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How-To High ValueDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:41 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:57 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!Dont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:55 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?Dont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 07:44 AM
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REMINDER 👑Dont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:37 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:41 AM
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NAH, SISDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:49 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?Dont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:32 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 07:46 AM
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QUICK TIPDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:23 PM
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NOTHING BUT FACTSDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:45 AM
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LIES MEN TELLDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:19 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 06:56 AM
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FDS MEMESDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:07 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:00 AM
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Dont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 08:13 AM
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LEVEL UP BRO! Dont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:51 PM
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FDS MEMESDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:03 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYDont_Settle_for_Less/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:40 AM
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No it's just men being visual idiots who only notice really pretty women. Doesn't necessarily mean that he would not help but rather the 'less pretty' women wouldn't have caught his attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:33 PM
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I feel the main thing that's off is that 1. He lied about some details to get her home 2. He helped because he was attracted to her. But he helped regardless ...that is, presuming that this story isn't made up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:32 PM
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But do you understand that she can be legitly in danger though? Would you rather she had to walk all the way home...potentailly not reaching it ever? We all know that kind of harassments women get walking alone at night. ​ If he left her...what if she got killed or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:30 PM
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So what would you rather happen to her then? Just that he left her there, all salty that she rejected him and have her face all the harassment? She legitly could've gotten rape that night if he didn't give her a lift. But you want to mace him? What logic is that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:26 PM
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Yeah, I do feel that if she wasn't attractive he would not have even noticed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:18 PM
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This is the real example of a HVM. Yes, he did 'shoot his shot' or whatever at the end, but accepted the outcome like an adult. He didn't throw a tantrum, didn't try to force back some 'favors' for helping her. The disgusting thing is, most men nowadays will call him a simp for helping her 'for free'. SMH, those losers have no idea what it means to be nice to another human being just because without expecting anything back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:54 PM
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Say it louder for the PERV AND CREEPERS AT THE BACK!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:11 AM
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MY GOD SO TRUE!! How many times have I read something and think "Oh, he's a nice guy/bf" "He treats his girl well" and then men in the comments are like "LOL simp" "He's the beta that won't get some" like okay then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:55 PM
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Yup. It's like we tell them a direct "no" and they either try to badger, insult, or kill us. We give them hints or say it in a roundabout way and they accuse us of not being clear, playing games, stringin them along. We ghost (and THEY ALSO DO IT TOO) and they try to shame us. Like fuck y'all lol. I'm done with this bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:41 PM
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That's awesome! He's getting what he deserved! Don't beat yourself up so much, you've learned and know better now. That's what matters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:39 PM
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I just hit back with "What if one of them turns out to be THIS kind of me? I'll die anyways. But, hey, at least you got the reply so it's all good right?" Usually shuts them up fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:38 PM
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I agree! The sad part is there will be scrotes and pickmes defending those men and trying to gaslight you when you shame those pervs! It's fricking annoying. The women even more, because we're supposed to be looking out of each other...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:35 PM
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Damn girl, that's really badass. Unfortunately, I still live in a country where it's mostly illegal to carry gun out of the house/car. Plus, it's pretty damn stigmatized to talk about your gun on social media :/ I'm glad it worked out for you though. Also, those (male) individuals at your uni are so useless. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:34 PM
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Did he finally stfu after you said this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:31 PM
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And more women have to feel like this! Your safety is more important than being "nice"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:30 PM
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The most hilarious thing is the chads and the incels are the ones who usually end up being the most fragile-egoed and LVM men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:30 PM
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God, I want to experience that one day. I'm kinda worried for you though, especially if you have to walk home/to your car later or take the bus. I've definitely heard multiple accounts of crazy men waiting for the women to leave the establishment and attack. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:29 PM
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And they hardly have the fear of a women physically trying to kill them for actually saying "no" as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:27 PM
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And to be real, a lot of men also ghost and we take it in a stride without having to bash or trying to harm them because our egos aren't that fragile. Who's the weaker sex now??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:26 PM
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Good! He's an idiot and a potential LVM, you deserve better friends. Some men are just so selfish they only see how things are "inconveniences" to them and expect us to cater to their needs wants even if it puts us at risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:25 PM
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True that
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 10:24 AM
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Uh, in traditional hunter-gatherer society, women often times have the same responsibilities as men. The men = breadwinner (strong, leader)/women = homemaker (weak, follower) only came after the agricultural society developed. And it really stepped down on women, where men could become rich and take many wives but women have to demure and "pure". But this is expected from a loser incel who, instead of directing his frustrations to improving his looks or earn money for surgery LIKE WOMEN HAVE TO,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 10:09 AM
