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6

Yeah, my nvm ex even complained that all girls in our class were doing better than males, only because "men are naturally" intelligent, but "females are too hard working".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 09:10 PM
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And when they say that men mirrors women's character. My blood boils evertime I hear this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:49 PM
8

So what does he do if a girl says: I'm lame and boring type?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:20 PM
9

We want them to treat us like queens lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:05 PM
9

lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:53 PM
18

If that wasn't gaslighting, then we need a new fucking word for this, omg. People.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 09:22 PM
14

I wonder if these women have a family who'd told them: girl, no, no, nooooo. I had people like this, I just ignored them, I bet she does too, and I wasn't even supporting a useless man. At least my useless man was supported by his mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:07 PM
9

All of this for nothing. Pickmes don't realize how precious life is, and that you won't get a medal for the "long marriage". I feel sorry for her, because I was a pick me just a few months ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:03 PM
12

To answer your question, I make sure I will never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 10:29 PM
20

why he thinks any woman would be interested?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:56 PM
5

and a chair. don't forget the chair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:33 PM
175

Exactly, never talk to them, or even look at them, because let's be honest, we're risking a punch in the face, if not worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:17 PM
47

My ex told me, jokingly, that he wants me to be his wife and we weren't even together at that time. That's how he got me, because I didn't know better. Beware sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:34 AM
44

Or they won't break up with you but they'll do everything possible, so YOU break up with them, and they could keep a "good guy face".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:32 AM
6

Funny that you mention it. Yesterday I was out with a friend and one guy (probably mentally handicapped) asked my friend if I was her mother lol(we are 28 and 29). I even asked what age do I look like, he said around 45. I had my hair up, then later that night, I had my hair down and he came to our table again and seemed bewitched by my hair, he almost touched it and was telling me how my hair are beautiful etc. etc. So strange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:22 PM
9

They marry women just because they're "hot" and young, then they are surprised. What to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:13 PM
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Imagine having a job that you hate and you can't even publicly say that you hate it? why though. it's a job like any other, isn't it? oh wait...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:50 PM
14

I once was positive, then negative with no treatment in between. I thought my test must have been fake positive, as I'd never had unprotected sex at that time, but who knows. It's weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:59 PM
11

There was this man sitting close to me on the subway, showing me his dick and masturbating. I think I have a PTS even after 2 years. I don't know if I can count that as an attack though. Or another man, old drunk yelling the nastiest of insults, into my ear while he was sitting next to me on the bus for 30 minutes. Then another man took my hand a gave himself a handjob while I was passed out drunk, another one tried to finger me while I plead and fighted to let me go. Then I had 3 stalkers, with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:51 PM
2

Well, the question is, does HE?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:54 PM
10

Omg I didn't even notice that was a toast! You're right, that's weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:54 PM
45

Omg, and that poor kid will turn into someone like his/her dad, glued to the screen 24/7. That woman must hate herselves, or else I'm really confused. I get that she likes to cook, and it's her hobby maybe, but for a gamer who can't even stop playing when she serves him a food?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:02 PM
16

Omfg, was he Spanish?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:40 AM
7

That reminds me when one guy asked me how my nipples look like and I said they're are green and rotten, then he had the audacity to claim he was actually one step from sleeping with me, telling his friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:34 AM
57

CoMmUniCaTe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 09:37 PM
6

and don't shave your legs and other parts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:38 PM
19

Please, cancel. I know it's hard, but it's really the best you can do! Also if you haven't read a handbook, do so. And then you will know it's really okay to cancel without feeling bad! There isn't anything to feel bad about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:23 PM
10

It's really too early to say he seemed HVM, if it was only second date. I'm proud of you anyways sis, good you didn't go over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:21 PM
4

Or she is with a good man and now she assumes, based on this man's flawless character, that every man on Earth is an angel. I've seen this a lot. They refuse to see the reality of other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:10 AM
18

Omg that's scary. Any red flags beforehand at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:48 PM
2

Same sis! It's gonna be only fun from now on, no boredom allowed. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:27 PM
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Yeees, yes, yes, and one more time yes!!! I fucking hate this. And I lold on your description because, yeah you basically described my sex life up until now lmao. I really hope, that some other sisters would join us and explain wtf is that supposed to mean. 😂 Now I'm laughing but it's tragic actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:56 PM
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I know what you are talking about, the enthusiasm thing. I hate when they seem almost bored even for the first couple of times. I don't understand why they aren't more passionate? It always make me question myself and then of course sex is bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:28 PM
7

The photo of him looks like his at least D sized boobs has been cropped out of the picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:44 PM
9

But at the same time it's good she reacted the way she reacted, because it triggered his "fuck you", so she knew he was capable of that in the very beginning. Reminds me of Phoebe from Friends, her response to every compliment was always: "I know" lol. Not gonna lie, I've done that before in my savage years, now I'd just block the scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:25 PM
13

If their ex girlfriends filled the tests on their behalf, then we would have more accurate results lol. I wonder what personality type is a basic scrote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:05 PM
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Preach sister. They just can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:01 PM
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Someone said the other day, that men love to brag they are INTJ, they weren't wrong lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 10:34 PM
25

Day after day I'm more and more convinced that my ex of 6 years followed some PUA shit in the beginning of our relationship. One of his first questions was if I can cook?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 10:27 PM
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I think, this is how they want you to feel and they are succesful with their strategy, and they shouldn't be. Of course they wanna appear like they are doing great, and they want you to see all of it and to feel bad and jealous. It's the triangulation at its best. It can be avoided only if you block them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:08 PM
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His heartbreak, and if they really are pickmes, theirs too. But what can you do, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:35 PM
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I definitely think it has something to do with their egos, it's very easy to offend them just by being ourselves. Younger guys are usually very curious, they wanna know an interesting woman, because it's something new, and it also helps that they are blinded by the looks. They are more naive in that sense and they don't take themselves so seriously, so they take greater risks too. Older guys tend to be 'know it all', and are more experienced in manipulation, they can sense if they can manipulate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:52 PM
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I wanna keep my last name and he can take mine, if he wants to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:02 PM
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I hope she would raise like a phoenix from the ashes and leave him quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:57 AM
4

Yes! I always wondered why. All the guys in my friend group were after pickmeishas, and I never knew why was that. I don't wanna bash other women either, but to be honest, they were types who would giggle on men's compliments, doing anything to please them, serving them, laughing on their jokes, and when they tried to neg them, they were like: stahp iiit, in flirty way. I was never like that. I was kinda sad why I never get this attention from the men I knew? Only from strangers, who didn't know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:55 AM
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So fucking typical. Hang in there girl. You're doing the right thing, dump him, as yesterday was already too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:38 AM
11

Ross, is that you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:25 AM
10

Everything was already said, but I will never understand what's the difference between 6 and 7, 7 and 8 and so on. And 7.5? It doesn't make any sense to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:08 PM
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I had only one question...why? And then I saw the quotes from the Bible and I knew. I don't wanna generalize but why is it, that everytime there is some shady business, super religious people are involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:48 PM
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It's not crazy at all! Too many women are confused about a lot of things, and this is the place we can talk freely. We women have in common more than we tought, including not having someone we could talk to about private stuff. It's good that you're learning many new things, stay curious, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:40 PM
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Yeah, I know what you mean, it's a PMS. Actually, I'm pretty relaxed during an actual period, kinda like it's pretty easy to be in a blank state of mind, if you know what I mean. Have you read a book called Cyclic Woman? It's pretty good if you wanna understand your mood swings and a womanhood better. It really helped me, because I've always felt bad about my PMS mood swings, and then I understood it's all right and how it's supposed to be. And about my ex, it was terrible, I always had to try h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:45 PM
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Yes, usually at the same time each month, but he somehow felt it, I don't know how. He just knew. He was pretty empathetic, but he never acted on it - I mean, he felt immediately that something was wrong, but he often chose to ignore it. Stuff like that. I noticed it after few months. He felt that I was tense or just a bit off and then I wouldn't hear of him for a few days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:51 PM
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Yeah, and then he woke up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:10 PM
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or a nest made by a pile of towels and clothes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:06 AM
2

