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LEVEL UPIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:56 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:09 PM
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NAH, SISIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:03 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:13 PM
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QUEEN SH*TIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 05:46 PM
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RANTIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 07:51 PM
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RANTIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:54 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:55 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:44 PM
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RANTIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:23 PM
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#JustHVMThingsIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 03:28 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:11 PM
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FIELD REPORT IrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 08:51 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:59 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:00 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:56 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:55 AM
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IrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 07:28 PM
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IrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:04 PM
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Story time ☕IrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:52 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:14 AM
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DISCUSSIONIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:28 AM
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IrritatedMango/r/askFDS09/10/20 10:41 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:57 PM
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QUEEN SH*TIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:03 PM
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Story time ☕IrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:30 PM
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DISCUSSIONIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:47 PM
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QUEEN SH*TIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:59 AM
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How-To High ValueIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:32 AM
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FDS HUMORIrritatedMango/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:22 PM
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There's a song by Becky Hill by Back and Forth where she describes indecisive men very well. And it's a bit of a bop!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 08:10 PM
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Love this post! I'm only in my early twenties and I had an epiphany a few months ago whilst I was hiking alone in the mountains that my ideal person probably didn't exist. A little voice in my head told me "You can whatever you want for the rest of your life and you will never answer to anyone!" I had a v rough upbringing so whatever freedom I've gained since going no contact has been exhilarating. It's just lovely knowing I can have it forever if I want to. Since then I've become a million time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 08:06 PM
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It's sad because years ago I slept with a guy who told me he was single and after a bit of digging it turned out he actually had a girlfriend who he was about to move in with. I sent her a very nice message explaining what had happened and she called me a shit-stirrer and blocked me. They broke up a few months later because it turns out, he was making plans to move abroad and he totally kept her in the dark about it. She only found out once his visa came through and the relationship basically en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:26 PM
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Hahahahahaha known to cause STDs in the state of California made me spit my water out onto my shirt and it was worth it. You are one talented gal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:24 PM
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I checked out her Tiktok and she literally does two videos where she rates the comments which are telling her to ditch him because it's disrespectful. She's another flavour of pickme I swear. She literally got stood up by her own boyfriend. Nothing else to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:21 PM
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There's literally nothing cute about it though? If he's gonna be 2 hours late to a dinner you two planned and shows up like nothing happened he clearly doesn't respect your time. If I was her I'd have eaten my dinner, put on a dress and gone out with my friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:18 PM
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Hahahahahaha the look on the guy's face is priceless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:10 PM
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I'd love to make a post about my brother in law if you don't mind me making one on that sub :D He's the definition of a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:59 PM
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It's so disgustingly wholesome it melted my cold heart and made me cry as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:58 PM
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Honestly, the number of girls I've met on nights out who've drunkenly admitted their bf is an emotionally abusive ass or a bad communicator or he cheated but they won't leave because they don't wanna be the single asf friend. Honestly, no guy is worth losing your sleep or sanity over. It makes me so glad I don't have to deal with that kind of BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:44 PM
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Lolz at the poor souls who think all Asian women are submissive. There's literally nothing more terrifying in the world than an angry Asian woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:37 PM
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Girl needs to run faaaar away. Statements like "Nobody will love you as much as I do" is a classic manipulation/gaslighting tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:24 PM
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That'll go down very well if you're a single mother and you can't afford childcare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:49 PM
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Yep. I feel bad for the next girl he charms, she has no idea of what she's really in for, the guy used to really take pride in being inconsistent and had the nerve to tell me he was too young to know what he wanted. Fair enough if that's the case because the beauty of being single is you can be selfish but don't be a disrespectful douchebag smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:28 PM
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No that is very true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 05:52 PM
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Honestly girl, the relief I felt. I was upset for a day or two and now looking back I wondered why I even wasted my time on him. FDS was supportive and a few users told me what I didn't wanna hear but needed to. Forever grateful for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:15 PM
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Thank you. Have a good day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:11 PM
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See my above comment :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:10 PM
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Actually no I'm still looking for a job (and it's exhausting and has made me nervous about finding one postgrad). I'm lucky I had student loans to fall back on because I'm still at college but I have friends who graduated with honours and they're still unemployed. Edit- Also I don't think many employers would be willing to employ someone who has a history of a huge employment gap. A little empathy would go a long way, especially during a pandemic. Edit 2- You say documentaries are skewed. By tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:07 PM
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I totally get where you're coming from but I've seen a few documentaries about working girls and in one, a girl mentioned she'd tried applying for jobs but a lot of them asked on their applications what her current job was. That was basically what made it hard to get another job because when she did mention she was a working girl, she got an automatic rejection. Also in the pandemic with local/national lockdowns I can't imagine it being easy to find retail work or anything that doesn't require a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:58 PM
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What annoys me massively is seeing someone like Bella (who doesn't need to rely on something like onlyfans for an income like many sex workers) do it just because she's desperate for attention. Girl needs a massive slap for undermining the ones who've had to turn to onlyfans because they don't have the resources to get another job. ​ Edit- A sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:40 PM
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As a massive foodie this sight would make me so upset oml
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:37 PM
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Seeing them two made me so uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:32 PM
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Hello me a few months ago!! I was going through something fairly similar (thought he was a HVM when we had so much in common and I ignored red flags because I liked him so much). I made a thread about him on FDS when I realised how stupid I'd been and honestly the comments were so supportive and they gave me the kick up my ass to block him finally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:31 PM
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Communicates regularly and doesn't use equality as an excuse to be douchey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:29 PM
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God I hate Bella Thorne.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:28 PM
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You miss out on some super interesting people if you purely go just by your type :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:49 PM
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I think if I was older and I was in that kind of position where I wanted to move for love I wouldn't be so worried because I'd have more financial stability. My friend's 20 and she doesn't have that at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:42 PM
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I feel like I'd have failed as a parent if my kid grows up to be an incel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 06:20 PM
