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I wanted to warn other members in case he did it to multiple people. He was cursing and trying to get a rise out of me and it could happen to other members. Reddit hates women and I'm supposed to just keep quiet because he messaged me in private because "who really cares"? I don't think so. This happens too often where women state their opinion or experience and we get harassed for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:52 PM
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Private messages
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:18 PM
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They wouldn't care because to them, time is free and they've got plenty of that (or so they believe). Money matters more because it's in short supply with the dusties who often complain about "gold diggers".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 11:13 PM
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I know a grown woman who treats her older boyfriend like he's a helpless child...because that's exactly how he acts since he knows she'll cater to him. You can't tell these women what they're doing wrong either because you're not "respective the dynamics of their relationship".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:45 PM
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They're demonizing a free meal on a date they didn't ask you on yet men who think this way usually expect sex right away. If you don't give it to them, you're being a prude who only uses men for money. Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 07:28 PM
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If you use this same principle with men and instead of being "fuckable" you base their relationship worthiness on how generous they are with their net worth, you will find so many of the same men curled up in a puddle of their own tears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 08:41 PM
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They really said "We can't rape?? 🙁🙁🙁 NVM then!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 06:22 PM
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Seriously. Why is she wracking her brain about this? He lied because he wanted to have sex with younger women. Duh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:45 PM
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I went through something similar years ago. I was "dating" a guy who was clearly not into me but I accepted it because it was all I had at the time, or so I thought. I just woke up one day, I honestly don't know how it happened but my mind helped me see what my eyes denied--I was being taken for granted and actively participating in it. I broke it off with him and it hurt but I did it anyway. I promised myself that I would never deal will that kind of man again. It took years for me to see the b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:56 PM
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When I met my now-husband on an app, he only had positive things in his profile. No mention of past relationships or failures. Nothing that would cause the reader to have to read between the lines. The man you posted is ALL red flags if you're looking for a long term relationship. He's telling the reader not to expect much from him. Then again, maybe he'll attract a woman who isn't looking for much. We all want different things from online dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 12:41 AM
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I feel you. I went to a company Christmas party with my husband this past weekend and I met his coworkers and their partners. Everyone was cussing and taking pictures of their butts. I decided not to drink too much since I didn't know anyone aside from my husband and one of the women there said "Wow, sucks to be the sober one..." like we were in high school and I had something to prove. Also, lots of people not acting professionally in front of the boss or dressed appropriately. I understand thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:03 PM
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Isn't that the way of Reddit? They hate women who want better, who expect to be treated well, who don't want to be mothers to their significant others. The majority of men on Reddit are low value and will proudly state they save more money on rent, groceries, and cleaning by having their girlfriends move in with them. In the same breath, they will come down on a woman for expecting her date to pay for dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 05:38 PM
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I have a few theories: Because of their low status due to financial instability and personality issues, LVM have a smaller chance of attracting a quality partner. To makeup for this, they cast a wide net and hit on as many women as possible. This increases their chances in hopes that someone with low self esteem will accept them. LVM know this and that's why their methods to attract a woman are usually seen as desperate, offensive, and annoying by someone with high self worth. Lack of self aware…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:21 PM
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I don't even want to say "I'd rather be single than settle with a loser" because I've played that quote out. What I want to say now is that having standards, wanting better for yourself, and wanting to be in a good relationship is nothing to be ashamed of. Why are we asking women to accept less than what they want? What is wrong with wanting to feel taken care of, feeling secure in your relationship with someone who loves you? That's not too much to ask and if you think it is, YOU need to develo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 07:48 PM
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I've been saying this for YEARS to my peers and all I got was "you're such a prude!", "it's only sex, what's the big deal??" Then when I bring up that a woman's sex is valuable, they say "I'm more than just my sex". So I gave up, watched them as they went through guy after guy giving their bodies away for bread crumbs. The start was always the same: The sex is SO INCREDIBLE. But the inevitable crash always happens. Someone gets too emotionally involved, jealous, and possessive. Then it ends in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:10 PM
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Their biggest pet peeve is a woman who has self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:48 PM
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I once complained in datingoverthirty about how this guy would bug me about how I never answer his texts even though they were nonsense most of the time ("how are you?" "WYD?") and got a bunch of "sounds like he dodged a bullet" answers when I said I was going to drop him. Did he dodge a bullet or did I avoid being in a needy, co-dependent exchange with a stranger who feels entitled to my time? The world may never know...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:53 PM
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What is OF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 04:11 PM
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He's probably asked previous clients and it worked so he tried it on you. You're right, if he had family and friends he should ask them first. I have a feeling he wouldn't pay you back since you're a new person in his life and of little to no consequence if he just ghosted you after you gave him money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 04:09 PM
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But she better not expect to be taken out or treated well. Because what kind of entitled mess is this?? She should be happy to be with someone, anyone. She can afford dinner, why does she need you to take her out? Why does she need to feel safe? Women are equal now. Expecting too much TBH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:36 PM
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I've always wondered about the men who court a woman, ask her to be exclusive, decide to buy her a ring, propose, and then COMPLAIN they're losing their freedom. If you want to be a bachelor, why did you do everything in your power to not be single? The choices were all yours. Not once did I see anyone put a gun to your head to propose to this woman who you're claiming is trying to keep you off the market. Be free! Isn't that what you want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:42 PM
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This is giving me the same vibes as Ed Sheeran performing with Beyonce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:09 PM
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I have way too many feelings on this topic so I hope I can express myself properly. Pick-mes and dusty men think requiring financial stability, emotional security, and love are “asking for too much”. You can only have 1 out the 3. 2 if you’re lucky but never all three. I got some friction from my friends when I expressed that I want a partner who can take care of me financially. They said “when the money runs dry, you need love at the end of the day". A man who loves me will find a way to make s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:39 PM
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Block them if they make plans with you and never follow up. They're setting poor precedent for how they'll treat you in the future so make sure there isn't one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:06 AM
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The majority of reddit bashes on women who don't go 50/50 on dates but relationships like this lady's are the reason I will never accept a 50/50 man. If he treats you mediocre in the beginning, it'll only get worse after you're married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:01 AM
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A lot of men try to use dating as a form of cheaper if not free therapy. They'll take that opportunity to lament about their mean ex girfriend, past relationships, deceased wife, etc. When they get what the want from you (time spent with them, your wasted beauty and youth, money, whatever) they'll move on to someone else. It's good to keep these men out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:08 PM
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A guy off of an app tried this on me thinking I would say "oh no, please stay" but instead I ignored. A few weeks later he hit me with the "how are you? long time no talk." Stop with the threats, be a man of action because there's no going back. You don't need my permission to exit, just leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 07:24 PM
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Totally agree. Conversely, I had a completely insane friend in my early 20s who was a pick-me but a mean one. She would DEMAND respect but still stayed with the guy till the bitter end. She was never short on boyfriends but each relationship had it's equal share of drama. High value women are in demand as well but they know when to exit. If it's a bad situation, there isn't a need to struggle through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:16 PM
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Women get smarter with age. They see through the BS they're pulling on younger women. I too used to be impressed when a guy had a car, his own place, and a job. But those are things grown ups just have...that's standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:45 PM