Same, sis! It's so inspiring and sounds like they have so much fun in their lives! This is how you do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:53 AM
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My ex would stop talking to me for one week before my period, to avoid any confrontation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:32 AM
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This man is so empathetic, it's amazing! I love people like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:22 AM
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Hahah, that reminds me that the lady we met who though I was adopted, was actually 90 years old (looked like she is in her 70s, I couldn't believe it) and mom told me that there is this rumour in the elderly home that the lady has 56 year old boyfriend, who also already lives there. 😁 Savage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:01 AM
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And let's be honest, women have a lot of reasons to cheat - for example their husbands never bothering giving them an orgasm. And still we don't use that as an excuse for cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:44 PM
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My mom (50) is completely natural and freaking gorgeous. She never wears any make up, but she likes beautiful clothes and she is really stylish, and she keeps her hair long (imagine beach waves hairstyle). We randomly met some of her clients today (she is a nurse in an elderly home) and they couldn't believe I was her daughter, they said she must have adopted me lol. And she also told me how she overheard two of her clients talking, that my mom has great legs and then they reasoned that's becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:54 PM
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I couldn't agree more. They would literally give their lives for their idols and they would fight everyone who is a bit critical towards their favourite artists. But it's been a while since I was around kpop fans, they might have changed but comments on YT prove me wrong lol. Edit: Of course not all of them. But I noticed the unhealthy pattern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:15 PM
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That reminds me of the scene from That 70s Show when Jackie had to pick among her two suitors, and she couldn't decide and Donna told her: Just pick the one you love the most. And Jackie told the boys that she picked the one she loved the most and it's...her! And she said that if she could run across the beach into her own arms she would. 😁 Savage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:04 PM
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Fuck Dustin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:56 PM
12

What a nice way to talk about thousands of victims of physical and/or psychological abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:45 PM
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I remember doing that too. I wanted to wear a mini but didn't want any scrote lurking in that area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:45 PM
10

I hate the words 'slutting' and 'whoring' with the passion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:42 PM
11

I don't know either. Misunderstanding maybe? What I mean is, that things are rarely "all of a sudden", and she probably ignored a few red flags in the beginning, as you said - the main thing was the age gap. Maybe he didn't want a baby at all, or something like this, and she ignored it and hoped that baby's gonna change him. A classic pickme stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:45 PM
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I seriously think that vetting is enough. And that in this specific case it wasn't done properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:39 AM
3

Isn't it obvious, what do we think? lol Also they should call themselves blue pillers instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:43 AM
2

This is a fantastic explanation! Also love your nickname lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:33 AM
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Wow, you put it into words. I know a few people who do things they're ashamed of but at the same time they claim they don't care what people think about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:20 AM
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she was 18?! for christ's sake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:20 AM
20

I used to criticize myself for every single thing people have done to me. I kept thinking that fault must be in me, at all times. I realized I NEED to set my boundaries, otherwise I will never be happy and will live repetitive unsatisfied life until the very end. I was finally after more than 6 years able to get rid off my forever gf status. I stopped trusting people saying mean things about me. I learned about the manipulation and I can protect myself against it now. I'm excited about the futur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:49 PM
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Dear, my old man is the same as yours besides the comments on another women. But he's fat shaming a lot, he literally hates fat people, so I always felt the pressure to stay thin - he made fun of me that I gained a weight, but I was only like 121lbs/5'6. Plus my mom is a pickmeisha, so she always sided with him, but we talk a lot lately and she is listening what I have to say, but boy, the damage cannot be undone. But I'm healing slowly, with a help from our FDS sisters, so it's good you're here…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:26 PM
8

me too, and it also sounds like a cool name for some indie band from the UK lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:11 PM
9

How old are you? This also could be a red flag. Dump him. Asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:30 PM
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noooooooo. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:22 PM
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there was this guy lying about having kids, and when she asked about it, he said: but they're from the past. 😂 and I wanna know about the nest meme, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:30 PM
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my personal favourite is the kids from the past meme, but the field meme is the close second. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:53 PM
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This is the thing my ex started to talk about everytime he'd been acting normal and decent for a while, like a man his age. It's like he panicked he's becoming an adult, and he refused to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:05 PM
4

That reminds me of Friends, when Ross invited himself to do a laundry with Rachel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:59 PM
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Some occasional hole...I highly recommend a vacuum cleaner. (I really hope that the dog is ok, though)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:46 PM
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He messaged me too. Probably all of us commenting in that thread. I blocked him instantly, I know it's tempting but let's ignore the scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:40 AM
13

And then they're shocked why we needed a place like FDS is...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:31 AM
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I also got my first message from a scrote today! He asked me how does it feel like to be a part of the sub that is a female version of RP and MGTOW. I said: what? and then blocked. But I checked his previous posts and he was a gamer and on steroids lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:18 AM
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Hahah, yeah, totally!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:43 AM
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We should make a mega thread about our experiences with men from various countries. I don't wanna date men from my country as well, but I feel like I have idealized men from another countries, and that can be tricky. Because we feel so fed up with "our" men and that's how we could have been tricked by foreign guys easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:19 PM
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So shall we replace men with dogs? Because men, unlike women, aren't even good looking. And men won't provide any of those things the pickmeisha (or a scrote in disguise, same thing) talked about. And let's not forget about the existence of NVM. I'd really like to see NVW. Hard to believe there is one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:11 PM
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She even confessed she never had an orgasm with a guy. She said it's like an urge to have sex, at least once a year, and then she feels satisfied for another year without it. But how that works, she wouldn't explain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:05 PM
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My friend told me, she doesn't care about these things, she just wanna get laid. So some of them are probably okay with this nasty behavior? 😵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:34 PM
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I expressed my view on casual sex to two of my girl friends, one called me prudish, and the other called me an asexual lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:31 PM
5

I can confirm the T thing - my ex was exactly like you described. I'm A, maybe that's why I got along with him for a quite long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:57 PM
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Yeah, that's what I meant. Poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:54 PM
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It sounds to me like he might be into a role play. Trust your gut, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:24 PM
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another "not like other girls", supportive, encouraging, pro honesty, nice, understanding, and still fucked over....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:17 PM
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I am a male... of course you are. Surprised that he has been banned because he's done something against the rules of the sub. How we dare...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:42 AM
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Stop talking to your "mutual" friends. I believe you already told them to quit it, but they continue nevertheless, so this is the only thing you can do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:58 AM
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Yeah! And scrotes would say: but he's inferior to her, just because he's properly loving her. It's crazy how they think. But I think he's super manly, especially when anybody wanted to hurt his family, absolutely badass with his swords and dancing lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:35 PM
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The FDS mascot Gomez Addams all the way, hahah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:15 PM
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The worst thing is that he was Japanese and I was not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:41 PM
28

omg, I will definitely see this guy in one of my nightmares lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:40 PM
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Very well said, sis. Couldn't agree more.👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:38 PM
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I think the OP was contacting the women who weren't happy and had problems with their love lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:49 PM
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You're not alone, I've been saying this for years,hahah! That's the energy I need in my life, definitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:46 PM
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Yes, this sounds about right. That's me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:43 PM
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I'd swear I had a cellulite even before hitting the puberty and I was underweight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:50 PM
2

This sounds good, noted. Because really, they don't do anything, they're just being there, looking fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:49 PM
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Thank you for the recommendation. I will look it up. :) Cute little puppies - that's exactly what I need to realize, because when I'm with hot guys, I feel like I'm the puppy, which sucks and I don't wanna feel like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:20 PM
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It's so sad that even older and experienced female relatives didn't know that so they couldn't teach the younger ones. That's how it should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:17 PM
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Thank you! To be honest, I practice this in the other areas of my life for quite some time, but I've never thought of doing this when talking to men. This is probably gonna be harder, but I do wanna practice. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:14 PM
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I remember how my ex who was 10 years my senior, told me (20 at that time) that my body is beautiful, but it isn't erotic like that of Japanese girls from a porn. I felt like shit. Too bad I hadn't had a friend who'd told me that was a bullshit. Not to mension he was almost one head shorter than me, with bad teeth and receding hairline, still living with his parents. Meanwhile I could have passed for a model. But I believed him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:45 PM
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Yes, I thought about kittens! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:20 PM
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They simply can't cooperate, it's not in their nature at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:58 AM
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Using the logics of this post, it could have been lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:01 AM
4

"Aww".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:43 AM
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What about the first date being grocery shopping? You have to do this anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:35 AM
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But if we don't choose the guy we are bitches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:29 AM
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And also we shouldn't lie to ourselves, thinking that maybe we are overreacting drama queens. Especially if we feel normal around friends and family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:25 AM
1

Are we sure that Helen isn't, in fact, Harold?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:04 PM
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Yes! See, we can feel it in our guts. They ain't lying. And that's amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:41 AM
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Omg, I can't. This person has written before that FDS is the most toxic sub on Reddit, yet has the audacity to complain here. I'm glad we have the best mods who took care of it properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:02 PM
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The projection... they think about sex with animals all the time, now they expect everybody is like them. So sad and pathetic. Their mothers gave birth in pain, and for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 08:00 AM
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and it also means: "I like strong women, because the world scares me, sometimes I feel like not leaving the house, so a strong woman can do everything scary on my behalf, while I play videogames and chill."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:20 AM
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So I talked to her and you were right! She didn't understand why was I upset. She said that those guys were with us only for a while (physically yes, but she talked about them or oggled them the rest of the time) and she didn't understand why I had to leave. I explained the thing with the celebration of my masters and that I wanted to be with her, not some scrotes. She still didn't understand what was a big deal. She said: sorry I destroyed your day, but in the annoyed tone of voice, so I asked:…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:16 AM
3

