Is going out alone even productive/worth it?

BeeBopJoe · 2022-06-26T01:43:14+00:00

You mean out to bars and clubs? Theres nothing wrong with going alone, just put in effort to interact with everyone. Its normal to feel odd at first until you get used to it

ZachMoore88 · 2022-06-26T02:21:41+00:00

I'll be honest with. I had no idea there was some stigma about going out alone until very recently so I always just did it without a care. It worked just fine, I made friends easily with the other patrons and bar staff, and I had a few successes with women.

Day9125 · 2022-06-26T01:50:13+00:00

I talk to myself because I know someone is listening. Fuck yes bro go alon! It's an Alpha move! Nah joking aside. Go alone and be yourself I know it sounds cliché as fuck but you will learn more about yourself and grow better for it. Maybe you will hate it that's cool too. Just have fun homie. Who knows you might meet someone or make some new guys friends.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-06-26T03:16:16+00:00

I used to be a big pussy about going out alone for night game. So one day I challenged myself that I would do it and was going to do it until I got a girl. And guess what? I did it. It can be the most efficient thing ever if you know what you are doing.

herfavoriteskater · 2022-06-26T05:55:39+00:00

i went out on my own to a couple bars the other night for the first time. Felt mad weird for the first hour or so i just went around bar to bar and kinda stood around vibing. I was in this one bar about to leave and call it a night when this pretty attractive girl walked by and kinda looked at me or whatever but i didn’t think to pursue since i was alone or whatever. Suddenly this guy walks up to me, and is like “bro why didn’t you hop on that chick?” and offered to wingman for me. I didn’t pull the chick but that guy really made a difference in my night. Now i’ve been hanging out with him and a couple of his friends and we go out to the bar and basically just try to pick up girls. All it took was to go out that one night and boom. Found a pretty decent group of guys to roll with.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-06-26T07:01:53+00:00

Going out alone is a lot better. You’re completely free to go wherever you want, whenever you want, you’re not affected by anyone else’s mood or behavior, and it’s a lot easier to talk your way into groups of people and new places when there’s only one of you vs. a bunch of other dudes.

CenturionLegio · 2022-06-26T07:51:19+00:00

i always go alone and cold approach women... just do it bro no excuses

2022-06-26T02:04:00+00:00

You are going to kill it tonight and message me how it goes good or bad okay!

Migluee · 2022-06-26T07:56:13+00:00

I sometimes will go out to a pool hall and shoot some pool by myself. I almost always end up making friends or just hanging at the bar and someone will usually strike up conversation with me. It should be a priority at some point in your life to be able to enjoy your own company

bandsupjay · 2022-06-26T01:52:40+00:00

Why do you need social proof to be “good enough”.

Mog_Melm · 2022-06-26T02:58:08+00:00

Beats sitting at home alone.

Mymomdidwhat · 2022-06-26T04:28:05+00:00

Some of the most fun I’ve had was me going out alone.

notarealpersondw · 2022-06-26T08:54:56+00:00

It’s harder than being with a good group of friends. But it’s more than just sitting at home and having a 100% fail rate.

ikeepon · 2022-06-26T12:46:38+00:00

I like it. My mindset though is always the same whether I go out alone or with friends: just chill and have a good time. With that frame I’m bound to meet some hotties and I often do.

DestinyChitChat · 2022-06-26T19:53:11+00:00

The first priority is the socialize. Women are the 2nd. As soon as you walk into the venue just smile and say hi to the first person you see. Doesn't matter who. Set the bar low and only say hi to everyone. No need for something clever to say. That will start the momentum to be more social. If you are going out to places to pick up women you need to be social or you'll just hate yourself for just sitting alone and drinking while only THINKING about approaching, but never do.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-26T05:31:23+00:00

Live your life.

AngeloMacon · 2022-06-26T01:52:55+00:00

Great if you can find the right place. If you're in a big city, it'll take some scouting to find a place that has a chatty bartender or is a semi neighborhood bar that also has women coming through.

Day9125 · 2022-06-26T02:16:30+00:00

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brucebruce2016 · 2022-06-26T03:24:37+00:00

I have changing days off and go out alone. You figure it out. I like to look for bars that have drink specials. I also recently found hotels with bars close to the airport that airline pilots and stewardess stay at and drink at between flights. They have provided some good times.

