere is light at the end of the tunnel. Focus on the things you do have control of, try to minimize the negative affects of the things you don't have control of. If you aren't getting anywhere with her then just request a hearing date. She knows how much money you have, she knows she can wear you down, fully expecting you'll get to the point where you'll agree to her demands. Don't play her game. As for the cabin, that's you're call but it's not wise to spend money you don't have or you need to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 12:55 AM |
| 1 | My wife just threatened separating.I'm not criticizing OP in any way, but after years of no income I can see why she can't tolerate it any more. If she stopped having sex with him, then after years of a dead bedroom I could see him leaving her. Ideally, yes, marriage should be both parties supporting each other. But that also doesn't mean that if one isn't holding up their end then the other just suffers. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 12:39 AM |
| 0 | Should I get a divorce?I've read all your responses to the other commenters... I think you already know you need to get divorced and probably would already if it wasn't for your kid. I also think that we as fathers overestimate the negative impact the divorce will have on our children. Kids adapt quite well, I'm sure yours will, especially if you're able to coparent with the mother. Don't sacrifice your happiness out of unfounded concern for you kid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/24 09:31 PM |
| 5 | Should I get a divorce?Once she lost respect for you there was no way for you to earn it back. Judge a woman by her actions, not her words. She might say you can get it back, but her actions show that no matter what you do she won't respect you again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/24 09:23 PM |
| 4 | Finally got served last night (California)So my question is, should I try for the non-confidential version of custody mediation, since I have nothing to hide and have been the "better" parent? In case it is useful later? Or does that not really matter, because if it goes to trial everything will come out then anyway? Be aware, in the family court system there is a high probability you won't be allowed to bring up these things you mentioned. If you have hard evidence about these things there's a chance the judge will listen, but typicall… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/24 02:12 PM |
| 7 | Rape has no genderThanks. This was many years ago, I didn't even recognize what it was because I thought for many years I was an idiot for getting so drunk I couldn't enjoy it (even though she purposefully got me drunk while she was sober). I'm not even sure why I thought that way, maybe it was biological or maybe through television and movies I was "programmed" to think I should be lucky to even have sex much less enjoy it. Unfortunately that was my first time. | /r/MensRights | 24/06/24 01:38 PM |
| 15 | Rape has no genderHappened to me two times. The first time the woman had to keep getting me hard because I wasn't staying hard. I was blackout drunk and I said no multiple times, but I think I was also in and out of consciousness because at one point she "woke" me up and stated "I'm almost finished". I wasn't enjoying it, I wasn't turned on in any way, and yet she was able to get me hard. | /r/MensRights | 24/06/24 12:53 PM |
| 5 | My wife just threatened separating.Some women weaponize sex, because they know it's a male's biological imperative that they can leverage to get what they want. If you've been in a dead bedroom situation for years then you should have divorced her already. She has no respect for you, and she won't ever get that back. But it sounds like she's not a great wife anyways. Sorry you're going thru this, divorce is a terrible thing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/24 01:42 AM |
| 2 | My wife just threatened separating.Love and support goes only so far. I'm assuming when they married that he made a sufficient amount of money and she expected him to continue making that amount of money. If after marriage she cut off sex from him for years he would eventually divorce her for that, isn't this the same thing? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/24 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Mike Pence's group urges GOP to oppose measure including women in future draftThis shouldn't happen... But we won't say why it shouldn't happen. Fucking idiots don't have a reason. | /r/MensRights | 20/06/24 07:36 PM |
| 2 | Help - Constant Verbal Abuse In Front of KidsIf the mortgage is in your name, and the agreement is that she "keeps" the house, then she will need a loan to pay off the current mortgage. She might say that she can get a loan, but then she is pulled off you lines of credit and her credit score drops significantly. Edit: also, if she's on the title she will need to give you a quitclaim deed if you "keep" the house, and she might use that as leverage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/24 06:51 PM |
| 6 | Losing my coolSome women either consciously or unconsciously create drama... The cynical side of me thinks she did this on purpose, the semi-cynical side thinks she didn't realize the problem it would cause you and once it came to her attention she didn't want to admit she was wrong. Either way, the less interaction you have with her the better. Don't treat your stbxw to anything. She can have her time with your daughter, you get your time. I've been divorced for a few years now. During the divorce process I … | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/24 01:28 AM |
| 15 | Have you ever been on a first date where she refused to split the bill? How did that go?There's videos on YouTube about this. Never order for the other person, otherwise it can be claimed you ordered the food and you are responsible for paying for it. If the other party orders and you don't want to pay for their meal, go to the restroom and tell the wait staff you are only paying for yours. If necessary pay in the back and walk out. | /r/MensRights | 19/06/24 10:43 PM |
| 5 | Men who made it to the other side of this with teenage kids.. Please post your stories.. I need to hear them..They are 12, 14, and 18 and don't deserve a broken home I'm not sure what this means. One "deserves" something based on their actions, not deserving something implies that there is some action they could take in which they would deserve something. We hear this word used a lot from feminists who say women "deserve" love. Maybe you should look at a divorce from a different angle... Your current marriage is unhealthy, and it is having an unhealthy affect on your children. Divorce will be challengin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/24 08:37 PM |
| 6 | What do you like most about being divorced?Sounds like your ex is stable, self-sufficient, and not a perpetual drama generator. You lucked out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/24 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Help - Constant Verbal Abuse In Front of KidsBe aware, only one person is on a mortgage, though both people can be in the title. Get a recording app on your phone, record 24/7, set it to upload to Google Drive under a new account that just you know about. How old are your kids? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/24 02:30 PM |
| 8 | Why didn’t I press charges?Press charges. They might have done this to other boys as well. In the US we have a "statute of limitations", which means you have time to file charges, specifically for cases like yours. | /r/MensRights | 18/06/24 05:02 PM |
| 5 | The Hypocrisy and Homophobia of Anti-Surrogacy Radicals — Queer MajorityThere's gay men in all sorts of media, and many of them are fantastic, some are not. Dr Who stands out (although that show is shit), but that's just the most recent. Modern Family is another, Will and Grace, etc. Now, there's something to be said for why gay men (I'm specifically excluding lesbians here) aren't major characters, it's because the potential audience is smaller because they are a smaller portion of the fan base. For those movies where there are mainly gay characters, it should be e… | /r/MensRights | 18/06/24 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Whether to buy out wife on rental propertyThis right here. There's only one favorable outcome which is that she abides by the agreement to the letter. In this case the downside of this agreement is unacceptable, regardless of the odds of her meeting her obligations. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/24 04:34 PM |
| 7 | She wants to separate but still live togetherI agree with everyone else, your marriage is over and divorce is inevitable. But there's steps you need to do before that. You need to be thinking strategically and tactically. Personally I suggest you stall, just say you need to think about it for a few months, and we'll help you come up with a plan to protect yourself and your relationship with your kids. Not to dissuade you by talking about details, but it would be helpful if we knew the following info to get a better idea of the situation: S… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/24 01:07 PM |
| 2 | US Passes Bill To Automatically Register Young Men for the DraftNope. Don't care. | /r/MensRights | 18/06/24 02:38 AM |
| 27 | US Passes Bill To Automatically Register Young Men for the DraftTypical TwoXer comes here babbling nonsense and gets downvoted. | /r/MensRights | 16/06/24 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Do I owe SAHM any money during divorce process?I would pay all bills (that's effectively what you're doing already), cover the kid's expenses, and food/household items (tp, fuel, etc). You can give her a stipend each week for her personal needs, maybe $50. The debt is harder, because you've been paying it for two years? Personally, unless my lawyer told me otherwise, I would cover two months of her debt payments, then it's her responsibility... She has to get a job and be an adult. Don't expect her to get a job and pay for half the bills, it… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 08:26 PM |
| 0 | Do I owe SAHM any money during divorce process?I'm not sure why you are giving her 50% currently. Is she paying half of all bills, child expenses, food, credit card payments, etc out of the $3k you're giving her? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 01:23 AM |
| 52 | Women who say male victims of rape don't suffer.As a victim of two rapes (years apart), I can say both were cowgirl position and the girls in no way whatsoever were concerned about my enjoyment. All they cared about was making sure I was erect so they could get off. I didn't enjoy either one in any way, though the first one I was so drunk (she got me drunk and she was totally sober) I only remember bits and pieces of the event. From a psychological perspective; the first incident I didn't realize that it was rape until years later. I really l… | /r/MensRights | 16/06/24 01:16 AM |
| 2 | Who can help me navigate divorce thoughts… turning 31 and this would be year 9 of misery, I mean marriage, I mean mistake….Yep, one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 12:38 AM |
| 3 | Who can help me navigate divorce thoughts… turning 31 and this would be year 9 of misery, I mean marriage, I mean mistake….File for divorce Monday. Don't wait another day. The 10 year mark for a marriage is like walking off a financial cliff; depending on the state you could be on the hook for lifetime alimony if you don't file before the 10 year mark. Seriously, don't fuck around with this, don't tell her your plans, just go do it. If you discuss this with her first she'll get a lawyer and the first thing her lawyer will tell her to do will be to talk you into letting her file, then she'll drag her feet until the 1… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 11:16 PM |
| 1 | If I keep going like this I'm going to end up deadBut I just feel like if things don't change or we get a divorce I will end up dead If you feel like this then you need to trust your gut. Don't fuck around, step up and make the hard decisions that you need to make. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 10:08 PM |
| 4 | Thinking of leavingState? Incomes? Assets? Dead bedroom? You've basically said "I'm bored, my wife doesn't show interest in me". But there's a lot more to deciding on a divorce than that. Is she dragging you down financially, physically, emotionally? Also, the world of dating has changed significantly over the past 20 years, are you prepared for the possibility it won't be as awesome as you think? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 10:06 PM |
| 8 | Have there been any updates from the guy who found out his new partner slept with over 100 guys?There's a biological and psychological difference between men and women's sexual habits and tendencies. Given the fact that women are the gatekeepers of intimacy, the higher sexual partners count actually means she's less selective. Her selecting the guy doesn't really mean much in terms of confidence. The more partners a woman has the harder it is for her to pair bond, and the more likely she will get divorced. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 09:47 PM |
| 4 | LOL, are they all this flighty and erratic?I'm afraid I can't give any relationship advice, I'm staying away from women. My divorce soured me on the idea of dating. I've done the ONS thing in my youth, I'd prefer sex with somebody I have feelings for, and since I'm planning on staying single I've come to the conclusion I'll be sexless for the rest of my life. I'm with you on the boat thing. Spend your money and time on something that won't suddenly ignore you with zero warning. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 09:38 PM |
| 4 | LOL, are they all this flighty and erratic?Why are you busting this guy's chops? He's divorced and having issues dating and is wanting other divorced men's opinions, so this is the perfect place for him to ask this type of question. Plus, he's much less likely to be shit on for his viewpoint (not including your comment of course) in this sub, especially considering every other sub (except MensRights) is anti-male and pro-feminist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 06:07 PM |
| 16 | A misandrist sent me this as ‘proof’ that women are intellectually superior to men.What somebody uses the phrase "the fact that" then you know they are full of shit. People who know what they are talking about do not use that phrase. | /r/MensRights | 14/06/24 02:37 AM |
| 7 | Men denying their Rights as a parent and as manI understand, honestly I was that guy while I was married. Only when I truly realized my marriage was over did I begin thinking for myself, then once the divorce started and she turned into Queen Bitch of the Universe did I find this community and understand how the system was rigged against me. Never again will I fall for that, and I try to talk honestly to the young men I know about marriage and feminism, but many of them are simply too brainwashed and ruled by their biology. | /r/MensRights | 14/06/24 02:35 AM |
| 9 | Men denying their Rights as a parent and as manIf he goes through a divorce he'll find out. If not, then he'll never understand. Married men don't get it until it happens to them; to admit it means it's a possible future they will have to experience... Some men would rather live in denial. | /r/MensRights | 13/06/24 11:43 PM |
| 5 | Really happy after divorceWomen and men process information and thoughts differently; multiple studies have shown this is true and the underlying cause is based on a combination of biological, environmental, and social factors. This type of research is typically performed within the psychological and neuroscience fields.. I wasn't making a judgement statement about either. You understanding the differences is helpful to understanding how to interpret her behavior. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/24 07:10 PM |
| 7 | Really happy after divorceI moved into an apartment with $500 cash in my checking account, old furniture that my family donated, a 13 year old car, a few personal things from before my marriage, and a good job. Those first few months after moving were one of the best times in my life, the future seemed limitless, I was no longer being constrained by the woman who had been dragging me down for the previous decade. Alimony and child support sucked, and still does, but my life is now great, I have a solid 401k (that took 2 … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/24 02:41 PM |
| 9 | Really happy after divorceMany women simply go into a mode where they need to focus all their negative energy on a single person. This amplifies in their mind even the smallest problem into a life or death struggle. It's how their minds cope. When you hear this from her it doesn't align with what you believe reality is, and then you question yourself and your perception/understanding of reality. Women process information different than men, and since you're a man you will need to recognize her behavior for what it is, an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/24 01:17 PM |
| 10 | Boys on the fringe of society aren’t so different from yours, this boy mom saysThey’re kind of unique within the manosphere because they are the guys who are (considered) losers in this system, as they say themselves. Involuntarily celibate. They’re very lonely, generally very depressed, and they’ve given up hope. They think feminists are to blame for everything and men are the real victims. This is very twisted, very horrible politics, and it comes along with a lot of misogyny. You can’t get women because it’s predecided (by this system). BUT, there IS an invisible system… | /r/MensRights | 13/06/24 12:29 PM |
| 2 | What to do with income until divorce is finalized....I'm sitting at around ~25k or so in credit card debt on my end What does this mean? Is this debt that she wasn't aware of? If it is then that's on you. If she knew this debt existed, and she contributed to it, then it's both of your debt. Don't try to be honorable here, if it's marital debt then she owes for half of it. Personally I would let that debt sit, then use it as leverage when negotiations get to the point that she's asking for ridiculous amounts of settlement money from you. Let's say … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 09:28 PM |