'Never trust' lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:34 PM
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This is what I think - they're gonna admit it soon, that they really want to have/get us. They are too shy to speak up now, but it's gonna be like a status: a man who dated/dates/trying to date a FDSer. Because if they do, that means they're high quality men. And you guys know how male ego works. They're trying to neg us, but we know the truth - they are obsessed with us and frustrated they can't have us, because they are sad little "boys".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:44 PM
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Good, I thought that I was tired and I had one beer, but glad that you found it pointless too haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:32 PM
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I need a pick me starter pack meme in my life, I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:53 PM
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and without pickmes. very important, because I have to deal with them all the time in "real" life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:50 PM
14

Am I stupid or I really don't understand what is he trying to say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:48 PM
14

This is the one of my top dating measures now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:30 PM
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Definitely sensitive anxious lost types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:43 PM
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Yeah, of course he had to say that he doesn't give a shit about feminism, to save his "manly" face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:40 PM
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Tall, slim, toned, but not too much, tanned skin (I'm a redhead and for some reason I like the guys who are my exact opposite lol), brown or hazel eyes, brown or black hair, clear smiley eyes, I prefer a head full of hair but I hate the hairstyle from a barber, so something more casual and normal, nothing extravagant, good teeth and skin. I don't really like guys with glasses or if they're too thin. I like the faces that I can easily remember, well defined faces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:29 PM
15

I don't know where these guys came from, because they keep forgetting about the fact that their moms are women too. (I'm not adding they have sisters, gfs, aunts a d daughters because they don't give a flying fuck about them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:26 PM
6

And not only him, but other people who might try to scam you either. Stay safe! I'm glad you learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:19 PM
14

His reasons for doing so... Welcome to life of a regular woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 12:21 PM
22

There's a difference between niceness or naivity and stupidity. OP, please never forget this lesson, ever. No matter what. That's the way how old people are scammed in my country, but they are senile and lonely, not young intelligent women. I hope you won't meet him ever again, let alone talk to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 12:17 PM
3

If you don't know whether you're interested or not, then don't send me a message. Easy peasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:47 AM
366

So basically he wants an open relationship but only under the condition that a woman is unhappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:39 AM
32

I remember when I was 12, I talked about our ideal type of man with my friend, and I said that he needs to be a great cook. I was very wise, hahah. And the food looks delicious, I'm hungryyy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:28 PM
3

Assholes to themselves - very well said! 💚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:28 AM
16

Same but with Japanese girls. Now I understand that Japanese girls had nothing to do with that, he was just an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:52 PM
9

I think she'd be a pick me if she tried to imitate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:48 PM
10

sometimes I end up hating 'jokes'. what a stupid excuse, seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:43 PM
1

you explained it very well too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:16 PM
1

well damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:13 PM
4

we use it for everything but humans. that's why it feels so weird
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:12 PM
5

i wonder if it was? i bet it wasn't lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:11 PM
2

yes! the rude thing. mine would call the other girls ugly or crazy, but fantasy girls (read: porn) were perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:10 PM
3

Thank you!:) That's what I needed to hear. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:08 PM
11

That's what I thought too, because those people I had problems with had problems with other people too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:11 PM
32

I ended up alone, without "friends" and "bf". And my dad told me, if everyone around you is an asshole maybe you're an asshole.What do you guys think? I was a people pleaser for years, and still am, but I'm fighting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:30 PM
5

Mine was extremely depressing and treated me as his therapist too! Omg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:01 PM
48

English isn't my first language but the word female translated into my language sounds so fucking weird, like they are talking about animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:01 PM
3

Same. I can confirm too. What has he done to you? I'm curious if it's the same stuff. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:28 PM
17

Pisces men are the definition of 'nice guy'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:25 PM
4

Maybe he's even lying about his "birthday" in order to get easy sex. He probably tried this move before, and it worked, so he's trying again. Probably some PUA shit. Good that you blocked his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:42 PM
1

To stop crushing on random people and focus on my career and savings. To get rid of toxic people asap. To learn who I am, and to make sure about what I like and what I don't like. To believe in myself more and to love myself unconditionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:25 PM
3

wow for a person who is in such a loving relationship, is she spiteful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:05 PM
14

I think the handbook covers this pretty well. It's almost impossible to be tricked if you follow the rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:01 PM
32

And also because they plan a quick and easy date with million of other women, of course they're exhausted lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:57 PM
13

It would be like that fancy Island in Wonder Woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:49 PM
17

So if we decide to stop dating those described above, we are doing so against our will? Wtf. Because for me this is exactly what single by choice means. I'll stay single because I want to, nobody can make me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:49 PM
22

I noticed too! I'm getting better at it. A few weeks ago I wouldn't even noticed what exactly was wrong with that statement. Now I do. Love you FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:08 PM
16

I've always felt like cats are the sweetest. They never done me no harm. They always want me to pet them, so I do and they are happy. Maybe my inner animal is a cat, but I never undestood the cats being independent thing. They come to me faster than my dog when I call them, even though my dog is trained lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:58 PM
2

the opinion one of his friends won't agree with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:40 PM
22

"unpopular opinion" my ass. i would rename the sub to "approved opinion"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:44 PM
8

I understand. You're totally right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:12 PM
25

May I ask why not men you date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:54 AM
5

Especially taking them seriously only if it serves them lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:01 PM
20

omg, I love you.😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:27 PM
134

this girl? oh, forget about her, she's from the past. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:22 PM
102

Children from the past...it needs to become a FDS meme, I swear to god. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:21 PM
6

And you know what is the worst? All those shitty articles teaching women that they shouldn't be 'needy' if they wanna 'keep a man'. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:48 PM
13

This is horrible. I bet someone, or even him called her needy and now she use that word to describe herself? Like it's a part of her identity? I know exactly how she feels because I've been there but I always felt like I'm in the right and that he's selfish. I also used to doubt myself like that, but only because I felt I should. Deep down I just knew I deserved his attention and he was just a shitty boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:22 PM
39

Avoid people who act whatever they feel like, hurting you or make your life super inconvenient because of their shit, and they say stuff like: this is who I am, I can't change or 'But I'm Aries!', or whatever excuse you can think of. And you are understanding, you always think: 'yeah, she can't change, yeah she is Aries, yeah, it's stupid of me expecting that she'd change, I'm such a bad friend' but once you act like a bitch, because you had enough of that, or something is going on with your lif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:30 PM
8

my ex once told me that he didn't have an access to porn while he was away for a few weeks, so he had to masturbate while thinking about me and he meant it as a compliment lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:34 PM
17

I was suprised how many people actually believes this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:49 AM
13

But pickmes make them believe that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 07:58 AM
15

They're ugly to the point I'm questioning my sexuality. And it's only because the most of girls don't look like they stink from a photo. I also think that actors look pretty hot, only because they care about their looks. Of course we're being less sexual when surrounded by ugly scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 07:49 AM
1

You hit the nail, she really does tell me that I'm hard to read, especially lately because it's only a recent thing that I've started to create my boundaries. Before I was very tolerant and I did things which I didn't want to do, pretty often. Before I left, we had a discussion and I told her that I don't wanna be in company of those people. She asked why and I told her I just don't like them, and if she wants them to stay, then I would leave. I could have told her, it's because I wanted to cele…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 07:44 AM
5

That's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:52 PM
5

It's completely okay. He really isn't that obvious, and it's hard to tell without the context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:51 PM
8

But David Deida is a complete misogynist imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:21 PM
3

I'm afraid of being stalked (again) or to see some stranger masturbating in front of me (again)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:08 PM
31

It means that the FDS strategy is not for you. It's up to you of course. Read the handbook, if it's not for you, then it's okay. We won't force you into anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:28 PM
28

just think about what hanging out at home means to them. if you still wanna do it, then do it, but it's your own risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:26 PM
3

The worst thing is that if you say something about this movie being wrong on so many levels, they will twist it and blame you for sexualizing those girls and that they haven't noticed anything sexual about that 'sweet coming of age story' therefore you're a pedo. Manipulation at its best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:54 PM
6

When I went backpacking to Indonesia for a month with my then bf few years ago, he was expecting me to wash his clothes by hand, because we were travelling low cost and there weren't any washing machines. I was so upset, because while I was washing the clothes he was sleeping, watching tv, eating loads of junkfood etc. Then I forced myself to believe, that it's okay, that this is what a woman is supposed to do, and that I'm washing my clothes anyway, so what's the big deal if I wash a few more? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:00 PM
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My ex pickmeisha friend gave birth for the first time and she had sex with her partner after only two weeks. she ripped herself during a birth. I asked her shocked, if it wasn't painful?! She said that it did really hurt but she sooo enjoyed it. I was like wtf, are you okay?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:45 AM
1

Thank you so much💚 Working on it, as even my parents really don't care. Never mind, because I love myself and I have my international support.🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:14 AM
2

Yeah - what he basically said is that our worst feature is that we are... getting old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:40 PM
4

