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Thank you so so much for your kind words. I am sitting here crying. I did not cry for many years. It is 5:55 here, I am actually supposed to debug some code. You are right. The house is a symbol of how much I managed to give. It was not enough but it was not my doing. I will keep fighting. I don't really know what for. Yes they need me. But I dont even have the means to really be there for them. They are so far away. How much can I really influence them in a positive way? ALl we ever do is play …
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/26 04:59 AM
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Why the fuck is that so accurate?
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/26 04:31 AM
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If I only learned that before giving her every leverage she could possibly get (the kids / majority custody). I will bleed for the next 15 years. I have no idea how to stop hemorrhaging.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/26 04:31 AM
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Depends on home ownership. Do you live in a house which you own? Don't move out just yet. Do you rent and don't want to stay anyway - maybe yes. It also depends on if you got kids that you would just abandon by moving out, not a good look.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 08:55 AM
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Yeah, that's what I thought - mother and father. Guess what - after ten years and two kids she fucked another guy. And then the courts fucked me. They now live two hours away with her affair partner, and I pay through the nose for all of it. Good luck, though.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 07:29 PM
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"The next girl"??? Lol, there will be no next "girl"
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 07:26 PM
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Damn that sounds rough as well. Yes, I guess thats the only way forward. I'm also on the path - taking really good care of myself, been in really good shape physically. Mentally I am not doing too great, but I kind of don't want to accept that this could very well be depression. Maybe I will try some talking therapy but honestly I don't believe that talking to a stranger could really do much. Its only been two years, maybe it will get better with time - probably.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 05:20 PM
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She took a part time job when the kids were 2 and 4 - where she met some MLM lunatic that told her how amazing thus is... it went all to shit from then on, when she demanded that she use our living room once a month for these MLM events.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 05:14 PM
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Well, let me know if you ever find out how to possibly fix this 😅 I already tried abstaining from coffee, all the supplements, no-fap, no-porn... nothing does anything.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 12:38 PM
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Jup - one of the bigger reasons she left was because I did all the financial lifting, and she sort of depended on my agreeing to larger expenses. "We" (I) had just bought a house for our family - a huge mortgage. My number one priority was to reduce the mortgage early on and fast, so I worked my ass off and also wanted to not go on bigger vacations to save money. Also, the kids were 2 and 4, and honestly, it was not a great vision for me to go on vacation with two small children. Sounded more st…
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 05:03 AM
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Well for one I would not have had to pay half of my house which I alone had had paid for before.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 10:48 AM
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Jup, I am exactly the same. Divorced start 2023, in a long term relationship now, very hot and sweet girlfriend. I just have absolutely no desire anymore, not even to masturbate. We do it every other weekend and it gets quite freaky (which I love and 23 year old me would have celebrated and gone to town 4x a day). It is extremely frustrating and I have no idea how to fix it. I am in good shape, testosterone is high (went to a doctor). Got Cialis and the diagnosis, that its all psychological. I c…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 10:46 AM
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It's been two years, and I am still working on forgiving. But not her - I will never forgive what she has done and how much she plainly just stole. I want to forgive myself for being so terribly stupid, gullible, and trusting. I just married without a second thought about it. I was the high earner and I just fucked myself really bad. Prenup would have gone a long way. I will eventually manage to forgive myself and forget about the loss of my money as well as my kids' childhood. I will never forg…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 05:36 AM
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I have the same issues. It is now two years later and still not fixed. I am with my girlfriend for over a year now, everything is way better. Our sex is also absolutely great, but the feeling and the hardness are often not as I would perceive as normal. Blood work normal, fit guy, 43. I take Cialis for the last two years now (very low dose). My urologist says the dose is so low, that it should not have a physiological effect so it's probably all psychological. I am not sure, I am convinced that …
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 04:14 AM
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15/85 - I have them every other weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 04:58 AM
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I don't know what to say. It is absolutely appalling. Unfortunately, I can relate pretty well since my ex did the same thing two years ago. We had everything - two kids (5 and 7) did not want for anything. We had I house with backyard, she was SAHM, I was working but also doing chores, helping with the children, etc. Everything as you would imagine it should be - of course, no abuse or anything like that. Well, she obviously got bored and found an affair partner. That part I realized only after …
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 01:24 PM
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Never paid child support and alimony for 15 years, eh? lol... my ex ruined me permanently. Here in Europe child support (for two kids) will eventually be 40% of my net income btw. Month after month after month, year after year after year. The kids are now 5 and 7 and if they decide to university I will pay until they are 27. Yes - that will be exactly until my retirement. But I am still trucking on, what else is there to do. EDIT: Needless to say, that I did not really do anything wrong but be a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 04:22 AM
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Not really, since I am not sure if he even knew. My ex moved in with our two kids to "her new boyfriend" just three months after the divorce. He lives two hours away - in the same city where she had multiple week-long seminars the year prior.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 04:19 AM
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For sure - if someone would just have sat me down and said: "Look, you already earn four times as much as her - you will probably pay for everything (including a house). Do you really want to have it split 50/50 in case something were to go wrong? Do you want to gift her half the house that you will have paid for all alone?" It seems like a huge intentional trap to get men pay for mothers and their children. Does not really matter that these men are also fathers to these same children.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 07:53 AM
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Cordial because she could financially hurt me even more than she already did (two small kids) - otherwise I wish her new boyfriend (affair partner) would dump her ass and she could then realize that with almost 40 she is not really hot shit anymore and men only use her for a quick pump and dump. Fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 12:13 PM
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As if you could keep your money if you gave up your kids 💀
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 10:52 AM
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100% what my ex-wife did. Sacrificed her family for her happiness. Well, I guess I was a fool to do it the other way around for 13 years prior. Family court confirmed that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 06:13 AM
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It takes a lot of time to be ok again. Sometimes, I am still not and feel torn at the seams, but little by little, you will get better. It is a profound life change. You never expect it - catches you by surprise. I thought I would just build and build and build and in the end we would be a happy "dynasty" - two grown adult children and two old farts, still together through thick and thin, proud of all they accomplished "together" (mostly on my back, but whatever). Oh well, plans change - it is n…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/24 07:35 AM
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I can tell you that my life has vastly improved since that money and energy vampire no longer leeches on my back. I found a sweet girlfriend who is really fond of my kids. Maybe it helps, that I only got them every other weekend, the rest of the time they are with their mother - she made sure of that, when she moved two hours away to her affair partner. You know how family courts are 🤷🏻‍♂️ But it has its upsides - as I said, my life is great. The time I have with the kids is always fun, and ever…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/24 06:46 AM
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I see them every other weekend and I will make a very nice time for us. They, unfortunately, are no longer my responsibility - my ex-wife took care of that. They live two hours away. I will support them as best I can. Whatever good or bad outcome they will have in life is now entirely on her - for better or worse. If she deems it ok to have them disciplined by her affair partner, so be it. I have no say in that. A lopsided family law took care of that.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 10:31 AM
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Sure feels like it was only makebelieve from the get go
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 05:37 AM
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Yeah, but nowadays its more like "pretending to be a victom for so long". The pendulum will smack back hard (at least I hope so)
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 05:34 AM
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I unfortunately was not told. Wish I would have been, although I probably still would have believed in her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 05:32 AM
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For sure - it is crazy to me how everyone commends me for how well I handle all of this. What choice does a man have in this world? I am supposed to function and work. If not, I will lose my livelihood. If that happens, I will STILL have to pay child support in a hight so ridiculous, that I can't even comprehend it. I will just lose my home, my car and probably my dignity. So I carry on, keep it together, put on a brave face and sometimes in a quiet moment, I wonder how the fuck everything feels…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 01:07 PM
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I found my current girlfriend of two years right after separation. I was severely traumatized (still working through this shit) since I got a very raw deal. Ex cheated on me, I did not find out until later in the process when I already had given her considerably more than I would have needed to (out of loyalty and fairness). She led me to believe that she was just not happy anymore when in fact she was fucking some asshole that aligned better with her worldview of the day. So I lost a lot, inclu…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 03:25 AM
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Because she switched her life into easy mode while mine got extra hard. She did not even plan it like this, family law just did it for her - as reward for cheating and ripping apart our family and steal the father from our children. Might be that I am richer in 10 years. But not nearly as rich as we would have been as a family.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 06:19 AM
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No, not this asshole has broken your family. It is the other asshole, the one demanding you break with your folks because of fucking politics. I mean, is she serious?
