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I was just about to bring up the joint assets being used. I'd torch this dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 03:21 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:43 AM
65

That was so fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:05 AM
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Was just about to say that this bullshit is not worth it. They made their nest bed and they can lay in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 11:57 PM
84

Lol, no woman who was not repeatedly dropped as a child is going to cheat on an actual HVM. If she does then whoops, guess he's single again! Not his loss, a genuinely really good dude will not have an issue finding a woman to be with save for some maybe very weird circumstances. These guys are crabs in a pot, and WANT it to happen so the man is at least as miserable as they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:53 PM
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... In contrast with the female symbol that looks like a representation of a whole ass human being. Don't know the history behind those symbols, but they make sense. 💁‍♀️ ♀️ 💁‍♂️ 🍤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:56 PM
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feet first 🦶🦶 🩸🩸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:30 PM
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I think I disagree with this. I'm sure that the conclusions you've come to have some truth, but IME it is harder if you are "unattractive". I guess it depends on what your definition of unattractive is, and what your definition of an easier life is. I look radically different than I did at any point in my life. I went from slim, feminine and very pretty (this is not me saying this!) to very muscular and ""d**e-ish"" looking. My face is the same, as in nothing has changed, but the rest of the cos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:18 AM
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It's such BS, because you can often trace their own, or like a quarter of random users on this damn site, accounts back to MRA or MRA-esque forums, TRP and MGTOW when they were still up... They sometimes get called out but it's more rare, IME. It's almost always after they spew hateful shit, from misogyny to disturbing neo-nazi manifesto ramblings. No one here is doing that, lmao, it's only when someone doesn't like a point you made, civilly, in a discussion forum. I rarely ever go through someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 03:47 PM
14

He even wave his thing around my direction asking me help him. I screeched EW. Probably because I had flashbacks, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 06:28 PM
11

A lot of these are flat out rape and sexual assault. Shitty that we have to talk about it under the coercion umbrella.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 06:25 PM
59

I wouldn't say that was a mistake in that case! How exactly did that mortar bullet sound whizzing by your ear?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:16 PM
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IMO, it's pretty telling that after decades of being in traditionally male and mixed sex spaces, after all the effort and pain to have the Privilege and Rights to do so, and women are starting to want separate spaces. It's not many, but it's certainly growing. I love it, but the fact that at least in the US (even considering our short history on a global scale) that it really hasn't lasted all that long is telling as to how detrimental it can be to have no real choice but to be in those spaces. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:31 PM
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like the guy who invented labia glue because he thinks we have periods because our vaginas are mouthbreathers. Pardon me?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:02 PM
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(and if the legal age of consent wasn't there, they'd probably be going for 16-year-olds) They absolutely 1,000,000% would, and all you have to do is look at nations where it is as low as 12, or practically nonexistant. Hello, middle east and other likewise misogynistic and femicidal countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:48 PM
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What? LMFAO they were right about the crazy aspect. That was some of the stupidest shit I've ever read and I have scoured the internet. They're both crazy because this contract is ridiculous. If you need to draft up a contract for a boyfriend (they made it a whole year!!) at the relationship's conception so that expectations can be met you are in a shit relationship, and if it is due to trauma from a previous one you have some shit to sort out on a personal level if it screwed you up so much tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 10:38 PM
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Aight, so do not take it out on me. You continued to go along with people that uninvited you for an even party number, in which case I don't understand why someone couldn't have dropped out and went with you if numbers mattered. Your entire story was filled with Low Value^TM people and other people have pointed out as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:56 PM
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I don't really understand any of this. Why are you friends with any of these people? I understand the sentiment of your story, and it didn't bypass me, it's just that I have no clue why you let your friends, who are also the toxic ones, treat you like this. Like, I can't imagine ever even breathing in the same direction to someone who pulled that BS that your friend did. They uninvited you? What the fuck I'd never speak to these people again. Your paragraph at the end, is scrotes in reference to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:04 AM
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Shit's so fucked up with the war stories we see on reddit that I initially read this as "in" and not "on", and almost continued to scroll past... cuz I just didn't even want to even read that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 06:53 PM
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Imagine a man changing their kids nappy and getting flashbacks of porn instead. Ew. Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:42 PM
156

"I'd often lay there, sticky..." Fucking ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 07:00 PM
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They do not give a shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:28 PM
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Genuinely prepare for violence to increase and realistically realize that YOU may very likely be a target or victimized by it, especially if you meet a lot of random and lots of men through dating even just very, very casually. Anybody reading this. This shit even makes it to the news on television. That's bad. It is important enough to broadcast it to the whole nation that more SINGLE MEN are out there than ever and how lonely they are. They're reporting on the emotions and not just factual num…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:20 AM
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including having a child at 8 months on purpose That is so fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:47 PM
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Suffragetes are rolling in their graves. I'd think they'd slap the shit out of some of these girls and women who do this and call themselves empowered, unironically. Like that old school Batman and Robin meme. Social exclusion to arrest, to physical beatings to murder and this is where we are now, with being the freest we have ever been. I really just check out of reality a good amount of the time for my own mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:33 PM
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Lmfao, that won't even cover utilities in a lot of places unless you live by candlelight at night and shower with a gallon of water. Should I dig a trench to shit in so I can afford to live on my OF budget? The women that groom, yeah GROOM, girls into this shit need to burn. That is exploitative as fuck and I see it in the same realm as women that work for pimps and try to "recruit" other girls and women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:26 PM
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I think it was hijacked decades ago. Sex Positivity could have gone the way of not being ashamed to enjoy sex in your own damn marriage, and I think that was the point, actually, but our biological spambot, Trojan horse males took it over to get women to think that they're empowered by fucking more men and in more degrading manners. Not even increasing female pleasure, just more sex for men. Money shots and anal are the norm. This isn't about women anymore and hasn't been for a long, long, long …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:21 PM
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I was on a thread in collapse, I repeat, the COLLAPSE sub, and the discussion was something about lifestyle changes or some shit, or what careers you could have to be self sufficient. Some dipshit commented "OnlyFans", and a scrote chimed in with, "they're even taking that away from us!" Lol, fuck this world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:11 PM
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I lived out of my car very recently and a tent for a little bit. Thankfully at state parks. Jesus I'm not sure which was worse with the thunderstorms and literally hanging out in the vestibule area of my tent to keep the rainfly down because of a tornado watch level wind about to rip it out of the ground. I have a huge Mastiff with me who growls at strangers who get too close so it helps considerably. I worked as an EMT at a sobering center in a huge city downtown a few years ago. The males were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:50 PM
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it's good that he decided to hang out 3 guitars he cannot play. God damn. 😂 I had a BF 6 years ago that like... frantically strummed the guitar with only the vaguest amount of rhythm. Like a kid, it was weird and hard to describe. He also made this weird face where he pursed his lips real hard with the beat of the song (I think he made it up??) and stared me right in the eyes the whole time while simultaneously bobbing his head back and forth like he was bobbing for apples. It was fucking weird …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:25 PM
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"Perhaps I should just rescue a dog instead" Thank you for telling us your option B, if the Plan A human female sex slave doesn't pan out. They're oh so closely related.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:15 PM
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He snatched up plan Z before plans A-Y failed with teh 1 bIlLiOn ladyz. Actually really conniving on his end; most guys even on this level don't actually truly think all hope is lost with finding someone better than their safety net. If one comes along, he's out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:25 PM
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It's not as if he'd be an even mediocre father if he retreats into a broom closet to play video games, and is PISSED that his girlfriend dare seek out his company. Doubt if the dude hates his girlfriend this much that he'd Step Up and Be a Man and actually care for his children, and NOT do the same shit he is now and just with extra bitching to his friends about how he feels so tied down. People rarely rise to the occasion. This goes for SHTF situations and personal responsibility. If you don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:22 PM
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Is it in the water? Is this the end effect of fluoride?? Were the 5G conspiracy theorists right?? Does covid melt your prefrontal cortex?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:15 PM
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"is totally into me, I can tell, mate" 🤠 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:12 PM
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All you need to do is see the eyes, the facial expression, and his posture. He fucking hates her. Forget his actual words and tone. Can't be good for your psyche to have a man fuck you while he hates you. Because it's NOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:10 PM
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And the Pickme asked, why did you pick me... Living up to the name in the most literal sense possible, besides raising her hand like a kid in class wanting to get picked to answer a question. He is a POS, but damn, she isn't doing herself any favors. I don't know how you COULD respect someone like that. If I had a guy, and he was filming me for tiktok, asking me why I picked him... the attraction would diminish pretty damn fast. He sighed, oh my God, like his mom walked in his room and he is fif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:02 PM
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Seriously. The sense of humor is chefs kiss amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:57 PM
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Thank you much for your response 🙏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:57 PM
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I'd say it's counterintuitive to their biology of wanting to have a wife to have sex and reproduce with, but it seems like it's just Darwinism doing the Lord's work at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:59 PM
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Help you work through your insecurities LMFAO. 🤢🤮🚮 Edit, could you maybe elaborate more on the severing of your spiritual bond? I am very interested in hearing about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:56 PM
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"but we don't nEeD fEmInIsM anymore!!!1" Make no mistake, everyone, the ONLY reason why this doesn't happen in western nations is because the rules for our game are different. Remove them, or change them to be the shithole that is Afghanistan, and this is what will happen, and it would happen so fast your head would spin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:53 PM
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And that is ESTIMATED. They ballparked his age like a feral animal they captured and don't know how old it is. That is a hard forty, at any rate. They sure do know her age, and made sure of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:49 PM
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Oh my God, I had no clue that is what it was like. How in the fuck could anyone ever think that doing that is a good idea? They find out when they go to apply for it, and they see all those invasive requirements, and still continue?! There are tons of women in GW or any other porn sub that won't even post their fucking face, or they'll blur it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:31 AM
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I personally don't care for watching movies, but I'd drop money to sit in a movie theater with a hundred other assholes to watch that drama on screen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:21 AM
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What the fuck?!?! Do you happen to know the name for this? Holy shit. How do corpses have specific STDs? I hope she didn't have long term complications. I have so many questions I don't even know if I want answered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:14 PM
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Also, to the smooth brain who said I was hypocritical, but who was graciously reported and removed -Nothing I said was hypocritical, in the slightest. -Maybe stop identifying with serial killers and those who are like minded. Thanks for outing yourself, dunce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:35 PM
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They like femininity and submission. It's the centerpiece of their attraction to females. Put some decent amount of muscle on her, a give no fucks attitude, anything remotely diminishing performative and forced femininity and the attraction decreases at best or at worse induces rage. In my experience that's been the case with most guys even in the west, forget a third world shithole where the rules for their game are different. Meanwhile I've hardly ever seen a lesbian or a bisexual woman have s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:34 PM
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It's not always about the upbringing. I would say it more often isn't. They could be given a harem of women and they could still be like this. If it's to this level they're fucking wired like this. Not every serial killer would have been fine if he had parents who loved him and not every kid with a shitty, awful, nightmarish upbringing does this shit. Especially not the girls and women. It's the dudes, beyond overwhelmingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:24 PM
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We always have been. They have have a global platform now, and women are getting sick of this shit and not wanting anything to do with them. Chimping out, because this is what a chimpanzee would do. I don't know how he expects to get laid, ever again, after that. He can't be an appealing person IRL, anyway. Anyone who says that shit online and especially in a video can't hide that shit for too long. You gotta have vile vibes that only the most beyond naive would immediately pick up on, on some l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:20 PM
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Goddamn, fucking YES. Everyone wants to go on about the "rights" of choice feminism, but absolutely no one talks about the massive public health risk. In a world of covid, along with the covid reaction, you'd think people would give a shit about something so simple and obvious to be concerned about, but no. Those poor wives and girlfriends. Edit STI/STD testing weekly would get pricey, too. It's not like they have a job that provides them with insurance for that purpose or workers comp. I don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:57 PM
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Holy shit 🤣😂😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:52 PM
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It’s not “guns and mental health”, it’s male violence and entitlement. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:08 PM
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This is so disgusting and awful, and someone else pointed this out, but 14 would have been an... "upgrade"... she wasn't even an adolescent, she was a little girl at 10 years old. Like, fourth or fifth grade. For like, Playboy. I'm not even googling her name because fuck that, I already read enough about that. One of the largest pornographic production companies (printed) in the world, had a ten year old girl in it. This is the world we live in. Also, "If it's under 18, do it in your head!" 😲🤢🤮🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:47 PM
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Do you happen to remember what he said, even along those lines? Anything else he told you? Lol I love it when they are actually honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:26 PM
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Every sentence right here. They're also the actual whores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:09 AM
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I highly resented my last ex, one example, because he literally had my age on me- I was in my early twenties at the time. He got to do everything I had not had the chance to do because I was IN MY EARLY TWENTIES. I felt like I was being held back in so much life experience. Had another similar feeling with another one but it wasn't as acute in my resentment because he was younger than my aforementioned one and also just had a different personality. I literally just wanted to travel domestically.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:37 AM
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I became profoundly mentally unhealthy after a NVX with all of that shit testing bullcrap. All the damn time. It is so fucking sociopathic, antisocial, whatever you want to call it, to do that shit to anyone, but especially your SO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:50 PM
