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Firstborn3/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 09:30 PM
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Do not give up on your kids. They will appreciate it someday. Stay away from hookers. If you get busted then you really will lose the kids. Spend that money on a therapist instead.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 03:17 PM
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I’m very perceptive and can read between the lines pretty well. After my divorce I’m pretty good at reading situations, so I can usually tell the couples that are happy and those that aren’t. Of all the married couples I am friends with, I’d say half are happy. Many of them are on their second marriages though.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 09:31 PM
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I pay $1500 a month in child support even though we have 50/50 custody, and I get them every other week. Plus a hefty settlement that I’ll be paying her in installments for years. It really doesn’t seem fair. She gets to take them on vacations that I could never afford because I give her so much money.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 02:48 AM
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I definitely don’t intend to
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 02:36 AM
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After my divorce my friends all told me to try this app, that app, get back out there, etc. I did for awhile, and it just didn’t feel right. I had a 6 month relationship with a woman who was great, but it was also nerve wracking. I’m so much more at peace now that I’ve accepted that the juice is just not worth the squeeze.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 04:03 AM
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This is where I’m at. It feels pointless to even try, because ultimately in my soul I don’t believe in love anymore. I tried dating for awhile after my divorce, with some success, but it never really felt right. Like I was just trying because of peer pressure, societal pressure, a built in instinct. I’m over that now.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 04:00 AM
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You successfully put into words how I feel but haven’t been able to articulate. The moment in time, the circumstances of current dating culture, the fact that we’ve been through divorces and are all getting a little bit older… these factors make something genuine basically impossible. And yet most of us also have this instinct to keep trying to find somebody… maybe it’s learned behavior or something primal. But this is all working together to keep people disengaged at best.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 03:55 AM
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I agree. Sometimes I think that it’d be nice to have a partner. But then I spend some time with my married friends and I’m like “nope I’m good”.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 02:45 PM
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I pay her $1500 a month in child support for 2 kids, even though I have them every other week 50/50. Even still, I save so much more money now. My bank account and credit cards don’t have that feeling of being in a free fall that I experienced for 18 years of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 01:09 AM
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Agreed. My ex is like this as well. So now on the weeks I have my kids (every other week), my house is a place for them to relax and do the things they enjoy. It’s their stability. Their lives were turned upside down, and it’s important to them to have a semblance of normalcy. We have a great time in our own way, without having to run all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 02:12 AM
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June is gonna be a crazy month for me/us as well. Between vacations, crazy work and ex wife’s birthday falling during my week, the. Schedule is just gonna be completely fucked up. It’s just one month and it’ll go by quick, just roll with it buddy.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 02:23 PM
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I am 50% to blame. If you ask her, I’m 100% to blame.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 08:13 PM
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The divorce process showed her true colors. She is not a good person. I don’t wish anything bad to happen to her for my kids sake, but she is absolutely nothing to me. I am cordial when I have to be, but I would prefer to never be around her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 07:33 PM
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I think you are smart to not engage. This is a good way to invite drama into your life if you say anything. Enforce that hard boundary and never look back.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 02:05 AM
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I have found that with dating single mothers, there’s often 2 categories. The women where the Dad is either not around, or lives far away and only gets them every other weekend. These women have very limited availability, are often broke and relying on grandparents and even great-grandparents to help, and are just absolutely burnt out on life. The women where the Dad is involved and they have 50/50 custody. These women are unavailable half the time, and the other half of the time they are sad an…
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 12:54 AM
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Perfectly stated.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 02:25 AM
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So about a month after my wife left me, I happened to run into a girl I went to high school with. Hadn’t seen her in over 20 years, we were both 42 at this time. The bar we were at closed early at 10, so I ended up going back to her place for awhile. We had a few drinks and she talked about her divorce, etc. She told me that since I’d been drinking I’d had to stay the night. So I did. Started making out, clothes coming off, etc. It had been a long time since I had actually intimacy like that wit…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 01:09 PM
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I’m a year and a half out from our separation now. I still talk to my ex wife a lot because of the kids, but don’t actually see her too often. The other day at my daughter’s school event I literally didn’t recognize her!! I actually thought she was her sister. We were married for 18 years. Now it feels like she’s a complete stranger. My life is infinitely better.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/26 05:15 PM
