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RantHippy667/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 01:32 AM
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Success StoriesHippy667/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 09:49 AM
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Hippy667/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 07:02 PM
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Hippy667/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 09:59 PM
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Go old school. Hold a door or two open for the ladies. Say hi to the woman in the lift. Chat about the weather in the Starbucks queue. Ask a woman about which washing powder is best in the supermarket. You'll be surprised at how starved women are for conversation in real life. You'll also be surprised at how easy it is to have a normal conversation and how easily charmed women are for that shit. And that's all it is - conversations.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/26 07:34 AM
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There's a lot to unpack there, but putting the past aside, the glaring thing to me in the here and now is you're paying not only the rent on your place, but also a mortgage on a house that's in your sole name, but she is living in? You must know that's madness (and maybe there's more to it?). I would suggest getting your finances in order by either getting out of that mortgage and giving her the keys, or simply selling the house and giving her whatever you have to. Its yours. Use saved funds to …
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 09:57 PM
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I had no issue with being called out for dropping the ball in my marriage. Holding each other to account is part of what marriage should be about. But comparing me to an ex? Fuck that nonsense.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 07:46 AM
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10 minute procedure. No pain whatsover. One day in bed. Crack on!
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 07:28 AM
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This. Fear of the unknown and the shame of ending a marriage that everyone thinks is solid. Jumping into the black hole, away from a role that you play was too much for me for many years. Yeesh.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 01:34 PM
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You cannot be responsible for anyone's ultimate, true inner happiness. Sure, we all pissed our wives off at some point about the trash not being taken out, or the shower that was never fixed, or the stupid thing you said to her brother that time. But they need a core of happiness and that comes from within, not you. What you describe will keep happening. Get out now.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 01:24 PM
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Weird isn't it. You agree your roles (I'll work to give us the financial stability, and you stay at home to bring up the kids), and then she starts with the "why can't you do more with our kids?", "its alright for you, you're out the house every day, while I'm here with the kids and Telletubbies all day". Well honey, I'm out there busting my balls all week, long hours, dealing with assholes and office politics, so that the golden goose shits into our joint account every month, so that we get a h…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 01:15 PM
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I remember when I was 18 and working in my first job for a guy who was in his early 40s (RIP Tony, what a top guy he was). He kinda took me under his wing and gave me a few young man life lessons along the way. I'll always remember when he told me, "Remember Hippy667, when its offered to you on a plate, at the end of the day, its just sex". Wise words!
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/26 04:30 PM
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I mean surely she wouldn't be cheating on you so soon. But then, nothing surprises me after what my ex did. I dunno man. Hire a PI. Rent a car and follow her? You need clarity one way or another. One thing I've learned since my divorce and now in a new relationship, is HAVE THAT DIFFICULT CONVERSATION NOW. Confront her with your concerns.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/26 02:52 PM
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Aside from the general "no" consensus you're seeing here, if I was considering this, but my kids were giving me firm feedback that they don't approve (as they appear to be), that would be enough for me to say no. Put your own kids first. Fast forward 10 years, and say this kid turns out to be badly behaved, and nothing like your existing kids. That's going to be tough on you. The betrayal is never going to go away. The kid will be a constant reminder of what your wife did, whether you like it or…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 03:42 PM
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I'm all sorted so this is very easy for me to say, but I just don't understand the apps. Everyone is on them, and all I hear are endless disaster stories and people who can't get off them, because they don't have any success. One friend has a spreadsheet of current matches/dating experiences, with literally a tick box against each for things like "single, no kids, dresses well, good job" etc. Like its a project. And then there's the mindset of "maybe the right one is around the corner". Its like…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 01:03 PM