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That sub is so depressing, but a stark wake-up call for anyone that still even has the slightest rose colored tint to their glasses. There's a whole website dedicated to this, I believe it is called ScaryMommy, or something. The stepparents sub as well for anyone even remotely considering dating and especially marrying a man with children. Thankfully I did not marry him but goddamn that was a wild ride. He lied to me about the severity of his kids high needs profound mental illness and was "Mr. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:28 PM
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FDS is like a union for women Love it, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:20 PM
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It does a ton of damage to you to stay when unhappy. You end up gaslighting yourself thinking you are the problem, and waste years of your youth because iT cOuLd Be WoRsETM fuck that shit. It is something that often times only months and months or even years of therapy can undo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:08 PM
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Wow, what a great story that was. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:29 AM
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God damn that actually slipped passed me, I won't lie. I was scratching my head for a few seconds wondering what the issue was, until I started thinking what you wrote and immediately saw your comment afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:44 PM
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I have no clue why you are down voted into the negatives, and I can only think it is because it is easier to believe that he is really just delusional because he is sick in the head from porn or some shit. I think it is very likely he was just being a controlling POS. I think both are possibilities, but I do not think we should totally negate the possibility of him NOT just being an oaf-ish dunce. Not sure which is better at this point because at the end of the day he still wants to commit statu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:20 PM
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Since I'm a hulking beast of a woman with a massive RBF, it usually worked. Muscle women representing!! 🤙 It's nice. I don't get too comfortable out and about but it is nice to feel somewhat better about the physical imbalances and how they usually try to bully us with it. I'm still groggy this morning so this may seem more of a stark realization now than it normally would, but it just actually dawned on me that it comes down to the physical power imbalance and that's why I'm so neurotic about m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:08 PM
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I read once someone saying “my therapist told me “you don’t have social anxiety, you’re just hanging out w the wrong people.” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Being around terrible people can destroy the accuracy of your sense/interpretation of your own intuition. Which is really shitty if you think about it for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:00 PM
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Yeah, I was... wondering about that myself. Unless other women picked him up themselves to fuck. Which is disgusting. Although, the GF dropping him off to hookup with other women would dial up the vomiting to projectile levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:13 PM
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It's only for easy sex that they're socially liberal or ""feminist"", and it is LibFem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:26 AM
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Yeah it's the context that gets me. What a clown world we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 09:31 PM
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Holy crap, thank you for noticing that! You could have gotten that shit at Walmart in the teen swimwear section.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:22 PM
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Love the last paragraph and especially the last sentence. Gyms can be super toxic. Mountain biking is fun, swimming, jump rope, exercise trampoline (either the big outside ones or the indoor ones which are fun as hell, and it's also indoors so not weather dependent), etc., are some fun alternatives to get you connected to your body. OP get a set of gymnastic rings if you want a real good work out and have fun at the same time while getting connected with your body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:36 AM
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I love my daily black pill. Never missed a dose thus far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:12 PM
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Don't forget, "I forgot my wallet" Yeah, an adult human being on a first date didn't do the phone/wallet/keys pat down before leaving the house, on their way to a first date where you kind of really NEED a wallet. Haven't see a submission statement by OP but I haven't scrolled very far in the comments. I don't know what sub this is, but if it is not FDS and is just a more "regular" dating sub then I'm so extra happy that she turned down his kiss and ignored his texts blowing up her phone for a t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:50 PM
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I hope you didn't eat any food they brought back out afterwards, and just left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:35 PM
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NEVER. EVER. let looks deceive you. The intelligent ones (IQ > Room Temperature) often use it to their advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:57 AM
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... What a wonderful answer. Holy crap. Last paragraph was a pleasant surprise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:46 AM
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I'm sorry you went through that. ❤ I am happy you got to experience genuine love and know your worth, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:43 AM
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Hey fuckface 💀☠💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:47 PM
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They're making a choice. They're not victims. They actually look down on women whose self-respect is too high to live like that because they value what they get out of it more than what they lose. These women let themselves be drained for everything it brings them, then they turn around and drain you if you let them. And you get no status, no money, nothing. I stay the hell away from these vampires. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:42 PM
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If she is a western woman, she 100% has choice in how many children she has. To act like she doesn't is disingenuous, infantilizing horseshit. Based on the context sounds more than two. Should have thought things through a little more before bringing sentient beings into this world if you didn't plan on it. I don't have any sympathy for this lady. As if this shit hasn't happened for, literally, thousands of years, and she's just shocked that it happened to her, and has a surprised Pikachu face w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:52 AM
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Am I the only person here who found the quote, "I never intended to have so many children" so fucking stupid, to the point of transcending ridiculousness? Humans of New York, she is located in the US? I want to clarify this before continuing on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 01:55 PM
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Holy fuck I just snorted so hard it actually hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:26 AM
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What is the real reason why you are afraid to keep your door unlocked at night or why you hesitate to maybe take a walk at dark? The same applied to men? The answer is clear, but for some reason, we all feel the need to add an addendum of, "well I know that not ALL are like this, but..." Like shit let's just stop it I'm so sick of it. Yeah we all know there are individual exceptions to a rule, most people with more than two brain cells to rub together, with at least a partially developed prefron…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:48 PM
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I think the author of this quote worked as a prostitute, like street walker prostitute, not some college girl OF sex work, so I understand where she is coming from. She's seen a side that most of us have not seen and likely wouldn't ever, unless we were somehow on a similar path or in similar situations. She didn't have the good fortune of knowing good men at all, even her own stepfather, so her perspective is absolutely valid because it is another female experience. I would never expect this au…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:35 PM
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Fat male versus female comedians comes to mind. He can be unfunny as fuck and he will still have a fan base and somehow manage to not receive death and rape threats/wishes (same difference, I guess...). If you're a fat female comedian you better be funny as fuck, and funny in the opinion of males, otherwise you're a useless sack of shit that just needs to disappear, I guess. God help you if you're over thirty-five or... gasp...forty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:14 PM
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There are a lot more men that are rapists than we would like to realize and that they would ever admit, at least in a space where they know women would hear or see such confessions and admissions. While we have come a bit with progress as far as thinking it is some random in the bushes to where we realize that is actuality the rarity, obviously, and it IS obvious, being in pain, frightened, rigid, or dissociating and continuing to "have sex" with the person in that state is fucking rape. Which w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:24 PM
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An ex had me have sex with him four times in one night. Well, actually, there were two that did that, but the formerly mentioned was an actual relationship. That shit FUCKING. HURTS. I've had only one man ask me if I was okay because my face is often contorted during sex because of pain. I was aware of it, I would just try to hide it. Put things into perspective. I supress a lot of stuff. I had to stop smoking because I'd have a flashback, usually things of this nature, and it would almost liter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:09 PM
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Haha did you read TYP? The "makes the dudes dudes" comment made me think. Very good piece. Sounds like it was from a section on the paper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:02 PM
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It is incomplete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:38 AM
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Thank you for your response. My issue was that the verbiage of the whole section came across as... well, having a man lead you within your relationship, and you come across as unpalatable if you... don't? It's an odd phrase to use if the intent is literally just let him plan, pay, and carry my heavy shit to see if he has drive, and actually gives a shit, before I invest too much into him. However, what was said was said and what was said was meant with the repulsive comment and having to tone ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:52 AM
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I suppose that I would also fall in the category of soft butch. Without the influence of women in my life and my peers, boy and girl, I am sure I would have just been butch if I had grown up either in a world where gender roles were not assigned based on biology, or if I had been raised by like a pair of lesbians, or just two women somehow partnered that just let me be, or even het parents that did. Lol. It took me until my early-mid twenties to chop my hair off that has been a Pain. In. My. Ass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:12 AM
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So, I'm not sure how we can go from the OP of that post and OP of this post stating that women who act "masculine" are considered repulsive and dominant to a "HVM" but you can carry on to say, Some women might think that a woman letting a man do the heavy lifting of courtship is being feminine, submissive or passive but it’s only because so many women have been groomed to believe that they need to show up for a stranger as an equal partner. No, just no. So if a woman does not let a man "lead", s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:06 PM
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Incredibly excellent and well explained post that goes more into detail about how some women might have difficulty accepting to NOT go 50-50. Those 50-50 gals tend to behave more masculine which tends to repulse those men that don't do 50-50, which happens so frequently, and that in dating some women HAVE to tune down their dominance in the dynamic to see if the man proves himself to be someone that is to be catered to (50-50 guys) or someone that leads. It may be incredibly difficult to accept …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:31 PM
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What the fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:24 AM
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My next dog I am wanting a Great Dane. I love big dogs, don't know if I can ever go back below 60 or so pounds. My baby's not even a year old and he is weeeeeell above that, himself. He's a mushy baby when he gets to know you, but obviously does his job when he doesn't know you. An all-around mush might be best for the next one, haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:38 PM
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Cane Corsos, too, but they're typically not the... run and hide kind. They need a lot of training, though, and for a long duration. But they're unbelievably loyal and loving to their owner/parent/whatever you consider yourself. Edit- also CC are pretty active/you should keep them active, so I have not idea why I chimed in. Lol. I just saw a big dog discussion and I ran over here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:02 PM
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What the fuck ew. Only with one intact guy (rare in my country), but he was very clean, but I have heard the horror stories. The horrible things that could happen from that petri dish being pushed in you. I do often wonder how we managed to have sex before the hygienic practices we have implemented today without us dying from infections. Certainly could not practice your libfem SexPos lifestyle that's for sure, that would be even riskier than it is now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:35 PM
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You do need therapy to get over it. Professionally sought or self care. That doesn't change that you need help getting over it. You taking the comment in a negative way is on you. Edit- and, yeah, I'm not big on that victim mentality. Fuck that bullshit. Western women- get over it and realize that you have more opportunities for freedom, or as close to freedom as we will likely get without mass separation, than we ever have, and have currently on a global level. I'm so over these excuses of soci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:46 AM
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I literally, in every sense of the word, cannot fathom giving the most miniscule, microscopic iota of a single fuck about what they think. Anyone that gives the slightest shit about what an entire group that globally murders, rapes, and genuinely oppresses and exploits in every single way they can possibly come up with, and continues to try to top the previous day with what nightmare fuel they did to the remaining 51% of the population that they depend on to survive up to and including genetical…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:05 AM
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The unfortunate part is that his genetic legacy continues to carry on. 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:18 AM
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I'm not sure about genetic defects for young mothers, but the mortality rate for girls who give birth in their teens is much, much higher than women who are more mature and have grown into their adult form, mid twenties and later. I read somewhere recently, I will have to find it, that teenage girls are more likely to have boys. Have to look for that study. If that is true, someone correct me if they happen to know otherwise, that could also be an explanation as to why they often have predatory …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:01 AM
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This world is so unnatural it is beyond disgusting. I don't date men anymore, but I am eagerly awaiting, on pins and needles, the day the actual shift happens. I say day, because I do think we will feel it in the air, I can already feel it happening bit by bit. Pickmes and their men are becoming more and more rabid, but we are starting to not even feed into their shit so they don't drain our energy, because they're all vampires, even these stupid Twitter wars. JUST. STOP. IT. They all get off on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:27 PM
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This is one of the best comments I have ever seen on here. I really enjoy seeing the perspectives of women who live in quote unquote third world shit holes, because they're overwhelmingly more realistic. The reason why FDS can exist in the west is because the rules for our game are different. Make no mistake that if feminism as a concept were to be repealed somehow, we would be tossed back several hundred years at best. They don't act the way that the men do in your country do because it is not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:40 PM
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You have more grit, determination, and strength than all western women in this thread combined that make excuse after excuse after excuse. As much as a stranger can properly convey feeling for someone else's situation and let the emotion actually show, I am sorry that you're in such a shitty predicament, and I resent the entire situation. I do wish that there was a way that I could genuinely assist you, but I do not even know where to begin to help people in actual oppressive cultures; it's diff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:38 PM
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Ah, I usually assume most people here are western of some sort. More oppressive cultures I have much sympathy for. I personally can't imagine what it is truly like, and it is because of that I do not want to know in its entirety because I hate suffering, I just appreciate my own freedom that I was lucky enough to be born into solely based off of geographical location. Western women have no excuses, it makes zero sense for a western woman to complain about makeup and continue to wear it anyway. O…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:42 AM
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I hate that we have to wear make up. We don't...? What jobs are you referring to? There are select positions that I can see, silently or not, enforcing that shitty standard, but I have never had that issue in my entire career life. It has literally never even crossed my mind up until a few weeks ago when I saw this topic floating around, because I guess I never paid attention to it. I don't shave, either, and have my hair very, very short. I am aware that I work in male dominated fields, but eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:50 PM
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This isn't related at all to the subject at hand, but your username is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:27 PM
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Yeah every BF i had, if I cut my hair while with them, they would venture into cardiac arrest. If I cut it I go from long, or rather long, to shoulder length prior to my current style. Usually they know ahead of time save for just one occasion so it's not a surprise. The last guy yelled "what did you do!" after I cut it. He said he loved long hair but it was pulling teeth to get him to groom his beard or his own hair and he was balding but would let parts grow out without maintaining it, so it w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:24 AM