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I never allow any of my boyfriends to call me "wifey", "honey", "darling". To me, those names symbolize actual committed partnership. I have a name, you can very damn well use that unless we're actually married. I also don't give them anymore husband privileges like... been there, done that. Bye bitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 10:03 AM
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I'm not even surprised anymore. The ones who get most trigger in feminist posts tend to be the ones with the most misogynistic views
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:59 AM
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Yes, growing up in a traditional Asian culture. As long as you aren't 'tainted' in some way, you are a good possession
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:59 AM
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Yes! Or the ones with shit friends who treat women like crap. They didn't care when their friends did it to OtHEr women but it's not okay if it's their daughter. Just wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:57 AM
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I can't tell you how many times, I went on a date with a man and politely let him know I don't think we were a good match only to have him flip out and start cussing/threatening me (and that's the good case scenario). Thank god, right now I live in a culture where it is acceptable/normal to ghost and guys don't angrily message you about why you are a btch or whatever for not replying. They just accept it as a fact of life. Both men and women do it here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:55 AM
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When I get that too often, I just get a simple and cute band that I like and carry that around. If I get to bothered or know I'm going to an area where I'll be bothered, I slip the ring on and voila, no more harassments usually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 09:09 PM
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Maybe it's the area you are in too? In my old city, I use to get sht matches. When I moved to other places it got better. Also, I don't match with guys you have shirtless pics or put in ANYWHERE in their profiles or quiz that they are 1. Okay with hookups, 2. Okay with sleeping after the first date, 3. Okay with an open relationship. That pretty much cuts out all the non-relationship, LVM types for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:27 AM
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Coffee Meet Bagel. They limit people you see each afternoon to a small handful, usually screen the fckbois and DTF kinda guys out pretty well. But it's slower to match
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:25 AM
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Set up one! Thanks for the link, by the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:35 PM
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Because awards are only given to white male heros, like the ones that tackled Brock Turner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:35 PM
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I read that there was an Italian women generations ago, who chopped off her rapist's head to restore her honor and her daughter's shame, then let herself be arrested. Apparently, she was hailed a hero by the locals. If only this works today, we will have way fewer rapists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:34 PM
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It's pretty shit. Not enough that you are already somehow of a second class as a women, but it's even worse now since you are a POC as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:45 PM
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Yeah. It's even crazier to know that, in America, you can legally own a gun but you will have a hell of an expensive legal fight to prove that you used it in self-defense. So you lose whether you defend yourself or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:43 PM
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Okay but men in the US military are so toxic sometimes. There's some bad shit going on in the bases and training camps. Way different for other countries, say S Korean where a lot of women do like men after they go through their mandatory military service, many come back more respectful and disciplined
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:28 PM
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THIS IS WHY I KEEP INSISTING MY FEMALE FRIENDS TO MEET IN PUBLIC PLACES. Smack middle in the afternoon so even if the date goes a little late, it's still bright and people are out and about. NEVER let him pick up, no matter how convenient or money-saving it is. The extra hours or dollars is worth more than the potential trauma. And NEVER go to his place for coffee or into his car even if you've met and talked for a few hours. At least not for the first three dates where you gauge who he is and l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:21 PM
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Especially in countries where dowry is common. And they complain, why are they leechinh off me? Like do you not understand that some very traditional cultures consider this selling you a wife?? The polite and submissiveness doesn't come from a highly educated and ambition women who had to find her own path and navigate the world herself! These men want everything, no give or take at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:09 PM
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Validate yourself. It's okay to feel like crap, right now. Humans have a very innate response to losing a connection, it's how our hunter-gatherer ancestors learned to stick together for safety. Nothing wrong with this feeling. I usually throw myself into work or self-improvement. Just something that helps keep my mind off the issue and will leave me better than before once I'm over the breakup. By the time I feel okay, I have also glowed up/learned a new life skill/gain experience in my career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:58 PM
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Are you taking about marriage? If yes and you're over 21, after two years there should be significant progression initiated by the man. There's no use to forcing an engagement out of him if he isn't willing. I would say engaged it clear wedding plans by three years, otherwise I'm leaving coz I'm not wasting my prime
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/20 02:54 PM
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Where was this quote when I was still with my ex? I basically saw him as a pet project and threw in so much time and energy, whilst neglecting myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:49 PM
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What. The. Actual. Fuck. Bruh I usually don't even fill that "message me if" prompt. It attracts too much low-effort idiots looking for the easy way to start a convo. Without it, men who are actually interested in putting effort will have to read my profile and find something to talk about. While the lazy fckers just say "Heyyy" or the more classic "DTF?" Makes the filtering more streamlined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:48 PM
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Reminds me of the legendary time when 90% of Icelandic women went on strike for a day. Like they just up and left, no work could be done and men had to take care of the children. Policy changes were implemented right away. Such bad-assery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:45 PM
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Tinder is crap, girl. Try OkCupid or CMB. They are a bit better. I especially like OKC because of their extensive quiz questions so I usually know right away if he are like for a hook-up. 70% of men say they are, so they whittles it down quick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:35 PM
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Exactly! Some times I prefer dating apps because it easier to cut them off if I feel unsafe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:33 PM
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I've seen this, too. The police and justice system use their authority for themselves or their political friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:30 PM
