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| 63 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it? | Lifestyle | Day9125 | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 01:36 AM |
| 26 | Starting a conversation is my #1 problem | Conversation | Day9125 | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 06:38 AM |
| 12 | Mental purgatory going out solo | Conversation | Day9125 | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 03:23 AM |
| 10 | The duality of different nights out alone | Field Report | Day9125 | /r/seduction | 10/07/22 08:58 AM |
| 8 | Thank you for the encouragement, r/seduction | Field Report | Day9125 | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 06:45 AM |
| 1 | I dropped the ball? Cause it feels that way | Inner Game | Day9125 | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 07:46 AM |
| 1 | Guys - have you ever had this happen to you before? | Inner Game | Day9125 | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 07:07 AM |
| 0 | Just feel a huge disconnect | Lifestyle | Day9125 | /r/seduction | 05/07/22 06:31 AM |
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| 1 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenI mostly have outdoor hobbies. But during the week I'm very busy because I work 9 hour days. Sometimes work Saturdays. Trying to make some improvements to myself and my life but that takes time. | /r/seduction | 10/10/22 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenAnd then you realize random sex is unfulfilling and ultimately you want an LTR that starts slowly and all that jazz. But the key is that you can't have that be your GOAL, or you're fucked (not literally). Just don't be a desperate loser and get a life. That's it. Women will love you and you'll make some cool friends and perhaps a gf along the way. Seriously You have to be in places to meet women to have any chance of being in a relationship. Yeah, sitting around and waiting for it won't change a… | /r/seduction | 10/10/22 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Advice for a 37 year old virginNot my problem if you don't live in reality. I do. | /r/seduction | 26/09/22 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Advice for a 37 year old virginIt's definitely not pointless from a social standpoint. You learn things from it. | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Advice for a 37 year old virginOh make no mistake. Some do care. This is women we're talking about. They have endless options. | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 07:58 PM |
| 1 | How to connect with a girl at a bar?Not enough ambition?? | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 09:02 AM |
| 3 | When a girl brings up a perceived weakness of yours… twiceYeah but I've met women that have a snarky attitude about it. Happen to be bald myself. This chick was like "all my men have hair". I asked her something like if she had something against bald dudes she went "it's not my problem". She honestly came off bitchy and it turned me off anyway. I won't bother with condescending or overly negative women. I don't hate my life and I'm not always positive but I'm not gonna let women make me feel bad for something that is beyond my control. Fuck em. | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 08:13 AM |
| 1 | Advice for a 37 year old virginI still don't believe in the apps even with the best pictures. Why? Because you have to be a jester for the women to respond to your messages. And I AM bald on top of that and I'm convinced advertising it when I started doing so got me less likes. I don't think I can stack up against other men on apps when they have hair and I don't. | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 08:07 AM |
| 1 | Advice for a 37 year old virginTotally agree. As someone who's been complimented by women a lot the last couple years? When I don't try it's totally a discredit to myself. I still have problems approaching women when it's clear that I absolutely should not. But a bad grade school experience and sometimes rough home life did numbers on my self esteem. I'm still trying to fight to do what I deserve for myself. | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 08:00 AM |
| 1 | Advice for a 37 year old virginIs it though? Men don't go on dates or have sex without initiating. It's human biology. And as someone who's been complimented by and ogled by women - we men are often our own worst enemies. Most women won't approach us and they sure as hell aren't gonna ask us on dates 98% of the time. They don't have to. They expect us to do the ground work. | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 07:57 AM |
| 2 | Advice for a 37 year old virginFacebook isn't any better. People will stalk your shit to level insults at you because they're lame and weak human beings. | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 07:53 AM |
| 7 | Advice for a 37 year old virginTherapy did ALL THAT for you? I mean I'm in therapy too but that seems like a 0-100 progression. I'm not even a virgin myself but I don't do as well with women in bar scenarios. I have a really hard time approaching them there. And dating apps have been an awful and fruitless experience for me. I just don't believe in them generally. I've seen that a lot of women find me attractive and that sometimes I'm even treated better than others and it feels like a looks thing. However my confidence has a… | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 07:52 AM |
| 3 | "Why I love being a man", or "bottling everything up".It's a wonder men aren't more violent for all the bullshit we have to endure. | /r/MensRights | 18/09/22 06:57 AM |
| 1 | why do women string guys along until they find someone better and then tell guys not to do the same?Yeah the difference there between women and men is night and day. Plus she can be below average attractive and be dating another man almost instantly. It is human biology but men definitely have the short end of the stick if you ask me on mating. | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 09:05 AM |
| 9 | why do women string guys along until they find someone better and then tell guys not to do the same?The difference is that I might be dating a girl and have borderline attraction and meet someone else by pure chance. Then odds are I break it off with her and the other doesn't pan out. If you're a man the effort required to date is just on a completely different level. It's mostly human biology but dating apps have swung it even further in the favor of women. Harsh reality. | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 08:22 AM |
| 17 | why do women string guys along until they find someone better and then tell guys not to do the same?And this is probably why you shouldn't care too much about breaking their hearts. Be compassionate, don't be a scumbag, but they can handle being broken up with or dropped. They have dating and sex so much better that I'm just not capable of feeling sorry for most women. It caters to them these days. That said. Some women don't have it too easy either. But on the whole it's just a cakewalk for them and that's what it is like being born with a vagina. | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 08:20 AM |
| 2 | Mental purgatory going out soloSo I know that the sub and night game often are about getting laid but that's not even really my goal. I mean I would gladly partake but numbers are pretty cool to me too. It's hard for me to know what environments lend themselves to cold approaching women too. I've met plenty of cool dudes at bars but it's hard to make solid friends that way even as a younger guy. In the long run I'd like a relationship but getting used to socializing with random women is a good idea. If nothing else the bar fa… | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 07:36 AM |
| 6 | Mental purgatory going out soloBecause most of the time nothing happens and I'm not getting any younger. At this point I'm gonna have to start approaching women. Otherwise I'm never going to be dating any. And I figure that even if I don't get a number or something doesn't go long term. At least I'd be getting comfortable at talking to random women. It's simple math. Todd V's video about Men's Dating Equation in 2022 explains it perfectly. You have to be meeting people in the long run. And I've been single almost 5 years. I n… | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 07:25 AM |
| 1 | Mental purgatory going out soloSo what is the cure then? | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 05:21 AM |
| 1 | Mental purgatory going out soloThe two that I go to don't normally have a real food menu. Some snacks, sure, but not actual food really. | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 03:36 AM |
| 0 | Did my first cold approach todayI mean hey. If you want another Roger. Go ahead and be like that. Humanity will continue on with or without you. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Did my first cold approach todayThose last two exclude me and explain why I've been single so long. Hell the first 2 do 95% of the time too. Hate this shit. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Getting girls is easyThat one person a year explains why I've been single for almost 5 years. And people said "oh you can just get another girlfriend" and patronized me at the end of my last relationship. Haha. Yeah. It's SO easy. I knew it would play out this way afterwards. There's a reason that one hurt so badly. Plenty of people want the sex AND the person. I've not gone sexless in this almost 5 years. I'd be worried about everyone's safety if I did. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Getting girls is easyY'all literally can get on apps for that. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 12:57 AM |
