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FDS HUMORDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:22 PM
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#JustHVMThingsDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 12:26 PM
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FDS MEMESDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 10:13 PM
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NOTHING BUT FACTSDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:36 AM
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QUEEN SH*TDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:01 AM
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STRATEGYDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 12:40 AM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 12:46 AM
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FDS MEMESDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:18 PM
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Diamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 12:24 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?Diamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:36 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?Diamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:59 AM
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DATING THEORYDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:05 PM
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#KickHimOut2020Diamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 11:18 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!Diamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:19 AM
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REMINDER 👑Diamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:19 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:50 PM
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LEVEL UPDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:47 AM
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QUEEN SUPREMEDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 01:51 AM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶Diamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:54 PM
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DISCUSSIONDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:28 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:29 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!Diamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 02:23 AM
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REMINDER 👑Diamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:29 PM
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Diamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:36 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYDiamondsareagirlsbff/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 01:34 AM
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3

Fully agree. Get that ice or else no dice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:18 PM
3

The whole thing is fake and was written by a basement dweller.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:17 PM
7

Gotcha. What a disgusting man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 04:16 PM
6

I don’t think he deserves to have his face blurred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 04:15 PM
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Not trivial! Great points!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:07 PM
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Keep reading, listening, developing yourself and caring about people and yes, you can become a good person.
/r/askFDS29/04/20 01:10 AM
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Women aren’t special? GTFO.
/r/askFDS28/04/20 09:55 AM
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If you’re using cooking to make MORE effort - like you baking a cake to ask a girl out - then I think that’s lovely. Our problem is with guys who use cooking to make LESS effort. It can go either way, depending on how you do it.
/r/askFDS28/04/20 08:44 AM
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Want fantasy woman to dominate make pee pee and fee fees happy grr not fair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:02 AM
1

Key point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:50 PM
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And he has to put that because women are such superficial bitches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:42 PM
164

Men are such gold diggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:05 AM
6

Lol I also posted this on here not long ago. Important message though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:19 PM
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Agreed, it's cheap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:46 PM
2

Thank you, I don't know whether these will work on mine but if not I'll be sure to suggest them over at the other playlist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:01 PM
2

Brilliant, thank you. I won't know it till I hear it, but I probably will as I am also a bit of a fan. Went to see one of their very last shows (obviously, incomplete line-up) just a few years ago. Got a plectrum!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:58 PM
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Lol but thanks! I'll give it a listen, you never know, it could work. If not, I'll add it to the list of songs suggestions I'm collecting for the other playlist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:57 PM
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Thank you, I only know two of these but I'm going to add them to the list of stuff to suggest in the original playlist as they won't work as well on mine. As for the one I haven't heard of, I will give it a listen and see where it belongs. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:55 PM
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Someone else can do a cheesy break-up anthems playlist...oh no wait...that was me, I did one when I got out of my last big relationship...Actually I might share that too, a lot of work went into it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:52 PM
1

Which songs? I don't know Eartha Kitt's catalogue too well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:51 PM
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Thank you, I don't know it and will give it a listen. If the genre doesn't work with what I've got already, I'll add to my list of suggestions for the main playlist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:50 PM
1

