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I think he might be interested in you but his emotions are affecting his actions too much. On good days he might act warm and inviting but on his bad days he is not going to bother with talking and making an effort. Or maybe perhaps he is jealous? Has he ever seen you being super friendly or flirty with other guys? That's something that would put me off and make me feel confused and weird about a girl.
/r/seduction14/04/22 06:53 PM
1

Does it matter in the end? You got rejected either way. Just move onto the next
/r/seduction04/04/22 08:31 PM
2

How about asking people out when YOU are working?
/r/seduction28/02/22 10:34 AM
43

I doubt that's what they are thinking. They just don't care lmao.
/r/seduction20/02/22 03:10 PM
335

I don't really think it is intentional they give bad advice. It's just that seducing or finding a partner is way easier for women, so there is a lot more leeway for them to fuck up. For example - all I hear from female friends is that I should just wait, not try and things will come my way. Yeah sure, maybe that is true for them, but for an average guy that is just impossible.
/r/seduction20/02/22 09:24 AM
1

If that's the case you could try out online therapy with someone from a different country. That's what I have done.
/r/seduction17/02/22 09:55 PM
1

Dude, you are paying a therapist to do their job - which is to help you through your mental struggles. If she judges you in any way then he/she is a shit therapist. I've talked to my therapist about my desires, failures in dating etc.. She was very accepting of my problems and helped me work through them a bit. It actually gave me some small confidence boost.
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:16 PM
1

I meant the follow request. Gl man
/r/seduction15/02/22 06:56 PM
7

I think you should just avoid mentioning the invite and just talk to her when u have the chance. Then during the convo you propose going out together somewhere and get her number. Just to clarify - her staring at you might not mean all that much plus the fact she hasnt accepted your follow doesnt bode all that well. I would accept that this situation might just not go anywhere.
/r/seduction15/02/22 06:05 PM
3

Wouldn't mind a dm or just a post on the sub. I am getting back to the game aswell. Congrats on your success.
/r/seduction11/02/22 07:41 PM
1

Could you give some good examples? Everywhere I read on this subreddit it is all conflicting lists.
/r/seduction04/02/22 08:22 PM
23

Doesn't work. I smoke a pack a day and my voice is still the same pitch, not really high or low.
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:56 PM
3

If you keep going out to do cold approaching, at some point the frustration is going to kick in and you will eventually get that approach. Keep at it.
/r/seduction29/01/22 07:03 PM
28

Not going for getting laid is fine, having a way to contact her and get her out on a date again feels way more important to me in this scenario.
/r/seduction25/01/22 01:38 PM
1

Several people have already asked this question to no response. I doubt every rejection for this guy has been a huge humiliation. I would bet mostly has been them flaking/ghosting/saying they are not interested or are taken. It might suck and be painful, but its not a humiliation.
/r/seduction24/01/22 12:08 PM
2

Here's what you do - force yourself to get a job where you interact with a lot of people. It will suck, you will be scared shitless in the beginning but overtime the anxiety in work and with people will go away. Then you can focus on talking to girls.
/r/seduction15/01/22 06:46 PM
2

Hey I am 24 and still trying. OP shouldn't really worry that much about the age.
/r/seduction15/01/22 06:44 PM
1

At most I might get very short eyecontact, and thats even rare. Whenever I hear someone say they get signals like you described, honestly I just think to myself - bullshit. Just sounds delusional.
/r/seduction02/01/22 02:54 PM
1

I've been in situations like this a couple of times, me ignoring the girl and acting stoic and tough would just result in more of that sort of abuse. If there are no negative consequences, why stop? "Awww you're so nice, can't believe you don't have a girlfriend yet. I wonder why your ex left you." - After such a comment I would be like "Wtf is wrong with you? Something like that is none of your business. Don't ask me for my help ever again."
/r/seduction30/12/21 03:08 PM
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Same.
/r/seduction20/10/21 11:08 AM
2

I think you should continue the convo over text for a bit. It would be kind of rude to completely not respond and ignore someone you are trying to go out with. Just don't overdo it - don't text back huge paragraphs and if you feel like you've been texting too much just tell her that you are busy and that you can talk when you meet up.
/r/seduction06/10/21 06:02 PM
3

I am 6'0 and I rarely get any attention. I've seen plenty of guys shorter than me with gf's in public tho.
/r/seduction03/10/21 09:03 PM
2

I've used some apps a long time ago but when girls wouldn't respond or ghost me that would hit my self-esteem pretty hard. So that's why I avoid using them to this day.
/r/seduction19/09/21 06:20 PM
206

24 - not that much confidence to date or put myself in situations for sex to happen. I am constantly procrastinating on actually approaching girls or using apps etc.
/r/seduction19/09/21 03:42 PM
5

