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| 1 | How do I avoid the 20 questions trap?Try to make assumptions rather than asking questions. Make assumptions that trigger her curiosity and interest. If you end up asking questions, ask meaningful ones e.g 'why' questions rather than questions with single word answer. Don't change the subject. Stay on the subject and share your own experience and opinion on the current subject rather than jumping to the next question. Humour also helps. | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 08:29 PM |
| 12 | I had thought boxing would make me more confident when approaching girls and talking to them. Now I just don't need that.OK I bite. That's absolutely great that you are feeling better about yourself and building up your self esteem. If you're still horney or think you'd enjoy female companionship then you still need to put yourself out there and be social. With the life routine you just described don't expect women to bang on your door. | /r/seduction | 13/02/18 12:40 AM |
| 5 | How To Combat a Constant Fear of LossAs someone else also mentioned it's fear of abandonment. Read a little about it here https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/fear-of-abandonment.htm . Bad news is that it takes some serious work and will take a lot of time and pain to overcome. The good news is that it's fixable. So get on it asap. You won't just grow out of it. | /r/seduction | 07/02/18 06:55 AM |
| 2 | How Do you ask a girl if she has a bf?No need to ask. Keep doing whatever you would do if you knew she's single. She'd tell you if she's not. | /r/seduction | 01/12/17 11:45 PM |
| 1 | 19yo virgin. Advice?Therapy is a personal journey and you should find what works for you. Start reading and educating yourself and find out what resonates with you. For me the starting point was reading this book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0757303234 . I've been doing shit loads of therapy. From one-on-one traditional therapy sessions to intense retreats. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 29/11/17 12:11 AM |
| 8 | 19yo virgin. Advice?A mostly unpopular opinion here but my advice would be see a therapist or psychologist. Many of this type of insecurities have roots in your childhood and won't go away by forcing some 'mindsets' onto yourself or just trying to 'man up' and 'not be a pussy'. If I hadn't done that I would've given up on meeting women altogether because it was just too painful and the anxiety was simply unbearable. | /r/seduction | 09/11/17 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Qualities of an Ideal WingmanBe at about the same level of game. Help each other out in group sets. Be helping and supporting when the other guy goes through a series of rejection. Don't judge the quality of girls the other guy approaches. | /r/seduction | 28/08/16 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Daytime cold approach now is a hate crime in the UK."incidents against women that are motivated by an attitude of a man towards a woman, and includes behaviour targeted towards a woman by men simply because they are a woman". | /r/seduction | 17/07/16 12:34 AM |
| 13 | Can you explain me something from No More Mr. Nice Guy?Imagine you're a parent and you're taking care of your kid. You will dress him up and give him a nice haircut not because you want other people's approval but because you love that kid and you think he deserves the best. Now replace that kid with yourself. | /r/seduction | 06/07/16 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Why is it that the moment a girl becomes invested in me, I suddenly lose interest?I think this has been the best explanation so far. Along the same line: It's the fantasy and the chase that appeal you not engaging with a real woman. It usually happens when mother is too attached to her son emotionally (called enmeshment in psychology) which creates fear of engulfment or she's completely emotionally absent. It happens for both genders and that's why some technics in pua community like push/pull work as they create a sense of unavailability. | /r/seduction | 10/10/15 08:08 AM |
| 1 | 1st Date TipsI would say go with this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JEptbIHCfP0 | /r/seduction | 18/08/15 11:58 PM |
| 5 | Does everyone has to struggle this much to get women ?I think all we see in seduction community are: a) Unlearning some negative thought and behavioural habits b) Learning some basic human interaction skills that normally we should be taught by older males in our families. Also many guys that you see 'with girls' are not players they are just lucky to know those girls from their social circles it's not from cold approaching random women. | /r/seduction | 08/07/15 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Struggle at expressing my sexualityIt's called sexual shame. It goes back to your upbringing. If you're curious to know exactly how it happened to you find a good psychotherapist. If you don't care how it happened and just want to fix it then see a sex therapist. They will help you to re-own your sexuality and masculinity that you decided to disown one day. | /r/seduction | 20/06/15 09:37 PM |
