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| 5 | How to tell the difference between love bombing and a man being into youThanks for sharing that, it helps to have another perspective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 12:48 AM |
| 6 | How to vet for emotional availability using 'bids'This is a great post! My therapist told me about some of this stuff and I have a hard time distinguishing securely attached people just needing space and avoidants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 02:40 AM |
| 29 | How to tell the difference between love bombing and a man being into youThis is a huge problem for me as I’m a model and also work in things that attract a lot of socially awkward men. I recently went on a date with a man I had met a few months prior through friends, he was so considerate, kind, attentive to what I said. Brought a little gift, drove from another city to see me. But it was walls and walls of text conversations from him that I just couldn’t keep up with throughout the day, texting as soon as I would post something on socials and he knew I was awake, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 02:30 AM |
| 61 | How to tell the difference between love bombing and a man being into youI’m so sorry that happened to you :( I’m French and I do want to say that for many of us physical intimacy/kissing does mean being with someone exclusively. In fact Emily in Paris shows this well when the designer’s son accuses her of having an affair when they are going to St Tropez, despite it being very early on in their relationship. I moved to the US and it’s a minefield for me to figure out this “exclusivity” and commitment thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 02:20 AM |
| 18 | What are your standards when dating?Uhhh.. Longtime Vegan here.. have also experienced the people lying about being veggie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 11:31 AM |
| 15 | Rebel Wilson on society's reaction to a woman's body image vs achievementsSo wonderful to hear her bringing up PCOS. Thank you for posting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 07:32 PM |
| 7 | Carrie & Mr. Big Show How Toxic "Endgame" Relationships Can BeOh I didn’t know there was one, thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 03:07 PM |
| 89 | Carrie & Mr. Big Show How Toxic "Endgame" Relationships Can BeI used to love SATC.. dated a man who continuously broke up and got back with me, which caused me immense pain, and I’m sad to have realized how much that show influenced my idealization of all that. The fact that he later leaves her at the altar but she gets back with him anyway was nightmare fuel for me for years. Occasionally I would rewatch the clip where she tells him to eff off when she moves to Paris because it’s the only empowering scene in her narrative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 03:53 AM |
| 30 | Self Defense Items / Tools!I have trained (and taught women and activist groups) a very violent style of Japanese jiu-jitsu that is heavily focused on self-defense for 17 years, I strongly advise you not to carry a knife. They often end up used against the person carrying it. Pepper sprays, tasers, etc. Are much better options. Unless you’re a martial experts (and even then, I was taught and shown how badly things can escalate for anyone—you never get attacked in a perfect situation when you aren’t tired, scared etc.), yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:44 PM |
| 24 | Famous HMV?Not super famous but Jackson Katz! His TED talk asking men to fight misogyny is so important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 11:22 PM |
| 16 | Is Taylor Swift a “Forever Girlfriend”I’ve been in the music industry most of my life on two continents and I’ve had a record out, I’m well aware of how the sausage is made and I generally find it sad that some here seem intent on finding some flaw in him that proves he’s screwing her over, when she seems very happy. Stuff like this is exactly why they are keeping it all extra private. His mom was with her at one of the release events. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 07:16 PM |
| 14 | Is Taylor Swift a “Forever Girlfriend”I replied about this as well, especially regarding people saying to “just get over” the Kanye thing and your comment is so so important. Especially as our families and communities are no longer intertwined with our relationships, for better or for worse (in the past your peer group would have told you someone isn’t good for you much more so than now when we’ve cultivated this “oh they’re just in love!” Or whatever narrative). Statistics on domestic abuse have barely budged since the seventies, y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:32 PM |
| 15 | Is Taylor Swift a “Forever Girlfriend”I write songs and it took me a long time to realize with clarity that a man I dated had narcissistic personality disorder. I love the update to All Too Well because it’s important to look at those dynamics with maturity and not just “that asshole broke my heart!”—thats how you don’t do it again. I wrote a few songs about him some years ago and I would 100% release them down the line and keep writing about what happened. Not because I’m still in love with him, haven’t processed it or am mentally … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:25 PM |
| 32 | Is Taylor Swift a “Forever Girlfriend”I’ve dated famous people, whilst having my own artistic career and it was pretty hard. I didn’t want to be seen as taking advantage of their fame. She is one of the most famous people in the world, no offense to his talent but he is not and I don’t think he wants to be famous as “Taylor Swift’s boyfriend”. Him posting her things doesn’t strike me as a positive. I think it’s very high value to be supportive of your partner in real life instead of social media; and he has always liked her posts wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:14 PM |
| 27 | Is Taylor Swift a “Forever Girlfriend”Joe wrote Exile, one of the biggest songs on Folklore. She spoke about it on the Long Pond Sessions. But they are so so private, and the song being about a breakup, they probably rightfully originally kept him under a nom de plume. And then decided it was worth it for him to receive the accolades. I don’t see how this makes her “a pickme”. Also I think someone who has made a career from diaristic songs and authenticity would never do a PR relationships. That stuff is for insecure people who need… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:09 PM |
| 23 | Is Taylor Swift a “Forever Girlfriend”I don’t think when you have that level of fame & fortune, common laws really apply to you. That and as a fan, Taylor, I think, has always gotten a sense pretty quickly of when guys were mucking her about (she was already pretty scathing towards people like John Mayer over ten years ago—and it seems she takes ownership when she screwed up, with Lautner or Hiddleston), seeing the way she mentions Joe, it’s clearly a very different and healthy relationship. She has also said how exhausted and how m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 05:56 PM |
| 183 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionReminds me of that half-asleep no makeup picture of Katy Perry Russell Brand posted.. made me sad for her because she was upset about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:49 PM |
| 52 | Decline of marriage, rise of baby mama culture, divorce prevalence, rise of age at first marriage - is a huge part of WTF Happened in 1971Average rent $150.00 per month HAHAHAHAHA.. cries | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 05:04 AM |
| 33 | Narcissists, No Contact and the Spaghetti Technique - EsteemologyI used to be all about explaining to them why they messed up, diplomacy etc. And I’m so glad this place has taught me that block & delete is the only way to deal with narcs and manipulation. I can’t say I’ve been perfect at it, but at the very least, I’ve read the messages and not replied. If you must reply, I suggest grey rocking. Replying “sure”, “ok”, and “I’m sorry you feel that way”, is a good way to stay uninvolved and de-escalate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 04:56 PM |
| 36 | Pornsick scrote can't be asked a normal question without turning it sexual...this was our first conversation 😒 Have I discovered a new vetting question??I run some big fb groups and one of the rules is “interact as you would with strangers in real life”. 90% of people online would benefit from applying this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 01:19 AM |
| 3 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?I might be biased because that’s what I watch but I think sci-fi—and sometimes fantasy, generally have better female role models. I like the women in Star Trek Discovery; For All Mankind also has some super badass women. Highly recommend that show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:45 AM |
| 5 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?And she uplifted other women too. I love the bit where Missandei explained to Davos that they chose her to be their queen, not because she’s the daughter of some king they never met but because she showed her valor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:41 AM |
| 13 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?I was a huge Thrones fan and no fictional work has made me angrier than how they destroyed her arc and personality. In fact several of the female characters’ arcs were just completely upended. You’re completely right on people who will say “oh it makes sense because she killed her enemies, MaD qUeEn!”. Meanwhile Jon Snow hangs a kid, Stannis burns his daughter and basically everyone in the show kills people but it’s all just par the course for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:38 AM |
| 23 | HVM tried to give sound advice to a young single mother in distress and got so much hate from RedditIt seems people are coming at this from a paternalistic angle of “how dare you tell a woman how to lead her life! Moms are allowed to have fun too!” (Ironic given how Reddit complains constantly about single moms on dating apps..) at the detriment of the fact that a child is a responsibility and yes, should be prioritized (especially in the context of dating someone who clearly won’t be a good partner to her). I was in a relationship with an abusive man, and the one thing I respected is that he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 03:23 PM |
| 45 | Thank you for helping me get over my ex of 2.5 years in just three days.I had a weird breakup once the night before a long flight back from where I’m from to where I was living. The relationship had been super intense and manipulative, I was still crying the first hour or so of the flight and then suddenly, I had a weird eureka moment when I thought “wait, this guy treated me like garbage, why would I care?” And was suddenly completely over it. I’m so glad you could have that realization that this was a positive in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:29 AM |
| 42 | Ground Rules - Take it Or Leave ItThis so much. I originally found Female level up and have genuinely enjoyed all the tips there and here on everything from reaching my career goals to having good boundaries in my relationships—self-improvement basically. The defeatist mindset that was creeping in was starting to sound like incel stuff. And I get not wanting to date anymore, I really do, but most of us here would rather try to improve our interactions. Also, having developed CPTSD from abusive relationships there’s a real risk o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 01:49 PM |
| 100 | Conservative men can be so misogynistic that I can no longer tell the difference between reality and satire.I’m almost 5’7, a 5 1/2 shoe and I have never met another person my size with such feet. My gosh! Maybe this is my chance to find love 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 08:20 PM |
| 19 | Lmfao I died at this. Do any Eastern European women agree?European here, dated a Polish guy.. not too far off 😂 I had never been called « baby girl » before him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 11:28 AM |
| 60 | Women who like women, approach them in a totally different way than men. Plus they are sexy in a different wayWe should normalize doing stuff like this for other women :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 10:25 AM |
| 5 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?I know it hurts but What I learnt from therapy after dating several men with NPD, is that many of them are not capable of love, at least not the kind of love you and I experience. It’s not about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 08:53 PM |
| 12 | An NYU professor says fewer men going to college will lead to a 'mating crisis' with the US producing too many 'broke and alone' mencollege-aged men have more options than their female peers. You can walk onto a construction site in Florida, you can turn on an app — cop, firemen, trade job — which at the age of 18 if you can make $100 to $200 a day that feels like real cabbage," I'm glad someone is acknowledging that women have fewer career options and that despite higher levels of education we are still earning less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 10:32 PM |
| 32 | Gabby's Friend Speaks paints a different picture of Brian- the controlling behavior and abuse started early!Yeah.. I dated several. One of them was just the sweetest most soft spoken man and model dad to his kids. Those are the covert narcs and it’s a total mindfuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:58 PM |
| 30 | Words of caution against attachment stylesI read the book Attached after I saw it recommended on here and one criticism I have of it is that it doesn’t make mention of when these attachment styles turn abusive. There’s an example in the book of this woman who marries a man who puts her down in front of his friends (amongst other awful behaviors) and I regret that it almost painted it as “oh well, their attachment styles don’t match!”, this is an abusive partner. My therapist is specialized in attachment theory and showed me how these th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:49 PM |
| 64 | I feel like women might be waking up to what this sub preachesI feel we are really in a kind of no man’s land between different generations. Women were told that’s it, get a career, equal rights etc. But a lot of men just didn’t follow and still expect women to perform all the household stuff. Covid brought this into the open, there were tons of stats on how people who left their jobs were 80% women because they were suddenly expected to take care of kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:03 PM |
| 59 | This insta account is great to see the entitlement that LVM have. (She’s 28 and only matches with old men for science)What I’ve noticed in men around me who weren’t “successful” with women before they got married or got into a serious relationship I’d that many of them aren’t content with actually finding a decent partner (all of the ones I’ve met were beautiful and loving), they feel they need to just accumulate women like wealth or something. Patriarchy is one hell of a drug. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:56 PM |
| 7 | Are these kind of posts actually empowering?Great post. I love this sub but I’ve come to realize seeing that much of that content is re-traumatizing me and triggering my CPTSD and fear response. It frustrates me as I do understand how they are useful for newbies. I also worry that we’re dipping into Internet outrage culture; I think it’s great that when the sub moved a little too much towards female celibacy, they made changes to have it be more balanced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:49 PM |
| 5 | Are beauty pageants empowering or are they a pick-me tournament?Exactly. It doesn’t matter how many WAP songs, Dove commercials etc. I think the sooner we step away from valuing women for their appearance, the better our world will be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 10:58 PM |
| 19 | Help I’ve Become Absurdly Hot Since I Got Married and Now I Want to Dump The Only Woman Who Ever Wanted to Fuck Me So I Can Become The Porn Star Of My DreamsSure! Vouloir le beurre, l’argent du beurre et le cul de la crémière ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 04:31 PM |
| 64 | Help I’ve Become Absurdly Hot Since I Got Married and Now I Want to Dump The Only Woman Who Ever Wanted to Fuck Me So I Can Become The Porn Star Of My DreamsA good example of the French expression that says: wanting the butter, the money for the butter and the ass of the dairymaid. For egregious cases of wanting your cake and eat it too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:41 AM |
| 23 | Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣Yeah.. Violence and polygamy have been around since the dawn of all times, so don’t tell me BDSM and polyamory are modern progressive things. Lipstick on a pig. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 02:24 AM |
| 45 | It’s the little thingsWhen my partner removes my clothes for sexy time, instead of throwing them on the ground somewhere, he delicately places, and almost folds them on the bed. It’s so cute and I really respect someone taking good care of my things. He’ll also crank Taylor Swift at random moments of the day because he knows I love her and will whisper in a high-pitched voice “DeLiCaAaaT”. (But secretly I know it’s because he loves her too!) I would pick this stuff à million times over being given random thoughtless … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 06:55 AM |
| 18 | Free Solo - Movies with a FDS LensNot defending his general attitude towards her but I just looked at his insta and there are several of their wedding and engagement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 07:12 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on long-distance?I was in a very fulfilling long-distance relationship for six years (I’m a dual citizen and travelled a lot for jobs so it was rather an inevitability in my life). it really helped me achieve my career goals: I had companionship and support but also more time to study and work. I wouldn’t do it now because I am after a different kind of relationship but if I were you I would ask myself what you are after and ask him the same. Is the goal to stay together so you can eventually plan for a future i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:08 PM |
| 188 | John Mulaney knocks up Olivia Munn just months after his divorce is finalized.Ugh. What a misogynist making fun of women’s bodies. I remember when she started on the Daily Show and she definitely had that pickme vibe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 05:50 PM |
| 131 | John Mulaney knocks up Olivia Munn just months after his divorce is finalized.How did he break up with her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 05:43 PM |
| 41 | Cry me a riverYeah this is one degree removed from people who stalk and harass some poor woman they met a few times. I’ve had stalkers and it starts with uncontrolled obsession. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 03:42 PM |
| 28 | JFK, the Harvey Weinstein NVM of his time who cheated on his wife Jackie Kennedy with more than 30 women: His conga line of concubinesPlease can we not link an extremely misogynistic , racist, homophobic rag like the Mail here.. American friends: they are worse than Fox News. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 10:53 PM |
| 9 | The Power of ✨Allowing Men To Feel Needed✨I have PCOS, guess I’m screwed too! This passage about hormones seems pretty pseudoscientific. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 03:49 PM |
| 136 | 100%Anyone who sees marriage and partnership as a loss of freedom is a no. My partner had a big presentation for work this morning so I made him dinner last night, that means he had more free time to work on it. I don’t have a car so he drove us to the beach on the weekend, giving me more freedom to do something fun. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 07:52 PM |
| 70 | This is a weekly reminder to women especially “creatives” to watch out for lovebombing, genuine demons lurk and will seemingly try their best to tether your guard with words to exploit your emotions and try to conquer your body.The lesson I learnt from this happening repeatedly is: trust their actions not their words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:16 PM |
| 16 | Aileen Wuornos is often compared to Ted Bundy and Jeffrey Dahmer in terms of the heinous nature of their crimes. That’s because of cultural misogyny, victim-blaming, and legitimate hatred of women.It’s funny yesterday there was a video posted here somewhere of Cardi B talking with a piano playing her vocal pitch and I swear every other comment was about how she had drugged and robbed someone. Obviously this is wrong but this kind of stuff doesn’t occupy the Reddit threads of all these other male artists, celebs, etc. who get posted and have done really bad things. It also reminds me that according to psychology there are fewer women with narcissistic personality disorder due to our social… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 04:35 PM |
| 30 | Never be a fangirl/stan/groupie for musicians, actors, or pro-athletes.My best boyfriend when I was younger was that person, he always invited me on his tours, was just a very hard-working musician and didn’t care for the parties. Sadly I then realized most of them were nothing like him. Definitely would echo what you say, especially with regards to frontmen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:53 PM |
| 52 | Never be a fangirl/stan/groupie for musicians, actors, or pro-athletes.I Worked as a musician some years ago and so dated a number of film composers when I moved to the US; they seemed more respectful than most of the rock boys. But they were actually much worse, wolf in sheep’s clothing, all of them had (likely) narcissistic personality disorder as explained by a therapist. It’s so sad because there are so many awesome female musicians and they can’t even bond with male musicians. I think Alanis Morrisette had pointed out that the music industry is long overdue fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:50 PM |
| 28 | Never be a fangirl/stan/groupie for musicians, actors, or pro-athletes.Wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:46 PM |
| 65 | Never be a fangirl/stan/groupie for musicians, actors, or pro-athletes.Just looked at his Instagram, the first videos I see of her are of him groping her and one where he boasts about ignoring her for his bonsais. This makes me sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:40 PM |
| 8 | This is really sad and honestly terrifyingThank you for your comment. These posts are really scary for those of us who would like children one day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 04:54 PM |
| 88 | Ummm...yes? And?I wonder who made this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 08:25 PM |
| 18 | I told a man he needed therapy last night.Not at all! I appreciate that we can discuss the nuances of it :) especially as actual trauma affects men and women differently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 05:52 PM |
| 36 | I told a man he needed therapy last night.Oh absolutely. In fact the man I dated with NPD claimed his ex-wife had a mental illness, took advantage of him etc. I naively believed it and made all sorts of excuses for him that led to my abuse; it was manipulation. Which is why OP was right to extricate herself :) I just wanted to comment on the comments making blanket statements about the time it takes to get over trauma. I know where it comes from because I’ve had friends tell me to “just get over it!”, I just wanted to add a nuance for a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 05:44 PM |
| 101 | I told a man he needed therapy last night.You were right to tell him to go to therapy, I’m not going to defend him as “let’s take it slow” is code red 🚩🚩 (along with other stuff you mentioned), but to the commenters all saying three years is enough time to get over something traumatizing: I dated a man with NPD two and a half years ago for 18 months, I’ve been going to therapy for a while because I have CPTSD from it and though I work very hard on myself, I still have panic attacks and trust issues connected to it. (Obviously we don’t k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 04:20 PM |
| 34 | I…am speechlessI have PCOS so this makes me particularly angry given how irregular periods will usually be and what a fraught relationship most of us have with all of it. I hope no one in the PCOS sub sees this because a lot of women in there are already super down on themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 05:13 AM |
| 4 | This is why I don't scroll through libfem subs. They always have to put other women down for wanting a special moment to be special.Absolutely! The best men I’ve been with were at times even more romantic than me. When I first got invited to a HV ex’s place for lunch, he had actually hand-written a very silly and cute menu of what he had made with fancy restaurant terms. It doesn’t even have to be grand expensive gestures. Life is short, make it special! This type of mocking of romantic gestures can be even more toxic for men who then get called names and have their sexuality questioned if they perform romance or appreciate … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 09:48 PM |
| 8 | This is why I don't scroll through libfem subs. They always have to put other women down for wanting a special moment to be special.It’s almost like they were given so little by an LVM, they want everyone else to be disappointed too. I think many of these people value affection and “having someone” at any cost over self-respect and boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 09:41 PM |
| 69 | Buddha supports FDSIt’s great that it teaches that, but sadly most Buddhist traditions also don’t believe in female leadership and won’t ordain women because of the belief that we can’t reach enlightenment.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:06 PM |
| 18 | Excellent reality check for older men who think they’re about to trade upWell I was too young to get married and genuinely thought I should explore sexuality, other men etc. In my country most people get married at much older. I also didn’t have a healthy attachment style then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:59 AM |
| 10 | “Promising Young Woman”Watched it early on with my boyfriend and he could barely watch it, couldn’t stand the violence towards women. It was a refreshing perspective that some people haven’t been totally desensitized. He had a similar reaction when we watched other more general violent stuff so I don’t think he was making it up to impress me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 01:01 AM |
| 28 | Excellent reality check for older men who think they’re about to trade upHe’s right. I left a HVM when I was 20 for “what was out there”.. what was out there was not good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 12:57 AM |
| 12 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...For having an OF | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 05:19 PM |
| 223 | Holy shit. I finally did it.The person you saw the other night while he was moping, is who he really is. The sweet kind person you first saw was a mask; that’s generallt how psychologists describe it. I was with someone who reacted in similar ways and I ended up with CPTSD. I really regret staying as long as I did. Get out early so you don’t have to deal with trauma later on! You did the right call. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 04:20 AM |
| 64 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Maybe send her the article about the woman who was fired from her ambulance job? It’s not fair but it will close a lot of doors for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:31 AM |
| 6 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyMy therapist told me narcissists come in many different flavours. For example, most are nothing like Trump if that was a worry haha. Some that I’ve met were originally sweet people and probably still would be if I had the right boundaries. It’s a spectrum really, but be careful with online tests, everyone has some degree of healthy narcissism we all need for survival; online tests might exaggerate these. Also, Many people who are targeted by narcissists will sometimes worry that they are actuall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:28 PM |
| 17 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyNeuro divergent here too. It’s true that we can’t change how our brain is wired, but, an inherent part of NPD is that it is practically impossible for those people to change their behaviours. We usually have the empathy to do so, they do not. So basically if we don’t change and set boundaries, people with NPD will mow us down. It sucks that the impetus is on us but I try to think of it as developing self-protection and survival skills rather than “changing” who I am. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyThere are some good books that have been recommended here and in the forum in general :) they were my starting point! I’d recommend some of mine but they were not in English. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:11 PM |
| 11 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyRe your last paragraph: There’s a pretty good book called Against Empathy by Paul Bloom which I recommend. Also have CPTSD and a similar path to you, the narcs absolutely want to take down everyone with them; my therapist told me sometimes the narc will wish for their partner to die of suicide when the relationship ends. We are opposites and our extreme isn’t good either, it’s just less destructive to the rest of society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:50 PM |
| 8 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyAs someone who has an NPD mother, part of my self-improvement (therapy was absolutely necessary as you pointed out) and healing journey was more recently developing more empathy for her. I never truly lacked it but I understand that she was put through it with her dad and this is how she survived. I think my dad was probably her supply and my stepdad who has stricter boundaries is a better match for her by virtue of that. I’m actually almost admirative as books on the topic tell me there are muc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:40 PM |
| 24 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyYep; the book Attached brings up that people who are avoidants (which NPD is on the same side of the spectrum to, just the far end), are also co-dependent and they can’t manage relationships with other avoidants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:20 PM |
| 26 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyThis was a really heavy and good read. I dated several men with NPD (per two therapists), I expect many of us here have because I suspect many of us here are limerents. My therapist introduced me to that concept a few months back and it is vital to find other ways to love. Healthy love. And to work on yourself to recognize the patterns we are in and exit them. Many people don’t love like we do, they see disrespect and they leave; their gut will tell them something is wrong and they won’t even en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:15 PM |
| 23 | Starting to Regret Getting TattooedEurope. A picture of me was actually in a big exhibit on tattooing in a very prestigious primitive art museum there. Tattooing really gained respect the past decade there as an art form and for its long history. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 06:56 AM |
| 40 | Starting to Regret Getting TattooedI am extensively tattooed with art from some of the best tattooers in the world, really unique stuff related to science and what I do—nothing remotely trashy. Since moving to the US it’s been made clear to me that tattoos are part of the “porn Imagery” and that’s why men will constantly proposition me out of the blue. I otherwise look pretty uptight so it’s completely wild to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 03:55 AM |
| 24 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyHe is one of only a few celebrities I truly cannot stand to see. The whole thing with Taylor Swift from beginning to end, trying to humiliate her in front of millions to making revenge porn of her, reeks of misogyny, entitlement and sadism. People gave her shit for talking about it years later but it’s clearly a major trauma in her life and like most of us who have been abused by narcs, there is always a point when no matter how successful you are, you seek their approval. Glad you clarified, Ir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:44 PM |
| 89 | Small wins!! OF to ban porn.One of the women’s subs had it in a list with Talibans taking over.. yes I’m sure the women in Afghanistan feel this is a very similar predicament🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 11:39 PM |
| 36 | "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft has a whole section describing the abuse tactics of softbois (Mr. Sensitive in the book)The men with NPD I dated were all Mr Sensitive.. it’s a fantastic cover. And it went exactly as described, I was always hurting his feelings with the most trivial comments. He once nearly broke up with me because he casually mentioned a study on saunas and I also casually told him I knew it and the methodology on it was bad because x and y. I work in science.. there were so many insane examples like this and of course I blamed myself. It took a therapist to tell me that although men like Trump a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Scrote who said "women aren't real" roasted by large youtuber w/ majority-male audienceA pickme and absent or abusive father most likely if it got to this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:48 PM |
| 64 | TW: rape, murder. I just saw this on TikTok and had to share. This is one of the worst and most shocking things I ever heard in my life. So vileYep. I always found it odd that nowadays you obviously can’t perpetrate those racist colonial ideas like “minority people have smaller brains” in most social circles but Google memo? Implying women aren’t as intelligent? Totally fine! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:36 PM |
| 41 | Scrote who said "women aren't real" roasted by large youtuber w/ majority-male audienceThis is important. Men need to rein in all these lunatics now because they sure as hell won’t listen to us. I firmly believe we’ve reached the limits of what we as women can change for ourselves in society until men really get involved and put a stop to this through social pressure. Honestly, someone needs to guide all the incels, redpillers, puas etc. away from these toxic communities whose sole purpose is to manipulate and hurt women, and teach them to do better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 09:06 AM |
| 88 | This is how you know the world is shifting to favor womenIt would be really nice if all these LVMs with their patriarchal delusions could just rise to the challenge of being kind, supportive partners. Our generations of women were told they needed to go out, study hard, get a job, manage your money, make a home, take care of yourself because "you're independent now!" all the while still being treated as inferior second-class citizens, but it seems all these LVMs never evolved past "I need a bangmaid". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 03:33 AM |
| 21 | "Activity dates are best for first dates because they enable you to get to know each other better and in a lower-stress manner": solid dating advice or liable to make women lower their standards?Yep, it's a great combo! Dietary restrictions especially: I've mentioned it a few times on here but boy has my veganism been a great filter. The worst guy I was ever with, who had narcissistic personality disorder, ordered a huge steak on our second date knowing I'd been vegan most of my adult life and done a lot of activism. It was literally a bloody red flag ha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 03:58 AM |
| 35 | "Activity dates are best for first dates because they enable you to get to know each other better and in a lower-stress manner": solid dating advice or liable to make women lower their standards?I’ve done an escape game as a date and I would say it’s a good vetting opportunity. You can judge someone’s ability to work as a team, their competitiveness, how they do under stress, how they react to a woman solving a problem they couldn’t etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 03:19 AM |
| 441 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑That’s the thing that always gets me. Redditors will talk on an on about double standards to the benefit of women, but if we pulled half the shit these men pull, we’d have no friends, no boyfriends, no jobs, and be considered antisocial narcissists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:06 PM |
| 26 | The "Rising Threat" of Incels - Daily MailRich of the Daily Fail to cover this given that their publication is all misogyny, racism and homophobia. I really wish people wouldn’t post them in here. They’re also not following basic guidelines to not post these monsters’ photos everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 12:46 AM |
| 16 | Just because you're young/inexperienced doesn't mean you don't know when something is wrong.I had relationships with two HVMs from my late teens to end of my twenties, I had great boundaries and they were amazing partners. In those years I walked away from so many LVMs. Then somehow I kept receiving the cultural message of "lower your standards!", "accept people's shortcomings" etc etc. and ended up dating men with personality disorders. Your post is 100% correct, many of us enter dating with some idea of boundaries. Don't absorb any of these skewed cultural messages constantly directe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 08:06 PM |
| 34 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaSeriously, and classic lovebombing. He sent the same message to a friend’s sister who asked me how I knew him.. idiot isn’t even careful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:36 AM |
| 44 | What's a Killer Supposed to Look Like? Matthew Taylor Coleman confessed to murdering his two children, and, of course, reports of the crime have to insist he was an otherwise good guyI find this kind of comment about killers and abusers extremely problematic. In fact I remember similar comments about Derek Chauvin. Most of them live normal lives among us, they have families, friends, jobs and all the rest. They aren’t Disney caricatures, cloaked in weird clothes, kicking babies and living in dark alleys. Some can even be helpful neighbors or volunteer for charities. The idea that this is the case makes women and people in general too trustworthy of “normal-looking” people. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:14 AM |
| 88 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaI would really recommend to anyone in a relationship to have at least one or two tagged shots. I discovered that a guy in my circle who overtly hit on me on socials has been hitting on tons of women I know; at one point he was sending me messages saying “I miss you!”, wtf I never even met him. I know he has a girlfriend and they live together but she isn’t tagged anywhere which is a shame as I would have messaged her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:47 AM |
| 105 | The audacity of a zero value manYou would think after the first, MAYBE second if you're generous they learn where babies come from and become more careful? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:09 AM |
| 18 | Don't be discouraged that you tolerated a LVMIf you're here you're leveling up and saying you want out. That is so powerful. My therapist told me some people will never break the cycle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:54 PM |
| 39 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.I read a lot of books on narcissistic personality disorder and many point out that some of these people are stuck at various ages from childhood to adolescence. The ones stuck at the youngest ages often have weird fetishes or hang ups about poop, normal bodily functions etc. This is a person with a personality disorder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:46 PM |
| 37 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.I honestly refuse to believe this is in a modern western country because surely people aren’t THAT backwards about women here, but I know it probably is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:40 PM |
| 19 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.One of the first things my parents taught me was don’t put your hands in the trash or dig through it because someone could have thrown away a needle or something sharp, contaminated etc. Because.. THAT’S WHAT A TRASH IS FOR! Psychopath. There’s no other word. The only super controlling man I dated also told me periods were gross and things like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:38 PM |
| 58 | I don't even know how to describe this, why are men the way they areInvited a guy over to get (..) slapped around a bit Shrieks in Robin Williams WHAT YEAR IS THIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:34 PM |
| 127 | When men talk about "the wall", they are inadvertently admitting that women are oppressed.This. Most women I know on OLD are very picky, because they know most men swipe right on anyone with a vagina without even reading your profile or even your name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:06 AM |
| 114 | Imagine needing pixels to get in the mood..Seriously, this is one of the saddest things I've read here. I can't imagine the psychological damage this is doing to her. They touch each other separately as foreplay... Please someone message her and tell her she deserves so much more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:03 AM |
| 7 | Extra vetting bulletpoints I wish my mama had taught meThank you for clarifying. I have the gene for cystic fibrosis (my sister and her husband had it which is rare so they did in-vitro) which I found out through 23andme; I was glad to know my partner doesn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:19 AM |
| 5 | I’m obsessed with the FDS podcast and I love listening to it while at the gym. Are there any other podcasts that are female centric and focus on leveling up personally, economically, socially, etc. ?Ah yes, she was highly recommended by my HVW therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 12:28 AM |
| 6 | I’m obsessed with the FDS podcast and I love listening to it while at the gym. Are there any other podcasts that are female centric and focus on leveling up personally, economically, socially, etc. ?I really enjoy therapist uncensored; I think it's a woman (?) and there was a good episode on narcissists with Dr Ramani. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 12:27 AM |
| 8 | Extra vetting bulletpoints I wish my mama had taught me5) If you plan on having children, consider genetic counseling. What is this exactly? Is it about genetic risks/history? Both my partners and I have done 23andme so I have a good idea on his genetics/propensity for illness from his parents etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 12:23 AM |
| 15 | Responses to “what are you looking for in a partner?” (OLD report)Obviously I don’t want a boring partner, no one does, so why do men feel the need to so blatantly verbalize this? Reminds me of once reading a cv dropped off at a job I was doing that said in hobbies they liked watching movies and music. Maybe I'm being harsh but doesn't everyone? I think a good reply would be "the same thing everyone looks for in a partner", it's vague enough that there's no way they can manipulate you or pretend to be x, y or z. And honestly, I'm sure we're all looking for the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:52 AM |
| 55 | Scrote goes to brothel and gets serviced by his obviously miserable friend. Reports on reddit for awards and mostly pats on the back.They told me to choose a girl but I told them it does not matter Faaaakkkkkkeeee. I'm not usually one to doubt convoluted stories, but this one is fake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:41 AM |
| 18 | An analyzation of age-gap relationships and overcoming pickmeism through Taylor Swift's cinematic music.Ah when my two interests intersect! Thank you so much for this post!! Her lyrics have always struck me as some of the most real and analytical about relationships out there. I dated at least two men with NPD and much of what she described in those lyrics are tell-tale signs of narcissism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:37 AM |
| 31 | Gave me a good giggleI got a job as a double for one of the most famous beautiful women in the world shortly after a narc ex dumped me. Explaining why I was busy when he hit me up still makes me laugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:48 PM |
| 33 | FDS hits The Guardian 🥳: ‘Sales funnels’ and high-value men: the rise of strategic dating’It’s funny years ago, a female coach I met after dating some emotionally abusive guy told me I needed to treat finding a partner like a job hunt. At the time I thought “right, I need to better myself, put more effort etc.”, but now I realize, it’s a job hunt where you are the employer vetting candidates; my mistake was thinking of myself as the candidate. And that’s what leads to pickme mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:35 PM |
| 9 | FDS hits The Guardian 🥳: ‘Sales funnels’ and high-value men: the rise of strategic dating’I really appreciate mainstream media not denigrating something that hundreds of thousands of women are into for once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:31 PM |
| 22 | Angela Tremonte hiking death/vetting scrotes.I would have thought at least the traditional religious guys would want to provide and get you lunch, an ice cream or something given what they expect of women? It really is a lose-lose with those people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:03 AM |
