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| 2 | PUA delusionsGirls girls girls... Everything revolves around them. So many things to do in order to impress them. "you take improv comedy"... Damn, you even need to become a clown to get girls? | /r/seduction | 01/04/21 02:05 PM |
| 1 | How the heck do I stop being a little puss puss? Advice, techniques?I think context is really important. When you see PUA infields, they usually approach in nightlife party areas, where most people are drunk and in "party mode" or in tourist places where also people are just relaxing and hanging out to chill. When they approach, they are also not alone and are having fun at it, they are cracking jokes with their wing men etc. So if you yourself just got your ass from the house, after weeks of not being social with your mind in introverted mode and you are trying… | /r/seduction | 01/04/21 01:53 PM |
| 3 | What the hell happened to RSD you can't even find their product store?I think after Julien drama and then Eliot Rogers drama, they were scared of the community aspect and they burned it down on purpose, to avoid consequences of its volatility. We are living in times where the assumption of innocence and the burden of proof on the side of prosecution is long dead. Now everything is connected and leftist public opinion is quick to cancel people out, even for making one fart that sounds slightly out of tune to their ears. As for "pua friends", I think you are better … | /r/seduction | 01/04/21 01:04 PM |
| – | What the hell happened to RSD you can't even find their product store?Who cares? Their old school content before Julien drama was somewhat useful (like Julien's manifesto, which was a condensed pull/club game rules), then it was waste of time to listen to 5 mins of their bs, not mentioning paying $100s for their "products" or $1000s for their bootcamps. | /r/seduction | 01/04/21 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Entrepreneurs in Cars?He deleted my comment that was slightly not on the same page as him. I don't like the way he talks with his guests. He seems uninterested in what they have to say. It's subtle, but if the host is not excited, then the listeners won't be excited too. He's such a great alpha Entrepreneur, but he spends so much time to get YouTube spare change, hustle money? Yeah right. There's some good advice on his channel, I like some guests, but he is milking this topic for profit, like many other YouTubers no… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/12/20 11:39 PM |
| – | Those who got a lot out of Models by Mark Manson. What other self-help/dating books helped you?Above all, being very critical to every pua content. Picking up only the bits that resonate with me. Actually "Models" was the last bit of pua content that I've read - then I lost interest, because I got girls and I realized that keeping up with being an attractive man that's "on the edge" is far more difficult than just picking up girls. Anyway: Direct Dating Summit DVD (the first one) had an amazing atmosphere in general. Just entertaining and good for pumping up your mood. Alan Roger Curie "M… | /r/seduction | 29/06/19 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Went to the mall today for more practice.Woah, you digged this old thread ;) Anyway, the idea is to have fun / adventure / doing interesting things instead of just "hunting". Spending Friday night just punishing yourself with "hunting" and rejections is a bad idea. The goal is to be social, to gather your friends (inviting them is also leading), planning some interesting stuff (there's a lot of things happening in bigger cities, choose something that vibes with YOU). Then when you approach a girl, you in fact are not seducing, you are … | /r/seduction | 07/05/19 10:21 AM |
| 1 | What is the general rule for women with boyfriends?For me it ruins the sexy vibe if a girl breaks down and gets out with her insecurities. But if you play them hard, most girls break and let loose. I really like when a girl plays too, keeps the illusion/facade, it's rare, because it demands a willpower. And also my whole pickup style is about making a girl open up with me. I can't tip toe, I just push and push so it usually turns out the same. | /r/seduction | 28/02/19 11:01 PM |
| 2 | I DID ITI think he wants you to become a monk ;) | /r/seduction | 26/02/19 10:30 AM |
| 2 | I am suffering from envyI think I got this thing down when I was 15-16 while... learning to play guitar. I was obsessed about Michael Schenker soloing (I know it's obscure af). I was listening till my ears bled, trying to copy how he played and his tone/feel. No chance... Then I realized that it can't be done, that I'm trying to copy something personal. I realized that I'm different, that if I go my own way I will (hopefully) develop my own magic, personal to me. Otherwise if I keep trying to copy him, my playing will … | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 04:28 AM |
| 3 | I am suffering from envyHahh, I've meant exfoliating with a skin scrub ;) | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 01:32 AM |
| 10 | I am suffering from envyAnd the biggest one of them all dude... You are thinking about yourself like you are a product that lacks features. Product that sits on the shelf and is ready to be taken by girls. Product that is compared and chosen. It's a static mentality. Features are secondary to your actions. You are a man, you are the one that takes action. You don't want to think about yourself with a girls mentality (I need this and that in my appearance in order for guys to pick ME up). You are not a cute butterfly. Y… | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 01:17 AM |
| – | I am suffering from envyMind you, this guy is in shape at 5'7" and I'm built like a twig at 5'10" 150 lb. He tries to get me to go to the gym with him, but my schedule is always busy and I don't have workouts memorized like he does. Typical boring excuses like "my schedule is always busy" + "I don't have workouts memorized like he does"? That's why you can go with him, he will show how to lift. Also, you are thinking about getting in shape in order to get girls. No. Do it for yourself. You have only one life, one body.… | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 12:36 AM |
| – | I am suffering from envyI see a lot of bad things in the way you are thinking about all of this, but I honestly don't think you would even want to change them if I pointed them out one by one. Out of experience I know guys like you hold to such beliefs like they are mad. | /r/seduction | 24/02/19 11:55 PM |
| 4 | How do you react when women straight up asking you to sex her?After "little boy", just subtly close distance to her and look down at her, make her feel your physical dominance for a moment and go something like "you are a silly little thing looking for trouble". Do it your style, but don't let shit like "little boy" fly with you. And if she's willing, then... Don't assume the job is done. Work her just as any other girl. Men when they say they are dtf, they are. If a new girl says that, you can't be sure, it can be a shit test, maybe she opens like that, w… | /r/seduction | 24/02/19 02:36 AM |
| 1 | What is the general rule for women with boyfriends?Nah, definitely not, I've known her before. She was attracted to me, I wasn't that much, so I stringed her for a bit of time, I was inviting her and her friends out to meet my other guy friends, and spiked her emotions when she was getting too cold. Then she met this guy, I didn't know this, I pulled her. Then she wrote "I've met somebody good for me", but I sexted her anyway, she was responding super well and once wrote at the end that "you made me silly (wet) again, you and your friends have a… | /r/seduction | 24/02/19 12:34 AM |
| – | What is the general rule for women with boyfriends?I respect marriages (although I did not in the past and I feel guilty about it, it was antisocial behavior), I don't give even a tiny fuck about boyfriends that I don't know. If she's attracted to you, isolate her, turn her on, pull. If her boyfriend is your good friend - bros before hoes. There are so many sexy girls that you can get in one night, having a good friend is invaluable and often takes years to develop. Hoes are just not worth it, don't put them on the pedestal. Avoid your friend's … | /r/seduction | 23/02/19 03:53 PM |
| 1 | How do you turn your life aroundWhatever you do, your life is an automatic cycle of your habits. In order to change it in a planned direction, you need to achieve some level of awareness and willpower. Some people have it naturally, they have bigger prefrontal cortex or they develop it by stuff they do, or the approach they have to it (mindfulness). For some people it's natural, like some people have naturally bigger muscles. They have more willpower and more awareness. But you can work on it like a muscle. I strongly recommen… | /r/seduction | 22/02/19 05:33 PM |
| 2 | First time a girl has been really interested in me... can't believe itThis is nice! There's nothing more attractive than if a girl is enthusiastic about you. | /r/seduction | 22/02/19 12:59 AM |
| 1 | I see plenty of guys here who whine and whine yet actively reject any new advice or criticism and it makes me sick 😷He was way past being "overweight". He was obese, with legs like an elephant, with troubles with hygiene. This level of unhealthiness is just not comparable to having a "dad bod". Yes, you can get girls with a "dad bod", assuming you have game. He had none of it. No game, no LMS. What do you expect? | /r/seduction | 20/02/19 01:59 PM |
| – | I see plenty of guys here who whine and whine yet actively reject any new advice or criticism and it makes me sick 😷Some guys are beyond help with their mentality. ~10 years ago during our university days, my friend was chasing after one girl that friend-zoned him. He pushed for it anyway, so when I knew him, he was in a FZ for 3 years. And she was goddamn bitchy for him, she did everything to push him away. She was literally shitting on his head with a steamy dumps going down his throat. It makes me so fucking angry. I was so disgusted with her. Then I've lost contact with him. About 4 years ago I was meetin… | /r/seduction | 20/02/19 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Look for three things before asking a woman outIf a girl is willing, smiling, talkative, jumps into your bed etc... It's not seduction. Seduction in this cases comes down to not derailing attraction. Usually guys are attracted to girls that are hard to get and need to be seduced. If your son stops pursuing every girl that's not smiling to him from the get go, he might never get girls that he wants. | /r/seduction | 19/02/19 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Look for three things before asking a woman outYou are implying this, not me. In fact her advice has this assumption that every girl responds one way. | /r/seduction | 19/02/19 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Look for three things before asking a woman outA girl that's hot and popular is not going to respond like this, without him playing it hard. | /r/seduction | 19/02/19 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Advice for guys: don't take the friend zone as a forever situation and don't disrespect the girl friendzoning you.You are! | /r/seduction | 19/02/19 12:29 PM |