| 1 | How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your placeTop front page of the sub says relationship. You're splitting fucking hairs mate. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 12:49 AM |
| 3 | What’s the most effective way to shift the power dynamic from you chasing them to them chasing you?Try finding something interesting about her profile and comment on that And even then she probably won't respond. Basically, be funny, or your response rate is gonna be like 0.5%. Like it is for me. | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 11:49 PM |
| 1 | How to approach without giving out a thirsty vibe?Because they take the behavior of a lot of men as how all men are. Even women overgeneralize. It's funny that someone like myself who doesn't have the highest self esteem wants long term stuff when most of the men who have higher opinions of themselves just want sex. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Treat people like people (and not just holes/poles to enjoy)My problem is my probably my childhood which was hard on my self esteem so I've been digging out of that hole for a long time. It's a bitch when it's clear that a lot of women find you attractive but your own brain and psychology screw you over. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 05:34 PM |
| 1 | How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your placer/dating misses the mark a lot. Not a great sub for someone just looking for opportunity in the world. There's a lot of "oh this girl/this guy". | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 05:31 PM |
| 1 | i made my first approach in weeksIs there really any wondering necessary here? | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?Too bad it's not actually free. Go on a date. You probably wind up paying for the date itself. Or the transportation to get there. It always costs something. | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 11:51 AM |
| 1 | Getting discouragedI'm saving your post both for his comment and because I have to remind myself that it isn't always gonna spark off. Hell, even when I have women clearly into me, I can still fuck it up. There's a lot more we have to do right than women do to access the same relationships and sex. People don't say it's harder for men for no reason. It doesn't mean it's always gonna end in failure. | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 08:33 AM |
| 1 | I dropped the ball? Cause it feels that wayLessons to learn for sure and I don't think it was a bad conversation with April. I did get to learn some things about her. She didn't give me a cold and dry vibe in conversation. I asked questions and she answered them expressively. She herself seemed to carry herself positively. I guess it was just a case of being a little out of sync with myself, her, and her friend. | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 08:08 AM |
| 1 | I dropped the ball? Cause it feels that wayAlright so let me give some more detail. I was talking to April. Then her friend called her over for something. Since this was mid conversation I was waiting for them to finish up their interaction so I could continue the conversation. Something about me being there by April didn't seem to go over well when they were talking. Perhaps I should have stayed where I was and kept to myself. This is when her friend said that even though I put no part of me on her. It was kinda odd. I basically told Ap… | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Will women care, how a guys body looks like, if its only for a one night standDepends on the woman. I've had some 8's into me and I'm a skinny dude. But they also find my face to be pretty a lot so that helps a lot. | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 07:09 AM |
| 1 | How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your placeyour own place that's not too far away Sounds like ONS talk. People date others that don't live close. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 11:42 AM |
| 1 | How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your placeBingo | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 11:40 AM |
| 2 | How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your placeWell yeah. Don't be a fucking robot. Seems pretty simple. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 11:39 AM |
| 0 | How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your placeAre people here really wallowing on Reddit all day?? Some people just want to understand nuances of things they struggle with. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 11:37 AM |
| 1 | How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your placeWait. What are they stuck on? I'm confused. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 11:33 AM |
| 1 | How to get laid: Have a normal easy going conversation about nice stuff then ask her if she wants to join you for a bottle of wine at your placeand are athletic This is the only part I lack apparently. Trying to get things in order though so hopefully working out will soon be on the list. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Neurodivergent people, what is your experience like in dating?What pushes us forward the most is nothing changing. Me personally - I've started to think - what can I do differently and what can I change? His strategy isn't a bad one I don't think. Solo game can actually work really well in the right places. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 10:25 AM |
| 3 | Would you be friends with someone who rejected you?These are always tough situations but you have to think about what she meant to you as a friend. Do you absolutely need her friendship, or would you be better off looking for that elsewhere? It's all about how positive or negative of an influence she was. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 10:22 AM |
| 2 | What is the justification for wishy washy girlsYeah but like, it's a numbers game, and thinking like that is just a defeatist way to be. Maybe she is entertaining a bunch of different dudes. But then, like, she isn't the one for me bro. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 10:16 AM |
| 12 | Do women who smile at you want you to approach them?She might just be acting friendly like every other regular person. This honestly. It's too simple of a situation. Unless you're in the park birding like me and then maybe they ask if you've seen anything yet. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 10:12 AM |
| 2 | Guys, I think fucked up...Honestly. I'm a light weight. I can have 2 or 3 beers and already be buzzed a great bit. Also. I find it hard to socialize first when I go somewhere. Once someone starts talking to me I tend to be more outgoing afterwards. I find it hard to know how to start a conversation once I first go out somewhere. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 10:10 AM |
| 9 | Treat people like people (and not just holes/poles to enjoy)See, here's the thing, I'm not in it to just get laid. Sex is great and all, but I want a lasting connection. Her personality absolutely does matter in that endeavor. That said. Do I feel anxious around attractive women and while taking to them? Of course. I think there's always gonna be some degree of anxiety. What I'm trying to figure out is what I need to do to maintain a sense of calm and have a high enough level of confidence. I'm by no means the most attractive man around. I'm losing my ha… | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 10:01 AM |
| 5 | I want to give a shout-out to Ruben from Social Animal. I think he makes "approaching" simplifiedWhat I think it comes down to is that most people are so focused on themselves that they don't care. Also, if you're anything like me, I give any man doing a cold approach major props. It takes a lot of courage to do so when men are constantly being lectured to about how to date women. Or just being lectured to in general. We have enough hardships as men anyway that don't get recognized by society at large. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 09:50 AM |
| 1 | I want to give a shout-out to Ruben from Social Animal. I think he makes "approaching" simplified"cold approach", "day game", and "closing" aren't bad terms and don't mean that it's a hobby for you. It just describes actions. People demonizing something because they don't understand the why is exactly everything wrong with this world. We all need to be able to close. It starts to feel a bit winded if I'm having to exhaust 2/3 of my energy in a conversation. Hell, I've made very few male friends from going out alone. Yet I've talked to plenty of strangers when I go out. If you spend your who… | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 09:42 AM |
| 6 | Guys, I think fucked up...Get a little drunk and approach them, alcohol reduces the anxiety This is true but speaking from experience, it quickly starts feeling like a crutch. Once I'm pretty buzzed and in a good mood it feels like I can talk to almost anyone. It's a struggle that I want to feel this way when sober but I feel like I can't until I'm warmed up. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Guys, I think fucked up...No man is "not horny enough". Lol. We all are plenty horny. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 09:05 AM |
