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Think this may be what I did wrong. Should have given a bit of space timing wise.
/r/seduction05/05/17 08:17 PM
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I think your point on timing is what I've missed out. I've got every other thing you've suggested locked down, but maybe brought it up too soon. Thanks my man.
/r/seduction05/05/17 08:16 PM
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That is a legit answer actually.
/r/seduction05/05/17 01:26 PM
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I don't even count anymore. Always be flirting. I'm always meeting and talking to new people when I'm out and about. Sometimes I get ignored, sometimes we get talking, and sometimes people approach me. I've learned to not count, but to just go with the flow and have fun.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:24 AM
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You totally can, you just have to own it. People understand that rent is getting expensive, and that more and more people are staying with their rents to save money. Just be cool with it.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:22 AM
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Shit I just realised I meant to say ^ instead of *. Thanks for pointing out my mistake.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:20 AM
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Been a while since my undergrad, but I was referring to complex notation, or imaginary numbers, where i is the square root of -1.
/r/seduction03/04/17 09:27 PM
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slow clap Eye contact is the shit. Newbs look away when a girl looks at them. Pro's maintain eye contact and ratchet up desire. If I catch a girl checking me out, wherever I am, party, club, cafe, street, I maintain eye contact and have a slow smile creep on my face. Its just second nature to me now, but there are so many successful instances that are probably due to this that I can't even count.
/r/seduction03/04/17 05:10 PM
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(just in case your doing this...) stop comparing yourself to other people, and only compare yourself to your past self. It's out of your control if people approach you. I mean you can invest in things which raise your chances of it happening, but it's out of your control. (Apologies if your not doing this, then you can ignore this paragraph) What I've found is that girls give CLEAR SIGNS if they like you, but don't initiate. However them giving signs is their version of initiating. Stop thinking…
/r/seduction03/04/17 05:04 PM
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Very true. It happens. But what you don't remember is all the work you put out in being out there. It's like in medium cycle sales. They say "that sale you got was because of the people you contacted 2 months ago", or a different way of thinking about it "the sales you get in 2 months are down to the work you do today." The girls that approach you? It's because of the confidence and animal magnetism you develop over 2 months of approaching girls. For every 100 girls you talk to, 1, maybe 1 will …
/r/seduction03/04/17 04:53 PM
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Models by Mark Manson. Best book on dating advice. Ever. Also what helped me were some youtube tutorials on kino escalation. Think it was by StealthPUA. But honestly? Any decent vid on kino escalation is good. SimplePickup's youtube channel is good for pure motivation & hilarious entertainment purposes when approaching. But really? Theory is for pussies. Action is for conquerors. Go out. Have fun. Be a value giver. You'll get invited to more and more things. Say yes. Go to them. Meet more people…
/r/seduction03/04/17 04:47 PM
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Your perspective of women may not match reality. There are 3.5 billion women in the world. Do you think they are all general more impulsive, uncontrollable & emotional messes who have no self control?
/r/seduction28/02/17 10:07 AM
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I nodded my head until I saw this Your value to a woman is directly proportional to your unwillingness to take her shit. It flows both ways man. You have to respect her boundaries (if she doesn't have boundaries, why the hell are you with someone that doesn't have self respect), just as she has to respect yours. Have boundaries and enforce them. That's self respect. We're probably saying the same thing, but phrasing it as "take her shit" implies she is the originator of bullshit, as opposed to j…
/r/seduction14/01/17 06:01 PM
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To all the guys who say it's "you don't let her walk all over you" , I just want to add that phrasing it that way shows a deficiency in your mindset. Its about having boundaries. And it's also about being with a woman who has boundaries as well. Respect is a 2 way street.
/r/seduction14/01/17 05:57 PM
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My take? If you're at a house party, a better long term strategy is to be warm and friendly with everyone (guys AND girls) get to know people, and then only flirt with the 2 or possibly 3 (max) that you're interested in, and seem to be interested in you. That way your interest is more valuable. Your not just hitting on EVERY girl in sight, like a man that is only thinking about sex, but your displaying you have standards, and she makes the cut. She'll appreciate you more. But that's my style of …
/r/seduction03/01/17 01:16 AM
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Vulnerability. Brene Brown. Models. Mark Manson. Google these things. They may change your life. (They did for me. Finally had a real authentic connection with two girls this year)
/r/seduction08/12/16 01:22 AM
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Eh, everyone's different. I've been both. There are times in my life, where I LOVE going out, where all I want to do is find an exciting event to hang out and meet lots of people.... Every. Day. During these periods, I hate quiet events. I hate just hanging out with a few friends, unless we're going out later. The idea of just going for a quiet few drinks in the pub sounds like insanity. Then there are times where I'm the opposite. Where I just want to stay in. Where the bane of my life is findi…
/r/seduction31/05/16 12:07 AM
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This is actually a side effect of being outcome independent. It's a mindset which people can tell. When your outcome dependant, like when your trying to get numbers, your unknowingly signalling intent, and it can come off as needy. And as Mark Manson talks about in Models attractiveness is the opposite of neediness. So just make it a habit. When I'm out having fun, I make it a habit to get contract details of everyone that's cool. everyone, not just girls. Guys, girls who are taken, couples, the…
/r/seduction30/05/16 11:44 PM
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Goal: get better at seduction, but don't be scared to approach. Because in the beginning your skills WILL suck. However the more you practice, the better you'll get. And you know one way to keep yourself motivated to keep practicing? Get some successes. Whatever your definition of Success is. In this way the noob can get a win if he keeps approaching. But once you've got some early wins under your belt, it's time to get better at seduction. I'll never forget the day I discovered the power of kin…
/r/seduction07/04/16 06:37 PM
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Aiiiiiite :)
/r/seduction30/03/16 03:54 PM
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sigh at least Google the book and check out what other people say about it. The book revolutionised tennis coaching techniques.
/r/seduction29/03/16 10:06 PM
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You really need to read the book before making that assumption. That's not what they are saying. Tennis players diligently practice their skills, but they do it unconsciously. They turn off their inner critic, and simply observe themselves, trusting the natural learning process, instead of consciously criticising each of their actions. And the book isn't about learning to play tennis, just as Zen And The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance isn't about motorcycle maintenance.
/r/seduction29/03/16 08:28 PM
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Part of life, is having your heart broken, and breaking other people's hearts... And learning from it. That's life man. It's not seduction that was the cause, it's just a life lesson you gotta internalise.
/r/seduction29/03/16 06:30 PM
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I'd suggest to reading the Inner Game of Tennis to understand why some people in this sub disagree with that mindset.
/r/seduction29/03/16 06:23 PM
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University's a BIG place. In my uni, which was known as a party uni, only about 30% of undergrad girls went to clubs regularly. Look around, join some clubs and societies based on your interests and find girls there.
/r/seduction27/03/16 10:33 AM
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True. But demographics. Why are you going to a place where you aren't comfortable being yourself and having fun?
/r/seduction26/03/16 11:40 PM
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Lawl. Not many people are gonna get this reference sadly
/r/seduction26/03/16 11:40 PM
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I do something simple, but it probably works because I've got some experience: "Hi i'm EndOfTheUniverse." put out my hand for a handshake. That's it. I don't think, I don't try and psych myself up. I'm having a good time, and if your nearby, and I think your cool I just walk up, smile and say 'hi, I'm EndOfTheUniverse"
/r/seduction26/03/16 08:28 PM
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It did work, he got talking to her for 3-4 minutes, but she was clearly not interested. It didn't work because it didn't work. In approaches (and the point of the post) there are so many things outside of your control, what she's feeling like, if she's had a bad or a good day, if she doesn't like your shoes, if your face reminds her of an abusive ex etc etc. Remember she is an independent human being. You can't CONTROL how she reacts. That's up to her. This is why it's a numbers game. The guy wh…
/r/seduction23/03/16 11:10 AM
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Ha, I know right? She was a radiotherapy nurse. So she was pretty damn knowledgeable about the isotopes used in medical scanning procedures. I have a Physics Degree so BAM! Of course we're gonna talk about that. Yeah, I know how implausible it sounds, but shit like this does happen now and again.
/r/seduction22/03/16 01:19 PM
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Yup. This. But this might not be helpful if your a newbie.
/r/seduction22/03/16 10:50 AM
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"Attachment is the cause of all suffering"
/r/seduction06/03/16 01:14 PM
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You watched the vid?
/r/seduction18/10/15 12:31 PM
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It is not the strongest of the species, nor the most intelligent, but the one most adaptable to change. Change the demographic of where you meet women. Try going to meetups or social events instead of cold approaching or your other strategy which used to work in other states.
/r/seduction10/10/15 01:27 AM
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Then give it a go. It's one of three seduction books I've reread twice, and will reread again. Also check out this Brene Brown TED video to get the philosophy behind his book: https://youtu.be/iCvmsMzlF7o
/r/seduction10/10/15 01:21 AM
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He talks about a concept called polarisation. One way to build massive attraction is to be authentically yourself and polarise people based on your character. He shares a story where he went to a bar, did his usual routine and a group of girls went "Ugh, go away. If you act like that no girl will ever like you." Another night, a different bar, same routine and a group of girls loved him, one came up to him and said "you know you can have any girl in this bar right?" If you're strongly yourself, …
/r/seduction10/10/15 01:18 AM
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I hear what your saying, but you do realise that Mark suggests to start fucking low and increase the intensity of what you do in your approaches if you have approach anxiety based on the latest in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and it's strategies of dealing with anxieties of all kinds?
/r/seduction07/10/15 11:33 PM
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IMO Models changed my mindset of how I view this whole getting better to attract girls project. It made me value the power of being authentic and vulnerable, as opposed to tricks or borderline manipulative behaviour. Depending on where you are in your journey, it can be a real game changer.
/r/seduction07/10/15 11:31 PM
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.... Check my reddit history.
/r/seduction28/09/15 08:22 PM
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You missed the point of my question entirely
/r/seduction28/09/15 08:06 PM
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Funny, this happened to my female friend last night. I'm going to go with something counter-intuitive: Lift weights. No seriously. There's a shit load of evidence out there showing that lifting weights as a guy does a tonne for your self-esteem, both psychologically and physiologically (i.e. your brain literally changes to make you more confident). Want to be more assertive? Lift weights.
/r/seduction28/09/15 02:42 AM
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That there is a strength in being vulnerable, as Mark Manson, and this TED talk talks about : https://youtu.be/iCvmsMzlF7o
/r/seduction27/09/15 05:53 PM
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virtual hi five back
/r/seduction06/09/15 02:25 PM
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From experience... the confidence you get from cocaine, and the confidence you get from being on top of your game are two completely different types of confidence. On cocaine...it's like no thought. Just do. Course correction isn't really around. On top of your game... oh man the shit you do. You don't even know where it comes from. Do you lift weights?
/r/seduction04/09/15 03:11 AM
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Body language is SOOOO important here
/r/seduction02/09/15 12:45 AM
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There's a peak in t levels after 7 days of nofap https://m.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1457hv/total_nofap_vs_the_seven_day_cycle/
/r/seduction30/08/15 11:13 AM
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Oh here we go with the whole pro no fap vs con no fap debate. Look it helps with some, it doesn't with others. It helped me at first, massive boosts in mood, energy and productivity. Plus my motivation to talk to girls went up. But the massive guilt I felt when I relapsed... Not worth it. My self esteem would tank for about 3-4 days after a relapse. It's a fragile proposition. But then when I started lifting weights, I got all the benefits of no fapping without no fap. So obviously it was a test…
/r/seduction27/08/15 10:27 PM
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And just how long have you kept up such a collection of routines and how long did it take you to build? As someone who's hacked his behaviour a fair amount for the past few years (write 3 pages every morning, brush teeth with left hand, meditate for 20 minutes a day, learn French for 5 minutes a day, eat paleo etc), It would take me about 90 days to add a quarter of those new behaviours (assuming that all behaviours are being added, not being removed. Removing behaviours is a different kettle of…
/r/seduction27/08/15 10:23 PM
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slow clap Bravo. This probably some of the best advice I've seen on this sub :)
/r/seduction20/08/15 08:57 PM
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Because they won't.
/r/seduction04/08/15 06:47 PM
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Hmmmm. I'm not a big fan of red pill theorems. But that's because I've matured, and y'know....done a lot of independent study in behavioural psych and evo psych. But when I started out, the kind of material I devoured was similar to red pill, and it was useful. Almost like a sign post that points you closer in the right direction, but not necessarily to where you want to go. I'm not too sure I'd have read Models by Mark Manson (which was life changing in terms of my game), if it wasn't for all t…
/r/seduction04/08/15 04:49 PM
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Just be a natural role model. Eventually when the guy realises "Hey, I like girls. How can I talk to girls?" he'll start thinking "who's good with girls?", then he'll start thinking "hey my brother's good with girls. What would my brother do?" And then maybe he'll ask for advice, and that's when you can help him. Because you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. No-one likes a preacher. Also you gotta let the guy find himself. I would never take away those years between 11 and 15 whe…
/r/seduction04/08/15 12:24 AM
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No he isn't. Sociopaths don't have empathy. He clearly has empathy for the people he trusts and loves. Otherwise he wouldn't have cared that y'know, his family were burned in their house Is he a good man? Oh hell no. But he isn't a sociopath.
/r/seduction03/08/15 06:49 PM
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Bro it's awesome. I started lifting a year ago and felt all the benefits of NoFap without the whole y'know...No Fapping. There were days where I just couldn't but feel good. But life happened and I stopped. Just started lifting again 2 weeks ago, and holy fuck I forgot just how awesome it is to sometimes wake up feeling like a God.
/r/seduction03/08/15 06:44 PM
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Each to their own.
/r/seduction29/07/15 03:18 PM
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If you aren't needy, and you aren't seeking validation from the girl, then a lot of this will come out automatically. Think about it, you don't learn how to deal with your buddies teasing you by analysing why they did it, you learn to deal with it, because it comes from a natural place of not needing validation from them (because you're already mates, because you care about bigger things etc)
/r/seduction29/07/15 02:59 PM
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Three things: From personal experience NoFap does more harm than good. The crash in confidence, self esteem, Guilt and self blame that happens when you relapse isn't healthy. When I started lifting weights, I got all the benefits of NoFap.... Without the cycle of self blame and Guilt. Bro, you need to stop taking it so seriously. That's your problem. For you, going out and approaching is "serious" and something you "need to do", this is only going to make your approach anxiety worse. Instead see…
/r/seduction29/07/15 02:54 PM
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Myyyyyy maaannn!
/r/seduction29/07/15 02:01 PM
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Bro... What book did you get that from? Don't want to criticise, but it sounds like you've seriously butchered evolutionary psychology there....
/r/seduction29/07/15 02:00 PM
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Awesome.
/r/seduction28/07/15 07:13 PM
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On the way from work and back from work, there are a shit load of attractive girls on public transport, pathways etc. Dude she's with, might not be bf, but could be bf. In any case, you need to have massive game, because either way you want to leave the interaction with both of them feeling good about themselves, and you.
/r/seduction28/07/15 02:58 PM
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Fun fact: I learned a shit load about charisma by watching Adrian Grenier on Entourage when I was younger. Obviously he was acting, but acting's gotta come from somewhere. Good to know he's charming in real life.
/r/seduction28/07/15 02:52 PM
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The best way to deal with female friends is for you to have put them initially in the friendzone. From there it's all natural.
/r/seduction26/07/15 11:24 PM
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Looking back on it, I think my kino game vastly improved when I watched this (all while I was getting field experience)
/r/seduction26/07/15 06:31 PM
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What is the context? Text after approaching them IRL? Tinder? Online Dating?
/r/seduction26/07/15 06:24 PM
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Attention Interest Desire Action
/r/seduction26/07/15 06:23 PM
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I don't go out of my way to peacock. But I do have an afro, and that shit is the most natural peacock tool ever.
/r/seduction26/07/15 06:22 PM
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Everyone has their own values, and their own ways to go about it. Coffee, a snack, a quick bite, I'll pay (if I have the money. Freelancer income is variable as fuck) I've never had a serious dinner date, but I assume if I did, and if the girl expected me to pay for everything, it'll leave a sour taste in my mouth. Why? I don't know. Probably because being with someone who thinks they're entitled to something never feels good. However it all depends on the atmosphere and the context.
/r/seduction25/07/15 11:48 PM
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I disagree. Asking someone out is basically saying "I think you're cool, let's hang together doing something fun to see if we're compatible."
/r/seduction25/07/15 11:45 PM
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This is all qualitative, and your mileage may vary based on a fuck load of variables that I don't even know (are you more inclined to pick this shit up naturally? Are you polarising girls enough etc etc) But from my experience, I started to notice things picking up after my 4th or 5th K Close.
/r/seduction25/07/15 09:23 PM
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Not conferences, but face to face meetings
/r/seduction25/07/15 05:16 PM
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Really fucking hard to do that, instead I'll share a bunch of quotes from the book I have saved in my Evernote: "Two elements must therefore be rooted out once for all, - the fear of future suffering, and the recollection of past suffering; since the latter no longer concerns me, and the former concerns me not yet" (By the way, that quote and 1 month of meditating 20 minutes a day eradicated my anxiety a few years ago) "It is folly to die through fear of dying. The executioner is upon you; wait …
/r/seduction25/07/15 03:11 AM
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Whatever you do in this situation has to be something to demonstrate you got big balls. I mean it's gotta be high risk, otherwise it'd come off as creepy. Also you have to do it sooner rather than later. She may still be thinking of you in 2 days time. But by a week you'll be so far down her memory compared to all the other guys that hit on her. By the way, sounds like you need to get involved in a hobby or regular social event (volunteering etc) that involves something you're passionate about a…
/r/seduction25/07/15 02:48 AM
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Grey zone here. Illegal is too strong a word. Unethical, could get you in trouble? Yeah. Illegal? Nah. If he does it in a creepy way, then he can get in butt loads of trouble.
/r/seduction25/07/15 02:47 AM
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Take intro classes in something else. And don't be scared to date in your social circle. The potential social fallout is really all in your head. As long as you aren't a creep about it.
/r/seduction25/07/15 01:02 AM
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I was going to give a bunch of advice, then y'know what...I thought best to just share a story about my buddy Zeus. Zeus is not his real name, but fuck it, it's my story and I want to give him a cool name. Zeus was in a LTR for 3 years, when suddenly they broke up. It was a sad time. I know, because I was there. He was my flatmate. Also it was the day before my birthday, but hey shit happens. Zeus loved, I mean loved this girl. And I really thought they were going to get married. But they both h…
/r/seduction25/07/15 12:57 AM
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One step at a time. If you practice, and are willing to fail, trust me you'll get to that level.
/r/seduction23/07/15 08:23 PM
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This captures it best, and it's why Mark Manson argues that this is a bad idea. Because your good intentions aren't good intentions. They're selfish and needy. Instead of having to continually give value and attracting her and build a real deep bond based around vulnerability, you want to have her be incredibly grateful and emotionally dependant on you. Man, I need to read that book again.
/r/seduction22/07/15 10:13 PM
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Get a change of scene. Maybe go travelling. Oh and definitely definitely look after your health. I'm 25, and low testosterone is not a joke if you don't look after yourself.
/r/seduction20/07/15 06:37 PM
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It's hard to describe, because when I approach I enter flow and I'm not self-aware enough to really know exactly what I'm doing. But people are friendlier when the sun is out, that's a given. Outrageousness always works. US or UK the more polarising you are, the more polarised your responses, i.e. the more people harshly reject you, and the more people warmly interact with you. It's far far far far better however to meet people via social groups. Whether through volunteering, or hobbies (or my p…
/r/seduction20/07/15 06:36 PM
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Unless you have the kind of relationship where you and your friends laugh at each other for the weird stuff you do, in which case, you should just brush it off, you've laughed at him enough times. Otherwise....you're friend is laughing at you to try and make himself feel better. Which is a dick move. What you do with that knowledge....is up to you.
/r/seduction20/07/15 06:29 PM
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I like to think of it from her perspective. Moment you guys make eye contact, "Ooh, I wonder who this guy is? What is he like? What does he do?" Then 5 seconds later, "Wow, okay. He's still looking at me and he hasn't come over. Do I have something on my face? Is my dress ripped somewhere?" Then 10 seconds later, "Okay this is getting weird. Why are you looking at me?" 30 seconds, "this guy is weird, and possibly a creep. I'm going to ignore him or walk away." Basically, best time to approach he…
/r/seduction20/07/15 06:27 PM
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You are correct and naah unfortunately I haven't. Though my experience of being outside London is everyone's friendlier. Of course, the smaller the community, the more everyone knows everyone, so cold approaching might not be the wisest strategy.
/r/seduction20/07/15 06:23 PM
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This is true. FYI however, status seeking is deeply embedded in our mammalian brains. The ironic thing is you will gain in status when you're working on yourself for yourself's sake. I strongly recommend reading Self Reliance, Epictetus's Discourses and Selected Writings and some evolutionary psychology for more on this (The Moral Animal is my personal fave)
/r/seduction20/07/15 06:12 PM
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You ever come down to London?
/r/seduction20/07/15 06:08 PM
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Londoner here. It's all about expanding your worldview. During my first 3 months in University a lot of people I'm still friends with today, I met by cold approaching. Granted we belonged to the same university so we were both part of the same "tribe". But it's about 50:50 between people I was introduced to and people I cold approached, because I was that kinda guy. However I've cold approached people in starbucks that didn't go to my uni, and had some awesome in-depth conversations, and I was j…
/r/seduction20/07/15 06:06 PM
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Letters from a Stoic by Seneca It'll teach you to put things in perspective and to only give fucks about what's important in life, and give no fucks for everything else.
/r/seduction19/07/15 01:03 PM
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Watch a lot of stand up, read a lot of jokes, and allow yourself to enter flow when in conversation.
/r/seduction19/07/15 12:43 PM
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This. If it's genuine she'll know, and she'll appreciate it. If it isn't, and you're doing it so you can get a reaction, she'll know and won't appreciate it. Something I've been doing personally is complementing her personality. Because looks fade, but personality lasts a lifetime. And a smart girl knows a smart man appreciates that.
/r/seduction14/07/15 05:16 PM
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Awesome. Before you go out an approach new people, you need some social confidence. Who can you hit up that you haven't seen in a while? Guy or girl. You'll be surprised at how warm people are at meeting someone they haven't seen in a few years.
/r/seduction01/07/15 10:45 PM
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Hahahahaha
/r/seduction26/06/15 12:35 AM
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I believe, you sir, just made her day.
/r/seduction25/06/15 09:22 PM
1