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That’s the crazy part, how much money I save now that I don’t have her out there swiping that debit/credit card multiple times a day. She was definitely spending more than she earned in a month. Even with having to pay child support (even though we are 50/50 😫) I am saving so much.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 02:59 AM
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Happiness- you bet your ass! Success- if you’re speaking financial, then not yet. I have to pay her a large settlement in installments over the next decade. It’s hard sometimes but so far I’ve made it. Love- after a handful of dates that didn’t go anywhere, I’m now dating somebody great. Too early to tell if it’s love, but it may be! I now have hope where before there was none.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 07:41 PM
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I am self employed. At the time she initiated the divorce, she assured me that she would never do anything to affect my business. She just wanted child support. My job is how I support my children and she didn’t want to fuck that up. Well at some point that all changed and they were going for the jugular. Her lawyer was trying to get a settlement that would have required me to sell everything I had and get another job. Eventually they settled on a number that required me to sell a significant po…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 02:50 PM
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This is perfectly stated. Before you say anything to her, speak to a therapist. Perhaps even a few sessions under your belt first. Get yourself on the right path emotionally before you confront. If you don’t do this correctly, you will lose the upper hand.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 09:06 PM
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Courts aren’t gonna make a single mom do shit. If anything he’ll end up having to pay more.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 07:02 PM
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Yep. No force on earth is strong enough for me to marry again. My divorce was the hardest thing I’ve ever went through. I’ll be paying my ex wife a lot of money for years to come. But I’m now a year and a half out from her leaving me. The clarity, peace and freedom I now have is something I truly value and will not risk losing. ‘Twas blind but now I see.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 06:10 PM
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I’ve used Christmas as a benchmark for how much my life has changed. Last year I was a zombie at Christmas. My wife had left, divorce wasn’t final yet, and all I could think of was that I was missing out on 50% of my kids lives. It wasn’t a good time. 2 years ago I was still married. The week of Christmas was spent running here, there and everywhere my wife wanted to go. Her family things, my family things, etc. It was like running a fucking marathon every year. This year… I am my own man now. I…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 01:45 AM
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Last year was my first Christmas since the separation. I was depressed. The divorce wasn’t final, and all I could think of was the hundreds of little Christmas traditions and moments I was missing with my kids. Now I’m at my 2nd Christmas as a single dad. I love it. I don’t have to deal with her or her family. I can do things my own way at my own pace. I will see my kids in Christmas Day, and my large extended family thing is on Saturday. But today, Christmas Eve, I have zero plans of any kind a…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 08:39 PM
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I haven’t done this (yet) but he’s not wrong. I could’ve gotten laid many times if I had just lowered my standards and not given any thought to the consequences. Got on fb dating for like a week and the amount of thirsty women in their 40’s SHOCKED ME!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 10:04 PM
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Absolutely not. I’ll be paying off my ex wife’s settlement for the next decade. Nothing in the world could make me do that again.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 05:57 PM
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I’ve been sleeping alone now for over a year and I love it. I can’t imagine going back. I usually stay on MY SIDE too, but only because I have worn myself a comfortable groove. I shared a bed with a woman about a month ago and it was miserable. I barely got any sleep because I was so uncomfortable and so afraid to fart 😆
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 06:21 PM
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Well it would’ve been easy for her to make a case for her to be the main custodial parent. She literally works at my kids school, and they’re always on the same schedule. She would’ve gotten more child support if I would’ve just been a weekend dad instead of 50/50. Make no mistake, the mother has complete control of how much the father is allowed to be involved. And if I piss her off even once, she could still take them from me if she wanted to.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 06:44 PM
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I am beyond grateful my ex wife allowed me 50/50 custody. She didn’t have to do that. She had all the final say so.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/25 06:11 PM
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OP must be really good looking. I have women interested in me. But they’re the types where if I have sex with them I might as well sign a contract and be in another relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 02:59 AM
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She was attractive when I married her, she was attractive when she left me, and she’s still attractive now. Doesn’t mean I am ATTRACTED to her any longer.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 02:57 AM
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I too am here. My friends are all “worried about me” because I have no desire to date or find someone. I just do not think a woman would add anything to my already busy life. I don’t wish to have any more kids, get married or even have a serious relationship again… so I see no point.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 03:29 PM
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Yes. The only thing that gives me comfort is knowing that nothing I did would’ve mattered. I could’ve been the greatest husband ever and she would have found fault with something, and the outcome would be the same.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 02:35 AM
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Same thing happened to me!! It was horrifying. Now I’m afraid to date at all because it might happen again.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:11 PM