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He really does. I'm lucky enough to come from a country where guns are banned but the amount of damage an incel could do with a gun makes me shudder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:50 PM
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Currently levelling up so thankfully I'm a single pringle whose hopefully moving abroad next year. I think if I ever did move for a man I'd make sure I had a career I could carry on in the new place and I had a backup plan. Otherwise nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:29 PM
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Lool this reminds me when I started university. Told myself I'd go onto campus with a super cute outfit with my eyeliner done perfectly. Two weeks later I'd given up and showed up in oversized sweatshirts and leggings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:20 PM
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Also got incel vibes reading it. ​ Edit- Didn't Elliot Rodgers say something very similar to this before he went on his killing spree?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:19 PM
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Also they're wildly incompatible in the sense one wants to get married and the other clearly doesn't. If neither of you are very big on the idea of marriage, fair enough at least it's mutual. She needs to ditch this guy because he's not on the same page as her and he doesn't sound that nice either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:17 PM
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Someone tell this girl to dump him he's such a douchebag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:15 PM
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My godmum used to say to me, "You're much more likely to regret a relationship than educating yourself, building friendships, being independent and travelling." During my pickme phase I kind of forgot about the phrase but I kept telling myself that when I moved abroad and I've tried to stick to it since!
/r/askFDS16/10/20 12:07 PM
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Oh my god why?? It was such a good show!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 10:25 PM
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Also he plagiarized a lot of his wife's work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 10:24 PM
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I'm becoming more fine with the idea of not getting married and just having a baby myself when I'm financially able to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:46 PM
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If it’s any consolation the Dutch do have v good food and their chocolate is god tier (I recommend getting a bar of Tony’s to deal with the heartbreak)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:58 AM
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Honestly it’s partly one of the reasons I left Tinder. I have nothing against people who want to do threesomes but it’s just low when you pressure your other half or the person you’re chatting to into it. There was one time I was chatting to a girl who asked if we could go for drinks. I said sure and she’s like “Can my bf join?;)” Like tf! I unmatched immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:56 AM
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Oh I know that not all Dutchies are attractive (it just happens that all the ones I’ve come across have been quite easy on the eye). NL is a crowded country, there’s gotta be some HVM out there. I feel like not as many talk about Dutchies because they’re all starry eyed over Frenchmen (which is totally another story lol). Jesus he sounds like the lowest of the low. I’m glad you’ve left that relationship and I hope you’re moving on too xxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:51 AM
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Couldn't have said it better myself. Also on tinder I've actually met girls (I'm bisexual) who've admitted they're on tinder because their boyfriend's pressured them into finding a third or otherwise they're considered a prude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:55 PM
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It's gotta be the soap :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:06 PM
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It must be their diet and how advanced their skincare is. I'd love to be friends with a Korean partly for the food and the skincare lol. ​ In all seriousness I have noticed they really do take care of themselves. I sat next to one on the plane a year ago and you'd have thought he came straight from a catwalk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:49 PM
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Oh boy I have and where do I begin, Guy asked me out after a whirlwind summer romance, I first said no because I thought the distance would be too hard (I'm British) and he insisted it wasn't a big deal because we could get trains to each other. We dated for about 3 months and he texted me one night telling me he'd found a girl back home so it wasn't a good idea for us to be together anymore. I spent a whole weekend crying over that boy and he popped back up a month later around the time I was m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:44 PM
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I've legit had Tinder messages start with. "Alright luv fancy letting me have a go at your snatch?" I've either unmatched or replied back saying not possible because I have a peepee looool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:34 PM
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I honestly think the country of gentlemen thing comes from TV shows (I've dated and slept with some of the posher boys and they were hands down the biggest idiots I've met). I'm Asian and the amount of creeps I attracted when I had Tinder was insane, I've had an unhealthy amount of dick pics sent to me and I've been disrespected so many times for not sending nudes. There's a huge hookup and "lad" culture here, I had one experience where me and a guy I was sleeping with both caught feelings for e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:33 PM
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Also the Korean men I've seen have amazing skin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:30 PM
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You can really feel the ****headedness of this guy through his comments and his twitter username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:26 PM
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You had me at the first half ngl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:42 PM
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How DARE we not wanna put up with bad sex and a shitty attitude, it's just soo entitled smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:59 PM
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You summed it up perfectly. I once mentioned on a askmen thread (pre FDS) I kept attracting douchebags even though I was in my early twenties. I legit got a string of DMs telling me how the problem was with me and I was picking the bad ones because my early twenties was the best time to date. Like come on my dude, it's much easier to find a f-buddy than to find a good man who wants to be in it for the long haul. FDS just helps us filter out the bad eggs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:46 PM
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Lol can you imagine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:43 PM
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My brother in law had heard horrible stuff about FDS on reddit (he dabbles here and there) so I told him to give the handbook a read. He just scratched his head and said, "Why are guys complaining about this? This is literally how to avoid wasting time and settling on a bad relationship" ​ Be wary of anyone who thinks that's bad tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:43 PM
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Dw girl one day you'll have decent sex *rolls eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:40 PM
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I was having a think about this when I was talking to another friend (who said she had quite an extreme reaction). I genuinely think our friendship could end over something like this and I’d be surprised if we’re still friends this time next year. I don’t know why she can’t see that I’m trying to look out for her. She’s had roughly 2 relationships every year since uni began and so I’ll be a bit wary for her :/ Edit- A word
/r/askFDS12/10/20 11:36 AM
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Oh lord you can get a ring that actually lasts for twice that much if you're skint, why settle for something that'll cloud up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 10:16 PM
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The only HV Jake I know is Jake Peralta
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:26 PM
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I couldn't stop laughing at that bit lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:37 PM
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Oh nobody can blame you for that, if anyone watches the start of UP and doesn't tear up they're most likely a psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:28 PM
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Nawwwww you two are so cute you make my cold heart melt!! ​ Edit- Read about your miscarriage. Hugs to you x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:24 PM
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Can't speak for myself but I can speak for my sister whose been with a HVM for the past ten years. She's definitely grown in confidence and become more assertive with what she wants. Career wise she levelled up massively because she got a job abroad and he encouraged her to go for it because he knew it would fast-track her career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:32 PM
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- Kindness - Needs to believe in equality in a relationship (and doesn't only bring it up when he uses it to be douchey) - Good communication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:29 PM
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Jheeze patronising much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:24 PM
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Agree with everything that's been said on this thread, also OP congrats! You just upset a scrote :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:53 PM
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I disagree when you say that it's a Libfem message being pounded in our heads regarding being a donor single mother. It's not just a spur of a moment decision, it's something that women think about for years and don't normally do until their 30s, if we're going by stats. Also I'm not sure if you mean to come off as it but saying choosing donor sperm is confusing comes off as a bit condescending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:05 AM
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For anyone who wants to know when around the video she shuts him down for interrupting it’s around 45 seconds in :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:18 AM