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It could be a bit of him behaving in a way that does not make you feel secure and also starting off with a bit of insecurity on your end. I've been in this position before but I had enough self worth to leave it. Being insecure is a human condition. No one is 100% secure 100% of the time and to put the demise of the relationship on the woman being "insecure" is wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:59 PM
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This is why I don't pay for myself. I can take myself out. If he wants to be in my company, he is going to pay for the dinner. If he stiffs me with the bill, I pay for my half HAPPILY and never see him again. That's that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:48 PM
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An old coworker of mine had a husband who wouldn't let their teenage girls do anything because "he knows what goes on in men's minds". There's nothing wrong with protecting your children but I had to side-eye him for that. How would he know what goes on in men's minds if he weren't exactly the same? I asked her what he meant by that and she wouldn't explain it to me. "He just knows."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:36 PM
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Even if women didn't have rights today, we should still be treated with respect because HELLO we're human
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:48 AM
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It fascinates me how people will list completely deplorable qualities of their partner and ask others what they should do as if LEAVING is never on the table? You leave. You're an individual with the ability to choose what you want in your life. LEAVE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:57 PM
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This sounds AWFUL. Imagine being with the same boyfriend you had at 16 when you were ignorant of the world and he was the most impressive person you've ever met. WHAT EW NO TY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:57 PM
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I'm gonna need her to post a tutorial because she sounds amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:29 PM
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This is why you don't breed with dusties. They value nothing and have nothing to lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:01 PM
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This guy I went on four dates with over two years ago will text me throughout the year randomly. It means nothing. For all I know, he's going down his list of contacts and texting them "hi" hoping one of them will reply. If you haven't put in the effort, you get no response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:49 PM
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No because: 1) how dare you 2) see #1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:46 PM
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I saw this video on TikTok where the creator asked what was the smallest reason you've stopped speaking to a man. One lady said "he was grown and couldn't read". Someone commented that she was being unfair and what if he had a learning disability. The lady was strong and stood her ground saying she's not cool with that either and that's OK. Women are expected to just accept men for who they are, warts and all. The world doesn't like that we have standards and expectations. Oh well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 11:00 PM
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A lot of people translate women wanting a successful and generous partner as being "a gold digger". Women wanting better for themselves is not gold digging. Women who want a partner to take care of them is not gold digging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:47 PM
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Men will call you difficult if you don't answer his text in 5 minutes. Don't trust what men say. And if they decide to drop you because you aren't being a Chatty Kathy, they'll say they dropped a bullet. Umm...I think she's the one who dropped the bullet because sir you sound needy AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:11 PM
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My friends give me a hard time about breaking up with a guy if he doesn't give me a romantic present on special occasions like Valentine's day or my birthday. "You're using him for gifts?" No...I'm gauging his interest in me. If he thinks I'm worth the effort, a nice gift twice a year is not too much to ask. It doesn't even have to be expensive, just thoughtful like red roses with a poem he wrote. "Flowers are stupid, they die anyway." But I like them and they're pretty. They make me happy and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:11 AM
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WON'T SOMEONE PLEASE THINK ABOUT THIS MAN AND HIS NEEDS FOR ONCE???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:43 PM
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It's almost as if it's THEIR penises that devalue women in their eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:15 PM
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OK OK I knew a guy who was getting married and he wouldn't stop talking about being nervous about it or how he thinks he's making a mistake. All I thought was...weren't you the one who asked her to marry you? I don't think she's forcing you to marry her. And if she were forcing you to marry her, shouldn't that have been your signal to NOT MARRY HER? We all have a choice--why did he choose the one he didn't want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 11:01 PM
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I went on a date with a guy who told me about his "crazy ex" (red flag, I know). Apparently she snapped one day, totally uncalled for, and poured bleach all over his clothes in the bathtub. I said he must have done something to tick her off and he insisted that no, she was just insane. No woman would just do that out of the blue without first exhibiting similar behavior in the past. He definitely did something to deserve that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:55 PM
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I had a low value friend who did this to me years ago. I think she forgot that she told me about this tactic when we were "friends". She said when she's feeling low, she likes to transfer that energy to other people by calling them up and telling them she had a "dream" about them. It was just a way to make sure the people she fell out with think there's still hope for friendship and she ghosts them shortly after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:15 PM
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He's clearly doing everything poorly so no responsibility falls on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:54 AM
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She's been engaged to him for over a decade and had his child. He never saw her as high value and is using the stretch marks as a way to complain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:29 AM
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The moment you accept their offer to date exclusively if asked after only a few dates, your value in their eyes goes down. It's so silly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 12:25 AM
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This is why they like to say "I only date one at a time and I expect the same for you". Thing is, they might not be able to date more than one woman at a time due to finances, inability to attract more than one person, or other variables (he could also just be lying). But that shouldn't stop women from not keeping their options open. Date around, see what you like and what you don't, never settle just because he insists you do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 12:05 AM
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While they're at it, they should stop exposing their toes too. Not because it's slutty...because it looks awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 08:06 PM
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If you're nice, they'll turn the blame on you and call you a slut for flirting back with them when you had a boyfriend the entire time. No winning with these fools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:20 PM
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I have a coworker who was buddy buddy with the warehouse worker until the day he realized she was in a* relationship. After that, he acted cold and rude to her. He was only being friendly because she was a potential love interest. Same warehouse worker gave another coworker an unsolicited back rub and told her she had a "nice body". My coworker was so taken aback that she just giggled uncomfortably and shimmied away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:58 PM
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Well, well, well...if it isn't the consequences of our actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:45 PM
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Won't someone think of him?? ~he feels really baaaad~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:48 PM
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We have an outdoor maintenance man who I used to say 'good morning' to every day until he got fresh with me and mistook my greetings for flirtation. I do feel bad that I can't say 'thank you' when he takes out the trash from our office or just a simple hello without sending him the wrong message. I'm appreciative of the work he does for us but I don't want to give him the impression that it's OK to be that way with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:32 PM
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Yes, men who think like this, show yourselves so we can avoid you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:09 PM
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If he needs me to feed him, he's not my man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:10 PM
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Yes! I think so. Edit: at the end of the video, I remember thinking "Interesting but I still want it because it's pretty".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:22 PM
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He gave you the playbook. LEAVE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:17 PM
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I needed to read this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:26 PM
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That's cool. Him showing me the video was from out of left field because we were only going out for a month or so and I never expressed interest in taking it further with him. He was setting me up to expect very little.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:22 PM
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This guy I dated showed me that YouTube video debunking the marketing of diamonds and how engagement rings are a scam. Like he'd be lucky enough to even get that far with me. I broke up with him not long after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:40 PM
