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Whatever you do, make sure you process it, draw the right lessons and move on. That guarantees you won't make the same mistake twice... But you'll make new ones 😌🤣
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 10:55 PM
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Your wife cheated. You didn't Your wife has loyalty and dependability issues You don't Your wife is happy I doubt it, and even if she seems happy, she's unfulfilled and living in a mirage. You're living in reality, so make the best out of it. 🏆
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 07:18 AM
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They either aren't mature enough, or know you're reliable and won't have a problem managing the situation, or think that getting involved in not possible or not suitable .... These are all options... But it's also possible they DGAF
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 04:25 AM
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Classic boss manipulative move, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this man. But the movies scene ain't the last.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 06:21 AM
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Sounds like manipulation and devaluation. It probably was always there, it just escalated. He needs to understand if this will ever de-escalate or if he needs to GTFO
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 11:14 PM
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TL;DR: The person shares their struggles after a divorce finalized in March. Despite co-parenting and maintaining a bond with their kids, their ex-wife has moved on quickly. Issues stemmed from her saying she was unhappy for years, cheating accusations, and feeling controlled in the relationship. The writer regrets their actions, feels blindsided by her behavior, and struggles with the realization that their family won't reunite, despite their hope to repair things. They also mention being hurt …
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/25 03:56 AM
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Chatgpt 😁
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 02:11 AM
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Men lead, when a woman doubts, it's that we didn't give them enough certainty, enough confidence in the future. And then, at the same time, women refuse to follow, no matter how a great husband a man can be. And then you have mental issues, things like BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER, that women mostly have, who would leave a man and dress it with all kind of reason, when the real reason is that they're afraid of being abandoned and they leave first. And then, this whole thing is a mess ... Beca…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 02:10 AM
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TL;DR: The author moved across the country for a relationship with a woman they’d been dating for six months and have been together for six years. Early on, trust issues arose with her accusing them of cheating, largely due to her unresolved emotional trauma from past relationships and family issues. Despite the author’s efforts to encourage therapy and address her mental and physical health challenges, she has been resistant to change. Their relationship has been marked by constant arguments, a…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/25 12:54 AM
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😭
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/25 02:19 AM
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The best time to enjoy your kids is now. MONEY comes and goes just like women. So don't feel like you're defeated, move as fast as possible to the grief "acceptance" stage. No one cares, the court, your lawyer, your ex, ... No one but you and us here in this forum cares or understands what you're going through and you'll come out of it stronger. 💯
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/25 10:06 PM
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Can it be a trap ?? 🪤 👀👀
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 06:02 PM
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Run forest, run !
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 02:02 PM
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It gives an advantage only when the first to file has a vagi*a.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 12:10 AM
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Is it possible that she is more educated on divorce now, and knows she should have stayed 10 years to get life time alimony, or just to extend it as much as possible ? Is it possible that she is debating her own wants, and is confused ? Is possible that she may have been seeing someone else ? Everything is possible. Only you can talk to her. But it seems that you guys may have failed to talk about hard things, and if you guys can fix that, it would be better for both wether you stay or leave the…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 03:58 PM
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My advice is : get married only and only if you want to get married. Do not get married because you want to please her, or because she'd leave if you don't. Because she may walk anyway post marriage. If you want to get married, great, go for it but go to a pre marriage counseling, align your goals and expectations and make sure you guys are on the same page on important topics : money / offspring / priorities / last call owner for each topic. Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 07:12 AM
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For all men : if woman is attractive + you're in need + She knows how to talk to you, and make herself desirable = boner and good sex guaranteed If one of them is missing, for some men, it doesn't work.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 05:00 PM
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Do not do it. If she mad a mistake leaving, don't bail her out. It will happen again ! ! !
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 01:46 AM
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You used the magic words in other comments : there is no way you'll be happy with a BPD, even if she regains her shape. RUn !
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 01:38 AM
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We are men, we sign up for something and accept that it can change overtime. Don't be a quitter unless she is indeed not enhancing your peace of mind, as that, is a deal breaker.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 11:24 PM
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I can't fathom the situation you're in. Even though each one of us thinks their story is hard enough, we're always surprised with some nuggets. Stay the course and love yourself first. And solve the rest within that framework of state of mind
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 01:36 AM
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🤜🤛
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/23 05:19 AM
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👍
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 12:19 AM
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Is that they have one or many of what preceded
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 01:32 PM
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Feminists, woke mentality, ethically non monogamous, damaged goods, nose ringed women, bisexuals, NPD, BPD, single moms, divorced women.... Seems like the system produces more bad than good.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 11:53 AM
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It does not sound selfish, but delusional. You'll most likely get the same shit or worse.... The market is fucked
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 10:54 AM
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If it's stable and you can deal with it, then take what life has to offer, especially that the pros are amazing. Most men stay for way less. But stay aware of where you guys are in the relationship and take the time to plan an exist strategy. In detail. If you want someone interesting to talk to, grab a book.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 10:47 AM
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Hope this helps you assess and understand the situation better.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 09:04 AM
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Borderline isn't bipolar. Borderline mostly hits female population, and is characterized by an idealization phase, + a fear of abandonment which triggers a split and a discard. A split is when the idealized becomes all bad at once. The discard is a mechanism to abandon to avoid being abandoned. Read about it, it may help you not fall into the common mistakes of apologizing for something you didn't do wrong, or questioning you whole reality. Most likely, it's not you, it's her. Edit : check this …
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 08:49 AM
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She's probably one of those borderline personality disorder wives. Read about it if you've never heard this term.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 09:09 PM
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The kids will adjust, the sooner you establish the new norm the better.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 12:47 AM
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When people divorce, they don't increase their income 🤔
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 11:22 AM
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Like don't tell her what you know, and don't file until you're fully prepared with an exit plan. Filing and not paying bills isn't a plan
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 11:14 AM
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It's good to prepare before you file. Prepare before showing your cards
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 10:39 AM
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Impeccable logic 🤣 So Infuriating that it because borderline funny
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 06:29 AM
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Good, that way you know it's his turn. As she was never yours
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 06:27 AM
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Dude, I read the top 30%, and I can't help but come here to blame YOU
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 02:03 AM
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Go to a place in nature where your imagination can run clearly the most likely scenario : You'll try She'll give you hope while building her future without you You'll waste time, and lose your dignity and gain nothing in return And then decide to not do that. Instead: - burry the marriage, it's dead, unless she begs you not to
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 06:50 AM
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She sold hers. I threw mine in the ocean one summer night.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 02:12 AM
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You should look into Borderline personality disorder, this woman might have it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 05:36 PM
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Good that she's the Ex, you already won.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 07:40 AM
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Happy birthday 🎈🎂 Never despair, and never let go from the gift of life. It will get better for sure, and if it gets a little worse, hang in there until the tide turns. It always does.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 03:56 AM
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Well, 2 years divorced, and 9 women met for mostly hookups, I'm almost convinced most women don't offer anything but trouble. This sounds bad, and wrong. And It probably is, but the good ones are all taken it seems.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 07:52 AM
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One of the reasons can be clinical, linked to a condition called BPD. if you don't know what it is, start there. Btw, this is the best case scenario, because it has a medical explanation. Other cases are just related to the woman having found another branch to monkey on.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 05:42 AM
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She was never yours, it was just your turn
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 08:39 PM
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Threw it on the beach, one of those nights when i was hitting rock bottom. It was a silver one, prob cost like 15$ It was satisfying to do so
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 01:21 AM
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Before talking about divorce, go to court and ask about what it takes to file. Do not talk about something you're not prepared 1000% to follow through on. Just be prepared
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 03:26 AM
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🤣🤣🤣 So sad ... it's funny
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:42 AM
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She's not the decision maker, a judge will let him see his child by law.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 04:46 AM
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I thought that marriage is women buying a man (The stock) in hopes for his value to go up, and once divorced continue to receive dividends after selling said stock 🤭🤣
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 12:49 AM
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Desperation
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 12:40 AM
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1- Marry, but know your options 2- Don't marry but know what you're giving up on. You never lose until you play.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 09:10 PM
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I know i know.... 😅
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/23 04:35 PM
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Can you take your wife on a date, and tell her all of this. Set your manly requirements for a happy life and commit to what you'll improve. For the sake of all stakeholders. Confusion is not helpful, so drive the clarification.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 06:26 PM
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Sent me on a fully paid one night vacation in a pre detention center with false DV claims, one year to the dot, after she first ever threatened to do that to me.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 06:05 PM
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Divorce for men is equivalent to having a disability for the first 5 years. Having a vindictive ex, is equivalent to having a cancer
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 05:00 AM
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She's not yours, it was your turn Everything is in your hands 💪
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 02:15 AM
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Sir, she's not yours. It was just your turn.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 02:37 AM
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It's : "contact every good lawyer in town"... You want to leave the bad ones available 😂
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 02:29 AM
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A total downgrade, even if she gives him a good rimjob .... Not worth it
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 02:28 AM
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Fuck her? No, that's what got him here... .don't fuck her anymore 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 06:29 AM
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Alimony will never run out
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 02:27 AM
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Say nothing, nothing. And strategize.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 10:59 PM
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You take care of yourself as if you were someone else under your watch
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 05:03 AM
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Yes it does. But unlike a lot woman, you don't expect a support system to help you be a man, you are a man and you are a support system to yourself and to others. Be you
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 04:58 AM
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It does get better. If not all men in your situation have been where you are, most of them have. Keep your spirits high, no man is more manly and accomplished than one that falls and lifts himself up on his own. Love and care for yourself as if you were someone else you're responsible for.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 02:03 AM
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The idea of not playing is compelling that's one way to not lose. But it's certainly one way to not win. Do the right thing bro, not the thing tht's easiest on you. You won't regret it. In life you chose a sacrifice, that you select. Or one will be worse and will be assigned to you
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 04:56 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 03:24 AM
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Your wife of 11years then. Look, if you're in the US, just try to limit the damages as you could on the hook for a lifetime spousal support.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 04:03 PM
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35-19=16. You got married at 16 years old ???
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 03:53 PM
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Here is what you need : a Doctor in psychology. A PHD psychologist. He can do the talking, and he can do the prescribing if needed. I didn't need medication, but could have prescribed it if he wanted. I was given this advice by : a psychiatrist, who told me to go find a good PHD psychologist. Because those are not your basic therapists that we see flourishing everywhere ...
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 01:30 AM
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It gets better only when you don't have to deal with a vindictive one, but when kids are involved it's hard. Very hard.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 12:26 AM
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Lucky you get to hear this as a single guy
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 01:10 PM
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Who'll give me my 3mn back after reading through this garbage ? Simp world is trying more luring techniques on men. Men walk away, because women are no good for them long-term.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 07:11 PM
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You know someone when you travel with them long enough... More than a week ... Be prepared to find things, and don't dismiss them before you're sure you can accept them long term.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 01:36 AM
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It's not your fault. You did your best, and she loves herself more than she loved you. Move on bro, and out your energy in taking care of yourself as if you were someone else going forward.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 05:04 PM
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I don't see anything wrong with your ex wanting a large family, and i suggest you support her with your kids resenting the new baby being born. Other than that, you had her, and don't have her anymore. For the rest, she can have a life of her own with her own standards as long as she's a good mother to your guys' kids.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 06:52 AM
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Don't over promise, even the honeymoon with oneself after a divorce comes to an end eventually unless you have a solid routine
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 04:09 AM
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My situation was different, where the ex wanted a divorce from me thinking i was cheating, made my life a living hell with young kids at home. On my end i wasn't cheating, and resented her ass for being ungrateful for all I'm doing for her, and for thinking I'd cheat on her... Plus a few other instances of disrespect or the fact she brought my family into the mix ... her getting some female advice that lead to a shit show ending in me kicked out of the house with threats from her on multiple occ…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 03:17 AM
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Man the fuck up ! That's my advice. I've been there and done that, man up, and remember to love yourself first before loving anyone else.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 09:04 PM
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I'd say two things 1- She seems to have a lot to prove first, before a restart of anything. 2- Wondering if you're on a self destruction journey, don't start it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 04:19 AM
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You don't have to wait for anything to enjoy life. You can, should do that NOW 🤜🤛
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 01:52 AM
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Do not forget, judges are lawyers in the first place....
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 04:25 PM
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😂 as if the damaged goods and liars will be truthful to you answering your questions, denial is a classic, history rewrite is a given
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 06:02 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 04:43 AM
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Tell her to start by not involving any other third party in her relationship ... EVER
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 04:31 AM
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Women are walking red flags, either they point at them, and accept them as flaws ... In that case, it's good news.... The fear is from those who know and hide their flaws until you're ducked, or those that have mental issues and are permanently damaged goods
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 04:29 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 02:01 AM
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Yesterday was the day you stopped being in charge of her behavior, and started being in charge of yourself and taking care of yourself as if you were someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 10:23 PM
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I f*cked up when i chose my partner, so everything stems from my poor vetting abilities 😁🙈
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 08:57 PM
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This post is hella therapeutic 😌
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 08:43 PM
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Talk to your lawyer. Don't leave any trail (this one included)
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 03:32 AM
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They start by asking for names, to verify first. It's their normal process.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 07:27 PM
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He did kinda fuck that bitch, that's why we're here 😅
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 08:54 AM
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Bro, I'm a man asking is it that you left her to mix with pieces of shit females that exploited her weakness for money and "feminist freedom"... Or did you push her with your treatment in their arms to open her eyes to options to get away from you and milk you in the process? Just answer this to yourself, and hopefully it either will make you stronger to fight for your financial freedom, and be a good father. Or it'll point at things they you may have done wrong, thag you can list and learn from…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 08:52 AM
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It's always a Tiffany 😂
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 07:02 PM
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You think, she feels. Either you both have to feel and separate anyway. Or she has to think with you... But that won't happen 😁
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 07:00 PM
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Don't let the emotion grow into a feeling. She dumped your relationship for another man, it Hurts as it should, but don't feel sorry for yourself of talk to people about how miserable you are because of what she did. Only way out for you, is to write her off, it's a one time transaction, and you're done. Write her off, just like an expense and move on. Now.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 05:43 AM
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DO NOT GO BACK. She did it once, will more likely than not do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 05:40 AM
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Also, you could be the one paying spousal support one day 😌
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 04:53 AM
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Mostly their spousal support ends when they get married if it was ongoing, the child support doesn't. But child support checks are sweet sweet money, be careful and make sure you want to be their ex one day.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 04:52 AM
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Looks like you need to decide if your new life will be better than the current life. Also your wife seems to be very easy to deal with, and respectful and loving. For the rest you guys might decide to get through divorce using a mediation lawyer that'd represent both of you, that way it's wrapped up easily
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 04:08 PM
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Because you are
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 04:23 AM
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Divorce is hard, but so can you 🤜🤛
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 03:45 PM
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Classic borderline personality disorder ? Probably is
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 03:37 AM
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Pretty much, they'll wait at the finish line, and pick the ones that make it up to their standards.... We should be the ones doing that !
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 05:44 AM
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King of Morocco Hassan II once said : "The strong doesn't always win, but those that never give up do" Never give up on your happiness and dreams.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 02:43 AM
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This above 🔝
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 11:40 PM
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Because r/askfeminists is thriving !
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 11:39 PM
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Guh!
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 02:17 AM
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You gotta chose your sacrifice in life. I suggest you chose to save yourself as a sacrifice. No one else will do it for you, unless I'm proven wrong one day, and i hope I am. Like they say, take care of yourself as if you were someone else you're responsible to care for.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/23 06:31 AM
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I see nothing wrong with her, she gets what you give her, She's not entitled, not doing things for you and then withdraw them, not cheating, not manipulative.... The problem is you. Ask her to help you, because that's what you need. Just define it, spell it out, and support her in adjusting to a new normal. But again, i think you have one of the good ones, just the software needs a little upgrade.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 03:33 AM
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If your intentions are pure, You'll get through life with your partner with no issues. If otherwise, no matter how you try to be smarter than life, life will get you.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 06:40 PM
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Thin about a paternity test. Obviously, there is no reason to be an asshole, it's most probably your child, just keep your eyes open to all possibilities
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 10:20 PM
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Boom 💥
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 08:08 PM
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One more reason to do it's because you're not a fraudster. But those bitches get away with a lot
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 07:12 PM
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Leverage the system, go see a therapist (a PhD psychologist) get an expert opinion that can testify in court backing up your job change with factual data (I'm depressed, I'm burned out, i can't stare at this monitor forever.... ) rather than be accused of lowering your income basis to not pay child support. Nike, just do it !
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 05:01 PM
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Be careful, a woman would toss it all for no reason. And the more she knows you don't want her to, the faster the destruction process will go. Consult with a lawyer, and prepare yourself, she probably already has a replacement lined up
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 04:57 PM
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All you need to provide is last 2 months during the proceedings, do whatever you need to do, close the account, open a new one
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 06:25 AM
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😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 06:22 AM
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In the Pacific one drunken night
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 06:20 AM
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Talk to a lawyer, do not make them get on your head. This is climbing a mountain, and you'll like the view from up there ! 👍✊🤝
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 03:28 AM
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Maybe you married in the danger zone 😂😅🤫
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 01:57 AM
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Classic Hot/Crazy Matrix 😂 Look up the video guys
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 01:50 AM
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She's getting you busy questioning yourself, all awhile she had something to hide. Focus on finding your kid, the rest matters not.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 03:27 PM
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No one is perfect, one has to decide what they're willing to live with, to not risk going out there and getting worse. You either choose your sacrifice in life, or one is assigned to you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 05:24 AM
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Put them to the test, ask them to watch the kids for two weeks, while your wife and you go on a trip to try to figure things out. Tell your wife that this would be the last chance test to try to renew the commitment, and work the differences out.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 07:26 AM
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Genius
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 01:10 AM
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1- it's not about the kettle bell, 2- You don't want to know what it's about, it's stupid 3- Don't give in to her being able to boss you around, it will only get worse 4- don't react now, but in a week, sit her down, and be firm about how you do not accept such behavior happening again, ever. 5- go back to normal, and if she does it again, run !
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 05:25 AM
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Her belly his problem. Let's wish for him that he won't have to join here 😋 Your kids will have a new sibling, and that's awesome i think
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 05:59 PM
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If your child is graped, you don't kill the rapist. As the punishment isn't of the nature of the offense. I'd fuck the mother fucker up !
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 05:30 AM
5

