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Most men need better friendships but the best male friendships in the world aren’t going to end a guys loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:24 PM
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The vast majority of trans people transition socially, living and presenting as the opposite gender long before they reach surgery. A man living as a woman for a year would have a much more encouraging experience than a woman living as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:44 AM
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Im 26. I’ve never lived in a time or place where that was the case, and neither have any of the women I’ve dated or that have rejected me, so it doesn’t seem very relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:17 PM
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I’m sure it’s a great life for all twelve of them, but if the rest of us had to wait for signs of interest from women to make a move, we’d all die alone
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:43 PM
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Men can’t psychically read women’s minds to know who is and isn’t attracted to them, so we have to just to try and hope it works. And to hear women say it, many of them aren’t even attracted to men at all until they’ve known each other awhile
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:25 PM
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That’s because womens “signs of interest” are indistinguishable from complete indifference.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:22 PM
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Some men are genuinely attracted to fat women. With the trends we’ve seen in boob jobs and BBLs over the past few years, we’re a few steps away from My 600lb Life becoming the new beauty standard
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:20 PM
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Because overwhelmingly, men don’t get angry when ugly women are attracted to them
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:19 PM
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Most women don’t understand because they’ve never been in this position. For them it’s always been either A) a stranger asks them out (cold approach, tinder, whatever), B) a friend asks them out and they say yes, in which case it’s “I prefer to be friends first to see if we’re compatible”, or C) a friend asks them out and they say no, in which case it’s “ugh he was just pretending to be my friend to sleep with me, men are disgusting”. Most women have never been on the opposite end of any of thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:18 PM
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It exists but it’s self inflicted for all but the most extreme cases
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 06:07 PM
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Except maybe dating apps, widespread obesity is probably the single most harmful factor to the dating world
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 06:05 PM
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More for the rest of us I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 05:57 PM
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We don’t have zero agency but we have significant less. And that discrepancy doesn’t come from an inherent fault of men, which would be misandrist, but from economic and social conditions
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 05:27 PM
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We should take systemic actions to address widespread issues but at the end of the day an individuals decision is an individuals decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 05:23 PM
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I’m 26, going on about five years of involuntary celibacy after the relationship where I lost my virginity. Most of my life I’ve wanted casual sex, or more accurately, semi regular access to it. As I’ve gotten more and more lonely over time, that desire has decreased and my desire for a long term relationship has increased
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:33 PM
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Bro 10 year olds learn about hyperbole in elementary school. Do you think everyone who says “I’m so hungry I could eat a horse” is being literal?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:54 PM
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Hyperbole isnt strawmanning
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 03:40 PM
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Sounds pretty childish to me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:44 PM
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Women have a huge in group bias, and men have a huge women bias. So much of society makes sense when you realize this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:43 PM
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Either you didn’t work out enough, or more likely, you didn’t diet enough. Basically every person that claims to be unable to lose weight, upon further investigation, is not actually in a caloric deficit. Are you the magical exception?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 03:24 PM
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Depends on the scale you’re using, lots of people view 6-7 as average because that’s a C in the US school grading system.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 02:25 AM
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Im currently in the throes of being head over heels in love with a random tiktok girl who most men would probably see as a 6-7/10 but who is a 100000/10 to me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 02:18 AM
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Me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 02:14 AM
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Modern Americans have severely warped perceptions on weight. What you perceive as normal is overweight, “slightly overweight” is likely “clinically obese”, and it’s only the my 600lb life types that you actually recognize as obese. Food companies (especially fast food) have crammed as many calories into our diets as they possibly could over the past few decades, and it doesn’t really matter how much you rock climb and canoe, you can’t out exercise a bad diet.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 02:12 AM
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Sure there are plenty of active women who are heavier than Victoria’s Secret models but that isn’t actually a standard that most men have.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:33 PM
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but in reality most incels are docile shy guys who are terribly afraid of being found out as incels. Exactly. If you live in a populated area you probably walk by a dozen incels everyday and have no idea. If it’s a college campus, more like a hundred.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:27 PM
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It’s easy to claim you’re active and obese, but it’s not really that common. Obese people usually aren’t active and active people don’t stay obese. And unfortunately it’s considered a faux pas to put “no fat chicks” in your profile
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:20 PM
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But it heavily correlates
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:16 PM
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woman who’s BMI is 35… eats cleanly Not this one because I don’t want to watch someone vacuum up four pounds of rice and chicken everyday, which is what it would take to be obese AND eat cleanly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:16 PM
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Yeah but I can’t put “no fat chicks” in my profile
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:14 PM
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In 99% of cases, yes, skinny does equal healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:13 PM
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With modern diets it’s difficult to be normal weight and NOT be somewhat active/sporty in some way, so there’s a significant overlap
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:10 PM
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One of those boundaries being “don’t approach while ugly”
/r/seduction01/06/23 02:02 PM
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Women still have more agency to avoid those situations than men have agency to find relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 05:33 PM
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They do, in droves
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 05:31 PM
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They’re not identical or on the exact same level but both are evil. Raping a drunk woman is worse but taking advantage of a lonely person for profit is still evil. Yeah he has a choice but so do gambling addicts and casinos profiting off them are still evil too
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 05:31 PM
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“All women are pretty” just shows that the speaker doesn’t even count women who aren’t pretty as women Yeah when you maliciously misinterpret someone’s words beyond their intention, anything can mean anything
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:41 AM
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I would have guessed 40s for him, 30s for her
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 04:12 PM
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Everything is acceptable if you follow rules one and two
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 02:05 AM
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Every place that it is “socially unacceptable” to approach a woman, it is socially acceptable for a woman to have been successfully approached (past tense). Funny how that works out
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 02:04 AM
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Okay grandpa
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 12:51 PM
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Are they better or are you just like the way women look more?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 01:53 PM
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Sure if you define nice guy exclusively as “guy who isn’t actually nice”, you’re probably right
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:29 AM
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The court of a law is not a divine arbiter of fact and morality
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:22 AM
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Pretty privilege exists for a reason, people naturally gravitate more towards attractive members of either sex, romantically and platonically.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:21 AM
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The average woman on a dating app isn’t exactly an award winning photographer either, they just, y’know, are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 04:09 AM
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Women will tell us it’s our profiles and attitudes is why we don’t have success. Just world fallacy. They don’t want to believe that the world is unfair so they seek a reason to believe other wise
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 09:53 PM
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Im sure it sucks to be strung along for sex, but a non-zero number of men on the platform are genuine and women have the agency to find them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 09:46 PM
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It’ll never compare. Women have a plethora of options to deal with their dating app issues but mens dating all issues are more fundamental. Women can always block creeps but men can’t just conjure interest out of the void
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 09:38 PM
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female in-group bias A term for something I recognized but couldn’t articulate. You see it everywhere when you’re aware of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 09:36 PM
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And they say romance is dead /s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 11:31 PM
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They can get away with it. If I had my pick of a hundred partners I might prefer a well paid one as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 04:31 PM
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Say the line Bart
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 08:40 PM
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Who says I’m not depressed
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 06:43 PM
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There’s a sucker born every minute. Simping isn’t ending anytime soon
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 10:21 PM
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we’re perfectly fine staying single This is not true lol. Women are just as likely to get sad and bitter and lonely as men, they just aren’t the pursuing gender so instead of turning to pickup artistry or black pill or whatever, they convince themselves they’re happy alone and continue their strategy of waiting around for someone else to make a move on them. It’s literal cope
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:30 AM
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The dating process kills romanticism in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:27 AM
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Ironically this is why women have easier access to sex in the first place. If women and the same sex drives as men, everyone would be fucking all the time and no one would be complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:19 PM
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It’s easier for women to get sex at all, good or bad. Men have to put in effort to get sex and then there is a risk of bad sex on top it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:16 PM
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Lesbians encounter a single surmountable obstacle in dating and think they have it as difficult as straight men lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:14 PM
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Plenty of female lifters are frustrated by their physical limitations
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 05:12 PM
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Nah, it’s still easier for lesbians to fuck women than for straight men to do so. Harder than being a woman fucking men but still easier than being a man fucking women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:53 PM
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Wherever it is, the sooner the better, we need you people to stop voting
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:31 PM
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“We tried honesty one entire time and it didn’t work! So we abandoned it entirely”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:25 PM
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Missing the point, classic boomer
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:23 PM
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That may be true but I’m also confident many women overestimate the need for this “bailout”. You’re going to say something like “you don’t how dangerous it is to refuse a man” but most men are just normal people. Some guy spends twenty minutes working up the nerve to say hi to a pretty girl at a bar and y’all treat it like a hostage situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:22 PM
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Somebody’s getting left in a retirement home lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:13 PM
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Women: -take a shower (optional)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:34 PM
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You have to be brain dead to look at the difference between women’s rights in 1900 and today and say “it was never about equality”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 01:19 AM
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What is your point? That perpetrators of genocide believe in the importance of genetic heritage so I should too?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:40 PM
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You have that backwards, if I donate 99% of my money, my children, biological or otherwise, would be destitute. If Bill Gates donated 99% of his money, his children would be hundred millionaires. And that's all besides the point, which is that genetic heritage is completely worthless and not worth caring about. Your children are the children you raise, and your parents are the people who raised you, genetic link or not. I'm sure it's nice for your kid to have their mothers eyes or fathers nose o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:21 PM
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It's not instinctual, its cultural. For hundreds of thousands of years, no one gave a shit about a "legacy" because there was no such thing. If you grew up in a different culture, you wouldn't give a shit, either. I'd rather raise an unrelated adopted child with my values than some little dick who happens to share 50% of my evolutionary bar code.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:12 PM
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who are you quoting
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:05 PM
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It’s hilarious when men on this sub talk about “raising another man’s legacy” like he’s fucking tywin Lannister. Your legacy is way more than your genes. I couldn’t give less of a shit about my genes, there’s like the serial number of organic life. Why should I care?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:42 PM
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No one is telling me I need a romantic partner. I would be lonely on a desert island, even if there were other men there. It’s biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:21 PM
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Women have dating strategies?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:18 PM
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There are an order of magnitude more straight men than gay women. A bi women with perfectly 50/50 attraction to men and women would end up with a man 9/10 times by statistics alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 11:24 PM
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Who said anything about being upset
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:50 PM
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And scientifically speaking a water gun puts out fire but it’s no substitute for a hose
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 06:37 AM
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I can’t speak for all men, but I already have friends. Good friends that mean a lot to me. They certainly help mitigate the loneliness of single life, but they are not a replacement for a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 06:34 AM
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What about “being willing to go in a dinner date” makes a man “thirsty”?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 10:37 PM
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What does being in a swimming pool have to do with showering?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 03:28 PM
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I think you need a new phone number for that. And then I might find out I’m actually just ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 06:59 AM
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It’s certainly been more than one week lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 06:59 AM
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I have terrible hinge MMR, it never shows me a woman who has ever seen the inside of a gym in her life
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:56 PM
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…unless
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:08 AM
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Slut shaming is a cultural factor that can be changed but mens desire for sexual novelty isn’t going away anytime soon
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:06 AM
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Okay, thirteen
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 10:47 PM
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My first thought is appearance and/or bf% but we all know those aren’t significant obstacles to women. In practice, the only way to really be a femcel is to avoid or be caused to avoid contact with men (and the outside world in general). I’m thinking mental health issues, severe social anxiety, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 03:18 PM
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Yeah, all twelve of them
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:45 PM
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I’ll be asking these but not because I’m a tradpill psycho, but because I’m actually a more than averagely clean person who likes to cook. So I’m really not interested in a woman who isn’t the same way. If you’re a man and you’re a messy slob who lives off microwave dinners you have to no right to demand a maid and a chef. And you don’t want it because it’s “trad” or “woman’s work” or whatever, you want it because you’re a lazy piece of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:20 PM
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I’m not really interested in dating without at least 2 of those 3 things, so for some men, they’re correct
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:47 AM
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She just got fat. If she lost 50-100lbs, brushed her hair, and put on a fancy dress she would look like Helen mirren or Laura dern or some other Hollywood gilf
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:24 PM
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I’m not saying black womens complaints aren’t valid, they absolutely are, I’m saying other peoples complaints are also valid (Asian men for example)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:18 PM
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Yeah I never hear black women complain about dating difficulties ever /s
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:09 PM
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Case in point
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:00 PM
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Thin??
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:26 PM
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No, this can be solved by other men rejecting women more, which will never happen. Tragedy of the commons.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:09 PM
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“Suck it up or find a woman who wants you” counts as being a dick about your standards
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:01 PM
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I’m 2 for 2
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 10:56 PM
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I don’t see how any of that makes no one swiping on you not a rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 03:55 PM
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Do women here actually think they will end up on the next true crime special on Netflix if they ever speak to a stranger?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 12:29 PM
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It’s not an excuse not to approach IRL, but “no swipes” is a legitimate form of mass rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 12:26 PM
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Sounds like they’re doing their job well
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:56 PM
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King of a minor Mediterranean cult that has had severely outsized influence on world history.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:55 PM
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Steroid use in popular media has absolutely skewed the average perception of what a naturally achievable build is. I don’t think the average person thinks Chris Hemsworth’s build is average for a body builder, but I do think it’s artificially inflating the curve.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:54 PM
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This is unironically cope. In the same league as “bill gates dropped out of college” level cope. There’s no reason to look down on non-college educated people but suggesting that most degrees are worthless or that a self educated person can reach the same level of understanding of a given field as a person with a degree in that field in a similar time frame is, undoubtedly, cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:51 PM
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This is unironically cope. In the same league as “bill gates dropped out of college” level cope. There’s no reason to look down on non-college educated people but suggesting that most degrees are worthless or that a self educated person can reach the same level of understanding of a given field as a person with a degree in that field in a similar time frame is, undoubtedly, cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:49 PM
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And are these LBGTPs in the room with us right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 08:05 PM
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Good moral behavior is not determined by what you are allowed to do
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 02:26 PM
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Only me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:36 PM
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Which head
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 05:35 PM
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Not going in to debt does
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 01:55 AM
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Jacking off I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 01:54 AM
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They’re too expensive
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 01:36 AM
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No lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 06:55 PM
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Yeah it’s a win win
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 05:31 PM
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The point where she crosses from toned/defined to big.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:41 PM
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You can rate people on whatever scale you want, but I don’t think emotional availability is a significant factor in dating until a relationship is already long established
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:38 PM
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Like the United States in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:24 PM
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sex has nothing to do with loneliness Everyday people come on this sub and say the wildest things. Up is down, the sky is red, sex has nothing to do with loneliness, just blatant absurdities. There are four lights
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 08:07 AM
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Your issue is with the entire concept of analogies? I say this completely unironically and without hostility: are you autistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:39 PM
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Yeah all analogies work when you only focus on the part that’s being compared. That’s the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 04:39 PM
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The analogy isn’t the argument, it’s an explanatory comparison. The claim is men shouldn’t ask women for dating advice. The argument is because women don’t understand or have experience trying to date women. You may disagree with the argument. You may think the analogy is silly. But it’s a perfectly competent analogy that maps onto the claim and argument being made just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:48 PM
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It illustrates its point perfectly, you just don’t agree with the point. Which is fine, but you’re wayyyyyyy missing the forest for the trees by getting bogged down in irrelevant details.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:45 PM
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Analogies are used to illustrate a point. You might as well be saying this analogy doesn’t work because women don’t have scales. Obviously that’s not the part of the analogy that is being referenced.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:44 PM
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I’m gonna bring in some elementary school level worksheets on analogies and maybe then the bluepillers here can catch up
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:40 PM
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ALL analogies ignore the fundamental way two things are different. That’s how analogies work. It’s like saying “he’s as blind as a bat” is a bad analogy because he doesn’t have wings. Obviously that’s not the point and it’s silly to focus on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:37 PM
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I think this, exacerbated by social factors, would also explain the huge gender gap in submissive/dominant sexual preferences in men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:59 PM
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For most men it’s: Free / sex / woman Pick two.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:05 AM
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It’s both. I actually have a close friendship with a woman who I am emotionally connected with, and I could afford to see a nice prostitute on a regular basis, but I wouldn’t be happy with that situation. Neither sex nor connection are sufficient separately
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:59 AM
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That’s an unpopular opinion here
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:14 AM
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Scraps are better than nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:04 AM
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A woman not being approached by an individual or even many/all men is not “experiencing” rejection. She’s not experiencing anything, by definition. Loneliness, sure, but it’s not rejection until she approaches someone
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:04 AM
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Just world fallacy. Women having many options irl is not evidence that men do. Neither is most couples meeting irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 01:52 AM
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A lot of men have their age set higher
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 01:43 AM
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And people here say women don’t have it easier dating
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 01:42 AM
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Lots of normal non Christian people get married in churches. It’s just a tradition at the point
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 12:48 AM
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What made you go from trying to set him up with someone else to wanting him yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:08 AM
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You get what you pay for, mine was was cheap but it’s a piece of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:07 AM
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At least you won’t have much competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 02:49 AM
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I wouldn’t mind haven’t a sympathetic ear to talk to but I don’t really have any confidence that therapy would be beneficial
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:10 AM
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Before original sin no one pooped
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:36 PM
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If you aren’t failing you aren’t trying
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:36 PM
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Counterpoint: replace all roads with bike lanes and if you want to live in rural areas, return to tradition and buy a horse
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:34 PM
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Haven’t stopped caring
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:35 AM
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Can’t relate
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:19 AM
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I only like passing fem boys
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 04:17 AM
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I think that’s a media myth. Child sexual assault may be a factor in causing pedophilia in adults but its mostly genetic, according to modern research
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:15 PM
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You can’t screen out a non-offending pedophile
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:08 PM
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What if it’s sperm/egg donation?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:01 PM
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Is pedophilia genetic/hereditary? Should a pedophile choose not to have children to avoid passing it on? Is this eugenics?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 06:57 PM
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I definitely think there’s an element of this to it as aell
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 05:08 PM
6