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I had a coworker whose boyfriend (now husband) showered her with a dozen red roses the entire week leading up to Valentine's day. It was over the top for my taste but still sweet. Our other coworker was a little salty about it because she had been with her boyfriend for over three years and he got her absolutely nothing. They were 50/50 and she told me it always bothered her to hear stories about him doing so much for her previous girlfriends and not a damn thing for her. Anyway, when she saw ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:37 PM
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Some will even throw a tantrum BECAUSE you aren't acting like the bare minimum isn't the best thing you've ever experienced. Isn't that hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:29 PM
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He's a child. Why would he expect an older woman to give up her bed so he can sleep in it? And he invited himself there...what a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 10:14 PM
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Conspiracy theory time: The Royal family planned this to take the attention off Prince Andrew and it's working like a charm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:10 PM
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A guy once asked me out by saying "What day are you free? I'm only free on Tuesdays because I have my kids the rest of the week and they come first. If you can't accept that, then it won't work out." Like, wow...relax. This is how you ask a lady out for the first time? You must be fighting them off with a stick if you get that defensive immediately 🙄 I'm just glad that was a one-off experience and I didn't get another message like that again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:08 PM
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They message you incessantly and call you ugly....but sir you were the one thirsting for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 11:22 PM
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If he doesn't want to make money or get a job, that's his choice. There's no changing him. If you want to level up and marry a man who is ambitious and takes care of you, do not change your standards. Just keep looking for the right man and ignore the wrong ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:51 PM
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These boys act like us wanting a better life for ourselves and our future family is such a terrible thing. We make them better and yet here they are complaining that we won't accept them at their most mediocre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:07 PM
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If you have to take someone down just to feel good about how good you're doing YOU'RE NOT DOING GOOD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:51 PM
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Wounded feminine will destroy you divine feminine will leave you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 11:53 PM
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Wow, he's super insecure. You said two things to this guy and he went off. PROJECTING MUCH?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:27 PM
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Yeah, I wouldn't have told a man who was still clearly very grief stricken over his late partner that I'd wait around until he recovered.He was stroking her picture and speaking to her? COME ON NOW...Leave him alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:02 PM
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He's allowed to think that and women are allowed to find generous men. What did this tweet change? Not a damn thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 09:54 PM
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"Brittany" is catfishing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 09:49 PM
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This is why I don't bother explaining. If you don't know how a decent human being should act, we have no business being friends/in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:05 PM
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You can't control the thoughts, feelings, and actions of others but you can control yourself. Set your standards high, make your boundaries strong, and yourself whole. If you have yourself, you have everything. A partner is just a bonus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:56 PM
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The moment a woman exercises her boundaries, suddenly she's so cold, emotionally unavailable, and only out for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:05 PM
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Imagine being the wife of guy #1 and learning that his ex gf married a super rich dude. I would feel SO GYPPED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:13 AM
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Promise?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:21 AM
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Why would you even put this out there? Oh baby no, what is you doin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:07 PM
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She's dating Big Bird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:40 PM
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YES we need more positive posts like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:28 PM
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This has always been my gripe with The Devil Wears Prada! I love that movie but I will never cosign Andy for getting back together with Nate and for letting her friends shame her about wanting to do her job well--a job that offered them high end gifts at that! I wrote a rampage defending Miranda's actions but that's totally off topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:44 PM
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RIGHT? Like...Knocked Up? I would have aborted that baby once I saw how his character was living.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:39 PM
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YES Adam Sandler could never get with any of the women he wrote his characters attracting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:38 PM
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LOL the entitlement of his response. He isn't gonna find it if he's not looking for it and it seems like he's already tired of the journey. 47 dates is nothing. Edit: I just realized he said that he spoke to 47 different women. Not that he necessarily took them out to get to know them. This guy is a complainer and a time waster. He doesn't need to be dating, he needs to be centering himself and focusing on what he really needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:30 PM
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AMEN! If the "gold" I'm digging is a man who wants to share his fortune and life with me while I give him my time and company, then yes...I am a gold digger. If you do not have this or want to give it to me, I'm not the one for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 05:20 PM
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It is my personal belief that men who use the term "gold digger" are the ones who are stingy. There are some poor men who will give everything they have to the woman they love. There are rich men who are generous and will share their wealth with the one. But the stingy ones, no matter how bad or good they're doing in life, will always call a woman who wants better for herself a "gold digger". As if she's an awful person for wanting a man who takes care of her. "What does she bring to the table?"…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 04:38 PM
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It's because his dusty ass has no intention of paying for the wedding and will leave it up to his poor SO to finance entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:44 PM
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Does she look high maintenance or is she the girl next door?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 11:27 PM
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Yes, OP...why are you staying with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 11:26 PM
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Imagine the furniture or lack thereof. If rather be at home by myself. It smells nicer there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:23 PM
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Agree. We need to help each other. Us women need to see each other as sisters and be kind to each other. If we see one of us fail to acknowledge her work, show her. Don't berate her as being "low value", that just causes resentment and hurt feelings. Tell her in gentle words that her mindset needs to be shifted and when she's ready to make the change, that we're there for her. There's no need for more negativity, the world is unkind enough already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 01:16 PM
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They don't know what they're talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:56 PM
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Right? He thinks he's on some Henry the 8th shit. What legacy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 02:13 AM
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Together on and off for THIRTY TWO YEARS?!? No. Throw the whole man away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:29 AM
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I haven't watched a lot of The Bachelor/Bachelorette. Does the (I don't even know what to call it) main character get to pick the age and look of the contestants? Maybe this was her preference because dating men her age and older wasn't working out...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:25 AM
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If he's whining about not being able to have sex with you unless you have a relationship, then yes, low value. Even though it's your truth, he's not entitled to know anything you did in your past because it doesn't concern him. He asked if you were intimate with someone who wasn't your bf to evaluate where your boundaries lie. That means he already sees you as someone with flexible standards. In this case, I would forget about him and keep dating others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:55 PM
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Wait, why the hostility? I'm not fighting with you here. We're just having a discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:39 PM
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Oh I see where we're not understanding each other. When I say "ask you out" I mean it has to be planned in advance. So of course if he asks you out right now, as in right this moment and he wants you to see him today/tonight/even this week, don't go. But if he asks you out for a future date you can accept for a future date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:37 PM
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Him asking you out is low value? I think we can just say "another time" and it wouldn't hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:50 PM
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Oof, I've had this conversation before. I was really into this guy and I wanted him to communicate with me more because he would disappear on me for weeks at a time. I KNOW, I KNOW... At the end of my begging, I asked if he understood and if he would change. He said "no". AND MY PICK ME SELF ACCEPTED THAT AND DATED HIM FOR 5 MORE MONTHS. What a dumbass. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:46 PM
-18