In bullet points : You marry again, only if you want to, not because she wants to. What people say should not meter to both of you, or don't even go on with this. Toxic relationships exist even outside marriage, so are you her first boyfriend? Nowadays marriage matter less than relationships outside marriage unfortunately, just look at what women can throw out the window in a marriage. I don't feel like you have learned anything from you divorce, if you have, use it. What society do you live in?…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 05:43 AM
1

I get it. I deleted my comment because some here read just the first sentence and didn't get the whole thing ☺️
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 07:48 AM
4

Good for you 💪
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 03:36 AM
1

Bro, first of all since you're in the early stages of separation i want to say that you're unwelcome here. If there is something that you can do to show your girl more commitment, and offer your son a warm family cocoon, do so. Divorce is really not cute nor a good thing, so if you can do something to avoid joining the boat, do so. If you fail, then yeah, I'll welcome you back here 😉
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 12:53 AM
3

I'd file as married filing separately, immediately, using your income only and claim the kids. Do not wait for an agreement between the both you, file immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 10:51 PM
0

1- if you pick one that ends up on only fans you deserve to pay for everything. 2- If you're a good guy, you'd be worried that your kids may eat food from onlyfans money, and you may want to pay for everything just to avoid that. Idk, I'm probably old school
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 05:38 PM
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Divorce is divorce, friendship after divorce is a female fantasy. Most end up getting a divorce because they got kids, and don't need a man for anything else, to feel better about themselves suggest to be friends. Fuck that, sideways!
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 01:17 AM
5

I don't care, I'm buying credits to give your post an awesome award 🏆
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/23 10:41 PM
2

Seems like a win to me. Take this and sign it fast
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/22 10:44 PM
3

Yeah, I've been here 4 years total bro. It's rough out there, but we did it to ourselves to be honest. That said, we have to make sure we never lose : we either win or learn ! 🤝
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 06:28 PM
5

I'm here 2 years post divorce trying to give back if i can
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 05:30 PM
8

Your day, your rules. Above all, you pay her, and she should stfu when you speak
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 08:48 AM
9

You can start on working on the hard part : Forgive, yet never forget !
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 08:42 AM
1

We grew stronger from it though.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 02:25 PM
1

Good Luck to you. I'll add here for the single men that'd read this : we divorced mendeserve what happened to us, we didn't think with our brains, we used the wrong member to think 🤔
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 05:58 AM
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All of the above, I'll add one thing : don't force it, and take care of yourself as if you were somebody else you're responsible for 💪
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 01:23 AM
11

Take care of yourselves gents, as if you were someone else you're responsible to provide for.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/22 05:34 AM
1

Yes
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 05:47 PM
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and you may never, just drop it
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 08:06 AM
-2

"There must be someone..... someone i can depend on ...."
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 08:02 AM
-8

I think you described a dude there when it comes to dependability 😂
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 07:24 AM
8

I swear man, do not look back. She's gone. Bitches nowadays are so dilusional that the only answer is to move on and make sure you upgrade if there is a next one. She gives you Max disdain, you give her no reaction. It takes a lot of strength.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 11:59 AM
11

Do not react to her provocation, let her go. Protect yourself financially. If you can get rid of that side business do so Talk to a lawyer. Get 3 free consultations
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 11:29 AM
2

If yours dropped questions on the ex, he should also prepare you with questions he thinks you have to be able to answer and go through them with you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/22 03:28 AM
1

They don't respect men, period
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/22 03:15 AM
3

You take care of your children, by taking care of yourself. They'll be just fine. Keep things cool with your soon to be ex. But, protect yourself : Put hidden cameras if you can. Stay calm and never engage in any escalation. Above all, if she wants, she can file for a divorce, for now your priority is to have a plan, and that's through a lawyer consultation. Use free ones. Also, when you talk to the lawyer, make the best use of the time, lawyers are not therapists. Keep it in the legal realm, an…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/22 12:57 AM
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You talk to a lawyer. Get 3 free consultations. Talk to a professional. Women have no problem discarding men. The best you can do, is decide to never ever put up with that treatment ever again. You'll get over the rest, it just takes resolve and intentional self love. Care for yourself as if you were someone else Budd !
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/22 12:18 AM
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🙄
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 02:46 AM
3

Oh no 😝
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/22 11:27 PM
3

Talk to a lawyer, see what they can offer. Talk to a few lawyers using free consultation. Stay on point, prepare what you want to talk about.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 03:49 AM
3

The mediator was right- he's not a judge nor going to look into evidence.. I wonder what kind of a loser your lawyer is for not letting you know that. Your mother in law, isn't blood. Whatever they made you think, she's happily gonna ruck up your mind. And help her daughter overcome you. Do yourself a favor, your mother in law isn't a judge, and she can't help you, please stop talking to her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 02:09 PM
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Two things : You have good arguments, and you need to write them down in a more calm way, document everything including schedules of the activities with pictures. Beware of the mother in law, she's a spy to know what you think and how you think, and what your next step is. Don't be foolish. Don't be foolish like me.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 02:29 AM
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This ☝️
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/22 07:19 PM
8

It kills me that police do not write reports that much. But they're fast at arresting a male or guiding the female towards asking for a TRO.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 02:47 AM
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If she admits to messing up, and wants you back, I'd give it a try for the sake of the kids. But you know better.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 05:37 PM
3

LFG 💪
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 07:06 PM
5

Fuck them bitches. This gets me really fired up. I went through the same, the best you can do, is trust the process, and manage your expectations. I'm sorry this is happening to you, but this is no time for you to feel sorry for yourself, this is the time for you to move on and delete her from your list of "care". Your kids will be fine as long as you're fine. Stay strong, and don't cave in to sentimental memories. Fuck her and her education, values and a what she stands for.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 07:05 PM
1

Just know, no matter how lonely you may feel, you are not alone man Keep us in your mind and in your thoughts. Also, keep us updated 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 06:25 AM
1

The worst feeling is when in a divorce finds himself fighting his own lawyer to do the right things. Talk to her, and try to understand what her loflgic is. Maybe you're just paranoiac (which is totally understandable) .don't take my comment as negative. Maybe you also need a TRO for her, so you can feel safe where you are. Idk . Speak to her, that a good next step.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 06:24 AM
1

I mean, if she doesn't fight for you, and doesn't care, get rid of her. That said, she might not be a criminal lawyer, and she's only a family law lawyer.... You get the trip ?
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 06:15 AM
5

Gray rock technique. You see her now, you're not angry, and you know what she's doing to you. Gray rock her, and you'll be fine. Let her deal with her demons.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 06:07 AM
5

That's scary then. Maybe she's not the right lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 06:02 AM
3

Talk to a lawyer brother. Two or three of them. Use free consultation.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 06:00 AM
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If i can give you an advice, it'd be to put all your focus in trying to fixing things without losing your manhood. But if she doesn't respect you anymore, she's out. Tell her, respect is the fucking bare minimum. Otherwise, the day will come when you'll be proud you tried everything. Women do things with us for how we make them feel. Then they stop feeling that way, and blame it on us. Tell her, that she needs to know if she wants you for who you are, or if she wanted you for how you made her fe…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 06:24 AM
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Reality is, we have to own our choices. They said : marry me. We said ok. They said : i want kids, we said ok. They said : I want a house, (i said no) but most said yes... Then the shit hits the fan, and find ourselves short everything we said yes to.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 06:05 AM
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Listen to your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 06:07 PM
3

Lawyers would tell you : 2/2/3 arrangement Or Week on week off Talk to a lawyer, because in your case before and after school may be a factor.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 05:39 PM
8

Below 4 years old for me. They open their conscious eyes to separated parents.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 01:29 AM
3

You transition from boy to man when you realize that you need nobody, but everybody needs you.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 05:54 AM
9

Time to bring back the inquisition style witch hunts Seriously, if you can play the status quo for a bit more until you can set a perfect sustainable exit plan. Stay strong man, life is hard with these bitches we chose wrong. They say the same, but without the ownership part, they want none of it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 05:48 AM
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The grass might nor be greener elsewhere. Here is an idea : instead of paying a huge retainer to a lawyer, and since there is no infidelity or something of the sort, pay yourselves something extravagant, a 2 week trip to Europe, or some shit. If there is work needs to be done on the relationship, do it. If she asked before to do some counseling do it, if she never did, surprise her and say that you'd like to better your relationship. It's ok to change for the better for both of you.... Otherwise…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 03:37 AM
1

If you still live with her, and have kids, put cameras everywhere for your protection. If you still love with her a d don't have kids, GTFO and file TRO and divorce at once, cut communication, keep your evidence in case you need it, and move on with your life to where you want it to be once the damn divorce is over.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 01:44 AM
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Don't let anyone tell you what to do, look in the mirror at the man you've always wanted to be. Ask that guy what to do.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 06:02 AM
1

Fingers crossed for you bro. Hang in there, our stories are similar.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 03:36 AM
8

Forever my guy. You'll progress forever
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 07:58 PM
6

Time to transition from boy to man. I've been there. It ends well. It takes time, but it turns out alright. Hang in there and make the choice to evolve
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 07:55 PM
1

Do you guys live in the same town, cause she's running her mouth cockblocking you if yes.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 06:58 PM
7

For your peace of mind, try to focus on hating the behavior and not the whole person. That way you're always be in the right.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 04:31 AM
5

Good, but don't trust yourself around potentially triggering people. Be careful
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 04:28 AM
3