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 06:56 PM
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Fuck, that's brutal. I am so sorry for you and deeply commiserate. I also did the same thing. Acquired a house that she never in a million years could have had on her own. Fortunately, she showed her true colors a bit earlier, cheated (two small kids, ffs!) only two years after we moved there. I only figured it out after she moved (with my kids) two hours away to her "new boyfriend". That was three months after separation. Sure, must be a very "new" guy to move your children to already. I am so …
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 05:44 AM
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Binged Dr. Mike Isratel youtube channel. Implemented strict protein + calories focused diet Trained hard 3x a week One year later, I got an extremely awesome look (Sixpack and all), feel amazing (skin condition cleared up, back pain under control). I also landed a sweet, funny and sexy girlfriend.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 09:11 AM
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Sounds a bit like a normal course of life after having a baby - focus shifts, hormones are fucked and kids demand a lot. From how I read it, I would say do not be do quick to throw divorce around. Not in words but also not in thoughts. Try to work on yourself and try to communicate. There is certainly a middle ground to be dug out in regard to intimacy (particularly if it is regarding cuddling, touching, etc.). And twice a month sex is on the low side, but not completely preposterous when you go…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 08:15 AM
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Same situation. Will pay until my mid 50s at least (2 kids, she got majority custody). The divorce was very expensive. I earn not bad and because of that I got severely punished (just as you describe). Almost lost the house, lost all savings. It was hard to swallow. She cheated and left for her new branch btw. BUT: I love my life now. I see the kids every other weekend which is fine. I was never the driving force behind having kids so it was always agreed that I would provide while she would mos…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 04:42 AM
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I was in the same situation. But you know what? You are the one who earned it, and you know how to work hard. You will get back to where you were in no time. She, on the other hand, will spend the money on frivolous shit and when it's gone, she will finally realize what you brought to the table. It is only two years later, and thanks to inflation (pay raises) and a fixed mortgage rate, I earned back all I had to pay her for a half of the house that I alone had paid for in the first place. Good o…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 06:44 PM
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I also have 2. They were 5 and 7. Now almost 7 and 9. So, two years have gone by. I can honestly say that my situation is a lot better and the kids are happy. Probably not as happy as growing up within an intact family, but they are doing OK. Chin up, you got this.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 03:02 PM
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The point is: wealth transfer, otherwise who would spend your hard earned cash and pay vat? Your frugal, responsible ass? Gtfo! Sorry bro, it blows. Upside is: you learned a valuable lesson and since you did not mention kids, it was probably cheaper than it could have been. Just don't do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 02:11 PM
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Look up an exercise called "glute pumps" to activate them. Then do "Hip Thrusts". For me the classic butt exercise (squats) does almost nothing, since I mostly hit the quads, but hip thrusts and glute activation do the trick. I do not have the best butt, but not the worst either.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 02:26 PM
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I could not care less about how much or little fun she has with her new guy. I don't care about her at all. I think that is the mindset you might eventually want to strive for, hard as it might be. Probably takes time and also improvement of your own circumstances. I can say the above because I care about how much fun my current girlfriend has with me and vice versa. I just don't really care about my ex-wife.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 05:22 AM
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For me it is already about two years in the rear view mirror. Together 13 years, two young kids (5 and 7 at the time). She basically cheated (found that out after finalizing) and told me "just not happy anymore". I gave her a lot of money, kept the house. She moved out and then just a short while later, I got the whole story - when she took my children and moved them 2 hours away to her "new boyfriend". I thought I could not survive. Financially I was in dire straights since I gave her all the m…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 03:47 AM
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Well I married someone with which I thought I would not have to do things like this. Guess how it turned out...
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 04:38 AM
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Certainly, a lesson so expensive and cruel, it is hard to forget or unlearn.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:29 AM
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Sorry, but not "everyone knows its a trap". If I knew that, I would certainly have reconsidered. I was absolutely brainwashed by society's notion of romance and "being a man, doing the right thing". That was just, what I was supposed to do. I even got the fucking "speech" by some asshole I did not even know that well. "Oh you are already together three years? When will you make an honest woman out of her?". That kind of shit really coaxes a lot of men into that stupid trap. Now I am 43 and I wil…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:51 AM
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I got divorced because she started an affair, then deemed her affair partner a better life partner and proceeded to instigate fight after fight. Not long after she hit me with the old "I am just not happy anymore" (I knew nothing of the affair). We were married for 10 years, together for 13. We have 2 children (very small at the time) and I had just bought us a house. Three months after the divorce she moved 2h away with my 2 children to her "new boyfriend" (affair partner). The new guy has a ch…
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 03:27 AM
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Because the first one set a prescendence - before getting divorced (driven solely by my ex-wife), I was not aware that marriages could just be divorced. I mean I knew it happens. Just not to me, since we swore an oath. Now I know. But that is actually the reason I will NEVER get divorced again, since I will never enter such a lopsided contract. Learned a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 03:14 AM
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Yeah - she destroyed a decent man, out came a more guarded, a bit more selfish man. "No more Mr. Nice Guy" I guess - although I did not read to book. It just does that to a man, when he gets cheated on and fucked over for no real reason other than she felt like it - just driven by the emotion of the day.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 12:28 PM
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Can't say it did for me. I found someone new and I love her. But it is not the same kind of love. I will never feel the same again. Everything seems blunted, and I feel numb. I have lost the capacity to cry. Same as you, though. I enjoy things. I enjoy pumping in the gym and having sex with my GF (if it works anyway since I have been dealing with ED since the divorce, but Cialis works). My life is good, no real troubles except only seeing my kids every other weekend and slowly feeling them growi…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 04:02 AM
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Totally worth fighting for. Because in a few months to years you will just feel bad about all the money the c*nt got "for free" off you back. It is your money, that YOU worked for, I would assume. I was "nice" enough to not fight - gave her a lot more than I would have had to. Was rewarded with the info that she would move (with our kids) to her "new boyfriend". That was three months after finalizing. Of course during divorce it was agreed that she would stick around with the kids so we both cou…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 12:37 PM
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Don't ever do that again - she even might be "the one". Ten years down the line, she could still very well be "the one" that ruined your life, possibly your children's lives. Trust me, I've experienced it. Will still be paying for the next 15 years for my two kids that I only see every other week. Much more money (mandated by court) than two still small children would ever need or would cost if they would still live in my house. 10 years married, 13 together. For the house (that I alone paid for…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 08:56 AM
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Pretty much what I was planning to do, thanks for confirming. And regarding being "kind of an asshole" - I guess my time as a "nice guy" is slowly coming to an end as well...