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Yes, I came here to say just that! They hold innocent women (on the basis of being emotional and biased) to a stricter standard than "alleged" criminal men in America, it's fucking stupid and sick. This needs to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:29 PM
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Or mostly importantly, "can take a joke/have a sense of humor" which is creeper-speak for being okay with sexual harassment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:26 PM
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I feel like a big part of why the Turner case was big, was because the two witnesses who saw and tackled Turner were SWEDISH MALE students. See the pattern yet? It almost seems as if, when men demonstrate somehow that an action is wrong, suddenly the country takes notice. While a women can debated, explain, and provide evidence all she wants... But she'll just be a crazy emotional lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:52 PM
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One thing I always see commonly is when the perpetrator is "white" and "male" some how the crime is always described as "allegedly". Despite all evidence pointing to the crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:47 PM
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Yup, that how the patriarchy works
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:44 PM
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And we still have this debate on whether catcalling is okay on national TV. Some make twat will come on and say oH tHeY ArE JusT CoMpliMenTinG YoU! Okay so why don't guys tell other guys to smile more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:51 AM
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Damn, did he get charged??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:45 PM
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Yeah this is why I'm reluctant to date Western guys since it's way more conservative in my culture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:12 PM
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Ooh, that's true! I don't know why I never did this! I usually just rely on winging it in-person or sticking with my friends. I should look into self-defense things you can carry into clubs and that are legal in different countries/states since I move around a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:59 PM
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Weird. When I have creepers trying to follow/grind on me, I get closer without making it too obvious and then elbowed them in the stomach and either say "Omg, I'm so sorryy" in a cheerful and drunk manner and shimmy away with my friend. They are less likely to retaliate for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:56 PM
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There's someone similar who used to be in my friend group as well. Wasn't as crazy but very opportunistic. Like if he couldn't get with one girl in the group (there were mainly three including me) he would act all huffy, call the oarticular girl selfish (Yes! Selfish! For not sleeping with him LOL), and move to another in rotation. Occasionally, he would leave us alone to chase after another girl outside the group and then come back. Most of us would literally tell him varying degrees of "I'm no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:53 PM
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LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:23 PM
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Basically, she acknowledged that her father said something stupid (and jokingly unforgivable) so once the mother kills him, she'll help dig a grave with a shovel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:22 PM
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Yeah, like what kind of backwards caveman are you??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:51 PM
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I hoped she drew the line though. Not okay with putting up with this bs from your own partner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:51 PM
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Same, but we all know many women are lulled into thinking this is somehow endearing. I have seen women smiling sheepishly telling their girlfriend how they have to prep everything if they leave their kids with their husband for more than 10 hours. And their friends nod and say, "Well, you know how men are." Da fuq, dude? If he's not ready to be a parent why marry him??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:03 PM
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Yup, like no thanks. I'm picking up my daughter and leaving his dumbass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:00 PM
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Dude, he has so many red flags. It's not so much a question of whether this is abuse as much as THE DEGREE of abuse. I'm glad to hear that you are in therapy and not with him anymore. I don't know if he is a narcissist but a definite toxic piece of shit for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 07:20 PM
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I love how I can see men's comment about how angry and violence-inciting incels are piir souls and deserve sympathy. While women fed up with terrible men and learning to leave is somehow toxic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:59 PM
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They do, have you seen those redpill forums? They look specifically for inexperienced, insecure, young women to exploit. Not that it matters, if he are the cause for a break up they will default to "She was so crazy" while everyone else in the vicinity nods sympathetically
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:57 PM
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That's how you gotta do it though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:42 PM
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Oh nice! Wish my old professors were like that. I'm not sure if there's something about it being the Australian culture or just that university, but women get talked over all the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:41 PM
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Yeah, that's so hard to figure out though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:40 PM
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Argh, I can't even imagine. Thank good I work in a more female environment or I will be pissed most of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:39 PM
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That's awesome! Your daughters learned from the best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:38 PM
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True, but everyone is so eager to buy into that "Oh, but he's such a sweetheart", "She must've done something" excuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:38 PM
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Yeah, it's stupid and annoying but also why we need more male allies since they are still half the damn population. Plus, they are more likely to listen to and respect each other's opinions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:37 PM
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I'm glad that you're out now. All the best moving forward!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:35 PM
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Yes, but a word of caution. Even in self defense situations, the law doesn't really protect women especially when you used a firearm. You're going to have to hire a lawyer in many cases. Sometimes your attacker can try to sue you and even have a strong case. America's a strange place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:34 PM
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I like how this has always been brought up as evidence about how newer generations don't try hard or whatever. But the truth is, women just had no way of back then. Now we have more choices and are getting more empowered to pursue what we want!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:31 PM