Thank you, never heard of her, will give this song a listen. Title sounds promising...keep the suggestions flowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:48 PM
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Thank you! Always happy to add the Mac into ANY playlist regardless of relevance! More suggestions welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:48 PM
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I’d never heard of her but I think it’ll work, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:27 PM
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Omg yes, the scrubs come back that springs to mind, do you remember ‘I don’t want no pigeons’?! 😭😭😭 A lot of your suggestions are urgently required over on the original playlist, pretty sure it’s pinned on the about or wiki. I’ve got Lesley Gore, I’ll add Mary, Janet and Aretha. Not sure whether they’ll blend but let’s add em and see. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:04 PM
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Definitely suggest this one on the main playlist, it’s ideal for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:38 PM
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Great song. Don’t know if it’ll work on mine but I’ll add it, the instrumentals are really lovely and mellow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:36 PM
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You get it 😍 I’ll listen through your suggestions and add accordingly. Keep em coming!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:34 PM
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I’m one step ahead of you, sis. Keep em coming 👢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:32 PM
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I’m listening to it now, it’s definitely an FDS song! Genre wise I think you should suggest it on the original playlist, might fit there better. Thank you for your suggestion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:31 PM
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NAILED IT! Added. Don’t know whether I on paper like the backstory about her rescuing him, but whatever, she sounds amazing and at least we got a good song out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:29 PM
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Pick up one of those stakes and drive it through my heart because I am deceased now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 11:09 PM
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If there are any other red flags then PM and I’ll tell you what happened to me with ‘guy I couldn’t google’. If there are no other red flags then carry on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 09:35 PM
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The votes on the original post are jumping around so much. As IF this is a matter for differing opinions?! Jesus fucking MEN SORT YOUR SEX OUT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:59 PM
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For now, just assume that all the perpetrators get mauled and die horrible terrifying painful deaths? 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:44 PM
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I couldn’t even get through the first few minutes, the shot of the leopard in the cage in the van just told me everything I needed to know 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:37 PM
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‘Can’t bring myself to inflict serious pain’...as if that’s something to aim for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:36 PM
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If you’re in lockdown apart and he’s not missing you, then I think you know what you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 11:34 PM
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Hello ✨you have been visited by the ✨ You’re Over Him Fairy 🧚🏿‍♀️ 🧚🏻‍♂️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 09:13 AM
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Nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:08 AM
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Guaranteed that somewhere in the world some idiot is getting laid because he used a line about needing exercise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:05 AM
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Is she aware of FDS? If she likes it, it’s a fantastic tool for building self confidence. If she gets into it, she could join the discord for company while at home. You’ll have to be brave and confident in your own ability to keep an FDS lady happy 😉
/r/askFDS23/03/20 12:04 PM
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Well made argument.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:06 AM
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Absolutely the kind of questions that reveals the LV attitude. If being prepared and capable of riding out an emergency, whilst not losing one's marbles or ethics isn't HV, then blow me down with a latex glove.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:29 PM
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I am in more in the anxious camp too, and there's no way I'm taking ANY risks for a man right now. I observe who spikes my anxiety and distance myself in every respect. Some OLD have been really stupid about it (I got my first 'self-isolate and chill at my place?' invitation yesterday. I told him he could not seriously expect me to get in my car and drive all the way to him where I would be sure that Corona wouldn't be the only thing I was catching! Right before I unmatched him, he had the audac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:26 PM
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Nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:58 AM
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Hello, you have been visited by the You’re Over Him Fairy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:33 PM
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💕💕😭💕. EDIT: I’m saying that to OP’s post, not about this despot, jeeeez.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:33 AM
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Something depraved I have chosen not to repeat 😂 Editing to tell you what it is cos it’d annoy me if someone didn’t say. He said her bald head would make it easier to wipe jizz off. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:06 AM
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That’s it, they are trying to normalise perversion. Not on my watch. And by the way, what the commenter said was TOTALLY porn sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:10 AM
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Mainstream sub had a lovely clip showing a woman with alopecia going on a date with a man who behaved like a gentleman about it. Some scrote posted a depraved comment. I called him out, and community and mods took my side. I am so glad they did, not that we should be excessively grateful, because of course - the commenter was being TRULY depraved. I just wanted to draw attention to the idea that we can turn the tide. I know a lot of us have multiple accounts for fear of being brigaded etc. But I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:29 AM
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I mean at this level, rejecting them isn’t even hypergamy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 09:42 PM
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Finding an intellectually compatible match is literally my biggest barrier at the moment. After basic looks compatibility, then lifestyle/ ambition (I won’t date down) - intellectual excitement is the next priority. A lot of intelligent men still don’t fulfil this simply because they are not interested in pursuing intellectual stimulation, they would be perfectly capable but they lack the curiosity and willingness to actively think about things. I can entertain myself with books, podcasts, and o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:17 AM
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We could analyse and come up with a hundred different explanations and potential excuses for the fact that something about the way he is with you makes you uncomfortable and is a turn off. But we already know that he makes you uncomfortable! What more is there to say? I suspect he’s maybe got a lot going for him in other areas, and so you’re trying to talk yourself into ‘giving him a chance’. If you had an abundance mindset, you wouldn’t be trying to force it with this guy. Listen to your gut - …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:11 AM
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Never mind what the actual message is... PRETTY GIRL MAKE PEEPEE HAPPY DUR I am so disgusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:51 AM
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I feel like he actively wants it to be a big deal or weird in some way. This leads me to think he is either terribly insecure, or, what I think is more likely, he’s cultivating his persona as ‘kooky’ which I find a turn-off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:48 AM
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It wasn’t to prove a point, it wasn’t for his benefit. It was to protect herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:31 AM
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‘It has destroyed the nobility of men’ Something about this wording really rings deeply. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:24 AM
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What have you found their favourite foods to be? Do they have individual preferences for food?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:07 AM
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Brilliance, and yet another example of top quality FDS writing. Five stars, ten out of ten, smashed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:54 AM
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THE AUDACITY I bet his head fell right off his shoulders, rolled across the floor, and then promptly exploded after you finished with him. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:46 AM
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I can’t express how much I love this post. I will certainly be referring to it again in the future. It reads like a manifesto, an indictment, a call to action. You’ve covered so much of what’s important and done it in the perfect way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:27 AM
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I’ve been trying to make friends with crows for a while...I feed them but so far no magical experiences. That’s ok, I’ll just watch and admire them from the kitchen window. 💕 Any tips for me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 04:05 PM
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That just gave me chills, how incredible. So when we expect a man to make an effort for us, we really are not asking much AT ALL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:09 PM
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I love your analogy. Except I AM a prize 😂 I’m fucking delightful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 08:15 PM
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“Pain shopping” Where were you 5-10 years ago when I was addicted to trawling through the sale department of various men’s social media?! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:16 PM
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Coming back to explicitly address why this is better than calling him out. If you call him out, you will be the one paying the emotional price in the end when he inevitably retaliates. It rarely goes how you think it should, instead he could lash out in some way or get nasty. Don’t invite that into your life, just glide past it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 09:25 PM
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Please read the handbook. It is very simple. We do not need these men in our lives so we ghost/ block/ delete/ ignore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 05:29 PM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:41 PM
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Is there a pinned post where we can continually add FDS anthem suggestions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:06 PM
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How long has this been the case this time? I’ve also had a SPATE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:07 AM
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Have you considered that you have 15 ducks following you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:20 AM
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We’re living in a dystopia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:17 AM
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I think this boils down to you determining for yourself how much of your personal energy you can expend on her. If it hurts you too much, you have to withdraw in some way. I think compartmentalising is a really useful tool here. It’s her life, you’ve done your best and been a great friend. At some point in the coming years, you might find her coming to you for help. Maybe set aside some of your personal reserves for that day, instead of getting yourself to the point where you can’t deal with her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:34 AM
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Bloody hell this is so true. Years ago, I used to get upset about something he did, then get upset on top of that about his lack of care for my being upset. Reading your post took me right back there. My heart breaks for former me, and for all the women who are still suffering next to some uncaring brute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:57 PM
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Love this! Hot potatoes or no potatoes! Also love the reminder that we are free to walk away, and that people around you may conveniently forget that you are not obligated to take what’s on the table. This applies to many areas of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:32 PM
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Screenshotted for future use! Perfect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:36 PM
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Really good point! There is a rule in the handbook about not idealising/ fantasising/ romanticising, and this is a good explanation of how to apply that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 10:45 PM
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I didn’t realise I needed it either, hence I labelled it as a shower thought! I just suddenly clicked that a lot of my insecurities were actually powers. Your description of yourself is compelling and evocative. It’s about the story we tell ourselves. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:09 AM
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I’ve been on this sub for a few months now, and while I can’t speak on behalf of the mods or anyone else for that matter, I am happy to say I haven’t observed any kind of ‘group policy’ on weight. I’m sorry that the world is such that you have to even wonder what a new sub will think about YOUR weight, as if you’re expecting to run into some FUCKING WEIGHT POLICY that would exclude your beautiful self. Fuck that noise. Your value and validity are determined by SO MANY aspects of who you are. I b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:59 PM
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Most household tasks are arguably more suited to men 😂 It’s physical labour! Longer arms are especially useful for changing bed sheets and dusting high up shelves. And being stronger helps you vacuum the carpet more easily. They really have zero excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:26 PM
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I would do that too, and then a couple of days after I got back I would start pretending to have symptoms just to freak him out. I would use a sick day and spend it choosing a divorce lawyer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:30 AM
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Good ass thoughts coming your way sweet cheeks 😂💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:32 AM
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💯 you sound like the kind of person I would be honoured to know. Here’s to you. 🎉🎉🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:31 AM
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More where that came from if you need it! I think maybe it's part of your value if people can't readily assign a value to you? You're not someone who can be summarised in a couple of demographics or factoids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 12:22 AM
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Ah the sweet slow fade...it’s a beautiful thing. Let us know how the situation devolves...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:34 PM
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He probably got over excited when he realised you were such a catch and lost all his game 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:31 PM
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He’s disgusting but your point stands. Reasons he’s disgusting is because he thinks that everything you do, even your studies, are subject to his evaluation and intended for his approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:21 PM
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I’ve heard multiple times from multiple different types of sources over an extended period of time that it is standard practice and covertly accepted that French husbands always ‘take a mistress’, ie they’re cheating dirtbags. Apparently the wives know and it’s just the done thing, although I question the motives behind spreading this rumour. ‘Oh, c’est normale, bof’. Je not take le risque merci.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:18 PM
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He’ll probably send you a dick pic in T minus a few late Saturday nights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:13 PM
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He should also know what ‘attitudinal’ means!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:13 PM
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I’m so happy for you! 🐸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:58 PM
1