| 4 | [Serious] How young is too young to date if you're not looking for your next wife? I'm 37I don't think it's unreasonable to want something for himself and not for his daughter. For example, any guy would want his wife to be good at sucking dick, but would rather his daughter NOT be doing that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 12:37 AM |
| 3 | Just kicked her outSorry if I was harsh. So many men, including myself while I was married, were "conditioned" by society and the media to downplay our role within our kid's lives. Men seem to be sacrificial, that is they sacrifice their lives for their families and children... and that's fine... but they shouldn't sacrifice their place in their children's lives by default when their wives are acting on hedonist/selfish pleasures/fantasies that don't benefit the family unit. We men are stoic, that means we're stab… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/24 01:55 AM |
| 5 | Just kicked her outDisregarding all that bullshit about your wife wanting to fuck around with other men... we both agreed that it was best of the kids go with her to her parents house for the weekend I'm sorry, but this is absolute horseshit. Of course she's going to agree that going with her "is in the best interest of the kids". Your wife has a serious lack of good judgement such that she thinks it's OK to be married and do what she did with other guys. You need to have some respect for yourself and not downplay… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/24 01:15 AM |
| 3 | Just had an eye opening experience about the word “female” with 3 of my friendsYou've made some points I agree with, and some I don't. But I respect what you're saying and you're line of thinking is on the right track, though I think that men and women do face different issues, and the pendulum of oppression seems to be swinging in women's favor right now. | /r/MensRights | 09/06/24 01:07 AM |
| 2 | Hiring femalesI absolutely agree that if a woman can do a job there are very few reasons she shouldn't have the opportunity to do that job. I'm not sure what that is called, but I'll call it vocational meritocracy (I just made that up but it sounds reasonable). My issue is with the lowering of standards for job applicants in order to meet quotas that are dictated by DEI initiatives. | /r/MensRights | 09/06/24 12:55 AM |
| 4 | Hiring femalesThe feminist push for female supremacy requires that any field where men excel is a field where women are not superior to men and women must move into that field. Surely people in charge in those fields, understand this, but there's always somebody higher in leadership, and eventually somebody higher up won't care and will push to change the rules/requirements to equalize the gender participation. Matt Walsh, who I'm not a big fan of due to his religious beliefs, put an episode on YouTube a few … | /r/MensRights | 08/06/24 09:56 PM |
| 2 | (Ex) wife separated from 1 year old. How do you deal with?What country are you in? Why are you overweight? Is it due to a physical disability, genetics, or lifestyle choices? Do you have a custody agreement in place? | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/24 08:39 PM |
| 22 | Just had an eye opening experience about the word “female” with 3 of my friendsI'd say most females, as it pertains to the culture wars, are full of double standards and hypocrisy. Some people are narcissistic assholes. Females have a higher tendency than males. However, I agree with the part of your statement about how they only care about how it affects them, but that is due to female Solipsism moreso than narcissism. | /r/MensRights | 08/06/24 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Can we drop the crap tagline that men aren't approaching women because we are afraid of getting rejected? NO, that's intellectually dishonest and disingenuous, we are afraid of making a woman feel creeped out to the point she ends up telling higher authorities or even worse, falsely accusingSociety views the same behavior differently depending on if it's a man or a woman. Most things that woman want from a partner are considered OK, such as wanting a man who is a provider. However, a man who wants a stay at home wife to raise children is considered a misogynist. Due to social media the threat of being exposed for having what 20 years ago would be normal expectations is simply too much for most men. | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 06:21 PM |
| 1 | My family says I should stay, but I want a divorceNope nope nope. His wife is a lost cause. You can't force motivation or attraction, his wife has neither. Your advice would simply drag out a bad situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/24 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Large Government Study Shows Mothers Commit Majority of Emotional Child Abuse (2020)Saying women are more likely to be abused by their mother does not mean that no women are abused by their fathers. | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 03:34 PM |
| 10 | Large Government Study Shows Mothers Commit Majority of Emotional Child Abuse (2020)That graph is very telling, basically women are emotionally abused by their mothers and partners/acquaintances, though the differences are very small... meanwhile, men are more likely to be abused by literally everybody else AND more men didn't want to answer than women which means that the numbers for men are even higher than what is shown in the graph. | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Does lawyer really need spouse’s phone and email?If you tell them you do not want her contacted they won't. I don't believe they can contact the opposing party without your permission. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/24 02:06 AM |
| 2 | "people" convicted of aggravated rape, aggravated crime against nature or aggravated incestuous crime might be physically castrated in LouisianaDoes this apply to trans women too? | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 02:02 AM |
| 3 | AlimonyOP, please listen to this advice. The only time a person in your situation shouldn't get a lawyer is if that person IS a lawyer. Search this sub for 'california", then look at just the comments, you'll see numbers like alimony = 35% of your salary for life or until she marries. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 02:14 AM |
| 4 | RingIn the US I believe the general legal consensus is that the engagement ring is a conditional gift that she keeps if the marriage occurs, and if the marriage doesn't happen she is usually obligated to give it back (assuming he paid for it). However, I also think if the person who bought the ring did something stupid there's a good chance the judge would let the receiver keep the ring. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 01:53 AM |
| 12 | Why isnt it more common for men to discuss these issues with each other?I have a group of guys, who I've known for multiple decades, and we talk about men's issues. Mostly we talk about them when girlfriends/wives/women aren't around, otherwise they get offended or make it all about themselves. In my mind the common denominator that makes it uncomfortable or potentially danger to discuss these issues are women OR the occasional man who are willing to throw any guy under the bus if he thinks it will help him get points with the ladies. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/24 01:47 AM |
| 1 | SAH Wife wants Divorce and wants to move the kids out of stateBoth parties can agree to no child support, or to a specific amount of child support, if they have a signed divorce agreement. However, the child support amount in the agreement can be modified if she goes back to the court and asks for an adjustment of child support. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Respecting your husbandGeneralizing does not mean that all individuals in a group share a particular characteristic. Instead, it implies that a characteristic is common or typical within the group, but there can still be significant variation among individuals. A simple example would be "females have breasts and wider hips" or "males are taller and stronger". Of course not all men are taller and stronger, nor do all females have breasts or wide hips. Now, if we are speaking about a specific person, then generalizing a… | /r/MensRights | 01/06/24 12:41 PM |
| 3 | Respecting your husbandMy HR is the opposite, and it's only getting worse since our DEI initiatives started. I've seen men report sexual harassment, be told women cannot sexually harass men, and get forced out of the company. Our HR department has training videos on harassment where men are always the perpetrators and in the video the narrator makes comments like "ladies, when you are harassed, and it will happen to most of you at some point in your life, you need to do x". HR runs our internal company website, they o… | /r/MensRights | 01/06/24 12:19 PM |
| 1 | Respecting your husbandDo you mind telling me what you believe submissive means in this context? | /r/MensRights | 01/06/24 12:09 PM |
| 9 | First Date Post DivorceI've done the ONS thing for a time back in my college days, I found it very unfulfilling. I'm the type that wants/needs to have an emotional connection with somebody before I have sex with them. Developing an emotional attachment to a woman means I have to take the chance on getting hurt again; nor do I think I can handle the drama that woman bring into other's lives. I envy you... I'll probably alone for the rest of my life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Therapy Sesh Monday Doesn't Come Soon EnoughDuring a divorce there should be no contact between your family and her and her family. If you want there to be contact it can happen after the divorce is over. As for her BS to your children, well it's a crapshoot because women tend to back each other before they back a male... We can thank evolution and feminism for that. Google "the breakdancing dad" for an example. Do your best to ignore the shit she sends your way. Regarding the mediator, they won't care about any drama she produces... Medi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 07:49 PM |
| 4 | 65 and seriously contemplating divorce, looking for men similar in age doing the sameNo child support, that's a good thing. Are you able to make enough to provide the type of lifestyle you want to live if you do divorce? She makes more so you can go for alimony from her if you want some help for the first few years. If the income were reversed she would expect it, therefore you should... Now is not the time to give up what is owed just because that's what men are expected to do. If the question is whether you should, I'm not that much young than you, and given the marriage time … | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 06:40 PM |
| 15 | If Men Really Are the Problem in Relationships Then Why is the Lesbian Divorce Rate So High?I have lots of gay friends, probably as many gay friends as straight friends. Most of them are married. I don't know any lesbians that are married. My gay friends typically complain about a lack of penatrative sex, all they seem to get is BJs and handjobs. My heterosexual married friends complain about a general lack of sex, but also a total absence of anything other than penatrative sex. My gay friends happily share info about their finances with me (a divorced straight guy), and they all seem … | /r/MensRights | 29/05/24 11:38 AM |
| 4 | A girl is bullying me.. and I don't know what to doIt sounds like you're thinking of physically assaulting her... I hope that is just because English isn't your first language. Regardless, she sounds like trouble. Your safest option is to simply not engage her. If you are forced to talk with her make sure it is a scheduled meeting (no impromptu conversations) in the presence of another man or woman and you get her consent to record the meeting. | /r/MensRights | 28/05/24 07:56 PM |
| 1 | A girl is bullying me.. and I don't know what to doIt sounds like you're thinking of physically assaulting her... I hope that is just because English isn't your first language. Regardless, she sounds like trouble. It or her. | /r/MensRights | 28/05/24 04:30 PM |
| 5 | I just called the police on my stbxShe will try to get you to drop it by lying and saying what she thinks you want to hear. Don't cave in no matter what she says. You have the upper hand, don't let it go. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/24 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Feeling stuckCreate a dating profile on one of the apps, hit her up, start an online relationship with her. Plan a first date, then show up with a server and hand her the divorce papers. You can push her to get a job prior to filing. You need to prove she can work, so the judge will impute income to her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/24 02:41 PM |
| 6 | Are feelings normal to discuss in marriage?These are absolutely Words of Wisdom; they are all true. Please heed them well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/24 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Can’t tell if my STBXW is projecting or actually delusionalOk man, it's cool. I appreciate your enthusiasm for your craft. This conversation isn't really productive. If we were face to face I would offer you a beer and change the topic. If you're in the US I hope you have a fun holiday weekend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/24 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Can’t tell if my STBXW is projecting or actually delusionalI know how to weld, arc and mig. I can make a sweet bead with proper penetration. Am I a professional? No. I taught myself to mig weld using a $250 Lincoln 220 welder I purchased from a guy off FB Marketplace and watching YouTube videos. Man, you don't know what OP will enjoy. Maybe he will enjoy welding a couple of junk steel beams to an old Ford rim. Instead of telling him what he will and won't like you should ask him what he wants to do and offer assistance with whatever equipment he has. Gl… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/24 01:08 AM |
| 22 | Single mother complains about neglect - but the reality is differentWhile I was divorcing my ex-wife she would post on FB how hard it was to be a single mother, while we were cohabitating, and I was paying all the bills, the only one working, doing all the cleaning and cooking, and we were splitting watching our kid 50/50. All these types of videos are performative. | /r/MensRights | 25/05/24 05:57 AM |
| 1 | Deployed military, kids almost abducted by wife, nearly homeless.There have been so many guys in here who come in asking how they can get back the savings their wives moved. I doubt they ever do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/24 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Deployed military, kids almost abducted by wife, nearly homeless.There's a difference between moving resources, such as savings, and spending it. I should have clarified, the money can be moved into an account and not touched and not mixed with other money. The goal being to preserve the money so it can be split under court order as part of a preliminary separation agreement. Of course, talk to a lawyer, there's no reason to assume that anything I suggested should be done exclusive of talking with a lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 04:17 PM |
| 3 | Do I need to vent before I f*** up or do I need the argument?I agree with everyone else, no point arguing with her, giving her parenting advice, or even expressing concerns about her parenting. Keep all conversations limited to logistics around your daughter. Also, why are you interacting with her brother? Most of the time, when you divorce your wife you also divorce her family. You never know what they are telling her about what YOU said. Don't even give them a reason to be discussing you unless it's something she brings up. Assuming you want to stay fri… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Deployed military, kids almost abducted by wife, nearly homeless.It will definitely get better, but it will take a while. Stay the hell away from her at all costs... Once a DV charge comes in then your life will get significantly harder. You've taken her name off all credit cards that are in your name, correct? If not then do that today. Pulled all savings out of joint accounts into your own? Once you do that you need to get your name off any joint bank accounts. Tell her to get her own checking, then you route whatever money necessary into her account (minus… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Deployed military, kids almost abducted by wife, nearly homeless.If it was a new truck OP can call the dealer and get a new key made, which will be cheaper than new locks. This opens the possibility she will try to steal it back, but at that point a police report can be filed... Which might actually help OP in the long run. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 03:06 PM |
| 5 | Can’t tell if my STBXW is projecting or actually delusionalOPs trying to learn a new skill, FFS leave him alone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 01:27 PM |
| 17 | Most men have been assaulted just like womenI've been sexually assaulted more times than I can remember. Hell, as an adult male I've had minor females attempt to sexually assault me. It's basically something I've experienced at all stages of my life; right after I was born due to MGM, girls hitting me in the privates growing up or actually/trying to touch me sexually, being forced to have sex with a girl at 17 which is when I "lost" my virginity, and then it got worse when I was in college. Once I got married I can't count how many times … | /r/MensRights | 24/05/24 11:38 AM |
| 3 | Post divorce trying to get along with loved onesI get that feeling a lot. My life is going well, but I seem less tolerant of other people and challenges seem harder and more frequent now that I'm on my own. Now it's up to only me to deal with this stuff, so it makes sense that the things seem harder because there's a lack of support there. That being said now I don't have to deal with the negative behavior and influence of my ex-wife. As for how others treat me, I'd say that guys typically are understanding of what I went through, and are gen… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 02:04 AM |