| 5 | First thing to realise.It's being natural about it that can be hard for some of us. Hell. I was brought over to a woman and could still feel that "what do I say? thing coming up. Naturally, I just asked about things about her. Does she come here often? Where is she from? What does she do for a living? People like talking about themselves. I think the difficult thing is being able to segue and do so convincingly and with confidence. Still something I'm working on myself. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 08:11 AM |
| 1 | I dropped the ball? Cause it feels that wayAnd yeah the whole thing probably wasn't important in the long run. But I don't understand what even happened there. The entire thing is left fuzzy to me. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Is being Indirect and Hesitation a turnoff?It goes into the passive and active social behaviors which is a different subject, but it's something I've been learning to improve on reading so that when passive nuisance arise I don't actually fault the person. I have to deal with it on my end Not quite sure what you were on about here. Like I'm confused. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:51 AM |
| 1 | How to approach without giving out a thirsty vibe?stop masturbating Not getting any sex and suggests stop Masturbating. Yeah let me just shut off my fucking sex drive by stop Masturbating so I'm sexually frustrated on top of not getting the women. Doesnt sound like a disaster waiting to happen at all. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:39 AM |
| 1 | How to approach without giving out a thirsty vibe?Stop focusing on the only woman you're attracted to, and talk to all of them. How about when the ones you aren't attracted to show interest in you? How you gonna tell him to deal with that? That can be dangerous in and of itself. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:35 AM |
| 0 | How to approach without giving out a thirsty vibe?They instinctively know when you approach them that you’re actually looking for sex Some men want more than sex. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:33 AM |
| 1 | How to approach without giving out a thirsty vibe?What? | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:27 AM |
| 2 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenNot to mention everyone is literally more physically attractive prior to being 40 years old. Women are better suited to having kids prior to that age. Shit that's built into our biology that's situated on being younger. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:17 AM |
| 1 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenYup. I think you have it right. For me at least, confidence issues and being stuck in my own head is a lot of the equation. Probably most of it TBH. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenThe problem I think is humans and I’m probably the worst is we want everything asap I mean. Maybe that's part of it but when you've been single 5 years like...it feels like life is passing you by. We don't have forever. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:10 AM |
| 1 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenBalance. I have hobbies. But I'm not gonna spend 100% of my free time on my hobbies since they're solo hobbies. Otherwise I won't ever meet a woman and that's honestly a disservice to myself. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:06 AM |
| 1 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenThe unfortunate truth is we have to approach no matter how many times it can go unfavorably. We don't get anywhere doing the same thing over. I'm on a journey myself of building my sense of self up. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 08:04 AM |
| 1 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on women"You will have lots of women trying to get with you". I mean. That's just not true even if you're decently attractive. Several women will have partners and be out with them, some won't even be interested in you regardless, and others may just be miserable people not worth anyone's time. Have to have a level headed mindset and see that there's gonna be a lot of duds, women that are half serious and don't follow up, and some rejections for sure. This is coming from someone who's had a couple night… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenYeah I have to agree. How can someone even say something like this to someone like myself - who is trying to build their confidence? I need to get to that place where approaching women isn't something I'm apprehensive to do. It doesn't matter if it goes well with one woman. What if she's terrible for me? Then I'm back at square one with the same issue I had before. Finding someone you're compatible with and worthy for the long run isn't easy. We can't get there if we don't vet through potential … | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 07:52 AM |
| 2 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenFor the most part I agree and it's rare that we are approached especially if you're a man. It's happened to me but in social environments and I can't rely on that as a man. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 07:46 AM |
| 4 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenThe only reason some of us aren't meeting women is because we lack the confidence to easily be social. I know there are a segment of women who find me attractive. Some of which find me really attractive. I have to play the same game others have to play but sitting out on the sidelines isn't gonna work. I'm trying to get things right in my own life. It's a process. But not being in places where I can meet women is a mistake. Even just chatting random women up in social environments is progress. I… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 07:44 AM |
| 2 | Stuck? Just stop focusing on womenWhat if we don't have dreams? I don't have a calling. There isn't much that interests me. But I do have hobbies and they aren't social ones. I work to pay my bills and afford me a life outside of work. Dating apps don't work for me, and there have been times when it's clear that women do find me attractive and interesting. Why let that fade for years to wind up withing nothing anyway? It's more than just a relationship. I'm trying to fulfill desires. Those desires aren't going away. And the long… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 07:38 AM |
| 1 | Somebody send some words of encouragement my way I’m about to go approach for the first timeWell I'm told that being outcome independent is necessary. That implies no guarantees. | /r/seduction | 30/07/22 05:22 AM |
| 7 | Somebody send some words of encouragement my way I’m about to go approach for the first time20 seconds of stupid courage could get you laid Better chance if you try but nothing is guaranteed. | /r/seduction | 30/07/22 03:06 AM |
| 4 | How to get over low self esteem and social anxiety?Good luck, pussy. Idk why. This just kinda makes me chuckle. It's like a tough love thing. | /r/seduction | 30/07/22 03:05 AM |
| 3 | Is it weird to cold approach alone?Let me know how it goes. It's difficult, that's for sure. I've gone to a couple bars alone and I usually wind up talking to someone I don't know. Be that men or women - in some cases its definitely been women. I think talking to both helps you in the long run. I think I'm gonna have to keep trying to go out alone a little bit. I'm at the point in my life where I'm skeptical that social circle or going out with friends is gonna produce anything. That said - Balance is a necessary thing in life. | /r/seduction | 30/07/22 02:55 AM |
| 1 | A No Nonsense Guide to Daytime Approaching - 4 Simple StepsEh, well, they're not always drunk. However, yeah, they do have too many options especially these days. Makes it hard to believe in finding another partner for a relationship. Online dating has been a total waste of time for me that has given me mostly less-than-ideal results. IRL is pretty much my only hope at this point. I have to figure out how to turn that into more dates. It's an agonizing shit show regardless. | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Why has cold approaching such a bad reputition?I'm a product of a fucked up world. It is what it is | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Starting a conversation is my #1 problemI can't do much more on a Sunday. Busy day. Have to be ready for the work week. | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 09:16 PM |
| 1 | honestly speaking, how is anyone supposed to be confident in this day and age?I know my worth and fuck anyone making this society worse. I will call people out on their BS behavior when I see it. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Why has cold approaching such a bad reputition?I'm not any crazier than any other human on this planet. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Starting a conversation is my #1 problemWell. There was today. I don't do much socializing on Sundays but I went to the grocery store. Had a pretty decent conversation with the cashier. I also talk to one of the guys who's always near the entrance. Saw him and chatted for a bit before shopping. This is part of the reason I don't do self checkout when I can avoid it because sometimes there's the chance to be social there. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 03:44 AM |
| 3 | How to approach when she’s hanging out w a group of friends and u r alone?Waiting for opportunities to come your way is a surefire way to ensure they never do Being a man in his late 20's - this is so true, especially for men. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Well idk maybe the universe just fucking hates me man. The real world turns more attractive women for me. The few that swipe right on me are nothing great. Not worth my time. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 03:02 AM |