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Yeah, it acts as a pretty decent filter, IMO. I was mildly insecure at first but I don't think about it anymore unless I'm reminded by something like this post. Lol. I actually feel exponentially more confident after a few months of having it; it fits my personality much more, and I've always hated having long hair, anyway- were you ever guilt-tripped into keeping it long or after the hair cut, because it looked "so pretty"? The more ""unfeminine"" I am, the more pragmatic I am about the entire …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:46 AM
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I believe it also affects sperm quality. That should be one of the top reasons to avoid the users. I had an ex that had the bladder of a small child self admittedly and was pornsick, so that makes sense from my anecdotal experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:40 AM
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I got a more masculine hair cut (for a woman, not a pixie, sides shaved/faded), and watched the attention disappear overnight; I previously had long hair to my mid back. For women who are not attached to long hair and genuinely want to see the shift, I recommend it. It's not foolproof but it works well, especially if you use it in combination with other first impression factors that are inherently not performatively feminine. Edit- your comment about James Charles is evidence that it is more abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:26 AM
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It is beyond unreal how much my attraction has gone down after being objective about them as a whole. It is actually difficult to do so, and at this point I would have to make the conscious decision to let attraction grow, and that would be due to personality/character. I feel the energy change once they see that you're standoff-ish and completely uninterested. I feel like most are used to women being at least somewhat warm or kind towards them, particularly young women. I am in no way rude, at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:19 AM
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Yes, I totally agree with your instinct point. It does suck, because we are socialized to ignore it. If this sub wants to talk about socialization, we should focus more on female socialization- these dudes are dudes and will dude until the end of time, but our gut feeling is there for a reason, and it is so evil that we are gaslit into ignoring it, even to our own demise sometimes. With both of those guys there was that gut feeling, but the theater was just so convincing that of course I'm the o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:43 AM
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I had two that did that and they both still ended up being shady af, because they thought they had my trust and guard down, which they did. It is absolutely a tactic that they use, and it's the more intelligent (liberal usage...) psychopaths that think to do it instead of your window-licking variety. Both were your last sentence to a T until I found what I did, and they both gaslit the holy hell out of me. One I saw the picture pop up right in front of both of us and he lied about if for about f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:54 AM
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And men are getting seriously sloppy in 2021. Yes, what is causing this?? I thought it was just me. Is this age of Aquarius applicable to their BS and we are just seeing it for what it is, or are they genuinely goofing up more and getting sloppy/ier?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:38 AM
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This is definitely one of the most spot on comments. Personally, the feeling of realizing it just about literally over-night (okay, maybe a week or two) was just like... holy fuck. Women in age gap relationships really are just about unreachable, that's also from many different personal experiences. My mom literally giving zero shits about my beyond risky and transcending dangerous behavior with men that should have SCREAMED intervention did not help, at all. Both my parents, really, but my mom …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:33 AM
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Lol, fuck off with your pick a lane bullshit. We could have been civil but nah. 🙃🖕 If they want to be seen as protectors they better act like them- otherwise, shut the fuck up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:19 AM
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Environmental factors certainly do not help and I have read a lot of diffefent studies over the past several years of sperm counts tanking. I do not know if this is global, though. Also something about women actually being stronger than their mothers and foremothers, and men now being weaker than their fathers and forefathers as far as bench press and grip strength were concerned. I believe the frogs were technically changing to females from males because of the estrogen levels so Alex Jones was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:46 AM
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Yes, isn't it lovely that your man sees you as beautiful and as an equal once he stops consuming the human sex and trafficking industry. 🥰 Pathetically enough, there are loads of women who find these moldy breadcrumbs to be a sign of progress in their relationship, and sticking by their partner through the trials of removing porn from their lives to be all worth it. That is until they relapse like seventeen days later or some shit. Maybe a year if they're sneaky enough to not have been caught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:41 AM
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And of fucking course it hasn't mattered, doesn't matter, and won't matter until they collectively realize it breaks their dicks- hello, No Fap. What a world. 💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:35 AM
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The military is absolutely infested with shitbags. It's why I hate the generalized TYFYS mentality with assuming that everyone that was in was a decent human being or even went in with altruistic purposes. I knew a lot of males that were in so they could, verbatim, legally kill people. Even a someone with a dishonorable discharge can tell people that he was in the service and hey would be none the wiser unless they themselves were in and pressed him for enough info that he shows his hand. It wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:55 PM
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I do blame them, after blaming the gunman. I've put myself at risk of massive bodily harm protecting a dude at work from a schizophrenic homeless man, no excuse. There's an issue with people in general not taking a mob mentality and using that in situations like this where it would actually be beneficial, but that's a whole other discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:46 PM
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What in the actual ever loving fuck. Yeah, okay, that's it, straw that broke the camel's back of any inkling for the slightest benefit of the doubt I had towards "protector" role. As an example, I always hear one of the responses to women in combat being that the men would want to protect the women. L-o-fucking-l. That is one of the most disgusting things I've read in a while, and I'm subbed to Noah Get The Boat. Do you happen to know how many men were in the class? Do you think it is in any way…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:43 PM
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You're probably stunning, sis! I'm sure most of the users on this sub are! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:06 PM
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Wow that was my experience! It was when I was elementary aged to maybe middle school, but yeah my nails would chip so easily, I had a cold every other month it was like clock work, hair shedding... though, I didn't have an ED at the time, not that I can remember, at least. I hated the image of what was popular for women's bodies, when I was old enough to notice at least, from like maybe 2005-... now, I guess. Even within the fitness realm to this day there is more of an emphasis on your thighs a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:42 PM
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That's so surreal to think that an entire generation has psychological trauma from starvation/chronic real risk of starvation. I will say though that if you search for images of Great Depression women, they look tough as hell. I'd love to speak to one but they're all gone, I think? If they were of age when it began, at least, and they would have also had at least their teen years in the roaring 20s. I wonder how that would have psychologically affected them with that transition to food. I would …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:47 AM
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The Deprogrammer on YT has content addressing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:43 PM
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😳 Does anyone else get annoyed with one partner acts like the other is their bro? Kicking it with beers, chillin', refillin' that som'bitch pepper grinder? That's how I maybe maybe would be with a 100% platonic male friend when I was in my early 20s. Please don't act like wannabe frat boys, they don't actually think that you're cool or one of the boys, if you'd want such a curse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:53 PM
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It was the "God given" part purposefully in quotes and the country music talking about baptizing with holy water or some shit that got me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:34 PM
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Theres a quote by a radfem out there, the name escapes me, but it is something along the lines of how when a woman is even experiencing sexual pleasure she is experiencing it through the male gaze through her own eyes, or in her own head, or something. How many of us used to put on a porn star or porn star-esque act to both please the men we were with in bed and to try to out do other women in a pick-me haze? I mean I definitely know that in my younger years I was super guilty of that; it wasn't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:20 PM
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I really wanna cry when I look at my past. 😣 You're not alone trust me. I think it's rare to find a woman or a girl that hasn't been through some level and variation of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:23 PM
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Sometimes it feels like men as a group are laughing and mocking us behind our backs, high-fiving each other that they actually tricked us into selling ourselves. Yes this does actually happen. How stupid must libfem, kink positive women look to them? Profoundly. It is stupid because of how clownish we look revolving our lives around them and putting on a literal performance for them when reality screams to stop yesterday. If sharing or leaking nudes, something they support women giving to them o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:19 PM
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This man you don't know isn't "a king" of any kind lmao. I would never label any damn man a king I don't care what the context is. That is gross and I don't give a shit if that upsets anyone. It is both worrying and bothersome that all it takes is a well worded tweet or some heartstring pulling forty-five second video for that to happen. I don't know what's up with that weird shit. This place used to be way more ruthless around a year and a half ago. I do see other guys call each other kings for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:19 AM
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He finally got the lowest level misdemeanor for one of them as a terroristic threat but didn’t see a day in jail until he got caught committing a felony against an animal. ... Fucking... wow. I will go on record and say that I overwhelmingly typically prefer animals to humans, but that's pretty vile right there. Glad to know where we stand. :D 🤡🌏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:49 PM
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A human boy is not born with intentions and natural desires to rape other humans. ... Yes, there can be. I am not missing your point, rather I am arguing against it, because I disagree. This study of Juvenile Sex Offenders conducted by the Office of Juvenile and Deliquency Prevention in December 2009 found the following: -juvenile sex offenders comprise of greater than 1/3 (35.6%) of those known to police to commit offenses against minors. -they are more likely to be carried out in groups than a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:34 PM
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Thank you much for the link. I liked the spin of menopause from being something dreaded to something that can be liberating if you do not succumb to the pressures of viewing yourself as useless now that you cannot reproduce. The hallmark femininity is still seen as pregnancy and childbirth, which is bothersome that it still happens today. I'm actually personally looking forward to those years. Not in a rush, I like being physically capable, but not only will it mean that I actually made it in a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:16 PM
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... What? That is not evidence. Where is your evidence that males have not been abusive and predatory since the beginning? How do you account for women and girls having the exact same access to high speed internet pornography and not mimicking the same behaviors, that we do not get off on the same content even if the roles are reversed, that they are naturally able to find it arousing and enjoy it? That women do not obsess with males beginning puberty as soon as they are able to ejaculate so the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:30 PM
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There is a massive reluctance to even entertain that thought. That doesn't happen as traditional practice in, say, the US, because the rules for our game are different. Socialization is a more comforting thought, because there is hope for change. I've never had one person in the history of me ever asking who is doing the socialization and who would have started it in the first place answer directly. I just did, so I'm curious as to what the response will be. Make no mistake, if the AOC/majority …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:42 PM
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Conditioned by who? I assume your reference to conditioning is the porn being what is destroying men and boys argument, and "socializing" them into this. What is your evidence of conditioning being a factor for this? This shit has been going on since day zero and every single piece of my evidence is every sex crime committed against girls and women that has been going on as far back as we can go in written history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:30 PM
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Yes please, along with the underage girl appreciation crowd. It's hard to tell tone over text sometimes, but I hope that wasn't meant literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:24 PM
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The couples who get together young and manage to stay happy throughout their lives are very few. So, this may just be verbal diarrhea, what I'm about to go on, but I do wonder why bodies mature so much faster than our brains, and I ask this because of situations like this. Is it because, historically, partnering used to be for reproductive purposes and more as a business arrangement for property, money, etc., versus the newer development of marrying for romantic love, and we didn't live as long …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:59 PM
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Oof. Thank you for that painful reminder of past idiocy. Lol. 🤡 What an absolute circus act that was. 🎪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:32 AM
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but even then she still acknowledges that porn is also a big contributor to men’s growing inability to enjoy regular sex and increasing ED levels. Karma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:49 AM
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Cue right wing men griping that feminism is destroying society and, worst of all, the Nuclear Family^TM . Because the nuclear family is supposedly the base of society, and it toes the given moral line, and is enforced from generation to generation as the ideal, particularly and harshly with the girls. Maybe don't have the nuclear family as your only line of defense for making sure society doesn't crumble. Somehow, life was more manageable with an extended family, and after that, a community that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:41 PM
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Guys I've dated have never cared. Some even think it's kind of cool. Same here, for the wardrobe, but for whatever reason, the hair has been the boundary, in my experience. They get accustomed to it, but the shock at me choosing a different hairstyle is pretty telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:23 PM
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I'm masculine to the point of being read as male 95% of the time Do you mind sharing some of what your wardrobe looks like? I love the look. I'm single so I love making the change, it is liberating. Faded the sides of my hair with a bit on top that I put in a super short pony tail, it is pretty masculine looking, for a woman, and I am super happy. I couldn't stop rubbing my head the first couple of weeks, lol. I maybe want the top cut to a 4 but any hairdresser is super hesitant. It is pretty fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:19 AM
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YEEEEES, that term, HCBM. I wonder if you frequent the same sub that I do. Considering how completely and utterly shit those bio dads are in that sub, and it is overwhelmingly women there, I'd say a good nine women to every one man, and that's probably being very generous, how many step moms are experiencing a "HCBM" because their SO is a shit coparent and partner, and they're just stuck in an awful, toxic triangle, because that sub-standard bio-dad theme is the norm over norm over there. Edit: …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:52 PM
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It was nothing more than a territorial “claim” akin to a dog pissing on a tree. You are spot on with that, which is why I wish this woman had actually gone through with the abortion. At least there wouldn't be a human being, through no fault of his own but being forced to exist, is resented by his POS father, I won't even give him the respect of calling him a dad. Although, you just know that he would play that victim card for the rest of his life, and very likely try to trap another woman/girl …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:54 PM
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Thank you very much for that recommendation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:57 AM
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Could have sworn in was mc hammer unless he did a cover? If I search "big butts mc hammer" it comes up but I don't know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:30 PM
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Loveafterporn is SO fucking depressing and infuriating, because of the injustice of it all. Most of that shit is flat out emotional abuse, and not an ounce less. Venture over there if you ever doubt if you're being too harsh with men. All the pickmes here should take a peek, too, if they are curious as to what prize you win with libfem/progressive dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:24 AM
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I would be taken to jail for unaliving him. Clever 🤭👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:10 AM