| 12 | 😭😂 If you need any further motivation to delete those dating appsI just made a necklace with a little vial of black lava powder from the new Icelandic volcano. This is never going to leave me XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:56 AM |
| 774 | Saw this little gem on Instagram today....Men have no idea the trouble we go through to be polite, friendly while always aware that they could become violent. Literally not the faintest idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:19 AM |
| 34 | He really thought he did somethingSchrödinger's woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:22 PM |
| 16 | You can’t be treated like a king if you can’t act like a kingThis is actually very uplifting and useful for me to reinforce why I believe I should be treated extremely well (which isn't to say anyone should be treated poorly if they don't have the following). I work extremely hard at several prestigious careers that are freelance and require independent thinking and motivation, I speak several languages, take great care of myself, have curated an excellent group of intelligent and supportive friends, have gone to therapy to figure out things I had trouble… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:15 PM |
| 15 | Yet another example of emotional abuse when girls under 20 get groomed and marry older men with significant age gaps. This husband threatens to cheat when he doesn’t get what he wants with his young wife. They have 2 kids…I’ve mentioned it before because I was in an emotionally abusive relationship but this woman needs support and to hear repeatedly that she is worth better. In the thick of it, I had people tell me I was an idiot for staying with him and it destroyed what little self-esteem I had left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:16 PM |
| 113 | Dated an awful NVM, now a billionaire.. You can level up from your pickme days!Agreed, although it does seem some female billionaires are doing good with their money like Mackenzie Scott. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:28 AM |
| 8 | Mere MINUTES after a particular toxic male subreddit was banned, scrotes in another male subreddit are planning to infiltrate and brigade FDS 🤡Saying you want men to be respectful and generous partners is totally the same as saying you want to abuse and harm women amirite! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:17 PM |
| 28 | Quick safety tips following the banThey can finally truly go their own way; away from us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:02 PM |
| 138 | 97% of modern birds do not have penises because of female bird choice!Look up the bowerbird (pictured here), they actually make a collection of objects outside the nest to present to a mate; and they’re just birds. He can buy you dinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:31 PM |
| 2 | You Have Heard About High Value Women, But Do You Know About High Agency Women?I love this, thank you for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 05:57 AM |
| 99 | He at least cleaned his shit stainsA former flatmate of mine married a guy who would come to our place and leave giant marks in our toilet weekly. My other flatmates and I were so tired of it but could never muster the courage to say anything. Over a decade later and I still wonder if she ever cracked down on that.. no pun intended! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 05:50 AM |
| 23 | Was Adam from the Bible a 50/50 🤡?Our entertainment fiction has been misogynistic long before Hollywood! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 05:44 AM |
| 16 | John Lennon was a horrible man.I cannot handle how horribly Picasso treated women. Being French there’s always some exhibit of his stuff, some romanticized documentary, his stuff is everywhere and it makes me ill. But, I think and hope things are changing more and more. I saw some article about Ryan Adams wanting to make a comeback the other day; it was a fb post from some news outlet and everyone was coming down hard on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 09:30 PM |
| 31 | No she did not! 🤣 Bow down to the Queen!I've noticed LVMs always have a great sense of timing: breaking up with you right before Christmas; telling you they're cheating right before Valentine's; contacting you years later on your birthday.. Last autumn/winter I got emails from sociopaths I'd dated on every major holiday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:52 PM |
| 2 | I'm a blunt woman. If a man asks me out anywhere I say "Sure! But I'm not paying!"I think if you're going on as many dates as OP has, it's totally fair to want to at least not make it a horrible time you had to pay for; save yourself an awkward disappointment on end. I think back about dates with really LV guys that I also paid for with immense bitterness, not least of which given how much time/money I invest in looking good. I feel more neutral about ones where the guy at least had the courtesy to invite me, they didn't pour salt in the wound even if they maybe weren't good … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 05:15 AM |
| 16 | I know this is a buzzfeed article, but when it crossed my feed today I clicked out of pure disbelief. Since when is not wanting your children's father to potentially die in a space crash "hormonal" and "selfish"?Wow, she looks amazing and is hilarious. The Tommy Lee segment is so bad... all the jokes are about her appearance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 11:06 PM |
| 9 | I know this is a buzzfeed article, but when it crossed my feed today I clicked out of pure disbelief. Since when is not wanting your children's father to potentially die in a space crash "hormonal" and "selfish"?The rest of the article seems to say that is the case... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 10:58 PM |
| 29 | I know this is a buzzfeed article, but when it crossed my feed today I clicked out of pure disbelief. Since when is not wanting your children's father to potentially die in a space crash "hormonal" and "selfish"?My mom used to be very upset that my dad would take me on heli rides as a kid through his job. I don't blame her or Mila at ALL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 10:57 PM |
| 86 | Angry scrote literally admits that only 25% of men are dateable and women aren’t settling. Proceeds to get roasted by one of our queens 😂You jerk it to Joe Rogan I DIED. I love her, her laugh is so unapologetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 10:46 PM |
| 6 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..I’ve always shared feminist stuff on socials, and looking back most of it was fairly digestible content that most people around me approved of; Stuff about sexual harassment, health, libfem etc. Since finding FDS I’ve been sharing stuff that makes me more “unlikeable” like porn is terrible, stuff about dating, and it’s felt like an important step to move the conversation forward. I can tell many women agree and occasionally will test the waters with sheepish comments. Having these conversations … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 04:05 PM |
| 6 | Say NO to bonding over past traumaI’m guilty of it, not on a first date kind of thing but in the relationship. My current partner has never been in a relationship with anyone with deep trauma it seems, or dated a narc-type (we spoke about it) and I felt the need to explain why certain things might panic me so he understands it might not be about him. For example: the narcs I dated would essentially dump me, sometimes out of the blue by text, if we ever had the slightest disagreement/argument about something trivial. It’s led to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 03:42 PM |
| 50 | POV - you’re talking to your ex-boyfriend - steezygarlicbread on TikTokReminds me of a narc ex of mine who could flip any conversation into him being victimized. He was once bemoaning grocery stores not delivering Christmas trees and his car not being big enough. I suggested he buy a nice re-usable one, and that it might even be more eco-friendly; I enthusiastically told him about a really beautiful one my family got. The next DAY I got woken up to texts about how I implied that what he was doing was bad for the planet and how rude that was, linking me articles abo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 05:35 PM |
| 44 | GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"Dudes I’ve been with have pretended to stop smoking, go vegan, learn French, be runners.. it’s honestly amazing the lies that LVMs will happily entertain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:18 AM |
| 8 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingI’m glad she got out at least. I really hope she’ll find someone better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:24 PM |
| 81 | Times I should have left my fianceThat money was an investment for your future well-being and sanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Toxic femininity. What's your take on this?Someone put it up in Urban Dictionary! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 11:23 PM |
| 40 | Activision Blizzard, publisher of video game titles Call of Duty, World of Warcraft, and Overwatch, is accused of unequal pay, promoting men over women, and widespread sexual harassment.I worked for two of the major game developers. Total shitshow in those industries. I actually filed a complaint with HR after I left one of them; I was basically hazed after I started working for one of them, this despite my long-time partner being a manager there. Can't imagine what they did to other people but the environment was pretty toxic. At the other one, one guy proudly told me the guys had made a list of how fuckable all the women were there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 11:16 PM |
| 10 | fr.Barbara! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 11:14 PM |
| 22 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!You are right that Christianity in its beginnings was considered a highly feminist perspective; I saw a very good documentary on how early Christians were the first to advocate treating your wife kindly etc. What I have seen since moving to the US—coming from one of the most atheist countries—with regards to religion has not continued that trend. US culture seems deeply entrenched with patriarchal structure and an overreaction to it through mass pornography, sex/hookup culture, dating apps etc. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 11:11 PM |
| 66 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!Yeah every time I hear "bUt BoTh PaRtIeS aRe ThE sAmE" it reeks of male privilege; policy improvements on maternity leave, healthcare, reproductive choices, pay equality, domestic violence etc. are VASTLY different under progressives and conservatives. But I will say when I saw many of the left wing in the US (I'm a dual citizen) reject and scorn a highly qualified female presidential candidate in favour of a lunatic, I realized we have a lot of misogyny problems on our side as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 11:02 PM |
| 36 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!I know most people on reddit are in the US but I'm French and most conservatives here are fine with abortion (we've had it enshrined in law for nearly half-a-century), it's just not really an issue for us, or honestly most of Europe bar the occasional attempt by some fringe religious group to have it discussed. I don't even see the point in discussing it because it's such a fundamental thing: women should have access to their own bodies and reproductive choices. There are many international issu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:56 PM |
| 5 | Scrote SignalingThank you! I didn't; honestly, I didn't know what to do other than get away on the train as fast as I could. I didn't want this guy to also ruin my evening and the big party I was going to by having to stay there on my own waiting for someone to come. But in retrospect I should have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:30 PM |
| 67 | Scrote SignalingA guy jacked off in front of me on a train platform when I was 17. I still remember almost every detail. Screw anyone who thinks this is a benign thing to experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 11:56 PM |
| 31 | Yet another LV take: “Ryan Reynolds Revealed He ‘Begged’ Blake Lively To Sleep With Him When They First Started Dating And Admitted She’s A ‘Much Better’ Parent Than He Is”Good for them for quitting; I’m sure their skills would be worth way more elsewhere. I’m in the process of quitting some of my modeling/ acting gigs there. I’ve done pretty well but the environment is draining, the money is not what people imagine it to be, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 10:38 PM |
| 4 | Reminder: Losing friends and becoming unhappy at work are potential side effects of finding FDSThank you so much 💕 my recent partner was actually the one who a few months ago said “this guy doesn’t seem to value you, he’s not paying you enough”, and I realized I’d started purging friendships and romantic partners after finding FDS but not work partners. Thank you for your encouragement and post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 10:34 PM |
| 10 | Tonight’s ‘The Bachelorette’I met a model two years ago who was tapped to be on the Bachelorette and was so incredibly boring and superficial. Several of the men on there are just aspiring actor/model guys. Fun story: He later contacted me on Instagram offering a “project” for me, which was actually to marry him so he could have a green card.. I had met this guy twice on these random jobs during which he hadn’t even asked anything about me. I then joked in a libfem women’s group that now not only do they fuckzone us, they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 10:21 PM |
| 11 | Reminder: Losing friends and becoming unhappy at work are potential side effects of finding FDSI recently realized I still had an LVM around.. whom I was working for and who was drastically underpaying me. I diplomatically asked for a raise, which I could have just imposed on him as a contractor, offered to negotiate something that could work for both of us, and he fired me. Two months prior he was calling me family and saying I could take over his company when he retired 🤣 it made me very sad but you and FDS are right, I know I’ll find better and that I’m just purging the rubbish from my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 10:12 PM |
| 94 | Yet another LV take: “Ryan Reynolds Revealed He ‘Begged’ Blake Lively To Sleep With Him When They First Started Dating And Admitted She’s A ‘Much Better’ Parent Than He Is”Honestly, it sucks but I don’t totally blame the women who didn’t come out. A) it’ll overshadow your career achievements; b) you’ve probably worked your whole life towards accomplishing this quasi-impossible goal of being a famous actor; c) Hollywood is super tight knit and other producers may never hire you; d) You’ll face scrutiny, insults and harassment on all your social media internationally. Rapists and abusers have a well-oiled machine. Especially in those industries where you are depende… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 10:08 PM |
| 53 | Yet another LV take: “Ryan Reynolds Revealed He ‘Begged’ Blake Lively To Sleep With Him When They First Started Dating And Admitted She’s A ‘Much Better’ Parent Than He Is”I imagine she’s plagued by NVMs pretending to be Mr perfect. Relationships are really rough for ultra-famous desirable women like her. I hope her SNL guy is a good egg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 10:02 PM |
| 40 | Yessssssss Queen!“She is my fucktoy!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 09:52 PM |
| 87 | How Media Grooms Women Into Hookup CultureAs you all know, most of these shows are written and directed by men. Writing, producing, lighting.. I work on sets occasionally and it’s 90% men. They have been deciding our cultural narratives and shaping our entire lives; media is an even bigger influence than parents or environment. This is a concrete example of the patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 09:49 PM |
| 2 | Just watched Black Widow.. We should make something better than the Bechdel test to rate movies.Thanks for linking; Is it good? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 02:21 PM |
| 30 | Just watched Black Widow.. We should make something better than the Bechdel test to rate movies.That line about little girls hit so hard. The end to me opens a discussion on all those girls and how to free them. There were no laughs in my theater throughout and I actually feel it wasn’t very humorous, but I’m European so maybe different context. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 08:18 PM |
| 25 | Just watched Black Widow.. We should make something better than the Bechdel test to rate movies.Thank you for linking that nice article! . In one of the first scenes in which the adult version of Natasha is shown on screen, she dumps her form-fitting Black Widow suit and dons baggy sweatpants and a puffy winter coat I totally missed that, but there’s a video out there about Scarjo being asked repeatedly about the Avengers outfit and whether she wears underwear underneath. It’s revolting. I actually tried on the real Batwoman outfit worn by Ruby Rose for a double job and those costumes are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 08:17 PM |
| 36 | Just watched Black Widow.. We should make something better than the Bechdel test to rate movies.Thanks for your perspective! I’ll admit I didn’t think it was a great movie but for a Marvel, it was ok and for an action hero pretty good—i think filmmakers are still testing the waters with female superheroes. I also haven’t seen the main Avengers movie (only the last one) so I don’t know her backstory. I guess my bar is so low and I’ve seen so much horrible stuff in film (and do some acting work in the industry, the castings are truly horrible..) that some stuff I may have not noticed. I was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 05:59 PM |
| 7 | Crowns- thought I'd share thisI have the same issue with a friend who has called women dating her ex sluts and it makes me very uncomfortable. Now I just change the topic or completely ignore what she said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 05:12 PM |
| 16 | Difference between a great man and a garbageSome people are completely irredeemable. I used to have so much hope that anyone who treated me/others poorly could be shown morality and change their ways; FDS finally helped me realize I should stop wasting my time with those people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 05:10 PM |
| 18 | If he is capable of making small misogynistic comments, he is capable of doing way worse things, tooI'm so sorry that happened to you. You're right, it isn't even just about looks. Confident successful ambitious women get cut down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:35 PM |
| 25 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …I guess at least she's doing something.. Stories on here of moms who are complacent about their son's awful behaviour towards women always irk me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:33 PM |
| 15 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …You seriously dodged a bullet. Amongst all the hurt and heartache we all share on here, is the serious luck we have that we got out or are planning on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 03:02 PM |
| 24 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …What did his mom say?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 02:50 PM |
| 83 | If he is capable of making small misogynistic comments, he is capable of doing way worse things, tooThis not stopping for a hot woman thing is insane. I mentioned in another thread, I work as a model and my life is full of interactions with men who think I get this fantasized “pussy pass” and actively make my life harder. “Oh she probably thinks we’ll give her her black belt more easily because she’s hot, so you better be way better than everyone else”, “oh you think I’ll let you return this damaged item but you’re probably used to getting your way and damaged it after purchase”.. Absolutely f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:40 PM |
| 24 | To the ladies who say FDS is "hot girl strategy"I wasn’t “hot” until my mid-twenties, had untreated PCOS (pimples, was two sizes bigger), and my style was a bit off-kilter so I have somewhat of a comparison. The difference is now I attract every creep ten miles around, some of whom pretend to be radically different people to get in with me, or I’ll find out later they had a girlfriend.. I get harassed in the streets, harassed online when I appear in things in jeans and a hoodie, I can’t give my number to men even in a professional capacity. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 09:43 AM |
| 79 | To the ladies who say FDS is "hot girl strategy"I work as a model, and have another very respected career. Guys tell me constantly I’m their “dream girl”.. they still treat me like shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 09:09 PM |
| 12 | My best friend's BF dumped her on the day she got a PROMOTION!Thé guy I was seeing dumped me by email when I got my MSc and I politely mentioned that he forgot to ask me if I passed. Later found out through people who knew him he’d been diagnosed with something akin to psychopathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 10:13 AM |
| 229 | Porn isn't hot.Seriously.. I really miss sexy and there being room for imagination. Remember music videos like Wicked Game? Now everything is LOOK AT MY GENITALS AHHHHH!! There’s a TED talk about how terrible porn is that discusses how hands seem to be missing from porn. People aren’t even shown caressing each other anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 08:59 AM |
| 11 | Vetting men also means vetting ourselvesI’ve always been pretty outspoken and assertive and not passive aggressive at all. Now I have this whole mind space where I realized he made me passive aggressive by essentially making me walk on eggshells because of his hurt ego, and now I’m trying to unlearn this behavior that I’m afraid of taking into the next relationship. I have the same issue from dating narcs who felt attacked by the slightest thing. I'm talking politely asking to put on the vent when cooking smelly fish... I'm very sensi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 06:24 PM |
| 9 | Vetting men also means vetting ourselvesIt took time for me to realize that my new partner wasn’t a jerk Recovering from five years of dating a variety of Narcs, sociopaths etc. (per a therapist and their friends, not just my diagnosis)., this has been really hard for me too. My current partner who had been a friend for a long time never lovebombed me and my brain just thought "ok, he's not into you, move on", when he was just being "normal" and still compliments me on occasion. He's not a big texter, and that was a big thing with the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 06:06 PM |
| 21 | I don’t know if you’ve guys have seen this account. But it’s literally just the husband “simping” over his wife even after 24 years of marriage. And I’m down for it, it’s so bloody cute.Turns out being kind to your partner isn’t just kind for them, it makes you feel nice too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:35 PM |
| 187 | How scrotes treat “The One that Got Away”My therapist told me that for some people with narcissistic personality disorder, they often wish for the partner to die if ever they break up. So, it checks out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 11:54 PM |
| 6 | Imagine your boyfriend telling you he won’t hesitate to hit you because he’s afraid you’re a psycho...I’m so sorry you went through this and I hope you can find healing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 10:31 AM |
| 12 | It’s Important To Have GoalsJesus. Hearing about Taylor Swift’s stalkers was always humbling and that sounds awful too. Celebrity is an NVM magnet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 10:30 AM |
| 254 | It’s Important To Have GoalsI feel like media always portrays these situations as “what a lonely life!” when in reality she probably has friends, family etc. and if not and she wants to be alone that’s her choice and also ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 11:37 PM |
| 29 | Imagine your boyfriend telling you he won’t hesitate to hit you because he’s afraid you’re a psycho...I dated a guy who proudly told me he would hit his kids if necessary.. oh, and that any scientific evidence that’s come out recently against corporal punishment is just woowoo psychology 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 10:55 PM |
| 78 | Why I don't feel empathy for unattractive menI worked with him and he was indeed very nice! Spoke to everyone on set etc. Can’t say the same for half the men I met on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 09:34 AM |
| 9 | Covert NarcissistI dated several narcs (and a sociopath!), I just want to tell you it gets better with time; I remember that pain but it will subside, I promise you. Especially since you are taking the right steps and getting therapy, EMDR, etc. I did move continents after a relationship with one of them, and while it is important to now focus on what you want and find things to look forward to, I went straight back to dating another one (but I didn’t yet have the awareness you have and I moved from Europe so th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 09:20 AM |
| 88 | If you are allergic to accountability or you call it "mean" or "making fun of someone" you don't belong on FDSYes! Just like there’s occasional confusion with HVM being good-looking and successful, the same applies to being a HVW. It’s not about how much money you make or how perfect your style is, but the work you put in to better yourself and learn from mistakes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 10:03 PM |
| 5 | With no disrespect to other religions, I do NOT get this. At all. It’s a no from meEven better: just come here and find us, she seems to enjoy women's company! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 10:29 PM |
| 27 | Why do (straight) men try so hard to appeal to the male gaze on dating apps?These are the tourists who then fill reddit with how rude we Parisians are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 01:22 PM |
| 17 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.I’m French so cooking and having people over is pretty important for us. It wasn’t the first date but I wouldn’t do it for a non-boyfriend anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 09:48 AM |
| 30 | Why do (straight) men try so hard to appeal to the male gaze on dating apps?I’m in the US but from Paris, at one point I saw a number of men posing next to the Eiffel Tower with their butts out.. I’m in one of the biggest US cities, so I’m not sure how they wouldn’t even think there might be European women on these platforms? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 09:45 AM |
| 27 | Young celebrities, their boyfriends, age gap relationships, and the cultural impactbecause she feeds the toxicity off of her relationships to write her songs. This is confusing to me. I write songs and it's an outlet. In fact she used to always get shit for blaming the guy in many of her songs. There's a few in which she takes ownership for fucking up (Back to December), and one where she straight up calls John Mayer an abuser (Dear John). Several of her songs like Blank Space even make fun of narratives about women being crazy etc. Sure there's sappy romance songs but I feel … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 12:30 AM |
| 34 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.Because they cannot face ANY consequence for anything they do. Even an angry text back would be too much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 12:05 AM |
| 70 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.I once made dinner for a guy who didn't show up and just stopped texting like yours after saying he'd be late. Weeks later I bumped into him and he acted like nothing happened and said I should write an article about him in the prestigious music magazine I used to work for. Pure delusion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 12:05 AM |
| 11 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.Lady, L.A. is just awful, I'm so sorry, you must have been so hurt, and I wish I could have taken you out for a fun time. You are right, I have given second chances to several men who cancelled on date #1 over the years and it was always a mistake. They get one chance and that's already too many. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 12:00 AM |
| 39 | The amount of times Incels have misunderstood my kindness for flirting 🤮Honestly, maybe it’s a generational thing but I haven’t had that experience back home as much; a romantic thing is clearly an invite to a dinner in a nice place. In fact yesterday I had lunch with an old friend who used to be into me (and I was too but nothing happened) and we had a really productive lunch discussing future professional projects. He’s gotten me great job opportunities in the past. But you’re right, it might be the less brazen thing. Which I feel at least I’m not put on the spot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 04:38 PM |
| 110 | The amount of times Incels have misunderstood my kindness for flirting 🤮Or when you want to make friends and wind up on a date without realizing it. As a European, this is my and my other European lady friends' constant experience in the US. Different codes I guess but it just seems impossible to befriend men in the US, which is also a big impediment to networking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 03:19 PM |
| 128 | YOU COULD GIVE A MAN YOUR KIDNEY AND HE COULD STILL CHEAT ON YOU. WAKE TF UP SISCan confirm, my stepmom gave my dad a kidney after being together about twenty years. And I still think that was a REALLY big gift. And she was 65, not 25. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 09:14 AM |
| 1 | For folks you ended up dating the hvm, how did you guys meet. I don’t want to get into OLD - had the worst experience last year.One I met through a band's online forum (This was in early 2000s)/we had mutual friends. Another at a science conference and we became friends; amusingly he actually saw me on OLD but I never saw his profile so he assumed I wasn't interested. But I also met LVMs in similar circumstances. This question gets asked here a lot, it's the million-dollar question.. and the truth is there isn't much of a recipe other than having good boundaries which means the LVMs won't stick around much and will leave… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 12:42 AM |
| 44 | My most unexpected hilariously positive dateThis is so cute! I met guys like that when I was a teenager and I still remember those times we spent together too, because they felt genuine. One guy bought me concert tickets to a band I love just so he could see me a bit (he lived pretty far away and would come into town for it) and also sent me a nice letter and mixtapes; he never expected anything out of me. More positive experiences in here please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 12:33 AM |
| 9 | Accountability for Pickmeisha actionsI fully agree. My flatmate is both a pickme and an asshole. When she was assaulted on a date with a guy who comes to the art studio in our building I was attentive and supportive, I asked her to report it because it seems likely he did it to other women in that studio—and my other female flatmate and I live there! She refused and insulted me, called me “not a real feminist” because I mentioned that she had been bothered by someone without further detail to the owner of the studio. I understand t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 04:11 PM |
| 7 | The Incels are DeCLaRiNg WaR on Us Again 🙄😒It might not be haha, the lava was really hard to drill :p | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 09:27 AM |
| 4 | The Incels are DeCLaRiNg WaR on Us Again 🙄😒Thank you! One of them is for my therapist 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 09:26 AM |
| 193 | She is free!!🙌French here. I had a hard time finding articles about her the other day but essentially the mom enabled this horror. After her daughter was raped by her own husband as a kid, convicted, and sent to jail, the mom would take the daughter to visit him in jail and then let him come back to live with him. (The husband then left her for her daughter). Never forget that pickmes and lack of boundaries can destroy other women’s lives. He had already raped his own sister, terrorized is siblings, pushed hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 12:22 AM |
| 45 | The Incels are DeCLaRiNg WaR on Us Again 🙄😒Just mounted some fresh lava I got in Iceland on a stand. They look amazing and it was a lot of work! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 08:27 PM |
| 16 | I Love You, But I Love Me More - MarinaWomen love too early, and men love too late Damn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 09:57 PM |
| 5 | Antoni Porowski.Can we have a Cumberbatch post one day? Him and his wife seem very high-value and he is so HANDSOME!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 09:49 PM |
| 9 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 16 - Walk Dates are For Dogs - (feat. Viral Tik Tok Star @Kokobeaute)French here, and most people I know are like that with checks too. Fully agree with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 09:45 PM |
| 5 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 16 - Walk Dates are For Dogs - (feat. Viral Tik Tok Star @Kokobeaute)Who here wants to waste their time having dinner with a terrible date for a meal? Not many. Instead we've all been forced into it numerous times and on occasion, to add insult to injury the guy wanted to split, wasting our time and money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 09:41 PM |
| 5 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!The job I did with him had nothing to do with her, we worked on a soccer training camp. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 04:28 PM |
| 354 | Dr. Jess just out there spewing straight facts as usual.It’s cute how he thinks “ugly” women don’t experience male violence. That last one is some serious trump and Ivanka vibes, yuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 10:33 AM |
| 18 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!I worked with him two years ago on a sports and charity project and he seemed kind and normal. Actor type sure but as far as LA people go he seemed fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 10:18 AM |
| 7 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!I worked with her boyfriend two years ago and he seemed very kind and normal; similar to most fitness influencers. I’m glad she at least has that support system. Edit: I see some speculations on here about him being paid off and I’m not sure where this is coming from? Aren’t we usually in favor of men who at the very least take care of themselves and seem (obviously we’ll never truly know) to support their partner? She has spoken about being able to make her own choices and so I think we should … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 10:14 AM |
| 3 | Please, sign this petition!! https://t.co/vtYfrSVCGT?amp=1On the surface, at first I thought it was the opposite but then I realized how insidious and covert it all is in the US. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Texting all day is low value.Thank you for this good tip! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 10:17 PM |
| 13 | Please, sign this petition!! https://t.co/vtYfrSVCGT?amp=1Worse in the US. Dating especially is soo much worse and since many men won’t befriend women in the US it screws you for networking and career stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 11:02 PM |
| 7 | Texting all day is low value.This is a great post and I've been fallen into the text lovebomb several times. Someone I befriended recently started texting me page-long texts; it was nice to get to know him but I actually felt weird about these texts and they were way time-consuming. I was leaving the country for a while so I found a way out of it but I'm sure it'll start again when I'm back. Do you have any advice on how to change that dynamic politely? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 09:40 PM |
| 38 | Please, sign this petition!! https://t.co/vtYfrSVCGT?amp=1French living in the US now and I find society as a whole much worse for women here. Most of the world treats women as second-class citizens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 04:03 PM |
| 37 | Please, sign this petition!! https://t.co/vtYfrSVCGT?amp=1You need to add that she was pardoned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 04:00 PM |
| 13 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupSome LVMs have, some haven’t. In the past I would have replied, now I follow FDS guidelines and ignored the latest ones. Your attention is what they want, don’t give them a shred. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:23 PM |
| 11 | If you must use OLD, then whatever you do please just stop using Bumble.Years ago when I tried OLD, I looked up comparisons between them and it said that if you were tired of men taking no initiative, bumble made it even worse. Sure enough, I met dozens of men from tinder and Okcupid, never a single one from bumble. You’d think I was borderline bothering them by messaging! One actually paid to prolong the match because I was away and hasn’t seen it within 24h.. and then never replied to my message. Dahell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 06:23 PM |
| 1 | « In 2019, 65% of women reported only being attracted to men, a notable decrease from 77% in 2011 »Global resistance to roles imposed on women. It’s in the article. The stories shared on FDS are I would say a symptom of all this bullshit and bare minimum we will no longer accept from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Staying objective by journaling your relationshipThis is a great post, thank you. I was actually just making notes on the good and bad of a trip I took with my new partner to go over it with my therapist. If you have a forgiving nature, which is most of us in this sub, keeping score is actually a good thing for boundaries and vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 04:51 PM |
| 5 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)Yes! From what I’ve seen amongst the older generation, most men who lose their partner find another partner, whereas many women who have lost their partner seem to go on fine on their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 01:18 PM |
| 3 | I have no wordsRarely do posts in here elicit a big reaction because I’ve seen and heard it all but I holyshitted out loud here in an airport. Imagine the years of abuse and conditioning this poor woman received to just be mildly upset about this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:53 AM |
| 3 | Sailor Moon has so many high value women and friendshipsThere’s also a 2-part movie on Netflix. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 05:59 PM |
| 4 | Scientific American: Narcissists Score Highly in Popularity early on, but tend show dramatic decline in 4 months due to narcissistic rivalry (antagonistic self - protection behaviors)Yep, and that’s the thing with narcs, Nvms etc. we stick around thinking the first version is who they were but exactly as psychology describes it’s a mask, that person doesn’t exist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 05:56 PM |
| 26 | Scientific American: Narcissists Score Highly in Popularity early on, but tend show dramatic decline in 4 months due to narcissistic rivalry (antagonistic self - protection behaviors)I mentioned dating two of them. We met online and these platforms definitely enable them; there are bound to be a higher percentage of them on those apps than in general population. Both acted very normal and HV at first. They know how to present and hook you, which is why I will never return on the apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:45 AM |
| 42 | Scientific American: Narcissists Score Highly in Popularity early on, but tend show dramatic decline in 4 months due to narcissistic rivalry (antagonistic self - protection behaviors)I dated two men whom a therapist said exhibited tell-tale signs of NPD. Both dumped me by text out of the blue three months in (before crawling back and doing the back-and-forth breakup dance as soon as something displeased them). These people live in a constant need of being wanted and desired, so they throw you away because the return and reconciliation is euphoric to them; for us we’re just trauma-bonding. At least I learnt from the first one and cut the second one loose after four months. Yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:40 AM |
| 28 | Sailor Moon has so many high value women and friendshipsDon't forget when Rini comes back from the future and is strangely obsessed with her dad Darien Yeah, I think everyone in the fandom has always hated this narrative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 02:00 AM |
| 33 | Sailor Moon has so many high value women and friendshipsI would really recommend reading the manga. I got into it in the nineties and still re-read them at times; they are in turns romantic, dark, mature and have nice cultural insights about Japan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 09:38 PM |
| 22 | Sailor Moon has so many high value women and friendshipsInteresting! Mine are the French copies from the 90s and.. there was definitely some wonky translation in parts haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 09:00 PM |
| 23 | Sailor Moon has so many high value women and friendshipsAwwww, it makes me so happy to hear younger people get into it now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 08:54 PM |
| 46 | Sailor Moon has so many high value women and friendshipsThe original manga is amazing if you get your hands on it! There are a few copies of it online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 08:53 PM |
| 12 | It's 100% not your faultThey have absolutely no understanding of the methods of coercion and the expectations of servitude women live under. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 01:20 AM |
| 157 | Ask a man which gender child he wants and dig WHY, not for the gold ya lurking scrotes 😅You'll find why he wants a girl if that is so, and if the reason is similar run in the other direction ladies🏃 That's dad duties reassigned🤡💩& a cheap💍 will buy him 2 slaves🤮👿At 5???! This is horrible. I'm so sorry you went through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 09:25 PM |
| 3 | When the most basic requirement is exhausting.I give words of affirmation to my partner ALL THE TIME and he does too, because we're on the same team and the world can be a hard demoralizing place; we all need motivation daily. If you're on social media you've probably scrolled once during the day so it takes one second of absent-minded scrolling to like. If being loving is a chore for him, perhaps he should try being single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 12:25 AM |
| 76 | 👇What is entirely absent from Regnerus’s male-centric argument is the fact that women, having gained power economically and politically, now have a real say in our fate. YES! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 11:53 PM |
| 9 | Cruella has to be the most FDS thing Disney has ever madeThe baby chicks die instantly and are saved a life of suffering, unlike their sisters. The female chickens have it worse. There are fates far worse than death, especially a painless one that takes less than one second. I gave you one example but there are many others, baby cows kept in tiny enclosures they can't turn around for veal. Animals forced to lived piled on top of each other and live in their own filth. I don't understand why you acknowledge one form of suffering but all others are "pai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:50 PM |
| 9 | Cruella has to be the most FDS thing Disney has ever madeBecause we talk about things in our life in FDS and the poster above was very antagonistic and invited this conversation? Jesus, we already have half of the Reddit manosphere shitting on veganism, can we have one space where people are respectful of all the vegan ladies? No one is asking you to eat vegan. We’re asking you to respect it. Plenty of respected leaders and thinkers across the world aren’t vegan but commend it. No one has been ignorant towards you or asked you to go vegan here so I’m … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:12 PM |
| 13 | The audacity!I weep for the women who enter into these things thinking that maybe they’ll become his number one ans hell stop seeing other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:42 AM |
| 27 | The audacity!Yeah, I have never met a woman with a forever-boyfriend she didn’t really care for but was keeping around for years just for sex and whatever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:40 AM |
| 24 | Cruella has to be the most FDS thing Disney has ever madeI appreciate how these may seem different but Both are done for pleasure nowadays, and involve similar methods. Baby male chicks are ground alive for the egg industry, which is as sad as skinning animals for fur. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 07:33 AM |
| 50 | I have no wordsYeah, who calls their mom on their spouse? Dafuq? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 12:08 AM |
| 2 | Always be skeptical of men's relationship woes on Reddit. When my ex persuaded me to do poly so that he could cheat on me, the narrative he posted to reddit was "my girlfriend manipulated me into opening the relationship so that she could get a sugar daddy"Thank you 💜 yeah he certainly did a great job to look like a victim.. and of course manipulating me so I would “stay in line” and gaslight myself. calling a person crazy is such a perfect and sinister ploy; anything you do to try and disprove it just makes you look crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 01:05 AM |