| 1 | honestly speaking, how is anyone supposed to be confident in this day and age?deal with worse treatment their whole life This is most men aside from maybe the 2% most attractive. We're just treated like garbage and women wonder why men hate feminists. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 02:58 AM |
| 1 | honestly speaking, how is anyone supposed to be confident in this day and age?The world is a shit show. That's the truth. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 02:55 AM |
| 1 | honestly speaking, how is anyone supposed to be confident in this day and age?And so many women are basic and boring. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 02:53 AM |
| 1 | honestly speaking, how is anyone supposed to be confident in this day and age?I see no point in Instagram. There's a million social media apps already. That app is just shallow and dumb IMO. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 02:46 AM |
| 3 | A No Nonsense Guide to Daytime Approaching - 4 Simple StepsYes and no. Some women probably won't respond regardless and go cold no matter what. I hit it off with a woman once when I was out with friends at the bar. I approached her and her friends alone though. She expressed wanting to kiss me that night. We didn't wind up doing that though. May have been a mistake on my part, I'll grant you. I texted her the next day and was ignored. It's pretty nuts how meaningless something can wind up being. That said, I took good things from that experience, becaus… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 02:17 AM |
| 5 | Women are visual creatures tooI find the women that are bothered by this word to just be contrarian. Like, start complaining about real problems, FFS. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 02:12 AM |
| 2 | Went from no sex in 4 months to twice in one weekNot sure how you expect some of us to meet women if we don't do stuff like this. Relegate myself to OLD where I have shit luck or rely on friends? No wonder I've been single so long. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 02:06 AM |
| 1 | Why has cold approaching such a bad reputition?Mentor men. Don't talk down to them. It doesn't help anyone. And if you want less of those Roger guys going around murdering people for it...you won't shame men. I'm not fucking settling myself. Fuck that. Might as well tell me to off myself. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Starting a conversation is my #1 problemIs it though? When my mind is blank then what is there to say? Clearly it matters. I have to say something. The what isn't always clear. | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 04:51 AM |
| 1 | Why has cold approaching such a bad reputition?Many men cannot read whether a woman is uncomfortable or wants you to just move along. It's common human decency and respect for another humans time. That's not me. I understand social cues. I was with a woman who had a smoking hot figure. She didn't have the prettiest face but she definitely wasn't ugly. Myself, I'm skinny, but I've been told by more than one woman that I have a pretty face. I've also made out with an 8 before. Does that mean she will be the only one? Fuck no. And I'm not bothe… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Some highly practical advice wouldn’t hurt here every now and thenThat's funny. So you're saying I need to take up salsa dancing too. Lol. Not dismissing you. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 09:14 AM |
| 1 | Do not ditch OLD. It’s better than Cold approach.It's not better than cold approach. I mean for fuck's sake. I'm 27. I've dated one girl from online dating and had to break it off because I constantly doubted my attraction to her. Besides her - my messages get ignored or I barely get any swipes. It's awful. Cold approach might be harder from a social aspect but the women I can attract that way are often far more attractive than the ones swiping on me. Nor can I market myself as well online. For men like me - relying on OLD is a death knel that… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 08:52 AM |
| 2 | What hobbies have the most women in their 20/early 30s?Doesn't this just say that most women don't spend very much time alone? Myself, as a man, I have hobbies that are often solo things. Mostly outdoor oriented stuff. It just feels like women don't have to spend a lot of their time alone. That's not true of men I'd argue. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 08:38 AM |
| 1 | Is cold approach overrated now?Absolutely not. Plus I can market myself way better to women in person. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 08:26 AM |
| 2 | Do you need a signal?Yeah, it's just not gonna happen 98% of the time. The one time I kinda had it happen is at my favorite dive bar. I was up by the bar and she came up to order a drink. She just started talking to me. She walked away after we had a conversation before seeing her again and another girl came up and said "I think she was into you". Depends on the environment but it's really rare. Just an unfortunate part of being a man. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 08:16 AM |
| 2 | Why has cold approaching such a bad reputition?We can't let technology irreparably change our behaviors. There's value in meeting new people in the real world rather than through an app. I personally have way better luck in the real world rather than a dating app. Sure, some women would still turn me down, but the difference is too great to not favor one over the other. If dating apps were the only way there's quite possibly a chance I never wind up in a relationship ever again. Idk why, but I have some of the worst luck with those damn thin… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 08:11 AM |
| 3 | Why has cold approaching such a bad reputition?It's good to go out with friends but there's a real feeling of empowerment when you get over the hurdle of going out alone. It's not easy, and I still have some trouble with it, but I've talked to random women when out alone before. As far as the apps, I'm utterly disappointed by the few women that swipe on me especially lately, so IRL is better. The difference can be astounding. One night I made out with an 8 in the street on a 10 degree night. That same girl isn't usually swiping me right on a… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 08:05 AM |
| 0 | Why has cold approaching such a bad reputition?His message lacks compassion while pointing fingers. Sure. Some people are shitty people. It's called human beings. That won't ever go away. If one knows their worth then they aren't gonna play this game of self limiting by assuming someone is out of their league when they don't know that for a fact. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 08:01 AM |
| 6 | Why has cold approaching such a bad reputition?If you are a 5-6 an 8 doesn't want you approaching her. It's like a bum on the street asking for change for the 100th time. This is all subjective. I might be a 7 or an 8 to one woman and a 6 or a 7 to another. You're better off thinking women see you positively on an attractiveness scale because you won't be disqualifying yourself for no reason. That being said, I cold approach and I'm very successful at it because I don't overcomplicate it, I can read if a woman is open to it and I'm not a soc… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 07:58 AM |
| 10 | Why has cold approaching such a bad reputition?Is this not a subtle difference? I mean. No man who wants to date women sits at home and does nothing. Yes, it's not just getting a number or getting laid, it's making a connection. I have to be willing to talk to women, and also question if an individual woman is someone I want to be around. I do have things to offer, and don't want my good intentions to be taken advantage of. Now. If I don't have a big social circle, or am not fortunate with online dating, cold approach is one of the few ways … | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 07:51 AM |
| 2 | How to ask if she has a BF without being weird?I agree with this. I ran into an acquaintance tonight from years ago. We had a decent conversation and she did mention her boyfriend. I had no idea if she was dating anyone. I was interested in her in the past but approached it in kinda the wrong way. I'm proud to say that news didn't knock me off of talking to her. This was probably the best conversation I've had w/her. If you have an average conversation the BF will come up at some point. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 06:41 AM |
| 7 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Average looking men can get above average looking women In the real world, yes. In online dating, no. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 06:28 AM |
| 1 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Exactly. Once you have confidence you don't doubt you can do different and get different results. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Women already live longer than men. What more do you want?Not to mention how much easier it is for them to partner up with their opposite sex and thus provide even more stress relief and resources. | /r/MensRights | 21/07/22 02:26 AM |
| 2 | I'm All For Feminism, But It's Kinda Making It Harder To DateYou can never win with these people. Hmm, maybe that’s why men aren’t approaching her! Yeah, seriously. It's not helping our natural biology of having to approach to date. And women often don't want to approach men. You can't have your cake and eat it too. | /r/MensRights | 21/07/22 02:16 AM |