We don't do crushes here. If you're not careful it can lead to oneitis which can crush your game. Best way to attract the girl you like? Have options. Be an attractive male. Let her know she can join the ride of your life if she wants.
/r/seduction14/05/15 07:09 PM
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Well you gotta keep hydrated, and nap. But I have to say I'm the opposite. My game goes through the roof if I consistently go out, mainly because the reference experiences of not giving a fuck are my fuel. However keeping everything else in my life balanced when that happens? That's a different story.
/r/seduction14/05/15 05:13 PM
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Haha I have no idea. It's just my own half assed version of the slow Carb diet. Currently too busy to go full hog (slow Carb lunch, cut out snacks). "Good is better than perfect. The good plan that gets carried out beats the perfect plan that never gets acted upon." - Tucker Max
/r/seduction14/05/15 05:11 PM
1

Consistent low sleep is a killer for inner game. You're neurotransmitters and hormone balance just goes WAAY off. Luckily you get to rest and recover after finals. Then you'll be on top of your game.
/r/seduction14/05/15 05:10 PM
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You ever heard the saying "there's more than one way to skin a cat"? Well, there are several ways to attract women. Just like there are several ways to write a good story. However how do we help people who have no idea how to attract women? How can we make them get it? How can we make logically minded guys realise that they just have to let themselves go and use social calibration? Well we don't really know, but what we do know is that this community has been trying to do this for nearly a decad…
/r/seduction13/05/15 11:52 PM
1

Check out The War of Art
/r/seduction04/05/15 10:19 AM
3

Duuuuuuuuude you're overthinking this. Quick embarassing story. First time I tried to have sex, I was 23. I was sleep deprived for about 1-2 weeks, been eating crap and had a decent amount of wine that evening. Suffice it to say when she took me back to her place, and we made out and we went to the bedroom, I just couldn't get hard enough for sex. This actually wasn't the nightmare I thought it would be. I shrugged and laughed it off, and she agreed it just wasn't happening that eve, we chilled,…
/r/seduction21/04/15 06:37 PM
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First off, you probably know this already, but you shouldn't compare yourself to your peers. That's the easiest way for you to become unhappy. The fact is while your peers may be in the same age group as you, they don't have the same circumstances that shaped you, so comparing yourself to them is useless. Stop. Your only goal should be to be a better man than you were yesterday. Also the key to getting back into approaching is to become more social in general. Talk to everyone you come across. A…
/r/seduction18/04/15 01:03 PM
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Explain.
/r/seduction03/04/15 08:33 PM
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If you're dating an attractive girl, chances are she's gonna be hit on all the time. That's just the way it is. You can't stop the 3.5 billion males out there with something as simple as a "bro code." Instead you gotta make sure your relationship is top notch and you don't take your girlfriend for granted. Cos trust me, there is a more awesome guy out there who will hit on her, and what you have over him is the trust and deep bonds you've formed with her.
/r/seduction03/04/15 04:03 PM
3