This is true. If he asks you out for this week, just tell him you'd be more comfortable waiting it out until everything calms down. Don't be mad that he asked you, he's just shooting his shot. It's our job to pace things out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:38 PM
31

If he's high value and happens to make less money than you, he'd make up for it in other ways. He'd be alright with the change in power dynamic but instead of making more money, he'd make sure your car was fixed, the house was in no need of repairs, the fridge was always full, the yard was tidy...basically make you feel safe and secure being with him. This whole "quit your job so I can be the breadwinner" is so immature. As if that's the only way to prove your manhood to a woman. FIND OTHER WAYS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:55 PM
23

They're both 25, have a newborn, and are only engaged. This was probably a fast fling that turned into a pregnancy and now they're stuck with each other. In short, they have no idea what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:51 PM
51

This was a good move. He was testing you to see if you'd be ok with paying your way. A man trying to make a good first impression on a woman he's interested in wouldn't do this. I've even had dates that weren't going well pay for my dinner! This guy was bad news from the start and he showed you what he was made of early on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:42 PM
43

hol up--what are the prizes first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:30 PM
17

Imagine if he kept packing kid's lunches for a week straight and didn't come home that evening...Gotta forgive him, he did his chores! This is the worst idea ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:29 PM
8

End it already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:20 PM
3

haha well you can be a giver to yourself instead from now on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:40 PM
17

«if you want to attract a man that will truly love you and adores you, DO WHATEVER YOU WANT. This is very true. I found that when I was in my pickme days, I would chase guys who weren't interested in me and I ended up being the giver. I figured I just wasn't the type of girl to get gifts and accepted it. It was true--I put myself in the position to always be giving more. I did this in friendships, at work, and especially in relationships. Then I came to my senses and became more self-centered (i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:35 PM
16

I hope she reads what she wrote and leaves him. This could be the first step of freeing herself from this relationship. Friends of mine have stayed in less than desirable situations under the guise of "I'm just not ready to be alone right now". As if being alone is a worse fate than being with someone who is openly cheating on you or emotionally abusing you. Get out while you can. You're not married to him, you're free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:17 PM
35

You can care about him, he just has to care about you more. It's a tough pill to swallow but it's true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:12 PM
26

I agree. His humor is condescending and this "joke" isn't funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 04:47 PM
11

D: I didn't even think about this. How awful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:23 PM
106

If he can't feed himself, he's not my man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:22 PM
13

My ex was like that. I found half naked photos of girls on his laptop and I asked what those were for. He just looked at me and said "I have needs". ...but he was also unemployed, didn't have his own place, and was in debt. But jacking off was #1 on his list of needs. Mmkay...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 08:35 PM
23

It's like they want to be puppets up until they're financially stable. Then they'll leave because "she was so controlling".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:08 PM
2

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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:07 PM
22

It's a good thing you didn't try to change this guy, came to your senses, and ended things quickly. However, for your safety in the future: DO NOT GET INTO A CAR WITH SOMEONE YOU JUST MET Yes, you know him from the coffee shop but he is still a stranger. A stranger you are familiar with. You may not know his last name, where he lives, or if he has any dangerous habits that may affect you. When you're a passenger, you are vulnerable to whatever the driver does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:02 PM
10

I had to end things with a guy a few months ago because he wasn't accepting of my meaning of "going slow". He would still try things which I politely declined but eventually I realized we weren't on the same page. While he was respectful of my feelings and never took it any further, I noticed that he'd question my thinking about taking it slow. I just told him I wasn't ready over and over. What happened to me in my past that I wasn't ready? Nothing, I told him. I just wasn't ready. Over time I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:44 PM
19

I know of a couple like this. They've been together for years and are pretty "progressive". The guy has a successful career and makes good money to provide for him and his girlfriend. She got pregnant and had the baby recently. Her family was supportive because they assumed she'd be in good hands since he's so well off. After the baby was born, he's been really distant from everything and from what I hear isn't that concerned with being a father. He doesn't help change diapers, care for the baby…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:11 PM
3

Congrats! Two years of marriage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 03:57 PM
190

Really? The worst ones are the guys who expect to be penpals. They want you to talk to them for hours on end to give the illusion of familiarity. And it's free...no date required.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:09 PM
7

LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 07:25 PM
5

I think you're physically attracted to him and you're missing that up in your mind with having feelings. You're recognizing that it's just a crush and you don't really know this stranger. That's a good thing! Allow yourself to have this crush but keep reminding yourself that it's just because you like his face. You don't know if he's a good person, if he'd be attracted to you, or if he's already involved in another relationship. In the meantime, improve yourself and develop a crush on you. The m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:00 PM
2

Good point! Why would she swipe right if she thought he was too fat for her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:53 PM
6