| 15 | Men shouldn't be the ones who pursue womenI believe the engagement numbers went down, but also that men complained because the women would initiate with "hey", then expect the men to pick it up from there... Which defeated the entire purpose. | /r/MensRights | 23/05/24 07:57 PM |
| 1 | How do I get started? Separate accounts or lawyer?Get a friends utilities switched to your name, get a copy of the bill, take it to the bank and sign up with your friends address. A physical address is required, but I don't think it has to be your on address. Rent an apartment for a couple months. See if a storage unit can be used. Use the street address plus the unit number, similar to an apartment address. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 01:23 PM |
| 2 | To Mediate or No?Child support is ALWAYS modifiable by the judge, no matter what the sides agree to and sign. A child's extracurricular activities take a back seat to you paying bills and supporting yourself. That is leverage if necessary. If she or her lawyer ask for a financial affidavit then they will figure out pretty quickly what your income is. There's a high probability a mediator will ask for one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 12:11 AM |
| 15 | Is it too late? (Title IX)There was another case where the guy had an audio recording of the girl badgering him to have sex after he said no multiple times, he does it to get her to stop, then she later claimed it was rape and the committee wouldn't allow him to present the recording. I think that guy sued the school and won. Title IX is designed to not allow the accused a chance to defend themselves. OPs brother was guilty the minute he started talking to the girl. | /r/MensRights | 22/05/24 11:39 PM |
| 5 | According to some surveys, it's not most women who pick the bear instead of the man, but a vocal minority.Therefore 61% of women are absolutely crazy, right? | /r/MensRights | 22/05/24 09:11 PM |
| 6 | Shaking with anger after court hearing todaySorry you're being discriminated against by the court. Was the judge male or female, old or young? | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/24 04:19 PM |
| 1 | How do I get started? Separate accounts or lawyer?You're right, looks like that's a regulation from the FDIC, thanks for pointing that out. Is a different option to use a family members physical address? | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/24 01:52 PM |
| 11 | How do I get started? Separate accounts or lawyer?she's dragging her feet on everything She's fucking someone else and you're not filing for divorce??? I'm leaning collaborative divorce, which means I wouldn't file Um, a collaborative divorce doesn't mean you let her make all the decisions. Do I hire my lawyer first? Yes, yes, yes. You can either spend the joint money on your lawyer, or let her spend the joint money on her lawyer. How do I get started? Get a lawyer. FFS man, stop being so passive and reactionary. Take her name off any credit ca… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/24 08:31 PM |
| 3 | Male Guilt Before MeTooguilt through accusation This is a damn good phrase. The entire article is fantastic. It's scary how a large portion of our society actually agrees with all the feminist tropes that the author references. | /r/MensRights | 21/05/24 08:21 PM |
| 5 | Current climate in Australia regarding DV/menstudents had circulated a list ranking female students from “wifey” to “unrapeable”." It's certainly also possible this, which is obviously bad, was actually only a couple boys. I would question how many people were actually involved in each on of the instances cited. | /r/MensRights | 21/05/24 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Parents are trying to force me into an arranged marriage - please help, I will divorce if they dothe inheritance you're going to lose (inheritance stays yours in divorce unless you take steps to commingle it, look into that) large enough to make it worth the potential of losing half your shit and having to deal with a woman day in and day out that you didn't even choose? Also be aware that these inheritance threats won't go away when you marry, afterwards they'll just threaten to disinherit you unless you give them a litter of grandkids with this woman they chose for you Basically the paren… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/24 06:35 PM |
| 0 | Money Making after child SupportMoney laundering is taking money obtained illegally, then moving it through a legal medium to convert it to legal income. What this other commenter is talking about is fraud. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/24 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Money Making after child SupportShe can get a better job if she needs money, There's no need for her to get a better job if she can get the court to force you to give her money. Women game the system all the time, your ex included, by reducing costs that the court won't view as defacto income sources. Things like free dinners, moving in with a roommate/boyfriend, etc. From the standpoint of reducing costs, can you get your company to pay for your gas/vehicle, rent/mortgage, etc? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/24 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Got Fired From My Job Cuz of Unfounded ComplaintI'm not sure about the legal aspects of your situation, though it doesn't sound like you have any proof that you were fired based off a protected attribute. However, it's also not your job to make your workplace an enjoyable place for your coworkers. If there is to be any personal anything in the workplace, such as birthday celebrations or cultural activities, it will be your supervisor/manager who will be coordinating that. Asking about birthdays or unexpectedly bringing a gift to somebody is N… | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 07:03 PM |
| 5 | Male sex toysNot going to lie, I've tried a number of them. I am a victim of male genital mutilation (aka circumcision), therefore my experience will be different (i.e. less sensitivity) from those who are intact. AutoBlow AI - this didn't do much for me, the sleeve didn't move. The newer one has a moving sleeve, so it would probably be better. Kiiroo Keon - this is my go-to toy, the sleeve moves and you can get interchangeable sleeves that have different patterns inside. Also, the sleeves can be used withou… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 06:13 PM |
| 8 | Men are dying on the battlefield but here's why that's a good thing!It's always "they were prevented from doing x", it couldn't possibly be that they didn't want to do it, or couldn't do it, in the first place. And now that there aren't men to fill those positions they had to reduce the physical requirements so women qualify to do the jobs. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Slut shaming and the perception of male sexualityOnly medical doctors are reliable sources. Got it. You left-wingers are fucking nuts. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 11:42 AM |
| 3 | How did you spend the weekend being oppressive?I held a door open for my elderly dad as we were leaving a restaurant, but a woman walked through it first. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/24 01:31 AM |
| 0 | Slut shaming and the perception of male sexualityOk, so any sourced material that is authored by a man is now invalid? Talk about discrimination. Mods, I hope you're reading this. Our sub has been inundated with another wave of feminist. Edit: Now I see you're active in TwoX... Should have known. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 09:54 PM |
| 3 | Is way too fucking easy to get accused of sexual misconduct in the workplace, without even having direct contact with the female peer, fucking hell, I will start taking the moral panic of men checking out of the workplace until they fix this shitI wasn't going to risk my job, on this. I absolutely would not have expected him to risk his job if the situation was reversed. And yes, it's illegal, HR departments all of the country do illegal shit all the time to men. By the way, I helped him get his next job, which has better pay/benefits and he works for a man. He's much happier. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 08:49 PM |
| 4 | Is way too fucking easy to get accused of sexual misconduct in the workplace, without even having direct contact with the female peer, fucking hell, I will start taking the moral panic of men checking out of the workplace until they fix this shitObviously if a person makes another person uncomfortable, they've done something unknowingly wrong. This is absolute horseshit female logic. Feelings are not reality. Somebody doesn't make somebody else feel a certain way. Your mindset, which most women hold, is exactly why woman lack accountability. If your feelings make you do something, and somebody else has control of your emotions, than there's no way you're in control of yourself. This zero accountability. You're in the wrong sub, you need… | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 08:44 PM |
| 9 | Is way too fucking easy to get accused of sexual misconduct in the workplace, without even having direct contact with the female peer, fucking hell, I will start taking the moral panic of men checking out of the workplace until they fix this shitIt's dicey for a white woman to accuse a black man of something to a woke HR department. I know white managers that won't terminate POCs for fear of being called racist. Those underperforming POCs are basically pushed to other managers, then it looks like the white manager is purposefully trying to get rid of a POC and they are called racist. The safe thing to do is help get that person promoted to a higher position in a different department. But then everyone knows why that person was promoted,… | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Is way too fucking easy to get accused of sexual misconduct in the workplace, without even having direct contact with the female peer, fucking hell, I will start taking the moral panic of men checking out of the workplace until they fix this shitI had a male coworker who accused a female coworker, who worked in a different department, of sexual harassment. He reported it to HR, HR immediately told him he did not have any proof and they would not investigate. They then called me in, with my manager (who was female) in the room, and told me I was no longer allowed to speak to him... When I asked why I was told he filed a fake report, at why point my manager stated that everyone knows women cannot sexually harass men, and the female HR per… | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 06:02 PM |
| 7 | Is way too fucking easy to get accused of sexual misconduct in the workplace, without even having direct contact with the female peer, fucking hell, I will start taking the moral panic of men checking out of the workplace until they fix this shitUnfortunately this is true, in our society it's OK to exclude men, but excluding women is considered harassment. If men speak out against exclusion they are called sexist. It's a perfect system to promote female superiority. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 05:52 PM |
| 6 | Is way too fucking easy to get accused of sexual misconduct in the workplace, without even having direct contact with the female peer, fucking hell, I will start taking the moral panic of men checking out of the workplace until they fix this shitTypically, if it's a man he must have done something wrong. You should work in an HR department, you have the exact mindset they are looking for. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 05:48 PM |
| 2 | In-Law IntimidationI have Google drive in my phone. My camera file location is within the Google drive folder. Therefore, all I have to do is stop the recording and start a new one and it automatically uploads the last video. I kept a spreadsheet of all fights, including the date/time of each fight, the severity, if our kid was present, and anything else such as hitting, cursing etc. then later it's easy to find the juicy shit my ex did by looking in the spreadsheet, then using the date/time from there to pull the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 03:26 PM |
| 0 | Slut shaming and the perception of male sexualityI gave a specific resource, that's not making anything up. Go educate yourself. Let me guess, you're a woman and because YOU don't want a guy with many past partners you don't think other would either. If you're a woman then we're not talking about you, we're talking about women in general... So my statement might not apply to you. Also, who calls them fuck boys? Grow up. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 02:14 PM |
| -1 | Slut shaming and the perception of male sexualityMen and women are different physically and psychologically, they look for different attributes in their partner than their partner looks for in them. The data doesn't support your point of view; some women don't like a male with a high body count, some do. Women in general view men with higher body counts as attractive because they are attractive to other women, although there is usually a max body count which when passed becomes to high for most women. I suggest you read "The Evolution of Desir… | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Hobbies QuestionWorking out should be the first thing newly divorced guys get into (if they aren't already)... It opens doors to other activities. Other activities depends on your financial position and how adventurous you are. Sports can be either participatory or spectator... Either leads to many avenue of hobbies that guys tend to enjoy. Hiking is cheap except for gas depending on where you live. Travel is fun but can get expensive... get a travel credit card, charge everything, pay off each month, travel on… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 02:39 AM |
| 1 | I can’t even go fishingOh, sorry, I thought I read that you're talking about a dock. Yeah, I'd say life jackets aren't necessary if there's not a dropoff into the water. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 02:25 AM |
| 3 | Closure possible?The person you met is gone. This is the key. Divorce brings out either a women's true self, or updates their personality to that of a divorced women. It's impossible for a man to get the proper emotional connection necessary for closure with the woman he loved since that woman either never existed or no longer exists. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Ex-wife constantly on phone with youngest my entire time I have my children.Get rid of the smartphone (get them to drop in the toilet accidentally) and replace with a dumb phone. If the agreement doesn't explicitly say FaceTime then you could argue a dumb phone meets the wording of the agreement. If she wants to amend the agreement to FaceTiming then you can demand a limit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone else get told this after the divorce starts?I have to say, it's really heartening to see so many men in these comments recommending that OP not go out and get laid ASAP. The "get as much tail as possible" advice promotes the negative association men in our society have with sex. It's easy to recommend fucking as much as possible if you view men as singularly focused on sex, when the reality is that men are emotional beings and take breakups and divorce quite hard... possibly even harder than women. Add to that the high probability that an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 02:00 AM |
| 2 | My STBX has no jobWait, so she has $90k in an account that you didn't know about? Where did that money come from? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 01:48 AM |
| 3 | Ex-wife constantly on phone with youngest my entire time I have my children.Does the divorce agreement say "call", or FaceTime specifically? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 01:41 AM |
| 9 | I can’t even go fishingMan, I would suggest a life jacket even on a dock. I get it that you'll feel dorky and other guys will look at you weird, but tripping and falling into the water can include a knock on the head. One of those auto-inflate ones won't be annoying and could save your life. Unless you're a strong dude or thin, it's almost impossible for an adult male with waterlogged clothes to pull themselves up onto a dock. A life jacket will make it way easier to get back to shore. As for your kid, absolutely nobo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 01:37 AM |
| 30 | Childbirth pain is because of the 'patriarchy' now apparently.These are the types of people that colleges are pumping out and governments/corporations are hiring in the name of DEI under the direction of DEI consulting companies being run by intersectional feminists in order to increase ESG scores being forced on financial corporations by leftist Marxist politicians under the threat of losing the management of lucrative government pension plans. Western civilization is doomed. | /r/MensRights | 17/05/24 09:08 PM |
| 0 | Are there any content creators in this field that aren't gigantic pieces of human garbage?You need to reeducate yourself about the right/left political topography as well as patriotism. | /r/MensRights | 17/05/24 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Wife cheated, getting divorced and have a moral question.If you're going to tell the AP's wife then wait until after the divorce. Make sure you have solid proof so there's no doubt in her mind that you're being truthful, otherwise you're putting her in a shitty situation. If it was me I would tell her, because if my partner was cheating I would want to know. Also, stop giving your ex money until there is a written agreement in place. Continue to pay any bills such as utilities and loans. Get her name off any credit cards that are in your name. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/24 02:39 PM |
| 4 | TikToker shocks with 'wild' list of things she refuses to do for her husband: 'Not his mum' [Just listening to her voice I feel sorry for the guy, she sounds like a nightmare to share a home with]My ex wanted to be a SaHM after our kid was born. The agreement was that once preschool started she would go back to work. I work full time salary. Unfortunately she didn't clean the house at all, claimed our kid was taking up all her time throughout the day. Literally trash and boxes and laundry piled everywhere. It caused a ton of fights. A number of times I stayed home, maybe she took a trip somewhere (you know, for all her hard work), and I would take care of the kid and house. No joke, it w… | /r/MensRights | 17/05/24 02:29 PM |