| 2 | What to say to lead up to a kiss?Telling a girl that you want to kiss her / leading with words diffuses tension. Girls that are into you like to feel this tension not knowing what you will do. In dom/sub situations in bed, submissive side often enjoys the unknown the most. There's no excitement in being dominated when you know everything that's going to happen. If you can, learn to lead to a kiss without words. Just eye contact, body language and escalation. | /r/seduction | 17/02/19 07:50 PM |
| 0 | Anyone else tired of picking up/gaming chicks?Maybe your testosterone went down? It's normal with age. It changes male mindset too. | /r/seduction | 17/02/19 06:08 PM |
| – | Advice for guys: don't take the friend zone as a forever situation and don't disrespect the girl friendzoning you.Definitely this is a big part of the whole situation. His attractiveness went up with age. Single guys around 25-30 that have their life sorted out are hot as fuck. This is not a case of a friend zone. | /r/seduction | 17/02/19 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Question about pullingHope it helps a bit ;) Your best bet is screening for girls that have a place to fuck. Also have some money to grease logistics, don't be cheap on this, if a girls hot for you and you don't have money for a cab, that's bs... As for this girl that you are going to meet next week - expect that emotions already fizzled out. She wanted to fuck you then, now she's cold again. You need to turn her on again. Don't text friendship bs with her. Text her something casual, then throw something sexy and lig… | /r/seduction | 16/02/19 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Question about pullingYep, fucked up logistics. You were unlucky that she didn't have her place closer. Next time save money for cheap hotel and a cab, and figure out a room before going out. If this town has universities, most likely there are cheap hotels for academic staff that visits universities for conferences etc. I've fucked in those couple of times. Make sure you are keeping her mood up on the way there. Try taking this girl (if she's still hot for you, not only in club setting) for a cheap weekend trip to a… | /r/seduction | 16/02/19 06:49 PM |
| 3 | If you’re bad with women, don’t feel bad. Most of us men are until we put in the hours of research and experimentation. Here’s where to put your efforts.It's not that a working class guy doesn't talk with his friends and uncles how to get some tail during construction work... They do all the time. It's just a different source of the same wisdom. But you are right. Every man needs to go through initiation/rite of passage (finding way unknown situation all by himself). And there's no way around getting real experience. No matter how many books you will read, you will never escape unknown and chaos. If you want something valuable in life, you need … | /r/seduction | 16/02/19 02:20 PM |
| – | Be clear about your intentionsI agree with a title (being clear about your intentions), but I disagree with what you wrote. "I asked here whether she wants to sleep at my place" -> "She declined" -> "I then explained to her, that I wasn't out for sex that last evening". This exchange is a massive loss of frame. It was clunky. But this was really nice - "I just didn't want to end this beautiful time" and you should have told her this first instead of the unfortunate "sleep at my place". Remember that "being very open about yo… | /r/seduction | 16/02/19 01:41 PM |
| 1 | #1 — The 100 Girl’s Number ChallengeAdd something like [2/100] brackets with your progress to your posts topic/text and update it with each new raport ;) Also... I'm calling it, you will go deep with our 3-4th girl haha... I don't think you will get to a 100 ;) | /r/seduction | 15/02/19 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Girls who laugh/giggle at you constantly?What do you think? Is "No. Get away from me. No. Leave me alone. I'm serious." a better response than giggling? Anyway, it's a positive response, but don't read too much into it. She might be drunk and silly just from %. It's a positive response, but the important question is what is she responding to? If you look silly then she thinks you are funny. If you told her a silly joke, she things the joke is funny. But if you told her something sexy and she's giggling... You catch my drift. | /r/seduction | 15/02/19 03:04 PM |
| 6 | Kissless virgin 20 y.o Asian maleBaby face is an asset. Maybe @20 you are angry because of it, but @30 you will be thankful for it, when 18yo girls think you are still 25 ;) Add to it good game, and you have years of real physical affection from young pussies ahead of you. Youth is always an asset. | /r/seduction | 15/02/19 02:43 PM |
| 2 | How to differentiate between women's fake and genuine niceness ?Women are far better at reading people. If you have a history of being led on, then you are probably below average in this field, even for a man. This means you shouldn't base your strategy on reading girls. It's counterproductive in your case. Reading girls is reactive. You should aim to affect them emotionally as hard as you can. Create waves. When you are proactive and they are reacting to you, and you put a "tall order" to make them invest, and they go through with it... You just know they a… | /r/seduction | 15/02/19 02:40 PM |
| 2 | What does a kiss on the cheek mean from a girl in a relationship?It was a year ago, this doesn't matter anymore. Next time stuff like this happens with some girl, follow up with a subtle physical escalation to test her / check her cards. Then you will know. Otherwise it's just to vague. Also @21 people girls try things in life, if a girl is vibing with you, don't treat "I have a boyfriend" as a hard boundary. And definitely don't run around with "she has a boyfriend" thoughts in your head, they are counterproductive and distract you from vibing and seeing how… | /r/seduction | 15/02/19 02:31 PM |
| – | #1 — The 100 Girl’s Number ChallengeI put my earphones on to listen to music. Listening to music is passive/consuming mode. Listening is introvert mode, singing is extrovert mode. I always sing silly/funky/disco/sexy songs when I go out... Stuff like Staying Alive, Thriller, Super Freak ;) I don't mean loud, just under my nose... uhh, ok, I often do it too loud. Once I was waiting for somebody, standing on a side of a street and singing some truly stupid stuff (polish disco-polo), some girl passed me and gave me this funny look...… | /r/seduction | 15/02/19 02:01 AM |
| 2 | Picking up a stripperThen everybody cums and reality comes crashing in for both of you. But for a brief time in the universe you actually did fall deeply in love, and your motives were pure. I thought that you are more optimistic haha - I've had a lot of great time and deep conversations after cumming with girls ;) | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Tired of being a failure with women; especially being at college right now."I want to FUCK and I WANT IT NOW!!!111!!OneONe!!!1ONe11" | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 08:44 PM |
| – | Tired of being a failure with women; especially being at college right now.Honestly, you have your expectations wrong and you have unrealistic mindset. You won't get girls with what you have in your head. You are frustrated and you want to act it out by being "man whore". There's nothing about connecting with people and girls in what you wrote. You are angry and you want to exploit. You don't want to give, you want to consume. Guys that are fucking left and right are doing it because they are giving left and right. Giving sex, party, fun, enthusiasm, good time, lazy ti… | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Building Attraction with my Baby's Mom?I need a little more insight on what i can do to boost her attraction towards me Somewhere along the lines you wrote that you ditched her, because you wanted to go out with friends, doing your things. If you want to rise your attractiveness, don't resign from being yourself. Make sure that you are turning her on, that you are dominant sexually and that she gets orgasms during sex. Then don't rise your availability. Keep the tension up by not being around all the time. But don't do this artificia… | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 02:47 PM |
| – | Picking up a stripperYou really know what's up dude, " I'm very effeminate in that way, where I like to feel liked and attractive. " - you know yourself and you are working with it. I'm waiting for more field reports from you ;) | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 02:15 PM |
| 2 | Building Attraction with my Baby's Mom?This is such a clusterfuck of a mess. My good friend was a player. He got this girl pregnant but he wanted to party. He remained a player. Pregnant girl was into him 150%, but he fucked around, so she ditched him. Then he saw his son... And realized what he lost. He flipped. He went the opposite way, very beta, very needy to create family. He begged his way into the relationship... They live together, but... the girl flipped too. She screwed around as far as I know, and now she got fat and she's… | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 03:50 AM |
| – | Picking up a stripperI'm not sure if you realize this, but I think a big part why you got her was a difference of vibes. This club had this "creepy old guy" dense vibe... You had clear, lighthearted energy. Like a clear mountain source next to a sewer. | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 02:57 AM |
| 2 | Girl acts interested but flakes when I ask her out" She rejected me in the past, then later confessed that she hated herself for rejecting me " - this sounds like she fucks with bad boys and she sees you as "nice guy" choice that she should make (because her mama and papa say so), but she won't feel it until she's older and ready to get things steady. Your function in her "asset wallet" is giving her comfort, that if everything goes to shit (guys she fucks start to aim at younger girls than her), she has guys like you to fall back on to. " BUT … | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 02:46 AM |