"It really puts it into perspective that if you get rejected, its your fault." - Yeah no. Sometimes sure, but a lot of the time you are just not going to vibe together, she is in a relationship, you are not her type etc.. That line of thinking is just going to make you depressed if you go after multiple women. Like there is a whole ass another person in this equation and you can't really control that.
/r/seduction07/09/21 09:42 AM
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Wait, 5'8? I really thought he was like 6'2.
/r/seduction29/08/21 06:49 AM
2

Recently he posted that he got laid after a week of trying. He said he could have pulled more if he had more experience. So I guess it is not THAT bad being 5'7.
/r/seduction29/08/21 06:45 AM
1

I have dropped 12 kgs in the past year. Nothing really much has changed. I still kind of feel invisible most of the time.
/r/seduction26/08/21 09:07 PM
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Not really, when I pass strangers on the street and our eyes meet usually either person 95% of the time instantly looks away.
/r/seduction22/08/21 04:40 PM
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Shit man, its good that you are focusing on yourself and your body. Massive improvement takes time. Be patient. You don't need to lose all of your excess weight to start talking to girls. Even just getting to the point where you start noticing the changes yourself you will be way more confident. I've been going to the gym for the past 2 months and I am far from my dream body, but I still have noticed differences in the way I look and I have been way more confident just speaking to people. Just t…
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:04 PM
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I do get eye contact fairly regularly when I am out and about. Like around 10-15 decent looks from different women. I never get smiles tho. When people mention that as an IOI I just get baffled.
/r/seduction16/08/21 06:18 PM
2

Her proposing a different time is not that bad. She still envisioned going out with you, just not on the time you proposed. If she was completely uninterested she would made PLENTY of excuses not to go.
/r/seduction13/08/21 06:28 PM
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Addy A Game didn't get arrested and imprisoned for "harassment", he got imprisoned for HARASSMENT. He literally pulled a woman into an alleyway against her will in the dead of the night. He would call women whores and bitches through text when they didn't respond to him. Not to mention him recording the women he picked up without their consent. Also around ten years prior he got arrested for possession of illegal firearms and drugs at his mother's house where he lived. Maybe let's not mention hi…
/r/seduction13/08/21 01:40 PM
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Her mentioning the time at which she works out is actually a pretty good sign. You probably shouldn't wait forever to ask her out. She might lose interests or something might happen in your lives that prevents you from seeing or dating eachother etc..
/r/seduction08/08/21 12:00 AM
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At about sixteen with loooong breaks inbetween till now. I think you should at least try to start in high school so you have some experience talking to girls.
/r/seduction07/08/21 12:00 AM
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Staaacy's mom has got it going ooooon
/r/seduction02/08/21 03:13 PM
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5 fucking hundred approaches is waaaaayyy to much to get a single lay. You would have to be completely ugly and socially inept to pull that off. 1 in 100 would still be too high imo.
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:40 PM
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Yeah he is literally in every post commenting negative shit. I am not going to pretend I am good with women and that I don't struggle but I can still have a positive attitude.
/r/seduction31/07/21 08:06 PM
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I've never tried approaching at a gym. Mainly because all of the attractive women are in way better shape than me, plus they never look like they would be open to a conversation - not looking at anybody, rarely talking to anyone or having earpods in.
/r/seduction26/07/21 06:15 PM
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I've had moments where I would talk to a girl in a cold approach situation, near the end I would run out of things to say and just awkwardly stare at her for a moment, laugh at myself from the nervousness and avert my eyes and still I would come out from an interaction with a number. You really can fuck up and still succeed.
/r/seduction26/07/21 06:12 PM
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You should call your spreadsheet sExcel.
/r/seduction24/07/21 06:57 PM
1

I would probably just answer - "Ok no problem. We'll talk later". Then try to ask her out a couple of days later.
/r/seduction22/07/21 05:36 PM
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Whenever I feel super infatuated with a girl I try to remind myself that she could at any moment ghost, say something offensive or dumb, realize we don't have that much in common etc.. That kind of curbs my enthusiasm.
/r/seduction22/07/21 05:34 PM
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Kinda hard to give any advice without seeing you around other people. Also saw ur pics, you look unkempt so that probably contributes a bit.
/r/seduction20/07/21 11:24 PM
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Happened to me aswell. Thought I was meeting with a tall, slim blonde around my age. I am sitting at a café and there walks in a short, chubby 16 year old. Bailed in the first 30 mins and never looked back.
/r/seduction20/07/21 11:21 PM
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When I lost a bunch of weight I was just waiting for people to notice. And when they did and would compliment me it really made me feel great. Maaaaybe she would react similarly but I wouldn't count on it.
/r/seduction20/07/21 11:18 PM
1