I want a partner who I’m subjectively attracted to, yes, but I don’t care if she’s “universally” or “objectively” attractive. Gal Gadot is “objectively” attractive but She’s not my type. Patricia Allison from sex education is not universally attractive in the same way, but she’s a 10/10 to me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:38 PM
4

Consensual acts between adults that harm no one should never be restricted. It’s not the governments role to be the morality police.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:35 PM
12

“Nevermind he’s 5’9”, pack it up ladies”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:33 PM
2

It’s not about giving me a gold star and making me feel like a special boy, it’s something that I’m better about than other men but it’s not something that is relevant to the early stages of dating. And obviously it’s not the “bare minimum” because women enter and stay in relationships with lazy/disorganized men all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:30 PM
2

Oh yeah I almost came back for that one but the brothers war stuff is boring to me. I wasn’t even born when the originals came out so I don’t really have any nostalgia for it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:28 PM
5

The "women complaining about men not doing their fair share of housework" is frustrating because I'm probably cleaner than 90% of the women here but that doesn't help you get into the relationship in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:59 PM
1

Are you saying marriage USED to not be about having kids but now it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:35 PM
1

Says who? Who determines what the purpose of anything is besides the people doing it? Maybe the purpose of HIS marriage was procreation (sad) but why should he get to put that expectation on anyone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:45 PM
2

This applies to all nerd hobbies unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:40 PM
1

I went to FNM at my LGS for a few weeks a while back and there were no cute autistic nerdy girls there, I was devastated. Also I've had zero interest in any of the sets since the innistrad sets last year
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:39 PM
1

I agree that a porn collection is an obstacle to an LTR, but I don’t think the investment is the problem. You could say the same thing about time and money spent on a movie, game, art, any collection really. The emotional connection thing is debatable. The real obstacle that a porn collection poses is just the stigma. Porn collections are weird and the number of potential partners who wouldn’t be turned off by it is low
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:28 PM
2

I’m terrible at art is it over for me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:23 PM
4

If you’re asexual but you couldn’t get laid anyway if you weren’t, then it’s kind of a “you can’t fire me, I quit!” situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:22 PM
1

Idk like someone else mentioned it feels like a “pick 2” situation. I feel like Any girl with all three would be snatched up immediately
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:47 PM
3

I think I’ve posted here or elsewhere before but I would be 100% down with that if I was slightly higher on the Kinsey scale. Unfortunately the slightest hint of a masculine voice or face structure and I’m immediately turned off. It’s tragic If they perfect facial and vocal feminization surgery for femboys it’s over for women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:45 PM
1

Daily is too often but I’ll take weekly if she has less mundane gaming taste
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:34 PM
1

No I’m scared
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:33 PM
1

The kinky part is hard because most people hide it for obvious reasons. And the people who are active in public kink spheres (fetlife, etc) usually don’t fulfill point 1
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:30 PM
1

No different than every other type of girl
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:29 PM
2

Im feeling this one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:29 PM
2

Call of duty bf stardew valley gf, name a better couple
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:28 PM
1

Cute, kinky probably but it’s a tough choice
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:28 PM
1

Hardest of all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:27 PM
3

I think I have finalized my minimum criteria I want in a long term partner: 1.) cute (subjective) 2.) likes video games 3.) kinky She’s out there somewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:19 PM
1

It’s like a Duolingo streak
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:25 PM
2

I want both /s (mostly)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:21 PM
2

More for me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:20 PM
1

Yeah you don’t know what the word means
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:12 PM
1

I don’t think you understand what superstition is if you think “wanting your favorite sports team to win” is superstitious
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:41 PM
1

Cheering is a bad example, lucky jerseys etc would be more accurate. And I feel there are way more women who believe mercury retrograde affects their mood or w/e than there are men who believe wearing their lucky jersey makes their team win
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:39 PM
18

In the strictest of terms asexuals can be incels. Just because you don’t want sex doesn’t mean you could get it if you tried
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:59 PM
1

You don't care if she enjoys the sex, you don't care if she orgasms or not, you call her a slut and say she's not worth a LTR or marriage. I’m built different
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:55 PM
4

So when it comes to dating women, a few men have it as easy as nearly all women, that’s reassuring. There are more men dating women by an order of magnitude than women dating women, so of course in absolute quantity more men are getting pussy but a much higher percentage of women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:54 PM
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Women dating women is a whole different ball game. Compared to a man you’re starting on third base.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:02 AM
2

If I use tiktok as a man does that make me a thot
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:53 AM
2

B Cup is basically the perfect size imo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:53 AM
6

These are not contradictory statements
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:49 AM
1

Who could have possibly predicted this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 12:46 AM
3

Anything above 75F tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 11:56 PM
2

Your idea of where being fat starts is way too high imo. Likely warped by the obesity epidemic, because now everyone sees bodies like you posted on a daily basis and don’t think anyone is actually fat until they appear on my 600lb life
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:42 PM
10

That’s just fat fat
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:31 PM
2

We call that skinnyfat
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:18 PM
0

“Say the line Bart”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 01:41 AM
12

That doesn’t address the underlying problem of undesirability
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 12:43 AM
4

Sometimes they do, and “homeless” is a much smaller category than “male”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:17 PM
5

“Surely you are not comparing one systemic issue to another”. I am actually
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:12 PM
1

Life would be a lot easier that’s for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:47 PM
0

You just said the same thing you’re responding to
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:46 PM
1

Switch woman supremacy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:40 PM
1

Unironically, “If you love something never do it for free”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 06:45 PM
1

I wish I had married her sooner
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 06:43 PM
1

I’m into 99% kinks on some level so she would have to be admitting to something truly obscure (balloon animals?) or truly gross (bodily waste?) for me not to be into it. If I had a kink she wasn’t into I would want her to be okay with me having an outlet for it in some capacity, so she would get the same courtesy in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 06:42 PM
1

It’s totally reasonable for a man to be upset that his partner got to have her cake and eat it too when he didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 06:38 PM
1

More than two seems like it starts to become a logistical problem
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 06:36 PM
1

This is in direct contradiction to one of the most common pieces of advice women give struggling men: “don’t cold approach, be genuinely interested in the girl and become friends first”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 05:59 PM
0

There are a handful of cringey incels who can’t help but bring up hypergamy and Andrew tate on the first date so women think they are FBI psychological profilers when in reality anyone without crippling autism is capable of appearing normal in a social situation
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 05:10 PM
1

It’s working
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 04:00 AM
2

Does being told to make a sandwich throw them off their game or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 02:29 AM
6

“Too many options” aww that must be so hard :(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 02:24 PM
6

Simple is not the same as easy. It’s simple to pick up a 500lb weight but it’s really hard. It’s usually simple for men to know which women are interested in them, but it’s really hard to make it happen. Saying “once you get to the part where the girl is banging you, then it easy” is like saying “once you get past the hard part, it’s easy”. Well, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 02:23 PM
11

The “women are wonderful” effect is at the root of a LOT of the issues discussed in this sub imo
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 02:20 PM
1

Tomato - tomahto
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:13 PM
2

I don’t kink shame
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:04 PM
0

We need to develop a way to mass produce women like you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 05:44 PM
1

Male, if I lived in the garden of Eden I would have sex 3+ times per day. Here in the real world I would be happy with once or twice per day. When I was in a relationship we had sex 2-3/week but that was due to external circumstances, not lack of desire. I hope to find a partner with a similar libido but if I don’t they would have to be okay with me using porn and masturbation on days they are not interested in sex. I think most men, before they start to get old, would be satisfied at once per d…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 05:39 PM
1

No one made any claims about who should pursue who
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:48 AM
3

I couldn’t possibly care less about my future wife taking my last name
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 07:10 PM
5

Men under, like, 40 (so most men) aren’t used to privilege. We’ve grown up with either approximate equality or a slight bias against us in most spheres
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 06:59 PM
3

My Twitter account got suspended for encouraging self harm / suicide. I don’t remember doing that any time recently though, but I def did encourage suicide on the cops at Uvalde back then so if that’s what got reported I stand by it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 03:54 PM
3

All other factors being even, social gatherings would be gender even, but obviously all other factors are not even
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:30 PM
2

Women get both
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:44 PM
1

I kept telling the judge that but they wouldn’t drop the charges
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:40 PM
1

Science invented dating apps, it’s all been downhill from there
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:25 AM
1

I did better help for a few weeks because I wanted someone to talk to about my feelings. I was t necessarily looking for solutions or advice, maybe some feedback like”you’re not crazy for feeling X way” or “it WAS rude for that person to act that way” etc. i didn’t really get past the intake phase before I had to stop due to financial constraints, so it hadn’t really started to help with anything Ideally I’d like my future partner to fill the role of “someone I can talk to unguardedly about my f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 04:05 AM
1

If she’s “no longer” celibate meaning she had casual sex in the past and didn’t like it I would question her past choice in partners
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 05:51 PM
1

6.5”, but yeah unless you’re flashing people there’s no way they’ll know how big your dick is, and it’s not that important to good sex anyway, so it doesn’t really contribute to confidence
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:44 PM
2

Man A is the same as Man B but hides it better. Anyone I know in real life would describe me as Man A but I am much closer to man B
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:58 AM
2

I have an above average penis and below average confidence - so no
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:41 AM
2

I wouldn’t know, I’ve only ever been a man. Lonely as in wanting a gf and not having one. Loneliness = Sadness, anxiety, distress, jealousy, anger, at all times in varying amounts and varying intensities
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:23 AM
3