| 1 | When I'm alone I fantasize about women; when I'm with women, all my sexual desires fade away.I did as an edit. | /r/seduction | 04/05/15 11:03 AM |
| 48 | When I'm alone I fantasize about women; when I'm with women, all my sexual desires fade away.It's called 'Sexual Shame' It's more common than one might think. It usually happens if a man has a very traditional upbringing or if the mother is sexually shutdown and have negative view of sexuality and men, in that case son internalizes the mom's negative view of his own masculinity and sexuality. These negative feelings are not active during your fantasy but they get highly active in real world interactions. Edit: Guys ask about how they could fix this. I'm not an expert, I've had the same … | /r/seduction | 04/05/15 06:30 AM |
| 4 | Does Mystery still exist? I have heard nothing from him or about him at all in the past several years. What happened to the dude?He's still coaching. http://venusianarts.com/ | /r/seduction | 04/05/15 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Picking up girls at EDM festivalsLike this? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4eBS-DD9u8 | /r/seduction | 29/04/15 05:04 AM |
| 4 | 99.9999% of your outer game issues, or questions on what to do or say... Are really inner game issues.Basketball and chasing girls are different because basketball is some human-invented game with specific rules and techniques while seduction is something natural in our instincts that we've been doing for centuries. IMO Inner game is all about getting over the BS that has been engrained in our brains by our family and society. Feeling unworthy and self hate is the core of all that BS which removes our access to our authentic feelings including animalistic sexual feelings. Now the question is 'Is… | /r/seduction | 14/04/15 04:52 AM |
| 1 | Do women like/dislike bald men?Wanna get scientific ? Here's your answer. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2211097/Want-look-manly-Shave-head-study-reveals-bald-men-seen-dominant.html But if you are determined to keep your negative image about yourself no evidence will suffice and you will automatically relate any rejection to your qualities that you see as negative. | /r/seduction | 18/03/15 01:15 AM |
| 3 | After years of reading seddit I'm finally acting on it and it's incredibly rewarding.Great post! On stopping girls walking in the opposite direction.. Checkout what daygame.com guys do. That's the only kind of approach they do! From my experience.. as weird as it looks but it fucking works! | /r/seduction | 16/03/15 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Throwaway - I'm fucked up inside me.No problem! Wish you the best of luck in you journey. Just beware that you'll need to be patient and persistent. It's a long and rough ride. This issue was not created overnight and won't go away overnight. It takes a lot of pain, anxiety and time to recover. | /r/seduction | 03/02/15 11:06 PM |
| 5 | Throwaway - I'm fucked up inside me.First I want to congratulate you that you came to the right point. I've been through the same journey. I watched and read all the major seduction material out there but at the end realized that my problem was not lines, techniques, body language or anything like that. I was dark and empty inside. I hated myself and my feelings and felt like shit most of the time because of that. I believe that many people seeking help in seduction community are dealing with the same issue at some degree without … | /r/seduction | 02/02/15 12:16 AM |
| 2 | I've been reading Models, No More Mr. Nice Guy, and Way of The Superior Man, and I had a few questions.This is the missing piece in the puzzle of self improvement that seduction community presents. You always hear 'man up, don't be insecure, don't be needy, have a life, get your shit together, be confident...' but for most people who need that kind of transition just hearing those sort of commands does nothing. The kind of childhood that you described shows you had abusive parents. That IS a form of abuse! As you have realized yourself that is the root cause of your issues. Address that first. Th… | /r/seduction | 18/01/15 02:02 AM |
| 2 | First date handbookMore tips on first date: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TzhkZeVUNWU | /r/seduction | 12/12/14 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Life Hack for confidence?I've been through the same journey. The most authentic, the most effective and deepest "hack" that I have come across is from this book: Learn to love all parts of yourself including thoughts, emotions and body unconditionally which translates to accepting and owning everything about yourself. It sounds cheesy and new-agy but if you get into it you immediately feel the results. My two cents. | /r/seduction | 29/11/14 10:38 AM |
| 3 | FeelingsIf you're curious to know the cause it all goes back to your childhood. At some point you decided it's safer to not show any feelings to not splash the water in your family. How to fix it? Well first you need to learn how to feel your feelings completely. Enjoy and love experiencing your feelings in your body. Own them. Let them take you away. Then you just have to risk it. Risk being vulnerable by showing your feelings. You can start by showing feelings to normal people about simple things then… | /r/seduction | 23/09/14 01:59 AM |