| 3 | A conversation with my therapistI'm not even sure what the transgender thing has to do with anything relevant. I don't care if people want to change genders. That doesn't have anything to do with me and frankly, as a man, I often feel like a lot of things in my life would be better if I was a woman. That doesn't mean I want to be a woman though. It just means I have empathy for people who are different than me. I'd describe myself as center left but definitely socially liberal. However I find modern feminism to often be damagi… | /r/MensRights | 21/07/22 02:13 AM |
| 2 | The duality of different nights out aloneThank you for the encouragement. Definitely an off night. | /r/seduction | 10/07/22 11:42 PM |
| 2 | The duality of different nights out aloneSo what area do you live in? I guess I'm struggling most with striking up conversations with strangers. I have a much easier time if others initiate but we know how well it works relying on that. | /r/seduction | 10/07/22 08:15 PM |
| 3 | The duality of different nights out aloneI commute to the city for the moment. I'm trying to get a better paying job so I can move from where I live now. Rural area. Not akin to dating for a single late 20's man. | /r/seduction | 10/07/22 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Ladies of seduction, what does handsome mean to you?Now I'm in my 30s so to me sexy isn't a guy playing in a band but a guy who has a job and makes at least 6 figures. I don't ever want to hear again that women don't care about money. Seems like you have to be perfect to get a woman these days. | /r/seduction | 10/07/22 09:00 AM |
| 1 | Best advice for conversation starters?Stop with the useless comments. Fucks sake. | /r/seduction | 10/07/22 08:41 AM |
| 1 | Cold Approach is Not For EveryoneI agree with this and if we've had it before we know we can have it again. The struggle is the hardship of getting there. | /r/seduction | 10/07/22 08:24 AM |
| 2 | What lines do you use for cold approach that have actually worked?I would say the trouble is feeling like you need to have something interesting to say. The thing you're trying to do is start a conversation. You don't ask for a number in the approach for a number of reasons that should be obvious. How do I know she's even someone worth dating other than she's attractive? I want her to feel she can talk to me about almost anything. It makes having a good time a lot more likely. If OP is anything like me then his #1 problem is his own head getting in the way. | /r/seduction | 05/07/22 07:11 AM |
| 2 | Decent at approaching but suck at speaking to women in any other circumstance.A+ comment because it also helps people like me who often just don't even approach. So often I'm thinking to myself "what would I even say if I approached her?" I think OP should just talk to her. He's already done so before, and it's even easier when she talks first. | /r/seduction | 05/07/22 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Just feel a huge disconnectThis is more than just venting. I'm obviously in this sub still because I don't feel I'm succeeding at dating in any meaningful way. | /r/seduction | 05/07/22 06:42 AM |
| 3 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?I'm looking to keep building on it. Little steps to a more fulfilling life. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 08:49 AM |
| 3 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?I question if it's enjoying your own company if you're in a bar even without friends. Wouldn't solo hobbies be enjoying my own company? And see. I've got too many of those. Friday and Saturday nights are my times to go out and be social. That's why I prefer not to stay home on those days. That said. I did go out tonight. Talked to both men and women. Had a really good time. Making me feel more positive about being able to socialize in general and my ability to increase my dating potential in the… | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 08:47 AM |
| 1 | how many of you go to bars/clubs alone?I totally agree. Sometimes you're sitting there and 30 minutes pass where you don't interact at all. And then something changes. Either because someone interacted with you or you made a comment about something or someone. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 08:36 AM |
| 1 | how many of you go to bars/clubs alone?It doesn't mean every girl in the bar is gonna be lining up to talk to you. That's just not realistic. I went out and had a good time. My attitude got better and better throughout the night. And I found it getting easier to strike up conversations with people in general, not just women. Those who say talk to everyone? I totally agree. Other men included. Makes you seem more interesting too because you don't look like you're just trying to pick up women. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 08:33 AM |
| 7 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?I did it. Talked to multiple women. And dudes too. Had a great night. Got me feeling much better about the future. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 07:53 AM |
| 2 | Thank you for the encouragement, r/seductionAs for the guys in the group I highly recommend interacting with them and including them in conversation. If one or two in particular are being really douchey towards you, you have to kill them with kindness. Women will notice that you're not antagonizing the guys back and you're keeping the tension down in the group. Read up a little on dealing with the AMOG, you'll see what I mean. Very interesting stuff. So. What happened one time is I was out with my friends another time. One friend was on t… | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 07:48 AM |
| 2 | The quality of women you can meet in person far succeeds the quality of women on dating appsI have to agree and honestly there is nothing wrong with going to the bar. I had a good night that proved in person has its merits. Now. This could also be day game too. But I agree also on more attractive women being more obtainable in person. I really feel like we all are high on ourselves online. Especially the women. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 06:48 AM |
| 2 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?That's what's up man. I did go out tonight. BSed with a bunch of people. Including women. Kinda hit it off with a chick but her guy friends were acting weird. And they really didn't even acknowledge me. I think they were jealous. I let her walk though. Honestly. It's not the end of the world. I kinda wanted to get her number but it's whatever. Like I said though. Weird vibe from her guy friends. Even though she said not to worry about them. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 06:28 AM |
| 3 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?Yeah, this is probably gonna take time to get right, especially for someone like myself. I don't think it's gonna happen instantly but maybe I'm talking down to myself. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 04:13 AM |
| 15 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?It feels very limiting as a man to wait for friends to suggest the idea to go out. Me and dating apps don't vibe either. And honestly I think I could benefit from meeting some younger friends. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?I think there is something to be said about location. Some places just kinda suck, ya know? | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 02:22 AM |
| 2 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?I prolly made it sound terrible, but going out alone is one of the best sources of practice you can do to improve your social skills. I mean for many of us, it's intimidating, is it not? Getting out of your comfort zone is seriously challenging. I feel like the rewards have to be worth it though. It's the getting past the wall of self that's the serious challenge I guess. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 02:21 AM |
| 2 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?Lol over thinking shit is literally my whole existence. I hear you though. Going out to have fun is goals. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 02:08 AM |
| 6 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?What holds you back isn't who you are it's who you think you are! I feel this a lot. I really think I got the vibe of "your thoughts don't matter, no one cares what you think" growing up and it caused me to be less outgoing. I really think it harmed my self worth and I think it could be a huge part of the reason I'm so reserved as an adult. I'm actually in therapy too and even brought up approaching women to my therapist. I think her idea of "don't see it as getting a number - start talking to w… | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 02:03 AM |
| 3 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?I know a couple that have had friendly people in the past. Idk. I mean some bars seem snobby and others seem more friendly and relaxed. Karaoke bars seem to have a good atmosphere. People seem like they want to socialize in those places. Chain bars just feel unfriendly. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 01:56 AM |
| 2 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?Not saying you do. As someone who is not as outgoing it's like throwing myself to the wolves socially. It's not that I enjoy being this way. It's just how I've been for so long. It's basically baked into who I am. Not a fan. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 01:54 AM |
