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Yes she wants to hook up only
/r/seduction01/05/18 10:38 PM
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Add alcohol and initiate some kind of physical touch (handholding, leg rub, etc). That should get the juices flowing for a makeout. From there you’ll know what to do
/r/seduction23/04/18 09:11 PM
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It’s the same phenomenon when you have a gf and all of a sudden “when it rains it pours.” You’re not showing them attn and some of them are predisposed to get irritated by that lol. If you work on your “inner game” chances are they’ll be more attracted to you
/r/seduction23/04/18 09:02 PM
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My friends who are girls would tell me that they think it’s weird, not anybody who I met, so I’m just imagining it’s not just my friends. But I’ve definitely had success...it’s probably just a byproduct of the amount of effort I put into going out though. My mindset would be since my friends are useless I’m basically alone anyway so fuck it
/r/seduction13/04/18 10:21 AM
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I go out by myself but some girls think it’s weird. I’d rather go out in a group bc my energy is usually up when I’m talking to others so I’m already in the zone when I approach. Plus my friends are total pussies when it comes to girls so I don’t really have any competition.
/r/seduction12/04/18 05:20 PM
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Well if you think like that you can’t. You really have to like things about yourself in order to attract anyone, not just women.
/r/seduction09/04/18 08:42 AM
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I hear you but if you think this way then you’ve already defeated yourself. Your narrative is that you’re thinking about all the ways for people not to like you. Ask yourself what are your strengths and good qualities? Remind yourself of them often and try to nurture those. You seem like a pretty normal guy (in a text vacuum anyway) and someone with a lot of insight too. Yes, normal is a good quality. If you do have shortcomings what can you do to improve on them and ultimately turn them into a …
/r/seduction08/04/18 06:12 PM
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Maybe you can meet someone with similar challenges and connect? But I think socialization is the way to go. The more practice you get the better you’ll be at learning all the nuances in verbal and nonverbal convo that individuals with ASD might not ever grasp. Interact with as much women there too
/r/seduction07/04/18 09:39 AM
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I used to go out a lot by myself too. I usually try not to stay too long - just long enough to study the room and approach a girl that I’m interested in. If there’s no one there I leave and go to another bar (that works in this case because there are a half dozen to choose from within walking distance)
/r/seduction04/04/18 09:45 PM
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Well have you been asking her out and she’s saying no? Are you texting her often? If not you probably need to prioritize her more if you really like her, otherwise she’s going to think you’re not that into her, playing games, etc
/r/seduction04/04/18 08:08 PM
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Yes I think it does. But don’t secretly hold on to this one even though you walked away
/r/seduction04/04/18 02:06 PM
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And other studies show that attraction is established within fractions of a second
/r/seduction01/04/18 12:47 PM
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Yeah three days is enough time to waste before you get to ask her out. Then you’ll know what to do
/r/seduction30/03/18 03:26 PM
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Hilarious! Up your food game next time with something messier and go for the gusto
/r/seduction29/03/18 08:39 PM
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Make sure you make eye contact and smile when out and about. That’s the number one way to get a guy’s attention
/r/seduction29/03/18 05:12 PM
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Ooof idk man girl groups are as thick as thieves. You really can’t game plan that other trying to get her number early on
/r/seduction25/03/18 11:36 PM
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This was the best thing I read all day!! She probably exchanged numbers with you bc she knows she very well may use your number one day!
/r/seduction23/03/18 05:28 PM
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What?? You’re being a little dramatic lol. You didn’t humiliate yourself. Just keep it going with what you’re doing. With more practice it will feel normal.
/r/seduction18/03/18 06:47 PM
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Here’s the key-In the future don’t ask the girl if she minds bc 1) it gives her an opportunity to say no and 2) you don’t come across as confident that way. If you say instead, “i want your phone number so I can take you out” you come across with conviction and then that becomes your reality (iow we have to own what we put out there)...might take a little practice at first but you’ll not just give less fucks, but any fucks whatsoever.
/r/seduction18/03/18 06:35 PM
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I agree. I had a similar experience when I visited. The ladies are rabid there!
/r/seduction17/03/18 07:32 PM
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He’s a boy- he knows what to do with your number. You’re a girl - you don’t need to do anything else. They’re the ones who are supposed to pursue you, not the other way around. No matter how “evolved” we’ve become those rules haven’t changed.