Hey a score of 3/10 would be something I would be proud of.
/r/seduction20/07/21 07:50 PM
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I've been going to the gym, eating better, watching calories, saving up money and doing a college degree. And like the other poster said, I am avoiding talking to women with the excuse of self improvement. I gotta work on that.
/r/seduction20/07/21 03:31 PM
1

Do they get constantly approached? Most of the girls I know don't get approached regularly, some have never been in their life. Even if they are really cute or hot.
/r/seduction19/07/21 08:36 PM
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At my heaviest I was 190lbs at 6 feet tall, went down to 165lbs in the past 8 months. At least now I am not a fat fuck with tits. Confidence is still kinda low and idk if getting jacked will help me get attention. I hope so.
/r/seduction19/07/21 12:06 AM
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Ngl this thread is just making me more insecure. I already don't get any attention from women, and I am scrawny and skinny-fat at 24. I've been working out for a month at the gym and I will keep going but it will take some time.
/r/seduction18/07/21 11:04 PM
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Jesus that is a horrible score. Couple of months back I have done about 15 approaches in 3 weeks and have gotten five numbers.
/r/seduction15/07/21 07:16 PM
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The guy who made the post has a website - killyourinnerloser.com Over there you can find the exact same post word for word.
/r/seduction15/07/21 06:53 PM
1

That is completely different with me, usually my female relatives encourage me to meet new women, even talk to several at a time. Tbh it would be bad or desperate if you had NO standards and you would accept them no matter their personality, looks, background etc..
/r/seduction11/07/21 07:36 PM
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I think pick up lines only work when they are funny to you and you can say them confidently to a girl regardless if she likes it or not.
/r/seduction10/07/21 10:37 PM
2

Wdym, numbers are so sexy.
/r/seduction10/07/21 10:36 PM
3

Here's one thing I learned from an approach. Once I approached a cute girl in a store when I was searching for something. We talk for a brief 3 minutes very awkwardly, I ask for her age like a sperg, then I asked for her phone number and dropped my phone on the ground when I was picking it out of my pocket. Lets just say something like that hasn't happened since.
/r/seduction02/07/21 03:02 PM
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If you can, try to proposing a date on a high note in the conversation when both of you clearly enjoy talking. She could be more inclined to agree that way. It's not always possible, available or necessary but it increases your chances.
/r/seduction30/06/21 12:59 PM
1

Yeah same. I fluctuate between "nah she is not hot enough" and "ok she is completely out of my leauge" constantly.
/r/seduction27/06/21 11:45 AM
12

Approaching seductively might not be a bad strategy. It screens for women who are into you and want to be seduced. The rest will reject your advances and you won't be wasting time with someone who is not into you or doesn't want to have sex.
/r/seduction26/06/21 07:19 PM
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Idk why but this comment was comedy gold for me.
/r/seduction26/06/21 07:14 PM
2

Go in for a hug when you greet her.
/r/seduction25/06/21 05:01 PM
5

Yeah most stories on this sub is just girls saying they are not interested or that they have a bf.
/r/seduction24/06/21 02:58 PM
1

That is the toughest part.
/r/seduction21/06/21 03:36 PM
1

Rookie numbers lol. I once have seen stats of some pua that he would convert about 14 approaches to a single date. Or 20 for 2-3 dates for some other guy Ive seen here on seddit. Good luck man keep pumping those numbers.
/r/seduction14/06/21 07:46 PM
1

Ngl I don't think I've ever had those types of greenlights. Maaaybe a few glances in my direction but those are quite rare, like once every couple of weeks.
/r/seduction14/06/21 05:36 PM
2

I think you should first have a bit of a conversation before proposing the date, at least 5-10 minutes just so the girl has a basic understanding of who you are and so you can let her enjoy your company.
/r/seduction08/06/21 02:57 PM
1

62 numbers/snapchats? How many women have you approached goddamn
/r/seduction08/06/21 02:53 PM
1

Goddamn bro, thats sick.
/r/seduction04/06/21 09:17 PM
1

To this point in time I haven't ever done a single daygame session, only approaching women from very rarely ONLY when the situation is really favorable. I have to say I haven't had really any success - only a very few dates and I still suffer from AA. Only recently I have realized that I really have to put more effort and time into being good with girls. I will probably start going out 2-3 times a week solely to meet women. Fuck that "low-value" bullshit. I am going after what I want.
/r/seduction03/06/21 09:48 PM
2

Dude what a pimp.
/r/seduction03/06/21 07:25 PM
3

Tbh I am just interested in how you managed to have women pouring into your life lol
/r/seduction31/05/21 08:16 PM
1

