So my STBXW and I decided to divorce after 13 years. Everything has been amicable as we both still live in the same house until it sells. We agreed to each other seeing other people. She asked me recently if I wanted to see who she was chatting with and I said sure, why not. She handed me her phone and it’s on AFF, I see she has a few conversations and I click one. The normal stuff is there then I noticed it went to “ he’s vanilla, doesn’t like to try new things, was always tired ( I worked/work 70 hours a week)” and etc etc. I asked her why she said that as it wasn’t true except for the tired part, she said it’s how she flirts. When I asked how would she feel if she saw me doing that she said that she would be hurt. So I gave her the “message!” Look and she just walked away. Anyone ever have something like this happen?