| 30 | Polyamory foibles - my experience and some cautionary advice for queens on the fence (don’t do it).“Monogamy is outdated” Fucking lol! Polygamy has been the privilege of many men across all cultures since the dawn of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 07:39 PM |
| 17 | Disappointing Role Models: Athletes, Only Fans, and Toxic boyfriendsHaving practiced a really intense sport, I think regardless of what’s going on with her she made very valid points on athletes’ mental health, how stressful press conferences can be etc. Doing sports at such a level requires immense concentration. These people are already providing entertainment, surely that should be enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 04:49 AM |
| 41 | It's not that he's "changing". It's that his mask is slipping off with time.People always present their best side at the start; that’s why what you see on a first date is the best you’ll ever get. The mask always slips at around three months for me and if you pay attention you’ll find most LVMs will let their colors show around the same amount of time for each individual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 12:23 AM |
| 26 | Always be skeptical of men's relationship woes on Reddit. When my ex persuaded me to do poly so that he could cheat on me, the narrative he posted to reddit was "my girlfriend manipulated me into opening the relationship so that she could get a sugar daddy"I have learnt that 90% of men who call their wife or ex crazy.. are responsible for their rage, unhappiness, or whatever justifiable emotion they’ve judged as inadequate. Because I spent over a year with a guy who was Mormon until his thirties. made me his last priority, gaslighted me constantly, purposely ate meat in front of me to “make a point” (I’m a +10y ethical vegan.. I only found this out towards the end) and would dump me by text whenever he was annoyed with something, to then come craw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 12:14 AM |
| 9 | Foolproof vetting strategy: take him to the gymYour post reminds me of the shopping trolley test: whether a person returns it or leaves in the middle of a parking lot is a good test for so many things.. Your post is also a good example of why coffee and walks are bad first dates: you don’t get to see them interact with anyone (in a codified environment like a gym, restaurant, theatre etc.), at most a waiter. And that tells you soooo much about a person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 08:27 AM |
| 13 | This !!!!!!!As part of my work I had to recently do research on water access in remote parts of the world/a charity addressing it and can confirm what's written here. Women in those communities walk for hours under the heat and then carry back huge amounts of water for their family leading to spine deformities and even miscarriages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 07:27 AM |
| 10 | TIL anything about a woman can be sexualized, even her periodAlso on the pill for PCOS and don't have periods which is a godsend (apparently also because I miss out on men like this.. wtf). I hope more women become aware that this is an option; periods were added back in when the pill came out because of exactly this, people being weirded out by it, but they are "artificial" if you're on the pill so to speak. The trope of "you're not a normal woman" if you don't have periods is disgustingly common. I also don't live in a cave or hunt my food if that's wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 12:51 AM |
| 7 | When the roles are reversed 😋💅🏽I'm always amazed by how pervasive misogyny is and how many people will share deeply misogynistic memes and jokes. Reminds of people happily sharing that Google memo thing about women having "different brains" (which is completely invalidated by science), and I thought about when colonialists created this narrative that black/indigenous people had inferior brains. There are obviously racist assh*les who still think that today but I don't feel things like that are as widely accepted to share and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 12:46 AM |
| 116 | "We are so historically and socially conditioned to accept this stereotype of the vengeful woman that more often than not, as the research bears, the official courts and the court of public opinion will turn on the woman, the mothers, in favour of the men, even when there’s an abuse allegation"One lady even said "oh please, I have to coparent with someone who threatened to smash my skull in with a shovel, suck it up Angelina." People who wants others to suffer because they have suffered are the worst kind of people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 11:43 PM |
| 32 | LVM have always and will always diminish powerful women. Continue being powerful, Queens 👑The patriarchy wants us to think our power is in our appearance, it is not, no matter how many successful kardashians and beautiful actresses, we will always be shackled and limited in our power by putting our bodies before ourselves. Not all of us can ditch the makeup, clothes etc. but use it to your advantage. It’s a bonus, not your lifeline. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 09:08 PM |
| 14 | Apps promised to revolutionize dating. But for women they’re mostly terrible | Nancy Jo SalesThe reference to Lysistrata in this article is great; I didn't know that Aristophanes play. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lysistrata | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 06:08 AM |
| 9 | Post title says this queen asked for a proper date, but his description then labels the request as a demand. Why is this man outing himself as low effort?Why are we suddenly equals when the check comes? Also it's interesting that he mentions physical chemistry, proving exactly what he's after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:42 PM |
| 64 | More evidence the red pill ruins relationships, makes insecure men irrationally paranoid and cheat on their partners to make them jealous/unstable and is full of bitter late bloomers seeking ‘revenge’ on the types of women who ignored them in school.This increases her anxiety levels to a point where she wants to alleviate the stress by trying to please you and make sure everything is okay As someone who suffers from C-PTSD from what an ex with likely Narcissistic personality disorder put me through, I can't actually believe there are people teaching others to be deliberately abusive and cause people mental health issues. I think about the long road to my recovery, the time, money spent on therapy, the depression, borderline suicidal thought… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 01:58 AM |
| 61 | Porn is blatant abuseI used to be a "pro-porn feminist" (ha!): "Oh it's just fantasy!", "sexual freedom!"... I followed that movement to a degree, and even wrote something on pornography in art. I work in science now and honestly the evidence is overwhelming, and even I see how what I watched messed with me and how I experience sex. One of the first men I dated when I moved to the US had ED at 29, I think he even told me it was from deathgrip from watching porn; I had never encountered that before. He was a decent g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 01:51 AM |
| 21 | In a world full of disappointing pickmeishas, I’m thankful for creators like her. Been watching her journey since law school and I love how open she is about having high standards on tiktok, a platform where that isn’t usually welcomed.Just look at the story of Liliane Bettencourt, the main owner of L’Oréal, she was exploited by so many men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 08:55 PM |
| 30 | In a world full of disappointing pickmeishas, I’m thankful for creators like her. Been watching her journey since law school and I love how open she is about having high standards on tiktok, a platform where that isn’t usually welcomed.I had a look on seeking years ago out of curiosity because I was sick of the dating apps, and I was amused by how many men fancied themselves sugar daddies while clearly not being that well-off. As you said, It’s supposed to be mutually beneficial but all these dudes still felt entitled to these beautiful women despite not bringing their share to the table. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 08:52 PM |
| 29 | Podcast feedback from men: "hate fan mail"manifesto about what a horrible bitch he thinks she is A guy I befriended years ago sent me an email to ask me out/tell me he liked me romantically that included the things he liked about me, and then the things he didn’t like about me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 08:47 PM |
| 1 | HVM are always HVM, even if they’re your ExTwo of my long-term exes are HVM through and through. We are still very good friends.. because our relationship included a great friendship? We just didn't meet at the right time for things to develop into marriage. One got married since, I was invited to their wedding and I befriended his wife, took photos for her at one of her concerts etc. He recently gave me advice on gear for my home studio and has always had my back; even offered to help financially if ever I had any issues when I moved ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 12:34 AM |
| 30 | Don't worry if you're not one of those "popular girls"I am one of those "popular with men" women, I do work as a model, and in a field that is male-dominated which makes me catnip to NVM. I can assure you this is not something to want. It means you have to spend your life filtering men because of how many just want you as a trophy; some have constructed entirely different personalities for months to date me, lied about their lives etc. On top of everyone talking to me like a moron despite diplomas in STEM. I appreciate the advantages* I've had but … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 12:29 AM |
| 5 | Wouldn’t surprised if this was the futureSometimes, I fantasize about making my exes with NPD pay for my subsequent therapy. Thanks for the C-PTSD guys! More seriously, being a pickme is a bit like the marshamallow test; those relationships might feel good at the start but it will cost you later. Think about who you date carefully. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 11:03 PM |
| 9 | The wall is real. For men. Exhibit #7777 😉I worked on one of his shows, he definitely seemed like a decent person and you can usually tell by the atmosphere on set. When there's an asshole director, or lead actor, it almost always creates a bad vibe overall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 11:56 PM |
| 2 | Icelandic artist Daði Freyr's song about the great decade he's spent with his wife is so wholesome and HV.Yeyy!!! This is honestly my first time really getting into someone from Eurovision. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:55 AM |
| 18 | Icelandic artist Daði Freyr's song about the great decade he's spent with his wife is so wholesome and HV.I hope it's ok to post this. I love how the song isn't lovebombing but just about healthy, loving and long-lasting partnership. He's performing at Eurovision this week so I was looking at his music videos and found a cute one of him ice-skating with his wife. The song from last year was about his daughter and he generally seems to really appreciate his wife and respect her; she's the lady with short curly hair and glasses in the MV and plays the monster. They created the monsters and MV concept … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:09 PM |
| 58 | Tired of being shamed for wanting my own big houseI’m French, we do have a lot of châteaux. Some are « protected » monuments but falling in disrepair so a good way in tends to be if you have the capacity and funds to upkeep them. After that, it’s just about whether you can make it through our famous administrative processes which is more unforgiving than any army! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 12:41 AM |
| 71 | Men still harass us no matter what we wear cause it doesn't change what they know we have underneathI lip sync to songs and it’s awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 04:24 AM |
| 54 | A boyfriend you don’t like looking at naked, who STINKS?! I’d rather be single, thanks 😘My partner likes to be naked at his place too. I've told him it's not recommended for lasting sexual attraction; not to mention unsafe. No surprises, he recently splashed burning oil all over his groin area.. and has taken my note into consideration. At least he always smells nice and is super in shape. This is just gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 12:17 AM |
| 21 | "Cishet" women are still oppressed. We are still women living under a patriarchal system.I know some women called Karen and it's really affected them. Just awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 12:04 AM |
| 63 | This is why FDS says we shouldn’t act like wives until we’re married. Scrote asks for pre-nup after his live-in bangmaid mommy bankrolls his life and “builds” with him for nearly a decade.Fifteen years ago I dated a guy who hated that I asked him not to use plastic bags every time he went to a supermarket (I’ve done environmental activism for ages). I knew his flatmate and not long after we split she told me he was all about not using plastic bags anymore. I actually do science communication now and fundamentally, many people want to feel that the idea to change came from themselves and have a negative association with someone else telling them to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 01:09 AM |
| 56 | If it’s on a popular sub for women, it’s fine. But if we say the same thing here, suddenly we are the actual devil and hate men (like that’s a bad thing). Whyy? At least they’re getting it.The message is spreading honestly, I follow the other female subs and things are definitely changing over there too. Just like PUA and all that stuff spread quickly online, so will women defending themselves from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 12:59 AM |
| 3 | Wife gets divorce so her husband can marry his foreign girlfriend. I think she may be the supreme pickme queen.This is so sad for their kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 12:20 AM |
| 8 | Remove yourself from the concept of menSelective solipsism! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 12:10 AM |
| 4 | Yes ladies. It's OUR fault.Absolutely, I’ve been there and I know how difficult it is. But beyond personality, most of us here now realize that it’s through conditioning and how women are taught to be unconditionally loving, forgiving etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 07:45 PM |
| 11 | Yes ladies. It's OUR fault.You’re right. In these situations we need to shift out of coping victim mentality, into empowered people who can actively change things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:41 PM |
| 45 | wow.Therapists are like chiropractors, the bad ones can seriously screw you up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:29 PM |
| 18 | NVM's wife raised the kids and managed their home for nearly two decades yet he resents her for not working? Feels like an abuse victim?? He has the option to retire early and live a comfortable life together but comments he rather have her work a cashier job "for the principle"I understand your point but I think the sub promotes coming in here, doing a lot of reading, re-framing and then commenting once you understand the principles of the community. We don’t want this place to be spoiled like all the other female, relationship etc. subs so there’s a fairly strict set of ideals to protect this place from slipping as it gets more and more popular; you can feel differently about a specific situation at your own discretion. Honestly, It’s a really powerful feeling to be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:15 AM |
| 41 | Ads on Reddit targeting poor women and girls for prostitution. Absolutely disgusting.Right? I feel like this ad can only be appealing to very young women who aren’t fully financially independent yet or just trying to support themselves through school, which makes it even sadder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 05:58 AM |
| 22 | Porn Actress Reilly Reid’s InterviewA French actress (Ovidie) who had written books on porn that I read in my late teens is pretty outspoken about the industry now. She was active long before the tubes and even made a documentary denouncing their practices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 12:34 AM |
| 12 | Men know what their doing. A fucking joke.The last NPD guy I dated asked me what I was looking for in a partner and I stupidly told him; he then pretended to be vegan, pretended to learn my mother tongue and a whole bunch of other things for four months until he couldn't keep it together. I learnt a valuable lesson. Do not put this on your OLD profile either if you're on there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 12:26 AM |
| 77 | Since y’all liked the first one so muchBecause they are slaves to their hormones! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 12:18 AM |
| 26 | How To Make A Sandwich For SexistsI saw it posted recently on a post about a female astronaut. I'm so embarrassed for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:41 AM |
| 13 | Mainstream "women's empowerment" is a lie.I actually taught those women self-defense a long time ago and their leader treated me like shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:32 AM |
| 2 | (Not my post) but my own dad told me to use this strategy to weed out the losers, and here it is working!I was wondering if this guy had Borderline PD or psychopathy, but again, these people tend to appear quite normal on first approach. It's sad that this is probably just entitlement and not even a person with a disorder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:37 PM |
| 18 | (Not my post) but my own dad told me to use this strategy to weed out the losers, and here it is working!Wow. I wish the narcs I dated had been so forthcoming about wanting this, then again they had a modicum of manners telling them that actually saying stuff like this is inappropriate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 06:28 PM |
| 6 | Helping other women out - stranger editionThis is so heart-warming. Actions like yours make the world bearable when you’re going through it, which she probably is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 07:55 AM |
| 12 | The Road to Recovery from the book Women who love too much.Thanks for providing this alternative. Empathy guides much of what I do (long-time vegan, career in science etc.) and it's often a difficult conflict. My therapist did point out that some people are just not capable of experiencing this kind of love. Often the problem isn't you, it's them. A good way to frame it is to channel the love you do have better, towards people (yourself included!), and causes that deserve it. A book I like uses the analogy of a backyard vs public park: treat your affect… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:38 AM |
| 117 | 🙄What to do when he texts you but the texts have turned boring and/or too low effort?🥱This is true in my experience. I think we're brought up being told that we always have to be responsive, affable and mirror people. But you don't! Discovering this new strategy has been a game changer in my life. A client did something disrespectful recently and our contract is over so I ignore their messages; I sent a busy response just so I don't look unprofessional. These are all variations of ignore, block, delete. Always remember that no answer is an answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:27 AM |
| 17 | Using "political lesbian" as an insult is a homophobic and misogynist slur.I've done a bit of acting work and rather hilariously I get cast as lesbian (even coupled up) very frequently, I look pretty "traditional" too: long blond hair, skinny, wear nice dresses etc. Honestly, it's been the most flattering thing ever. Not sure why they think it's an insult! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:19 AM |
| 11 | Epidemic of LVM in their 20sYeah, in retrospect, I miss my boyfriends from back home, hahaha. Even the worst of them didn't compare even in my pickme days.. (But I am in the worst city for dating so there's also that factor). Then again I hadn't found them on OLD, which is part of the problem; apps are also used back home and I'm told things have gotten pretty bad BUT, I have a hunch that the US went from very conservative/trad wife/religion (keep in mind we are super atheist, abortion has been legal for a long time, highe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 12:41 AM |
| 41 | The Road to Recovery from the book Women who love too much.I got into a serious relationship (not intentionally but we'd known and liked each other ages and were finally both single) around the time I started this process (which includes therapy, several books and here) and although the relationship is super healthy, boy is it hard once you're on the other side of your past mistakes. I dated several men with NPD over just a few years, who wrecked my sense of what was normal or not. So now I question everything, am very jumpy and need to figure out how t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 08:02 PM |
| 29 | Epidemic of LVM in their 20sI'm from Europe, lived in four countries, moved to the US and made a post on this topic here. I didn't think it could be worse than home (in the West obviously) and, yeah... there's some awful combo here of late-stage capitalism/consumerism and patriarchy which from what I've experienced makes men treat women even worse in the US. It's a little less surface-level (street harassment is a major issue back home) but seems to go much deeper. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 07:50 PM |
| 185 | Say it LOUDERIt was one of the strangest things I noticed when I used OLD. The amount of profiles that had "I don't like women who x", "I don't like women who do y"; and most were very trivial things like "women who wear designer clothes, uggs/ women who do kissy faces/ wear makeup like this" etc etc... as opposed to legitimate things like "women who are inconsiderate/mean/selfish"... It gave me the very strong impression that these men, just didn't like women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 07:47 AM |
| 7 | Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forwardI was just exploited by a woman who ended up paying me below minimum wage for science consulting, using my partner to drive her around for over 20h and then left all her trash including used toilet paper in his car. FDS is a safeguard against all garbage people, regardless of gender. What we learn about boundaries with LVMs here is applicable to all areas of life and all types of relationships! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 01:04 AM |
| 4 | An important way scrotes trap you and how to overcome it.Thanks so much for posting! This stuff has been a great addition to therapy to realize how attachment works and how we end up trapped in bad relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 12:58 AM |
| 23 | Don’t feed the trolls.Can we have a haiku thread as well?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:10 AM |
| 3 | Women who have experienced trauma, what have been some of your levelling up wins?Thank you for pointing out the trauma in the realization of having gone through trauma. There is grief and anger and all sorts of emotions associated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 08:39 PM |
| 76 | After reading FDS and a LVM wants to come back into my life..."I'm sorry, the old pickme can't come to the phone right now. Why? Cuz' she's dead!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:37 PM |
| 4 | TimeThis is really great, congratulations on reaching that point! I try to keep in mind that situations like these are not about me but about them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 12:51 AM |
| 6 | I need support. I need to be reminded this is the right choice.At the root of all this is you being a loving, kind, human being who is so immensely generous with her love. And I promise you there is an abundance of love in the world from friends, people, and probably another, much better man at some other point. You will miss this love that grew roots for now but you will plant so many more trees with other people who won’t need constant pruning and concessions. So value yourself above all, your beautiful qualities; take it day by day; and try to work on th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 04:45 AM |
| 18 | It Starts EarlyInsert jumanji WHAT YEAR IS THIS?!! meme | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 04:37 AM |
| 94 | I'll just leave this here.It’s interesting that they’ve been humanizing these villains with live actions like Cruella that’s about to come out and Maleficent. Times are changing.. a little. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 07:46 AM |
| 29 | The increasing number of men such as him scare me..but he has time to play guitar, bass and does it enough that he soundproofed the room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 05:24 PM |
| 30 | Stop sexualizing women— not because they’re people too, but because it will benefit you more somehow. 🙄One of the most shocking things about moving to the US has been that most men will simply not befriend women here (which is also very problematic for networking and I feel stifles women’s social progress). A point of discussion with fellow European women has been how many times we ended up on dates without our knowledge. As in we’re just having lunch, going on a walk or having a drink with someone in what we assume was a friendly capacity (because they’re a colleague for example, there was no pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 05:03 PM |
| 7 | BYO LUNCH TO DATEYou’re completely right that these spaces are not designed for women. There’s a lot of academic literature on urbanization and architecture that doesn’t serve women’s needs actually; I wonder if anything has been written on pubs. Now I want the equivalent of pubs but for women! What would that look like for you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:57 PM |
| 10 | BYO LUNCH TO DATEYou know, I’d never thought about that. Part of the reason I left the UK was that I didn’t like how almost all social interactions had to happen in pubs; I just found them dark, grimy and full of creeps. I could never put my finger on what exactly I didn’t like about them. Thanks for putting it into words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 07:11 PM |
| 22 | When you achieve something like climbing to the top of a mountain or you travel to a destination with a guy, make sure to get photos of YOU alone.This is great practical advice, thanks for posting! It’s all about the little things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 06:58 PM |
| 32 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildAs someone who used to really appreciate sex in art and culture, I’m so bored of how over the top and as you described “cookie-cutter kinky” it all is now too. Every rap video has near-naked women twerking, every singer is made to outdo each other with how sexual their lyrics are, movies, advertisement.. it’s all SEX SEX SEX BDSM, look at GRAPHIC SEX!! Even porn as we all know has turned into violence and borderline anatomical close-ups. What ever happened to sexy? Sensuality? I think of a beaut… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 06:55 PM |
| 7 | Mary Wollstonecraft on "the wall", A Vindication of the Rights of Woman (1792)Awww not a frenemy at all, I lived in the UK almost a decade and cherish my friends from there (the countryside is also gorgeous, and your cities more dynamic). I actually was confused by how much hate France got when I lived there! I didn't see it reciprocated to the same degree back home (except about British food, but we criticize everyone else's food except Italy ha!). I did actually notice that women in my uni were getting engaged and having children, which surprised me because I was 20 and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 07:43 PM |
| 27 | Mary Wollstonecraft on "the wall", A Vindication of the Rights of Woman (1792)I'm French and I'd never heard of "the wall" until I moved to the US recently. It gave me a chuckle since most of my friends are mid-thirties and only just trickling towards marriage and kids. My mom had me at 38 or so. We obviously have plenty of sexism but I will say our actresses for example seem to have careers well past their twenties and thirties; I do think that our intellectual culture gives women a little more leeway to exist in society past 25. I watch the news every day and if you wat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 05:15 PM |
| 2 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionJust so you know some of the fashion subs on reddit have some cool albums posted that have those kind of themes; they always seemed much more catered to the female gaze. I like /r/femalefashionadvice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 04:56 PM |
| 954 | I'm so proud of you ladies for sharing and normalizing FDS concepts on tiktok, Instagram, and other social media 😂My therapist told me there’s been a movement amongst younger women to stay away from dating and focus on themselves and their career, so this really is a societal shift happening 💜 we can truly change the world together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 09:51 PM |
| 14 | Proof FDS Works and LVMs Never ChangeI’m mid-thirties, have lived in four countries/two continents, have an amazing career and accomplished many of my dreams; still had a few great boyfriends over the years, and recently got with a friend of mine who so far has been amazing. Where I’m from there’s a lot less pressure to get married young unlike the US so I had it easier but do NOT settle! You cannot do things in reverse once you’re tied down to someone and there is an abundance of partners out there to choose from for women regardl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 06:00 PM |
| 16 | ANOTHER SLUG UPDATE and honestly, this one is much worse. He was clearly exploiting her mental illnesses for his own personal amusement. One of the most disgusting, depraved, and truly evil things I've ever seen.Yeah.. then there’s also the guys who realized that vegan groups tend to have a high ratio of women and bullshit their way in just to meet women. I’ve run some meetups and big vegan groups over the years and just the other day some guy tried to join one saying he was not vg, but had dated a vegan girl and wanted another vegan girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 03:52 AM |
| 13 | The false equivalency of pornography for men and romantic comedies for womenYou hit the nail on the head with point 4 especially. Romantic comedies don’t usually degrade either gender, and therein lies the main difference. Wanting a partner to express romantic affection towards their chosen partner in real life is not degrading for them in any culture or viewed under any angle (except perhaps that of patriarchal masculinity in extremes of it; I’m not religious but pretty sure even the Bible tells you not to beat your wife and to treat her well). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 03:43 AM |
| 31 | ANOTHER SLUG UPDATE and honestly, this one is much worse. He was clearly exploiting her mental illnesses for his own personal amusement. One of the most disgusting, depraved, and truly evil things I've ever seen.Been vegan ten years and I had a friend or two try to feed me meat as a « joke ». Always a good way to figure out someone is a massive ass ; I cut those people out immediately. Not even going to comment on how horrifying the rest is but psychopaths do look for people they can control or who are vulnerable sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 12:16 AM |
| 15 | Scrote that I dated 23 years ago feels entitled to my emotional labor & tries to stalk me on InstagramThe worst part about NVMs is how many just never go away. They're like a rash. I have some show up in my socials/emails from time to time despite blocking them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 11:38 PM |
| 54 | Reason #6567 why being single is better than settling.100%. À HV ex of mine and I—whom I was with for many years when we were younger—realized that if we had been born a few decades earlier, we would have probably gotten married and divorced. Pretty happy to not have to deal with that mess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 05:38 AM |
| 60 | Poor women, who gon tell ‘em?yeah and a ton of content on other female-subs has been posted here too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 08:14 PM |
| 1 | When you finally get into your FIRST healthy relationship...This was me almost 5 years ago!Yeah this is another comedian’s voice; someone linked another video of his today. I don’t have tiktok but I’m confused by how often I see sound from one video used as dubbing for someone else’s... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 07:58 AM |
| 2 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateOh I'm sure they do too sadly... But it definitely seemed more prevalent in the US. I'm sorry you have to go through it though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 02:17 AM |
| 155 | Waiting to have sex pays off. It doesn't matter how famous he is.A friend sent me this about a model who was dating the rapper Machine Gun Kelly. It looks like he cheated on her with Megan Fox but she had been smart enough to make him wait for sex. It's so nice to hear about boundaries from someone famous/who has reach! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 07:28 PM |
| 11 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateme as standoffish, serious/reserved and downright unromantic. Congrats! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 07:03 PM |
| 12 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateThey shoot themselves in the foot so hard, it's amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 07:00 PM |
| 9 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateFrance. I lived in London a decade though and I've heard it's gotten pretty similar sadly :( Hang in there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 07:00 PM |
| 197 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateI know we’re discussing the walk date but since there was no push for romance: This is a subject of constant discussion with other European friends like me who moved to the US. What is it with expecting to be into someone without even getting to know them on a few dates? Did the apps create this weird expectation? Because I haven’t had a “crush” on someone in that way since high school. My current partner was a friend for two years before anything happened between us, as were many other boyfrien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 08:29 AM |
| 29 | Be wary of men who say they hate certain powerful womenA woman I was good friends with texted me recently that Clinton couldn’t have been president because she’s “too emotional” and had a “breakdown” when she lost.. she got super cagey when I asked for sources about this supposed “breakdown” and I decided to part ways with her (she was also an anti-vaxxer and I work in science..). She’s Mexican and left-wing.. Watching the Hillary Clinton documentary on Hulu, it breaks my heart how many women were and continue to be complicit in this bullshit. I mov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:24 PM |
| 2 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahAbandon ship, the dating apps are a lost cause at this point. I'm so glad I decided to never return on there. Honestly, even in a pandemic there are better ways to meet people like volunteering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:38 AM |
| 123 | LVM : I want a 9 or 10 women, with slim body who works out and put on makeup. Also LVM :Honestly, a ton of jobs in entertainment/modeling are like that sadly. I'm featured on an international ad for Gucci and got paid $1000.. and they refused to give me the standard "buyout" because they said I wasn't seen enough.. I'm in the damn thumbnail of the ad. Unless you're a Victoria's Secret Model, you can assume most models etc. aren't making a lot. I really wish more women were aware of how little there is to make in most cases and how exploitative entertainment is. For me it's just ext… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:32 AM |
| 4 | Needing some support. I am fuming. Boy moms are fucking worst.Wtf, are they Amish or something? I'm sorry your daughter has to deal with this, maybe you should point out this will create trauma and shame about her body for HER. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:56 AM |
| 77 | Don't sleep with him right away, science confirms it.This has been posted here before but I thought it was worth a repost given how much FDS has grown. My own partner told me recently that "when you want more with a woman you don't have sex with her right away" and I wish that in the era of disposable sex, every woman knew this before dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 08:51 PM |
| 5 | anyone else think sza’s lowkey a pick-me chick?She's had some pickme lyrics but I do wonder if some of the hatred for Taylor Swift is because of her non-pickme lyrics when I think of it. The song about John Mayer, Me!, and a few others come to mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 08:22 AM |
| 5 | All the comments are “omg this is literally my husband 😂❤️”. What a joke.I chortled at how laughably terrible the "Babe. Don't be" is.. Boy are people clueless about mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 12:54 AM |
| 14 | Anyone else feel like the pandemic has really given them the space to Queen it up?Yes! I found FDS last summer near the end of a very confusing relationship with a probably narcissistic (per therapist) LVM. Therapy and FDS have helped me move past the anger and confusion about men I dated with narcissistic personality disorder, to pity and indifference towards them. It also helped me see how HV a male friend of mine is, be in a healthy relationship with him and break a five-year cycle of dating men with serious disorders like sociopathy and NPD. And generally realize my value… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 12:50 AM |
| 11 | Uh-oh, the scrotes found our podcast Patreon and are BIG MAD. "How DARE those evil bitches monetize their own podcast!!!" Misogynists don't see any value in anything a woman does, so when women receive money in any way shape or form, they freak out and call it "scamming" "grifting" "a cult" etc.This community has helped me as much as therapy to quit dating abusive men, which has vastly improved my life. I'm glad we can help the creators out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 12:23 AM |
| 10 | Uh-oh, the scrotes found our podcast Patreon and are BIG MAD. "How DARE those evil bitches monetize their own podcast!!!" Misogynists don't see any value in anything a woman does, so when women receive money in any way shape or form, they freak out and call it "scamming" "grifting" "a cult" etc.I'm willing to bet half of those guys have paid someone's patreon in the past.. They just don't think our community has value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 12:13 AM |
| 10 | To hear what LV scrotes think of women and how they try to manipulate us, watch some "comedy." 100% he's not kidding. 50 years old, never been married, and this is how he treats women. High standards will save your life.I stopped at "women are crazy amIrite" about a minute in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:29 AM |
| 1 | As it should be: Misogyny to be classed as hate crime from autumnIt was hard to put an upvote next to BoJo's face! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:24 AM |
| 35 | Is Charlie an FDS follower (not quite there but he is getting close)!!Ha! We should make fake male profiles with advice. I wonder how long until tinder would catch on to us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:15 AM |
| 3 | Unpacking the Male Gaze: Birds of Prey vs. Suicide Squad (I feel like this is why the odds are always stacked against women, because so much popculture is all about MuH PeNiS)Funnily enough, a brand I like actually made some of the Birds of Prey costumes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 03:26 PM |
| 9 | *sigh* Girl, really? You can cook a nice meal for the price of one takeout portion, he just chooses not to.The bar is in hell. I don’t think I’ve ever even had a friend offer to eat random leftovers at theirs.. that’s just rude? It costs nothing to make a pasta and tomato sauce. Where were these people raised?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 03:09 PM |
| 12 | Unpacking the Male Gaze: Birds of Prey vs. Suicide Squad (I feel like this is why the odds are always stacked against women, because so much popculture is all about MuH PeNiS)This was a good article I had saved about it at the time: https://comicbook.com/dc/news/harley-quinn-birds-of-prey-not-a-failure/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 09:33 PM |
| 77 | Unpacking the Male Gaze: Birds of Prey vs. Suicide Squad (I feel like this is why the odds are always stacked against women, because so much popculture is all about MuH PeNiS)Yes! I can't find it right now but there was a great article on how Harley was dressed for men to find her sexy in Suicide Squad, whereas she was dressed to feel sexy and good to herself in BoP. Big difference in having a female-directed movie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 09:33 PM |
| 32 | The friend zone doesn't existJoke's on them, most women I know who are in happy long relationships and/or married, ended up with someone they were friends with first. My current partner was my friend for three years before I realized I fancied him. All my best relationships were friendships first, my worst ones were with men met on dating apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 09:59 AM |
| 11 | Men who whine that women being scared of men is "bad for men's mental health" are the ones you need to watch out for ESPECIALLY. Pity plays are the #1 red flag for sociopaths and narcissists.Great post. Thank you for making it. I dated several men with—what several therapist tell me seems quite clearly to be—Narcissistic Personality Disorder and I can confirm they all used some pity story when they messed up or when I had unmet needs. One in particular refused to say I love you over a year into the relationship (why I ended up breaking it off, it was a signifier of his general issues) while knowing how much it hurt me, and continuously served me all this stuff about his abusive dad,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:55 AM |
| 7 | Women are attracted to money...I don't know where this golddigger thing started but I have honestly never dated such stingy guys as since I've moved to the US. Even really broke boyfriends I had in college were more generous with what they had and just happy to be on a date. I still remember the guy I had been with several months here who made me pay him back for a package of Oreos.. all the while I was constantly making food for him at my place and had organized and paid for his birthday dinner with all his friends. I have o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:35 AM |
| 16 | Watch out for love bombers !This happened to me so many times I am learning to be an ice queen and while it feels counter-nature to who I am, it's better for the long-term; you can relax and learn to enjoy these things when more time passes and they have a more solid foundation. Imagine them as peacocks or another animal displaying and bringing you gifts to mate with you. Only time will tell if they're the type of species looking for long-term partnership. Are they lovebirds, gibbons.. or chimps? Also I'm very weary of tex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:20 AM |
| 1 | I think this applies to FDS too.I'm not sure how this turned into a discussion about cancel culture but it seemed to point more towards things that other generations mock about millennials and younger people (see "while growing up") : "oh when I was your age, teachers/parents could slap us if we messed up!" or "when I was a young girl, I was not allowed out past 7!", "we were so much tougher than you guys" etc etc. which is perfectly fair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 03:22 AM |
| 1 | I think this applies to FDS too.I fully agree with you and made a comment further up about the anti-hate speech laws we have in my country, which I think work a little better than in the US. Someone had posted on here a while back that we're only calling it "cancel culture" now and coming out against it because it seems to affect many powerful men (for example during the #meToo movement) which.. I find food for thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 03:18 AM |
| 2 | I think this applies to FDS too.I appreciate and agree with your point in part. But I do want to bring a counter-example: in France (and likely Europe) we do have anti-hate speech laws and it's pretty hard to break them. I've seen multiple lawsuits fail (one was against a misogynistic rapper). The people who are tried under them are pretty bad offenders and rightfully taken out. I'm routinely shocked by racist/sexist stuff that makes it on the air in the US, for example on conservative radio shows. The more you keep that stuff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 03:10 AM |
| 10 | In the UK, carrying Pepper spray has a max 10 year prison sentence. So if you get caught using it on an attacker, you lose 10 years of your life as opposed to all of them.I carried pepper spray when I lived in the UK; I got searched once when a lot of knifings had happened and I was glad I had it hidden in my makeup pouch. Such a dumb law. I think we have a similar law in France but some tazers are allowed.. for reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 02:45 AM |
| 6 | Advice from a divorce lawyer - on Love, Marriage and FeminismThank you for taking the time to translate this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:13 AM |
