Gonzo458 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
23	Just having a tough time		Gonzo458	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/22 11:09 PM
12	Checkin in.		Gonzo458	/r/Divorce_Men	18/08/22 11:12 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	The Gym is NOT the Answer for Everyone…and Could Even be Dangerous… To add to what you’re saying: I never worked out for sports in high school. Never learned how to develop a simple workout routine. After countless trial and errors of attempting I finally figured out what works for me. A big lesson I learned was not to go so hard that I can’t fuckin walk at all the next day. I’m in the trades and it practically renders me completely ineffective. I say this to say on top of the whirling emotions and stress, adding to insecurities of not knowing what to do when go…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/12/23 06:19 PM
1	Not attracted to women after divorce? Man, I thought it was just me.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/12/23 06:48 AM
4	Why do women complicate their lives so much? My mom exwife to a T. My anxiety seemingly disappeared. Ask her and she’d probably tell you how much less of a man I am and lazy, etc. Nah, being in the trades I developed a mentality of efficiency. Work smarter NOT harder.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/12/23 01:02 PM
2	STBXW bashes me to her “dates”. No way would I even participate in anything other than “excuse me” or maybe “could you please pass the salt?” Never thought my wife would be like the others I’ve read about on here. When I asked her how she knew a buddy of mine and I were texting about she refused to tell me. This was the morning we agreed to divorce. I raised my voice only slightly because I knew that she somehow was still getting into my phone or my computer after changing all of my passwords and that creeped me out because if…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/11/23 12:13 AM
6	Planning on divorcing my wife... horrified by the fact that I will be single for a long time If for some reason I get lonely or am missing something I’ll volunteer. Helping others kills depression and negativity for me.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/10/23 11:33 PM
2	Revenge or not You'd be doing a disservice to a fellow man by NOT telling him.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/06/23 01:49 PM
2	It’s said that a married man dies twice: a physical death, and a death by 1000 concessions? What did you give up during your marriage? I allowed her to isolate me too, man. Deeply affected me more than I knew.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/23 03:48 AM
4	It’s said that a married man dies twice: a physical death, and a death by 1000 concessions? What did you give up during your marriage? I gave up music and my recovery. I was with a band that I was necessarily 100% into, however, we had the opportunity to open for my all time favorite band. I left right before that show because I had begun relinquishing command of myself for her at that time. I would've eventually found the group of musicians I clicked with and went on tour. I'm very aware of how tiring and rough extensive touring can be, but I've done more with less. I miss the sense of camaraderie. I've longed to travel to the…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/23 03:34 AM
16	How do you guys deal with the fact your ex-wives could pick anyone up in a week, but it might take you YEARS (or never)? As I've gotten older I've come to experience that this is 100% true. Then watch, you'll be living your life, making money, hanging with buddies, engaging in hobbies and then BOOM....another smoking hot one will appear out of fuckin thin air. All them ducks you think she's tryna get won't fill that void for her. You'll be alright, man.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/04/23 09:18 PM
8	Fuck, this hurts. Brother, it hit me 6 months later. I thought I was grieving at the start. Then I made some bad coping decisions until I realized I was only destroying myself. Then all the emotions hit me like a tidal wave recently. You will get through this. We all will. As much as I hate to say it, time heals. And time takes time, my friend. I'm here for you if you just wanna talk or need a shoulder to cry on. Yes, you can cry. You can scream. But we don't stop in hell when we're walking through it. We find a …	/r/Divorce_Men	08/04/23 02:43 PM
2	Did this kill anyone else’s Sex Drive? Btw, a shameful but important detail that contributed was drug use. If I wasn't getting fucked up I can just about guarantee I wouldn't have had any issues.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/23 01:14 AM
2	Did this kill anyone else’s Sex Drive? Honestly, I'm at a point in my life where I just didn't even care. I have so much internal damage that I need to face and it overwhelms the embarrassment. Not that that sounds encouraging.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/23 01:08 AM
2	Did this kill anyone else’s Sex Drive? Yes, destroyed it for me. I was so embarrassed when I met someone else. Time for therapy.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/04/23 09:53 PM
3	If you have any thoughts of divorce, do it quickly. It is better to be wrong about ending a good relationship, than to be wrong about trying to save a bad one. I just lucked out. We didn’t even make it a full year. I isolated from family, friends, playing music, and barely got to golf. She didn’t necessarily care, but yet she did. Halfway through the marriage I kept asking for a sign if it was truly meant to be, something I was wholeheartedly sure of before I even proposed. Me thinking that almost daily should’ve been my sign. She even got stung on her fucking eyelid the day of our ducking wedding (I wasn’t second guessing at this point. I do want to s…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/10/22 11:49 AM
2	Second Divorce Oh yeah, I know how you feel. Samesies.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/09/22 11:05 PM
7	Drugs? I agree with this man. I was never a big marijuana guy but it has definitely helped when I smoke it sporadically. Instead of this super negative voice in my head, my conscience is way more loving to myself and besides smoking, I’ve been making healthier choices in every aspect of my life. Take that with a grain of salt though. I was an opiate addict years ago.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/09/22 02:30 AM
1	After 7 years and a 2 year old, wife wants divorce. Takes courage to ask for help even if it’s just strangers on Reddit. Pity party away. We’ve all been there. Just wanted to say that you’re not alone. If it gets really heavy you can shoot me a message anytime. Keep on keeping on brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/09/22 10:24 PM
3	Sleep… how? I listen to YouTube meditation videos. Bust my ass at work and then go to the gym to try and tire myself out as much as possible. Diet as well. We’re all here for you bro. Just try and keep in mind that it’s normal and that you’re not alone. Love ya, homie.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/22 01:23 PM
2	What to do… No reason not to trust her til she gives you one, bud. And she did, in fact, give you one.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/22 09:50 PM
3	Advice on how to be ok with the lonely quiet times? I’m sure someone has already mentioned it, but find a new hobby or refind old ones. I was a pretty decent guitarist and pretty much ceased guitar playing after getting married. Finally picked it up the other day and it was great. Like reuniting with an old friend.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/22 04:30 PM
1	Advice on how to be ok with the lonely quiet times? I don’t know the first thing about finding those types of women if you know what I mean.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/22 04:28 PM
2	Just having a tough time Not sure if everyone that responded will get this, but man, you guys are fuckin awesome. You’re all right and I will definitely keep pushing on and will be trying and applying these suggestions. I’m a recovering addict. I seriously can’t express enough through words how much I appreciate the answers to my cry for help. Thank you all so goddamn much. Throughout this relationship I did abuse pain medication twice. It began when, after 5 years clean and meeting this woman, I had to have back surger…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/22 11:23 AM