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 02:31 PM
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Short and sweet: no. Long answer Nooooooooo! (fuck no). I gave her everything she wanted (what a "nice guy" I was). In return she got bored, started an affair, instigated fight after fight until she hit me with the old "I am just not happy anymore". Four months later I was divorced and she moved out with our two small children (5 and 7) who's world got uprooted. She took literally all the money I had saved (as a security pillow, I am self-employed). In exchange, I got to keep the house (still he…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 06:19 AM
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Must be part of it. My parents both would have individually had worse lives than they had sticking together. Not in my case. My ex gets a ridiculous amount of money. She destroyed my life and lives a "single mom life" (+ boyfriend / affair partner), but she has the equivalent of a full-time salary, which she gets paid by me. Maybe if she had not been rewarded so handsomely, she would have put in a bit more energy into our relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 10:13 AM
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Yes, pretty sheltered - my parents raised four kids and went through thick and thin. Not much contact to divorcees either. I just wish at least one man would have taken me aside and given me the talk. Never happened. Maybe I was too gullible. I thought marriage is forever and a promise to figure it out rather than breaking up the family (particularly when there are kids). Oh well - live and learn. Expensive lesson, though.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 09:28 AM
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"knowingly signed up for"? Lol, speak for yourself. I was too young and stupid to realize what that "grand romantic gesture" actually entailed.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 08:58 AM
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Even child support is ridiculously high in Europe. Up to 42% of my net. I am a successful IT freelancer, and my ex-wife pretty much can live off what she gets fr our two kids. She does not have to justify how she spends the money, and I am pretty sure the three vacations she went on last year were funded by my child support. It is frustrating.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 05:33 PM
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More like marriage is not worth it (particularly for men). Your are correct. Divorce is inescapable - in my case, my ex-wife just cheated and thought the other bloke to be better-suited. We had two small children at the time and I was the sole provider. I got fleeced good and for no other reason than because I was always extremely hard working, did provide a lot and wanted the best for my kids. Now they live predominantly with their mother and I can pay boatloads of money. I wish I never married…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 04:07 AM
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You have no idea. I would like to cry, but I am unable to. Lost this ability over the years. I am just numb most of the time. Talking therapy starts in two weeks. I hope that it can help me.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 04:09 AM
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I can't get it up after the divorce and my libido tanked to zero as well. So there is that... I have absolutely no interest in sex. It is concerning but also a bit liberating. Only problem - I was stupid enough to get a girlfriend anyway (out of loneliness). She now more or less expects to have sex 1-2x a week. I can do it with Cialis, but it is mostly pretending for me. Not a good spot to be in. If nothing changes, I must cut her lose - and then it will probably be celibacy for me.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 03:16 AM
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Yes, that hindsight is extremely tough to handle. Even 18 months later, not a day goes by where I don't ask myself how I could have been so gullible and stupid. I should have gotten everything in writing - e.g. that the kids would grow up in the vicinity - exactly what and how we were talking about. She lied to me from start to finish and was probably really pleased with herself at how easy she could handle me.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 11:45 AM
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Yeah sure.... my ex-wife did the same thing. When we were in the thick of it, she said two things: "I am just not ready for any relationship, I will probably be forever alone - at least for a long time". And also: "We might try again, once I am ready and healed" (whatever that was supposed to mean). We have TWO KIDS! They were 5 and 7 at the time. She blew up our family - and basically for nothing. "I am not happy anymore" was all I ever got. I am no cheater, no drinker, not violent. I am a good…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 04:37 AM
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It is just not sensible for a man to marry. You get fleeced no matter what.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 01:42 PM
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It also projects discipline, conscientiousness, grit, fitness, and being health oriented. Boy, am I glad that at 18, I had no self-esteem whatsoever and started to go to the gym. Now 42, still low self-esteem and hard time approaching women. But I look fine (not) doing it 😂
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 07:23 AM
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Would be nice, but inflation will not help if she runs to court every year and gets it adapted. Here in Europe, at least they can do that. So it will not stay at the level that was determined at the moment of divorce. Will also grow at certain age inflection points - when the kids are 10, 15, 18. I will eventually be paying 42% of my net to her. Hopefully, until then, I will have paid off the mortgage because otherwise, I will still lose the house.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 04:41 AM
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18 months after the divorce, she is still living her "best life." She stole the children (5m and 7f) away and lives with them at her affair partners' place two hours away. The guy has a kid (12m) of his own, and the five live in a 90m² apartment. She left a house in the suburbs with 270m² and a 600m² backyard. For now, she seems blissful every time I have the displeasure to interact (when I get the kids for a WE every other week). I still was able to keep the house. I would say emotionally. I am…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 04:20 AM
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How is that possible? You surely are eligible to half of the martial assets?
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 03:59 AM
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As are mine
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 04:39 PM
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I have the same experience 42 years old, with my new GF for 18 months now. I have no drive at all, no Lexapro or anything. Testosteron in 800s (pretty high for my age). Regular lifting since I was 18. I went to the doctor, everything was normal. I would say that I handled the divorce surprisingly well even though she did me hella dirty. Maybe I completely suppressed it all, and that's why. Anyway, I have been taking 5mg Cialis every other day for a year now, which works very well. So the GF is h…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 04:22 PM
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Marriage is so corrupt that it can even turn the right person into the wrong one. Lopsided bullshit, enforced by societal habits.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 02:20 PM
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I am the prize. It is not enough to have a vagina to enjoy my company and everything I have to offer. As a young man, I thought that I was lucky if a woman gave me the time of day. I did not recognize my own value and especially my potential. Now that that potential has been realized (and partially destroyed by a cunt that did not value me), I know my worth. My current girlfriend knows and feels this - that she better bring her A-game and constantly work on herself to keep me. I do the same anyw…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 07:28 AM
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You can do whatever you want with your money. It is yours to distribute however you see fit. Added bonus: you will not have to concern yourself with any fallout since you will be dead 😉
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 07:28 AM
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One can only hope. Same story. Upper middle class, 13 years together, 10 married, two kids 5 and 7. She "just was not happy anymore". No big fighting, no infidelity, no violence (of course), no alcohol abuse. Just a family living and building. I guess it got too boring for her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 09:38 PM
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Living in the past only fosters regret, living in the future only anxiety. Embrace the present.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 01:16 PM
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I'm still waiting for the last bit (getting contacted again). It would be just too precious to hear how she made the biggest mistake of her life, how sorry she is, how good we have had it, and so on and so forth. I don't really need it, I am happy with what my life has become over the last 18 months. It would just be the cherry on top. The kids suffered immensely, and she did not care one bit. For that alone, my hate is immeasurable.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 03:16 AM
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I absolutely concur. Since I paid for the thing anyway (even double since I had to pay half to her again after paying for the house by myself anyway), I think I earned it lol.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 04:24 AM
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I just did not give a fuck, was glad she was gone. First step was to take all her stupid clutter decorations and throw it in the garbage. There are different kinds of divorces it seems. She took my children and a large chunk of money because she was "just not happy anymore" - and fucked some other dude behind my back. I only found that one out a few weeks after finalizing, when she suddenly moved from the flat that was 2 minutes away to her "new boyfriend" two hours away - with our kids. She has…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 04:23 AM
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After the first paragraph I was like "but I DID provide very much financial stability!?". After the second paragraph: "Oh yeah, that pretty much describes my ex-wife". Fuck all these "I am not happy anymore" egocentric assholes. May they rot in perpetual unhappiness and misery. Destroying something really good, because they were too stupid and in fact lazy to find happiness where it could have been SO EASILY obtained.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 09:18 AM
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I actually am struggling with a slight case of erectile dysfunction. Not severe, but not perfect either. It's been slowly coming on over the years (42 now) so not really related to the divorce (but hasn't helped either of course). I have tried nofap for 4 weeks and can honestly say that it helped fuck all. It is complete bro-science.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 04:18 AM
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In my case the condition even was kids 😂 I am such a stupid asshole not to realize what she was and what I was to her. "Kids or we might not be right for each other". Well, two kids and 7 years later I am divorced anyway but now I got to experience the joy of (overpaying)paying for two kids that live two hours away. I love them, but I wish I never had them. You are right - kids are a turning point - the more she realizes how fucked you would be in case of divorce, the more of an entitled asshole…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 04:09 AM
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Dont sign anything and certainly dont believe whatever she tells you. Ask a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 02:27 PM
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Haha, you must be a coder - a real structured approach! Yes, you are right - these are my options. I think it is not that bad to keep the house though, since I a) like living there - even though it is much too big for just me (and the gf at the moment) b) I am in the fortunate situation that I can actually afford it. It's not easy, and I do not do a lot of vacations, but I am not living hand to mouth either. It is just a bit too much work in the backyard and I would never have bought that monstr…
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 12:05 PM
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My kids are not living with me. She took them to live with her new boyfriend in a flat 2h away.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 11:30 AM
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Yes, I am facing the same question. I kept the house, she moved out. The kids now live 2 hours away. Not that I wanted any of that. It was agreed, that she would stay in the neighborhood so the children could visit and play anytime they want (they are only 6 and 8). But I was an idiot and did not get that in writing. A very short time after the divorce she moved them to her "new" boyfriend. That's when I found out how completely she really fucked me over. Had been having an affair, planning all …
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 03:47 AM
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Men are builders. Women like to tear down. And the state incentivises them. No thanks. I already lost about € 600k and my family. € 600k represents the net earnings of the 10 best earning years of my life. I simply could not afford to lose that a second time. Also, I resent giving it to someone who just felt like destroying everything on a whim. "I am just not happy anymore"? What a joke.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 04:50 AM
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Then she first and foremost wants financial security and you are the one providing. If it does not work out YOU will pay. Even if you dud everything perfect. She might fancy a change in her life, get bored, whatever - you will pay. Depending on children you will pay a LOT. Do not let yourself get suckered into that wirh emotional blackmail. If it comes to that and she basically tries the "marriage or we are done" (even if packaged nicer) you know she wants to take advantage of you. There literal…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 05:09 PM
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Heh - here in Europe it would not even be an option to work (earn) less, because they would accuse you of deliberately sabotaging your obligation to support the kids to the best of your ability. They would still demand CS based on your higher earning potential. It's called "Anspannungsgrundsatz" and "anspannen" literally means to strap a horse in front of a carriage. Its fucked up.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/24 06:11 AM
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Yeah that karma thing was more tongue in cheek, I don't really believe in anything that is not rooted in science. I am in the same boat as you - kids are small (7 and 9) and I will be paying for at least 10 years, amount will go up progressively as they get older. So I will not be able to support someone else either - but that's ok since I would never want to do that again anyway. People (women?) change on a whim, not trusting in their loyalty or fairness again after being burned that bad. I don…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/24 05:56 AM
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This approach is what works for me as well. I am more direct in my thinking though. Along the lines of "some people are just assholes, they can't help themselves. No reason to further ruminate". My ex definitely got one over on me. First came "we need to have children or this relationship has no future". Then 7 years later and with a 4 and 6 year old (I love them to death, even though I initially did not want kids), she began an affair. Of course I was the sole provider and a very good earner. A…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/24 05:02 AM
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No, "no sex after 10 years" is also not ok. Why would it be? Or should men stop to provide after 10 years? Or stop doing other responsibilities? And now I have made it sound like it is a duty, which it is not supposed to be. It is something enjoyable for both parties. And to keep it enjoyable both have to work at it and with each other. If one of the two (usually the woman) just says - "ah fuck it, I can't be bothered anymore" I would say the relationship is over. Just for that alone - because w…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/24 04:27 AM
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That is why I say that marriage is just a scam on men these days. Either everything works great (minority of cases) or it is the man who gets fucked in 95% of all cases. Severely fucked, losing everything and getting degraded to ATM on legs for a iloyal cunt.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 05:58 AM
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Lucky be the guy who is childless. Fuck I wish I would not be entangled with that cheating whore for another 15 years. In addition to about 700k CS + what she got in the split (never earned any of it herself).