| 63 | Dominiqe Sisley (Vice Writer) strikes me as a Pick Me who hasn't really dated around. Being completely honest.Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental illness. Dating several men with it and another with some type of diagnosed psychopathy means I now have CPTSD which is costing me in therapy and has consequences on all my relationships; that is the reality of dating someone with mental illness. No one here is telling women to dump their good partners if they go through depression and that’s how she decided to read it and represent it, which is shameful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 12:50 AM |
| 13 | As we all know. Dominique Sisley recently posted a wild article on FDS. Apparently she can’t take criticism either. This is what happens when you try to explain what FDS’s main purpose is.“I get to express myself but you do not” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 12:36 AM |
| 6 | Reality check.Oh my therapist told me about her. She’s awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 12:20 AM |
| 15 | What Dominique Sisley (Vice) said she was writing about FDS vs. what she actually wroteCan confirm, most journalists are freelance and paid little money, even for big publications. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 07:55 AM |
| 5 | Men never wanna talk about that though 😂The original!! I had seen this one dubbed over a different woman doing makeup. So happy to see this queen 👸🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 04:52 AM |
| 55 | What Dominique Sisley (Vice) said she was writing about FDS vs. what she actually wroteAs a former journalist, these people aren’t doing their work properly and contribute to a culture of clickbait and misinformation. Congrats Dominique, I hope it was worth the couple hundred bucks you made. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 04:43 AM |
| 4 | I've noticed that a lot of women here have toxic mothers. While it's true that mothers are often unfairly scapegoated for all of society's woes, it's important to remember that mothers also socialize their children to perpetuate patriarchy.My NPD mother dealing with her daughter becoming a pierced and tattooed goth was one hell of a ride :p In her defense though she isn't a pickme at least, my dad and stepdad are good caring people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 02:02 AM |
| 16 | America's Next Top Model is male propaganda that grooms young women to think they're not allowed to say "no"Sometimes I feel that all reality tv is about getting off on some people's lack of boundaries, bad decisions and subsequent humiliation. Most of it makes me really uncomfortable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 01:48 AM |
| 31 | Question about men on reddit, are they particularly low value, porn sick and sexist or they represents the general male population in the west?Agreed. Sometimes I worry that sharing too many horrible stories here will promote a scarcity mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 05:10 AM |
| 4 | YouTube comment about Netflix’s To All The Boys 2 (but really applies to pretty much all movies)I thought the slut-shaming Taylor swift joke was bad.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 08:36 AM |
| 2 | Another truth bomb from this guy!Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Learning about Jackson PollockLuc Besson's career is probably over in the US but not in France. Gérard Depardieu was just accused, everyone seemingly knew about him for years. I expect there are many more. The French cinema industry remained relatively untouched by the French MeToo (Balance ton porc). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 02:39 AM |
| 2 | Another truth bomb from this guy!I’ve been meaning to open a tiktok to share some of my work but was warned about how much data they mine from your phone. Do you ladies know about this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 11:09 PM |
| 9 | Learning about Jackson PollockThanks or your insightful comment. It reminds me of a narcissistic film composer I dated who relentlessly abused me emotionally but would cry while writing music for documentaries about sad topics. I’m French so the Polanski stuff hits close to home, our film industry is in need of a reckoning; many of its famous abusers have faced no consequences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 11:06 PM |
| 41 | Imagine trying to find a gynecologist in network and these are the only options 😭😭🥺Remember when GW Bush said “we need to let ob-gyns practice their love for women”.. gag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:40 AM |
| 17 | How it feels to hear that other women have shared experiences with men/no longer having to gaslight yourself about how you were treated:I feel more sisterhood with all of you than anyone in my life; the recognition of the pain we have gone through and the shared experience of ways in which women are treated on this planet is powerful. All the same I almost wish I didn’t know the problem was so widespread, sometimes all of you beautiful and vulnerable women’s collective pain makes me feel ill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:24 AM |
| 35 | “What you fear, you will want to destroy”I'm not from the US, are native American cultures, historically and culturally more progressive and equal towards women? Edit: I answered my own question. In case you’re interested: https://bust.com/feminism/14922-how-native-american-women-inspired-the-feminist-movement.html | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 06:35 PM |
| 16 | My boyfriend massages my hands in the morningA male friend of mine works three jobs to support his girlfriend, whom I’m now friends with, who has Ehlers-Danlos syndrome and is in a wheelchair ♥️ I met him years ago because he had rescued this beautiful cat and offered my boyfriend and to come over and play with the kitty! High value all the way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:41 AM |
| 49 | Image being so addicted to porn that you associate winged eyeliner with being a c*msl*t... DisgustingMe here doing a winged eyeliner because it reminds me of elves, fantasy etc. .. is nothing sacred anymore? Has everything been co-opted by porn?! I have some very unique science and art tattoos and when I moved to the US, several guys on jobs just asked me out of the blue if I would go home with them after chatting maybe once.. I was completely taken aback. My then-boyfriend told me it was because there are many women in porn with tattoos and so the idea is likely that I’m promiscuous. -_- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 04:50 AM |
| 40 | Jezebel continues to prove why LibFems are a joke. Here’s some more manosphere fuel brought to you by Tracy Clark Flory’s desperation to be validated. “FeMiniStS sEcReTLY lOvE tHe PaTriArCHy” 🤡🤡🤡I wish these people would stop applying their wants and kinks to all of us. Just because one woman likes that doesn’t mean the rest of us do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 07:28 PM |
| 19 | Relationships may take work and effort at times, but you should not be working and sacrificing just to get the BASICS (love, respect, consideration, etc). Know your line and what it will take for you to fold and walk away, and stick to it.Ha! I watched every fucking TED talk, read every article, searched all over the internet for what I did wrong, how can I improve myself? How can I better understand my boyfriend? Be a better girlfriend? Turns out I just needed to stop dating horrible abusers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 01:35 AM |
| 8 | Relationships may take work and effort at times, but you should not be working and sacrificing just to get the BASICS (love, respect, consideration, etc). Know your line and what it will take for you to fold and walk away, and stick to it.The narcissists and LVMs I dated absolutely wrecked my sense of what is normal conflict in a relationship. Therapy has been very helpful to sort out what is and isn't normal. My HVM partner has been so patient while I do, since I now panic at the slightest thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 01:31 AM |
| 72 | Women, be aware of what LVM calls "Kino".A guy was being trying to be very handsy with me within a half-hour of meeting for a date. I told him straight up I wouldn't see him again because he tried to touch me and he seemed shocked. They are completely out of touch with reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 01:16 AM |
| 29 | Find yourself a man who looks at you like this ship looks at another ship ⛵💕🛳Maybe they'll tie the nautical! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 01:10 AM |
| 14 | Don't let the red flags pass you by.This is definitely what we are raised to do sigh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 05:50 PM |
| 1 | What social activities do you think of as good for dating opportunities?Urgghhh!! I teach self-defense now and this makes me so angry.. I got really lucky with my club/foundation but I’m aware that a lot of bjj, mma etc. Are as you describe.. I’m sorry that happened to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 05:36 PM |
| 10 | What social activities do you think of as good for dating opportunities?Volunteering! Nowadays with Covid, there's still outdoors trash pick up or delivering meals to disabled and elderly etc. My partner worked the voting polls too and he does outreach for our scientific field (how we met!). I met some exes and made many friends through my Japanese Jiu-jitsu club too (just look for martial arts clubs that have women and are a little less into that machismo culture—aikido, kendo can be better choices than BJJ). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 06:26 AM |
| 20 | LVM interactions with your pets that set off alarms?My previous cat (a HVM, HVC?) hissed at everyone but my family (apparently siamese cats need longer than others before you can wean them) and my lovely ex waited years to be able to pet him. There was always some person who came over and expected immediate petting privileges.. Also reactions when your pet dies are very telling. I had just broken up with a man when mine died and he still called me from abroad, listened to me cry and provided support. Basic human kindness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 06:21 AM |
| 67 | Why do some men feel entitled to aim way out of their league?A friend whom I mentioned recently on here because I’ve seen him do some disrespectful things towards his wife and me as a friend, would constantly try to set me up with complete NVMs. I would even ask him “so what are this person’s qualities?” And he would admit “well he’s not very pleasant to hang out with actually, he’s not attractive, doesn’t have interesting hobbies”.. I’m sitting here O_O with my amazing career, friends and 15 years of jiu-jitsu realizing my friend doesn’t see any particul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 04:28 AM |
| 14 | Why is Hair Pulling and Choking (aggression) in Sex the Assumed Norm w/o Consent?It’s been funny to see FDS mentality trickle down to the other female subs these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 06:50 PM |
| 73 | Older women aren't taking men's BS after divorce and widowhood. It's so affirming to see older women enjoying lives that aren't centered around men. I think we're going to see a lot more of this as these next generations reach retirement ageHonestly, I don't know if they were so much mistakes as societal expectations and survival. It wasn't too long ago that women couldn't even have a bank account without male authorization. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 05:07 AM |
| 25 | 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮I will tell you that La Roche Posay Cicaplast repair balm is amazing, I wrecked my moisture barrier with too many acids, broke out like crazy, and it's the only thing that repaired it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 03:28 AM |
| 182 | “Where’s the 8pack baby?!”Women are fucking hilarious. I spend so much time on this sub cackling out loud. Men are seriously lucky. In my experience even women who aren't funny, are kind, caring, intelligent or have some redeeming quality. I meet tons of people through what I do, and I struggle to have enough time to develop and maintain all my friendships because I meet so many damn awesome women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 03:17 AM |
| 234 | Older women aren't taking men's BS after divorce and widowhood. It's so affirming to see older women enjoying lives that aren't centered around men. I think we're going to see a lot more of this as these next generations reach retirement ageMany of these women in their sixties and seventies were basically forced to marry LVMs and do the majority of chores and child rearing, and now that women have more freedoms they want to enjoy a bit of what us younger ladies get to experience. Good for them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 12:07 AM |
| 2 | Our fav guy just dropped another gem 😂I didn't know the term Desi even though I lived in the UK a long time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 11:51 PM |
| 25 | Trailer for "Kevin Can Go F Himself"; between this and Promising Young Woman, it feels we might be in the middle of a cultural reckoning.Yeah.. I think that, just like the original ending of Soul being changed, there's a realization from showrunners that we all watch movies for entertainment and escapism, not to be confronted with how bleak reality can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 11:22 PM |
| 66 | Trailer for "Kevin Can Go F Himself"; between this and Promising Young Woman, it feels we might be in the middle of a cultural reckoning.I hear you. I liked the ending of PYW because it stayed away from nihilism (the bad guys win haha!) while sticking to the reality of our society (consequences of rape culture and misogyny on women). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 09:13 PM |
| 9 | Vincent Cassel and his girlfriend. 31 years of age difference. This is disgusting.I'm so sorry you had to go through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 06:15 AM |
| 43 | Women's lives need to stop revolving around men2) "he wouldn't screw me over because we both have [social connection/work connection] in common. He's going to come correct with good clean intentions" WRONG. I thought that for so long.. I worked in a special capacity for one of the most famous people in the world and have forged amazing connections. My narcissist ex still went around our common industry calling me crazy and asking people to uninvite me from events, to people who knew I was perfectly sane. These people will never see past a ch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 06:00 AM |
| 18 | Almost half a million likes - this ain’t cute 🤢That is so sad.. if friends all dislike our partner, it should be worth teaching people that can be a red flag. He was the same, when I went over once so she could trim my hair, she asked him to hold the baby half an hour and he said “what do you want me to do with him! I don’t know what I’m supposed to do! I didn’t ask for this child!” And looked helpless.. I’m from a very proper, educated family and I had never seen something like this around me. Especially since he’s helped with some things i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 08:24 PM |
| 19 | Vincent Cassel and his girlfriend. 31 years of age difference. This is disgusting.J’étais tenté de contacter les modos ici pour leur demander. J’habite aux US depuis quelques années mais j’imagine qu’avec les apps et tout la situation du rencard et des relations amoureuses s’est dégradée en France également (?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 08:16 PM |
| 34 | Vincent Cassel and his girlfriend. 31 years of age difference. This is disgusting.I didn’t either.. and I’m French and have an art degree, spent my whole childhood in museums.. It seems taboo to acknowledge that great artists might be garbage people; I think it creates too much cognitive dissonance in people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 08:12 PM |
| 52 | Vincent Cassel and his girlfriend. 31 years of age difference. This is disgusting.Life imitates art.. he played Gauguin in a movie that was accused of whitewashing the story by omitting that the painter was a pedophile, who had a relationship with several children and a 13-year old in Tahiti and spread syphilis there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 07:16 PM |
| 21 | Almost half a million likes - this ain’t cute 🤢She was implying that he just wouldn’t be taking care of the baby. He’s gotten better from what I’ve seen, but the accumulation of this and LVM behavior over the years (I fell out with him at one point because he wouldn’t let my boyfriend come over when we usually hang out on their terrace, he admitted recently that he’s always “à bit jealous of his female friends’s boyfriends”.. which wtf). I wouldn’t feel comfortable suggesting counseling and I’m starting to think this is just who he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 06:49 PM |
| 5 | It’s been a week...I am very youthful looking and have a public career in science (a guy once called me astrophysics Barbie..) so I hear you, it’s a daily frustration. You have to try to be above it all and ignore them, it’s the only way; you can’t argue with people for them to treat you decently. Especially if they’re saying things like this. I’m sorry I know it’s hard. I would also recommend looking for a job that will respect your hard work more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 06:34 PM |
| 50 | Vincent Cassel and his girlfriend. 31 years of age difference. This is disgusting.J’aimerais tellement qu’on ait un FDS français.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 06:18 PM |
| 49 | Vincent Cassel and his girlfriend. 31 years of age difference. This is disgusting.I didn’t even realize they split up. It seems he lives in Brazil now which I’m guessing means he barely sees his other kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 06:17 PM |
| 97 | Almost half a million likes - this ain’t cute 🤢A good friend of mine acted like this with his newborn recently, his wife told me she was also too scared to go to work and leave him with the baby. I don't know what to do, I really like her but I cant handle being friends with him anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 05:13 PM |
| 20 | “SIMP” has gone mainstream. Boys bully other boys for being nice to women. This is the male socialization we’re up against.I can't believe this shit has trickled down to little kids. "Today's boys are being raised in the middle of the biggest redefinition of male gender roles in recent history," This is certainly true, but.. we would just like to be treated as equal people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 06:36 AM |
| 18 | “SIMP” has gone mainstream. Boys bully other boys for being nice to women. This is the male socialization we’re up against.I’ve seen it used for describing a guy that pays attention to his gf/wife Those bastards! How dare they! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 06:34 AM |
| 6 | Why I left my Fiancé. - Woman shares inspiring story of how she trusted her intuition, decided to she deserved better, and left her fiance (a man she had dated for nine years).They removed the one in the zodiac they didn't like (the Serpent bearer) so I think it's fair to add whatever sign you want :p | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:03 AM |
| 19 | "I HATE it when guys don't hit me!! idk if you have 5x times my strength!! Do it! Hit me! Love me!!"What is this... I've done Japanese jiu-jitsu for fifteen years and I still occasionally have to tell off guys twice my size at training for applying some technique with full force and nearly breaking my arm or strangling me to death; just because you can doesn't mean you should; you are always supposed to adapt technique based on size and state (intoxicated, mentally ill, level of aggressivity, weapon, solo or in a group etc.) of the attacker. And the stronger and more proficient you are, the mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:27 AM |
| 21 | Why I left my Fiancé. - Woman shares inspiring story of how she trusted her intuition, decided to she deserved better, and left her fiance (a man she had dated for nine years).One of the many reasons I hate astrology is how it gets used to excuse bad behavior. He couldn’t do x because he’s an asparagus sign! Everyone is in charge of their own behavior and acting right. I have a feeling she’ll be absolutely fine down the line and meet someone wonderful! Do not compromise on wanting basic love and respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:55 PM |
| 33 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!I curse in front of my friends but I’m constantly shocked by how vulgar these types of conversations are.. and these are public. When did people start being so crass and vulgar in media.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 07:25 AM |
| 11 | Your Future in an Age Gap RelationshipBecause we are left-wing people who still predominantly vote right-wing. We have a lot of cultural contradictions... Macron has always been center right. In all fairness though, our left parties fractured into tons of little parties—making them unelectable—so it was him or the far right, and it will continue to be that way. I know many in the US don't like its two-party system, but the winning party will always be the largest coalition of interests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 02:18 AM |
| 42 | If You Hate Online Dating, Delete Your Dating AppsI think online dating can be workable if you have very good boundaries, secure attachment and vet ruthlessly. Many of us here lack some of these things, myself included, and in that case it's definitely going to cause you more harm than good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 01:24 AM |
| 8 | Single dad “can’t make you the center of his world” yet.... can’t leave women alone. Four kids and two baby mamas, this guy is a catch! Leave women alone and raise your kids!I was with a man with two kids after I moved to the US and he lied about it for quite some time; I wonder if he’s being upfront about it and dating women of his age range who might also be moms, which is what he should do if he has time to date. My ex would break up with me every two months for the most random reasons and it devastates me that on top of putting me through it he put his young kids through that, and clearly a revolving door of girlfriends. I’m glad my parents didn’t put me through… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 02:44 AM |
| 5 | Women in their 30s are more attractive than women in their 20s.My modeling career really took off in my thirties, I have gotten huge gigs for international brands. I look better now than I ever did, I take better care of myself, dress better. I think this whole “wall” thing is hilarious, I never heard about it before moving to the US, many of our actresses in France have kept working until their sixties and seventies. Just look at Isabelle Huppert. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 05:50 PM |
| 30 | The fact that France has had no age consent and is trying to now make it 15. The fuck??? That’s FUCKED up. I just know pedos love this ew.We definitely have a lot of sexism, especially in the older generation, but having lived in both we also treat sex a little differently than in anglo-saxon cultures. Things are probably a bit different now for people in their late teens/twenties, sadly, with apps and the rest, but it never felt as degrading and cheap/disposable as I've felt it be in US culture. For much of my generation at least, unless otherwise discussed, if you sleep with someone that means you're "sealing the deal" towards b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 08:47 AM |
| 22 | HV Valentine’s Day giftA guy I befriended at rock shows growing up made me some mix tapes and sent me a lovely letter once; I still have them and remember him fondly 🖤 he even bought me a ticket for a show he knew I couldn’t afford to go to. He never expected sex or pressured me to do anything, just liked seeing me. It really isn’t about money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 05:37 AM |
| 118 | The fact that France has had no age consent and is trying to now make it 15. The fuck??? That’s FUCKED up. I just know pedos love this ew.I promise you, many of us French ladies are fighting back! The current activism on domestic violence and murders has gotten a lot of press. There was a recent case involving a public figure and incest, hence a lot of discussions on this stuff to improve it right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 05:31 AM |
| 19 | COSMO wants y’all to know that Armie Hammer’s Cannibalism Fetish isn’t the problem here and people are “distorting” it. Because nothing screams “safe and sane” like Cannibalism Play.fetish called Mental illness* called FTFY cosmo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:34 PM |
| 8 | Marilyn Manson ‘Almost Destroyed Me’, actress Esmé Bianco says her relationship with the singer left her with physical scars and PTSD.I used to be part of the scene and industry and I saw it too. I still see echoes of it from friends in the industry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:38 AM |
| 21 | Marilyn Manson ‘Almost Destroyed Me’, actress Esmé Bianco says her relationship with the singer left her with physical scars and PTSD.I was a late nineties-early noughties goth and now that I think of it, of all the subcultures I’ve been into, goth had more decent men; most of the ones I dated were kind to me 🖤 I think we all saw Manson as mostly theatrics, the dressing up, the atmosphere.. it makes me sad that he was a bad dude after all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:33 AM |
| 15 | Boys learn disrespect towards women thru their fathers and the media.Part of the reason I started teaching self-defense is that women in particular rarely see themselves fighting back properly against violence in films. It’s usually scream and flail, and while that’s a normal response for anyone, I also think it’s taught many women to think they’re helpless out there. It is not true. I’ve done Japanese jiu-jitsu for fifteen years and even the smallest person can take down someone twice their size. That’s why movies and media that show women being in control and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 04:08 AM |
| 15 | Woman posts about fiancé who refuses her request for help carrying something while she’s on crutches. He admits that he doesn’t feel empathy, and many comments telling her she needs to help him. Also, my reply triggers angry scrotes.I dated a man who it seems had been diagnosed with some version of psychopathy, he had a great career, friends, and was polite and sweet on the surface (he lacked total empathy towards me in private however and put me through hell as a result). Definitely not a murderer. Movies do a very poor job in depicting people with personality disorders, most of them can appear completely normal until you know them beyond casual friendship, and most will not resort to violence I expect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 05:50 PM |
| 7 | Pickme BRANDS herself with degrading tattoo ahead of marriage to LVM.it is her body That is absolutely true. And is also true of any woman doing sex work etc. which FDS disapproves of for very clear reason. When you accept degrading treatment, (branding yourself someone’s property is degrading treatment, this is not getting your husband’s name tattooed in a heart) you are signifying to society that this is an acceptable way to treat women. That’s why pickme behaviors don’t exist in a vacuum, we all learn from experience and each other what is and isn’t acceptable… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 06:46 AM |
| 60 | Reminder to watch out for white-worshiping menThe first guy I dated in the US after I moved over from Europe had spent thirty five years of his life in the Mormon church. I look Nordic and He used to tell me he dreamt about having beautiful blue-eyed blond kids with me which at first I thought was sweet, until I realized.. it was because Mormonism has this whole aryan thing. I had honestly never encountered this before. And then I saw it on the Mormon mommy blogs everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 04:10 AM |
| 23 | The fallacy of the nice guy : The men of Big Bang TheoryThis show is such a hard one for me, I watched it for years from Europe and studied astrophysics before moving to LA and now having ties to Caltech. It was the first to feature female scientists which is so important for us, but I agree that there was so much sexism in it, it makes me sad. The Howard character was particularly sexist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 07:09 AM |
| 19 | Stronger TogetherI think the most important is to raise them up and make them understand they deserve better. When I dated a manipulative narc, I feel out with two girlfriends who thought it was a bright idea to call me an idiot over that relationship.. a woman’s self-esteem is already in the toilet by that point, friends need to fish it out. It doesn’t always work but it’s a start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 06:52 AM |
| 5 | It's not a ring, but I just got my aligners in the mail for my new smileI did smile direct to re-align my bottom teeth and it worked well! I wouldn’t use it for a more serious issue because you don’t see an orthodontist and they give them to you in one batch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 06:48 AM |
| 6 | I decided I’m done settling for half assed men.I reached that point last year and it was the best feeling in the world. Once you're done with lack of consideration, half-assed affection and low value things, you can never go back. The one thing I'm attracted to now is a man's ability to be loving and caring, I don't care if we're into all the same things, what they promise me, if they're my physical ideal, successful... if they don't have that, I'm not interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 03:48 AM |
| 29 | Online Dating Field Report: TLDR; no, don’t botherThis is because if you are even halfway to having your shit together you would never even cross paths with most of these men. You hit the nail on the head right here. A little while on OLD convinced me a few years back to lower my standards because I thought this is all there was. But these are just the shadows on the cave wall, not real life. I realized there are plenty of high value men, I've met them and been in relationships with them but they're not on OLD. OLD has given many women tunnel v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:55 PM |
| 26 | Misuse & appropriation of feminist language/concepts by men on RedditI love people who act like it's abuse and manipulation to defend yourself. This follows the trend of racists getting up in arms when they're called out on being racist etc. My abusive flatmates put my things in garbage bags one weekend while I was away, I told them by email what they had done wrong and that they were also breaking the lease and now their whole shtick is "you threatened to have us evicted!! You monster!!". No, I defended myself. It's called boundaries. It's all narcissistic proje… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:41 PM |
| 49 | The friend we all need 😭👑Because so many people are not listening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 05:14 AM |
| 49 | The friend we all need 😭👑Oh this is the ravioli in a can lady haha!! I love her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 05:13 AM |
| 74 | The letter my assaulter slipped under my apartment door. THE AUDACITY!Abusers will always compliment us on how “resilient” we are. It’s conditioning to tolerate further abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 07:07 PM |
| 8 | Thoughts on The Five Love LanguagesI discovered the “love languages” idea when I was dating someone with a personality disorder many years ago and it then became an explanation and excuse for shitty behavior. Some years, several LVMs and one probable HVM later, I think it’s a bad idea. A healthy relationship involves your partner giving you a bit of everything. Sure, some might be dominant over others but you need all of them to thrive. I think the only reason to accept not having all five is very specific situations that involve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 07:05 PM |
| 11 | Found this posted online by a therapist and I had to repost as I know many of you have experienced this with a man, or will potentially experience itThank you for posting this! My therapist and I talk a lot about NPD because of my narc parent and my past dating some and I never heard of this. Really good stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 06:53 PM |
| 17 | too many women know this painI remembered the other day while out walking with a friend that a guy I was with made me sign an NDA about his random music project when we split up (he was then surprised I wouldn’t be friends with him). Promptly burst out laughing so hard I nearly rolled on the floor in this park. Even if you aren’t conventionally hot, the disrespect should still jolt you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 06:48 PM |
| 23 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!I’m sorry you experienced that, it’s a huge problem for us. One of the only positives I’ve experienced living and walking around in the US (probably because almost everyone has cars). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 06:40 PM |
| 89 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!As a French woman who has lived in a variety of countries, NVMs are equally bad across the western world (I’m not going to speak about our sisters on other continents who have to deal with acid attacks, arranged marriages etc). But I will say no one gaslighted me quite as much as the Americans who usually had a veneer of respectability about them; the onesI dated worked so hard to appear HVM the first months. At least with most French NVMs I knew almost immediately they were pieces of shit. I wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 06:39 PM |
| 8 | Join me in a marvelous exercise of the imaginationMany of the most vulnerable in society—children, the elderly, sick people—would be utterly abandoned. Women fill most of these roles both socially and professionally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:40 AM |
| 11 | Lessons I learned from my QUEEN mother who married a HVM (my dad) and knocked some sense into me about my LVM ex-boyfriends 🙌👑😍Good job on getting out! I wish someone had knocked some sense into me when I tolerated disrespect from several LVMs the past years. Support and validation from our peers is the way to break this cycle and build healthy boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:36 AM |
| 5 | Woman asks for the nicest way to approach asking her husband to stop leaving poop crumbs in their bedThis was my only reaction too. ?????... ¿¿¿¿¿ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:26 AM |
| 6 | The Therapist Uncensored PodcastThank you for posting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:22 AM |
| 6 | People defending Armie Hammer as a kinkWorse, apparently he’s getting DMs now from women offering themselves to him... reminds me of the women who befriend and marry jailed serial killers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:21 AM |
| 15 | The End of MenThis is such an interesting article, thank you for posting it; worth the long read. It’s interesting what they write about the 2008 recession having mostly affected male jobs, seeing that the pandemic mostly affected female careers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:03 AM |
| 10 | The misogynistic undertones of "you're not a REAL feminist"Yep, FDS has been super useful in dealing with them until I move: Block delete. They can leave me a post-it for bills now, I won’t even acknowledge their presence in a room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 02:47 AM |
| 3 | FDS as a WLWIt’s boundaries 101 here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 09:44 PM |
| 53 | The misogynistic undertones of "you're not a REAL feminist"Holy shit, thanks for posting this. I picked two younger girls to move in to the place I found four years ago, was endlessly nice to them, gave them food and they both leagued against me and put my living room things in garbage bags when I was away the weekend before Christmas. Basically they’ve been making my life hell and They had also accused me of not being “a real feminist” because one had a guy she was on a date with tried to jump her to have sex with her. I asked her to report it because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 07:22 PM |
| 6 | I broke up with my boyfriend todayA few years ago a guy I had split up with a few days prior after a short relationship texted and called me the second he saw me post about my cat dying. It’s the bare minimum. I’m so sorry for your loss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 06:33 AM |
| 23 | FDS as a WLWI gave FDS advice to a very sweet male friend the other day who was dealing with a lady treating him poorly, cheating etc. Not tolerating disrespect works for everyone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 03:02 AM |
| 72 | Encountering men who overshare: RUN, SIS.The men who overshared with me turned out to be abusers. I'm an oversharer so I have a hard time condemning these peope but I know I'm also wrong to do it. Everyone should have healthy boundaries and share that stuff only when you know each other more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 11:16 PM |
| 2 | The healing stage is so hard!I regret doing it honestly... But I know it's so hard when you're in the thick of it. A helpful tip is to write it down but not send it. We're there with you and you will get through the pain! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 11:14 PM |
| 32 | Dita Von Teese breaks her silence on Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"Fellow Trent fan too. Starfuckers inc. was sooo long ago, he’s known for ages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 06:58 PM |
| 104 | Dita Von Teese breaks her silence on Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"Bingo. This is why the narrative of “but he didn’t abuse his wife and they were married for x years!” is such horseshit. I have a parent with NPD who has a thriving social circle etc. An ex used to say they were “the nicest person in the world to everyone but their daughters”. Abusers continuously test limits to see who they can get away with abusing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 06:56 PM |
| 8 | Understanding the pain he projects to the world is the pain he feels inside him. His hatred for women, is hatred for himself. He's no different from a fearful child, lashing out, because he didn't get the toy he wanted.This is how my therapist describes people with narcissistic personality disorder; they are deeply wounded people. But it’s not our job to fix them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 06:53 PM |
| 3 | Has the FDS-mindset ruined (some) music for anyone else?I discovered her with that metal rendition of Say So, bought the song and then realized I’d given money to Dr Luke :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 10:12 AM |
| 15 | HVM woodpecker has come every single day working so hard on his nest! The female comes occasionally to check on his progress. He works all day with little breaks to make their space for (hopefully) babies!Unexpected crossover of my interests in ornithology and feminism! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 09:26 AM |
| 9 | Leveling up and relearning how to be by myselfOnce you drop the dead weight, good people and better friends will come to you! Be patient until then, you got this 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 09:21 AM |
| 42 | 18 year old radfem standing up against sugar baby culture and the exploitation of minors. Proud of my generationWow.. I thought ladies were getting diamonds or something at least, not cheap Walmart crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 11:51 PM |
| 10 | STOP PLAYING HOUSEJesus. I missed the update.. how awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 11:47 PM |
| 5 | HVM that aren't your physical type?If he wasn’t your type what made you go for him? My worst ex was not my type physically but was my type by profession and hobbies. Ultimately though I had convinced myself he was my type. A friend of mine who keeps ending up with NVMs who treat her terribly because they’re her type, keeps telling me she doesn’t want to “settle” when I tell her to stop dating these awful people; she sees the alternative as getting with someone she’ll have no attraction to. In her specific case she’s mistaking man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:44 PM |
| 36 | HVM that aren't your physical type?I'm going to go against the grain here because I've had relationships with HVM who at first weren't my "type" (you didn't say "ugly" so I'm going on the basis of everyday looks), and for me at least having a type led me to ignore red flags and low-value behabiour. Attractions that you feel immediately can sometimes be due to manipulation and it doesn't necessarily translate to chemistry in bed—the most attractive/my type man I was in a relationship with (for many years), was definitely high-valu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 07:10 AM |
| 13 | I doubt it shocks anyone here that Evan Rachel Wood is calling out Marilyn Manson for abuse. He has been such a crucial normalizer of sexual depravity. Out your abusers. Let’s help end this libfem sexpos mindset.For those of us who are in entertainment, there's also the issue of this overshadowing your career and the things you worked so hard for. You don't want to become "that girl that Weinstein/X abused".. it sucks but I understand that aspect :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 07:00 AM |
| 58 | This Sub is so empowering that I can't stand other relationship subredditsYou're completely right that scarcity mindset makes us think in dichotomies: either I accept this bad treatment or I'll be single forever. I mean not with that attitude, Yep. High-value people, with solid values, morality, human generosity etc. are a little rarer in general, but if you work to become a high-value person you will attract and find them. I work in one of the most rotten industries in the world in a city filled with narcs and egomaniacs, and although I have dated some of these peopl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:17 AM |
| 3 | Do I look like a b*tch to you?Seriously.. why would you give attitude to someone who is in charge of what you’re eating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 10:13 PM |
| 7 | Not sure if this is allowed here, but more women should know about comphetThank you for posting this very interesting topic. I wish you well going forward from your breakup! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 09:56 PM |
| 26 | In case you weren't convinced bumble is a breeding ground for an all-around LV experience...I had a bumble ad yesterday on mobile and it looked like one of those porn ads “hot girls to f*** in your city”, it was a bottom banner with a photo of a lady and some text about come meet her on bumble or something. OLD is showing its true colors more and more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 09:49 PM |
| 22 | FDS Vs. The Rest of RedditHere’s a great example: yesterday I replied to someone with an innocuous French correction on here, just for conversation? Because I’m French? Because I like it when people tell me I’m using an idiom wrong? Anyway I’ve posted stuff like that before on other parts of Reddit and most of the time I get ignored or downvoted. Here I actually got upvotes. The ladies in here are communicating and exchanging about all sorts of things with a sense of profound shared empathy. It’s a very nice feeling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 09:41 PM |
| 78 | When we say we hate men, it's shit like this. We have no choice but to feel like we have to be cautious all our lives, and sometimes that still isn't good enough.I'm shocked he only faces 25 years for being a complete psychopath and danger to society. It seems his father also held his mother at knifepoint; not surprising to see the abuse trickled down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 08:44 AM |
| 45 | When we say we hate men, it's shit like this. We have no choice but to feel like we have to be cautious all our lives, and sometimes that still isn't good enough.How awful. I can't imagine the pain her family and friends must still be going through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 08:32 AM |
| 9 | OMG.💀 The word I've been looking for to describe the feminist/liberal man lmao.😂😭Made me think of this epic video for the song "Libertine" by Mylène Farmer (she was our Madonna of sorts in France): NSFW https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gaw6dfj--q0&ab_channel=MusicBoxHistory Enjoy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 08:12 AM |
| 11 | When men say "men are better than women..."« La résistance ! »* :) in French by the way we also add a space before and after double punctuation. Now you have this useless knowledge! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 01:19 AM |
| 80 | Yup 😂Afterwards, he had the gall to go up to my then-boyfriend who was a manager there and tell him I was a bitch for doing that haha. Luckily for him I wasn’t working there anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 06:23 PM |
| 224 | Yup 😂I worked as a tester for two of the biggest video games company and so many men there were just openly misogynistic.. after one basically hazed me for weeks, told me his team didn’t like me because of my nationality, put porn on my computer when I stepped away for a minute, I reported him to HR and he nearly lost his job. Boohoo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 05:15 PM |