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You can tell from Pence’s reaction he’s not used to having a woman tell him to shut up and I live for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:16 AM
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Where does this ex live I just wanna talk. On a serious note this is another level of messed up, I bet the girl feels absolutely terrible rn and I hope she finds a job she likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:12 AM
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I see what point you're making but I've decided if it does go down that route I'd want my kids to have access to the donor once they turn 18 and I wouldn't spring something like that on them out of the blue. Valuing yourself and having good standards is all well and good but HVM are still a rarity and from what I've seen on this sub dating in your 30s is a nightmare. It's fine if you'd rather sue your ex for child support but I'd rather not put myself through something as emotionally taxing and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:16 PM
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There was a thread not too long ago somewhere asking lesbians what they were the most shocked at with straight relationships and the most rated one was something like "Dealing with bad sex and relationships where you're worried communication will offend them" ​ Edit- I even see it with some of my gay friends when they get told by straight people what their relationships are like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:46 PM
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I couldn't care less if I get looked at as damaged goods for wanting to be a donor single mother. I'd rather have my kids grow up happy than be in an unstable environment whilst keeping up appearances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:43 PM
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I agree. I won't rule out meeting the One and settling down with them (if that kind of person for me exists) but my experiences have put me off dating totally. I've told myself if I'm single and childless by my mid 30s I'll have a baby by myself and hopefully I'd be in a good enough place career wise to do something like that if it comes to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:10 PM
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She's lucky to have a sister like you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:08 PM
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Ah sorry I meant any specific Youtubers who explain it well. Thanks anyway!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:06 PM
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If that's not goals idk what is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:48 PM
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Funny how growing up we got told being high maintenance was bad but it literally just means expecting kindness, respect and no BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:46 PM
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What always gets me is that a lot of the times spending a bit more money on a date is seen as effort. She clearly doesn't think that though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:44 PM
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Agree totally. I'm only in my early twenties but I've seen enough to think "Actually maybe having a kid through a sperm donor in 10 years and raising the baby myself." sounds a lot nicer than being married to someone who'd see marriage as getting tied down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:42 PM
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Oh Nicole and Ed would be perfect together. It's got to the point where Nicole just gobsmacks me with her pickmeness (like she's in the god tier for it) I always watch them two if I need to feel better about myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:38 PM
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What makes me sad is that she's a business owner, there's plenty of room for her to level up and focus on herself but instead she's a pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:36 PM
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Who wants to bet it's an overweight man with a BO problem whose jobless and lives in Mummy's basement?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:34 PM
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Anyone know any good youtube tutorials?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:32 PM
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I'm cringing reading those constant texts she's sending him oh lord. ​ Anyone seen 90 Day Fiance? She reminds me a bit of Nicole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:31 PM
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Ew what a sleaze, have some self respect and tell him to **** off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:54 AM
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Oh I wish we had one!! My godmother (whose now dead) once told me when I was insecure over not getting a bf, "You're a lot more likely to regret a relationship than educating yourself, travelling around and creating new friendships." I tell myself that everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:10 AM
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I agree. I think two of them have husbands that are relatively normal but they’re all nuts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:57 AM
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I’ve heard so many stories from women who’ve had eating disorders at how their partners kind of just ditched at the lowest points. Yes it’s emotionally taxing but I do genuinely think if you can get through something like that as a couple you can get through anything. And it really is goals!! They both hate Housewives but got into it that morning lol. He’s a constant example of why I should keep my standards high but honestly I’ve never met a guy like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:54 AM
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Not at all! Here’s some examples of their extreme ups and downs : -My sister was diagnosed with anorexia when they were in their final year of university together. She’s always been a huge perfectionist and fear of failure basically triggered her eating disorder. My bro in law basically did everything he could to get her to eat; he’d leave plates of food out for her whilst she was on a night out, he tried to get her to open up about it. Nothing worked because she was so nervous and stressed and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:44 AM
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Actually no I was doing my coursework whilst being on reddit and I ended up writing females lol. My apologies, I agree with your second paragraph too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 10:47 PM
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I love how that's the bit you get offended over lol. I'll change it since it's such a big deal for you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:48 PM
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I think that's one of the most toxic things about marrying in Indian culture. I've noticed a lot in the West we see mother in laws as potential best friends and there isn't that thing about constantly pleasing them. It's partly one of the reasons I don't think I could marry an Indian (there are more personal reasons) just because I got told so many times that my standards of wanting a man who believed in equality in a relationship, was well read, not patronising, kind and a feminist were too hig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:35 PM
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Daily I have a skincare routine where I put on Vitamin C serum, eye cream and suncream. I don't wear makeup at all. Every Fridays I do an ice cold sheetmask and I exfoliate twice a week. I have shoulder length hair and I do a hairmask more or less twice a week. I wash my hair 3 times a week. Currently doing this diet to get to my goal weight if that counts as a beauty routine lol. Lost 3 inches off my weight in the past month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:31 PM
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Half Indian here. Honestly I'm not even surprised she's been referred to as something like this. The culture in India towards women is so so sexist and full of double standards men get away with basically murder in a lot of cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:27 PM
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Honestly it's great you've brought this up. Not sure if any of you gals know of the Duggar family but they had a show on TLC about their fundie Christian life before there was a sex scandal. One of the daughters on that show gave birth to her first kid about two years ago and when she got interviewed she was saying how she'd never met a guy like her husband who'd dedicated himself so much to the baby. The dad had changed the nappy a few times, let her have naps and helped bathe the baby a few ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:25 PM
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Ouch the last line hit me hard lol I was like that in my pickme days :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:21 PM
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I agree! My brother in law actually told me in confidence on the side that's partly one of the reasons as to why he didn't really want to propose so early on :) He felt proposing would put pressure on my sister to put her plans on hold to suit him, which he didn't want. They're 25 and 26 now which isn't a terrible age to marry but they don't seem bothered at marrying 2/3 years later than planned because of the pandemic. According to them it gives them more time to enjoy their life/each other bef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:14 PM
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I've seen stuff much worse than what OP said get awarded loads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:26 PM
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I agree. Like I'm all for self defence but the fact some ask if they have an excuse to be violent when equality as a subject comes up speaks volumes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:25 PM
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That's so cute!! Out of curiosity were you looking for anything at the time you met him or not really? I've heard so many times it happens when you stop looking but I'm not sure how true it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:24 PM
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What I always find sad is that when females/women say we want equality a worrying amount of men are like "Soooo can we hit you back?" ​ Like wow my dude that's where your priorities are?? ​ Edit- Misspelt a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:31 PM
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I've seen a few of his shows and I do like how he manages to be funny yet put all these issues out there and how genuinely hard it is on girls. We need more men like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:27 PM
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I read somewhere both him and his wife wanted to focus on their careers and weren't too fussed about getting married until something happened in the family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:17 PM
7