Just a question... How much field experience do you have?
/r/seduction03/04/15 03:52 PM
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Woah Woah Woah... I get what your saying. Noone wants to be the creep who keeps taking up a girls attention and she's too polite to tell them to fuck off. However.... Imagine your an attractive girl. You get hit on all the time. Like every time you go out a guy comes up to you and chats you up. On a night out you know it's a given. About 10-15 guys are gonna chat you up. You know your attractive and since you have options how can you screen confident guys out? (Remember as a guy, confidence & ch…
/r/seduction03/04/15 03:51 PM
4

In the words of anon: "Betas and White Knights be trollin"
/r/seduction03/04/15 03:39 PM
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Agree and amplify or ignore and keep frame. Agree and amplify: "I have a goldfish as well, she's the jealous type.", "lemme get your boyfriends number too.", "omg does getting your number mean we're dating?" Ignore and keep frame : shrug your shoulders "can I have your number." key is to be non chanlant.
/r/seduction03/04/15 12:06 PM
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Chances are she's single. Lots of girls use the "I have a boyfriend" as a polite no even if they're single. Also how do you know you're not meant to be? An attractive girl always has options, even if she is taken. Because guess what: relationships sometimes ends. Why not be the guy who makes her realise the guy she's dating isn't good enough for her? What's wrong with that? EDIT: You can follow up after a girl politely says no, as long as you are polite and charming about it. It's like anything …
/r/seduction03/04/15 12:01 PM
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Make a dick joke. Use humour to make it sexual. SOOOOO much better than suddenly just saying an innuendo or something pretty sexual. Unless you have balls or you got experience, with innuendos if it goes wrong, it goes WRONG. Like "get away from me you creep." wrong. I just prefer making a sex joke within the first few minutes of the interaction, to A.) see how she responds. B.) Make it clear that I am not a prude and I acknowledge sex is this thing that exists. If she gets cold and uncomfortabl…
/r/seduction20/03/15 05:40 PM
1

It's not about whether they like or dislike bald men. It's whether they like or dislike men who are secure or insecure about their baldness. And the answer to that is obvious.
/r/seduction17/03/15 05:59 PM
1

I call and leave hilarious voicemail messages if they don't pick up.
/r/seduction16/03/15 07:09 PM
2

1.) Sorry I'm afraid noones going to read such a huge wall of text with that headline. 2.) I don't think you check out seddit enough, we're not like r/theredpill. We like books like Models and No More Mr Nice Guy because we know the best way to attract girls is to be our awesome authentic selves. 3.) Noone likes a preacher.
/r/seduction16/03/15 07:06 PM
1

In your early days getting a # close is a fucking awesome quick and small win you can get. And everything that's been published in the positive and behavioural psychology space suggests that quick and small wins is the key to progress in any personal development endeavour... But I digress. Bottom line: When I got my first number close from a complete stranger from a cold approach based on the stuff I learned through seddit.... My confidence soared. I saw that this shit works and doubled down on …
/r/seduction15/03/15 12:03 AM
2

I've found that going out with the intent to run day game alone is the surest way for me to pussy out during any interactions. However if I commit to myself to run day game as I go about my day, whether on the commute or any shops I go into, it a.) makes me more social with everyone not just girls which is a good thing, and b.) means I'm more likely to approach and come out of a playful abundance mindset. I mean I have a life, but I'm just taking these few moments to spend it with you and add va…
/r/seduction05/03/15 08:56 AM
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And I'm saying that the risk of passing off fiction as non fiction (it's a collaborated autobiography) is too great. Imagine if we found parts of the Autobiography of Malcolm X to be pure fiction and have no basis in reality? His estate would get sued and the fallout would be massive. And you obviously have no field experience, what he did is classic push pull and could work if it's done with the right girl, not that I would, I'm not in the business of calling girls a whore.
/r/seduction04/03/15 07:34 PM
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It was the 1950s. And not to be that guy....but calling a story Richard Feynman published a fake is the same as calling a story Winston Churchill or Albert Einstein published a fake. It's possible, but the sheer risk of damage to their reputation means it's unlikely, and being open to slander isn't worth the risk. Seriously google him, he was a damn big deal.
/r/seduction04/03/15 07:17 PM
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If you're skeptical read the scientific paper, it's linked to in the post. It's quite easy to read actually.
/r/seduction04/03/15 04:42 PM
1

That's how Normal Distribution works.
/r/seduction04/03/15 04:41 PM
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Hey I get what your saying, I'm a Physics Grad, and I'm well aware of the horrors that have been caused by people taking scientists at their word instead of examining the facts, Cold Fusion, the MMR Vaccine Scare & the news the LHC might create micro black holes leading to mass hysteria including the suicide of a 12 year old girl. That being said I did read the paper, like you I'm not going to trust some online blogger to make the correct interpretations from a scientific paper. these numbers ar…
/r/seduction04/03/15 04:38 PM
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The study also showed there was no correlation between ethnicity and penis size. None. This is the average penis size for all human males of all colours and creeds.
/r/seduction04/03/15 07:32 AM
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1.) Check the paper to see how they measured penis length, it might differ from how you measure length. 2.) This is fucking science. I'll take a study which measured the penis length of 15,000 men over men who boastingly claim they have an 8 inch penis just to make other around them feel small.
/r/seduction04/03/15 07:31 AM
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Fuck what they think. Yes some girls may wonder what the hell, just as some guys may wonder what the hell with large areolas, but if you kino and escalate and it's on for her, and you know, your primed and ready, it's not really an issue.
/r/seduction04/03/15 07:28 AM
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Being needy = someone who takes value. Being awesome = someone who adds value. Are you kinoing out of a frame of taking value or adding value?
/r/seduction03/03/15 11:16 PM
1

True. Texting is a logistical tool, not something to build attraction with.
/r/seduction02/03/15 12:14 PM
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Contrarian here. I'm of the opinion you should stand out from the pack, grab your balls, be unusual and call her. Wrote about this a year ago on seddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/19gwni/dont_text_her_call_her/
/r/seduction02/03/15 03:08 AM
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In order to have a sticking point, and remember, I've defined it as a problem you regularly encounter, you have to be out in the field a lot, making a lot of approaches This, THIS! As TofuTofu said back in the early days: "For every hour of theory you learn, you should put 20 in the field." Taking MASSIVE Action, by going out there and approaching sets is how you're going to improve.
/r/seduction25/02/15 10:05 PM
2

I agree with OP. Everyone learns the game between man and woman at some point and from somewhere. But no-one talks about it. Honestly, do you think a Natural will tell a girl he just met that he learned how to attract women from stuff his older brother or dad said? No, of course not! Then don't talk about how you learned how to talk about women. You can talk about stuff your passionate about in seduction, e.g. body language, but don't mention why you learned about it. And if seduction and PUA is…
/r/seduction24/02/15 05:38 PM
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I left uni without taking my game to the next level, one of my greatest regrets. The advice I would give for Uni game? Don't fixate on talking to more girls, talk to more people period. See a group of people talking about something cool that you're interested in? Go over and introduce yourself, and shoot the shit. Uni is such a friendly place that people won't zone you out, and would entertain you. Why do I say this? Because the name of the game during Uni is to get invited to parties. And how d…
/r/seduction24/02/15 05:05 PM
1

It's a re-hash of the advice Mark Manson gives in Models.
/r/seduction24/02/15 04:57 PM
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Yeah, it's awesome. I know how frustrating it is for some female friends of mine, they can't approach or be too forward with a guy they like. Guess what? We can! We're the f***ing buyers, and we get to choose who we approach.
/r/seduction19/02/15 04:09 PM
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Just a thought, why didn't you reply that you weren't looking for anything serious either? Oh and also nothing wrong with friendzoning women (as long as you do it). Attractive women tend to have other attractive girls in their social circle. Everyone wins.
/r/seduction19/02/15 04:07 PM
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Do they actually have a history of coming to interrupt you while you're talking to girls? Or is this something in your head? If they do just do what Captain-Magic says. Does it only happen with you? Or is this just a general group behaviour that happens when anyone goes and talks to a girl?
/r/seduction19/02/15 04:03 PM
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Did it for 4 weeks a year and a half ago while running game. Internal monologue easier to switch off when in a social situation / being with a girl. More comfortable to maintain eye contact. Generally easier to do uncomfortable things. Definitely worth it if you have the patience and the time to invest in it.
/r/seduction19/02/15 04:00 PM
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I just wanna add: What OP says is correct. But for the newbies or intermediates know this: your mind ain't a fucking switch. You can't just "think" this and everything will change. No it only comes from experience. Next time you're in an interaction and you catch your internal monologue, remember this post. Next time you catch yourself saying "she's too hot for me..." remember this post. Next time you start acting all awkward remember this post. And each bloody time you remember this post take r…
/r/seduction19/02/15 01:13 AM
2

Hey man, I used to think I was a bad story teller, the amount of funny stories I've tried to tell that the punchline was flat and dead are numerous and are burned into my mind. However... One time when I went out to talk to girls (aka Sarging) with a wingman from this subreddit they commented that I was an awesome story teller to a bunch of girls I was talking to. The only thing I can say is that when your in state, your story telling skills seem to manifest themselves. But really stories are no…
/r/seduction18/02/15 09:42 PM
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Yeah totally agree, might not be great for the beginner who has social anxiety approaching people. I have no idea why you were downvoted though.
/r/seduction18/02/15 09:30 PM
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A humorous tip addressing this: http://youtu.be/V0hlpctj0qs
/r/seduction02/02/15 11:57 PM
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It can be done. But the risks, the chances of blowing up..... You have to be REALLY comfortable with yourself. You can't run game or be ingenuine, because they know you and your patterns of behaviour, so it really just has to be you being awesome. That said, paying attention to her, kino & escalate can't go wrong. Personally I don't go for it, because if on the off chance she wants something more and you don't, then prepare for the motherfucking soap opera that shall become your life. EDIT: Phra…
/r/seduction24/01/15 07:11 PM
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http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/pbkxs/glossary_of_terms_hz/
/r/seduction22/01/15 06:01 PM
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Awesome, this is how it starts! You see a cute girl, after an epic battle in your head, you summon something and go up and say the girl is cute or gorgeous. Your heart feels like it's going to explode, you feel like the universe will end, but then she smiles and somehow....somehow you realise the world doesn't end. You see a cute girl, you say she's cute, and you have some small talk. The world doesn't end. You see a cute girl, you say she's cute, you skip small talk and start shooting the shit …
/r/seduction03/12/14 09:47 PM
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Oh I sometimes fantasise about my friends exes. I also have seen indicators from time to time. But Jesus Christ I do not want the kind of drama I've seen it cause in my life. Fuck that. Also it sours friendships. Your friend might on the surface be cool, but he just won't trust you as much again.
/r/seduction15/11/14 12:25 AM
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This is great and an awesome way to get into the mindset of a girl. Thanks for this. However just a warning to the newbies, for the love of God don't go trying to look for these indicators. You'll just enter the overanalysing frame of mind of no decision and get anxious thinking "she made eye contact but didn't go around to touching me, is she into me?". Just chill, take the lead, be funny, polarising, kino and escalate. Get rejected? Move onto the next one. However OP once again, thanks for thi…
/r/seduction14/11/14 10:22 PM
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Not going to be as helpful as the other comments but..... Try and realise no matter how hot the girl is, she's still human. She still has her own insecurities. She still wants to be treated like any other person. Remember no matter how hot she is, she at some point did something really awkward as a child.
/r/seduction05/11/14 03:31 PM
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Um... What're you talking about? Today's What's Hot 2 out of the 15 top links are non self posts. Top for This Week 1 out of the top 16 links are non self post. Really? Is that too many blog posts for you? A more than 90% ratio of self posts?
/r/seduction05/11/14 01:37 PM
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Would like to see if that red t-shirt study took into account different ethnic skin tones.....
/r/seduction05/11/14 12:14 AM
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Ah fair enough I did. Well I do agree with you, it's your adventure after all, not hers. I was just making the point for those who think they have to manoeuvre women into asking them out or into saying yes, or who expect women to do all the work or make the first move.....If we want her, then the onus is on us to declare what we want and to ask for it. And women are cool with this, in fact that's how they play the game. No woman is going to read your mind.
/r/seduction05/11/14 12:12 AM
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Haha dude, if you hate it, be honest about it. "I fucking hate working out, but I thought lemme at least fulfill my physical potential at one point in life." Girls can smell dishonesty I swear, so don't try to pretend to be someone your not. But glad to be of help bro.
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:25 PM
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Well...y'know. It's just your sentence doesn't make sense otherwise. Nagging is what a wife does to her husband when she's told him for the thousandth time to throw away the bins. Negging is a word made up by the pick up community to describe teasing a girl by playing her down. Which by the way, EVERYONE does. Even women do it to men. Parents do it to kids, kids do it to parents. It's just a natural way of teasing someone.
/r/seduction04/11/14 06:24 PM
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"A rich man doesn't have to tell you he's rich." Dude just relax, don't worry about it. Don't talk about what you're doing to impress the girl, talk about what you're passionate about because you're passionate about it. I'm a physics grad so I'll give you this example: Scenario A: Girl: "So what do you do?" Guy: "I'm in my 3rd year of Physics." Girl: "Oooh, why did you study it?" Guy: "Cos I'm smart and I'm fucking good at it." Girl : "Okay..."[wondering how to take the conversation further] Sce…
/r/seduction04/11/14 06:20 PM
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I understand your questions, and unfortunately I'm just not qualified to answer them, though I have an inkling of the correct answers. I'm just a guy who read a book, who read the arguments for this theory, considered the counterarguments and concluded the author was correct. I don't exactly have all the time in the world to memorise and deeply study evolutionary psychology do I? If you really really want to know where I'm coming from check out The Moral Animal (link to amazon here), I have an e…
/r/seduction04/11/14 06:09 PM
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There's actually a reason for this, check out the comment I made here.
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:28 PM
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Check out the comment I made here.
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:18 PM
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Yeah it's something I try to remember everyday.
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:16 PM
1