| 28 | Is this just an American thing?French here, yep.. I was warned about this before I moved through my years on reddit and it still threw me. I told the first guy I dated "FYI if you're seeing other people and I'm not your exclusive girlfriend I'm out, I don't do polygamy"; he was an LVM but at least he immediately complied. I've been a pickme and accepted bullshit but this seems bare minimum. Enforce your boundaries ladies. I can't believe people are still doing that during Covid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:03 AM |
| 5 | Is this just an American thing?I'm French-American, lived in both and other countries, and it is definitely pushed on women more in the US. I feel people in the US date people they feel lukewarm about rather than staying single and having real relationships; and I don't feel women and men do it for the same reason.. hence we're here on FDS to collectively re-learn that being alone is much better for you than being with a shitty partner. When I moved, many of the people I've dated here had so little relationship experience des… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:55 AM |
| 5 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.Exactly. Certainly the late-comers will take a loss and they seemed happy to do so to “screw the system”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Example: Saying the Stanford Prison Experiment reflects human nature when not only were the subjects all male, the only woman mentioned in the experiment (the scientists wife) is the one who put a stop to it.Sure, in fact we have a ton of anti-vaxxers too, but nothing on the scale I’ve seen here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 10:50 PM |
| 9 | Why some women put up with the bare minimum from men in North America: a short essay on societal+patriarchal conditioning, pros and cons/benefits outweigh the costs mindset, and the fear of singledomGreat post, thank you. I especially agree with the bit about nice things not cancelling out bad things. Your partner is not a colleague or family member you have to tolerate, you choose to have them in your life, they should be awesome to you regularly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 10:35 PM |
| 6 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.They’re all getting fleeced by a couple finance bros at the top of WSB. Martin Shkreli used to be a mod there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 10:25 PM |
| 23 | Since vetting is a lifelong process, after 3 years of marriage, he never stops putting in effort. Random bouquet he got me yesterday. Still surprises me with random jewellery and gift cards to my favorite salonsI’m also with someone who was a long-time friend prior and appears to be HV. The friend zone is such a dumb concept. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 10:14 PM |
| 3 | Wow, he seems like such a great guy. He’s so different than anyone I’ve dated before. We never fight. He’s been committed since day one. I can tell he really cares about me. Blah, blah, NO!Yeah, I think conflict-management as opposed to conflict happening at all, is really the tell-tale sign of LV vs HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:40 AM |
| 94 | Example: Saying the Stanford Prison Experiment reflects human nature when not only were the subjects all male, the only woman mentioned in the experiment (the scientists wife) is the one who put a stop to it.I come from Western Europe which obviously is culturally quite similar but I will say that having spent a few years in the US now, I've noticed individualism here is off the charts. Covid made it particularly prominent given the number of people refusing masks, social distancing etc etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:27 AM |
| 5 | Don’t...give men your number while out anywhere!Uhhhh, that's even weirder when you've put the most wholesome content up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 09:45 PM |
| 24 | Wow, he seems like such a great guy. He’s so different than anyone I’ve dated before. We never fight. He’s been committed since day one. I can tell he really cares about me. Blah, blah, NO!The narcs I was with never brought up issues or pick at things as you describe, instead they would just stew, feel attacked and then dump me out of the blue, it was so messed up. My current partner who may be HVM expresses his disagreements and does it politely without insults or victimization so we can resolve things. Beware of men who will just smile through it all, my experience is they’re building up resentment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 08:32 PM |
| 35 | Don’t...give men your number while out anywhere!I actually had to put a blanket ban on giving my number to any men a few years back after a number of men I gave my number to in a professional capacity texted me weird sexual shit. Now people get my email, maybe my public insta and that's it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 08:14 AM |
| 59 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.TIL they have a name, my last LVM was like that too.. Worst part is sometimes it was takeaways we got that I would have eaten if I knew he wasn't, or things I bought for him, that would just sit there and rot. I suspect the fact that I even said something about it diplomatically is a huge part of why he ended it... I mean I write a show on climate change, which some days literally includes writing about food waste. They can't stand the slightest criticism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:10 AM |
| 6 | Hot Take: There is no 'way' to meet a High Value ManIt's true, and like any relationship in our lives, they're all different. It's a human need to seek out patterns but the HVMs I've been with came from different backgrounds; I also then tried to reproduce those conditions and couldn't understand why I ended up with awful human beings, it was so frustrating and I always felt cheated. Let go of any expectations. FDS just helps you waste less time with the LVMs (which might be standing in the way) and become a HVW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 02:06 AM |
| 19 | They Tried it, We Denied itGrowing up I thought "oh religious groups are anti-abortion, anti-contraceptives, and they're also anti-porn... of course because they don't want women to be in control of their bodies". Turns out, you can dislike both: Organized religion and mass pornography! Both treat women like shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 01:59 AM |
| 3 | Neurodivergents & the Manic Pixie Dream Girl TrapYes, it’s possible to have both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Neurodivergents & the Manic Pixie Dream Girl TrapIt is not, see my comment above. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:24 PM |
| 8 | Neurodivergents & the Manic Pixie Dream Girl TrapNo it is not. I have seen several specialized therapists on the matter. In fact Autism, and bipolar used to sometimes be a misdiagnosis for gifted people. We are often quite different and one way I’ve found to describe giftedness to people is autism with reverse social skills and empathy (I’m not saying autistic people don’t feel empathy by the way). I’ve been tested for autism ;) not that there was any doubt in my case. You can however be autistic and gifted, I know someone who was diagnosed as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:22 PM |
| 7 | When they live in your head rent freeI liked her recent video on reframing someone not liking you as misunderstanding you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:14 PM |
| 4 | When they live in your head rent freeOn YouTube. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:13 PM |
| 10 | Thoughts on my new theory on why many men prefer dogs to cats?Obviously I’m biased as a cat person but I’ve had much better experiences with men who liked or had cats. Cats have much stricter boundaries than dogs because they are considered to not be fully domesticated like dogs are, and I think symbolically that means something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:11 PM |
| 58 | Anyone else pick up Narcissist vibes off of pictures?Trust me, those guys can be narcs too.. I dated a guy with very clear NPD, whose father had NPD and I had swiped him because he was the only one with a real genuine smile and non-douchey pictures. Some of them excel at being affable, wholesome and charming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 02:43 AM |
| 29 | Neurodivergents & the Manic Pixie Dream Girl TrapThank you so much for making this post my fellow neuroatypical sister. I was diagnosed gifted (a stupid name for a more complex situation) two years ago back home in France (it seems in the US it's generally applied to children) by a specialized psychologist, largely because I had fallen prey to so many men with narcissistic personality disorder and others of that ilk. What you wrote is an excellent descriptor of what many of us go through, and I highly suspect that many women in here fit the si… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 02:27 AM |
| 10 | OLD is truly a dumpster fireSaw people doing it as a teenager, practiced without fire for a while and then did a safety course :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:23 PM |
| 10 | FDS has ruined many songs for meOh yes.. Movies, songs, uhrrr.. all I see now is LVM and pickmes. I’ve dated several musicians and worked in music so I also know the sad love songs are often written from a place of having treated your partner like shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:19 PM |
| 6 | What sexual stuff can I do before getting into a relationship? Receiving oral sex and making out?Oral sex is sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:34 AM |
| 51 | Men who want kidsI tell eeeeeeeveryone about episiotomies, I want everyone to be as traumatized as when I found out this is done to women’s bodies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:29 AM |
| 57 | OLD is truly a dumpster fireI studied astrophysics, do fire breathing, am from 9000km away, listed all my hobbies, and guys on OLD would still never find anything interesting to ask me. OLD is a trash fire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:27 AM |
| 12 | There is no Dream GirlMy therapist is such a HVW and ally for women, she always gets it when I talk about stuff from here and has great insights. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 05:11 AM |
| 6 | Boundaries are for you to be protectedGood for you! My new flatmates used a weekend I was away right before Christmas to put my things in garbage bags because they don’t like that I decorated the place I’ve maintained and lived in for three years. I realized that I don’t have to justify or keep interacting with people like that so I decided to block them and have no communication with them, they’re big mad and I feel great :) you’re absolutely right that you can place whatever boundary you want! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 03:04 AM |
| 16 | OLD Safety: photos you useI can confirm, a guy tracked me down from what he said was a sophisticated “Ukrainian” facial search engine, from a dating app that didn’t even have my name. He only told me this after lying and saying we’d met at a big event I had attended and met a bunch people I don’t necessarily remember at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 02:59 AM |
| 37 | There is no Dream GirlI’ve been the “dream girl” of many exes, by virtue of what I do, being an “exotic foreigner”, how I look etc. some have even said it, it’s like you said: I got tossed all the same. The only difference with being that girl in their eyes is that the second I exhibited a modicum of humanity, imperfection or just personality, they absolutely loathed me and were so disappointed. I envied the women who maybe weren’t their dream girls and had room to be human, but again, as you said we’re all on the sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 02:50 AM |
| 135 | Relationship Ambiguity Is The New Backlash, and It's Dangerous and Effective Because of Its SubtletyA friend and her partner offered to set me up with a supposed good friend of theirs, who was seemingly looking and had things in common with me. We exchanged pictures through them, socials etc., agreed to have dinner with them on a specific date... The day before the date comes along and she passes along a a message from him saying he's just spent an amazing day with his love coach and has decided to be poly for the next year and was I still interested? LOL. I said absolutely not, I'm not willin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 06:19 PM |
| 2 | Petition to stop using the term "sex work"I did not know motte-and-Bailey and as someone who works in science/astrophysics, I love that it uses astrology as an example. Thanks for teaching me that, it will be useful in my career. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 06:54 AM |
| 12 | Do LVM’s ever change?I assume now that a fair proportion of LVM have NPD, and most therapists will tell you that no they cannot change. They wear a mask to charm and get what they want on occasion, that’s it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 06:49 AM |
| 26 | I am not your dream girl.Hahahaha, my last LVM told me that.. before asking me to not see my male friends anymore and then dumping me out of the blue. Never believe them when they say that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 06:43 AM |
| 16 | What my self-defense classes taught me about people handling and datingLong-time Jitsuka here, I love your interpretation. Thank you for sharing it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 06:13 PM |
| 28 | Are all divorced men = LVM?I think it depends on age. When I moved to the US I could not believe how many people on OLD in their thirties were divorced; I had relationships with two divorcés and they were both LVMs, NPD etc. If you’re meeting in real-life, that means you can vet better; in that case I would consider a younger divorcé. On OLD, under a certain age I wouldn’t risk it again because I’m not good at spotting their red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 08:12 AM |
| 14 | It’s NEVER your job to save him from himselfVet and vet hard because you could end up being that fiancée he’s mouthing off... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:07 PM |
| 8 | Paige Lorenze put out a great statement about the abuse she suffered at the hands of Armie Hammer.It’s funny because when it came out I thought Armie was a bad choice due to the age difference. If I remember correctly in the book it was only 2-3 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 07:45 PM |
| 6 | Armie Hammer scandal is waking up some libfems about "kink" cultureOf course, I know US redditors often aren’t aware! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 07:40 PM |
| 48 | Armie Hammer scandal is waking up some libfems about "kink" culturePlease don’t link the daily fail, they are peak misogyny, homophobia, super conservative etc. This stuff is always on other outlets. Good note though from that other lady. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:43 AM |
| 3 | How 'Promising Young Woman' Upends Sex Comedy ClichesIt’s definitely on Amazon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:22 AM |
| 18 | How 'Promising Young Woman' Upends Sex Comedy ClichesIt’s very good! Mostly you can tell it was written, directed and produced by women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:22 AM |
| 54 | Repost: "People no longer marry other people, people marry the corporation they work for"Welcome to late-stage capitalism... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 04:07 AM |
| 54 | Paige Lorenze put out a great statement about the abuse she suffered at the hands of Armie Hammer.Watch him do a mea culpa about how he's an addict and needs help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 03:57 AM |
| 78 | Paige Lorenze put out a great statement about the abuse she suffered at the hands of Armie Hammer.Seriously, this is the kind of stuff young women who are starting to date need to be exposed to by models and actresses that are in the public eye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 01:58 AM |
| 66 | Paige Lorenze put out a great statement about the abuse she suffered at the hands of Armie Hammer.I couldn't figure out how to put multiple images so here is her full post : https://www.instagram.com/p/CKXcyQcFUtE/ It takes a lot of courage to come out with all this, especially in the entertainment industry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 01:52 AM |
| 2 | HV Relationships and Quarantine: A Post-Mortem AnalysisThank you for sharing this! I was in a relationship with an LVM at the start of quarantine but have now been seeing a long-term friend of mine for a few months who has consistently displayed HVM behaviour and the dynamics between the two relationships in the midst of the pandemic couldn't be more different. I have a tendency to go to bed late which I try to stifle, the LVM consistently made it worse and would go to bed at 5, wake up at 13h when I was there.. meaning I'd miss work emails, contact… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 01:36 AM |
| 9 | I was blocked for this? They just can’t stand that a woman doesn’t want to sleep around. Can’t let those FDS ideas get out!! 🙄It’s insane that this is now seen as unreasonable. Back home, even kissing someone implies being an item for most people of at least my generation and older. When I moved to the US, I’d go on dates and men would try to touch me, it freaked me out so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 10:20 PM |
| 18 | A man who doesn’t assault women should not be put on a pedestal. We don’t glorify treating women with the bare minimum of respect. This video shows a great level of self-awareness.You’re right, plenty of women are doing womankind no favors.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 04:41 AM |
| 32 | Sister SolidarityI was in a few women’s groups in my city and even those spaces were full of virtue signaling and what I now realize was pickme bullshit. A guy had befriended me to them ask me to marry him for a green card (and I had met him twice on a job!), and I made a joke about how now men don’t just fuckzone us but also green card zone us, and all these women came down on me telling me I was racist, some people are fleeing war etc. The guy was from France like me and a model.. we’re not exactly a dictators… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 04:35 AM |
| 27 | Plastic surgery and the paradox of datingTo these men, we are products.. which can quickly fall out of fashion. Which is why you're right to point out that even if you get that boob job, butt lift etc. you might still be disposable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 12:45 AM |
| 131 | A man who doesn’t assault women should not be put on a pedestal. We don’t glorify treating women with the bare minimum of respect. This video shows a great level of self-awareness.I genuinely think we have almost reached the limit of what women can accomplish towards equality until men decide to change the culture and hold their friends and family accountable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 12:41 AM |
| 9 | Anthropologist Mary Catherine Bateson died recently and she had great insights on the changing roles of women in society.Seriously! I love hearing about all these bright women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Kindergarten teacher Helen Hulick in court in 1938 for wearing attire the judge didn't like.Here is the link about it: https://www.latimes.com/local/california/la-me-california-retrospective-20141023-story.html Copying over the comment from the other sub: According to the LA Times, she was in court to testify about a burglary. The judge was apparently so distracted by her “green and orange leisure attire” (I wish we had a color photo!) that he ordered her to leave and come back in a dress; she came back in slacks and with an attorney “who carried four heavy volumes of citations relativ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 07:55 PM |
| 30 | Ladies! Cell Phone Tango PART TWO 😍I love these ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 06:45 PM |
| 105 | Trauma will keep you in a loop of your pastThat’s a great way to see it. After I broke up with an LVM last summer my friends pointed out that at least he was better than the previous one, and I left in four months, not a year and a half. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 06:06 PM |
| 82 | Being called a lesbian is just another way guys get us to try and conform to their incredibly unrealistic beauty standardsRather hilariously, I've done jobs in entertainment, I am very feminine looking, blonde, thin, worked as a model, wear makeup.. but have a distinct style (rock, tattooed, that kind of vibe, and I'm French) and I almost exclusively cast roles as lesbian in the US. Clearly the vision we have of women here is so subservient and cookie-cutter that even someone who just dresses a little differently and indicates confidence must not be attracted to men. It's actually flattering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 06:13 AM |
| 2 | I made a video about a HV woman in history for this community :) I hope you enjoy!Thank you for making this. I'm French and had never heard of her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 04:44 AM |
| 23 | LVM are crapping themselves todayThank you so much! Truly high value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:45 AM |
| 26 | LVM are crapping themselves todayCan you link please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:26 AM |
| 297 | (idk if this was made already!) Shout-out to the mods cause I'm sure they read through a whole lot of bs to shield us from it, so THANK YOU💖Commenting and posting here is unlike anywhere on Reddit. You get so many upvotes, supporting comments, laughs even.. it’s such a pleasant experience. And it is thanks to the great job the mods are doing and their no-bs policy. It’s our job to turn into these mods for other women in real life where possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:25 AM |
| 2 | On being more attractive to men... 😂There’s a pickme out there doing this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 09:07 AM |
| 2 | Apologies if this has been posted, but this is a good series on YouTube on being “high maintenance”This wasn’t what I expected and it’s one of the best links I’ve seen posted on here. Thank you OP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 09:05 AM |
| 21 | Take a wild guess as to why he suddenly sprung this on her...I love seeing women and generally people who aren’t 18-30 sharing or giving advice on social media. Why the fuck are we getting advice from teenage pickme influencers.. I think it also helps show women exist and matter past their twenties. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 08:05 AM |
| 76 | Liberal Feminism routinely ignores that women who don’t live in privilege will bear the brunt of sex-based exploitation they call “empowering” and “progressive”. They’re the 1% of feminists benefiting themselves at the rest of our expense.Surrogacy is one that always blew my mind. It’s illegal in my country and I remember reading articles about women going abroad to India and Eastern Europe so they can do it on the cheap. Also about all the legal loopholes that can mean these women might be abandoned with the kid or what happens if there’s a change of mind. It’s just so exploitative and complicated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:11 AM |
| 50 | A HVM is gentle towards women. Not just someone who “can be” gentle every now and then, but someone who is gentle towards you and all women ALL THE TIME.My partner once apologized when I told him I had a nightmare about him. He said he must have done something to cause it; he is so considerate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:06 AM |
| 4 | Proof that scrotes never change, they just make empty promises and get upset when you don’t fall for them.100% this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 06:45 PM |
| 1 | FDS energy this morningSure, feel free to pm me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 06:44 PM |
| 36 | Genetic counseling before having childrenThis is an important post. My father had a severely ill child in his previous marriage and I don’t know what happened but clearly a lot of turmoil. My sister and her husband both had the gene for cystic fibrosis so I think they did IVF for that reason, I have it too so I’m looking into the precautions I would need to take. My partner and I have already discussed having a different Rh and how that could affect pregnancy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 06:18 PM |
| 15 | Tik Tok & Other Video Platforms As A Weapon Against Abusive MenSocial media is a super powerful tool, it’s been used for many nefarious political purposes recently but I fully agree with you that showing men the reality of women’s lives is a massively important use. I planned on sharing something soon about the emotionally abusive men I was with and everyone doing this is helping other women and victims. A narc ex would tell me how his ex-wife would constantly shit talk him on social media and he loved that I don’t do drama, this was just manipulative train… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Lies I've been telling myself, and how this sub is helping me realize my self worthI haven't experienced this sort of epiphany on reddit since I discovered /r/raisedbynarcissists years ago Right there with you on both. I think many of us with narc parents end up with narcs gaslighting us in relationships. It's a tough cycle to break but this sub helped me and I'm glad it helped you too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 01:34 AM |
| 15 | FDS energy this morningI work on climate change stuff and the notion of civil disobedience is a big one with activism and getting policy changes so I particularly love this, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 01:22 AM |
| 323 | Proof that scrotes never change, they just make empty promises and get upset when you don’t fall for them.ok? And? Guys love fucking up & then make the real travesty about how quickly she moved on I moved on a month after breaking up with an LVM I thought I had a future with, with a long-time friend (and so far high quality man) and guaranteed that tweet is what he'll think when he finds out. So many guys have fucked me about these years and I finally know to move on ruthlessly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 01:15 AM |
| 27 | I want girls and young women everywhere to experience this epiphany!Divide and conquer... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 01:07 AM |
| 9 | Being nice is being a liar, quit that B.S. ladies we know we repress ourselves.I was just thinking about this yesterday. LVMs mock the shit out of women for saying “I’m fine!” When we aren’t but we all know deep down that expressing why you aren’t fine rarely leads to a mature and serious conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 06:15 PM |
| 11 | Fetishized for my nationalityFellow European, I feel for you guys from Eastern Europe; I’ve seen so many guys saying they want to be with an Eastern European girl, or Russian or there’s always something. As a French woman in the US there’s some totemization of my culture but I’ve been lucky that the stereotype for our temperament seems to be negative. Some ex-Mormon I was with when I moved over got a text from his best friend saying “don’t date French women they’re crazy!”. Some US guys know we won’t be their doormat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 06:13 PM |
| 28 | 'You see, what happens is that the moment you get a life, the moment the man feels that he needs to earn your time and affection [they love it], as their minds are wired to thrive on challenges. 'We shouldn’t be available to him all the time because then he will not value the moment when you areThe daily mail is a misogynistic homophobic super right-wing fear-mongering gossip rag, please stop linking it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 01:47 AM |
| 25 | Social Media and including your partner in your display picture: Pickmes usually have this habit... are your thoughts on this?a joint facebook account People.. do that??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 01:45 AM |
| 34 | Promising Young Woman is out on streaming servicesIt’s really good! The comments are on the /r/movies thread were actually also good and sensitive about the subject matter. It really felt produced, directed and written by a woman. Not least if which because I could see how this movie would have made the lead get naked or topless if it had been male-directed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 11:02 PM |
| 16 | Ladies would we marry a man that keeps a jar of pubes?I want to hope it is but then I remember all the cumbriefs or cumboxes and things that Reddit thought was hilarious for years and.. nothing surprises me anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 06:22 PM |
| 41 | Why a man taking drugs is an immediate disqualifier (yes, even cannabis)I’m really weirded out by weed culture here since I moved to the US; we talk about it with friends from my country often. I’m all for it being legalized, recreational and available for people with medical needs but I see people treat it like some innocuous thing and be baked all day. I’ve had several people call me a goody-two-shoes because i didn’t want to get in their car after they had just smoked; “oh it doesn’t affect me immediately!”. My flatmate even lit up while we drove back from IKEA w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 06:15 PM |
| 17 | Guys saying they could beat you in a sport they've never played?Yes, yes, yes, it is a never-ending parade. I’ve done Japanese jiu-Jitsu for 15 years, do stunts, taught it to activists who face violence, have learnt how to crush a windpipe in case of extreme risk, have fought neo-Nazis in demonstrations.. and boys who have never stepped foot in a dojo will still be all “I bet I could beat you” 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 03:48 AM |
| 8 | Just a porn addict complaining about how much of a victim he is because he— *checks notes* sexually assaulted a family member.. 😐Sorry it was not in English. The point was I think to differentiate between physically addictive substances like nicotine or heroin and things that are a mental addiction, for which the term shouldn’t be used as such. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 03:20 AM |
| 26 | Just a porn addict complaining about how much of a victim he is because he— *checks notes* sexually assaulted a family member.. 😐As clarified by a psychologist I was listening to on a podcast, there is a difference between addiction and obsession. These people are obsessed with porn and while the negative consequences are very real, there is no physically addictive component other than serotonin you get from any pleasurable activity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 10:36 PM |
| 14 | Emotional F*ckbois: The Subtlest Gaslighters of AllMost narcissists see nothing wrong with their behavior, in their mind they aren’t being malicious. That’s why someone’s intention doesn’t matter in these cases, by virtue of their different mindset they are incapable of acknowledging wrongdoing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 09:24 PM |
| 42 | Husband "doesn't remember" raping his wife, he's hurt that she tries to work through the trauma in therapy... I really hope she leavesAt least she knows he’s raping her.. I’ve seen so many threads like this where the woman can’t even use rape for what’s happening. I really wonder what this therapist is telling her since it’s clear she’s being abused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:51 PM |
| 55 | Can’t believe what I’ve seen in other subsI pointed out in youshouldknow that this sub helped me end a 5-year cycle of abusive relationships and was met with accusations of misandry, of being a narcissist (classic narc move), and even of being in a cult. Which is ironic given that mentions of TRP and incel subs rarely got such condemnation on here, when they advocate manipulating, using women and in some cases have caused women to be murdered. It was hilarious to get hundreds of upvotes for my first comment about the situations I’d gone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:26 PM |
| 42 | I don't even know what to say anymore at this pointThanks for pointing this out, this is indeed not generally the implication for zoonotic diseases. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:15 PM |
| 29 | Zendaya spent a year rejecting roles that served a male protagonistI worked in Hollywood (still do but I’m more focused on my other career now) and I’ve kept a pot pourri of the casting calls that go out for women.. most of them are just awful. Hollywood lies when it tries to pass as progressive, it actually reinforces race, gender, stereotypes and as we all know unhealthy relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:10 PM |
| 20 | Honestly such an underrated FDS anthem🙌🏻I worked with her boyfriend and he seemed like a good dude. I hope so after the awful guys she’s been with. Funny story, I didn’t know and someone that day mentioned “his girlfriend Britney” and I said “wow so many women are named Britney now, I wonder if it’s because of Britney Spears”, cue the laughs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:53 AM |
| 16 | Video games are more important to him than helping his wife with their babyI cannot imagine speaking to someone like this.. let alone the mother of my child, it’s just appalling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:33 AM |
| 28 | Coming out of this relationship. It's been hellish. Listen to men who call their exes "crazy "Every narc I dated, had a crazy ex-wife.. it was always kind of vague. And then I’d find out they called me crazy after we split to people in our industry and I realized. It’s such an awful insult because there’s nothing you can do to disprove it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:26 AM |
| 3 | What’s a compliment you received from someone that made you feel like a HVW?Of course! I do some work in entertainment and I’m shocked how many people let this stuff slide. Like you said, Sometimes it’s easier when you’re not the person targeted. Thank you, I am French so it’s a play-on-word with Gourmet and my name :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:05 AM |
| 16 | What’s a compliment you received from someone that made you feel like a HVW?A year or so ago I denounced some guy that was harassing women on a TV set, I had befriended this lovely gay writer there. He messaged me recently to tell me that when he’d been in a tough situation he asked himself “what would Gourmay do”. HVM have no problem acknowledging someone else’s strength, regardless of their gender. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 11:55 PM |
| 16 | Utah professor and ecologist, Nalini Nadkarni, inspires line of National Geographic explorer Barbies and has one made in her honor. There's an astrophysicist, entomologist, marine biologist, and wildlife conservationist - wonderful work!I own the astrophysics one! Some idiot at a party called me astrophysics Barbie and I died when I saw it actually existed 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 11:49 PM |
| 27 | After reading Armie Hammer's DMs, I never want to date or live near a man ever again. Anyone else feel that way?The Daily Mail is a misogynistic homophobic far-right publication; I don’t know why it keeps showing up on here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 06:00 PM |
| 12 | If he does not support your career, he does not respect you and sees you as his competitor.My best ex and HVM gifted me one of the best guitars out there for my birthday, a Gibson (I was a musician in bands and aspiring to tour etc.), featured me in the album he was writing (he was an accomplished musician living from it), and suggested me when the guitar magazine he worked for needed someone to interview a famous guitarist—they eventually hired me full-time. Not every person can support their partner that much but he was instrumental in my successful career. He absolutely wanted to h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:45 PM |
| 56 | Had sex with a new guy and I could tell immediately that he doesn't jerk off to porn regularly.Bingo. The guys who use condoms regularly have generally no problem getting hard with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 03:43 AM |
| 18 | Men have been projecting this ENTIRE TIMENia Long was in her 30s playing high school roles. I'm featured as a high schooler in The Politician, I was early thirties at the time :) Many of the women on set were mid- to late twenties. Most of the men playing high schoolers were 18-early twenties. Humans have selected for women having "youthful" features, that's why so many female child actors will go on and be successful but not male child actors. The wall is such a dumb idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 01:25 AM |
| 3 | This sad. We have a second invisible global pandemic happening and its called male narcissismHa! Of course he didn't say anything then because they love to wallow in victimization.. He wrote me an ENTIRE paragraph in an email about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 09:39 PM |
| 23 | This sad. We have a second invisible global pandemic happening and its called male narcissismI have one hell of a list from narcs I dated. because I told him plastic Christmas trees could be better for the environment. He was discussing how to get a Christmas tree back home for his kids since grocery stores didn’t deliver and I suggested buying a plastic one and that it had other advantages (he nearly broke up with me over this one-told me what I was implying was that what he was doing was bad for the planet) because I asked him to put on the vent when cooking fish because I asked him t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:51 PM |
| 11 | Has FDS helped you dodge abusers?I am newish to FDS but looking back every single L/NVM I was with throughout my life showed red flags early on, small ones, but stuff that I knew deep down was strange, off-putting, showed lack of compatibility, lack of care for me etc. It's just that women are constantly taught to be tolerant, and give people time. Conflicts and disagreements are inevitable but pay attention to how they handle conflict especially. I hear you though, reading these stories is scary. But FDS will help you dodge ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:31 AM |
| 13 | The 6 month markMine i realized has been three months without fail—I think maybe because I’m less guarded and people show their true colors quicker. It might change a little for everyone but there’s probably a similar timeframe for most people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 04:32 AM |
| 34 | I don't understand the men that infiltrate this groupYeeep.. Coudn't beiieve the comments when I mentioned FDS helped me get out of abusive relationships in a YouShouldKnow thread; some guy called me a narc, ha! and others spoke to me like I was in scientology or something. No, I've just decided I don't want to be treated like a doormat in my relationships, sOrRy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 09:34 AM |
| 35 | Humans of New York story about a HVM. Must read!!!My dad is certainly like this with helping people. He’s been burnt but he always gives so much of himself to help out, always giving away his trade to people for free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 01:37 AM |
| 30 | Never let a men guilt you for ghosting..Ghosting should be the most acceptable form of breaking up or not continuing a date (unless the guy was high value, in which case explaining is an okay thing to do)When I used online dating I used to always tell people after a date if I wasn’t interested in pursuing things further; something similar to: “I had a really nice time, thanks! You’re very cool but I don’t really feel a romantic spark between us”—which being in our thirties I feel we all know roughly who we’re compatible with or not. After a huge number of insults, harassment, pleading etc. I started understanding why people ghost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:09 AM |
| 10 | The Qanon ‘shaman’ with horns and bearskin recently arrested for storming the Capitol is a stay at home dad who is addicted to drugs and judging by the telltale bald head, a porn addict as well. The jokes write themselves ladiesFYI the Daily Mail is a very misogynistic, homophobic and fear-mongering publication that caters to the far right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 03:56 AM |
| 6 | This is precisely why I need only to date men who don’t (yet!) have kids. Sincere shoutout to all of the stepmoms out there dealing with.........whatever this is. Heaven forgive me, but I would rather mop the ocean 😩I’m constantly amazed by how kids in the US are raised to make decisions for their parents. When I moved here my first bf had kids and we had to bargain with the kid: “eat your veggies and you get a trip to McDonald’s after dinner”, the kid also refused to eat most things, I had to tell him kindly to put his own dishes in the dishwasher. I’m all for loving and empathetic parenting, we should do better than our parents’ generation’s tough love, but kids shouldn’t be making decisions on basic stuf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 07:21 PM |
| 8 | Dating, basicallyThe cat was a feral rescue so bless her she was bonkers but at least she had the excuse of growing up on the street, he didn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:31 AM |
| 44 | THIS is why FDS. Coming from a single mom, I will never again date someone who makes me theirs, too. Too many comments saying "those men don't exist" or "if I tell him ill give him time then he might.."Uff yeah... The amount of effort you get the first months of a relationship is basically what you'll get throughout, once they're done lovebombing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:41 AM |
| 54 | Dating, basicallyAn NVM I dated last year accused me of dating him because he had a cat(??).. I died when they showed the cat trap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:40 AM |
| 18 | THIS is why FDS. Coming from a single mom, I will never again date someone who makes me theirs, too. Too many comments saying "those men don't exist" or "if I tell him ill give him time then he might.."Yes, that makes sense. I feel that we are all made to ignore and excuse red flags early on which then leads to situations like you posted. What you said about fitting in socially is also something I hadn't considered a lot as in my home country marriage is not as much of a social imperative. I moved to the US at 30 and thought "why is everyone divorced on here in their thirties?!" when I used OLD. I'm so glad you got out before you married him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:51 AM |
| 66 | THIS is why FDS. Coming from a single mom, I will never again date someone who makes me theirs, too. Too many comments saying "those men don't exist" or "if I tell him ill give him time then he might.."I always wonder with these posts: were these men already like this before they had kids? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:36 AM |
| 11 | Healthy Male Crying Vs Manipulative Displays Of EmotionThank you for making this important post. The two narcs I dated cried profusely and it took me ages to see it for what it was. The last one dumped me out of the blue and then came to mine to cry for five hours; I kept thinking “wtf, he dumped me, why am I consoling him”. In reality they are emulating the emotions they’ve seen but they don’t actually feel it, they just want the pat on the back for it, comfort etc. It’s pure manipulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 07:22 PM |
| 56 | Another person said it. Never allow porn in a relationship if you want a healthy relationship.I wish more older people made videos like this and had visibility to give advice to younger generation. I don’t need an 18-year old influencer giving me life advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 06:55 PM |
| 31 | Very apt for today. See through the masquerade.Trauma doesn't play the leading role in abuse. Entitlement does. Exactly. That's probably why men from abusive childhoods often perpetuate the abuse, while women from similar backgrounds often continue to be the victimes of it. A narc ex of mine manipulated and emotionally abused me for 18 months. We both have a narc parent, the only difference is I'm a woman and our culture doesn't make us grow up with that sense of entitlement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 09:17 AM |
| 50 | My ex was arrested marching on Washington today. Looks like the trash took itself out 🤦♀️A friend’s boyfriend had added me on Instagram and I saw today he was in DC and had posted pro-trump conspiracist stuff. Turns out, they had split up recently after he randomly turned into a conspiracist; both her and his family whom she’s still in touch with are devastated. She’s a very sweet, feminist, vegan, progressive lady. What happens to all these young men that they turn into this.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:24 AM |
| 21 | Pickmeisha horror tale. Hapless scrote nearly destroys mind/body of once-vibrant girl. She has an STD (prob bc of him)+ is at risk for cervical cancer. Jobless bum doesn’t care. Friends beg her to leave b4 this kills her. They “just can’t see the good”. And she’s STILL f*cking him. Mother help her!He's really nice otherwise! She didn't list a single of those supposed nice things... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 12:38 AM |
| 49 | NGL she’s pretty much a gen z fds icon.A guy who probably majored in film Live in L.A., it's not a dating pool here it's a dating swamp we're trying to swim in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 11:54 PM |
| 1 | I’m washing my hands of my pickme friend.Two of my friends are still pickmes and desperate to be in real long-terms relationships. All the while dating narcs on OLD who ghost them after sex and then telling me that they hope they can stay friends. I’m trying to tell them all the time that they deserve so much better but I’m genuinely starting to wonder when enough will be enough for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:56 PM |