| 45 | Why does this sub like MGTOW?Wikipedia is extremely left-leaning on gender and culture war topics. Find a better source. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/24 06:53 PM |
| -10 | Teacher Sparks Controversy After Posting Video Of Students Unbraiding His Hair, Ends Up Fired [As he points out, if he were a woman, he'd never have been fired.]I don't want my child touching any teacher's hair. I don't want any teacher touching my child's hair. This applies to male or female teachers. I can see maybe a hug if the child is young, but that's about it. His behavior was inappropriate. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/24 06:49 PM |
| -19 | Jealous wife is jailed five years for slicing off her husband's penisAttractive people get less clicks. Less clicks = less advertising income. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/24 06:41 PM |
| 11 | I’m lost.Get a lawyer. You're in CA living with an unstable person of more than 10 years, you need a lawyer. Don't half-ass this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/24 02:21 PM |
| 10 | TikToker shocks with 'wild' list of things she refuses to do for her husband: 'Not his mum' [Just listening to her voice I feel sorry for the guy, she sounds like a nightmare to share a home with]Personally I know some women who now call themselves "working moms", even though they don't have a job. They believe being a SAHM is a job. Of course, every time I tell them they don't have a job they try to pull the "raising kids is a job" bullshit. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/24 01:48 PM |
| 6 | It looks like Facebook will remove post about you in are we dating the same guy, if you pay to be a “meta verfied” member. I posted the link to the process in the body text, and if you look in the comments he posts a link to a video of the entire interaction he had with real time customer supportHow does one even find out if they are being talked about in one of those groups? | /r/MensRights | 15/05/24 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Custody QuestionSince she hasn't started school you're actually in a better position than if she had already started school. Whatever you do, I think it would be prudent to get it in writing signed by both of you and approved by the judge... Maybe as a modification to the original agreement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Custody QuestionNAL. Some courts want the child to stay in the same school, especially if the mothers tells the judge the child is doing very good in that school. Even if it is 4 hours away, that is an 8 hour round-trip. It might not be bad for you, but your kid or ex might not appreciate it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 01:33 PM |
| 5 | Physical tasksThe problem comes down to a supervisor who has to get a task done. If that task is moving heavy objects they will pick the correct person for the job, because the manager doesn't care who does what. Now, if a woman wants to do the job but isn't allowed to, well then that's a discrimination suit just waiting to happen. Luckily for the supervisors the women typically don't ask to do those types of jobs. It's definitely a double-standard, but what supervisor working to support his family is going t… | /r/MensRights | 15/05/24 01:27 PM |
| 5 | Court hearingSince the agreement is done and both parties signed it should just be a formality. Don't dress like you have a bunch of money. Personally I wore a shirt and tie along with some gray slacks and clean nice plain dress shoes. Definitely no jewelry. If you have a lawyer let them do the talking, only speak when spoken to. Absolutely do not speak directly to your ex. Control your emotions. Good luck and congrats! | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 12:56 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else lose everything? I paid bills out of joint acct during 3 yr divorce, judge ordered me to pay $ back bc I did it w/o permission& 2 yr later judge ordered me to pay my half of house sale within 7 days + 8 yrs spousal support bc she's uneducated.He (his lawyer) did report it to some official body (don't remember exactly who), they reviewed everything and found no unethical behavior. That pissed the judge off enough that the child support was increased by 50% the next time his ex asked for an increase, he then had to sell the house he purchased after the divorce because he couldn't afford the mortgage. Now he rents a tiny room of a house with two other roommates, his ex lives in a house on a lake and doesn't work whatsoever. He's lost cu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else lose everything? I paid bills out of joint acct during 3 yr divorce, judge ordered me to pay $ back bc I did it w/o permission& 2 yr later judge ordered me to pay my half of house sale within 7 days + 8 yrs spousal support bc she's uneducated.You're situation is an absolute travesty. I wish you the best with the supreme court case... I hope they take it. Any thoughts on moving to a country without an extradition treaty with the US? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 02:53 AM |
| 4 | Anyone else lose everything? I paid bills out of joint acct during 3 yr divorce, judge ordered me to pay $ back bc I did it w/o permission& 2 yr later judge ordered me to pay my half of house sale within 7 days + 8 yrs spousal support bc she's uneducated.Feminist judges actively work to punish men. A majority of the judges and staff in family courts are women. Law schools are pumping out feminist lawyers left and right (basically a majority of all graduates are female and identify as feminist). These judges are absolutely biased for women and against men. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Why the hell would your mother leave that house to both of you? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 01:44 AM |
| 18 | Anyone else lose everything? I paid bills out of joint acct during 3 yr divorce, judge ordered me to pay $ back bc I did it w/o permission& 2 yr later judge ordered me to pay my half of house sale within 7 days + 8 yrs spousal support bc she's uneducated.I knew a guy who went thru a divorce, the judge sided with the guy's ex on everything and wouldn't even listen to the guy. She got the house without him getting equal equity even though they purchased it together during the marriage with his income, then after the divorce was finalized she sold the judge the house for half it's value, the judge sold the house a year later for full price. They basically stole his equity from him. The only explanation was that she bribed the judge to side with her… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 01:31 AM |
| 0 | They had to emphasise the member of staff was female, because that automatically means joost committed harm and is guilty.Can someone give some background for those of us in the US that haven't been following this? | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 11:40 PM |
| 1 | So what about sex?I get it. At a minimum, introducing another female into an already unstable situation will only complicate your life. Don't make your life harder by getting involved with a new women while you're still dealing with the last one. There are lots of toys out there for men, lots of good ones now. Sure, they don't replace having an actual partner, but they are much cheaper and can meet your physical needs. Rarely stayed single long and I'd expect that may be the case with me again. I thrive with a pa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/05/24 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Abolish child support!!!Female hypergamy makes that harder said than done. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 01:34 AM |
| 9 | So what about sex?Everybody is different, I'm not sure anyone on here can give you a definitive answer... But, many guys in here say to wait until after your divorce is finalized then wait 1 month for every year you were married. Personally, it's been years for me and I have zero interest in getting laid. My divorce was too traumatic for me, I no longer see women in the same light as I did prior to my divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/05/24 12:25 AM |
| 3 | So what about sex?I'm not understanding what you're asking... Do you want to know how long without sex from the wife before you give up, or are you asking how long you should wait before going after other women? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/24 11:36 PM |
| 8 | Abolish child support!!!84% of child support is paid by men, that's 16% for women, a difference if 68 percentage points... I'd say there is certainly a need for continued discussion on this topic. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/24 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Stbxw getting a dogMany women thrive on drama, they are addicted to the dopamine that their brain produces as a result of drama. If they don't get enough dopamine they will artificially produce drama, then they retroactively create a justification for the drama. This sounds like such a situation. My suggestion is to not feed her drama fix. Just say no when she asks for anything unrelated to the logistics of co-parenting. Don't give her reasons, don't attempt to clarify your point; a flat no is all she needs. You o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/24 07:50 PM |
| 8 | Considering Contacting LawyerIf she did it once she'll do it again. Get video of her behavior; without heard evidence the judge won't believe you over her. You definitely need a lawyer. Has she physically assaulted you as well? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/24 12:15 AM |
| 3 | Manifesting and excited to spread my wings as a true single father of two toddlers.The traditional meaning of "single parent" is a parent who is the sole caregiver and financial provider of a child. Saying you're a "single dad" implies that the children's mother is gone. I have 50/50 custody of my kid, but my ex posts on FB about how hard it is being a single mother, and I get people asking why I abandoned my kid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/24 10:45 PM |
| 7 | What am I not seeing here?I'm not going to mince words here.... You're being a fucking dumbass. Its like somebody made a list of all the stupid fucking things to do in a failing marriage and you found that list and committed to doing them all. Texas is a no-fault divorce state, your affair doesn't mean shit, stop trying to atone for that by giving everything away, nobody gives a shit and you're not winning any points. Of course she isn't in a hurry to divorce, she doesn't have you trying to stick you dick in her every ni… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 05:06 PM |
| 1 | On the fence!!Make a list of the things that would need to change to make you happy, include changes that you have to make in there too. I'm talking specific concrete things. Now, what would have to happen for those changes to occur. Next, identify which ones are under your control, which are under her control. For the things under her control, do you think she has the level of introspection and self-accountability necessary for her to actually change? I'm not talking possible, I'm talking probable... Be real… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 01:57 PM |
| 3 | A male only space? Diabolical!parents have less money The fees for scouting are high, the uniforms are not cheap, and the trips are expensive. mothers see boy scouts as intentionally discluding girls Don't know about this one, although it could be possible given the number of single mothers who don't have a father to promote the Scouting program. boy scouts has had problems with child grooming and sex scandals This one is hard. I'm not sure how prevalent it was. When I went through the adult scout training back in the later … | /r/MensRights | 11/05/24 01:47 PM |
| 4 | Marriage insurance for menpeople know the risks of getting married. I'd say most men do not. I think men in general have been hoodwinked into thinking that marriage benefits them... I also think that society downplays or even actively suppresses how men are negatively affected by divorce and the family court system. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 01:35 PM |
| 4 | Why do all the men here get into a panic over Mother’s Day? It’s like anxiety takes over. I could be wrong but I highly doubt the same sentiment is shared on the other side of the fence.If it was her father I would say yes... But her mother is still a woman, her emotions will dictate how she feels about you and can easily be undone by your ex at some future date. A father can look objectively at your kindness and will understand and remember it and will only be undone if you do something to undo it, the mother will not give you that courtesy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/24 01:26 PM |
| 3 | Investigated the Man or Bear trend; this is my reply to a person who chose Bear (Satire)Good job, this is actually one of the better analogies I've heard. | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Differences between men and women who work in hard science related fields.Isn't it this way with most sports? I don't think the NFL and NBA forbid women from playing. | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 01:10 PM |
| 5 | Differences between men and women who work in hard science related fields.I'm a former software developer for 20+ years. The best female devs are the ones that worked on a system for many years. They could fix things, and maybe come up with new ways to do things within the system. But I could hire 100 male devs directly out of college and within a year 80% of them surpassed even the best female devs, simply because they understood coding concepts intuitively. | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 01:07 PM |
| 4 | Differences between men and women who work in hard science related fields.have said crazy things about the gender gap. They say there are no sex differences, and that if there were an equal sized pool of female players, the top would be 50/50 I've come to the conclusion, based on dealing with DEI bullshit at work, that these things are said because for the people at the top there's no downside to saying. A top chess player, even if he knows that the top men are better than the top women, won't be out much if he admits men and women are the same. A CEO gets told by his… | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Getting mediation date but it's set after the court dateThis 100%. Call the courthouse explaining the situation, they will reschedule the hearing. It will take a few minutes and will save you headaches/money later on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/24 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Getting mediation date but it's set after the court dateshe took everything why would she want more Dude, there's no limit to what a woman will ask for. Don't try to use logic and reason when attempting to figure out why a woman, or the family court, does something that makes no sense. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/24 02:35 AM |
| 9 | The left has given men every reason not to vote for themIn my experience the leftists are more likely to not be interesting in talking with those with opposing viewpoints. Additionally, in my experience left-leaning individuals are simply more biased against right-wing positions that right-leaning individuals are against left-wing positions. And it seems that at least one study agrees with me. https://www.psypost.org/liberals-three-times-more-biased-than-conservatives-when-evaluating-ideologically-opposite-individuals-study-finds/ I used to be a Demo… | /r/MensRights | 07/05/24 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Is it even possible to be loved as a man if you don't make a lot of money? I sacrificed years for my family, wife, sister, and girlfriends and it cost me my career. I ended up with PTSD and no one I helped cared especially the women I supported.There's plenty of guys in this sub that share the negative outcomes they experienced due to our gynocentric society. That being said, some guys also are just venting. And yes, many men are bitter at the way they are treated, me included. Thanks for being open-minded/non-judgemental and participating in our sub. | /r/MensRights | 07/05/24 04:47 PM |
| 7 | My girlfriend would choose the bearYears ago my (now ex) wife once looked me straight in the eyes and said "all the world's problems are caused by white men"... I'm a white guy. I asked if she was joking, and she said with a straight face that she wasn't. Needless to say, I filed for divorce less than 6 months after she said that. That's also when I finally recognized how much society hated men. | /r/MensRights | 07/05/24 01:10 PM |
| 2 | Mother's dayOh yeah, she's holds the title of Queen Victim of the Universe. Literally takes zero responsibility for anything in her life. Typically everything is the fault of a man in some form or fashion. She actually said to me once that all the problems in the world are caused by white men. I'm white. :| I filed for divorce less than 6 months later. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Is it even possible to be loved as a man if you don't make a lot of money? I sacrificed years for my family, wife, sister, and girlfriends and it cost me my career. I ended up with PTSD and no one I helped cared especially the women I supported.I argue with woman all the time about coverture... They think it means men controlled all the money back in the day as a way to control women. When I point out that legally the man was responsible for all debts of the household the practice of coverture was created to protect the husband from debt obligations that his wife would assume without his knowledge/consent. Apparently it happened enough that they had to make it into law. Of course coverture is no longer practiced, women are allowed to t… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/24 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Are traditional men insecure?Stone age? Your talking anywhere between millions of years ago up to roughly 4000 years ago. Feminism has only been around for 100 years, modern feminism maybe 20. Male/female roles developed over hundreds of thousands of generations; making changes in the span of a couple decades then criticizing those who cannot change, isn't being realistic. You can't expect males to simply not want to be providers, it's literally baked into our genes; and frmales cannot be expected to simply forget their hyp… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/24 02:01 PM |