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I’ve thought about it as well, but it’s illegal in the US and as a child support paying father, I can’t risk getting in that kind of trouble. I think as long as I could confirm that the escort is not being trafficked, I’d be fine with it morally. But if you do that, don’t tell ANYBODY in your personal life.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 03:53 PM
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Between work, 50/50 kids, hobbies and rebuilding a social life, I really don’t feel alone very often. At this point I don’t even feel like a woman would add anything to my life and would only make it more difficult. Life is simpler and much more peaceful now than when I was married. Sometimes i get lonely and even horny. But to be honest, I just jerk off and smoke a cigarette, and then i forget all about it and sleep like a baby. You’ll find your peace too!!
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 02:12 PM
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Seriously, take some time. You will experience the entire spectrum of emotions many times. One week you’ll feel great, the next you’ll feel like shit. You won’t be a good partner for anybody else until you heal yourself. I’m 11 months out from separation and 3 months from final divorce. I’m not ready yet. I’ve dated a few women, and they’ve all wanted more than I’m willing/able to give. So now I’ve stopped trying and am just living.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 03:16 AM
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His problem now! You just keep your life moving forward!!
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 08:25 PM
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Those female 3s and 4s would become 10s pretty quick on one those cruises. FIERCE competition.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 09:27 PM
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Most likely those singles cruises are a sausagefest.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 08:50 PM
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Yep. Between work, having kids 50/50, and having to give her all my money, I don’t have the ability to go anywhere. I’d love to go on a vacation by myself. It’s just not doable.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 08:49 PM
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Yep, endless thought loops is exactly what where I’m at now.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 08:47 PM
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Good call, that’s my next thing Is getting back to the gym.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 05:12 PM
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Yeah I’m kinda finding that too. This is my first summer as a single Dad. A lot of my friends are busy with vacations and doing activities with their still intact families. So I find myself a bit bored on the days I don’t have my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 05:11 PM
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For women, online dating is a catalog. For men, it’s the equivalent of lining up in gym class doing the “pick me dance”. No fucking thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 10:27 PM
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So I’ve dated 3 women since separation. They were all people I knew from before I separated. One woman was an old friend from high school who was also recently divorced. But now that those are over, I now know absolutely nobody that I could even potentially date. There aren’t many single age appropriate women in my small town. My friends try to tell me the answer is online dating. Meet new women outside of my usual radius. I haven’t tried online dating, but I know it’s not for me.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 06:29 PM
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I know it’s technically alright to do that. Other men get to do it all the time. But I have just been made to feel so guilty and bad about myself that I consider myself and my sexuality a threat to women. A horrible burden I would be placing on them just by my very existence.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 03:23 AM
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You touched on something I feel in my core. About even if you dated/got married, that glance would be the best part of the whole thing. I can’t help but think that even if I do end up with somebody, what’s the prize? Another woman to be disappointed in me? No thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 03:21 AM
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I try to be a man of good character. Meanwhile other men treat women like absolute dirt and get laid like tile. I refuse to be like that. I like the fact that I’m kind and respectful. Even if that gets me friendzoned by every woman I meet for the rest of my life, I don’t care. I like that about myself.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 03:19 AM
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I’m very strong and I eat a normal share of red meat.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 09:57 PM
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I would rather die with my unused dick in my hand than sign up for a dating app. I can’t imagine dealing with something so superficial.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 09:34 PM
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For 18 years I was with her. For 18 years I had to consult her on everything. Every decision I made was with her or the kids in mind in some way. She left 11 months ago, but I’ve only been divorced 2 months. I do not miss her. But I have no idea how to move on with my life. Thankfully I am still in my house. Thankfully i have 50/50 custody or our 2 kids. I still have the same job that keeps me busy. Life is about 90% the same, I just don’t have to deal with her being mad and disappointed in me a…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 10:14 PM
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I haven’t even attempted to pull ladies. I’ve had a few be interested and I’ve been on a few dates. But I can tell that as soon as I sleep with them they’re gonna get clingy and needy and want a relationship right away, and I can’t do it. The idea of another relationship literally makes me feel suffocated to think about.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 05:46 PM
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2 months out from finishing my divorce. I lost a lot, but I’m finally feeling some peace. I will NEVER get married again! I can’t see myself ever committing to another woman, or falling in love again.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 03:46 AM