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She sounds like an smart lady! She knows what she wants and doesn't take shit from anyone! I agree with her stance tbh. I give back what I get, if a guy cheats and we break up I'm not going to play a saint and be quiet especially if I know he might try to play the victim/"she's a psycho, dude" card. Imma let everyone know why exactly we broke up. The more you try to be the bigger person, the more they try to twist the narrative imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:29 PM
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Yup, I recently saw an article that says men actually talk more than women. The stereotype is just there to try and shut us up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:26 PM
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While I advocate for women to stand their ground and speak for themselves, not all women find it easy. It's always good to find an ally who understands that the society tends to gloss over a woman's opinions and have your back. The admirable thing is that man may not have this experience himself but he has enough awareness and sympathy to help out when needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 06:25 PM
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Basically, rescuing all women who are still trapped in this mindset of "I have to make this relationship work" or those that are too ashame to leave. Just because a women starts realizing some red flags doesn't always mean she has it in her to leave because of external pressures or other factor. This post is to encourage women to stand up for themselves and leave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:32 PM
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Exactly! I don't care if you're 20 or 40, honestly. Do you want to prolong the suffering or have that much more time to pick up the pieces and move on? The choice is clear. If people judge and shame you for leaving, are they really your friends anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 11:21 AM
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Yes! Hope we become more of a household name, so many women need help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:20 AM
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No, you shouldn't feel like you're crazy! You are brave for doing the right thing in a society that protects abusers. Be proud!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:40 AM
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Yes! The crazy thing is, even if we let them off the hook, they won't amend their ways. More likely, they feel like it's somehow okay since they got away with it the last time. More innocent girls will fall victim!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 09:33 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that. Hope you are safe now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 09:31 PM
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Pretty much my dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:44 PM
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Yeah this is sound. Sadly, the male humans are on the higher rung of society in many countries. If the men who may or may not have done harassment and assault are on the lawmaking level, do you think they'll willingly change the law that can bite themselves in the ass? No, sadly. We would have to fight for it ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:43 PM
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This is why I just unmatch. Can't deal with the stupid games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:12 PM
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Especially now. Like, hello? Corona much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:12 PM
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Classic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:11 PM
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Okay, this is actually so funny I snorted. Will be using it in the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:10 PM
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I know this punchline by heart but it still makes me laugh every time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:08 PM
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The hypocrisy is real too. The man child character is also received with a "Haha, he's so funny and free spirited" but if it's a women, suddenly we hear "She's such a mess". Like, okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:07 PM
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Some people live too entrenched in privilege that something fair seems like a witch hunt. It's a wakeup call for their delusions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:52 PM
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Oh, that sounds like you have everything you need! I really want those asses to get what they deserve. That really isn't the way you treat someone who's been through something traumatic. Not sure why I'm getting emotionally invested in your story now. Really hope it works out for you Edit: mistyped something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:50 PM
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Omg, does this state have some laws against stalking? Maybe you can provide the police calling and messaging details, even if it's just to log it down/make a preliminary report. In case, he tries something worse then you have a backlog already with law enforcement to support your case. From what I've heard though (idk how true it is), you can't get too emotional when you report things like this. Just be a bit concern but polite and listen to what they say. So they have an impression of you not a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:47 PM
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Yeah, make sense I guess. Being accused doesn't feel good though. :/ And my account's new but still you have to start somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:41 PM
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DUDE, THAT'S ACTUALLY SO SHIT. Wtf, why would they do that! A bit different but in my country that would literally ask women if you have been dressing inappropriately/came back late at night/forgot to lock the door. LIKE, WHY DOES THAT MATTER?? You can't even trust law enforcement with this issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:55 PM
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Why would you even think that? I saw the meme on my social media feed and shared it here. Plus, if you read all my posts and comments, you'll probably realize I'm not a guy. I do, however, have a lot of pent up frustration with many guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:50 PM
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Damn, that's sucks! Can you provide more detail? He seriously sounds like a stalker, btw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:39 PM
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Yeah, I almost refused my offer to study at a prestigious uni because it was in another country, away from my bf at the time. But he habitually lied about a bunch of stuff and I caught on before I made a decision. Dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:38 PM
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Lol, what a piece of shit. Good thing he showed his color
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:36 PM
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Oh my gosh! Thank god, you got away!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:35 PM
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Wow, how low can they go. They should've been apologizing instead. They're lucky, you're not me. I would've posted their message and put them on blast like I wouldn't be able to keep it to myself. Hope things get better for you! Stay strong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:34 PM
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Preach, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:31 PM
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Yeah, as if most women want to say that they have been assaulted. In this day and age, there's still more shame at being the victim than the perpetrator. It's fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:30 PM
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I even had guy "friends" who point-blank told me they would also talk and be friends with girls they are attracted to. That made me understand that if I were somehow "uglier" they wouldn't even give me the time of day. The most irritating part was, they were pretty unattractive themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:39 PM
2