Jealous 👍
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 08:27 AM
3

She definitely will if you let her. Try to cohabitate peacefully for now and help her build history at the job
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 04:37 AM
3

Scam alert ! Anything you agree on, put it in writing. If you can have her terminate the right to get any spousal or child support that'd be great.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 04:31 AM
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Nah, fuck feminist shit
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 04:12 AM
1

Let him know, that him not being able to get over his ego in resolving his marital issues, should not lead to disrupting your own peace. Divorce is a trauma zone for you, and he should understand that. Also tell him, that you love him as a brother, and want to help him set his priorities right in life.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/22 08:50 PM
3

Totally understandable.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 02:37 AM
8

You grow from boy to man, when you need nobody but everybody needs you. You grow from boy to man, when you set bulletproof boundaries ( cheating is / should be a no return point for a man). Stand strong, redirect the caring energy towards yourself, care for yourself as if you were someone else. Do it, do it now. Edit : need nobody stands for (no other human). God can help men, only the manufacturer can debug the beautiful machine that men are.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 07:33 PM
2

You can come in sir ! But don't cum in though 🚨🚨🚨
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 08:08 AM
5

I know exactly what you have gone through. What would have been the right thing to do, is get an apartment and get to see your kid on the regular. Yes, you'd be enslaved in this damn system maintaining her crazy ass, but you'd be doing the right thing regardless of your self best interest. You know what I'm saying ?
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 06:52 AM
3

I hate when friends suggest moves .... That said, did you write off your kid ?
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 05:32 AM
1

Exactly
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 12:39 PM
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You're a man, you don't ask for alimony or child support. You just want to make sure you don't have to pay any. You need a kick in the butt, to widen your horizons and be a better earner if you can. Otherwise, just do your best to be a good father to your kids. That's my take on it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 05:00 AM
2

Clarify what type of location you live in. That'd be helpful i think
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/22 04:05 AM
3

Sorry. It's the end for ya 😂
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 01:21 PM
8

That was Deeeeeeep man
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 05:10 AM
8

Are you saying that my mother hates me 🤣😅
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 05:08 AM
2

Sure. Here are a few good example 😁 https://www.tiktok.com/@tmm_dramatok https://www.tiktok.com/@mensfamilylaw https://www.tiktok.com/@retired_goat_2
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 02:41 AM
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You are heard. I respect your opinion. Sometimes, even if the post isn't legal advice, it feels good to be validated, even by a TikTok video. I know i got a lot of my comforting thought on YouTube when i hit rock bottom.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 02:26 AM
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One "happier" man 🙌
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 02:16 AM
6

Whatever you do, make sure that it's 100% your idea It's your life, and no one else's. People around you will go along with what you say, but you'll face the consequences alone (whichever way you decide to go).
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 03:40 AM
3

This ☝️
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 03:37 AM
11

This ☝️
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/22 01:19 AM
1

Ok, since you're that confident, take this : https://www.tiktok.com/@stanohye/video/7094311828741704966 You should watch all this channel's videos, they're hilarious 😂
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 04:10 PM
1

Hang in there, and do not waste your time thinking about bitches at the moment.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 02:35 PM
3

It's grim enough my guy lol
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 02:30 PM
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Do not vent to anyone either of you knows about this. Use this sub for that. Even your family I'd say. Do not trust her best friends who you think you get along with, they'll side with her. Do not trust her family who you think likes you, they'll fuck you too. To avoid useless headaches, Immediately separate yourself financially and administratively from her, new bank account, separate phone bills .. Don't give her any of your time, do not share feelings, do not expect support. She probably alre…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 01:34 PM
1

😜
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 01:22 PM
1

That's still like 10million women. Up your standards brah 🤣 Edit : more like 5 million i thought i was good with math lol
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 06:22 AM
1

Hold strong man. The game is rigged and no one warned us 🤬
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 06:16 AM
1

Joke incoming : I'm telling my boys to pay for hoes and never get married. Retrospectively, it's cheaper than divorce in California 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 06:06 AM
2

I always thought i can survive anything except attacks on my manhood and my safety in my own home. If it wasn't for that, i'd have taken anything else.... Oh, also knowing that you're not getting laid for weeks and on is also horrible. But that falls under attack on manhood i guess. Better alone and free, sometimes there is nothing else to do.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 06:01 AM
1

Dude relationships are hard. If you both can be content with each other and work on the relationship, every other woman has what she has, and every other man has what you have.... But relationships today have a short shelf life
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 05:57 AM
3

Well, depends on the perspective...i say that's exactly when is a good time for an upgrade 😁
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 05:52 AM
1

🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 05:49 AM
0

How many red pills did you get lol
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 05:48 AM
3

YOU can file a restraining order !!! Dah !
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 01:42 AM
2

I get it
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 05:13 AM
2

Just like women are not victims by definition... Men in divorce are not either. I want to know the context of my contribution and vet the post deeper than what it says. We're not a cult here.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 02:36 AM
3

Whatever offer you're putting together, make sure you don't start with your best, and accompany it with feelings like i said above. These creatures equipped with a vagina are weird
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 07:23 AM
2

You're on the right path, to have good arguments to be able to convince her, but you're still "too" logical. Add a bucket of feelings, yours, and validation of hers to whatever you tell her and you'll be set for succeeding to convince her ass to choose reason. Yeah, sucks to be a man in conflict with a woman in modern times, especially when you're a financially privileged man that fell for dating and marrying down.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 07:21 AM
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All i can say is : for you to be one step ahead, is to put yourself in her shoes... Selling the house : she won't be e to get rental and may have to pay prohibitive rents when she does... So she's dragging her feet Am i wrong,?
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 07:00 AM
1

I didn't tackle that, since you already answered it in your post text 😂
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 05:57 AM
1

Whoever cheated on you for someone else, did you a solid. She's his problem now. Do the same and make sure you upgrade 💪👏
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 05:53 AM
1

Like the ex's new partner ?
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 05:50 AM
2

What's AP ?
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 05:49 AM
6

Whenever you doubt it, know that you're a good and amazing dad. Do your best, and the result is not up to you. Stay strong 💪
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 12:45 AM
2

While he was married ... So the above comment is kinda on point. Judgmental, but on point.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 10:18 PM
8

Bingo. Though I'll add, we know how strangers can be scary, but not people we've shared loving and intimate moments flipping in a 180° move. That is fucking reckoning moment, takes you from boy to man.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 09:39 PM
9

Bad idea. Marry the idea instead, that nobody cares... Except our community here 🙂
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 08:11 PM
2

Women have a giant self esteem problem, don't show any, and you're golden
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 04:10 AM
1

You'd be surprised how many women would want you 👏
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 04:03 AM
1

The stampede of women running to get you huh 😜
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 03:17 AM
2

OP has a post where he's admitting to that.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 03:02 AM
2

All i heard was that you're lucky that you're divorced with no kids 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 02:59 AM
1

It's a fear you don't need to feel obligated to confront... Repeat that after me... Whenever you feel the risk is high, run
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 08:59 PM
11

Ruuuuuuuuuuun mother fucker ruuuun
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 03:52 AM
3

Talk to a lawyer, document everything. These two things should help you get in the right mindset. If you can close this chapter in a friendly manner, do so. Otherwise, hang tight, and don't play any of the women's games, because her wanting to take all your furniture is just toying with you, until you make a mistake. Remember : she won't hesitate to destroy you, send you to jail or whatever, so salty calm a d don't do anything foolish. Stay strong, and weather this storm, then move on to caring …
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 03:43 AM
2

Your attorney will tell you that you need to share them, but it can happen that you forget to print a few pages ...
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/22 04:12 AM
3

Who said he simped ?
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 02:40 AM
8

When you realize that indifference is way better for you than anger ... It's a trend now, the johnny Depp case.... All he said to Shit face is : "You will never see my eyes again" And that my friend is powerful. If you're not the one using indifference, you're the one it's being used on.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/22 11:48 PM
6

If she has ft job offers she refused, stack that into evidence.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/22 03:23 AM
22

All except legal fees, she can get help for. Especially with kids involved. For legal fees, a judge can make you pay for both lawyers partially or entirely. It does feel like shit when you pay your lawyer (an incompetent) and her lawyer also acting against you. If feels like everyone is in to fuck you harder than life ... Awful feeling
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 03:29 AM
3

How can you forgive someone that you never got involved with... The one you knew is dead, or worse... Never existed outside of your head... The one you're dealing with now, is the mother of your child... The one that never changed is your ass, either love it or hate it... But i suggest you take care of making it better day after day and caring for yourself as if it was somebody else.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 05:35 PM
1

Time to bring verses from the Quran (2:216) : "Fighting is prescribed for you, and ye dislike it. But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you." Edit : do with it what you will 🤝
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 07:17 AM
5

If you had not realized yet, now is the time for you my friend to enter the man zone, when you know you're on your own. No one else cares about you (or should) as much as you, for you, to you... Edit : your relationships will be much healthier here on, but we're here for you my friend 🤝 Just don't ask for money, we're all broke here 😜
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 07:12 AM
7

Do not despair, do not capitulate It is time that you chose your real sacrifice : your kiddo and yourself. Care for yourself as if it was someone else you love. The kiddo will be fine don't worry, they adjust real well. Get back in, and fight your battle with all you got.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 06:55 AM
2

Marry up, don't marry down. That's it
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 08:57 PM
14

Wait, and get more and more involved in your kids care.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 08:56 PM
9

Yes she can. Been there done that And It's disgusting when you find out that strong and independent women are extinct in court... Only outside family court do they open their mouths wide and loud
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 05:42 AM
1

https://www.tiktok.com/@stanohye/video/7091566004509134086 This channel is fucking hilarious 😂
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 11:57 PM
1

Stop it 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 11:53 PM
2

Yeah, idk in your case. Sorry mate I commented for anyone in the future that might need to know. 🤝
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 09:20 PM
2

In a fresh separation, men too can be victims. The way to protect yourself is to file for a protective order. Now, I'm not suggesting to use it if there is no abuse or reason to seek an order, but it's good to know. Below from google result : "The lease termination law allows people who have a restraining order, a police report, or documentation from a qualified third party to end their leases without owing additional rent."
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 09:12 PM
3

File for a protective order and the landlord won't be able to object. Edit : but wait, i don't know if you can still be on the lease in the case of a renewal (renewal requires you signature)
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 09:04 PM
2

An attorney by your side in court is what you need. She has one, you need one. Don't do it to yourself, don't be penny wise pound fullish
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 07:55 AM
3

Hire a lawyer, because she won't come unprepared ! You can count on that
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 07:41 AM
1

Aghhhghh
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 02:56 AM
2

Reminds me of my lawyer the day the divorce was final, he told me that i can always hire a hitman, i was 😳😳😳 So i told him a lawyer joke ... He didn't laugh too hard 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 02:54 AM
2

😳😳😳 Brah 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 06:40 PM
1

This comment is for a the men that feel generous when having no kids.... This of that she'll want her pussy eaten, by someone else, and that you'll be paying while she's having it ?
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 06:41 AM
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Bad idea. Whoever put their dick in it, did you a favor. It's their problem now ;)
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 06:30 AM
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Well, i woke up after way too much damage than I'd like for my fellow man. The earlier you decide that your number one responsibility is to take care of yourself, and embrace it, in order to be able to be there for both your daughters is the way to go. Like JP says : decide to take care of yourself, and seek your best interest, as if you were looking after someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/22 04:37 AM
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Not like a pussy, you sound like me 4 years ago. And i hate that dumb ass "good guy". Prisoner's dilemma in the world we live in is the way to go. Otherwise you'll most likely be the loser.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/22 04:22 AM
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I know, i sound like a nut case
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/22 04:17 AM
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Not that you "should", you fucking have to. Trust me on this one. You have to (not should) seek your best interest regardless of what she chooses. Because that's the only way for you to maximize your beneficial outcome instead of the contrary. The prisoner's dilemma, applied to divorce. Think about that one... Deeply. Please please please.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/22 04:10 AM
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Tough one. But the fact she'd be going on dates seems strange ... Either a misunderstanding, or a manipulative move, or an emotional torture move... I'd say regardless : do the fucking same. But keep it mysterious. You don't want her to assume that your mimicking her moves... At the end of the day, you have the right to fuck another pussy from here on... That said, I'd dress up and go out ... To the gym and focus on your health and wellbeing. Don't even waste your time with another C U N T Regar…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/22 04:04 AM
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🤘
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/22 02:10 AM
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Indeed, stolen 😜
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 10:56 PM
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By taking care of yourself as if you were someone else 😉
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 09:18 PM
2

If you can avoid the whole listing process it would be best, because you'll end up paying more the lawyers to divide it than the stuff costs new. But that said, do with that information what you will.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 01:10 AM
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This right here 👏☝️
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 04:16 AM
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Only support, and we'll even save the bad jokes and angry comments against feminism and shit. The place you're in right now, is key. Your mindset is your everything. She will want to get rid of you, and unload all the problems on your back. The best you can do is to not engage in any of the mind games that might ensue. Let her go. And take care of yourself as if you were one of your kids. You kids will grow to be healthy, and have two parents like everyone else on this plante. They'll be fine. H…
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 04:13 AM
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Awesome and insightful to read 🙌
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 01:09 AM
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It's risky and if you get busted and the ex wife finds out you're pretty much fucked. Someone suggested massage with HE, that makes more sense with less risks, exponentially less risky and less costly.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 11:16 PM
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Don't, just don't.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 11:11 PM
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Makes a whole lot of sense. Easier said than diagnosed though 😊
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 11:10 PM
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I'm in Cali man, i don't want to risk losing my kids. Such behavior can endanger your custody. Someone suggested a massage with HE, and that is kinda safer i think
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 06:47 PM
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That's exactly my point indeed. Thanks Bro
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 04:05 PM
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Bet 👍👏
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 02:53 PM
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We do what we do for them
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 02:49 PM
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Thanks man for the effort. You gave me food for thoughts and reinforcement for what i know indeed. Fuck marriage, fuck it and whoever even thinks it'd make their life better, it does not.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 05:10 AM
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I'm in deep shit financially because of her, (because of my self harm and carelessness due to a deep depression too)... But still, this shit show in the most part is her show. And I'm the puppet. Fuck marriage man. Fuck marriage
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 04:06 AM
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Not passport, ID (green card)
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 03:57 AM
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Damn, i celebrated too early. Well, the most paid job filling forms and not being bound by any result obligations is definitely lawyers
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 09:55 PM
10