Maybe start with just having a conversation with random girls, without the need to hit on her or get her number. I am in a big slump rn - socialy anxious and depressed. What I am doing gradually is just to try and have a conversation or throw out a compliment without trying to get a number/date. After a while that can help you out a lot.
/r/seduction30/05/21 08:32 AM
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You don't need a word for word explanation. Just do not be butthurt about it, maybe continue the conversation if you want to, wish her a good day and move on. Sometimes when I get rejected and I am in a good mood I jokingly act heartbroken or something.
/r/seduction30/05/21 08:27 AM
1

Possible rejection or awkwardness. Also the thoughts of "fuck what do I say?" . That's why when I have the thought of approaching someone I often back off :/
/r/seduction15/05/21 04:25 PM
1

Not going to lie, most of the time approaching in public is REALLY stressful so I don't do it regularly and online is just boring. I still try both from time to time.
/r/seduction15/05/21 04:12 PM
4

Approaching with romantic interest in public is quite rare nowadays. Usually when I approach a girl they say that this would be their first time getting approached by a stranger. Also with the checking out part - I would never look twice at someone in public I am not attracted to, nevermind their clothing, style or whatever. If however I find a girl cute, you bet I will know where she is at all times.
/r/seduction15/05/21 03:53 PM
1

Yeah I used to look at that statistic and be like "wow what a waste of fucking time". Now I actually feel like it is not that bad. If you were to talk to 1 girl a day, you could get a hookup or more every month with a different girl.
/r/seduction03/05/21 08:17 AM
2

To be honest I appreciate when a girl just rejects me or says she has a boyfriend early on. It saves a lot of time and effort. The rejections for when you actually have been talking to the girl for a while or been out together hurt a lot more.
/r/seduction03/05/21 08:13 AM
1

Well for example in my town there was an acting group, comprised of teens/younger adults that would rehearse and perform regularly at events. I visited that group once or twice and it had some cute girls around my age. I didn't really participate myself because I was not interested in acting and theatre.
/r/seduction03/05/21 08:10 AM
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Yeah cold approach has never been the most efficient method of getting girls. I think it should be one of your tools. Some online dating here, some cold approach there, meeting some girls through social circle or hobby groups over there and it all adds up. Currently I am trying out cold approach and online dating at the same time.
/r/seduction02/05/21 02:42 PM
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I wasn't even counting. Most Pua's claim that they sleep with 1 woman for 30-60 they cold approach. Check out this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianMasculinity/comments/ijpgli/85_cold_approaches_a_reflection_on_stats/
/r/seduction02/05/21 02:39 PM
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A lot.
/r/seduction02/05/21 02:35 PM
2

I guess parties are not a part of real life.
/r/seduction02/05/21 01:10 PM
4

If people were asking me such a question I would just answer that I am currently single. That's it. No more to be said about the situation. If they ask as to why, I would say I am just picky.
/r/seduction02/05/21 12:17 PM
2

What would exactly qualify to pass that bar? I personally feel the bar is quite high to be a winner sort of guy.
/r/askTRP02/05/21 08:22 AM
34

After the "no way" you should have probably changed the subject.
/r/seduction29/04/21 05:45 PM
181

My response would probably be something like "nah you are fucking with me, no way"
/r/seduction29/04/21 04:54 PM
5

I don't really think this is a substantial post. In my life I've never met a so called "chad" that would get all the panties wet. Maybe some popular guys who were in a couple of relationships/were dating around but not some ultra slayers. "that just seduces every possible girl of any age, even his highschool teacher" - yeah sure lol Maybe instead of praising the chads, actually give some advice or share some things these guys are doing? What is the difference between seeing a "chad" in action an…
/r/seduction26/04/21 10:25 PM
3

That amount of money for a coach of any kind is a scam. You could take that money and use it to get better clothes, education, gym equipment/membership and a car. Stuff like this could make you a lot more attractive than any dating coach could. If you want to improve your social and dating skills just look for free resources and practice IRL. Either that or ask for advice of someone you know who is good with the ladies.
/r/seduction26/04/21 08:40 PM
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You could just go and approach to practice your social skills. You do not even have to show any romantic interest. You have no obligation to pursue anyone further if you do not feel like it.
/r/seduction22/04/21 09:58 PM
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You should try and push yourself as much as you can. Just try to stay as long as you can in the conversation. It can greatly help you out with conversation skills and social anxiety.
/r/seduction12/04/21 08:23 PM
21

Those are two separate strategies. Either do one or the other.
/r/seduction12/04/21 08:20 PM
3

Fuck how did u guess
/r/askTRP26/03/21 08:37 PM
2

Already on it ✌️
/r/askTRP26/03/21 08:15 PM
1

Ok maybe I put too much emphasis on the shyness thing. That was way worse years ago. Ive done some cold approaches and socialised a lot more, I can hold a regular conversation and banter but I am definitely not a smooth talker and I don't have "game".
/r/askTRP26/03/21 08:10 PM
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I severly limited it in the past few weeks.
/r/askTRP26/03/21 08:03 PM
3