So true! And if I meet them in person, I never give my number out until the third date at least. It's dangerous, makes it easier to trace you or call/spam. In dating apps, you can usually unmatch/block/report and that'll be the end of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 01:35 PM
28

Same, but based on the pattern I seen so far, I doubt it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:04 AM
37

This is why we have so much problems with consent because they do this on the daily
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:03 AM
57

Right? There are even ones that start flipping tables before you even have the chance to read their messages. Like relax bro, some of use have jobs and don't watch pornhub all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:03 AM
33

Yeah, nowadays if I can tell they're not the aggressive type, I just look disgusted (in person) or type "ew" in the chat. Most get the hint, although they might have a rant or two, but it gets them off my back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:01 AM
12

Oldie but a goldie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:59 AM
10

Idiots will always be idiots I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:59 AM
31

Thanks for the link! We need to spread awareness about this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:36 AM
120

Especial ones where they seem like nice friends/individuals but as soon as they aren't getting sex from us, then they become assholes and cry "nice guys finish last" type of crap. No, if your niceness is conditional on whether you get sex, you're not nice just a manipulative shit head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:35 AM
213

Yes! Even the 'non-violent' ones act all offended. Once I politedly told a guy I went on two dates that I don't think we are a match and wished him the best in finding a great girl....and then he flipped out on me. This isn't a one-time occurance either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:33 AM
117

Exactly, they cause the problem, we try to find a solution. And then get dragged for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:31 AM
40

Yes, us ladies go cray for this sht
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:31 AM
22

Because scrotes are being scrotes lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:30 AM
9

I've recently heard thay women who have experienced sexual assault can't join in jury as because they may be biased. I hope this isn't true because we all know rapist men who are still serving as judges.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 07:15 PM
39

Yes! I love her elegance content, there's a lot of valuable insight into leveling up as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:06 PM
18

Some men's self-centered-ness and fuckery knows no end. Kudos on the girl for being smart and not playing his stupid games according to his stupid rules!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:04 PM
11

Word! Makes me wonder what kind of men they are exactly to feel defensive when they hear, "Don't rape."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 05:58 PM
13

Yeah wtf. What about HER life?! He already ruined it so how about some sense of justice or fairness? They are all very ME!-centric and self-absorbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 05:55 PM
6

Especially video interviews on Youtube! They're a gold mine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:03 PM
4

Yes she is! I follow most of her social accounts for the daily inspirations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:02 PM
7

That sass! 😂 I just can't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:48 PM
42

The same men who say "Have a sense of humor", "It's just a joke", "Chill". They run around throwing rape jokes and analogies while saying they're not serious. Until they actually do it and cry for mercy like that Brock Turner fratboy dipshit and others of the same species.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:45 PM
18

Yes! You're their partner not their therapist + mom + life coach. You shouldn't have to stretch yourself thin. Use that energy one yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:42 PM
34

Hahahah yes! I would do that, too. And then break up after a while because, like you said, it's not a healthy relationship and neither parties are happy. Just a bit of satisfaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:40 PM
57