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Yeah, I hate it when people do the 'poor boy is just crazy'. No. These men are not crazy, they are terrifyingly sane. Thank you for that, most people completely misuse the word "insane", probably to excuse away being uncomfortable with recognizing evil, because some shit is so vile that a lot of people think that he must have LITERALLY been out of touch with reality, as if he was suffering from psychosis. That happens with serial killers, a lot. No, most are frighteningly aware of what they are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:06 AM
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edit: not a great day for this username Lmfao, thank you much for that. 🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:56 AM
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I read that in MC Hammer's voice. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:35 PM
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Crabs in a pot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:39 AM
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... Wow. Lol. Alrighty, then. 🤣 Did not know that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:12 AM
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Yeah, when did you realize that you felt incapable of falling in love again? I had an epiphany this year, mainly after having some extremely jarring memories of (adult) abuse come back that I did NOT realize that I had been suppressing for years. Like, I just moved on my merry way. It is when it flooded back, that it was literally nauseating. I had already decided to not do it again, but now it does feel incapable, like right in the middle of apathetic territory. It's nice in its own way, almost…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:25 AM
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Women's spaces have a disturbingly high amount amount of male lurkers. And by disturbing, I mean weird and pathetic. Never once been on an MRA, TRP, incel, etc. forum or sub since accidentally stumbling on one like ten years ago. I just don't give a shit and their vibe feels diseased, so I have a hard time truly understanding the logic. Even if it's just limited to a reddit thing, most women don't lurk their forums or become obsessed, so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:18 AM
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I seriously heard on the radio in my area a week or two ago that ""studies show that women are most attracted to the 'dad bod' body on men"". I couldn't believe it and I fucking snorted. It is NOT difficult for men to have abs. I have abs, but I also exercise and eat well. What excuse does a twenty and I'd even go as far as to say a thirty something year old man have for having a "dad bod". Their bodies are literally designed to combat that. Unless it is a legitimate metabolic or other medical i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:48 PM
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If they actually cared about other men and their mental health they should be telling each other to stop seeking out enablers, shouldn't they? If it wasn't so disgusting and selfish and self-serving it'd be sad. I care about men's mental health, I care about everyone's mental health... When people complain that there aren't a lot of resources out there for men it's frustrating because there haven't been a lot of resources for women either until we made them. Women spend immeasurable time talking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:44 PM
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Was just about to say that I thought she was beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:25 PM
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I'd be worried he'd go after her for child support or alimony. She has herself in a reeeeeally shitty situation with a guy that doesn't work while she has what I'm assuming are young or young-ish children and runs TWO businesses. If he's a dull psychopath she'll be lucky, but if he's more conniving he'll probably go after her for $$. So I hope he munched on lead paint chips as a kid. Which is nauseatingly pathetic. They even leach off the system that was supposed to be meant to protect divorced …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:16 PM
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I think Canada is like that? I'm not sure though, but I know that there are other first world nations that have backwards laws like that. Out of curiosity, do you happen to know what the rates of incarceration and/or sentencing lengths are for men that practice self-defense versus women? I'm also interested, because I'd think that men would be more likely to kill during self-defense since they're usually more physically capable against their attacker as far as physical differences are concerned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:49 AM
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Yeah I'm just glad that it turned out well for you and that he helps other people in need out of the kindness of his heart. It's wonderful that he's a genuinely awesome person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:43 AM
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I literally did that once and he ran and the police caught him. He was around my size. That's not gonna be across the board, though. I WISH I was a good 5'9 or 5'10, at least. Hell, even 5'8 would be good enough, I guess. Tall women that want to date men often have issues, but I secretly envy them for an additional height advantage. If you make it a focus in your life to be as strong as you physically can which can lead to you running circles around your typical dumpy western man, I think that w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:34 PM
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You're definitely not the only one. I cringe so hard that I implode when think back on stuff that I did for them. Like how they theorize the universe will end with a Big Crunch, the inverse of the Big Bang, kind of cringe. I mean, I seriously don't even like mentioning specifics, so good on you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:54 PM
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Lmfao, yes, they have like ten different cultures on there, they aren't making a hundred and fifty different meals from all around the globe from scratch like Gordon Ramsey's back in the kitchen at a Cheesecake Factory. The cheesecake is the biggest appeal, obviously, and I'd wager to say that the different kinds of foods are for a large audience so that anyone can go and also grab a slice of cheesecake with it for more money. If they were a standalone literal cheesecake factory like a pastery s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:43 PM
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Yo she sounds like a mom letting her kid win a board game so that he can feel good about himself. I mean that is seriously... emasculating. So it is a double whammy that he is totally happy with it. Although I'm sure it's more along the lines of him using her instead of genuinely being happy to look like he paid for THE CHEESECAKE FACTORY. I doubt he'd give a shit if she just pulled her card out herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:33 PM
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I found a good surrogate father figure of sorts in my late teens at church and he started to protect me from bad men I am very glad that turned out well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:16 PM
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Do the boys tattle take on the girls that turned them down? Talk about an emasculating set up on that end. Right? How do they even stop boys from making shit up against girls that they don't like, either individually or collectively? This is the easiest way for shitting on a girls' senior year- by either barring her from going because she didn't want to go out with fucking Hagrid, or just making stuff up so she can't go anyway, and now she also potentially looks like a b.!tch. I mean if this wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:44 PM
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Cosmo is beyond vile. I think they're the ones, if they have a teen version of the magazine, that were encouraging girls to have anal sex. That is disgusting. Look, I don't know about how other women feel about that topic specifically NOR do I even give one single shit, but I have nightmares about it sometimes because I was so young. That sex act should not be ENCOURAGED and they should be held accountable for endangering the welfare of children, or something like that, not just for the psycholo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:04 PM
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A huge reason why I don't watch TV or movies is the pornography in it. I just can't fucking deal with it anymore. It is humiliating to be in a world where it is expected to have naked women and sex scenes that focus on the women everywhere, the overwhelming presence of it, so overwhelming that it is actually a very pleasant surprise for it to NOT be in a movie or TV show, like how happy I was with the Joker movie, it lets you know exactly who is in charge and how they feel about us. Men don't gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:45 PM
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I think the movie industry is really harmful to girls, teens and young women, because you think that’s just how it is, not that you are being manipulated to believe something that isn’t true. As you get older it’s easier to see through the manipulation, but by then it’s too late. Looking back movies really influenced and adversely affected me by romanticizing situations that were beneficial to men only. This is a huge reason why I stopped watching movies, and haven't watched one in years. The on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:45 PM
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This is why I firmly believe all women should carry some sort of self defense weapon... and know how to use it. Even a well trained dog whose breed is known for protectiveness for their master/family if someone comes at you and threatens your safety. How fucked is it that the best option is to take being spat on. I've commented a few times throughout this thread which I don't typically do, but I'm fucking frothing at the mouth on her behalf and with all sincerity would have went after that fuck …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:27 AM
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You are spot on. 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:17 AM
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Yes, same thing at work. I had a string of fucking beyond horrendous assaults and horrendous experiences from men for a few years back to back to back to back, but that one REALLY stuck out. I'm not gonna say what I'd do if I saw him again in case I break any rules, so I'll leave it at that. Spitting is degrading and that is the intent. You're flinging your nasty ass bodily fluids at someone with the intention of making them feel like shit and embarrassed. This world is way too motherfucking lax…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:14 AM
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What the fuck did I write this??? I am sorry that I'm late, but this is so similar that I got whiplash doing a double take. I would like to drop a DM to you if you don't mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:51 PM
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This is awesome and I fucking love it. More women that tell it like it is, without apology, would make this sub even better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:29 AM
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Is this a joke? A troll? In the unpopularopinion sub? I actually do not want to believe that this is serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:09 AM
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Yes, don't just look at the amount of people making the comments, but how many people back them up by upvoting them sky-high. Not every single person is going to chime in with something to say, that's with literally any thread or forum out there. How many lurkers do their forums have, the ones that don't even have accounts to upvote, but still agree? I lurked on reddit for almost ten years before I made an account. I'm just glad there seems to be an influx of us figuring it out, there were way l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:07 PM
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People always act like the internet is this separate, fake reality from "IRL". Yes, in regards to people being fake and attention seeking on SM, but anonymous sites like reddit, YT, other video platforms like bitchute (which is unfortunately actually a pretty good YT alternative because of censorship, but it is DOMINATED by misogynistic white supremacists, and I say those words with all the meaning that they have behind them, worse than YT pre 2010-2012), are where their true nature shines. It d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:14 PM
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Hahaha, you're good. 🤙🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:02 PM
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I wrote a response to someone else that replied to you that I thought was actually more fitting for what you wrote, but didn't want to copy and paste. I'll come back with the username so you can find it. Edit: differentmentality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:35 PM
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I just checked it out, along with your other posts. They made the comparison to 10-15 years prior being magazines, then the 80s VHS of violence or what I am assuming he meant as the whole CNC thing that got dubbed recently (I'm behind on a lot of pop culture and social stuff) being the issue of the times. So, I have a couple of thoughts: It puts into perspective how unbelievably horrible it is now to be longing to go back to the era of VHS porn to escape what we have now, and, Where are we going…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 07:25 PM
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They're the Avril Lavignes of the world. She had a toooon of influence on girls being Pick Me's and the whole Not Like The Other GirlsTM line of thinking with young and teenaged girls. She's obviously not the only, the first, and certainly not the last to do that, but she is a big name that sticks in my mind. Paramore, too, among many many others, and that's just in the rock/alternative/pop-rock genre. It is so shitty... Lavigne could have been an actual role model by showing girls they can be "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 07:07 PM
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I replied to one of your child comments, but I actually think it is more applicable to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:57 PM
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I had one, but I caught him looking at sexually provocative articles and videos that you find at the bottom of websites. :/ One was a model who was modeling a bikini. I called him out on it, and he lost his shit and called me puritanical... even though we had somewhere around five thorough discussions about this before we moved in together. Sometimes I feel sad about not having that aspect of him actually finding pornography revolting and being disinterested, but finding that in his phone after …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:56 PM
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If Texas secedes I say we take it over and occupy it with like minded women. Hey, it'll be so sparsely populated, that we'll all be able to have a ton of land. 🤣 Obviously I'm joking, but I would probably like to live in a community of like minded women... maybe down the line, I don't know. I don't want no roommates, and love not even being able to see my own neighbors, but it would relieve some of the emotional burden of being surrounded by a society that is eating itself and all we can do is w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:15 PM
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Yeah, to me it looked like late teens to early thirties. In a decade, this video will have the same theme but with middle aged to twilight years men involved, because this is going to take a long time to rectify, if it ever is. Even then, it won't be gone, not by a long shot. Sometimes, I wish that I was living in the 1990s. Just recent enough for me to very much enjoy the culture, especially music and even dress, but before the internet porn boom/internet as a whole. That should not be happenin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:00 PM
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Women are defined in terms of their usefulness to men. Damn, take for example Alexa or Cortana. A woman in a box asking, "what do you need"?.. 🤯 Very good observation and well put, that was great. I never thought about it in that way, but have noticed the default is a woman's voice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:42 PM
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"American women are so materialistic" Which is code for let me find a woman in either a more oppressive culture or a third world shithole that will be grateful for my (moldy) breadcrumbs. I mean I'm serious, there are a shit ton of guys out there that loudly state (online where you're most honest, if it is anonymous/your handle is not your name) that they would rather have an East Asian (or Chinese, Indian, etc...) wife because they're more of the type of women they like. I mean, can you imagine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:08 PM
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Is he back from a war or off to one next week? LMFAO I knew of a very TradMan and he was my former PSG. I witnessed him bring really verbally abusive to his wife IN MY DRIVEWAY (long story), as if it was totally normal. Reason? She and I were joking around and laughing at 9:00 at night after they dropped off some stuff they wanted to give to me. He did not yell but he might as well have, it was actually as if he was chastising a five year old that he had gotten after like six times for being too…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:30 PM
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You know, I've wondered that for a few years now, I'm glad to see someone else bring it up. Go ahead, and look at any conservative YT channel's comment section. If it is about this topic, it is absolutely littered with men griping with how women aren't the way they used to be (I get the feeling that they're, knowingly or not, comparing us to commodities that have gone downhill and aren't "built the way they used to be, such a shame"), but in the next video either literally outright insulting, or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:36 PM
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Yeah that was my last one, exactly. Except he wasn't so far gone as far as to sexualize his cars, haha. The other guys in his shop, I cannot exactly say the same for, though, and would not put money on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:39 PM
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I was actually thinking, when I read your comment, "what about nutritional deficiencies?" with the comparison to drug addiction, but I had flashbacks to pantries with the shelves not even stocked, but ever so slightly littered with honeybuns, energy drinks and mountain dew, with like a random sack of russet potatoes, so I'd say that's accurate on that note, as well, lol. Lots of women tolerate porn usage and flat-out addiction, so I am not shocked that we have a tendency to put up with something…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:36 PM
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I dated and lived with a pretty hard-core gamer (but not as bad as a lot of other testimonies that I've read) for like two years. Oh my God, it was so awful. If I didn't beg (yeah, beg, not ask) him to go do something outside or even go out to eat, even if it was walking to the burger joint like four blocks away, anything, he'd happily play for 12 plus hours a day. It was typically around eight to ten hours most weekends/days off, but I know that was only because I was there, though there were c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:07 PM
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Yeah, I mean I've got one of these so I'm not being disrespectful to those who have one, and try to avoid playing armchair psychologist, but this shit reeks of a personality disorder maybe Cluster B. I do not even know how you'd find the time to date over a hundred people over the course of less than twenty years unless it was your full time job. If I'm going to be fair there's a 50/50 chance it was the other party that ended it. So, around 50 people rejected you (that is if you're not the one t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:10 AM