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More power to you my man. I think the thing is it shouldn't be hard work. You shouldn't go to bed leaving things unsaid. One thing my new partner is very good at, is having those difficult conversations. If something worries her about us (and there's been a bit of that), she'll say it. We talk it through, open and honestly, and figure it out, or at least get to understand the other's perspective. We don't disagree on much. I mean, who would have thought the key to a successful relationship was c…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 12:42 PM
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I posted about this a few months back actually: I was a few months into my separation, (marriage broke down long before that), and I was absolutely down and out both emotionally and physically. Didn't want to leave the house, didn't want to talk to anyone, eat properly, work. Just nothing. Couldn't see a way forward. Hated the world. I was a mess and everyone was worried about me and my state of mind. The phone rang, it was my buddy inviting me to a 4th July dinner party he and his wife were hos…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 12:30 PM
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Post divorce, I believe I may have met "my person". What I've learned is that I clearly wasn't with the right person in my marriage, although I didn't really appreciate that in the thick of a 20 year marriage, with kids, mortgages, jobs, finances and putting the trash out every Sunday night. You just get on with it and assume that this is how life is - however miserable or just plain mundane things might have been. You accept. You plod along. And then one day everything blew up. The thing is, I'…
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 10:08 AM
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The obvious answer would be the age old adage of "no contact". Its difficult, but doable. Over time the empathy and intrusive thoughts start to go and eventually you'll realise the split was the right decision for you both. Hang in there - it does get easier.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 10:28 AM
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I think as has been said, there is no right or wrong answer. When I told my mother that I was parting ways with my ex, her exact words to me were (and I quote): "you just need to get out there and find someone who will worship your cock. That'll fix everything that's going on in your head right now". She's 88. And yes, mad as a box of frogs, but she's lived a life! This doesn't mean jump into a full-on, loved-up relationship with the first woman you meet; More that meeting someone and having gre…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 10:25 AM
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If the potential character assassination bothers you, you need to make more leverage of the generous financial offer you are making. Quid pro quo. I'm not sure why you would put yourself in a situation where you're being a nice guy to your ex (who you profess to not stand anymore) then put up with a mountain of shit talk from her. And I would absolutely not hesitate to pull the financial teat from her mouth if she starts badmouthing you. I think you need to make that clear to her and act accordi…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 11:56 AM
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Don't underestimate the general stress of sleeping with someone new. I assume you were with your wife for some time and faithful. Regardless of the shenanigans going on in your head with regards to your wife's betrayal, for some of us (myself included) just the act of sleeping with someone new is tricky to navigate. You want to perform, she might not do the things your previous partner did, you're a little nervous navigating your way around a new body. There's lots going on under the hood and if…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 11:17 PM
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Some great perspectives here, pretty much aligned with my thought process. Thank you all. To add some context: our girls are young adults now (thank the lord), so when ex and I do communicate, its about day to day practical things relating to their lives, college or new boyfriends, or her having a moan about the eldest, who lives with her, who can be challenging to live with. There's no weekly handover event, our kids come and go between us as they please and are pretty independent. Her and I di…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 01:53 PM
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For sure my man - I'm no expert on all this, and I'm far from perfect. I still have sad moments staring at the ceiling in the bed at 3.00am, going over what she did. But the general principle remains. And all the other stuff you'll read on here remains in play too: work on yourself, time is a great healer - all that stuff is true, and part of the solution. I was initially determined to never talk to her again, but realised I wanted to use that as a form of revenge. Time has mellowed the situatio…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 01:35 PM
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I'm late 50s. Split happened two years ago.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 11:02 PM
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Hahah. I love this. My new apartment is perfect. No more chaos. No more crap. And I now have just four coffee mugs. Not twenty, but just FOUR. Can you even imagine? The best thing is my utility bills, now a fraction of what they were. "Honey, why are all the lamps on in the lounge with a candle lit?" "Because it looks nice" "But you're upstairs in the bath" "Honestly, its like you DON'T CARE HOW OUR HOUSE LOOKS" "BUT NO ONE IS HERE TO SEE IT" ad infinitum... Aside from enjoying post divorce life…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 02:16 PM