It sounds Russian I think (someone correct me if I'm wrong) but I always find them super soothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:20 PM
54

My sister met her HVM at a rugby match when they were 15. He was on the opposing team and she was dating a douchebag who was playing against him at the time. According to him he kind of knew then she was the one, she didn't realise until a year or so into dating. They've been together 10 years, are engaged and have two dogs together. ​ Edit- Before anyone tries to assume my sister is a forever gf, they're only in their mid twenties and both of them were wary about getting married so early becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:19 PM
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He also made a show about how sanitary products have a tax on them and I'm glad a man raised awareness and pointed out how stupid the tax was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:17 PM
28

Took me 5 years to be properly over it (he was my first love) and goddamn it feels so so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:06 PM
1

I’m clearly joking jheeze!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:24 AM
24

Soz but I got distracted by your post about your cat. She is the cutest!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:53 PM
52

The joys of being a woman amirite. Honestly idk how you do it, online dating is such a pain I've stopped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:14 PM
7

Pahahahahaha this made me giggle out loud. I used to have an amazing one that I got for £50 but they stopped shipping it to where I live and I'm heartbroken. Also it's just worth splashing out with them because in the long term they last longer instead of having to buy a new one every few weeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:09 PM
6

Honestly if you can splash out on it, do it. I'm itching for the day I can get a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:06 PM
18

Honestly I adore him, I could write a whole essay of things he's done that make him a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:57 PM
136

I once told a guy I was seeing I don't do nudes (Used to during my pickme phase but I had a horrible experience). He then proceeded to make a deal of how he wasn't going to pressure me into it. ​ Well done for doing the bare minimum hun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:44 PM
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- A puppy - A set of sheet facemasks - A tin of expensive, good hot chocolate - I love the book, "Everything I know about Love" by Dolly Alderton. It really gave me self confidence in being alone and it's a good giggle too. - Fluffy socks - A very good vibrator
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:42 PM
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Oh he's every definition of a HVM and I'm convinced they don't make men like him anymore. Him and my sister have been together for about 10 years since they were teenagers and literally everything my sister's wanted to do he's supported.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:36 PM
8

Adding onto museums, they're normally not horribly expensive either. A lot of the museums where I'm from are totally free and you could totally walk around for hours. Museum dates are the one gah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:33 PM
90

My brother in law was curious about FDS so he checked it out. He read the handbook, shook his head in disbelief and said, "Guys are complaining about this? This is literally all just how to avoid a bad situation/date or how to avoid settling on a shitty relationship."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:31 PM
21

Oh my god gurl why tf are you asking this on reddit, yes dump him!! Any decent man would be in awe of how you're carrying his baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:22 PM
19

My minimum is two years but as much as I love the idea of getting married to someone, I feel like I'll be put off by it more and more as the years go by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:20 PM
44

"Not looking for any drama or girls with baggage"- I have a TON of baggage I'll probably unload onto you but god forbid you even open up about your emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:18 PM
4

Bonus points if you're religious!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:29 PM
44

I know someone who got proposed to with a Swarovski ring (which tbf last long are genuinely gorgeous) when both her and her partner were quite poor and then when they both found stable jobs he gave her a better ring. That's the only time I could accept something like that I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:23 PM
1

If you mean me specifically, I mean if you're skint you can save up for something around that value that I mentioned because let's face it, it's a lot more likely to last than a ring from the thrift store.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:14 PM
12

It's both. I'm not sure where you've done your research from because quite frankly your viewpoint doesn't make sense. I see the USA as a dump (no offence to any Americans here but at least where I live in Europe allows abortion and there hasn't been a huge debate on it) when it comes to things such as abortion and women's rights because over the past few years there have been so many attempts to stop them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:19 PM
16

Funny how working class women would constantly be bitched about for punching out kids and "draining the welfare system" if they banned abortion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:13 PM
20

Used to live in France (I'm actually British and our healthcare is totally free). When I was living there, the healthcare system is basically the government pays 70% of the cost and you cover the rest (and that's only if it's a huge accident or something). Loads of other stuff is free. If you get charged for Dr's appointments you fill out a form, send it away and you get reimbursed. Even if you have to pay for part of your healthcare, it's not really enough to bankrupt you. It mindboggles me whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:12 PM
83

I genuinely think some women do it to get brownie points from men too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:44 PM
51

I find it ironic he's picked a pro-life conservative when Trump's the type who'd have an affair with you and if you got pregnant he'd automatically go down the abortion route.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:33 PM
30

I come from a country where abortion is more or less illegal and let me tell you it is consistently voted as one of the worst places to be a woman in because the culture is so sexist. Which is why I don't personally agree with your view of "Abortion allows men to abuse women." They're already being abused and sometimes abortion saves them from being abused even further. Back alley abortions happen but they happen with coat hangers and god knows what else. Banning abortions altogether won't solve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:32 PM
41

She's also a critic of the Affordable Healthcare Act. Imagine being such a shitty person you're against people having the right to healthcare they can afford. Edit- A word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:45 PM
29

I'm not an American but I've seen on the news the new woman who Trump wants to appoint and how she's anti abortion and affordable healthcare. She fully comes off as the type who'd stab you in the back but smile very sweetly while doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:44 PM
2

For sure! He seemed quite tender and that's why I thought okay he could be a HVM. I'm so glad he showed his side now. Thank you! It's been sorted now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:46 PM
3

I know right! He goes out drinking pretty much every week with friends, I do it every few weeks when I'm with my friends. How dare I have fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:45 PM
3

Thank you! Here’s to another year solo .^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 10:00 AM
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It was the third. And looking back I agree with you fully, I thought it was a HVM because when I was having a breakdown over something he was genuinely lovely about it. Clearly that was an act though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:59 AM
3

For sure!! It doesn’t help that I was born into a fairly sexist culture so it took me years to get over thinking that sexist comments were okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:58 AM
4