Hurray 🤚 Congrats to all Floridian dads.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 09:24 PM
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It matters that you got a divorce and corrected your selection mistake. You now are overwhelmed with nostalgia feelings, which is normal. Just give it time, and you'll rock a giant smile on the daily that you chose your freedom. 💪🙌
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 04:00 PM
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Yep, dealt with that bitch trick.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 03:02 PM
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Sir, this is for divorced men, if you want tricks, go to divorced bitches page !
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 11:41 AM
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Shut your mouth then, preserve the peace, and do your thing. Or Own it and accept how it turns out.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 01:52 AM
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Go counseling. Marriage is hard, if she's going to bail because of a car that was there before her, it's only going to get worse once the entitlement will increase with more time and kids... Be very careful what you decide to do now, fuck love is all i can tell you, that's a weak romcom reason !
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 01:35 AM
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What's preventing you from fucking bitches while having a peaceful cohabitation with your co-parent ?
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 01:21 AM
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I like how you think 💬
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 09:49 PM
2

True, the remedy to that is to avoid dating/Mary-ing down !
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 08:03 PM
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To be fair, it is consistent because you're in this group, happy people are quiet and mind their own business. I believe that they exist i haven't experienced it. Don't despair from finding a hidden Gem, the strength of this group is to make men see the other option (if you marry a miserable cunt)
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 03:21 PM
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Go on a business trip or something, don't tell her that you're talking alone time ... away ! Maybe this is a bad idea
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 05:40 AM
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Here for the bros 💪
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 04:17 AM
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Between full time job, commuting, my dad duties, the domestic chores, i barely find some time to fuck some bitches here and there 😂 I do however have my Sunday beach picnic ritual i started a month or so ago Change doesn't have to be big to be noticeable, it's all about small good decisions. They compound My loss will be helpful to offset capital gains tax, so it's never a loss really unless you leave the market 😆
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 04:14 AM
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Don't trade, unless you have done some paper trading first I lost 10 times that, and i consider it to be tuition fee 😅 Poor people like us are ready to lose all of it, for making giant wins... Rich people prioritize capital preservation over the gains %. That my friend is the lesson
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 04:07 AM
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Damn man, wallstreetbets is where i get a good laugh everyday 😂
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 04:02 AM
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Trading got me hooked, got me to wake up early every morning (CA) And i never stopped learning since i started
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 03:59 AM
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Your lawyer can take care of it Having a lawyer is always the good opening move
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 08:22 PM
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It's a chess game man, if they pull the wrong moves on you, it's your fault, don't blame the game. You gotta read it right, and play it right. These bitches are cold ❄️
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 04:57 PM
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I have the same arrangement as yours currently in time sharing. It has been good as i work, but still get to spend more time with my kids than she does. I will lead the same battle as yours soon as circumstances are getting in my favor, i want to regain more custody and instead of paying her, get some money back and save it or invest it my kids. You'll get there 🙌💪 Stay strong If she tries something crazy defend yourself and record everything. Fuck those entitled bitches
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 04:53 PM
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Try everything before you get to divorce, but once you do, do it with intention and plan well for it
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 05:01 AM
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General rule, prepare your exit. Make her work or lower down your wages or prepare your butthole for a pegging session.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 08:52 PM
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Nope, doesn't resonate with me. Honestly, i think the ove analyzing can be detrimental. But it's just my view point. Simply put : Instead of continuing to love and want to care for her, start to love and care for yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 04:26 PM
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Take care of yourself, as if it was someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 12:16 AM
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Pay for it yourself, and put that on the record, like keep the receipts.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/22 11:39 PM
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You're fragile, and these are the 4 Don't dos that damage your manhood : don't beg, don't chase, don't drink, don't self destruct. But You're about to break from your old shell. It sounds wrong to you, and you don't want it ... But be patient and you'll yield great personality growth. The more it hurts, the better.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/22 07:42 PM
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Classic, you won the lottery getting rid of both at once 👏👏👏 Enough for celebrating 🥳🎉🎊 This is your new mindset
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/22 04:52 PM
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Welcome to the community of "failures" according to your description. In fact, we are not failures, we are a bunch of dudes that understood that life can't go always our way, and to make the best out of it. Love oneself, invest in oneself, protect oneself. "Your assets, education, career, kids will never wake up one morning and decide to leave you"
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/22 03:29 PM
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Let i hear you say it : "I screwed up, and didn't take this seriously" Say it. And promise yourself that you'll take this shit way more seriously than anything else, because this will shape your life for years. Yeah, consult a lawyer immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/22 04:14 AM
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Here is my take : she wants a divorce, give it to her. And whenever you think you tried and came short, and that it's your fault, think about why deadlifters don't rock a smile when they have all that weight above their heads. She wanted you basically to be a deadlifter and rock a smile while doing it, reality is : you have her everything, and all she did give you is a vagina and attitude. Fuck female entitled crap. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/22 12:11 AM
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Give it to her and don't even try to understand. But ask this question : "am i the first you say this to, or the last" because she discussed this with everyone around her before you got word. They plan, consult and execute. Edit : btw, i didn't read the post, the title was enough for me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 08:50 PM
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Sir, this is a whining, non violent forum 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 02:09 AM
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In a situation with a kid, other than you try to support her to get back to work now, before shit hits the fan, i can't advise much other than brace and own the consequences of what you agreed to when you said "i do". Sorry, with a kid in the game, i don't advise to do anything else.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 06:10 AM
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I hear ya bro 👏 All good. We're here for each other. With no artificial flavors added, i get it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 01:29 AM
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I don't think you got this one right. Being careful in giving advice is a universal skill, even more useful for humans with ballz !
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 01:11 AM
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no need to make the man feel bad. You could have gotten the point across in a little softer fashion. Imo
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 12:33 AM
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Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging, but : "that sounded bad". No, you don't need her to lead a healthy lifestyle, it's all the contrary. Lift yourself up, change your habits, get busy, learn something new... Trust me, it'll get better as soon as you start this process.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 02:39 AM
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WHENEVER YOU FORGET IT, REMEMBER IT : Wear that "awesome dad" badge proudly. It looks good on you 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 02:35 AM
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The best message to convey to him is : You have to seek your best interest, you have to pick yourself, choose to make yourself a better man than doesn't need a woman to live and strive. If the right one comes along one day, why not. His career, his talent, his money, his education, his kids will never wake up one day and decide to leave him. Tell him to invest in those. Tell him that the soonest he gets into all stages of grief the better. It's a hard pill to swallow, i know, but that's the one …
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 09:19 PM
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Because you haven't fought her yet, with a lawyer whispering in her ears
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 07:02 AM
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She's going to know what and how you think, a d take you to court for every penny you got with a clean consciousnse. Don't do it
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 06:43 AM
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Going forward : "the best or nothing".
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/22 10:13 PM
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Went 💪 It's already happened
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/22 12:52 PM
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You're not alone. Women use and hop off to chase the next thing. Most women, perceive peace as boredom, and need to rock the boat. That's why I'll never have a bitch on my boat ever again. MWTOW
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/22 02:49 AM
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This
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/22 07:13 PM
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I deep down know, but also hope she won't dare. How can she justify such a thing. It would be suicide. And she's hateful but not stupid. She's testing to see if I'll go along and go out of my way to adjust to the new dislocated plan. It's all mind games. Edit : thank you bro. But the way I see is : she picks them up i win. She goes on with her petty plan, i win again. If i get q call from the school to come pick my kids up that'd break my heart though.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 08:30 AM
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She did it to come back at me. No other reason. See, she had school location choice this year, and i have it next year. She tried to change that, and got a rebuttal. Any judge would see what she's doing. Imo Edit : she's trying to prove that i can't attend to the kids, but that will never happen as she's changing the rules. And pickup times to atain that goal. And no judge is dupe.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 08:23 AM
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Other than i have position tracking, i can justify of my pick up times... more importantly all our talking parents messages pickups outside of school days or when the after school is closed are at 5pm. Has always been that way.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 08:20 AM
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I stole it from somewhere too 😂
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 01:47 AM
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Don't get me wrong, women wait at the finish line, and pick only the winners. They are not interested in your struggles or issues. That new one included. That's what they do, they compliment you and let you hear what you want, to get what they want. So stay focused on yourself, and rather use than be used.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 04:30 PM
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Omg man. Sorry to hear. I read all your text, and to me it has been long overdue that you move on. If this woman doesn't give you head, and she expects you to wait patiently for her highness to take you back in, fuck her! There more fish in the sea today than when you guys met. And let's be fair : you got a giant advantage to get what you want now, being in a better place on the dating scene than she is. Go for yourself, love yourself, improve yourself, focus on yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 03:59 PM
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The word unstable hit home is a special way.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 11:58 PM
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That's a man right here 👏
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 08:22 PM
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The username checks out
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 07:23 PM
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😜🤣
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 07:22 PM
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Man, honestly all i wish is that you never end up posting here. For me personally, I'm just not willing to lock my balls in a shoe box every time i go home.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 07:20 PM
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Check out my first comment. Why should I choose between breathing and staying hydrated ? Edit : now if your mother is toxic to your relationship, then isolate your relationship from her, but still stay hydrated.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 06:45 PM
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Do not respond. Grey rock method works wonders
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 06:40 PM
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A man, is the one able to go beyond the sexy time dependency, be a man And be fair to all regardless of what you'd have to loose.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 06:38 PM
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Ask her to choose between breathing and hydration.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 06:07 PM
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In California, more than 10 years marriage and you're set for life. Less than 10 years and you may still be set for very long alimony payments. However the rule is half the duration of the marriage. Mine was 5 years, and i was ordered 2.5 years. 10monthe to go. The sooner you file, should that happen, the better as you establish separation date. And unless humanity requires, don't pay a dime unless ordered by the court.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 01:59 PM
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I'd send her a flower cake signed by the kids. They were not old enough to participate consciously. I didn't expect reciprocity at all. I did it for my kids, and so she doesn't feel she's on her own (she has the kids). But me, no more on her side.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 03:04 AM
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Bro, i did that for two of her birthdays in a row and still got the stranger treatment. No reciprocation whatsoever. She actually called the cops the day it was my birthday to take the kids away from me. So, i say this guy is free to do as he pleases, he doesn't seem to care, and it's good that way.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 02:56 AM
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That hit home. Your kids age...
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/22 02:03 AM
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You're at your work place. she's in a public space. No fault in any case. Stay vigilant but don't stress over it. Know what i mean ?
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 09:22 PM
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Don't make her drive you paranoiac. They enjoy it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 09:17 PM
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The kids in that situation matter more. Keep repeating that they have a mom and dad that love them, and that the separation isn't their fault. Just keep ignoring her games, she'll beat you with experience if you do. Just keep your focus on the Kids' best interest.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 01:52 AM
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Nothing to celebrate. Time to focus on the new life build plan.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 08:42 PM
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🤣
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 05:52 PM
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Keep yourself in check. Don't get distracted on where your focus needs to be now : The divorce process Caring for, and improving yourself. Be healthy mentally and physically.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 04:59 PM
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In the case a man wants to divorce a wife, which is rare enough nowadays with what the emotional, logistical and financial downfall can be... In Islam God addresses men by this verse : [2:226 - 227] Those who intend to divorce their wives shall wait four months (cooling off); if they change their minds and reconcile, then God is Forgiver, Merciful. If they go through with the divorce, then God is Hearer, Knower. That's pretty much it. If you're sure, after a cool off period, then he hears, and k…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/22 01:30 PM
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Record everything. Keep cool always. Do not respond to provocative comments, or put yourself in a situation you could be set up. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 07:51 PM
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Thanks man for the feedback. I do not intend to talk, i intend to listen to what she has to say Like they say, " protect me from my friends, my ennemies i can take care of them !"
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 05:59 PM
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My user name is a reminder of what i was called to justify her own issues. I did check on myself and did not get any confirmation of my mental alleged issues. I got into investing, and i do not feel like I'm either a bull or a bear, so I'm bipolar in that sense. That's all. Thanks man i take the advice regardless 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 05:12 PM
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You'll get to the day that you feel peaceful again, and be able to make those kind of move, white full confidence that you'll never fall for shut women do again ! Stay woke !
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 05:03 PM
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Hahaha. Ok buddy, whatever rocks your boat
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 03:05 PM
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I respect your opinion brother. But maybe there are things that are not in my message to explain it better. Most of it is in the context and not in the text. I'm way over her, and won't share the same confined space with her ever , ever ever ever. I'm done and done 1000 times over my friend. Thanks for the feedback though
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:36 PM
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Damn 😂
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:32 PM
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See my other responses
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:24 PM
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I moved on brother. I'll never ever get married, even less to the same person 😳
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:24 PM
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I hope for nothing man, I'm enjoying my freedom. If this happens it's only and only for the kids wellbeing. If it doesn't happen, I'd be relieved to be honest ☺️
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:23 PM
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Hahaha, When i say that in not ready for this type activity, it's because I'm not sure if i can guarantee i won't push her off a cliff if i had a chance 😂 Not because I'm hurt and still dream about her. This is really from a place of how much hate i still have in me for her, and that won't go away. But the kids won't have to experience that. When they'll grow up, they'll make their own opinion. I thought it would come out clearer than it did.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:22 PM
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We're already divorced bruh
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 09:40 AM
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😂
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 01:50 AM
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No, not yet. Post in here for all of us when you hopefully get on your feet soon 💪
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 03:12 AM
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I changed attorneys 4 times. Still.... Got fucker 😭🤣
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 03:10 AM
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It's a horrible system. You're giving them too much credit if you think they have time to treat you fairly 😭
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 03:04 AM
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🤣
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 01:55 AM
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Good for you, just make sure those bad feelings don't resurface like the sewage and cover everything in poop. Make sure it's not something you're suppressing. If you really feel nothing, be happy, there's nothing to see move on !
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 06:00 AM
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Check this guy's strategy (cycleguy84). Applies to couples with no children, or you were with a single mom that wants to fuck you over, after fucking around. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/mt66e3/what_percentage_of_your_income_goes_towards/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 03:13 AM
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Divorce, i came to learn, is a ghost. It hunts you if you let it, for a lifetime. Thank God we're humans, and can forget. All i got to say, is you're probably going to live another 46 years, and won't have to be this stupid piece of shit you are now for 42 of them. Hop back on the bull's back, and ride this coming 4 years like a true warrior. The warrior for your peace of mind, you are a warrior, and have always been. Then, find your garden on e the war settles down, and enjoy being a warrior in…
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/22 07:07 AM
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Drive for UBER man. Small Hussle side job is better than none
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 04:22 PM
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Find a side gig when you don't have your kids, and don't tell anyone about it. It's risky, since a judge might base you support payment on two jobs. So, be careful how you tread there. Otherwise, you can live on 175$ a week. Tight, but make sure you pay yourself first. Set aside, even if it's just 20$. But save some money every week
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 04:34 AM
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🤝
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 01:27 AM
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Never
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 06:52 PM
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My heart go to you ! I have been in a similar situation, where i had to leave so i can avoid being arrested. Came back home when social services didn't help her enough, and 4 months later, ended up being arrested. Had to deal with an empty case, that was never filed, but still needed to request the arrest to be sealed, it took 2 years. Stay in your kids life, but don't put yourself in harmed way ! Never. Overall, had the police called on me 13 times, 3 of them, we lived under the same roof. So, …
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 01:29 AM
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Invest ! No matter how small it will pay off long term !
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 02:06 AM
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One word : Mattel !
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 01:04 AM
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I guess the amount doesn't matter, rather how much it is from your take home pay ! It's 35% for me !
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 01:04 AM
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My man, we not in the blaming others business. Stand straight, head high. What didn't kill you, hurts, but makes you the wiser 💪
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/22 12:03 AM
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Take advantage of the opportunity you have to shape and see your kids grow. 💪
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 09:00 PM
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Yeah, you can also poke a bear and put a finger in it's a hole
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 01:30 AM
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You win, when you make peace with the situation, and decide to take yourself as a caregiver to yourself ! Stay strong my man, we've been there, many of us... And you will live a happier life sonner than you think
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 01:30 AM
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Why did this sound like a wallstreetbets post ? 😂 Use : "Ex wife's new boyfriend" instead. Edit : do nothing man, that woman is that man's problem now !
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 01:25 AM
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Here : GTFO
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 10:17 PM
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Sometimes, you have to let things and people go, and see what comes back !
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 07:22 PM
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When your stay at home wife starts to compete and resent you, brace yourself for the incoming storm. You can prepare early, and have a plan in case that's what her intention is. Do not get blindsided, if she still gives you a BJ, doesn't mean she doesn't already have an exit plan in motion. And you'll be one to finance it ! Careful and do not ignore the red flags.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/22 11:07 PM
1