Thanks for the reply, saved it for a reminder.
/r/askTRP26/03/21 06:32 PM
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I've been going through the same thing man. Decent amount of matches on tinder (but barley sent any msgs or set up dates), i've had positive exchanges with cold approach etc., just always too chicken to pull the trigger. A month ago I got a number of a cute girl I met on the street, msg'ed her a day later. She sent me a HUGE paragraph back, so it would seem there was a lot of interest from her side. Some type of dread just came over me and I panicked, deleted her number and never spoke to her ag…
/r/seduction21/03/21 01:32 AM
1

Yeah I would love to meet women myself, but I have no job or money and living with parents. Not that much I can do about it rn besides working out, doing my studies and taking care of my mental health. Wait it out, mby keep using dating apps.
/r/seduction20/03/21 11:54 PM
1

When you get your hair cut try out different products for styling. You can also find a picture of a hairstyle that you like, save it and then show it to the barber. I used to do that when I was trying out different things.
/r/seduction02/02/21 06:00 PM
2

Usually when I want to be more sociable and I see an opportunity I try to limit my thoughts, just walk up and say what I want to say. I need to know the time? Move my feet into the direction of the person and ask. There are some guys at a bar that I don't know playing pool? I go over there and ask if anyone of them want to play with me.
/r/seduction02/02/21 04:53 PM
1

I doesn't really matter what opener it was. It worked for him in that situation. Getting too much into details would be just a waste of time in my opinion.
/r/seduction28/01/21 05:50 PM
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Could you elaborate on "she gave me excuses here and there"? I would have probably just nexted her if I saw some flakeiness and a lack of enthusiasm to meet up.
/r/seduction28/01/21 10:41 AM
2

Well, that heavily depends. Once you smile, you have done your part, don't worry about the rest. The other person can take it in a number of ways. To me it might make me feel pleasant, but whether I engage or not depends on my mood and how attracted i am to that person. Certainly it would never perceive it as creepy, maybe surprising and anxiety inducing at worst.
/r/seduction24/01/21 04:28 PM
2

There could be a lot of reasons why someone wouldn't approach you. Most probably have to do something with them - not being confident enough, being oblivious to signs, not being in the mood to talk, not being attracted to you, already having someone, they don't have the time to chat someone up etc.. Try to establish more eye contact, flip your hair to make your invitation more noticable or just approach yourself.
/r/seduction24/01/21 04:09 PM
1

I've never had a bad reaction to a cold approach. The worst that has happened to me was when once a girl just said "No no no leave me alone". The second worst thing that happens is we talk for 3-5 mins and she is not into it. Then you just eject without asking for her number, wish them a good day and eject.
/r/seduction23/01/21 06:58 PM
1

I've had plenty situations when I was asked for a number/social media etc. and still the girl wouldn't initiate. Maybe the girl wasn't bold enough or too afraid of rejection. I think it is better to put yourself in a situation where you can call/text first, then see if they reciprocate.
/r/seduction08/01/21 04:00 PM
1

Well there are plenty too lookout for, just searching "ioi" on this subreddit can help you out a lot. As to what specific ones I realized post mortem would be proximity, just hanging around me or repeated glances (my super insecure ass would read these as me being perceived as weird and made fun of). 3 months ago I had to pay for a service and I didn't have enough cash on me so I had to postpone it. The girl who I met that day was with me and offered to pay for it with her card, so I could pay h…
/r/seduction08/01/21 03:55 PM
2

Same with me here. Throughout my teenage years I thought that girls were just not interested in me. It took me reading this sub (to learn a bit about IOIs) and talking with a therapist to realize that "holy shit I could have had sooo many girlfriends" and that I am atleast somewhat attractive. I've even had girls approach me out of the blue and my insecurity would just get in the way.
/r/seduction08/01/21 01:42 PM
2

What would be the rate of your rejections? Numbers/flakes/ghosts/you rejecting yourself etc.?
/r/seduction10/12/20 08:37 PM
4

For me, I don't wait around for too long when I want to approach someone and just say to myself "FUCK IT". That phrase makes you accept any negative outcome and do the thing.
/r/seduction08/12/20 04:48 PM
1

And what would be those basic mistakes?
/r/seduction30/11/20 03:06 PM
4

Okay I didn't even fully realize until reading this that I am a late bloomer.
/r/seduction22/11/20 10:17 PM
2

I am definitely saving this post for later when I am feeling down on my confidence. A lot of other stuff I have seen has been really discouraging and not all that helpful. What you have posted seems a lot more actionable and reasonable.
/r/seduction22/11/20 10:11 PM
1