| 5 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?I'm just not sure how to do it. Being outgoing is typically difficult for me. I'm more that way if I'm nudged that direction. Which I honestly don't like that it's how I am. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 01:51 AM |
| 9 | Is going out alone even productive/worth it?Yeah that's what I mean. | /r/seduction | 26/06/22 01:48 AM |
| 0 | Welp, that was a failure.You think I'm shallow but you literally don't even know me. I'm so much more than you make me out to be but go ahead and call me names. I'm literally not blaming anyone. I told you the way I see things. Human biology is not something anyone can blame on any person. It is what it is. Yeah. Looks can be a foot in the door. I literally just told you but you just can't give credit where it's due. I'm a giving person. I want a relationship because I want to give to someone. If that makes me shallow t… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Welp, that was a failure.And I'm hearing a lot of you thinking you're better than me. Fuck you. I don't need this attitude. I'm sick and tired of people thinking my flaws are their opening to talk down to me. Fuck that bullshit. I may not be perfect but I'm worthy of what I deserve and you trying to tell me otherwise isn't gonna move me. | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 02:55 AM |
| 0 | Welp, that was a failure.Your negative attitude and judging me based on my perception of reality is just not wanted. I happen to be a very compassionate, giving person, and I'll be damned if someone who doesn't know me is gonna feed into my self esteem harmfully. You're judging me on this when you've not ever met me. That's what's shallow. You know almost nothing about me and you say I don't have anything to bring to the table. That's bullshit. Typical of people online though. I don't need the toxicity. I won't settle a… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 01:01 AM |
| 0 | Welp, that was a failure.I mean. It's kinda impossible to believe it isn't more difficult as a man. I've seen women be in long term relationships (years) and then be out of that relationship and be dating someone new damn near instantly. Myself? I've been single for like 4.5 years now. Sure. If I wanted to settle for someone I'm not very attracted to I could be in a relationship. But what's the point of that? It just feels cheap and like I'm doing myself and her a disservice. I certainly don't have the ability to just d… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Online dating, especially Tinder..can go F%@$ itselfShit. I mean. What do I have to lose by trying it? | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 08:22 AM |
| 1 | Welp, that was a failure.Trying to build my confidence mostly because that has betrayed me most of my life. I've approached before and had it go bad and I've approached and had it go well. Tried to get Female perspective on my profile online but only one friend so far. I don't think that's enough honestly. It remains a wasteland. Idk. It's fucking hard to have any hope. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 08:20 AM |
| 2 | Welp, that was a failure.I mean. Women have plenty of assumptions of their own of men that would turn out to be wrong. I get what you're saying about men that are just looking to get laid. However that's a tough situation for some men too. Even of very considerate men too. It's not just dudes that think with their dick only. I'm not OP and nor am I a virgin. I will say that as a man with a high sex drive, it's rough when you're on a dry spell, especially if you lack self confidence. I wouldn't say women know what that's… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 08:16 AM |
| 1 | Why do guys put girls on a pedestal?No, seriously. What is hating them accomplishing? You simply hate what you don't care to understand. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 08:04 AM |
| 2 | Even drugs don't helpI mean, me myself, I'm in therapy. Mostly because of self esteem/lack of confidence. However. I actually need to bring up my issue of approach anxiety there as well. Idk. Its a long journey. Not an easy one for sure. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 08:03 AM |
| 1 | Even drugs don't helpYoure putting way to much pressure on yourself. Self compassion is key bro. How do you propose he does those things? What is your advice? It's kinda like telling someone to be confident. It doesn't tell them how to be confident. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 07:21 AM |
| 1 | Why abundance is importantShe's really dumb to assume that honestly. How does SHE know that? I'm not dating anyone myself. Does that mean that women won't be into me? Does that mean no women are attracted to me? Of course fucking not! Women are more emotional than rational. Her line of thought is a perfect example of that. Too many dumb thoughts out there that humans let out. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 07:13 AM |
| 2 | Why do guys put girls on a pedestal?You know what's fucking hilarious to me? I have self worth and confidence problems and yet I'm highly critical of women. Highly critical that no one holds them accountable when they're bags of feces as humans. Which is why I'm glad Johnny Depp won his case. Enough assuming she's in the right and he's in the wrong just because of their fucking sexes. And as a man I'm tired of being preached to constantly by society and women about everything I'm doing wrong for simply being a man. I'm not fucking… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 07:09 AM |
| 1 | Why do guys put girls on a pedestal?Depends. What's your definition of putting women on a pedestal? Women themselves wouldn't be capable of understanding, I guess. They don't have the burden of rejection to deal with. Most of the time it doesn't keep them from having active dating and sex lives. More empathy in our society would literally solve so many problems but instead people would rather be hateful assholes. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 07:05 AM |
| 0 | Why do guys put girls on a pedestal?You hating them is not making the situation better or solving any problems. Stop looking down on people and spreading negativity. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Without knowledge action is useless, and knowledge without action is futile.My biggest problem is probably going out alone. It's like. How am I supposed to be confident in those scenarios? Okay. So I know some women are attracted to me. The problem is idk how to really reach them most of the time. In my younger days I approached alone and it didn't go well and that really discouraged me. I approached alone one night when I was out with friends. Hit it off with the girl after about 5-10 minutes. Met her friends. Got a number. Nothing came of it. I still have a serious he… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:38 AM |
| 1 | Using social circle as main way to find dates feels like a fucking prison !You sure about that? Don't know that I agree. Unless you go to a bar that isn't uptight. There's plenty of those. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:25 AM |
| 2 | Using social circle as main way to find dates feels like a fucking prison !Nah. He's right. I'm a skinny dude but I have had some cute women express interest in the past. You ain't out of it just because you don't have a fucking checklist. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:24 AM |
| 0 | Using social circle as main way to find dates feels like a fucking prison !Haha can totally relate. Or just generally unattractive. I don't feel like getting setup by someone else ever produces a desirable result. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:23 AM |
| -1 | Using social circle as main way to find dates feels like a fucking prison !Get your social media up, you don’t need thousands of followers but your presence needs to be felt in these social circles. Sounds like more hoops to jump through just to get a change to date. Terrible. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:21 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?So what you're saying is people like me have no hope. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?Man. Maybe you're putting to words what I don't understand about online dating. You'd think it would work better than it does but that's just expectation vs reality I guess. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:00 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?You can't just head to bars and expect to get girls, you have to have a very tight game there too. Why the fuck don't people in this sub come out and say this? They have to know this is true. I will say that some bars are better than others. Some are inherently more friendly and those ones are better. I agree though. Although people could include this and still be helpful. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?I mean. I'm glad it works for you. Both are ridiculously terrible for some of us. I get fucking scraps on the apps. I need a high level of confidence most of the time for bars. I've just lucked into it sometimes at the bar because I was with friends so I didn't have to really approach the women. Its all a wasteland because I'm a man and the cards are stacked higher against me. Must be nice being a woman and not having low self esteem inhibit your dating life. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 05:50 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?Or you can sit on your ass eating pizza and watching your favourite tv show whilst swiping and arranging to meet up with a girl the next day in which there’s a higher chance you’ll have sex anyway (if you’ve got a decent profile) Are you seriously trying to sell online dating as better? Lol it's equally as terrible as going to a bar and is actually often worse. Actually. If you go to a bar with friends it can be leaps and bounds better than those apps. These women on these apps are almost imposs… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?Improving yourself isn't easy because it hurts. You're making excuses to avoid the hard work of sculpting yourself into the man women want to be around. Yet I don't disagree with you at all. However. I have one major disadvantage myself. I'm not funny. If I try to be it comes off terribly. People don't find me funny. You generally won't find me making jokes because my jokes suck. I've seen it before. Yet some women gush over my face. And still some aren't into me but I do have favor with some wo… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 05:29 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?I refuse to believe that for myself. Had too many women deem me attractive. But something destroyed my confidence years and years ago and basically fucked me over when it comes to dating. The thing that holds me back the most is myself. I wish I knew why I'm like this. I wish I could just snap out of it but I get in my own head way too much. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 05:25 AM |
