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FF0000_captain/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 09:44 PM
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FF0000_captain/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 08:41 PM
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Trauma? Religious? Yeah, she may very well need therapy to unfuck herself enough for you to be satisfied. But going to "couples" therapy is either one of two things: 1) you being captain save a ho' by taking an active role in trying to fix HER problems 2) you being a punching bag by admitting to her that you are equally responsible for HER problems Let her go to therapy (alone) if she's willing. Problem is, she isn't willing, because you aren't worth the effort. Get it yet?
/r/askMRP29/10/18 10:40 PM
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I don't know what game you're playing or what the rules are but I'm going to find out OP making this easy for her alright
/r/askMRP29/10/18 05:44 PM
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Yeah, my initial comment was a gut reaction based on my own experience. My wife initiates in very subtle ways like that. But I forgot for a minute that OP is getting hard no's for 2 months.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 07:02 PM
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started making a subtle point to make sure I see her getting changed in the morning This is basically a woman's way of initiating. A good sign I think you're doing something right. Logistics may prevent you from smashing at that moment, but you should def be gaming and teasing her when she does this at the very least. Edit: after re-reading your post this is more likely her way of checking to see if her pussy still has the power. She's flaunting her bod to get your attention so she can likely sh…
/r/askMRP26/10/18 04:34 PM
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If you lifted and read enough you wouldn't give a fuck and you certainly wouldn't be here asking whether or not your butthurt, fear-drenched idea of a response is good. Hint: it's not.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 12:55 PM
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anyone else have experience accidentally divulging the secret? Yeah, I left MRP subreddit open on my phone when I first discovered it, back when I didn't understand the potential consequences at all. She saw it via snooping, called me out on it next morning, and ranted a bit about it's toxicity. I just played dumb and said something to the effect of "oh that's interesting, I didn't see it that way. But I'll read whatever I like thanks" and left it at that. What's hilarious is how supportive she …
/r/askMRP24/10/18 12:44 PM
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discovering the source of her trauma It's called religion.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 10:21 PM
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"Lisa, I want to buy your rock."
/r/askMRP23/10/18 09:57 PM
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The fact that you practically keep a mental log of arguments to predict the next bj says a lot about whose frame you're in.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 01:00 AM
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Q: Why do fat chicks give great head? A: because they have to
/r/askMRP12/10/18 08:48 PM
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You clearly haven't read anything. This is the easiest lay up in the book, and you did the exact opposite of what you should have done. In short: eat a dick and die.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 04:26 PM
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And do you ever confront her about this? What's her reasoning? My wife gets a little pissy if I miss out on dad-daughter time bc of personal shit like the gym. So the solve there was easy: I lift before anyone in the house is awake.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 07:04 PM
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Sex is not the issue either. But then... 6 out of 7 days a week she's not speaking to me. So she doesn't talk and she's still DTF? What's her number? Edit: also, her knowing you have options is not the same as her being scared of you acting on them. You might be attractive, but you're just a better looking plowhorse in her eyes.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 06:42 PM
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Where are you with dread? Do you get comfort tests? And, are you even fun? Do you enjoy spending time together when you're not being passive aggressive toward each other? (Because going out to eat alone after being butthurt about groceries is pretty weak sounding). Also, sounds like she does what she wants because you suck at leading and suck at enforcing boundaries. If she doesn't do X, like you ask, does she ever face any consequences?
/r/askMRP10/10/18 06:28 PM
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Yeah, at 9pm with kids in the house a couple has 3 options: fuck do their own thing (separately or in the same room) joint activity Are you guys really this fuckin autistic? Jesus Christ, I take a break from MRP for a few weeks and it's like talking to 1st graders. If she agrees to doing something together, and then starts doing her own thing (on the phone) in the middle of it, guess what? Together time is over. Either your taste in movies suck or you just suck to be with. The problem is on you,…
/r/askMRP09/10/18 09:33 PM
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TV shows and movies can be a fun bonding experience. I agree. So what? Are you suggesting that OP forces his wife to look up from her phone and enjoy the amazing TV experience he has generously provided? Or could it be that she's fucking BORED and would rather do something else? Hmmm...tough call.
/r/askMRP09/10/18 09:25 PM
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while we're watching TV There's your problem. Do something more interesting. Right now her options are 1) sit next to you watching a screen or 2) sit next to you watching her screen. Wow. What a tough choice you have given her.
/r/askMRP09/10/18 07:07 PM
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You say the sex is great. So, you keep him nice and satisfied? Most guys go RP after banging their head against the wall for a few years wondering why they aren't getting laid. If he's getting laid good and plenty he has no incentive to change.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 12:50 PM
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Same with the wedding ring bullshit. I would laugh in her face and say "dont threaten me with a good time." Unfortunately, until OP is ready to watch it all burn, hell still be working his ass off putting out fires.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 09:19 PM
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You reek of fear and desperation. I have a picture in my mind of you as a little kid standing on the edge of the pool, afraid to jump in because the water MIGHT be a little cold. So you dont do it. If and when you DO gather the little courage you have to go in, you tip toe into the water timidly with a t-shirt on and signal to everyone you're not gonna be much fun. You need to work on your game pre-initiation of course, that is obvious, but you also need to adopt a mother fuckin' kamikaze, give-…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 09:05 PM
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“Addiction is a condition in which a person engages in use of a substance or in a behavior for which the rewarding effects provide a compelling incentive to repeatedly pursue the behavior despite detrimental consequences” That’s all you need when someone accuses you of being a sex addict. I.e., are there real consequences as a result of your “addiction”? If the answer is no, then you’re not an addict in need of treatment. If you are losing jobs, leaving kids uncared for, or going bankrupt as a r…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 10:30 PM
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Not a unicorn. Sounds more like she wants to be a hot wife. Someone who gets to go out and bang rando’s while you sit at home patiently waiting for her return. I see this whole thing heading for disaster. Clearly she wants to get some strange, and is going to resent you for denying her that.
/r/askMRP06/08/18 03:47 PM
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Step 1: become attractive. Come back when that task is complete.
/r/askMRP05/08/18 12:34 AM
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Step 1: become attractive. Come back when that task is complete.
/r/askMRP05/08/18 12:34 AM
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I don’t blame you. But I’ll tell you what I told my wife when she threatened self harm in a anxiety-induced panic attack. I sat her down after the storm passed and I told her simply and sternly that if she ever threatened to hurt a member of my family again, I would be leaving her. She tried to argue she never threatened my family, forgetting that SHE is also a member of my family. She was making a threat though, and that’s very different from actual intent. So maybe they aren’t apples to apples…
/r/askMRP03/08/18 02:06 AM
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Captain Save A Ho, level 9000. Or troll? Look dude. I’ll give you benefit of the doubt. That sounds pretty shitty. But guess what. You could be the hardest Rambo that ever lived or the King of all Pussy BP Nice Guy Fags and the fact remains that nobody is responsible for anyone else’s suicide. She is mentally ill. She needs help. And not from you. But you probably already know this. Nobody here can give you advice on this one. While I’m sure there are plenty here who have experiences they can sh…
/r/askMRP03/08/18 01:29 AM
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I always thought life would be easier once I stopped being a little bitch looking for a short cut FTFY
/r/askMRP30/07/18 10:12 PM
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Still better than anything DC has put out lately
/r/askMRP30/07/18 10:11 PM
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Sorry to break it to you, but if you “forget” about your frame, you never had one to begin with. What the fuck are you even talking about anyway? You mean you acted like a pussy about something until you somehow “remembered” that’s not what Captain Chad would be doing? Sounds like you’re still in the fake-it-until-you-make-it phase.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 10:02 PM
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to which I conceded as usual This is why you’re in such a big mess right now. Stop conceding to her. Give an inch and she’ll take a mile.
/r/askMRP26/07/18 02:23 PM
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People simply don’t change all that much once they reach adulthood. Sure, we change our attitudes and behaviors toward certain things given new realities, expectations and experiences but our core personality stays pretty much intact unless a significant outside force or event beyond our control alters who we are for better or worse. We all “grow” and become more comfortable doing things that we didn’t like doing before. But the baseline personality doesn’t move much. She is who she is. And you …
/r/askMRP25/07/18 01:07 PM
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Anyone that shrugs through life with a “I just don’t know” does not deserve quality help. He’s a fence sitter, has been all his life, too chicken shit to pick a side and jump.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 12:05 AM
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If this were tinder I’d swipe left on your flabby ass in a second.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 05:55 PM
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I think there are situations in life, like this, where cheating and lying about isn’t wrong, but is actually the considerate and caring thing to do. Not everything in life is black or white.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 02:29 PM
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My thoughts exactly.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 06:21 PM
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Fuck off with your “I try so hard” bullshit. If this post is an example of how much effort you put into things you deem important, you’re a lazy fuck looking for a short cut. You’ve been here a year? Read a bunch and tried so much? Prove it, pussy. What have you actually done and how have you failed? Give us that info and you’ll get some real advice. My guess, based on your comments about being shy and anti social, is that you’re too chicken shit to push boundaries and express your true self to …
/r/askMRP10/07/18 10:08 PM
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Agreed
/r/askMRP29/06/18 07:45 PM
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I’d consider a simple text that puts it all out there and reestablishes a little comfort: “Sorry for earlier. I guess I just miss the passion we used to have and it got to me. But that’s my problem, not yours.” But on second thought, maybe just let it go. Talking more usually ends up digging a deeper hole.
/r/askMRP29/06/18 07:00 PM
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No kidding, dude has been here almost a year and still seems absolutely clueless. Urge to kill...rising...
/r/askMRP29/06/18 03:41 PM
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Wtf. How is this a main event? Why would you think this is the end? She literally told you she’s horny for attractive men who aren’t so available (I.e., men who fuel competition anxiety, activate dread, play hard to get, whatever you want to call it). She’s pretty self aware which is great, you just need to stick to the program and shut your damn mouth.
/r/askMRP29/06/18 12:48 PM
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You’re the pretentious guy in the room who thinks he’s smarter than everyone else but really just sounds annoying and boring as fuck. While you’re off in the corner ranting and raving logically about how your wife has some issue all wrong, Chad will be pulling her aside with a joke that makes her forget about the issue altogether.
/r/askMRP28/06/18 01:33 PM
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You’re the pretentious guy in the room who thinks he’s smarter than everyone else but really just sounds annoying and boring as fuck. While you’re off in the corner ranting and raving logically about how your wife has some issue all wrong, Chad will be pulling her aside with a joke that makes her forget about the issue altogether.
/r/askMRP28/06/18 01:04 PM
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Sometimes a question is just a question. Women like to talk about feelings, after all. If you’re unsure, just reply with another question. Easy: “Do you love me?” “What do you think?” “I think you’ve been a real jerk lately.” “Why do you say that?” “Because you act all cocky and just want me for sex.” “Oh, really? How so?” “Blah blah blah” Just keep asking questions and the shit test / comfort test will reveal itself to you via her tone and whether she’s confessing an insecurity or placing blame…
/r/askMRP27/06/18 10:25 PM
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You gave him the wrong book; he’s not married anymore. He just doesn’t know it yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 09:56 PM
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Instead of focusing on her comments, maybe you should focus on why she’s commenting in the first place. Your house sounds like a god damn safety hazard.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 06:02 PM
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If you’re not willing and able to enforce a boundary, the boundary doesn’t exist. If you allow her to verbally and physically abuse you, she will probably keep doing it no matter how great you become. At some point she needs to fucking KNOW (not think) that you are not a punching bag. Learn to hit back by leaving her ass, or you’ll just have to learn how to take a beating.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 03:48 PM
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Cognitive dissonance is a bitch. And so are you.
/r/askMRP25/06/18 11:47 PM
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Fake it until you make it. Even if you aren’t attractive, act like you are. So you did. And got predictable results but who cares. At least now she knows the expectations you’ve been too chicken shit to tell her about.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 08:56 PM