Some LVM do for sure. Sadly for them, I would make them do it again and verbally instruct everything and have them do it correctly. Trust me, they hate this and will get it done right everytime afterwards. But honestly, after a while I would leave them anyways because I can't stand this crap for long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:39 PM
62

This! This is the standard we should being holding men to. They aren't young children needing to be taught basic logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:36 PM
60

The type of men we should marry! None of those bad boy, too-cool-for-you fuckery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:35 PM
13

Yeah, studies are now showing that nurture also has a huge impact on how boys and girls act when they grow up. So done with "boys can't cry" toxic masculinity BS as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:32 PM
8

God, I hope he stays this way! The world IS changing so that's a good chance still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:31 PM
14

Yes! I hope he keeps it up and, if he become a father, that he passes his mindset to his sons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:30 PM
19

Yeah I mean if the guy consistently/usually doesn't text back in the same day, I don't bother. Even more so to the ones that disappear of the grid and then come back with the classic, "heyyy", "wyd", "u up ;) ". Which likely they mass texted to all the girls in their phone to see who would take the bait. Won't be me, that's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:45 PM
18

I think it's more on how perception of society has changed. Women are realizing their rights and values more than ever. Previously, a woman's goal in life was portrayed to get a marry to marry you. Later, it was learn to please and sexually pleasure a man so he stays with you. Not much else is said on what a woman can do. Now we have women in every corner taking action and being inspirational. It's becoming more commonplace and we are more aware of that we're not here just to serve a man's needs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:42 PM
12

Makes you wonder who the real adult is here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:31 PM
19

The occasional uplifting anecdote in the sea of LVM stories!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:09 PM
51

Christ, I never saw that one! The attempts to disprove a women's opinion by undermining her 'purity' or 'sanity' runs at the corporate level too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:07 PM
19

Exactly! But people are prone to buying the "oh she must have blah, blah, blah" that why it didn't work out. Infuriating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:05 PM
13

Yup! The women in the workplace usually gets glossed over or make fun off to disprove her ideas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:04 PM
35

The point of this post isn't political. Make no mistakes, especially as I'm not American I don't even have any stakes or personal opinions in that matter. The content of this post still remains true especially with Greta and Taylor. I can't comment about the last lady but Greta's real core message has nothing political, it's 'why the fuck don't you people care about the environment??' which is something anyone who reads and understand scientific data and discourse will know is realistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 01:03 PM
36

Exactly, the boy is the future of his generation while the dad and his backward idea will slowly fade away into oblivion over time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:38 AM
33

I agree. She's been taking so much hate for so long even with that John Mayer song where the media basically dragged her for being "mean" to him. When he already has a pretty bad history and Taylor was so young. Even now he's still creating controversy. Here are some sources: https://www.reddit.com/r/TaylorSwift/comments/cai6h7/dear_john_a_survivors_song_tw_abuse_adult/ https://www.billboard.com/articles/news/959433/john-mayers-sexually-racially-charged-playboy-interview-sparks-outrage https://w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:34 AM
36

Apply ointment to burn 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:20 AM
37

Yeah, the dad is the very same ones who excuse violence as "Boys will be boys". The son seems to more of man than his own father!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:19 AM
57

I hope and pray. At least the sister seems to know what's up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:17 AM
36

He sure does!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:17 AM
25

Somebody forward her (the pickme) this subreddit. She needs help. The columnist can fucked off though. We don't need people who perpetuate relationship labor onto women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:28 AM
20

I would just stop talking to them after taco bell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:24 AM
15

Perfectly worded! I'm done sticking around with people who don't treat me right and trying to explain why they shouldn't do that, all because I'm afraid of being alone. In fact, the new found confidence helped me attract the right kind of people! Don't waste your time and energy on people don't deserve and appreciate you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:22 AM
34

My god, I can't say how fucking elated I am with this group. Most of life was spent surrounded by pickmes, men excuse-givers, and general acceptance of a sub-standard treatment. Now I can say my truth and talk to like-minded women who have the same values as I do and don't take crap from LVMs. We're stronger together, sisters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:13 AM
4

Hoo boy, this is a loaded one for me. I used to date this guy. He wasn't an okay guy and not like those full-blown LVM, by any means. But he's a bit lazier and have low self-esteem his whole life. Me being the former pickme, loved this Pet Project challenge and tried to help him, bring him up, be extremely supportive and understanding. Basically I became his mama, life coach, and girlfriend in one. Almost three years went by before I learned that this ain't right and there's only so much I can h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:08 AM
3