Thank you!! I never have Tinder unless I’m on holiday so I’m so glad I rarely have to deal with this kind of thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:56 AM
20

I think he asked me what stuff was on my bucket list for the rest of my 20s and I said “Maybe get a Masters, travel more solo and pick up two more languages.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:56 AM
11

I know but my petty self at the time couldn’t resist. Not sure what he was expecting from that sort of comment smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:53 AM
10

John Krasinski in a beard too...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:01 AM
2

I agree with you totally. Whilst I don’t doubt there are women who do genuinely enjoy it, it’s a massive gamble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:57 AM
5

I think sexual liberation is okay on a whole as long as you’re transparent with the partner (and vice versa), you’re safe (ie. protection) and you’re in control and are happy to cut the guy off if he crosses a boundary. This girl doesn’t seem it at all and I feel genuinely bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:21 AM
8

I still do, I saw him in The Good Place and I’m convinced I still found him hot because of Parks and Rec lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:17 AM
66

Ben Wyatt from Parks and Rec. He’s sweet, he supports his ambitious wife, he punched a guy who called her a bitch and he’s nerdy in an adorable way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:27 PM
46

What gets me is that he doesn’t do any huge gestures, he’s patient, loyal, loving and a great dad. But that’s too much to ask for nowadays apparently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:26 PM
26

What always gets to me whenever I read pickme stuff is that not too long ago I would've said something like this. FDS has been a godsend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:37 PM
65

I told her to dump him and she agreed. Let’s hope she does it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:22 PM
189

Protect this man at all costs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:21 PM
14

Same in the UK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:58 PM
105

Marriage as a control move is never a good start oh wow :I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:19 PM
1

I should clarify, I just need a friendly face to chat to and when she said she'd take care of it, I assumed she'd text him telling him to back off, not do that. I'm not "celebrating" violence at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:12 PM
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I'm just a bit taken aback because she's this super sweet looking old lady who blasts Whitney Houston and I can't imagine her being involved in anything shady. ​ And yes thank you!! I live in a fairly studenty neighborhood and I have zero plans to date around until I've graduated. I'm hoping it's one of those things she did to help another girl out because she mentioned I reminded her of her daughter. Atm apart from that incident I only say hi to her when I'm entering my apartment. Edit- A word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:08 PM
170

Pretty much all the anal sex guides I have read when I was curious about it have said you should prepare for some discomfort or pain. Def a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:03 PM
56

Honestly men like her husband were such a rarity too and you could really see how much she loved him when she spoke about him. Both HV people who deserve to rest in peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:46 AM
9

In contrast you have the pickme who looks like a blowup doll saying in the comments “Where do I sign up daddy” and he actually replies 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:48 AM
22

Once got told by a Scorpio guy it was good I was a Cancerian because then I could be the “motherly” one. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:31 AM
7

Absolutely. How people find this funny beyond me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:47 AM
12

For me it’s the “Give up your career”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:45 AM
8

I agree. I don’t know much about the brother but I hope he’s nowhere near as sleazy as this slimeball
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:25 AM
19

I love how he says no to a 28/29 year but god forbid he dates someone his age like any normal person!! Edit- Misread post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:25 AM
24

I actually checked the comments on that post and so many of them were “influencers” being like “OMG this is perf for me” No hun, the guy sounds like a misogynistic ****
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:17 AM
16

I highkey had a crush on Maleficent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:57 PM
40

I fully remember being told as a teenager when I used to snap back, "Oh how are you going to find a husband with that attitude, guys like submissive girls" Thank god I also like women. And if I do settle with a man god help him if he thinks he can control me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:17 PM
3

Raising a glass to you and your freedom x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:40 PM
2

Badass last words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:52 PM
7

Nobody's finding you funny hun, you might wanna get your sense of humour checked out before you try making comments about WW2.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:26 PM
2

Oh awesome thank you I had no clue!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:39 PM
35

Exactly!! Honestly it's things like these which make me thank the creators of the vibrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:08 PM
67

Vaginas are generally a million times cleaner than a pee pee, god forbid he does anything foreplay wise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:07 PM
44

She's cool enough to be in a FWB situation? *shrugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:06 PM
51

I fully remember during my pickme phase I remember telling myself this over a guy who did foreplay for a minute tops. He turned out to be a huge twat unsurprisingly. There are guys out there who can't get enough of foreplay, why she's stuck on him is beyond me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:05 PM
48

Oooh if you don't mind me suggesting, if you go from being "a gorgeous woman" to "ugly bitch", just tell them you still wouldn't sleep with them. I did this to a guy I rejected on a night out and the look on his face was priceless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:01 PM
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Oh lord if you're going to be in a FWB situation, make sure you've actually communicated and you're actually compatible in that sense. This guy is literally just making excuses, she needs to ditch. Edit- A letter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:00 PM
7

I felt grim reading that holy moly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:56 PM
60

Jesus, the world of fetish continues to befuddle me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:12 PM
18

Can't tell what annoys me more, the description or the fact he can't use commas in didn't and that's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:25 PM
109

If that doesn't work just tell them you're ready to be a mother, they'll run a mile :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:23 PM
85

Sometimes when I have my lonely days of being single, I just read relationship_advice and I immediately feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:36 PM
2

I genuinely think asking that to any LVM would have them scratching their heads lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:23 PM
3

Tbh she's not even my friend, she's my best friend's friend from back home. I've been told that she's in a very toxic relationship atm and her bf's cheated on her multiple times so I'm all the more convinced I made the right choice lol. ​ And yes! I am too nice in some situations, it was even worse last year but I'm getting there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:34 PM
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Like I said, hun, stay on FDS. You need it baaad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:32 PM
4

Honestly neither would I! That comment disturbed me a bit more than the "You're not like other girls" comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:47 AM
5

It was so risky! Like come on my dude if a woman said that to you without having met you you'd think she was creepy. Atm I've deleted Tinder and I'm focusing on my studies so hopefully I won't need to deal with men for a longggg time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:43 AM
4

Thank you! I hope so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:36 AM
4