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Abundance is an outcome, not a strategy. You either have it or you don’t. So what works? Being attractive and seeing yourself as the prize. You need both of those pieces; one is external and the other internal. Because if you can’t go out and fuck a hottie 10 years younger tomorrow, or you just aren’t willing to go there ever, you don’t have it. Period.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 07:54 PM
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Mother fucker, did he stutter? BOURBON
/r/askMRP21/06/18 02:37 AM
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It is interesting how so many non-married men end up here and don’t recognize how being here is itself a sign of trouble. I wish I had known about RP before I got married, but then again I had no reason to need it then. The game didn’t change for me until after kids. OP definitely needs to give this some serious thought.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 05:09 PM
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I’m with you. It’s a fun game to play as long as you’re completely OI through it all. But I don’t “play” or use the cheat code to “win” a BJ. I do it because the act of doing so in and of itself is entertaining and enjoyable for me.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 03:19 PM
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You’re doing well. It was a mild comfort test in my opinion. I get the “something’s off” comment from my wife from time to time and it’s usually a result of me being too available. You’ll probably get a lot of “you’re not attractive enough yet” comments, but I think it’s more about dread and your attention being too easily acquired that she’s taking it for granted.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 01:42 PM
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K. Do you have a question?
/r/askMRP19/06/18 04:51 PM
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Solid 6 Maybe...just maybeeeee...you’re not that attracted to her. There’s also the tiny little detail about YOUR WIFE HAVING AN AFFAIR. That’ll fuck with almost anyone’s mojo. Relax. And date someone hotter.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 11:09 AM
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I’ll never fully understand married couples that keep their finances completely separate. Especially if they will split assets in a divorce anyway, seems like a needless and artificial display of mine vs yours and only begets territorial thinking and covert contracts. Take control of the finances, or shut the fuck up.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 10:04 AM
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You don’t “draw the line” in regards to maintaining frame. Your frame needs to be rock solid and unwavering, from the big stuff to the small trivial stuff like fetching her a beer. Basically, you need to take full ownership of your actions. You do things because YOU want them done. Example: You’re at a friends house, she’s your guest. She asks for a beer and you comply, because hey, why not, she’s new here and isn’t comfortable enough to get one herself. So you were nice. And then, she asks agai…
/r/askMRP18/06/18 10:50 PM
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Why are you dismissing your wife so quickly? Is your son passionate about basketball? Put your bias aside. Whether her dream about scholarships and shit are possible or not; that’s just her being emotional about it. Ask your kid what he wants and let him decide.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 01:17 PM
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K
/r/askMRP15/06/18 02:04 AM
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Dude, don’t even mention that she was talking to another guy. She’ll take your action as butthurt “retaliation.” Just say “I like making new friends.” And then STFU
/r/askMRP14/06/18 10:17 PM
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Meh. It’s just role playing and playing around with power fantasies. Read up on BDSM best practices, what it means to be a “switch” and how two Doms in a relationship work together to fulfill both needs and you’ll be fine. If my wife wanted me to sub I’d happily oblige her and then ramp it up to 11 when it was my turn. But that’s just me; I recognize this would make a lot of people very uncomfortable. My biggest concern is not what she likes to do, but why and how she’s kept it hidden for 9 year…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 09:23 PM
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The question isn’t whether you’re being a shitty husband. It’s whether you’re being a great one. Acting aloof and disconnected from your spouse definitely isn’t great. Great is: working together toward a shared vision, exchanging information and advice often to improve both of your efforts toward that goal AND sharing this experience we call “life”. If you’re just going to and fro minding your own business, and occasionally fuck each other, you’re just roommates who happen to also be FWB. She wa…
/r/askMRP13/06/18 10:16 PM
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You gave up your status as “man with the plan” by checking with her to get her buy-in. She said “no, fuck that, he doesn’t know what he’s doing” and started giving reasons why not as a way to test whether or not you actually had some conviction to go with this “plan.” So you walked out to put your plan in action, which showed her that you do indeed have some conviction, and she thought “hmm, maybe he’s not so shit after all. On second thought, maybe I should go!” So you kinda sorta passed in a h…
/r/askMRP11/06/18 10:25 PM
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Your dick is a reflection of your state of mind. In short, giving way too many fucks about her opinion / actions toward you. She puts out the starfish and boom: you go into a death spiral of self doubt and pity; losing your confidence and your boner in one fell swoop. No big deal. You don’t see yourself as the prize yet. That comes with time; as you continue lifting you continue to get stronger and build muscle. As you get stronger and build muscle, you feel more confident and capable. As you fe…
/r/askMRP11/06/18 10:11 PM
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Your wife sounds stable, sane and pretty fucking chill. Making a simple request for you to back the fuck off and here you are debating whether it’s an act of mutiny. Rambo, much?
/r/askMRP08/06/18 10:14 AM
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I recently learned the appropriate term for that is “cock gutters”
/r/askMRP07/06/18 08:56 PM
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I was just saying her yelling about a sock falling off IS micro managing you. But I’m thinking the other comments are more right in that you’re not being fun, and instead being angry yourself and she’s reflecting that back to you. So be more fun and give less fucks.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 08:01 PM
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You don’t give us much detail on how you’re handling these shit tests. Bitching about a sock is no doubt a shit test. You say you laugh at her, but there’s a difference between mocking her for her stupid ideas and laughing awkwardly because your embarrassed and ashamed. Which was it? Either way, my advice would be to grow some balls and call her out. Don’t be afraid to piss her off, which simply walking away to avoid confrontation tends to telegraph. A simple “fuck off and stop micro managing me…
/r/askMRP07/06/18 06:29 PM
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Who gives a fuck. I don’t trust any number that’s given, so I don’t ask. And I don’t care.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 06:19 PM
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She has been nit picking everything I do That's because you're failing her shit tests HARD. So hard it hurts me from all the way over here. I know the dread is high. LOL. She's not accusing you of cheating because of dread... his message thread was deleted ...she's accusing you of cheating because she's the one actually doing it. Projection and gaslighting, 101.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 09:35 AM
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“I have a problem with masturbating too much and not having sex with my wife instead. Should I reduce how much I masturbate?” Are you always this helpless?
/r/askMRP06/06/18 10:13 PM
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Accepting yourself is not the same as being content with your life. Seeing flaws that can be improved is not the same as denigrating yourself for having them. Also, who the fuck cares what some book said. Do you believe in everything you read? This isn't science and there no rules. Just some words of wisdom some people share to point the way. You still have to carve your own path to get there.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 04:24 AM
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An absurd question deserves an absurd response.
/r/askMRP01/06/18 10:10 AM
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Good stuff. Don’t worry about what you didn’t do perfect, your strategy is on point even if your execution isn’t flawless yet. I have a lot of similar spouts with my wife, and at this point it’s as routine to me as the tides rising. As others said, this is normal. Once you’re really used to these kind of shitty comfort tests, you’ll stop DEERing as much because you wont take them as seriously. All in good time my friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/18 10:04 AM
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Solid FR. Her trying to get you home early after texting pics was a shit test disguised as a come-on. Trying to see if her pussy still held the power. And you aced it. Good work
/r/askMRP01/06/18 09:45 AM
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if you havent put in the effort to do your homework, why should we put effort into giving you advice?
/r/askMRP30/05/18 05:13 PM
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Stop being such a pussy would be a good start.
/r/askMRP30/05/18 04:15 PM
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But no matter how attractive you are, your wife will likely not respond well to you just telling her to suck your dick out of the blue. I disagree brah. When you can do it with a truly confident and carefree attitude, have high SMV and a good dynamic and sexual connection with her, yes, you can totally whip out your dick and get a BJ. It takes time being awesome, good game and an understanding of context and not being autistic though. In those situations its not demeaning or disrepectful to her,…
/r/askMRP25/05/18 12:14 PM
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Haha, that's funny. But don't sweat it, we've all been there. Eventually all of the 'tools' like kino, lifting, AA, etc. that you are using deliberately "on her" right now with covert expectations of how she will react will soon just become a part "of you" along with a DNGAF attitude about what happens. It's all about internalizing who you want to be, doing things only for yourself because you enjoy them, and that just takes a bit of time and habitual repetition.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 11:58 AM
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words really fucking DO matter when it comes to stating your relationship intentions No they fucking don't. Only your actions matter. For the speech, just express gratitude to your guests for coming, to family (if they helped), etc. and then shut your stupid face so people can get back to drinking and dancing. Nobody cares.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 11:45 AM
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The subtext of that is “you’re unattractive and he isn’t .”
/r/askMRP18/05/18 04:30 PM
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What was the context for telling you to ask him for sex advice? It’s pretty fucking weird that she’d suggest that. As if she’s been talking with him about sex or knows first-hand what he’s like. Major red flag there, and I’m having trouble seeing it any other way...
/r/askMRP18/05/18 04:19 PM
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My wife isn’t always hungry the same time as me, but if she’s still willing to make me an awesome meal regardless, who the fuck cares. Same thing applies here.
/r/askMRP18/05/18 03:40 PM
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This sounds like a shit test disguised as a comfort test. Just fog and pressure flip that shit anytime it comes up. “Why would I cheat on you?” “What reasons do I have for cheating?” Since “because I don’t give you as much sex as you want” will be her answer, it’ll get her to realize (in theory) how to exit the maze. Good luck.
/r/askMRP18/05/18 12:17 PM
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Stop sitting on the couch watching TV, for starters. Find other more interesting things to do together that make you the center of attention and provider of feelz. Or just initiate before screen time. Once the great distraction machines get revved up it can be hard to switch focus to something else. And it’s a lot more relaxing to veg out AFTER you’ve fucked each other’s brains out.
/r/askMRP18/05/18 12:47 AM
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I for one truly appreciate the frequent updates on OP’s beard-gate situation. These subs haven’t been this fun or interesting in weeks.
/r/askMRP17/05/18 08:04 PM
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You must be fun at parties.
/r/askMRP17/05/18 07:22 PM
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The answer is: do what you want. Fuck her preferences. They come second to yours. If her preferences don’t impact your happiness at all, then by all means oblige her. But it sounds like you really want a beard.
/r/askMRP16/05/18 10:31 PM
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Oh I agree. OP might be objectively ugly as fuck with a beard whether his wife likes it or not. But you gotta draw the line somewhere and if this is the hill that he wants to die on, so be it. Here’s a smaller, but similar case study: I was tired of wearing boxer briefs all the time. Wearing slim fit slacks can get all bunched up, ya dig? Especially in the summer that shit is annoying. So I bought some good old fashioned briefs (think: speedo cut) but good quality brand. Black. Not the shitty Ha…
/r/askMRP16/05/18 09:53 PM
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You could’ve easily pressure flipped this. Ask her how she’d feel if you stopped fulfilling your duties as a husband simply because she changed her hair.
/r/askMRP16/05/18 09:15 PM
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I’m a pervert and proud of it. You like to fuck. And you like women who like to fuck. So you watch porn to get your fix. Stop denying and hiding it. It doesn’t sound like you have a porn or sex addiction. It just sounds like you are really deprived. Your only problem is that women who do like to fuck (obviously, not your wife) wouldn’t fuck you with a stranger’s pussy. Porn isn’t your problem. It’s your utter lack of attractiveness.
/r/askMRP25/04/18 07:52 PM
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Because right now all I see are women with agendas. What, do you not have an agenda? You just get into a relationship for selfless reasons because you're a doormat or something? Sounds like you're still angry; defensively rejecting women, maybe subconsciouly, because deep down you're scared of how they might play you. But we all have agendas. Play or be played. but I'm also not interested in jumping through hoops these days Once you get out of the anger phase, you'll see it less like a chore and…
/r/askMRP25/04/18 09:47 AM
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No, not last ditch effort by any means. It wasn’t for me. But many men here stumble onto the red pill after years and years of bargaining, negotiating, counseling, choreplay, you name it. They initially reject the advice given here because it often contradicts their personality or what society has taught them. But it’s not only useful for those guys. It’s useful for newlyweds and everyone in between who want to keep attraction and sexual desire at its peak in their relationships.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 08:44 PM
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Clearly you’re not drowning. Good for you. But for those who have tried every other approach and are still sinking, I’m sure they’re thinking: “hmmm, haven’t tried this “man-up” approach yet; what’s the worst that could happen? Either I’ll keep sinking and will eventually abandon this ship (I.e., this marriage) anyway, or something will change.”
/r/askMRP17/04/18 04:16 PM
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She’s already fucking somebody else, I guarantee it. Probably more than one, too. She’s not asking for permission. She’s asking to not feel guilty about it.
/r/askMRP05/04/18 01:06 PM
6