/r/seduction17/03/18 10:22 AM
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Wait for him - he has your number. Don’t put cart before horse but these types of encounters aren’t friendship things
/r/seduction16/03/18 11:47 PM
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Yeah start making out in car and then go to hotel.
/r/seduction16/03/18 07:05 PM
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Never been on ok Cupid but for sure tinder and bumble - I’m assuming the same though
/r/seduction16/03/18 12:55 AM
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I agree. Looks are more about how you feel about your looks rather than how you might look to everyone else per se. Granted, I think this may depend on your choice of venue for mtg girls too. I have seen not so great looking guys pull off macking beautiful chicks irl, but don’t think it works the same in OLD. But a catchy, witty profile will certainly stand out even if you are an average looking guy.
/r/seduction15/03/18 11:09 PM
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Looks like rain is in the forecast lol
/r/seduction15/03/18 08:04 AM
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Ignore them totally unless they approach you.
/r/seduction11/03/18 11:35 AM
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Well ok maybe I should try that then lol
/r/seduction09/03/18 04:53 PM
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Good job. Keep it light - ask her questions, tell her funny stories that aren’t too inappropriate, and try to initiate some kind of physical contact (ie touching her shoulder, hand holding, etc) as the night goes on. This is assuming you’ll be into her. Good luck!
/r/seduction09/03/18 11:10 AM
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Sure is. That’s probably why some of us show up at libraries;). You should try to lock eyes with someone. Don’t approach without that cue
/r/seduction09/03/18 10:31 AM
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I’d say the girl was probably not into you and you overstayed your welcome in that situation. It happens to every single guy so don’t feel bad. Ideally, you’d give a little attention yourself and be the one who walks away. In the future just know that rejection is a normal part of the game and it will help you refocus on other girls
/r/seduction09/03/18 10:10 AM
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You could do museum or, my preference, a place with alcohol. Way too soon for cooking at your place
/r/seduction09/03/18 10:05 AM
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I like what the person said above me actually - gotta get the banter going and only when you feel that out as being positive then go for asking for phone number
/r/seduction07/03/18 09:16 PM
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It was really good in that you worked up the nerve to approach and followed through at the end to try to get her to go on a date (most ppl don’t do one or both of those things so, really, great job). Reading that, it seemed a bit formal and you probably needed to get your personality out there a little better - instead of asking real, almost like job interview questions, maybe ask joking questions instead (like ask her if working there is like -insert corny tv medical drama here-, or ask her som…
/r/seduction07/03/18 09:13 PM
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Amazing to read this- every time I think I have it nailed down I drop the ball just like that. Just off my game at the wrong time
/r/seduction04/03/18 07:40 PM
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Ok I reread everything again just now and have a better idea of what’s happening. She just wants attention. Nothing more. She gets off on sending the pics and it’s sex related- she doesn’t want your jokes. If I said anything like that before I was wrong (in a normal situation you can seduce a girl w your humor; with this chick it’s not going to work). She also has probably 10 dudes just like you doing the same thing and stimulating her with that kind of attention she wants. Move on and go for a …
/r/seduction03/03/18 02:49 AM
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1) make sure you’re meeting at a place with alcohol 2) while flirting w her keep it light - make her laugh if you can, but otherwise just stay away from deep shit like politics, religion, etc 3) after a drink or maybe two if you’re feeling a connection with her it’s safe to put your hand on her- touch shoulder, hand, etc 4) after a couple drinks and convo still going strong hold her hand, rub leg. 5) as long as that’s reciprocated you’re in 6) you can say let’s get out of here if no make out at …
/r/seduction02/03/18 11:38 PM
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Great response. Most of that I already have nailed down but the indifferent part is hard to nail down - I see certain girls irl, not just bartenders, and it’s like I get a bit of oneitis for them. Never with online dating though. There’s more of a challenge/hunt thing for me w them. Thx
/r/seduction02/03/18 11:10 PM
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True
/r/seduction02/03/18 03:57 PM
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Right on
/r/seduction02/03/18 03:57 PM
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Good shit ty
/r/seduction02/03/18 03:56 PM
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Yes. If she says no that’s OK then go for another girl
/r/seduction01/03/18 08:01 PM
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I just saw your second update. I’d still try to get her to meet you somewhere for a drink. If she balks just tell her it’s casual/no expectations
/r/seduction01/03/18 06:33 PM
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It’s a slam dunk. Well, it should be.