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 11:09 AM
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Compared to my lovely cheating freeloader wife divorcing me after 2 kids and 13 years, it would literally have cost me half to just hire an escort or go to a prostitute EVERY SINGLE WEEK of these 13 years. Just a thought.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 08:57 AM
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Dude, there is most definitely an out. Do not fall for the "sunk cost fallacy". And by the way, you have not really accrued that much sunk cost. Definitely don't have a second child with that "partner." Ask yourself what she actually brings to the table. If it is not enough, then divorce her freeloading ass. That is, btw. what I wish I would have done instead of having a second child, paying for a bigget house, doing all the work (sole provider, house work, lots of child rearing) just so she cou…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 12:58 AM
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Holy shit, what useless drivel did I just read? Sure buddy. I could in detail explain to you how my wife did not give me any indication but just got a bit bored after having two children and moving into a very nice house in the suburbs (all on my dime and very hard work as a freelancer). Yes, she got bored, was not content and after 13 years and with two small children in the picture started an affair. She obviously thought that was much better than our relationship - so much more exciting, very…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 03:06 PM
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Jup, sounds pretty familiar.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 09:52 AM
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I am pretty sure there is a considerable number of women that marry some dude just because it seems like a nice, well provided for, comfortable life to be had - not because they have actual feelings for the man. And therefore of course they don't really care about his feelings all that much. It might be important to them to keep him happy to the extent to not rock the boat but other than that, they are indifferent. They are in love with the lifestyle and maybe the idea of being married, but that…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 01:08 PM
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This too will pass. All this talk about permanent solution to a temporary problem. It all sounds so cliché but I promise you, its true. With a little distance to all this shit you will be a happier, calmer person and you will be incredibly glad that you did not implement the ultimate solution. You got nice things ahead of you - a stressfree life without a cunt-anchor weighing you down.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 12:05 PM
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I have nothing to add to the excellent comment by u/upvotersfortruth, just wanted to drop in and say hang in there, you got this. I am divorced for 1,5 years now and was also just numb at first. It has had its ups and downs but now I am in a much happier situation. I love being divorced from that woman, she did me the biggest favor (she left for another man after 13 years and with two small kids in the mix). The ones that lost the most are our children but that is entirely on her since I would n…
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 04:41 AM
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It was certainly true in my case.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 03:01 PM
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Welcome to the world of strong, independent women. It would be laughable if it were not so damaging to some poor schmuck paying for it. I feel you - my ex gets more than a median salary from me.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 03:02 AM
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Better yet - dont get married at all. What's the upside?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 06:58 PM
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Why do you even concern yourself with the topic after 26 years? I am 42, divorced for 2, 2 kids, 6 and 8 years old. I barely speak to the mother as it is - kid exchange every other weekend: "hi" "bye." Once the kids are a bit older and maybe make the trip on their own, I hopefully won't have a reason to interact with my ex at all.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 10:25 PM
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If she is pressuring you, she is not the right one, as simple as that. I would question why she wants you to sign a contract where you most likely are in a weaker position afterwards (and her in a stronger). Did you talk to her about a prenup?
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 07:27 PM
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Combine that with the fact that family law puts men in a very weak position (do what makes her happy or else...). No wonder, marriage is a shitshow in most cases.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 09:04 AM
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With 35 looking for a husband to have her own kids? Says it all if you ask me. Why was she not able to find a decent feller to marry in her early 20s? Probably fucked around and declined a few nice men and potentially great husbands on the way just to ride the carousel a bit more... Damaged goods through and through.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 06:22 AM
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Only one thing to do with those profiles... just ignore. May they live happily ever after - probably alone. Men don't give a shit about the economic status of women (that's why we ended up fleeced in divorce in the first place lol). We care about a good heart, sweet personality, and a spectacular butt or chest. So yes, these 40 year old egoistic harpies / parasites / family destroyers exist... just leave them to their delusions and swipe left. I am 42 (divorced, 2 kids) and my GF 29, I would nev…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:01 AM
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Pro level rage baiting 😂
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 02:41 PM
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Lawyer up, pronto! Sorry you have to go through this 🫤
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 07:11 AM
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Exactly like my ex. Went for her affair partner out of boredom. We had a wonderful family, two small kids, a nice home, and a backyard. No issues in the relationship. Even sex was pretty good (considering the two kids aged 5 and 7). But nooooo, it was too boring for her and she was afraid to never experience anything else in life! So with 35 she had no time left to enjoy all that we had built and instead fucked me over and destroyed the stable home of our children.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 10:37 AM
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At least don't do it a third time.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 02:56 PM
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Mine are only 6 and 8. I am also so sorry for them to have to grow up under these circumstances for no particular reason or fault of my own. She just decided to be a bit bored and not happy anymore (after we had just moved from our rented flat into a beautiful home in the subs with backyard for the children). Started an affair (unbeknownst to me) and then instigated one fight after another until she had me convinced to get divorced. What a fucking lunatic. I am curious if the kids will realize w…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 08:22 AM
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Same... she took them two hours away, so there is no easy way for me to just see them spontaneously. We have every other weekend How old are your kids?
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 07:05 AM
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Hit me like a million bricks when she told me that she would now move in with this "new" boyfriend, taking our children with her (three hours away). She had led me to believe that the kids and her would stay in the same town. Three months after the divorce, the "new" boyfriend was introduced (such a coincidence, an old acquaintance from her past!), and not long after, my children were moved. Ripping them out of elementary school, away from all their friends. May she go to hell for what she did t…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 06:08 AM
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Probably what my ex-wife did... instigating fights over nothing just to make me accept and "realize" that this is not working and we'd better divorce. Three months later, she moved in with her "new" boyfriend (what a coincidence, an old acquaintance from her past). May she rot in hell for what she did to our two small children. Putting her own excitement and fun before a stable and loving family for them. We had it so good, and she destroyed it all.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 06:00 AM
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Relationships are lovely! Just set clear boundaries and adhere to them. Do NOT marry and do not have children. Always keep finances as separate as possible. That is what I wish I would have done - now divorced with two small children. Only upside: I learned my lesson. I am in a new relationship now, which works out pretty great. Maybe for the fact that I have set very clear boundaries. She knows that I am ready to bail if my expectations (that do not ever change) are not met. That is the main di…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 05:53 AM
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It does not depend on how you treat them. I gave her everything she asked for. Including a divorce after she cheated on me, destroying our family with two very young children in the process.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 05:42 AM
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You meant to say especially they have two kids from a higher earning schmuck?