| 0 | Are traditional men insecure?Is there a source available for that 89% stat? | /r/MensRights | 06/05/24 01:55 PM |
| 6 | Mother's dayYes, if my kid wants to get a present.. birthday, mother's day, and Christmas. Do I get anything back? Yes, I get shitty comments and a bad attitude in return. I don't think I've ever gotten a present from my kid that she paid for. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 12:51 PM |
| 2 | Is it even possible to be loved as a man if you don't make a lot of money? I sacrificed years for my family, wife, sister, and girlfriends and it cost me my career. I ended up with PTSD and no one I helped cared especially the women I supported.So you think we should also be discussing how great women are? | /r/MensRights | 06/05/24 12:40 PM |
| 2 | Is it even possible to be loved as a man if you don't make a lot of money? I sacrificed years for my family, wife, sister, and girlfriends and it cost me my career. I ended up with PTSD and no one I helped cared especially the women I supported.When we have these types of discussions, typically we're discussing the average person, not specific people. I hear people say "it's rude/bad to generalize" but I say it's OK if you're generalize about a group of people, but generalizing about specific people is probably inappropriate. So, although you may not exhibit the traits OP is describing, it's legitimate to say (and been proven by studies) that women have expectations (hypergamy) around a man's ability to provide (even though women now h… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/24 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Is it even possible to be loved as a man if you don't make a lot of money? I sacrificed years for my family, wife, sister, and girlfriends and it cost me my career. I ended up with PTSD and no one I helped cared especially the women I supported.Here's what I found about the origin of the word: Old English husbonda (in the senses ‘male head of a household’ and ‘manager, steward’), from Old Norse húsbóndi ‘master of a house’, from hús ‘house’ + bóndi ‘occupier and tiller of the soil’. The original sense of the verb was ‘till, cultivate’. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/24 01:59 AM |
| 3 | How do women expect men to take women seriously after the whole men vs bear debacle?The nauseating discourse over this whole tik tok trend needs to die, and die fast Great, so you think we need another man v bear post? FFS, let it die. | /r/MensRights | 04/05/24 10:43 PM |
| 7 | The man or bear argument is stupidI'm not sure where to post this, but I hope this is a good sub to post this. Dude, did you even bother to search this sub for previous man v bear posts? | /r/MensRights | 04/05/24 07:39 PM |
| 13 | So apparently its okay for women to watch porn but not for menLet it burn to the ground and when they cry for men's help let the feminists die. I'm not sure this will ever happen, there will always be simps. I do foresee the current trajectory to be one where men are excluded from positions of power and authority, and eventually become a lower class of citizenry. Maybe even a reverse Handmaid's Tale, except the men are used for their manual labor or law enforcement. Australia seems to be leading the charge, and it's mostly men throwing other men under the … | /r/MensRights | 04/05/24 07:37 PM |
| 122 | So apparently its okay for women to watch porn but not for menYou'll soon realize that all aspects of male sexuality are oppressed. Males watching porn is bad, women doing it is considered OK; catcalling bad, women swooning good; males going to strip clubs bad, girls going to strip clubs are empowered. Men getting punched in the junk good, but protect women at all costs. Female genitals are protected in practically every country in the world, meanwhile more than a billion males have had their genitals mutilated involuntarily specifically to desensitized th… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/24 05:09 PM |
| 2 | Ex trying to buy me outWe settled in mediation with me paying alimony and child support and the house to be sold with 50/50 equity split. I took debt to offset my retirement. So the only real asset is the house. I also took on over 50k in new debt thanks to the divorce dragging out a year. It's hard to know if this is a fair deal if we don't know how much the alimony, CS and existing debt are, and how much of your income are we talking about. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/24 01:15 PM |
| 3 | When people say sorryCorrection: No man after 10 years says "my divorce is going terribly". | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/24 01:10 PM |
| 7 | My nephew (18) thinks I’m misogynistic, and I’m sadThis isn't a Men's Rights issue, your nephew seems to have mental issues that need to be resolved. The first step would be to get him to a therapist. However, he's only your nephew and he's an adult, therefore it is also not your responsibility. I understand that you care for him, but he seems unstable and you never know what he might say or do that can negatively impact your life. I suggest you speak to his parents, then limit your time around him AND limit the discussions you have with him, sp… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/24 12:41 PM |
| 2 | STBXW is cheating on mehttps://family1st.io/gps-laws-of-different-states/ There are multiple states where he could get arrested. Maybe he can put it on there with the purpose of tracking the car, if he uses it to track her then he's fucked... Stalking laws exist and can be manipulated. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/24 02:46 AM |
| 1 | I hate the idea that being masculine is all about how much disrespect, bullshit, and hardship you can tolerateI was kind of keeping it within recent times... Most of what you listed was from 20+ years ago. Yes, there are certainly plenty of masculine characters, but very few on modern media. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/24 09:04 PM |
| 6 | STBXW is cheating on meIn some states tracking devices are illegal and can land you in jail big-time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/24 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Singapore: 'A heartrending case': 12 years' jail for woman who cheated boss into giving her S$3.7 million (US$2.8M).This started when the boss was 59??? Seriously, who the hell would fall for this. I get what she did was terrible, but if the man and his wife wouldn't have been so gullible then they wouldn't be in this situation. It's hard to feel pity for them. As for the women, throw her ass in prison for fraud. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/24 03:50 PM |
| 1 | How did you guys did it?In family court the judge basically believes most/all claims the woman makes, even without evidence... It's just the way the family court system works. If the man leaves them the woman will claim the man abandoned the family, which also implies that he abandoned his obligations to the child. Under this pretext the court will look unfavorably against the man, and it's basically impossible for the man to prove he didn't abandon the child. So, the legally safe thing to do is stay in the house until… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/24 02:54 PM |
| 6 | I hate the idea that being masculine is all about how much disrespect, bullshit, and hardship you can tolerateI was giving examples from less than two decades ago (although I guess Friends is older than that it's still one of the most streamed shows). But yeah, the older movies and shows that I grew up on had awesome masculine men: McGyver, Sam Beckett, Kirk/Picard, Corp Hicks, all those guys were awesome. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/24 11:58 PM |
| 15 | No more Women drivers while using UberThere are MANY reasons to use Uber that aren't due to laziness. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/24 11:30 PM |
| 2 | How did you guys did it?Speak to a lawyer... Generally as a rule you don't leave the house unless your lawyer says it's OK. Sometimes this means the lawyer gets a temporary custody order/plan in place. Many guys just leave then it's used against them if there's no CYA plan in place. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 11:27 PM |
| 9 | I hate the idea that being masculine is all about how much disrespect, bullshit, and hardship you can toleratebut think of any masculine fictional character. What are his traits? Unfortunately 99% of male characters masculinity is painted in a negative light. It's hard for me to think of many male characters now that exhibit positive masculine traits. Every fucking show in television/streaming has terrible male characters... Friends, Big Bang Theory, Modern Family, Game of Thrones (maybe excluding John Snow and Ned Stark), fucking Star Wars, Marvel, every single one. Every commercial, at least the few t… | /r/MensRights | 02/05/24 11:23 PM |
| 6 | It’s over… the real end…Ditto what others have said, you wrote your words down, now let them go, but don't send her anything; if you do you'll be wondering if she read it, did it make sense, did it have an affect on her, etc. just leave it alone and move on. Also, not sure if it's just the way you wrote your post, but you are coming off as emotionally needy. Might I suggest learning about stoicism, it might help you get some control over your emotions. It doesn't mean you won't have emotions, just when to share them an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 07:47 PM |
| 4 | Australia about to go dark on Men's Rights and Men's Health advocacyYep. So overall men are more likely to be a homicide victim, and men are practically as likely to be domestic violence related homicide victims as women. It sure sounds like men are the ones that need help. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/24 02:20 PM |
| 3 | Australia about to go dark on Men's Rights and Men's Health advocacyIn 2022 family and domestic violence related homicide victims were 53% female, 47% male... That's basically equal. https://www.abs.gov.au/statistics/people/crime-and-justice/recorded-crime-victims/latest-release | /r/MensRights | 02/05/24 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Australia about to go dark on Men's Rights and Men's Health advocacyHow many women are killed in Australia each year? | /r/MensRights | 02/05/24 01:25 PM |
| 6 | Children stopped talking to meEvolutionary psychology tells us that women evolved a mechanism of in-group bias. This means they will support those in their own group over those in another group. This is due to the need for women to support each other for survival and procreation success over the past thousands of generations. Additionally, women lack cognitive empathy, therefore they are incapable of mentally putting themselves in your place in order to understand how you feel, or why you would do something. Typically they w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 08:17 PM |
| 3 | Man glassed in the face after telling woman she looked like she was 43, gets suspended sentenceWomen in general are simply obnoxious after two drinks. I've never met a women who was able to keep emotional control while drinking. So I never allow myself to be around drunk women, they simply cannot be trusted to control themselves nor will they be held responsible for their actions if they do something stupid like this woman did. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/24 05:07 PM |
| 0 | How can I convince my doctor to get a vasectomyMeaning an adult male doesn't even have the right to ask and receive a vasectomy? | /r/MensRights | 01/05/24 04:15 PM |
| 1 | I do not mean to belittle her bravery but many men have sacrificed their lives for women and others and no George crosses were awarded.I should have said "mostly" men, that was a mistake on my part. And I agree with your second paragraph. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/24 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Arguing over kid daysSorry, I'm having a hard time following... It sounds like she took a vacation and left you with your son, now you have a vacation coming up and you're concerned she go somewhere else and leave you with your son again when you should be on vacation? Is that correct? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/24 01:43 AM |
| 23 | Fellow men: why and when did you realize feminists and society are against us?Thanks! That's was 6-ish years ago. I'm doing so well without a woman in my life, especially not my ex-wife. I certainly don't hate women, but after doing research I recognize female hypergamy and it's interaction with feminism and the media and I want nothing to do with any of it. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/24 01:27 AM |
| 2 | How can women be the more oppressed gender in a society in which the majority of boys have their genitals mutilated at birth?I posted something similar last year about a football game I attended. https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/s/5CgUPP2EpH Similar to this, I attended a highschool football game Friday night. Before and after the game the guest team had to change in the middle of the basketball gym. The door to the gym was 10 feet from the entrance to the football stadium, where people were standing in line waiting to pay, and the doors to the gym were wide open. Everybody was standing there looking into the gym, a… | /r/MensRights | 01/05/24 12:45 AM |
| 68 | Fellow men: why and when did you realize feminists and society are against us?I was quite naive about the negative effects of feminism until my wife looked me straight in the eyes and stated that all the world's problems were caused by white men. I'm white. I filed for divorce within a year. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/24 12:03 AM |
| 10 | UK: Calling a female colleague a 'pretty woman' at work is sex discrimination, tribunal rulesMedical IT. | /r/MensRights | 30/04/24 03:41 PM |
| 117 | UK: Calling a female colleague a 'pretty woman' at work is sex discrimination, tribunal rulesThis is so true. Our company's DEI training basically explained to all the women and black people what microagressions are, which includes basically anything not work-related. So, now the males don't want to talk to the females, and they definitely stay the fuck away from anybody who is LBTQ (yes, I left the G off, because in our office gay dudes can talk about whatever they want). White people no longer want to interact with black people either (we were all given a list of microgressions that w… | /r/MensRights | 30/04/24 01:10 PM |
| 4 | Alert issued to ALL UK children over online 'sextortion epidemic': Police warn foreign gangs are blackmailing hundreds of kids over intimate pics. Boys most as risk.Don't worry, there will be a news article soon explaining how women are negatively affected by this problem. | /r/MensRights | 30/04/24 12:49 PM |
| 10 | I do not mean to belittle her bravery but many men have sacrificed their lives for women and others and no George crosses were awarded.Check out the list of people who have received the George Cross, it's all men. Sure, I get that it's a double standard, but it's not like men don't get the award. Personally, I think it's more a matter of does she deserve the award. How many men sacrifice themselves for others that don't get nominated while she's being suggested for this because she's a female. The article doesn't really describe how exactly she protected the guy... Did she actually go out of her way to protect him, or was she s… | /r/MensRights | 30/04/24 12:45 PM |
| 2 | I do not mean to belittle her bravery but many men have sacrificed their lives for women and others and no George crosses were awarded.What does this have to do with Mens Rights? | /r/MensRights | 30/04/24 11:31 AM |
| 13 | So what's the plan when this sub eventually gets band?Or a good Qatar player. | /r/MensRights | 30/04/24 11:18 AM |
| 1 | He’s giving me mixed signals. I want out.We don't know him so anything we say would be a guess. Very rarely is only one side responsible for the failure of a marriage, but from your post it sounds like you did nothing wrong... maybe that is where you should start looking. I’m young, I’m healthy, I’m attractive, I’m educated, I’m funny. I’m the type that easily makes friends You're really not (women don't age like wine) but feel free to keep telling yourself you are; good for you; women consistently rate themselves 3 levels higher than … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/24 08:03 AM |
| 4 | Divorce StallingOP doesn't understand what stoicism is and has a toxic view of masculinity. Thanks for pointing it out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/24 07:55 PM |
| 7 | man or bear who you choose ?If the original question is based on both the bear and the man being physically violent towards the woman, then it doesn't matter either way. If it's a random meeting, then of course the man will be safer. The original question is silly because modern women has zero understanding of the consequence of interacting with a bear. An average man does have that understanding, it's something primordial that is part of his genetic structure. Their answers are meant to be funny, not some scientific study… | /r/MensRights | 29/04/24 01:40 PM |
| 4 | How long did your divorce take?Have your lawyer request a hearing date. Once it's on the court calendar there will be a timeframe around when things need to be completed. Be aware, she could be working on strategy behind the scenes, and she's just dragging it out for some nefarious purpose that they will spring on you later. Beginning to end mine took almost 24 months, including multiple 8 hour mediations (which I footed the bill for, which was $8k each time). They would waste time or not respond unless there was a deadline, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/24 03:04 AM |