“That’s the problem with putting others first; you’ve taught them you come second.”
/r/askMRP03/04/18 10:07 PM
4

If you have to ask, I’d say no...
/r/askMRP22/03/18 08:44 PM
1

Not having sex.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 08:19 PM
0

Being influential > being manipulative I’ve thought about this before, and my general point of view on this topic is that men who have abundance, OI and a DNGAF attitude do not need to deploy tactics of manipulation. Instead, they have influence over others by simply being someone others want to please and follow. Trying to control other people through these types of tactics CAN work of course and is definitely useful in certain situations, but they aren’t worth the time and effort of a high val…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 10:47 PM
1

The most common IUDs are hormonal. I believe the side effects are less severe though. But there are non-hormonal IUD options.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 09:37 PM
2

DNGAF-mode, activated!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 10:12 PM
1

gushing about how she’s going to rock my world That’s just how she felt in that moment. You should know better by now not to listen to her words anyway. What I see here is a complete failure at leading in the bedroom. If you wanted sex, it was your responsibility to go after it and take it. Waiting and hoping for others to please you is just a path to disappointment (aka a covert contract)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:08 PM
0

Now time to go find a sense of humor. I'm screwed. All you have to do is remember that you are nothing more than a big, smart monkey sitting on a rock that's hurtling through space at 67,000 miles per hour. Life is ridiculous and none of it matters. Enjoy the ride.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 12:58 AM
1

Yeah I probably would during the confrontation to get a reaction from her and see how she responds. But in all honesty, it would be because I’m ending it anyway and it wouldn’t matter that I violated her privacy or whatever other bullshit she’ll accuse you of. Do not go in without a conviction to end it. If you aren’t ready to do that, it’ll be a pointless argument and nothing will change.
/r/askMRP08/02/18 03:40 PM
3

Easy. Just tell her you now choose to live life as a gay man.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 04:35 PM
6

Sounds like the affair never ended. If it did, she wouldn’t still have the phone.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 03:22 PM
1

Yeah, this is textbook gaslighting behavior...making you feel crazy for not wanting your fiancé to have dates with other men. That’s what her one-on-one outing with dude was: it was a date. Just because it was daytime doesn’t make it not a date. The deleted texts are proof she knows what’s she’s doing is wrong, and yet she makes YOU out to be the bad guy. I would confront her and draw the boundary again, this time with confidence and unwavering determination, be ready for her to gaslight or insu…
/r/askMRP06/02/18 09:47 PM
3

Totally a shit test which you passed. Her getting angry is two things: 1) a last ditch attempt to manipulate you into staying her errand boy and 2) an emotional outburst for losing said errand boy. Your response seemed fine to me.,.but it’s possible you chuckling at her request made her feel stupid for asking. You found it a humorous request, but you didn’t bring her into your frame by making it humorous to her, too. Instead of saying “haha, no” you could have done a little more here by making t…
/r/askMRP06/02/18 01:57 PM
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My advice would be to stop expecting others to be your source of happiness...especially your unborn children. Kids or no kids, sons or no sons, find a way to be totally happy, cool and thankful for whatever shit hand you get dealt. Life is chaos, man. Just roll with it and know there is nothing you can do but bide time and enjoy the ride while you creep toward the inevitable eternal blackness that awaits us all. Oh, and congrats on child #2!
/r/askMRP03/02/18 09:36 PM
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I think I would pressure flip this one. “Why wouldn’t I be happy with you?” Let her do the talking and just let her vent, and be a good listener. If you must give an answer about how you feel, don’t make it about her. Give her the vision speech. “I wasn’t happy with how I was living life, so I vowed to change course, and I’d like you to come with me on that journey” or whatever your new mission is all about.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 03:26 PM
5

She's due to have the third baby in March. She's signaling to you she is uncomfortable and tired, because she's 8 months pregnant you fucking idiot. And you just ignore her to catch up with mommy? I just backed back out of the car on a whim, with some vague idea of causing her dread Pregnancy aside, you're making the mistake of thinking dread is something you can cause. You either have it (being attractive) or you don't. a beginning lesson I had years ago in TRP Doesnt sound like you taken in ma…
/r/askMRP30/01/18 11:10 AM
1

“Things have got to change. But first, you’ve gotta get mad!” Anger is probably the best emotion to be feeling out of any right now and arguably one of the most powerful motivational forces in the world. Change doesn’t happen when everything is hunky dory and acceptably “fine.” More often than not, changing for the better is the result of people feeling some injustice in the world, and getting pissed off enough to do something about it. Anger has fueled poor people to work their ass off out of p…
/r/askMRP22/01/18 11:28 PM
5

I think what’s wrong is how overthought this post seems to be. It basically boils down to “reward good behavior, don’t reward bad behavior.” If my wife fucks my brains out like I want her to, I reward her with cuddles and attention. It’s not that complicated. And to answer your question about what makes her WANT sex? Answer: Being an attractive man other women want as well. Trying to scientifically nail down exactly how and when to trigger hormonal and chemical responses in her is fools gold my …
/r/askMRP18/01/18 08:54 PM
1

This was my take as well. You don’t get asked “are you really coming?” unless 1) you have a record of not showing up at things or 2) the person doesn’t actually want you to attend. Sorry OP, but it sounds like she’d have more fun without you.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 08:09 PM
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My personal experience: Sex was frequent in the beginning but never mind-blowingly awesome (pretty vanilla, little willingness to explore, etc) Had a baby, frequency dropped. Found MRP. Learned to lead in and out of the bedroom. Now having frequent enthusiastic sex, where she is not only willing to explore but has become extremely THANKFUL for me turning our sex life into one that is really fun and exciting for us both. All couples are different of course and your mileage may vary. But I definit…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 11:29 PM
1

Definitely a shit test when she says YOU should be doing something in response to her flirting with other men. She might also be doing a little pressure flip on you after getting caught trying to reel in some strange dick right in front of you. Kinda sounds like she 1) doesnt respect you and 2) isn't afraid of losing you.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 09:41 PM
2

I’ve been ramping up last few days with my wife preparing for this weekend This is where you lose me. Smells like a nice covert contract you’ve got brewing. I also disagree about your story metaphor. We’re taking cues from romcoms now? My point is, you don’t need to build up tension over a long period before a cathartic sexual release happens, you just need to always be gaming. I look at it more like spinning a basketball on your finger. To keep it spinning you have to make sure you’re always “c…
/r/askMRP12/01/18 07:23 PM
1

This has got to be a troll post. No way you’re this stupid.
/r/askMRP11/01/18 07:57 PM
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You’re going a bit Rambo. Not really a shit or comfort test imo, you’re just being more of a dick than usual and she’s picking up on it, doesn’t know why you’re acting differently and it’s making her feel insecure about the future, the relationship, whatever. Instead of producing tingles by grabbing her ass and being all cocky, you’re simply causing her to recoil in disgust. Slow your roll, STFU more and keep working on you.
/r/askMRP10/01/18 02:52 PM
2

Since we’re all comparing schedules to illustrate how lazy and full of excuses OP is, here’s mine: 5a: wake up 5-530a: coffee, catch up on email, etc 530-630a: lift (home gym) 6:30-730a: cook and eat breakfast with family 730-8a: shower and dress 8-9: commute to work 9-530p: work 530-630p: commute from work 630-830p: cook and eat dinner with family, put kid to sleep 8:30-10: Netflix and chill What’s awesome about this schedule is I only need to wake up at 5am 3-4 days of the week, but have becom…
/r/askMRP06/11/17 01:13 PM
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Nope, wrong, try again. Why would someone apologizing for hurting you or making you mad be a comfort test? She made a mistake and owned up to it. Stop being such a cry baby. Also, keep reading. You clearly have a long way to go.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 06:14 PM
1

I was in a similar situation once. My wife was friends with a neighbor, who had a group of friends that were totally not our kind of people. All incredibly out of shape. All pretty soft spoken. Not much cultural or social awareness. They were never fun to be around. We eventually moved away though, so problem solved. It wasn't until a year or so later that I discovered RP. Now I look back with a little regret for not viewing the situation a little differently. Sure, it probably would have been a…
/r/askMRP26/10/17 10:32 AM
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A little harsh maybe, but them's the breaks when you have a disloyal woman. I know for a fact my wife would feel extremely wrong about spending 1 on 1 time with another man. Especially without my full, enthusiastic blessing to do so.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 09:47 PM
1