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Thank you for saying that. At this point I consider myself a supporting character in their story rather than the star of my own. I would die lonely and penniless if it meant they could have a better start.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 02:11 AM
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Right. Now I’ve suffered a significant financial setback due to this divorce. I’m 43 so there’s still time to rebuild, but ultimately my kids are going to be the ones who suffer from my reduced assets and equity. If I got married again, my kids inheritance would be compromised as some of it might go to wife #2 and potentially her kids. I can’t risk it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 06:31 PM
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So true. Ugh all we can do is never make that mistake again.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 03:48 PM
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Yeah I don’t really care anymore. But when the divorce process began it was frustrating because it was ALL MY FAULT. (There was no abuse or infidelity)
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 10:37 PM
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Yep! It’s not that there are no good men out there. The good men just don’t rev their engine the way Chad and Tyrone do. They’d rather share a man like that then be with a guy who would give them everything.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 08:43 PM
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This all the way. I acknowledge the part I played in my marriage failing. Frankly it still keeps me up at night. But she will never acknowledge her faults. I truly think in her mind she feels that she was perfect and it’s all my fault. Any attempts to calmly discuss her role in that are turned around on me tenfold. It’s not worth even bringing it up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 06:13 PM
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lol okay whatever you wanna believe
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 12:40 AM
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You’re right. I just have to put myself in debt and sell off part of my business that I built without her help to get her paid.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 11:38 PM
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I’m in the same situation. Paid my ex wife 6 figures to keep my house and my business. Now she’s living like a kid in a candy store, and that includes taking the kids to Disney. I still paid for the trip, I just can’t go. It’s a bitter pill to swallow.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 12:50 AM
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Your situation is pretty much the same as mine. Don’t do anything before you’re ready. I found myself in situations where I was with 2 different women who had their clothes off and were ready to have sex. The first one I couldn’t get it up, I was feeling so many things all at once. The second woman I just froze and said I can’t do this. The last time I had sex with anybody else was 2006, and I was 23! The nearly dead bedroom with my ex has left me with very complicated feelings about sex. I almo…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 10:17 PM
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I was afraid that since we were still technically married, dating/sex could be construed as infidelity and bite me in the ass. Legally there’s nothing wrong with it, but don’t underestimate the power that a hurt woman can have on a lawyer/judge.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 10:08 PM
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I hesitate to speak for the OP, but it doesn’t really sound like he’s ready for it yet. His divorce won’t be final for 6 months, and that’s gonna be a long journey with a lot of pain between now and then.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 10:06 PM
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Definitely the same here. Once the divorce was finally OVER and there weren’t a million loose ends to tie up, the new normal finally began to take shape. It sucks and I’m still getting used to it. But I felt like my life was in some kind of holding pattern until the divorce was done. Took 10 months, and a lot of money. I hate to tell you but it’s gonna get worse before it gets better. It was the most stressful thing I’ve ever lived with. But I made it through the other side and I’m ready to star…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 05:33 PM
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Yep. Let those guys deal with all that drama and bullshit. Just focus on being the best version of yourself, and do it only for yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 07:07 PM
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I had women like that come on to me while I was in the most miserable stages of my marriage. I never once considered cheating or leaving… wasn’t worth it. The person with the most to lose is the one who suffers in the divorce. It’s just usually the man.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 07:03 PM
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Exactly. All my male friends think it’s either a license to act like a piece of shit, think that the connection they made was real, or they awkwardly sit there and watch and don’t tip anything. I prefer to go alone. Nobody else really seems to get it the way we do.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 04:30 PM
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So my divorced just finished. I’m not at a point where I am at all ready to date. I need to lose some weight first. People ask “why not get a FWB?” Again, need to lose weight first. Plus I just want peace and no drama in my life, after a pretty dramatic and stressful year in the divorce process. But I’m not dead. I still desire women. Prostitution is illegal so I won’t be doing that. Enter strip clubs. If you’re a respectful gentleman and you tip well, you’re head and shoulders above every other…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 03:01 PM
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I just make SO MUCH MONEY according to the courts that I have to pay 1500 per month in child support even though we are 50/50. The thing is, I don’t really make that much money. But I am worth a lot of money on paper, due to assets associated with my business. Meanwhile my wife is a poor school teacher single mom just struggling to make it on her own. So there we go.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/25 02:48 AM
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That’s for the woman to say, not you. They have the power to determine who is creepy and who isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 11:37 AM