| 19 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe Left"I don't like girls who________" I've found with those profiles they could have all stopped at "I don't like girls", because they don't, get a dog instead. "I probably swiped you on accident" Classic negging. Also for some reason I saw a disturbing amount of men mooning in front of the Eiffel tower last time I used OLD (is this a trend right now? I'm in the US); I'm from Paris, these people are exactly the kind of assholes who come to my city, act like they're on spring break and complain that w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:17 AM |
| 6 | Since I've seen that u like him... here is another one.I don't think I've laughed at anything this much on here, thanks OP! After five years of dating narcs and psychopaths this is now my life every day with my (seemingly, I'm still vetting!) normal partner. He told me he had something important to say to me recently while we were on a romantic weekend and I blurted out "YOU HAVE AIDS!? YOU'RE DUMPING ME WHEN WE'RE BACK?" and ladies, he was so confused as he said ".. no, I, I wanted to tell you I love you".. XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:12 AM |
| 11 | Keeping up the energy going into 2021They're also a super unethical company unfortunately when it comes to animals especially :/ https://www.hsi.org/news-media/canada-goose-no-new-fur-2022/#:~:text=Canada%20Goose%20is%20infamous%20for,groups%20over%20the%20last%20decade. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 10:06 AM |
| 2 | (Couldn’t cross post the original post) Depraved shits made a subreddit about Greta Thunberg shortly after her 18 birthday.How do we report a sub? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:32 AM |
| 10 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?Complains about spending $500/month on dating her.. Has only been dating her ONE month. Seriously I came in thinking he'd been dating her for 6 months or something. Also why doesn't he just uber if her parking is $80? I know plenty of people with cars who do that to avoid huge parking bills. So if you're penny-pinching at least be good at managing your money. And I'll guess that if they're not going to his place it's dirty, he has flatmates etc. so, be happy you get to spend time in someone else… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:21 AM |
| 20 | The lows you stoop to to get picked.FDS has instilled a new fear in me.. That I might have children who could turn into these pickmes and NVMs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:17 AM |
| 6 | 11:11 it must be a signAn exorcism is definitely what many of us need after dating NVMs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:11 AM |
| 8 | They’re thiiiis close to figuring it out!Yeah I think easy-to-access porn and dating apps are reinforcing this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:10 AM |
| 44 | They’re thiiiis close to figuring it out!EVENTUALLY (at an undetermined point in the future) after having sex with him and going on dates not called dates only then can you bring up that you want something serious This particularly blew my mind when I moved here. Short of teenage experimentation or defined FWB, I had never encountered this level of detachment with sex. Women need to be told it's ok not to accept it and we have every right to ask for things. I dated this horrible womanizing narc when I moved here and made it very clear … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:09 AM |
| 19 | They’re thiiiis close to figuring it out!I actually meant to ask mine if they have therapists for therapists. A friend told me her mom with Borderline Personality Disorder yelled at her therapist, accused of her of manipulating her daughter, and that the therapist mentioned feeling unwell about it months later. These people must be confronted with so much insanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:34 PM |
| 2 | PSA: Remember ladies, men always think they’re WAY better looking then they actually are and ugly men WILL treat women more attractive then them badly.I’m feeding her FDS content every day and we’ve been told to stage an intervention if ever she got back in touch with him. I’m keeping my eyes peeled! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:19 PM |
| 29 | A question to FDS members: why do you think there are women who are against FDS?Media, film, songs etc. has brainwashed us into thinking love is complicated, explosive, amongst other things. They don’t make films about normal healthy lasting relationship. In fact the people I know in those relationships rarely talk about them or post about it on social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:15 PM |
| 12 | the shit ppl do for cloutThis is what my nightmares look like. At least a hundred years ago men expected this but didn’t post it on the internet or call their wives a bitch to sound edgy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 07:54 PM |
| 24 | 11:11 it must be a signHumans are good at recognizing patterns, it’s an evolutionary advantage, and then we are prone to apophenia, associating some divine meaning to it, so you can reprogram yourself to a degree if you think of some other number that can have significance. You’ll then start seeing it everywhere instead. I decided I like times like 09:09 or 17:17 (we use 24h in France) and now I notice those (essentially you probably see other times just as often but dont notice them as much). I made a friend who was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 07:41 PM |
| 144 | They’re thiiiis close to figuring it out!Why why why do people date people they don’t care about?? Since moving to the US I feel that people (mostly men) just date people they feel lukewarm about just to not be alone, have companionship/sex etc., and then come up with these bullshit excuses. Whatever happened to waiting until you find someone you’re super into, who is super into you and that you have a proper romantic relationship with? And so many hobbies are accessible even if you live rurally and just have an internet connection.. Y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 07:31 PM |
| 23 | PSA: Remember ladies, men always think they’re WAY better looking then they actually are and ugly men WILL treat women more attractive then them badly.Yeah.. he made her OD on pills while she was knocked out or something like that and passed it off as a suicide attempt and got her committed against her will for a day or so. It’s especially difficult as we’re not from the US. Discovering FDS last summer made me hope she’d get out. I spent New Year’s Eve with her and she seems in good spirits and like she’s finally seen the light! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 10:39 AM |
| 2 | Straight from the horse’s mouth!I don’t know if it was a week, we both have busy schedules and saw each other on weekends at first, but I would certainly say in about two months. (I should add that I’d known him for three years and we had wanted to date each other at different points). Then again I’m not in his head, so maybe he knew that quickly. I’ll ask him at some point and report back. An HVM I was with fifteen years ago must have known very quickly too because he spoke to me about marriage in very tangible terms in under… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:05 AM |
| 3 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?I actually teach pro-Bono every now and then! If you’re in California hit me up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:03 AM |
| 3 | Its sad how many women don’t believe in HVMOne of my favourite posts on here, thank you for making it. In fact, I’d wager pickmes fundamentally hate men as they think it’s their nature to be awful and accept it. I’ve been with several HVM in my life, I have HVM friends and colleagues who treat their partners wonderfully, men can be good and not become instruments of the patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:54 AM |
| 52 | PSA: Remember ladies, men always think they’re WAY better looking then they actually are and ugly men WILL treat women more attractive then them badly.Gorgeous bright model friend just broke up with an NVM who treated her like garbage for two years and tried to kill her. I actually couldn’t believe how ugly he was when I saw pictures of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:27 AM |
| 14 | Don’t be a roommatePrior to FDS I would have agreed but I think women wanting to hold off is because we've been conditioned to accept red flags and look the other way. If women are given the ability to know what a healthy respectful partner is, that red flags are worth calling it quits for and, gain the confidence to know that boundaries and high standards for a mate are healthy, they too can make that decision (while never stopping vetting) in a year. I dated the most charming narcs and even they threw red flags … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 01:49 AM |
| 9 | Don’t be a roommateHa! I love this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 01:45 AM |
| 15 | The audacity! Be my carer while I wither away and put aside all our money for my mistressStays with him because he has cancer despite years of infidelity and another child... Meanwhile remember that thread in AITA about this guy abandoning his wife with cancer in the hospital.. yeah. I'm sorry for whatever was promised to that other woman but I'm really hoping she can figure out a lawyer to get most of the money and assets that is rightfully hers from the life she built with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 01:38 AM |
| 14 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?Astrophysics (did an MSc equivalent) and Japanese jiu-jitsu (15 years training and teaching). It particularly upsets them because these are seen as "guy things". I still remember some guy at a party explaining some basic astronomy thing to me while I sat there with a frown telling him repeatedly "I know, I studied it". And with the jitsu, it never ends.. the amount of guys who tell me "I could still kick your ass" is astounding, I learnt how to break someone's windpipe and fought neo-nazis in th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:42 PM |
| 5 | Hypersexualization of women in anime and why I won't deal with men who watch itI grew up on the Sailor Moon manga and anime in the early nineties and it was one hell of a ride when I dove into the world of anime to see if there would be anything else I might like... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:34 PM |
| 22 | Straight from the horse’s mouth!Yep. Spoke about this recently, my current partner made it clear almost immediately (I am still vetting) and it’ll be apparent in the effort they put in. It is very different from future faking which is usually vague. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:55 AM |
| 92 | Imagine being this much of a pathetic degenerate. 🤢🤢🤢Yes, finding someone you like and who likes you back is hard work, welcome to real life for everyone. God these people are lazy and entitled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:52 AM |
| 4 | Perfect depiction of how women are treatedI love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:50 AM |
| 53 | I got me a divorce kitty 😆 Man better treat me better and love me as much as this little guy does to get me to spend time with him 😁 Burmese/Siamese snuggle monkey 💕I chortled at HVK! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:33 AM |
| 13 | I got me a divorce kitty 😆 Man better treat me better and love me as much as this little guy does to get me to spend time with him 😁 Burmese/Siamese snuggle monkey 💕What a beautiful kitty. There’s a Siamese rescue group on Facebook for anyone else who loves those cats. I’ve had several meezers and, unlike LVMs, they are very exclusive with their love! Please join us in /r/Siamesecats | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:29 AM |
| 3 | The most powerful woman in US politics.. and she started as a housewife. You can do anything.I had forgotten about the speech she ripped.. such a power move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:15 AM |
| 9 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.A little under twenty years ago, I wanted to pose for suicide girls. It was my first exposure to unconventional-looking women, erotica and I found it super empowering. I decided against it when I saw how they screwed over some of their models. Today I have an amazing career, in part being a public face for science, and I’m so so glad I didn’t do it. There are many careers in which having nudes online will be problematic, you have no idea what opportunities might present themselves in your future… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 08:08 PM |
| 16 | The reason why lvm find FDS so threatening is being denied access to your womb, finances, emotional labor or mere presence is enough to make them go off — they’re projecting.Can we make this the banner! It’s such a good summary! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 08:02 PM |
| 79 | No thanksI don’t know why they seem unaware of the scientifically proven fertility and genetic risks men over 40 also have. A study came out just the other day on the increased rate in autism from having children with men over 40. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 07:06 PM |
| 3 | A MASSIVE Red Flag When TextingThank you for summarizing this distinction so clearly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:29 AM |
| 7 | My divorce ring: when I stopped crying over the loss of a nvm and realised I'd gained myself. This ring marked the end of a bad life chapter, and the beginning of a new one, where I write the rest of my story.Congrats! This is a really wonderful post-divorce sentiment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 04:43 AM |
| 4 | A MASSIVE Red Flag When TextingThis is a really great analysis. Thank you for writing it. is the text version of STONEWALLING which is not to be confused with ghosting. What do you think is the difference between the two? Is stonewalling more push and pull and temporary? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 02:25 AM |
| 19 | A great example of how men will screw with a woman's life (literally) if it means remedying his own bad feelings (SPOILERS FOR THE MOVIE THE PASSENGERS)Ha! My social media reminded me that I was watching it four years ago. My recent boyfriend refuses to watch it despite us being both into space stuff because from what he heard it sounded like rape culture; I think that's a good sign. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:47 AM |
| 25 | 31yo is upset he can't go to college parties. Weird obsession with "young love" and immature, vulnerable girlsI really don't understand these people, their motivation, nothing. And this obsession with youth. I guess I come from a non-anglo-saxon country where we value old age and experience more (which has its own problems) but there seems to be this obsession in anglo-saxon culture (and probably other places) that your life is over at 30.. My mom had me at 38, both my parents re-married in their fifties, I went back to school at 28 and changed careers in my thirties. I made many of my best friends in m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:41 AM |
| 41 | The growth of FDS is a sign of where women's empowerment is headed towardsA bunch of my friends also seem to be onboard now and send me things that are FDS-sounding. I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 08:46 AM |
| 6 | Her gut is telling her the right answer, but the comments give the worst advice.Stats on this stuff show most people say it in about 3-6 months so it’s not unreasonable on the person asking for advice’s part. Unless you’re in a situationship and barely seeing the person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Have you ever wondered what it would be like if the gender roles were completely reversed universally? Like, even men being topless not being acceptable?Ha, came in to tell you about « Je ne suis pas un homme facile » :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:35 PM |
| 47 | Men love spending money on women they loveAww, an HVM I was with fifteen years ago made me a menu like this when I first came over to his place. I’ve found HVM often do genuine little things like this on top of proper gifts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:32 PM |
| 3 | SAYGRACE - Boys Ain't Shit (Official Video)I love this! The lead girl in the music video is an inspiration ha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 08:00 PM |
| 12 | He gave her.......his old bath towels as a birthday giftI never understand stuff like this. Do LVM think that people who give great gifts just magically go into a store and find the perfect gifts in five minutes? It takes research, effort, and time. And if you're not willing to put in those things for the special occasion of a person you're with, it's a pretty strong message. It's not even a money or materialistic thing! I've had broke friends, boyfriends give me amazing gifts that were incredibly thoughtful and that they had clearly put time in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 02:34 AM |
| 11 | Beyond Low/No Dating Standards I’m shook....I worked in the tattoo industry, and even at a high level, it was one of the most misogynistic, racist, homophobic circle I’ve ever seen. I felt sorry for all the amazing female artists out there who had to tolerate it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 07:24 PM |
| 5 | Yesterday morning I closed on a house. Yesterday evening I was dumped via text. This is not a coincidence.Honestly, lucky you! You’ll have no memories of him inside of your beautiful new house. All the best for 2021! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 07:09 PM |
| 4 | Any Powerful Men (like CEOs) that married DreamGirl? Or do these men just chase after status and bangmaids?Yeah.. I’m very conflicted about him, especially after seeing him defend Tom Cruise’s rant recently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 07:05 PM |
| 5 | Any Powerful Men (like CEOs) that married DreamGirl? Or do these men just chase after status and bangmaids?Not a CEO but George Clooney married Amal Clooney, a seemingly HVW with an incredible career. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 07:15 PM |
| 11 | Once again, police ignore an abusive man and the woman who warned them, so he bombs a city. Society is constantly shooting itself (literally) in the foot by ignoring misogyny.Same thing happened in France a few days ago. A guy went on a rampage, killing several cops and armed to the teeth. His wife had warned the police about him three times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 07:09 PM |
| 13 | NVM expects her to practically hand feed him every meal. I have no words.A friend fosters for them, they're really great groups! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:48 AM |
| 10 | NVM expects her to practically hand feed him every meal. I have no words.emus I chortled | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:48 AM |
| 67 | Busy business woman always choose lvm on hallmark movies.Fun fact! I was with the guy who wrote most of their romantic music. He was a total narc who tried to fuck up my life and career and couldn't say I love you after over a year together. The irony was rich. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:45 AM |
| 4 | The audacity 🤦🏻♀️This woman is doing the lord’s work. Also why do they all treat their bio section as a soapbox..? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:25 AM |
| 16 | Predatory Romance in Harrison Ford MoviesBoth those views are not equivalent; expecting your partner to be there for you and do sweet things is hardly a comparable thing to the expectation to fuck like a porn star. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:23 PM |
| 30 | My ex tried to come back and this is the exact reason why I left him in the dumpster where he belongsEvery narc I dated acted like I was some abusive tyrant. One told me I always criticized him because I asked him to be careful after banging my knees that I had a severe injury on several times in bed. Another time I was an asshole for asking him nicely to put on the ventilation when cooking fish or when I told him a plastic Christmas tree could be more environmentally friendly. Then after dumping me four times he went around our industry telling people I was crazy and asking them to uninvite me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:10 PM |
| 5 | Going Through A REAL BAD Trauma Bonded Separation And This Article Helped TONS, I Hope It Helps Whomever Needs It As WellUnfortunately they’re in French and haven’t been translated sorry! The author is Christel Petitcollin for anyone who speaks French, she has made several and they are very good and to the point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:52 AM |
| 53 | I did a bit of googling on attractive men vs unattractive men as romantic partners and lol at the search resultsOne thing I will say is I’ve found men who are very good-looking often don’t get the negatives that good-looking women do in some situations (people assuming you’re an idiot; pickmes being shitty to you; men wanting to sleep with you just because you’re hot; using you as an ego boost..). They benefit from a kind of halo effect that gives them huge egos and entitlement. I worked as a model and people always ask me why I don’t date super handsome men and it’s often because I’ve found them to be in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:38 AM |
| 6 | Thoughts on “My SO is my best friend”?I think the concept of best friend is flawed, in the same way the concept of “the one” is flawed. I’m mid-thirties, had a lot of passionate relationships with men, passionate friendships with women, almost all of those ended poorly. Now I have a pool of HVW and HVM around me whom I share different things with. My partner is just that: a partner, someone who is caring and loving, we build each other up and have a beneficial partnership with boundaries “bffs” might not have. It’s very different fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:31 AM |
| 31 | I am speechlessI dated a guy who also told me about noises a deaf girl he dated made.. I hope these women have amazing friends to protect them from this bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:05 AM |
| 3 | Men Don’t Romance. I Don’t Fuck.Aww, thank you. Well we all have our circumstances; I had just moved to the US, was very lonely and accepted much more unforgivable things from him. But you’re here now, which means you have self-awareness and grew, you’ve done the hardest and I’m proud of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:59 PM |
| 11 | Going Through A REAL BAD Trauma Bonded Separation And This Article Helped TONS, I Hope It Helps Whomever Needs It As WellI have been with several narcissists, then did therapy and read several books on the topic. This is the best summary I’ve read, and features many things exactly how my therapist described them. Thanks for posting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:54 PM |
| 8 | Why do guys have to remind women that we're physically weaker every chance they get?I’ve done a very brutal form of Japanese jiu-jitsu for fifteen years and it always amused me how many big string dudes wouldn’t make it past certain belts while these tiny women became instructors. Most of those guys were never capable of understanding the basics of what allows you to throw someone to the ground, even someone much bigger because they only relied on strength. Sometimes I would ground fight novices who thought they could just sit on me because I’m half their weight and I would jus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:12 PM |
| 42 | Men Don’t Romance. I Don’t Fuck.My worst ex decided that he still couldn't say I love you a year and a half into our relationship (worse in fact, his sister reprimanded him for it a year in so he said it once or twice, then took it back and wouldn't say it anymore) so I told him I don't have sex with people who don't have feelings for me. Stuck to my guns, and I'm so glad I did. We didn't have sex for a few weeks and eventually broke up. I was a pickme back then but at least I fought back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:57 AM |
| 10 | You shouldn't have to pushOmg this is amazing, I love this type of inspirational quote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 11:45 PM |
| 22 | HVM on Christmas vs. LVM on ChristmasI was mildly worried about Christmas with my new man since I’m very specific about things I like and he’s very minimalistic. He showed me a bunch of things a little while back and asked me to be honest if I like them or not, he was on the right track so I sent him my Etsy wishlist for inspiration.. it has hundreds of items on it and somehow he found the one I’ve wanted the most for years, which also wasn’t cheap. Got me an amazing pillow so that I would be super comfortable sleeping at his place… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 11:37 PM |
| 3 | Female friendships should be held sacred in a cesspool of LVM. Here's why:I’ve been very fortunate to have amazing friends, especially female. I told my LVM ex that I value my time with them and nurture our relationships also so I don’t depend on him for all my emotional needs.. a month later he threw it in my face saying “you’re so needy, you said yourself that you needed lots of people to love you!”.. couldn’t believe it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:50 PM |
| 9 | Stop 👏 doing 👏 shit 👏 and 👏 mothering 👏 grown 👏 ass 👏 men 👏 (ps - they don't appreciate it or care especially if they never asked in the first place, you're not a mindreader either)I’m vegan so care about animals but I thought he’d soften the blow by saying homeless people at least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:35 PM |
| 34 | FDS ladies are not dumb AND didn’t text their exes Merry Christmas ✨Change your mindset to one of abundance and not scarcity :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:09 PM |
| 41 | FDS ladies are not dumb AND didn’t text their exes Merry Christmas ✨Hahaha! In French we say « l’espoir fait vivre » for people who are truly delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:08 PM |
| 13 | How do you even vet for this?Thank you <3 I'm so glad I don't ever have to date or see this person again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:58 PM |
| 8 | Iggy Azaelea’s NVM picked videogames over being there for the birth of his child 🤡I’m sorry but I’m not here to be soft That's great but most psychologists, counselors who help women escape dangerous situations, manipulative relations etc. will tell you that isn't always a good approach if your aim is to help that person. You and I were not in her relationship, we don't know what promises were said etc. MANY of us here have fallen for BS, it takes both compassion and firmness to get out of it. I think she is setting a bad example but I also think she needs help and denouncing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 10:25 PM |
| 71 | How do you even vet for this?A nvm I dated and stayed in the US for after he asked me to, broke up with me the day before I was getting tested for brain tumors 🙃 I sat in an mri machine the next day trying not to cry in case it affected the scan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 10:12 PM |
| 14 | Iggy Azaelea’s NVM picked videogames over being there for the birth of his child 🤡Please consider that this isn’t always the right way to get women to see the manipulation they’re prey to. I dated some horrific NVMs who treated me like shit and instead of telling me I can do better, two friends told me I was an idiot for staying with him, which continued to bury my self-confidence which was in the toilet. Yes to FDS principles but please consider the delivery and how much work it takes to get out of that mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 10:02 PM |
| 42 | The "Aspergers" talk. TWI thought my LVM ex was autistic because he was so awkward, curt with people in retail etc. I made so many excuses for him, “he doesn’t realize! He’s not ill-intentioned!”.. My therapist told me he was just a narc, despite being so different from another narc ex, and she assured me “narcissists come in a large variety of flavors!”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Self-Sabotage! Don't Underestimate Your Subconscious.I’m so sorry that happened to you, but I’m glad you are doing that, it’s a great idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 06:03 AM |
| 2 | Self-Sabotage! Don't Underestimate Your Subconscious.Thank you for your thread! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 06:00 AM |
| 3 | Even the F*cking Neckbeards are finally catching on. The porn industry is disgustingAwesome, thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Even the F*cking Neckbeards are finally catching on. The porn industry is disgustingThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:16 PM |
| 156 | I am glad more and more women are having that mindset in this day and age.I reached that mindset thanks to FDS this year after a breakup and I genuinely cannot imagine flipping back. I keep wondering: what if my recent boyfriend turns around and was an LVM the whole time? For the first time ever I know we'd break up and.. I'd be fine because I am the center of my life, and that is immovable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 06:38 PM |
| 76 | Self-Sabotage! Don't Underestimate Your Subconscious.I read that it was useful to pick someone as your "inner coach" to respond to and replace that negative voice. I picked Taylor Swift since she's so kind and I know her voice well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:39 AM |
| 20 | Even the F*cking Neckbeards are finally catching on. The porn industry is disgustingI wish I could see those links to the studies more clearly. Do any of you have some links at hand? A female friend was asking about the consequences of porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:36 AM |
| 7 | Not funny in any way, shape or form.I keep thinking I can't be more shocked by a relationship advice post but it's just like Trump, they keep sinking lower. We need some kind of awards in depravity, like the razzies but for NVMs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 02:50 AM |
| 9 | If you take nothing else from FDS, take thisCongrats!! Your achievements say way more about your amazing character than being married or in a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:19 AM |
| 34 | Not all women agree with Female Dating Strategy, and that's okay. There are plenty of women alive today whose mothers and grandmothers were anti-suffragette, and nowadays we still get to enjoy the right to vote. Future women will benefit from FDS, whether you like it or not.This sub is the slap in the face I needed the past five years dating LVMs, pouring all my energy into these relationships and not understanding why I was getting so little back. Being here will genuinely impact my life and help me reach my goals and dreams. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:16 AM |
| 15 | Cut your lossesGosh, it's exactly like that. I broke with an LVM who future faked and lovebombed me a few months ago, thought it would destroy me. ..Fortunately I had found FDS. I was really down and cried a lot for ten days. Then I realized "hu, this is fine actually?", have been doing great, focused on me, spent time with friends, reading and doing things I like and it's been wonderful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 11:45 PM |
| 13 | His friends are his friends. Your friends are yours. KEEP IT THAT WAYLearnt that the hard way. When I moved to the US, I got with this ex-Mormon narc and befriended many of his friends.. we even hung out together without him. Then he would dump me out of the blue repeatedly and they would start ignoring me. Because I had just moved here I didn’t really have other friends for support and my friends back home were on a 9h time difference. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 07:30 PM |
| 11 | Thanks for the warningI got contacted by one on email at thanksgiving; I had blocked him on every social media/phone. FYI you can’t really block addresses on the big email servers but you can make them go to trash directly and/or have an auto-reply that makes them look blocked if they email. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 07:27 PM |
| 13 | Is it an American men thing or?I posted a thread a few weeks ago about things I experienced more specifically with American men. LVM everywhere have specific issues and some of the stuff you mention is definitely issues in the US. Some users on here have pointed out that dads aren’t present enough throughout the upbringing of their boys, there’s a bit of ultra consumerist capitalist society which leads to entitlement to women and a bunch of other cultural factors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:06 AM |
| 2 | This touched my soul. I'm hoping you ladies love it, too: "Ask Polly: Why Don’t the Men I Date Ever Truly Love Me?"Ha, I never even thought of it that way. He had been mormon most of his life (left the church in his thirties), and I had just moved over from Europe so I didn't really know what that was.. but yeah, he was majorly fucked up from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:38 PM |
| 3 | The trailer for "Pornocracy" a 2017 documentary on the shadiness of Mindgeek by former French porn actress OvidieI'm not! I don't know it actually but feel free to re-post it :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 04:12 AM |
| 17 | This touched my soul. I'm hoping you ladies love it, too: "Ask Polly: Why Don’t the Men I Date Ever Truly Love Me?"I was with a guy for 2 1/2 years and another 1 1/2 year who wouldn't say it. Because it had been such a trauma the first time, I finally ended it with the second guy because he wouldn't say it, despite me telling him how much it hurt me; he would even tell his dog he loved him in front of me and it would rip me to pieces. Anyone who won't say it after a normal length of time has issues, don't stick around for that. One of my HVW friends was so empathetic about the situation that she would text m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 04:00 AM |
| 10 | Lessons from watching 'The Crown' Season 4 (Princess Diana)Ha! I was going to make the same post. This season wrecked me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:50 AM |
| 49 | The trailer for "Pornocracy" a 2017 documentary on the shadiness of Mindgeek by former French porn actress OvidieJust want to give some background: she was an adult entertainer in France about 10-20 years ago and frequently appeared on talk shows because she has a Master's in philosophy. At the time she defended the porn industry and I even read her book on the matter. In recent years she has turned on the porn industry discussing multiple problematic aspects of it and made several documentaries, including one on how badly teens today are affected by mass-pornography called "À quoi rêvent les jeunes filles… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 08:49 PM |
| 4 | Remember when everyone called her a gold digger for getting a huge payout from her divorce..Same. After over twenty years in feminist circles, this group is such a classy, supportive and smart bunch of ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 07:46 AM |
| 3 | 👑Unfortunately this book of hers hasn't been translated yet but for any French-speakers out there one of the two on the topic is "Pourquoi trop penser rend manipulable" by Christel Petitcollin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:00 PM |
| 77 | Remember when everyone called her a gold digger for getting a huge payout from her divorce..And she doesn't try to be the "cool girl", she is unapologetically into things derided as "girly". I used to not be interested in her for that reason, back when I had a pickme cool girl mindset and getting into her helped me liberate myself from these tendencies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:56 PM |
| 135 | Remember when everyone called her a gold digger for getting a huge payout from her divorce..He made her into a blow-up doll in his music video along with disparaging lyrics about how he made her famous, calling her a b*tch and saying they might have sex. And his wife was complicit in manipulating a phone call to make it look like she approved it and then launching a mass online-harassment campaign against her that deeply affected her life. This after she had the good graces to forgive him for the humiliating "incident" from that awards show and gave them her friendship. They are vile h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:52 PM |
| 4 | How extreme porn has become a gateway drug into child abuseAnd I'm guessing that's just in the UK..? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:47 PM |
| 152 | Remember when everyone called her a gold digger for getting a huge payout from her divorce..This is a great idea. I have an art career and I've found talking about Taylor Swift (her fight for other artists in the industry to have better contracts, Kanye West making revenge porn of her, her lawsuit against the guy who groped her, her incredible business acumen...) also helps me sift through people, friends included. It's fine to not like her music but some people out there have such irrational hatred of talented successful women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:32 PM |
| 14 | 👑A book I was reading on avoiding manipulators had a similar metaphor and said we need to be like a private garden and not a public park. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 08:43 AM |
| 1 | FDS is nothing like those incels or the subculture they have of pillers, and it is odd you would think that.Thanks for sharing, one more reason that society should come down hard on this stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:08 AM |
| 15 | Wisdom from older peopleThis thinly-disguised misogyny that is the Karen meme pisses me off to no end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 03:30 AM |
| 2 | FDS is nothing like those incels or the subculture they have of pillers, and it is odd you would think that.I had no idea these groups also had such ideas about black women, how despicable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 01:37 AM |
| 28 | Ladies, what are your thoughts on marriage in 2020? Will it ever be equal/worth it?Yeah, most of my friends are highly educated women in their early to late thirties with thriving careers in arts and academia in major cities and almost all are single (and beautiful I should add). We just don't meet that many men that can or even want to be equal partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 07:54 AM |
| 2 | "JuSt CoMmuNiCATe" bad advice, confirms expert psychologist tackling toxic relationships. Don't let misogynistic Reddit bros tell you otherwise.I'm so happy for you you had great friends around to support you in this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 09:48 PM |
| 9 | When men lie about their age to get their foot through the door with younger women🤮A TON of them on OLD change their age in the settings by a year or two (guaranteed half of the 39/38-year-olds on there are over 40) and then disclose it in the profile. They do this because they know we'll have filters set at even numbers like 30-40 and hope you'll give them a chance. My NV ex invented some story about identity theft when he disclosed his actual age; even in my pickme days I knew it was bs. After that when I still used OLD I changed my settings to 36-37 for that exact reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 09:44 PM |
| 9 | Why does my 9 brother and his friends have more emotional intelligence than adult men?Because maturity is set very early on. Therapists will tell you the first years of one's life, how you are cared for and what you see, shape the entire rest of it. That's why there's no point in hoping someone will become a mature partner if they display immature and bad behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 09:31 PM |
| 19 | One of Taylor Swift’s new songs “closure” is about shutting down exes who come guiltily crawling backTo be fair to her, she was super young when some of those were written, and her singles for some reason always cater to the lowest denominator. "We are never getting back together", or "Me!" etc., it's annoying because there are so many mature songs on the records that people don't get to hear in comparison. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 09:16 PM |
| 6 | I waited for a year to have sex with my bfYes, but I never met them. He saw me on OLD once and I didn’t swipe him (because his profile never showed up on my end..) so he assumed I was not interested. He works with a lot of women in STEM who deal with creeps so he’s conscientious of women dealing with that. It’s ironic to think OLD actually worked against us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:59 AM |
| 15 | Being a good husband is now called "simping"A guy on a facebook group earlier was selling some stuff of his (a chair and an arcade game thing) because he was moving in with his girlfriend and ALL the comments were about how his girlfriend had him "whipped"... He ended up commenting that it was all stuff he'd planned on selling for years and he hadn't had time, and closed the thread. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 09:04 AM |
| 16 | I waited for a year to have sex with my bfCan confirm, my current partner waited three years since meeting me, and a year and a half since becoming proper friends for me to become interested in him romantically. And he saw me date plenty of other people in that time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 03:59 AM |
| 57 | "JuSt CoMmuNiCATe" bad advice, confirms expert psychologist tackling toxic relationships. Don't let misogynistic Reddit bros tell you otherwise.Also if your friend is in one, do not tell them they’re idiots, lift them up, tell them they deserve and will find better. When I was with a narc who would dump me repeatedly then want back in, two friends of mine were so appalled by it, they told me I was an idiot, that they were ashamed of me, gullible etc. And it just sunk me lower. What we need at that point is help to lift ourselves out of there. The narc has already destroyed a huge part of our self-esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 03:55 AM |
| 11 | See ladies... we are called Gold Diggers but when it’s about a man and his kids, we are unfair.What.. my stepdad and my mother have been married since I was 12 or something, he has a holiday home that he gave his daughter, and I would never expect to inherit from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:33 PM |
| 2 | They know. Don't waste your time."if it's not a 'hell yes!' it's a no" Absolutely this! I didn't know what a min pin was, adorable! Haha I was going to ask for dog tax, OP delivered :D How could anyone not find joy in her? I'm sorry you went through that painful experience, though I'm glad it didn't waste more of your time. I hope you have a great holiday season <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 01:07 AM |
| 4 | They know. Don't waste your time.It honestly blows my mind every time how skilled he is at dealing with disagreements or misunderstandings. Even very good, mature, friends of mine aren't as good at it. I went to an animal sanctuary on the weekend and I misunderstood him then not wanting to see me that evening because of Covid risks (we're both very careful and I hadn't communicated that it was a small thing on a private property, he thought there might be droves of people), and he got in touch a few hours later to chat, then ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:49 PM |
| 1 | They know. Don't waste your time.Aww! Thank you for sharing that nugget which I'm sure gave many of us food for thought. This community is all about sharing wisdom and advice with other women. “I want to see where this goes” or “let’s take it day by day”. It truly is such tripe. But I suspect that because it's obviously rare to encounter the opposite sense of security, for normal reasons that most will not be the right fit for you and a long-term partnership, we assume "seeing where it goes" is the norm. And then of course ther… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:32 PM |
| 4 | They know. Don't waste your time.I appreciate your comment but I come from the world of academia and STEM, most of my friends are in it as well, It's a huge part of my life so I'm very well aware of how it works. He actually moved twice to support his previous partner's career in academia (one of my best friend's boyfriend, now fiancé, did as well to support her career in STEM). I've also moved four times as mentioned, for my career and am currently 9000km away from my home country, because I put my career first—and it's possib… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:23 PM |
| 25 | This PostSecret shook me, I think most women can relate to this.My therapist says they're not capable of experiencing real love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Nier Automata's video game take on feminism and femininity. Interesting game if you're into philosophy and existentialismYes, listening to it while I worked on the game was actually a treat! Can't wait to hear the sequels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 02:30 AM |
| 7 | The Wall is BS. A 35 year old woman’s take...As a French woman this idea of "the wall" or thirties being "old" is wild to me. I'm mid-thirties and like many friends I've been never looked better, taken better care of myself, had enough money for nice tailored clothes.. My friends of a similar age are only just starting to get married and my mother had me in her late thirties. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:50 AM |
| 6 | Confronted my (27F) husband (34M) about his porn use today... This is how it went.I just want to say how sorry I am that someone you should be able to trust said these disgusting things to you. Save all these texts for the divorce, it's good that you have this abuse in written. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:44 AM |
| 66 | men knowI was planning on making a post about my recent confirmation of this.. They know almost immediately what their end goal with you is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:30 AM |