Ok I think his story is fake but something like this happened to me two years ago. I met a guy on OLD and we dated for about a month until he up and cancelled our date last minute. I was really torn up about it because I liked him and my feelings were developing. I let a few weeks pass to try to get over it but my old pickmeesha self texted him one last time to see if I could improve the situation. He said that I needed to be more reciprocal in my actions. I agreed and we set up another date. Be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 02:50 PM
83

He was taking your temperature to see if you'd be someone who is alright with being kept on the back burner. He is emotionally immature and an idiot for testing you. Women who have any semblance of self respect would not subject themselves to being part of a "throuple" and it's a shame that other girl chased after him like that. He's either lying about how the actual scenario went down to make it himself seem like he's more desirable. He's possibly chasing after her and switching up the story so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 01:40 PM
12

Yes! Correcting their behavior is a bad look. Just move on with your day. This is amateur hour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:23 AM
2

You've seen uglier than Quasimodo IRL?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:12 PM
3

Seriously. As soon as he magically gets a girl look this, he'll say to himself "well she accepted me as I am so no need to change"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:11 PM
3

Miguel: you think I should take out the part where I said I make the best tortilla? I don't want to sound like I'm bragging...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:10 PM
2

I'm trying to dig deep and imagine what kind of woman he'd really want after this extensive list. He's already fashioned an impossible woman--not impossible in that there are no beautiful fitness trainers under 35 who are childless. But impossible in that there are women like that who want to date him. What woman comes after this "stepping stone" of a girlfriend? A woman who can build him a house who is also an astronaut millionaire?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:06 PM
3

Lol seriously. It's not like a 2" difference would have turned him into a Greek god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:01 PM
3

Him: (finds a hot homeowner chef who moonlights as a personal trainer but is 35 and a half) Him: Too old. Ugh, I know my worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 12:59 PM
6

You're an RG? ME TOO!! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:29 PM
9

I think it's because he's delusional about his size being "a little fat" combined with his height which suggests his proportions would be even more exaggerated. There's nothing wrong with being fat but there is a problem that he's expecting excellence from his partner (under 35, childless, beautiful, fit) when he has done little to no work on himself. And who's to say he'll actually follow through with his fitness goals after he's got a girl like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 09:28 PM
7

My friend is in a marriage with someone I consider a LVM. He has his redeeming moments but they are few and far between. Apparently he eats the same thing for dinner every night and on her birthday she was so distracted with the festivities that she didn't make it for him that evening. She apologized a lot the next morning and made up for her "mistake" by making him the dish for breakfast. I was watching it all go down. It looked like he was enjoying seeing her grovel about how upset she was for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:46 PM
41

Why does he need her to watch him eat? Is he afraid he'll choke because he's guzzling everything down without chewing? ALSO how humiliating would it be to have a man require you and your baby to wait to eat? As if his nutrition is more important than everyone else's. Is his constitution that fragile that he needs to make sure he's full before others can eat? This Pickmeesha BS...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:35 PM
18

A woman is a burden if you're a broke dusty and want to blame her for everything going wrong in your life. In that case, just stay away from all women. Please, for our sake. Look at them congregating in one spot to make it easier for us to ignore them. How thoughtful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:31 PM
7

You're right, I'm not really sure if it's worse but it went like this in my mind: At least a broke guy has an excuse as to why he can't pay for dinner--no money. But a rich guy who doesn't want to pay for dinner even though he has the money is just being a POS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:30 PM
17

If he's too dumb, why would you want to date him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:26 PM
9

If he's focused on using his money to pay off student debt, then I totally respect that. It also means that he shouldn't be trying to get into a relationship with anyone during that time. Dating a woman costs money and if his funds are tied up, he needs to keep that to himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:14 PM
12

Sometimes a rich man who is stingy is worse than a broke man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:13 PM
13

A man NEEDS to provide. It’s biological. Amen! I have encountered a time when a guy asked me for money and it was on the spot and we couldn't leave unless I paid. Anyway, I helped him out and he was visibly embarrassed. I thought to myself "OK, I guess I'll have to break up with him because he's no good" and I think he sensed that. He apologized profusely and told me he'd get me the money back ASAP. I just brushed it off and figured my money was gone. The next time I saw him, he had the money he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:11 PM
15

They'll even say contradicting things like, "I want a ride or die chick. The one who stays with me even when money is low and times are tough. That's the kind of woman I want. No gold diggers." But when they finally DO have money, they get the woman with the most sparkle (understandably) and leave their old gf in the dust. The moment the money runs out with the new woman and she leaves, he's back to the same old BS. "She was only with me for my money." No duh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:03 PM
37

That's why LVM hate gold diggers. They don't like competition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:56 PM
26

finally they will make you feel guilty for even going 50/50. You’ve got money and they know it. So you can pick up the tab right? They are the masters of saying “relationships are all about giving when the other is in a bad situation” but surprise surprise you’re the only one giving for so long at the end. Save your money it’s not worth it. So true--I lived this! During my Barbara the Builder years, I had an unemployed boyfriend who was a few years older than me. My mindset was that it was "shal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:53 PM
8

"Gas is expensive" "The traffic is too much" "But it's raining..." Excuses, excuses. I've had men who had so many things going on in their day: work, kids, family obligations, one guy was even helping build a house--they all managed to date me. And not just that, but arrive at my front door fully showered, with flowers, and mood completely positive despite the hellish day they had. All I had to do was be ready and they took care of the rest. Men want to be in a wonderful mood (and in the presenc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:27 PM
3

IDK, it says it in your flair. Edit: Oh nvm, you knew that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:57 PM
13

I feel like if he does find a women with these specifications, she'll be batshit crazy. Also kind of sad your account is a throwaway because your username is so cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:41 PM
14

RIGHT?!? 330 lbs and 5'8''??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:36 PM
8

I mean, he can want it and ask for it but he's not going to get it. Super fit, beautiful women have the advantage of dating up. Why would they want to spend their time with a man who can't even be healthy for himself? It also appears that he didn't list the things he can offer a woman of that caliber. Is he going to give her all his money so she can feel taken care of? What's in it for her that she has to surrender her womb to him and give him the honor of being seen with her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:34 PM
13