A girl a had a fling with years ago and kept in touch platonically got a boyfriend lately. Feels weird. Realistically the door was already closed but it was nice to imagine that it was still open. Feelings include: “why didn’t she pick me back then/what does he have that I don’t”, etc. also just general jealousy that she gets to have a (presumably) loving relationship in a house with a partner and two cats and I get a shitty city apartment with two mouthbreathing roommates. I’m pretty sure I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:16 AM
3

Sexual images in media might have an exasperating effect but I think I would still be lonely without them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:50 AM
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It’s the security of knowing you can do it when you want to. Like if you were driving a car down a urban highway not worried about running out of gas because you keep seeing gas stations, versus in the middle of the desert without any gas stations for miles. That’s where the anxiety comes from
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:47 AM
1

This but unironically
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:29 PM
1

Are you talking emotionally or physically? I mostly just want to use her as a pillow and have her scratch my head like a dog
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:56 PM
2

The second guy is even more black pill than the first guy because you can go to the gym but you can’t get the second guys facial bones
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:48 PM
1

Clean shaven, military haircut, bad tattoo, trashy gym attire. Put the same guy in better clothes with a longer hairstyle and one weeks worth of stubble and he’d be a model
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:46 PM
1

It just means they want you to be quiet about it. They don’t want you to use your bank account as a pickup line at the bar but they would like you to be wearing a Rolex as you do it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:44 PM
1

Single stationary camera amateur porn is basically useless for getting off
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:42 PM
1

More for me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:35 PM
1

Example?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:34 PM
3

I always thought it was commanding auto mod to delete something lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:28 PM
1

I can’t even pull one woman, much less two. You’re safe from me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 10:59 PM
1

“Some of you [women] may die [from stochastic incel terrorism], but that is a sacrifice I am willing to make.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:00 PM
1

“My partner having sex with men makes me jealous and uncomfortable so I ask her not to do it” = OPP “My partner having sex with ANY OTHER PERSON IN THE WORLD makes me jealous and uncomfortable” = monogamy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 02:39 PM
1

Why? Do you feel that way about monogamous people because they are even more limiting than my scenario
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 02:01 PM
1

So just simplicity?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 02:00 PM
2

You guys are getting dates??
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 04:51 AM
1

How does all of that apply to a OPP but not a monogamous relationship? Unless you believe all monogamous relationships are controlling which is consistent, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 04:48 AM
3

Idk that just sounds like 50/50 with extra steps
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 03:31 AM
2

I think that was implied. But if you view limiting your partners freedom to have sex with other people as controlling, how is one gender more controlling than zero genders?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:43 PM
4

Maybe there are some of these but I think it’s way more commonly a bunch of 3/10 guys with a 4/10 girl
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:22 PM
3

It’s not scientific but everyone seems to know this. This is also true in bdsm/kink communities for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:18 PM
1

I think I could do an open relationship if me and my partner were only allowed to have sex with women. No relationships, no feelings, just casual sex, so not technically polyamory. More like swinging. This is called a one penis policy in polyamory circles and it’s frowned upon because its seen as controlling, but isn’t it inherently less controlling than monogamy?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:12 PM
6

For you it was natural progression, for him it was intentional escalation. Many such cases. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 03:48 PM
11

You don’t have to worry about your safety in the same way has women but you have to worry about it the same amount because you are in equal danger of being harmed by someone else in various contexts. You’re way less likely to have your drink spiked, sure, but you’re way more likely to be randomly attacked
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 03:25 PM
2

Possibly. I don’t feel any special connection to being a man. Even if I keep my sexual orientation, lesbians have it easier dating women than straight men do. There would be a lot of new annoying things to deal with in life (unwanted advances from men, safety concerns, etc) but having been a man and retaining those experiences I think would make those things much more bearable. If there was a magic button that turned me into a woman without any consideration for transition, surgery, etc, I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 03:24 PM
3

a real life hot chick next to You and you want to watch sex on tv? Porn doesn’t get a “headache”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 11:21 PM
1

What happened to the warrior gene? Or the desire to hunt? How many men can build a fire without a lighter? The “warrior gene” and “desire to hunt” are represented by men being more aggressive and risk taking than women. And the ability to make a fire is not genetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:12 PM
11

Statistically it’s only gotten less dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:47 AM
2

Some people would call me a bad person for the opinions I express on this sub but at least I don’t lie and lead on innocent strangers for multiple dates for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:43 AM
13

Look inwards? Is there an extra four inches of height inside me I never noticed?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:41 AM
13

the only people missing out are those stopped by the stigma associated with it And those who can’t get it even if they want it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:03 PM
2

Tragic. I look way better in the mirror
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:07 PM
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A lot of people chronically overrate women
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 02:46 PM
2

Which one looks better to other people
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 02:45 PM
1

Basically every sex act can be performed in a dominant or submissive way. If youre holding her down and fucking her throat that’s pretty submissive but if she has you tied to the bed and she’s chewing on your dick it’s hard not to call that dominant.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 07:17 PM
2

Poor man’s poison is good
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:21 PM
5

He’s not a troll but he’s not especially handsome either. In celebrity terms that basically ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:08 PM
1

You’re not dating women with careers? Did they fish you out of a time capsule?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:20 AM
1

It’s easy to get stuff done with companies when you just buy a company that is already doing that thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:05 PM
1

What makes you believe he actually works hard except for what he has told you? And why would you believe him?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:04 PM
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Emotional connection does a lot of work for attraction in LTRs, and I’m saying that as a guy. For example The emotional connection made my ex, who was probably a 6ish, at least like 50% more attractive in my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:02 PM
1

So the younger girl is nicer, cuter, and I don’t have to jump through hoops or set my wallet on fire to impress her? You’re doing a bad job of illustrating the negatives here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:55 PM
1

It’s probably custom made
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:52 PM
1

It’s been very rare in my 25 years that I didn’t have a crush on some girl that I was imagining my life with until our deathbeds
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:51 PM
1

I would look like gollumn for one hundredth of his net worth. I would look like Jeff goldblums Fly for the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:34 PM
1

It is all of those things but it’s also “I hope he says doctor or lawyer or something”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:28 PM
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If I got paid like a woman and my clientele were women I would consider it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:19 PM
1

This isn’t a strawman, it’s like a straw army in a straw fortress with straw air support
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:18 PM
1

True and valid
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:07 PM
1

If I could pull a switch and turn genuinely gay I might actually do it. Life would be so much easier without having to deal with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:02 PM
1

We’re all hurt by encouraging magical thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:00 PM
0

Given how popular it somehow still is, if anything it’s underhated
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:59 PM
1

Okay, apply the same logic to any other thing that you actually like to do instead of eating. The point of all this being that eliminating all your desires because attaining them causes problems will just lead you to a dull boring life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 08:55 PM
2

Sexual novelty, meaning new and different sexual partners, is experienced by both genders. It’s biological. Even if a man (or woman) had all the status and recognition in the world, they would still instinctively desire new sexual partners because that was a mating strategy that led to the propagation of our species millions of years ago. Unlike, say, certain birds, humans don’t instinctively mate for life. We did not evolve to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 06:15 PM
2

Women absolutely use sex to get things, there’s an entire sex work industry almost exclusively made of women using sex to get money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 04:37 PM
3

Would you rather take an appetite suppressant so that you never desired to eat an expensive restaurant to save money or would you rather have enough money to eat at the restaurant as much as you like? I don’t want to want sex less. I want to have more sex (with women who also want to have sex).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 02:27 PM
2

I take it as a challenge (I do not talk to women)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 08:40 AM
1

I think I might have an issue dating someone under like 4’5” or over 7 feet. Hypothetically
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 07:09 AM
1

I probably felt about the same before puberty
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:24 PM
8

I’m sure all twelve of them are very happy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 09:51 PM
2

These are the same thing, you’re being pedantic
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 09:22 PM
1

Are you in the military? I feel like I can tell
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 02:27 PM
1

Because women aren’t special.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 02:12 PM
1

Ad hominem in fact
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 10:19 PM
1

Women here having more relationships isn’t due to any special knowledge or understanding of dating and romance. It’s because they’re women and it’s easier for them. It’s like saying you trust a tall person to have more basketball knowledge because they’re better at than a short person, when in reality the short person may have more knowledge about basketball but is stuck at a disadvantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:43 PM
1

Drunk words are sober thoughts
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:41 PM
1

Then I don’t respect any women because I am smarter than all of them. And all the men too for that matter
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:32 PM
1

This is a good way to put it. Guys who got a lot of casual sex before settling down usually don’t care if their long term partner also had a lot of casual sex. It’s a jealousy thing, where the guy who got ignored his whole life ends up in the AF/BB situation. And that’s valid jealousy imo
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:27 PM
1

Obviously it wasn’t an indiscriminate swipe if he was willing to meet and date you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:23 PM
3

You are using different definitions of sharing. You are thinking of simultaneous sharing where women are dating the same guy at the same time, wittingly or unwittingly, but OP is talking about non simultaneous sharing, taking turns. Which is still sharing the way a bike share program is sharing even two people aren’t literally riding the bike at the same time
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:05 AM
2

Sometimes he’s lying to them, sometimes he’s lying to himself, sometimes he is genuinely committed and monogamous, but he’s serially monogamous because every time he breaks up he can find himself a new relationship easily
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:04 AM
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In the grand scheme of things mens dating issues are not that bad but I’m sure none of your own personal problems compare to war, famine, and genocide happening in the world so I hope you practice what you preach and never complain about anything ever
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 07:57 PM
4

All of the problems described on this sub are caused by two things: biology, which we can do nothing about, and economic conditions, including low pay, low home ownership, no money to go out, isolation from car centric city planning, obesity rates, etc. in a word: capitalism. Which, unlike biology, we can do something about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 04:26 AM
1

The difference being that I am not attracted to men in the first place so I would only be able to abstractly recognize their attractive features whereas straight women would theoretically feel attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 02:48 PM
1

I ask myself that every time I see a stereotypical fem/butch lesbian couple
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 09:20 PM
1

And two million people who liked it with hundreds of seemingly unironic supporting comments
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 09:08 PM
5

Yes but that’s not due to skincare regimens, it’s due to fundamental differences in the way the genders experience attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:26 PM
6

Women on OLD aren’t exactly blowing it out of the water either (except on tinder which is mostly fake to dangle a carrot in front of men)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:20 PM
3

Because she’s not actually evaluating them like a potential sex/dating prospect
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:58 PM
11

Can’t disagree more on the fat women thing but I know there are men who don’t care
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:58 PM
8

How old are you and where do you live (urban/rural)? I think this is less and less true the younger and more urban you are. Men my age (mid 20s) in big cities are putting plenty of effort into our appearances but what you describe was definitely true in the rural redneck small town I grew up in
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:50 PM
12

Bell curves do bell curve
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:45 PM
5

They shit and piss but they don’t have the same sex drive. That’s what it all comes down to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:35 AM
8

Do YOU know what obese looks like? Our view of obesity has gotten so distorted by “my 600lb life” style insane morbid obesity that “regular” obesity looks normal in comparison. Measure her height and weight, and that’s an obese woman. It’s not like it doesn’t count as fat tissue if it’s in her boobs and ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:33 AM
4

Calling a spade a spade
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:31 AM
15

Is the hourglass melting?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:04 AM
1

Was this ever in question? No one has perfect skin or face structure. The reason Guys don’t want to wear makeup isn’t because they don’t think it will make them look better, it’s because either they think it’s emasculating or they’re afraid women will think so. Personally I wear a little bit sometimes on nights out but I haven’t noticed much of a difference in the way people perceive me. I use Stryx spot concealer I found on tiktok (proof that advertising works) but now I’m considering upgrading…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 03:47 AM
0

He is literally me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 02:48 AM
4

The obesity epidemic has blinded you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:57 PM
1

Not my type therefore 0
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:47 PM
2

Basically any guy would trade for that situation in a heartbeat. You have agency to solve your problem, man on tinder #7,942 doesn’t so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:45 PM
1

What are the chances it was her suggestion?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:43 PM
2

Dating apps have distance sliders. You’ve got ten thousand likes, apply some minimal effort to filter them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:41 PM
1

Sex workers don’t offer the one thing men, especially incels, want: validation. Men want sex, sure, but they want to be wanted as much as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:39 PM
6

If I have discovered anything from this sub it is apparently that analogies are just too complex for some peoples brains
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:38 PM
2

Because you’re sharing the same 20% of men with all the other women on the platform
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:37 PM
2

The nature of the internet makes it so easy to avoid this. Simply swipe left. Swipe right on a decent seeming guy and he sends you a dick pick and calls you a whore? Oh well, two button presses and he’s blocked and I’m on to the next one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:36 PM
3

There are men on there looking for a serious relationship (I would know), which you would know if you lifted a pinkie finger of effort. Yeah a lot of guys are on there for casual sex but you have thousands of options to filter through.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 05:32 PM
2

Why do poor people continue to buy lottery tickets?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:03 AM
1

Slightly stiff drinks, got it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:29 PM
1

Seems like they’d just take it and run lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:28 PM
1

I am medium height and medium looking
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:28 PM
1

Too complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:27 PM
1

taking notes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:27 PM
1

Mission failed
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:26 PM
1

I think that might get me fired. Last resort
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:26 PM
2

I’m in training to become a bartender. How do I use this job to get as much casual sex as possible? (I am a man obv)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:34 PM
2

Communication, cooperation, remembering birthdays, all that relationship stuff is easy compared to actually getting into a relationship. And a lot of attraction is emotional so someone you’re not entirely attracted to can become attractive when an emotional connection is formed. I’ve been on both end of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 04:52 PM
2

Beggars can’t be choosers
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 05:01 AM
1

Nah I’m good lol. Donate it to charity if you’re being legit
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:00 AM
1

Am I crazy for saying she looks very average? Like there’s a thousand women on every corner who would like approximately the same with a bunch of makeup and an expensive dress
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 02:51 AM
1