/r/seduction01/03/18 05:48 PM
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Yeah don’t overthink it. Just ask her to hang out
/r/seduction01/03/18 05:47 PM
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She’s dtf for sure but not worth anything more
/r/seduction01/03/18 04:49 PM
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Always have the escape plan ready lol
/r/seduction01/03/18 04:05 PM
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Fair enough. I’ve been catfished enough times to know better. After you get burned too you’ll learn
/r/seduction01/03/18 04:05 PM
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Don’t take a girl out to eat for a first date. There’s nothing worse than being trapped with someone you don’t like while you were still waiting for your appetizer to come out. Just meet up for a drink or coffee – somewhere where you can casually split in case shit goes south. Optimally though you will like her and the place will offer the option of eating
/r/seduction01/03/18 09:49 AM
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It definitely takes some practice. Embrace the creep basically.
/r/seduction01/03/18 02:06 AM
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Welcome to being THE MAN
/r/seduction28/02/18 08:50 PM
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You have to take a risk and put yourself out there with women. Seems like you’re afraid to initiate contact with them and in doing so you’ve become anxious, which has resulted in avoidance behavior. Avoiding reinforces more avoiding. You need to break the cycle. Talking to girls is not as big of a deal as it seems. You just have to get your mind in a place where you think that you’re just having a regular conversation because, well, you are. From there, if you click, get the number. If you fail …
/r/seduction28/02/18 01:24 AM
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Keep doing what you’re doing and don’t be discouraged by small sample sizes (ie those dudes are just dudes you know, and you also don’t know how many girls they’re actually getting or the reasons why, if they really are). Especially as you get older girls will find those guys less attractive. The important thing is that you keep trying with your approach and not be afraid of failure- it all counts towards self improvement and will pay off in the the end
/r/seduction27/02/18 11:14 AM
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It works troll. It’s just another way to do it. I never said that’s the only way, I just responded to someone saying that’s what they’re considering doing. I wouldn’t promote it if it didn’t work for me. “Business cards are for business”- you think inside a box. Lame
/r/seduction27/02/18 09:54 AM
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No dude you can use that ‘help me with my tinder app’ in a bar any time. It’s golden
/r/seduction27/02/18 02:36 AM
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Actually I think your approach was genius and, better, you’ll learn something here for the next time. I like the third bullet point response you said. You can also simply say. “Thanks, I was also hoping that I didn’t have to use tinder to take you out” ;)
/r/seduction27/02/18 01:57 AM
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Unfortunately this sounds like a losing proposition. Definitely a bit of oneitis you have going with this one. And the friendzone is the kiss of death. Need to give it to you straight here. She may haunt you for some time but you need to move on by meeting other women
/r/seduction27/02/18 01:51 AM
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It sounds like you’re not prioritizing meeting a girl. What the underlying reason for that is only you would know. But it sounds like you really don’t want to be with a girl rn in your life. (You can tell yourself you are but your behavior tells a different tale)
/r/seduction27/02/18 01:49 AM
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The number is on my card but you can just use paper and write something out. You just go right up to the girl and hand it to them. I usually tell them they dropped it bc I think I’m slick lol but you can do whatever. It’s effective too if they’re like talking to a gf. Again, like I said in my other post, chances are totally increased w eye contact being made and she indulges.
/r/seduction27/02/18 01:16 AM
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I’m a psychologist so it has my license # and my company name. It’s near 100% if I have a convo and it goes well, pretty high still if I make and lock eye contact, and much less if it’s completely out of nowhere.
/r/seduction27/02/18 01:13 AM
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But when it does work it’s the best feeling to hit that homerun
/r/seduction27/02/18 12:32 AM
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I’ve probably done this about 50 or more times. In nearly all cases they’re flattered. In some cases they’ll text me. But rarely does it actually lead to a date. For sure they love the attention (who doesn’t) but when it comes down to it you don’t know what they’re looking for and they’re typically not looking for dates when they’re out and about. Maybe at a bar, but then in that case you might as well just go talk to the girl and see if you vibe.