This pretty much goes back to the idea that rejection doesn't always have to do with something how you look or acted. It might be just be unfortunate circumstances.
/r/seduction17/11/20 08:20 PM
3

Yeah I have found myself reading a lot of posts and books about seduction etc. without any progress. I just keep piling on more and more information and techniques which just paralyze me. I think it is important to take a break and just try and go with the flow. Most people reading this sub already have the necessary basic knowledge to have success.
/r/seduction17/11/20 11:51 AM
1

What did you actually unlearned? What general advice would that be?
/r/seduction17/11/20 11:48 AM
1

Ahhh the times of high school, I am glad I am not cringe like that anymore.
/r/seduction14/11/20 03:45 PM
1

What do you mean by "that guy"? A school shooter?
/r/seduction14/11/20 03:14 PM
3

At this point I would probably just take any girl who is atleast decent looking and nice.
/r/seduction10/11/20 10:13 AM
1

Isn't that just the risk of asking people out in general?
/r/seduction31/10/20 02:30 PM
1

What did you exactly do to achieve that sort of social life? I am an introvert aswell and I don't really feel attractive and I am not successful with women. Currently I am trying to lose weight by working out at home but I would like to approach all aspects of seduction etc..
/r/seduction28/10/20 07:27 PM
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I guess smiling at strangers can be a good exercise to fight social anxiety a bit. It can also make strangers remember you so it can make it easier to talk to them later on. Just don't expect consistent positive reactions.
/r/seduction16/10/20 06:38 PM
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Ok so what would be an example of a good convo? The first example seemed fine to me. The second maybe not, since you are asking for some justification as to why she won't meet up with you.
/r/seduction08/10/20 05:01 PM
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Hey I've been rejected plenty of times, nothing really has changed for me emotionally. Still feels like shit and makes me depressed for weeks.
/r/seduction07/10/20 08:20 PM
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Is this a trailer for a new hollywood blockbuster movie about me? When is it coming out? In all seriousness I appreciate the words of encouragement, since I all of my teengage years and even to this day (somewhat) I identify with some labels that I have given myself or have been given by others.
/r/seduction03/10/20 07:37 PM
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I feel like confidence is going for what you want, even when there is a risk of failure. I am not exactly confident myself but I am trying to build that up through therapy, analyzing my negative thoughts and pursuing action.
/r/seduction03/10/20 07:32 PM
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Today I went out and approached 3 groups of different people. Two were some groups of guys in a bar and the last was some group of high school girls sitting around in a mall. Each interaction had some things in common: I focused on moving forward and just saying ANYTHING, I didn't go in there with ANY expectations of the interaction, I was focusing on whether I liked and enjoyed talking to them or not, and any mistakes I thought I might have made I just tried not to focus on them and keep the in…
/r/seduction03/10/20 07:27 PM
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I have read "Intimate Connections" by David Burns, M.D.. It deals a lot with shyness, insecurity, low self-esteem and harmful attitudes and actions, with the goal of helping finding a partner. The book itself REALLY emphasizes inner game and self-esteem, before any of the techniques and tips for attracting people. Currently I am rereading this book more thoroughly to try and remember more of the information and to write out and combat my negative thoughts and attitudes. It's a good, short read o…
/r/seduction23/09/20 09:20 PM
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Could you elaborate on that? I was on a date that I thought was successful, then i decided to wait around ~5 days to write a text and no response. After that I tried to call her two times with some days passed inbetween. Still no response. Is there a point to still be chasing? To me I should already move on and keep searching for someone else I want to date.
/r/seduction23/09/20 05:39 PM
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I would have responded "Thanks, but tell me something I didn't already know".
/r/seduction30/08/19 08:25 PM
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Try to not have it for 22 years.
/r/seduction02/08/19 09:17 AM
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I hope my seduction skills will develop like me playing Sekiro for the 8th time.
/r/seduction10/05/19 11:37 AM
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I am 6 feet tall, so that's lower on the tall scale. I am still waiting for the benefits of my height.
/r/seduction05/05/19 12:06 AM
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I will try to make something a bit more extensive the next time I go out. I wrote this post mostly to vent and maybe get some general advice. Thanks for the help, I really appreciate it.
/r/seduction26/04/19 02:57 AM
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I did engage with them, had conversations with all of them, we joked and fooled around. What I meant was that I managed to still have some 1 on 1 talks with the girl in question.
/r/seduction26/04/19 02:51 AM
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I guess I just can't understand social queues. I have no idea how to improve on that. I often feel like I don't understand people and vice versa.
/r/seduction26/04/19 02:43 AM
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In my mind that was Just one more conversation topic or a tool to see if we have the same values and feellings about things. Im also trying to improve in that hobby, so any opinion is valuable to me. I can't really grasp what sort of actions are needy or attention seeking.
/r/seduction26/04/19 02:38 AM