Keithlct · 2022-06-26T05:30:28+00:00

Read a book called Rapid Escalation or Mystery Method. The book is dated but still works. Its mean for PICK up Artist.. Buy any men can used it to improve their game.. 😉

ChoppedBelAir · 2022-06-26T09:48:54+00:00

Yah. I do it all the time. Have a set of regular bars where I've made friends with all the staff and know all the regulars and maintain some friendship with the ones who are decent people.

Everywhere you go you run into friends and have social proof for your self esteem and any potential ladies. It makes it easy to get into your hood vibe state and naturally present a good time/experience.

Maybe harder to do in some areas.

Doesn't have to be bars. Just whatever facilities are related to your interests

mystylejay · 2022-06-26T09:58:52+00:00

For me going alone is totally fine and, in many cases, even more productive. We have a saying: many birds don't make a nest.

bloodyblob · 2022-06-26T12:25:04+00:00

crazyleasha37 · 2022-06-26T14:28:59+00:00

I love going to do stuff by myself! It's amazing to not have to work around other people and just do your thing. The only place I won't go by myself anymore is the movies bc I fall asleep w.o. someone there. But otherwise I'm always down for an alone adventure!

Independent-Welder-3 · 2022-06-26T17:11:40+00:00

Hey going out alone shows you a comfortable by yourself and you can make new friend this way, instead if hanging in group which you wont find anyone

Jacob_Soda · 2022-06-26T17:37:07+00:00

I went to bar alone yesterday. I met some Indian woman. I was not fan after she told me she just is there for the attention from younger men.

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2022-06-26T21:50:58+00:00

Yes absolutely. I don't want to be reliant on wings. Though I do want to be out with wings for the most part.

Moved to New Orleans a year ago, and there is no community here. Took a long time to find wings, and even then they were not enough for how I wanted to go out. I went out alone for months and months. Often just walking around not talking to anyone all night.

Eventually things loosened up and it got a little easier. But even in that time I got laid several times going out alone. If you can't talk to chicks alone, start by being social with guys to get into momentum.

Actually, all of the times I got laid in the past year here were me going out alone.

TheCaribbeanRedditor · 2022-06-26T22:41:17+00:00

Go out alone OR with friends. The only thing unproductive is NOT taking action

BangaiiWatchman · 2022-06-27T01:42:14+00:00

I went out to a really hoping bar with my roommates last weekend. They were being lame and left at like 11:00pm. I stayed out and ended up in a group with girls until 1:00am. I’ve had success with it in the past as well.

NastyMonkeyKing · 2022-06-27T01:47:28+00:00

I go out by myself every week. I also live in my high school town rn and it's summer so I see people I know. I also like dancing and laughing so I've met new people. And I keep meeting new people and old acquaintances.

I keep the interactions short. Never let it go 30 seconds past silence and if they don't continue the conversation I move on. So I don't give off the needy vibe to anyone.

And then next time those people see me. And I meet their friends. And now every time I go out alone I always have a group I could hang with if I want. And sometimes I just ditch them to move on.

It's worth it. But I honestly have a lot of fun doing it. I also like taking selfies and videos. So for me it's super productive and worth it.

If you have to force yourself to go and you don't have a good time then no it's not worth it.

I've made a lot of friends. Guys and girls. No HU success yet. But I assume it's because I'm still inexperienced and overweight. But those are changing every day. And the work I'm putting into my social circle will come back to me eventually

cadetgusv · 2022-06-27T06:35:50+00:00

Participate to find the answer, believe in yourself they know your full of shit you know now the test is to run for the hills or go up a level until your humbled then maybe it is all worth the cost of caring . if you find what your looking for it only lasts a moment express gratitude taking what gives but forcing anything shows your woke enjoy being a joke if you feel like there’s no hiding from due dates then your questioning the process designed to challenge your thoughts, pro tip go with it! Often times I ram without retuning l once collected . there’s no wrong way no missed opportunity depending how your hunting your I may become we 😂

AgentAgent_Cooper · 2022-06-26T10:21:09+00:00

I mostly enjoy going out alone the most!

Title	Is going out alone even productive/worth it?
Author	Day9125
Upvotes	63
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Date	June 26, 2022 1:36 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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