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 02:50 PM
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Love it. At least a tiny minority of these get exactly what they deserve. My own ex sure did not, since I am much too successful and family law here in Europe is very lopsided. So yes, stories like these warm my heart.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 09:34 AM
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Yes, that kind of emotional blackmail is absolute shit, dealing with the same thing. Take the kids out of love more than agreed but pay as if ex were full time nanny. Oh well. It will end eventually.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 07:47 AM
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90k in assets, 550k in child support over the next 15 years.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 04:45 AM
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Yes, it is pretty much impossible. The only thing that I will never understand is, that no older man ever warned me. I married a 25 year old, sweet, cute, caring, fair, modest, pretty girl. 10 years later she turned into an entitled bitch, letting herself go, demanding everything and bringing nothing to the table. Its insane how much these harpies changed to become harpies.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 02:02 PM
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No and if I could go back I would throw her out in a heartbeat. Marriage is a scam on bright eyed young men who do not (yet) understand that a deal "one provides security, the other provides companionship/nesting" is an absolute shit deal - especially because the high earner (working his ass off for his part) gets severely punished if the spouse just decides "oh I am just not fulfilled" and fucks off. Only then the real ramifications of what was sold as romantic gesture come to light.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 04:37 AM
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I could think of 100 things that are worse than getting left by a shitty person, with no strings attached (no children). I am actually happy for OP that he got the vail lifted and could see and learn how and what women are. No children involved, the terror will fade. But hopefully the lesson will stick.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 06:28 AM
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You say that as if it's a conscious choice to forgive. It is not. He does not have to work on forgiving. I would even go so far as to say that he should not forgive her for her shittiness as a partner at all. What the fuck is wrong with these women to throw everything away because of a few bad days, that everybody has once in a while? Iloyal assholes, the lot of them. Forgiveness comes with time, all by itself. Just distract yourself and actually be very, very glad that you don't have children a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 06:12 AM
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Lol, that would be so epic - rooting for you OP, keep us posted!
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 05:47 AM
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Don't. It only gets worse.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 02:36 PM
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"Black hole to the light of happiness." Perfect. Mine was the same. Did not matter what we had (house, garden, car, security) it was never enough. Never able to see how good we had it. Always something missing for her to be happy - until she got it, then suddenly something else was missing. In the end, mine too decided that another man must be the thing to finally make her happy, so she started an affair. I have no idea if that is true. They are still together after a year, so who knows. I doubt…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 05:08 AM
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The gall of this woman to throw a man out of his own house lol - feminism really has eroded their brains. Just no. Do NOT move out of your own house. Kick her out instead. Keep the kids or do 50/50. Let her see how easy it is to provide for herself without a man.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 06:13 AM
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Yeah, I had those, too. Did not think twice before throwing everything into the garbage bin. I've also been cheated on soon after (or maybe even while, who knows?). So everything in these letters proved to be a lie anyway - why should I cling to that drivel?
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 12:45 PM
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Mine ended up in the pickle jar, I collect jump change in. If I find the time, I'll just sell it for its metal value. It was $500 back then, so maybe I'll get $200 and buy some celebratory booze.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 12:42 PM
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I got very lucky and kept the house even though we have two small kids for which she has majority custody. She would never have been able to afford the remaining debt (monthly payment), not even with child support. Of course, I had to pay her off (half of the house's worth even though she contributed exactly zero dollars to buying it). Yes, I love the house. It is FAR too big for me alone (2900 sqft), but it feels like home, and I will not sell it unless there is no other way. I have no idea how…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 09:14 PM
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Holy shit, sorry that happened to you. My ex-wife was the same kind. It just was never enough. She could never be happy or content. Everything we had was on MY back alone, and instead of being grateful, she just grew more entitled. Our final argument was because I did not want to spend money on vacation after just buying a wonderful house (on debt) in the subs for our family. I was feeling stressed out, being the sole earner and with so much debt. But the upside in my mind was the beautiful yard…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 05:40 AM
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What's unfair is the fact that family law enables ex-wifes to do that to a man. We give everything in good faith and end up being robbed and burned for it. It is what it is. I am in the same camp as many other men in this thread. Even if I wanted to give/provide the same level of comfort (emotional and fiscal) I am unable to do either. I have been cought so off guard, that my guard will never come down completely again. I will evaluate and re-evaluate my current relationship constantly. And mone…
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 06:44 AM
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It should not. The "right" girl does not exist. Even if they seem "right" in the beginning, they will change and get more and more entitled. That is a gradual process, almost unnoticable. That is why men "suddenly" find themselves in unbearable situations and ask themselves completely flabbergasted "how did I end up like THAT?".
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 06:16 AM
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Just make way for anger. This too shall pass.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 02:46 PM
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Yes great summary and very accurate. Marriage is really a shit deal for at least 50% of men - there might be perfect wifes out there... never met one myself.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 12:43 PM
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How else would they boost the economy? Men just dont spend enough money on frivolous shit. Thats why we either want married women spending more than they would ever earn (spending their husband's doe) or we want greedy ex-wifes spending money they should not have access to if there was any fairness involved.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 11:48 AM
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Yeah, that question also occupies me a lot still after over a year. How could I not see how selfish and iloyal she actually is? Only driven bv what she wants - at the time it was kids, family, house in the subs. As soon as I alone had achieved all that for us (working my ass off) she decided that this lifestyle was too boring and unfulfilling for her. After all two small kids (sahm of course) are a bit stressful. She "felt locked in and what else is there waiting for us? boohoo, such a bad life"…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 08:28 AM
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Your story warms my heart. I would be in the same position. I also am a high earner (and working hard for it). Unfortunately we have two children, so I will be paying for the rest of my days. Instead of having an end in sight I will be paying CS to her (much more than is actually needed just for the kids) and after that my children themselves will be entitled to the money if they are not able to support themselves. I will be paying until my retirement. Fortunately there is still enough money lef…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 06:24 AM
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Working that out will fortunately never again be necessary for me. Marriage was a one time thing for sure. How I wish I would never have done it. Biggest regret and largest damage I have done to my life.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 05:49 AM
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I hope this does not come off as aloof or conceited but reading all these responses I have to say that I did not do anything wrong. Nothing that was mentioned here. I kept in impeccable shape. I earn very well and allowed for us to have a beautiful home, two cars, nice outings and adventures. I tried to always be a reasonable partner, always understanding but of course not to the point of being a push-over. I am a good dad, tucked them in in the evening, played on the weekends, tried to interact…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 03:22 PM
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I know what you mean... yes, it stays with you, but it does not consume you anymore. The unfairness of it all (that these selfish, complete iloyal %×@ usually just get rewarded for their betrayal). I will never forget it and also don't like to talk about it much. But it does not send me into a perpetual rage fit that consumes every waking hour. That only happens in the beginning stages and fades with time.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 07:55 AM
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The anger will just dissipate with time, I can promise you that. Thought I would hate her forever. One year later, I just don't think about her a lot. And when I do, it is either about how glad I am that I don't have to deal with her shit anymore or idle flashes of "why did I even get with or trust such a shit person in the first place?" to which there will obviously never be an answer. Believe me, for what she has done to me (severely financially crippled, will never really be able to recover),…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 04:59 AM
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You have already seen how the man is fucked over - why would you even consider it a second time? Obviously the current laws are hugely tilted in favor of women - "feminism" is all the rage nowadays.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 09:19 AM
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The issue is, that men only realize that much later in life. Providing security is hard, providing sex costs nothing. But a young, hormone loaded man is not equipped to see that yet. Once they do, its unfortunately often way too late.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 12:51 PM
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I'm sure that she is - hope you feel better with time, stay strong brother. I know, it's a shitshow.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 03:49 PM
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100% - that can explain so many of the stories we can read about on here. And definitely also how my own life turned out. Men and women just define loyalty completely different, it seems.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 07:58 AM
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Great advice. I definitely rushed to get it over with and made the wrong decision regarding child cutody. I should have gone for 50/50, instead I thought that I would rather pay "a bit more" (turned out to be unreasonably huge amount) and therefore would have less stress (because they were really small and a handful). In our relationship it was our agreement, that she would take care of the children and I would work my ass off to provide. So I was used to working a lot and not so good with the c…
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 07:53 AM