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I’m a natural people person as well. For a guy who has made zero effort, I’ve had a few ladies who were interested, a couple to the point where I had to do a soft “breakup” with them even though we weren’t together. Point is there are options out there, I’m just not ready even a little bit. I refuse to try online dating, as it sounds miserable and doesn’t seem to really work out for many people that I know.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 12:12 AM
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Just got divorced. It’s this thought process that prevents from even caring about dating again. Best case scenario is that things work out and you end up in a long term relationship where she eventually grows to hate you no matter what you do. None of it is worth the effort.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/25 06:00 PM
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My CS is 1500 per month, and that’s for 50/50 custody. There’s absolutely no way that works out towards anything fair. Basically I took a “deal” on the divorce settlement (aka she was kind enough to not completely destroy me) and so as a result of that deal I pay sky high child support. There’s nothing that can be done… she’s the victim, I’m the villian… that’s how the courts see it. I never was abusive, and I didn’t cheat, I took care of everything for her. I will never marry again and at this …
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/25 06:58 PM
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lol absolutely not! I will never get married again, that much I’m sure of.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/25 12:53 PM
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Well considering my house is here, my business is here, and my kids are here…. Got not choice but to pay up and learn to like it! 😆
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 02:55 PM
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I got married when I was 26. It was just the next step in the relationship. It was just what I was supposed to do. I never dreamed she would do the things she has done to me. Young men need to be educated on just how much power women have over them.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 01:56 AM
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See that just seems like a good way to invite a lot of drama into your life.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 12:15 AM
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I don’t have a big enough ego to even assume I’ll ever have sex again. There a vasectomy is pointless. 😆
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 09:46 PM
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I’m 43, my divorce is almost final. I will be paying her a lot of money for the next decade or so. I have 2 kids and don’t want anymore. I refuse to ever get married again. I don’t even want to live with a woman ever again, or share finances. So I kinda find myself thinking “what is the point”? There’s literally nothing a woman could add to my life. Between 50/50 parenting, work, and trying to maintain a social life, I have a full plate as it is. I dabbled in dating a little bit after my wife le…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 09:38 PM
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This is great advice. I came to say the same thing, but this worded it perfectly. Treat the divorce like a business transaction with her and don’t give her the satisfaction of seeing you be emotional.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 03:20 PM
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The courts give them the power, not me. Definitely in the case of divorce. But also let’s say for just a moment that you go on a date with a girl and it doesn’t go well. She could blast you all up and down social media and destroy your reputation. Or suppose it goes well, you have sex, and then later decide she’s not the one. She can come at you with false rape charges, sexual harassment, etc. it’s her word against yours, and you don’t have a leg to stand on. Even if you don’t technically get ch…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 01:16 PM
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My divorce isn’t final yet, but I will not be in a hurry to date. I may never again. Right now it’s not even close to being worth the risk. I’m now acutely aware of how much power women have over us, and it’s not a position I ever want to be in again.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 04:24 PM
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My lawyer was able to get 200K knocked off my settlement, so that's something. The problem is I just make "SO MUCH MORE MONEY" than her.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 10:50 PM
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All I can do is make sure my kids know the dangers of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 04:44 AM
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They are the gatekeepers, unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 02:58 AM
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lol yeah I've heard that. But women usually only marry up!
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 02:55 AM
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If it weren’t illegal I’d definitely just visit an escort occasionally. But if I were to get busted for prostitution, bye bye 50/50 custody! It’s literally the only kind of relationship I have the time and energy for right now.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 09:39 PM
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Just enjoy being single and having your freedom for awhile. Don’t worry about your ex and who she’s dating. As long as it doesn’t harm your daughter in some way, it’s a non-issue for you. Your ex is his problem now! I went on a few dates following my separation and I also found it to be way too much work. I was not ready. I’m still not ready, and I know that. I don’t plan to be single forever, but right now The idea of a relationship makes me feel ill. I’m just gonna stay off the dating apps, li…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 09:36 PM
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6 months separated. I don’t plan to even try actively dating until my divorce is final, and I take some time to heal mentally and financially. I have sort of dated/fooled around with a couple women since, but they both wanted more than I am able/willing to provide at this time. I’m just trying to focus on getting through this divorce, and taking care of my kids/myself. I don’t have the time or energy to give anything to anybody else. I’ll get back out there when it feels right, but honestly righ…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 06:34 PM
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If I were the mom’s bf and my dog attacked a child, that dog would be gone. One way or another.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 03:18 AM
2