You're right to be bothered. No doctor has the right to ask what your marital situation is. If you want to get it done, just go see another practice and change your current urologist. 🤡 vibes from this one. Double standard is real. Equality goes out the window when it comes to exercising men's rights.
/r/MensRights11/02/22 02:54 AM
3

The kids don't think in term of "what could have been if", i think mostly kids are alright (in normal divorces)
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 03:14 AM
15

Welcome to the club. They'd do anything to make themselves feel good
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/22 09:29 PM
4

Love yourself first, the rest will follow. It's a life hack
/r/MensRights06/02/22 07:07 PM
1

If the feminists are against it, doesn't mean they're wrong, but i tend to think they are most of the time. Damn feminist toxicity
/r/MensRights06/02/22 12:20 AM
2

All what happens to us, When properly circumstanciated, need to serve our offspring. I learned nothing from my parents, other than grind to survive and i feel like my experience will serve my kids, including my divorce...i have two boys and i want them to have my lessons learned in sight.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 04:51 PM
5

Because he'd get peace. And that is priceless.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 05:24 AM
1

As much as the idea sounds attractive, seems like a peaceful separation. I'd suggest to finalize everything before moving out though
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 03:20 AM
2

Bahaha haha... Men usually get blindsided. Good luck making it realistic. Even when they have a side piece, they try to keep all their women 🤪
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/22 02:04 AM
21

Oh man. I'm in the same situation just 20 years younger. I've always hated debt... I've turned down getting in debt when my ex wife wanted me to buy us a home. Funny that only one month later she kicked me out for the first time after unbelievable accusations of unfaithfulness, then violence then rape. She still made sure i get in debt now, paying her. Choose your mate wisely, or stay away. That's for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/22 02:33 AM
1

Speak to a lawyer. And as long as you're still married abroad and have lived in the US for 6 months, you're legally married here (i think).
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/22 02:52 AM
7

Sorry boy, we're here used to superficial females fucking their husbands over. Your arguments are weak, and i have no advice to give you other than "think again". In the perspective of you having made your mind, tell her now, don't fuck around, and show her now what your plans are. Here we hate supporting people that blindsided or use other people.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/22 09:29 PM
5

Some times, it's just after the female accomplishes her reproductive goals. Closes shop, and acts like a black widow ! Fuck black widows, marriage isn't the problem, it's these women we fall for.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/22 02:49 AM
3

Let your lawyer deal with her lawyer and make his client come back to reason. Be firm with yours that you're not giving in on that, because it was agreed. Be firm with your lawyer. Be firm with your lawyer. He can argue that you'd withdraw your approval on stuff she wants if they didn't close it as agreed. That's some bullshit bitch right there. Fuck her
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/22 07:41 PM
2

😂
/r/MensRights13/01/22 04:05 AM
8

The situation you show up with in court, is the situation of record. You can do anything right now, and no one would be able to use it against you. If you can maximize your cash, do it. If you can take a lower paying job, or start a loosing money business do it now. If you feel depressed and want to step away from stressful job, consult a psychologist today and do that... If you want to try to work things out, and explore other possibilities other than divorce, do it too, while keeping in mind t…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 01:59 AM
2

That's enough for that type of c*nt
/r/MensRights12/01/22 09:58 PM
10

I remember your previous post. You seem to be on it, and clear head and ideas. Go for what's best for you and your child.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/22 03:21 AM
4

DONT TAKE IT SERIOUS. IF SHE DOES IT, USE IT IN COURT. Don't help her "not" make a mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/22 02:14 AM
11

I bet they're still calling it a "man"hunt 🤣
/r/MensRights10/01/22 09:55 PM
4

This started out hella grim, but the last paragraph was great to read. You're not alone, and you know what needs to get done. NIKE ! just do it 🙌
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 08:17 PM
28

You dodged a bullet by divorcing a woman that'd take a man from his wife. Boy oh boy I'd be really nice to him, he doesn't know what he's getting himself into, and from what you wrote he seems to deserve it 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 04:14 AM
3

Oops, you're right
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 11:44 AM
24

You gotta accept that she's that man's problem now. Cheer up, your kids will do fine with you around.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 01:52 AM
15

1- You're lucky that this is coming up right now, and not 10 years down the road. 2- You're also lucky you don't have kids with the bitch. 3- consult with a lawyer, it's the only way to get out of it while someone is looking after your rights, if someone can recommend you one would be better. Else, consult 3 of them, for free, and see the one you like best. 4- This should be wrapped up quite easily, don't stress over it, it should be done easily and you won't have to look back.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/22 10:59 PM
2

Oh man 😭
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/22 08:36 AM
1

So, the wealthy wife's boyfriend from r/wallstreetbets does exist I thought it ,as a joke all along 😂
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/22 08:35 AM
3

There are reasons that defacto entitle you to. If you have another child If you experience loss in income, you file immediately If your ex wife remarries, or if you see her income increases substantially. Otherwise, just continue holding on your second mortgage payment that support is, at least you don't have to pay property tax for having kids 😂
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/22 03:02 AM
8

You can take a quick look at the rearview mirror, but use the windshield for the bulk of your driving man. Godspeed, it's gonna be a bumpy road, but you'll get there and find your peace.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/22 09:23 AM
4

Play the system, way that your pronouns are she/her
/r/MensRights06/01/22 06:22 AM
4

You got all the right ideas with the right attitude.. 🙌
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 02:06 AM
7

Consult q lawyer, and account for uncle Sam in your sale Fair winds to you my man
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 07:57 PM
4

Let's fucking goooooooooooo !
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 06:50 AM
0

Nonobstant your username, i agree with you 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 01:43 AM
3

Not mine, i heard or read it somewhere. Ran deep in my soul
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 01:32 AM
7

Eh, thank her for what's to come. Don't look back, look forward to a new life. Don't settle for someone that robs you your solitude, and gives you no real companionship.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 08:30 PM
3

You're not tired, you're exhausted. Until you get it done, you can't rest or fall back.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 06:16 AM
1

Exclude (where you meet them), investigate what you're attracted to lol No hard, we're here to make it fun too 🙌
/r/MensRights31/12/21 04:36 PM
0

Something is wrong with where you pick them up from, or how you choose them work on that
/r/MensRights31/12/21 04:58 AM
16

Listen to me, and listen to me carefully. The marriage is done. It's tough to hear, it's rough to process, and you're in for a rough ride, however there is hope : Wake up now, and start building a plan. Talk to a lawyer, and accept that the marriage is dead. Build a.dupport system of your own, and start hiding some money if you can. Hold on communication, she'll use anything she gets from you against you. You're not alone. I went throug something similar, and have not dealt with it properly. I g…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/21 06:42 AM
5

😂.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/21 10:21 AM
14

No, because the friend request would grant her access to all your shit (past/present and future) posts, keep that in mind
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/21 10:07 AM
4

What country are you in though ?
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/21 10:06 AM
4

We're there with you, you're not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/21 02:51 AM
0

Logically they're her kids as much as his. She's not saying she'll keep them from him, just saying that she's retreating to live with family. She obviously can't afford her own place... I'm just saying that this case doesn't smell like a bitch case to me. OP knows better than you an i both. He'll make the right call.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/21 07:55 AM
1

It's established that his wife is just "upset" at this time. Doesn't want a divorce nor a separation. Let alone if that is what he wants. So it's a tough place to be for OP. And he got to tread lightly on this one.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/21 07:49 AM
2

Yep. I suggest if you have been filling your role as a breadwinner 99% of the time and husband 1% of the time, that you try to fix that. If it's fixable you'll know it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/21 06:58 AM
3

She sure can.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/21 06:53 AM
1

All you can do right now is set your boundaries : For example : Ask her to stay a week or two, talk it through and if she's still upset you can drive her down there.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/21 06:51 AM
4

Chess is great way to know yourself before you play anything else in life
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/21 03:01 AM
7

Many couples, (specially women) once they have kids, they become the priority over the other spouse. It's unfortunate really, because the kids are the byproduct of the union, not the union. So once the union is dead, divorce is the way. Most of the time partners do not see it coming or take it the same way. Good for you that you guys did.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 11:57 PM
16

When you don't grief over your marriage ending at all, definitely divorce is the way to go.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 11:49 PM
3

Let her call the cops, and document her disturbing your peace on your custody time. Set strong boundaries.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 01:04 AM
0

https://www.tiktok.com/@imaddaher10.1/video/7040635214074383663 Find the one that'll never gossip about you kings
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 01:00 AM
2

It's so good to hear
/r/MensRights26/12/21 05:32 AM
1

It will get worse, before it gets better. Or else, what would the lesson be !
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 08:11 PM
2

Wherever boobies are "hanging out" 😜
/r/MensRights24/12/21 05:12 AM
1

Nailed it. As always
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 04:37 AM
3

A clean notarized separation agreement should do. Divorce ends the benefits not legal separation.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 02:11 AM
9

Tell her she can do it anywhere else. And that you don't care. Fuck her ( not literally ) your dick knows better than that now.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 04:15 AM
10

Dude, i got married in Europe and made sure i was protected. Thing is, 2 years later moved to the US, and happened what happend... I got clobbered I have an excuse (i didn't know the system was fucked in here).... Now dudes out here that grew up and always lived here have none... Stay woke Boyz... Don't let any bitch run a permanent drain pipe into your finances. They don't care about you, especially if you have kids... They consider it normal to enslave you for 12-16-18 years... It's messed up.…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 02:52 AM
1

My body my choice? my wallet my choice bitches
/r/MensRights22/12/21 10:57 PM
3

Your son is young, and you care for building something for you both. If you can take advantage of the 10 days you have with him, with this job, then take it. Your bank account would smile at your in a year...
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/21 08:18 PM
4

Remind her then. If she still moves forward, you have your argument in front of the court. Don't overthink it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/21 12:44 AM
2

If the roles were reversed......
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/21 11:38 PM
8

nother very sad story.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/21 05:19 AM
19

I'm the father of her children... What did that do for me ?!
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/21 04:07 AM
1

Not much will happen imo, you're not working and are caring for your child... But get a lawyer involved if you can afford it
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/21 03:22 PM
1

Going that route is expensive, better make sure there is solid ground to the time and money needed for that approach.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/21 10:44 PM
2

How long have you been married ?
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 07:22 AM
8

It may sounds harsh, but you cut the drinking, realize that you're a young grown man, and get your act together. Your father can't help you become a better you, only you... Can. Don't indulge in the victim mentality, do not give that woman power over your mental health that she doesn't deserve. The hand (edit: that hurts you) you can't cut off, you kiss it till you don't have to deal with it anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 06:25 AM
8