| 1 | Would I just have better luck going to bars at this point than relying on the apps?Idk man. IMO dating as a man in general is a chore. App or not. It's not fun. It's agonizing honestly. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Welp, that was a failure."You're putting the pussy on a pedestal" the most dangerous part about that is you're putting yourself down but putting others above you. Just enjoy life dude, things will happen naturally when you do. See. I seriously question this all the time. Lacking the courage to talk to women = putting them on a pedestal is a weird line of thought to me. I'm quite skeptical and critical of women. Especially these days. Cause I've witnessed what bad women are capable of. They're capable of being pretty ter… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Welp, that was a failure.I wanna know how people (such as yourself) make dating sound/look so easy. Sure, I've had a number of women who expressed interest in me over the years, but most of the time I can't date when I want to. The options just aren't there. My choices are online dating (that, again, produces few options, much less ones that are appealing) going out to a bar alone or with friends, or hoping I just run into someone in general when I'm with friends. Relationships are a huge rarity in my life. It doesn't h… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Online dating, especially Tinder..can go F%@$ itselfI've asked some women about my profile. I even had a woman friend help me with mine. And still the results haven't happened. Yet, I've had some attractive women in real life gush over me. I've been complimented by multiple women over the years. I don't understand it. Online dating has only given me scraps. And women I'm not very attracted to that I could have a relationship with if I wanted. But why? Why would I do that? I had a relationship once with someone who had a smoking body and was cute.… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Online dating, especially Tinder..can go F%@$ itselfI don't think entitlement is the issue. Go ahead and try premium. It won't make your experience any better. It will just make you feel like a fool. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Online dating, especially Tinder..can go F%@$ itselfMy biggest issue is confidence by far. Idk why online dating is so fucked up though. I can make out with a solid 8 IRL and get scraps online. Like WTF. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 04:04 AM |
| 2 | Online dating, especially Tinder..can go F%@$ itselfA single picture? Does that actually work?! I made a comment elsewhere. I've been gushed over by more than one woman in real life. I don't get nearly enough attractive women swiping on me. It blows my mind when I go out in the real world as to the difference I can experience. One night I was making out with this girl when I was out with friends. She was really fucking cute. Not generally the kind that swipe on me and if they do it's exceedingly rare. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Online dating, especially Tinder..can go F%@$ itselfI genuinely don't get it. I must be terrible at making profiles. I've had multiple women in real life say that I have a pretty face or gushed over me. The number of attractive women I've matched with online is outnumbered by a lot of "meh" that has swiped on me. I even started dating someone from Bumble that I thought was at least decent. I had to end the romance though. Just not feeling enough physical attraction on my end. Dating feels like a lost cause for me. It's a real shame. Maybe if I be… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 03:56 AM |
| 3 | I’m noticing more and more how gynocentric and misandrist our society is and it’s really begun to bother meI only downloaded that app for cooking recipes. I'm glad I don't spend much time there cause the premise seems stupid af to me. | /r/MensRights | 19/06/22 03:38 AM |
| 6 | I’m noticing more and more how gynocentric and misandrist our society is and it’s really begun to bother meI said it weeks, probably months ago, he needs to drop her ass. | /r/MensRights | 19/06/22 03:36 AM |
| 0 | I feel like I missed out so badlySeriously? It was a joke about a meme. Here you are taking it the wrong way. Way to go. Now I'm not the asshole. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 08:45 PM |
| 1 | 26, been on a dry spell almost 3 years. This year is half over already. I don't think my situation will change by year's end.I mean I'd say I have better chances in the real world personally. It's hard to represent myself in the best way but I have sometimes sought feedback from women. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 08:07 PM |
| 0 | I feel like I missed out so badlyno regrats Dumb motherfucker couldn't spell but he sure could use a tattoo gun lull | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Should I just give up and focus and “improve” myself or continue trying to get better at the game and going out and approachingDon't think I agree with this otherwise very few men would be in relationships. Even the ones that aren't the best looking and with decently attractive women. There's balance and then there's all or nothing. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 08:26 AM |
| 1 | Why do I feel like i’m doing something wrong when I approach or flirt with a women?There's way too much conservative/liberal viewpoints in this subreddit. I just got done leaving a negative comment because someone was generalizing about liberals. This is not a bad comment but I don't see how conservatism plays into it. What you're speaking of is old school conservative. Probably not true these days and even those people back then knew men didn't get anywhere just waiting for a woman to fall into their lap. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 08:05 AM |
| 3 | 26, been on a dry spell almost 3 years. This year is half over already. I don't think my situation will change by year's end.I'm guessing it's both because they go hand in hand... | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 07:48 AM |
| 6 | 26, been on a dry spell almost 3 years. This year is half over already. I don't think my situation will change by year's end.Not OP but curious How does one define "0 results" I've had more than one woman IRL call me attractive. Some of them have been very attractive. My experience online hasn't been great. I've matched with attractive women before but unfortunately the number of those isn't what I want it to be. I've also had some not so attractive women swipe on me. I don't think OLD is 100% indicative of one's dating potential. Many women on apps have an inflated ego because men with lower standards swipe on them b… | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 07:47 AM |
| 0 | Why do girls still want to be friends after rejecting you?I don't disagree with the self respect thing but your "liberal men are weaklings" is fucking bullshit. Like way to categorize a whole group of people. Serious question. Are you a Trumpist? Are you the kind of person that shoves their politics down everyone's throats? Stop doing that. It makes you a fucking obnoxious douchebag. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 07:38 AM |
| 2 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??I agree. Good deodorant and you're good. Especially in the warm season. Shower + good body wash + deodorant and you're solid. I almost never use cologne. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 07:16 AM |
| 1 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??Honestly depends. When I was in college I met a girl who pretty much came out and said she wanted to have sex. We of course had one on one time with each other outside of my friends. However I will agree that it's rare. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 07:15 AM |
| 2 | whats the step by step for getting dates/sex??By bulking you mean fat though right? I mean if you turn it into muscle I don't see the problem. I'm skinny myself but I've had more than one woman tell me I have a pretty face. I don't think putting on muscle would be bad but I don't have any interest in losing a handsome face. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 07:13 AM |