| 1 | You Need to Stop Selling Yourself to WomenWell-written and well-structured article. Focused on changing mindset based on series of actions/exercises rather keep sayin "think like this, don't think like that". Kind of similar to what Mark Manson does in his books and online courses. I think this is the future of pickup. If we could look at pickup community in a couple if decades we would be able to see more of this kind of material rather than gimmicks and lines and I definitely think would see more involvement of psychology as these are… | /r/seduction | 19/09/14 11:00 AM |
| 6 | How Martin Luther King made me better at game.I like the way comedian Anthony Jeselnik speaks. Slowly with a deep voice that definitely projects a lot of confidence. Edit: More of him | /r/seduction | 24/08/14 01:08 AM |
| 1 | What are some subreddits that could supplement the skills taught on /r/Seduction?/r/TodayILearned - Lots of trivials and conversation topics. | /r/seduction | 11/08/14 10:41 AM |
| 0 | [IG] Nice Guys Listen Up"Don't be insecure, just like yourself, be yourself and go after what you want." Sounds clear and easy right? Wrong! Contrary to what you're told in the community hitting the gym, upgrading your wardrobe and even getting laid won't help. Wish it was that easy! | /r/seduction | 08/08/14 02:49 AM |
| 1 | 6 First Date Tips That Are Actually UsefulGood post. Here is a video from Richard LaRuina on the same topic. | /r/seduction | 08/08/14 02:38 AM |
| 5 | The Most Powerful Law of SeductionThe good old 'push and pull'. That's how you confuse the girl about how you feel about her. | /r/seduction | 31/07/14 12:34 PM |
| 3 | An article on the perspective of the hot girl. Just curious what you guys think.Nope, not just that. I've been to the Philippines where everybody could speak English fluently but you'd be amazed how simple minded the girls are.They are mostly poor people who have to worry about their basic needs all the time and there's no room for them to grow beyond that. It's really hard to find a girl who you can have a decent conversation with. | /r/seduction | 29/07/14 02:40 AM |
| 3 | An article on the perspective of the hot girl. Just curious what you guys think.I've been to SEA and had the exact same experience. My thoughts was always like: "This must be the way hot girls experience the world back home!". On-line dating is just as crazy! Your inbox gets exploded with messages from girls, not all of them hot but you can get as picky as you want! | /r/seduction | 29/07/14 02:34 AM |
| 1 | How to become good at storytelling/more magnetic?Don't compare yourself to him or anybody else for that matter. He's attractive because he's being himself. Some people are just more attractive because they are better looking, taller or.. better communicators. If you try to beat him at his field of game, you'd feel worse and worse about yourself and you might end up make a complete fool of yourself. That's how I see it. | /r/seduction | 19/07/14 06:40 AM |
| 1 | My journey through psychology after reading Models by Mark Manson and going deeper and deeper...Unlike it might sound like at first the issues discussed in the book are way more widespread as one might think Some example are confidence and self esteem issues, problem in expressing one's emotions, being a people pleaser, feeling lonely, not having an authentic and happy life... they sound familiar right? They are all symptoms of 'toxic shame'. | /r/seduction | 10/07/14 07:24 AM |
| 1 | My journey through psychology after reading Models by Mark Manson and going deeper and deeper...Well, the quotes I selected are from the first part of the book in which he explains the issue that needs to "healed" so yeah they are not positive. But in general you're right it's not a typical "inspirational" book and definitely not something you want to read before going out. | /r/seduction | 10/07/14 07:06 AM |
| 2 | How should I ask a coworker out?don't! | /r/seduction | 26/06/14 07:19 AM |
| 2 | After years of self improvement I still don't feel a whole lot more confident in myself. Why?Very interesting post IMO. In spite of what is being repeated in the community you won't feel better about yourself or change your thought patterns simply by changing your body or your style. It's an oversimplification of the issue. Changing your thought patterns and feelings need some serious therapy work, that's my recommendation, you can study it yourself or get help from a professional. | /r/seduction | 26/06/14 07:11 AM |
| 5 | I hate the way I sound when I speak...any tips for having a calmer, deeper, more confident drawl?Watch these videos, hope they help. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P41ER1Wmkj0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tMto1NWszZs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-UaDPcXnyw | /r/seduction | 31/05/14 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Any sedditors over 40?This is amazing! bookmarked! Thank you sir. | /r/seduction | 21/04/14 12:06 AM |
