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She works for the post office now, but had been working part time (and still does) for the local minor league baseball team (and also the major league team that is temporarily sharing space with them). That minor league team is owned by the same person who owns the local NBA team. So she has done some work for them too. And it was there that she met the man with whom she wrecked our marriage. The whole situation has killed my desire to support any of the sports teams in my town. Because manageme…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 08:49 PM
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Make that 3 of us. My STBX and I are ending a 21-year marriage. During a low point I posted something on a social media site which drew the attention of a woman who lives halfway across the country. We started chatting and have been chatting every day now for 2 weeks straight. I really don’t know where this is going to go. But it is nice, I’ll tell you that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 03:03 AM
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My STBXW is expected to move into her own place in the coming weeks. We share kids but they are adults. I’m not sure how things are going to go between us after she leaves. Watching this post with interest…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 04:41 PM
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Very similar situation here. My STBXW is in the process of getting her own place and I’m just doing my best to hold on emotionally and mentally until then.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 12:22 AM
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Very close to that myself. STBX is in the process of buying her own place using the money I gave her to buy her out of our current home. I expect she will be gone by the end of February. She isn’t speaking to me right now because of something that happened earlier this week that caused her to think I was sabotaging her effort to buy her new place. Are you kidding me? I’m over the verbal and emotional abuse. I WANT her out!
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 03:19 PM
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Man, this hit me because my STBXW acts similar to me, esp when she is drunk. And like you I try to play the nice guy and act like nothing ever happened. It’s an anxious attachment issue for me; you might want to consider if you have a similar situation.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/26 01:47 PM
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I get a similar monologue about once a month or so and it ALWAYS comes after she’s drank half of a bottle of vodka. The latest one occurred Sunday night. I listened to what she had to say and picked up what I needed to pick up. That being said, I have no desire for further monologues and am working to get the paperwork filed to eliminate such a possibility.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/26 06:33 PM
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He turned 18 back in November
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 01:24 AM
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We have general agreement on how to divide things and just need to document it and also figure out spousal support. The kids are adults; they’ll stay with me since I’m keeping the house and it is the only home they have ever known. I’ve tried to do this the easy way, the patient way. But I can’t anymore. Her FWB is a married man who started hooking up with my STBX only about 6 months into his current marriage (which is his third marriage). I really don’t know how much he is commiserating with he…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 04:11 AM
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Thanks. That’s what I’m trying to do.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 04:06 AM
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I’m planning to give her spousal support in addition to buying her out. We still need to figure out the amount of spousal support she will need. My goal was to give her enough from the house so that she could buy her own place free and clear and that’s the plan. I definitely will discuss the home sale with the attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 04:04 AM
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Refinanced and took cash out.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 03:06 AM
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Yes. She starts as early as 10 AM.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 03:05 AM
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I’ve put up with her drinking and the resulting abuse for a number of years. It’s gotten progressively worse. When you tell her she is drunk she says she isn’t. I don’t know what being drunk means to her but any normal thinking person who could see her in that state would certainly agree. I admit I haven’t been the greatest of partners and wasn’t the greatest father and so I own a lot of the reasons for the failure of the marriage. Her bitterness over that comes out when she gets really drunk. I…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 02:04 AM
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No, FWB is a better description. He was a coworker. She was unhappy and wanted to open the marriage and I stupidly agreed in the hopes that it might save things. It didn’t, obviously. (And for the record I remained monogamous). I think there may have been things going on between them before she asked to open the marriage but I am not 100 percent certain. Our older son recently accused her of having an affair with the guy, which she strongly denied, and it has caused a lot of resentment and animo…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/26 01:55 AM
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California
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 07:42 PM
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She signed off on the title to me. Everything else was done verbally. Sounds like I have a problem….
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 07:33 PM
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I’m hoping that won’t be an issue. She got more than her share of the equity in the house. And she made it clear she was comfortable with the amount I gave her.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 07:19 PM
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More like give her most of it. She was a stay at home mom for 20 years so I’m going to take a bit of a hit financially.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 05:21 PM
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We pretty much have agreed on everything except alimony amount. We’re just reluctant to start the process. She wants me to file and has said she will not respond so it will be uncontested and we will do an MSA. Kids are adults so no custody fight. Yes, I am aware of the risk of her changing her mind. I think it’s very minor. She usually forgets a lot of what she said after her drinking binges. But I don’t. And that’s why I am not going to wait any longer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 04:43 PM
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👆🏻💯
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 03:12 AM
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that's me. Yeah, I'll own a good chunk of the issues, but how can the failure be entirely MY fault?