| 1 | No replies on dating apps, what should I do?I mean. Evidently they work for some men. Just not very many of them. It kinda boggles me when I meet attractive women IRL that are into me and yet it's few and far between on apps. My problem by far is reaching the women that like me. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Hit the bars alone -Yes and no. I was out with friends once. They were talking to a couple women. I was off to the side doing my own thing and relaxing. One of them wanted me to come over. I wound up making out with her later that night before we all went home. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Hit the bars alone -Absolutely. I'm not saying I don't have any friends I'd deem attractive. Hell, a lot of my friends are older than me. Anyways that was kinda hypothetical because we are all attracted to different things/people. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Hit the bars alone -As someone who has approach anxiety... That's exactly my problem. You either approach and take a shot or get nowhere. That's how it is for almost all men. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 06:56 AM |
| 1 | Hit the bars alone -I think it's easy to be negative in 2022. If you're anything like me, you've had a negative experience with online dating. You're told you shouldn't approach women at x, y and z place. Then you throw your hands up like "well, where the fuck do I meet women then?" | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Hit the bars alone -I hate to be on my high horse but what if you're actually better looking than they are? | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Women initiate close to 80% of all divorces and family break ups - Men most responsibleWhat a sexist comment | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Women initiate close to 80% of all divorces and family break ups - Men most responsibleAs with most things human based. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Has a cold approach actually worked for anyone here?It's the disequilibrium that bothers me. The way it makes me feel like I'm starting to have a vestibular migraine can make me anxious. Although sometimes I think it also doesn't make me more anxious. However I don't think it makes me more outgoing either. | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 11:49 PM |
| 2 | To all my brothers battling in the trenches..this is for youPerspective is always a big thing. What I've realized, and while it's tough to remember, is that no one can save us. However, others can guide us, and remind us of things we might forget. Or maybe things we didn't consider. I still have a long ways to go. I myself am getting quite frustrated with myself. Especially as someone who is creeping closer to 30. I am my own worst enemy and I'm sure many men in this sub feel the same way. | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 07:14 PM |
| 1 | To all my brothers battling in the trenches..this is for youLooks aren't the only thing that matter. I believe that's what they were getting at. | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 07:10 PM |
| 2 | To all my brothers battling in the trenches..this is for youThis is a fantastic post. So much empathy and compassion. You don't see things like this online very often. | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Has a cold approach actually worked for anyone here?I'm pretty sure alcohol makes me more anxious. That or I'm just getting to the buzzed/tipsy level and not drunk. But I also don't think getting drunk is wise for someone like me. Even if you talk to them about how the music is too loud and your feet hurt. I disagree here big time. These sort of comments are negative. Even if you mean well and are trying to start a conversation - you likely will be received poorly. People are overly-negativity averse especially these days. They will treat you poo… | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Men are forced into parenthood all the timeUgh. Why do we have to get into abortion. I mean. I'm for men's issues and I'm also pro choice. Making abortion illegal will not curb abortion. It will just result in a would be mother dying. Trading the born for the unborn. Dumb. Dumb. Dumb. | /r/MensRights | 07/05/22 03:51 AM |
| 3 | To male survivors of abusive relationships, how were you treated when you spoke outIs it always toxic mothers? I don't necessarily think so. I think toxic fathers can have the same impact. I'm pretty sure that's exactly where my ex's behavior came from. Because her father spoiled her for one thing. So she expected everyone to give her everything. | /r/MensRights | 26/04/22 02:35 AM |
| 6 | If it takes this much pain & suffering for someone as wealthy/famous as Johnny Depp to get justice, imagine the amount of struggling the average man goes through in a False AccusationNone of that is easy to access. Be real. | /r/MensRights | 26/04/22 02:19 AM |
| 2 | He who hesitates, masturbates. Doubting yourself is the quickest way to instill doubt in another person.Style matters much less to me than fit. Clothes that fit well will always be in style IMO. For example. Thought I need large tee shirts. Always thought medium was too small. Wrong. Medium is better because it makes me look bigger than large does. Large just makes me look thinner which is no bueno cause I'm already pretty skinny. It's about playing around and seeing what suits you best. | /r/seduction | 27/03/22 08:08 AM |
| 1 | I noticed a lot of guys at clubs/bars would rather talk to other guysEhh. I don't think looks have nearly as much to do with it as you think. I've had more than one woman tell me I have a pretty face. I've been out with friends and on more than one occasion had a woman show interest in me. Yet most of the time it wasn't because I did the approaching. They just happened to be talking to my friends and pulled me over or I've been pulled over to talk to them. Yet most of the time I'm too anxious to cold approach. The one time I did it recently I had the woman in to … | /r/seduction | 27/03/22 08:02 AM |
| 1 | I’m tired of men slowly becoming second class citizens.Hahahaha go play in traffic you pathetic piece of trash. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/21 01:05 PM |
| 1 | I’m tired of men slowly becoming second class citizens.Can't tell if trolling or what. If not. You might just be an asshole. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/21 04:01 AM |
| 0 | Why is supporting men's rights viewed as redpill or incel?Yeah, you're kinda throwing a label on people with this very comment. I lean left but I'm also a man and so I see the hypocrisy that women (and often feminists) promote and I stand against it. I really don't like modern day feminism at all. My point is that you're still painting people into a box yourself. I myself don't fit in a box. I'm more like a Venn diagram. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/21 03:38 AM |
| 9 | I have never felt accepted or wanted as a man when I showed emotion or vulnerability and now I struggle to feel at all.You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else I disagree. Plus this phrase is just a fucking platitude at this point. We don't teach people how to cope with the shitty rock we live on. Instead we throw words at them. No wonder shit doesn't ever get any fucking better. It won't until people want better and actually do shit differently. | /r/MensRights | 08/04/21 02:50 AM |
| 3 | I have never felt accepted or wanted as a man when I showed emotion or vulnerability and now I struggle to feel at all.They will never be punished for their lies and those that put themselves first will be sided with. It just annoys me when certain people are so selfish they refuse to learn this lesson. Learn to love yourself first and others will follow. If you phrase it this way then they will never follow your message. It lacks any compassion. It's hollow. | /r/MensRights | 08/04/21 02:46 AM |
| 8 | I have never felt accepted or wanted as a man when I showed emotion or vulnerability and now I struggle to feel at all.Can double confirm. If you go this path, it very often leads to pain and agony. | /r/MensRights | 08/04/21 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Friendly reminder to all MRAs who have seen the movement be dismissed as "sexist" and "anti-woman".Shit. Modern day feminists often think they're superior. | /r/MensRights | 09/02/21 12:42 AM |
| 2 | I love male privilegeJust don't tell it to any women you actually know because you'll just be called a complainer and then said person will just drop you. | /r/MensRights | 09/02/21 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Anybody hate how hypocritical so many women and feminists are when they talk about advocating against toxic masculinity?Isn't that why sub and Dom exist? There's no gender to either. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/20 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Anybody hate how hypocritical so many women and feminists are when they talk about advocating against toxic masculinity?I don't understand what your point is though. | /r/MensRights | 21/10/20 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Anybody hate how hypocritical so many women and feminists are when they talk about advocating against toxic masculinity?I literally just watched that and I just don't understand what you're going on about. | /r/MensRights | 20/10/20 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Anybody hate how hypocritical so many women and feminists are when they talk about advocating against toxic masculinity?Wait. What? | /r/MensRights | 20/10/20 11:30 PM |
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