Monaco. For a ‘relationship training’ course. Our boyfriends pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:56 AM
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I think maybe a very proactive campaign of cross posting women’s questions from elsewhere onto our new sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:49 AM
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“he just wants to be the only cold-blooded animal in her life.” Nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:17 PM
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Yes 14 frogs girl I love your style come here! 🐸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:14 PM
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Listen this is bad logic: ‘my standards must be too high because no body is meeting them.’ NOT TRUE! 💕 How many people get through your filters is NO TEST of how justified your filters are. If you’ve got them set to difficult mode, you just have to be ok with having a drastically refined dating pool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:18 AM
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And to add to the depravity, he can’t even use the word ‘represent’ correctly. Is his masculinity so fragile that he can’t even use the passive form in GRAMMAR?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:15 AM
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There is an FDS approved (I believe) sub for looks over at /r/vindicta I personally find it a little too prescriptive and I don’t like the instagram look it sometimes seems to target. Where what you want, look good, feel good, it’s all about taste and judgement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:21 PM
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You can’t ease your worry or get assurance because you actually need to listen to that voice. If a man wants to commit, he will. He should have initiated the move in request. Please read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:20 PM
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You are god damn right and I love your blanket reply to all the male sympathisers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:00 PM
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Always do your due diligence on the job role. Recent example that springs to mind was ‘I work in oil’ = I work for a price comparison website for people at home to check kerosene prices for their home heating. Nothing wrong with his job, it was the fact he was deliberately giving a different impression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:32 PM
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Let's not blame their biology. They are rational beings, with the full ability to take care of themselves. Some of them choose not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:18 PM
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No, these anecdotal stories are pure misinformation. I'm going to debunk them now. (This is not personal, I do not mean to cause offence). I am compelled to correct the information in your post. This is for anyone out there who thinks those stories could be true, or who once had a friend who knew someone that caught something from doorknob. These bullshit excuses for why someone has STDs are DANGEROUS. If women believe them, men get away with cheating, and causing BODILY HARM to all of their sex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:16 PM
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Thank goodness. Best wishes to you x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:01 PM
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Ooh good point, drug use would definitely be a possible way to contract an STD without having sexual contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:28 PM
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Yes, I suppose it depends on what we call ‘sexual contact’. If you’re engaging in skin to skin contact around the groin area, I would argue that is sexual contact regardless of whether you proceed to have sex. I’m not trying to be belligerent here, just really keen that anything medical is correctly described. Some people reading this may be coming from communities or cultures where there is no sex education, and they could become very anxious or scared if we don’t ensure that we are clear about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:27 PM
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OK, yes. That is sexual transmission between the partners, but you are of course right that Herpes can enter a relationship through non sexual contact in the first place. The other example would now be classified as medical negligence. I’m sorry that he suffered that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:22 PM
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I’m not sure there are any ways to get STDs without sexual contact, do we have a medic in the house to clarify? The only example I can think of is cases of medical negligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:09 PM
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I like this, it’s very easy to justify. It still won’t (likely) be as much as the woman would have been getting in her career!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:41 PM
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I think the implication is that it wasn’t a properly free choice. A lot of women have been conditioned to accept abuse under the guise of ‘kink’. When even women encourage it, it’s even harder to see it for what it is. Also it has affected the way our male contemporaries see us, making it a more challenging dating environment for those of us who don’t partake in those activities, or who actively object to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:24 AM
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I will absolutely not have children with a man unless his financials and his attitude enable me to choose how long I stay off work for. I may want to go back to work ASAP, or I may never want to go back! I reserve the right to choose, as I’m not in that situation yet, I won’t know how I feel until I am. There are pros and cons to each decision, but to me what matters is that I am not forced into it either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:02 AM
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No, you shouldn’t have to impose time limits on what I’ll generously describe as a ‘hobby’. That’s called parenting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:56 AM
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I think sometimes they genuinely think we will be flattered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:47 PM
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Ah, ditch him sis. Unless there’s anything amazing that I’m missing, you can do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:43 PM
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I would find it odd as well. Even if you’re not hungry, manners dictate that you eat together because otherwise it’s awkward. Did he have good manners otherwise?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:15 PM
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I am just glad this wasn’t a real woman, cos girlfriend had problems 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:05 AM
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I can see the title and then the content is removed. A mod has commented to explain why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:35 PM
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It’s all been removed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:27 PM
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Well done lovely 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:22 PM
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I’m in full support and agreement with what the two women have already commented here. Are you familiar with the concept of ‘lovebombing’? All these grand gestures that he does for you could really be simply manipulation to make you submit to him. Also, him rescuing you when you floated out to sea is nothing beyond human decency. He is not a hero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:56 AM
15

Vomiticious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:46 AM
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I think if we accept that all men cheat then we both devalue them as a species AND we’d basically be excusing it as quintessential male behaviour. If we continued to date under this belief, we’d be essentially saying that it’s something we’re willing to tolerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:23 PM
31

Agreed. For women struggling with cravings, read on. I understand that sometimes we crave physical touch, even the non sexual kind, and that an FWB can seem like a good patch on that. But I think it’s a weakness in us if we allow that to drive us to seek casual sex. Let’s be honest, it’s rarely ever on our terms, and we by definition have to lower our standards in order to get it. So no matter how horny or lonely we may occasionally feel, I don’t think casual sex is ever anything but a shortcut …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:34 PM
61

Holy crap! I would lawyer up and out him as the criminal he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:43 AM
9

What a bastard, sorry this happened to you. Maybe try re-framing it. Instead of saying ‘don’t sleep with him if he might be LVM’, change it to ‘only sleep with him once he has proven he is both HVM and committed to building something with you’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:25 AM
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I have a bit of a niggling issue with the idea that men can be ob/gyn. We all know the historical reasons - males had the monopoly on pretty much all Western medical specialties, so women’s medicine was just male dominated by default. But nowadays, I’m really wondering what business a man has being present in this field? I‘m still thinking it through, like I said it’s just a niggle. Instinctively I have some real resentment around it. I can’t imagine wanting to be in the same room, regardless of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 12:07 AM
30

Maybe because male sympathisers would have used it as an angle to defend the guy if there was any doubt that the husband was the father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:02 AM
40

I’ve noticed that as soon as we actively say that we are vetting/ filtering/ reserving judgement etc, this seems to put the man in reactive not proactive mode. He’ll usually proceed to ask what he needs to do to get what he wants (someone on here once cautioned ‘don’t give a cheat sheet to the devil’). In the few times I tried it, they all used words to say they wanted to ‘qualify’ or whatever, but then they used actions to show they had no real intentions of doing so. I’ve only tried it on appa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 01:12 AM
24

No. John Lennon was emotionally and physically abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:15 PM
42

I’ve noticed the void that is created when I step back and stop carrying the conversation. I would have never noticed this before, it’s shocking to see how often men are just going along with it when you keep messaging them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:12 PM
6

It’s just another tool, and I use it. You have to be really strict about sticking to your standards. It’s quite good practise, if nothing else!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:55 PM
4

I previously had a bad experience with what was dubbed ‘CBT’. It was delivered to me in an incredibly dumbed down, cookie-cutter way, and I found it patronising and infuriating. I had therefore writtten it off. I’ll admit that i made a generalisation. So thanks to your insight I’ll reconsider it as a health maintenance tool. I’ve fought very hard to be as happy as I am today, and from what you say, I need to learn more about the CBT method. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:06 PM
2

Seriously high value comment 💕 I feel like this could be a post in itself - it’s a mindset that many of us have visited, and this is fantastic analysis. I want more women to read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:56 PM
52