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I don't understand, wasn't it emphasized to put importance on the quality of the ring that he could afford, and even then went above and beyond to get her the best, barring family heirlooms, up until like five fucking minutes ago? Like, when did it change so that you're a gold digger for being upset that your dude (who looks like he might be in the six figure bracket based off this short OP) bought you a ring that was cheaper the apple watch he probably bought like two weeks ago? Am I missing so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:38 PM
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Do not do wife/mom shit for a boyfriend You can survive and thrive on your own, with the support of your fellow women. you have no need for any man who does not respect that!!!! YES, oh my God, yes to the first one particularly (I'm a borderline recluse mostly by design so I don't have anyone besides family).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:15 PM
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When men complain about women do they ever specify “not all women of course! Most women are lovely”? Cos I’ve never seen it. Yeah probably because they're selling themselves like a used car salesman and are about as honest as one, too. AWALT is the mantra for like every comment section of any conservative YouTube video. I am seriously starting to either think they got the memo for the systematic professional gaslighting seminar that I guess most women didn't get, or they're seriously missing som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:29 PM
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Wanna bet that he's sleeping around while traveling the world? If he's on Tinder (that's what the font looks like) and traveling, I'd bet my next paycheck that is what's happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:18 PM
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I was sexually assaulted by an E-5 when I was an E-3. Fortunately SOME justice was served, but he got an OTH instead of a dishonorable (National Guard). But when I was sexually assaulted a second time by a CONTRACTOR the military could do nothing about it. Open report did nothing as he was not a service member, is verbatim what they told me. And it was female SHARP representatives that told me this after I made the report. I had to go to the civilian police and they did nothing and said they con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:41 PM
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I worked at a sobering center in the downtown area of a major metropolitan city (caters to homeless people). The men's sleeping areas were covered from floor to ceiling in piss... piss everywhere. They roll over on their mat (it's like a blue exercise gym mat), whip it out, piss, and then go back to sleep. The toilet was a crime scene with how disgusting it was. I am sure that even with copious amounts of bleach in the mop water, that it still contained Hepatitis A-Z, and then some. The women's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 03:25 PM
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I came here to yell, "MILITARY", but I'm gonna go on a bit of a rant... ​ Yes, you're right about everything, especially about their own legal system. I was medically retired because of a sexual assault, but the soldier that committed the crime just got an OTH discharge; no criminal record on the civilian side... which is what matters, in the end, IMO, because nobody stays in the military forever. He'll just have a hard time getting a job. And his marriage probably fell apart, because nobody can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:22 PM
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I don't know, I don't see how it doesn't have some sort of genetic component. Why would it have happened in the first place if it was just or even mostly cultural? What would have caused men to as a whole become this way in the first place? It's not like women are or have ever systematically abused their sons, and so that got the ball rolling on their collective sociopathy thousands of years ago. I think we need to start accepting that they are as a whole very different than us instead of blamin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:05 AM
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Yeah, in my experience they just look at a distance (LV or HV aside), and it's usually been the LV ones that approach me or harrass me. The whole beautiful woman trope has a very Cinderella-esque or princess-y vibe to it. Like there's a line of quality men outside my door, or something. Nope, just degenerates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 01:02 AM
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Yes, I was a child model and I agree with this. I get swamped with LVM, especially on apps, and catcalled by drive-bys, but it's not attention you want... unless your self esteem is in such disarray that hot shit on a paper plate looks appetizing. SM can be so detrimental to your mental well being if you misuse it... comparing your life to the lives of people who cherry pick which exact blips or moments of their lives they want the rest of the world to see is a recipe for depression and insecuri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:06 PM
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Came to the comments section just to see if someone else picked up on that. Lmao. That's probably what you'll catch after being in the same room together, from his bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:59 AM
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Thank you for putting into words what I have always felt, but could never verbalize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:55 AM
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Unfortunately the dating world is filled with mind games. I'm not much of a card player, but it seems similar to poker to me, no one wants to reveal their hand. Take a look at all the Pickme's that confess their undying love to a man that has never shown interest or has just been toying with them, it never ever ends well. If we were allowed to be our authentic selves, I don't think strategies would need to exist; I'm saying this because my guess is after sex was taken off the table, that's when …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:51 AM
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The way I see it is these guys are doing you a favor by being social buffoons. Please don't take it personal. Male attention is the easiest thing to obtain in the world, even if it doesn't always seem like it at times, because you keep running into fuckboys that want to use you, but you won't allow it. They fuck rotten fruit and animals, why would their rejection or disinterest mean anything about your value as a human being? Please go into the 2020s knowing that you're above bullshit like this,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:19 AM
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Of course! I am glad you are finding value in everything all the women here have said, it all seems like sound advice. Best of wishes to you in the 2020s. 💚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:06 AM
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YEP, sure do. This guy was cancerous in other ways (I thought I was going to be on an episode of Dateline NBC on our last date), but I had a guy I was seeing who did that a lot. It caught me off guard initially, because who tf does that? I was 21 and he was 30 or 31, I can't remember. So, there you go. I never reacted in any way too it, or took it to heart and felt insecure, but it was just so weird. It grosses me out now, and would literally walk out of the date if that occurred today. My choic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:44 AM
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Edit Just got a text from him telling me I deserve better and I don’t know anything about him and that’s for the best Cannonball dodged. Please do not feel any type of way, other than pure relief. Imagine if you had put months of emotional investment and time into that. 👎 Believe men when they say you can do better. They are actually warning you, in their own way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:36 AM
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I always found it weird. The ones who do that to me have always been Stage 5 Clingers and fuckbois. Easier to send unsolicited pictures or ask them from you, or send sexually charged messages without being banned from the app since it's all over text so there's no papertrail on the app. They usually say to me, "hey, what's your number? So much easier than using this dumb app lol." ??? How is using the app more complicated than texting. Unless you're constantly in an area with no wifi and have li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:28 AM
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You seemed very, very forward. There's a difference between being assertive and being over the top. You can be assertive and be coy and stoic at the same time, like telling him what kind of date you appreciate, and not settling for less than. Like, if you had said that you liked dinner dates, but he offered coffee or a walk in your city park, you could restate what you like and appreciate, and say that those plans just won't work out, or that it's obvious that the two of you aren't compatible if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:42 AM
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Yeah, they do it to be contrarian to shut us up. At any rate, I don't see how the existence of male rape victims makes the OVERHWELMING female ones disappear. Men are usually raped by other men, anyway. They really do burst in like the Koolaid Man. I laughed my ass off at that image.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:28 AM
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GRAPHIC CONTENT WARNING: I have had anal sex with four different men. I actually lost my virginity that way (he was Christian and couldn't have premarital sex, but could commit sodomy...). It was painful and unpleasant every single fucking time. My last ex found out and became pouty af because I didn't want to do with him (he was above average and I had psychic visions of colonoscopy bags in my future). We tried it once but was so painful we had to stop. He felt he was entitled to it because I h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:04 AM
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It could be porn culture. Very, very weird porn with a lot of the tropes being nonconsensual, persuasion, or exhibitionism, but yet genitals are blurry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 12:45 AM
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Don't you just love the arm chair psychologists of the internet that perform Cirque du Soleil mental gymnastics to excuse anything a guy does in a relationship, yet if a woman displays anything "negative", like being displeased with her boyfriend's porn habits or sliding into IG girls' DM's, she's labelled with BPD or a depression/anxiety duo. Switch the genders and she'd be called ungrateful. Some of the more scientific ones will pull out evopsych fAcTs. The hysteria craze never went away, we j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:57 PM
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It took my dad, who was probably the King of Fuckboys until he turned 40 and remarried (he has done an absolute 180 and is unrecognizable, and thoroughly regrets everything he did to the marriage with my mom) telling me that no person will make a seven hour round trip (my ex wanted to see his ex wife, and IN PASSING told me about it on the phone while we were talking, and he had assumed I would be okay with it. I said no way in hell would I be okay with that) to see a DOG that their ex wife has,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:57 PM
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I keep coming back to this thread. YES to all of this. You need to go to therapy. You have, it seems, no sense of self-preservation, zero boundaries and a strong desire to be sexually and superficially validated by men. ^ Especially this. I am probably drawn to it because this sounds like me as a mid to late teen, especially the quoted text above. I am thoroughly shocked I am not in a dumpster somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:26 AM
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I do not know if OP specifically is a RP'er, since I don't think her post history indicates that, but yeah, the guy in question definitely sounds like he has been in the manosphere. Edit: the account is deleted. Never mind, then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:58 AM
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I will admit that I did initially side-eye this post simply because it was so sexually graphic and almost reads as like what a LARPer would write as a fantasy, but I didn't specifically see anything in her post history that would make me think it's a guy messing with us. OP, I'd cut my losses. I legitimately do not see a way coming back from this, especially since you basically enacted a porno trope... you do you, but willingly having sex after saying no, especially that specific kind of sex, do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:52 AM
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At the height of my Pickme era, my ex was paying for his ex wife's dog's (they shared the dog while they were together) vet bills and any other time she asked for money... TURNS OUT that the dog was a surrogate baby since they had a miscarriage almost ten years ago when they were together. He omitted this until the day I broke up with him. I then said he sounded like he was still attached even though they had been divorced like 5 years... he said that he was since she was his First Real True Lov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:33 AM
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Yeah that's just the tip of the iceberg with him... he love bombed me hard and I had never experienced that before, so he played me, and he played me well. He alternated loveboming with shit like that, so I thought I was the one with the problem, because he treated me so well the other half of the time, how could anyone have ill intentions and be so sweet (when he did decide to be sweet)? Maybe I was just misunderstanding the situation... Thankfully it only lasted less than a year; I was questio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:36 AM
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As far as female friends go, I was with a guy years ago (was 18, he was 22 at the time) who had a female bff. We were guests at a wedding, and of course my boyfriend sat next to me at the dinner table. I can't remember what happened next as far as conversation goes, but it had something to do with him wanting to sit next to me so I wouldn't be lonely, as I knew literally nobody at the wedding since the bride and groom were his friends. She said, "Come on man, bros before hoes!" The entire table …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 09:04 PM
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I have zero doubt in my mind that if I had stayed with my ex and has his children it would have been the single biggest colossal mistake of my entire existence. I thought he was bad and a mindfucker by the time I ended it, I would have considered suicide, I am not being hyperbolic, if I had made the decision to marry and have children with him, and have him do exactly what I know he would do... hell, he told me that he wouldn't find me attractive if I got pregnant (but in the same breath was try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:47 PM
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Lol. We are supposed to give men who have their mid life crisis on the horizon a chance when they can't even think past their next meal, and are trying to get their first (FIRST) job at thirty. Sigh, and of course she feels the need to apologize after asking a legitimate question so she doesn't get her time wasted, and for being hesitant to take on tens of thousands of dollars in debt that is not her own, for a guy who has not even a semblance of what his future will look like in half a decade. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:32 AM
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YES to the grunge style. That was my Charlie Brown uniform; I only just recently started dressing more feminine and looking like a woman in her twenties. I still look fairly young for my age (could pass for 18, I could walk through a high school and no one would bat an eye), but I definitely carry myself very, very differently than I did when I was younger, and that is what I think they don't like. And NO, I'm not delusional, to all you lurking dudes- I'm in even better shape than I was when I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:17 AM
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It's such an insanely bad idea if you are romantically involved with someone. The only thing she has going for her is that he is not on a lease, so it's not like if it ends then she's stuck with him for another, like, six months. But her landord could get wind of this and she could get in a ton of trouble if he exercises his tenants rights, which I'm sure he has because it sounds like he's been living with her for like three months, and may not be allowed to rent from them again, since the terms…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:24 AM
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This may be a novella... Honestly, it took two sexual assaults and a few years in career fields I have worked in (military and wildland firefighting) to get to this point. I never, ever, EVER thought that would happen to me... shit like that always happens to other people, because of their own Dumb Choices. Why would that happen to me, I wasn't like The Other Girls. I saw what men are like when they're in a Boys Club and living in DIRT and TENTS for weeks at a time... it's pretty fucking ugly. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:25 PM
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Anyone can play the sympathetic and understanding card. Is he actually going to listen to you and not stay out all night? Or is it just lip service. Kind, caring, accepting, supportive, sweet, loving.... Bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:03 PM
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You need to think about the legal implications of this situation. If you have any hesitations about him you need to stop letting him crash at your apartment like he's a frat boy coming back to his dorm room from an all nighter. He could get tenant's rights and it will be a pain in the ass to kick him out. Look into your specific state's laws, but it's often 30 days notice if they have lived with you long enough to gain them. Not to mention you may be breaking the terms of your lease if you are l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:54 PM
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Is this satire?? He gets all pissy and insists he's not trying to have sex with her when she mentions she gets off her period on Tuesday, but then comes back with getting back to her on Tuesday, after he's "cooled off". How could you fall for that? I used to be a massive pickme, but I can't even see myself dealing with that, especially after he came at me with giving him time to cool off. It's to the point where I think we are failing girls at a societal level, since there are so many girls who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:11 PM
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I once said outloud to an ex, "It's a very scary time in America for white men." I'm half black. I'm a woman who has been sexually assaulted twice. And I was watching the Daily Wire and Ben Shaprio clips daily, among other Youtubers. That memory came up in the shower a few weeks ago, and I visibly cringed so hard I'm surprised I didn't pull something. If there was a final Pickme Boss, that was me. You have permission to shoot me, because I want to do it myself whenever I think about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:49 PM
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I see so many misanthropic and nihilistic profiles on OLD. Like they think having the personality of a wet blanket (or, in this case, a shitty diaper) is appealing and just GETS US GOING. It's usually tied in with the delusion that they're the catch or prize to be won, and we should be competing amongst each other to be graced by his attention. Like we're going to have a cat fight over a guy who clearly hates life and anyone who chooses to be involved in his. Cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:38 PM