Right? Most guys I know have a hard time opening up and confiding their feelings and problems to their friends. Strong friendship, my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 08:55 AM
3

Yeah. Perhaps in the patriarchal society we are led to believe that women are just sexual caricature of makeup and boobs. So when we don't know any better, we think it's compliment. When in really women are smart, strong, and wonderful already. Good thing you got out now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 08:53 AM
4

Sounds like you got yourself a pretty good guy! And I agree, it's a good way to weed out the crazies vs the real and respectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 08:49 AM
9

Yeah, I wouldn't do it for the sake of having fun and games. But I've come to realize that a lot of men put up a front to sleep with you or date you for a bit. And once they lose interest, they reveal their shitty personalities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 08:48 AM
5

To be honest, I don't see it as a game but more of a way to see "Is your niceness and personality towards me right now because that's really who you are or because you want to fuck me?" You'd be surprised the amount of guys who flip if you honestly aren't interested and politely tell them so. I had friends who have been harassed and threatened like "You're a bitch", "Oh you only like rich guys, huh? ". Like wtf, guys calm down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 08:46 AM
44

Honestly I deleted my snap a long time ago. Way too gross for me, people actually try to be amateur pornstars on it. No, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:31 PM
49

Just let him Venmo and run away lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:30 PM
46

I knew one dude who was into Japanese porn and shared on his Facebook a one-month quarantine calendar of a difference pornstar to watch each day. As if it's something to be proud of. Disgusting. Promptly unfriended and block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:27 PM
3

The pathetic LVMs never knows when to quit, do they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:12 PM
3

Yes. Just communicate and give back rubs?? How about you confess about what a shitty, selfish bastard you are and free your wife and children from this hell hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:11 PM
4

I really hope that it is. Otherwise, this shit is really depressing as hell. Cool fact though! Thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:09 PM
8

Heh, the angry ones don't even get to me because I may be calm most of the time. But I can dial up being pissed very quickly. None of my exes would dare. The weepy ones are worse, in my opinion. They try to play the poor victim, "pity me" ! And try to make you the bad guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:26 PM
-5

Yes! Maybe just don't even read or respond. Delete that text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:23 PM
13

Makes you wonder if the writer is a pickme herself or possibly a scrote in disguise like that other advice website that was recently bought by a creepy old sucker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:06 PM
7

That's the thing! The cheater dude describe her as young and pretty, doesn't she have other options aside from a still MARRIED man with children? Like, what's wrong with you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:04 PM
11

There's some mild red flags with him already. There's also nothing wrong with realizing you outgrew him. You were constantly improving yourself while he stayed more stagnant. Your partner should be someone who is supportive and inspires you. You could come up with possible ideas on how you can be less tied together and then have a talk with him after the quarantine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 01:08 PM
9

Word!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:56 PM
5

I used to have some friends in my circle who feel flattered when guys come up to say "hey you're so hot" or literally eye-rape them. While I'm just thinking... Girl, why?? Glad to say my standard in friends (and men as well) has improved since then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:49 PM
2

And it won't leave you in as much of a financial ruin, too! Gotta protect your savings as well as sanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:39 PM
7

I'm speechless. Good riddance, though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:38 PM
8

It's now time to "Drop IT like it's hot".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:37 PM
2

Ah, yes. Here we see a scrote exhibiting hypocritical behavior in it's natural habitat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:35 PM
14

It's clear he doesn't truly love her. If he did, he would have thought about how this would hurt her before cheating. This man is clearly living for himself: have a family and also have fun hoeing around with a younger girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:29 PM
20

If he marriage is based on a lie what help would "sparks" do?? It want save the wife from the pain and betrayal that's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:28 PM
21

Exactly! I wonder if one can sue for infidelity that leads to STDs. That'll be the dream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:25 PM
26

Basically. I wish I knew who he was so I can let his wife know. She doesn't deserve this at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:23 AM
10

Honestly I wouldn't even bother helping. I'll let them rot in the very graves they dug themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:22 AM
1

I would tell. It's good to be concerned and try to help because that's realistically all you can do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:19 AM
1

I'm learning to pick my fights and let go sometimes. But there are instances when I know I'll win and I just can't help providing a response and then having them completely shut up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:18 AM
2

Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:11 AM
5

If reincarnation is real, I better be a bird in my next life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:09 AM
2

I'm saving this for future reference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:08 AM
1

I just acknowledge and appreciate the good memories but also know that those moments don't define your ex. You broke up for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:06 AM
1

