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Relax - didn’t mean to trigger your ex-wife PTSD. I find her attractive but she’s chubbier than the women I typically go for. Again, just a nagging thought I’m noticing of myself. I don’t find her remotely far or disgusting. Decades worth of past physical attraction is causing me to have a wandering eye, but others have pointed out that will happen regardless.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 03:07 PM
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Agreed - my ex was so very negative and I thought it cute in the beginning but it wears on you after a while
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 07:54 PM
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I might have to 😭
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 07:50 PM
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That’s the dilemma. Am I actually settling? Or am I being led by my sexual desires?
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 07:48 PM
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I think it’s something we can work on
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 07:46 PM
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sorry man - good luck! do what's best for the kids, then yourself. as a child of divorce, your kids will be better adjusted if you provide proactive clear and open communication. you'll be fine and start again after this challenging next chapter. you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. this was a very difficult decision for her and has likely thought about it for a looooong time - as women do. it's more than likely there's no convincing her to change her mind.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 02:19 AM
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we were taking things slow. we've talked about our past relationships and just referred to my ex-wife as my ex. since I'm still "young", no kid baggage, no financial baggage, no emotional baggage, it just didn't seem absolutely necessary to bring it up in the beginning. as I started to feel stronger feelings for her and vice versa, that's when I finally felt compelled to share. we spoke over again over the weekend and she said that it was a shock and wish she knew earlier but it doesn't impact h…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 02:09 AM
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Yeah I totally understand that perspective, thanks
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 05:48 PM
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That’s fair. Did what I felt was right but will accept consequences
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 05:46 PM
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She was the second person I went on a real date with since my divorce. I think I did what I felt comfortable with but will likely approach things differently moving forward
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 07:17 AM
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I flipped it my head before and decided I wouldn’t care as long as I was secure with what we had going on between us. That was in the past. Nothing to do with me. Though I agree it’s critical information to get to know someone fully. I stand by my decision and also willing to accept the consequences.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 07:10 AM
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Why can’t you imagine it? I’m curious
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 05:14 AM
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My ex
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 04:58 AM
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Yeah if she asked if I was married, I wouldn’t have lied.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 04:26 AM
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Interesting point about the trust thing.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 04:19 AM
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Perhaps you’re right. I followed my gut. 🤷
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 04:15 AM
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"you are still in love with the memory of how things used to be" -- this hit me like a ton of bricks. I think I miss my ex-wife but I'm definitely missing the good memories we shared. It's so easy to forget the reasons why it didn't work, and even easier fantasizing about all the things I could/would do differently.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 07:03 AM
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Gotta be truly sick in the head to make all that up as a man pretending to be regret-filled ex wife 😭
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/23 09:39 PM
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Damn dude. It’s so good to have a support system. I just feel so embarrassed by the whole situation and know my family will be hurt as well. Felt easier to avoid but know I can’t do that forever…no kids involved at least. Talking to my therapist has helped. Good luck to you, brother
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 10:37 PM
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I don’t think that matters. If we’re all being honest, even if she initiated the divorce, we have to accept our role in how it got to that place. As hurtful as it is, it’s also very brave thing to initiate, so that would signal to me that she is completely over her ex and ready to move on.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 06:21 PM
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Sorry this happened to you. It’s 100% insane. It’s tough, but take the high road and remain stoic because you’ve done nothing wrong. Your kids will see it and appreciate later. Disassociate yourself and any necessary comms should be sane and calm. That way she can’t use anything against you. Good luck, brother
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 05:36 PM
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Exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 07:58 PM
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So fucked up but they won’t catch us being bitter. Too much life ahead of us for that - good luck on your journey man
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 05:47 PM
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I feel like that’s a hard subject to avoid… But I get what you’re saying - like not necessary on the first couple dates
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 06:57 AM
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I feel you man - you got this. Wasn’t meant to be and that’s okay. We get to focus on ourselves now and rebuild our confidence. A piece of advise I see in the sub is to not resent but let go. Ghost em.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 05:08 AM
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Bracing myself…good luck to you, brother
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 01:46 AM
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Funny you say that, I’ve been wanting to dabble with golf. This is awesome though - need to find my community
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 01:45 AM
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That’s encouraging. Great points all around and well-received. Won’t be making that mistake again (cutting people out)
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 01:44 AM
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That is frustrating, brother. I’m sorry…
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 12:21 AM
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Tough leaving something that you’ve invested so much time and energy…
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 08:05 PM
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Update: it’s really over. Unreal. Like…do I start looking for lawyers?
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 08:03 PM
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Update: it’s really over. Unreal.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 08:01 PM
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Thank you. That’s an interesting point: “…planning it for years. Their grieving is done.” Look forward to confirming this with her so that I can move on. Haven’t yet told my family and friends until it’s definitive
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 03:50 PM
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That’s the hard truth. I’ll confirm this weekend when we get together to discuss things…need to brace myself for it being completely over.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 03:46 PM
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