Same thing happened to me. It wasn’t fair to her.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 03:16 AM
1

This is all the advice you need.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 12:59 AM
8

Give yourself time. I know I’m not ready yet. Even if my dream woman were to come along, I’d tell her to move along.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 12:57 AM
13

If any dog of mine attacked any child, that’d be a dead dog. I don’t understand people.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 12:55 AM
3

My divorce isn’t even final yet, and I’ve dated a couple women… and I can say that I am not interested AT ALL right now. I don’t have it in me to deal with any of that bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 07:05 PM
3

You and me both, no way around it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 11:30 PM
4

Also whoever makes the most money probably gets screwed harder.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 09:38 PM
4

In every situation I’ve ever heard of, including my own, the woman always says at first that they don’t want X, Y or Z. Only to turn around later and demand all of those things and more. Words like “entitled” get thrown around by lawyers, and their friends and family get in their ears, and suddenly they are the victim. I could hardly believe my eyes when I saw just how much the system skews in favor of the woman/mother. Don’t believe a word out of her mouth… they are strategizing to extract as m…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 04:35 PM
2

I’m in a similar situation, and I’m considering firing my lawyer. Feels like he has done nothing for me except push papers around to make it easier for my ex wife’s lawyer to walk all over me. Getting nickel and dimed to death myself, and now I’ve been informed I have to cover my wife’s lawyers retainer as well. I feel like it’s just kind of a universal thing I’ve been running into, where everyone just assumes that I am gonna get screwed no matter what because I’m a man. I have absolutely no rig…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 01:02 PM
1

In the long run, no, it is not cheaper to keep her. But if you do pursue a divorce, be advised that you are most likely going to take a huge hit that will take some time to recover from. Short term you will probably be in a hole and you may regret your decision. But you can always make more money and rebuild your life making good financial decisions, and you’ll come out ahead before you know it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 03:16 PM
2

I feel like if I date anybody while separated, or even have sex at all and my ex wife finds out, that will negatively impact me in the divorce settlement. Not gonna risk it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 01:51 AM
7

I agree. I’m in the middle of the divorce process. You always hear about how the divorce process favors women and fucks over men, but it’s really quite something to witness it in person! I have reached the point where I no longer give a shit about money. If she takes it all, then I will just be poor and then she’ll have nothing left to take. Whatever she gets she will blow through and be stupid about money and be broke in a few years anyway. Meanwhile I will only be making smart financial choice…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 01:35 PM
1

This exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 01:58 AM
1

I too am in a DB. I feel your pain, it's awful. Over the years I've thought about having an affair, and have come close enough a few times that I had to pull myself back. But if you are going to go that route, "Don't shit where you eat", as the scholars say. Don't hit on your wife's friend. It's got to be somebody anonymous that doesn't know anybody that you know.
/r/MenSupportMen28/07/24 08:07 PM
1

Sometimes it’s not that simple. In my situation a divorce would mean I become weekend dad at best, and I would lose my ass financially and everything I’ve spent my adult life working for. Because of this, she has all the power. I have a lot to lose and she has a lot to take. And so, the only recourse is to suffer in silence and keep working and making money to support a wife who never thinks anything I do is good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:41 PM
3

When I was 22 I was dumped by my long time girlfriend, who I assumed I was going to marry. I went through a bout a year of being a “nice guy” and actively tried and failed with girls. Then finally I just said FUCK IT and quit trying. I just focused on myself and having fun with my friends. I gained confidence, and I eventually got to a point where I seriously did not care if any given girl liked me or not. And suddenly, as if by magic, the girls started lining up. I had so many options. And the …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:48 AM
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