Nowadays if I do get chatting to a guy I always get wary if they make a comment that hints at insulting other women. I'm glad I wasn't just overthinking it or anything. Looking back I could've done it earlier but I still give people the benefit of doubt which is something I need to curb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:14 AM
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It's funny how a year ago I'd have swooned over him saying that but I was just like :I My best friend mentioned it was a weird thing to say considering we hadn't even gone on a date yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:51 AM
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Stay on FDS hun, you need it :) ​ I would absolutely love a HVM but those are rare so I'm here discovering I've got zero patience for flaky men :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:45 AM
15

We love to see it!! I went through a huge pickme phase a year ago and then started reading into FDS when I came by it by accident. I'd never felt so attacked lol but I levelled up, realised how much I actually love being alone and the sub was there for me when I had a relapse and was crying over a douchebag a few months back. Much love to everyone x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:17 PM
37

There's an IrritatedMango2 out there somewhere ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 09:21 PM
130

Oh my god I don't want flowers, I want mangos with chilli and lime!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 07:20 PM
17

Who wants to bet he looks like the love child of Shrek and a blob conjured up in a lab experiment that went horribly wrong?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 07:18 PM
12

I could've written this a year ago loool. Anyway, take it from me, stop caring about finding one. I did this last summer and said, "I'm going to do whatever tf I want, I'm gonna focus on my job and travel around." and I've had a great time so far. I've accepted my person might not necessarily exist and in a weird way, it's been liberating. A HVM will find you, so stop stressing and focus on levelling up :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:58 PM
15

I disagree, my brother in law's the definition of a HVM and without sounding weird or anything, he's quite good looking. Whenever he goes out with friends to bars or whatever and my sister isn't there for whatever reason he always gets hit on. ​ You can still be sexy and a nice person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:38 PM
10

Can someone please do a thread about investment I really would love to read about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:06 PM
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I actually feel a bit sorry for this woman, I got the impression if she'd had money, she'd have left him. Glad she eventually did and I hope she finds her peace. This reminds me of my pickme ex best friend (I've mentioned her a few times but she's a great example of why you should never be a pickme). When she began dating her boyfriend she said she wanted to find a rich man so she could stay at home and be a homemaker essentially whilst he brought all the money into the house. If you wanna know …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:52 PM
18

Ironic how the ones who seem to pass out over the sight of a bit of hair in the wrong place seem to have next to no hygiene down there. During my pickme phase, I slept with a guy who boasted at how he was amazing at giving oral but flat out wouldn't do it if the girl had hair down there. He had the grimmest looking nails and his downstairs made me truly grateful I'm also attracted to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:44 PM
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Oh my, this reminds me of this Victoria Secret model who had a degree from an Ivy League in Computer Science and was a programmer for Apple or something. The amount of sexist comments she got was unreal. Eventually she spoke out saying that kind of attitude is why women are put off from STEM subjects. Comes to show you can't really win. I've had pickmes tell me to go for the nerdy, gamer boys at uni because they're nicer but I've only come across one genuinely nice guy who gamed. We ended up bon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:40 PM
13

Honestly, I think toxic pickmes are a million times worse than LVM. You'd think you'd be able to relate to each other more over your experiences as women but then you realise she'd sell her granny for male validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 04:03 PM
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You lucky duck I once had a guy who asked me and was shocked when I said I found it grim. He assumed because I was half Brazilian I'd be into basically anything in the bedroom. God loves a trier who makes assumptions about an ethnicity of women based on porn <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 04:01 PM
11

I've never understood the fascination of some guys have with finishing on a girl's face. I'm generally fine with wherever it happens (depending on who it's with) but I don't find anything sexy at all about the face :/ Another thing from porn I will never understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:46 PM
30

A few years back I slept with this guy, he was super tall and burly, arms were covered in tatts and he was a very manly man as far as it goes. During sex I told him it was okay to dig his nails into my back (fairly vanilla imo). He wouldn't do it at all. Afterwards when we chatted he said he hated the idea of choking or even doing something like scratching a girl gently during sex but he thought girls were into it because of porn. Edit- And also wanna say he was really good. You don't need to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:27 PM
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There's this TV show called Drifters (for any Brits who fancy watching it, it's on Channel 4's website and for any non Brits, it's available on Amazon). It's a bit trashy but I liked it mainly because it's been an eye opener to what a pickme's like. Anyway, in one of the episodes, the main girl called Meg is sleeping with a guy who basically only calls her up for sex and strings her along. Her best friend tells her to ditch him because he doesn't want to label it but she's "nice" about it and pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:22 PM
3

Well LotR was the first thing that sprung to my mind when I saw it! :) Congrats, it's gorgeous and I hope you find your HVM x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 09:56 AM
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Good on you! I love the ring too, it's very Lord of the Rings themed with the shape x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 07:37 AM
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WTAF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 05:12 PM
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She more or less hit the nail on the head. I've heard guys talk about how they straight up wouldn't date women who believe in the equality of the sexes and how the pay gap doesn't exist. But alas, they still feel entitled enough to think they deserve a stick insect with boobs who gives off the vibes they've never had sex, but is all about the sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:53 PM
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Bruhhhh that "the second time" paragraph sounds like something a serial killer wrote in a novel dedicated to themselves. ​ ​ Don't say anything hun, leave the relationship and run!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:48 PM
12

I have a housemate like this. He's the definition of a manchild and I move out in a month to live with my best friend whose also a germaphobe. I can't wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:11 PM
37

Hahahahahaha that response
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:10 PM
11

I once slept with a guy who referred to himself as a sex god. I regret it every single day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:09 PM
2

Oh I agree. Some of my Muslim friends have told me their parents flat out won't let them settle unless the guy was raised in the West and was fine with the woman doing things like going to work. She has said she knows she'd have to give up her freedom of individuality if she marries him. I don't know how she doesn't see no man is worth giving up your freedom for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:05 PM
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Honestly, even before I converted to atheism my grandmother would tell me to stay away from them because no matter how liberal he was, there was a very good chance a solid number of his family members wouldn't be. As an atheist now, I don't think I could date someone religious unless they came from a reformed sect or something. I'm in early twenties and the idea of dating a 30 year old makes my stomach turn, I can't imagine what I'd be like with a 40 year old. I have said in a general sense, "Oh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:03 PM
2

When he actually made that "I can tell you what to wear" comment she snapped back and said, "That's never going to happen" and he backed off. I have a few Muslim friends who've got divorced parents and one of their mums was telling me that culture is such a huge deal in Islamic culture and men use it to control women. I think she kind of knows they can't be together in the way she wants them to because she's seen family members marry Muslims and the marriages have never worked out. I suggested m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:59 PM
2