I'm so proud of you for doing the right thing. The rest it is out of your hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:04 AM
7

Some people are way so over exposed to porn and sexualization of women that their minds are sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:03 AM
5

Lowkey want to see how that commentor looks like. It seems like usually the fugly dudes that makes those kinds of comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:01 AM
1

Australia's an interesting niche of its own. Having grown up elsewhere and then go to study in Australia I look at the social dynamics from a third perspective. It seems like the more 'ideal' girl is the tall, blond with big boobs but still thin. How much is this affecting your confidence? If you really can't deal with it, you could consider moving countries (or at least to more urbane areas if you don't live in Sydney or Melbourne already).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:58 AM
16

Maybe he de-volved it's hard to say but if a simple, adult conversation about this doesn't doesn't lead to a collaborative solution where he is actively trying to understand and compromise, I would dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:53 AM
26

If he makes more than he should. I've heard way too many stories of women dating 'rich' men who are miserly af. Like why? If he can afford it and clearly has more money, he should have some sense of wanting to care and provide for you. Being miserly and keeping score "I paid this so you HAVE TO pay that" is a trait of LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:44 AM
5

Right! My blood pressure rose just thinking about this old ass LVM. I hope his kids find out and hates him like he fears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:38 AM
16

I would just ghost plain and simple. He's not entitled to my time and energy explaining or arguing why this is not acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:35 AM
9

It shows how much BS goes into the MRA. I've seen social experiment YT videos where men are being harassed and other men laughs or looks at the harassed like 'he crazy' for not liking it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:32 AM
14

Wow, he sounds like such a loser who tries to neg/emotionally guilt trip a girl to get what he wants. Good riddance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:27 AM
4

Perfectly worded. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:26 AM
1

This is why I don't care about the noise anymore. I will live my life based on my core values and surround myself with people who respect those values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:24 AM
34

This is why when I use OKCupid I swipe left on all guys they say, anywhere in their profile or quiz, that they are: Looking for a hookup Willing to sleep with a girl after the first date Not ready for a relationship I am a HV woman who's not going to sleep around and I expect the same standard from the men I will date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:22 AM
10

Same, I can't be bothered being civil with uncivilized people. Takes too mich time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:15 AM
107

You're so right. Some just have a video game syndrome mentality where they are the main character and, thus, bad things shouldn't happen to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:13 AM
4

I wouldn't put it past them to still be asses behind the scene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:11 AM
5

That's just the worst! It might be hard right now, but know that the fact he did this has nothing to do with you. It's just the type of person he is. To answer your question, yes I think there are definitely men like that. Thank god there are still plenty of HVM around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:05 AM
9

Yeah, no more! Stay strong, block that fool, and move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:04 AM
46

God, this is too true. Especially those "girls should date nice guys, like me!" type of BS. But their 'niceness' isn't even genuine. Plus, a lot of them only want hotter/prettier-looking girls but either look like crap or put in zero efforts themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:45 AM
5

Yes! You go, girl! I now refuse to repeatedly listen to any of my friends vent about their partners on red zone issues (e.g. cheating, lying) more than 2-3 times. It's like, I already took the time understanding your issues and tried to help you come up with advice. It's your decision to keep sticking to that LVM so either leave or face the consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:42 AM
4

I would just let, honestly. They either don't know how to ask or are just looking for a girl to fill their fantasy of what they want. Not actually getting to know you. It's not your job to teach these immature boys what to you. Your time is more valuable than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:25 AM
2

Didn't do the course but I follow her Youtube videos and Insta. She has amazing advice for leveling up yourself. I'm part of her Facebook community group (free), wonderful resource. You have women from all ethnicity and culture asking questions and giving each other advice on elegance and the likes. Give it a try! Some girls who pay for her course are in the group as well, so you could try asking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:17 AM
1

I think the Pickmeishas of modern society is what enables this attitude. I don't understand it either, "bad boys" and the "I want casual sex" type of guy has never been attractive to me. It's great that you don't take that crap. On a different note, I find men on OKC or other sites to be less sleazy or arrogant than Tinder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:14 AM
10

Love this! Reminds me of how much a Pickmeisha I used to be. I cringe now thinking about it. Never again! So happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:54 PM
2

In "what I, as man, think women should do" news....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:52 PM
5

I'm so curious too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:34 AM
2

This is still good press for the queens that actually read the posts on what this Reddit is about. People with brains with figure it out for themselves. Hell, I joined because I was reading some article that criticized FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:35 PM
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