You think Jay-Z didn't pull before he became a successful rapper? You really think while he was hustling on the streets of new york he was a frigid virgin?
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:15 PM
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Dude it's so true. At the end of the day they're going to be a percentage of people on this sub who won't take action and will hold onto their limiting beliefs, despite all the evidence out there of guys who are ugly as sin yet pull the hottest chicks.
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:14 PM
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Pick up girls while your body is improving for further motivation. Girls like the journey of a guy making himself better. Probably even more than the guy who's arrived at his destinaton.
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:12 PM
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Fair enough. I didn't distinguish what I meant by "Looks" and "fitness". Looks is the shit outside your control: your ethnicity, your cheekbone structure, your height. That shit you can't change. Fitness on the other hand you can. Going to the gym is under your control. And I personally think attractiveness goes up when you go to the gym, not because of your muscular definition (though it helps) but because your T levels go through the fucking roof. I only lifted weights for 5 weeks, results wer…
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:11 PM
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Oh man.... don't get me started. The gender debate is so flawed at the moment as no-one is acknowledging the role of evolutionary psychology.
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:03 PM
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"Ya dun goofed!" Anyway lol.... where did I say we should do what women expect us to do?
/r/seduction04/11/14 04:02 PM
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I've never seen so much overanalysis in a simple joke that everyone from kids to grandparents do...... Also I think you meant "negging" instead of "nagging".
/r/seduction04/11/14 03:51 PM
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Time and time and time again we've talked about it on this sub: looks and wealth are not as important in attraction as you think they are. Put it this way, if we were to compare the following: Looks Physical fitness Resourcefulness (the ability to get shit: whether the last minute VIP queue hook up in a club, money to pay for shit when you need shit, or the constant working towards a goal, e.g. going to law school) Wealth Charm + Humour + Confidence = Charisma Network / Social Proof Experiences …
/r/seduction03/11/14 10:43 PM
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You should check out The Moral Animal by Robert Wright. Darwin noticed something in nature. Wherever you looked the female of the species was always reticent and didn't mate as keenly as the male of the species. The female always played coy and required some form of investment from the males before they would mate. This naturally also happens around humans. The reason for this was later found out (Darwin sadly never arrived at the conclusion himself). The simple fact is that the gestation period…
/r/seduction03/11/14 10:28 PM
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You do know that a guy can do two things...like wanting to get to know you better and wanting to kiss you...at the same time right?
/r/seduction03/11/14 10:15 PM
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If your doing anything to get some validation then your doing it wrong. If your doing it for self amusement and you think it'll be fucking awesome to tease or share that funny thought you got then go for it. I just text as little as possible because in my experience it's easier to fuck things up the more you text. It's like a lottery, the odds go up of fucking it up the more you text, so play to the odds.
/r/seduction01/11/14 08:50 PM
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If there's an opportunity, like an event, then yes I go. Because I know from experience that no matter how I feel beforehand I always have a good time when I arrive.
/r/seduction01/11/14 03:21 PM
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sup
/r/seduction31/10/14 04:48 PM
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There's a danger with thinking just positive thoughts and dreaming. Research has shown that people who think positively as well as think about the obstacles in the path and how they'll get around them are more likely to achieve their goals, than people who just "dream" good thoughts. But yeah, negative "oh man I suck so bad" ain't helpful.
/r/seduction30/10/14 06:54 PM
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Haven't revealed this to anyone but here goes..... Did this with Vinnie Chase (the character) in Entourage, and a really charismatic friend I knew from secondary school. So about 6 years ago. Next thing I know I'm some charismatic motherfucker when I start University. Definitely don't regret making that decision.
/r/seduction27/10/14 08:37 PM
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I don't know what the community is like now, but I can tell you that the last time someone wrote a texting guide, it got upboats by noobs who didn't know that much because they thought it was helpful. The rest of us who have some experience, read it and wanted to stab our eyeballs out and wondered where this community is going. Mods later took down the post. For any newbs reading here, the only texting guide you need is right there on the sidebar. Take action and you'll learn what works for you.…
/r/seduction27/10/14 08:21 PM
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We also call this "Assume Attraction" It works.
/r/seduction27/10/14 08:12 PM
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Glad to be of help comrade.
/r/seduction26/10/14 10:41 PM
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I'll quickly share a story with you... Once upon a time EndOfTheUniverse was in his first year of university. He was really excited to get onto campus and meet new people. Within the first 48 hours it had become apparent that EndOfTheUniverse was a very social guy, some even said charismatic. Soon he had a reputation and had the largest social circle he'd ever had. He was for lack of a better term, that popular guy. However EndOfTheUniverse met a guy, let's say his name is CreepFactor9000, who w…
/r/seduction26/10/14 10:29 PM
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Anywhere that girls hang out and do stuff. Book shops, shopping malls, house parties, weddings, music stores..... Use your imagination. The world is your oyster.
/r/seduction26/10/14 10:17 PM
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"Listen man, tonight is not about getting laid. Do not even try to. Focus on having fun before anything else." Gold.
/r/seduction25/10/14 07:03 PM
1

Please remember that there are some cities and countries where not having a car isn't a big deal. Eg in London, even bankers and representatives of our government use our public transport systems. Why do I tell you this? Because your going to get different answers from people with different local values. To get better responses you might want to tailor your question to say "people who live in the ohio area..." for example.
/r/seduction06/09/14 03:05 PM
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I disagree. Yes, seducing women is something that everyone has to learn, however there are people who pick it up intuitively, or who had Elder siblings and parents who showed them the ropes. Those are the ones we call naturals. Ie people who don't have to go to the Internet to learn how to pick up women.
/r/seduction05/09/14 01:47 PM
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I'm just going to leave these oblivion level up messages here... https://www.evernote.com/shard/s55/sh/ebc9d7cc-68b6-41bd-a41b-172c5a9167b2/14263fe7cc38e9515197950cd692ed3b
/r/seduction05/09/14 11:36 AM
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Hello
/r/seduction05/09/14 11:31 AM
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Point taken. In my own defence it was just an example I thought of on the fly while typing this on my phone on the way back from work. In a real interaction I'd have said something that was calibrated towards the situation. Or you know, you can keep on hatin'
/r/seduction05/09/14 11:28 AM
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It wasn't a flirty joke. Otherwise that would just be being mean. Out of context it might seem it was, but in the interaction, it was a girl expecting him to give her the cigarette because she's hot.
/r/seduction04/09/14 10:24 PM
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The key to house parties is to build social proof. Go and greet and shoot the shit with your friends. Then move on and introduce and shoot the shit with other people you may or may not know. Do this with as many groups as possible. Why this helps, is because girls don't know that you don't know these people (yes I just used don't know twice in a sentence). They assume your this popular guy who has status. This makes it much much easier when you go and make small talk and shoot the shit with any …
/r/seduction04/09/14 06:31 PM
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Yup. This. This is exactly what he did.
/r/seduction04/09/14 06:25 PM
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Yeah, sorry. Wasn't too clear on the details. Also we have to remember I was drinking, so I don't remember the exact words mentioned. However the intent between both of them was clear. It was his only cigarette and she'd asked for a "drag". Definitely not the whole cig.
/r/seduction04/09/14 06:24 PM
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Sadly he has a gf so there's nothing more to the story. Plus we weren't looking to "sarge". I had work the next day and the logistics wouldn't have worked.
/r/seduction04/09/14 06:21 PM
1

Imagine if Al Pacino was tall. Would he still be as charismatic as he is now? Being short is an opportunity to develop your personality to attract attention. Or to peacock. Personality's a better long term investment however.
/r/seduction23/08/14 09:43 AM
5

I'm just gonna leave this here..... http://themagicemail.com
/r/seduction23/08/14 09:32 AM
2

"Let's hang at xyz place at xyz time. What's your number?" or after selling her on an event "we should do that sometime, what's your number?"
/r/seduction22/08/14 06:20 PM
1

Find a fun group activity to do together involving others. Otherwise your going to have to take a risk and make a choice. Unless your game is as smooth as silk on a newborn baby's skin, neither girl will be too happy you asked them both out (again it is possible for you to work it to your advantage, but you gotta know what your doing) and you'll lose them both. Trust me, I know this dilemma too well from my afc days. Make a choice and choose one girl or you'll lose them both. Worst thing happens…
/r/seduction22/08/14 08:06 AM
1

They're improv workshops not just in Hollywood. They're theatres in almost every city. Though I'm from London, UK so I could be wrong. Our theatre scene here is as big as Broadway.
/r/seduction21/08/14 09:19 PM
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I'm in the UK, so more theatre than film. If we're talking Hollywood that's a WHOOOLE different story. I have no experience with that.
/r/seduction21/08/14 07:24 PM
1

Got better by not thinking while I'm having a conversation. Going into my head is not allowed. How? Practice, practice, practice. Talk more. Read more (so you know more shit). Write more if you can (so you know how shit relates to one another). Don't be scared to take risks during conversation. Counter intuitively taking risks, saying something that might fall flat on its face, or teasing someone, can make you enter flow ("in state" or "god mode" in PUA terms)
/r/seduction09/08/14 03:52 PM
5

No matter who you are, or what level you are, there is always someone who seems to have it easier than you. I remember when I first admitted to some naturals that I had issues picking up women. They were genuinely shocked, "Really? I thought it would be easier to pick up women if I looked like you." (mixed race, have an afro, natural peacocking). Best answer? Stop comparing to others. Be best version of you. That's all the world asks of you.
/r/seduction09/08/14 03:48 PM
3

Mutual friends is the most ancient, and thus the most reliable method to start a relationship. However if your not into dating and a long term relationship, it's not a great idea. Because if it goes sour then your mutual friend can get affected. (I.e. if you behave like a jerk)
/r/seduction07/08/14 07:07 PM
2

I'm going to echo the common wisdom, because it's true. Meet girls at places that you like to do shit. You like reading? Bookstore or Library. You like taking walks? The Park. You like swimming? The swimming pool. You like coffee? Coffee shops. You like clubbing? Night clubs You like wine? Wine tasting events You like your city? Anywhere in your city You like foreign girls? Go to touristy parts of your city You like hipsters? Go to the hipster part of town. Mark Mansons talks about this in Model…
/r/seduction07/08/14 07:05 PM
1

People have different priorities.. Some people want to build relationship. Some people just want to fuck. There's no right answer, just like I said before, different priorities. P.S From my experience and the experience of quite a few entrepreneurs I know, sales & seduction have a shit load of common.
/r/seduction26/07/14 12:13 AM
1

Yeah a shrink, therapist, or someone you know who's got over it.
/r/seduction01/07/14 05:34 PM
5

Dude, that's some serious anxiety you got going there. You ever thought about talking it over with someone?
/r/seduction21/06/14 06:56 PM
1

Field Reports
/r/seduction12/06/14 12:59 PM
5

I guess it depends on your perception on the outcome. I'm trying to be as outcome independent as much as possible. I think of it as practice.
/r/seduction10/06/14 03:31 PM
3

This. When I enter a club, one of the best things that can happen to me is saying something stupid/non-sensical/self-amusing to the first person I see, and they reject me. This pushes my state up mahussively.
/r/seduction10/06/14 02:00 PM
8

Consider if someone approaches you from behind. Either by saying your name, or by tapping your shoulder. You'll instinctively be in "who the fuck are you" mode.
/r/seduction26/05/14 07:56 PM
7