LOL. Your emotional IQ must be pretty low to not know that she'd react this way. Anyway, If strange pussy is really what you want, just put her out of her misery and end it. If you are simply wanting a better, more exciting sex life and don't want to lose her, then use this opportunity to experiment and kick things up a notch in the bedroom. Have some heart to heart talks about what you're looking for, and if she's really wanting to keep you, she will do whatever it takes. It's a win win for you…
/r/askMRP19/10/17 01:11 PM
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Yep. Because of this I feel like I don't actually even have to initiate anymore. Since I'm always gaming / looking for the close, and can easily tell now when she's open, there's no discernible line between initiation and sex/rejection. If you're always flirting, doing so when she's receptive just leads to more flirting, escalation and finally sex. Flirting when she's unreceptive just leads to me backing off a bit, taking time for myself and giving her some space. In other words: get to the poin…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 07:43 PM
3

Wake the fuck up, dude. SHE. DOES. NOT. LIKE. YOU. Not even a little. She'll tell you to your face that you are unattractive because she really doesn't give a shit about the life you built together - she wants out. Period. And here you are saying "but I really like this girl..." Too fucking bad. She's gone. What are you going to do now? That's the only question that matters.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 02:07 PM
6

"No meanies allowed."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 02:25 PM
7

Came for magic tricks. Am disappointed. But all in all I think this is a fine 'hack' as OP described. All this is doing is giving her a little nudge to confirm the suspicions she's already having. As long as you're not a fucking moron and lie to such a degree that it's easily disproven by others, it'll work well enough. The only problem I see is that it's a little try-hard. But, personally, if my wife was displaying concerns about women flirting with me, I sure as fuck wouldn't be completely hon…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 07:56 PM
1

But choreplay isn't a "fine strategy" I never said choreplay is a fine or effective strategy. Just that it is one you could choose. Even said that this particular strategy seems perfectly fine, but it displays a severe lack of abundance mentality, hence the fundamental problem we're having here. Do you not agree with that aspect? Is this not one man telling another man what he should want? Sure? If you want to read it that way, be my guest. When commenting on posts, I admittedly put myself in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 07:28 PM
4

Insecurity > Paranoia > Self-Sabotage Get to the root of why you're so insecure and worried about being alone and your problems will melt away.
/r/askMRP13/10/17 01:12 PM
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It is implied by the title and sidebar readings that MRP is a specific kind of sexual strategy (one that works). However, there are plenty of other sexual strategies one can adopt outside of RP philosophy. What do you think choreplay is? This is a perfectly fine strategy for those still clinging to the BP dream. It just doesn't belong in this forum. The reason why is that this is all about controlling HER behavior, being in her frame, and puts her firmly on the pedestal by making her pussy seem …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 10:53 AM
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"You can't live at all unless you can live fully now." Your problem is that you're stuck worried about the past, and how that could impact the future, instead of just enjoying where you are in the present. Stop being such a worrywart and just enjoy the ride, man. It'll be over before you know it.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 06:33 PM
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The solution is simple but I'm pretty sure you're too much of a pussy to do it. All it takes is 10 words or less: "Talk to me like that again and we are done." Would she talk to anyone else like that? Her family? Her co-workers? Probably not, because she actually respects them. Lead by example and demonstrate some self-respect.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 06:10 PM
1

Initiating as you're going to bed and getting rejected is generally a sticky situation. It's been discussed here a lot, and there are many different opinions. Generally the consensus seems to be only leaving the room if you genuinely want to, rather than as a form of "punishment" because that'll just appear butthurt. What I do in these situations is just chalk it up to a wash, let it go and let her cuddle me if she wants to while making her come to me (see: the kings position). Then, the next da…
/r/askMRP11/10/17 02:28 PM
1

Nah much better than I expected. I assumed way way worse
/r/askMRP11/10/17 01:21 PM
1

Fair point. Nerd culture is awesome, I'm not knocking that, but the specific hobby of DnD seems so dated and irrelevant today that I assumed this new demographic of nerds is elsewhere. Seems like I might be wrong about that.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 01:00 PM
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how is this different than having a beer with the bros at the bar? For starters, there are likely attractive women at the bar for you to flirt with to sharpen your game and build abundance mentality. Also, her knowing he's at a bar and not a DND gathering will build a lot more dread. In short, it's very different. Is it different than playing poker or fantasy football with your buddies though? Not really. But those who choose DND instead are likely the type of people who never step foot into a g…
/r/askMRP11/10/17 01:22 AM
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Stereotypes exist for a reason, in that they tend to be true. The average adult male who spends time playing DND is likely a couch potato with bitch tits. Am I wrong? What's your weight and height? How much can you lift? The reason you're getting shit for it is because it's a small throwaway detail to you, but it says A LOT to me. From that tiny detail I can assume (maybe wrongly) that your appearance and lifestyle are pretty shitty. I'd say the same thing if you said your hobby was video games …
/r/askMRP11/10/17 01:00 AM
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some equipment at home Care to clarify? If said equipment is an elliptical machine or a pair of 15 lb dumbells you are way off. You need to be lifting heavy weights. Squats, bench, deadlift and overhead press primarily. If you can't do those exercises at home, with enough weight that you fail or come close to failing on set 5, you need to join a gym. Stop looking for the shortcuts, because they don't exist.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 09:30 PM
2

My take: You are her gossip buddy. She gets to vent about coworkers and discuss who did this and that in the office with you, her confidant. This is what girlfriends are for. You are her girlfriend. She gets everything she needs from you, so there's no real reason for her to give anything you need. Solution? Stop being her girlfriend. To do that, you probably have to lose the bitch tits first. (I assume you have bitch tits because you still play DnD. Time to grow up and find an adult hobby).
/r/askMRP10/10/17 09:06 PM
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You do realize that IF she lost those 80 lbs like you want, she would use her newfound attractiveness to drop your ass like a used condom to go off fucking Chad bareback. Just think about that the next time you feel sorry for leaving her.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 02:19 AM
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I don't think you understand what the golden ratio rule is saying. It's not asking you to literally count. Although some autistics may find that helpful. The basic principle is to give less fucks, stop placating and responding to her every beck and call, and to be a man of mystery by STFUing. Make a separated post about Game Theory and how it might apply to married life and maybe there's value there. But you shooting down one principle you don't understand in favor of another (poorly explained) …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 08:38 PM
2

Yep, I've been preaching cocktail skills as a form of game to my friends for years. Fancy drinks are an easy way to turn a night at home into a fun date night with the Mrs. For that, I like to work in seasonal cocktails to keep things interesting. For summer, Moscule Mules, Margs and Mojitos all the way. For fall, try mixing tequila, apple cider and lemon. Get some cinnamon sticks for a garnish. It's more delicious than it sounds. For winter, you can't go wrong with a manhattan or old fashioned.…
/r/askMRP06/10/17 07:35 PM
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Someone who posts to complain about the way the internet responds to a previous post is the definition of butthurt.
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:03 PM
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U/hystericalbonding nailed it. You're doing alright imo, you just need to work on your game. You're trying to get her to go from zero to 60 with your "I want to ravage you" bullshit. Is that supposed to make her wet? Actions speak louder than words. Verbal come-ons and sexual jokes should be constant, during all interactions, not just when you initiate. Always be gaming. And when you do want to fuck, and have a good opportunity, show her...don't tell her. Grab her and kiss her. Pick her up and t…
/r/askMRP05/10/17 01:59 PM
1

I don't disagree, but the two aren't always mutually exclusive. You can intentionally "project" your misdeeds as a form of gas lighting. Gas lighting is a term that gets thrown around a lot so the definition has been muddied a bit. But if the end result is you questioning your perception of reality, by someone who has ill intentions and is deliberately lying, and not just expressing legitimate concerns they have that stem from their own misdeeds, I think it's fair to call it gas lighting.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 08:16 PM
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Gas lighting is essentially making someone else feel crazy when you in fact are the one doing something wrong. Examples: She constantly tells you that she can't trust you, that you're always flirting or cheating, etc. when in fact she's the one who is cheating. Or she's cheating, you call her out and she flips it on you by making you feel paranoid, controlling etc. Your definition of killing the puppy is correct.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 05:34 PM
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Perception > reality. You don't seem to understand anything anyone tells you. So stop posting dumb questions and come back when you've actually done the reading.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 05:06 PM
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You're a dense, dumb motherfucker aren't you. This is not RP 101 stuff. This is human being 101 stuff. "I was picking up and moved some shit to your office. Look there." How hard is that? If she bitches at you to find it for her, and you don't know how to respond to that, keep reading.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 05:04 PM
1

It doesn't matter how you actually felt. What matters to your wife, and determines her mood, is how she feels about and interprets your behavior. You stomping around the house silently going from task to task, and ordering her around = you being a pissy butthurt killjoy. I know because I've done this, too. It's a rookie mistake and part of the "anger" phase you probably don't even realize you're in. Keep reading and remember: life is a joke, so have fun with it.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 04:26 PM
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She's a reflection of your mood. My guess is she is acting pissy because she thinks you're being pissy. That, and maybe she's starting to realize that the value she brings doesn't come from cooking or cleaning. If those were her "contributions" to the relationship before, you're taking them away which makes her feel replaceable. Solution: keep doing what you're doing but be fun and lead her. Get her to help clean with you as a team instead of being bossy or pissy about it.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 01:02 PM
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Pull up your mobile data records. Go back 6 months. Find the "random" number that texted her for a booty call. See if you can reverse lookup who it belongs to. Or, just use her phone to text it and pretend you're her when she's not looking. My point is, there are ways to verify who this caller was and if your wife really did cheat on you. But my guess is you don't want to, because you already know the truth and are too afraid to admit it.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 10:22 PM
1

Most gyms offer a free personal trainer session when you sign up for a membership. Do that, and tell the trainer you want to focus on compound lifts to build muscle. Have them show you proper form, starting with however much weigh you can handle. Use those weights when you begin the 5x5 routine. Also, if you can only do 2 push ups today...fine. But do them. Several times a day, every single day. Aim for three push ups in a row. When you hit 3, aim for 5. When you hit 5, aim for ten. Dont make ex…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 05:16 PM
3

Is it okay with me? Yes. I don't mind being the one to lead her into sexy times. Putting her in the mood is half the fun sometimes anyway. Even though she'll surprise me and make the first move, it's rare compared to how much I initiate. If I want to fuck I make it known. Is it okay with everyone? Probably not. Only you get to decide what you're okay with.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 09:11 PM
1