| 6 | Comes in waves…Sounds like you're capable of introspection and holding yourself accountable, that's a very big positive... You should be proud of yourself for that and for working on self-improvement. The pain will subside as time passes. Therapy may help. Keep you head up, you'll get through this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/24 10:53 PM |
| 5 | Post marriage single dad soon, any tips?This is more divorce advice, go post over in r/Divorce_Men | /r/MensRights | 28/04/24 10:47 PM |
| 6 | So goofyI don't send my kid with anything that my ex can enjoy... Except bday/Xmas presents, because I want my kid to be able to give their mom gifts. That being said, I never get presents from my kid that she purchased. Any good thing I might do for her will get thrown in my face later... I learned this soon after I moved out, I let my ex into my apartment to use the bathroom, and the next time I saw her she started bringing up the things I had purchased for my apartment (like a TV) and how I'm financi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/24 06:30 PM |
| 10 | For those that are divorcing in equitable states for reasons other than at fault infidelity, has anyone been able to get a percentage in favor of the male? If so, how?Given the disparity in income she should owe you child support at 50/50 custody... Not sure why you wouldn't want to do that. So many men don't fight for equality, especially in a state that leads in granting CS and equal parenting time to the father. Sounds like you gave up equal custody AND she gets away with no child support. You obviously failed at your negotiations, unless you purposefully wanted less time with the kids AND less money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/24 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Privacy and personal property during divorceMy divorce lasted two years, then I had to live with her for another 6 months after that. Multiple times she threatened to take or destroy my belongings, a few times she did destroy some items. A few months into the divorce I rented a storage unit and slowly moved my important items out of the house. I kept minimal clothes and normal stuff there that could be replaced. I had to leave my computer, but it's locked with a long password so I wasn't worried about her getting into it. I had an office,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/24 01:05 PM |
| 1 | The “Process”Have you actually filed for divorce yet? The pain of what you are losing will fade with time. I'm not sure if it ever goes away but eventually it won't be where your mind immediately goes when you see other families. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/24 08:21 PM |
| 5 | Woman I Work With Does Not Let Men Hild Open door For HerThe psychological term you're looking for is "Female Solipsism". This means that to her nothing else matters/exists except her own beliefs. In her mind she has created the narrative that a man holding a door open for her is simply him viewing her as weak or needing assistance. To her there can be no other conclusion except the once she has in her mind. This is a very dangerous person; she has proven that she can make up any nonsense in her mind and since she is female any complaints she takes to… | /r/MensRights | 26/04/24 02:59 PM |
| 2 | Jury Convicts NYC Man Over Gunsmithing Hobby After Judge Says “The Second Amendment Doesn’t Exist Here”When those who are responsible for maintaining the system ignore the rules of the system then the system is failing. Unfortunately this is happening in many parts of this country. Basically the system is succumbing to entropy. Unfortunately, it will only get worse because of the uniparty that is currently in charge. | /r/MensRights | 26/04/24 01:57 AM |
| 3 | Is alimony based on past or future income?OP, follow this advice. File as fast as you can, then get your financial affidavits in order and submitted PRIOR to any changes in your income. Be aware, she can absolutely drag it out for a couple years then request new financial affidavits if she even has a whiff of a change in your income. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/24 12:37 PM |
| 3 | Wife threatening to quit her job.Watch out for her moving and taking the kids. She can file in the other state and claim residence there. Watch the movie "Marriage Story", the woman does it in that movie and fucks over the guy. Her income should be imputed, if she's capable of working but refuses. Record everything, don't ever turn off that recorder. If she attacked you then you need to call the police. So many fucking times men on here talk about how they were attacked but never call the police. It's fucking stupid for them no… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/24 11:24 AM |
| 1 | why is the orgasm gap (whether real or not) part of the cultural discussion about gender and relationships?It wasn't (initially) religion in the US, it was strictly to control male sexuality. Only later was it retroactively mapped to religion. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/24 02:18 AM |
| 5 | why is the orgasm gap (whether real or not) part of the cultural discussion about gender and relationships?Everyone fakes orgasms at times, at the end of the day you just don't want to hurt your partners feelings. It's sometimes to avoid the emotional abuse that follows failure to have an orgasm. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/24 02:16 AM |
| 3 | Sex is overratedNews Flash: 22 year old virgin has declared sex overrated. Here's Tom with the weather Glad to hear you're living the life you want to live. Your needs are unique to you. The act of sex is different for everybody, it's good and bad parts, are extremely dependent. But it's pretty silly for a virgin to proclaim that sex is overrated. | /r/MensRights | 24/04/24 10:11 PM |
| 4 | "You should be a crash test dummy for any woman in danger or else you're a weak man"Note that she turns around to the guy and spreads her hands like she's asking why he didn't do anything. | /r/MensRights | 23/04/24 05:38 PM |
| 2 | "You should be a crash test dummy for any woman in danger or else you're a weak man"Check out the X link. | /r/MensRights | 23/04/24 04:40 PM |
| 1 | I filed the paperwork for divorce today.Have you removed her name as an authorized user on any credit cards under your name? My ex-wife put $5000 on a retainer then prepaid another $10,000 on my credit card and I was stuck with that debt since the card was under my name. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 02:57 PM |
| -1 | If she wants to take half of his hard earned income, what’s his motivation not to let it all burn in attorney fees? Asking for a friend.From the community info: State (if in the U.S.) or country Children, how many, what age Whether divorce or separation agreement has already been filed, and on what grounds Whether you already have legal representation Your living arrangements (do not leave your home) If there are active restraining orders against you or the ex | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 12:45 PM |
| 1 | If you want to lose humanity in womenThe hormones for ovulation are what causes the aggressive sexuality... Those hormones don't pop up then disappear from the body immediately. Also, there are apps that track ovulation. But the point is, around a woman's ovulation she is sexually aggressive. You're making a straw man argument. Also, OP wasn't talking about you specifically; and the fact that you do not (assuming you could recognize it in the first place) has zero bearing on OPs statement. What you did is called "female solipsism" … | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 07:37 PM |
| 57 | A girl is telling my friends that I’m gay because I didn’t want to fuck herWomen cannot control men who don't want to fuck them. For a woman like this, the one thing of value she has to a man is her vagina. You did good walking away, that means she has no power over you... Which is exactly why she is trying to hurt you through social destruction, plus she's attempting to turn other women off to you to increase her future chances with you. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 07:30 PM |
| 11 | If you want to lose humanity in womenabsolutely zero ability to see things from a perspective other than their own There are two types of empathy, cognitive and emotional (or emotive)... Women tend to only have emotional empathy, which means they literally feel other people's feelings. Cognitive empathy, which is mostly a male trait, means that person can logically put themselves in another person's place. This has the unfortunate side effect of leaving them totally unable to understand a man who isn't very emotionally emotive, and… | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 03:05 PM |
| 4 | If you want to lose humanity in womenI'm glad I'm not the only guy that would fake an orgasm during sex. My ex would get emotionally abusive if I didn't want to have sex with her, especially when she had been drinking (that was such a huge turnoff). If I did give in then I would wear a condom so it was easier to cover up faking it. I did this because if I didn't finish then it would become a whole other thing about how I didn't find her attractive enough to orgasm. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 02:55 PM |
| 3 | If you want to lose humanity in womenWho said anything about sex when the woman is menstruating? | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 02:49 PM |
| 6 | If you don’t like Taylor swift it’s because you don’t like women, even if you like Florece + MachineThis behavior was a shit test, she wants to see if you have a spine and will stand up to her. Some people say Shit Tests are an RP or PUA concept, but I say they are typically behaviors from women in relationships. Google it for yourself. The best time in a relationship is while dating. She should be putting out all the time, hanging on what you say, and trying to constantly win your affection; not insulting you because of your music preferences. Once you get married she's no longer required to … | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 01:08 PM |
| 3 | When is a good time to block on social mediaJust unfollow her. But also, get off all social media. Disable all your accounts, if she asks why you didn't respond tell her you're taking a break from SM. Personally, getting off SM was a huge improvement to my mental health. Regardless of how I told myself I didn't care about how many likes I received, I checked that shit and got frustrated when nobody likes my stuff. Every body seemed to be happy, which added to my frustration. But it's all curated to show everyone in their best light. I del… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 12:56 PM |
| 2 | Red flag in a women both for office space and marriage?If it's not in your job description then you are not required to go. If you decline they they need to have a business reason for you to be there. If they tell you it's a business function then the company doesn't have to the right to make you use your personal money for a business expense. If you get paid by the hour then if they say it's a business function then you need to be paid for your time. Man, there's planty of ways for you to get out of this. But to answer your original question, if yo… | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Genuinely curious about if this is how men think.You're saying you made the generalization that all red pill men say this because you've never heard someone who isn't a red pill make the same statement??? That seems even worse. You know, I've heard women say "kill all men". I've never heard a man say the same thing. I guess this means that all women think that all men should be killed. Right? | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 04:41 AM |
| 3 | Red flag in a women both for office space and marriage?Is it required to go to these events? If you politely decline then will it negatively affect your job? | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 04:35 AM |
| 2 | Red flag in a women both for office space and marriage?What county are you in where your work makes you take your female coworkers out and pay for them? | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Genuinely curious about if this is how men think.Just an observation: Why do red pill guys say.... You generalize Red Pill men saying something... Then ask... Why do they make such inaccurate generalizations when 100% of single women don’t own cats? ... Why they make a generalization that isn't 100%. But your statement is also a generalization and isn't 100% true. As to your question: A generalization isn't meant to be 100% true, it's something that is generally understood to be true, and the exception doesn't disprove the generalization. One … | /r/MensRights | 21/04/24 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Would it still be that “women are happier single” if they didn’t get all the special treatment single women are freely given?Thanks for sharing, I agree with practically all of what you said. I would also like to point out that it is women who dictate how men behave. Via research done by evolutionary psychologists we know that men do not show emotion because women find men who show vulnerability as repulsive. It is common in our society for women to say they want an emotional man, when in reality they want men to act emotional as a female friend would, but they don't want to have sex with (or reproduce with) a man who… | /r/MensRights | 20/04/24 02:47 PM |
| 1 | From a Outsider wanting to understand your viewsI suggest you read "The Evolution of Desire" by David M. Buss, it explains from an evolutionary standpoint how our past shaped our current sexual strategies. His group carried out a huge research program across the globe, and this is the results of that study. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/24 12:26 PM |
| 2 | From a Outsider wanting to understand your viewsThe first point is because I see some of you wanting such a era where men had to be providers to someone other than their own Men, in general, evolved to be providers. Many men have more of that need than others so (similar to how some women really want kids and so the motherly thing, while others actively dislike children) they may post things that state their desire to be in a relationship where they are the provider. Imagine being a person who wanted to be a provider that has to listen to the… | /r/MensRights | 20/04/24 02:30 AM |
| 7 | Something that never made sense about Men's Rights and Marxism, The far Left, etcIt's OK to generalize about a group of people if that group follows recognizable patterns, it's not OK to generalize about specific people. Also, we're not talking about you specifically. Thanks for providing an example of female solipsism. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/24 04:28 PM |
| -1 | My ex ruined my lifeWalk the fuck away from this women, zero contact with her or anybody who interacts with her. Like, holy shit man, you're your own worst enemy here. Not trying to be mean, but you wrote that huge wall of text largely made up of how terrible she treated you, and you don't even recognize that you're the problem. At one point you took this woman into a pub hoping that giving her alcohol will get her to treat you better? For some reason, and I don't believe you can say this is due to codependency iss… | /r/MensRights | 19/04/24 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone successfully paid out their MSA in installments?It's very bad advice to tell a man to purposely not follow a divorce agreement. Courts send men to jail if they don't pay, whereas women tend to get passes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 08:15 PM |
| 5 | Do white women tend to hire other white women?DEI is sanctioned systemic discrimination. It falls under ESG, which is a contrived metric used to "assess" a company's "risk" relating to environmental, social, and governance factors. ESG as a bureaucratic tool used by leftist bureaucrats to force financial institutions to push leftist political ideology by threatening large brokerage firms with the loss of managing state and federal retirement plans. Companies, such as media and tech, are required to have high ESG scores in order to finance t… | /r/MensRights | 18/04/24 04:29 PM |
| 17 | I'm a single mom. I date - but I don't date single dads.I feel sorry for her ex husband. I can't imagine being married to her was easy considering how selfish she is. | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 11:19 PM |
| 50 | Reminder: When she says she hates men, believe her the first time.If she says that you‘re different, it‘s just because she finds you physically attractive Besides her being attracted to you, if she's financially dependent on you then you don't count either. My (now ex) wife said this to me once. When I called her out she said it doesn't mean what it sounds like it means, it's only expressing frustration. When I asked if I can say the same thing about women she said I cannot because I'm a man. At that point I knew what her true feelings were and that I married … | /r/MensRights | 16/04/24 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Couple of steps closerYou're taking the steps necessary to separate yourself from her. These are good things. Give yourself some credit, pat yourself on the back that you're taking steps to move your life forward. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/24 07:24 PM |
| -2 | #1 WNBA draft pick Caitlin Clark will make $76k her first year. Get ready for it...I assume you are talking about the man on the left. It's about time they let males into the WNBA. | /r/MensRights | 16/04/24 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Making the decisionWhat are the things that need to occur, or behaviors that need to change, so that both of you will be happy in your marriage. For those necessary changes you've identified, how probable is it that the changes will occur. Keep in mind, you cannot make her change, any changes she makes will have to come from within her, meaning she will need to be introspective and hold herself accountable. This is not the time to be hopeful, or optimistic; you need to be absolutely realistic. Also keep in mind, y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/24 02:18 PM |