No self respecting man would put up with supporting you financially or emotionally* when you tell him that you're seeing other men. He's the one in power in this relationship because he's giving the benefits. In this case, dating other men and making him aware of that is disrespectful to him. It's setting a negative dynamic in your relationship. Just get out before resentment gets worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 06:26 PM
4

Does he share that salary with her? *meant to respond to your other comment but I'll just keep this here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 06:24 PM
5

How about just "No"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 06:18 PM
9

The best response is removing yourself without a word. Silence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:25 PM
16

His salary: doesn't matter because he will not share with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:24 PM
77

He goes into the "do not mate with" pile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:21 PM
9

Yeah why is she leaving consolation prizes at his house? Take those things, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:20 PM
56

"Out of nowhere. Completely undeserved!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:19 PM
145

"I don't even know what I did, things were perfect!" Every guy responding: you dodged a bullet, my dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:18 PM
4

I would have eaten the breakfast and left the dishes in the sink but that's just me being petty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 01:17 PM
87

I just saw a post in a different sub about this guy who had his arms pulled off in a farming accident. He called 911 using a pencil in his mouth. Sis, if he wanted to call, he will find a way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:46 AM
2

LOL that's what I've heard about German guys. It's a 50/50 society over there. Good for you with blocking and nexting him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:11 PM
40

If men disappeared for an entire day, I could finally walk outside without feeling someone look me up and down. The unisex bathrooms won't have as much pee on the toilet seats or the floor. There'd be less traffic and road rage. I could go to the gas station without being hit on. The list goes on and on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:58 PM
88

The quality of a man who uses the word "simp" to describe a man helping a woman is zero. He's making fun of that man because he himself has no capacity to help anyone. If he does and still with holds it in the face of someone who actually needs help, he is worthless. Let these men keep being this way. Helps us weed out the losers so we can focus on good men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:54 PM
20

Your mboobs say differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 09:45 PM
7

Just because someone says it is does not make it so. "You ain't a prize" does nothing to my value. I actually am a prize and the fact that he finds it necessary to point out that I am not just means he recognizes something about me that he should adjust. I will not be taken down a few pegs by that comment because if he's mad about not being on my level, maybe he needs to improve himself instead of trying to take me down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:57 PM
18

👏👏👏 There are so many subreddits that aren't directed against women but misogyny still occurs. I've see posts about rent and one guy suggested getting a girlfriend because it literally cut his bills in half and he basically has a live-in maid and cook. Then when someone suggested that he shouldn't expect her to pay half of the rent if she's doing all that he went "LOL but what about feminism? We're equal now". TOTALLY MISSING THE POINT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 06:36 PM
-19

I need a word for my friend who tries to act smart but when you say a word she's not familiar with, instead of asking for the definition, she goes "What do you mean?" like it's a problem with what you're saying and not a problem with her limited vocabulary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 05:16 PM
2

I empathize with how she feels because she didn't enter this relationship with the sole purpose of making it a romantic one. It's good that he's told her about his feelings instead of secretly stewing in them and eventually making her the villain in his mind because she didn't psychically sense his attraction and reciprocate. Now that it's out in the open, she can set her boundaries and make it clear to him that their relationship moving forward will only be a professional one. This is why I rar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:04 PM
27

Have any of you ever seen that awful Zach Braff movie "The Last Kiss"? He cheats on his pregnant fiance with Rachel Bilson's character and his life comes crashing down soon after the truth comes out. Anyway, Zach Braff's friend (Casey Affleck's character) is chastising him for cheating on his fiance and the line that stuck out to me the most was when he said, "Jenna's perfect, she's beautiful...she's like a guy." *Record scratch* Uh, say what? This is what's being perpetuated in movies that are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:43 PM
8

Oh I didn't mean that I'm only going for ugly men. I'm going for generous men who treat me well. Physicality comes second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:46 AM
3

"Sure, coffee sounds great."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:45 AM
37

High value women are always nice. Meaning they're always respectful and polite. Not meaning they're doormats. You're being nice to him by showing up to the date dressed well and in good behavior. It is his pleasure to be seen out with you. It is his pleasure to treat you to a nice dinner and drop you off to your house at a reasonable hour. You're a lady. You can start "doing" for him after you are married. That means cooking, buying thoughtful gifts, and caring for him. Anything before then, you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 01:20 AM
26

LOL TF IT AIN'T
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 12:42 AM
33

I would buy a Chanel with the money I saved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:22 PM
15

He's creepy. I would have stopped talking to him because even though you won't be going out with him, he's still getting responses from you and sometimes that's all these perverts want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:20 PM
6

No one needs to be in a relationship this bad. WHAT EVEN IS THIS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:41 PM
27

This is what I'm thinking whenever my BFF asks me how my dating life is going. The second question she always asks me is "Is he hot?" as if that's not as important as "Is he a good man?" or "Does he treat you well?". She always refers to her husband as "hot" (I don't think he is...to each, her own) so IDK if I can trust her judgement but with that in mind... I'm already past dating who I'm physically attracted to because I'm looking for a deeper connection. Can he take care of me and our future …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:23 PM
53

Not leveling down to make your SO feel better about his appearance ✅ Continuing to level up and proving you're way out of his league ✅ Leaving him ✅✅ ​ What an icon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:13 PM
110

Poor men hate gold diggers because of the visible evidence of the life they could have if they just had more money. They hate that women require money to be happy--let's face it: money greases the wheels and makes life easier. Instead of buckling down and working harder, they blame women being superficial. LVM push the "I like the natural look" agenda because they know they can't afford a high maintenance woman. She requires work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:22 PM
4

Losers, scammers, LVM have to cast a wide net which means everybody--pretty and not so pretty will be attracting them. The difference is what you accept. If you're beautiful with low standards and weak boundaries, you may be susceptible to being with LVM solely on the basis that they approached you before a HVM. That's why it's important to have high standards and strong boundaries no matter what level of attractiveness you think you are. LVM can sniff out low self esteem. In fact, they prey on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:43 PM
4

I am OK with coffee/drinks for a first meetup. I am not doing coffee/drinks for a first date. First date means he already knows what I look like in person--not the first time we've ever met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:24 PM
8

No, never. After the first meetup and on it's dinner/activity dates (that are actually enjoyable for me).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:55 AM
15