Thanks for replying and yes I agree! I don't want her to leave the relationship because I know she genuinely loves him and she's said breaking up would crush her. The problem with him is that he's actually chilled about her not converting after marriage, it's more his family are putting loads on pressure on him to and he seems to give into them everytime. He mentioned to her Muslim marriages give women more rights compared to Christian ones (I'm not 100% on how accurate this is tbh). I like to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:56 PM
29

I got a migraine from reading that ducking hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:30 PM
52

Idiots who make comments like that are the types who pass out after getting an inch of their leg hair waxed. Death during childbirth is nothing to joke about, I'm not sure how grown men can joke about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:23 PM
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Ikr! Like dude someone you're supposed to care about is suffering and you're cleaning the garage?? I read the thread, OP said she and the baby nearly died! Which makes it so much worse. It's lovely to see on the show very intimidating, tough looking guys with tattoos run around the room trying to make sure their partner has everything she needs and then tearing up when the baby comes out. If my husband isn't like that, I don't want it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:31 AM
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This reminds me of this episode of One born every minute I was watching the other day. It's a great show, it puts me off having kids and it also shows what kind of person I don't want to have by my side during labour. So there was one episode that I was watching where you had this very buff, body builder type. He was interviewed on the side and 99% of the times, pretty much every other bloke talks about what the experience of pregnancy has been like for him and the wife. Not this guy, he fully t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:21 AM
2

Your art is gorgeous, they could be used for tarot cards or tattoo designs!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:12 AM
7

Jesus I feel so sorry for his daughters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:28 PM
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I looked him up and when someone else replied to that tweet he said, "Women not playing games no more and I fully support women doing what they have to do to maintain their level of happiness when it comes to companionship- ethically and morally ofc." Glenn is v smart. More men need to be like Glenn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:14 PM
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My brother in law works in a VERY male dominated field (civil engineering) and they only have 5-6 women in a team of 30. He mentioned once how some of the female engineers were wayy more qualified than some of the other team members (one of them got a full scholarship to MIT) but they still were spoken to like they were 5. One of the male engineers fully interrupted her in the middle of a presentation saying she was incorrect with her calculations and then went on a rant about how wrong she was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:27 PM
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Spat my coffee out reading this and it was totally worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:19 PM
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One thing that will ALWAYS infuriate me about Asian culture (didn't wanna say the same with Nigerian just in case I was generalising), that it's totally fine for the guy to have a side piece whilst he's married. The wife's supposed to suck it up and deal with it because she probably caused the husband to stray in the first place. God forbid if the wife does something though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:18 PM
61

I think he makes crazy people look sane this is next up cult leader/serial killer shit o.O
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:15 PM
4

Did not expect that last message ducking hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:14 PM
2

Fanks I'm here all week! ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 10:45 AM
13

I agree and I love a tall guy mainly so I have a human shield to protect me from flying drinks on nights out. But I think if he's HV and is 5'9-5'10 and you reject him purely because he's not 6 foot then it's a bit shallow. I'm tiny and anything above 5'9 is tall for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:14 AM
33

Preach girl honestly. I'm half Brazilian and it's got to the point I just stop mentioning it because so many men automatically assume I'm easy and I'm fine with being groped but Brazilians love that stuff apparently. It sucks but if it's any help you're not alone and pretty much every woman can relate to you. I'm not sure how old you are but I've had comments like that thrown at me and I'm only 22. Keep doing you, focus on levelling up and being your awesome self :) You are good enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:43 AM
21

I think also it just looks super awkward in pictures and with other stuff if the height gap is huge. I'm 5'2 and I dated someone who was 6'5. We couldn't even kiss standing up and some positions during freaky times weren't that great because he was just too tall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:49 PM
11

Can't say I blame them I think watching the video would be enough to make me throw up :I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:13 PM
21

It's funny because I doubt many men would put up with an explanation like that but women are supposed to be fine with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:02 PM
92

I get the impression they want you (not you personally, just in general) as a fallback so they can present themselves as picture perfect with a nice wife whilst they've slept around. During my pickme phase I had guys say I'm the type of girl they know their mums would love but they don't want me enough to take me seriously. Like really hun? Ooof nearly 6 years and no ring? I'm pretty sure if I'd been with someone that long and they broke up with me I'd sue them for wasting my time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:27 PM
34

It just makes me sick to think that there were so many slaves who were raped and tortured by their owners and in this day and age you have sickos jerking off to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 09:01 PM
25

Oh my god Twin A, her husband and family need to be protected at all costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:30 PM
53

There's actually a v good TV show called the Gf experience which shows the dark side of prostitution. Edit- We know prostitution has a dark side, I mean when it's in the higher circles and prostitutes are considered "high class" to cover how seedy the actual arrangement is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:27 PM
49

I've met a few girls at uni who flat out wouldn't date someone unless they were over 6 foot. I think in some circles having a boyfriend over 6 foot is a status symbol of some sort but tbh as long as he's taller than me and he's HV I couldn't care less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:25 PM
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"You're literally everything I want in a wife but I'm still recovering from my middle school ex gf telling me I was overreacting when my goldfish's hamster's cousin died even though it's been 15 years and it's left me traumatised. We can still bang tho." Edit- Wow my first gold!! Thank you so much to the cutie patootie who gave it to me x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:22 PM
44

Holy **** videos like that exist??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:15 PM
7

I agree with you. One of my friends is Dutch and he's all for doing things equally and I think partly why I like Dutch men is because they like equality. I'm all for equality, I just don't want a guy who only wants it when it suits him and uses it as an excuse to be a shitty person. The shaving bit was what shocked me. When I slept with my ex I was gobsmacked he didn't care at all that I had stubble on my legs. He just shrugged and got on with it. Most guys that I've come across at home seem to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:39 PM
7

Same. Ended it with me because he told me he found a girl back home, she basically wasn't interested in doing long term with him and he came crawling back. The audacity was unreal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:54 PM
8

Just had a look at the sub (I've heard about it but never actually read it) and I felt sick reading it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:52 PM
3

Where I live atm, British girls are viewed as sluts because of the way some girls dress on nights out. I haven't bothered trying to date around because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:47 PM
10