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Yeah that line was something I said quickly without thinking. It was the first thing that came to my mind. We were alone some of the time, even when her friends were around they were mostly focused on themselves.
/r/seduction25/04/19 11:45 PM
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I didn't feel like a 3rd wheel, the vibes seemed pretty normal and casual. They also told me they were just sitting and walking around town while they waited for a bus.
/r/seduction25/04/19 11:43 PM
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She seemed interesting, was attractive and we had a similar sense of humour. At the time it seemed to me she was somewhat invested in me since she was asking me questions about my life, she liked and praised my poetry.
/r/seduction25/04/19 11:41 PM
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Zero ​
/r/seduction07/04/19 09:23 PM
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I would struggle to write like 5 reasons, let alone 50.
/r/seduction03/04/19 08:19 AM
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Approaching, inviting people, starting conversations, trying to escalate etc.. Just letting people know I exist and what intent I have.
/r/seduction07/03/19 02:02 PM
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Well if I dont bring anyones attention to me with my efforts, I am usually left behind and forgotten. People generally dont really care about me unless I try really hard, and even then its not guaranteed i get anything out of it.
/r/seduction07/03/19 12:53 PM
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It's More like two magnets pushing eachother away.
/r/seduction07/03/19 11:11 AM
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"You will always feel better after the approach" - um no. To me when I am unsuccsessful with the approach, I usually feel WAYYY worse than before. It completely destroys my self esteem and the interaction Just haunts me for a long period of time. It really discourages me from continuing convo with that person even when I get their contact or from doing more approaches. Overall doing cold approach is really risky for me.
/r/seduction06/03/19 11:18 PM
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It Just looks like you have a lack of experience and self-esteem. The fear of the unknown probably makes you anxious. Something that works for me is to not wait around and go in without a plan or a goal. To my surprise people are usually not so afraid to Have a conversation when you make the first move, while being cool and collected. In my case, my job which required me to be talkative and social has helped me tremendously. Good luck!
/r/seduction10/12/18 12:13 PM
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Tbh I've known some pretty attractive girls, but still the attraction wasn't really there, despite their beauty and interests we shared. If someone is just a regular person, with no abnormalities (and you can imagine someone else being attracted to them) and you just don't feel them, then you cannot really explain in detail why that person doesn't interest you. I don't think it is just something in the line of "women are liars" etc.. ​
/r/seduction10/11/18 12:22 AM
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When I mentioned me reading a seduction forum regularly to my therapist, she didn't really mind. She just asked me to elaborate and explain what sort of lessons and attitudes I gained from it. She laughed her ass off when I told her there are some people who make money from giving seduction advice, coaching and holding seminars.
/r/seduction10/11/18 12:14 AM
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From the title I expected something super grand like losing your virginity but it's still a success! If you keep this up, you really won't even really have second thoughts doing that again. That's atleast what has happened to me.
/r/seduction10/11/18 12:08 AM
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I used to feel the same way, but I pushed myself to start approaching. It isn't such a hassle or fear anymore. Yesterday I approached a very fun, attractive girl at a train station, added her on facebook and we are possibly going out tomorrow to play some pool. I don't expect much but I am glad I will have something fun to do tomorrow.
/r/seduction08/11/18 01:25 PM
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I am a 21yr Old male living in Poland. I am into PC gaming, music, singing. I've played guitar for 6 years, which i am quite good at. I like obscure and foreign English media, music and entertainment. For me, an exciting conversation would be something that would not require conscious and constant effort, where both parties Just understand eachother seamlessly. I have come to realize a long time ago that a lot of women do not share these interests or atleast they dont to a degree that I do.
/r/seduction19/10/18 08:29 PM
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I am not sure about this. I have been seeing a therapist for the past 3 months I haven't seen any change so far and it feels like a waste of money. I feel the same as I did ealier if not worse. I go to see my therapist, I cry for a bit, leave and not think of it again until the next visit comes around the next week. Not to mention it is a huge hit to my wallet.
/r/seduction17/10/18 06:05 PM
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I think it would be much creepier to just keep waiting and staring at her. Approaching itself isn't as scary if you have done it a number of times. I, myself dont have any fear to approach, things get akward afterwards when I dont have anything left to say.
/r/seduction10/10/18 01:48 PM
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Yeah, but when I get rejected, 10 months later my game is still weak and the rejections still haunt me and make me depressed... Also I really regret even trying.
/r/seduction17/09/18 02:11 PM
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What are your results exactly? Tbh I have the same experience. I get some matches, but a lot of them don't respond or aren't interested in meeting.
/r/seduction15/04/18 06:52 PM