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To be fair, I think you are a bit too harsh. And that's coming from someone who got burned really bad by his ex-wife and the divorce. I know that all the rage helps to even wrap your head around what is happening to your life. I had all the same feelings. Now it is one year later. I have more or less made my peace with it. My life got severely impacted, but not completely destroyed. I still see my kids (not optimal, but every other week - they now live two hours away). I still have my house (alt…
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 07:40 AM
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Haha, spot on... I completely understand and have empathy. But that feeling of "love of my life" turned off for me the second I was informed that she would now be living with her "new" boyfriend (with our two kids in tow). The boyfriend lives two hours away and this conversation happened three fucking months after the divorce was finalized. We were together 13 years and I gave her everything she ever wanted - 2 kids, house, security, vacations.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 05:47 AM
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How the fuck would you look at these numbers and reckon "that leaves a lot of successful marriages"? Including all the men that stick around in derailed marriages just for the children or because divorce would be financial suicide, I would wager that more than 60% of marriages are a shit-show (usually for the man). I would not put all my lifes earnings and the relationship to my kids on the line for a coin flip or worse.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 05:14 AM
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It's not. Take that as the ultimate lesson in your life and never forget it. You cannot trust even the sweetest most honest appearing woman. They are fickle, they are driven by emotion and they do not know what loyalty is. It does not matter if it was 1 year or 20 years you gave her everything she wanted. At some point they figure "Uh, I am not happy - that's got to change" and that is it. Self-centered as fuck as well - mine did all that with two small children (5 and 7 at the time). My beautif…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 05:12 AM
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Exactly the same with me. Young and naive.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 08:36 PM
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Heh, happy to hear it - I met her on okcupid. Did not even take that long, maybe a few weeks on there, had a few chats. She was the first actual date and right away the chemistry was there... no sparks flying, but good conversation and few commonlities. And mind you I am not a 10/10 - thick glasses, bit of a geek. Take care of my body though but I think an average looking man like me can have good success on the apps with a little patience.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 11:35 AM
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Haha, right on. As young men, we are so driven to just "conquer" (not sure if that's the term, no English speaker) a beautiful woman, and then give her the world. Then we get burned bad, unprotected by law, and finally, we reach complete freedom and just do whatever the fuck we want. I love my divorced life at 42. Two kids that I only see every other weekend (for me, that is quite alright, I love them, but they are a handful). The money aspect of it all sucks, but I manage.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 07:46 AM
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Take it from me - 42, 1 year divorced, 2 small kids - there are still a few nice women out there. My GF is definitely one of them. I have, of course, become cynical and careful. I do not give her more of myself (time, money, attention) than I want - but in my mind, that is why it works so well. I gave everything and more to my ex-wife (children, house, car, security, vacations). In turn, she got entitled and an asshole. Now I set very strict and clear boundaries - for now, everything is peachy, …
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 07:38 AM
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I got on a hardcore keto/carnivore diet (literally zero carbs). One of the interesting side effects is that it keeps you really calm and emotionally balanced. Cravings for alcohol or sweets dissipate within a few days. (Re)started my gym routine. I am in amazing shape, and the divorce shitshow does not take up so much space in my head anymore. It is a bit more than one year after divorce was finalized. Take care of your body, and it will take care of your mind
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 04:53 AM
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Maybe - my own stance is that 50% get divorced (usually forced by the wife) and of the other 50% probably half of the men just suffer in silence and question their decision to ever get married, because divorce is literally financial harakiri - often combined with the outlook to lose relationship strength with their kids. I think it is an awful deal for men, and if I knew then what I know now, I would not have married.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 07:43 AM
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I don't believe that a lot if women are like you, you might be a unicorn. From what I have learned from other men, relationships always go to shit. Their women either do not keep fit or just abuse them financially or do not deliver their share of responsibilities. The only common denominator is that they always get entitled to things they have no right to be entitled to. Except of course: the law says, they are.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 06:42 AM
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Just keep in mind that she is most likely getting run through and discarded. After a while she will realize that what she had with you is a lot harder to acquire than meaningless encounters. You will have your house in order by then (so to speak) and she will be a wreck. The best is yet to come once this nightmare is over. I can say this with confidence, because I have lived the same nightmare. 13 years, two young children, a house. We had it all (on my dime and hard work mostly) and she flushed…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 05:46 PM
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Why the fuck should she get to keep the house? Just because? I assume you paid the brunt of the family home?She broke her vows and now you need to just tuck tail and move out? Why? DO NOT MOVE OUT that easily. There is still either the option that you keep the house. OR that you just sell it and split the equity equally. Why should she be entitled to living in your home that you set up so that everything "just works". All processes known, everything familiar - while you need to get out of there …
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 10:33 AM
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I think that men and women are just as different as you say, but I believe that is not inherent but just conditioning (brainwashing) by society from childhood on. Men are "loyal, strong, a rock, etc." and women don't get any of that (nowadays). Women are just there to be admired and adored. Little princesses, boss babes, etc. Nobody knows why, but they just are not held accountable for any of their stupidity (chasing "happiness" and being entitled to it e.g.) Especially not held accountable by l…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 09:41 AM
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"as our finances merged, our relationship rotted" - fixed that for you lol. I sincerely believe that the more the man gives, the shittier (entitled) the wife gets. That's why I certainly never will marry again and also am very mindful of how much I gift my current girlfriend in terms of money or "security".
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 07:53 AM
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Learn to hate her. Helped me. First hate, then indifference. I'm kind of inbetween these two, one year after divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 07:56 PM
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Life is not fair, karma is a myth. I regret my own decisions, thats about it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 03:41 PM
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Heh, reminds me of my wife getting into multi level marketing. We were pretty well off thanks to solely my hard work, no need for any additional income. She lept up all their bullshit and honestly thought she would haul in €10k per month in no time selling shitty skin care for insane prices to her non existent circle of friends. I tried too hard to convince her that this is a scam and she was already dreaming of holding weekly "tupper parties" in our fucking living room. I wanted to keep our liv…
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 07:40 AM
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Yeah, that thing where they just rewrite history is really hard. You can't say or do anything to change their mind or remind them of the actual happy times that the relationship was made up of 99% of the time. It is insane, but who wants to be with an insane person anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 07:20 AM
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It is definitely scary - I was the much higher earner, no prenup, two kids 6 and 8. It was terrifying, still is tbh. It is one year later. I kept the house and paid half of it to her (even though I alone paid for it before). I am completely broke and my only asset is equity in the house (minus a huge mortgage still open). For now I pay €1800 CS but that will go up significantly when the kids get older. You know what? It is still worth it to not have to deal with this selfish cunt on a daily basi…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 02:01 PM
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I got the whole "I need to focus on myself, I think I am just not good in a relationship, I think I will never want to have a partner again" spiel. Well, she lied. Only three months after divorce was final (only about six months after she moved out with the kids) she moved in to her "new" (affair) partner with the kids and two hours away. I did not expect that and it was not what we talked about. She was supposed to stay in the vicinity so the kids could actually chooose when and how often they …
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:52 AM
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Or better yet - DONT marry, how about that? Why would you even consider handing over your fate to another person (even if she is sooooo nice)?
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 04:31 AM
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You are in a worse position if you are doing it "for kids". It really gets you that much deeper in trouble. I married because she wanted to have kids so badly (emphasis on "she"). Marriage was (in my mind) to make sure that the kids and her are financially secured in case anything would happen to me. I did not consider that she could just decide to leave after a few years (a few VERY hard working and fruitful yeras from me) and then get financially rewarded and paid for the next 15 years (in chi…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 04:31 AM
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Why would any sane man ever get married a second time? To be honest, I completely misread what a marriage entails the first time around. I actually thought I would do it because my wife would be financially secured in case anything happens to me (and especially if children are also there). So basically I thought this is only really relevant if one spouse meets their demise unexpected and early. I was a fool. Was absolutely unclear about the fact that she would also be set up for life (on my back…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 04:22 AM
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/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 01:11 PM
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Your description of the different types of women one could meet had me dying - spot on. There is really not much left after a certain age (I am 42 myself) and below they are just fucking their brains out. I can't really condemn that, but it is not what I would be looking for since that would only result in a ONS or a very short term realtionship at best. After 30 they then turn into jaded, man-hating, feminist idiots. Or just damaged goods in another way (already children, stress, worn out, etc.…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 05:34 AM
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I am very sorry for you. It is fucked up and I sincerely hope that you will be able to get over her with enough time passing. My ex also just betrayed me out of nowhere. Luckily my feelings of love for here were instantly replaced by digust, hate and after a while indifference. It is still shit and extremely unfair how well she was rewarded financially for destroying our family and uprooting our two young children. I learned a few valuable lessons in all of this: The world is not fair. You don't…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 04:51 AM
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Well there you go - enjoy your freedom!