One time many years ago now for my birthday my roommate/friend got me a coke and a subway sandwich, and it’s stuck with me ever since because it was my order, that I always got when we went there. Like that’s the most thought anyone outside of family* has given to a gift to me. *not to discount my family, I love them they’re great
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 02:29 AM
4

Are the secret blowjob teachers in the room with us right now
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:27 PM
5

Women hate being sexually unfulfilled just like men do but it’s much rarer because women have lower sex drive and easier access to sex when they do want it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:25 PM
2

I hate wearing anything with a brand on it. Even cheap brands. I hate the idea that I paid for an item because of the name attached to it. I go out of my to buy brand less clothes or hide the brands when possible. Plus a giant ugly logo is always going to look worse than a plain shirt or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:23 PM
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Most traditionally attractive model-style women do absolutely nothing for me. Even in their primes women like Pamela Anderson, Jennifer Aniston, Angelina Jolie, etc. “default attractive” women, I would say. Just go to show that beauty is at least partially socially informed and old people had terrible taste. The modern version of this, kardashian style, ambiguous ethnicity, horrible implants, drawn on eyebrows etc is also pretty bad The women who are most attractive to me aren’t unattractive per…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:17 PM
2

Instead of straight, gay, bi, etc, we should use gynephilic and androphilic (and maybe biphilic/panphilic) to describe sexual attraction. The terms we use now don’t really capture the spectrum of gender expression we see today. And more importantly, straight, gay and bi describe attraction based on the gender/sex of the other person, not the person feeling the attraction. Is it gay to like muscular women? Trans women? Femboys? Gynephilic and androphilic describe attraction to feminine and mascul…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:55 PM
2

You can say fuck on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:36 PM
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Telling a bunch of guys in their teens and 20s to go out and have a bunch of casual sex in their youth is like telling a bunch of waiters and cashiers to go out traveling the world. It’s not that simple lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:29 PM
2

AFBB refers to women doing all that and settling down with a man she’s not actually that attracted to because he’s nice and a provider. If your wife is legitimately attracted to you it doesn’t really apply and you lucked out
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:25 PM
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If you had a lot of casual sex in your youth then AFBB doesn’t really apply to you
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:07 PM
15

If there are 10 people in a room and only one of them is gay, a bi person would end up with a straight one 9/10 times
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:48 PM
1

Post agricultural civilization is relatively recent phenomenon in human history so while monogamy has existed for basically all of recorded history that’s still only a fraction of the time humans have been here. There’s a pretty convincing argument that agriculture led to property which led to both monogamy and patriarchy in general because before property there was no reason to care about paternal certainty because you had nothing to pass on to your children
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:47 PM
1

Any amount that doesn’t interfere with your sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 08:17 PM
2

If I ever start speaking like this, shoot me in the fucking head. Jesus Christ. I can feel the “I grew up poor and got a good job and now I spend my days licking the boots of old money so they toss me their crumbs” dripping off this post
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 08:16 PM
2

This is just gaslighting at this point lol. I have and have had fulfilling platonic relationships with men and women. The natural human desire for romantic love doesn’t go away if you have good friends. Maybe you are an asexual being who is completely satisfied with chaste friendships but the rest of us are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:54 PM
2

Or maybe it’s more niche than you realized
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:16 PM
2

That flavor sounds awful lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:05 PM
3

I have somehow never heard of them a single time
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:04 PM
1

“Look I’m sorry women do an unfair amount of domestic labor in relationships but what personally do you want me to do about it”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:03 PM
1

There’s a really good book called Sex at Dawn that looks at human sexuality from an anthropological viewpoint and the conclusion is basically that long term (lifetime) monogamy is simply not human nature. Especially men but also women are designed to seek sexual novelty. It’s a lot to ask anyone to only have sex with one person for the rest of their lives without getting bored. That isn’t to say that Those men are justified though. They should be talking to their wives and/or a counselor instead…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:02 PM
1

Can’t agree. I love my male friends but I could hang out with them daily and still feel dissatisfied and lonely without a romantic relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:58 PM
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I don’t think most women would be surprised to find that their meals friends would have sex with them but I do think they’d be surprised to see how many male friends would accept a date and potential LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:57 PM
2

Platonic friendships are great and I would never give them up but they are not sufficient. Platonic and romantic connection are both necessary to combat loneliness. I love him and I’ve known him for decades but Dave isn’t gonna provide the type of romantic connection I’m looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:56 PM
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The fact that women receive penetration in sex isn’t the reason. If that was the case, gay male bottoms would be just as selective but they aren’t. They receive penetration and are equally (or near equally) vulnerable to violence from other men. Better explanations are female risk of pregnancy or just lower female sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:53 PM
2

I’m 25. I don’t listen to rap but I know some big names through osmosis but not this one
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:42 PM
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From what we can see of her face it’s not doing her any favors. She’s not obese and it’s hard to tell from the quality and the poses but I would guess low/medium overweight bmi. She curated these photos so they are likely as thin as she can make herself appear. 5-6 seems accurate to me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:37 PM
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On bisexuality: non-bi gay people are less than 10% of the general population so you would expect bi people’s partners to be straight approximately 9/10 times just due to probability. Ie, if you’re bi and 9/10 people you meet are straight, there’s a base 9/10 chance your partner will be straight before any other factors are considered
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:33 PM
1

Reading this felt like a stroke
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:24 PM
2

No reason a cis rapist couldn’t just walk into a womens bathroom whenever he wanted. Do you have security guards doing peepee checks outside your bathrooms?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:22 PM
5

Every other week some minor celebrity does and Twitter acts like they were John Lennon or something. Who’s takeoff? What’s a migo? Literally never heard either of these words before in my life. Mandela effect is real
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:17 PM
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He’s ahead of the curve
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:58 PM
4

I wouldn’t respect a slobby partner either
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:20 PM
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Just knowing that her internship is WFH doesn’t tell us anything. She could be chilling with two zoom meeting a day or she could be spending ten hours a day staring at spreadsheets
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:14 PM
2

A full time remote internship could easily be enough work to justify equally splitting house work. Just because it isn’t immediately being paid doesn’t mean it isn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:52 PM
3

It’s not gay if a woman does it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:16 PM
1

That’s not an alternative. The alternative to social security spending is leaving our grandparents work until they die or wallow in poverty. A healthy economy can afford social security spending or it can afford to funnel money to super rich parasites. It can’t do both
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:25 PM
1

If our ancestors could take care of the old and infirm by hunting and gathering extra, we can easily do it today with the productive force of technology. We would rather arrange society so that all those benefits go to the rich instead
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:22 PM
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What is the alternative? Leave a bunch of disabled people and seniors to suffer? So that we can keep letting a bunch of corporations gouge every price for no reason other than greed?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 01:56 PM
1

If beauty was all you cared about a $100 cubic zirconia ring from macys would satisfy you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 04:51 AM
1

Median US salary is ~54k. It’s kind of telling that the median, what most people in the country make (or less), is the floor for what you’re considering reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 04:49 AM
0

Unironically There is a one right way to do most things in life and this is one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 04:47 AM
1

I’m not materialistic in that way so she’d have to be pretty attractive/compatible in most other ways for wanting an overpriced shiny rock not to be a dealbreaker to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 04:46 AM
2

I don’t think it’s supposed to be veiled
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 04:42 AM
1

There’s only less than 1 million homeless people in the US (out of 330million) yet everyone has seen one. It’s not unreasonable to infer that sexual harassers exist at about the same rate, ie 99% of men are not sexual harassers but the 1% who are harassers are prolific.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 04:41 AM
0

There’s something to be said about the masc/fem lesbian divide but idk what
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:36 AM
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One of my friends is a fem lesbian. Her gf isn’t extremely butch but she’s definitely on the masc side of the spectrum (and overweight) and I’m like girl you could do so much better
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 12:35 AM
0

You can’t protect yourself better than a woman in any way that matters. It doesn’t matter how big or strong you are if they have a knife or a gun
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:54 AM
-2

I can go out at night and feel okay Statistically speaking you shouldn’t. Sure you’re less likely to be raped but you’re not any less likely to mugged or randomly attacked.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 04:46 AM
1

I have a difficult time believing women over 5’11” struggle that much with dating, unless they’re artificially handicapping themselves by only considering men who are taller than them. If that’s not the case, send them my way, I’ll date a tall girl any day of the week
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 07:28 PM
1

women over 5’11” One of these things is not like the others
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 03:37 PM
1

That’s a dramatic misinterpretation. Loneliness doesn’t equal sexlessness but it does follow
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:43 AM
1

The average guy is probably ten times more experienced and familiar with their own body as the average woman, just through volume. It ain’t getting any better
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:40 AM
1

Yes but only through a lack of exposure
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:02 AM
1

Or a hot fit guy can afford not to care about a girls pleasure because he can move on to another one while a chubby guy has to do the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:01 AM
1

Fucking is a intensive cardio
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:59 AM
1

Do you have any potential evidence that might support this hypothesis
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:58 AM
1

This is a biological difference between men and women I guess because this is absolutely not true for men
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:53 AM
1

Extreme male L
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:50 AM
1

It should be legal for those reasons but it won’t solve the underlying issue
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:50 AM
2

It’s a symptom of a broader trend of isolation and loneliness. if a man has a healthy and fulfilling social and romantic life, he’s having sex. Sexless was is an indicator that he doesn’t have those those things. Loneliness is difficult to measure, sexlessness is easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:49 AM
2

Plenty of perfectly nice, perfectly social men are struggling too. You’d like to believe that it’s a personal failing of those lonely men, something wrong with their actions or personalities, that women have a magic radar that detect misogynistic incels and those are the only ones suffering, but that doesn’t reflect reality, that’s simply the just world fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:46 AM
1

Vile
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:44 AM
2

Blue balls are real and painful, btw. They are no ones responsibility to relieve except their owner but they’re not a lie made up by teen boys to pressure their gfs, even if they’ve been misused for that purpose
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:34 AM
1

Just because it’s easy for you to go without something doesn’t mean it’s easy for everyone. The fact that nearly 100% of men struggle or have struggled with their sex drive and loneliness isn’t an individual personal failing of billions of people, it’s a natural reaction to a biological factor that is different between the sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:26 AM
1

male dons tend to fuck, female doms tend to not fuck Seems accurate just from porn trends. And also there’s not exactly many male findoms going around is there?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:41 PM
2

This would be a very funny way to find out that you’re asexual OP, but you should do some googling. It might explain why you feel so different than everyone else on this topic
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:53 PM
3

Nah, the most important values and traits are education independent
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:48 AM
2

Simple doesn’t mean easy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 04:21 PM
1

Experiencing it or being on the receiving end of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:48 AM
1

There is no intention natural selection. Mutations happen by chance and are passed on if they are not harmful. The rate of male procreation in history is potentially a misleading statistic because recorded history is only a fraction of the total human history. Anatomically modern humans, indistinguishable from you and I, appeared in Africa nearly 300,000 years before the first agricultural society was formed. What percentage of males procreated for that entire period?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 06:12 PM
1

My pressure is entirely internal thank you very much. A few years ago I was in a friend group and me and one of the girls started quietly hooking up for a few weeks. Even though she didn’t want to go further, I was definitely happier during those few weeks than before or after, even though no one else ever knew to this day, so there was no effect on my social standing. Is there social pressure to be in a relationship? Absolutely. But it’s not the source of discontentment among single men, it’s j…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 04:56 PM
5

That’s fine, there’s no reason to keep expanding the population on earth and with modern technology a younger generation that is slightly smaller than a older generation is capable of taking care of the older one. We can keep the population change at a stable slightly decaying rate for few decades no problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 05:45 AM
3

A tribe of varying-appearance humans would not survive if women were only attracted to one specific type of man. Either they would die out without replacing or only the one type of man would reproduce and all men would look the same
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 05:07 AM
1

So you… support it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 04:32 AM
16

There is no term for incel (non misogynist type), but the second you express any dissatisfaction with your celibacy or desire to change anything you will be lumped in with the incels (misogynist type).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 11:50 PM
1

Well if you’re judging me based off my mother it would be very untraditional of me to be a stay at home mom
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 10:46 PM
1

I don’t follow
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 10:12 PM
1

Until the divorce, yeah actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:51 PM
1

Win win for me. My mother is a lovely woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:36 PM
2

Yeah for casual sex. For an actual relationship or marriage, almost no woman is going to accept less educated man. Alpha fucks, beta bucks, etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 02:43 PM
1

Q4A 1.) what is your gender 2.) do you have a favorite historical battle 3.) do you have a favorite serial killer
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:56 AM
13

Women are accepting of gay friends. They are much less commonly accepting of bi boyfriends
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:37 PM
1

I really don’t get the indignation over ratings like this. I feel like I can say one woman is ten percent more attractive than another and still hold in my head that they are human beings, and someone could do the same to me. Not mutually exclusive imo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 05:31 AM
3

Never heard of it, kinda sucks. The best rating scale for attractiveness imo is the Binary Scale: 0 or 1, would or wouldn’t. That’s all that matters in the end
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 05:14 AM
2

M, I’ve never heard of a 30 scale
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 04:57 AM
2

I’d like to say I have too much pride to accept an offer like that from a woman who rejected me previously but idk. Depends on context and the girl I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 04:44 AM
2

I bought a hair dryer for the first time. Haven’t tried it yet but my hair is getting long enough that I think it might look kinda good blown out
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 04:33 AM
1

This gif is blue balling me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 04:25 AM
7

I can smell it /s
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:01 PM
2

Again, cart before the horse. No one with a healthy social, romantic, or sex life is coming across pill discourse on Reddit, or Andrew tate or whatever, and THEN saying “I am now incapable of talking to women and also a misogynist”. It’s the reverse case.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 07:57 PM
2