| 11 | Nier Automata's video game take on feminism and femininity. Interesting game if you're into philosophy and existentialismThank you for posting! I actually worked on the first Nier and the female character (Kainé) was so unique and awesome. I still haven't had a chance to check out the 2 but really need to! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 09:35 AM |
| 1 | You Don't Have To Like Everyone — Work SharkThis is lovely and powerful, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 07:50 AM |
| 15 | Rando PMs an active FDS member (me). Biggest takeaway here? To those women here wondering if they are GOOD ENOUGH: all you have to do is be a woman to be a prize. That’s it. Even the worst of the worst redpillers will tell you!Reading this makes me think that these guys are the pickmes in reality. Their entire lives revolve around their need and capacity to be picked by women. Just like how they swipe almost every woman on dating apps hoping for a shot. I think many women know this in some way and that’s why we have to be extra selective. As a woman with “good genes” I wish a lot fewer men tried to pick me because it’s incredibly difficult to sort through the lies and manipulation for those of us who want quality over… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 07:26 AM |
| 17 | Clueless scrote in the dating over forty whining about how his "date" wasn't an "adult" because she didn't want to talk about his dick after only 1 "date". Then has the NERVE to advise the rest of us that he did HER a favor and DOING US a favor by putting PSA in the subject line.The irony of saying you want to discuss boundaries, while not respecting her boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 01:00 AM |
| 3 | I got an A in my graduate level accounting class so I decided to reward myself. Ft. my cat.Congrats! And that's a beautiful kitty. I love calicos, they are so opinionated! Can we have more pictures please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 12:48 AM |
| 5 | Vegan vs. Non-vegan menIt’s so messed up. Some mix of control issues, sadism etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:47 PM |
| 5 | Vegan vs. Non-vegan menWhat a great story <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:43 AM |
| 5 | Vegan vs. Non-vegan menThe author also has a good facebook page! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:42 AM |
| 32 | Vegan vs. Non-vegan menWe definitely had guys in my country's vegan meetups that were just there because they knew there would be lots of women... That's cool you found someone vegetarian; that's a good compromise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:39 AM |
| 19 | Vegan vs. Non-vegan menI've been vegan ten years, was heavily involved in activism (and now make climate change shows) and have been part of the community in four different countries/capitals; so it's a huge part of my life and I've met a LOT of vegans. It used to be inconceivable to me to date a non-veg guy but after the past five years dating narcs, I've decided finding an HVM with good values matters more. From my experience, the good ones will often go veg, eat veg with you and generally be respectful and helpful … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:31 AM |
| 45 | My boyfriend was worth the wait! He’s been taking care of me since I broke my foot.One of the worst narcs I was with got upset, borderline cried in bed because I asked him very neutrally if he could be careful with not banging my knee repeatedly as we were in bed fooling around... I'm a runner and had just split my knee on pavement and could barely walk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:19 AM |
| 12 | It’s a pandemic of LVM men everywhere!! Another story of an LVM man taking a woman out on a date. PandemicMoney piñata I cackled! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 12:38 AM |
| 19 | An anthem for anyone who dealt with LVMs and a video for what you should do with your old pickme self.I'm so sorry for what you went through and that this video made you think about it. But you have not in any way lost, you have won by surviving it, the monster who did this to you lost. I teach Japanese Jiu-jitsu-based self-defense for free to empower women and I strongly recommend you take a class if you ever get a chance. It can be difficult, possibly triggering but worth it to re-tale ownership of your body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:27 PM |
| 3 | An anthem for anyone who dealt with LVMs and a video for what you should do with your old pickme self.(But also forgive yourself about it!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:47 PM |
| 23 | Need help! How can you differentiate real interest vs. Love bombing and future faking?Great thread, I’ve meant to post asking the same thing. I’m seeing someone now who was a longtime friend (as opposed to someone from OLD and those guys always lovebombed me..) and I would say one important aspect is giving things time. Telling you they want to marry you two months into the relationship is not realistic. And being super vulnerable early on (and expecting the same of you) has led to catastrophe from what I’ve experienced. People should take time to open up to one another, even if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:38 PM |
| 31 | Best thing I’ve seen all weekI teach self-defense/jiu-jitsu and no matter your size you can do plenty to defend yourself. And men never expect it. But obviously be careful if they have friends etc. situations can get bad fast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:31 PM |
| 32 | New Yorker criticizes Queen’s Gambit actress as too good looking for the role. Because being smart must = being ugly even after any glowup.Omg i saw this article yesterday and it made me so angry. I studied astrophysics and host science shows now, I worked as a model beforehand and nothing pisses me off more than this constant assumption that any remotely attractive woman must be a dolt. It’s taken me a really long time to find a show that would take me seriously because of these misogynistic ideas. The bbc had an article about women in Silicon Valley who dyed their blonde hair, switched their contacts for glasses and stopped weari… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:15 PM |
| 17 | How my dogs made me realise some guys suck.What a gorgeous dog! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 06:26 AM |
| 33 | A very simple example of the difference between liberal feminism and FDS feminism. Body positivity is great, but women are more than their bodies.I work on science shows and try to inspire women to get into science and this encapsulates my feelings exactly. I just wish more women knew they were worth so much more than their appearance, be they models or not. Thank you for posting this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 06:21 AM |
| 9 | What... the FuCK? 🤡😳I would tell him to enjoy his hand then and ask if he's cool with her getting with other guys, since he no longer wants to have sex with her, or maybe women as a whole apparently. I was with a guy with a death-grip problem once, I gave him a chance to discuss it and fix the issue, he didn't and I got out of there fast. This is bare minimum stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:39 AM |
| 38 | Rooting for this queen who unfriended her LVM husbandI’ve said it before, I’ve found veganism to be a wonderful filter for LVMs. Towards the end of our relationship, a keto guy I dated told me he was purposely eating meat in front of me to “make a point”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 10:14 PM |
| 14 | A LVM who disrespected me reached out because he is now in my area of business and needs my help.A guy I had a fling with and cut off after he didn’t respect my boundaries, then insulted me a year and a half ago reached out on thanksgiving.. Because he wants my industry contacts haha. I thought I blocked him everywhere earlier this year when he tried to send me a birthday wish. They are so transparent it’s ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:12 AM |
| 2 | Thanksgiving for the Things That Aren'tThank you! ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:08 AM |
| 22 | Why dating with intention is so importantThis is a great post, thank you for making it. And as a freelancer who has been shafted by all sorts of gigs and been promised everything under the sun, the jobs comparison is evocative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 12:20 AM |
| 2 | Bought myself a love ring as a promise and reminder to treat myself with all the love and care and never settle for less.I love it! Thank you for explaining it :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:32 AM |
| 7 | Lord have mercyIt scares me to know these men are out there and will probably never seek therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:49 PM |
| 4 | Bought myself a love ring as a promise and reminder to treat myself with all the love and care and never settle for less.Oh my mom has this ring. Does the design have any particular significance? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:47 PM |
| 11 | No such thing as too pickyAh! I must have forgotten it, thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 02:20 AM |
| 21 | Can men stop deflecting and lying about their height when they realise I'm taller than them?The last date I had on OLD, the guy lied about his height so I wore heels and was taller than him and I could tell he was incredibly uncomfortable the whole time. The funniest thing is I never brought up his height before we met, he made unprompted comments about it twice by text/video; for example I mentioned something about Taylor Swift and that she is so tall and he said "Oh I guess I'm the same height"... Same thing when we were talking about Lenny Kravitz's big scarf. What did he think was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:10 AM |
| 12 | No such thing as too pickyIs the term ZVM new? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:04 AM |
| 30 | Please, share your HVM stories/ relationshipsOne of my first boyfriends was a shining example of high value. The first time I came to his place for lunch, he had made me a little handwritten menu of everything he had cooked and always did thoughtful cute things. He helped me pay my rent when I moved to another country to go to university when my parents weren’t helping me enough. He even spoke to me about marriage in the appropriate time frame. But most importantly he supported my dreams and career aspirations as a musician, featured me on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 02:09 AM |
| 2 | Worthiness of men compared to womenThank you, this is very beautiful. Especially the bit about our interests being trivial. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 02:15 AM |
| 5 | Regardless of how you feel about WAP, her outlook is awesomeIn all fairness, the interview discusses other things. Notably her being shot whilst the BLM protests were going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 04:32 AM |
| 11 | Regardless of how you feel about WAP, her outlook is awesomeIt’s a great question. You should make a dedicated thread! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 04:31 AM |
| 15 | A great article on how sexual liberalism and bare minimum expectations of decency from men has lead to high levels of sexual dissatisfaction. Peep the comments for FDS tackling some more wokebro mansplaining!So when inexperienced young women are encouraged by liberal feminism to behave exactly as men would like them to, and find themselves feeling used, violated and miserable — as they often do — they have no way of understanding what is happening to them, or recognising that the system is rigged There we have it: The system is rigged. Thanks for posting this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 12:52 AM |
| 28 | Regardless of how you feel about WAP, her outlook is awesomeThat's fair, I liked the stuff about her being magic. Someone posted a quote on here recently that said that and it reminded me of it. Never lose sense of your own magic. I agree with you on the rest though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 12:30 AM |
| 95 | Regardless of how you feel about WAP, her outlook is awesomeThis is a quote from Megan Thee Stallion from the last GQ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 10:32 PM |
| 19 | Props to this girl !Good for her! Having moved to the US recently, I don't understand how you can be exclusive with someone, seeing them for several months and not in a relationship? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 06:02 PM |
| 44 | Treating MYSELF the way I want to be treated. I closed my first major deal today in my new career and took my beautiful self to the jewelry store to pick out exactly what I wanted 👏🏼Just admiring the beautiful home in the back on top of it and that clean pet bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 03:22 AM |
| 6 | How do you let go of anger for men who wronged you?You gotta love all the shit Taylor Swift got for denouncing predators like John Mayor, Kanye West and her other love songs... She writes glowingly about her new partner! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:06 AM |
| 12 | My abusive NVM ex and his perfect girlfriend are the best lesson I ever receivedSending you the biggest hug and I'm so glad you got out eventually. Here's to the rest of your life being amazing and not raising your child with him. Thank you for sharing this cautionary tale for us all to learn from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 11:58 PM |
| 96 | Sorry that a part of my body that’s designed to feed my babies is unattractive to you /sGosh, imagine being hurt that someone showed you their boobs after you wanted to see them. I'm glad you had the confidence to laugh it off! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 11:42 PM |
| 82 | Security Reminder: DO NOT Respond to "Journalists," "Researchers," or Anyone Else Seeking to "Interview You" About FDSI also received this: https://imgur.com/a/ecnWq81 Obviously unaffiliated with us, it's just a shop that sells t-shirts etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 09:39 PM |
| 54 | When even men like Bill Maher can acknowledge and criticize the abusive,rapey and misogynistic nature of modern porn, what's the excuse of the rest of the scores that play stupid?It’s great that he mentioned Tinder and connected it to patriarchal culture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 06:32 PM |
| 24 | This 10 year old is wise! And her babysitter is a pickmeisha supreme 🤦🏻♀️Confirms my idea that maturity is set pretty early on and people don’t change much after that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 06:09 AM |
| 5 | If you ever find yourself suppressing your need to make gifts...Oh my goodness, yes!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:15 PM |
| 7 | Best relationship tips, big and small: let's share!I have a narc parent. It’s the starting point of all the BS I accepted from LVMs. Strongly reiterated: go to therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:58 AM |
| 32 | Stop calling Jason Momoa a HVM. He's lowest of the LVMS.I worked with him once and he was super nice :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 07:02 AM |
| 78 | Beyond red flags: Don’t settle for the bare minimumIt’s for the pickmes who won’t listen to us because they’re so much cooler than other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 03:22 AM |
| 2 | Male 'feminists'I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 12:47 AM |
| 7 | Porn continues to ruin everything and continues to exploit and objectify women’s bodiesI what the fucked out loud. WOL? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 12:15 AM |
| 8 | I used to seek validation and closure from my past relationship. A very wise HVM told me “if he’s telling you who he is through his actions listen to him and drop him, sis!” No truer words spoken. Lesson learned. Moving on...Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 11:57 PM |
| 33 | I was reading the comments on this video and I came across this!!We are happily voluntary celibates. We're not pickup artists, we're "put him back!" artists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 07:04 PM |
| 33 | Male 'feminists'As someone who was recently told she was an intolerant prude when I was set up with someone who then said he wanted to do polyamory and declined, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 01:08 AM |
| 4 | What theory explains why women seem to just be better quality than men, especially in the last 10-20 years?I'm in a totally different science, can you clarify if this study has any merit please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 05:33 PM |
| 22 | /r/tinder is filled with pickme's like this. Who tf wants to have anal as a first "date"?Sex has become the predominant way LVMs will express any form of affection to women at the expense of all others which required more creativity and commitment. Like planning a thrilling date together, doing something for the person, a beautiful gift or simply expressing kind sentiments in words, poems, notes etc. When we asked for sexual liberation, it ended up coming at the expense of every other form of affection. There's only one 'love language' for these people so women have been forced to a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 05:25 PM |
| 15 | COVID is NOT an excuse for Low Effort Dates.Yep! I went on a date with a guy from OLD back in September who mentioned his last girlfriend had dumped him for never planning any dates and he adds "but you know it was Covid so we couldn't do anything". I was with an LVM for the first 5 months of the pandemic and even he managed to plan some fun things with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 05:11 PM |
| 2 | I've thought about this for long timeAbsolutely agreed. Esther Perrel talks about this quite a bit and the changing dynamics of community and partnership in this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S57343tPKHg&t=3001s&ab_channel=LewisHowes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 04:59 PM |
| 13 | You can literally be Beyonce and still be devalued by LVMProof that any of us can become a pickme.. It's a cultural imperative of patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 03:04 AM |
| 15 | What in the ever loving pickmeisha hell is this?No, we’ve just seen the ones in gay communities for example and we know the average man could look a lot more attractive if he at least put in small amounts of effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 05:11 AM |
| 18 | The Value of Block and DeleteAnything from men I knew posting misogynistic things to the usual disrespect in dating etc. A few months ago a guy I met once tried to neg me on instagram and I kept replying trying to explain how terrible what he was doing was. Waste of time. Block delete, preserve your sanity and save your energy for other things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 10:09 PM |
| 2 | I mean so relatable! Right ladies?? 🤢What in the... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 10:00 PM |
| 22 | I feel like kids have less tolerance for offensive and annoying behavior than adults doAgreed. In my twenties I would never have accepted the dating and relationship BS I did in my thirties. I think the message of patriarchal society can grind us down over time and make us think that our past relationships didn't work because we were "so demanding!", so "inflexible!" and all that rubbish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 09:52 PM |
| 35 | The Value of Block and DeleteIt's in the top three things I learnt on here! I used to endlessly argue on social media with LVMs because "maybe no one ever told them!", "I owe everyone decency!", "I should explain so they can learn!". No no no. It has been such a powerful change in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?Mid-thirties and also agree even though I'm from Europe. Thanks OP, this is a great summary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 09:08 PM |
| 15 | It's a man's world? Ok so we became "men" we have careers, education, we provide, we joined your military, we fought your battles. Some of us were even physically hurt like men by men. Oh you want femininity too? So we become women, we love, we cook, we clean, we nurture.This is a great point, thanks OP. I feel that women have, rightfully so, been told that we now have our freedom and should have careers, be independent etc etc. but many men haven't met us halfway and haven't taken on the values of equal partnership like taking on 50% of chores, child-rearing, sacrifices for the wife's career etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:44 AM |
| 6 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsThanks OP, this is awesome! This is a good confirmation that the vast majority men on OLD are men who would have never had access to quality women in the first place. Now they do, and they don't even make an effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 05:07 AM |
| 4 | Anyone else seen this self righteous narc on the bachelor?Classic narc behavior: “I’m such a victiiiiiim! Me me me it’s all about meeeee!!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 04:24 AM |
| 4 | Don't make the mistake of believing that men only use women for sex.This is very important. I've been fooled into this many times because I assumed that if they weren't using me for sex, I was in the clear. But they were using me for affection, comfort, and social validation whilst absolutely not caring for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:15 PM |
| 14 | Women supporting other women <3Yes! I partly work in it and women in the entertainment industry/L.A. seriously need to support one another. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 01:46 AM |
| 33 | Women supporting other women <3Since the Megan Fox comment was posted on here, it's nice to see her being supported against her ex trying to paint her as an absent mother. Especially by women he had flings with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 01:28 AM |
| 18 | Don’t let a relationship make you “comfortable” and lazy; always be increasing your personal value and earning potentialIt's a switch from what gives you the most dopamine which goes from the things that usually fulfill you (career, self-care etc.) to the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 10:18 PM |
| 14 | Vote!You can't seriously be pushing this narrative or equating these two men. Trump is on tape admitting to sexual assault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 05:44 AM |
| 461 | I love how OP handled this like a queen 🙌👑 the audacity of this selfish guy trying to pressure her into being a warm fleshlightAs if there's even a next time when they're that entitled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 05:41 AM |
| 14 | Just a reminder please vote! Women are the majority in this country and our vote doesn’t only matter for president but also in the house and senate.The WAP I want, is a woman as president. VP is a good first step! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 05:39 AM |
| 3 | Start glamorizing your single life like this so you don't need a manI love these, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 06:21 AM |
| 43 | Also, WoMeN aRe BaD aT ScIeNcE. Science is for the logical sex.When I was a student I got a call center job for insurance quotes, women would get better rates.. because they drive more safely. So of course that got labelled by patriarchal society as "badly". And I think men then lobbied to pass a law to make it illegal where I was living then. Gender discrimination is terrible.. when it benefits women. Would love to see these people fight as hard against the gender pay gap, lack of maternity leave etc. etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 07:59 PM |
| 5 | Scientists discover how to turn women's bone marrow into spermAnd thank you for caring <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 08:47 AM |
| 26 | Scientists discover how to turn women's bone marrow into spermFYI, the daily mail is a deeply misogynistic, ultraconservative, homophobic, fear-mongering publication that publishes a lot of falsehoods etc. They caused a woman, Lucy Meadows, to die of suicide. I would strongly recommend not giving them clicks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 09:56 PM |
| 283 | Romcoms may have tried to twist our perception of healthy relationships but this lady schools all nice guys into thinking otherwise.This reminds me of this wonderful successful and gorgeous lady I was friends with some years ago. She had been with this god-awful guy for a decade. He gambled, still lived with his parents but spent time at her place without contributing anything, she wasn't allowed at his family events because of his family's religion, he wasn't particularly attractive, the sex wasn't great either apparently, he wouldn't propose.. Anyway, they finally broke up and she fairly quickly got together with a great g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 04:04 AM |
| 8 | Im not saying he is a HVM, but he has potentialMy recent LVM ex accused me of using him for his car and his cat. I'm not even joking. He helped me get (not pay by the way) groceries three times in five months and that made me a golddigger hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 07:11 AM |
| 36 | Beware: After years of a committed relationship, a SCROTE will decide that you were just FWB the entire time. He will play dumb and try to gaslight you. Do not believe his lies girl.Somehow I can never find these threads when I go look or even google. Did they remove it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:02 AM |
| 5 | Taylor Swift’s “I Did Something Bad” is about not feeling guilty for putting yourself first!She’s a killer. Such an inspiration. I’m used to metal stadium shows and the Rep tour was one of the most powerful live shows I ever saw. She has that rock metal energy without even doing that kind of music. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 04:51 AM |
| 2 | What are some good FDS-positive female singers and songs?Yes!! Mad Woman is bloody amazing!! Daylight to me is also a great description of the difference between a relationship with narc/LVM etc. And real love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 04:28 AM |
| 7 | How do you avoid intelligent LVM?Time. I’ve been with many LVMs/narcs who masqueraded as HVM and their mask always came off after a few months (in my case three but it can take longer). That’s why you should make sure to cultivate healthy and gradual attachment. When they lovebomb, make sure to put space in between you two so that your joy and serotonin rush also comes from hobbies, friends, and family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 04:18 AM |
| 2 | A reminder that when dealing with LVMs, their words, actions and beliefs are NOT your responsibility.Great analysis. Thanks for sharing all that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 01:55 AM |
| 9 | I just ordered her book, ngl.Especially when he just holds a minor position. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:53 PM |
| 5 | She says that Successful women have a harder time getting successful men. She says that those men are rare first of all and they don’t want to date you because of your achievements. They want you to be HOT as fuck and pure joy to be around . Thoughts ?the point is to have patience and ignore any rocks while you mine Great image. Thanks for your whole comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:31 PM |
| 4 | I just ordered her book, ngl.No one tried to ban the book. https://madame.lefigaro.fr/societe/moi-les-hommes-je-les-deteste-un-essai-misandre-menace-de-censure-040920-182176 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:16 PM |
| 6 | I just ordered her book, ngl.I already pointed it out above but I'm French and the government did not try to ban it. Let's not pretend the reaction elsewhere wouldn't have been similar from the usual groups. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:16 PM |
| 35 | I just ordered her book, ngl.French here. The government did not try to ban it. A relatively unimportant guy in a ministry suggested it should be. https://madame.lefigaro.fr/societe/moi-les-hommes-je-les-deteste-un-essai-misandre-menace-de-censure-040920-182176 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:15 PM |
| 11 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatHey, can we not use these gendered slurs in here.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:16 AM |
| 11 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatCan confirm, I got with a married man once without having any knowledge of it. These men will spin things in all sorts of ways.. we've all been there with the "my ex was so mean to me!" bla bla. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:15 AM |
| 8 | On the ground outside...This is the next evolution of guy who sleeps in a nest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:02 AM |
| 5 | I'm loving social distancingAmazing. Thanks for that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 02:18 AM |
| 3 | A reminder from the Baggage Reclaim Queen, Natalie LueI totally understand being upset about this situation but that seems like they were unprofessional more than not liking you. I've seen unprofessional healthcare people (or in any field) and they tend to treat everyone like this. Keep looking, don't ignore your instincts obviously but know there are great therapists out there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 07:11 PM |
| 4 | A reminder from the Baggage Reclaim Queen, Natalie LueIt seems your issue with not feeling liked is also translating to therapists. Their goal isn’t to like you but to provide guidance on your thinking patterns. I would suggest discussing that very issue with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 05:39 PM |
| 5 | This is straight up misogyny disguised as "music" 🤮🤦🏻♀️ it's sad that girls and women are using this sound on TikTokGenerally for casting yeah, and it’s clearly indicated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 05:36 PM |
| 16 | This is straight up misogyny disguised as "music" 🤮🤦🏻♀️ it's sad that girls and women are using this sound on TikTokI’m a model and I was conned two weeks ago into being a booty girl in a music video (I noped out and wouldn’t do it). Pay for proper music video is $100-300. Mine was $150. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 05:47 AM |
| 3 | Leave him in the dust...I had the same experience and it also happened when I turned 30.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 05:35 AM |
| 87 | Came across this today and thought of y'all~Reminds me of this interview of Taylor Swift in which she pointed out exactly that: that men will write songs about exes and it's normal, but her songwriting is seen as a "trick". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:45 AM |
| 21 | A reminder from the Baggage Reclaim Queen, Natalie LueGo into therapy if you can or read self-help books on the topic. You may have had a narcissistic parent or caretaker who made you feel that way growing up. It's my case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Male depravity knows NO boundariesHoly shit. There’s actually a passage in the book Me Talk Pretty One Day in which the author describes building a similar nest while he was a drugged up art student.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Been wondering for some time; how many neurodivergent women are here?Yes, that’s why I put diagnosed in quote marks. I took the WAIS test over a few hours/two days with a specialist so I feel a legitimacy over calling it somewhat of a diagnosis. there also is a lot of misunderstanding around what being gifted is and the big downsides of it. I feel the same as everything you described. Women have a very different experience of this than men and, sometimes like some autistic women will spend their life camouflaging. We also have so little visibility in media and po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 07:24 PM |
| 8 | Maturely handling accusations of "not being able to find a man."Sending you love. I hope you have amazing memories to treasure and am happy you got to have this relationship in your life. thank you for your well wishes for us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 07:01 PM |
| 8 | Been wondering for some time; how many neurodivergent women are here?Hello! I was “diagnosed” gifted last year.. ironically after a bunch of relationships with LVM narcs. Thank goodness as I’d reached a breaking point.. And yes, I expect there’s many of us here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 09:27 AM |
| 3 | Male depravity knows NO boundariesDamn, I missed it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 09:25 AM |
| 7 | Ladies, let’s talk about money! Whether you're single, dating, or married, all women need to be financially literate. Here are my tips to help protect yourself and to increase your financial security at all stages of your life.Ahh, got it. Thank you for clarifying that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:53 AM |
| 1 | This is why I don’t like male teachers ...Violence against women is hilarious! Am I RiTe LaDiEs?! That there are people out there who would say such things makes me so upset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:46 AM |
| 8 | Ladies, let’s talk about money! Whether you're single, dating, or married, all women need to be financially literate. Here are my tips to help protect yourself and to increase your financial security at all stages of your life.Does marriage affect your credit score? I've seen mention of it here. I'm from Europe and credit score isn't really a thing. I finally got a credit card a year ago, purely to accrue credit, seeing how difficult moving to the US was without one and I was surprised by how opaque the whole system was... And thank you for all this. This sub breeds true sisterhood and overall support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:42 AM |
| 6 | “Can I Say” Book ReviewHis 14yo daughter has been doing that since she was 10 or younger. A friend who worked for him some years ago showed me her Instagram and I couldn’t believe it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:45 AM |
| 8 | Do you trust him to take care of things?That 50/50 is such a great analogy, thank you for sharing that. I always put in 100% in my relationships which is why it bothered me to be on a 50/50 basis; now it makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 10:01 PM |
| 9 | Reminder: you do not need another person to experience love <3This is from yesterday's daily meditation on Headspace. I strongly recommend this app! It helped me get through horrific treatments from NVMs and level up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 07:33 PM |
| 13 | “Women should be more indulgent of affairs”. Excuse your mouth?It made me so sad recently to learn about Kit Harrington having cheated on Rose Leslie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 05:11 AM |
| 6 | After a long day at work, I come home to flowers and a book about empowered women. A HVM is rare to find, but they are out there.These post are so helpful to teach us not to accept so little. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 11:02 PM |
| 22 | An interesting read! Haven’t read the whole book but it certainly sounds intriguing, and will be next on my audible wish list!https://youtu.be/KTvSfeCRxe8 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 10:55 PM |
| 20 | I think I hit the goldmine here. “Imagine how a man feels thinking that you are scared he will rape you.”Queen of the pickmeishas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:23 AM |
| 7 | Why we insist on dates with meals.It should definitely be why THEY can't have nice things anymore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 08:23 PM |
| 13 | When the LVM reveal their true face. Is this a reminder not to trust anyone? How can we build a life with someone who we believe to be HV when literally anyone could be lying to us for years? It’s really scary to hear about such stories.This! It happened with all my exes in the US for some reason and I thought it was the culture (people display less emotionally) but then realized it’s because they were narcs. Unless you’re throwing plates at one another, fighting and disagreeing is normal. It’s how you deal with it as a couple that matters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 05:18 PM |
| 18 | Why we insist on dates with meals.Also, when did dating stop being about having at the very least a good time? I’m shocked at how low effort it’s become because it makes it so much worse when you didn’t go somewhere nice or have a nice meal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 08:09 AM |
| 36 | Men love gold diggersGo read the interviews of Elon Musk’s first wife.. he just used her for support when starting his career. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 12:07 AM |
| 4 | FDS is NOT about manipulating men into getting into a relationship they don’t want toHad someone just yesterday in the /vegan sub tell me we were an incel terf sub. Dafuq. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:39 PM |
| 29 | they did it to themselves. 🤷🏾♀️My ex I just broke up with saw anything he did for me as me using him, it was the weirdest thing; under the guise of course, of his ex-wife he “had” to support. Nevermind that three years after moving to the US I have a career in a niche field and am working my ass off to earn a lot. He was at my place once discussing a random 50k bank transfer but I would give him gas money to have him pick me up and had to ask him to invite me to restaurants towards the end since he wanted to eat out so much I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:29 PM |
| 28 | Why I don't OLD (5 reasons)I was doing OLD until recently, met a guy who lied about his height and was super nervous insecure the whole time and realized even the guys I’ve had relationships from there were insecure. Thanks for pointing it out, it’s my number one reason for quitting. They’re mostly used to pickmeishas on there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:51 AM |
| 35 | "Why Does He Do That" -- Mr. SensitiveYep.. dated several of them. One would tell me how he cried working on this documentary about orphans etc. And then he mistreated me like crazy. It took me over a year to see it for what it was and understand that what he said didn’t match what he did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:24 PM |
| 5 | Great article on the problem with men today... emotionally distant fathers who are not teaching their sons how to be menThis was a beautiful article, thank you for sharing. I’ve been wondering since moving to the US if mothers coddle their sons here and do everything for them, but now I realize it’s the lack of emotional connection to their father and it seems clear men are constantly told that emotions are for weaklings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:18 PM |
| 12 | Hookup/pickme culture in Emily in ParisI know! Where is the show showing the RER B 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 06:59 PM |
| 16 | Nature always give warning when with LVmThe worst guy I was ever with kept somehow giving me a UTI every two weeks even though I’d only ever had two in my entire life. Even my body was telling me GTFO! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 09:47 AM |
| 22 | Hookup/pickme culture in Emily in ParisI’m French and you hit the nail on the head with a lot of this. I haven’t seen the show although I saw the scene you refer to in the trailer. For better or for worse nudity is much more accepted and viewed quite differently. We all had a good laugh at the Janet nipplegate thing and being topless at the pool and beaches is very normal. God knows we have a lot of sexism though but it’s quite different. By the way your French was good but just so you know, we put spaces before and after double punc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 09:44 AM |
| 42 | Hookup/pickme culture in Emily in ParisAs a Parisian, I just have to say how hilarious these shows always are to me. The bbc had a whole article last week on all these shows and movies that don’t truly depict the Paris of Parisians. Agreed with your points as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 09:33 AM |
| 2 | Sis, just leave during the dateI was a huge meat lover prior and completely agree. Chicken is really just seasoning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 04:10 AM |
| 45 | Professions of undying love.This. Believe what they do not what they say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 04:01 AM |
| 6 | Sis, just leave during the dateHaving been vegan for ten years, I have to say it’s become an incredible filter for rubbish men and people in general. Most of my friends or HV partners I’ve had were not but they are incredibly supportive. Criticizing someone’s commitment to take an ethical, environmental stance or who is just trying to eat better is a huge red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 02:36 AM |
| 49 | [Morgan Freeman voice]: But it was not, because men literally swipe right on everyoneAs I’ve read here in the past: a man wanting to have sex with you is not a compliment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 07:51 PM |
| 38 | [Mildly Trending] /r/FemaleDatingStrategy - Female Dating Strategy (+343 subscribers today; 159% trend score)🙌🙌🙌I’ve heard friends use the term pickme recently and it made me so happy. The awareness of what we do not need to accept is spreading. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 07:06 AM |
| 21 | Being a pick-me and pandering to men is dangerous.Ah yes, the old degrading men by comparing them to women. You played yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 10:16 PM |
| 10 | Why Online Dating is Awful and Makes People Feel AwfulNo, but misrepresentation is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:01 AM |
| 8 | Mariah Carey Demonstrates Us Why she is a GOAT level Queen. Honestly if you are not yet a Superfan of this woman you are missing out on a Queen Sh*t Masterclass.Good for Nigella Lawson for noticing. Gosh she had been done dirty in her past relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 08:46 AM |
| 5 | i started my own business, and men are revealing their true selves!Please DM me too! I’m French and super into fashion :D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 12:47 AM |
| 3 | Important Points on Self-Love/ Self-Respect. Read even if you don’t think you have low self-esteemGreat post! Thank you for taking the time to write it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 06:45 PM |
| 7 | Analyzing who HVW chose to be their husband100% and no one who’s ever worked with her had ever had a negative thing to say. Even people around me who met/worked with her say how kind she was. Also she spoke out about BLM years ago in tweets and people ripped her apart and called her a Becky. She was one of the first supporters and has given money to tons of causes and people. She is such an amazing role model. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 06:22 PM |
| 7 | Analyzing who HVW chose to be their husbandHa! I posted in the Swift sub about this place and got an angry pickme reply.. which is funny because Taylor clearly doesn’t stand for bs from men anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 06:19 PM |
| 74 | I screamed lmaooThat’s why they lovebomb.. they know it’s their only chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 05:51 PM |
| 7 | Analyzing who HVW chose to be their husbandYes! Huge Swiftie! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 09:06 AM |
| 48 | Beware of the “meet cute” guys.Exchange this for the cute life. The best partners I’ve had were met in completely mundane situation, you grow to make things cute and romantic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 08:48 AM |
| 58 | The most empowering takeaway from FDS is "you don't have to put up with this"I was going to ask her about the election! Please give us some good news 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 08:38 AM |
| 3 | Tale as old as time...I don't know what I just watched but it was hilarious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:58 AM |
| 3 | Tale as old as time...Thanks for all these great recommendations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:58 AM |
| 11 | Tale as old as time...I'm glad you feel the rage I feel... A PhD student at the observatory where I did my internship discovered the first exoplanet (around a main sequence star) and both him and his advisor got the Nobel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:57 AM |
| 7 | Tale as old as time...Thanks for the link! And it's incredible everything they've achieve knowing how they were all expected to be homemakers, raise children and generally not allowed to take part in so many professions. Constantly in awe of these women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:55 AM |
| 19 | Analyzing who HVW chose to be their husbandmad woman Also letting you all know that this is a track on Folklore and it's amazing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DP4q_1EgQQ Calvin Harris I love the digs she took at him with the whole songwriter name and the grave in the Look What You Made Me Do video. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:47 AM |
| 55 | Analyzing who HVW chose to be their husbandTaylor Swift’s partner (it’s about four years now I think) Joe Alwyn is clearly HV, especially for being an actor (I live in LA and most are just incredibly self-centered and NV). The way he speaks about her in interviews is so incredibly respectful of her and the boundaries they’ve clearly set. The songs about him also paint a great picture. I can’t imagine how many guys would feel emasculated by their girlfriend being the currently highest-earning musician who owns two planes, houses everywher… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 06:31 AM |
| 22 | Tale as old as time...Astrophysics lady here.. Welcome to the club... hugs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:07 PM |