Yup, you said it. It’s a brutal truth, but it’s what we’re signing up for. If these standards matter to you, then you have to be prepared to live them. We can only do our best and there is no guarantee that we will meet a great HVM who will want what we want. However, if we drop those standards, there is most certainly a guarantee that we will meet a not so great LVM who will pretend to want what we want. I’d rather adopt in ten years with the right man, than have a baby in nine months with the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:13 PM
51

I’m so sorry to hear how low you feel, but it gets better. You are in the right place. Keep reading everything that speaks to you, and nourish your soul. Keep repeating the messages you need to hear, they’ll work their way into your psyche. I’ll start you off: ‘I am right to follow my instincts. Life will get better. I will not feel like this forever. I am hopeful for love. Today I love myself, I am amazing! I’ve been through a trauma, but here I am, working my way through to the other side of i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:46 AM
23

I was on a first date the other week with a guy who brought up Greta Thunberg, and gave me his unsolicited opinion on her. (I won’t repeat his hateful comments, it was all the same cut and paste bile you can find anywhere there are men discussing an influential female of any age). I cut him off and changed the subject by saying something firm like ‘I do not have any interest in speculating on X’ and moving on. I could have walked out of the date, but it was more valuable to me to stay at this po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:05 AM
5

He specifically wants a woman who is looking for work and likes travelling...eeesh! He also had the obligatory picture of him with a small yacht.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:13 PM
9

Read his bio...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:57 PM
1

Like I said, as you say you were sober then what I said doesn’t apply to you and I didn’t mean to be rude, so I’m sorry for that. Drink driving doesn’t care about your feelings, and maybe there’s someone else reading this who needs to be reminded. Imagine I was writing it to them, not you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:55 PM
2

How long were you at his place for? From the way you’ve written it, it sounds like you can’t have been sober when you drove home. I feel obligated to caution you in the strongest of terms to never, ever, EVER drink when you are going to rely on your car to get home. I’m not even going to be nice about it, this was exceptionally dangerous and you must not do it. But if you truly did sober up before driving then please ignore me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:43 PM
9

Omg when I first discovered this after a particularly harsh disappointment at the hands of a man ooh - 7 years ago - I had the video on repeat for...actually it still is on repeat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:37 PM
1

When it comes to appreciating him for doing the things he should do, I might subtly change it from a ‘thank you’ to ‘I’m glad you took care of the dishes! Anyway, shall we go and do something fun?’ So you’re still giving him positive reinforcement but it’s abstracted away from the idea that he’s done you a favour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:21 PM
18

It is ESSENTIAL that women do not drive a relationship forward because men ALWAYS go along with anything they think might lead to sex, even if he’s not that into you. And then you will have no idea whether he even likes you, and be left hurt or confused when he inevitably lets you down. The ONLY way to ensure you are with a guy who really cares is to LET HIM SHOW YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:04 PM
13

Also there is a blindingly obvious asymmetry between how sympathetic a woman is likely to be, versus how a man is likely to be. Women give more support, IF (and that’s a big if) we somehow receive more emotional support, then it’s only fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:46 PM
31

Agreed that no woman should be on the receiving end of unsolicited dick pics/ related obscenity, and agreed that leagues are irrelevant in that context. But aside from that, leagues do matter, it’s actually quite violating and offensive when an overweight bald old hairy snotty smelly unkempt man presumes to make comments or hit on an attractive woman. Him doing that proves that no matter how unsuitable the match, he still feels the irrepressible urge to treat her in a sexual way. He cannot serio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:32 PM
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They’re not very frequent and I’ve been really happy to read some of the comments from the male lurkers. Some of them are actually listening and trying to improve things. I found it heartening and valuable. It also confirms the tenet that no decent man would actually have an issue with FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:16 PM
18

Not only “going to”...HAVE done hundreds of times, and AM doing every day, and WILL continue to do so! It’s phrased as if it’s some future blessed opportunity we’ve not yet ever seen. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:40 PM
9

I love that sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:34 PM
9

Yes, and you can even work it into the story that your schedule had opened up and therefore you decided to do XYZ. It shows that you’re always finding great ways to spend your time and never get left in the lurch. Also it subtly lets him know that if he had tried, he might have got an extra date, but because he didn’t, you just did your thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:31 PM
26

I hate the film. It enrages me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:24 PM
6

If wealth is a strict requirement, then yes, you can consider narrowing your pool to wealthier areas. But just remember it’s only the first filter of many and make sure you’re really good at keeping a level head when he’s taking you to expensive restaurants, and don’t let it cloud your judgement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:32 PM
16

Love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:30 PM
61

I was ready to believe ‘adopted donkey’ was a new terminology for ‘friend with benefits’ 😂😂😂 I’m happy to read that it’s something so much more wholesome 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:33 PM
26

Agreed! You did the right thing. We shouldn’t hold out for any landmark occasions. If they’re not showing us a good time, every time, we do not need them any time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 02:12 AM
10

Absolutely. I do not want to be part of proliferating shame culture. All that matters is that we hold potential matches to the same standards to which we hold ourselves. If I’m not perfect but I’m putting the work in, then I expect the same or better from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:44 AM
90

He’s so deep and self aware 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:34 AM
16

I agree with you. But I also find that lack of spelling, capitalisation and punctuation are quite off putting regardless of what is said. What do you think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:18 AM
5

I think I know why you said ‘I’m sure you’re capable of getting out (of the dog house) again’, it’s because you want to chastise him but aren’t ready to delete him, and you want him to know he needs to make it up to you. I’m really sorry to critique but I think this is a mistake - one I’ve made many times. It’s like pre-forgiving them before they’ve eve tried to improve, there’s no point. Edit: even after you said that he made you wait two hours to reply that he would plan something? I would not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:45 AM
19

Sometimes they just want to keep you warm in case they want to boomerang. Beware the boomerang!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:39 PM
48

Same but I’m in my early thirties. Yes I get discouraged from time to time, but more importantly, fuck that ‘biological clock’ noise. Use it to help you choose a good mate if you can, but don’t be a slave to it to the point where you compromise. I’d rather adopt with the right man in ten years, than give birth to a baby with the wrong man in nine months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:32 PM
79

No one said this would be easy 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:00 PM
12

You just made me imagine a scenario where it would be feasible to carry around a giant spray bottle filled with water that just had a massive red ‘NO’ printed on it 😂😂😂 I can imagine having to refill it several times a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:00 AM
2

It’s a bit like when someone says ‘I’m not a racist but...’ or ‘This isn’t a pyramid scheme...’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:56 PM
3

Lol I’m sorry I still don’t get it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:53 PM
6

I agree. There is nothing inherent about the trades that makes them automatically low value. In fact, there’s an awful lot of good about them, in the right man. For example, willing to fix things, be useful in a practical sense, hard working, physically active. I personally don’t date tradesmen, and that’s probably quite common on here, but that’s because I’m not compatible with them, not because I think less of them. Edit: except if they can’t spell 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:51 PM
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Well done for making the right decision. Start getting your house in order. By this I mean, check what financial obligations you share and what the notice period is for leaving. Phone contracts, internet, housing, cars, everything. If you live together, start secretly looking for a new place to live. Look at your income and start working out your single person budget. If possible, start or add to your fuck-off fund. Start decluttering to make packing and moving easier. Gather receipts for any pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:47 PM
20