Remember what Mark Manson talks about in demographics. Think about the kind of girls you want to meet. Now think where they would hang. If you want a girl who goes out every friday night to a club, then meet a girl at a club. If you want to meet a girl who likes to read Virginia Woolfe then meet her in a bookshop. Actually fyi bookshops are awesome, it's not even gamey to open a stranger about the book they're looking at in a bookshop. It's just fucking natural.
/r/seduction12/05/14 11:17 AM
3

"Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own." - Bruce Lee
/r/seduction02/05/14 06:42 PM
1

I was using that as an example of general resourcefulness. I wasn't talking about being the one shot sorta person, but the kinda guy who for example has an awesome network. What I'm saying is resourcefulness is not just wealth.
/r/seduction06/04/14 07:30 PM
1

Sorry, I'm actually genuinely confused :), what do you mean by "persistent" in this context?
/r/seduction06/04/14 04:41 PM
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I would replace wealth with evidence of resourcefulness. The man who can connect her to a celebrity or an investor that could change her life but who isn't doing well with his take home pay (e.g. broke entrepreneur) would still display your definition of "power". While I appreciate what your trying to persuade, and I agree, a man should work on himself, and the girl should come along for the ride, I'm scared that people are going to use your post for various excuses on why they can't start appro…
/r/seduction05/04/14 05:47 PM
2

It's the difference between giving value and taking value. And the reason I left it vague is because it's hard to break it down.
/r/seduction20/03/14 09:41 PM
1

The amount of similarities between Stoicism and CBT is uncanny: visualise the worst be aware it's your thoughts that determine things to be pleasurable or painful your thoughts stop you from doing things you want to do. Practice steps in order to overcome anxiety. Actively live your worst nightmare and ask "is this what I feared?" Of course CBT has the added advantage it's been scientifically verified and we have steps and advice in today's everyday language to help us. Summary: what am I trying…
/r/seduction20/03/14 02:47 PM
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Think about where you want to be. As Chris Hadfield says (Canadian astronaut) when you look in the mirror see the man that you want to be. Remind yourself of where you want to be periodically. Work out what you have to do to get there. Work out what the sticking points will be. If it's going to involve anxiety Eg approach anxiety, see how you can level up to where you want to be (check out CBT methods on how people overcome their anxieties). Oh and exercise. Endorphins make you feel good. Endorp…
/r/seduction19/03/14 12:22 PM
2

"In brightest day, in blackest night, No evil shall escape my sight. Let those who worship evil's might, Beware my power, Green Lantern's light!!!" -- Green Lantern
/r/seduction18/03/14 11:14 PM
1

I used the binary scale before it was cool. You now have permission to shoot and hang me like a hipster
/r/seduction15/03/14 02:01 AM
1

Just go for it. While alot of people here are saying "wait till you grow up" is that what you want? So go for it! Become the 17 year old PUA who pulls older women. Your stories and strategies will be awesome and interesting because no-one has ever done it before So if your wondering why we can't give you any more advice or tips, it's because we have no experience with trying this. One thing I'll say though, is that the fundamentals still count. Inner game, have goals, have interesting hobbies. I…
/r/seduction10/03/14 11:04 AM
1

Haha true. Was assuming from context of OP's post that he was straight.
/r/seduction09/03/14 01:51 AM
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What this guy said. Use your new found skills to make new friends. Talk to random guys who you think are cool / doing cool stuff like you would girls (minus the sexual interest). Go to meetups where cool people hangout. When I say cool what do I mean? I mean people who are awesome and doing stuff with their lives. Where would artists hangout? Where would entrepreneurs hangout? Where would DJ's hangout? This is even more awesome because awesome/cool people love meeting cool people, and are happy …
/r/seduction08/03/14 01:57 PM
2

When you realise you have the power to change your situation is when it becomes a problem.
/r/seduction08/03/14 12:48 PM
2

As TofuTofu says think "I wonder what she's like". That mindset will keep it authentic despite how many girls you talk to.
/r/seduction07/03/14 01:04 AM
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Think of it as encouragement to keep going, to keep approaching, to keep improving. Remember at the end of the day it's a numbers game. Not every girl you talk to is going to be in the right place in her life to meet a new guy, or logistics might not work out. So keep approaching.
/r/seduction06/03/14 08:50 PM
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As /u/gadelat says its pseudoscience at best, research is currently undergoing, and there are no definite conclusions. However at the end of the day all I really give 2 flying f's about is my own experience. I've realised there's a correlation between me abstaining and an improvement in my mood, self talk, ambition, and desire to approach girls and dominate social situations. Correlation doesn't equal causation, so I have no idea of the actual source of it. Buuuuuttt, I'll settle with abstaining…
/r/seduction06/03/14 04:44 PM
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Dude this is a deep question, probably the deepest question of all. It's another way of rephrasing "How do I no longer seek validation from others?" I know it doesn't necessarily sound like your situation but bear with me. Replace others with your ex. Replace others with perhaps... Maybe, just maybe, the potential next awesome girl you meet. Honestly, there are many ways, and there is no right way as everyone finds the solution to this in their own way. Some say go lift, get buff, Endorphins and…
/r/seduction06/03/14 01:04 AM
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Can testament to that. I was that awkward shy kid until 15, when I stopped caring. After a few months of saying whatever was on my mind and doing bold unexpected things and self amusement, I suddenly started being called "that confident guy", "that charismatic guy" or "that weird but safe guy" (safe is British slang for cool) I'm still learning. I'm still growing. The reason I love seddit was because it finally taught me that charisma can be channeled to attraction if you do it correctly
/r/seduction05/03/14 01:27 PM
1

Nah. Go in with the confidence you'll have fun no matter what. Outcome independence isn't just a catch phrase we say around here. We live it.
/r/seduction28/02/14 08:21 PM
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Your emotions will betray you. Always. Take action. Acknowledge your first approach will be a nervous hesitant sweating wreck. Say your nervous during your approach. Move onto the next one. Keep doing it. Fail = emotion --> action Success = action --> emotion
/r/seduction20/02/14 05:51 PM
17

"Nice guy? I don't give a shit. Good father? Fuck you!"
/r/seduction20/02/14 11:16 AM
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Incorrect. Succumbing to base desires to the point it harms you is what he would disapprove. Stoic didn't ignore pleasure, just like they didn't ignore fear, they just tried their best to not let it rule them. And as OP says below, I once again shall quote Bruce Lee, "Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own."
/r/seduction20/02/14 11:07 AM
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Everything this guy says, rings true. Why am I saying this? I'm currently getting my business of the ground. This involves cold calls and other methods to generate business. every point he makes applies to business. Every. Single. One. Pickup isn't just pickup guys. It's principles are universal.
/r/seduction19/02/14 11:30 PM
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Personally, ignore. Tbh, it depends on the context. If the girl is talking about it in a way I find annoying, I'll call her out on it, and be honest about what I feel. Or agree and amplify, but amplify to a fucking huge extent. [I got a loud voice] Speak louder and louder in the place we're at "I juST HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE PAY ATTENTION WHEN I SPEAK LOUD" then switch the subject. Finally my favourite piece of advice from Don Draper, even though he is a fictional character is when he's speaking to …
/r/seduction19/02/14 09:53 AM
1

Every disadvantage can be turned into an advantage. I'm even shorter than you, 5'6. I used to let my height cripple my self esteem throughout my teenagehood, but then I realised I had other things going for me, and I maximised those. I grew my hair into an afro. Natural peacocking there. I have a loud booming voice, I use that to great effect in group situations so people naturally think I'm the life of the group. These weren't all conscious decision by the way, but when I decided to just have f…
/r/seduction02/02/14 01:13 AM
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Just came back here as well.... I don't even.... Just ignore them mate
/r/seduction02/02/14 01:04 AM
1

Start meditating. You'll learn what "no thought" is
/r/seduction20/12/13 03:25 AM
2

Stop thinking. Do. Think later.
/r/seduction19/12/13 06:58 PM
1

You demonstrated you had boundaries, and you were willing to break rapport. Golden.
/r/seduction13/12/13 12:53 PM
4

This. This exactly
/r/seduction12/12/13 02:28 PM
1

I don't rate women on a scale of 10. That just puts them on a pedestal. A girl is either an HB or not. I.e. a girl I find attractive or not. Why you hatin' man? What's making you so frustrated?
/r/seduction11/12/13 03:29 PM
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As they say, "When in Rome, do as the Romans do." I'll point you to a comment I made before regarding this. There's a reason I'll continue to use the acronyms: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1rewb9/seduction_from_a_female_point_of_view/cdmzxyv
/r/seduction10/12/13 10:48 PM
1

Just speaking the language of the people in this subreddit. I didn't consciously choose to use an indirect opener, I just opened my mouth and words came out.
/r/seduction10/12/13 12:44 PM
1

This is so true, thanks for opening my eyes to that.
/r/seduction09/12/13 09:29 PM
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Haha fair enough. I think if anyone could they would be millionaires. However all I will say is one philosophy from the Stoics (ancient Greek philosophers. Check out Seneca and Marcus Aurelius) is to practice misfortune: "Set aside a certain number of days, during which you shall be content with the scantiest and cheapest fare, with course and rough dress, saying to yourself the while: 'Is this the condition that I feared?' " - Seneca So if you can practice in low doses that which you fear, all …
/r/seduction09/12/13 09:27 PM
4

Man that's f'd up. Friends, acquaintances or colleagues?
/r/seduction09/12/13 06:44 PM
1

Baconreader? Hold on the subreddit in the subreddit choice menu in the top left. If another app, then good luck.
/r/seduction09/12/13 03:18 PM
1

I wish this could be stickied somewhere.
/r/seduction09/12/13 03:17 PM
1

Go back to basics. Outcome independence. Take action, worry about the consequences later. Common virgin objections (I know because I had them): I don't have any sexual reference experiences, how can I be sexually confident? Take action. Kino and escalate. It's not rocket science. Your body will know what to do. Only thing to know: don't rush. Admitting I'm a virgin will turn the girl off me. Maybe, but you'll be surprised at how many girls will find this attractive. Because you're showing someth…
/r/seduction09/12/13 03:12 PM
1

Well, yeah. Everyone does that instinctively. I meant consciously actually examining the possible scenarios. E.g, (day game scenario) if everyone in this court thinks I'm a creep for hitting on this girl, what would actually really happen based on my experience? A.) someone screams and everyone attacks me B.) someone calls the police and I go to jail C.) people ignore me and go on with the rest of their day Actually running through those scenarios makes me realise the first 2 are actually just r…
/r/seduction08/12/13 08:41 AM
1

23/M The question people should be asking is "Why do I want a girlfriend/boyfriend?" Once I asked that and did some soul searching I realised I didn't want a girlfriend for now. Who knows what the future will hold?
/r/seduction08/12/13 04:47 AM
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Awesome. Something I ask myself "What actually is the worst that can happen in painstaking detail?". Once my mind's eye imagines the worst situation, I often realise it's actually not that bad. Then I go for it.
/r/seduction08/12/13 04:42 AM
2

I just practice socialising all day. Some people call this "warm up approaches." When I leave the house, I just try and talk to as many people as possible on my way to wherever I'm going. Barrista's, bus drivers, people who we share a common experience, people at the traffic lights. See the thing is The first few interactions are always going to suck. So better to get them out of the way. That way when I see a HB, I'm warmed up and hopefully my brain will kick into gear. If not, onto the next on…
/r/seduction08/12/13 04:36 AM
3

We fucking love you as well.
/r/seduction07/12/13 08:24 PM
3

I'll share my story: Me and HB shooting the shit. Knew she was older but didn't care/didn't know how old. Age eventually came up during kino escalation. I told her my true age after joking around. She said "Oh, man your too young.", I was like "Really? How old are you." She mentioned an age which was a few years off my mum. I wasn't drunk enough yet to shut up my brain. So I thought "that's a bit weird, even though she's hot as fuck.". So I actually genuinely was going "Your right, darn your too…
/r/seduction07/12/13 08:21 PM
2

Calibrate. However general rule : Smiling makes other people smile (it's contagious). When they smile they feel good (put a pencil lengthways in your mouth and try and feel sad). People like to hang around people that make them feel good. Hence smile more.
/r/seduction28/11/13 07:07 PM
2

What this guy said
/r/seduction27/11/13 10:37 AM
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Cold call a business and ask for a job. Go to a shop you frequent and ask for a discount with a smile on your next item. Send emails to close friends asking them to invest in you Next time you see a hot girl in a bar or club, go up to her, look her in the eyes, while shaking your head say "naah" and walk away.
/r/seduction26/11/13 05:54 PM
2