| 4 | Is it acceptable to DM a girl you met at a party on IG?Acceptable? Who cares. Effective? That's another thing. Even if they were all over you at the party, emotions fizzled out already, so don't expect the same vibe. Too bad you didn't exchange insta/snap right away at the party. Anyway, go for it. | /r/seduction | 12/02/19 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Got rejected brutallyThis sounds as a description of a great opener haha, need to try it out ;D Goofy style. Cracking voice + falling over a chair + lying on the floor for prolonged time ;) | /r/seduction | 11/02/19 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Guys Who Only Hookup Rather than Date: How Do You Do It?Fuck at girls place. Ask girls that you meet about their logistics. Pull her to her place. Actually lots of girls prefer to ons/fwb at their place, they feel safer (not being pulled to unknown place) and they have more control (if it goes sour, you are the one that needs to go at 2am back to your place even if it's cold and it rains like a motherfucker). Also if you are in fwb setup with a fun girl, you can do small weekend trips to towns nearby, sleeping at cheap motels/airbnb. If you have good… | /r/seduction | 10/02/19 02:02 PM |
| – | Guys Who Only Hookup Rather than Date: How Do You Do It?That's your problem. No place to pull, harder time getting sex. Get your own place. | /r/seduction | 10/02/19 01:28 PM |
| 18 | Being liked only by big women and gay males"Can you give me any advices on how to get attention from that type of ladies?" You have a girls mentality, you want to be treated the same way girls are treated. You want to be approached and seduced like a girl. "How to get attention"... You are a man dude, you are not a girl to crave attention. Who approaches you doesn't matter. Just approach girls you enjoy dude and do it often. | /r/seduction | 10/02/19 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Mixed signals in bed?"we cuddled and slept in the same bed twice before this night" + "When we were going to sleep she asked what was up as I wasn't actively cuddling her" = She really likes you dude. She's a good girl. She has lots of understanding and I feel that she's a type of girl that you can have great sex life with. She's not rushing, likes to spend time with you, listens to you, is interested in what you feel. You can explore crazy sex fantasies with girls like that. Tell her that. "I told her a couple th… | /r/seduction | 10/02/19 11:22 AM |
| – | How do I get laid at this wedding?Be prepared, have your logistics handled beforehand. Will you have your own a room with a bed? Is it going to be close to where the party is happening so you can pull a girl easely? Do you know a place where you can baby step her first to isolate her and warm her up (like a beach close by, a balcony, bench in a garden, quiet place)? Check it out at the beginning of the party. Anyway, have a clear path from party to isolation to bed thought out. It can't be too long. Also have condoms/lube prepar… | /r/seduction | 09/02/19 01:36 PM |
| – | How do I get laid at this wedding?Asking a girl if she's single is a wrong way to do it. Most pretty girls have a bf or at least some kind of placeholder cuck bf to exploit and shield them. And even if "not respecting relationships" is not your style (I understand) asking for their bf status is not party mode. It activates their defences. | /r/seduction | 09/02/19 01:15 PM |
| – | Mixed signals in bed?This is very sensitive topic in current society. Same woman will tell you that "every no means no" when she's in logical mode, and then she will get angry in bed when you stop the action after she giggles and says "haha no" in bed, when she's in sexy mode. Rule of thumb is that you need to remember, that rape is not sex. Even if a girl agreed to sex and said yes, and then she's quiet during sex and she's clearly not enjoying it... Then you should be aware of that and stop immediately. Women lack… | /r/seduction | 09/02/19 12:16 PM |
| 3 | Good answer to "I like dicks" ?https://youtu.be/_JphDdGV2TU?t=30 | /r/seduction | 09/02/19 11:06 AM |
| – | Why despite reading so much about pickup girls can still pick you as a wanker instantlyBig reason why guys are not approaching is because they have overthinking nature while extroverted guys just do it. Your post is inducing overthinking. Also pickup is about promotional mindset (similar to striker mindset in soccer, he needs to create 10 situations and if one works he gets all the glory, cheerleaders are waiting in a locker room). Many introverted guys were raised by their parents to be prevention focused (you need to defend 10 situations, if you screw up even once, you failed an… | /r/seduction | 07/02/19 10:54 AM |
| – | Why despite reading so much about pickup girls can still pick you as a wanker instantlyI don't want to disrespect you, but you are overthinking a lot. | /r/seduction | 07/02/19 10:00 AM |
| 1 | Do girls ever make a move for guys, or do guys have to do ALL the work while woman sit back and do nothing?They do if they like you, but it's subtle. Last month I've exchanged eye contact with some girl at the mall, I've noticed that she was looking at me. She then made sure to bump into me 5-6 times, staring at me trying to make eye contact again. Mall was big, so there was no mistake that she did it intentionally. I remember other examples, but they all come down to the fact, that girls will try to "expose" themselves more to you if they want you. They likely won't talk to you first or approach, bu… | /r/seduction | 07/02/19 09:14 AM |
| – | Why despite reading so much about pickup girls can still pick you as a wanker instantlyDude... You just have written a wall of text about cuisine around the world, big families in India and college dorms in the west. | /r/seduction | 07/02/19 09:05 AM |
| 1 | When would the right time to ask her out on a date be?So I hit her up and said “I’m free on Friday or sunday... coffee at 12?”. But hey, did you warm her up before asking her out? Did you write something to spike her? I don't feel that you have any emotional traction with her, just some dry exchanges on social media, no vibe. Anyway, I don't think she's interested. It seems like she just enjoys attention from you, but she's not in it for more. She ignored your proposal as if it didn't even exist - writing to her more won't help a thing, it will scr… | /r/seduction | 07/02/19 08:54 AM |
| – | An interesting phenomenon discussionI've experienced it a lot and I believe it's more about sex than "being claimed". It's the same with soldiers/fighters/heavy duty workers. You just feel in the way they act and the way they are, that they have experienced heavy stuff. Especially if they are fresh after work/fight etc. When you are fucked like a king by a girl, your hormones shoot sky up, and it holds you for a couple of days. And if you just seen some girls butt spread open on your dick, with pussy oozing with juice down her leg… | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 02:51 PM |
| 6 | Further proof that a rejection could just be a shit test, what she’s really thinking when she rejects you!/r/nicegirls | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 02:33 PM |
| 2 | Tips on seducing older women?Their bs detectors are laser precise. Don't pretend you are something you are not. Play it open. They know what they want. If they are dtf, they are down. Just pull her and don't screw it up. She wants sex, you are the man. You don't need to dance like an idiot. Don't overthink, just trust male-female chemistry, relax in it, go with the flow. At the same time, express your desire a lot, in sincere way. It's hot for them, they appreciate it and feed on it. Doesn't mean you shouldn't be a bit chee… | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 02:28 PM |
| 1 | How do I deal with this/is there anything I can do?Enjoy sex. | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 02:13 PM |
| 1 | When would the right time to ask her out on a date be?Express some sexy vibes, so she subtly knows what's up, but be firm about your game. Subtle doesn't mean meek. Then just start pulling / baby stepping her to bed. You wrote that she didn't respond well to you trying to isolate. Ok. Next time try rising her emotions first, then isolate/pull. If she's not ready for another step, she's not warm enough yet. Warm her up. And be ready to melt her excuses in a fun/light manner. Remember that a lot of excuses are just bs shit tests. | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 02:11 PM |
| 2 | When to ask for the solo date (post number close)This. Cute girls are blaze/jaded/stuck up/bored. And they have many options. Be sure they are feeling emotions, make them invest and if you can, try turning them on. Otherwise you are just another boring number in their phone. | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 01:59 PM |
| 8 | [FR] Tinder match to lay within 4 hours; full text convos attachedApart from showing her face and overthinking whole thing (she was willing, there's not too much about it, apart from being persistent), I'm not sure why people hate you so much. | /r/seduction | 05/02/19 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Girl from tinder just texted me that she wants want to bring her friend our first date with us tomorrow wtf??Who cares? It's not optimal because she won't be isolated and it will be hard to escalate, but worth just hanging out, you have nothing to loose (if they are not scamming you for dinner, be careful). Just be cheeky and ask jokingly if the friend is down too ;) | /r/seduction | 02/02/19 02:19 PM |
| 2 | How to follow a public approach without coming off as creepy?"Hey you know what?"... Pull your phone, create new contact, input "cute girl from a train"... Give her your phone... "you are cute and it was fun talking with you, I would love to meet you next week, write your number here". | /r/seduction | 02/02/19 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Do you let your girlfriend go clubbing with her girlfriends?You can't change people, she is who she is. She's at the party stage of her life, don't expect much. If you want LTR material, meet some girl that's more about spending time with you, more about hobbies and friendships. There's nothing wrong in your FWB going without you to a club and getting wasted around other men, but it's not a behavior desired for LTR. You see it yourself, but you got attached. Girl that you met wants fun, go out yourself, pick other chicks, meet with her with fun from time… | /r/seduction | 02/02/19 02:06 PM |
| 2 | How do I end my desperation?Hey, the fact that you text with girls and especially that you are trying to express your sexy thoughts... Is great. Don't stop, but maybe change how you express sexy stuff. Mind that if you haven't seen a girl, she will react badly to a kind of sexy stuff that you still can't know about her. If you haven't seen her ass yet, don't write stuff about it - you will come off like a creep that lives in his fantasy world. Your goal in texting should be to meet her with writing as little and as casual … | /r/seduction | 02/02/19 01:57 PM |