Yeah, this is pretty normal in my opinion. My wife often initiates in ways that are defensive like that. She'll put on a cute outfit and walk around like no big deal, I'll make a comment and she'll be like "oh, I mean, if you want to fuck we can." Like she's doing me a favor? I personally don't care. She's opening herself up the only way she knows how. Part of that is simply because she's insecure and afraid of rejection. Part of that is because she knows I expect sex and is initiating more to p…
/r/askMRP20/09/17 09:04 PM
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Sounds like someone has been reading Come As You Are. Decent book for understanding female biology and sexual functions but there isn't much practical advice in there for men. To your question: Spontaneous in this context I believe means: you get horny out of the blue. A man can be sitting in church and all of sudden want to fuck. Thus, sexual arousal happens spontaneously. It rarely happens with most females but it does happen. Responsive in this context I believe means: some external variable …
/r/askMRP20/09/17 08:42 PM
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What a gut punch of a read that was. I'm only commenting to say thanks for sharing and congrats on finding your way through to the other side.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 08:45 PM
1

This is an overly simplistic explanation, but I view "frame" as being 100% in control of yourself. In control of your beliefs, your emotions and your behaviors. Start with your belief. In every interaction, think: "Do I believe this person is entitled to X?" X could be anything. For example, do you believe her question deserves a serious answer? Or conversely, do you believe a expression of affection deserves to be reciprocated? It's not in her frame if you simply do what you believe in. Now, th…
/r/askMRP18/09/17 10:26 PM
1

Yes: Are there degrees of ignoring? If so, ignore that shit with the Fire of a Thousand Suns. If she asks "have you been thinking about us", you have two options: Option 1) fog that shit: "Did you think about us like I asked?" "Think about us in what way?" "Think about how I'm unhappy and what you're going to do about it?" "What will my thinking about your unhappiness accomplish?" "You thinking would make you realize what to do to fix our marriage!" "I understand you feel that way, but I don't a…
/r/askMRP18/09/17 09:58 PM
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Nah, he's right that you have a shit attitude if that's how you look at the school year starting up...just because your wife is busy and not fucking you on the regular, you get a little butthurt. It's alright though, you turned it around. But don't post shit if you're going to get all defensive whenever someone points out a flaw in your thinking. Instead of hating this time of year, you should fucking love it. See it as a fun challenge to overcome, not a cock block. There are many upsides to her…
/r/askMRP13/09/17 07:38 PM
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Try harder.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 05:59 PM
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On top of you being a lazy fuck, you also seem incredibly dense and stupid. We're not going to spell it out for you until you demonstrate basic reading comprehension skills by READING THE BOOKS LISTED IN THE SIDEBAR. I bet you haven't read more than a few blog posts. Am I right or wrong?
/r/askMRP13/09/17 05:32 PM
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It's never alpha to "ask." Keep reading and Shut The Fuck Up.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 03:46 PM
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A good trick here is to follow that up with a question. "I understand you feel that way." "NO YOU DONT UNDERSTAND!" "What makes you think I don't understand?" "BECAUSE YOU WOULDNT FLIRT IF YOU UNDERSTOOD!!" "I can see why you might think that." Statement, question, statement, question. Throw in a joke here and there and walk away if she doesn't relent.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 11:34 PM
1

This is almost as bad as buying a hooker and then telling your wife about it because "dread game." How you've managed to run a successful business on your own is beyond me. You haven't learned a single thing since you started posting here. I hope your wife fucks this new girl while you sit at home with your fat face all alone, just to show you who the boss really is. It's clearly not you.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 01:26 AM
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One thing I learned the hard way during my wife's pregnancy: As you said, I was very understanding of the pain and discomfort she was going through. As a result, I didn't want to pressure her with sex and scaled back how often I initiated. I honestly thought she'd like being left alone for once! Nope. The exact opposite. She thought I didn't desire her because she was gaining weight, etc. Got quite a few comfort tests during this time until she outright said she wanted me to try to fuck her more…
/r/askMRP08/09/17 09:42 PM
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The only tip I think is especially important in your scenario is to not go Rambo. She's gonna be uncomfortable, hormonal, insecure and anxious. You being an aloof dick on top of it will hurt you more than the average joe here.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 07:15 PM
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You are ready, young Jedi. Push past the fear of rejection...kill that voice in your head that is worried what she might think of you and just do it.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 05:51 PM
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Be patient bro. Don't confront. On top of thinking you aren't worth the effort, it sounds to me like she's deeply insecure with her own body still and may resent you/lingerie for making her expose herself. But getting a BJ for the first time is a step in the right direction. Women have this weird "what, am I not good enough for you?" thing towards lingerie...that you liking her in sexy attire is asking her to change who she is. "I'm not a slut, why does he want me to dress like one?!" My wife us…
/r/askMRP08/09/17 04:45 PM
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There's no winning her back after 6 years. She knows all about how shit you are and made up her mind to cut bait before she grows older with someone she isn't attracted to. Forget about her. Improve yourself. She may or may not come back on her own when she sees you're a different person, but at least you'll be at your best regardless.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 09:56 AM
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Just book lingo I think. Maybe a new preface or something added but you're not missing anything.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 09:40 PM
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Yep, good to know for your own sanity but I wouldn't get hung up on it either way. Female biology is fucking weird and complicated and what used to work or happen for them in the past can change. If she never squirts again in her life, I don't think it means anything more than "her body stopped producing fluid to eject during orgasm". Focus on you and your pleasure and you'll be surprised how much that will please her.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 08:34 PM
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As someone who doesn't know the entire backstory and only taking this blow-by-blow exchange into consideration, I think OP did pretty well for himself. Is he acting like Jekyll and Hyde or is she just accusing him of acting different than he used to behave? I don't know, OP only knows how much truth this accusation has. I won't nitpick his responses, because even though they don't look perfect, context we don't have is important and, let's admit it, acting in the moment vs having time to overthi…
/r/askMRP06/09/17 07:28 PM
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Pretty sure he prodded after his wand idea was rejected. He thought sex toys = squirting orgasms, so he asked and unknowingly dug himself into a nice dread-shaped hole.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 10:31 PM
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Sounds like you're setting yourself up for a big old disappointing covert contract. You want her to fuck you like she did those other guys? Start treating her like those other guys did. They gave no fucks and you are still giving wayyy too many fucks about her and her past. Also, I could be totally wrong here, but I don't think squirting is strictly a "size" thing like she thinks. It's an arousal thing. Speaking anecdotally, an ex plate of mine was a squirter, but also had no clue what it was th…
/r/askMRP05/09/17 09:45 PM
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You think you're getting bitched at, I think I'm getting asked to play. This is a perfect articulation of the shift OP needs to make.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 07:46 PM
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When she's upset over something this stupid, don't ignore it. Relish the opportunity to make fun of her. Keep bringing it up to piss her off more, rub her nose in it, until she sees how absurd she's being. She'll get the hint that her mood swings don't affect you, only that they make you realize how pathetic and immature she is. If you act like everything is fine, she might just escalate her shitty attitude. Act like she's a fool, and she'll soon feel embarrassed. Will she snap out of it? Who kn…
/r/askMRP31/08/17 07:21 PM
1

Your best? Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 12:21 PM
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It's important to be a united front when handling the kids. You're in the wrong in my opinion. Besides, you become the default leader of the house through your actions anyway. If you have a fundamental issue with a decision she's made, by all means pump the breaks and discuss it. But if you are always conflicting each other, and are never on the same page about the petty day-to-day decisions, the kids don't know who to listen to, when in fact they should listen to both parents equally. And then …
/r/askMRP31/08/17 10:15 AM
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My advice to you is to simply be patient with yourself. I get it. Your head is swarming. You just read hundreds of pages of books telling you how to behave and think, which is different from your default mode of thinking and behavior. Then, you get your bitchy wife (who you're clearly scared of) yelling all up in your face while you're actually trying to be sweet and caring by helping her out with HER shitty problem, being a good supportive husband, and you start thinking "oh fuck, oh fuck, what…
/r/askMRP31/08/17 02:55 AM
5

ignore her stupid silent treatment game What about this do you not understand? It only sucks because you're a pussy.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 01:54 PM
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A miscarriage can fuck a woman's head up for a bit. Being a big dumb Rambo asshole is the exact opposite of what you needed to be doing those last few weeks. You needed to be smothering her in comfort after a traumatic event like that. But that ship has sailed, so just focus on yourself and ignore her stupid silent treatment game.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 01:05 PM
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Some women legit do not like receiving oral due to heightened sensitivity or their own hangups about their anatomy. Who cares. As for not giving oral? In my opinion, a little oral should be on the menu every time you have sex. It's no different than you being unwilling to kiss. She's willing to give head on bdays, which means she's not against it, she's just using it as a reward...when her little beta bitch has been a good boy. Fuck that shit. If it's that important to you, stop accepting sex wi…
/r/askMRP30/08/17 12:55 PM
2

Woooo!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 05:29 PM
0

You didn't provide an anecdote worth sharing. Your post basically just said "dread is present in my marriage and I get BJs". I like reading anecdotal stories, but for the interesting exchanges, revelations or simple blow-by-blow entertainment provided. You gave us none of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 01:11 PM
5

Can you put a little more effort into your post and provide some more context? Hard to say if she's being playful and you're just autistic or if she's actually trying to show power over you. Which do you think it is?
/r/askMRP28/08/17 09:23 PM
5

For starters, stop being a cold distant worried little bitch with sensitive feeeliinnnnngggsss. Also, start reading. Side bar is that way ----->
/r/askMRP24/08/17 05:23 PM
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Stop taking her seriously. She didn't need you. She just didn't want you out and about enjoying yourself while she was stuck at home feeling upset. She's manipulating you into continue being her bitch. Now, there are times when you really should stay home and provide comfort / help when the first mate is out of commission with illness. This doesn't sound like one of those occasions. Any advice you're going to get here will just result in you fucking it up like the autistic noob you are, so STFU …
/r/askMRP24/08/17 05:19 PM
5

Yeah, my wife is a hot SAHM but she always tells me about the men who hit on her at the grocery store, playground, whatever. I can tell in an instant just by her body language which kind of man she encountered that day.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 03:23 PM
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wrong. x Characteristically in physical job or high power job, like personal trainer or Boss Chad can be a janitor at your kids school. Chad is not defined by his occupation. x does not necessarily live nearby but visits can be made Chad can be a guy she meets while out of town on business and will never ever see or visit again x She likely has recently met him Chad can be the dude who pumped and dumped her in college years ago, who she still thinks about I could keep going...
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 01:47 AM
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chad is just a high value dude that your wife wants to fuck. an orbiter is just a low value dude that wants to fuck your wife. it's that simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 01:20 AM
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I believe it was Leo Burnett who said "the fastest way to kill a bad product is good advertising." You need game, you need to lift, you need to have strong social skills, and you need to have some intellect. But if you're not applying your creativity and imagination to life, you're leaving money (SMV) on the table. And even if you have all of those things, but have a weak frame and no OI, you're not worth shit in the long run.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 10:16 PM
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For sure, agree 100%. Don't do ANYTHING with the sole aim and expectation of pussy. That's just a covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 10:11 PM
2