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Might be shy or he doesn't know how he feels. Also in my case, I sometimes used to be playful or flirtly with girls I wasn't really all that interested in just for practice or to be liked a bit more. Anyway, goodluck!
/r/seduction13/04/18 11:53 PM
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Yeah damn, I guess I need to build some social proof or get a fake wedding band so I could appear to be the greener grass.
/r/seduction13/04/18 10:33 PM
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The thing is, in like 70% percent of the cases I have come across, lying or playing hard to get is out of the question. A lot of the time I find out about it before making any moves/escalation during casual conversation or from different people than my so called "target".
/r/seduction13/04/18 10:02 PM
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I am 21, living in a major Polish city. I don't deny that there are attractive single girls, but whenever I try to make a move on someone - Bam! They are taken. A few days ago a new girl joined at my workplace. She was smokin hot, but today I found out she has a BF from someone else.
/r/seduction13/04/18 07:03 PM
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Mostly I have this occur in person. On tinder like 60% of women aren't attractive to me, and the rest rarely responds.
/r/seduction13/04/18 06:57 PM
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I feel that myself aswell. Atleast it shows that you are attracted to her and invested. When you don't feel it at all, then there is no point in approaching in general. That's what I think.
/r/seduction13/04/18 06:26 PM
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One advice I have seen here was "APPORACH, DON'T WAIT FOR SIGNS OF ATTRACTION YOU ARE LOSING TIME", so that's what I went with. I guess it also helps me in a sense that I don't have time to overthink it and build anxiety. I was smiling and my body language wasn't really closed, atleast from what it seemed to me. Also, if not the day approach, then what would be a better alternative?
/r/seduction09/04/18 09:48 PM
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May I ask, what were your problems with inner game? I am interested to know since it could help me out.
/r/seduction09/04/18 04:50 AM
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I am 6'0" and I get no poon, so I guess that is not really important.
/r/seduction09/04/18 12:06 AM
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Same happens to me (maybe not as many matches) and I get rejected usually before I even can make a move. My tinder experience would lead me to think that I am atleast somewhat attractive. Maybe we both have untruthful pictures and bios?
/r/seduction09/04/18 12:04 AM
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Well I guess this is the best advert for the book, that there could possibly be. Just one question, what was her body language? How did you know to proceed despite the verbal protest? I've been in this sort of situation, but whenever some1 has said "stop" I would just feel like a piece of shit and leave.
/r/seduction07/04/18 07:49 PM
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The only aspect of self improvement I have trouble with is workout. I am wayyy to lazy and unmotivated to do it, even when I have a gym just around the corner. I do read, play video games, play the guitar and write songs. I also groom myself relatively well. Only issue, grooming wise, I have is acne, which I still have to get under control. In terms of standards, like 90% women don't really attract me physically. I wouldn't be able to date someone who is overweight or whose style doesn't fit my …
/r/seduction04/04/18 01:34 PM
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Darling you got to let me know Should I stay or should I go? But srsly, if they don't respond at all, shoot a second message. If she still doesn't respond after that, look for someone else.
/r/seduction04/04/18 01:22 PM
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Some were interested and kept asking me questions about my talents. I've gotten like 100% match rate with girls who also stated their musical interests in their bio. BTW. Not acoustic, but Electric for the past 6 years.
/r/seduction02/04/18 02:25 PM
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Mine was basically just a small paragraph stating my interests and talents (I enjoy singing and playing guitar). It ended with a sort of statement: "Send me a message and maybe i'll write a song about you!". Overall it was sort of goofy and carefree. Also at the bottom I gave my height -182cm/6feet. I was matched either because of my height or the musical stuff :) I probably could have done better with the pics, but I just had two, that were slightly edited to look better.
/r/seduction02/04/18 12:26 PM
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Damn, 19kgs? How did you do that? Also, congrats on the positive change.
/r/seduction23/03/18 03:49 AM
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Maybe I should elaborate a bit. When I open my mouth and try to speak my eyes just go upwards and away from the person. When listening maintaining eye contact is no bigggie. So how would you recommend me doing flirting/increasing sexual tension? Any good guides for that on here?
/r/seduction22/03/18 01:30 AM
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Around 25 matches three days after making a new account while swiping right about 50% of the time. I do live in a big city tho.
/r/seduction19/03/18 03:50 AM
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I have to admit, that sometimes I have gone to great lenghts to appeal to someone with no effect. Always it would end up with me losing patience and going in for something intimate, which would end up with them acting disinterested or outright appauled or disgusted. Perhaps if I have been more assertive about my intentions early on and was less clingy, things would have gone differently. Still, I don't feel like I want to get rid of that side of me. I sort of live by the words "it takes strengh …
/r/seduction11/03/18 06:27 PM
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