1-1,5 year engament, 2 years wedding. But only if there isn't a single red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:53 PM
6

Daryll. Like Daryll from Thelma and Louise lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:17 PM
4

thank you, it truly made me happy! 💛💛💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 07:13 PM
3

My mom does that. She always excuses my dad's behavior, and she used to excuse my ex bf's behavior. Her reasoning is that the other person isn't present so she should play devil's advocate on their behalf. She is the only person who I trust but her advices are horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:39 PM
10

Ikr? Typical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:29 PM
8

This is awesome, will definitely do that too! Glad I'm not alone in this. You're right, there really isn't need to ever find out. It's good we noticed though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:24 PM
20

I will seriously start doing that. I can't wait to see their Pikachu faces. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:24 PM
6

yeah, could be, but I am a natural redhead with freckles, kinda impossible to not recognize me lol. But I know what you mean, I sometimes have this problem too, especially if it's a person I met only once, but I never come to them randomly asking: 'who are you', which made me believe that the guys just knew but wanted to make me insecure for some reason. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:13 PM
19

Yes, that's what I meant, it's so confusing isn't it? I always give them a benefit of doubt, because yeah, they actually might forgot or maybe I changed or something - but they always give out very suspicious info like they knew who exactly I was all along, but decided to act like they didn't. It's a pattern lately - I also noticed that it happens after I'm not super nice or super smily, I'm just being my normal self. I was wondering if it's their way to not loose a face? Since discovering the F…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:08 PM
7

Thank you so much. 💞 She messaged me in the morning asking if we're going out together later in the evening (to the same event as yesterday) and I said that I'm not going and she was like 'As you wish'. I can't believe I let her ruin my victory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:10 AM
33

She definitely thinks he will be super grateful and moved to tears. Not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:04 PM
7

I think I'm an extrovert because I feel like gaining the energy when talking to people, but it really does depend on my mood. I also like someone being home even when I'm alone in my room.:) Above is my personal experience with the ex of mine, when we couldn't even go to a restaurant sometimes and if we went, we had to be seated at the specific places otherwise he wouldn't eat, same with the cinema, he'd leave if seats at the very back was taken. He wouldn't meet my parents or friends because he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:37 PM
14

It used to be a custom in my country too (central Europe) not so long time ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:35 PM
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I don't recommend a man with a social phobia and/or social anxiety. You'll find yourself isolated from everyone, or if you're a social person, you'll lead two separate lives, the one with him and the other with your family and friends. It's so very tiring and sad. And sometimes you'll find yourself wondering, if he's using his diagnosis as an excuse, so he doesn't have to do things and activities with you, particularly those he isn't really interest in, or simply doesn't wanna do at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:54 AM
1

The Distillers's Brody Dalle solo work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:47 AM
1

Mine is a male, but I have a strong feeling he's a closeted gay. He's married with kids though. But I still think he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:44 AM
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Every big movement has its "fractions", it will probably happen with the FDS, too, sooner or later. There will be two groups and one will be more radical or 'old school'. Still hope that it won't happen though. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 11:02 PM
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I noticed. Maybe a lot of new people around? As we are more and more (in)famous every day? 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:59 PM
8

Then why I feel the same? I'm a woman, I can see that there's a hot guy even when I'm in a relationship. If it's in the beginning of a relationship, I consciously have to stop myself from even thinking about other man being hot because I automatically feel guilty. What does it mean? Am I manly? Or would we, as women, acted the same way as that 'differently' wired men, if they hadn't ruled our lives for ages? Who knows. But I think, that more than biology, it's a cultural and social thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:21 PM
2

thanks! sounds good. may I ask why would you do things differently? do you think that your life together would be different?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:14 PM
2

exactly. so basically anyone with ocd and THE closet might enjoy that lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:11 PM
1

I can imagine only Monica Geller who'd actually enjoyed it. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:30 PM
5

How would you react if he started talking about a home together or a wedding before an actual engagement? I had this problem with all my exes, and never knew how to react, it felt strange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:28 PM
12

He's stupid, I'm sure she talked to the dog lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:17 PM
20

I had a relationship where I was like you described, silly and funny, I thought I'm being myself, but the strange thing is it wasn't me at all. Now as I'm single again, I feel like I'm naturally more serious, laid back. I feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:32 PM
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I heard they do that on purpose so you won't ask them to do that ever again.😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:28 PM
32

lol on the lioness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 11:39 AM
3

They're giving themselves a handjob all the time, so probably not, but still this is the another level lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:53 AM
13

She was in a cafe for 5 hours. He wasn't looking for her? Continued sucking his dick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:51 AM
2

this is so awesome hahah! :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:44 PM
5

Yeah, the two World Wars were really unproblematic. Like where is the problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:33 PM
1

I made a list about the things I didn't like about my ex, then made another list of the opposite characteristics, and I got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:52 PM
6

I still to this day don't understand what was that suppose to mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:41 PM
4

The first sentences my ex ever told me were: 1. are you nervous, redhead? (before an exam), 2. is that your real hair color? My stupid pick me ass thought that was cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:39 AM
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I remember when I was 12, my brother, my male friend and I went to a store to buy some snacks and we were wearing a swimwear, because we were swimming in a river near by. I had a bikini that looked like a tank top, only shorter and shorts and the boys were wearing t-shirts and underpants. I was told by the security guy that I should leave because bikinis aren't allowed in that store (I was fucking twelve, no boobs at all). I told him: only me? those two are literally wearing underpants. He said:…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:12 AM
2

Everytime when someone says they love their SO to death, I know they, actually, don't love them to death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:36 PM
5

now I can't get the image of Devil wearing a pony tail out of my head lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:51 PM
11

I read pony tail omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:14 PM
6

Also I noticed that guys around me start to talk about their friends in a negative way once they aren't around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:41 PM
5

And they say that FDS is manipulative and toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:59 AM
8

If women are that horrible, why on Earth are men making the tactics to win them back? 😂 Does this guy really think that when he smiles, she'll immediately forget about his dirty underpants? About him not showering regularly? About him cheating and his porn addiction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:57 AM
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yet they have the audacity to claim that we're the same and that we forget about sexism when we have to lift and move heavy things. that's the only thing they can think of as an example of sexism against men. as if they are lifting weights for us every single day. I can't remember a thing they did for me I couldn't or wouldn't do myself, in years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:35 AM
6

she will. it feels so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:15 PM
6

he seems to be just talking and no actions. that's why you're confused. don't listen to him, observe what he's actually doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:13 PM
12

yet the woke new age spiritualists will claim that you're the same as the people in your life. that they're 'mirroring' your actual characteristics and actions. that you deserve them. what a bunch of bs. hate that stuff because it teaches women to doubt and hate themselves and it's making them stay with abusers. no wonder that 'spiritual teachers' are mostly men and vulnerable women are buying that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:05 PM
72

Happened to me every single time. I've never been dumped, but it really doesn't matter, the damage is the same, maybe even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:10 PM
5

This hit the spot...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:40 AM
2

My ex used to call me "know it all", or that I got answer for everything. We used to be college class mates, for god's sake. Why he was so surprised that I'm not dumb, I will never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:56 AM
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Same. My first partner ever was a Japanese, he said he fucked over 100 girls, which I believe because he was a fuckboy with a lot of female friends, but he sucked in sack anyway. The only good thing about him was that his erection was pretty hard and upturned, but to the point it was difficult to give him a head. Also, he was pornsick, he was constantly sending me porn videos and asking me to act like Japanese girls in that videos (to cry while he fucks me). No surprise that I was 20 and he was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:10 AM
16

I don't even know my preference. I just know it isn't any of the dicks I've seen yet lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:04 AM
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misinformation? they say that this girl's personal preference is a misinformation? and that she actually loves tiny dicks? loool I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:03 AM
8

How do you think I've discovered both Reddit and Quora? 😁 At least one good thing out of that relationship lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:39 AM
9

oh yessss 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:27 AM
4

I would think: "so you are telling me that you want...a normal woman?" Because woman cheating is really not that common. If we say this about a guy, then we are usually spot on. I would think about the guy that he either never dated and listenes only about women from his bitter friends, or that he's delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:19 AM
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Just don't put yourself in the situations when it could happen. If he invites you over, don't go. Then wait for his reaction. If he insists, dump him. If he asks over and over, 'but wHyY?', dump him. If he thinks about something else to do, good for you. If you're dating in public spaces only, I don't think he will be like, 'let's have sex' or 'why don't we have sex' - if he does, dump him, because he's a creep. :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:12 AM
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I met wonderful older French couple last year, I think they were even married, they were artists or something like that, living in Thailand, both in their own separate houses. I thought that was cool. They were travelling together a lot. I would live with a guy only if he was a good cook and liked the housework, otherwise, why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:00 AM
16

Meanwhile, many young Korean guys are overweight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:55 AM
12