Moral judgement are one thing, but I’m saying using the term Chad on the internet, or being dissatisfied with the dating world, or being a red/purple/black pill, are not what is preventing those people from dating. (Unless they bring those topics up on dates, which I’m sure is not common).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 07:06 PM
2

You’re putting the cart before horse. It’s the not getting laid part that comes first before thinking in terms of chads and pills and such
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:54 PM
3

Statistically there are some
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:30 PM
4

“Chad” in this context, being “attractive men who don’t struggle to get sex/relationships” certainly do exist. And most married men are not them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:06 PM
1

Perhaps you should revise your selection criteria for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:04 PM
1

I’m a guy so I’m still riding high on the “your hair nice today” I got about six months ago
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:16 PM
3

It’s giving “my baby boy is a handsome young man” energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:11 PM
1

Widespread monogamy is counter to male and female nature. We are almost certainly descended from polyamorous apes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:08 PM
3

Both things are true. The median man today is not a sexual harasser or rapist but the average (and therefore average experience of women) is thrown off by the ones who are.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 04:58 PM
1

Casual or committed?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 04:42 PM
1

The men you have sex with aren’t going down on you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 03:50 PM
1

This is a enormous stretch. Yes communication is important for being good at sex but alone communication isn’t going to make you an attractive prospect
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 03:44 PM
1

I am good at sex, according to my former relationships. Women don’t choose to have sex with me. The men who women do choose to have sex with aren’t good (and/or not trying to be) at sex. It might be plausible to say if other men were good at having sex I would be having more sex but I don’t think that’s true either. If that fact that women don’t enjoy sex with “chads” doesn’t make them want to have sex with the next rung down the latter (me), then why would they want to do so if they WERE enjoyi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 03:33 PM
0

Diminishing returns. Way bigger difference between 13-18 than 20-25.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 03:26 PM
1

Rengoku Kyojuro. I’m 25 though..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 01:58 AM
6

That’s bait
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:19 PM
5

Billie is the same she’s just younger
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:09 PM
1

I think both are true. The first is true and can lead to a good relationship, the second is technically true but is less likely to do so
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:08 PM
2

That’s the point
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:05 PM
0

I get this with a 13 year old but what about your life is so complex that a 19 year old doesn’t get it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:02 PM
-2

Teenager is a broad category. There’s a big difference between a 13 year old in middle school and an 18-19year old in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:57 PM
2

So you’re saying she has an inappropriate power imbalance over him /s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:55 PM
3

I’m in my bedroom playing overwatch
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:14 AM
0

Neither do all adults, but with adults without access are still capable of consenting to sex
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:55 AM
0

It’s always the English teacher. It’s like a law of nature. I had one too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:44 AM
1

Boys are stupid and will happily traumatize the shit out of themself to look cool for their friends What horrible trauma do you expect a 16-17yo to receive from having consensual sex with a 30yo? To be clear I don’t think it should be allowed, but not because I think the kid is going to receive severe lasting psychological damage like everyone else in this thread seems to expect
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:30 AM
0

Every 15yo boy lives in constant fear of the lifetime of trauma they would receive if his hot English teacher gave him a handy /s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:27 AM
-3

Isn’t that basically a non-issue if you’re pro choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:19 AM
4

It’s possible for it to inappropriate or even illegal without it necessarily being traumatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:15 AM
2

I was just thinking about this the other day. I don’t think we should change any laws, i agree that there is an unacceptable power imbalance between an adult woman (especially a teacher which seems most common) and a male minor…. But also I think that if it happened to me at 15-17ish I don’t think I would have suffered any harm. And I don’t think that should be controversial to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 11:42 PM
1

Out of all the millions or billions of times one person has asked out another in the modern world, how many do you think were women asking out a man? One percent? Two?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 08:27 PM
1

Then you should be perfectly capable of paying for your own dinner dates
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:27 PM
0

Oh, you’re talking about the dynamic in countries with gender politics that half a century behind the developed world. Makes a lot of sense actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:51 PM
1

You must have a bigger, redder flag earlier in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:20 PM
0

I wonder how many men have inadvertently dodged the bullet of dating you due to this policy. Lucky guys
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:00 PM
14

Close the subreddit down, we’ve solved dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 05:58 PM
14

This is indistinguishable from “the man should pay”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 05:57 PM
3

It’s not exactly difficult
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:55 AM
0

This would be a nice tip but unfortunately most women dominated spaces suck ass. I’d rather rip my fingernails out than pretend to care about astrology or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:31 AM
1

Then we are debating entirely different definitions of the term “power imbalance” and just talking past each other. If you’re saying a power imbalance is present in any relationship where one party has more of something than the other, than every relationship has a power imbalance and the term is meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:02 PM
1

Having something someone wants isn’t power. Not in a way that invalidates consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 05:43 PM
37

I live in New York City and still struggle. Ostensibly there are more women than men here. Skill issue I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 05:22 PM
1

Explain the power imbalance then. The power a teacher has over a student is self evident. What power does the rock star have?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 05:15 PM
4

It’s rare but it happens. A fan might want sex with a rock star they like more than rock star because the rock star can just line up another fan, or a non-fan who’s attracted to his status.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 03:34 AM
2

Teachers definitely have power over their students. Doctor is more of an edge case, but even without a power imbalance I wouldn’t want them treating people they’re romantically or sexually involved with
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 02:08 AM
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Possibly, idk. The tiktoker said “recruiting college age girls to go backstage”, so that doesn’t sound underaged to me. Drugs can confuse consent for sure but only if they didn’t consent to take the drugs (spiked drinks, etc) or they took enough to completely fall unconscious
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 01:41 AM
3

Are these girls harmed by having sex with famous people they like? If they’re underage or drunk/drugged, that’s one thing, but consensual sex between adults? Harmful?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 01:40 AM
6

“When someone uses the melting pot analogy it says a lot about how they think all Americans should be melted in a big pot” Listen to yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 09:21 PM
9

Do you apply this logic to every common analogy? Life isn’t a roller coaster because you didn’t buy a ticket? America isn’t a melting pot because it doesn’t melt people? “Shall I compare you to a summers day” is actually an insult because summer days are hot and sweaty?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 09:08 PM
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It doesn’t imply that. That’s not how analogies work. It’s really not that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 08:58 PM
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I really don’t get what’s so confusing about this analogy. If you apply this level of scrutiny to any analogy, they all fall apart. You will notice that men using this analogy aren’t talking about hurting or killing women like they fishermen hurt fish, just like they also aren’t talking about trying to seduce women by using a boat and putting fish hooks in their food
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 08:11 PM
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The point of the analogy is that men have to strategize to get sex/relationships with women, and that some techniques work better than others. Women also do this, actually. If a woman puts on a cute dress, styles her hair, puts on make up and goes to a bar, is she predatory because she’s trying to “catch” men?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 08:02 PM
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Analogies are meant to illustrate a point not to translate into real life 100% or be completely logically consistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 07:51 PM
15

The fish analogy doesn’t mean male sexuality is predatory. Analogies are meant to illustrate a point not to translate into real life 100% or be completely logically consistent. A fish is harmed by being caught but a woman is not harmed by consensual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 07:30 PM
12

Nice argument
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 07:27 PM
16

No I’m too afraid to talk to women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 07:12 PM
15

I don’t see how thats relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 07:12 PM
11

By that logic we should just shut this entire sub down because there many more important battles than arguing about gender politics on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 06:09 PM
0

Yeah, agreed. There’s a lot of things men can and often do to get sex that is harmful, but both the desiring for sex and the ability to get it are not harmful. Leonardo DiCaprio is a perfect example of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 05:43 PM
3

Then why are you giving this advice in a thread about getting relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 09:24 PM
2

Mens behavior is also not our fault, and responding to our environment and situations, including evolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 09:19 PM
11

It’s misdiagnosing the problem. The problem isn’t a actually that there are no good guys (or girls). But no one wants to say “I can’t find a hot enough partner”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:43 AM
13

“There are no good guys out there” means “there are no good hot guys out there (that will date me)”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:32 AM
2

Partner is definitely more committed than bf/gf
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:22 AM
1

Bullshit, virtually any guy could get off with a completely motionless girl. You may not enjoy it as much, but if you could do it with your hand you could do it with a vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:19 AM
2

Unstoppable force, immovable object
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:18 AM
2

Lots of possibilities. Green card marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 04:55 AM
1

Either you’re crazy or you haven’t really been broke
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 02:02 AM
10

Manager - employee and officer - enlisted are both not a monetary power balance, that’s a “I hold literal power over your job” power imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 08:33 PM
5

Grass is always greener on the other side
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 06:31 PM
10

It’s not like men are walking around in blissful isolation and then occasionally getting attention from “valuable” women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:39 PM
1

That’s gay
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:25 PM
3

A zero sum game is a game where one players gain is another players loss. There’s only a certain amount of female attention in the world, and men are competing for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:24 PM
5

6’5” nothing to see here
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:17 PM
1

This is just entitlement lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:14 PM
1

What did you do to make yourself more attractive and noticeable?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 09:11 PM
3

Economic forces apply to, for example, art pieces which are all different and unique like humans. As long as people want it, and not everyone can have it, it can be examined economically. Everyone can have a painting but some paintings are more desired than others, and not everyone can have them. Economic forces apply. Everyone can have a relationship, but some people are more desired than others and not everyone can be in a relationship with them. Economic forces apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 05:31 PM
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You try to date if you like, while you avoid if you don’t like Most people only want to date one person. Even poly people have limits. Economic forces apply, whether you wish to acknowledge them or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 04:41 PM
1

Can’t really recommend without knowing the person, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:08 PM
1

25, single, in school so probably 2-4, way more if you count mixed sex non-exclusively special activities like class, clubs, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:17 PM
1

Books
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:12 PM
1

Uhh sure? I’ve never dated anyone more than a year younger than me personally but an age gap relationship is equally as capable as a same age relationship when it comes to sharing humor, confidence, hobbies, passions, etc. Also, people are capable of having relationships with people they don’t share 100% of hobbies/interests/etc, whether that’s the same or different age relationships. just because an older partner is into wine tasting and a younger partner is into BTS doesn’t make the relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:07 PM
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If a 19yo can’t make relationship decisions, why should they be allowed to make… any other decisions? If a 19yo isn’t mature enough to enter a relationship with a 40yo, then they’re definitely not mature enough to take out a loan, or rent an apartment, or any other adult decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:01 PM
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What does anyone have to offer anyone else in a relationship? All those things can be found in same age relationships and age gap relationships, as long as both parties are consenting. Is it common for young people to be attracted to or interested in a relationship with older people? Not really, but that doesn’t matter for those who are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:30 PM
1

Those things are all loosely correlated to age at best. There are plenty of dumb, immature, insecure, socially inept 30 year olds out there. Sure, an intelligent, mature, self assured, socially adept, secure 30 year old can lie to an 18 year old to get sex, but so can another intelligent, mature, self assured, socially adept, secure 18 year old. It might be easier for the older person than the younger person, but the ease of doing something immoral doesn’t make it worse. As long as the 30 year o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:28 PM
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It’s not harassment until the man is not taking no for an answer. Even the creepiest possible approach by a senior citizen is fine if he goes away when the answer is no. Even if it makes you feel icky or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:14 PM
-1

Harassment is determined by behavior, not by feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:05 PM
-3

“It’s perfectly okay to pursue younger women but ONLY if you’re rich” Is this really your position here
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:00 PM
-1

You’re free to reject the ugly ones
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 04:59 PM
0

Economic resources? Does having more money make one more likely to or capable of manipulation? Having more money is half the reason younger women are attracted to older men in the first place. Knowledge required to be a self sufficient adult? I don’t think knowing how to do your taxes, or clean the house, or set up a doctors appointment makes you more capable of manipulation either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 03:04 PM
0

Absent coercion or violations of consent, which are bad and happen regardless of age, what power does a 28 year old man have over an 18 year old woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:17 PM
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I’ve posted about this before but women saying “now that I’m older i would never ever even consider a younger a partner!” Because… of course you wouldn’t. Most women aren’t attracted to younger men in the first place so it’s easy to virtue signal about how you don’t even notice them. You’re example is a little different because 16 is obv too young for any adult but women apply this non-argument to 18 year olds, 20 year olds, even 22-25 year olds because of “brain development”.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:00 PM
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If that’s true, it’s not my fault I’ve missed out on romantic chances because I didn’t notice women doing the rain dance in the next room over or whatever if that it is what they think counts as a move
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 11:36 PM
3

That’s not how penis shapes work. It’s genetic.
/r/seduction10/10/22 11:07 PM
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That’s not the first move. If it doesn’t involve, you know, interacting with the other person, it’s not a move. Would you consider ANY of those things a move if a guy was doing it to a girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 11:04 PM
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I guess I associate that kind of thing with my parents and grandparents generations. If women are still dealing with it, they have my sympathies. Hey ladies I’m very clean and I do my dishes! My DMs are open. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:02 PM
2

This is true to an extent but I’ve had female friends I had zero interest in but I still didn’t treat them exactly the same as my male friends. Less bro-y behavior, I guess. But not by much
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 05:54 PM
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It depends on the guys internal feelings so you can’t know with 100% certainty, but you can make a reasonable guess based on his behavior towards the girl vs other platonic friends, especially platonic female friends. I’ve been both an orbiter and normal male friend and I think the point where I transitioned from one to the other was when I stopped imagining that there was a chance of romantic feelings developing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 05:53 PM
7

More importantly, why would anyone date someone who does no housework at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 05:45 PM
6

Establish residency in Kentucky The price is already too high, I’d rather die alone
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:35 PM
4

Poor babies :(
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:18 PM
1

You believe in a moral duty to do something that benefits no one and causes only harm?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:42 PM
1