Absolutely. The explanation is simple. They are illogical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:20 PM
55

I saw one post that suggests they LITERALLY BELIEVE WE ARE PLOTTING to kill and rape them? Do they not bother do any research at all? Do they not go and independently check whether what they’re being told is true? Even when their backs are against the wall, and it’s all to play for THEY’RE STILL JUST BASIC LOW VALUE LOW EFFORT people. All we are trying to do here is lift each other up, learn from our pain, strengthen ourselves and others against future harm, and FIND ACTUAL REAL LOVE. JESUS CHRI…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:01 PM
13

I’m quite reasonable- bald would be less off putting for me that something else like dandruff or greasy hair (god why do we even need to have this conversation 😂😂😂) One thing that really bothers me is when a guy who can afford to, doesn’t fix his teeth. Just a little bit of straightening would work wonders - and yet men simply don’t feel the need or urge to dot the i’s and cross the t’s. It’s almost rude of them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:53 PM
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No but I’ve seen it on a lot of profiles and even in that format I’ve found it really tacky and lacking authenticity. And yes it’s always touch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:57 AM
1

STAHHHP I CAN’T handle this 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:09 PM
35

“...I had the strength of a thousand scorned women behind me...” LOVE THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:42 AM
11

Dealing with the outside world can be so draining, especially when you have a run-in with someone like you’ve just had. I’ve been paying very close attention to my personal energy and whenever I’m feeling it dip I go into self care mode until it naturally comes back. Healthy dinner, lovely bath, good movie - whatever cliché gets you there - it does work. And just before doing all that it can help to verbalise ‘AS IF I’m going to (insert negative reaction) about a man who (insert flaw here)!’ Whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:01 AM
39

We don’t play psychological tricks. We read the handbook. You will find gold there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:58 PM
8

Yes you beauties! 🎉🎉🎉🎉 So much love for this sub and see you on the moon 💃💃💃💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:37 PM
24

It’s like no one ever taught her, and the thought didn’t occur to her, that she has a say in her life?! She just has to live with this ogre and that’s her lot?! On the one hand it beggars belief and I want to shake her and say HONEY WAKE TF UP, but on the other look at this sweet beautiful successful lady STILL TRYING to salvage it, she’s doing her best, she’s pouring everything in and suggesting therapy and still seeing the good in this molesting monster. Women are too good for this world and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:06 AM
4

You go out there and do that! Then come back with a field report for us 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:01 PM
3

It’s not just a red flag it’s a black flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:26 AM
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Totally. It’s slim pickings out there! But anytime you can’t be assed with dating, you can just stop. I’m the same age as you and I do however feel the need to keep trying in the hopes of someone worthwhile. Dispatching the LVMs has become a mildly amusing pastime. I’ve got one suspected HVM on my books, and I’m not sure whether I fancy him. Gutted cos he’s great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:02 AM
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Damn right 👸🏽👸🏼👸🏾👸🏿👸🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 11:55 PM
3

I still think that it should be reported so his name is on file for this sort of content. I am pretty sure the content itself could be illegal - ie obscene materials (whether fact or fiction). It’s simulated child abuse with sexual intent - how can it be legal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:37 PM
3

So do you actually want to be with him? I don’t know of any tricks or techniques that turn someone from what he’s doing into the perfect loving partner, and anyone who says they do is lying to you. Sorry lady, but this is going to be decision time for you. Wrong sub if you just want us to coach you into changing his behaviour or help you think of legitimate excuses for him. The problem is, you can’t have it both ways. If you want a guy who cares about you fully, it’s going to have to be a differ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:56 PM
17

Revolting. I’ve started reporting each and every one of these types of messages. If enough of us do it it might get noticed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:13 AM
52

Can you report his profile to the police?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:06 AM
10

Why do you want him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:47 PM
81

You don’t have to answer any question you’re unsure on. Just laugh it off and say ‘What an odd question!’ And move on. How dare he try to gain access to your insecurities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:24 PM
4

I don’t remember Bree as FDS. Didn’t she used to cook three course gourmet meals for her unappreciative husband and emotionally neglected kids? Really sorry if I’ve misremembered, it’s been a while, but if I am remembering correctly, then I’m not signing up for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:55 PM
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Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck. You’re right. Editing to apologise for my language but this is just such a great take on it. The chance to meet people we wouldn’t normally crossed paths with is usually sold to us as an opportunity, not a risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:26 PM
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Well done for taking action. It may seem like the scariest or most impossible thing, but when you actually speak up directly, you’ll realise it’s not so bad. All I said to my client was ‘I don’t do that work for £(base rate) per hour. It’s skilled work.’ Purely factual - no emotion or attitude required. I didn’t really need to say much, except to actually say it, which I had prepared myself for in advance. Just being prepared to state facts back to people can work wonders. We shall go from stren…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:53 PM
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Yeah now he can pretend he never read it or that his boss deleted it or some bollocks, and try to carry on with plausible deniability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:17 PM
9

Important point. Got to pick which hill you’re prepared to die on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:10 PM
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Because he’s a man and sees an open goal. Don’t entertain it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:09 PM
33

Absolutely. And I just made an extra £40 in my small business today by making one simple but uncomfortable statement yesterday, and drawing this guy’s attention to the fact I wasn’t doing this extra bit of work for free. So not only do I have a few extra pennies, I feel SO GOOD for not being a pushover, which is actually far more valuable and sets the right precedent. Balance restored. And joke’s on him, if he’d have actually ASKED ME up front what I’d charge, I would have only said £20! As it h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:08 PM
2

Omg I know this is old now but I was just scrolling through my old comments and had to come back to let you know - the date never happened 😂😂😂 He just plain never finished setting up the time/ place and didn’t get in touch at all! I was glad to see how stoic I was about it - old me would have chased, or been upset, or even angry, and would have definitely concocted some way to find out what happened and to reschedule. Now I just think it’s laughable and it hasn’t affected me in the least (except…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:33 PM
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Assuming they ate about the same, the price would actually be half of this! But this sounds like one of those ‘cute’ couple jokes people develop when they get older...I so hope that’s the case here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:08 PM
21

....’but I love you!’ When used after I’d found out about some stupid thing he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:10 PM
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I sent her what I hope is a very sweet, understanding and welcoming message. I so hope she comes on over to see us. Poor thing, I want to give her a hug and a big comfy set of baggy loungewear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:18 AM
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I’d lose some respect for a guy who missed the opportunity to say it first. My interest would go down. I think that if a woman says it first, it disempowers both parties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 01:09 AM
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Good to have you here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:16 AM
10

What does AMALT stand for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:55 PM
4

The fact that you wouldn’t even do this to anyone let alone a partner shows just how bad this behaviour really is to you. Have you decided what to do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 10:48 PM
11

Does he have any wisdom teeth he needs removing? I would be beyond enraged at this behaviour. It’s insulting, cowardly, and sadistic. I would be very tempted to offer to take him for his wisdom teeth removal and then just dump him at his house on his own in pain. Dumping him is almost too kind, I would be having revenge fantasies. Probably don’t act on them...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:24 PM
10