I always wonder how could I be past time at 30 when I look the same as I was 25 lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:53 AM
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I know what you mean. I'm struggling myself too. I think it is because I'm subconsciously expecting they will yell at me or hurt me or call me names. It's like an automatic reaction of a dog, who would lay on his back when scared and acting submissive to protect himself. So this is how we protect ourselves. Now the question is how can we protect ourselves differently and with dignity. One option is to ghost them/not talk to them at all. I would start with a silence/ignoring them, as the other gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:30 AM
14

Truue! I thought I had depression and Idk what else, it looks like I just missed my family and friends - my social security.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:08 AM
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I feel you, sis. The shit is happening right now to me too. I've been feeling so content lately and he messaged me again today and I feel so anxious in my stomach, it's horrible. Do you have a black list option on your phone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 06:24 PM
8

that's what I thought too lol.😂 I thought that he's offended by her searching for the meaning of a life, so he decided that calling her stupid was a great idea. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:36 AM
8

FDS is a living example that internet can be a really great place! Thank you ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:32 AM
1

See? This will definitely help you to get over him and once you do, there will be even more of it, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:07 PM
4

I was probably like that and my other girls friends too. I really do regret it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:57 PM
20

this. i used to be 'not like other girls'. I realized only now, that what he means by saying that is that women are generally bitches but I'm the exception for a meanwhile. now I have other girls backs as a principle and feel sorry for pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:23 PM
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not giving a guy a benefit of doubt. i had been thinking about men hours and days, struggling and unsure, thinking 'but what if...' all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:19 PM
12

this is fucking awesome lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:23 PM
8

Maybe there are another issues making him a bad partner, that you don't wanna see? You say that except the porn thing he's amazing. I kind of doubt it because I myself thought that there was only a small issue in my relationship, but there were many, I just decided to ignore them out of fear from losing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:15 AM
14

I remember when I was around 17 there was this married 30+ guy with two kids who asked me if he could kiss me, I had to literally tell him: man, you have your kids names tattooed on your arms, don't you remember? These older guys are always not allright in their heads, unfortunately. No exception.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:45 AM
11

plot twist: he will be divorced in a year lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:44 PM
15

My eyes and nostrils are wide open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:59 PM
15

If I ask someone out for a dinner, I pay. Doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman. But I don't ask out men so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:01 PM
7

Yes! He's honestly one of the greatest jerks I've read about here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:24 AM
7

God, I don't even know him, but I hate this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:22 AM
6

Acquaintances are okay, if you have a friend group. I had one close childhood friend but we were like brother and sister, mostly insulting each other and stuff like that, so it was safe between us lol. We aren't that close anymore, but when we bump into each other that dynamics is still there. But close friend like meeting regularly one on one? No. My girl friend has friends like that, and she slept with all of them, sooner or later. It's inevitable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:38 AM
6

You should have told him that the only thing HE had to do is a compromise. Double standards much? You may not see it now but all of us do and the thing is you'll be fine. Read a hanbook in a meanwhile, or other recommended book - it's better to be angry than sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:34 PM
3

There is a popular belief that you should tell a man what he should do and when he does, you should say thank you, so he feels motivated next time. Except...he doesn't.You will just train him so he will wait until you give him orders and he will never do something on his own. Veeery tiring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:09 PM
22

Like if failed relationships are something to be ashamed of or natural disaster. Shit happens. So?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:09 PM
1

Loool. The funniest thing is that he really does it like it's one of his hobbies. 😂 You ain't lying girl. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 02:37 PM
3

I know what you mean with an unfinished business. I'd probably feel like that because I like to keep my relationships in order, so I'd might end up being even more stressed, if I ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 02:33 PM
5

Thank you! That's exactly how I feel. It surely died long time ago. The thing with an acknowledgement of break up - yes, he made that happen, I honestly don't think he deserves a proper break up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:05 AM
1

yeah, exactly my point. cheers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:36 PM
96

Howdy! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 09:17 AM
31

When I was 20 my Filipino ex coworker told me: never give a man more than 50% of yourself. I still remember that words to this day. But I wouldn't listen, as I was crazy in love back then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:12 PM
7

Is he crazy? Not normal reaction at all. Psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:55 PM
7

I had many crushes in my early teens. Lost interest around 17/18 and had only few crushes since then. It's not about the looks only, but it's more like all guys turned into a type of man I didn't like when I was young - personality wise they're so boring and dishonest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:57 AM
3

Ask yourself this question: Am I willing to pay the guy's rent, groceries, vacations in the future? There's your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:07 PM
10

the important thing is to answer the question whether they have something else going on in their lives, like productive hobbies, goals, career, even identity apart of those nerdy things. i have many friends who are nerds, even I could be described as one, but I'm focusing on my education, future career and I'm trying to have a touch with reality, recognizing that the nerdy stuff is just for fun, and my life isn't orbiting around it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:00 PM
28

I know what you mean. I have one male friend and only he only speaks using movie quotes as he's a great movie nerd. I'm not really sure who he really is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:54 PM
115

yeah? how? by writing shit on the internet? make me. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:32 PM
19

So shocking and sad. Life is truly unfair. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:26 PM
3

No man would bother with a woman who feels like that. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:33 PM
3

I'd say: who are you? Because really, who is he? 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:55 AM
8

Omg, I need stand up comedy FDS, in my life, I swear. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:54 AM
3

Oh.....no. The picture.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:45 AM
175

I feel so good and safe here. Maybe for the first time in my life, not only without men but without pickmeishas too. I hope it will stay that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:42 PM
9

I'm 29 and guys who are in their early 20s look like they're around my age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:05 PM
12

are you me sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:01 PM
7

he would complain like there is no tomorrow and when I suggested something he was like: this is the worst advice in the history of advices, maybe ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:00 PM
14

...chicken, etc. Love it. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:31 PM
10

Yes, and I feel like this mega bitch phase will pass too, but I also feel like it shouldn't be skipped. It will even out naturally, but we shouldn't force it, because we already know how to be nice, so we need to learn to be a bitches too. Then we can choose whether we wanna be kind or bitchy, depending on a given situation and it will be a conscious decision, not some learned behavior pattern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:14 PM
9

This is what my exboyfriend used to say a lot lol. I should have said this instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:25 AM
6

The difference is that if men do the stuff for women, women are thankful. If women do the stuff for men, men start to be mean, insulting, controlling, hateful, demanding and lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:20 AM
15

I'm so glad we don't have this rating system in my country. We have only pretty, average, ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:16 AM
51

My boundaries are like electric fence because I'm trying to instill them for the first time after 29 years without them. I'm learning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:09 AM
5

Please dump him. You read the comments, all of them are valid. But please, learn from the experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:53 PM
4

Sometimes but it lasts only around five minutes. Then I realize I'm craving a fantasy. It's like dreaming about winning the lottery - it's not gonna happen. Just like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:39 PM
4

To be honest, Warsaw was full of walking potatoes lmao. But Wroclaw was so different. I was shocked. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:01 PM
4

loool you're sooo right. He DID bring his phone in. I thought he was just reading the news or playing games. Gosh, I was so naive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:59 PM
7

omg, that's why he always took so long to take a shit and our sex life was non existing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:49 PM
19

I went to Poland earlier this year and was shocked that I actually met some good looking or interesting guys. It just won't happen in my country where all men look the same, like they don't have any personality. But I have to add that my girl friends and me were attacked right after we got off the train by some scrotes who wanted to know if one of my girl friends 'is a girl or a boy'. So yeah, Poland is tricky lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:40 AM
13

"You still don't have a man". He says it like she's missing a leg or like she's still sucking her thumb or like she can't use a fork and a knife. I mean, what kind of insult is that loool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:55 PM
23

a sport car = a woman. suuuuure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:53 AM
48

my dad build our fucking house
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:46 AM
47

yeah me too because I've always initiated breakups. they were too cowardly, so I had to do the dirty work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:30 PM
1

wow, that's my brother. except he doesn't do anything but cooking for himself sometimes. i think it's too late for him to change as he is almost 19, so I don't even try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:12 PM
-8

the wording of the reply makes me believe it's a satire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:46 PM
1

When they say that men with a grey hair are hot. No, I don't think so, I never have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:43 AM
26

I decided that I won't read such a BS anymore. Anything anti-feminist, anti-woman won't get my attention and my arguments. Let's raise our vibes, sisters. We don't need this stuff in our lives, at least, let's not be too serious about the scrotes. If it ain't funny, it's not worth our wrinkles. They will whine and whine till the end of the world, so be it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:38 AM
15

I'm proud to be a bitter old hag. It feels nice somehow lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:18 PM
6

I'll just add that this discussion should be seen by all the people who think that FDS is about using men for money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:35 PM
3

it depends on why he's dating women outside his own race. for example, of a guy dates only asian girls you can be sure that he's doing so because of the stereotypes - he wants to be in control and wants submissive wife plus he might be a porn addict. what do you think, what is his reasoning?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:14 PM
55