My strategy will probably be too strict for some ladies here but I stop answering non date related questions after his fourth message. Then if he only offers coffee after the first meetup, I decline the date. I just end it at that. I don't tell him off, I don't try to steer him toward drinks or dinner because he's showing me that he's only capable of low effort dates. That's nothing against him but if I want to date someone who will court me, that means I'll be moving on to other men in my datin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:20 AM
13

People get banned for rating good looking people as an 8? What's the whole point of this voting system if you can't rate someone what you think they actually are?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:53 PM
15

Because they'll eventually find a woman willing to give in to what they want. They're banking on our desire to be in a relationship. That's why it's better to love yourself first and to find a man who does more for you in the beginning than you do for him so you don't fall into the mother/son relationship trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 01:44 PM
27

Are the men posting on this sub getting rated higher than the women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:45 PM
26

IKR? Getting dates are easy. Dick is literally everywhere. Healthy, stable relationships are what's difficult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:27 PM
16

This is a mess. What she's doing is really dangerous, like you said OP. I was in /r/datingoverthirty a few months ago and there was post there by a lady who had the same strategy. She was open to having sex immediately after meeting someone (not the 1st date but early enough), she advocated for chasing men to get a date, and it was successful until she met a guy who pulled her into an alley and sexually assaulted her. Instead of reflecting on what she could change in her approach, she decided to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:23 PM
29

The other day my friend told me that she cleaned her boyfriend's room and keeps his schedule for him. If she didn't do this, his life would fall apart. There was a twinkle in her eye and I'm sure it's because she feels important--like he's nothing without her. Sis, it sounds like you're raising a grown man. You're dating a 12 year old who needs a mommy, not a girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:06 PM
86

Yes, you're right! Dr. Pat Allen says that if you sleep with a man before getting to know him well enough, he assumes you've done the same with other men in the past. Even if that's not the truth, he is hardwired to believe that about you. And let's say you end up in a long term relationship with this guy--the moment you come home 5 minutes late, he will assume you've been sleeping around. Even if that's not the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:49 PM
151

Whenever some guy tries to convince you to have sex with him because "What's the big deal? It's just sex--you're putting too much importance on it"...remember: They would be so willing to trade places with us just to have sex. It really IS that important to them. They're hoping you don't realize that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:24 PM
25

Being shy is their excuse for being low effort. They'll even go to the extent to say women should ask them out for a change. Lol ok, good luck to both parties for that. The guy will feel flattered but turn the date down because he wasn't into her. Or he'll go out with her and expect to go 50/50 because it wasn't his idea. Worse yet, they'll end up in a relationship where he's extremely low effort and she eventually resents him for not doing enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:53 PM
103

Being chill is fine. Pretending to be chill just because you're afraid of appearing like an upright bitch is not. It's ok to have standards and agreeing boundaries but not ok to be annoying about it. For example, I was on a date and the guy was pushing my buttons. Instead of "teaching him a lesson" and telling him off, I just excused myself from the date and ended it there. No love lost, no unnecessary expenditure of energy. Maintain your dignity, not everyone is worth setting straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:35 PM
7

That's exactly how I feel when a Tinder match's second message to me is "sex?". Like...aw, poor guy knows he has nothing more to offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:21 AM
43

My aunt did this to her daughter, my cousin. My cousin is responsible and reliable. She took care of all her younger siblings and is providing for her mom and dad and whatever the family needs. While I admire her for being a bad bitch, I resent her parents for not letting her grow into her own self. To my knowledge, she's never dated or been close to having a romantic relationship because she's too busy taking care of everyone else. Her parents are professionals but because they fell into some h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:15 AM
19

It's easier for us to change than it is for men to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 10:13 PM
19

Agree. It's totally within a woman's bounds to tell her partner that she doesn't like the ring. A good man wouldn't take it personally--especially if she kindly states it instead of screams her preferences at him. Just like I would be no good with choosing a grill if I ever chose to gift one to my SO, he can't be expected to know exactly what she wanted in a ring. It's not a big deal to get a different one that fit her tastes better unless he had it custom made...in which case it probably wouldn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:38 PM
10

Being lonely is better than being with someone who treats you poorly. You know this for next time. You can do bad by yourself, why would you need someone else's help?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:11 PM
3

Sometimes the man is out to ruin his own relationship and neither parties are man/woman enough to leave the other. It's like they'd rather put up with the disrespect and lies than to be by themselves. As if their sole company is a worse fate. I feel bad for these people, they don't love themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:10 PM
4

Men will hit on you when their wives are alive and well. My friend's husband was cheating on her with her other friend whose husband was dying of brain cancer. My friend's husband was at his mistress' husband's funeral--talk about thick skin. Don't be loyal to no man until he gives you a ring and even then continue to keep your eyes open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:57 AM
5

Here is a screenshot of the original post because the OP deleted his text: https://imgur.com/a/sITY7LB
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 01:31 AM
7

What are your feelings about that in hindsight?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:41 AM
21

This is fascinating! My friend married a man who didn't get an engagement ring for her, the rationalization being that she's "too practical" for something so extravagant. She also told me she didn't like the history behind the engagement ring. Which history? I'm not sure because I didn't ask her. I was too disgusted by the idea that she was already living with him, paying part of the rent, and he couldn't shell out a few hundred (not even thousands) to give her a ring. They did get wedding rings…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 12:38 AM
22

Since we're on the topic of LV songs, what about Celine Dion's "To Love You More"? That's a total PickMeesha song and I knew it when I was little. I side eyed Celine when she sang "she won't love you like I will / I'm the one who'll stay / when she walks away / and you know I'll be standing here still". Younger me was like...Celine, you're telling me the guy you're singing to is already in a relationship? Girl. You can't fool me into thinking this is a good song even with that bitching violin so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:24 PM
3

I think the original post was deleted but in the title he says "my fiance" meaning she said YES?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:55 PM
21

Tinder is really good for relationships, from what I've heard. A lot of the people I know found their partners through it. I think if you're looking for hookups, you'll get hookups. If you're looking for long term, you weed everyone else out who is looking for less than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:20 AM
9

Does anybody have more information about the background of their relationship? Her ex fiance is much older than her and based on his comment, it seems like things ended on ok terms (but how can you say anything negative about someone who's just been murdered without voluntarily sounding like a terrible person?) Anyway, I think it'd be good to read about how she met this new guy and for how long they were together before they made it exclusive as a cautionary tale for all of us. Sorry if I'm soun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:21 PM
3