| 3 | How to explain to my girlfriend that I don't want to get married in the future but still want to be committed to herYou should read "The Evolution of Desire", it explains why women want to be married. It all boils down to security and resources... Women have evolved to need these things, they exchange access to sex these things. Unfortunately (and partially thanks to No fault Divorce laws), there's no guarantee that women will hold up their end of the bargain, but the court WILL hold the men accountable. This is why marriage is not beneficial to men because their access to sex can be removed for any reason. | /r/MensRights | 16/04/24 01:10 PM |
| 3 | How to explain to my girlfriend that I don't want to get married in the future but still want to be committed to herPrenups get thrown out all the time... This is a common tactic: the male presents the prenup well before the wedding, the female finds reasons not to sign it, then the day of she reluctantly signs the agreement. When she does something to break the contract she then claims the pressure of the wedding was in fact coercive. The family court system is designed to believe the female, so the judge tosses out the prenup. | /r/MensRights | 16/04/24 11:45 AM |
| 8 | What should be done about cam whores?You really don't know what you're talking about. You should get off the Internet, you aren't self-aware enough to use it safely. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/24 07:51 PM |
| 74 | What should be done about cam whores?I don't have any cam whores on my YouTube feed. If the algorithm is thinking that's what you want to see then maybe you need to review your Internet usage. I'm getting vibes from you similar to those preachers who give fiery sermons against homosexuality but then are arrested for abusing young boys. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/24 04:33 PM |
| 4 | Divorcing my wife, and I don't know how to navigate the kids part.You are correct in that since they are not biological hers, and assuming she didn't adopt them, she can no longer be in their life until they are adults and can make that decision themselves. It's not up to them until they are 18. How do you tell her? Tell her that she has no legal rights to see the kids, and your lawyer advised you to not allow contact. Even better if your lawyer can tell her lawyer. She has no claim, she needs her lawyer to explain that to her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/24 03:45 PM |
| 16 | HR complaint at my companyContact your state Equal Employment Office and file a claim with them. They will open an investigation into your circumstances. If they don't you are being discriminated against them they will fine your company, then you can use that as a basis for a civil lawsuit. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/24 04:57 AM |
| 18 | New misandry discovered. Men who get sick from seeing blood from their wives labor is "pathetic".My ex had a C-section, I got a look at the carnage before she was closed, it was VERY rough. That being said, I didn't leave, but I have a fairly strong constitution. Some men can't handle certain triggers, I don't think he's less of a man, I don't know what his story is so I cannot judge him.... That being said, I don't think it's right for any women to judge him other than his wife. People who would attack this guy on Reddit for being triggered, well, those people are pieces of shit. Yes, misa… | /r/MensRights | 14/04/24 04:56 AM |
| 21 | Despair makes young US men more conservative ahead of US election, poll showsI didn't leave the Democrat party, the Democrat party left me. I just assume that all men who support the Democrat party do not actually understand what the Democrat party represents, or they do and they're willing to throw all other men under the bus for power or pussy. The Republican party has zero respect for men, they view other men as disposable. Period. From a Men's Rights perspective I cannot support either party. | /r/MensRights | 14/04/24 04:41 AM |
| 3 | He was emotionally abusive and narcissisticDJT is a divisive person, in any context. You know exactly what you're doing when you bring him into any conversation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 11:12 PM |
| 3 | He was emotionally abusive and narcissisticI'm amazed at how men will marry a woman who clearly steamrolled their husbands in a divorce. A prime example is the breakdancing dad who's story came out recently. After what she did to him it's hard to believe that another guy would want to marry her. Talk about playing with fire. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 12:02 PM |
| 1 | He was emotionally abusive and narcissisticLeave the political bullshit out of this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 11:59 AM |
| 9 | Do not want a divorceshe is demanding that I sign my acceptance of this Do not sign anything without talking to a lawyer first... Somebody who will advocate for you. I cannot think of her being with another man You have to let this go, you can't control it, you have to just accept it. Easier said than done, but you can't stress over something you have zero control over and will happen regardless of what you do. she is just pressing so hard, cannot she change her mind and move break in Man, you need to get your shit … | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 09:04 PM |
| 20 | This has to be satire right? I can't believe how far females will go to victimise themselves.Because in the current iteration of The Matrix a woman can have a penis. | /r/MensRights | 11/04/24 04:00 PM |
| 9 | Feeling better...Looking back on all my relationships I am unable to think of a single one where the woman wasn't a drag on some aspect of my situation/life. Typically it was financial, some of them were emotional (either being toxic or needy), and a number of them were physical (where I did all the house work, yard work, date/trip planning, moving, etc). My life is simply better when I don't have a woman dependent on me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 03:55 PM |
| 7 | "Men have no feelings"Not sure why you're getting downvoted. There are plenty of times in the past where my ignorance of male issues left me at a disadvantage in gender-related discussions. | /r/MensRights | 11/04/24 03:19 PM |
| 7 | What a funny way to tell on yourself... If they ask you for an open marriage and you never gave any signs of wishing for such a thing, better be looking for lawyer ASAPYep. Women want to fuck the exciting "bad boys", but they settle for regular men (who are usually perfectly happy with open access to predictable sex with the same person) to get their financial/family needs met. It's ironic that men are considered the horny sex when in actuality it's women that want to experience extraordinary sexual encounters. Men and society have been socialized to view women as proper and civilized and men as animalistic when the reality is opposite. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 02:40 PM |
| 12 | What a funny way to tell on yourself... If they ask you for an open marriage and you never gave any signs of wishing for such a thing, better be looking for lawyer ASAPA typical woman bases her decisions on feelings. Feelings produce dopamine in women. Dopamine makes humans feel good. This is part of female nature. It's not a bad thing, it just is. Unfortunately the effects of dopamine are similar to other drugs, the same input produces diminishing results over time. Therefore, if a woman feels like her man isn't meeting her needs, even if he is, then she will look for another man. Once the woman finds another man who makes her feel good, she will focus all he… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 01:04 PM |
| 1 | She misstated her income in the separation agreement. What to do?I agree with the others, you're paying for her to go away. It seems like a large sum of money, but it's probably the best money you'll ever spend since it will get her out of your life. Good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 12:22 PM |
| 2 | She misstated her income in the separation agreement. What to do?I feel you man, my ex refused to work but spent money like were were a dual-income household, that's one of the reasons I divorced her. You haven't specified the length of the marriage or if you have any kids, retirement income split, etc. There's a lot of factors that could come into play here. Is the $30k in lieu of alimony? If she's not getting anything else, and you don't have any kids, and married less than 10 years then I would let her have it. If she's getting a huge chunk of your retirem… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/24 07:28 PM |
| 2 | She misstated her income in the separation agreement. What to do?What is your gross income? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/24 11:18 AM |
| 25 | Influencer admits faking child abuse to screw her husband. ZERO consequences.Her publicly admitting this is enough for him to sue her in civil court... If he sees it. | /r/MensRights | 09/04/24 07:45 PM |
| 7 | Filed yesterdayThere are many reasons a woman can lose attraction. She might see you as lesser if she works more and earns more than you (female hypergamy). If she is the type of woman who needs a man to take the lead to be attracted to him, and due to her work/schooling she has other men in her life who do that she might see you as less masculine. She might not have ever actually been attracted to you (https://youtu.be/RIJavth0a9c). I'm sorry you're going thru this, it's very hard. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/24 05:37 PM |
| 14 | Filed yesterdayMan, I am freaking way better after being divorced. Some people, no matter how attentive their partner is being, will lose attraction. Being more attentive can have negative affects on men, such as being manipulated and losing agency. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/24 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Should I get a divorce lawyer?First off, she's basically threatening you that if you don't do what she wants (which is you staying in the dark with no lawyer) that she'll get her own lawyer. I've never heard of a bipolar person being agreeable during a divorce. The thing with bipolar people is that you never know where they will be from one moment to the next. If she's on meds she will likely get better, then she gets it in her head (because she's stable and feeling good) that she doesn't need the meds then her behavior goes… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/24 03:24 PM |
| 44 | How have you felt demonized as a man over the course of your life?I had a conflict with a noisy apartment neighbor. I never had any direct interaction with her whatsoever, i brought all my concerns to the apartment management. I heard her one day talking to a friend on her balcony, they were discussing calling the police and reporting me for harassment. Her friend who she was talking to made the statement "call the police on him for harassment, they'll believe you over a man". Not sure if this is demonizing as much as it is expecting the police to demonize me.… | /r/MensRights | 09/04/24 03:16 PM |
| 4 | World changed right before my eyes.lack of gender roles destroyed my marriage Stop making excuses why your marriage failed. I think there's truth in what OP stated. Though the underlying reason for the lack of gender roles was due to him not assuming (or upholding) his masculine role... When there's a power vacuum somebody will step in, in this case it sounds like his wife did, which was probably not a role she was suited for. In our society men are told not to be masculine. Demonizing OP for his lack of knowledge around gender r… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/24 01:11 PM |
| 20 | World changed right before my eyes.He was simping for a chance to fuck her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/24 12:32 PM |
| 4 | How are you guys with the exes family.My ex's family loves me and I love them. I hang out with her family more than she does, they've basically stopped communicating with her because of her behavior. They are good caring people, she treats them like shit. I speak with all of her family at holidays and a few times throughout the year just to keep in touch. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/24 12:31 PM |
| 4 | Toxic FemininityWhat does the book White Fragility have to do with anything else you wrote? | /r/MensRights | 08/04/24 01:51 AM |
| 3 | QDRO issues OhioWas there a time frame specified for the QDRO to be submitted? File a motion to compel with the court, or you can make a motion that the court amend the agreement to drop the QDRO portion all together, and you keep half of the retirement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/24 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Can a woman be booked in rape case? Supreme Court takes up plea | India News - Times of IndiaHate against the politically demarcated nation state that is the Republic of India? | /r/MensRights | 07/04/24 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Did anybody have very bad fights before divorce?My ex and I had some pretty bad fights leading up to me deciding divorce was the only option. That being said, I learned during and after the divorce, that there's really no point in fighting with a woman because men and women fight differently; men try to use logic and reason during a fight, women go off emotions, and those two things are simply incompatible. Since the divorce my ex tries to start fights for any reason she can and now that I know how to handle it and so her attempts go nowhere … | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/24 06:18 PM |
| 10 | Your thoughts on male circumssision?It's a way for women to suppress male sexuality as it reduces sensitivity by 90%. Females make up a majority of obgyns and pediatricians. They perform a majority of the procedures themselves, and females overwhelmingly prefer cutting their male offspring. | /r/MensRights | 04/04/24 08:00 PM |
| 0 | "Why do you think that the majority of violent crime in the United States is committed by men?"- assignment question in my class.I'm not upset, you just made a stupid and unsubstantiated claim. You linked to a study, not an article. Please provide a link to what you are referencing. | /r/MensRights | 03/04/24 08:28 PM |
| 5 | "Why do you think that the majority of violent crime in the United States is committed by men?"- assignment question in my class.and that their crime is often attributed to a mental condition or cannabis use I'm calling total bullshit on the cannabis claim, unless you have some proof of this... The study you linked doesn't say anything whatsoever about cannabis. | /r/MensRights | 03/04/24 07:59 PM |
| 3 | Immediately after she left, my income doubled.Thanks! I'm lucky to have a middle-income job, and can control my spending. It's ironic that I'm now doing all the things she wanted to do (using my money) but never did because of her spending issues, such as traveling to other countries. I have no doubt my ex can't even acknowledge that had she had her shit together and wasn't abusive to me I wouldn't have divorced her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 07:53 PM |
| 209 | UK: Female head teacher sexually harassed male worker by saying he looked ‘fit’ in Speedos.I think this has happened forever, it's just getting more attention right now. | /r/MensRights | 03/04/24 03:03 PM |
| 18 | Immediately after she left, my income doubled.Same here except my salary didn't increase, I just no longer have a financial leech feeding off my hard work. I made back in 2 years the amount my ex took from my 401k. We lived paycheck to paycheck for almost a decade, now I have a 6 month emergency fund and I'm saving 30% of my monthly income and have multiple brokerage accounts to which I'm automatically adding to each month. I've climbed the credit card ladder, purchase everything on a card (which are automatically paid off each week) and ev… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 12:24 AM |
| 2 | Shakira Says 'Barbie' Sent Wrong Message About FeminismInitially I was trying to figure out what it was saying as well... Until Ken started talking to the men in the real world and how the exaggerated all the negative male qualities, then I realized what the movie was about. Of course the feminist rant that the woman made at the end of the movie was expected at that point. There was a real opportunity for them to paint both Barbie and Ken/men in a good light, but they didn't. Somebody needs to make a movie about how Barbie is an overbearing and oppr… | /r/MensRights | 02/04/24 01:54 PM |
| 11 | Question: Women have arguably more political influence and much firmer consumer purchasing power, so then how, logically, are women a minority again?Feminism created a gynocentric society which disproportionately negatively affects men. This sub exists to highlight and work to fix these societal issues. In order to do this we need to highlight the disparity between men and women in what category, it's the fundamental basis for this sub's existence. You, in typically feminist fashion, are trying to deny us men (and those that support us) our right to speak and promote our ideas. You exemplify the fascist mindset that is modern feminism. | /r/MensRights | 02/04/24 01:37 PM |
| 2 | She says she is no longer attracted to me and we have never been sexually compatible, um, what?Bingo! Judge a woman by her actions, not her words. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 02:00 AM |
| 15 | Do all Women call names during arguments?Why are you arguing with her? You're divorcing her, don't let her goad you into an argument. You will never win an argument with her, you will never get her to understand your point of view (because she doesn't care), you won't change her mind, and the argument she's having is different than the one you're having. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/24 02:25 PM |
| 34 | Scrolled through r/feminismSame thing with open office spaces. It's the feminist methodology; find a situation/scenario, identify one way that a female is inconvenienced in that situation/scenario, then claim that situation/scenario is sexist. | /r/MensRights | 31/03/24 02:20 PM |
| 12 | She canceled mediationIf she's one of those women that doesn't understand money then she probably "feels" like you have a bunch of money that you don't actually have. Watch out because she will burn everything to get what doesn't exist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/24 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Will this backfire? Thinking about asking STBXW'S parents to pls reason with herI agree with others, going to her parents won't gain you anything, and it might seem to them that you're asking them to take a side, which could sour your relationship with them. Don't take a chance on burning that bridge, especially with such a low chance of success anyways. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/24 10:13 PM |