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/25 11:28 PM
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Their relationship was already pretty bad. It certainly didn’t help. Especially when she decided that she wasn’t going to talk to him after he called her out. He’s 19. He is definitely not naive.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 03:07 AM
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She probably won’t take it with her when she moves out. If so, then I plan to take a hammer to it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 09:39 PM
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Yeah, this mug will probably get tossed. Especially in light of some information I learned within the last hour.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 06:25 PM
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Oh, I do. I’m accepting that this chapter of my life is closing and I am actually a bit excited about the next one.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 05:39 PM
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I like your idea of going out just to see if you can talk to a woman. I might try that.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 06:01 PM
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Curious why so many suggest I file first and then refinance. We have agreed that I will buy her out and agreed on a figure for that buyout. I would prefer to take advantage of lower interest rates right now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 04:13 AM
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Thank you all for your comments. After reading everyone’s input I’ve concluded that I just want to have peace with my STBX. If that means I need to file, then that is what I will do. She wanted to end things amicably and lately things have been going the exact opposite direction. I helped contribute to that. And that stops now.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 08:50 PM
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I admit that I am the main reason why my STBX is leaving me. There are things that I did that were wrong and there were things I could have done differently. She ran out of patience. I don’t blame her; I own it. But I also believe it takes two to make a marriage work and there’s a lot of things that she hasn’t done right, either. She doesn’t see it; she is one of those people who is never wrong. It’s always someone else’s fault. I don’t know that she’ll ever get it. I hope for her own sake and f…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 04:59 PM
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I am. Despite my efforts to try to get us to reconcile she told me back on Labor Day that she wanted a divorce, and it took me a couple of weeks to come around to accepting that. Once we did things improved a lot. She wants to do things amicably, with no lawyers. Figuring out the financial piece is the only challenge. Her mom and stepdad are on a monthlong cruise and she is house sitting for them, giving us time to get used to being apart. It has actually been ok for the most part. I’m finding I…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/25 01:43 AM
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I’m using ChatGPT to help me through my split and it has been incredibly helpful. The challenge is to not get dependent on it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/25 01:38 AM
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I don’t disagree and I admit that this contributed to much of the strain that destroyed my marriage. But character also matters, and my STBXW is one of those people who cannot stand being told that they are wrong. As I said in an earlier comment I could count on both hands the number of times she admitted she was wrong and apologized to me for it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/25 08:12 PM
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HUGE issue in my marriage. My STBXW and I have been doing a trial separation and those behaviors are the things I DO NOT miss about her being gone. She’s a lovely woman in many ways but she always had to be right. I could probably count on both hands the number of times she apologized to me for being wrong in our 21 years of marriage. I had someone tell me the other day that I looked less stressed and happier. That was nice to hear. Chalk it up to being away from that toxicity and also not havin…
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/25 08:07 PM
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I’m in an identical situation and this is how I am handling it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 05:17 PM
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I had a conversation with my STBXW this past weekend. She is the one who wants a divorce. She had an affair. She acknowledged she had sex with the other man, has been on and off again with him. She asked me if I would be open to reconciling if she concluded that she was open to reconciliation. I told her I didn’t know. And it’s for the same issues others have identified here. Her actions have totally humiliated me and damaged my trust. I have been with her for 22 years, married for almost 21 and…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 10:24 PM
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OP, thank you for sharing your experiences. Best wishes to you as you start your new chapter. As an aside and a follow on to some of the other comments…my STBXW asked me the other day whether or not I would be open to it if she wanted to reconcile (she has been having an affair and wants the divorce). I told her I didn’t know. It hurts to say that since we have been together for 21 years. A few weeks ago I might have been more open to it. But she recently did some things involving her AP and me …
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 07:58 PM
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My STBX’s AP is married and doesn’t want to leave his wife. It’s her first marriage and he doesn’t want to hurt her. Ok. Explain that one to me… My STBX has always prized stability. She knows she is not going to get it with this guy but she can’t stay away from him and he can’t stay away from her. But STBX will also not be a third wheel in a relationship. So it’s going to collapse, and she knows it. It’s sad to see.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 01:03 AM
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I took a few swings at a punching bag at the gym envisioning it was my STBX’s AP. Felt good to get that out of me.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 12:59 AM
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Yeah, I’ve still got mixed emotions about her taking me over to the booth where her AP worked. And it wasn’t until I pointed him out to her that she acknowledged that he was working there. I was pretty upset and then she had the audacity to get upset at me over my reaction. I calmed myself down but that was hard.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 12:58 AM
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I appreciate your comments.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 04:59 PM
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She told me when she first met him that she knew she was in trouble, because apparently they just really connected. She described him as “her person.” They have a lot in common from what she told me. She didn’t elaborate. She knew what she was getting into with him and still went for it. Which hurts, obviously. My and my SBTX’s personalities are very different and she appreciated those differences the first years of our marriage (we talked about being yin and yang and she even bought me some cuf…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 04:55 PM
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I had bought her the concert tix as a birthday gift before she said she wanted a divorce. I offered to back out of going, she still wanted me to go. I’m trying to be amenable in order to ensure the divorce goes smoothly. Last night it was a bit difficult to be amenable.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 06:56 PM
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The situation was such that I could not talk to him. He was working. My STBX deliberately took me to where he was, and said it was unavoidable (we were at a concert and the booth he was working was not as busy as others). She deliberately avoided talking to him. I was a bit irritated at her about it anyway. She said he apparently tried to get out of working to avoid a situation where he would see me, but he still had to work.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 06:31 PM
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He’s older than me (I’m 50, he’s 53), seems to carry himself well. Decent looking guy. I could see why my STBX was drawn to him.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 05:40 PM
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I discovered this past weekend that someone my STBX and I have known for several years was aware of (and, as best as I can tell, supportive of) her affair. They talked on the phone yesterday for about an hour and my STBX was commenting to me afterwards about how long it had been since they really talked and how it was nice to have chatted with her. There wasn’t much I could say or wanted to say in response. It disgusted me and it hurt.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 01:45 PM
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As my SBTX and I discussed our divorce plans, one of the things she has made very clear to me is that she wants me to continue to be a part of her family. I was not real certain how much I wanted to stay involved with them once we are done. But she mentioned our two nieces and she said to me, “you would not abandon those girls, would you?” And that hit me right in the heart. It felt like it would be selfish to leave their lives (not that I am all that involved in them since they live out of stat…
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/25 04:26 PM
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