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 01:40 PM
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My life was exactly as you describe it - really, to a T. I was 41, kept the house, two kids (only every other weekend), full time home office, best shape of my life but not a lot of friends available. I also felt that I had built a life and suddenly everything was gone and there was nothing. Computer games also were a lot more fun when I was young. So much time to fill. What to even do with such a big ass house all alone? A wandered around the house a lot... It is now one year later. I am 42. I …
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 05:44 AM
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Thank you, that is very kind. I am happy for you, truly - you got a very valuable lesson at a huge discount 😜 The funny thing is: even though I got a raw deal, I still think it was worth it. Marriage is really just a bad idea for most men. You sign a contract with a person who gets rewarded for breaking it. The person is almost guaranteed not to be in touch with reality after a while. Women are driven by emotions. The only reason mine gave me was literally: "I am not happy anymore" - we had a GR…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 06:34 AM
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How much of the equity in the house did you yourself pay? Why the fuck are women so entitled to kick men out that usually have been paying for their homes? I am so glad, that I got to keep the house (although huge mortgage). The downpayment was all me and I had been paying every monthly. Still I had to buy the ex out and was initially left with even more debt and no money at all. Bonus: Your wife moves out, so your kids (even if only subconsciously) will assign more blame to her, since SHE is th…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 09:12 AM
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And that is a lot easier when not married and no kids - keep that in mind gentlemen. The shit show only started after these two inflection points for me. Heads up, young men!
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 08:54 AM
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Wooow, $15k you lost? And that's it? Some here lost ALOT more, leaving them almost destitute and/or lost access to their children. So maybe get over yourself. Just for reference: I initially paid $100k (leaving me broke) and will pay $600k CS over the next 15 years. Hence I will probably never be able to financially recover before retirement. My ex moved 2 hours away (with our young kids) to her affair partner. I see them every two weeks. So maybe take your $15k tough-guy act and shove it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 07:55 AM
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I can only concur. They are so stupid to not realize what they have until they figure out that the grass is not greener. Unfortunately it does not always go like your story... Ex got majority of custody time and therefore awarded a pretty substantial monthly sum in CS. Way more than the kids cost and so she will never really have to suffer any real hardship. At least I got to keep the house and she now lives in a way too small flat with her affair partner, his kid (from an also failed marriage) …
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 10:31 AM
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Well, there are not that many who still look good, are not batshit crazy and just have not found the right man. At age 30+ men really need to vet and be careful. Marriage out of the question, cohabitation only when it's absolutely safe to do so (regarding law).
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 05:06 PM
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True that - our kids killed our relationship. I also love my kids very much, but pretty soon after they were here, I was demoted from stud to provider/father. I wish she could have seen the other guy that was/is still me. The one that trains hard, works hard, fucks hard - and still has a soft heart and would have fulfilled every wish of her. She just did not have any wish - she was just unhappy for some reason and she had no idea how to change it. She thought an affair and subsequent divorce (pa…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 05:02 PM
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Lol, wise words. No woman will ever be trusted again and certainly not married - for what? So that they can get set up for the next payday when they feel like it? No loyalty to be expected from a broad. Targeting for under 35 is definitely wise - just as was said before on this thread - they got baggage and most likely left a good man because they felt like it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 04:54 PM
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My teeth are crooked and too yellow (non smoker, no coffee, no clue why), I wear thick glasses (-8dps) and have red eyes from a chronic inflammtory condition. No threat of women just flying my way out of nowhere. I just like looking in the mirror and seeing a hot guy (neck down). It just feels good and also makes me confident that i won't have a shit time in my 60s and 70s - provided I'm not going blind 😬 42 years old, train since I'm 18.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 03:22 PM
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Thanks - I am doing alright. Except for financially, everything got better. Literally everything - I can do what I want, and there is no more constant threat of divorce over my head. It's done, and I survived. Never again - not a good deal for men, especially if they are (marginally) successful. Financially I will also recover in time.... a few years of working and no vacations and I will be on top of things again.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 03:51 PM
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It's crazy - they have no sense of responsibility or conscientiousness. They want kids soooo bad, crying and pleading. Once they are here the men step up and newly minted mothers get fucking entitled. And the best part: she KNOWs that there is no way out because the man is usually fucked by family court.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 04:15 PM
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Mostly because I was young and dumb. I just did not know the huge gamble I actually took. Neither did I know that child support is SO much more than children actually need. I could easily afford two kids in an intact family, but now I pay so much that it actually could destroy me in case I ever get sick and need a break (self-employed). I had on rose tinted glasses, and it was the "right" thing to do, I guess. What society expected. Had I known then what I know now, I would never have married an…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:50 PM
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Thats rough man, I'm sorry. I was "only" 10 years married and I feel SO used and discarded. Can't imagine 35... What a fucking parasite. I hope you can feel as free, unencumbered and just relieved of the burden as me just one year later. It will get better and even though the financial blow is considerable, you (unlike her) have learned the toolset to achieve and work hard. She will blow through everything she stole while you will just earn more. Enjoy your freedom and peace.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 03:29 PM
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35 years married?
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 02:01 PM
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Jup, it is no joke. Had I known how unreasonably much and for how long I would be paying child support, I would have fought a lot harder for 50/50. Here in Austria it is so uncommon, I was not even aware that this is a possibility. Instead, I will pay 40% of my net for the next 15 to 20 years, depending on schooling success. Fight for your kids and your house as well.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 06:02 PM
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Just be glad that it was a short marriage and no kids. Never get married again. Stay on this sub and read about what really can happen from time to time. After 10 years marriage and 2 kids involved I will not be able to save money or have anything ever. I will pay until I am almost retired. Count your blessings.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 06:00 AM
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Who in their right mind would want to do it again though? I will pay until my retirement for the first one - I will certainly not take on another financial liability lol. But yes, I agree with you - my girlfriend who I got with after the divorce did not have it easy (we are still together though). I was very outspoken and direct if anything was not exactly to my liking. After all she inserted herself into my life (basically lived with me although she had her own place) so I nitpicked every singl…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 05:27 AM
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This is how it is done here in Austria. Everything is tilted that way. E.g. the forns you fill out (non contested divorce) only give you the option to decide if the mother or father gets to be majority caregiver, there just is no option to split. It is implicit that the kids go to the mother and the father pays. Along the way that idea gets reinforced through mandatory parent-counseling sessions at court. I later found out that 50/50 would even be an option. To be honest, I prefer it that way. I…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 02:59 PM
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Stay strong - it WILL get better. I now have a pretty great life. Especially because I can live it the way I want.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 02:36 PM
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Somewhere along the way she just stopped communicating about anything else but the kids. I guess she knew that she was in the wrong or maybe because I stopped reacting to it. She could not rile me up anymore. Maybe also just give it some time and try to ignore all unnessecary bullshit as best you can. I would not try to get confrontational in any way tbh. In terms of law you can only lose, as shitty as it is. In the 50s it was different, but nowadays she has all the leverare and a divorced man (…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 02:09 PM
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Same exact story. Nothing happened really, had a stressful year but no major differences. No cheating, no drugs, no violence, just mundane, boring life, lots of work and two small children who are absolute sweethearts but of course work and stress. They were 5 and 7. She also just decided to be "not happy anymore" and left with the kids. Moved in with her "new" boyfriend (suspect affair partner) two hours away - with the kids. I pay child support through the nose and my financial security, that …
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 12:44 PM
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How do you mean?