| 3 | Embarrassing fetish holding my confidence backGuys knows what he's saying. Look no further. | /r/seduction | 17/03/14 09:23 AM |
| 2 | Comprehensive Conversation GuideRichard La ruina has some similar but a bit different advice here | /r/seduction | 17/03/14 09:10 AM |
| 5 | Why holding your frame is so very important.That was smart ARealSocialIdiot. | /r/seduction | 18/02/14 04:56 AM |
| 2 | NO matter you like RSD in general or not, this is a great video from Tyler on How To Warm Up And Build Social Momentum (of course everything from RSD is about night game)Don't think so: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/qd0gf/list_of_iama_mpua_interview_series/ | /r/seduction | 02/01/14 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Seddit guys who are successful with women, how often do you get rejected and what do the rejections look like?OK, watch some rejections here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zro7DHqzvUc | /r/seduction | 02/01/14 01:16 PM |
| 5 | TED talk on attractionI don't think that's the best title for this talk. It's more about keeping sex life interesting in a LTR. It's not much about attraction. | /r/seduction | 22/12/13 06:09 PM |
| 15 | An evolutionary biology approach to eliminating approach anxietyWhen approaching, think of yourself as outside of the tribe. Agree. I find it much easier to approach when I'm traveling and I'm in a new city. | /r/seduction | 28/11/13 11:16 AM |
| 1 | Q. What do you talk about in a loud night club?Thanks for the write up. This is definitely the most to the point answer so far from someone who actually does it. I will appreciate it if you give more details. At what stage do you normally go for the kiss? How long do you keep doing this? with all the dynamics happening on the dance floor, I mean her friends, other guys,... it's doesn't seem easy to keep doing what you said for a long time. I should add that I'm only after SNL in a night club. For numbers I prefer to rely on daygame. | /r/seduction | 26/11/13 02:50 PM |
| 1 | My Backstory and a Serious Plea for Help Regarding AnxietySome psychological problems affect your 'game' directly but you don't necessarily find the best answers within the seduction community. I've had the same issues. I read many books on anxiety and depression and went to a lot of therapy sessions. helped me a lot! Not every problem could be solved by just forcing yourself to approach. Could be too painful to practice for some people. | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Q. What do you talk about in a loud night club?Could you share more details on how it goes from the beginning to the end? | /r/seduction | 25/11/13 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Q. What do you talk about in a loud night club?Exactly. Still hoping for someone with consistent success in night clubs to come and give his view on this. | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 08:12 PM |
| 6 | Q. What do you talk about in a loud night club?Do you smoke? | /r/seduction | 24/11/13 01:39 PM |
| 1 | My voice is too quiet! How can I project more and be heard in loud clubs?That video by Gambler was just fantastic! Couple of great advices there. | /r/seduction | 17/11/13 11:09 PM |
| 1 | My voice is too quiet! How can I project more and be heard in loud clubs?Here is a giude | /r/seduction | 17/11/13 03:40 PM |
| 2 | When girls talk to you about her problems, how would you respond?Listening to a girl's problem hoping she'd reward you by sleeping with you is damn wrong. She most likely will friend-zone you. If it's a genuine situation then you can do it just because it's a nice thing and that's it not as a part of your game. | /r/seduction | 18/10/13 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Inner game and psychologyCorrect, or close I should say! That's mostly because of the way people are treated by their parents during their childhood. That's what makes some people sure of themselves and happy with who they are and makes the rest the opposite. | /r/seduction | 25/09/13 11:30 AM |
| 1 | Inner game and psychologyWell first of all I didn't have any advice per se. But you're describing an interesting situation about yourself. What's shyness? I think shyness is just a form of fear. Fear of not being good enough, likeable enough... if you like yourself and you're confident and happy with yourself It's beyond me why you still feel shy around women. | /r/seduction | 25/09/13 11:18 AM |