| -1 | "I'll let you know"Make sure you are always in "sex" zone with girls. (She knows you don't want to be her friend). Make sure meeting/texting with you is fun and sexy for her and turns her on. https://youtu.be/V0hlpctj0qs | /r/seduction | 02/02/19 01:45 PM |
| 2 | Friends cockblocking me in every possible waysYou need to be more proactive. From what you described, you are reacting to their actions. Take more actions than them and be one step ahead. This might be counterintuitive, but if you are the one to set the tone of how communication goes in your group, then you can hype your friends up. This way you will be on top, because you will seem like the one that has nothing to loose. Them being negative in this context will seem low status. But it's definitely a good idea to learn amog. Just to be awar… | /r/seduction | 02/02/19 12:41 PM |
| 1 | I’m starting to get into the beginning of “older” virgin territory and I think this might be my only chance, what do you think?Ultimately its always about the bait you use to attract women. You can attract using your status, money, personality, sex etc. You need to understand that attracting with body =/= attracting with sex. You can show off your body, but this doesn't mean you will turn on girls and make them wet with it. If you are meek chode obsessed about your body you will come off as gay. It's not a masculine energy. This doesn't mean that looks are not important, it's just something you need to treat as extra ad… | /r/seduction | 02/02/19 08:34 AM |
| 2 | This 5-Second Video Has Triggered Chodes Across The GlobeThis is some bs not worth looking at or mentioning. Not funny, not shocking, not interesting, probably staged. | /r/seduction | 02/02/19 08:22 AM |
| 2 | What did I do wrong? Please help.There's a long road ahead of you dude... Get to it. | /r/seduction | 02/02/19 08:17 AM |
| – | How to stop holding your personality back when talking to girls?It's funny how when this becomes normal for you, some girls will sometimes even get angry, that even though she pushed drama button... Nothing happens. Because you don't even notice it, you have fun doing other stuff, with your friends or other girls. | /r/seduction | 01/02/19 08:11 PM |
| – | How to stop holding your personality back when talking to girls?Meet more girls than one at the same time, so you are not putting all of your hopes on one. Have satisfying life and lots of fun outside your dating game, so you are not in a takers mindset. You are the one that gives fun, because you have a lot of it. You don't need girls to respond well to you, because you are fulfilled by your lifestyle. Be hyped about your actions, not girls reactions. Make sure you are warmed up before talking to girls. You will be far more relaxed if you jump from talking … | /r/seduction | 01/02/19 12:13 PM |
| 4 | Advice on first dates, I’m a (22/M).Instead of stressing about this date, overthinking before it, try looking for the next one. Girl that you are meeting probably has 2-3 dates already lined up. If you are anxious in general, best you can do is to treat all of it like a "gathering experience" adventure. Try warming up before this date. Call somebody. Small talk with every person you can during your way there. Go out earlier and do something fun before. If you have fun to share, that's independent from a girl, then you are more emo… | /r/seduction | 31/01/19 04:16 AM |
| 1 | Seducing older boss? (25f) (41m)Increase amount of time you are meeting/talking with him - if he likes you, he will jump at you. At first start placing your body closer to him, then increase touch using bs excuses ("woah, what a shirt, nice fabric", "your tie is crooked, let me correct it", "it's slippery, can you hold my hand?", "I'm cold, can you sit closer?" etc). Hold longer than needed eye contact during this moments. Try isolating him, meeting him 1on1 outside your work. Be easy at first, but as soon as you feel he swall… | /r/seduction | 31/01/19 12:59 AM |
| 17 | After years of trying I finally approached a girl...annnddd...nothing bad happened!Well... That's some heavy shit to ingrain into your mind. But I guess if somebody wants to walk around with a "poop mindset" instead "I'm a social guy, approaching is something natural, girls want to be approached" then why not... But then after years of game you will say to your son "everything I achieved in life I owe to poop". "Son, when I've met your mother for a first time, I immediately thought about... poop". "Poop is the way of life son". | /r/seduction | 30/01/19 11:50 PM |
| 50 | After years of trying I finally approached a girl...annnddd...nothing bad happened!"after 20 minutes of thinking about it I finally get the balls to do. " Woah! After 20 minutes of doubt you managed to approach - you truly have balls of steel ;) (Next time try approaching just when you see her, this way it's easier, no time to create this scary monster in your head!) | /r/seduction | 30/01/19 11:44 PM |
| 2 | Finally starting to use seduction in college and gave a girl my number. Advice on next steps?I would resort to school stuff only as a backup. You need to quickly make it about sex. But I would make that switch irl, not by text. If you are meeting her at class, isolate her. Ask her to go together to a college bar or some other 1on1 place. Invite her in light manner, just approach and "hey I'm hungry, let's grab a bite together". If she's not a stuck up bitch, then express interest, slip compliments, start making this little pauses when you are just looking at her so she feels your subtle… | /r/seduction | 29/01/19 11:19 PM |
| 1 | New to game. 23 year old virgin. Women please help and guys tooFind some common topic like movies/tvshows/travel/books. Mix it with getting to know her, figuring out her logistics and telling her sexy stuff so she's turned on. It should be mostly about sex, if she resists a bit then go back to common interest. When she talks with you she should think about sex. Try telling her something hot that will stay in her head even after ending your conversation. Obviously push for the meeting irl. | /r/seduction | 29/01/19 11:05 PM |
| 5 | New to game. 23 year old virgin. Women please help and guys tooDon't make a big thing about your virginity. Apply "no big deal rule" to everything. Nothing is big. You have a problem in life? Don't present it as something that's huge. You have a flaw? Don't make it as it's the end of the world. Don't be a guy that cries over himself. On the other side, as the counterweight, you have some success? Don't blow it like you are the second coming of Jesus. Don't be a guy that huffs and puffs over his new car, his fat wallet and his IQ so everybody around needs a … | /r/seduction | 29/01/19 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Is this girl into me?Anyway, make sure that you turn the heater on. From what you written it seems that your interactions are more friendly than man-to-woman. Get into sex mode. Express more of your desire and be unapologetic about it. On the other hand it seems that what you have going on was working up to this point. So you might consider keeping that style up (no pressure, like you don't give a fuck about sex). This might not be the case after this sexless night. You need to go by intuition if it's better to make… | /r/seduction | 27/01/19 06:14 PM |
| 2 | Is this girl into me?She definitely was down, but why this shit happened - "we ended up just falling asleep"? What's up with that? Too drunk? | /r/seduction | 27/01/19 03:42 PM |
| 2 | How are you supposed to deal with a passive aggressive male in a group settingIn every situation like this first weapon to use should be humor. Humor is a tool that's above all boundaries. Because of that, even if your boss is amoging you, you can respond with humor to one up him and if he reacts badly, then he will look bad, because humor is giving other people good emotions, other people that are present had a good laugh and if your boss acts weird, he's killing good fun. Good bosses often engage in cheeky humor stuff with their employees, because it gives good example … | /r/seduction | 26/01/19 07:41 AM |
| 1 | How do I ask a friend to become friends with benefits?If you want to expand on a first point, read "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida. It's a must read book to read to understand male-female dynamics. It's a short one. You will have a clear picture in your head how things work. "How can I let a girl understand that I just want to fuck occasionaly without telling her?" Look, my point is that you can tell her that, she will agree, but you will still screw up if you provide her LTR emotions with your actions (texting about everyday life, fuc… | /r/seduction | 24/01/19 11:19 AM |
| – | How do I ask a friend to become friends with benefits?"Probably I only need to care less about it, but I'm not sure." You can't just decide that you will care less, it won't change your attitude, it doesn't work like this. You can do two things: 1) Changing your beliefs. "I'm basically scared of the consequences of fucking a girl that has some expectations and then disappointing those." What girls want is having good time, experiencing strong emotions, having connection, being adored and desired. There's nothing sweeter for a girl than feeling how … | /r/seduction | 23/01/19 09:12 PM |
| – | How do I ask a friend to become friends with benefits?Realize this. When you see some shady guys on the street and you are alone, you start to feel a bit scared yeah? This feeling in fact is not fear. It's your mind preparing your body for a fight. You start feeling pressure. Your stress is going up. This stress&adrenaline will resolve either in fight or flight. But this stress and pump state is needed, it makes you stronger, quicker, your senses sharper, your focus intense. It's the same when you are sparring. If you are totally relaxed, then it w… | /r/seduction | 23/01/19 07:17 PM |
| 2 | Nicest way to tell a girl “I just wanna hook up or be friends with benefits” ??Hot girls have so many options that you shouldn't walk around them on your toes. They will manage, don't you worry. If you are that conscious, then maybe avoid average/ugly girls, and avoid fwb with girls that are 25yo+. Even if average looking 28yo girl wants fwb, it's bad for her - she's wasting her time, because she should look for a steady guy to have kids with. She's average so she won't find new guy that quick, and her time is running out. I'm 100% serious. If you are that conscious, it's … | /r/seduction | 22/01/19 06:37 PM |
| 2 | I want to make this girl my gf, however I’m entering the friend zone and need advice"However she said she didn’t feel a spark with me " - she's not wet. You are not turning her on. Turn the heat. She left her bf. 100% she wanted to fuck around hard. She wanted to have fun, be silly, get dirty to relieve the stress. Yet... "A couple days afterwards she ended up getting super high and ended up making out with me in bed (she was sleeping with me in my bed) " - this is not how things work dude. Girl that ends up in other mans bed after a breakup wants it deeper and dirtier than wit… | /r/seduction | 22/01/19 05:52 PM |