I understand that people who are new here wouldn't understand our acronyms and terms. However ... The words we use frame how we interpret a sentence or an idea. If I said she should simply "touch" guys more. That brings up the image of that creepy person who touches everyone, or someone or whatever previous reference experiences people have with "touch". However the word Kino is short for "kinesthetic" touch, which brings to mind people who are "kinesthetically intelligent" (dance, sports). Kino…
/r/seduction26/11/13 12:29 AM
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I was waiting for someone to come up with this advice so I wouldn't have to write it myself: Kino. Kino. That could be the missing piece in the puzzle.
/r/seduction25/11/13 05:18 PM
1

My approach to this is quite immature, but I know it's my kryptonite. Eject. Better to eject than to start supplicating and generally feel low self worth after the interaction. But I know it's something I have to work on.
/r/seduction23/11/13 03:05 PM
1

Even rockstar entrepreneurs have self-doubt from time to time. Gad i doubt anyone feels 10/10 every single day of the week.
/r/seduction23/11/13 03:03 PM
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Girls like guys that are going somewhere. Do you have any goals? Do you have a vision of where you want to be a year from now (pro tip your girls situation should be only a very small part of the pie) What are you doing to make yourself the prize?
/r/seduction23/11/13 03:01 PM
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This used to happen to me, so I understand. What someone else said here rings true. When they express interest, suddenly the stakes are higher in your own mind. You want to protect your position instead of doing bold ridiculous shit (which paradoxically makes the situation worst in the long run. Playing it safe doesn't get results) Like other people said here, it comes with experience. The next time this happens you'll understand what's going on, and hopefully you'll take action anyway. And if y…
/r/seduction20/11/13 09:36 PM
1

Excuse: I'm broke and I'm trying to sort out my personal and financial shit before I start working on game Why it doesn't matter: are you fucking kidding me? Girls love guys who are on their way to somewhere or are chasing their goals. Also getting used to Rejection will work wonders for your business skills.
/r/seduction20/11/13 09:27 PM
2

In a club environment I will flirt and run game on a girl even if she says she has a bf for the following reasons: I'm not looking for a LTR. She could be lying. But if her body language is saying "I'm interested" while she's saying she has a bf, I have something to go of. It's fun She has friends. If I demonstrate value, she may introduce me to her friends, providing social proof Did I mention it's fun? If your looking for girlfriend material, then there's something to be said about not chasing…
/r/seduction20/11/13 05:51 PM
1

No. Age means nothing. Go out there and do some approaches.
/r/seduction20/11/13 05:43 PM
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sigh and now countless newbies will read this and decide to do no approaches because some guy on the Internet said something that gives them an excuse. Honestly I call bullshit. I'm 23, started doing approaches at 22. If you have solid inner game, Age means nothing. Asking your age or a girl reacting to your age can be seen as another form of shit test. She says your too young? Do classic push pull, tell her she's right and she's too old. Vice versa. Age means fuck all. I'll argue younger than 1…
/r/seduction20/11/13 05:42 PM
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I remember reading this advice ages ago when I was reading the sidebar as a newbie http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cj3mz/each_time_you_fail_to_act_you_lose_something/ Each time you act, your confidence builds, each time you fail to act your confidence decreases.
/r/seduction12/11/13 01:03 PM
1

Nope your not the only one. However reading canned material, allowed me to realise that I can be myself and even more outrageous than so called canned openers and still get results. Honestly there's nothing more fun than saying something so ridiculous that makes you laugh to someone you've never met, and it being received with a positive response.
/r/seduction10/11/13 03:39 PM
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The best advice ever given on this planet has been: "Be comfortable in your own skin." If you don't love and respect yourself (and that includes being comfortable being yourself around other people) who else will? Check out this TED talk http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
/r/seduction04/11/13 10:55 AM
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http://i.imgur.com/jQq32OZ.gif Dude, posts like this make me so proud of this community. Thanks :)
/r/seduction04/11/13 10:51 AM
1

This my friends is what it feels like when your in state, and everything is going perfectly. I wholeheartedly recommend seeing if you can get yourself on video while your having a good time and are comfortable in your environment (Eg when your around friends your comfortable with). It's an awesome reference experience and you get to observe your natural body language. You can see what's good and what needs improving there.
/r/seduction17/10/13 09:58 PM
1

"Cowards die many times, the valiant but once." .... okay that's from Shakespeare, but its from Caesar's character.
/r/seduction13/09/13 07:20 PM
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This is a quaint story of outcome independence. How can you react and judge on imaginary knowledge? For me this translates (in seduction, sales and generally anything uncomfortable), how do you know if it's going to turn out good or bad? Only way to find out is to try.
/r/seduction10/09/13 11:08 PM
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I cannot sum up how much I agree with this: One of the few things I took away from RSBD Blueprint Decoded was that many guys only reference experience on how to deal with girls are from movies. The classic hollywood romance story. As anyone who has had success before can attest... it's all bullshit.
/r/seduction08/09/13 05:10 PM
1

I got an afro
/r/seduction07/09/13 05:49 PM
2

Proof? I've heard of a pub med science article which proves the opposite. Also cold showers help with fat loss and melatonin
/r/seduction07/09/13 04:44 PM
0

Mostly surface details, screams of misoginy. Useful for newbies, but The Game is more useful. And that's saying something.
/r/seduction06/09/13 06:13 PM
3

Progress is relative. Learn from them. Admit your vulnerability in this area. Ask for advice.
/r/seduction30/08/13 03:11 PM
1

"you can't control other people's actions. But you can control your response" Thinking about what he's thinking or how he's feeling is just a waste of your time. Focus on you and your response. Did you feel threatened when he did what he did? If so, seriously examine how you feel about the girl
/r/seduction14/08/13 08:00 PM
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In that case use text for "drip marketing" or just get her on facebook. She'll regularly see you on there if your active so that way you don't stay out of mind. Then you can arrange a meet up and BOOM!
/r/seduction14/08/13 04:24 PM
2

I hate hate hate hate hate Tinder. It's all about Outer Game. If your into that, then awesome. But if your trying to make the painful process to being a natural, it sucks. I'd rather get out there and do cold approaches. More ballsy, I get more responses. I also get genuine rejections as opposed to superficial ones.
/r/seduction13/08/13 06:47 PM
1

You do realise that by having a condensed form of the book, people who read it will be more intrigued to buy the full version of the book? It's a form of marketing. Don't believe me? Tim Ferriss got a 40% CTR rate to his 4 Hour Chef book on Amazon by giving away bonus chapters of his book away on bittorrent (Source) Or how about how Time Warner are actually happy that Game Of Thrones is the most pirated tv show out there, happily stating that it's better than an emmy (Source). It's marketing bro…
/r/seduction13/08/13 06:44 PM
2

Watch the Amy cuddy TED video on body language. When you meet someone new, girl or guy, use two fingers to touch their upper arm slightly while talking or when you introduce yourself. Keep your first touches light. Your brain naturally knows not to just dive in and grasp people, but just a touch. Remember when a natural introduced himself and lightly touched you? Didn't you feel like "hey this guy is cool. I can trust this guy" Kino and touch is a natural displays of confidence. Watch politician…
/r/seduction13/08/13 06:12 PM
1

Awesome that you disagree. But I'm telling you now, if you focus on text game, and not using text as a logistical tool to meet up with girls, where you can then physically escalate to sex. (rarely have I heard a girl get wet from texts, they get wet from the intent of desire behind it) your going to have worse results than the guy who boldly risks rejection after he meets a girl and arranges a time and place to meet.
/r/seduction13/08/13 06:04 PM
3

I can assure you if you stop fapping and stop watching porn, you won't need to find the motivation to keep going.
/r/seduction10/08/13 11:09 AM
1

You can't create sexual tension by text. You create sexual tension by kino. All text is capable of doing apart from arranging things is breaking rapport. Ie, focus on seducing the girl face to face.
/r/seduction07/08/13 07:02 AM
0

I think I'm only getting this now, even though it's common sense. I am honoured to be part of the same subreddit as yourself.
/r/seduction02/08/13 01:17 PM
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It's not about comparing yourself to them. It's about comparing yourself to you. Let go trying to be the better. Be happy for them.
/r/seduction02/08/13 01:12 PM
0

Stop thinking. Stop overanalysing.
/r/seduction01/08/13 11:39 PM
2

One of my takeaways, and there are several others is this: Mark is trying to say that a woman gets turned on by a man who desires her. Who wants her enough that he's willing to be vulnerable and honest about his intentions in the face of rejection. However another factor to consider is that girls don't want needy guys. Or as he defines it girls, because of evolutionary psychology reasons, desire guys who are more invested in themselves than they are in them. Or common fucking sense, a girl doesn…
/r/seduction01/08/13 12:16 PM
4

I can't do canned openers. I never have. I tried them. I failed. And I have lots of amateur stage acting experience. Learning lines and delivering them naturally is something I've done alot. But I can't deliver canned lines when I'm already a.) So damn nervous b.) Anxious about rejection c.) Saying things which aren't even true, when I haven't mentally prepared myself to get into character. You know what was alot better for me? Going out there, being ballsy, vulnerable and telling the truth. Bei…
/r/seduction31/07/13 10:07 PM
8

Fucking A man. Thanks
/r/seduction31/07/13 09:58 PM
3

I just had to share man.
/r/seduction31/07/13 09:51 PM
1

Remember: Rejection is your friend. Be outcome independent.
/r/seduction31/07/13 09:50 PM
2

The trick is to go Lean Startup style. Validate your ideas as fucking fast as possible. See if you can get paying cutomers for a problem. /r/entrepreneur is full of awesome advice. Also be intelligent. Don't quit your job so that you launch your brilliant idea. Do it on the side. Do it in the evening and the weekends. But perhaps some of us value financial freedom more than others.
/r/seduction31/07/13 06:27 PM
1

Agreed. Notice how I said below, after 6 months to a year of work? Wouldn't you agree 6 months of hard work is worth financial freedom for potentially the rest of your life?
/r/seduction31/07/13 08:01 AM
3

Yeah And yeah I will. Like I said, I do respect the author. Also don't want this thread deleted because of piracy.
/r/seduction31/07/13 12:13 AM
3

Considering the revisions it might be worth getting the older pdf versions. It's the same reason why I bought a 1973 copy of How To Win Friends And Influence People. The modern editions have been edited to appeal to a wider audience and to be more Politically Correct. Fuck that. (However because of how its such good value I wish I could purchase the older versions in a way that directly benefits Mark Manson. i.e. not a 2nd hand book, which is all sharing a PDF really is)
/r/seduction30/07/13 09:01 PM
4

For us PUA types, the old version is more appropriate. Don't think I'll get alot out of the current version.
/r/seduction30/07/13 08:55 PM
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I feel your response is almost zen. First you will attempt to attract all girls. For you are young. You are new. And you make progress. Then, you will level off. You will make no progress, but no receeding in growth either. You will continue to chase all girls. Finally you'll put your happiness above all others. You will attempt to attract only girls that are compatible with you. Then you will achieve enlightenment. Unfortunately I'm no Grandmaster or Yoda so my wording is terrible.
/r/seduction30/07/13 08:51 PM
5

If you don't believe me check out $100 startup for countless businesses people have started that net them after 6 months to 2 years work $60,000 or more a year. But if keeping up with the jones's is your thing...... well then you can pretty much ignore all inner game advice.
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:23 PM
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Bro. Seriously. You need all that money? Check out 4 Hour Work Week. Actually write down what you want to do in life. What dreams you want to do this year. Calculate the cost of those dreams. Set a deadline, and only get that amount of money. The beauty of the internet is there are countless options to make money without taking a job. Remember, you only have one life. You are dying everyday. Everyday. If you really think you have to take your job. Sit down and write down what your life is going …
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:21 PM
3

If your way too lazy to convert it in calibre, PM me. MAYBE I'll find the time to send you the version I converted. But just saying... I do have other stuff to do.
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:17 PM
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Neil Strauss still gets AA. AA will always be there. Fear is always going to be there. There are stories of successful authors who can't bear to publish their next manuscript after their previous success because they fear the book will bomb. And that's someone who's been acclaimed in the press, made a small fortune, and is guaranteed for life financially if they don't screw it up. And yet still they fear publishing. The fear is always going to be there man. The good news is if you keep overcomin…
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:16 PM
2

I'm 23. It's where I am. And it's definitely useful.
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:11 PM
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This.
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:11 PM
10

Throughout reading the book I'm seeing lessons I can take away in a business context. One reason why I'm into stoicism is to become outcome independent, to learn to handle rejection. That can apply not only in seduction, but also sales, marketing, business, and....just life.
/r/seduction30/07/13 06:09 PM
2

Hi fives, handshakes, bro fists. Escalate from that
/r/seduction28/07/13 09:54 PM
1