Been there done that, it only gets worse, dump him right now, lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 01:07 PM
9

Yeah, love that one. Even thought in the real world, a guy who dated you for the money wouldn't usually turn into a great guy lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:15 AM
3

Late 30s, living with his parents, helping out with the family business, DJing at parties, I think he joined a theatre class? He isn't married and has no kids. Probably has some girlfriends from time to time. Basically he's living the same life as almost ten years ago. The other one, more recent ex is in his late 20s, is living with his parents, no job, mental problems and health problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:54 AM
24

Yes, you hit the nail - they were selfish, the bedroom was only a cherry on top. My ex hated foreplay, he said he simply doesn't enjoy it. We talked about this many times, he knew it's important for me, but he didn't care anyway. Same goes with kissing. He hated it. Well, now he can kiss my ass lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:24 AM
12

Yes, statistics tend to vary, but numbers are always high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:21 AM
10

Love the idea of a rape whistle 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:23 AM
40

Many people actually. It's more common than you'd think but women won't talk about this issue, because they think they failed as women or something like that, which is clearly not true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:20 AM
34

I've told them many times, they'd do it maybe once or twice then think it's too much work and they're back to their same old porn style lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:17 AM
5

Idk, I'm cringing on both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 10:22 PM
3

Yeah, agree, but I personally love Fight Club. Love Marla.😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:08 PM
2

yes girl! 3rd is frigid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:06 PM
11

Eastern European here. I don't think I will date guys from here ever again. Well, they don't play video games as much as Western guys, but they drink a lot of alcohol instead. And they wanna commit, they feel the pressure to, because they are viewed as a failure if they won't, but usually only to pickmeishas - means full service, doormat type of girls. They also think that feminist is a swearword.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:53 PM
1

omg 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:50 PM
4

True that sis! For me, no more guys ashamed to touch me outside of sex, never fucking again. It's humiliating, big turn off and bright red flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:32 PM
11

plus he hates the kitty!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:58 PM
19

Good for you. Most of the women I know ain't that lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:48 PM
9

FDS - female Fight Club, omg. I love it here, I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:13 PM
15

Yeah, it's like my friend telling me that she hooked up with her friend the other day. We both have talked about how hard is to have an orgasm with a man, so I asked her, sooo, how was it? She said, oh so great, amazing, finally after such a long time, it felt so gooood. Sooo, did you cum? Good for you girl! Noo, but I was very close this time. So what was so amazing about the sex? She was thinking for a bit and then she said: Yeah, it actually sucked. Hahah. I have this theory that we women ten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:10 PM
2

I was in the same situation and for me it was the opposite of it. It felt like complete stranger touching me - very strange and uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:01 PM
25

Not often, hiding in my room. Yeah, it's sad lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 11:43 PM
3

yeah, it really does seem like it, doesn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 08:57 PM
19

I thought so too. Enough made up stories like this one, and shit's gonna be normalized. And young girls gonna believe that it's fine that their "boyfriend" was almost 30, when they were born.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 08:53 PM
4

Sometimes I refuse to believe they aren't only trolls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 08:50 PM
28

Yeah, that's what I've been thinking for years. Many men are, technically, asexuals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:30 PM
5

Let me laugh - hahahaha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:27 PM
3

That I used to be a Pickmeisha and was seeking advices from another Pickmeishas. And I love the term LVM, truly eye opening. Now I know it's not me, but him. Yahooo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:58 PM
2

Mr.Sensitive lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:55 PM
27

Yes, totally. Peer pressure, but pretty dumb one. Can you imagine that we'd make fun of our girl friends just because they're pretty/ugly/whatever? If we did, we'd be pretty shitty friends. Men are gay pickmeishas, but at the same time hate each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:11 PM
1

Same. I suppose I'll be aware of my hypothetic shadows once I have relationship with a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:51 PM
52

Because they think if they took a good care about themselves, their friends would think they're gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:49 PM
18

And here I am, with the ex of mine, who let go of my hand, when people approached lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 11:55 AM
5

Yes! We're like modern era witches!😃Hopefully there won't be a witch hunt no more lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 06:24 PM
4

I was thinking about the very same thing the other night. We're vibing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 06:13 PM
25

Agree. And if husband wants his family to share the same name, he should take a wife's name. Wife and kids taking his name doesn't make any sense honestly. It's a tradition and old fashioned. Or they can use both surnames.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 06:08 PM
1

Yes, I will, definitely. I was just thinking, based on her previous actions, that if I told her, she blocked me, she would say she never did. Guess I will never know and I'm fine with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:57 PM
4

Yes, you're right. I thought she's denying it by her actions - asking the friends what has she done to me that I'm like this, never mentioning that she blocked me years ago. And yeah, I'm blocking her for unrelated reason, and will keep blocking her. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:52 AM
4

Yes, that's true, she definitely treats me like that. Thank you again, I feel better now.:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:36 AM
5

Thank you! You're spot on with the breadcrumbing and the flying monkeys. Yes, it really does seem like she is bored and wants some drama to entertain her. She's always been like this and I aways gave her what she wanted. But I don't understand why she's acting so surprised that I have blocked her like she doesn't remember she had done it long time before I finally did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:21 AM
9

Thank you for the advice. She really spins everything I say to her advantage, I know I'd never win in that discussion and I'd be the asshole in the end. She'd deny that she was abusive towards me, because I never told her directly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:16 AM
2

Omg, what he did was plain evil. It seems like he created this BS situation only because he was butthurted for you saying that he downloaded shitty version of the movie, which he did and he decided to torture you instead of admitting his fault. Poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:55 AM
3

I actually recognized my ex in this. He'd never been violent physically or calling me names, he was more sophisticated, but I never cohabitated with him. There were these hints of what might happen in the future. So glad I'm out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:35 AM
6

I call everybody sweetheart and always having some punch line on the stock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:27 AM
11

this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:21 AM
17

Yeah, that's why men usually fill for divorce. Oh, wait...they dont?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:18 PM
7

Then we probably don't agree on a definition of a HVM, because I don't think they choose their partners because of a color of their skin or "ridiculous" beauty. Besides, it's hard to tell if they're wonderful boyfriends only from photos from the social media. But it's okay. Let's agree to disagree. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:36 PM
44

I'm not sure if I understand the question. As it seems they love everything about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:37 AM
7

I think it's because they were raised by pickmeisha who would to anything for her 'boys'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 07:41 AM
13

Negging. I honestly thought that was cute. Like he's a bad boy, but can't help himself complimenting me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:51 PM
6

Don't worry girls. The majority of women I know is married to LVM. That's the point. You can have it anytime. It's not that hard, especially now when we know how LVM work. When we joined this sub, we decided we don't want that, though. Think about this. The only thing we are missing out is a marriage and kids with a LVM. Because that's the reality for the majority of women out there. Sad but true. We gave up on LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:01 PM
4

He ghosted me when I stopped being pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:04 PM
8

He's never been her boyfriend in the first place. So her argument regarding her actual boyfriend is invalid. I don't think there is anything you can do to fix this. From my point of view, you did nothing wrong and you were honest. It's up to her now. And then up to you, if you want to go back to a friend who stopped being friends with you over a crush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:53 AM
20

Even the most beautiful women on Earth are being abused or ignored or controlled by their spouses/boyfriends. Man cannot just change only because his wife is out of his league and way more attractive than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:23 AM
5

I'm still having the one last friend, who is trying to manipulate me into doing stuff I don't want to do, even though I told her many times that I don't like it. Gaslighting me often, so I started to question my memory, like am I loosing my mind and don't remember stuff? She twists my words, to her advantage, then says: 'but that's exactly what you said!' even though I remember I said it differently or I didn't say anything at all. I've known her for my whole life and our friendship was mostly p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:38 AM
23

I'm so sorry. Can you go to your sister's until you can have a place of your own?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:30 AM
5

Yes exactly. But unfortunatelly, in my case it's usually personal and against me. I don't care what they do with their lives, but since I've noticed I was manipulated and taken advantage of, it's so hard to not notice and pretend I'm okay with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:15 AM
6

Yes, but that means I have zero boyfriends right now, and zero friends too, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 07:49 AM
108

Yeah, they're not after sex but control, very well said. About the witholding thing - happened to me with two guys. Now, when anyone says that men want sex more than women I just laugh and laugh. Yeah, they do. But only when women don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 07:41 AM
82

45? looks like 65 to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 09:38 PM
7

I feel I can have a child only with a HVM. If there isn't one, then no children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 11:56 AM
5

Because there're many abusers out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:15 AM
7

I've never been impressed with a dick in my life. So sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:11 PM
12

Korean dramas! Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:10 PM
16

I always hated that damn movie, couldn't understand how someone can possibly think that was romantic lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:08 PM
10

I'm from Central Europe and guys usually really wants to pay. You have to literally fight them so they let you pay lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:05 PM
18