| – | Nicest way to tell a girl “I just wanna hook up or be friends with benefits” ??First focus on meeting girls. There's a slim chance that you will manage to make it happen with a popular girl that you seen on IG. And right now you are in a beggar mentality (I want fwb!), and you should be giving (emotions, fun, entertain, shock, turn on, your sexy vibe, cool atmosphere, stress relief). But seducing on ig/snap is other topic. You wanted to know how to turn relationship into fwb. Create that situations with you actions, by managing expectations, not by words. If you say straig… | /r/seduction | 22/01/19 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Being outcome independent, projecting high status and not giving a flying fuck.I get you. You got to a point where you can make average girl submit to you, and you are satiated. Push the boundaries even harder with each girl. Condition yourself for their submission. Explore their fragile submission. You will be surprised how much they can give you if you push, and at the same time you will find out that its them that are getting more out of it. They crave submission, they want to swim in it. And also this satiated "hot guy blaze" state is needed if you want to get 10/10 gi… | /r/seduction | 20/01/19 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Not sure how to go about 'asking a girl back to your house'Babystep this and entertain / make her wet on the way. | /r/seduction | 19/01/19 08:49 PM |
| 2 | how to do you tell a girl that you just met, that you wanna have sex with her?Making girls wet by putting sexy fantasies inside their head works, especially if you create tension by doing it. If you release tension then it's meh. Also if you are doing it expecting results and without holding frame properly then you will crash and burn. | /r/seduction | 19/01/19 08:43 PM |
| 2 | How to dance / hookup with women at clubs?You managed to get into her place, but nothing happened. With the next girl, try turning her on, making her wet, escalating physically along the way to her/your place, so when you are there, she's wet and ready for your dick. If she's dry, it's never going to happen. | /r/seduction | 19/01/19 08:33 PM |
| 2 | How do you learn to get over rejections?- Be more attractive (LMS). Increase it. - Be hyped about your actions, not their reactions. You can't control how they react. You can control how you maintain eye contact, how you approach, what you say, and how you touch... Be hyped about the man you are, about your bravado, about your style, about the fact that most men are passive and you are creating opportunities. - You already are approaching girls. The world is yours. Keep at it. | /r/seduction | 19/01/19 02:48 AM |
| – | Girls foot kept touching my leg, but she hardly looked at me. Only a few times.Nah, I think it's just that her foot was itchy. | /r/seduction | 17/01/19 12:03 AM |
| 1 | My life is pretty depressing old virgin almost 28 in 3 months lol need helpTai Lopez is a bullshitter, but his book list is a nice starting point: https://www.tailopez.com/books | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 06:56 PM |
| 1 | My life is pretty depressing old virgin almost 28 in 3 months lol need helpAh there's also one very important thing. If you are lifting, then you probably consume good food. Remember that you need to train your brain (solving problems) and feed your brain with good content too... If you feed yourself on social media, YouTube, misogynist content, porn, tumblr and stuff... Then you will suffer mentally. Read good books everyday. It's not only about getting wiser. Browsing social media makes your brain adhd, reading books improves focus. I would argue that reading books c… | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 06:47 PM |
| 0 | Do women ever initiate sex with men they are in relationship with ?Depends on a girl, if she meets you for your social status, money, career options, living options, imigration options etc... She might not be that into getting sex from you (she might have it already handled somewhere else). If you managed to seduce your gf using sex, if you made her swallow sex bait (as opposed to money bait), then yes, most likely she's a horny girl that will like sex with you. One of my gfs that liked sex the most, also liked different outfits, so for example one time when I … | /r/seduction | 13/01/19 11:26 PM |
| – | My life is pretty depressing old virgin almost 28 in 3 months lol need helpI will just ramble for a bit: - There are 60 year old players. Damn some guys play when they are 80. - People are going to clubs/bars/social places to 0) have fun, 1) talk, 2) drink, 3) dance, 4) find a mate for sex, 5) celebrate. You are not a creep for doing either. Barman's are there to talk with you, it's in their job, you can go to a bar and talk to staff and people at the bar. - Getting your own place was a great move. Now your family is out of your way, you can bring a girl @3am without a… | /r/seduction | 13/01/19 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Technique doesn't matter if you're a mess. Fix yourself or don't bother.Woah, we have a badass over here, that thinks he's above instincts that are imprinted in our DNA. You are so smart and enlightened dude. | /r/seduction | 11/01/19 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Technique doesn't matter if you're a mess. Fix yourself or don't bother.That's unrealistic. You are absolutely right, that as a man we should go our way with our goals, and set our own expectations. This doesn't change the fact, that getting pussy makes us lazy, it works unconsciously, you can't get around it. This is why 80% guys develop, they go up, rise their status, but when they catch the girl, they get married and stop rising, they stagnate. Even if you know all this, you are not immune to that validation aspect, neither am I. | /r/seduction | 10/01/19 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Technique doesn't matter if you're a mess. Fix yourself or don't bother.Well, that's true up to a point, because nobody is perfect at any given moment. It's good to meet new girls even if your life is still a mess, because you see the possibilities and rejections can be motivating if you have a right mindset. Waiting for that perfect moment when everything in you life is aligned will block you. What can be toxic is approaching with a frame "I'm a looser and I don't care". It's possible to succeed with it. That's why there are a lot of girls meeting with fuck boys wi… | /r/seduction | 10/01/19 12:26 PM |
| 2 | What do you do when you still miss someone years after seperation?It took me 3 years to get over one girl that was the biggest obsession of my life, way back when I was after high school. So time IS a factor in all of this, especially if you have your life and your inner game handled. As others pointed out, if some time has passed, you have changed, it's worth showing her your new self and trying again, but don't ditch other girls. On the other side, if you are so kin on her, it might be worth trying to turn it all into your biggest romantic "fall". Because yo… | /r/seduction | 04/01/19 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Be honest people, how would you make a move on a girl sitting next to you?I think we have different context in mind. If you know that the girl you are thinking about is into you, that her emotions are already spiked up... Then yeah, nothing creepy about it. But if you are in a friend zone with her, she thinks about you as a friend, and you want to go for a kiss in a car... Ok. More power to you, I would play it out differently. | /r/seduction | 03/01/19 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone had any success with visualization and meditation?Well, the simplest example of that "resistance" is getting disciplined about getting up early in the morning on a free day. When I go to sleep sometimes I already know that I don't want to wake up early. Then when I say to myself that I will wake up, it feels like a struggle, I feel inner resistance, laziness. Even saying "I will wake up" is a bit painful. Well, if I repeat that affirmation long enough, the resistance goes away, I feel "decided" and when the alarm goes off in the morning, chance… | /r/seduction | 03/01/19 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Strange experience /w girl -Dude, you seriously need to meet new girls, in batch quantities. Think about it. Obsessing about some text from a flaky girl is not healthy even for a day... And you are doing it for weeks. It's not right. Talk to new girls ASAP. | /r/seduction | 03/01/19 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone had any success with visualization and meditation?For me, visualizations / affirmations work, when I feel inner resistance when I practice them. After couple repetitions they ease out that resistance and it makes executing irl easier. That's my experience, although I strongly believe that taking action trumps inner game. I believe in conditioning and creating new neural paths, and then reinforcing them. Once you done something once (approaching, escalating, pulling) then that path is in you for the rest of your life. Then you need to reinforce … | /r/seduction | 03/01/19 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Be honest people, how would you make a move on a girl sitting next to you?This is creepy to be honest. If you never expressed sexy thoughts to her and she thinks of you as a friend, then be playful in a car, maybe throw in some mild sexy stuff but nothing crazy, and make a move when she's not trapped with you in a metal cage haha | /r/seduction | 03/01/19 08:14 PM |
| 1 | I don't want my 2019 to be like my 2018This were just 4-5(?) girls in 2018... In 2019 try seducing 5 girls a week. Be in places where you can talk girls every week. Be normal. Casual. No crazy shit. Just low key, express yourself without filter. | /r/seduction | 03/01/19 07:08 PM |
| 2 | What's the best way to talk about sex with women?Express what you are truly thinking sexually. Be unapologetic about it. Light. Casual. If you have her hooked and invested, stop being casual, be more intense, try making her shy, treat her with being "true", make her feel like a loved little girl. Strong eye contact. | /r/seduction | 03/01/19 06:40 PM |