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 01:45 PM
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Maybe dont judge people you dont know over a few lines on social media 👎
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 06:33 PM
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It has nothing to do with "responsibilities of marriage". You can fulfill all your marital "responsibilities" (whatever that is supposed to even mean) and still end up fleezed and taken advantage of. It is about risk. I think any man who attempts this a second time must be a fool, resistent to learning.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 12:39 PM
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Fuck no lol
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 11:14 AM
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You fight like hell, get a good lawyer. Fuck that cunt for just decreeing that you will not get half of the 401k. What a bitch. She will wake up to the same realities that usually men wake up to.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 11:10 AM
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Would be more like €600k for me, two kids, pretty high earner. But just not high enough that that would not be a life altering amount for me.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 12:04 PM
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100% accurate. Sorry for your situation, brother. This is such a common story, them just completely rewriting history. They do this to justify their actions. Not only to themselves but also their circle of friends and family. It can be explained a lot easier by saying "I have suffered for 15 years, enough is enough!" instead of "Oh well, I'm a little bored and don't care about any commitment I made, I am just shalllow like that lol". At least there are no children involved in your case, see this…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 06:23 AM
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I can tell you that my ex-wife also told me some horror stories of how she did her exes in. Should have listened.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 12:57 PM
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The modern man has seriously been conditioned to be a chump. Bring in money, do the chores, take care of the kids, be fit and attractive, be a romancier but not too emotional! But also not too little emotional! Modern feminists can get fucked. I woke up real good during my divorce. Nowadays I only ever do what I want, and that is a stark contrast to how it was in my marriage as what is considered a good husband.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 05:13 AM
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You can say that again. I am 42 and will pay a huge part of my net (40%) on CS until I'm almost retiring. Combined with half a house that I have to pay a second time, I will never financially recover. And I am real hard working, self employed. No vacation for many years (to provide for her and our family). Dont see a vacation in the next few years.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 05:11 PM
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I would go as far as to say that a wife is not good for anyrhing. Women yes, but wtf for would I ever get another wife? It is a judicial construct to bleed men dry, superimposed with romantic notions. By far the biggest regret of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 03:58 PM
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I think you are right, men love different than women and are definitely more loyal. Maybe the only solution is to turn to men lol. Since I am a little bi curious, this is not completely out of the question.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 03:05 PM
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I don't really get (anymore) why a man even would want this "love" thing that we tend to (or have been conditioned to) romanticise. Don't get me wrong, before my divorce I too was a romantic chump until I got bent over, financially and emotionally drained to where I will never really recover from. I will pay a huge amount in child support until I am retired for kids I do not see very often. What I am getting at is: just use women for your pleasure, but see it as transactional as they do. They mi…
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 08:13 AM
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Yes, it takes a bit of getting used to the thought that your wife (who you thought of as your life partner for years) is actually already your adversary and takes you for whatever you let yourself be taken for - the more the better. Please get the idea that she has your best interest at heart out of your head really fast! I was definitely much too late with that (to my huge regret) and gave her MUCH more than she deserved or I would have needed to. Three months after the divorce she had a "new" …
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 12:15 PM
2

Pretty much exactly the same. I have never cried a lot, so crying was also minimal during divorce. Its been a year almost. I also just went extremely numb and kind of endured it all. Libido is also still at zero. Which makes it a bit interesting to have a girlfriend (which I do). I still like having sex with her, its just that I don't very often get the idea to do so, if that makes sense. In the beginning I had erectile dysfunction. Still do, but taking Cialis helps. 13 years together, 10 years …
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 05:26 AM
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I did not tell my team lead, still does not know. I have been divorced since January, separated since November. Fortunately my job is complicated enough so it is not quite obvious whether I operate at 100% or 10%. I am still kind of struggling with the decision - feeling like a fraud, altough it is personal, I think my boss conisders his team as "friends". He is a very nice guy and always reliable. Other members of our team had issues in the past and he was always very accomodating. Still I coul…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 05:17 AM
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That's fucked up. Sorry man. I hope you can learn to live with the situation. One might be able to see the positives... on one hand your kids will come to hate ger for it and on the other you might even enjoy the kids-free time. I know I do, even if this does not sound very fatherly, but weekends without the kids (5 & 7) are a lot more stress free.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 03:42 PM
9

Was that a male or female judge?
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 03:36 PM
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Same in Europe lol - why I married, I honestly could not give a rational reason. Simething along the lines of "I love her and my parents also raised a family tjis way". Oh well, after 13 years and two kids I am left exactly like OP. No idea what the point of it all was.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 03:07 PM
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As many have said, women are just defective men now. Never heard that one before - but totally accurate.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 04:06 AM
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I see - yes, I thought so too. Easy to say, but not so easy to do. Thinking of migrating to the US though
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 02:16 PM
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How do you mean that?
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 02:08 PM
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It's not like she was not legally allowed to do that. Divorce was finalized, and only then I even realized that "I am not happy anymore" actually meant that she already got the next stupid chump lined up. I agreed in the divorce to the (in Europe) common custody model, which means I take them on every second weekend and, in turn, pay a lot in CS. I thought they would be staying in the same city (this was what we talked about). I mean, the big one was already in elementary school. But with this k…
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 02:07 PM
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They are fine and adapt to the new situation pretty ok. I guess woth 5 and 7 they are just too young to really understand what they just lost, the family we were supposed to be. It makes me sad that they will grow up thinking that this is normal. But other than that they are doing well for which I am grateful
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 01:50 PM
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Damn brother, sorry that is happening to you. Hopefully it will be resolved soon and you can open up a new chapter in your life. Understandable that you can't really move past anything... I myself am now about a year separated and divorced since January. She moved right back in with her affair partner (and our two kids along). 200 miles away. It was not easy, but with time it gets better once the dust settles. Stay strong, all the best!
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 12:29 PM
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How long has it been for you?
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 10:59 AM
1

How long has it been for you?
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 10:59 AM
3

Sure, they all want an average looking 42 year old, barely hanging on financially 😬
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 08:05 AM
2

I am thinking really hard about it tbh
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 04:03 AM
2

If I dont pay the European justice system will just come down hard on me... They can literally just impound everything I have, including my bank account.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 04:02 AM
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Wrong. In Europe it is irrelevant what she earns.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 03:59 AM
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It was not my decidion. Where I live (Europe) the majority caretaker has the sole power to decide the whereabouts of the kids. She introduced her "new" boyfriend 3 months after divorce and moved in with him another 3 months later. They now are a 2h drive away (one direction).
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 03:59 AM
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To bei fair that is the exact same approach to love I adopted after my divorce as well. I am not capable of loving another person like I loved before. I was selfless and I cared so much more about her wellbeing than my own. Never again. Right now I am in a relationship and I will love her exactly as long as she makes me feel good. Maybe that is the more "intelligent" approach, the selfish one that is.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 05:14 AM
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Thanks mate, I am doing so so - sometimes better, mostly battling depression and erectile dysfunction. Not fun. But it has only been a year, maybe a few more and it will get better.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 06:31 PM
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Oh dont worry, they are all the same. I married an attractive woman, you could describe her exactly like your current girl. Carefree, fun, living in the moment. Yes I took the brunt of our expenses and thought it would turn out fine. She would appreciate all the hard work i did for our family (two kids she could just not do without, since having a family would "fulfil" her). Bought us a house (lots of debt). After three years in "our" dream scenario she got bored with all that. Having children w…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 05:24 PM
2

I have a pickle glass where I collect surplus coins. I just dropped it in there. It has no value for me. Maybe I will sell it for its gold value some day ans buy something nice from the proceeds. I dont really care.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 12:04 PM
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I truly believe that it does not matter. I completely get, what you are saying because I am in a somewhat similar position. For the longest time I asked myself "do I even love her?". We are getting along splendidly, the sex is very good, we laugh together, we do not fight often and when we do, we do it respectfully and as calm as possible. All in all our relationship is absolutly great and I love her. She loves me too. From her side I can also clearly sense what you call "passion" - that unquenc…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 05:34 AM
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I would not say that it is pathological, but my short term memory is also complete shit. I forget appointments, I forget what I ate or did yesterday. I am still a highly functioning person... freelancer in software development. Some things I can remember just fine, but the "day to day" stuff always slips my mind. What really helps me is taking notes and relying heavily on the calendar in my phone. On that note: The first thing I did once it became clear that my wife was hell-bent on divorcing wa…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 08:13 AM
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Definitely! Please do not make the mistake and do ANYTHING for her out of some kind of emotional obligation ("it was not all bad, we were such a great team"). Trust me, she does not view you as a partner anymore (and probably has not for a long time) but only in terms of "what is he doing for me and is this still worth it?". I would give anything to have realized this - instead I was in emotional turmoil and shock, did not realize what she is actually doing to me and how bad she is destroying my…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 06:53 AM
1

My ex introduced our two kids (5 and 7) to her new guy three months after divorce. Another three months later, she told me she would move in with him (and his son, 12) taking our kids with her. They are now 200 miles away. Women are vile
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 09:48 AM
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Oh well, I cant say anything... I did some really stupid shit in my divorce as well and mow I'm financially fucked. All I can say is: welcone to the club. You will be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 06:02 PM
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I can totally relate, the same thing happened to me. There is really just one thing to do here: Seriously - go to the doctor. I was at the urologist, described everything. It was a bit awkward but hey, he is a man doctor and hears this every day. He thoroughly examined me to rule out anything phsyically wrong (I'm 41) but did not find anything. After he came to the same conclusion as me (it might be anxiety and it gets worse the more often you put mental pressure on yourself), he prescribed me a…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 11:09 AM
1

Why Thailand though? Dont they have an extradition agreement?
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 06:21 PM
1

Oh after marriage life gets better again - just the part between wedding and shortly after marriage sucks very hard 😜
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 04:49 AM
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That was the idea - to maybe warn a few young guys to not accept such bullshit but instead see them for what they are: worthless, demanding, dangerous.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 07:03 PM
1

What do you mean both ways?
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 06:00 PM
2

I can get them every two weekends
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 05:55 PM
12

Of course - she got everything she wished for from me
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 05:54 PM
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