Disagree on punishment. Prisons should only serve to prevent crime, through rehabilitation where it is possible and separation/isolation where rehabilitation is not possible. Society gains nothing from punishment, in fact we only stand to lose from punishment because it causes higher recidivism than rehabilitation. More crime is the price you pay for a punitive prison system. Someday, hopefully, we’ll look back in modern prisons the way today we look back on medieval dungeons.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:34 PM
2

I have a professionally shot photo of myself sitting in a park and smiling and it really didn’t change thing. In real life I can be ugly and funny, on tinder I can only be ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:06 PM
2

Id rather be a guy. I can cope with rejection and having to put more effort in. You have this backwards. If you’re a woman with 1000 applicants to put in, there’s a direct correlation between the effort you put in and the result you desire. There’s probably at least one good guy in that batch, you just gotta find him. You might have to swipe left on a lot of guys you don’t want, but that’s not exactly backbreaking labor. From a guys perspective, there is at best a weak correlation between effort…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:14 PM
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I would happily sort through 99 gay bears and NFL linebackers, even overtly pervy, deceitful, or manipulative ones, for each 1 normal woman if there was a reasonable chance for a connection there. That sounds like a dream compared to radio silence. Or another thought experiment, imagine if I got the same amount of attention from women on the apps as the average woman gets from men — but 9/10 of them actually just want to steal my wallet and ghost me (analogous to men who seem interested in women…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:02 PM
2

I’ve considered this before but all that happened was I got kicked out of the knitting club
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 03:57 PM
2

In common usage, “Incel” merged with its “angry, misogynistic” connotation and mostly dropped the literal “involuntarily celibate” definition. It’s like calling a woman a bitch and being confused because she’s not a dog. The person calling the woman a bitch is only focused on the connotation not the definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:06 PM
2

Also nothing has changed in the past 30 years apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 01:49 PM
14

Even if only 1/100 men on Tinder were actually interested in a long term relationship, that’s still a better position for a woman disinterested in casual sex than most/many men are in. It’s a lot easier to filter through 100 bad male matches in a week for 1 good one than 100 bad female matches in a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 01:36 PM
6

Men enjoy free meals and validation - hypothetically
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 12:02 AM
4

“Yes I have many options but have you considered that I am ignoring all of them”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 12:01 AM
2

They are. I’m not a sex tourist so I’m willing to call a spade a spade.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 06:25 PM
1

“Cultivate emotional intelligence and home making skills. Then seduce a high income earning woman.” This is the first thing you said in this thread. It’s insanely out of touch. You defended by saying high earning women DO exist, which is comically missing the point
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 05:43 PM
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Yeah, I’m saying the attractiveness bar men have to meet for an LTR is lower than it is for casual sex, becuase women are the opposite, with higher standards for casual than LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 05:36 PM
1

I don’t know why you’re trying to convince me that high income people exist. I haven’t disagree with that. You said “seduce a high income woman”. Seducing a high income woman with “emotional intelligence and home making skills” is terrible advice. It doesn’t matter if that’s a corporate lawyer or an Albanian singing cricket mogul.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 05:02 PM
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I’m not saying high earning women don’t exist, I’m saying “cultivate emotional intelligence and homemaking skills [in the hope that a high earning woman will snatch you up and let you be her stay at home husband]” is terrible advice, because there are very few high earning people, half or less of them are women, and few of those women are going to want that. You might as well tell a person with financial issues to buy a lottery ticket or bet it all on black.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:52 PM
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I think some of this is projection from vanilla men with normal/ average taste. MOST men like a blonde girl with big boobs, big butt, and big lips. They can’t imagine having different taste, so they say other men (like me) are lying when we say we do have different taste. Huge boobs, huge asses, etc are all a turn off to me but a regular dude might think I’m lying because he can’t imagine different taste
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:36 PM
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My goodness, what an idea, why didn’t I think of that? Lol Despite the reputation earned from weird, non-representative internet trolls, I think most incels (and I’m including the whole category of involuntarily celibate men, not just those who self identify), would jump at the chance for an LTR. just in terms of appearance, the bar might be lower for an LTR than casual sex with a woman, but it’s still not a low bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:31 PM
1

Yet another unrealistic expectation put on men (being like Ian mckellan)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:20 PM
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That’s just unicorn hunting lol. High powered lawyer or finance women or whatever don’t want a stay at home husband. They want another lawyer, or someone else in their class. Exceptions might exist but then you’re talking about a small percent of a small percent of the dating population. Bad advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:18 PM
1

This is not true. Fat distribution partially varies with genetics but a good figure is achievable by basically everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:16 PM
2

Better men are subservient sycophants?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:13 PM
4

Saying someone isn’t an incel because they could potentially hook up with or date a far person is like saying they aren’t involuntarily celibate because they could voluntarily see a prostitute. Or because there are gay who would date them. It’s technically true but it ignores the factor of what the individual is attracted to. It ignores the spirit of the question of what an incel is. Most don’t just want to get their dick wet an any cost. they want happy/fulfilling sex lives and relationships, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:12 PM
2

Yeah if you want disappointment and heartbreak, putting all energy into one woman is the best strategy. Otherwise, all other preferred outcomes benefit from having multiple options
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:00 PM
3

Mild casual racism against white people is so common on the internet. It’s not the biggest deal in the world but I roll my eyes every time I see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 03:31 PM
0

In a heartbeat
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:21 PM
0

If casual sex is immoral, I’ll take your free ticket instead. Relieve you of that burden
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:20 PM
1

Ahh you are sexist /s
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:18 PM
8

Are you saying all non-white people are perfectly understanding about your bizarre one in a million situation? It’s only white people that find it strange?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:10 PM
1

Nine times out of the (including mine) it’s because either she already said no or he hasn’t asked yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:56 PM
1

Higher variability theory
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:23 PM
1

Grass is always greener
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:21 PM
1

My dick does get hard just from making out
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:19 PM
2

If you keep up your hygiene and presentation, no one is going to see you as a predator This is what we mean when we say don’t understand the male experience
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:33 PM
1

There are SOME high libido women and low libido men. They aren’t common compared to the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:24 PM
1

Did you make the account as a man? And what does he look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:22 PM
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Over 95% of people are employed in the US, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to get a job. Especially not a job that makes you happy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:19 AM
8

if I was a man but still had the knowledge I have I think this is probably what most women would answer to this question and I think it’s naive. Women are lulled into a falsely idealistic view of their own social skills because they are women, when in reality if they were men with the same knowledge socialization, platonic and romantic, would just be harder. You would press the same social buttons and receive less in return than a woman would in the same position.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:16 AM
1

A trans woman is a woman but not a cis woman
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:20 PM
0

We’re not defining the norm, we’re defining the entire concept. A normal person has two arms, but an amputee is still a person. A normal woman is not trans, but a trans woman is still a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:56 PM
1

It could be a grass is greener on the other side situation but I would definitely prefer a relationship with few friends. I love my friends, they’re an important part of my life, but they only mitigate loneliness, not eliminate it. To me it’s like friends are a less important need in the hierarchy of needs. Like I have shelter but don’t have food, so as much as I’m happy to have the shelter it’s not enough on its own
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:09 PM
2

I don’t think women honestly feel that upset not being compelled to pursue because they can pursue whenever they want. Nothing is stopping a woman from going out and attempting to form a relationship with a man they desire except the knowledge that they don’t really need to
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 04:09 AM
2

That’s a recipe for “oh I just think of you as a friend”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:07 PM
1

Hinge is depressing to me because it obviously has skill based match making
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:47 PM
5

Looks are one factor among many, but they are almost certainly the most heavily weighted factor. You can overcome a looks deficiency by excelling in other factors but saying they don’t matter at all is blatantly false
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:43 PM
7

It seems pretty obvious actually. Simple logic. If women are only attracted to hot/wealthy men, most men are not hot or wealthy, and most men still find a relationship then logically it follows that most women are in relationships with men they are not attracted to. The problem with your criticism is that it assumes the fact women only enter relationships with men they are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:21 PM
1

The beginning is pretty innocent
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 04:24 AM
1

Well not in the end lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:14 AM
5

I’m rewatching breaking bad and I can’t watch the first parts where Jesse and Jane begin their relationship because watching successful relationships is too depressing Also I can hear a bed frame squeaking rhythmically on the apartment above me and that certainly not helping
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:59 AM
0

Power to do what?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 04:42 AM
2

So?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 03:19 AM
0

Something tells me these women don’t see their time on yachts and private planes or whatever as failure. Prostitution, sure, but certainly successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 03:04 AM
1

He would undoubtedly be at a disadvantage in the relationship This is the part I don’t get. Relationships aren’t competitions. You don’t have an unfair advantage over another person if you’re older (if that person isn’t a literal child). Any harm an older partner good commit against a younger partner they could equally commit against a partner of the same age
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 03:02 AM
1

Not very well
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 11:10 PM
8

Cheating is only possible under agreed upon boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:44 PM
1

I could never afford the hot ones and you could never pay me enough to fuck the ugly ones
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:42 AM
1

Pass
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:39 AM
2

The gap between what you want and what you have is the source of unhappiness in life
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:26 AM
1

Survival of the fittest describes the process of natural selection AS IT IS in nature. It doesn’t make any claims of how things should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 03:44 PM
1

My favorite fortnite character
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:04 PM
2

“You question the study that has obviously faulty methodology but you don’t question the study that doesn’t? How convenient.”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:07 PM
6

I listen to a lot of podcasts and watch a lot of YouTube.You spend a few hours a week “with” the podcasters and they start to feel like a friend. I cried a bit a few years ago when totalbiscuit died, and it was pretty sad when all the GiantBombcast people left. When PhilosophyTube announced that she was trans it felt very strange. I’ve never had anyone I knew in real life transition so it felt like I went through a miniature version of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 06:44 PM
2

I think one of us is missing the point of the question. A is an explicit date request, B is ambiguous. It’s not about whether you have an activity in mind or it’s open ended, it’s about whether the asker is explicitly calling it a date
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 04:53 AM
9

Both of those examples are just A
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:01 AM
0

M, if it happened even semi regularly it might be a little flattering. The only time I’ve ever been asked out in my life was in middle school by the most fat/ugly (and sadly, consequently the most bullied/unpopular) girl in class. I didn’t dislike her as a person, or really know her at all, so I basically lied and told her I wasn’t interested in a relationship at the time. She probably saw through it. At the time it didn’t bother me that much but in retrospect as the years went on and no one els…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:51 PM
3

That seems to be exactly how the majority of women find the majority of their romantic relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:37 AM
3

How hard did you have to try to get all 6 foot boyfriends? Was it that difficult to say yes when they asked you out?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:22 AM
2

I honestly had never considered the possibility that she was trying to use sex to gain favor at her job. I had always thought it was at best an inappropriate but harmless consensual relationship and at worst a “she won’t say no because of the implication” situation. Honestly surprisingly blue pilled perspective of me there, but I wasn’t born when it happened so I never thought about it much
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 02:24 PM
1

Sour grapes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 02:19 PM
1

Don’t fret if you don’t get any matches (and definitely don’t buy premium). Dating apps suuuuck
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 02:18 PM
2

What do all these corrupt systems have in common? Money. It’s greed all the way down
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:15 PM
2

Supermodel face does nothing for me tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 09:46 PM
1

I think you’re right and it’s fine as long as no harm is being caused (ie if no coercion, pedophilia, or incest babies are involved)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:58 PM
1

Is the world record in a certain time frame? Like 300 in two minutes or something? Versus OP doing 500 in 10-20min maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:54 PM
1

Strict Traditional gender roles are one of the reasons boomers were bad
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:54 PM
1

Laws made and enforced by people aren’t natural laws, they’re just laws
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:46 PM
1

Laws made and enforced by people aren’t natural laws, they’re just laws
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:46 PM
1

Unless you’re talking about laws of physics, what natural laws do you believe in?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:41 PM
9

Not evenly
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:39 PM
4

How can you be an atheist and have any belief in natural law
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:55 AM
8

Then why aren’t women having equally less sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:58 AM
5

The guys I’ve known who had the most sex didn’t know how do any of that stuff. If you’re tall and hot you don’t need to, women want to have sex with you anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:27 AM
2

This is like saying men aren’t bi/homophobic because they watch lesbian porn
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 10:13 PM
1

This is statistically untrue. Laughably so.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:39 PM
0

Those animals are not direct ancestors of modern humans
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 08:17 PM
1

How much of that is drugs and how much of that is just socializing?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:44 PM
2

Men would literally rather whine on PPD than get therapy (it’s me, I’m men)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 02:51 PM
6

Does it make you smart if you win the lottery
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 08:49 PM
4

I’ll keep that in mind for my grandmas funeral
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 08:51 PM
4

You could probably cold approach me at my grandmas funeral and I’d be receptive but I think I may be an outlier
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 08:08 PM
7

It’s available in the US, at least in NYC. Haven’t had any success on it though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 05:39 PM
1

That last one you’ll here from kpop fans I think
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 07:03 PM
1

Oh hey you’re right. I stand corrected, send them all to prison
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 07:47 PM
2

Every Jan 6 insurrectionist should go to prison except the grandma from that one picture
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 04:09 PM
2

It’s only a fraction of athletes that are exceptions to BMI based on muscle mass. It’s not common
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:56 PM
29

BMI works for most athletes too. You have to have a large amount of muscle mass and low BF % to be an outlier. Basically only body builders, linebackers, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:17 PM
2

This could make you an MRA or a feminist depending on context and interpretation
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 10:24 PM
1

Starting weight and end weight? Height?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 05:06 PM
1

What BF% were you at that you could drop to 10% in 2 months
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 04:32 PM
14

How
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 07:04 PM
2

I don’t think the second one is true depending on what you consider a moral virtue. Easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter heaven, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:22 PM
1