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Such a great reference. Love it. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:38 AM
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It's a baby he made. There are plenty of men that don't have a weird complex about having sex with their partner while she is pregnant. I'd never suggest that someone have sex that they don't want to, but the way he is going about it is ridiculous and disrespectful. No one is entitled to sex from anyone, but I find it kind of off putting to reject your partner for a quarter of a year, or an entire season (from the 6 month mark to delivery) because you feel weird about a fetus that you put inside…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:42 PM
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Eff that. If he thinks I'm unfuckable while carrying his spawn, and ensuring his worthless DNA continues on, I'm out. My ex said that once, that he wouldn't find me attractive while I was pregnant. I brought that up while I was breaking up with him. Never seen someone back pedal so fast (he really wanted children with me, so much so that he was trying to convince me to have them, even though I said I was ambivalent at best about them). That statement is just one of the many reasons I'll never ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:06 PM
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Smoking in the picture Giving the finger Blank bios "if u wanna know just ask ;)" 3 blurry ass pictures in a bathroom Group photos so I have to play Where's Waldo; I had a guy catfish me this way and his excuse was that he "wasn't photogenic". No shit, Sherlock, that's why you started this whole thing out with a LIE. "I'm (insert height), since that matters on here so much." Thanks for telling me your height, but you're being a passive aggressive bitch with that line. Automobiles as their main p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:51 PM
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I think it's a sexual innuendo. It confused me at first, too, but I think he's implying that he'd eat... you. Her. Us. Whoever. Whatever. He's a degenerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:32 AM
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Prenups will become more important for women as time goes by, since men are increasingly underachieving, while women are now overachieving at all fronts. YES. You do not want to pay alimony/spousal support to some loser. Ditto to the lawyer. You want a rock solid plan, not something you just came up with that sounded good, having no frame of reference of the legal world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:27 AM
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Lmao, their dicks are like leashes. The maladjusted sex uses their mutated physical strength to impose and intimidate us instead of, you know, providing and caring, like they claim they were made to do, even though in the same breath they screech that they could give us a TBI. Even if women had the same physical strength, we would not destroy like they do. I am convinced it is something in the DNA, down to the Y chromosome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 08:02 AM
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It really is- lots of threads where anyone who puts more than 2.5 seconds of objective thinking and actually applied FDS strategies would be able to see that it's a hard no for the shit ass LVM they find themselves either pining over or even hesitant about. OP, I do not know how you could have read the sidebar or the FDS handbook and even think that you should continue to entertain this. I may come across as an asshole, but ffs, he ignored your no's and forced your hand on his dick, and you are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:42 AM
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👎 Not just for the message, but imo it's a garbage song. Droves of comments praising it for worshipping a man, but we all know how the story goes when you enact this song in real life. Not an iota of gratitude or respect. Not falling for that shit again. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:07 PM
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I work in national forests and parks for a living. I always warn people ahead of time before I leave for work for a week that I may or may not have service, but at least half the time I do. Cannot text during the work day as I use chainsaws and hike, but after work I check in with people. I've always found it fishy when a guy who has a typical 9-5 job always claims to be "sooo busy", but I will see his ass active on messenger, or the like. If I can get back to you in a 24 hour period, then you c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:42 PM
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In the spirit of Christmas, take my 25th downvote. It is not okay to isolate and play video games when family is coming or travelling to see you and your family. It's the holidays ffs, put the Xbox down and socialize. I'd never want this sub to turn into a echo chamber, but it is rude as hell for a grown ass adult to ignore company and play video games instead, like they can't do that the other 364 days out of the year. That's behavior I'd expect from a 13 year old, not some dude in his thirties…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 06:10 AM
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Nope. Fuck THAT shit. Any man worth his salt would be jumping through hoops to get you to stay committed to him while you are LDR, and he cannot even be bothered to even pretend to look at plane tickets and not talk shit about you to his family. My ex was 13 years older than me and was super low effort (4/5 times, and yes, I DID do the calculations on this, if he said he would call me later he never would, silent treatment, multiple instances of shady behavior with his ex wife now that they were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:26 AM
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Men are pathetic next to the boys who pursued me back in the 90s. There weren't billions of free internet porn videos, is my speculation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:09 PM
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He knew exactly what tf he was doing with that comment, very manipulative. Either that, or he is socially dense, neither of which are attractive. Subtly putting the pressure on you to pay for a meal he invited you out to, but making it appear that you have options, when it is obvious he backed you into a corner. I would have put on a mildly surprised face. Or raised an eyebrow, depending on my mood. "I'm sorry, I thought you enjoyed my company. You invited me out, but if you can't afford my meal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:04 PM
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So many of us have been socialised into being complete pushovers that we've now reached a point where wanting a guy to pay for dinner on a date, communicate respectfully, and demonstrate you're a priority to them is considered being "too picky'. We've now reached a point where society is saying that expecting men to look after themselves, have a job and treat women with respect is too much to ask of them! This should be the bare minimum. It's so insanely cancerous, that wanting a man who is a de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:49 PM
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I had a dude stand me UP on a date because I wouldn't send a picture; I have like seven pictures on my OLD profile, all very recent, that show me doing a variety of things, including selfies. None of them are filtered in any way, not even with makeup, and some of them are me doing my job. I just called someone else and went out with him, lol. I've been cat-/hat-/height-fished by so many men. And they have the nerve to complain about makeup and filters, lol. I do not send pictures to men, so they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:30 PM
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Imo the best looking guys are the ones who look like they're built for agility, not for power. Sleek and toned but not excessively muscular to the point where it looks ridiculous. Yep. I used to be in the powerlifting scene for a couple of years, there's a lot of vanity and neuroticism in there. It's extremely tiring to keep up the physique (you have to work out for extended periods of time, more than the average person. I'd say around 90-120 minutes a day; a lot of people- me included- do it si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:03 PM
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Potential spoiler warning, but this happened years ago. It was bizarre to me, and I could not wrap my head around it. Did we forget about his harem of women who he forced to have sex, and him bashing Glen's skull in with a baseball bat wrapped in C-wire? I stopped watching shortly after that because I could see the stupidity being written in the storyline for the sake of keeping him around. There were several instances where he could have easily been killed (Carl held a shotgun to his face after…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 04:01 PM
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I had to be almost business like in our meet ups. Fuck and then leave. No sleeping over, no emotional support or hearing about their day or what's going on in their lives, or other girlfriend-esque duties or performances. Minimal effort on my part. It surprised me how surprised most of them were at that... like they were used to girls providing the emotional role of a girlfriend while simultaneously being delegated to the FWB/NSA role. The fuck. It was weird. And that's not because I'm an asshol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 04:02 AM
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I am wondering when exactly in history women were expected to bring home a paycheck but also be a homemaker at the same time. I've looked at multiple studies and even the most egalitarian households tend to have women do more housework once children come along, even if both parents work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 08:34 PM
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I had a driving instructor at a school I was at say that lotion was gay. I'll let you picture him in your mind for a second. ... Yes, he was fat and gross af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 08:25 PM
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Do I leave? If I were in your situation, I would immediately Get a job and a checking and savings account Apply for a credit card, even if it's a measly $500 limit at first Get into contact with family (if you are still in contact with them/they are even living) and see if you can temporarily live with them while you SAVE. This will be ideal if they are in the same state as you, as it may look bad to the courts if you take your children and leave for out of state, if he decides to fight for cust…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:52 PM
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Apparently women are supposed to have the 24 hour 7 days a week job and men get to have their cute little 8 hour shift and get rewarded with dinner and rest. Where did this attitude come from? I would love to pinpoint a decade, or hell, even an era, in addition to the woman also working but still taking on the 24/7 childrearing and homemaker shifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:53 AM
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Regrettably, I think this job falls to men. If we tried we would likely be cast as the villain. Which is why I tend to think that it will get worse before it gets better. They cannot even take care of their own collective mental health issues or DV issues, they just end up blaming us for how little support they have in society. They expect us to fix all their problems, even if their problems lead to visceral hatred towards us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:15 AM
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That. Is. Spot on. For as much as I despise porn, I never connected that to the question asked. Have absolutely no idea why. But there is not an iota of doubt in my mind that that is the main reason. How unbelievably depressing. To never be able to experience being with a man who will view you in that way. Even the very religious are not safe, many of them are addicted themselves, justifying it that it's at least not sex before marriage. No, it's much worse. For as many luxuries as we have in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 04:53 AM
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It's so easy for us to dismiss our instinct as paranoia because it points out uncomfortable truths. We're also constantly told and often gaslit into believing that we are paranoid and insecure if we don't act like a perperual chilled out girl high on Xanax 24/7.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:56 PM
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I think it's a couple things. I don't want to be an armchair historian, but my theory is enough fuckheads got to procreate and raise children with that mindset when marriage pretty much became mandatory for women to survive. Even the lowest members of society short of maybe the idiot village could get a wife. But I don't think it's ever been this bad? And religion up until recently played a large role in corralling human sexuality. So it makes me think that the change in thinking about relations…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:31 PM
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OH. My bad. I was racking my brain how you thought I was depressed from my comment. 😂 Hard to tell tone over text. But I actually have gotten that before. It's infuriating. Just think happy thoughts. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:06 PM
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... No?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:04 PM
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I'm pretty sure mine was in the manosphere, at least until a few years ago. It was pretty text book, looking back at it. But insidious at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:06 PM
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PinkpillFeminism and GenderCritical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 04:22 PM
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No surprise, a man's nut is more important than his wife's emotional well being and security in the relationship. I'd rather be forever alone than be cuckholded like that. I'd be out the door so fast his head would spin. All the pickmes can do their song and dance to pornsick dudes about how they're Cool Girls TM, how they don't care. IDGAF, I will not put up with that shit. Does anyone else find it odd that we cannot even have an intellectual discussion about it? Have differing opinions about w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:48 PM
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Yup. The whole not masturbating comment said with, "why drink vinegar when there's wine coming?" hit me too hard for how early in the morning it is right now. Oof. And to think I had thought that was a compliment. The shame is sitting in my gut right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:29 PM
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Isn't it funny how the dumbest ones who have no idea what they're talking about are always forcing their advice onto others? You see that in all areas of life, not just dating or relationships. I would never give unsolicited advice to someone, even family members, on how to live their lives. That's just rude af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:15 PM
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I am glad one of the commenters put into words what I have ways felt. That absolutely is the digital equivalent of flashing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:06 PM
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mediocre
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:43 AM
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I. Died. At that. Particularly because it was shown after that mess. Like, how do you proofread that shit and go, "yeah, that sounds sensual and flirtatious."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:39 AM
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Damn, this thread is actually depressing me. My ex was completely willing and able to do that, but he was super low value in effort and trustworthiness. Sometimes makes me wonder if I actually will find someone I'd like to be with who meets my expectations for a relationship. 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:20 AM
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More power to you. She could suck a dick for a lollipop if she wanted. IDGAF. Not every decision a woman makes about her relationship is automatically sound or makes her high value just for the simple fact that she's a woman making a decision. The people on this sub are laughing their asses of at her because it is literally anti-FDS and degrading as all get-out. She'd probably take it up the rear for a diaper genie, by her logic. There are plenty of LibFem or LibFem-esque subreddits that will va…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:13 AM
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Isn't that what this sub is about? Letting girls do what they want n a relationship? No. This lady can do what she wants, but this sub doesn't validate every decision a woman makes simply because she's a woman. We can still make dumb af choices. I would never consider a woman a "queen" if she sucked dick for a month for any gift, let alone a cleaning appliance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:36 PM
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I know how you feel. I am going through something very similar. Distance, time, and an objective perspective will help you get over it. You can logically know he is a terrible person, but once you actually internalize it and fully realize it, it becomes a lot easier to move on and ask yourself, "what possessed me to be so hurt by that man?" Everyone has some good qualities about them, but some people are so toxic there is no salvaging what you had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:25 PM
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Thank you for this. I found myself being slightly impressed, until I got to the blackout drinking and period reaction. How sad is that. Both for me, and the state society is in where this behavior qualifies as impressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:12 PM
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Can confirm. My OLD is open to men and women and almost every woman I come across has her IG or SC handle listed. With men I'd say about half do maybe a bit more, particularly the ones in their early twenties. The ones that ask you to communicate via SC or IG because they "hardly ever use this (OLD) app" are extra suspect, particularly because SC exchanges delete themselves. Also makes no sense because in the end, it's all social media. Like, why insist on another app, particularly one that leav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 10:54 PM
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Words don't mean SHIT. Nada. Any psychopath that is verbal can say what he's saying. Please internalize that. Actions are what matter. Him saying he wants you "someday" is him tossing you breadcrumbs to string you along. He does not have your best interest at heart, and never did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 10:45 PM
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Why do you let this cancer in your life. I'd rather drink a bleach and gasoline cocktail. My ex has invited me to his family's Christmas party this year, with our friends status. I'm undecided if I want to attend yet or not. Don't. We still have Christmas presents we'll be exchanging soon. Also don't. P.S. I plan to focus on getting myself into a healthier headspace. Join a gym to feel better for me, and want a therapist. And new social circles/ friendships. Please. Not on a judge-y way, either;…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 10:41 PM
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Thank you. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 10:15 PM