| 1 | would you rather ?Pretending that you are seducing ugly girls that don't excite you is a waste of time. There's no pressure, you don't want to fuck them anyway, what's the point? Obviously you can have fun and you should hang out and make friends, but that's being social. | /r/seduction | 03/01/19 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Do I just ask if she wants to meet up now? Or is this too soon.You have a green light as other pointed out. You shown her already that you can be easy going. Now ask her out and start switching from this playful tone to more serious, sexy, sleek, calm, grounded. Get into that mode of "there's something sexy between us", create that sweet bubble around you and her, that every girl craves. | /r/seduction | 28/12/18 11:33 AM |
| – | How to approach with the intention of just a casual hookup?Having fwb means you call each other once or twice every 2 weeks, you either spend an evening with her or do a quickie, then you go on about your lives, not much calling, texting or being friends. Don't be her friend. You can't really do both at the same time, it either won't happen or it will be messy. Girl that you are meeting everyday at work is not a perfect material for a fwb. Start being more distant, ask her out, make it all about sex, then don't talk or call her for a week. Set the expec… | /r/seduction | 28/12/18 10:13 AM |
| 2 | look, it's simple,Marky Mark said it.. treat wamen like mushroom.. feed em shit and keep em in the dark/. That'sitGood luck. | /r/seduction | 28/12/18 09:59 AM |
| 5 | Give me your one tip for cold approaching, pleaseI like oldschool RSD advice about approaching. Build momentum. Don't focus only on cute girls. Talk to all kinds of people, simple stuff. Even "hi" to elderly woman can open you up, then some question to a guy, then small compliment to a girl, and a full approach on a next girl. I'm talkative when I'm my normal self, but a week in front of PC screen at work makes me introverted, so I need to remember, that I need to build momentum first to get back on a horse. Approach quick, just when you notic… | /r/seduction | 28/12/18 09:25 AM |
| – | Many people love me and my people pleasing attitude, but I don't have their respect1) Don't call yourself bitch. 2) Being able to give good emotions to a girl is a good card to have. But... Save it to reward her after sex. 3) Ask yourself if you are pleasing because you like being that way, or you are using it to win girls over. Pleasing because you expect return out of it is the worst option. 4) If you manage to attract a girl using money, you will get a girl that's interested in money. If you manage to attract with your looks, you will get a girl that wants looks. If you att… | /r/seduction | 27/12/18 10:47 PM |
| 2 | I didn’t escalate at all on the first date, how to proceed?Jakkolwiek, byle kutas wyglądał na ogarniętego i zadbanego. Raz się zgoliłem na zero i poczułem się jak bobas... Jakoś mi zgolony na łyso nie pasuje do dorosłego mężczyzny, może jakbym miał naście lat... | /r/seduction | 27/12/18 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Asked a girl out for the first timeWhat concepts read on seddit helped you? | /r/seduction | 27/12/18 01:00 PM |
| – | Looking for tips on teen online hookupsSet expectations with your behavior, not with your words. | /r/seduction | 27/12/18 12:58 PM |
| – | I didn’t escalate at all on the first date, how to proceed?Start being sexy. Increase touch and sexy talk gradually. Be unapologetic about it. Express your sexuality and get hyped by your own behavior, not by her reactions. At the same time respect her boundries, but make advances. One on one TV date is easy as fuck to escalate, assuming she wants you. Also be prepared, take condoms with you and some lube. Shave your balls and trim pubes above your dick to 1,5-2cm, before going to her. | /r/seduction | 27/12/18 12:53 PM |
| 2 | 22 Year Old VirginIf you are not talking to 5-10 new girls a week, nothing is going to change or happen. | /r/seduction | 27/12/18 12:50 PM |
| 2 | seduction tips... for girls? i want to hear your mantra/best advice!Offer a power play (make him work for your sweetness and even if you are submissive type, make it hard and exciting to sub you), chase (have options and don't be available all the time) and variety (clothing, makeup, hair). Your beauty game should be on point and you should meet with new men weekly (they don't need to be perfect matches for you), even if you are serious about one guy. You need to have options as a woman. | /r/seduction | 27/12/18 12:45 PM |
| 2 | I've had more sex this year than any other years of my life combined. Still, thoughts of "unworthiness" have not gone away, not even in the slightest...Conquer your remaining fears. I'm sure there are many left. We all have them. Destroying them daily gives confidence. If your beliefs are so deep, then internet advice is not going to help you. Seek cb therapy. Good therapist will guide you how to conquer them, but you will need to take action. | /r/seduction | 27/12/18 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Girl asks "is anyone else coming?" ContinuationYour friend is right about making sure she thinks you want her as a man, not as a friend. But always try to avoid doing that over text, because it's cheap and easy. Express that in person, use text just to hold her interest and set up dates. Seducing girls is about making them wet, but wet pussy over the phone means her masturbating, not you putting your dick inside. Also be more commanding instead asking questions. Instead "are you down to go just you and me", go "I want you and me alone", and … | /r/seduction | 25/12/18 11:24 PM |
| 1 | I accidentally told a girl I liked I didn’t like herYour mistake wasn't saying "no". It was you being "1 or 0". "No" is a closed answer, that limits play. Just think how answering "that depends" would have opened up whole conversation ;) | /r/seduction | 25/12/18 10:49 PM |
| 2 | How do you seduce a guy in a group setting?Girl, you should ask other women how it's done, not some pua dudes. From guys perspective: As others pointed out, try to isolate him. Sexy stuff happens one on one. Be easy to date, if he proposes something, go for it or if it doesn't fit your schedule offer your alternative straightaway. If he makes small moves on you, like touching you etc, give him green lights. Compliment his desired behavior. If he talks to you, say you enjoy talking to him. If he touches you, smile and say "that felt nice"… | /r/seduction | 25/12/18 10:31 PM |
| 2 | I need help on what to do next with this girlThere's no real dilemma, just don't humiliate yourself, you can get sexier girls :) | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 11:45 PM |
| 1 | I need help on what to do next with this girlNext time push for meetings in person, because... Well do I need to explain this? Don't you want her smell, her body, her touch, her eyes? Phone game is just for making it happen in person, so limit it to minimum, otherwise every interaction you make will go stale. And don't go for friendship, because what you described is not friendship. If she rejected you, you still want her and you keep it that way it's a cuck zone. Don't go to that dark place. | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Texting months before a first date?She blew you off, move on, but props for trying. Don't write to her. Zero. But on the off chance if she writes something, then write something sexy right away. | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 09:55 PM |
| 1 | I need help on what to do next with this girlDo you even meet her in person from time to time? I feel like you could flip it, because "she was responsive" at some point. But the whole thing is bs from your side honestly. You want to smash, but you have "scheduling conflicts", she was responsive but you didn't finish it of, you settled for talking with her for months... Just bleh. Boring and lousy af. | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 09:43 PM |
| 1 | [UPDATE] My friend got asked by my crush and said yesBe a fucking man. Your friend is not being true with you, tell him in person, without emotions that his behavior sucked and spend time with other friends, if he talks with you just be neutral and move on. No big deal, but look for a friendship and good time somewhere else. Act the same with that girl. If you had sexual connection with her before, then you could try turning her on when you had a chance, trying to swing her on your side. But it seems to me that you were in a friend zone, so you wo… | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 09:22 PM |
| 1 | There’s this beautiful girl in college whom i’ve been dying to date for a while. Whenever i catch sight of her, it’s like i lose my balance. I do wanna approach and establish more of a connection. Yet, there’s no common ground that i can think of. So have you people got any idea how to move forward?That was a bit of a joke, but if you greet her group and talk with them for a couple of times, it doesn't even need to be successful, you will become familiar and it will be easier. So don't give up, even if they are shy and you can't build this big fun convertstion. Even little one's are worth it. Obviously if you really care about that girl so much. Are you prepared to talk to her if you happen to see her alone? The trick is - don't be prepared. Take a deep breath and jump into conversation wi… | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 01:04 PM |
| 1 | There’s this beautiful girl in college whom i’ve been dying to date for a while. Whenever i catch sight of her, it’s like i lose my balance. I do wanna approach and establish more of a connection. Yet, there’s no common ground that i can think of. So have you people got any idea how to move forward?What? :D | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 10:48 AM |
| 1 | There’s this beautiful girl in college whom i’ve been dying to date for a while. Whenever i catch sight of her, it’s like i lose my balance. I do wanna approach and establish more of a connection. Yet, there’s no common ground that i can think of. So have you people got any idea how to move forward?You did it? Great! Do it again :D Be like Coca-Cola :D https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 09:41 AM |
| 2 | Went to the mall today for more practice.Read "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida. It explains male-female energy dynamics. Your goal is to express your sexuality without filter of shame, guilt, shyness and "what people will say". You know what to say. When you see a chick that's sexy, you have ideas in your head. Start small with this and build up. Your goal is to put sexy visions/fantasies into girls head. I once met 4 times this 19yo chick (I was 28 back then). She wanted it casual, but I was in other relationship that I va… | /r/seduction | 21/12/18 08:17 PM |