| 3 | Always the victim...Something I noticed with my ex and her friends, they all "deserved x" because they were women and they were always saying "it's not my fault" when they do something stupid or something happens to them. I don't think I've ever heard a man say they deserved something, and I also only hear kids say "it's not my fault". Adult men don't do that, and when they do people think less of them. And yet, it's not all, but it's only women that act like this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/24 09:07 PM |
| 12 | Discrimination against men isn't a problem, it's an art formI noticed nobody has pointed this out yet.... Mona’s legal team will be relying on the tribunal’s interpretation of section 26 of Tasmania’s Anti-Discrimination Act, under which a person is permitted to discriminate against another person in a situation designed to promote equal opportunity for a group of people who are disadvantaged or have a special need because of a prescribed attribute – in this case gender. So discrimination against men is systemically legal in Tasmania. | /r/MensRights | 27/03/24 01:43 PM |
| 3 | This is what they do!!!!In defense of DivorceDaddy, I think he's right. Sure, it's hard to not do something sometimes... In this case it's getting angry. I was in the same boat initially, I would let my ex get to me, but then a switch clicked, and now I just respond with what I call "dead comments"; specifically she makes some outlandish claim or statement, I just say "ok" or "sure". She called me names, I just say "thanks". It's hard to mentally get to the point where responding like that is easy (or maybe second natu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/24 03:06 AM |
| 3 | Did any of you guys take off from work when fighting divorce case? It is really draining me mentally I am unable to focus at work, especially when I think that I may lose my kids.Take a fees days or long weekend off if you can. Go camping, sleep in your car if necessary, just to get away, go for some long hikes. Your brain needs to be reset back to fundamentals (i.e. nature) every now and then. I did that multiple times during my divorce, it was a great way to refresh. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/24 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Judge refuses immunity to prosecutor who made crucial mistake in Alice Sebold rape caseTypically in a criminal court the prosecutor needs to prove "beyond a reasonable doubt" that somebody committed a crime, assuming there is a prosecutor that will take the case. If there's a civil trial, then the plaintiff needs to prove "preponderance of the evidence", which is a lower standard... But that would be hinged in proving misconduct. Additionally, the (original) prosecutor could claim that the government, not her, is ultimately responsible. Driving and killing somebody is a bit differ… | /r/MensRights | 25/03/24 07:02 PM |
| 4 | Advocating against trans women in women's changing rooms, is advocating a right that women have already taken from men.The word "woman" was directly linked to those of the female sex, then gender ideology de-linked those two, except normal people and companies still use the word "woman" or "women" in their titles. If women's sports were renamed such that the use of woman/women is changed to female/females then could the argument be made that trans women should be able to compete in female sports? | /r/MensRights | 25/03/24 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Brother afraid that if he gets to divorce crazy wife might take kidsYou need to give your brother the link to this sub and have him post here, then we can discuss it with him directly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/24 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Can you request a new Judge assigned to the divorce court date?In my county they have online records, one can pull up a list of all the cases a judge works on and all the documents, including the court orders and even divorce agreements between two couples where the judge signs off, personal information and all (hell, mine even includes partial bank account numbers, property division, and custody schedules. The only time a judge will keep these documents from the public is if there is extremely damaging information in them, but that is a very high bar. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/24 12:20 PM |
| 6 | Can you request a new Judge assigned to the divorce court date?I was warned that conservative judges tended to have more anti-male biased in family court due to their ideas of man being the provider and women being less capable of supporting themselves. I was told liberal judges tens to expect more from the women. Can you go into your county's online records and find the cases the judge presided over and review them for any signs of bias? | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/24 01:06 AM |
| 27 | Judge refuses immunity to prosecutor who made crucial mistake in Alice Sebold rape caseSo a white women gets raped, a white female prosecutor convinces the victim she is wrong when the victim identifies a different black man, then the white victim goes on to blame the wrong black man in court. It will be impossible for anybody to hold the female prosecutor responsible because they will need to prove it was purposeful. MAYBE/HOPEFULLY Broadwater will be able to get money from the government, but neither of these women, both of whom caused this man's incarceration, will actually be … | /r/MensRights | 25/03/24 12:18 AM |
| 0 | Why so many decent single men are singleNo, you simply listed a number of reasons why you think why so many decent men are single, and all your reasons basically say it's the men's fault. | /r/MensRights | 23/03/24 05:45 PM |
| -10 | Why so many decent single men are singleGlad you made sure it's only men that are the problem | /r/MensRights | 23/03/24 05:05 PM |
| 13 | Why so many decent single men are singleSame here. Why take a woman on a date, maybe get a peck on the cheek at the end of the date, then she calls up her FWB Chad to get railed to work off the calories you paid for. I'd like to own a home one day, but between interest rates and I have a leeching ex wife, that is nearly impossible. | /r/MensRights | 23/03/24 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Why does nobody want a genuine relationship nowadays?Yep. When I go to the grocery with my son on my shoulders I get lots of attention from women. | /r/MensRights | 21/03/24 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Asking for a divorceIt sounds like you're in a very disfunctional relationship with somebody who has a history of trauma. Do you see her ever getting better, or changing her behavior (knowing that any change she makes HAS to come from within her)? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/24 01:59 PM |
| 16 | Why does nobody want a genuine relationship nowadays?I'm an OK looking guy who dresses well and is in shape... And yet I'm basically invisible to women. Not even a second glance from any women at the grocery store, EXCEPT when I have my son, then I get attention. That tells me all I need to know. | /r/MensRights | 21/03/24 12:34 PM |
| 3 | Asking for a divorceHer behavior is a huge red flag. She's manipulating you in order to get something from you, it could be attention, or capitulation, or even just to inject some drama into her own life. Some women crave drama to the point where they will create it themselves... It provides dopamine for them. That being said, can you honestly say to yourself that you see her EVER taking responsibility for her actions and actively working to correct them? My ex did the same thing to me, literally every fight we had… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/24 12:30 PM |
| 7 | BillsGet the fuck off social media. It's algorithms amplify negative and inflammatory content to generate impressions, which usually means catering to trashy videos like you describe. Don't be a slave to the system. | /r/MensRights | 21/03/24 12:15 PM |
| 8 | Question about men cryingThis really depends on the woman. But, the underlying problem is that for some women it is a problem for them to see a man cry. The woman's response to a man crying is purely emotional, therefore there's no way to know if any given women at any given time will be OK with a/her man crying. Something like a funeral of a loved one is easy because there's a good chance the woman will be feeling the same way as the man; but imagine having a REALLY bad day and crying, if she's not having a bad day the… | /r/MensRights | 19/03/24 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Just got served tonightdo they manipulate the process in doing so, potentially to the detriment of one of the parties? Yes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 05:34 AM |
| 10 | According to HR ladies the fact that HR is 84% female is OK the important thin g is to get more female executivesThat happened to a young male coworker I knew who was a friend. He was sexually harassed by a woman who worked in HR, and after he reported the incident to HR he was ostracized from our team because my supervisor was female and told me she didnt believe women can sexually harass men (BTW, she was VERY conservative and still thought this). Eventually he was forced to leave the company. | /r/MensRights | 16/03/24 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Just got served tonightWatch out for the mediator, if it's a woman and her and/or her attorney recommend/ask for a specific one. You want a mediator that YOU hire, because they are all friends/acquaintances in the background so you don't want the one that she picks to give her an unfair advantage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/24 03:30 PM |
| -3 | Divorced man of 40, father of 3 beautiful kids, how difficult is it to have a fresh start at life?I let her keep the kids custody as I believe it is in their best interest. Need more detail. Did you abuse them? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/24 02:26 PM |
| 3 | Maine to become first state to decriminalize prostitution -- only for selling sex, not paying for itWhile I don't disagree that prostitution in its current form is terrible for women, and we're talking over the entire world, there are countries where is it legal and from what I understand not too bad for the women. The article you linked makes general claims that are relating to women all over the world, whereas you're making specific claims. OP was referring to Maine and I assume the US, which is what I'm referring too. Back to the article you linked, i cannot find anything in there that stat… | /r/MensRights | 16/03/24 12:32 AM |
| 4 | Maine to become first state to decriminalize prostitution -- only for selling sex, not paying for itThat makes no sense whatsoever. What does getting raped have to do with a person being there "by choice"... One has to be put into a position of being raped before they can be raped. Being in the position is what were talking about, not the consequences of being in the position. | /r/MensRights | 15/03/24 09:10 PM |
| 6 | Complaint and affidavits complete. Why am I hesitant to pull the trigger?Society has conditioned you to think that your job in life is to sacrifice your life and happiness for your wife and family. You're about to break that conditioning and it's attempting to reassert itself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/24 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Did you used to consider yourself somewhat socially liberal until you got older and realized how toxic and misandrist the left was?I no longer identify as politically anything, left and right have no meaning to me anymore. I pick a topic and have an opinion on it, I laugh at people with TDS and I laugh at people who go around waving rebel flags. It's all so silly because they're all the same, all they do is bitch about the other side without getting anything accomplished that they say they will... And of course they just blame their failure on the other side. It's never ending. | /r/MensRights | 15/03/24 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Wife is moving out tomorrow.Have you filed for divorce yet? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/24 07:57 PM |
| 12 | Maine to become first state to decriminalize prostitution -- only for selling sex, not paying for itHow many people work at Walmart or McDonald's by choice? "By choice" is a very generic label. | /r/MensRights | 14/03/24 07:47 PM |
| 5 | Hooked up with somebody for the first time since the divorce, not sure how to feel about itI didn't know they were a thing until a buddy was telling me about a girl we both knew from high school who contacted him right after his divorce... He hooked up with her the same day they met and were FWBs for a few months. They hadn't seen each other for 15 years (we're older) so I thought that was a bit weird. She ended up contacting me immediately after my divorce and was wanting to get together for drinks. I hadn't talked to her in two decades and I wasn't even directly friends with her, sh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/24 04:41 PM |
| 5 | Hooked up with somebody for the first time since the divorce, not sure how to feel about itWatch out for what I call "Facebook Divorce Vultures", these are women who have a ton of male friends on FB and when they see a guy change his status from married to anything else they swoop in and use his emotional vulnerabilities or lack of physical attention as a way to get their own needs met. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/24 03:03 PM |
| 13 | Career women don't respect their stay at home husbandsRomance novels, modern movies featuring girl bosses, and other female-centric drama porn are the female equivalent of pornography for men. | /r/MensRights | 11/03/24 05:19 PM |
| 2 | German police conduct raids against “people” (meaning men) suspected of posting misogynistic hate speech onlineVPN. All day every day. | /r/MensRights | 11/03/24 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Honestly it is not a good look that men only bring up international men's day on international women's day but never talk about it on the actual dayIn 2023 our company had 4 articles about IWD on our company's internal website. I tried bringing it up to our HR department 3 weeks before the last one IMD 2023), and I offered to write an article for our company's internal website. I was first told it's not a thing, then when I sent proof I was told that is not an event that would fall under our DEI initiative. (I would assume that IWD does fall under it). I plan on asking again this year. | /r/MensRights | 11/03/24 01:47 PM |
| 4 | Wife wants a divorceYou've left out quite a bit of information. There are a few indicators you can use to see if your relationship is salvageable. https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/ However, I am of the opinion, based on attending 4 different marriage counseling sessions during my failed marriage, and being on this sub for years, that marriage counseling if you see a female counselor, is an absolute waste of time. Women process information d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/24 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Technically not married, but in need of advice..When I stated the leverage comment, I meant claims of abandonment... Though I didn't make that clear and my statement might be based on my own bias as well. Would you agree he should not cover any of her expenses any longer? I feel like it’s just going to fund going to court later. I agree 100%. She pays her own expenses. Any money he gives her without a support order in place will be considered forfeit for back CS purposes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/24 01:37 AM |
| 7 | Office Encounter: International Women's Day vs. International Men's DayIn my experience it is HR's job to protect the company against lawsuits filed by women. | /r/MensRights | 09/03/24 06:28 PM |
| 4 | I hate it when feminists use "women's rights" to attack menmost of my employees are female You're playing with fire. I work at a company that is >75% female and I can tell you that at some point you will start having problems. All it takes is one disgruntled female ex employee to post something on FB about you and your fucked. | /r/MensRights | 09/03/24 03:11 PM |
| 17 | "Sexist men show a greater interest in robosexuality” : how fake research breeds more fake research, all in the name of demonizing male sexualityThose questions are a hoot. "Feminists are making entirely reasonable demands of men"... Strongly agree is less sexist, disagreeing is more sexist. However, it doesn't clarify "feminists" in any way and basically groups them all together and labels them as "good". | /r/MensRights | 09/03/24 02:48 PM |
| 5 | Technically not married, but in need of advice..Move back in; moving out will set the baseline and give her all the leverage. If you've already moved out then move back in, today. If she complains you just tell her it's your home too and she cannot force you out (at this point she may resort to false DV charges to get a TRO). You need to find out how many nights you need to sleep there to legally considered that your home. Basically you're paying her $1600/mth and she receives $1000/mth income from the other side of the house? Your take-home … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/24 01:56 PM |
| 5 | I'm dumb...I filed, so my ex didn't catch me off guard on that. What did catch me off guard was how naive I was about women's (in)capacity for real love and the court systems bias against men. I had a rude awakening on how much I would be viewed as the bad guy simply for being the man. In my own mind I fell for the lie that is modern marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/24 11:27 PM |
| 4 | I don't want to live like this anymore.This is critical for boys and young men this days... They need to totally cut off all social media. It amplifies toxic anti-male propaganda and suppresses anything that is pro-men. | /r/MensRights | 08/03/24 08:22 PM |
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