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I've taken a different perspective on this. There's a phrase used in financial services: "Past performance is not an indicator of future returns". I was hurt, betrayed and let down badly by my now ex-wife. The shame was almost insurmountable at the time. I was absolutely at rock bottom. When I asked myself the question, could I ever trust someone again, I came to the conclusion that to not trust someone again because of the behaviours of my ex would mean cutting off my nose to spite my face. Why…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 02:03 PM
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Kinda similar here - the closure I wanted was that final frank discussion and hoping for an apology for all the shit she pulled. But when it became clear I was never going to get that, because it turns out that she's a raging narcissist who believes that her shit doesn't stink, I figured that the best form of revenge is silence - no contact. No checking up on the socials, no messaging, or driving past her place to see what car might be parked in her drive. Nothing. Its all destructive and a wast…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 04:58 PM
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Good luck sir that sounds like a whole heap of holy hell right there. Isn't it amazing how we (and I include myself in this) go from a wedding day of joy and unflinching love and conviction that this person we are committing to is THE ONE, to this sort scenario. Humans are funny things. Or not so funny depending on how you look at it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 08:50 AM
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I think your post says it all, it sounds like he doesn't know what he wants and is still dealing with the trauma and hangover of his divorce (this is all perfectly understandable, and not at all a criticism). What isn't good, is he's stringing you along for the ride. Pretty selfish IMO. "He’s in therapy and clearly struggling" - this isn't the basis upon which to build a healthy relationship for either of you. He and maybe you, should go get your respective houses in order and regroup at a later…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 08:45 AM
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It was just a small piece of the jigsaw that confirmed everything else really.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 10:31 PM
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Well yeah, you need the password to actually read them - but my point is if you find there are messages hidden behind the "lock" on your wife's phone, that should be all the evidence you need that there are shenanigans going on. In my case, it was "why are you hiding messages on your phone?". There can only be one reason.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 09:49 PM
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This. There's a feature where you can hide message threads from selected contacts its called "Chat Lock". You can go further and require a passcode to read them. You don't need the passcode - no other reason why messages would be locked down. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0-U1BYzEwMI
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 01:51 PM
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Good stuff. As for the how soon is too soon to get involved with someone else, I'm not sure there's a right or wrong answer. My only take on that is to check in with yourself to make sure you're not masking the feelings you undoubtedly will be feeling about your ex. One day at a time man.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 10:35 AM
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As you're amicable (well done for managing that), it sounds like you guys can sit down and have a discussion about it. Lay it all out and talk the numbers through. Get what you agree drafted up in your financial order and submit to the court for approval. Sounds like the savings are neither here nor there, but split the home equity 50/50. On your pension, you can exclude any pension built up before you were together (if relevant), and you can make a case if you're nearer retirement than your par…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/25 03:45 PM
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I read something a while back along the lines of "Her actions tell you everything you need to know. The closure you're looking for, is right there in their behaviour". And I think that's true. As difficult as it is not to get the answers you want, or to have that final conversation where you can lay it all out (that conversation you've had a thousand times with yourself in your head), its never going to happen, because they don't believe they've done anything wrong - or, they know what they've d…
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 05:01 PM
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For me it was the betrayal first and foremost, but more than that, its been the gaslighting ever since. No accountability, no apology, no admittance of what she did or acknowledgement of what it did to me. I'm a reasonable human being and I think on the balance of things now that we are nearly a year after what went down, I could forgive her for what she did. Our marriage was over, no question about that, but when someone won't own the awful things they did to end it, there's nowhere to go. She …
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 03:08 PM
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I spent Valentine's day cleaning up runny dog mess and puke (he's better today). Postman delivered a speeding ticket and nothing else. There's always next year.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 11:08 PM
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Awesome man. Get a trim down there, get the Trojans bought and godspeed sir!