It's tough. It's tough, and the only ones that can feel what you're going through, and the ones that went through it. Stick around, read as many posts as you can, you could find advice and also relief. Stories here are eye opening.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/21 03:33 AM
1

Your lens of seeing things, isn't a universal one. But i respect and feel for you brother. I'm not going to STFU, because we're the same age, and you know nothing about me or what i do for my kids. I hope you don't leave any marks pm your kids, and succeed better than your dad in raising them. 🙌
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 05:24 PM
1

Take it easy Curtis
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 04:45 PM
1

😂
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 04:11 PM
9

I see no reason for the meeting left Sorry man, you are wasting your time with that meeting
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 03:46 AM
10

How about you meet her, your peepee tells you to fuck her... You don't think much of it, until you get a call 9 months later at best, 2 months later in the worse case telling you that you're going to be a daddy 😤
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 03:41 AM
15

All of that is playing with fire. But you do you
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 03:09 AM
35

That legal and religious bind was terminated 2 years ago. There is nothing worthy to talk about, unless you still need closure... Seems to me you're playing with fire.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 03:05 AM
1

I envy all the men who do have that special someone to go home to, that will never flip on them. They don't know it, but they are blessed.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 03:03 AM
3

Trust me, i know. I also know you can walk into court with a lawyer a d still have the worse possible experience.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/21 08:31 AM
2

Cross examination is when you get a court date and you actually get to talk about the motion in hand. The judge will let each party (or each party's lawyer) ask questions to the other party regarding the issue at hand. Coming prepared is important. If you don't have a lawyer, lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/21 04:10 AM
1

I know. I ran out of patience for anything "her" related.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/21 09:00 PM
2

🤯 😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/21 05:57 AM
1

I'm asking to be roasted, don't make this about her .... It's about me lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/21 05:49 AM
1

I have my own memories with them that she can't pollute. It's visceral at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/21 03:41 AM
5

I understand the general rule, and you're right. Like every rule, there are exceptions. In my case, any interaction with that woman is toxic to my blood circulation. Too many bad memories, and it's my fault i even said yes in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/21 02:59 AM
4

Acts like nothing happened, and even manipulated one of my kids to ask me for something.... 🤯
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/21 02:51 AM
3

I knew she'd want to be there, and i had no willingness to be anywhere where she is.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/21 02:50 AM
6

Doesn't seem like you have kids, so move on. Next time you invest in someone, make sure it's worth the pain.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/21 12:02 AM
1

Doest add up
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/21 05:53 AM
1

As i said above, you can be foolish like that... But if people are not an investment to you, you'll find out that you are to them
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/21 11:42 PM
1

If they're not to you, you are to them..
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/21 11:41 PM
1

😂
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/21 11:40 PM
3

There is no difference between a woman, and a swimming pool. Compare the cost to have and maintain to the time you spend in it.... 😅
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/21 11:39 PM
5

I feel
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/21 10:50 PM
7

Find your peace, wherever it is, with whoever that would be. If that on your own, fine. Your peace comes first.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/21 05:35 AM
8

👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 11:58 PM
14

100% true. Unless she's a good one, that money went down the drain... But if she was a good one, you'd not be here in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 11:06 PM
1

Damn
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 10:42 PM
1

Support her to get back on her feet and then reassess.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 10:39 PM
1

You're paying her child support, and she needs you to prove it .... Makes no sense....
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 09:36 PM
16

"live in the basement" .... Wow !
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 02:45 AM
7

Did she get it that morning, or did you guys have it at home ? Because she can say (if her plan is sending you to jail) that she had a doubt she was raped, so she went and bought it that morning.... And has proof of that purchase...
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 12:47 AM
6

Where did she get the plan B pill from, and when ?
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/21 12:43 AM
2

Oh man, i thought my case was bad, but i felt the pain of never being heard, and can only imagine what you went and are going through. Head up, and look ahead, don't let the past hunt you, learn from it and advance
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/21 03:37 AM
3

It is all your fault, you should do your investing without her blessings. She'll be the first to give you head should you have not listened 😁
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 05:16 PM
1

Why sadly? Ask yourself, how sad would you be if you were one of us ... At least for 4-5 years before you can rebound... So, silver lining, you're doing great, move on and move on now !
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 01:32 AM
1

You can feel even better now that someone read it all. You haven't talked about the kids, what they want, where they feel better ... Just keep their best interest in mind. Kids are cool when both parents are cool, weather separated or together.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 12:45 AM
1

She's not the one, when it has to be a struggle.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 12:30 AM
1

Yours took one for the team, most of us here got bogged ! Good for you 🙌
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 10:56 PM
4

Your life has been reset. At least you weren't sent to jail 😅
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 04:40 AM
-1

That's flat out unhealthy dude. I know you don't mean it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 04:36 AM
5

I did seek advise, and i was told she was a great mate. Boy that I resent asking in the first place, my gut always told something was up with this woman, i just couldn't figure it out. Now, i did figure it out.... silver lining 🙌 😂
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 04:34 AM
6

On the flip side, i think you should review how you choose them too. Not being a dick here, we all have to do that work on ourselves.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 04:26 AM
1

Come on dude, you think we're going to fall for this ? A female saying in public that she was wrong? Nah... This doesn't happen even in the metaverse 😂
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/21 08:50 PM
2

Sure as hell she checked out, and has no respect for you whatsoever. The grass isn't greener elsewhere, that said at least you get to see it lol You know best what's good for you and your kids, my only advice is do not include her wellbeing in the equation, and consult a lawyer or two. Who files for divorce is in general who wants to establish separation date first.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/21 02:41 AM
39

In short : 🎉🎉🎉👏👏👏
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/21 06:34 AM
12

That's a shit situation to be in. I hope your lawyer knows how to play the game, now if it's the mediation lawyer that told you that, be careful he could be siding with her. My 2 cents.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/21 05:35 AM
18

Number 1: When she asks for divorce, give it to her don't fuck around. Even when you have kids together. Number 2: establish asap the separation date Number 3: Lawyers are going to fuck you financially, but at least the dude got a dick. Hurts way more to be fucked in the add by a dick less ex-wife, whose only lube is sand filled (specially designed to hurt you). Number 4: Keep a schedule of custody, do record all the time your kids spend with you, and bring that to court. Number 5 : Do not trust…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/21 02:29 AM
1

All i know, is you can't do "nothing". Keep proof of you trying to see your child.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/21 04:49 AM
2

No man, just use some lube and enjoy the incoming big pink dildo. You though you can stick your dick in her without reprecautions ? 😆 Sorry man, just venting
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/21 04:46 AM
2

She may even lure you into having sex and getting pregnant. Careful
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/21 09:57 PM
12

My lawyer tried to prepare me. In court my ex was yelling at me as if i had put our family in that place. He told me to tell her that "i didn't care". I understood way later, that it was the only way, for her to stop nagging me. Now, it is over, the marriage, the nagging, the hate subsided when i stood up for myself and put boundaries. Stay woke Boyz.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/21 07:51 AM
2

You're both victims. Her of neglect and self pity or whatever shit she can come up with. You killing yourself with hard work as a provider. On this specific case, if she won't go file for domestic violence, you're good. Just explain to her what you just wrote and move on with your life. Not sure if this is helpful, but stand up for yourself, and put boundaries where need be.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/21 05:04 AM
9

Self representation is a big mistake. Let's assume your wife is reasonable, her lawyer will try to f you up in any way possible. Get a consultation with a lawyer is my advice.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/21 04:59 AM
1

You're confused. Know what you want, and make it your priority.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/21 08:38 PM
6

You seem to be ready.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 11:18 PM
2

You hit the lottery with this bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 10:48 PM
1

Lock in your divorce before you have to pay her alimony for life. The 10 year mark isn't that far away. Good luck l
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 04:23 AM
12

Bullshit wife, like there are so many of them. Sorry mate, if you're clean, do not wake her up at 3am every night for sex, do brush your teeth and care for her pleasure,... That woman is riding your wallet, and that's all she's doing. How did you guys have kids together, wifi ? I'm sick of women that reserve the right to change their mind on things at any time. So disgusting attitude towards the father of her children, and she needs to bring some respect and added value to the table, or you go e…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 02:57 AM
2

I was confused to be honest. When you find that one woman that you want (or made you believe and agree that you want) to marry, make sure you go to pre-marriage counseling.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 02:50 AM
1

And your contribution is....
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 02:37 AM
1

https://youtube.com/shorts/ZxhzeJQYtPE?feature=share
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 02:30 AM
1

Last one : understand that she knows exactly what she's doing. She's not sick, she's not bipolar, she just knows you got no boundaries.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 02:19 AM
2

Whatever the cause may be, ask yourself : Is your wife, like you, not letting anyone interfere in your relationship A billion% that answer is no. Regardless, living that type of life isn't worth it. Either she needs to straighten up, and treat you like the provider your are, or your freedom will.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 02:09 AM
8

Definitely unhealthy
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/21 12:31 AM
1

Make your monthly schedule. Or use reminders on your phone. Works for me.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/21 05:10 AM
1

I didn't think he'd message you in private, i thought you might leave a quick tip on the general chat. But you're right, i apologize again. It wasn't my place.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 06:13 AM
1

Sorry about that.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 04:08 AM
1

https://www.reddit.com/u/pegleg_legal?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share This is a lawyer, ask away
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 02:07 AM
1

Request in writing or something. Wait, maybe one of the Boyz here had that situation. Good luck bro
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 02:05 AM
3

Why not continue the process and add those things to the agreement ? Courts are never a good place to go for a dude.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 02:03 AM
5

What's high tier for them now, will turn up to be low tier later. No worries there, karma will catch up. I just don't like to say this when kids are involved. But when there are none, totally happening.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/21 05:13 AM
3

The only think you have to understand, is this is the best thing that could have happened to you. Embrace it. I know, you reject this opinion right now... But, just trust the process, take "ownership" of your life. Something she did for herself, and we tend to lag. Go Balls deep on your new life, and fuck whomever gives up on you after luring you into something they were the only beneficiary of.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/21 05:11 AM
4

You don't see it, but you'll get better. Man we know it's hard, but stand up, hold your head high, make a big deal of her sleeping with someone else and be cold, be peaceful around her, focus all your energy on you and then your daughter. The rest, leave it to time. Erect boundaries, and keep them up at all cost. Once you become that thing she can't have, you may have the option of going back in, or feel so good that you don't need that in your life anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/21 07:00 PM
16

She's waiting for you to make some kind of positive move. And when you'll do it, she'll stomp on your heart until you become fucking heartless for good. Ok for staying in good terms, but don't let her walk all over you. Set boundaries, manly boundaries... No agression, show that you're peaceful... But you'll never be peaceful of you try to make sense of this shit. Good luck bro.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/21 08:22 AM
1

Understand that the kids don't care where you sleep silly ! And they surely can be affected by the shouting. So, anything you can do to make yourself in a good place mentally will reverberate on them positively. But, we have no control over their resilience or long term impact of divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/21 02:24 AM
1

Trust the process, do not fight it. Find ways to break free from your old shell. Everything will be alright as long as you start caring for your own "damn" self. Ok ? ☺️
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/21 11:55 PM
2

Question here is how does divorce impact the kids. Answer is imo : You have no control over that. Do what's good for you, so you can be able to take whatever life throws at you and your kids. That's my 2 cents
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/21 10:46 PM
13

You can frame that. Though, hear me out : Women that don't secure amd keep a life partner will be single, for life. Their value (face value) decreases as they age. Men marry who they want, when they want. Women divorce when they want, but remember the first part of this sentence, they forget it having secured a guy before thinking it's gonna be that easy next time. stay woke.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/21 08:46 PM
2

😂
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/21 04:29 AM
1

Congrats buddy.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/21 03:58 AM
2

Did i win ? Edit : i guess it seemed like he was in early stages of divorce. The kids best interest seems to be respected. The mother works remotely, and doesn't take then to or from school herself... So why even bother wait for her to agree ?
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/21 07:50 AM
2

You have full parental rights to move the kids now, to the school of your choice so the judge can see that as the "current situation". Please do not hope for the court to do what you have to do for yourself. Edit : do not even ask her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/21 10:08 PM
3

feels bad to see someone taking the same ride. That's said : Kids are resilient. Take care of yourself, and yourself only. No one else will, not her, not your child, not the judge, not the lawyers, not the friends and family. You take care of yourself as priority number 1.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/21 04:27 AM
5

Anxiety for the future will take away your present peace. Frame that and look at it every morning before leaving your home. You'll get where you need to be. Just chill and let go of any of your anxieties bro.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/21 05:26 PM
2

"there is no winning". It's a loose loose for everybody. Better try to minimize your losses, and your kids'.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/21 05:00 AM
6

I have been. The best you can do is ... Listen to this : Focus on yourself, and what you want out of this. Show the best version of you in court. Don't look stressed, angry, emotional or stoic. Just be you. Don't crack jokes. Don't be overly polite. Know exactly what you want for you and your kids (if you have any) . Have your arguments ironed out. Don't worry about hearsay, the courts do not care about that. Hope this helps.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/21 02:43 AM
3

Western world has glorified strong and independent women. Including the dumb ones of us who believed the equality fallacies. Once she ditches you, or worse kicks you out from under the roof you put over both your heads, and when you make to family court you realize.... There is no such thing as a strong and independent woman in family court to be found. Stay woke, and should you find the rare gem, keep her. Otherwise, you are it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/21 03:55 AM
1

It's none of your business. You're bless, and don't know it enough. Focus on bettering yourself, and she may follow one day.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/21 08:39 PM
3

Do never, ever show her your hurt. EVER! It's the type that will never empathize with your hurt. She chose herself, and used your dick to get kids. Now the plan is to your your wallet. Careful bro.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/21 07:53 PM
3

If you have kids in common it adds another layer. Now, call 3 lawyers and get a free consultation. If instead you can work things out with your partner do so as long as your dignity and manhood aren't thrown to the garbage disposal. You can try mediation if saving the marriage isn't possible. It reduces the cost of the proceedings. Else, fuck it, and fight for your future life using all the firepower you can use.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/21 02:39 AM
3