Go in with the intent in your first set to get rejected. Choose to do some stupid funny shit that will make you internally amused. When they reject you, you'll realise a few things: you chose to get rejected. You still have control over what you can do and how you feel. and for reasons I don't know, you start to feel awesome. Getting purposefully rejected is the best way I know to enter DGAF/God mode, state or whatever you want to call it. It's the feeling where you feel like you can do anything…
/r/seduction27/07/13 08:02 PM
2

Also once again, badass on just getting out there.
/r/seduction27/07/13 07:56 PM
2

Awesome on the approaching. I can only make a few pointers. Work on your body language: Search "Amy Cuddy" in ted.com. And I'm not aware of your cultural context, but try changing th word "pretty" to something that isn't said often like "adorable", "gorgeous". Being direct is a ballsy manoeuvre. Make sure you appear like you have the balls for someone who opens with a direct complement.
/r/seduction27/07/13 07:55 PM
1

Oh God Damn this is gold. I need to get my ass out to clubs again
/r/seduction25/07/13 06:23 PM
4

Kino
/r/seduction17/07/13 08:51 PM
6

Pay attention to your body language. Watch this TED talk
/r/seduction16/07/13 05:29 PM
4

Start easy, start small. I'm not the best to give advice as daygame terrifies me. I'm in a more natural state during the night. However my baby steps have been as follows: Maintain eye contact with people you find attractive. 2-3/10 will look back. Maintain eye contact and smile to them. People who look back always naturally smile back. The damn thing is contagious. Hi-five girls you find attractive. I have no idea but this usually is succesful. Just while walking to them, look at them. Raise yo…
/r/seduction12/07/13 04:13 PM
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Dude. I am so proud of you. First time in ages and you had a failure in a set. But did you let that get you down? No. You got many steps to take, some of them will be easy, some of them will be hard. But you gotta keep going. Keep going out, start the momentum. Soon your negative results will be neutral. Then they'll be positive. Keep going.
/r/seduction21/06/13 01:03 AM
5

Had more number conversions to Day 2's when I called than when I texted. Just saying.
/r/seduction20/06/13 12:28 AM
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I agree, in hindsight it wasn't that relevant to r/seduction material. It's like posting up a video of Don Draper. Sure at times you witness some concepts you've learned, but at the end of the day he's a fictional character.
/r/seduction19/06/13 02:49 PM
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Thanks for the clarification. Christ I have no idea why you got so many downvotes. Fyi thanks for the modding, you guys do a great job at making sure this subreddit doesn't get blasted with shit material :)
/r/seduction19/06/13 02:47 PM
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I completely understand where your coming from. We don't want seddit to become a hub where all people do is post meme's & youtube videos; However I'm going to say that the moment I watched it this morning, the first thing I thought of was "seddit will appreciate this!" I can see I wasn't alone in thinking that. I understand where your coming from, however: a.) If it was a publicity stunt, it was one completely engineered by him. The anchors were not in on it. b.) Again I understand your intentio…
/r/seduction19/06/13 07:01 AM
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Bloody awesome. A shortcut to developing positive thoughts. Write 3 things your grateful for everyday. After 30 days you start to see results in your thoughts.
/r/seduction18/06/13 01:11 PM
1

Check out his California On material. None of the people there are pre-scripted. He literally picks up random people on Venice Beach and asks them if they want to be interviewed.
/r/seduction13/06/13 09:29 PM
3

I felt like I was reading myself. The moment a girl mentions any geeky/nerdy stuff that I like, that's it. She shoots up way high on my totem pole. I suddenly think she is awesome. Without realising I put her on a damn pedestel, and that. That is when my game goes way the fuck out of the window. It is a lesson I'm learning too.
/r/seduction12/06/13 06:51 AM
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KaseemG is a natural. The thing I love though is that his skills came from just raw experience. Look at his early California On material for comparison. There he rarely opened female sets, and just focused on weird people in Cali. He had balls and his sense of humour was just developing, but it wasn't perfect. Fast forward to a year later, and he opens 3-5 sets of HB7s HB8s, completely negs, push & pull while doing outrageous stuff like slapping his hands between their thighs. That and signing a…
/r/seduction12/06/13 06:45 AM
2

Do you want me to hold your dick while you piss with it as well? :p Seriously though, you should check them all out anyway.
/r/seduction03/06/13 02:58 AM
6

Check out the Above The Game guide in the sidebar. One of the sections deals with this question
/r/seduction31/05/13 06:10 PM
6

State = How confident / awesome / Don't Give A Fuck mode your in
/r/seduction31/05/13 11:10 AM
2

If she doesn't pick up, you leave a voice mail. Simples. I've always preferred calling people who I cold approach
/r/seduction31/05/13 11:03 AM
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Mold was the wrong word for the OP to use, but the advice is still gold. Your doing what everyone does, seeking commonalities. Seeking common interests/behaviour she responds to is what people do even in AFC dating. But if you don't like that then you should still be mysterious. Reveal key moments of honesty like water in the desert. In other words be Don Draper
/r/seduction29/05/13 03:34 AM
1

Actually it did. It would have got me laid A LOT more if I hadn't been such an AFC however.
/r/seduction29/05/13 02:00 AM
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I'm sorry. I'm in University. I've done dumber shit before I knew this subreddit existed. If I saw a girl who I thought was a 9/10, bearing in mind DayGame terrifies the fucking living shit out of me, I would do exactly as I described. However, there has to be a 9. Any less and I would just concentrate on the novel I'm reading. P.S I'm one of those guys who has an afro. I get away with alot of shit.
/r/seduction25/05/13 01:29 AM
0

I can't give you all the answers, You have them within yourself.
/r/seduction25/05/13 01:24 AM
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You have such AA it's amazing. I literally have introduced myself to people during fresher's saying even dumber shit like: "I'm dinosaur hunter" then roar at their face.. They loved it. One of them became my friend. I chatted so much dumb shit about a station which someone was trying to get directions to while we were on the phone. They became my friend. In fact, I EARNED the reputation "Crazy EndOfUniverse" on campus and it stuck for the next 3 years. If I hadn't been such an AFC back then, peo…
/r/seduction25/05/13 01:22 AM
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Not to be an asshole, but here's another way it can play out. For hypothetical's sake (which is a stupid thing to do as there's never ever anyway I can predict how an interaction will go. Which is why its fun to talk to girls as you never know which way its going to go) let's assume they're unfriendly. Me: "Hi" Them: "Hi" (They've got bitch shields. They're not smiling back at my smile, which by the way is very hard humanly to do. People smile back when you smile and are genuinely feeling good) …
/r/seduction24/05/13 05:42 PM
7

Your forgiven. Don't worry. 3 years ago, I thought what I said really mattered when I came up to a set. If I had the perfect line, and the perfect conversation and awesome wit, then all the ladies will fall in love with me. Now I know my success/failures have nothing to do with what I say. It all has to do with how confident I feel, and how attached to the outcome I am. Basically if I fear failing, I will fail. If I don't fear it, then my chances of success are higher. Honestly what you say to a…
/r/seduction24/05/13 05:32 PM
1

sigh If only they knew there are no perfect lines
/r/seduction24/05/13 05:28 PM
10

I have absolutely no idea why you got downvotes
/r/seduction24/05/13 04:37 PM
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"Hi" With a fuck load of confidence, easy smile and eye contact.
/r/seduction24/05/13 04:36 PM
64

Parks. Shit is cash. Girls everywhere when the sun is out.
/r/seduction23/05/13 12:39 PM
5

Honestly anything you are really passionate for. If your learning guitar just so that you can talk about learning guitar to impress girls, it'll show. Honestly? I've made girls start to try and qualify themselves when I talk about my learning to code journey, as well as copywriting. But that was only because I was damn passionate about it when I spoke, and that's because I am actually quite passionate about them. EDIT: And Physics. Bitches love it when I talk about Physics. But then that's becau…
/r/seduction21/05/13 04:09 PM
2

This is awesome. Now that my AA is no longer a serious crutch (it still exists, especially in daygame), my nights out are now just playful experiments. I see something online, and field test it to see if it works.
/r/seduction20/05/13 02:17 PM
1

Seddit teaches 2 things. Become a better, more confident version of yourself. It's not changing who you are, but levelling up who you are. Charmander eventually has to become Charizard bro. Also don't tell a girl you like her show her that you like her. We don't suppress our feelings, we just express them in the language of seduction. Finally it is an unfortunate aspect of human interactions that when it comes to interactions with the opposite sex, a guy should be seeing multiple girls before he…
/r/seduction19/05/13 02:04 PM
2

This was so boss, I'm seriously considering abandoning my strategy of just bullshitting and it working, to having jokes on hand.
/r/seduction17/05/13 01:38 PM
10

His friend was the bitch
/r/seduction14/05/13 02:30 PM
1

That's awesome
/r/seduction09/05/13 06:40 PM
2

Great guide. But you don't need to look shit hot to pull in a club. Just look good, be aware of your own sense of style. Leave the house dressed to impress. Wear some cologne. Go into the club and immediately talk /hi five the first person you talk to. I prefer to abandon my friends when clubbing, otherwise I just find myself looking for them all night. From an outer game perspective. This is awesome. But if your inner game is tight... This shit comes all naturally
/r/seduction06/05/13 05:26 PM
1

Kino. Kino. Kino. Kino Escalate. Escalate. Escalate. Escalate. Two fingers on the wrist when you make her laugh or when you address her. Then every time you talk touch her arm. Slowly build up. Touch your legs together. Each time you talk. Softly hold her leg to empathise what your saying. At some point your auto pilot will kick in, and BAM! .........the bam is whatever outcome you want by the way.
/r/seduction04/05/13 04:19 PM
3

applause You sir are reaching what I perceive to be a true natural.
/r/seduction04/05/13 04:16 PM
1

This. This. If I had known these things 3 years ago bangs head on desk
/r/seduction03/05/13 12:00 AM
4

The only way I know is the Hard Mode option. It's also great for your game too: Be the life of the party. Talk to everyone in the bar guy or girl, ugly or attractive. Be the nexus. Be that charming energetic motherfucker. When guys come over to talk to you, introduce your friend. Somehow hint or make it clear your not together. You could probably do this by hitting on other girls in the bar. I'm sure there are other things to say, but you can figure out the rest.
/r/seduction02/05/13 11:54 PM
3

Calibration, but also the frame you say it. I say off the wall things all the time. Within a few minutes people get that its my personality. In high school people may be usually put off initially at first/ act uncomfortable (as it's something they've never experienced before), but if you continue/ make them comfortable with a complete off the wall conversation, then it should be gold. Pro tip, try off the wall things which aren't sexual at first. E.g "What's up with Jimi Hendrix coming out as an…
/r/seduction02/05/13 12:06 PM
3

The most helpful thing I've ever read on an ask subreddit ever sarcasm
/r/seduction01/05/13 10:30 PM
1

Do you meditate?
/r/seduction01/05/13 03:13 PM
1

WARNING: BIG LONG ASS READ AHEAD Something similar happened to me. 23 here. When I started University when I was 20 I was the fucking life of the party, I didn't realise I had several girls chasing me back then because I was an AFC (an AFC who had natural inner game, very weird), but I fucking loved meeting new people, having random conversations and just having the time of my life. Then a year or 2 later. Things changed. Around my friends I became quiet, I realised I was just being in my head a…
/r/seduction01/05/13 03:10 PM
7

TofuTofu each. Damn. Time slow applause
/r/seduction01/05/13 02:31 PM
2

When I made a dedication to myself in february to improve my game, I had to hammer something into myself: It's a numbers game. It's the height of foolishness to believe all interactions are going to go awesomely. The moment I understood I'll find myself in some disastrous blowouts, and accepted that.... the first steps to getting rid of my approach anxiety came to me. APPROACH THE HB
/r/seduction29/04/13 04:06 AM
1

Embrace your flaws. Own your flaws. Then no-one can use it against you. I'm sure that's a quote I'm paraphrasing from somewhere, but you get the gist.
/r/seduction29/04/13 03:55 AM
2

Just saw your username: you get upvotes for that.
/r/seduction25/04/13 11:56 PM
2

Stand up, remember to become outcome independent. Go up to the first set I see and say whatever's on my mind. These days what comes out is "hi, I have nothing to say, but I came over to say hi." Usually there's a positive response, because I'm being damn authentic. Right there I'm feeling vulnerable, and I'm displaying it. I know after a few of these (heck just that conversation itself), I'll feel good and start being able to shoot the shit.
/r/seduction25/04/13 11:54 PM
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Oh man, thanks so damn much, this fucked me over like the tsunami on japan this weekend Things getting hot and heavy, awesome make out session. Escalating like a G6 on steroids. Reach around her back to undo the bra. Fail. In State, dismiss and joke it away. Got challenged to do it. Had to do it. Fail. Someone might as well have thrown a bucket of cold water on us while we were making out. Still, the K Close was an achievement for me.
/r/seduction22/04/13 11:12 PM
4