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For me, it was the breakup with my last ex. I've never been more mindfucked in my life. He was either dumb as a brick emotionally, or qualified for a DSM-V personality disorder. And I don't like playing armchair psychologist. I've been with a wide variety of guys. Different income classes, different careers or jobs, college or no college, military or never served, fit, out of shape (fat or skinny fat with less muscle tone than your average 13 year old girl), met IRL or on OLD, a self described b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 09:48 PM
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I am a wildland firefighter for a conservation corps. I worked with a private company this summer (Type II IA), but the weather was so garbage that nothing really came of it. The conservation corps is technically volunteer work so it pays a stipend, so it's not much, but I get disability from the military. That offsets it, and I am able to put a lot away at the end of each month. This is also because my job gives us a food stipend for the week to week and a half that we work, so I get free food …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 09:19 PM
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Did anyone else notice that he took four days to respond, and it was a 1 AM text?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 03:46 PM
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That is similar to what I am doing, only I live in air bnbs, or commuted to see family on my off weeks from work, and I can't have a dog yet for practical purposes, because I work for 8-10 days at a time. It's pretty cool, to live an unconventional lifestyle. I get to see the country, I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 03:32 PM
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I again reminded him that sex was not gonna happen. He became visibly upset and told me I wasn’t thinking right that we are both adults and we should do what we want. Lol, because you doing what you want would mean you'd have sex with him, even though you stated you didn't want to. Clearly you secretly wanted it, you were just being disingenuous. Like you were just lying to yourself the first time. What a mental midget. And threw a tantrum because you wouldn't fuck a stranger you'd only spoken t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:11 AM
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and the next day I was joking about "locking down my pussy for him" Please never say that to a man again, for your sake. I don't think he ever really respected you to begin with, after reading your post in its entirety, but I wouldn't be surprised if it nosedived after that. You're reducing yourself to your genitals. I get that the intent was probably to keep it lighthearted to get a feel of where he stood as far as exclusivity goes so you didn't come across as trying to define the relationship …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 12:36 AM
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"Seriously? I'd be giving my husband daily blowjobs for a month if I got a Roomba for Christmas." 22 awards. Parent comment saying "YTA"? 3. There is a God, and He has forsaken us. Maybe the apocalypse actually did happen in 2012, and now we're all stuck in some dystopia, where we're at the point of human development to try to go to Mars, but a household appliance as a gift warrants transactional oral sex out of gratitude. Not surprised, given the username. She'd probably be grateful for a diape…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:36 PM
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He even lift shit smears on my sheets. 🤢 ... 🤮 Sorry, I tried to contain it. I was VERY briefly with a guy a few years ago who did not own a single pair of intact underwear. Literally, they were all ripped to shreds. They all looked like war torn flags. But instead of instilling a feeling of pride and awe like you would feel looking at that, it was just bewilderment and disgust. I replace my socks when there is a microscopic hole, how do you think it's okay to walk around with underwear that loo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:18 PM
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Not a major in college, but I'd like to add conspiracy theorists to the discussion. You reminded me of that with the talk of philosophy. I am one myself (no, I do not wear a tin foil hat), but a lot of those dudes have batshit, outdated views on women, and think that the financial liberation of women in western society is a giant conspiracy to destroy the family (of course their definition of "family" is the 1950's model where women baked pies and raised flocks of children with nary a complaint,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:57 PM
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"Ride!" Like he's a king demanding his servants entertain him. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:09 PM
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What's with all the posts lately that inspire nausea in the rest of us, but the OP is questioning their grip on reality and whether they should end things or not? And I thought mine were bad. Of course you are not overreacting. This dude has you drive him everywhere, pay for his meals, invites a buddy on a romantic outing, and decides to go without you, instead of scrambling to fix what he clearly fucked up. Where in your post is a semblance of him giving a shit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:08 AM
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I have a two aunts that both worked two, maybe sometimes three days out of the week (they both had very good careers, too) while their kids were under five/kindergarten age, just so they could stay in the work force as far as employment gaps and references go. The two days they worked either family watched them (family exclusively watched one aunt's kids), or they were in Pre-K/daycare. For a lot of women it may be a wash financially, but staying in the work force even part time is exponentially…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 02:37 AM
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Women in the US could not get credit cards without a husband's approval until the 1970s That is so insane, completely forgot about that. That wasn't even that long ago, over the course of history. Sometimes I look at the things going on in the world, and expect it to get worse before it gets better. The two sexes seem pitted against each other (for damn good reason for us, at least). There are a lot of women who thought they married a HVM only for the mask to come off after the kids come along. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 02:32 AM
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This is an unrelated subject, but it's how I came to that conclusion. The way I see it is, how much do you have to hate yourself to think that if a woman sleeps with you, she is automatically less than she was before, or that she is tainted, or otherwise damaged goods. They do that shit all the time. You sleep with them early, and they lose respect for you. How can you truly have a genuine high sense of self worth if someone having sex with you diminishes their value? These guys will put on an a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:55 AM
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Guys in their early thirties mimicking the behavior of preschool children. Are men okay? If it's of any solace to you, they probably actually have more disdain for themselves than they do for you. To accomplish nothing after being on this planet for over three decades...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:45 PM
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It is bizarre. We don't go stalking and lurking on members and posts in TRP, MGTOW, blackpill, etc. and harrass them, even though we have every reason to, as they advocate for emotional abuse and have a visceral, irrational hatred of women. But a dating subreddit FOR WOMEN that basically talks about how to avoid toxicity in your life? Burn them, burn them all. Hell, I've never even been to those places, at least not in the better part of a decade. I would have been a young teen if I popped in ov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:03 PM
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I'm a vet. I wouldn't worry about the guys in your platoon. Or company. Or... any of them, really. Military in general attracts... people that are not quite top shelf. For the most part. Some of the skid marks will wash out before graduation even occurs. Or they get medically separated because they break down (physically or mentally). Some branches are a better than others. I had much better experiences with the women in general, though. There are a handful of guys that are okay, but I had borde…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 10:47 PM
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It was more common to do that back then, she fits the age bracket. A lot of old timey movies will show a young woman who is seeing a few guys and is very interested in one of them, but never commits until she gets an engagement. This whole going-steady-for-six-years-live-in girlfriend thing is pretty recent. It's for the birds. Locking down a woman without actually committing to her. I am impressed they were able to convince us all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:38 PM
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I think you're having these thoughts and reservations for a reason. Most women have an intuition that they ignore, I think because we are socialized to give a guy a chance, or assume the best of them, or at least hope for the best. If you don't even know what his voice sounds like or if that's even really him in his profile (you never mentioned phone calls or facetime, at least from the comments I have seen) it is not a good idea to give your DOB and full name out. How does he even know he's dea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:24 PM
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I understand what you are getting at; my stance is that one person or group of people having it worse than another doesn't mean that that person didn't suffer, or experience an injustice. To her, that was everything. You are more well off than someone in a third world country going through the same situation, would you not feel that you lost everything even if you maintained a possession like a flat screen TV that you are now considering selling? She could still get back on her feet, but not wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:14 PM
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I'd normally chat with a guy for a few days then wanna move to quick coffee date because I hate the idea of dining with someone whom I don't have a interest with. Then why are you letting him fly you out to meet him?? You don't want to eat a fifteen dollar entree with someone you're not compatible with, but you'll fly out of state? Am I genuinely missing something? You even said yourself that he is not high in compatibility. I feel high. I second what an above poster said about your personal inf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:32 AM
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What does that have to do with absolutely anything. She could have 150K in jewelry lying around, and that does not negate the fact that her husband royally fucked her over. Are people who have assets not allowed to have other people betray and financially drain them? The point is, she should not have had to sell her personal property pay for her husband's sins. She shouldn't have had to do that in the first place, because he shouldn't have drained the accounts. And the fucker knew he was dying a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:26 AM
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If it were a stereotypical bachelor party that you see portrayed on television or hear about with strippers or the like, then no. That's a hard line for me. I do not care what society says I should find acceptable, it's a no-go. But if it's just a night out celebrating with his friends and the soon-to-be groom about the fact that he is getting married the next day, then I don't see a problem with it. It depends on what exactly is going on. What you find acceptable in your relationship may be dif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:17 PM
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100%. Then the degenerate parade stops by, if you say this on literally any other subreddit other than this and like minded ones, going on about true love and "when you know, you know." How many young women have to be taken advantage of in these relationships for most people to get that these men go after us usually for two reasons: Youth Inexperience And those almost always go hand in hand. It doesn't matter how "mature" you are, you'll never have the actual amount of dating experience as someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:53 PM
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It is a term used to insult someone's intelligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:38 PM
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I took an ex back even though he treated me like utter shit, combined with lovebombing, especially during the LDR aspect of our relationshit (tail end). I had ended up forgiving him for everything he did, and felt the need to go on his FB after he told me he would call me later, but didn't (we were discussing about whether he REALLY wanted me to move states to where he was). Oh and that was totally normal behavior for him, too. I found a post by him made in early November, which was right before…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:04 AM
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That was the same situation with my ex (but I have more dating experience than you posted), with the same age gap. I've never questioned my mental sanity more than I did than when I was with him. I would not recommend it. I'll probably never do more than five years again. Even if you happen to have the same "maturity" level, it's usually because he's emotionally stunted in some way. In that case, there is no reason to be with an older man who has the maturity of someone a decade younger. They've…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 11:14 PM
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I've been with one man that had a micropenis. He ended up dumping me over text after I told him I had been sexually assaulted, and that I was being transported to a hospital. Said it was too much, and that the relationship was moving too fast, even though it was moving at a mutually reciprocated pace. I was a pickme, but even me being with him (I do not say this often at all, as I hate narcissism or even anything that could be interpreted as such, but I am very conventionally attractive and was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 10:55 PM
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YES. This works, even if you are the one who did the severing of the relationship. I was a dumbass and gave the ex a second chance and got reinvested emotionally, so I have to do it all over again. It'll be easier this time, though, I can feel it. I did it before, can do it again. We were together for eight months and I got over him in about six weeks. My situation may be a bit different, as we were LDR for a bit towards the end of the relationship, so I had not seen him in a bit, but it works. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 10:45 PM
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thevintagenews.com/2018/03/10/king-louis-xiv/amp/ https://books.google.com/books?id=ZSizAQAAQBAJ&pg=PA58&lpg=PA58&dq=louis+xiv+lithotomy&source=bl&ots=qn1yp87RF3&sig=ACfU3U3UC6ILsKhiEEcOujXFzUl8XRoUnA&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjWroCmn73mAhVTsZ4KHa7BBrAQ6AEwDHoECAkQAQ#v=onepage&q=louis%20xiv%20lithotomy&f=false https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://ajph.aphapublications.org/doi/pdf/10.2105/AJPH.77.5.636&ved=2ahUKEwjWroCmn73mAhVTsZ4KHa7BBrAQFjABe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:59 PM
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I agree with the immigration aspect. Civil unions (and domestic partnerships) are different in that they have state rights. You do not have federal rights like you would in marriage, like SS benefits, tax breaks, etc. Not every state will even recognize your CU or DP. It's not at a federal level, and different states have different rules. Not even every state has a civil union or domestic partnership. And many people will not see your CU or DP the same as marriage, as far as how people view you.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:40 PM
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Some fucking king, Louis XIV, I think (will come back to edit if I am wrong) wanted to see his wife and mistress give birth with legs spread (each had upwards of five children), on their back. It's a terrible birthing position in terms of practicality, but it allowed for a better view for him (or a doctor). On a note that is not depraved, it's easier for the doctor to intervene. But midwives did it on birthing chairs before during the medieval era. Became very popular after that. I'll try to lin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:00 PM
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I've been a live-in GF twice (psuedo live-in the last time, but we spent the vast majority of our nights together). NO. Never again. All the wifey shit expected without the actual commitment. What a sham. And I have no idea how she could think that. She has moved on and has a live-in BF she has been with for almost five years that she bought a house last year with (!!!), but I think some part of her is still hurt by my dad. It was a bad relationship, but she did everything she could to put on a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:33 PM
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The more I date and have experience with them, the more it feels like being with a perpetual child. They literally only respond to actual, firm consequences- like never taking them back. Words are not enough. They always revert, because in their mind, you'll just take them back again after giving them the silent treatment for a few months. Of what consequence is that to them? I never felt respect, after taking back an ex, even if his behavior improved for like fourteen days and then he slipped u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:04 PM
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👏👏👏 I wanted to reply paragraph by paragraph, but I'd just end up quoting the whole damn thing. Nobody likes the idea of divorce. Nobody wants it to happen to them. But I'd rather have the legal protection in the case that if my relationship does fail, especially if I had children with him (I know OP is CF, but it is still important). I don't know how the marriagefree folk (yes, it's a subreddit. Pretty inactive, but it is there if you wanna pop in) come up with the idea that you HAVE to have a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 03:22 PM
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Yeah, that's precisely the reason why I just typically lurk. I felt the need to try to reach out to her, though. Not sure specifically what it was about that post that compelled me, though. It seems counterintuitive, though. Most of the redditors posting are women with male PA's. Probably just best to send a PM in that case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 09:33 PM
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I found this while scrolling through my likes on my OLD app. This is not the first one like this. I got the upgraded pay version so you can see who likes you, but the amount of guys that are like this make me think it was not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:45 PM
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For real. Especially if you hooked up at his house. Now I'm driving home at midnight feeling like a prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:54 PM
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I know you're asking for people who are in their 20s who have had it or seen it work out, but I have rarely ever seen it work out. The two anomalies actually happen to be in my life, oddly enough. Parents split and they each found someone that was about 15 years younger. Both younger parties are just about to turn 30 soon, so still in their 20s. My dad, though I love him, was a horrific husband to my mom, but has done an absolute 180 for his new wife. It was bizarre. It seems to be working out, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:29 PM