I’ve never seen DBZ but isn’t gokus powers being super strong and shooting laser beams? What if obi-wan picks him up with the force?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:21 PM
6

In short, if mom is willing to die for a baby she doesn’t pass on her genes. If mom is willing to die for an adolescent/adult offspring, she probably does pass them on
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:16 PM
1

This but unironically
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:09 PM
4

I don’t think women would survive off of only each other’s compliments either so this isn’t exactly a gotcha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:31 AM
4

Women are happier with less attractive men? My DMs are open ladies
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:22 AM
2

Rape is free?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 05:30 PM
1

It’s more like fantasizing about being able to afford a house because you stripped on camera
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 04:53 PM
7

If you’re a sex positive feminist, that’s a pretty good privilege
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 04:51 PM
6

You’re about twenty years older than the avg Reddit demographic so maybe that’s a confounding factor
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 04:40 PM
1

Reading comments like these is starting to make me suspect that the female brain is incapable of understanding analogies
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 03:04 PM
1

“I choose to be ignorant of the risk of random violence against men and naively walk around the city obliviously at night, therefore women have it harder”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 12:23 AM
2

That’s just a semantic difference. No ones saying you can get chemically addicted to Twitter or sex the same you can to drugs, but the compulsion can still negatively affect your life
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:20 PM
3

Seems a lot more straightforward at least
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:27 PM
1

I think colloquially the term “addiction” is more about the compulsion than actual chemical dependency/withdrawal/etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:21 PM
1

If healthcare is a limited scarce resource, then morally it’s better to distribute it by lottery than by wealth, which is our current system. That may not be politically viable, but it’s morally superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:31 PM
2

If the number of people seeking healthcare goes up when it becomes more available, then that means we are currently forcing people to go’s it out care to keep costs down. That’s a bad thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:53 PM
2

Tbh I just don’t think people play matchmaker as much as romcoms and sitcoms would have us believe
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:31 PM
0

I’m a guy and I’d say yes and no. Like a lot from we say, If im attracted to her, it’s ridiculously easy. If im not, there’s pretty much nothing she can do. Not that it’s ever happened that girl I was attracted to made a move on men. I think this is different for most women because they will have a non-zero number of guys who they are attracted to make a move on them, so they can afford to make it difficult for those guys if they want to
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 09:05 PM
2

No
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 07:39 PM
2

I don’t really care about genetic “improvement”. All that means is that a species becomes more adapted to the environment over generations. There’s no moral value to assign to humans who are more or less “evolved” in that respect. I think hypergamy, such that it is, is bad because it makes people in this generation less happy than they could be, men and women both.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:05 PM
1

“My source is that made it the fuck up”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:25 AM
1

The imaginary degenerative cycle you’re describing doesn’t actually exist. You cannot apply that cycle to any actual historical events in a way that make any sense. For example, Rome held on hundreds of years after the “degenerate” emperors. People spread it because it sounds good and makes them feel like they’re the cool “hard men” in comparison to all the other “soft men”. In reality virtually every historical step away from what was considered conservative or even moderate at the time has bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:21 AM
1

How can you be individualist on an income you pay taxes on
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:15 AM
1

Pretty sure it’s the opposite and you’re just wishful thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:14 AM
2

Entreneurship is just gambling with extra steps
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:24 AM
8

I (unsuccessfully) asked out a girl in a wheelchair recently, but I tend to agree. Men and women in wheelchairs or with other visible disabilities have to be very attractive to make up for it unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 01:40 AM
0

It doesn’t matter wheee you pulled that definition, that is not how most people use the term “partner”, and therefore that is not what it means
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:47 AM
2

I ended my one extended relationship almost five years ago (around 20yo) because I was afraid we were committing too early and that I was missing out on the freedom of youth (casual sex being part of that). Five years later that casual sex was never attained and I might have been much happier marrying that girl by now. Like a monkeys paw, I got my wish. Anyway to answer your question, to me at this point committed monogamy > semi regular/regular casual sex > nothing (I am here)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:46 AM
4

“X is a myth.” “no it’s not, it’s Y and it exists a lot” Listen to yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 03:15 PM
1

I’m talking about initial impressions obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 06:04 AM
3

I definitely feel like sports culture has expanded in my lifetime, though. When I was a kid no one talked about the formula 1 for example, now it’s huge even in America
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 05:29 AM
3

Sometimes people on this sub act like women are psychic. “Maybe the reason you aren’t successful with women is because you’re desperate and they can tell.” Or, “maybe it’s the fact you believe this about women and you’re a misogynist”, where “this” is whatever was said that’s critical of women or the dating market When I try to flirt with women, I don’t think the reason they aren’t interested is because they can magically tell I’m a PPD poster or that I think hypergamy is a thing or whatever. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 04:19 AM
2

9 times out of 10 yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 04:15 AM
0

But it also makes them much less likely to risk their safe job in a strike for better pay if they’ve got mouths to feed
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 04:07 AM
1

Of course, as long as regular (not repeated) advances aren’t seen as annoying. “I’m not in the mood tonight, go rub one out” from time to time is no big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 03:15 AM
2

Wouldn’t a population of men heavily invested in property, wives and children be a much less rebellious one than a bunch of single men with nothing to lose
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 03:14 AM
4

It doesn’t matter how emotional, sensual and sexual you are, for the same reason it doesn’t matter how big or small your penis is. By the time a girl sees these qualities, the guy has already passed the hard part, initial selection
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 02:18 AM
4

But unlike what women in this thread frequently say, being “misogynistic” isn’t what’s preventing them from getting laid because, as OP claims, there are plenty of “misogynists” who DO get laid. Clearly being “misogynist” or not doesn’t actually have an effect on whether a man gets laid or not
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:27 PM
1

That’s not a purpose either that’s an accident of evolution and biology
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:51 AM
3

Not me. None of the guys I know
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:01 AM
96

Off topic but it never ceases to amaze me that the internet is so big there can be people with millions of fans who I have by chance never even heard of
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 01:35 AM
3

Yes
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:01 PM
2

The honest opinion of most men, evolutionary psychology, and objective spiritual truth (this was revealed to me in a dream)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:51 AM
3

You think feminine Korean boy band member don’t get laid a lot, be good partners, or be successful?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:44 AM
3

As another atheist I don’t think I could be in a relationship with a religious person. I wouldn’t be able to respect them tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 12:45 AM
2

I mean yeah. It’s not like every negative trait is equal. Being fat is a bigger negative than any one (or all) of those other traits
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 12:29 AM
1

“See men it’s fine if you work really hard to land a committed relationship, you’ll get to a coins flip chance of it being a happy one”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 03:51 PM
6

I have no idea if you’re joking but if not I feel bad for your husband and his cute harmless bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 05:23 AM
1

Men who are attractive to a lot of women (“high value men”) logically only come in two types: men who want a committed monogamous relationship and men who want to hookup/serial date. The former self-select themselves out of the dating pool, so single women only see the latter
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 05:14 AM
1

I’m always curious about these situations, how did your relationship develop from platonic to romantic?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 06:43 PM
3

Not all (wo)men
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:19 PM
24

The bar is really high for you or me. The bar is really low for Chris Hemsworth or Timothee Chalamet
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 03:27 AM
1

None of which are caused by ease or taboo, either. Exaggerated maybe
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 10:26 PM
1

This does not cause homosexuality. No matter how much he’s into me or how easy it would be, I could never be attracted to a masc gay guy. Taboo and Ease of access may incentivize men who already gay, but it’s never going to turn a straight man gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:48 PM
-1

Nothing. I would say killing some unborn fetuses is murder, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:30 AM
1

Uhh there are definitely maternity wards and stuff but idk if those dramatic viewing rooms actually exist lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:29 AM
2

It’s at best a bad metaphor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:28 AM
1

Your first two responses and your third are incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 01:27 AM
4

I’m voting for very little. If culture had a heavy effect on people I found attractive, I’d be in to kardashian types: “thick” girls with tan/brown skin, giant puffy lips, dark hair, dark eyes, huge boobs, huge ass. I think there are a lot of factors that contribute to what body types are popularly considered attractive, but i think what’s popular is based off what most people like, not the other way around
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:46 PM
3

Who cares about heart beats? We can make your heart beat indefinitely after your brain is dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:37 PM
2

You’re fine with aborting a nine month old fetus? Even the day before the approximated due date? You look at a ward of new borns and say “I would have been fine with aborting these babies yesterday”?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:35 PM
4

Killing children who have already been born is called murder
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 07:07 PM
3

Biology and evolution merely describe the mechanisms reproduction, they don’t assign meaning or purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 07:04 PM
1

You know how there’s two types of southern accent, one that’s like a sexy Lauren Cohen in the walking dead accent and then there’s the kind you hear in real life? That second one
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:48 AM
2

Send her my way
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:38 AM
1

Does not compute
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:36 AM
3

I’m sure you have l opinions on plenty of things that don’t affect or involve you. Why is this one different?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 05:55 PM
3

Mark Manson talks about this in Models a bit. Basically, he says that because what’s creepy to one girl might not be creepy to another, you are going to appear creepy to some girls no matter what you do and you have to be okay with that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:59 PM
15

I don’t think forced sex is a natural Followup to “sympathy”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:42 PM
1

I support aborting xenomorphs
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:58 AM
6

If you believe that, I have bad news for you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:18 AM
1

If it’s causing you to gain weight, or maintain an unhealthy weight, it’s not a proper diet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 03:37 AM
1

It’s a problem if I want to have platonic female friends or romantic relationships, which I do. And unless women are capable of psychically reading my deepest thoughts or my Reddit post history, I don’t think the two are related
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:32 AM
1

It’s a problem if I want to have platonic female friends or romantic relationships, which I do. And unless women are capable of psychically reading my deepest thoughts or my Reddit post history, I don’t think the two are related
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:31 AM
1

I’m not denying that these conditions exist, I’m saying their weight gaining effects can be counteracted with a proper diet (in this case, fewer calories).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 11:12 PM
1

If you have a condition that causes you to gain 10% of your weight on the exact same diet, then eating 10% fewer calories to return to your prior healthy weight is not starving yourself. Conditions that cause weight gain don’t magically create new fat tissue. You still have to eat it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 11:08 PM
1

Yeah, but in the Obama era, it was seen as secure. Less than a decade later, it’s not. Who’s to say the same won’t happen for other social issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 10:59 PM
1

If I was fully transparent with people IRL, they would probably see me as an incel and a misogynist
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 10:58 PM
1

The lack of it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 10:53 PM
1

Are the pre-existing conditions teleporting calories into her body or is she eating more than she’s burning?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 08:13 PM
1

This is categorically false
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 08:08 PM
2

What’s wrong with using an online forum? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 05:14 AM
2

I never discuss my dating experience with full honesty in real life. Why would I? Here I have the protection of anonymity. I’m sure there are plenty of other guys who do the same
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 05:14 AM
9

If women were only more picky than men, then they would masturbate at a similar frequency. The Meta analysis OP linked shows they don’t, which indicates they have a lower overall sex drive than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 11:44 PM
2

That’s what everyone said about banning abortion a decade ago, now here we are
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:15 PM
1

I’ll let you know if it happens
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:14 PM
8

There’s no correlation between a good looking guy and good casual sex. Maybe even a negative correlation. The “80/20 rule” and the “orgasm gap” are related. Why would a top 20 guy care about his partners pleasure when he has two more girls lined up for the next weekend?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 03:20 PM
1

Yeah capitalism is immoral. You’re preaching to the choir there. Selling porn isn’t immoral, capitalizing on loneliness is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:37 AM
1

If it wasn’t clear, I don’t care about emotionless prostitutes — sex is sex. Legalize it or whatever. But letting a desperate lonely person give you money in exchange for basic conversation, touch, attention?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:24 AM
1

It’s a bandaid solution at best. These men should be self improving and socializing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:21 AM
1

Source? I don’t think any studies have been done on OF subscribers but here’s a video discussing the phenomena with some OF subs and models it’s a service Lots of consensual services are exploitative and immoral. Letting a gambling addict into a casino? what is the alternative Idk tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:17 AM
1

What do you mean by community events?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 12:49 AM
1

Because I’m competing with delusion Yeah pretty much. Either compete or don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 12:31 AM
2

How do you filter the dating pool for bisexuals? Do you automatically ignore straight men and lesbian women? Seems difficult because bisexual orientation isn’t necessarily broadcast by single bi people
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:43 PM
1

So that a potential blue hair Marxist ethereal bisexual gf doesn’t filter me for thinking the handmaids tale is hyperbole or something
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 04:49 PM
2

What I would be hiding is indifference I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 04:46 PM
2

How do I make myself care about abortion rights? I’m very progressive on most issues, but I have a hang up on abortion. Logically, I think I agree with pro-choice positions almost entirely but I cannot muster any passion for it. I think it’s due to a combination of popular bad rhetoric/arguments from the pro choice side, and vestigial Christian morality from childhood (I’ve been an atheist for many years now though). Any girl I would want to date is almost certainly going to be aggressively pro-…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 04:39 PM
3

Obviously voluntarily abstaining from sex/relationships disqualifies you from the “involuntary” part of being involuntarily celibate
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 03:07 PM
4

A step in the right direction
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 01:14 PM
2

I’ve been in a LTR before a few years ago, so I’m not on the same level as a KHV, but since then the entire female gender has been a brick wall, even after moving to a large university city. Plus, I kind of accidentally fell into that relationship and I think I was less attractive, so success with women for me has never had any correlation with effort or intentionality
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 02:03 PM
1

Hot take: a female super model serial child rapist is probably still higher SMV (more potential suitors) than the average incel forum poster
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 01:59 PM
3

Obviously the question is asking how you would feel if you weren’t in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 01:43 PM
5