| 2 | There’s this beautiful girl in college whom i’ve been dying to date for a while. Whenever i catch sight of her, it’s like i lose my balance. I do wanna approach and establish more of a connection. Yet, there’s no common ground that i can think of. So have you people got any idea how to move forward?You are thinking about this in a wrong way: -"She’s always around her friends" -> That's a good card to play. Showing that you can befriend her friends and you are not scared of groups. If you can casually approach her group and just start a light conversation with them all, about their class or what they are studying in panic ("damn you all look so stressed, what are you studying for?"). Just sharing fun stuff, laughing, small talk. Forget about stiff introductions and exchanging names, first s… | /r/seduction | 21/12/18 04:24 PM |
| – | Went to the mall today for more practice.Well, if you made a breakthrough at this stage, remember steps that you made (and how you motivated yourself), because you can fall again and go out of practice. If that happens, you will know how to start again (ie 5 compliment approaches day). Make a note about what works for you and how to get yourself going. Biggest stuff in seduction is building your own fun. Girls go to a club and they dance with themselves (so they are rising their fun) while guys stand with their arms crossed or spend ti… | /r/seduction | 21/12/18 11:27 AM |
| 3 | My friend got asked out by my crush and it hurtsRead 4 books, in that order (you can pm me if you have trouble finding them where you live): "No More Mr. Nice Guy" Robert Glover - Biggest take out from it is being independent from your parents and being part of a group of strong male friends). "Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida - Mindset to understand male-female dynamics. "Models" by Mark Manson - It's a laid back book, but "being polarizing" is a good concept. "Mode One" by Alan Roger Currie. I think Alan is a guy that talks too much,… | /r/seduction | 20/12/18 11:22 AM |
| 1 | My friend got asked out by my crush and it hurtsI'm not sure if you still read this thread but... You need to understand the fact, that depending on your attitude and skill, you can talk with a girl for a year and know her less than the guy that has skill (or is natural) and has talked to her for 2 days. There's a saying in martial arts, that you can get to know a person better by sparring with him for 10 minutes full contact than if you spent time with him for a month. Seducing girls is about building sexual connection with them. You can bul… | /r/seduction | 20/12/18 09:41 AM |
| 1 | I asked a girl out.Relax. This date is for you. Enjoy her feminine energy, the way she talks, the way she smiles. Focus on the softness of her being through the whole date. Let her soothe you. Tell her you enjoy her presence. Double down on rising her emotions and turning her on. Rise her emotions by expressing yourself without filter. If she's shocked or disgusted or you crossed the line, hold the frame, but turn it around jokingly, make it absurd and show that you have distance and you are playful. Turn her on b… | /r/seduction | 18/12/18 11:44 AM |
| 46 | Got rejected to formal by this girl I've been crushing on for a while. So I went solo and danced with 3 different girls in the dance floor.got rejected, but I took your guy's advice and just moved on. I'm just gonna have fun I'm just dancing and having the time of my life! Fuck yeah! | /r/seduction | 17/12/18 10:59 AM |
| – | If I meet a girl that I really like, I automatically think I'm not good enough for herYou are thinking about "game" the wrong way. It's not the "game" that made this girls eyes big for you. Game is nothing compared to forces of nature. Girls ARE embodiment of nature select mechanisms. "Attraction is not a choice" - I know this is overused in seduction community, but it's true. If a girl has a spark in her eyes for you, then it's because nature selected YOU for HER. It's above everything. Your whole package of your spirit, your character, your LMS, charisma, IQ, your bravado, your… | /r/seduction | 14/12/18 07:54 PM |
| 2 | If I meet a girl that I really like, I automatically think I'm not good enough for herJust go through the motions anyway, don't think, push through it and after couple girls like this your brain will rewire. Will it create distress? Yes, but that's the point. If you force yourself and do it anyway, you will force your brain to find different narrative. Take your brain by the balls. | /r/seduction | 14/12/18 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Timing to ask the girl near the end of the college semester?Definitely you should ask her before the break (so you can spend some time with her if it works out, and also because things like breaks and holidays change the landscape, girls meet new friends, spend time away etc.) It's a bad situation when a girl thinks "I really like him, but I'm not sure if I feel right about him (because whole thing is dry), I hope that accepting his invitation doesn't mean he will expect something". You know how when you add more and more raspberry sizzup to your drink i… | /r/seduction | 12/12/18 07:05 AM |
| 2 | 20M “seducing” 15F, to young?Depending on where you live, it might be a criminal offence. If it's not criminal in your country, then well, she's young. Don't push her, don't force anything, go with the flow, if she's ready and she wants it, it will happen. For young girls first sex is tightly connected to relationship expectation, just bear that in your mind. | /r/seduction | 12/12/18 06:29 AM |
| – | How to do daygame without feeling "weird"What I learned is that just having something else to do that doesn't only involve picking up girls makes the whole process so much easier and less creepy. Maybe deep down you still feel/think that making a move on a girl publicly is something creepy? If you are slick, light, non-clingy, giving positive vibe - making a move when other people watch is sexy for girls. In fact, in most situations a bit of public is a "good card" that you can play. It's a leverage that you can use. (It shows you ar… | /r/seduction | 11/12/18 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Holy fucking christ i'm lonelyHow often are you in places where you can talk to 10-15 girls in one night? | /r/seduction | 11/12/18 09:41 AM |
| 1 | When Hooking up with a woman, is it better to go to her place or take her to yours?Wait till some crazy ass comes to your apartment 3am banging on your doors, screaming like she's skinned, waking up your neighbors. Wait till some girl that you are with, goes into public heavy tantrum like she's 4 year old that didn't get newest LEGO set... Calm guy + crying girl. Guess who's guilty in the eyes of people around? You will have at least 2 white knights at your back out of nowhere in 5sec. And it's not like desperate, crazy stalker guys that are disappointed are somewhat better. D… | /r/seduction | 10/12/18 05:16 PM |
| 12 | When Hooking up with a woman, is it better to go to her place or take her to yours?Most women feel more comfortable in her place. You can also eject whenever you want. Plus she doesn't know where you live, so if she turns out crazy, then you have no worries about her haunting you. At the same time, don't be sneaky. It's important to be able to tell her it's not working and she should leave (call and pay for her taxi). If she turns out crazy, then you should be able to hold your calm and deal with the situation in civil fashion, even if she truly is bat shit insane. Both option… | /r/seduction | 09/12/18 07:17 AM |
| 2 | [FR] "I don't want to bother her" or "she's out of my league". How many times have you said this to yourself and not approached her? A story this weekend opened my eyes to why that's bullshit and I'll never use that excuse again.I think that as long as we make assumptions about things without actually trying to do it, we are living in a fantasy of our creation. Taking action brings us closer to reality. | /r/seduction | 29/05/18 06:40 PM |
| 8 | How to deal with another guy hitting on my girl?As other people wrote before - you should push your life to the point where you truly are not threatened by guys hitting on your girl. Don't "act as if you don't care". Change your life so you truly don't care. It's always about giving girls free choice. As soon as you start imposing your will on them, they will think less of you "oh you don't own me", "oh now I will show you". Just be the most attractive choice in every way you can and let the chips fall... This doesn't mean you shouldn't watch… | /r/seduction | 23/12/17 03:24 PM |
| 3 | I use too many interview questions with girls. How should I be more light and flirty instead?Say stuff that comes into your head when you look at their tits. Just kidding. Do it. | /r/seduction | 20/12/17 08:13 AM |
| 2 | How do you know if a girl is being friendly or if she is attracted to you?If you only communicate fun and friendly energy, and she responds well... It still doesn't mean shit. If you make clear sexual moves and she gives green light... Now you know. If you have troubles judgeing it, you probably are not direct and sexual enough. Girls from class/work... Increase their emotions with fun and friendliness in order to invite them to party/bar/club where you can game her in private with sexy vibes. | /r/seduction | 20/12/17 08:07 AM |
| 1 | Tell her in person.Remember to buy her flowers. Whole situation doesn't seem promising. Anyway, it's great that you made some kind of move, even if it's a little one :) Aim for a journey, adventure of getting good with women. Getting experiences good and bad. | /r/seduction | 16/12/17 05:38 AM |
| – | What would you consider a telltale sign that a girl isn’t mature?Complains a lot. Thinks her parents own her a newest iPhone. Obsessed about having best phone, best clothes and shit, while she's not even earning money. Not interested in being productive at all. Wanting to take take take all the time. Gives nothing back. Belittleing people because they are not "crazy enough" for her. While all she does is snap and watch yt. And she's not taking responsibility for her stupid shit. Her daddy does. Her daddy gets to fix the consequences. Treating Auschwitz like s… | /r/seduction | 14/12/17 02:50 AM |
| – | I'm 18 and feel like I have little to no sex drive, what could possibly be the cause of this?Possible causes: No muscle. Skinny fat is bad. Bad diet without healthy fat. Cholesterol is needed to make hormones. Avoid trans fats and limit omega6. Supplement omega3. Eat healthy meat, fish, avocado, nuts. Caloric deficiency. Eat the right amount of calories for your activity level. Micro nutrient deficiency. You need to get the right amount of vitamins. Bad sleep. You need to sleep 7,5-9h every day. Bad sleep rhythm. You need to have sleeping rhythm. Bad sleep quality, especially sleep apne… | /r/seduction | 12/12/17 11:13 AM |
| 1 | How to handle shit tests like “how long have you used tinder”, “how many people have you met from tinder”You should handle it with honesty mixed with a bit of jokes. Honesty, because if you want her to be your girl to have fun with, it's much better to send signals that you are a guy that's fucking girls and doesn't make big deal about it. It's better to fall into sexy boy than good boy category in her head. Honesty, because fakeness slows down attraction. Girl needs to know what kind of person you are to get attracted. People that seduce fast, are good at feeling out each other fast. If you bullsh… | /r/seduction | 12/12/17 10:53 AM |