And now try to imagine the situation where he's checking the pizza, coming back and forth, while she's chilling and watching a movie. Sometimes I so envy the scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:23 PM
3

He's got a voice of Cartman from South Park.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:17 PM
5

My ex used to call me by masculine version of my name too. I don't understand why he had to do that. Or called me a dwarf or by different animals names. Never by my real name, only when he mentioned me in front of his mom or friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:23 AM
31

As Lundy said: he's not abusive because he's angry, he's angry because he's abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:40 AM
59

If he can't afford two first class tickets he should have travelled with her in lower class. easy as that. I'd so dump this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:35 AM
10

Yes exactly! I think he only liked her because she was a tom boy and he absolutely hated Sansa, because she was feminine girl, therefore 'useless and annoying'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 02:36 PM
6

Yes, I do one by one and I'm reading Why does he do that? , at the moment. It's amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:38 AM
3

They actually really want this, so they can have control over you. They are mean to us, as a result, because they had gained the control already, so that's why it seems they actually don't want it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:11 AM
6

The eyes thing!! I thought there was something odd in the way he was looking at me, from the very start but couldn't tell what. He either wasn't looking at me directly, or when he did, his eyes seemed pretty cold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 08:39 AM
2

and he was really kind, always saying or doing the right thing, for a month or two. I felt really loved for a while. that had changed into living hell later lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 08:36 AM
2

nice smile and teeth, tall, handsome, good student, good in sports, liked animals, kinda funny. I was fooled by his pick up art, so I thought what he had to say was cool, too (i didn't know he was faking it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 08:33 AM
26

My ex hated all the female characters, he used to call them annoying and useless. He only liked Arya from GoT. He never had anything nice to say about women, besides his mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 08:13 AM
10

Oh, he is sweet summer child. He revealed everything what you needed to know while thinking he's being cute lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 08:11 AM
60

I read in the amazing book called The gift of fear, that dogs feel your feelings towards other people and if it feels you are nervous, it is too - it can sense the emotions of its owner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:52 AM
5

Sis, I had dated but if I knew better, I would never. Only difference between you and me? My wasted 20s. And abillity to recognize an idiot lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:39 AM
13

My ex did the same and then gave me 3 days long silent treatment because I criticized him like 'yOu dIdN'T wAnT tO hELp'. He was so lazy, doing nothing all the time, but the moment I showed up, he started working on some "project". I travelled 10 hours just to spend some time with him and this is what I was blessed with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:31 AM
18

I hate my big dick (Translation: I don't, but I want to appear like I do, so you all will envy me) It's ruining my sex life (Translation: Please tell me, that I am right and she is wrong) New title: My wife doesn't like my amazing big dig, please tell me she's to blame and that I should cheat on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 07:20 PM
1

Yes, I loved it too - Do you think that Celine is a pickmeisha and Jessie kinda LMV? Or the opposite? Thank for the recommendation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:39 PM
6

I have two younger brothers, both work, but live at home and my mom does everything for them. Cooking, cleaning, everything. One smokes too much pot, other drinks too much. The older is kinda sexist, the younger doesn't care about anything except making money. They don't have girlfriends. I think they aren't that bad, they are definitely better people than other males I know. But I can't imagine them being married tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 11:58 AM
7

I dated this guy for 6 years. He wanted to travel and "find himself", I wanted to settle down. And guess what happened? He hasn't been travelling, neither he settled down. He's unemployed, with poor health and mental health, blaming everyone around him, living off his amazinh mom, lonely with the crushed dreams. I kinda feel sorry for him, even though it's due to his bad decisions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 11:39 AM
11

That's a great idea! lol I probably will too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:56 AM
5

oh my god, the laugh. that's how my younger brother's friends laugh lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:16 AM
11

The question is : Is here any girl who accepted a coffee date as a first date and it led to meeting a HVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:48 AM
6

Yet they're running the world. How 'convenient'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:53 AM
17

She probably mentioned divorce and now he's all guilty and scared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:50 AM
10

Are you my sister from another mister? That's sooo my dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:47 AM
31

Exactly. They would survive just fine. They take an advantage out of the idea that we think they wouldn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:44 AM
16

No, you aren't crazy and horrible. He was controlling AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:55 PM
6

Your work is amazing! It's sad that many women don't even know what's going on and it's wonderful that you're helping them. I wouldn't know if I haven't read your post. Something clicked in the right place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:09 PM
24

Exactly. Usually, when someone asks why do you like something or why do you think something, they just want to pick a fight. It's a trap, simple yes or 'I just like them' should be enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:59 PM
31

Yes, I agree. It happened early in my latest relationship and it was impossible to have a rational talk with him during my time with him. He was exactly like this Jessie. And I was so panicking that I started to cry or stress out, because I didn't understand what just had happened. And it was so hard to talk about it with a friend, because I couldn't even describe it, as it didn't make any sense. I should have seen those red flags. Btw, this is interesting topic to talk about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:04 PM
40

oh wow. it's like telling a woman who was abused that she's a bitch, because she doesn't want to date abusers anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:43 PM
6

Before the lockdown I felt the same. I'm also 29. And probably with some Endometriosis issue, but doctors in my country are shitty, so I'll probably never know. I thought I wanted to have babies because all my friends had them already. Of course I felt left out. After the lockdown I had so much time to think. I felt so huge pressure. I also had LVM boyfriend who said that he wants to have kids 'later' or 'around 40'. I was so unhappy and hoped that he was only joking, because I thought I won't b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:59 AM
6

Have you seen Before Sunrise Thrilogy? What do you guys think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:39 AM
11

yes, gaslighting. if you are not sure about when it is and when it's not gaslighting, it happens when you are mad about something they did and they use the thing against you. when they say 'but you did the same!'. If there really was some issue, they should have told you before and not when they are in trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:52 PM
29

I was told the same! 😁 Despite him having hobbit like feet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 07:26 PM
16

I was wearing shorts and he said: Despite having x shaped legs, they are kinda nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 07:24 PM
35

Yeeess, can relate. 😂 To be honest, I don't even dare to read my old diary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 07:15 PM
17

Yeah, classic case of the scrote comfortable living in the pigsty...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 06:11 PM
18

It's addiction like any other, so yeah, no sane woman would date a drug addict, and this gamer thing is too normalized. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:04 PM
28

How come there are so many gamers out there. I personally don't know any hard core gamer, but it seems to be pretty commom in the US? talk to him about it is the worst advice ever and tell him about how you feel is the close second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:52 PM
3

My question is why her boyfriend is okay with the two meeting up one on one. Is she happy with him? Might be that the two are going to break up, or something like that and are overall unhappy, so they don't care about what their partner is doing. That could be a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:59 AM
20

So what people said? Is he the asshole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:50 AM
95

Probably having her first boyfriend, will learn hard way. Also, she basically talks about HVM in her post. Any sane woman wouldn't call such a man trash. That's the point. She just doesn't understand that there are good men and trash men. And something im between men. All sorts. Yet she talks about them like all the men are angels. So naive and delusional, probably very young person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 08:39 AM
86

She isn't happy crying, that's a facepalm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:58 PM
16

that's basically what I was gonna write. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:41 PM
2

It's like loving some famous person. Everyone thinks that is very strange and kind of childish. And why? Because it is only about looks and wishful dreams about that person. You probably don't really love him, you're more like his fan. And it's unhealthy the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:31 PM
30

You bet some pickmes would be all thrilled lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:04 AM
6

Because they think we make fun of them, which means they relate to or are LVM scrotes. I can't imagine decent man approving all this shit that scrotes do. They can't understand that we have no problem with respectful people, be it man or woman. They're projecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:59 AM
44

My ex tried to do this with me - he complained that his ex never agreed with him and I am 'sooo different' because I agree with him, because we are 'sooo similiar' and therefore 'soulmates'. Guess what, my pick me ass had agreed with him for 6 years long relationship because I wanted to be better than her, who I didn't even now. Watch out, this can be pretty dangerous and damaging long term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:51 AM
7

Don't worry, I think most of girls and women are pickmeishas or at least former pickmeishas. Good news to you, you aren't anymore. :) Good luck with healing, you will get better I am sure. And you can take it positive, the things you have done are wonderful, he was just wrong person to do it for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:44 AM
21

I'm afraid it's like out of the frying pan, into the fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:21 AM
81

he's probably proud that he's that man. his greatest accomplishment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 08:10 AM
3

Exactly! That's what I thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:22 PM
29

Cut the guy off and don't tell the new guy anything, he has to earn your trust. It shouldn't work like: we decided we will be honest. No no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:29 PM
5

Exactly this. The only solution to this is to leave forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:48 AM
9

I stayed because that was what I was taught to by my mom and other women I knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:46 AM
14

Because of those things, they secretly want us even more, more than pickmes. I haven't got any other explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:55 AM
7

Same lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:30 PM
6

He said 2022 because it means that he doesn't have to deal with it immediately and later will postpone the engagement again. Do yourself a favor and end it right now. You will surely dump him later, so why wait?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:20 PM
18