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 11:05 PM
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Well I don't know. Turn the tables and imagine you left your wife and regretted it. You confide in your best friend who obviously has your back and feels for you and wants to see you happy. Your best friend thinks they're going to do you a favour and reach out to your ex and tell them you still love them. I can see how that happens. But yeah. Fuck that.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 11:01 PM
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yup!
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 11:55 PM
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I think your assessment is pretty much on the money. STBXW told me I was controlling. Which is remarkable, given I had no problem with her holidaying alone or with friends every year in Florida, Vegas and The Bahamas, and she had a credit card paid off by my wages every month, with no spending limit or rules in place from me, to use as she saw fit. Oh, and irony of ironies, her gaslighting, manipulation and bare-faced lies at the end of our marriage were nothing but controlling. I realise now, t…
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 11:30 PM
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This post should be pinned! So much truth here. Well said.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 05:26 PM
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My situation is hard to tell because we don't talk about "us" or how we are respectively feeling or doing. She gaslighted me from the very start when I suspected her infidelity (and she continues to do so while we wait for divorce to be finalised) should I happen to touch a nerve about what happened. So of course she wants to avoid any conversation that might result in her admittance of wrongdoing or taking the slightest bit of accountability for her actions. Brush it all away, pretend it never …
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 05:18 PM
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Ice queen is a perfect description. Angry and bitter. I'm like "why are you angry at me? What did I do, other than discover your lies and cheating?". Apparently my feelings of hurt having been betrayed are my own fault as I shouldn't have been "snooping around". The lies I'm told, were her trying to protect me. You couldn't make this shit up. Which takes us back to title of your thread. I really don't even know who she is anymore, which ironically, has been a huge help in getting over the nightm…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 02:49 PM
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Similar here. All the lingerie and stockings/suspenders came out for her AP (don't ask me how I know). I never got to see that stuff for the final five years of our marriage ("I feel degraded when I wear these things for you. Never wearing that stuff again"). But as others have said, its the new excitement of it all, and a desire to snag something new I guess. All bets are off in that scenario. No protection was used either. End of marriage aside, that was all a pretty big kick to the guts. I he…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 01:56 PM
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Agree with this. The affair partner doesn't give a shit about the husband. He's not doing it to get at the husband. Morality aside, an affair is exciting at the end of the day, and its a pretty safe bet for the affair partner if things go Defcon 5.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 10:33 AM
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The truth of what actually happened in your marriage is at the end of a bottomless pit. There's your truth, there's her truth, and then there's the actual truth. The answer is floating in the wind. There will never be a final narrative that both parties agree to. If her family receive two conflicting stories, your story and her story, it doesn't resolve anything. The urge to get your point across will be huge, but at the end of the day, what difference does it make? Your split has happened, your…
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/25 10:22 AM
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This is all sound advice thank you. I've been thinking about this and I think my anger stems from STBXW putting our kids in a situation where they felt they had to keep a secret from me. Absolutely not fair on them.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 08:15 PM
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My OH went through similar emotions in terms of "is this it?" for some time. Aside from the usual marital challenges that come after several years together, it was clear that she felt she had been playing a role in our marriage and didn't really know who she was or what she wanted out of life. She felt unfulfilled both inside and outside of the marriage, and try as I did, nothing I tried to do was enough to fix it. In the end she had an affair. I've come to realise that I ultimately wasn't in co…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 07:16 AM
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If she's being honest about what she's going through, it sounds like the best thing you can do for her and for you is to let her go. Let her go and find whatever it is she's looking for. I think you have to accept that you can't be responsible for her own happiness. Been there, done that. Good luck sir.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 11:04 PM
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The hardest part is the realisation that after 20 years, she is now a stranger. We're going through it all in a very business like manner. There's no emotional talk, no checking in on each other. Just discussions about the kids and the practicalities of the divorce. It's like interacting with a new neighbour or something. She would be the person I would go to with my troubles and woes. I can't do that anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 09:52 PM
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