Wife left me (42M) in July. Divorce is pretty much finalized, swore in front of judge already, all that's left to do is sign papers. 50/50 custody. Kids seem to be adjusting to their new life just fine. There was no abuse or infidelity, definitely not on my part.

Man I am getting destroyed financially. I can't go into too much detail, but it's absolutely brutal. I am probably going to have to sell my business. My child support is the highest I've ever heard anybody pay, and I have them 50/50. I'm so depressed. I am constantly trying to think of ways to swing this so that I don't have to lose my ass. I spent my adult life trying to build myself up, and build a better life for my family... Turns out that was a mistake. Every week, every day... more bad news arrives. Every time my lawyer calls, it's just more depressing news. Every time my ex-wife calls, it's also more depressing news. I'm trying to be strong for my kids, and it gets harder all the time. I can't afford to do anything fun with them now.

All i can say is that I will 100% never get married again. The system is stacked against us. It's like I have no rights at all. I was born with a penis, and I dared to try to make a decent living to provide for my family... now I must pay the price. I can't even date right now if I wanted to, because I am absolutely ruined. I'm not a suitable partner for anyone.