I'm usually not that upset post rejection anymore, but my wife still thinks I am or will be. Can't really blame her after years of conditioning her that way. The best I do with it is just laugh about it. Make a joke, get her laughing somehow (about anything) and you're good. Turn away quietly and sit with a book, and she just thinks I'm butthurt. It's annoying as fuck, but there are worse problems to have.
/r/askMRP20/08/17 10:41 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 11:02 AM
1

Can you expand on that?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 08:21 AM
1

This reminds me of one of my favorite movie quotes: If I were the man I was 5 years ago, I'd take a FLAMETHROWER to this place! If you wouldn't tolerate this kind of disrespect back when you were dating, don't tolerate that shit now.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 04:14 PM
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Does she find it difficult and scary to reject you? No, she doesn't think twice about it. Despite how many times you express how lonely and unloved you feel, what changes? Not a damn thing. So why should you worry about how she feels when you say "no thanks" to something you aren't happy with? Why should you accept something you don't enjoy? I've rejected starfish in the middle of sex once, maybe twice, and let me tell you this: IT IS ALWAYS ON HER MIND. She tells me she's worried about "not bei…
/r/askMRP17/08/17 01:07 PM
1

If you are too stupid to visit fitness blogs, read about proper nutrition and dieting on you own after being told "lift and get in better shape" you're just a fucking moron. The side bar should not be diluted with extraneous information about fitness and shit that have nothing to do with RP theory. This place isn't about spoon feeding lazy fucks like you; that's how you got to where you are in the first place. Nobody here has ever said it will be easy. That's why we stress the need to PUT IN THE…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 12:58 PM
1

Bang and Day Bang are two I've seen referenced here a lot. But you could also get a lot out of SGM and Way of the Superior Male (not PUA books but will help you get into the right mindset). Learn about DEVI and put it into practice when you initiate, too. Flirting will only get you so far.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 09:35 AM
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I agree with the OP that leaving the house right after a rejection looks butthurt as fuck. But I've seen debate here. Your point about anything but TV is dead on though. Don't stay in the same room with her; go to your office, man cave, whatever and pull your time and attention. Continuing to watch TV with her is exactly what she wants.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:06 PM
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Fun activities are one thing. How are you initiating sex in ways that are fun, new, surprising? Sometimes you gotta mix it up and take a risk. For example, when I was starting out, I bought a silly pair of sexy underwear for men....I was tired of always asking her to put on lingerie for me, so I did so myself. And it was a complete failure. She laughed in my face. Oh well, ya live and learn. I didn't let it stop me from trying though... A week or two later I bought a set of bondage equipment and…
/r/askMRP16/08/17 08:36 PM
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5 months is still pretty early, given your 13 year history together. It sounds like she's starting to follow your lead and enter your frame though, so I think this is a "hurry up and wait" situation. Have you read Sex God Method yet? Besides flirting, what have you done to make life exciting, new, surprising for her? It might be hard for others to give specific advice without getting specifics on how you go about gaming her.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 08:06 PM
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Hahaha. +1
/r/askMRP16/08/17 07:14 PM
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Duuude. You haven't read a single word of the sidebar have you? Start there. If you can't bother to understand the basics, we won't bother giving you advice. You worrying about getting the silent treatment from her shows us that you don't know shit about anything discussed here. Wanna know what happened the last time my wife gave me the silent treatment? I didn't give a fuck and went about my merry way. Eventually she caved, apologized profusely for being such a brat, then clung to me for comfor…
/r/askMRP16/08/17 07:06 PM
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Oh yes, what a natural you are. The big problem with your response is that you took her seriously, and ended up being defensive as a result. You basically DEERed, when you should've used AA. Nice try, though.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 06:41 PM
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Think of it this way: you're only 31. You are in the prime years of your life. Listen, read and follow the advice this community provides and you can expect the next few years to be among the best of your life. Also, you can go ahead and stop debating suicide now. Starting today, you are essentially killing the old version of you. Try not to let your anger show. Save it for the weights. And just know there's nothing to be angry about anymore, because if you stick to the game plan laid out by the…
/r/askMRP16/08/17 04:57 PM
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"I was flirting?" "Yes! You totally were!" "Huh. Am I flirting right now?" Smack ass. Walk away. Fogging is not about answering the question or dodging a question per se. It's about being an impenetrable wall. You don't have to explain shit. You flirt because you felt like it. That's all that matters. If she presses you, saying you have no respect or some shit, just acknowledge the feelz: "I understand you feel that way." And if needed add: "but I don't agree." Edit: the simplest, no-brainer res…
/r/askMRP16/08/17 01:58 AM
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For what it's worth, I didn't come here looking for a divorce, nor did I have a dead bedroom. I simply wanted ideas on how to return my wife to the woman she was when I married her. Someone who enjoyed sex and wanted to bang me often. Turns out, I was the one who was slipping. This place helped whip me into shape mentally and physically and I'm now having the best sex of my life, with her, multiple times every week. Is that what you want? If so, get to work.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 08:12 PM
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This crowd is pretty damn happy with themselves and the lives they've forged. You just piss us off because you're clueless and haven't bothered reading a bit into what this place is about. The comments on AskMRP are harsh and angry sounding because most guys need a swift kick in the ass. They've never heard someone tell them that their shitty marriage is their fault, not the woman's, so a lot of the comments are about bringing forth that rude awakening: Man up. Be the best you can possibly be. O…
/r/askMRP15/08/17 08:07 PM
1

To me amused mastery is about seeing the silliness of it all - expressing that you are unphased by any concern or problem she may have. I see "amused mastery" as being a broader mindset, whereas "agree and amplify" is a tactic you can deploy within that mindset. As an example: you could've acted amused that she's struggling... "Psh, you're struggling? I'm struggling to keep my dick in my pants every time I see you." Is this example AM or AA? I think it's both; they aren't mutually exclusive. You…
/r/askMRP11/08/17 06:35 PM
2

How about stop being a shitty friend instead? You sound like a fucking retard - "OMG YOU GUYZ! A GURL TALKED TO ME! MAYBE I CAN HAZ SEX?"
/r/askMRP10/08/17 07:41 PM
3

She's married? To your buddy?
/r/askMRP10/08/17 07:33 PM
2

If you've REALLY been at this for two years, you'd have read every single page in the sidebar by now. You'd have a firm grasp of the stories, concepts and lessons learned presented by this community. And you clearly don't. You're lazy and apathetic. You're not willing to fight. Until that changes, there is no hope for you or your marriage.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 01:08 PM
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My vote on this one: HARD NEXT. She threatened to contact "a real man" in front of you and her friends, for what?? She's cheating on you already. Bet. Edit: I know some may think this is drastic, but why would you even bother trying to turn this relationship around? She has NO respect for you. Not even a little. Why bother. You are the prize; go find someone who will appreciate you AND not be such a lazy gold-digging slut.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 10:02 PM
2

The cool thing about this is that it allows for you to practice AA and AM. Texting affords you the ability to stop and think a bit, whereas face to face interactions require quickness and improvisation. Starting out, most guys (myself included) don't get it, which is why STFU is the go-to for rookies. So yeah, I guess you can use texting to practice these concepts before they become second nature.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:04 PM
1

It's almost as if someone should write a book about not being such a nice guy, or how to not feel guilty whenever you say no...I wonder why nobody thought of this before?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 08:58 PM
2

You aren't being a dick just by refusing to roll in the mud with her. If she thinks you're being a dick, so be it. She can think whatever she wants.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 08:38 PM
6

This guy fucks.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 08:12 PM
6

What's wrong with looking like a dick? She looks like a nagging bitch and that doesn't stop her, does it? Stop worrying what other people think of you.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 08:00 PM
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SO: I hate when you don't say I love you back "Okay." SO: I care you need to get your priorities straight. "I have them straight if I wanted to be with her I'd be with her" SO: when did you sleep with her? "I'm done talking about this. This isn't going to help our relationship and it's none of your business." Me: I told you I can't stop asking. Me: I told you 100 times to put them away and you never do. So that's what happened These responses are clarifying statements; not really examples of DEE…
/r/askMRP09/08/17 07:28 PM
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All of the above. But the main reason why depends on your goals... Need a hobby to get out of the house? LIFT Need to up your SMV? LIFT Need to increase your libido? LIFT Got anger issues you need to resolve? LIFT What are your goals? What do YOU want in life? Answering that will probably give you the reason why. Or don't lift at all and stay a skinny bitch. Nobody gives a shit.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 07:13 PM
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"I have her on Snapchat still because I never deleted her." Her: "What the fuck, why didn't you delete her?" "Good question. Can I delete you instead?" Her: "you're such an asshole!! You should delete her if you love meeeee!!" "I understand you feel that way but I don't agree." Her: "you don't agree that you should delete her?" "Correct." Her: "but if you loved me you wouldn't make me feel this way; it seems like you're cheating on me" "I understand you feel that way but I don't agree." And on a…
/r/askMRP08/08/17 09:31 PM
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Yes. Absolutely, do whatever it takes to get her back. And since you're asking the Internet to make very important life decisions for you, you should go ahead and get that gender-reassignment surgery you've been thinking about. You might as well have a pussy, since you clearly are one.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 03:19 PM
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You sound like a teenage girl tbh. Answer honestly: why are you following these women on SnapChat? Trying to keep in touch in the off chance you might get to bang them again? Or do you actually have a real friendship with these chicks, beyond the fact that you fucked them in the past? My guess it's the former. Which means you're either a pathetic orbiter, or you're socializing like a bachelor. Neither of which a high value woman is going to put up with.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:32 PM
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Yep, she's testing you because she's upset her "errand boy" promoted himself to "man" without her permission. Relax and keep doing what you're doing.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 07:49 PM
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If you aren't automatically thinking "yep, this person will make my life even more awesome" when the topic of marriage enters your mind, I'd say keep looking. Listen to your gut. It's practically screaming at you right now.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 07:43 PM
1

How to proceed is very very simple, stop denying it. You tell her what you know. "I saw you've been texting X a lot. What gives?" Proceed from there. Stop being a pussy.
/r/askMRP05/08/17 06:21 PM
1

Confront immediately, see how she responds and react accordingly. I wouldn't let this kind of behavior go unchecked for a millisecond.
/r/askMRP05/08/17 01:37 PM
1

DP = double penetration. Aka one in the pink, one in the stink. We've now entered the butt plug stage. Tried anal too but still not easy for us yet...if that's something you crave but it's been off limits, give Sex God Method a read. It might help.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/17 09:26 PM
2

I'm not unique. She probably would've hit up the first fun good-looking guy she saw and we'd have never met. What the fuck are you so worried about? Be awesome and the rest will fall into place.
/r/askMRP04/08/17 06:00 PM
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leaving important documents with friends on this last trip Strike #1 most of it was still out in the middle room from last weekend Strike #2 I then walked by the pile of stuff and told her... Strike #3, you're out. Now let's start from the beginning: You fucked up and ruined your chances of having a productive day. Instead of getting ahead of the situation by informing your partner you needed some help getting everything ready, you 1) tried to be a hero and do everything yourself and 2) didn't m…
/r/askMRP04/08/17 05:08 PM
2