I want to agree with you and apologise for entertaining the idea that it could ever be the mother’s fault. But I sadly can’t. Many women have low standards. My own mother didn’t teach me this stuff. As a 7 year old, I was shocked when my stepmother made me flush the loo and wash my hands. I remember finding it so strict. I’m so glad my step mother did this! The standards we choose now are those that will be continued. I really want to believe that nurture has a say, because if it doesn’t then wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:21 AM
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I think this needs to be part of an eventual how to raise HVM guide. I wish more women of the generation prior to me would have taught their boys this stuff. I feel like the only people on the planet who have this power are mothers. By the time they get to me, they already don’t literally give a shit about me having to see their piss stains and butt fluff. Basically, teach them how to clean their own shit please. No boy of mine will etc etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:49 AM
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By the way if anyone has doubts, install a key logging app. I caught my ex this way (this was a few years ago, on MY laptop. Which he was using to wank off via porn and dating sites while he was unemployed and I was at work 😭😭😭) We are not paranoid, jealous or crazy, we are instinctive and smart and sometimes we need evidence. Or rather, they need to know we have evidence. Sad fucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:41 AM
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Nailed it 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:36 AM
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I just want to say that I think deep down you know what to do. You’re already doing it, but you want affirmation that you’re right. You are, darling, you are in the right. Keep going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:34 AM
12

Seconded! Don’t tolerate man who is comfortable with you not knowing how much he likes you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:33 AM
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‘The most masculine of men’ 😂😂😂 I don’t mind Harry, I even like him, but this certainly isn’t an accurate summary of who he is. Maybe that’s why I tolerate him 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:21 AM
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Fuck it, I’ll marry you, you fantastic thing. I won’t really, I’m a woman, but you’re brilliant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:02 AM
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Decide on the outcome you want and then identify the path to get there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:56 AM
2

100% with you on all of this good stuff, lady. Doesn’t it just feel so natural from the moment you actually tune in to it? 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:36 AM
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Yes agreed! And how to raise HVM as well as HVF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:19 AM
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Thank you lovely! If you like it please nominate it to the mods to be pinned. I think it’s something we all need and we can keep building on. Bonus tip: next time you’re discussing literally anything - be it food, cars, clothes, books...heck even your educational background...find a way to tell him about something you recently treated yourself to. Work in something about ‘sometimes it’s just really worth it to pay a bit more and have something truly lovely/ special/ etc’ HVM will take note. He’l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 10:39 PM
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Thank you, that is exactly what I wanted give 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 12:59 AM
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Yes, he could be. It wouldn’t work for me personally though. I haven’t decided in advance how long I’ll want to stay home with the children...I just want the freedom to choose what I think is right at the time. I’m making finances a deciding factor now, so that I don’t have to make finances a deciding factor when I’m facing motherhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:36 PM
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Yes, with a heavy heart. For me at this stage it’s a dealbreaker except in exceptional cases. I’m only interested in husband material, and I intend to have children. I don’t want to be in the situation where my husband needs me to leave a months old child in someone else’s care because he can’t cover the bills and I’m forced to go back to work too soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:23 PM
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Fucking hell the socks in his y fronts 🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:15 AM
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Well done you beautiful creature 👏👏👏 You deserve it all, and what really makes it is that last sentence. If it’s not this one, it’ll be another one, but now you’re only going to take the good and none of the bad. 😘😘😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:42 PM
55

The world desperately needs more FDS to stop this low effort behaviour from continuing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:53 AM
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I’ve really been noticing how badly some men react when we don’t give them access to information they ask for. They seem to have a real problem about it. It’s superbly unattractive! It sends me creep shivers when they push.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:50 AM
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That sounds great. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:43 AM
3

I’ve downloaded the app and made a start by logging in. Before I decide whether to continue with the all the verification, can you tell me what it’s all about and how it’s different from reddit? I’ve never used discord before. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:25 AM
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It’s so hard to resist commenting over there, for fear of being on the receiving end of loads of male nastiness that I don’t have the energy for. I’ll write it here because I have to get it out, it’s nothing new and luckily a few people have weighed in similarly. “He wants to be teased and touched, she wants to recover from nearly dying in order to have his offspring, and is facing doing it all over again in a few months’ time.’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:43 AM
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Interesting! Sorry, I always seem to make really long comment replies. I just find all this stuff so interesting and beneficial to work through together. I for one have firmly entered a brand new stage in my dating life and am a tad bit too evangelical perhaps 😂 I would say that not drinking, or being in control of drinking, are a high value behaviour. It’s one crutch he obviously doesn’t need, and shows he’s in control of himself and values his health and his behaviour around other people. Clea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:39 AM
2

Fantastic sounds like you’ve got this well under control! Will you come back here and let us know how it all played out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:54 AM
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Build yourself up now, and be ready in case he tries to boomerang. At some point in the future he may try with you again, you will get the satisfaction of rejecting him. Don’t fixate on it, just know you’ll be stronger and happier the more you continue on your new path, and you will become immune.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:27 AM
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Firstly well done for having a go at something new. My response got a bit long...I guess your post really resonated with how I have felt in the past. It happens a lot less now! I won’t address whether or not you should go on this date, that’s for you to decide. So if you’re determined to go on this date despite your doubts, here’s how you could frame it. 1) Take all the necessary safety precautions which I won’t list, except to say that you really should chat with him briefly on the phone first.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:49 PM
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Thank you. I will drive. I think I’ll let him know casually that it just works for me better. If he gets weird about it, better to find out in advance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:04 AM
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Oh shoot you are right. I’m annoyed because I am already looking at transport options and I don’t want to spend on taxis. I also don’t want to get hammered obviously. What do you think I should do? Options - tell him that I’m planning to drive regardless - cancel the date - find a way to let him invite me to lunch or dinner instead from the outset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:54 AM
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You just inspired me to nail a first date strategy (I think, you tell me) for a guy I’m seeing next week. Thank you! I met him in real life, he respectfully pursued, and secured a drinks date. Due to contextual reasons not worth explaining, I accepted the drinks date. I like him, we’ll see. We both are travelling in order to meet up, but he is travelling more than I am. I found out he is planning not to drive (amber flag - he wants to get his drink on). He knows my logistics and hasn’t offered t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:35 AM
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Yes my beauty!!!!! Honey you didn’t dodge a bullet, you dodged a bazuka! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 He is indeed mentally ill, and that is truly a shame. I don’t wish anyone to go through what he is suffering with. But it’s not your burden to bear. I’ll put my hand on my heart and say that if one less woman doesn’t have to learn this the hard way, then it will have been worth it for me. I paid a big price to gain this knowledge, now please take it for free and fly with it! I wish you all the love in the world 💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 03:12 AM
4