1- it's funny 2- it's true 99% of the time. 3- The other 1% you can still blame it on the mother because she raised her. 😂
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/21 04:38 AM
15

Grey rock method. That woman still loves you, and doesn't know how to get your attention in a positive way. After all it's a cry out of misery, nothing more, nothing less. Just be you, and don't mirror her behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/21 12:28 AM
9

Silence, doesn't mean messages and texting. Here is the thing ... The more her attitude adjustment on you works, the more she's gonna want you to bend lower. The more you feel hurt, she's not gonna stop until you're bleeding from all your orifices. Men, when they do an attitude adjustment on their women, stop it as soon as they see a sign of an improvement. So, texting and calling is what she wants, but is not at all what you need.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 12:53 AM
20

She gave you the opportunity, to go silent. Now that she's away from the home, go silent. She wants to discipline you, while she's the one that needs to be. Hold strong, and go on silent mode. For 3 days.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 09:15 PM
1

Tragically real. It's what women wanted, they got it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/21 06:12 AM
5

Obviously. I wish women would leave men be single and happy. But no, they need to ruin your life, and blame you for it, while cashing support checks. Free rent/mortgage payments. Dumb we are, humans with a ball sack.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 03:45 AM
3

So, your divorce is not final. Then, yes she can change her mind and ask for spousal support.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/21 02:47 AM
3

Read your divorce judgement, and check if the court's ability to award it was terminated. If not, you might start to worry a bit that you'd have to pay her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/21 02:32 AM
1

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMdGKvyhu/
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/21 06:35 PM
2

We love you bro.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/21 01:58 AM
3

Accept that, if she was there to protect and care for you, she'd not do what she's doing. She's in it as long as it suits her. You should not lower your standard, and you should not simp over her. Move on. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 06:19 AM
3

Whenever you think of a woman, unless she's a unicorn, remember : whenever it slipped, she put it back in for him.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/21 01:40 AM
3

Love yourself first. I thought you learned that already by now. Edit : the "i never have connected" thing, is a trap. Of course she'll make you feel and want to be with her. But remember, one other guy bailed out with kids. He certainly felt the same as you in the beginning.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/21 01:28 AM
4

Boys, never call an ex wife a bitch. Why ? "Because bitches are female dogs, and dogs are loyal. These hoes ain't. "
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/21 12:42 AM
1

Yep. How fucked up is fucked up ?
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 08:59 AM
2

Day by day develop one skill. Get yourself a proper set of dinnerware. A set for 4 or 6 is a minimum. Get healthy food, see what your son likes and set a plan. Get habits in place, taking him out to play, and play with him. Most of all, forget about that bitch.. sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 01:08 AM
2

I'm nor saying don't seek help. But odds are, you're the only one that could help yourself. All the rest is fucking useless fluff, it's nice to know it's there, but it's useless.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 12:35 AM
10

In you. Nobody will help. Trust me. Only you, can unlock your self support system.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 12:07 AM
0

Blocked. Feminist shit going on here.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 06:33 PM
1

🤣
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 03:51 PM
2

Like J Peterson said : you guys get together because you recognize that the other person is trouble, and accept that, and deal with it. You should end your speech with that 😜 Some more inspiration : https://youtu.be/9QVQZSSi_m0 https://youtu.be/HRJyqg_PKRQ
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 10:06 AM
2

Serious piece of advice, or digging your grave, i don't know : Say it exactly like you said it here, to her. It might work magic. Sincerity always pays off... Or does it ?! 😬
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 10:04 AM
2

Careful buddy, there is always new type of deception to experience.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 07:12 AM
1

She knows. And she does not care. Trust me.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 07:12 AM
3

Been there done that. I was diagnosed with narcism both covert and overt, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia and another half dozen illnesses.... By my ex wife, that didn't have any medical degree. That cost me time and money to check on myself, for at the end to understand that it was a ride i was intended to take, to keep me from focusing on what she was "really" doing... Try to fuck me over. And she did. Fuck all those who diagnose others without having a degree.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 07:10 AM
1

🤷
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/21 06:57 AM
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To me, you seem reasonable. But, he may think he can keep you if he played hard ball. Should you explain to him why you're leaving, he most likely will tell you that he's stressed out and fighting the world everyday to provide, and all he wants when back home is a woman to greet him, and not add to his daily drama. You should find what's wrong that you did, and own it. Because it takes two to get to a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 02:47 AM
1

Maybe, only maybe, she wants you to renew your vows because if that giant change in her life as a woman. If you think things could get fixes, try it. You can always get a divorce. Women even after that operation can have a sex drive. It's in their head not their balls like us. See if you can fix it, give it 3 months and concede on the vows.. and see.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/21 12:20 AM
1

Not sure about the "fresher" part. But you don't care who she's with, cause she's not with you any. And that's her loss.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/21 09:06 PM
2

Totally.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/21 07:06 PM
1

You experience living in peace 😂
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/21 06:03 AM
1

Congrats my man !
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/21 06:02 AM
1

Check this guy's strategy (cycleguy84). Applies to couples with no children, or you were with a single mom that wants to fuck you over, after fucking around. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/mt66e3/what_percentage_of_your_income_goes_towards/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/21 09:44 PM
3

Good job bro. Nice save.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/21 04:24 PM
1

If you have no kids, it's a viable option. But there are other easier options.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/21 04:22 PM
14

One thing i learned : There is no such thing as "a strong and independent woman" in family court.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/21 03:42 AM
11

Shout out to my fellow CA slaves. Drop here how much you're paying. $2,700 for me. EDIT : 2 kids, and have to file taxes single. 1830 in CS, 900 in SS. Less than 5 years marriage. Yet alimony was granted for 3.5 years !!! Family court really wants father's to be just an ATM.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/21 01:11 AM
4

Like the first, she wants kids from you. Do you Copy ?
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/21 09:09 AM
7

Red flag red flag. Don't ignore.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/21 09:08 AM
1

true. And agreed.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/21 03:31 AM
0

As long as you're not leaving her out of convenience. Or because you got something else lined up, I'm with you. Otherwise the kids need both of you, and it'd be better if you try to work it out. You said it yourself, no major incidents.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/21 12:27 AM
7

What kind of manipulative stuff is that ? Edit : and who is she, to tell you what kind of a father you are. She probably has daddy issues anyway. Run bro. Run away.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/21 01:44 AM
2

It's not a 100% guarantee. So keep that in mind. Also, it may not be reversible. Up to you, it's your life bro.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/21 07:33 PM
2

2900 👏
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/21 07:34 PM
2

Tell him to come in hear and read posts from others. He'd literally understand a bit more how blessed his situation is. Other than that, best cure is to move on asap. Like asap.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 11:15 PM
1

she refuses = She already has a plan without you in the picture. Guaranteed.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 08:26 PM
1

I know biological veracity doesn't matter much these days, but it's vital to know if your kid has your genes or someone else's. We're not the machines the system wants us to be. We got feelings too.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 03:43 PM
1

Not worth it especially that she is refusing. Tell it all about her mindset.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 03:38 PM
1

Still worth bringing up. Because he gave his name to that child.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 03:37 PM
2

You commit to a woman when "she's the only one that made feel that way" ... Not because you do for her. Stay woke, and don't waste your life, the stats point at horrible odds for a second marriage. May you be blessed and be in the 20% that work fine.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 04:56 AM
2

Still worth it. Could've been much much much much more
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/21 08:45 PM
5

Your compensation is getting rid of her bro. Thank God for it every day.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/21 06:54 PM
1

Check this guy's strategy (cycleguy84). Applies to couples with no children, or you were with a single mom that wants to fuck you over, after fucking around. https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/mt66e3/what_percentage_of_your_income_goes_towards/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/21 06:52 PM
2

Check this guy's strategy (cycleguy84). https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/mt66e3/what_percentage_of_your_income_goes_towards/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/21 05:38 AM
4

GET THE FUCK OUT, BEFORE SHE PUMPS OUT A COUPLE BABIES RUUUUUN
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/21 12:03 AM
1

Check this guy's strategy (cycleguy84). https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/mt66e3/what_percentage_of_your_income_goes_towards/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/21 08:51 PM
1

They got you. Now you're debating the idea 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/21 04:24 AM
2

An old man once said : "when paying a sex worker, you don't pay for sex, you pay for her the leave you the fuck alone After sex". This must be a wanna be prostitute. Only the fees occur after.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/21 04:23 AM
1

As a man, i read this and think. Yep makes sense. But, as a muslim, and happy eid to my fellow muslim Redditards... I also remember that great men came out to this world without a father. Both prophet of Islam and of christianity. That leads to try to understand why would this be the state of the fatherless kids today. Btw : this is the source of the information above, in case anyone doubts it : http://brentwoodspiritualstudiesinstitute.org/uploads/3/2/3/4/3234564/fatherless_children_in_america.…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/21 08:50 PM
2

Because infidelity is involved. Take a paternity test
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/21 08:36 PM
4

So sorry to hear that. Don't forget, you're fighting her and... All her support system. Usually toxic people are also fed by their toxic entourage. You stay safe as well, and talk to your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/21 03:37 AM
1

Dm me if you want.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/21 12:58 AM
4

If you aren't happy today, and had to leave your home to find relief, it's not gonna get better if there is no breakthrough on her part. Save yourself the pain of 3 year roller coaster, she can manage it she got family courts on her side, you can't.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 08:10 PM
2

Put her to work. Maybe she'll be a happier bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/21 02:30 PM
2

Checked and approved opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/21 08:16 PM
5

3 words : "enjoy your life". And stay woke.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/21 06:01 AM
7

Congrats 👏 Now, give back to the ones that weren't as lucky as you are, and help guide your fellow divorced men.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/21 05:02 AM
8

It's healthy that you're Woke. Don't force it, no need to ignore red flags, you did that once.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/21 04:32 AM
8

Blackmail however is illegal, and can say a lot about her character. Try to have proof of her blackmailing you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/21 04:15 AM
1

No, you just seek the path of least resistance, and show that you're a collaborative co-parent. She'd do it without you anyway. And i don't see that used against her in court, so use it for your credit as a collaborative co-parent. I'm just trying to help you so a different perspective. If you don't see that perspective, then it ain't there.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/21 12:42 AM
4

Is it worth fighting for ? No. Now or in 3 weeks, is the exact same. Go along on this one.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 10:43 PM
3

What's up with the bitches always keeping that shit ? Obviously, cause we let them.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 08:01 PM
4

Bro, i didn't expect you to get it from the first shot. You're ready to move on, focus on yourself for yourself, don't waste your time, on hope. Should she decide to stay, after you focused on you, your new job, your state of mind, your new habits etc... Then it's up to you But do not put your faith in other people's hands. I know, you won't get it still now, cause you're in that sucker called "love". Stay Woke, and whatever you do, do it to make yourself better, for yourself. Cause the day you'…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 01:38 AM
5

Bro, the woman has already moved on. All i can tell you is, you being all over her trying to fix things will only yield more distance. I know it's not what you want now, but decide that it is. And you'll see extremely great results on your mood, happiness and just overall health. Take this time to focus on bettering yourself, never forget that you were born alone and will die alone, so don't be dependent on anyone. Be happy on your own, it would only make your life better.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 01:24 AM
5

How many of you guys are also in wallstreetbets ?
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/21 03:23 AM
0

Yes, i believe so.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/21 10:49 PM
0

It's promoting voluntary continuous consciousness of what we have instead of what we'd like to have.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 09:19 PM
0

Stay Woke.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 09:08 PM
3

Upvoted
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 07:25 PM
3

Wondering why they used cunning, and not cunting lol
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 07:42 AM
1

If you think you stbx is heartless. Wait until you work withan attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 04:42 AM
10

Some women are just unbelievably cunning. Is the bottom line.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 04:39 AM
2

Try to get you a female pitbull lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 04:25 AM
1

Simple : you can't. Just close your currents accounts move the money and keep your statements from the old account to prove she spent what was spent and that what you kept was your share.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 04:24 AM
1

Depends on the attorney
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 04:22 AM
6

Oh God ! Do you have a month for me to tell you?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 04:20 AM
6

Sounds lit 👌👌👌
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 02:02 AM
0

Damn 😂
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 10:26 PM
0

Bill just told me to tell you, that he doesn't give a fuck what you think. He's balls deep rich and happy. Mind your own miserable life he said. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 10:25 PM
1

She just red pilled... Finally woke Hhhh
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 10:24 PM
3

Love this one
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 10:22 PM
2

The "i don't believe in this shit anyway foundation"
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 10:22 PM
0

It's not even a fatality, he can just love himself lol
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 10:21 PM
2

Check this guy's strategy (cycleguy84). https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/mt66e3/what_percentage_of_your_income_goes_towards/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 05:33 AM
4

Cover your lit candle, or someone is gonna steal its flame. Word !
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 12:51 AM
3

In a trice. Like in a blink of an eye, like fast. I mean the first eye lash to hit the other side type of fast.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 12:44 AM
2

Lawyers also tend to fumble it sometimes. So make sure you correct anything you feel needs to be corrected in front of a judge. Having this call remote is helpful to keep your costs down. I used to have my lawyer next to me having an air wank for hours for a 10mn hearing. So virtual is perfect.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 07:16 PM
1

Keep your head high. And your hopes moderate. Preparation is key.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 07:07 PM
1

I'd consult a CPA. IT's 200$ an hour, but people don't do it enough.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/21 03:56 AM
2

I like this position. But you have to be ready to enforce it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/21 11:03 PM
2

Congratu-fucking-lations. You reminded me to gift myself something too. 💪
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/21 07:03 PM
2

Get the fuck out before she pumps out a couple kids and have you enslaved
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/21 08:41 PM
1

Make the bitch pay
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/21 12:13 AM
4

Damn, you're so right
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/21 12:13 AM
5