| 67 | Tale as old as time...I work in/studied astrophysics.. Women made a huge amount of the big discoveries (Dark matter, what the sun is made of, the relation between cepheid variables and luminosity which allows us to measure distances etc. etc.) and up until very recently their work was either not acknowledged or stolen by others. Jocelyn Bell Burnell discovered Pulsars and her PhD advisor was given the Nobel for it... She talks about this stuff in her TED talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jp7amRdr30Y&ab_channel=TE… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:05 PM |
| 187 | Tale as old as time...We need a history flair! Also this is autobiographical and painted by an amazing woman when she was only 17. Many of the great female artists throughout history are unknown by the general public (my favourites are Marie Laurencin and Niki de Saint Phalle, a big feminist icon) so here's the article about Artemisia Gentileschi this is from: https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-54334727 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:27 PM |
| 85 | 7 Warning Signs of LVM Trickerysuperlative swindle Every single guy who has fucked me over told how they would never screw me over, always be there for me bla bla . My latest ex told me three weeks before turning into a completely different person and treating me like shit that he “would never mistreat me” haha! It’s a massive red flag now. Believe what they do not what they say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Why you should never date gamersI worked playing video games and there certainly were some awful sexist etc. Men. This is addiction level. She shouldn’t have to deal with that. How awful that he’s even neglecting his animals. There’s so many people rehabbing abused and neglected birds in /r/parrots/ that this makes me especially angry. I wonder if her inevitably ending it will even change his behaviour.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:33 PM |
| 47 | Watch Out For Love Bombing!!! (Idealize/Devalue/Discard cycle)It’s happened to me several times and I’ve never seen it described so well. Especially with the devaluing phase. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:01 AM |
| 28 | “To be honest, I just want to f*ck this girl to prove to myself I can, and move on with my life. I’m determined to make this happen” - Ugly scrote wants help manipulating a “9/10” woman 🙄You gotta love that she’s described as a goddess but still only gets a 9/10, can’t let them be too confident! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 04:21 AM |
| 10 | No a laundromat is NOT A DATE !!Maybe she’s the girl from the dirty shoes tiktok..maybe cleaning for men is some new fetish kids have? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 04:07 AM |
| 31 | A man going 50/50 is him expressing he is insecureAs a real-life feminist activist, we’re not equals so why are we suddenly equals when the check comes? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 07:33 PM |
| 21 | A man going 50/50 is him expressing he is insecureThis is so perfectly put. Thanks for sharing that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 07:30 PM |
| 46 | This is why we don’t do friends with benefits. Vet these guys and vet them hard. Don’t catch feelings unless you want them to be used against youOf the odd hookup I had back in the day, the guy at least treated you with respect. The point was to feel romance, even if it was temporary. Now it’s just “how can I best make this person understand they mean nothing to me?”; stuff like this borders on sadism and sociopathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 07:11 PM |
| 68 | Can we just take a minute to appreciate this man.Men who realize being loving is not emasculating is usually a good indicator of being HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 06:57 PM |
| 12 | Why ask a woman out if you can’t afford it? 🤡A guy I dated in his thirties asked me to pay him back for a packet of Oreos 🤣 And I fed him multiple times when he would come over.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 06:39 PM |
| 12 | scrote finds out his fiancée had one night stands in college and cancels marriage because he had to wait three months to bone her 🤡Good luck surviving marriage if at the slightest thing he dislikes about his spouse he’s considering calling it off.. not to mention how ridiculous and insecure it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 08:29 AM |
| 10 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereYou are not out of touch. This is the "normal" they are trying to impose on decent, loving people, it is not in any way normal. I'm so sorry this scarred you, I'm definitely extremely careful now. It's unfortunate we have to be but it's the only way to be safe. Also, he was an LA rich boy so I think we’re feeling the same taste of bullshit Hahaha! Of course... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:18 AM |
| 3 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereMy pleasure! I really needed to get this out of my system. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:18 AM |
| 3 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women here"I've had a REALLY great time with you. Better than I ever imagined (we were coworkers). Would you maybe want to make this a friends with benefits thing?" Wow... a guy I had coffee with (I had no intention of dating him, we worked in the same niche field) told me straight up an hour in that he was "really good in bed you know?". I died laughing inside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:17 AM |
| 5 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereAmerican men criticize American women but they’re worse. God it never ends, I listen to men tell me how women did this, and women are superficial and bla bla and really, all I see is how horribly they treat women.. maybe these women just have standards? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereThank you for reading it and commenting :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:13 AM |
| 2 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereHe bragged about his country being the best in the world (lol sweetie) What's hilarious about that is that when I brag about the things I think are better in my country (the food.. I mean it's pretty much what we're known for across the world!), people get SO defensive. So they are allowed to think the US is the best in the world but other countries are not? Eating the most unhealthy food and generally not taking care of himself. This was a problem with the last ex, and I cared for his health an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:12 AM |
| 3 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereLived there six years, never dated a single British guy haha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:04 AM |
| 6 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereIt's a great question, I'll have to think about it some more... I do think that you're right that women take up more space and there is not as much of a push when you grow up to tell you "you must get married and pop out kids! This will be your highest achievement!". I'm mid-thirties and my parents have never even asked. My friends are just trickling towards marriage. My sister was with her boyfriend a decade before they got married. My two exes here are divorced, one is only 32! When I moved an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:01 AM |
| 2 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI also agree on Germany (spent some time there and grew up in a school with German people). Of the different nationalities I've dated, the one German guy was very decent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:54 AM |
| 5 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereHere, guys do not have sense of style, It's funny because I see and hear US men shit on French men constantly.. "oh they're so effeminate!" "do they even work out?", when honestly most of them put at least a bit more effort into looking proper and stylish. Many of them wear cologne which I never see here. And since i’m east asian, some men expect me to be easy and assume i’m here for green card The stereotypes these men hold towards asian women are so so gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereHahaha, perfect username.. maybe we need an FDS group just for LA since it's narc-central! XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:48 AM |
| 4 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI'm so sorry you've had that experience. I've certainly seen some of that though fortunately mostly never dated them. I think the younger crowd is embracing US-style dating culture and from a documentary I've seen, forcing women to be sexually available and detached. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:47 AM |
| 3 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereit's lead me to believe they are highly narcissistic Grant it I'm in tinseltown but I've never encountered so many of them. Even men who seem completely normal end up acting like raging narcs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:45 AM |
| 2 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereThank you fellow European! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:44 AM |
| 6 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereThere's a great book I'm reading called Religion for Atheists by Alain de Botton. I'm not religious and don't come from that culture but it talks about all the good things we've lost and I do agree there seems to be a lack of moral compass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:42 AM |
| 6 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereOften times, he asks me not to talk about myself or myself accomplishments when I meet a guy. Reminds me that those information should not be shared until I can get him to marry me. This is so awful and dehumanizing. I have a career as well and get told I am intimidating, just because I have a life and goals.. they have no desire to establish and work on a relationship It's amazing that they don't see the value in this until it's too late. I would love to have a companion in life but not at the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereThat's funny because I lived six years in the UK, and was over there a ton the following years and I never dated a single British guy. I dated a lovely Scottish guy and a few foreigners but British men never once approached me. And I went to uni there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:37 AM |
| 3 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereHu, TIL, thanks for telling me where it comes from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 12:33 AM |
| 8 | They are hitting rock bottom soon (OC)It’s like Trump, you don’t think he can sink lower but they just keep digging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 11:48 PM |
| 7 | Abusive Men and Their (Often Female) AlliesThat book is a godsend. Everyone should read it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 11:45 PM |
| 8 | My profile mentions I’ve played tennis since I was a toddler.I’ve done Japanese jitsu 15 years, mostly in an extremely high level club, teach it, and once had a guy tell me he could probably beat me. He had never done jitsu. I gave him a verbal beat down he still hasn’t recovered from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 10:18 PM |
| 12 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI'm sorry that happened to you, as explained in my first sentences, we are sadly not a beacon for women being treated well either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 06:11 AM |
| 60 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereSo you didn’t read my post I guess.. who are these fabled US guys wooing me with money and fancy dinners? And why do you feel the need to deform what I said? Why do you see this as a you vs me thing when it’s specifically an us vs rubbish men thing. Did I post some glowing review of French men somewhere? I did not; in fact I’ve pointed out that I’ve dated across nationalities. Again, I’ve said it before, re-read my post and comments, the information is right in there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:09 AM |
| 15 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI’m also sorry about your blatant xenophobia and prejudice towards French people. I actually expected to receive some angry messages from male redditors since French-bashing is such a trend but did not expect it from women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:05 AM |
| 41 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereShe's literally gaslighting us and either is too narcissistic or obtuse to see it because she's in too deep. Says the person invalidating my experience and calling me a bitch. I've noticed a lot of French people hate Americans in a "jealousy" type way. Typical bullshit. And there we have it, you just can't step away from this hardcore patriotism. My mom is American and I voluntarily moved to the US, I'm sorry to tell you I don't hate the US. As made obvious by all my comments here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:34 AM |
| 52 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereAnd I can say there's no way you lived in Paris. See how that's not helpful? Since we're on an anonymous website, I've got a lot more backing me up (10 years of posting on the French reddit, including a verified AMA that directly connects me to Paris and even attending reddit meets in Paris) but ultimately I'm sorry that your experience has been so negative that all you can take from my post is that as opposed to my indictment of US men and how they treat women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:33 AM |
| 11 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereYou know that we can see your username right? So when you comment the same stuff three times we know you're the same person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:29 AM |
| 15 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereSorry you had that experience, personally it's not been mine but perhaps you should read the bit where I actually opened on the sexism in France. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:28 AM |
| 15 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI've already replied to you and someone who calls a woman on here a bitch for sharing their experience doesn't deserve a conversation. I guess it's a shame that you saw this as an attack on your culture despite pointing out that I think American women are pretty great and that France has a lot of sexism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:27 AM |
| 99 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereParis, born and raised. Nearly triple the time you spent there as a foreigner I presume. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:23 AM |
| 63 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereThanks for the accusations and gaslighting, especially when I opened on how bad France is to begin with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:22 AM |
| 59 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI'm not sure how this would be a troll post, there's plenty of other French posters confirming in here, all my French friends do as well. As pointed out in another comment, I suspect you are younger and may be experiencing similar things due to the spread of apps. But I have recently been with French men as well (in my age range) and it was not nearly as bad as here. Yeah, this post is weird. French men have decency and respect!? Where are you reading this? Not in anything I've written. I sugges… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:20 AM |
| 34 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereEuh nan je suis française avec une mère américaine. Sachant que n'ayant jamais vécu aux US avant mes 30 ans je peux difficilement dire que je suis américaine... Je ne sais pas ce que c'est qu'une "frenchboo" mais euh ok si ça te fait plaisir. J'ai dix ans de posts sur ce compte dont une grande partie dans le reddit français ;) Oh and calling a woman in this sub a bitch.. Have you learnt anything about FDS and women supporting each other? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:17 AM |
| 57 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereOh god... how can it possibly be worse!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 03:39 AM |
| 67 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereWhen I moved here and was picking an app, I picked tinder because I had read that if you're a woman who is tired of doing all the work in a relationship, bumble made it worse and enabled men to put in the minimum effort. I got bumble last year and while all the apps are rubbish, it is 100% true; I had one guy on a date basically brag about being unmotivated and a slacker.. to me, a woman who is pursuing and doing great in three careers, has had numerous articles written about her and moved 9,000… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:52 AM |
| 34 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereThis is spot-on and it reminds me of a comment I read about how social media is creating social nihilism, the total death of any form of etiquette and respect, it was something like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:46 AM |
| 27 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereNow, I'm not married to those guys so the relationships obviously weren't perfect... The things is that's normal relationship, life stuff. Everything until now was relationships where something didn't work or we didn't have the same life goals or the spark had faded.. whatever. Here it's just the most basic stuff that I haven't encountered since high school. Not even sure I did then to be honest. Here I feel like I can't even focus on "umm are we a good match?", "can I still see us together in t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:43 AM |
| 70 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereOh gosh the money thing hits home especially. There's so much weirdness here with it. Most men here have been very tacky about money and act like you're a golddigger if they pay for ANYthing. My ex would be on the phone with his bank discussing transfers of five-figure sums but I had to ask him to buy me dinner sometimes because he liked eating out so much that I just couldn't keep up financially; even though we were splitting groceries, I was giving him gas money, gifts etc. In my hardcore pick… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:37 AM |
| 7 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI am not sponsored, read my comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:12 AM |
| 21 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereYES!!! I am here for the rioting and guillotines!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:12 AM |
| 43 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI literally went to therapy thinking I'd been a monster to some boyfriends (despite having great friendships with most people I've been with in the past) and how can I improve my relationships, do better etc. Only to hear by both a US and French therapist that what I was put through was emotional abuse. The whole mechanism of narcissism is designed to make you feel like you've done everything wrong while being taken advantage of. And be it lovebombing, ghosting etc etc. or any other part of that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:05 AM |
| 21 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereAh thank you for reading it and being part of this community, and all the well wishes! The women in here are completely awesome and supportive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:47 AM |
| 8 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereFrom Europe. It was difficult but not for the reasons I thought it would be. For example: I didn't have credit score since we don't use that back home, and a lot of apartments I wanted to rent rejected me even though I had savings etc. My experience though will not be the same as most other people's as I am fully bilingual since childhood and had citizenship through my parent. It's much much harder for my friends who are on O1 visas and I'm aware of how privileged I am. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:42 AM |
| 24 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereThank you, I've wanted to make this post for a long-time. It hurts me when I see any woman here being treated poorly for just daring to hope, love and care. I have a basis of comparison to realize that this is not normal, many do not; we have to lift each other up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:39 AM |
| 299 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereMy French friends and I talk about it a lot here and people are so surprised because they see France as so open and sexually liberated.. but it has nothing to do with that, it's just basic social decency and respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:35 AM |
| 47 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereAs you said - you’re in LA. I used to live there and...condolences. Even though I did find a great bf from the ages of 19 - 22 but this leads me to my next point: Haha, thanks, it's certainly rough here... And in general as a first place to live in the US. Women actually self reflect and learn from their mistakes when they go into new relationships. Yep! The ex I was with the longest suffered from social anxiety and I wasn't always the most understanding of it and thought about that a lot after … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:33 AM |
| 88 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereIt's a wonderful trick that's been played by patriarchal society telling women to accept men as they are.. so that you then accept the lowest of the low. I also love the "You're all sexually liberated now! So fuck me, and don't expect anything or you're a stuck-up golddigging bitch". It's a real mindfuck navigating all this. And thank you, I've been working my ass off and killing it on my career! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:19 AM |
| 86 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereAgreed. They definitely put more effort in the beginning, they mostly understand I'm not gonna have sex with them on a first date, (mostly because they denigrate American women so much), but then it's almost like they can't act properly forever and it all collapses. My last boyfriend just went from being adoring, helpful and committed to ignoring me almost from one day to the next. I 100% agree with FDS saying to stay on your toes, especially under 6 months. It had been 5 months in and I was set… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:14 AM |
| 24 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereMerci beaucoup ! C'est très gentil. FDS m'aide énormément à ne plus accepter tout ce bordel ici. Je vous souhaite de même tout le bonheur du monde :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:06 AM |
| 34 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereAnd again I do want to say I'm not anti-American. I grew up visiting and loving the US; half of my family is American. For sure there are many issues in this country but I think people are the victims of an awful political system, lack of access to education, good food, healthcare.. But I traveled a ton for some of my work, grew up in an international school, have met a lot of people, all sorts of men, I've just never seen this anywhere. And I used to think French guys were the worst! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:03 AM |
| 140 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI hear you. Several friends of mine here told me the same thing, some haven't been on a date in over three years; they're beautiful, driven, kind... I couldn't understand it a while back. Now I do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 11:57 PM |
| 29 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereHahaha ! C'est flippant franchement... Je comprends pourquoi ma mère a épousé des français. Et pourtant en venant ici je trouvais que les hommes français souvent n'assurait vraiment pas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 11:37 PM |
| 117 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereI lived in the UK too and it certainly wasn't great.. On a professional level I will say it was the least sexism I experienced (which isn't saying much but hey..) and I greatly admired how full-on so many British women were and how they didn't take shit. I loved seeing the groups of loud ladies on hen dos or out on the town. I wonder how much the apps have contributed to stuff slipping because younger women back home tell me US-style dating is starting to happen there too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 11:33 PM |
| 62 | Moved to the US.. can't believe how men treat women hereYes, this was definitely a strange time to move here and I feel for the people who are suffering more directly from the white supremacy, inequality etc. I grew up loving the US and this all makes me sad. Funnily enough I spent six years with an Italian man, I definitely met Italian guys around him who embodied that macho man stereotype and they were nowhere near the machismo I've seen here. And thank you, fortunately the reputation of French women seems to be mostly negative coming from these me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 11:06 PM |
| 35 | Nahh, she went on a second date with this guy 🤢As someone who has had to do dishes and general cleaning for grown men, thank you on behalf of future women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 06:12 AM |
| 2 | Yikes.There’s a sexologist on /r/France who answered that very question today. The short answer is with some people yes and some people no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 05:00 AM |
| 9 | Would you go back to your old job? No? Then DON’T ever take an ex back.As someone who has taken exes back multiple times (and paid for it), thank you so much for sharing this comparison. A friend years ago told me finding a good mate was a job and somehow I never thought about this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 05:51 AM |
| 5 | If you really feel the need to fix damaged menOne for the pseudoscience crowd as well.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Sailor Moon FDS momentsThey actually even had some cosmology concepts in the manga! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 06:02 AM |
| 4 | Sailor Moon FDS momentsI grew up in France on the manga and it was very dark, mature and romantic. It also contributed to my career in astronomy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:11 AM |
| 23 | High value women exercise their right to vote!It’s insane to be perpetuating this narrative and comes from a place of high privilege. I know many women who’ll be screwed if PP is defunded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 02:09 AM |
| 3 | Men hating astrology and tarot, ect.scientific studies HAVE shown that energies move between bodies, and who’s to say that that doesn’t happen on a greater scale than we’ve been able to prove so far? Science person here, you're going to have to be a lot more specific. Also we actually test out all sorts of particles collisions so while much is still a mystery, everything from reiki to chakra healing as been disproven time and again with reputable methods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 01:41 AM |
| 4 | Now we know who to blame... 😂The UK, as they've made clear to us, is quite different from mainland Europe. It's still Anglo-saxon culture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 01:37 AM |
| 7 | Men hating astrology and tarot, ect.See this response is exactly what I was describing. Astrology people immediately jump to insults and saying that people who are scientists or not into it are close-minded, intolerant, stuffy etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 06:09 PM |
| 19 | Now we know who to blame... 😂Having moved to the US from Europe, I have honestly wondered how male children are raised here. Because I’ve never encountered such lack of self-sufficiency, maturity etc. And the weird thing is I’ve been amazed at how women where I am hustle so hard and have their act together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 06:04 PM |
| 44 | Men hating astrology and tarot, ect.I’m a science communicator and studied astrophysics.. I hate astrology too and I never encountered people into it until moving to the US. On top of deforming everything from my science (and astrology people frequently get very antagonistic and try to explain gravity or planetary movements to me..a person who wrote a master thesis in this stuff), I think it’s self-centered and narrow-minded. I’ve had people say “oh of course you’re like this, you’re an asparagus/xx”, “I have this bad trait becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 10:08 AM |
| 11 | To my Black FDS women, we really need to start watching after ourselves because it’s clear that our communities don’t care for us. To non-FDS women, please be there to support and believe us when no one else will. We really need to have each other’s back in the men-centered world.In the Hulu documentary they point out how women who refused to vote for her for taking him back would have gladly voted for him. It’s maddening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:00 AM |
| 118 | "You get one chance to act right, and that's being generous." Thank you FDSI really wonder how often this actually works. A few weeks is just not enough to be that attached to someone to let that stuff slide, even in my pickmeisha days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:47 AM |
| 8 | Remember - if he wanted to he would! #justHVMthingsI love seeing these! I want to believe that are good eggs out there too. It gives us all the more reasons to reject the bad apples. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 02:24 AM |
| 19 | In MemoriamThe Romney thing is unconfirmed. We need Mark Kelly to be elected. I met him and Gabby and they’re amazing people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 04:00 AM |
| 19 | Charlize Theron Reveals She Hasn't Dated Anyone In 5 Years: 'I Don’t Feel Lonely'She was on a date at my friend’s restaurant before the shut down.. apparently with some famous tech guy who acted like a complete ass while she seemed above it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 09:41 AM |
| 20 | Man once again panicking after getting a reality check about open marriages“He wants to have his cake and fuck it too” 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 09:33 AM |
| 11 | Love yourself first ladiesThere’s a great song by Kelsea Ballerini called “I miss me more”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:44 AM |
| 26 | Reminder- when a man sees you as his wife, he will make it known to you. He will speak to you completely differently and court you accordingly.Better 5 than 6, 10, 15 etc. You are now one step closer to finding someone who truly valued you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Russ is a prime example of a man who is rich and famous, yet simultaneously cheap and low value. I absolutely love it when men call out and mock LVM 😂😂💀💀Ugh, I was in one of his music videos. And ironically at the time I was in a relationship with a NVM narc called Russ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 08:45 AM |
| 5 | Reminder that a good partner should support you through your bad times as well. How many men drop their wives as soon as it gets bad?Thank you so much, this is very helpful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 10:40 AM |
| 20 | Reminder that a good partner should support you through your bad times as well. How many men drop their wives as soon as it gets bad?My HVM partner of 6 months just started therapy for past trauma he doesn’t feel capable telling me about right now. He was sexually harassed recently by a male childhood friend which I think brought it up to the surface. It’s been very difficult watching him shut down (he tries to go through the motions of our relationship but mentally I can tell he’s not there). If you have any advice I trust you ladies way more than the relationship subs.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:43 AM |
| 6 | HVM in media done right, David is a HVM and all the rest, in my opinion, LVMSeriously. I’ve never had a friend threaten me in the middle of a conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 03:35 AM |
| 17 | HVM in media done right, David is a HVM and all the rest, in my opinion, LVMInteresting. I’m from Europe and befriended a former military guy recently; never known anyone in the military before. No intention of dating him but he responded to a post I made about the election and I called him out a bit for not voting. He started threatening me that he’s been nice to me so far but could be an asshole if I wanted etc. I was really taken aback. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 06:54 PM |
| 10 | Let’s talk about more CODES on OLDAlmost every man between 40-45 puts himself down as 38-39 because they know women will put a cutoff at a rounded number like 40. I saw some that even had their real age in their profile with no explanation. My NVM ex did just that and made up some story about having been identity-thefted when I found out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 09:14 AM |
| 5 | How I feel about this subThank you for all your uplifting and encouraging posts ladies. 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:43 PM |
| 7 | Typical blame-shift pattern perpetrators use when confrontedThank you, I had never heard that term. My narc ex and Trump’s playbook to a T. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 07:05 AM |
| 5 | About this whole “Karen” thing Can we spread “Paul Paraphilia” please?So horrible for women called Karen too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 06:50 AM |
| 6 | About this whole “Karen” thing Can we spread “Paul Paraphilia” please?I love how Karen has just become a term for “women we find annoying/are unsexy”, that bs of it being about racists ended very quickly. All my female friends saw right through it at how sexist it was immediately. I literally just replied to a comment using it in the context of “mothers”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 06:49 AM |
| 3 | GUIDE TO SEX FOR VIRGINS FROM A EX-VIRGIN 💞Just a quick note that you have a typo on that first section; should be someone who will agree to wear a condom :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 06:39 AM |
| 7 | The oversexualisation of female bodies is ridiculous. A model going out in a coat in a New York WINTER is "covering up" her famous figure...what on earth?Remember cankles?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:14 PM |
| 127 | Cracks me up EVERY time.I filmed a commercial with him last year! Thank you for indulging me, I’ve never been able to brag about it because my friends didn’t know who he was haha. He was very handsome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:02 PM |
| 6 | New rule: you aren't my husband? No sex.He grew up Mormon with a narc dad. I have an N parent too but I didn’t pass on the abuse like he did or use it as an excuse for shitty behaviour. You’re not responsible for the programming you receive as a kid but you are responsible with how you deal with it as an adult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 09:01 PM |
| 54 | New rule: you aren't my husband? No sex.A guy that fucked me about for a year and a half talking about forever etc., (dumped me multiple times then would come crawling back) wouldn’t say I love you after over a year together. Worse in fact, he said it for a week after his sister found out and was shocked he wasn’t saying it, and then “took it away” so I took away sex and told him I want to have sex with partners who love me. He could never say it again despite knowing how much it hurt me. We broke up a month or two later. Best choice … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Link this dude sends his matches. Click and decide if you wanna laugh or cry.You’re welcome to look up the latest IPCC report which shows the exact same thing; challenging that is akin to being a flat-earther or denying climate change. My partner fifteen years ago was writing a science book on climate change which is when I read the IPCC report and started cutting down. I’d say my staples are lentils, beans, veggies, fruit, bread and all sort of things! Here’s one of many chart that breaks down their environmental impact: https://www.businessinsider.com.au/the-top-10-foo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 05:13 AM |
| 9 | Why do LVM shame promiscuous women, but at the same time expect every woman to sleep with them???🤔I feel sorry for the men who follow TRP, they’re like a cult that lured you in with good advice (level up, cultivate hobbies, take care of yourself..) and then just robs you blind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 03:09 AM |
| 41 | Does anyone else not find the concept of “dad bods” funny at all? I feel like it’s just another way for men to excuse their lack of care of their own bodies and looks, and keep the focus on women having to look good. The pics of dad bods gross me out so much.Yep, women have a set of fat that sets in at adolescence and makes it much harder for us to lose weight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 02:16 AM |
| 4 | Link this dude sends his matches. Click and decide if you wanna laugh or cry.I'm a science person, currently working on a climate change show for an educational company. You're wrong and the impact of animal agriculture is widely known and documented by the IPCC and all other climate research organizations: https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2010/jun/02/un-report-meat-free-diet In some ways it is even harder on the environment. This is not supported by any data I'm afraid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 07:02 PM |
| 9 | Link this dude sends his matches. Click and decide if you wanna laugh or cry.Also when he later says he cares about the environment. The irony is rich. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:26 AM |
| 5 | Link this dude sends his matches. Click and decide if you wanna laugh or cry.“Unhealthy body spectrum.. vegan”, I literally have never been healthier than in my 10 years being vegan judging by my bloodwork, doctor and half-marathons. But lol at the “I care for the environment”.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:15 AM |
| 5 | My ex joined my hobby group. I'm thinking of leaving it. :(I was going to mention a club I was in that an ex and I were both in (he ended up getting with my training partner not long after we split and it was really hard to keep training even though I did) but your situation sounds different and dangerous. Can you make your own group for that hobby? How about an international one online? Even if it’s something where you need to be physically present you could have a discussion zoom group until this blows over. A friend moved his artist meetings online o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:56 AM |
| 18 | 100% agreedIn a similar vein, I feel lucky to have had adults (family, friends..) pay small things for me when I was a broke student so I try to extend the courtesy when I’ve been out with younger lady friends, that kind of thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 05:52 AM |
| 64 | Shout out to all the invincible mommas out there cause the way society is set up...living life like Rihanna is looking REAL appealing lately ☕️Both are garbage in different ways. Let’s not diminish emotional/mental abuse. As a fan of both ladies they’ve clearly had lasting trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 12:10 AM |
| 44 | Man Up, Or Shut The Hell Up.I do think those of us who are dating right now have unfortunately ended up with a generation of men who are confused about their roles and because they were told that women are independent now yadiyada are using it as a cop out to say “hey I don’t need to do shit for you anymore” when women are not treated as equals in most places and are still largely expected to handle the home chores. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 06:17 AM |
| 160 | Pathetic malesNothing infuriates me like men talking about their wives in this way. Sometimes I like to follow up with “I’m sorry, are you on the verge of divorce or struggling with your marriage?” And they’ll occasionally realize this is not something you say about your loving partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 06:48 AM |
| 54 | This 55 year old man has aged like fine wine. Notice him choosing an age appropriate partner. One with grey hair and not even botox?Why did you post a picture of Helen Mirren? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 08:35 PM |
| 50 | Your boundaries should be nonnegotiableCan’t thank this sub enough for repeatedly making this point (and others about being treated with respect). For many of us (for example those of us who grew up with narc parents and didn’t see healthy relationships) it’s a work in progress and just seeing this message again and again since I subbed had helped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:43 PM |
| 4 | 😲Oh no, is that what you thought?I’m so sorry you went through that and that he put you at risk like that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:40 PM |
| 7 | 😲Oh no, is that what you thought?I’m French, we’re not religious like in America. It was just that he wanted to live independently but have a girl to fuck every once in a while I’m sure. He once told me his ex and him sometimes wouldn’t be in touch for weeks and that was no issue, when I asked to hear back from a text here and there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:37 PM |
| 49 | 😲Oh no, is that what you thought?I was with a guy who told me he thought we’d be married by the end of the year a month in. A little while later he was trying to move to a bigger place that had opened below his since he needed more workspace, I suggested moving in since we could afford it together. He got all weird so I just pointed out he was the one who had spoken to me about marriage.. he then said “well marriage doesn’t mean living together! I would never live with someone I marry!”. We broke up a month or so later and my s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:40 AM |
| 3 | Is this about the presidential race or my dating prospects? 🤔Congrats, that's awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 05:56 AM |
| 11 | Is this about the presidential race or my dating prospects? 🤔It's not like picking between two poisons though. I'm a 10y+ vegan and Biden has even had better policies than most for animal welfare. He has some form of climate change plan, a solid union plan, will put forth democratic policies... He wasn't my top choice but I'm not seeing what the problem is here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 05:14 AM |
| 39 | Is this about the presidential race or my dating prospects? 🤔I certainly will! You can thank me for your progressive gains later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:55 AM |
| 41 | Is this about the presidential race or my dating prospects? 🤔Does it matter what he personally cares about? He’s not going to elect people to the Supreme Court who fuck us, planned parenthood, etc. Biden has one of the most progressive policies on union that’s ever been in a candidate’s program. Also, beggars can't be choosers, which is where we're at currently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 12:49 AM |
| 112 | Is this about the presidential race or my dating prospects? 🤔You’re kidding yourself if you think Biden and Trump are the same for women. I would like to keep access to Planned Parenthood and our bodies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 11:32 PM |
| 3 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupI’m French and in the US now. I’m so grossed out by the number of men everywhere who say things like “Russian women this, French women that, American women x, y” it’s gross and borderline xenophobic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Imagine being so insecure you can’t event hold a conversationPlease OP tell me she replied and set him straight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 11:29 PM |
| 4 | Singer Chrissie Hynde has come under fire for suggesting it can be a woman's fault if she is raped. The Pretenders singer, 63, said she takes "full responsibility" after she was sexually assaulted aged 21 in Ohio. "If I'm walking around in my underwear and I'm drunk. Who else's fault can it be?"Most rapes are committed by a person the victim knows. | /r/MensRights | 30/08/15 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Kelly Rutherford Refuses to Abide by Custody OrderNot on this forum no, because most people here don't believe that to be sarcasm. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/15 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Kelly Rutherford Refuses to Abide by Custody OrderI don't assume anyone controls them but they are dual citizenship (I have been my whole life as well, from two different continents, and am quite well-versed in the implications of that) and she had their American passports as she resides in the US, most likely. The children would also have German passports, no court ordered her to give away the passports, the father and his lawyer did, therefore it has no legal binding or authority. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/15 01:34 PM |
| -2 | Kelly Rutherford Refuses to Abide by Custody OrderExcept no court asked or ordered her to surrender the children's passports to him. | /r/MensRights | 12/08/15 10:28 AM |
| 0 | Kelly Rutherford Refuses to Abide by Custody OrderWhen you say things like this, making swooping generalizations about half the people on the planet, as opposed to recognizing that this woman broke the law, you discredit the movement and fathers' rights. Not to mention that the judge who favoured the father is a woman. | /r/MensRights | 12/08/15 10:17 AM |
| 4 | Mad Max and Men's Rights Activistsand feminists would If you don't want them generalizing MRA why are you generalizing feminists? | /r/MensRights | 16/05/15 11:41 PM |
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