| 1 | Inner game and psychologyWhat kind of guy would you recommend the book for? The group B guys which I think makes everybody who seeks help in seduction community. It goes really deep to the root of the issues. | /r/seduction | 24/09/13 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Inner game and psychologyUnderlying beliefs about how the world works. The question still remains. Social pressure is on everybody but people react differently, some fall in group A and some fall in group B. Why? Edit: Grammar | /r/seduction | 24/09/13 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Tips for IntrovertsMore tips for introverts | /r/seduction | 03/08/13 03:59 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 8/2/13 (please upvote - zero karma)This is exactly the answer to my question. It makes a lot of sense and man.. takes tons of balls! But I'm so keen to try it. It's the extreme form of high-risk high-reward approach. Thanks for sharing buddy. | /r/seduction | 03/08/13 04:43 AM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 8/2/13 (please upvote - zero karma)Is it OK to say to a girl "We should have sex"? or ask "do you want to have sex with me?" just like that. not as a joke or anything. Straight and serious. If yes at what stage of the interaction. | /r/seduction | 03/08/13 12:04 AM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/29/13 (please upvote - zero karma)Is it OK to say to a girl "We should have sex"? or ask "do you want to have sex with me?" just like that. not as a joke or anything. Straight and serious. If yes at what stage of the interaction. | /r/seduction | 01/08/13 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Is there a paradox in learning seduction?Is there a way to reconcile outcome independence with, you know, wanting the actual outcome? Of course you want the actual outcome of getting women, you work for it and show persistence if needed but you don't tie your self-worth and self-esteem to getting them. | /r/seduction | 29/07/13 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Guy (certainly not a PUA) goes deep into self-esteem, self-respect and self-confidence concepts.Many issues that people on seddit (including myself) are dealing with are common psychological problems that have been worked on for years by experts. Maybe it's not for everyone but at least many of us could benefit from academic findings to address these issues. Seddit does not seem very receptive to this kind of approach to me. I think most people are more into 'man up!', 'don't be a pussy' kind of advice. | /r/seduction | 29/07/13 05:16 AM |
| 1 | [FEMALE PERSPECTIVE] Signs that a girl will be receptive to approachWell that was OP's perspective and might apply to some women and not to the rest. What's your perspective on this? What do you do when you're on a hunt for D? do you just walk up to the guy and say 'let's dance'? Or give out some signals to have him approach you so you don't have do deal with the shame and pain of potential rejection by him? | /r/seduction | 25/07/13 11:08 AM |
| 1 | I'm tired!Well many people here have been, are in your shoes. It's almost obvious what you should do based on your own post.: - Befriend yourself. Be your own best friend. Start improving not because you hate what you are but because you love yourself and you want the best for yourself. - Improve your body - Improve your social skills in general - Find new real world non-cyber hobbies - Take care of your hygiene - Learn more about men's fashion This is your to-do list. Now you need to coach yourself to ma… | /r/seduction | 12/07/13 05:49 AM |
| 3 | I'm looking for tips on how to "get out of my head" more often and more easily.'Being in your head' means disconnection from present and what's going on right now here around and being attached to your thoughts and imaginations and acting in an auto-pilot mode. I'm surprised to hear that you say meditation has not helped you. With all the respect I think you'r doing something maybe not wrong but incomplete about your mediation. Meditation has helped me a lot to be present in the moment in any situation social or non-social. Being present in the moment means detaching from … | /r/seduction | 10/07/13 12:32 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/1/13 (please upvote - zero karma)What is ego? | /r/seduction | 02/07/13 12:42 AM |
| 2 | How to Hold Conversation Like a Man | Nick SparksWhat I took from this speech is: Let her to have the role of talking person in the interaction as much as possible. You focus on being relax, present, attentive and active listener to what she says. Embrace the awkwardness of silence when it happens and let her worry about it not you. | /r/seduction | 29/06/13 01:29 PM |
| 2 | Tonight, on my date, I applied EVERY single "PUA" theory. WOW!It's the same! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABgL2LcoBTU | /r/seduction | 28/05/13 08:06 AM |
| 0 | Going out tonight, alone. I don't drink. I will not know anyone. Any tipps?Here is all you need my friend: http://www.rooshv.com/going-out-alone | /r/seduction | 15/05/13 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Do girls get intimidated by good looking men like men get intimidated by good looking women?If you got that with 4 years of working out, then you're really gifted! That's less than 10% body fat! | /r/seduction | 10/05/13 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Simple Pickup: Are these the greatest pickup artists of all time?Greatest PUAs, probably not! but the way they deliver their stuff, specially the quality of their videos is taking it to a new level. Just compare their day game videos to any other stuff out there including Tyler's in-field clips. | /r/seduction | 21/04/13 01:01 PM |
| 2 | Rejection.This might help: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zro7DHqzvUc | /r/seduction | 15/04/13 01:05 AM |
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