Oh he firmly believes that he is in love with her. He has painted himself as a tragic romantic hero. He will surely die without her! I was once the object of such a love. It was great. Once, when I didn’t do exactly what he needed, he got especially drunk, locked himself in the bathroom, and cut himself with my razor. I was outside the locked door, screaming and begging and threatening to call an ambulance. I’d never felt so loved and cared for. Please forgive me my sarcasm. I’m not trying to br…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 02:53 AM
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Never mind whatever he said, you are completely right in what you’ve said here. I hereby move to propose an adjustment to the common phrase: ‘give them an inch and they’ll take three and a half’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:47 PM
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Love it! My old friend used to have a spreadsheet 😂 But what you’re doing is beyond that, I think you’re amazing! And when I think about it, it’s really not in the least bit extra. It’s incredibly sensible and rational.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:12 PM
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‘The frog took a shit on the patio’ 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:13 AM
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I don’t agree when it comes to being hit on in public. Men are opportunists and many of them literally do not have any respect for who’s in whose league. They have the audacity to try to hit on amazing women whilst being cave trolls. They think they’re entitled to tell us to smile, or that we have nice tits. No amount of smart clothes will put them off, they’ll just say ‘she’s a stuck up bitch but she’s still shaggable’. Levelling up does of course work in other areas eg when actually interactin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:04 AM
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You’re doing the right thing and it’s really hard but it’s necessary. Well done you, and keep going. I really hope make lurkers are reading this and that at least one in ten of them have the intellectual honesty and empathy to see the harm in stringing women along for sex. If you manipulate someone, it’s your fault for the pain you cause when they fall into your trap. We are caring, kind, beautiful people and they are blessed to have us. If they don’t see the value in us, I don’t see the point o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:52 AM
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Ah ok. I was ready to believe this was straight out of some cult/ conservative publisher’s children’s book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:17 AM
1

Wtf is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:04 AM
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Seconded that he’s not in love with her, he’s not currently capable of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:16 AM
14

They can’t get away with this lacklustre nonsense any more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:13 AM
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😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:47 PM
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Balls to the wall crazy! But sis, I’m glad you’re here. In my short experience, this is a tough but fair crowd who only have your interests at heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:40 PM
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There’s no one here who can change your mind for you. But my advice is to avoid fixating on this issue. I announced to my grandmother and my mother today that I have finally accepted, it’s either excellence or singledom for me. I can’t guarantee I’ll meet a good guy, but you better believe I’m going to be ready for it if I do. Meanwhile I’ll just enjoy this crazy and beautiful life. Don’t fixate on all the negatives. Get out there and do your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 09:16 PM
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Imagine if a friend or beloved family member said those words to you. ‘You will never find a good man. Your job isn’t helping either! You’re almost 25 and you don’t know what you are doing’ It’s a truly horrible way to speak to someone. No one has the right to tell you those things. If someone did, I think you’d probably see how wrong they are, and maybe decide to stop being friends with that person. Now please, treat yourself a bit nicer. Don’t say mean things to you. Well done for ditching the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 01:20 AM
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We might need a bit more detail - I mean ‘yes’ is the short answer that I imagine most of us will say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:48 PM
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Oh and by the way OP, if you want to do sugar dating, GO FOR IT and have fun! But please be SOOOO careful and recognise it for what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:45 PM
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I’m a bit confused why OP would have said that she would have spent the money on lingerie. It’s so forward for a non-sugar date. Even if that were true, I would never say it on an early stages date. I would have said a handbag!!! This screams sugar situation to me. That’s totally OK, but it’s not what FDS is about and women should note that sugar dating and dating HVM are very different indeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:43 PM
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All my previous bad choices just prepared me to fully change my attitude and do things properly from now on. If I had come across this way of thinking years ago, I might not have appreciated its true value, or taken it so much to heart. Some lessons just have to be learned the hard way 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:42 AM
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If they can’t see it, that’s on them. If they lack the vision to see you for the amazing person you are, then good riddance! 😘😘😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 01:33 AM
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Hmm very interesting situation, it doesn’t seem cut and dry at all. I think there are some techniques that make men magically realise they need to act now. I think there is some stuff in the handbook about it. I haven’t tried any of it (never been with someone worthwhile). I mean, a job offer overseas or far away might do it! Have you ever spent more than a few nights apart? I wonder if he was without you for a week or two, a few things might click into place. Are you still able to date outside …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 06:44 PM
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Has she been made aware of our sub? I don’t want t bombard her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:52 PM
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This guy has already cost you too much mental energy to be justified. I know it’s SUPER frustrating when they do weird things like this, but I think a good rule to apply at the early stages is that if it’s not making sense, it’s not making progress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:40 PM
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It just depends what kind of stupid you’re in the mood for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:20 PM
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Amazing, yes, one hundred percent agree and think this deserves more of our time and energy to think about! The resources we have are finite. Time can never be taken back. Energy returns, slowly and only when it’s ready. Money, though important, is actually the easiest to replace of all of these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:00 PM
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I’m saying no. I do believe you are capable of having the benefits without your feelings getting hurt. But the real reason is we have GOT to stop rewarding bad behaviour in men AS A SPECIES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:21 AM
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You’re in good company. I held on to mine for far too long 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:11 AM
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Nope. Signets are worn on little finger and are tapered at the back. And you’re obviously a sweet person, but we can’t make excuses for men. If it mattered to him, he would have said in his profile that it’s not a wedding ring, just as how you often see guys saying ‘by the way the kid in the picture is my nephew’ etc. But he hasn’t, so we take it on face value. If we don’t read the glaring signs, how can we hope to detect the more subtle ones?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:07 AM
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Saved that because the image is getting cropped and used at the first opportunity 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 12:58 AM
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I see what you mean but the way it played out, me agreeing to go for dinner was what he got for making more effort. Are you sure I should have yes to both dates on the back of his efforts? I feel mean now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:59 PM
16

😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:15 PM
7

David Beckham cheated on Victoria. This not HVM behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:58 AM
2

Much love x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:37 AM
2

😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:36 AM
10

When I want to reject one without discussion I find it works to use the phrase ‘we’re not a match’. They seem to respect it and it’s absolute yet and neutral, so no one needs to waste energy on having a conversation about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:38 PM
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I needed to read this right now. A week or so ago I said I’d carve out some time on NYE to meet him early in the evening tomorrow, as I have bigger plans later on. Due to logistical reasons, I determined it would benefit me to do a drinks date on this occasion. Even if it’s a bit rushed, at least it’s rushed because I’m busy, and supposedly it’s going to work around my plans, not the other way round. He said he’d choose a place and let me know. Fast forward to me now at 10pm the night before, ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:08 PM
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Men really don’t do themselves any favours do they. 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:17 AM
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Hasn’t arrived yet. He only posted it on Friday... I never messaged him by the way. He waited a while, but was all over my messages yesterday. Hopefully parcel tomorrow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:26 PM
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Yes it’s changed how I view everything. I keep catching myself applying it to the weirdest stuff though, honestly the other day I caught myself thinking ‘this deodorant is a low value deodorant! It doesn’t even work properly! I’m taking it out of my rotation and using my other ones!’ But in all seriousness, I listen to my inner voice more now and have been spending a lot of time thinking about the past and seeing it afresh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:23 AM
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I would say that given your age, it’s normal not to have reached your full potential by now! You are on your way to realising your true value and power. By starting to work on this now in whatever way feels right for you, you’ve actually got a massive head start on lots of people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:27 PM
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One of my exes was this man. And guess what - five years later he’s still this man. Except he’s now at the age where his contemporaries are partners and directors in their businesses, and he’s spending all his money flying to another country to see a woman...and he doesn’t even have the right to work there! He’s such a fuckwit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:20 PM
2