| 1 | How to get rid of my lack of self confidence because of my heightAlso, don't be delusional. For some girls if a guy has a big nose it's a no go, and they just won't be attracted. Same stuff applies to height - for some girls if you are short, they just are not gonna get wet about you. But who cares? Getting girls that are not into you is pointless. It's like paying huge extra salary just to hire some guy that doesn't give a fuck about your company and his work for you will be constant maniana anyway. Good chemistry is exciting. Aim to surround yourself with p… | /r/seduction | 06/12/17 06:46 PM |
| – | How to get rid of my lack of self confidence because of my heightBack when I was 17-18 I seriously thought about becoming a military pilot. I'm too tall. No chance. No chance becoming sports driver too. Even in muay thai that I train, being so tall is a bit of a crutch if you want to loose weight. Nice to have range, but hard to fit into weight division. Also a bit harder to keep balance if you make even tiny positioning mistake. There are lots of things you can do, where being short is an advantage. There are so many kick ass dudes in our society that benefi… | /r/seduction | 06/12/17 09:27 AM |
| 2 | I'm so insecure about my lack of relationships and experience that it sabotages me from getting anyDon't overthink your situation. Get into "collecting experiences" mode. Don't judge yourself harsh if they are bad. If you get a bad one, remember the lesson out of it and forget the rest of it. Stick to expressing yourself honestly. Use "no big deal" rule - don't overhype your successes and don't make a big deal out of your failures. Tell things neutral as they are. Don't impose judgement on yourself and your situation or your actions when you talk. Let people judge you freely. Even if you are … | /r/seduction | 22/11/17 05:12 AM |
| 1 | why does she think i will be friends with her and not change my behaviour after she becomes a non sexual option?She craves your attention, she want's to feel that you still want to fuck her. She has fun/validation out of denying you. If you are still on and she's off, you give her power she can use to be more confident and less needy around other guys. That's why I have huge respect girls for that ditch quickly, honestly and bluntly. They make life easier for less assertive guys. It's so harsh to see your friend orbiting around one mean bitch for 10 years bc he has one-itis. | /r/seduction | 21/11/17 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Get My Shit Together Or Get Better with Girls First?Get your life together first, so you are independent emotionally. Maybe you don't think about it like this consciously, but if you have problems in your life that you are not actively solving, you are unconsciously in victim mode, and girls hate that. You unwillingly can come off as looking for new mommy that will fix your life. Girls don't fix men's life. They screw it up or at best they can help you be normal. So get in order yourself so you can face their chaos. On the other hand, don't use t… | /r/seduction | 20/11/17 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls keep asking if I 'Do this with all girls'...Maybe it's a shit test or maybe you are not interested in them enough and you run the same routines on all the girls you meet, instead of focusing on the one that's in front of you and flowing with the moment. | /r/seduction | 20/11/17 05:40 PM |
| 1 | My lack of success with girls depresses meFocus on giving. My perspective changed a lot when I got some success with girls. I know what I can give to a woman, in terms of emotions, sex, adventures, romance, sexy moments. I know that I can arouse girls. My confidence is based on what I can do, based on the way I behave around girls, not on how great and awesome I think I am... Spread sexyness around... And you will get success ;) | /r/seduction | 08/09/15 01:45 PM |
| 4 | Better with younger women (18-19) than I am women my age (21-22). What gives?Don't get too excited and don't think every 18 girl is like that... Don't assume too much. | /r/seduction | 07/05/15 02:29 PM |
| -6 | Best response to "I was thinking about you"Girl, I thought about treating you as a fuck toy whole day and it made me so hot inside... | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 07:11 PM |
| 1 | the difference between intimacy and sexThere's no "right way" to seduce girls. That's my way, and it works for me, and it gets me girls that have what I need. | /r/MGTOW | 10/04/15 10:58 PM |
| -2 | the difference between intimacy and sex"My biggest problem is that what I really crave, way, way more than sex is intimacy. I don't want to bang a girl, I just want to be intimate with her (cuddle, kiss, get naked and get my hands over her, that kind of thing)." Be honest about it to the girls that you meet. Just tell them what you crave. But tell them slowly... tell them the real deal... if you see how their hands are delicate... say it... say your hands your so feminine... I would go crazy if you touched my hair with them... Tell h… | /r/MGTOW | 10/04/15 04:07 AM |
| 0 | Best pick up ever seenI'm a girl... | /r/seduction | 08/04/15 09:58 PM |
| -1 | Best pick up ever seenThe deal is - you will never be good at anything if you judge people so easly. That's 100% sure... | /r/seduction | 08/04/15 04:47 PM |
| -3 | Best pick up ever seenThat whole show is so fucking sleazy :D "This is the pinnacle" - what? | /r/seduction | 08/04/15 01:47 AM |
| 2 | "Start making yourself into the type of person people want to be around"Change your environment. Save money for 3 months of rent+food and move out to the other side of the country. Rent in city center. You won't find a job in 3 months? Bullshit. Especially if you can code. | /r/seduction | 29/12/14 05:16 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with bad logistics?Save money for living on your own for 3 months and move out, to create pressure on yourself. Changing place and a real deadline gives motivation. Also, you can move out to the city that has a job for you. Ask your dad for money to move out? This rises a bar even higher - you will feel additional pressure of not failing other people. Are you strong enough? Or there are some excuses? By putting yourself in tough situation, new town, running out of money, you might find strength in yourself that yo… | /r/seduction | 22/12/14 08:47 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to a girl apologizing?Nah, don't write her off. Just don't pay too much attention if she's not so hot about you. Be cool, without placing all bets on her. Rise the amount of activity with other girls and minimize your initiative with the one who flakes. | /r/seduction | 21/12/14 06:51 PM |
| 2 | How do you respond to a girl apologizing?"Ok, no problem" and move on - look for other girls. Cool. | /r/seduction | 21/12/14 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Men: what is something about a girl's appearence that would instantly put you off?Some girls are like "I'm fat and not ashamed of it, I'm not gonna do anything about it"... | /r/seduction | 21/12/14 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Men: what is something about a girl's appearence that would instantly put you off?Lower-back tattoo. Others are fine if not excessive (Kat Von D is ugly). Fake tits. I really prefer small natural tits than any fake ones. Smoking cigs. Facial piercings. Any kind of tunel piercing. Flat cap. Excessive pink color in her clothing/makeup or tons of gold jewelery. Panda eyes makeup covering the fact that her face is ugly, which makes it even worse. I like long nails but I don't like nail lacquer... It's not a turn off, but it seriously is when this lacquer is old and falling off. I… | /r/seduction | 21/12/14 07:45 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys overcome the age barrier?Make this a reality for them... And it's not about going to Thailand or money, but about providing emotions, new experiences... Providing what they really want, not what you think they should get (so you need to be interested, not interesting, find out what they truly desire and quench their thirst...). Girls just wanna have fun, it's that simple :D Give it to them ;) Check out Calvin Harris or house/trance guys music vids, they are packed with lifestyle promises... That's the vibe... | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 08:49 PM |
| 3 | How do you guys overcome the age barrier?"How to you appeal to younger girls, if you are older than them." I will show you life. I will show you how to roll girl. Lets make your desires and passions come true. You are older, so you have more to offer than stupid 18 yo kid. Offer them a lifestyle. Quality of life. Way of living that will make them truly happy. Everything is possible and easy when you are around. Something that a kid living with their parents can't do, bc he has no lifestyle on his own, he is just starting out. | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 09:14 AM |
| 19 | Life Hack for confidence?"What is the quickest way to really boost my confidence?" Amount of reference experiences. Going for what you really want in every situation. Don't "try" to be confident. Don't try to be alpha or some other bullshit. Just go for what you want and defend values that you stand for. But the quick fix is, having a sense of direction every day, all the time: Choose your "north star goal". Sit down, think and write down path to achieve it, step by step. Stick to it at all cost. No excusses, no "tommor… | /r/seduction | 29/11/14 01:04 AM |
| 24 | Q: Fake it till you make it + low self esteem ?There's no "fake it till you make it". 10 years old kid watches Rambo in TV and is excited about it, goes out with plastic gun and acts, shouts, shoots like a Rambo. No shits given. No "fake it till you make it" frame. Just freedom of expression and acting upon inspirations. Practice expressing yourself freely, avoid all labels, all frames. If you feel something in your heart, you are it. If you feel the need to be confident, if you want to act confident, it means there's no "fake it till you ma… | /r/seduction | 09/11/14 02:58 PM |
| 2 | A trick that worked for me when I was "desperate" and didn't want to come off that way.What you describe is a quick fix... You still feel you are a looser, you just try to think of others like they are below you. In the short run it might work for you. Maybe you even get all the girls that you want.... But do you want to end up with attitute towards world that | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 10:48 AM |
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