It sounds like he's looking for a juicy steak
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:12 PM
42

Low testosterone, porn, or he's in closet. or he's lying, playing it like he is not attracted to her, but actually he's suffering erectile disfunction, blaming her like she's not hot enough for him or something. They actually do this often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 06:22 PM
4

Thank you. hug
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:34 PM
11

I'm with you, sis. But considering what happened just few weeks ago, I would be so sorry if we lost this sub too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:13 PM
14

We should be careful about this kind of topics because I don't want this sub to be banned honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 01:47 PM
60

I had 6 years long relationship because of my red hair. I changed my haircolor to brown, we broke up. I wonder if that's connected lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:51 AM
5

So I am the last one of my friend group who is unmarried without kids and I just turned 29. After I had turned 26, i felt very miserable and sad, because my LVM seemed to never propose and/or have kids with me, he was completely uninterested, and I was thinking, what that girls have what I lack. But when I turned 28, I think something inside me changed. I started to notice how everything isn't how it seems to be, and how my friends actually married LVM, and now I kinda feel sorry for them. I kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:43 AM
15

I remember I was like this, never turning down a man. Once when I really didn't feel like it, I did it anyway, because I was a huge pickmeisha, with no boundaries, like a slave to him. So we had sex, he didn't even kiss me, without foreplay (because he didn't really like kissing and didn't really like foreplay). When he was done, I started to cry and he asked what happened, but he knew because he said he felt like raping me and that he doesn't think he will have sex with me ever again. Then I cr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:24 AM
38

I hate when people use my words against me. I noticed some of my friends do this when they want me to do something I don't feel like doing in that particular moment. I wonder if it's a big red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:14 AM
55

LVM won't make you orgasm and then will say shit like: I always made my ex GFs cum, what is wrong with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:56 PM
7

yeah, what is that even suppose to mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:34 PM
89

If you can take MY sarcasm and not cry like alittle b*tch afterwards, then ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:28 PM
10

As Daenerys Targaryen often says: Words are wind. And she is a queen. So trust her. When a guy does this little cute things, it's amazing atm, but it will poison your common sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 11:25 AM
8

"so they can go back to what they were doing". to...nothing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:15 AM
10

it doesn't really matter, but isn't he naked chilling in his bed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:15 PM
6

Yeah, I know. But back then I didn't know how to put it in words. Or was scared what they will think of me, because every one of them wanted to live with a guy. Should have known better, but I do now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 08:57 PM
14

2 years and not living together? I remember that when I had been dating my latest boyfriend for two years, all my girl friends couldn't understand why we weren't living together. I never knew what to say but I somehow felt it just wasn't right to live with a guy who wasn't my husband. It was sooo uncomfortable to answer those questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:12 PM
1

Internationl relations lol. But it's in use cause states basically tend to act like huge humans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:19 PM
1

i see. it really does differ depending on a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:15 PM
6

wow thank you! sounds like a pretty good idea to "cover" the dating thing this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:11 PM
23

Yesss, like hell yes. Love their dynamics!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:18 PM
19

it would be so funny, if it wasn't so tragic lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:14 PM
64

"you are my best homie, I'm serious man, please don't."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:12 PM
3

Classic case of overlooking the red flags because a guy is hot. not gonna blame you sis, sometimes it's difficult to come to our senses lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:39 PM
16

HVB lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:20 PM
37

That's what I was thinking about lately. I'm from Central Europe (culturally similiar to Eastern Europe). It's not really common to have many dates, basically dating around. I don't know anyone who's been casually dating. Usually they just meet the guy and stick with him until they get married or break up after few years. I'm 100% sure that if I'd date multiple guys at the same time, other people would consider that slutty, even HVM, because that's the way how this culture works, unfortunatelly.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:11 PM
30

"Other girls are normal because they sleep with me asap and therefore you aren't. You're strange and prude and frigid and you should change if you ever want a relationship." Can you believe it? And they do this all the time and so many girls and women start to really think that shit and doubt themselves. This kind of guys surely have a place reserved in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:13 AM
17

If you aren't sure if you are in a relationship or not, means you aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:36 PM
21

I did tell a guy that I liked him once and never again. It was a huge mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:33 PM
1

we are doomed lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:12 AM
3

my question is, why would HVM was single? I was thinking that maybe because he was cheated on, but why else? i'm starting to think all of them are already taken, especially guys in their 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:27 AM
11

I have this theory that people who love ungrateful ignorant people aren't really loving them, only their idea of them. Ask yourself why do you think you love him, or if it's really love. Once you figure it out, it will be easier to leave. I don't know any of you, but the thing you described as love might be actually only fear in disguise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:20 AM
16

How come that most men ain't endowed enough to reach a cervix? Isn't average vagina 3 to 6 inches long?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:08 AM
17

I even started to question my sexuality because it's honestly too bad out there. Why there aren't any hot guys anymore? Where they are at? I guess all the hot guys go straight to Holywood or idk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:00 AM
17

Been there done that. And why? Because I believed in that spiritual unconditional love crap. I used to be super into spirituality, meditation, yoga and stuff and thought that if I accepted all those negative things about him and provide my all, only then it's real love and selfless love. I think I was kinda brainwashed tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:27 PM
4

God, is there something like a pussy job? cause the term blow job is so accurate in its nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:23 PM
56

I wanted to know why the same pattern repeats over and over again. I'm a thinker and very curious about human psyché and it brought me here. Also I felt like I need a reason to break up with my bf, but somehow I couldn't because "he pulled a tick from my leg that time and he makes me laugh sometimes", and I should help him to overcome his depression and not let him down, overlooking the kingdom of red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 11:53 AM
12

When I talk about a new guy to a friend and use the superlatives only, she would raise her brows and ask: Are you sure? Not because he can't be all of this but because of my narratives. It means I'm loosing my control and have my pink glasses on 100%. It means I want to defend him in front of my very own eyes. So slow down and ask yourself whether he really is that great or you want him to be that great. I would be very sceptical for now. The Cardi B thing shouldn't be ignored ("but aside from t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:02 AM
22

I would think: "Poor girl". Sooner or later, she will be miserable as I was. Guys don't magically change with a new woman, that should be remembered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:48 AM
3

There are so many red flags in the movie that the movie itself should be called Red Flag lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:38 AM
5

Omg ouch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:30 AM
13

This. It's really how you described it. One day we just woke up and it was all gone. He stopped me kissing and hugging, I asked him what it is and he said that the passion of being in early relationship is gone and that it's normal and I should understand it. Can you believe I stayed with the guy 4 years afterwards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:25 AM
6

My female friend and I once visited our male friend. She couldn't help but to clean his toilet because there was tiny shit sticked inside. When she told him what she had done, he got angry lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:20 PM
61

some men couldn't even vote if their taxes wasn't above the certain number in some parts of the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:37 PM
4

wow, thank you for that. the worst thing is that it was good for nothing. The guy has graduated and can't find a job ever since, living out of his mom, refusing to treat his mental illness. but as many of us I loved him for his "potential", that's why I helped him in the first place. what were we thinking lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:22 PM
18

Apologized after HE offended or insulted me. Wrote his college essays because he was busy by "attending the classes" (while I worked full time). Cooking for him and travelling to his place regularly. Was his non paid shrink for years. Wrote his CV. Cried when he did me wrong, then apologized I'm being hysterical and asked him to forgive me. Reading the fucking books about how to be better person and how to be a good partner to a man. Was jealous of other girl's good partners and thought it must …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:19 PM
5

You did ! Omg I love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 11:23 AM
19

This applies as long as they think you don't enjoy sex. Once they realize you do, it all stops altogether and they avoid you like a plague lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:49 AM
9

I basically left my latest job because I was constantly told I should smile, even though I was really doing my best and smiled like a loon on loony tablets. Wasn't enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:41 AM
23

I wouldn't be suprised if his answer to this was: What date? I don't wanna date you. I just wanted to hang out. You're an uggo anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:33 PM
7

As other girls have already said, it can be trauma bonding, and it's really something like an addiction and you have to treat it like one. I've experienced something very similiar and this lockdown thing came in handy because I had to physically distance from him for 7 months already. I don't miss him anymore and I finally decided to break if off. I wasn't brave enough before, because I was, in fact, addicted to him. So my advice is: block him everywhere, don't check his location, maybe try to r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:23 PM
4

My soon to be ex used to rant about how his mom is the best woman on Earth, unselfish, willing to help him everytime, and that one day he'll make a bunch of money and give it back to her in a leather case lol. He would praise her like that for minutes. He never talked about me like that, not in the slightest. Even though my stupid former pickmeisha ass wrote his stupid college essays and he would never graduate if not because of me. God, how could I be so dumb?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:43 PM
4

Small Dick Energy allert!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:26 PM
31

Wish I had seen FDS 10 years ago, omg. I could have had peaceful 20s lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:20 PM
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