In the past I would have accepted this, but all it ever got me was disappointed. He had the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:34 AM
14

So dismissive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:57 AM
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I think he got you on to deeper and more personal topics purely to create unearned intimacy and make you feel a bond to him so he can use you. I think him dangling the prospect of gifts in front of you is so you turn up at the date. EDIT: IF HE WANTS YOUR ADRESS TO POST GIFTS TO, UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD YOU LET HIM HAVE IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:53 AM
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When first messaging, if they ask you for a date, I tend to reply with something like ‘that sounds nice, but I’d like to speak on the phone first before deciding whether to meet up’. I like it because it tells him my time and efforts aren’t given away so freely, reminds him I am actively vetting him, and it shows that I am less likely to be vulnerable. Then we schedule a time and day when he is due to call me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:43 AM
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What to say lol I’m not very good at selling myself” = witless blunderer. “I like kissing you all over (or other sexual act)” = use of ‘you’ means he is literally looking for a girl to copy and paste into his bedroom. “I’m down to earth” = “I’m deliberately uneducated. “Looking for an open minded woman” = “I am a pervert. “I know how to treat a lady” = “I do not know how to treat a lady” “I have a good sense of humour” = “I have no imagination, at all”. God I could go on. Sometimes I want to tel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:11 AM
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When men are having trouble in their lives, they latch on to us. They use our compassionate and caring natures to get whatever they need, whether it’s sex, money, a place to live, or emotional support. I would advise you to be INCREDIBLY wary of this. I speak from experience, and I would go so far as to say that until he has his own life under control BY HIMSELF you CANNOT distinguish whether his motives are genuine or exploitative. It’s not safe for your future to allow a man in who doesn’t hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 09:25 AM
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You handled it very well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 09:09 AM
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Yes of course you can be, or are, an HVF. The fact you don’t want children, and that your ideal man doesn’t either, means you are not on a timer. That’s a strength. You have time, you have the rest of your life. Be as selective as you damn well please. P.S. Not that I think wanting children is a weakness. It isn’t, for an HVF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:28 AM
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You’re bang on. (That’s British for ‘you hit the nail on the head’, please forgive me if you already knew that.) Apparently, I’m expecting something in the post. I already had a Christmas card from him. The gift hasn’t arrived yet. I think maybe I’ll wait for it and re-evaluate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:21 AM
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One vajillion percent yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:12 AM
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Thank you beautiful! It’s nice to find a corner of the world where women agree. And fantastic results on your side, enjoy them, you deserve them. Do you have any advice for me? I know I have to freeze him out for now. But when he does make contact again; for I am in no doubt that he will, what should I do? I feel like we haven’t established enough of a bond for me to have grounds to call him out. I worry that being indirect will just mystify him and fail to yield the results I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:05 AM
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Awesome keep us posted. Especially if you meet up with the ones who had no problem with it. By the way, after interacting with you on this post I changed my OLD intro to quite a ‘bitchy’ list of ‘don’ts’... my expectations are low anyway (from OLD, based on ten years of using it) so the more we’re filtering, the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:42 AM
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Thank you. I’m glad to get your unequivocal verdict. Yes it is a bit odd. He is allowing me to doubt him, and I don’t want a man who will tolerate that. I’m going to let him understand I am doubting him, by distancing myself. Should I reply at all, even if I leave it two days? I think I just answered my own question. I will not. Also, what do you think about men who ‘don’t have game’.? He’s a pretty straight up man, and he’s very serious about his ambitions (marriage and children - I know this b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:39 AM
3

Correct behaviour! 😘😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 12:30 AM
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Does it work? How do HVMs react to this tactic? I suspect even HVMs will dislike this sort of message. I’d love to be wrong - it’d make our lives so much easier. But my impression is that the HVM will not need to discuss this matter explicitly. It’d be better to just have the phonecall/ FaceTime screen as advised. Your gut should tell you whether he’s picking up the bill and opening doors. That, or when the man wants to go on a date, he will use language like ‘I’d like to to take you to...’, ‘I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 11:50 PM
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Love what you said. Sometimes with texting we need literal rules to keep us on track. Also, you just put the idea into my head ‘If men are the prize, why is the term ‘trophy husband’ never used?!’ I really want to comment this on some horrible pick up sub but I know it wouldn’t be worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:16 AM
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Your OLD language exchange date is a prime example of the risks we women take when dating. Your safety could have been genuinely compromised by him. I just wanted to point this out as a reminder that the rules are fair - we DO have the higher level of risk exposure and that is part of the reason why it needs to be mitigated as much as possible by them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:58 AM
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Also find ways to mention your male relatives as per the thread on making yourself repellent to predators. (On mobile so can’t seem to add link, find it in the handbook).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:08 AM
3

Did you read the required reading? What did you feel about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 11:39 PM
7

Men’s reaction to jewellery is interesting. I cannot imagine getting this far with a man who would choose such a demeaning way to propose. He has no taste, no appreciation of quality, no concern for the woman’s happiness, and if he offered this to me, he clearly hasn’t noticed what I already wear! There is no way a man who’s met me even once would ever think the above would be well received. If jewellery is important to you, I think it’s wise to make sure he knows what you like and there are ple…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 10:54 PM
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I hope you have a figure in mind, it will make it easier when he tells you where he is. Don’t be afraid to look shocked, hurt, or unimpressed if it’s lower than your assessment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 10:39 PM
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I totally get this mood. Sometimes I just go on the apps to see who to destroy next. Literally the first guy on there to say the wrong thing will get wrecked. But I’m going to stick my head above the parapet here and say that honestly, I don’t think the above conversation is helping you. You’ve taken away his chance to be a gentleman on the date, and don’t forget, HVMs want to pay anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 09:38 PM
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😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 07:06 PM
2

YES! I might even increase my dating just to keep me sharp and give me some practise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 12:40 PM
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ALWAYS have at least a phone date before agreeing to meeting an OLD in person. Whenever I’ve fallen foul of my own rule I’ve regretted wasting my time, money, and make up. Never again! It’s also fun when first messaging someone who asks you out to reply with ‘I’d like to have a phone call/ FaceTime before deciding whether to meet up in person’. It immediately shows you are of a higher calibre, and reminds them that YOU are the one doing the selection. It gets him used to the idea of jumping thro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 12:14 PM
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I know you made your comment months ago but I’m new here and was just reading through. I also have difficulty finding time for plate spinning, for different reasons. Instead of feeling like I’m alone and can’t meet anyone, I frame it like, I’m so busy, that ANY date with me needs to be worthwhile. There is one guy I’m seeing and he KNOWS that I am not constantly available to him, regardless of the reasons. So what I’m saying is, however many men you’re dating, they each HAVE to know that your re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 11:56 AM
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Just curious...was the jewellery any good?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:53 AM
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😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:50 AM
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The girls’ trip out of town IS indeed the jugular. I had two of these whilst dating the same LVM. First one, he nearly broke it off with me due to his own insecurity - which to be fair was based in reality - he knew he was below his league. Second one, I nearly broke it off with him due to his insecurity, instead I settled for just laughing at his jealous and controlling reaction (he didn’t like that but I found his small mindedness absolutely hilarious - what a joke). I dumped him a couple of w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:47 AM
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