Women already know this, especially attractive ones. The offline world is pretty much a constant stream of come-ons too. I learned this immediately when I was online dating. Stopped messaging girls entirely due to the waste of effort it would be. Instead I just sat back and waited for women to message me. It required lots of patience, but that's how I met my wife. She signed up, saw the profile of a fun good-looking guy and said hi. Then she received the avalanche, gave me her email address and …
/r/askMRP04/08/17 02:49 PM
2

Not necessarily. But I'm pretty sure we all want the ability to have sex all the time. There's a difference.
/r/askMRP04/08/17 01:06 PM
2

Hard to say what's going on here without more detail on your overall relationship, how she's acting toward you in general, etc. I go on business trips every now and then, and my wife will suggest coming along. I'm usually pretty resistant...because I'll be busy and won't have time for her. Its a waste of money for her to come. Also, I have dinners with co-workers on trips until 9-10 or later and they are very much obligations. There's lots of pressure to make time to network with your colleagues…
/r/askMRP03/08/17 08:41 PM
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slow clap Also, fuck those guys.
/r/askMRP03/08/17 06:46 PM
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If it's not about you, you definitely want to acknowledge their feelz. You don't offer help or try to change them though. Use "words of understanding" in these instances. If she's had a terrible day at work: "Gosh, that sucks babe. I understand how that can be so upsetting." Just let her vent. Trying to overtly shift her mood by being fun can backfire if she's not in the mood to have fun. Depends on the situation.
/r/askMRP03/08/17 05:40 PM
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If she's nagging you for something YOU did or didn't do, you fix her feelz by letting her know her emotions don't effect you, so there's no sense in her trying. Example: "Ugh, you left your towel on the bathroom floor again! Why can't you ever pick up after yourself?!" "Sound the alarm. Alert the pentagon. This is a disaster of epic proportions." "I'm serious! You're so disrespectful!" "How about the towel stays on the floor and we add your clothes to the pile?" You fix the feelz by overpowering…
/r/askMRP03/08/17 05:13 PM
1

"Oh did you not hear the news, honey? You're married to a badass. Congrats!" If she's trying to belittle you in a more direct and insulting way in front of friends, I would smack that down by embarrassing her: "Wow! I knew my wife was dirty, but I didn't know she had such a dirty mouth too. Do you need another spanking babe?" AND if she continues being a shit, I would have a private chat with her: "if you're cutting me down in front of my friends for a reason, you might want to tell me why, beca…
/r/askMRP03/08/17 04:58 PM
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I think you're underestimating the power of rocking the kitchen on your own accord. Making drinks and snacks for your wife in front of her friend can be an awesome move if done right. It's all about taking the initiative, adding value and making yourself the center of attention (e.g., "omg this cocktail is awesome, how'd you make it?!"). If you're just taking orders when asked and bringing it to them like a good boy...not so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 02:13 PM
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Is your brain so limited that you can't possibly fathom how little help this vague explanation is to anyone? "Another man captivated my wife. We were sitting in our home, minding our own business having a nice night together, when all of a sudden this really good-looking, mysterious badass showed up and she directed all of her attention to him instead of me! Granted, we were watching Mad Max: Fury Road which is pretty captivating in and of itself. But still, that Tom Hardy dude...he totally cuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 09:28 PM
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"I'm not going to provide any details on what happened or where I'm at with my MAP, but just know that I'm upset and want you, the Internet, to fix it."
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 09:19 PM
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Sounds like you're on top of it, good work. Keep it up. 6 months from now you'll be a completely different man than you were 6 months ago. She WILL notice.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 01:00 PM
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At 5'11, 225lbs I'd say you have more like 40-50 lbs to go there buddy. Don't sell yourself short. Start tracking what you eat if you aren't already. Get a nutrition tracker app (I use MyFitnessPal) and log every single fucking calorie. You don't even have to change your diet, the act of simply monitoring your caloric intake will probably nudge you toward healthier eating, and that extra weight will fly off.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 12:39 PM
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Wut. You feel guilty...for not giving her a gift...every month...for marrying you? This hurts me. You should feel guilty for subjecting us to such a painfully stupid question.
/r/askMRP01/08/17 07:44 PM
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My wife was on Zoloft. I blamed it for the lack of sex, made her come off of it, and still things weren't improving. The only thing that changed was that she regained ability to achieve orgasm, so that was indeed a plus. Her desire to have sex in the first place never really came back though. Then I discovered MRP and things have been on the up and up ever since, despite her going back onto anti-depressants (Wellbutrin this time, with no orgasm issues FYI) In short: the Zoloft is likely not help…
/r/askMRP31/07/17 05:20 PM
1

I think this "choose your own adventure" idea could work well but you should simplify it and not give her so much information upfront. You're explaining too much in my opinion. For example: You: We're going out for a date tonight. Be ready when I get home. Her: awesome! What are we doing? What should I wear?! You: it's "choose your own adventure" night, baby. Dress your mood and see what unfolds. Her: okaaaay, im confused...what do you mean? You: too busy to talk further, just be ready when I ge…
/r/askMRP26/07/17 06:55 PM
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Have you read SGM? Way of the Superior Man? Read both if you haven't and see if your ideas on how to approach this changes. Expanding on what others said, I would get her really really immersed and then just do it. Don't fake it as an accident either. Just go for it. And just own it.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 11:17 PM
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For me, it was that it was a simple workout, hitting all the major muscles one needs to build. It's easy to understand and follow, so it's practically fool proof. As a newish dad with a full time job, it's a pretty quick workout that fits in with my schedule. After 6 months I started to switch it up a bit, but 5x5 gave me a really good foundation to build from.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 04:32 PM
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Yes, if you want to define AA as being sarcastic, I think you can look at it that way. But at its core AA is about making it clear you don't take her seriously because what she says doesn't matter. If she calls you an asshole, you defending and deflecting assertively will make you look offended and easily rattled. Smirking and saying "that's why you married me" reverses the tension onto her and shows her attacks don't work on you.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 10:51 AM
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"salt daddy" LOL, man that's good.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 12:01 AM
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my wife found out about fight club. bad opsec on my part. it was only a few days after i found out about MRP, too. it did not go very smoothly, as she knew more about RP than i did due to a previous, emotionally-abusive relationship she was in, and now associates that kind of behavior with RP, which couldnt be further from the truth. at the time, she was pretty adamant about making me realize how horrible it was. Fortunately I was smart enough to tell her I can and will read whatever the fuck I …
/r/askMRP21/07/17 11:52 PM
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I'm just saying, my wife is a SAHM, has her hands full with our 2 year old all day, works remotely part time on top of it, manages to keep the house clean, cooks meals every night AND puts in the effort to fuck me properly and often. Keeping a house clean (with no kids) amounts to doing nothing, and getting pampered all day at the salon is not keeping busy. You were absolutely right, she is only good for pussy, and you should have said it. Nobody is saying to next her. But don't dig yourself in …
/r/askMRP21/07/17 11:26 PM
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If you think your sex life is going to improve after she has a baby, you are in for a world of hurt. Not only will you stop getting sex altogether, but your precious clean house and delicious meals will probably go away too. You can't be this stupid. You can clean and cook for yourself if you're not working all the time anyway, so stop excusing her behavior by praising her for doing the bare minimum.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 11:12 PM
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What do you mean "check ins"? Do you not live in the same house and communicate regularly? Maybe I'm just misinterpreting, but you make it sound like you live on different planets. My wife and I talk frequently about budget, household needs, schedule, etc. on an as needed basis. For instance, if money is tight for a few weeks for whatever reason (shit happens) I will update the budget plan and inform her of my decisions. If I want specific kinds of meals for the week (she handles groceries) I wi…
/r/askMRP21/07/17 10:08 PM
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Third
/r/askMRP21/07/17 09:59 PM
1

Yeah my point was not that catholic girls are damage goods or anything like that. Just that, there is clearly something up with her and her negative view toward sex that no amount of self improvement he does to himself will fix. Maybe her religious upbringing is partly to blame, but without knowing exactly what she went through it's hard to say for sure.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 02:12 PM
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Not all religious girls have been brainwashed, abused or conditioned to the same degree though. Catholic girls are known freaks, that is true, but there are some who have had teachings that go well beyond what's considered healthy and normal. There's a difference between being told to "save yourself for marriage" and "sex is a sacred act" or whatever the fuck they teach (I'm not catholic so I don't really know) vs "sex is a sin!" and "you should be ashamed of yourself for having sexual thoughts!…
/r/askMRP21/07/17 10:16 AM
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Sorry to hear that man. Personally, I don't buy into the belief that ALL women will act like sluts for the right guy with no exceptions. That's probably true, in general, as long as their upbringing/environment didn't seriously fuck them up first.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 12:04 AM
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No kids, so why are you still with her? I don't think RP is gonna turn this around for you buddy, sorry to say. She's NEVER enjoyed sex. Short of extensive therapy to uproot all of the toxic shit in her head, you're screwed. I think you're gonna have to next this one.
/r/askMRP20/07/17 11:27 PM
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Yep. The only dignified move here is to divorce, get shredded at the gym, and experience single life for the first time ever. Nobody feels bad for you; with no kids and only 30 years old you are lucky. These are the prime years of your life and you were about to waste them with a woman who doesn't care about you. That changes now. Read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 05:25 PM
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Yeah you're probably right. Jumping to conclusions and filling in the blanks. Guilty as charged. But still, the personality transplant his wife is experiencing can't be because he's simply lifting more and owning more shit around the house.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 08:23 PM
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So you don't engage her feelings (her pov) and you ask for sex more...you say you're trying to be more fun, but there's nothing in here about gaming her, upping the kino, etc. She basically thinks you've become an uncaring selfish asshole who expects more sex but does nothing to put her in the mood or any effort to get her excited for it. Solution: Start acting like shes a new gf of yours and you haven't banged her yet...what would you do differently?
/r/askMRP17/07/17 07:47 PM
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I like commenting on AskMRP because i think it helps me stay sharp by forcing me to think through how I would respond if I were in the OP's shoes. My advice may be absolute dogshit, but the hope is that others here would call me out if that was the case and I'd learn something as a result. I don't see the benefit of doing this on other forums, because the people there have no value to add or perspective worth considering. But you do you. If you think it's a valuable use of your time, go right ah…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 05:10 PM
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What are you doing specifically that's causing her to think your personality changed so significantly? Give some examples and maybe others can help more
/r/askMRP17/07/17 04:53 PM
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Whether you think so or not, you've clearly gone a bit Rambo and need to offer comfort. Seems like youre acting autistic and have become too emotionally distant. Time for you to up the feelz. Give her some attention, do something fun together. "Let's talk about it later face to face" is about the only text reply you need to send. Then wait for her to bring it up. If she doesn't, don't worry about it any further. If she does, just fog her until you have to draw a boundary. Let her get the feelz o…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 04:46 PM
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And as others have already pointed out: none of what I just said matters if you're unattractive. So start there, and work on your game/OI in the meantime.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 12:58 PM
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I think you're over thinking it. If it comes from a place of confidence and OI, it really doesn't matter what you say. Sometimes I ask for it: "sup baby...wanna bang?" Sometimes I lead: "go upstairs and get naked" Sometimes I'm polite: "would you please take off those panties?" Nothing you try at any given moment will have a 100% success rate, so stop trying so hard and just act naturally in the moment. Every scenario is different. Don't just rely on words though. Those are easily ignored or dis…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 12:54 PM
1