Judge's though can feel negative energy, and decide you're the one whose life they need to ruin. Don't give her any type of evidence she could present in court against you. Good luck, and if she had a mental breakdown, it ain't your responsibility to fix her. Unless you caused it, but hey even then fuvk em bitches.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/21 11:49 PM
1

Whatever you do with your lawyer, have it in writing.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/21 08:59 PM
9

I'm not throwing away the next 20, is the whole point.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/21 07:44 PM
2

The both of you are responsible. She's trying to get you pegged.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/21 06:41 PM
1

She may have decision making on education, but that was based on where she lived. Take it to court.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/21 11:27 PM
1

And good nigh
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/21 04:26 AM
1

Tough. And if it lay lake you feel better, I've been through worse.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/21 04:26 AM
4

Abso fucking lutely. Life is short, and you had to chose someone to sacrifice for, choose your kid, 1000,000%.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 06:41 AM
5

Guard high, and plan in place. Don't leave anything to her to decide. You have control, use whatever is necessary to avoid being fucked over.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 06:23 AM
8

Dude, don't overthink it. Do what you got to do for you, because she's going to do what she wants to do for her. The soonest you start caring about you, you won already. Congrats buddy. Don't overthink it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/21 06:10 AM
1

My advice: - come back - button this down. Or you're gonna be crying about it for years maybe.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/21 10:52 PM
1

Check this guy's strategy (cycleguy84). https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/mt66e3/what_percentage_of_your_income_goes_towards/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/21 07:24 PM
7

33% here in Cali baby. I don't even like pegging, i probably should try it, I'm half way there 😂
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/21 06:59 PM
2

Sounds like the divorce can be pronounces with the least pain for you. It's great she's not responding you can end it quickly and move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/21 07:45 PM
2

What i learned is that attorneys are trash. They have no control over a judge's perception or decision making style. Do not count on their advice.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/21 03:45 PM
1

In that case you're an idiot for leaving the home. Why don't you do your Trial and be in separate rooms ?
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/21 03:23 PM
1

You wife is playing you. She already knows what she wants, and you're being mislead into thinking that it is a trial.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/21 03:13 PM
1

Ban Delete
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/21 10:50 PM
1

Did you talk to your ex about ? I mean, you gotta try to know what is her solution to the situation. And go from there.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/21 03:49 AM
3

If she is half decent woman she'd give it back to you. Just ask nicely.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/21 03:06 AM
1

No ducks given, the question is void. Question better put is : who gets caught more !
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/21 11:13 PM
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The question isn't yes or no. The question is is it possible. Since it's not humanly possible, the question is void.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/21 05:18 PM
1

True. As long as you know that might happen again one-day for no reason you'd be able to process, that's half the effort. Enjoy your life.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/21 07:38 PM
0

Get her a boyfriend 😂 Sorry lol EDIT : i guess you haven't said anything about your post divorce, did you find a 25 years old toy girl ? If not, you may need someone too, so she gets in competition with someone for your attention.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/21 07:16 PM
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Go out / date someone else / remove anything that reminds you of her. If anything good will come, it will come from you acting like she exists not !
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/21 05:45 PM
0

Jesus is fatherless. Mohamed was fatherless. Great people too were fatherless... Just saying.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/21 07:26 AM
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All i have to say is : - you expect your kids to persevere. - How about you do that ? Not judgmental comment. I thought about that too, in very special circumstances, as my whole family is overseas, and my ex made my life a living hell. So why stay here, ii asked myself, and live next to my top hater on the globe ? And have still to feed her fat ass for years. My parents are elderly people, i thought, they too deserve to be taken care of, they were loving and caring to me... Etc... So yes, i did…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/21 07:22 AM
1

Family court considers if the ex is a destitute and if you're working hard, that the kids are better off with the mom regardless of what you're asking for.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/21 08:31 PM
7

Seriously ?! Get the fuck out. Mods !
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/21 06:02 AM
1

Facts
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/21 04:21 PM
2

If she goes on a trip, you gotta question if you still should dip.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/21 02:09 AM
3

You'll not be ok with it, and you'll feel oppressed and discriminated against just because you have a set of balls and a dick. But, with time, you'll find the willpower to enjoy your time more, and fight for having more time with your kids as they grow, or as circumstances change. So, hang in there. You'll be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/21 02:04 AM
1

Check on possibility she may have borderline personality disorder. But remember: don't try to fix her, you can't. And if you can reciprocate her cold behavior do it. Nothing will save your ass except this : do not bear the responsibility of the outcome of this marriage, you are not her, and she seems to have already decided the outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/21 07:35 AM
4

Never rely on the in-laws. It's your life, it's her life. And no one cares or would help you other than you two. No body gives a damn, no matter what they say with their mouths, good or bad.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/21 01:14 AM
1

Just don't settle on any clarifications that you seem needed. Lawyers won't have to live with your terms of divorce, you will.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/21 06:37 PM
1

If you like him, and he has experience handling family court matters, then yes.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/21 06:39 AM
2

I agree. Try to have your story together, along with where you are in the process and what you want t achieve. A new poor lawyer would drag you in a hell lot of complications. I changed counsel 3 times during my divorce. And i know a thing or two on what to do, and what not to do.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/21 02:35 AM
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I don't understand... Why would you not want her to go to jail ? Are you the judge ? 1- she commuted fraud 2- you're coming to the rescue because you still love her sorry ass. Conclusion : you're dumb to settle, especially if you know she handed you her ass on a silver platter. 3- if she goes to jail, what happens? .... Your case for custody just got better... 4- you fucked her, and had kids.. made her a mother. If you let her fuck you nothing is gonna come out of it that will help you of make y…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/21 07:57 AM
2

Amen, amen
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/21 03:52 AM
4

I say get what you want, and spousal support on top of it. You can put it in your kids' savings account or something...
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/21 01:23 AM
2

$5000 normal confirmed in CALI. my divorce cost me more than 30K. That's just the procedure.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/21 05:51 AM
2

I agree, you didn't steal shit. And I'm sure this idea of yours was implanted in your head "inception" style while you were sleeping or something. Dude, you don't owe her that much. Net net, you can get a better deal, and choose to help her more... Should your situation or ideas change, at least you got that cushion.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/21 04:52 AM
2

😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/21 04:27 AM
1

Sure.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 06:09 PM
1

Don't focus on trying to fix issues that don't exist, and not be judgmental or feel like you're a psychologist unless you have a degree. I posted someone else's opinion, which i agreed on based on my personal experience. It's my opinion, there is 'othing to fix.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 05:49 PM
1

Right, you know my intention cause you've opened my heart and looked inside of it. Say less. You're the type person i don't need opinions from buddy. Just go in peace on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 05:30 PM
1

I like when people say they've learned and are out of a situation, then start diagnosing and spotting what you called "issues"... If i have learned one thing, it would be that the number one sickness we face in human interactions, especially romantic is the name dropping and labeling of "issues" without going to school and getting a degree. I'm totally fine my friend, thank you for your proposal. Wish you happiness forever after.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 05:14 PM
2

Fuck you. How about that. You're toxic as hell too.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 12:39 PM
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Took you seven years to find one. Congrats, you're smarter because of your experience. I think women in general want a biased and flawed equality, and unless the equilibrium is found in the future, nothing will improve. Men are men, and women are women. God knows i love women, but i most likely can't deal with the whole BS schemes and the drama that's only and only destructive. So yes, men are builders, and when the work on something they expect and accept the breakage and damage. Men don't aban…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 08:01 AM
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Because it's what I observed in my dead marriage. So i agree with the author. There are plenty of women out there (didn't meet any romantically) who are counting their blessing and working through their hardships everyday.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 06:16 AM
2

I'm entering my 40s this year, and you're not old for anything my man. You can do anything you want, trust me. If you don't believe me, ask colonel Sanders 😅
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 04:49 AM
1

I can tell you, it wasn't a pleasant experience to be on the receiving end of a half dozen mental disorders accusations... I stopped trying to fix me at the 3rd, i realized it was all a game. A bitch game to provoque me... A game, we don't master ... As men. Because, we men are ment to be reliable.... To be reliable, you have to learn to recognize reliable in everything in your life... Except when pussy is involved, our thoughts are completely over taken by our needs... It's meant to be... Anywa…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 04:37 AM
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Listen man, i was 100% sure this is what you'd say. I went through the same, only my kids were 1 and 3 years old and had to take way more shit than anyone could. I now realize it was a mistake, and that divorce was the real deal. Just got it officialized last month, and can't thank God more for putting me through the last 4 years to forge a new "me". I'm turning fourty this year, so time for change. Why women to this ? Because they're chatty about intimate life, and take no responsibility when t…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 04:32 AM
2

Listen man, i wouldn't include outside influence in such intimate decision. Just my 2 cents.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/21 03:29 AM
1

If you're the only one paying during marriage. You're fucked in a divorce. Common knowledge. I was lucky in 2017 zhen my ex wife wanted me to buy a house, i said i couldn't afford it. One month later she kicked me out the first time... 6 months later called the police on me the first time. Since then kicked me out 3 times, and called the cops 7. Imagine if i had bought her a house and made payments for 4 years... I'd have been fucked for real .. i lost almost 150k in this divorce,... But i got m…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/21 07:17 AM
1

Guess what bro, those don't come from your woman, those are deeply embedded in you, and whom ever gets near them to devalue you, you discard ! Good luck out there with the crazy amount of damaged goods out there
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/21 12:58 AM
2

I don't like when us, men, learn from women... that we can put our shortcomings on the other party by the ability to diagnose mental issues without going to school and getting a degree.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/21 12:48 AM
2

Something where they swear a lot
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/21 02:42 AM
1

Seems like your wife is in pain. She wouldn't do that if she wasn't. Try to fix it if possible, divorce maybe just one option in your case.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/21 06:58 AM
2

All that matters is you be prepared for the worse. Better safe than sorry. A lawyer is necessary if there is a risk you both don't agree on separation details.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/21 06:56 AM
6

Fuck your ex, move on buddy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/21 11:28 PM
0

1- talking to the attorney isn't something that's going to help. 2-:they charge you for every call, every email, every interaction, so be mindful of that. 3- A good lawyer would be responsive, but never via phone. It's just not how it works. I suggest you book an appointment via phone with your counsel and talk about whatever you want him. But be mindful of the above.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/21 02:32 AM
4

Probably not buddy. Count your losses, limit the damage and consider being blessed for being able to limit them. Move on with your life asap. That's the best thing you can do rn.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/21 03:53 AM
3

A woman that says such thing to you, isn't worth wasting time trying to recollect the pieces. I have been there, heard the same shit, and made the mistake to fight for her. For a family she had already killed long before I was blindsided.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/21 07:48 AM
1

One best free advice for you : YOU DON'T LOVE. YOU LOVE YOURSELF. Don't dig yourself a hole she'll be happy to sink you in.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/21 02:36 AM
2

If you can avoid the lawyer route. That's big advantage. At worse, you can pay a lawyer in the process of a mediated divorce. Try to avoid giving your credit card info to a lawyer by all means. But the way of least resistance is having one lawyer reconcile your divorce and have all details ironed out. But, if you see your STBX mindset changing, better kill the problem and go at it with all your firepower before she can regroup and shoot her shots at you. I know nothing about your situation, so p…
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/21 01:32 AM
1

Did we ?!
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/21 07:38 AM
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This is not about hating on the other and being blame free. Come on, we're all dudes here, leave that shit attitude to the ladies. We take over control of our lives, care for our children while reminder our ex partner they're not perfect. Men's live matter !
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/21 01:43 AM
2

Yes, after seeing doctors and trying to fix it. Otherwise, it's hell if one isn't asexual.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/21 02:14 AM
2

Risk the brake up now, rather than later
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/21 07:24 PM
2

I suggest you both find a mediator and get this over with quickly and painlessly.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/21 11:40 PM
1

Question is, do you want to use it against your ex. I wouldn't tbh. But the other approach is not wrong, it makes sense too of calling on her adult responsibility to not take risks.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/21 05:42 AM
1

I was the petitioner, but don't get me wrong, i was just sick of her wanting it and not doing shit about it. I wanted to cut ties asap.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/21 05:08 PM
2

She's invisible to you now. Dead in the water, dust in the mud.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/21 05:03 PM
1

Update... 25k
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/21 04:59 PM
1

Welcome to my world, and most likely the world of 8 men out of ten that get blindsided.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/21 04:19 PM
3

Turn the page brother is the best thing you can do.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/21 01:28 AM
3

Holy moly
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/21 11:19 PM
1

You did you did
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/21 08:20 PM
4

You're out of it, which it what really matters bro. It's just a meme, mine ran at 21k 😤
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/21 08:13 PM
5

No dude. That was not an easy one. I feel
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/21 07:49 PM
1

This is the way lol
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/21 07:49 PM
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Plan B : Don't quit your job. Earn money.. Pay someone the two weeks work to finish your RV. With the money you just earned. Then take a vacation for 2 weeks from everything. While being paid... If plan A Is still needed it's going to be waiting for you. You're not thinking clearly, and should not burn your savings up. You're in a bad spot rn, and it will set you up either for success or for failure what you decide... Because it's a chain reaction.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/21 08:42 AM
2

Missouri is a no-fault divorce state.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/21 02:53 PM
4

Seems like kansas is a no fault state. So go to court and check if they have a self help where they can advise you on how to start the procedure, file the papers etc... I think you pretty much know what you want, and should just act on it. Why wait until April though ? I didn't get that part ! If you want a divorce, you take your stuff, go to your parents, and file the papers whole paying for your share of the rent.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/21 02:51 PM
1

Where do you live bro ?
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/21 02:47 PM
10

If you guys have no kids, get the hell out now. Do not fall for her manipulative behavior that is to come. Just run and do not look back.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/21 07:12 AM
4

If you're paying a mortgage, i don't see why you'd let her kick you out of your own home. Love and protect yourself first, if you let her, she'll clean you out.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/21 10:37 AM
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