/r/seduction27/02/18 12:31 AM
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That works. I have business cards- I usually write on the back “you’re beautiful. I would love to take you out sometime.” I then walk up to the girl and tell her she dropped something and hand her the card. Even if you don’t have a business I’m sure Vista print could still make something for you.
/r/seduction27/02/18 12:28 AM
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Right on
/r/seduction26/02/18 10:50 PM
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Even one of my friends who’s a great looking guy he’s always looking for the “perfect” thing to say. If you just think of it like any other convo it becomes much easier. Ie talk/make a joke about something you see in your surroundings.
/r/seduction26/02/18 08:13 PM
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One of my friends tells me he just “struggles for content.” I find it funny bc he won’t shut the fuck up with me
/r/seduction26/02/18 08:11 PM
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This sounds like 99% of my friends. I only have one other buddy who’s useful.
/r/seduction26/02/18 08:10 PM
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Which may support the evo psyc point you have there
/r/seduction25/02/18 09:22 PM
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I agree, especially with firming up expectations from the get go. I always assumed girls wouldn’t be down to fuck casually, or that they’d expect something more after awhile. I was wrong about that. But in my experiences girls will say they’re down w casual but most are really not- they look at you as a challenge and they want to be “the one” to change you. Kind of like oneitis in reverse
/r/seduction25/02/18 09:21 PM
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That list that snap provided is aces btw
/r/seduction25/02/18 07:26 PM
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Height matters as much as looks to girls. But if you’re not ideal in the height or looks dept you can make up for that with confidence/good game, and an understanding of how and when to bring in the sex vibe.
/r/seduction25/02/18 07:26 PM
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Oh I see. Lol. Well I’m sure you can get anything made on vistaprint or wherever that will give your contact info (doesn’t have to be an official business- you’re communicating a brand, ie you). Just an idea but I’m sure there are other ways- I’ve just used them a lot and the ROI is tremendous (not just in clubs FYI).
/r/seduction25/02/18 06:08 PM
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I have business cards. They’re recommended for the occasion ;)
/r/seduction25/02/18 05:32 PM
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With your phone number in the note
/r/seduction25/02/18 03:48 PM
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They’re jealous for sure. Can you write a note on the back of a biz card and get it to her?
/r/seduction25/02/18 03:47 PM
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In a vacuum maybe you can make a remark about something in her pics (location? Outfit?) -humorous or not- just as a convo starter, then see if that opportunity presents itself organically. This is a dating app right? Maybe tell me more abt how it works
/r/seduction25/02/18 02:52 PM
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I always lead with humor. Need to have them feel comfortable/safe. Don’t go w sex other than slight innuendo until after first date unless she goes there. It’s a losing proposition - every girl gets bombarded with dick pics so really your chances of success increase exponentially when you don’t.
/r/seduction25/02/18 02:43 PM
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I’m impressed you lasted 15 minutes after a 5 month “lay” over! Teach me your secrets!
/r/seduction25/02/18 02:16 PM
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That's an irrational thought. Don't let those thoughts become obstacles or excuses to not take risks. The success isn't necessarily success itself; being ok with failure is the bigger success. Then you'll learn.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/18 12:51 PM
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You can hit it...or try to help her and point this out to her since it isn’t exactly obvious to her
/r/seduction24/02/18 08:46 PM
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Good question. Usually the best convo starter is “your place or mine?”
/r/seduction24/02/18 11:54 AM
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Certain women you can lean on though. Others you can’t. Depends on which one this is. This could be mountains out of molehills- hard to tell if it’s legit or in his head
/r/TheRedPill24/02/18 02:13 AM
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You’re worrying about this too much. If you continue to focus on this it will become THE focus. Steer clear of it and don’t undermine your ltr by creating distance if you care about being together.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/18 02:11 AM
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Yeah don't get caught up in the details. You can call it a shit test, but that's making you focus and spend too much energy on it. She was flirting with you. You ever kick a girl's chair while in elementary school? They come off being bothered, but you're just trying to get their attention. This is no different. Of course she doesn't care that you drive a Suzuki Swift or are friends on FB, Snap, whatever. These are just convo-starters. The best response would be to roll with the joke. If you res…
/r/seduction22/02/18 11:26 AM
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