"yEaH bUt i nEeD a ClEaReR sIgN."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:07 PM
35

Imagine his surprise when he is seated next to fifteen other guys about to say the same exact thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:06 PM
3

I stan a great level up story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:02 PM
12

It takes a big person to admit their faults and call themselves out. You know better now and that means you'll do better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:58 PM
12

I had a friend whose husband fooled around with one of her close friends and continued a "relationship" with this woman while they were still married. This lasted for two years, possibly more. Anyway, the mistress' husband died. YES, they were both married and she had a husband who was withering away from brain cancer whom she was openly cheating on. A few months after his funeral, my friend's husband eventually left her to go cheat with some other married woman. (He attended the funeral, BTW.) …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:43 PM
7

I liked the first episode where she was on the bus and wanted to get off at "Pick Me Town" (I'm just gonna call it that) and it was a desert filled with women in sports jerseys acting like "the cool girl".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:19 AM
6

If I'm not in a LTR or we're not newly exclusive, I would just ghost. It's not cruel, it's effective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:17 AM
11

I feel like this was written by a man. I hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:32 PM
40

His first thought was of himself. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:21 PM
1

Yeah, that's what I mean. She's only a part of certain groups for a short amount of time. They never fully take off from there. She was first in Eden's Crush, then a few years later she lead PCD, and I think she was a judge on a talent show, but other than that--she's not done anything that's put her on superstar level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:41 PM
27

She is so beautiful, talented, and seems like she knows her way around showbiz. How is she not more successful?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:51 AM
6

Some guys don't know how to date. Not our problem or our responsibility to teach them how to do things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:15 PM
8

That's why I hate Kate Hudson movies. She's either one of the guys or a girl's girl but when she's a girl's girl, it seems more like a caricature of a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:41 PM
8

I would dump him and use that money to live financially independent for the rest of my life. Think of all the traveling she can do, the people she'll meet, the luxury of having all that money and no longer having to think about saving up enough for retirement. Why be with this loser looking to use you for more than half his rent when you could be out experiencing the best the world has to offer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:34 AM
207

I went on a date with this guy from Tinder who invited me out to a fancy lounge for drinks. My profile is very girly, I'm wearing heels and a dress in most of my photos because I wanted to put my best foot forward and that's how I actually dress on a regular basis. Nothing about my profile screamed "one of the guys". When I got to the lounge, he was seated at the bar and he ordered a beer. I got a white wine. The entire time his attention was divided between speaking to me and watching the Dodge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:25 PM
30

LOL ROB HIM SIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:05 PM
25

Yeah me too! She's talking about it as if she's upgraded but sis you've got a man who doesn't have $20??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 11:03 PM
14

My friend just gushed to me about how her boyfriend asks her to pick his clothes and choose his hairstyles. His friends, family, and colleagues are so impressed that he now looks like "a grown up". Fool is 30 years old, he should be doing this himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 10:51 PM
1

YESSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:07 PM
44

Elle started out as a PickMe and graduated into a BadBitch when she realized she was too good for that awful ex of hers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 10:59 PM
-2

"Hi" is a totally acceptable greeting. Just say "hi" back. There's no guarantee he'll be a good egg even if he writes you a charming two line sentence in the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:50 PM
31

My friends' husbands all swear they like "the natural look". They don't like "women who wear too much makeup". YET...their wives (my friends) are beautiful and take a lot of efforts to look that way. Also, when I show up in a body con dress in full glam, the same "au naturale" husbands talk me up all night. Not because they're attracted to me. Because they're men and are visual creatures. Don't believe men who say they like women without makeup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:15 PM
17

AMEN! Everyone, read this truth. I've had a guy offer me dinner for the first meet up, I accepted. He seemed nice enough so we went on a second meeting or "first date" a week later. He was visibly upset that I ordered an iced tea for my second drink (I had a white wine to start). I told him that I would have gladly kept him company while he drank and I finished my iced tea but he was having none of it and ended the date early. Half way through walking me to my car, he asked if I wanted to go hom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:07 PM
5

I just dumped someone as well. He's a sweet guy but I know it's not going to work out in the long run. We're in this together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:56 PM
24

I'm ok with the first meet up being coffee. I don't know if I'm going to like this guy either so a quick drink would be a nice way to end a dud of a date fast. The next meeting (the first date) should be a dinner. By then I've got a feel for him, I have a better idea of some attraction, and I know more or less if I'd like to spend more time with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:13 PM
-6

OK so this sub is very negative towards men. We focus mostly on LVM but rarely speak about HVM because I guess it would sound like bragging. Good men exist, they're everywhere. Once you focus on the abundance of great men, you'll see the benefit in switching your thoughts to focus on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:37 PM
8

This is why it's important for us women to have high standards and strong boundaries. Terrible men exist is all fashions but it's up to us to make sure we do not get involved with them. Let them be alone and miserable without our "high maintenance" tendencies, our "female problems", our "neediness". If they're happy thinking we don't deserve them because we want better for ourselves, then tough cookies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:50 PM
4

Too much chitchat from the lady. I would have stopped at "just coffee for now" and left it at that. He would have kept on talking to himself in which case I would have nexted him. Too much energy expended on this fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:42 PM
65

Is this real? If it is...SHE SHOULD HAVE BLOCKED HIM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:52 PM
26

I would say it's an expensive look. They're mad they can't afford your company in more ways than one. Smiling at them costs something they just don't have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:52 PM
58

Low value men disdainfully call these types of women "high maintenance".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:48 PM
22

LOL I hope these guys keep thinking this way. Keep them away from my ancient 30 something uselessness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 11:51 PM
23

The moment I changed my mentality about being "ride or die"--with friends and the people I'm dating--was the moment I started attracting people who truly loved me and were willing to go above and beyond for me. Only love those who love you. You can't make someone loyal to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:02 PM
30

Exactly. Hookups are easy. Relationships with an actual quality person is work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:15 PM
4

Wow that went from 0 to 60 in no time flat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:24 PM
19

LOL my best friend always asks about how I can possibly date men who aren't attractive to me at first. She can only date men she considers "hot" in the beginning. (This is surprising to me because her husband is not what I would call "hot" but to each her own.) I have to be honest, this was my mentality at first but I've seen the light. Attraction goes further than physical for me. I can eventually find someone handsome as long as he treats me well and courts me properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:23 PM
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