Giving her your phone, fucking awesome move. Used to use this before I knew about "game" in my first year in university. Back then I was always surprised when the girl entered her number in. Alas I was a massive AFC back then in text game.
/r/seduction13/04/13 06:37 PM
1

Can I control her actions? No Can I control my actions? Yes What rationally is going to change my feelings? Talk to other people, talk to other girls. So I talk to other girls. Even if I'm feeling like shit. My mood changes within 2 minutes usually.
/r/seduction27/03/13 07:45 PM
1

OP. All I can say is: Fuck yeah
/r/seduction27/03/13 07:43 PM
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http://imgur.com/cTMbqf9
/r/seduction27/03/13 07:41 PM
2

My man, this is a fucking huge leap, and if you succeed you won't look back. I haven't quit the internet, though I have taken internet diets before. But getting rid of TV was a fucking huge change for me. It stopped ruling my ass, and I suddenly realised I had all this fucking time What I would suggest? Do something creative 30 minutes a day. Whether it's writing (my personal favourite), playing a musical instrument, painting or even smashing mirrors for fun (Be wary of the glass, and the expens…
/r/seduction27/03/13 07:33 PM
1

Paul Miller who writes for theverge.com
/r/seduction27/03/13 07:29 PM
1

"I wanna show you something" while wearing a shit eating grin.
/r/seduction10/03/13 06:38 AM
1

I'm gonna try and see if I can explain this: Lets say there are two people you know. Person A whenever anything awesome happens to him, he shouts about it so that the entire world can know about it. If your his friend you probably feel obligated to pat him on the back and say "Congratulations", but inside your head all you can think is What a fucking douche. I'm happy for him (I'm assuming your friends) but why is he screaming about it? Does he want a cookie or something. That's a bragger. Someo…
/r/seduction10/03/13 06:34 AM
4

One time an HB5 confidently game'd me. When I got pulled over to the corner and she went in for the kiss (I kissed back), I realised something. If this shit can work from an HB5 on me, then it can definitely work on an HB9 from me I've never looked back. Except for Day Game. That shit still terrifies me.
/r/seduction10/03/13 06:17 AM
3

This is almost perfect timing. Been planning to get into meditation for half a year now. Read half of mindfulness in plain English the other day and tried a session. Nothing amazing happened. It wasn't too hard for me as practicing Game and practicing Stoic philosophy (practice misfortune, don't dwell on the past or the future, nor the highs or the lows as you can't control neither fortune nor the past or future) meant it wasn't a new experience. However for the first time in my life I was aware…
/r/seduction08/03/13 05:12 AM
3

That text game post made me want to drive a screwdriver into my eyes
/r/seduction06/03/13 08:25 PM
1

Amazing. If I feel like a night is going to be a blowout, I'm going to aim for one of these.
/r/seduction05/03/13 01:56 AM
1

I'm from London bro.
/r/seduction02/03/13 12:16 AM
0

This actually hasn't happened to me. Usually because I've built a tonne of attraction between us initially. I've already prewarned her that I'm going to call, so I'm trying to create this atmosphere where calling is acceptable. But if she did, I'd text back when I felt like it. More likely than not, I'd end up eventually moving on. I only text my close friends.
/r/seduction01/03/13 11:01 PM
0

Meh I prefer direct. Simple Pickup use direct shit. Direct is me being authentic. Me being authentic gets me in state. But whatever works for you man.
/r/seduction01/03/13 10:59 PM
1

lol. I meant 90s generation, as in people who are in their 20s
/r/seduction01/03/13 10:57 PM
0

Agreed. It wasn't on purpose, but I became super busy over that weekend, and each time I was free to contact someone it was like at 3am. So I waited till the next time I was free. I was pleasantly surprised when she picked up. But yeah, I don't plan on leaving it that long again.
/r/seduction01/03/13 10:56 PM
2

What works for you works for you. Like I said, it just wasn't working for me. I'm just suggesting this for people who may be having problems with their text game and flake outs.
/r/seduction01/03/13 10:54 PM
2

What these guys said. But if you feel like it isn't cool, then it would definitely come across as not cool if you tried it. If it works for you, it works for you. I just prefer calling. It's the difference between a 2D platformer, and the glorious 3D experience that was Ocarina of Time. I got alot more to work with over the phone, mainly my tone of voice.
/r/seduction01/03/13 10:52 PM
2

Yes! I prefer to speak over the phone, so why not start like I plan to go on?
/r/seduction01/03/13 10:50 PM
3

Haha, fair enough. I just used that to end for motivational purposes. However most of the people on seddit, (well at least me) are currently going through growth. We grew up all our lives being gentlemen. Now we're going to the other extreme. After we go too far, we'll probably end up in the best place. The happy medium. And your right. You have to calibrate according to how the girl is. Now if she was a shy girl during our interaction, I won't expect her to pick up. But I'll leave a voice messa…
/r/seduction01/03/13 10:48 PM
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I guess something I failed to mention is that I'm more likely to send a needy text than to be needy over the phone. It's just where I'm at at the moment.
/r/seduction01/03/13 10:38 PM
1

Alas I'm not Don Draper
/r/seduction01/03/13 04:22 PM
1

Awesome Stuff! Now CALL that girl. Forget texting.
/r/seduction01/03/13 04:19 PM
0

Fun story, shame about the end. I'm going to share something that worked for me before I even knew about the game. In my pre-seddit days there were times when I became a natural, but alas I never closed because I was such a pussy. I was in a club, with some bro's who weren't bros. HB8 sitting next to us. From time to time I've been seeing some chemistry between her and another HB8, but I thought "ah, they're European. Bitches be cray." So while my fake bro's were trying to egg on another bro to …
/r/seduction01/03/13 04:15 PM
10

"Hi, my name is Badass Motherfucker". Makes me laugh inside, every-single-fucking-time.
/r/seduction01/03/13 04:08 PM
5

The problem with typing stuff on the internet, is people can't tell the tone in which your saying something. It's why emoticons were invented :p
/r/seduction01/03/13 04:05 PM
9

Progress is relative. Listen to this guy.
/r/seduction01/03/13 04:04 PM
0

Your over-analysing this. Which means you give a fuck, as in your attached to the outcome. Which is the first best way to screw up your game. My advice, move on. More fish in the sea etc. I know it's easier said than done, but do you really want to waste precious cognitive cycles of your brain thinking about one female who doesn't even care about you? If your really going to give this one more chance don't text her, CALL her. Calling makes you seem like you have balls. Then embrace the situation…
/r/seduction28/02/13 08:14 PM
2

Honestly, you should have done it so you can train and level up. However from your interaction she would have probably said no, or flaked after giving it. You didn't do anything to build attraction. Next time tease the girl, or just be direct. After talking for a while say something like, "honestly I only started talking to you because I think your adorable", and then go from there. But kudos for talking to the girl! Keep it up bro
/r/seduction28/02/13 08:08 PM
2

I would like to think that I would just shadow a natural in my social circle and see how he does it/ ask him some questions. But I know that won't happen. It's almost taboo to admit you have problems with attracting women. Honestly I'd have stayed a virgin, then when I hit my 30s and have exhausted the entire internet's supply of porn banks, probably have a meltdown.
/r/seduction28/02/13 08:05 PM
4

Sweet bro. As sed_caelys said, keep teasing. Tease, tease and then go in for the number close. Make the close in a funny/teasing manner as well. Keep it up!
/r/seduction28/02/13 08:03 PM
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I fucking love eye contact. It's literally one of the largest things you can start doing to start building attraction immediately with a girl. Plus you feel fucking awesome while doing it. Another cool trick I've started doing is just watching people's pupil reactions while we're interacting. IT'S SO FUCKING COOL. With a girl you can literally see when her pupils dilate/close up while your talking. I'm sure your brain automatically watches this to calibrate as the theory is: When walking/breathi…
/r/seduction27/02/13 05:22 PM
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When you were falling out of state/getting a headache, a trick I'd have done, is just simple accept it. Embrace the fact your no longer in DGAF mode, say to yourself that's cool. 2 actionable tips, when your female friend was egging you on, pro tip from Don Draper: "If you don't like what's being said, change the conversation." Either that or leave the scene. I usually eject and change my venue, even if it's going outside, when I can feel myself retreating into my head/my environment is forcing …
/r/seduction27/02/13 05:11 PM
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Girls without female friends, will friendzone you if you don't keep your shit together.
/r/seduction27/02/13 05:04 PM
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I have never had this experience. Women usually assume a guy wants to be friends, because that's what guys usually do when they talk to a girl. They fail her shit tests, and she starts talking to him about her life/ some B.S that's really important to her, but isn't part of the guys business. Whenever I've intentionally out of my way gone to get to know a girl, it's because I've wanted to get in her pants, I said that in as crude a fashion as I could, because I can't be bothered to be politicall…
/r/seduction27/02/13 05:03 PM
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Remember when you were a Fresher, and it was during that golden moment where no-one knew anyone? You could just go up to someone and talk to them and get to know them? Well you didn't die when you did that did you? So just do the same. In the beginning of class just ballsily sit next to the HB9. Say something along the lines, "Hi. Today me and you are going to get to know each other." or "Hi, your going to be my girlfriend for class today." Something to diffuse the tension of the fact your rando…
/r/seduction26/02/13 08:31 PM
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This thread's bit on condoms. I actually keep the business card holder of condoms in my back pocket at all times, despite the fact I'm a virgin. Helps to actually go out with the mentality of "sex is a distinct possibility of this night"
/r/seduction31/01/13 05:37 PM
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Congratulations bro, you've left being Metapod or Kakuna and are now in the early levels of having wings. There's a shit load of pain ahead, but eventually you'll get to level 100 and never ever look back.
/r/seduction30/01/13 12:16 PM
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That TED talk is gold. And trust me that shit works. Internalising that "open up your body" does start to make you feel good. If I'm sitting down I always put my arms around the back of the chair, regardless of the person sitting next to me (unless I don't know them.. cos that's just weird)
/r/seduction31/12/12 08:18 PM
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I really don't understand why people keep saying Direct is creepy. Go in there, hold your frame, say with utmost confidence (what is utmost confidence? I always visualise my dick is hanging out of my pants, and I have to lock eye contact so they have to look at my face... But I am a fucking weirdo) 'Hi' shake hand 'my name is xyz' I usually say something stupid at that point, because I am not thinking. Stop thinking. Thinking Kills State That's my 2 cents
/r/seduction31/12/12 08:05 PM
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Hi my name is Badass Motherfucker I do have a deep voice and an afro, but this shit works like gold.
/r/seduction31/12/12 07:54 PM
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I read a historical fiction book about a badass viking. It had the same effect. "The Last Kingdom"
/r/seduction26/11/12 07:42 PM
6

You forgot to constantly abuse your secretary and to live in the 50s
/r/seduction26/11/12 07:41 PM
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You got upboat for that tl:dr
/r/seduction29/10/12 02:35 PM
3

I went from 18 years of scowling, to giving an easy full toothed grin and smile after working as a waiter for 3 weeks.
/r/seduction25/10/12 02:26 PM
2

They're books for that. One that comes to mind is: Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships
/r/seduction25/10/12 02:24 PM
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It's all about appealing to the right part of people's minds. This video blew my mind open to that. http://www.ted.com/talks/simon_sinek_how_great_leaders_inspire_action.html
/r/seduction25/10/12 02:13 PM
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How the faheck do I get over the 20 years of rationalisations I've made up on being a virgin? (Context: Turned agnostic 7 months ago, stuck to the whole no sex before marriage. Regret is an understatement).
/r/seduction23/10/12 01:40 AM
1

You da fucking man, needed that FR to motivate my ass in this club
/r/seduction10/02/12 10:56 PM
1

If you respect someone and respect yourself, it's simple. You both talk to each other. You both have banter (I'm a Brit).
/r/seduction20/01/12 09:43 PM
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When I meet someone, I subconsciously assume we're on an equal footing. While getting to know them I try to find what they think makes them of value (notice I said what makes them think, not what makes them of value). I become friends with them. Become friends with someone. Someone acts all negative, be negative with them. If they're negative to you, AMOG them. If they're continuing to be negative, cut them out. They're proving themselves to be wasting the finite amount of time you got on this w…
/r/seduction20/01/12 09:41 PM
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By doing that he demonstrated value my friend. Value
/r/seduction13/01/12 09:17 PM
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Fucking awesome bro. Without intention I believe your FR is gonna inspire me on my night out tomorrow. New on seddit, and been applying some principles I've learned with moderate success on saturday and sunday (no closes yet. Need to learn how to break that wall the way Superman would), however just had several blowouts last night. Entertain yourself. I like it.
/r/seduction08/12/11 04:21 AM
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