She gets mad at you for not jumping up to be a white knight, saving her from what is essentially her responsibility? Sounds like a shit test to me. The reason you barely noticed is because you passed it with flying colors.
/r/askMRP14/07/17 10:05 PM
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If anything, doesn't this just confirm that women are much more socially and sexually aware than men? I.e., if the man is more attractive, she thinks "shit, I better step up or I may lose him to a hotter woman." If the woman is more attractive, he thinks "la-da-dee, la-dee-da, I've got it made, no need to change shit." This explains why so many fat loser husbands stay fat while their wives go out and get laid by more attractive men. Surely they aren't doing anything wrong! In short: Most (unplug…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 09:45 PM
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First: sex before dinner is always a good idea if it works logistically. Second, that's a pretty lame response. A better response: "Fine, you have one hour before I fill you up again." Don't let her off so easily brah. She's changing the subject and you're just validating her excuse with that reply.
/r/askMRP13/07/17 08:57 PM
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My take on her cancelling her flight and then being mad about not going on the trip: play stupid games, win stupid prizes. The lesson you taught her is not to stop throwing tantrums and making decisions when she's angry; she'll prolly never stop doing that. The lesson you taught is: "I don't need your company to have a good time." If you're feeling brave, and can truly do it with a DGAF mentality, the next time she initiates you should reply: "I don't want to but if you grab the lube I will let …
/r/askMRP13/07/17 08:47 PM
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It's a shit test alright. Are you man enough to follow through and take what you want? I think she's practically asking you to just get in there and take it. Push past the soft no. You don't have to be disrespectful about it, you should keep it fun. Option 1 is to give her the time she needs, then pounce on her with a "times up!"...pick her up and throw her on the bed. Option 2 is to not give her the time she asks for, and instead reply with a "oh you're getting busy alright" as you start stripp…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 10:17 PM
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Good luck. Be sure to be ready for her to throw everything she's got at you, too. She might not, but hope for the best and plan for the worst...which includes accepting divorce as a possibility.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 02:11 PM
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Scarcity mentality is letting shit like this slide behind your back because you're afraid of losing her by simply drawing a line in the sand. I say the only move here is to go in guns blazing, ready to die in a hail of gun fire. The marriage might be over and he's gotta be ready to accept that if thats what happens because she's unwilling to stop or admit any wrongdoing. Let me ask you this: what is he to do if he keeps monitoring their chats, and he notices things escalating again? If that happ…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 01:30 PM
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Dude wake the fuck up. Two years and you're still debating this? To me there is only one option. Instead you're staying up at night worrying about this shit. Walking on eggshells hoping just maybe she'll stop stringing along ANOTHER MAN behind your back. Do you think a real man with a backbone and some self respect would contemplate what to do here? No. He wouldn't be scared of how she'd react when confronted and you seem TERRIFIED. That's how you know you've got a lot of work to do on yourself.…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 05:39 AM
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I think a lot of guys start off doing this "for her." I know I did. And it makes it seem like one big covert contract. But as you improve yourself, and internalize the concepts laid out on the side bar, a funny thing happens. You start doing it more and more for you. You wake up early to lift not because you think you have to, but because you want to. Attitudes follow behaviors, not the other way around like most people think. In 4-6 months, after you look and feel better than ever and start see…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 09:34 PM
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It's an excuse. She feels bad for not being attracted to you, and gets mad at you for bringing it up (and making her feel bad). This is typical. She'll probably come around after 1) you get in better shape and 2) make game a part of YOUR daily routine. Eventually she'll realize that fucking her husband properly is a part of HER precious daily routine, too. This seems like one of those "hurry up and wait" situations...just keep doing what your doing. And stop being a butthurt bitch...you're just …
/r/askMRP06/07/17 01:07 PM
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Your problem is your own half-assed attempt to rock the shit out of your home like you do at work. Is your job that much more important than your family that you would put in all the effort there and neglect your domain? You sound like a whiney bitch: "Boo hoo, i work so hard and nobody will cook for me." Here's a thought. How about you actually put in some effort? If you want family dinner, be a fucking leader and cook the family dinners yourself. My bet is, if you actually man up and fully app…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 09:47 PM
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Something doesn't add up. She's a 9.5 after being a 5 for how long? Did she gradually get hotter overtime and you are just now waking up? Or are you just viewing her in relation to yourself? Because If you're disgusting, even a mildly attractive person will seem uber hot in comparison. Either way, if you work on yourself as much as she did you'll be fine. She cheated on you because you weren't keeping up your end of the bargain (in her head). But If you can't or won't put in the same effort, the…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 07:26 PM
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I wish I had a good answer to this question. My wife does this shit too. Very curious what the pros think. For me: Every time I go on a business trip, she gets irrationally upset over some detail I didn't proactively share with her. The last time this happened, it was because I didn't tell her the the precise number of coworkers (along with their genders) that I was out drinking with. She freaked, assumed I was hiding info, etc. just like you. This "comfort test" lasted all day when I returned f…
/r/askMRP29/06/17 09:25 PM
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But you said she stepped up and is doing right by him. So which is it? Are you just upset she wasn't the picture perfect mom right out of the box? My general advice is to stop worrying so much about what she does. Focus on you. Lead by setting the example. My guess is that you are coming across to her as an overly critical, whiney control freak. So my advice to STFU still stands.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:50 PM
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You whine a lot. I'd tell you to stop talking too. Learn to STFU. Also, if you don't like the way she handles the baby, do it yourself. Your mouth might be bleeding but your legs aren't broken, are they?
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:37 PM
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I was in a relationship like this once. There wasnt any one friend in particular that she did this with, but it was a common theme when we were out with friends: her giving more attention to other dudes than she was to me. I was butthurt as fuck about it, confronted her about it, she denied she was doing anything wrong, just having fun, etc. I took her word for it, but deep down I knew she was more attracted to them. Did she ever cheat? No. But it was a pretty strong sign that she was "just not …
/r/askMRP28/06/17 06:58 PM
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I'm late to the party, haven't read your post history, and don't know how long you've actually been trying to turn things around, but I know one thing for sure: if my wife woke my mother up in the middle of the night and tried to kick her out of our house over a petty argument, that would be the end of it. Sure, you may have plenty of room for improvement and are at fault in a lot of ways, as many have suggested, but that's just crossing the line. Despite your failings, a deal breaker is a deal …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 10:30 PM
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Geez, barely married a year and already have DB? Cut your loses and move on. She is clearly checked out
/r/askMRP27/06/17 08:02 PM
2

What kind of shoes do you squat in? My knees hurt too for a while until I realized I need to be lifting in a flatter shoe. Just a thought.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 02:24 PM
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That's what I was trying to get at in my earlier post...have you explained that if you get done earlier you get to do XYZ with her? Explain your vision. If she still resists, carry on anyway and do it yourself
/r/askMRP26/06/17 07:09 PM
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Good point. Totally agree. Seems like he's just being butthurt about her not doing things exactly his way
/r/askMRP26/06/17 05:44 PM
1

This may be an opportunity to explain your vision. Why do you want to be moved out by the first? Sometimes insubordination is the result of lack of communication from the leader. She may just think you're being a slave driver who set an arbitrary deadline. It doesn't matter what your reason is, just lay it down, along with the consequences. If you have no consequences, you have no boundary. If, for instance, the consequence is her having to rent a second moving truck to move her shit on her own,…
/r/askMRP26/06/17 04:48 PM
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If I were you I would want both revenge and redemption, and the best strategy for both is simple: cut contact and improve yourself. She will check up on you continuously over the next several months at a minimum, just to reinforce in her own head that she made the right decision. If, in a few months time, she sees you 1) looking better than ever before and 2) demonstrating that you have an interesting life (being social with lots of friends, experiencing cool things like traveling, etc), you win…
/r/askMRP26/06/17 04:36 PM
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If you do nothing else, lift.
/r/askMRP25/06/17 12:11 PM
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Bang on. That about captures it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 01:32 AM
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"A combination that is working for you" is a very accurate way of describing my experience. What I have done is simply take what makes sense and seems helpful, combine it with what I intuitively think is right, and ignore the rest. Being dogmatic about anything just isn't me, but to each his own. But putting the philosophy and theory stuff aside, at the very least this place is a great sounding board for guys who are frustrated about the same shit; it's a place to share ideas and not sugar coat …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 07:30 PM
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You don't need to find anger. You need to find some self respect. Understand that it'll be more damaging to your child if you stay. My view is: you are the protector of your family, right? Well, the health of your family is under attack. Your wife is sabotaging it. The only option you have is to remove the threat as much as possible. That may mean removing yourself and fighting for custody. But just know that by not standing up for yourself, you're not standing up for your family. Your wife will…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 12:36 PM
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Trust but verify. Seems a little sketchy, but only you know what's normal and what's not for this situation. I would definitely NOT ask further because you don't stand to gain anything...if she fucked Chad she'll lie anyway and if she didn't do anything wrong, you look like a jealous, worried little bitch. At most I would ask (in person once she's back): "How was your trip? Do anything new or exciting?" and see if it comes up organically.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 10:24 PM
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My wife loves pizza, but she doesn't want to eat it every night. If it's an every day occurrence it'll no longer be a naughty and delicious indulgence she gets excited about.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 10:52 AM
2

So your strategy to get more sex is to tell her directly that she doesn't have to worry anymore about having sex with you? Da fuq? For what it's worth, my wife knows about fight club bc I stupidly left shit open on my phone and she saw it. I DEERed like a bitch when she confronted me about it too, but at least I knew enough by then to draw a boundary by telling her I will read whatever I want, whether she likes it or not. Also made it clear that my actions are what matters, and to let me know if…
/r/askMRP20/06/17 10:34 PM
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I'm a newbie (6 months in) but if it's true that you are truly on top of your game physically, financially, as a father, etc...if you ARE being a successful captain, and she's being a shitty FO...then do what a good captain/boss does when someone on his crew is not pulling their weight: confront the problem/address the bad behavior, and issue a warning. If she is still unwilling to participate and help keep the ship sailing smoothly, she gets kicked off the boat. It's that simple. She thinks she…
/r/askMRP19/06/17 09:58 PM
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