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Do not have any social media like Facebook or Linkedin, shady about information. If after becoming official they do not post a picture with me clearly saying she is my GF, it's over Damn, I felt that this morning. My ex who said he wanted to marry me never posted anything about me on FB, no pictures, status updates, nothing, but then I found a post of him reminiscing over an 8 year old memory photo of him and his ex wife on some trip. I was played and I allowed it to go on for almost a year. NEV…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:58 PM
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Just about to say that. You cannot will the voices and other debilitating symptoms way. It gets worse over time without treatment. Unless he lied about that in the first place, since OP says he has narc tendencies. This reads as if he has mild OCD and is just managing his symptoms on his own. Also, OP, actual narc tendencies don't come from being 16 years old and getting broken up with. What is that. I'm so sick of people blaming their terrible personalities on mental illness when it is clearly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 10:31 PM
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Ha, I was just in there. I hope she leaves him, for her sake. I'm usually just flabbergasted at the mistreatment they go through and stick with over on that sub. Maybe I'm just a very intolerant person, but it never fails to leave me mouth agape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 08:59 PM
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A lot of guys say women have BPD when they express anything other than happiness or neutrality at the bare minimum. Having negative emotions because of a bad experience or a series of bad experiences, and not wanting to put up with BS is a personality disorder, apparently. It's been hijacked and gives us who actually have it or have dealt with it and are living better lives because we took the time to get help bad names. Anyone who flippantly uses it like the OP's friend is usually emotionally s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 08:50 PM
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I think it's so easy to implement because it's something most of us suspected, but never thought to do, because it goes against current societal norms. Get rid if the pickme habits and it's like second nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 04:13 PM
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I worked with a guy who was in special forces on this last fire crew I was just on. ZERO empathy, piggish as hell. An ex marine joined us later on in the season and he was just as bad. I don't know what he did while he was in, though. The remaining guys were ex-navy and we had one reservist working with us- he was the only good one. I could never trust a guy if he was on deployment, anyway. There's a huge hookup culture in coed spaces. How would I even know about it if you're on the other side o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 03:46 PM
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Right, that would be the main thing that would stop me if I did it myself. I hate how in the US you have to take out a mortgage to send your kid to daycare. But you can't pay those workers and teachers peanuts (I used to be one of them for a bit), it's a much needed and important job. Daycare is just one facet of childcare costs, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:25 AM
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A lot of them have extremely outdated and misogynistic views in general. Incredibly rowdy when together in groups of 3+ (the ones I was with, anyway. Different MOS's/jobs attract different kinds of people), heavy drinkers, a lot of the really low ranking guys (privates) use uniform selfies with their rank (or lack thereof) showing and don't expect civilian women to pick up on the fact that they're at the bottom of the totem pole, but act like they're hot shit once they hit the town on the weeken…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 04:21 AM
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This is my nightmare come to fruition. That is the reason why I am so damn hesitant to consider having kids with a guy (the last one wanted a family, too. That would have been vile, and I probably would have ended up living the same life my mom lived for 20+ years). Would a sperm donor be a better idea? I've considered it for down the line, if I end up wanting them; adoption and fostering are often just way too hard, in their own ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 04:06 AM
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Personally, you could offer to pay me the amount of the national debt and you could not convince me to have a child with a man that already has kids with someone else. Life is hard enough, why play it on Expert+.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 03:39 AM
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I guess I have learned that liberal feminism and pick me's helped this happen. They think all we want is marriage and kids and that we will just take any available man. There's some dumbass post in the conspiracy subreddit by a woman who rightfully so attacks liberal feminism, but goes off the deep end with evo-psych and tradfem saying that since women report anxiety more often than men, that it's a sign that we shouldn't be in the work place and that we were all happier in the 1950s when we mad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 03:19 AM
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It shows their true intentions. Anyone that felt that men as a whole (no, I do not want to hear about your exceptional boyfriend or husband) may just be misunderstood should have their eyes opened by this. TRP advocates for and teaches emotional abuse. FDS is literally just about improving dating standards for our protection (emotional, mental, physical, sexual), with a huge emphasis on raising yourself to the next level as a human being, therefore improving all aspects of your life. Anyone anti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 02:58 AM
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Apologies for being lazy. GenderCritical and PinkpillFeminism. I think GC is better at removing and banning men that feel the need to infiltrate literally one of the handful of subs explicitly for us, in comparison to PinkpillFeminism. I see a lot of dudes trolling there. More so than here, at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 02:05 AM
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Don't you just love how they subscribe to MGTOW but spend all their free time obsessing over us and foaming at the mouth at the thought of a woman going her own way, or improving her standards. Cirque du Soleil mental gymnastics. This is the superior sex, everyone. On another note, the intellectual disparity between our subs and theirs is wider than the Grand Canyon. When they type, they literally look like they mashed a fist on their crusty keyboards. I guess it's hard to type only with your le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 01:24 AM
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It definitely exaggerates any issues that you may have. Sociopathy is rewarded simply because it makes it easier to promote if you are wired that way and, you know, do your job especially if you are an infantryman. My ex who self admittedly really, really struggles with empathy and revealed just the tip of the iceberg of how terrible of a person he "used" to be (old habits die hard)- and I am sure would be diagnosed as a DSM-V ASPD- was a raider in the marines. Hell to the motherfucking no, not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 12:57 AM
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Ex-military. Have dated every branch besides Coast Guard (but they don't really count anyway, as we saw last winter, but I digress /s). It definitely attracts a very specific type of person. WITHIN that type of (generalized) people there are a variety of personalities, and of course not EVERYONE is like I am describing; we're not robots, but it definitely is like a frat house at times. Don't even get me started on guys from SF. They literally have psychological tests during the training process …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 12:29 AM
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You have a finite fertility window and a finite amount of time on this earth, don’t waste a second on men who do not actively make you ecstatically blissfully happy 90% of the time. Emphasis mine. Which is exactly why I have decided that if nobody comes along by my late twenties, thirty at the latest, I am going to a sperm donor. (Adoption often involves a lot of red tape and heart ache, and is costly anyway; fostering often brings a whole other set of challenges). I have a very, very good amoun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:59 PM
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It's kind of a chicken or the egg situation. Have they always fetishized every single aspect of relationships and women, or has porn caused it- or at the very least, been a massive influence. I went out with a guy about a month ago, he was the oldest I had ever been with (18 years older). As soon as we met up he literally made upwards of five, but no more than eight age gap jokes (infantilizing me of course, not pointing out his own geriatric state). I got pissed off and asked him if he wanted m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:13 PM
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Here to echo what you just wrote. If they're willing to lie about something you can directly and objectively observe by just looking at them, they either think you're dumber than someone that snacked on lead paint chips growing up, or that you have such low self esteem and self worth that you'd just be willing to completely overlook the blatant lie. What else would they be lying about. I see with ages in older men, as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 04:15 PM
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Your comment inspired the feeling in me of wanting to pull someone out of a burning building to save them. Please NO. They are addicts, too. About half of the men I have slept with and most of my boyfriends have been older (averaging about 10 years older) and they're the same. All walks of life, met in IRL or on OLD. You just get the added bonus of them fetishizing your age and the fact that they will rapidly deteriorate before you even come close to being past your own physical prime (which is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:53 PM
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Edit, wrong person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:52 PM
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That sub is an absolute tumor on this hellscape of a website. This, GC, Men_Of_The_Wall, and PPF are all diamonds in the rough. Note how they are all ran by and for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:37 PM
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Literally follow the example of the meme you posted and do not respond. Block. olivetree08 has left the chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 06:08 AM
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On a very superficial note- look how beautiful she is in comparison to him. Is that an actual picture of him or an avatar. It has the facial features of Jigsaw from Saw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 07:21 PM
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Yeah, I have figured that out as far as the relationship age gap goes. Before I found FDS I was dating older men with the hopes that they would be more likely to have their shit together, but they've all been dumpster fires as well. If not worse than guys my age (in their own way). He was very good at what I would consider gaslighting. He had a really good way of making me feel like I was the insane one. When I broke up with him initially I told him that I should have grown a spine months ago an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 02:14 AM
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I instinctually took a shot after reading that. Wow. This is insanity. What's also insane is the fact that we share air with these creatures. I have put up with some garbage behavior in my life, but how abysmally low is your self esteem that you would even entertain putting up with this. She sounds like a house pet, which I'm sure is what all he sees her as. And what married man subscribes to MGTOW, even casually. Isn't the whole purpose to, you know, go your own freaking way?? Just do it! Pleas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 12:57 AM
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Well, I can recognize that I definitely had rose colored glasses on. So besides learning some valuable lessons, I can't really say I got much of anything out of it except a whole lot of grief. He was all lip service and outright lies. The only really good thing about him was he paid somewhat most of the time when we went out. This was before I discovered FDS so it was good enough to me. He was actually pretty damn disrespectful of my boundaries and of me as a human being. I told him porn in a re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 12:26 AM
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To me, personally, it just doesn't add up. I used to believe in giving (men) the benefit of the doubt and multiple chances because we're all human, but just no. No mas. If I found a womans skirt in my ex's house, or whoever's I'm seeing at the time, I'd run for the hills. I think that is perfectly acceptable to be considered damning evidence. Where do you draw the line? A swimsuit? A bra? A pair of underwear? Why is a skirt okay. Would you bring home a pair of men's pants from a party or a dude'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 12:10 AM
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That skirt story is the biggest load of bullshit I've read in a long time. He gave enough of a shit to grab some random's article of clothing, kept it for months, and swats flies with it??? But yet couldn't even keep his dwelling acceptable until very recently, after you found the skirt. Honestly that is shit that my ex would pull. Does he also go on and on about how devoted he is to you and how much he loves being with you because he trusts YOU? If so he is he's covering his ass so when shit li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:59 PM
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I wonder if maybe that was said because they knew that what we are currently experiencing would be the end result? Surely male created religions knew the nature of men and what they would do with their dicks given the chance so they instilled fear in people to curtail it. I'm not a massive history buff, but that's my speculation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 11:56 PM
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Hell, thanks to this extreme insecurity I convinced myself that I was way sexually attracted to men than I am, because I wanted men to like me (along with other reasons like internalized homophobia). Still figuring that one out 😬 It's funny you mention that. I, painfully, came to the conclusion that I was bisexual back in high school. A lot of internalized homophobia in that (I went to a Christian school in elementary and middle school) that I am STILL dealing with. I definitely overplayed my at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 06:03 PM
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Yeah, I wouldn't quite say he's talked a big game, but he focuses on it a lot. Like, are you trying to convince me, or yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 04:26 PM
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You're right. He will be blocked. My heart just can't take these games and lies. I have a Tinder but out of the thousands of likes and many matches, it's just all garbage. I've had the app in the PNW and now in the SW... they're all the same (if not WORSE this time around). 22-40, doesn't matter. I've thought about Hinge since I have the app downloaded but just need to finish uploading pictures, but I just feel mentally burnt out after all this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 03:41 PM
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Yeah. After agreeing on what to do tomorrow night but not where (I told him to pick the place) it's been radio silence. I do not understand these mind games? It is bizarre. I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone sometimes. He says I am way out of his league (which... yeah...) and could not understand why I wanted to be with him. So I guess my hunch was correct, that if he couldn't respect himself enough to accept that I liked him, that he would never respect me, at least in the way that I should b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 05:16 AM
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You're right. I just often have a hard time because I'm afraid that I'll never find anything else better. I mean, I am content on my own, but a partner is nice... Well as far as gut feelings go, I actually had a nightmare about him. That he was cheating on me (we are not dating at the moment, but in my dream we were together) and he turned super violent, almost demonic, and tried to hurt me after I became upset. I've had a LOT of recent prophetic or foreshadowing experiences that are almost spir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 04:56 AM
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Well, after the break up, I was honestly not looking for anything and was content... I was emotionally and personally regressing with my ex. I am always looking to better improve myself, this thing with the new guy just kind of happened. Ideally, I think I would like marriage... I love relationships and the dynamic that happens in them. I love caring for another person and loving them, and having it be reciprocated. But I've seen the shit show that was my parents' marriage (20 yrs of infidelity …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 04:19 AM
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I guess I am just confused, because I told him it would be fine if he just wanted a fling, just be honest so no hard feelings happen.. I mean, I gave him an out. Why would he say he would be interested in a relationship if that was not the case? Edit: forgot a major detail, he is divorced and has kids. I do not know why they split, but know he was faithful to her while on deployment, at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 03:49 AM
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You're right. I don't know what I'm expecting. Hope is like my religion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 03:38 AM
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I've heard... realistically, I know... guys my age just usually don't interest me for some reason. Should probably sort that out in therapy, probably too many bad experiences with them. I guess I'm hoping that older guys will have their shit together, but they've all been dumpster fires as well. So I don't know what my thought process is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 03:37 AM
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I think he uses his phone somewhat regularly. Whenever I was around him though in a social setting he was never ever glued to it, if that's what you mean. 1.) His age bracket has gone up and down. He doesnt exclusively date younger women. 2.) I am in the SW portion of the US (for now, will be koving to the SE in the winter) and he is in the PNW, but in a few months will be moving to just the west coast. 3.) Oh no, he told me this after I had broken up with my ex. You're right, I'll tread lightly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 03:36 AM
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I never got bad vibes from him. I had a bad gut feeling about my ex the entire time I was with him and was constantly dissatisfied with the amount if effort he put in, but thought I was the one with the problem. I guess my picker could use some fine tuning. I just don't know why the texting has exponentially slowed down? We agreed to meet up tomorrow night. I wanted to meet (but not disclose, of course) to get a better feeling about how he will treat me after confessing his feelings about me. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 03:31 AM
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Unfortunately this is the EXACT same dynamic that happened with my ex. Sigh. I thought that I was picking up better habits, but I guess not...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 03:28 AM
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