How to pick up bartenders??

tony18215 · 2018-03-02T13:13:49+00:00

I wouldn't want to be with a bartender ..I bet they have been with tons of guys or they have been hit on a lot and are fed up with it.A lot of babes at the bars and elsewhere..find someone else. ALSO why waste money tipping if their is a huge chance u will get nowhere

q31 · 2018-03-02T12:03:53+00:00

Her: "what can I get yuh?"

You: "Give me whichever drink let's me take you out on Wednesday"

Then judge from there.

zaddy-yankee · 2018-03-02T12:40:00+00:00

In general, be a generous tipper for good service, but there's really no need to "tip big" with the expectation she'll be more interested in you.

cypherx1 · 2018-03-02T22:01:45+00:00

Good luck getting through her force field defense at work. You have to pick her up outside the bar when her guard is down.

LingeringGnome · 2018-03-02T22:27:09+00:00

Hired guns are my specialty. I love most bartenders because they tend to be out in the real world faster earning a paycheck, and develop a fierce independent streak along with being sex-positive.

Since December, I've had a threesome with my LTR (not a bartender) and two bartenders. One of the bartenders, twice. The other just once, but perhaps another round next week. I never ask for the threesomes, they happen organically.

My previous relationship was with a bartender.

So...how to pull bartenders. It's pretty simple.

Fitness and appearance.

Bartenders see a ton of people a day. Most of these guys are slobs dressed in sports team shit, dad jeans, or dirty ball caps. When they see a man who has some muscle and dresses decently (business casual, American Eagle, non-faded clothes, no sneakers) it's a huge fucking relief for them. You stand out, and you stand out right away.

Bartenders love muscles. Love them. Hit the gym 3-4x a week with a decent weight program.

Confidence.

The #1 complaint I get from my bartender hook ups is what they call "stare guys". these are guys whom they know want them and stare at them, but never have the balls to go for what they want.

When you enter an establishment and you see a bartender you want to seduce, don't wait weeks. Hit her up the FIRST night. Make some flirty small chat, then say, "you should come join me for a drink after your shift".

she'll offer an alternative if she's interested.

Going for what you want and being congruent with your desires is attractive to independent women and manipulative hired guns. They see so many pathetic guys hemming and hawing.

Make firm, direct eye contact when you speak to her.

Playfullness and indifference.

Always remain chill and playful. Even if you hook up, don't blow up her phone like a little girl. Attractive bartenders have rich social lives and many orbiters. Be good in bed, slightly indifferent, and let her choose you organically.

Dating973 · 2018-03-02T15:56:56+00:00

Good shit ty

Dating973 · 2018-03-02T15:57:15+00:00

Right on

Dating973 · 2018-03-02T15:57:30+00:00

True

Dating973 · 2018-03-02T23:10:02+00:00

Great response. Most of that I already have nailed down but the indifferent part is hard to nail down - I see certain girls irl, not just bartenders, and it’s like I get a bit of oneitis for them. Never with online dating though. There’s more of a challenge/hunt thing for me w them. Thx

Title	How to pick up bartenders??
Author	Dating973
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Date	March 2, 2018 11:32 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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