Have you ever or do you ever see yourself actually accepting a date with someone who cold approached you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 01:36 PM
3

Isn’t that kind of a self fulfilling prophecy? Truerateme believes that most people fall in that range so they always rate people in that range. Someone could rated as a 4 in that sub and internalize that, when people they see in real life might actually rate them as a 6-7 because most people use the 1-10 scale they’re used to, which is the same as US grade averages and movie/video game reviews where 7/10 is average
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 01:29 PM
1

There’s an emotional aspect to attraction not captured by the idea of objective beauty. Love makes someone more attractive, but that’s not a factor until the relationship is already established. I think most men understand that if they’re wives had their memories erased and had to choose between their husbands and a generic male celebrity or fashion model, she’s ditching the husband 10 times out of 10. Does that mean she doesn’t find her husband “the most beautiful person around”? No, it just me…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 01:09 PM
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I think Emily Ratajkowski is pretty overrated tbh. I feel like I see more attractive women on a daily basis, probably none of which think they are. That just goes to further disprove truerateme’s idea of “objective” attractiveness I guess. Also Joey king is definitely hotter than Emily ratajkowksi
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 12:58 PM
5

I can’t discuss any of these topics with full honesty in real life, so it’s a good outlet I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:15 PM
1

It’s a figure of speech. I don’t hit on women, I have crippling social anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:05 AM
2

On average, relative to men, for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:31 AM
1

Who said anything about that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:31 AM
3

Because real life is also a women’s paradise (for dating)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:21 AM
1

What are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:08 AM
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the more a woman earns and the higher her IQ is the more likely they are to be single Hypergamy in action? Women aren’t willing to date men who make less than them, or are less smart than them, artificially reducing their dating pool. I don’t think it has anything to do with her attractiveness, at least not directly. As for the overall point, it depends on how you judge attractiveness, but I don’t think so. I’m sure it really sucks to be a bottom 1% girl, but I’m also sure it’s probably worse to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:04 AM
1

Why are you so hung up on convincing me that value is based on supply and demand? I’m not disagreeing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:42 PM
3

Even if that were true (it’s not), Ancient Rome is not any more of a model of how things should be than modern America (or anywhere else). Maybe you could be really fat in Ancient Rome, or Babylon, or the Indus River Valley, but you couldn’t in humans natural environment pre agriculture, which represents 99.99% of human history
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:30 PM
3

“Fat” relative to the time. What used to be “Fat” in the past is now normal, and what we consider fat today would have been unheard of
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:28 PM
1

Sure? The current dating market leaves a lot of people unhappy. You said in another comment you’re in a relationship, is your whole opinion on this just “fuck them, got mine”?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:25 PM
0

Then you are an exception
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:17 PM
1

Do I care about people being happy? Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:17 PM
1

You think the top X% of people by weight will always be considered unattractive, no matter what the weight range of a group is?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:11 PM
1

I’m a little overweight, but I also get zero play so that tracks
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:14 PM
-1

Those who are dissatisfied with the current dating market, which I see as most men and some women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:12 PM
1

“Fat” is relative, but I think there would be way fewer people who are unattractively fat if you magically brought everyone in the US under a 25bmi.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:03 PM
-1

I’m agreeing with you. Take the next step. Do men and women have equal distributions of SMV, as determined by the number of people of the opposite gender that are attracted to them? Not really. You seem to want to just accept that state of affairs. Im saying it would be better if that was not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:45 PM
2

The would probably all be attractive to you if they are about 30lbs lighter
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:26 PM
0

I agree but that doesn’t make it a good thing.there are a lot of factors that contribute, and I’d argue net happiness would increase in society if that inflation didn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:25 PM
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I agree that it varies but I don’t think it’s actually that drastic. The fattest countries like the US have a higher tolerance for it but “more fat = less attractive” is pretty universal
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:22 PM
3

This is what keeps me going lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:14 PM
0

Not really. It would be more accurate to say it’s artificially inflated
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:13 PM
2

I don’t think this true because you still count the fat people. 100 fat and non-fat men want the 50 non-fat women and the 100 fat and non-fat women want the 50 non-fat men. It’s 100:50 in both directions, not 50:50 like you said. If you eliminated obesity, it would be 100:100.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:10 PM
2

Exactly. Decrease obesity, increase the ratio of attractive people of both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:07 PM
5

I think that’s dramatic but basically correct
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:06 PM
1

That doesn’t help the scarcity either, but it would be a lot easier societally to reduce obesity than change all Mens sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:06 PM
0

You weren’t talking about “how do you get an LTR”, you were talking about “how do you become somebody women want to fuck?” The answers to those two questions are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:04 PM
1

Romances don’t just naturally develop. That’s just what it seems like from the perspective of a woman who is being successfully courted by a man. “We we’re friends and then it just naturally developed from there.” Yeah, because he was actively trying to make that happen the entire time. You only feel like you’re being approached like prey if he’s not successful, but he was viewing you as a potential partner the entire time. Also, “approaching women romantically is different from approaching them…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:02 PM
5

True but the number of people who are “overweight” due to muscle mass is pretty insufficient compared to obesity
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:52 PM
2

Preach brother
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:51 PM
5

Those are made up lol. They aren’t based in science. Yes everybody’s shaped differently, everyone carries fat in different amounts in different areas of the body BUT it’s a gradient. And the higher the number on the scale, the less likely you are to be attractive (to MOST people), whether you’re an apple or a grapefruit or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:48 PM
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Right but most fat women don’t want to date fat men and Vice versa. So we have a situation where most fat and non-fat men are competing for the non-fat women, and most fat and non-fat women are competing for the non-fat men. If there were fewer fat people, there would be less competition. Theoretically.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:45 PM
4

totally overrating a normal weight woman I think that’s part of it. Like the OLD thing, Women are rated on a bell curve, men are rated on a cliff face. An “objective” 6/10 woman with an 7/10 man will be reported as an “ugly guy with a supermodel” because she’s above the curve for women but he’s not above the curve for men
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:42 PM
1

It would be nice, but that’s not the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:39 PM
0

We’re men, I call them worse to their face. The point is, romantically successful men don’t need all that stuff you cited. They don’t have to work on their lives before romance, either casual or LTRs. By saying incels need a financial independence and self actualization to be desirable, while “chad” is desirable while surfing couches and partying, you’re literally just proving “alpha fucks/beta bucks”.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:38 PM
1

There’s nothing wrong with having female friends. This comment bread was about approaching women differently for romance vs friendship. “Treat women like you would treat a friend” is a platitude, not good dating advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:31 PM
3

What do you mean by body type?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:04 PM
4

To each their own i guess lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:03 PM
3

It’s obviously not arbitrary. The higher you go for a given height, the fewer “body types” there are that will good look at that weight. There are a lot of attractive people at 5’4” 150, fewer at 5’4” 170, and so on. No one is evaluating attractiveness based only on numerical weight, but you can’t deny that (for most people) there’s a heavy reverse correlation between weight and attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 05:53 PM
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I agree that they carry it different, but at that level I don’t think there’s any way to carry it that looks good
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 05:45 PM
1

All twelve of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 02:51 PM
1

“Why do you feel invisible? That cashier told you have a nice day!” Listen to yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:48 PM
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I see people say this all the time, but I never see it in real life, and I live in a major city. I think this a generalized halo effect being applied to all women. Like, no that’s not a pretty girl with an ugly guy, that’s a couple equally average attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:45 PM
1

It’s not about being a different person. It’s about pursuing a romantic relationship instead of a platonic one. You have to speak and act differently. You can’t just engage a person the same way you would a platonic friend for a while and then be like “oh, do you want to go on a date?” That’s how you get girls complaining about their guy “friends” who have just been waiting for the their entire “friendship” to confess their love
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:23 PM
-1

This is how you end up with a lot of female platonic friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:20 PM
1

My male friends who have fucked the most don’t have any of that stuff. They’re tall attractive losers
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:15 PM
2

Then you would support a complete ban on teachers using “he/him” or “she/her” pronouns in front of children? Removing all books that reference straight relationships? Or is it only propaganda if it involves LGBT people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:28 PM
2

The republicans?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:25 PM
7

I’m the first to call democrats tactically incompetent, but if you think that this is just a measured response from republicans and not the continuation of decades long effort to subjugate people they don’t like, you’re naive or complicit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 12:25 PM
6

Those of us being excluded I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:01 PM
2

Idk why everyone’s downvoting you. This sub is fine for explaining flirting in the abstract but every time someone tries to write an example (including this post) they sound like fucking Quagmire.
/r/seduction22/04/22 03:20 PM
7

I’m convinced that’s a publicity stunt
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:20 PM
9

Relationships, even temporary hookup interactions require work. *If you’re a man
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:14 PM
0

If I had a vagina I think it would have fused shut upon hearing those lines
/r/seduction19/04/22 01:31 PM
0

If I had a vagina I think it would have fused shut upon hearing those lines
/r/seduction19/04/22 01:31 PM
8

This is becoming increasingly untrue every year
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 12:32 PM
1

Why is it different though? Just because of higher sex drives?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 07:28 PM
1

Girls often complained about dudes escalating in non-calibrated ways. These guys would have no idea how close they were before their lack of attention led to the girls changing their minds. Can you elaborate on this?
/r/seduction11/04/22 03:55 PM
1

Being a woman who isn't interested in monogamy seems like a pretty blessed life.
/r/seduction11/04/22 03:54 PM
3

Dating apps have filters?
/r/seduction11/04/22 03:41 PM
2

I don't think the girls with hairy legs and armpits are on the same page as you on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:53 PM
1

The virtual world is more real than the spiritual world ever was. It's real people communicating through real objects using real forces. I don't even see the virtual world as separate from the material world. Everything virtual is happening within the material world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:45 PM
2

Any analysis that tries to cram the varied history of empires into a rigid framework like that is never going to be more than a gross simplification. Conservatives like this fabricated narrative because it let's them imagine they are last remnants of greatness in a dissolving empire, and imagine that better days are always behind us.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:42 PM
6

Do YOU laser max?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:14 PM
1

I go to a pretty liberal college in a pretty liberal city, and it's not uncommon here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:14 PM
1

I find it funny that cited natural and then “marriage” in the same breath. There’s no reason to believe that popular casual sex is the anomaly and that marriage is the natural state of things
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 02:45 PM
1

“And that’s why I clutch my purse when I walk by black men”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 11:28 PM
1

Between photographers, freelancers, and subscriptions, can you estimate how much you spent on this endeavor?
/r/seduction06/04/22 11:20 PM
2

Recipe for eternal failure
/r/seduction05/04/22 02:22 PM
3

My political beliefs are direct results of my core values. I do not see how anyone can arrive at significantly different beliefs without having different values.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 02:18 AM
1

If I had a high body count, I might feel differently. But if I had N=5 and my partner had N=36 at 23 I don't think I could ever feel like I was a second choice. Or 37th.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 02:40 PM
13

You seem to really want to see yourself as a cuck here. Is that what this is about?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 11:50 AM
5

It’s a good thing for the virgins that they have so far avoided a guy who’s only criteria for a partner is “virgin”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 07:05 PM
1

Makes sense. Did you cold approach your male friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 07:03 PM
6

Fortunately for the virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:58 PM
6

I think you should want a therapist
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:55 PM
0

Why does that bother you? She’s allowing you have sex with other women and kissing you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 04:47 AM
12

Cheating requires some kind of infidelity. If you have an open, mutual agreement with your partner, it’s not cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 09:23 PM
13

That’s not what he was saying
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 06:44 PM
1

Socially middle class?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 04:53 AM
2

I got flooded with it when I first started using it a few months ago but it’s pretty easy to train the algorithm not to send you that kind of thing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 02:13 AM
29

Pick two
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 01:16 PM
6

Go on
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 01:44 AM
9

It’s shallow and juvenile to view female friends only through the lens of their utility to your sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 01:02 PM
6

your brain thinks if sex as soon as a woman interacts with you I think if men were honest, the majority of us would admit this is true in most cases. Some guys are better at suppressing/ignoring it, but it’s instinctual
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 12:55 PM
22

Did you measure your biceps before and after this gym stint? I have a hard time believing that noticeable growth could be that rapid and that attractive
/r/seduction25/03/22 07:38 PM
1

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but conventional attractiveness is objective and most people will date within their conventional “league”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:57 PM
1

Some people will win the lottery, most won’t, so let’s not encourage them to buy too many tickets.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:55 PM
2

Pretty sure no one who talks about “leagues” thinks they are some kind of unbreakable law of nature. Most people will find the most success dating people of a similar level of attractiveness AND some people will find success dating someone who is more attractive than they are. Both are true.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:54 PM
7

Cringe af
/r/seduction24/03/22 12:42 PM
3

Definitely not cap. I got blueballs all the time with my first gf as a teenager, because we'd make out for hours without actually having sex. It was worth it though
/r/seduction21/03/22 09:31 PM
3

The TAs though
/r/seduction21/03/22 09:23 PM
2

Those may be things women are looking for in a long term romantic partner but walk into any frat party and it’s blatantly obvious that those aren’t required for a woman to choose a sexual partner.
/r/seduction15/03/22 08:11 PM
2

Is this a joke
/r/seduction15/03/22 08:07 PM
4

Very un-bro like behavior towards your lesbian friend, tbh. You owe her a drink or something
/r/seduction09/03/22 04:41 PM
1

Maybe there's something about a girl being attracted to you that makes you uninterested in them for some reason.
/r/seduction07/03/22 04:37 PM
1

Obviously conventionally attractive lesbians who are attracted to or don't mind unattractive lesbians are not the same group of people that are setting difficult standards for straight men. They are not a part of the equation that you are looking at.
/r/seduction07/03/22 04:54 AM
5

dude what
/r/seduction06/03/22 07:26 PM
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