Brit here. I personally prefer European guys over British ones and I remember being told ages ago that Dutch men were quite HVM a lot of the times (I've had two bad experiences with them). I've read a surprising amount of posts who've said their HVM was a Dutchie and I just read and think "HOW". They're gorgeous, don't get me wrong. But romantically I've done badly with Dutch men lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:46 PM
1

I'm not seeing her until next month because I'm self isolating atm and she's fine with it. And yes I do want to be single and focus on getting the best grades I can then getting a good job. I'd like to think I could do an expiration date but I think she wants long term and if we break up because of the date it'd be hard for the both of us and I wouldn't want it to cause any resentment. I'm tempted to kind of friend-zone her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:39 PM
8

He gets all the more endearing and lovable! I want my future husband to be a Jake (but with a better credit score and not with a restraining order against Taylor Swift).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:03 PM
11

I loved the bit when he punches the writer for being homophobic towards Holt, how Terry's just big and ripped but a huge softy when it comes to protecting people he cares about, how Boyle is just a sweetheart who wants love and decent food and how Diaz is just a badass. I live for how emotionless Captain Holt is but it's to a point it's hilarious and endearing. Him saying with a totally straight face "I'm devastated" always gets to me. Also I have a bit of a weakness for Doug Judy because he is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:55 PM
35

Jake, Boyle and Terry from B99- They love their partners, are dedicated to their work and they're hilarious. Ben Wyatt and Ron Swanson from Parks and Rec- Ben's just a sweetie who constantly supports Leslie and Ron's a great example of how you can be a manly man but not a dick to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 11:35 AM
1

Oh honey I disagree with religious laws because I think they're misogynistic and backward to women. Islamic countries(and any country that isn't secular) are famous for treating their women badly. You don't need to be religious to support the death penalty for murderers so I'm not sure what you're trying to say. I suggest you take your complaining elsewhere. Most of the users on this sub agree that religions tend to treat women badly and if you don't agree perhaps find another thread :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:29 AM
0

Erm the death penalty in the US? I live in Europe but at least where I live our everyday laws aren't religiously based :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 12:54 AM
3

But probably not executed, which is what he deserves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 10:29 PM
28

Jesus from that bio alone I get the impression he'll be on Criminal Minds one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 10:25 PM
2

IF convicted. Sharia law states that only a blood relative can ask for an execution and if the father's the breadwinner of the family (which is likely) then they're unlikely to ask for one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 10:21 PM
11

Also if you read the article, Islamic republic laws are the reason this piece of sh*t is going to walk free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:07 PM
12

He gets hotter with age oh lord
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:59 PM
9

Am I the only one wondering how she managed to catch the flight? I'd take forever with something like a scavenger hunt lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:50 PM
43

Now that is what you call effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:44 PM
25

Psychopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:41 PM
12

Ngl it was quite a lot of words for "I have a tiny pee pee and I can't find the clitoris either"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:41 PM
21

Miss Sparrow is such a mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:36 PM
3

Exactly. Understandable if you download tindy for a quick hookup (a gal has needs) but I think if you're focussing on levelling up it doesn't matter much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:08 PM
7

I would agree with you but I remember her telling me ages before she met him that her parents had told her they'd only accept her getting married over the age of 25. I think that's why they're waiting so long. But like I said, loads of stuff can happen in the next 4 years, he was creepy even we before stopped chatting (would check out my ass, my friend's boobs etc) so it wouldn't surprise me if he cheats on her. He's probably realised she's a huge doormat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 09:36 PM
19

He's such an emotionally abusive ass. She's lost about 90% of her friendship group because she told him all of her secrets and she wasn't willing to back us up when he was being a dick to us. He's a truly horrible guy but he comes off as shy and sweet at first. She still stays with him though, just because she hates being single and she wants a rich husband (her words not mine). He made me realise how toxic she really is. Fuck that noise. If I have to wait a decade or two for a HVM to pop up the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:12 PM
3

Yep. Why expect everything to be handed to you on a plate when you put in zero effort and then you complain about women? Nope not much to be surprised about. It's got to the point where I'm happy to live my life single and man free with my dogs. It sounds much easier and a vibrator does a better job than a guy anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:02 PM
14

I had a look at his comments and jeeze you can actually picture an overweight uglyass douche in his mother's basement on his computer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:56 PM
9

It wouldn't surprise me if the delusional twat who posted that comment has some serious issues. It's quite sad that the men who I do know that support subs like FDS are the gay ones because they know too well what it's like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:54 PM
6

Don't forget having to deal with twats who think the pay gap doesn't exist or that women should do the lion's share of raising a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:48 PM
3

Yep! It's just hard these days to find HVM without constantly thinking if he's just being sweet just so he can get laid, not because he wants to. I haven't been on Tinder in over a year now but even when I was chatting to some of my older colleagues (who are women in their 40s and 50s), they all said it was the same thing back when they were in their early 20s where it was easier to find casual sex than a relationship. So nothing's really changed. Not sure why guys find it so hard to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:47 PM
70

Yep. They're going to marry when he finishes his phD which isn't for another four years or so. He'll be over 30 by then, she'll be in her mid twenties. I remember hinting there's no guarantee they'd last that long and she used the "You're jealous of my relationship" card. ​ Yep hun I'm so jel of you and your manchild bf who thinks making other people cry is funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:58 PM
121

Oh lord she needs to dump
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:42 PM
98

Used to be a pickme last year where I was chasing a new guy on Tinder every week and the end story always was I'd get strung along or used. When I had to move for my teaching job I vowed to stay off Tinder and only download it when I was on holiday for the occasional date/freaky times. Had a great year so far just enjoying myself and realising that I love teaching! Joining this sub has also been a godsend because some of the stuff I did last year makes me cringe so hard now. Had a toxic pickme b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:41 PM
10

Right that's enough internet for today...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:33 PM
3

It gives me hope that there are good men out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:32 PM
3

I'm so sorry for what you've gone through but congrats!! Here's to the rest of your life as you level up and weed out the losers ^.^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:29 PM
23

Hahahahaha oh my gosh this reminds me of when I once commented in a AskMen thread that dating in my early twenties was a nightmare because I only ever seemed to attract the wrong types at uni. It got downvoted like mad, I got told dating in my early twenties was the easiest because I was a girl and I had one guy message me saying there was something wrong with me because women had it so easy in life. Like dude piss off. Ask any girl in her early twenties and I'm willing to bet my jar of Nutella …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:28 PM
2

She's 23 now. It's just sad, she went from being a straight A student who wanted to go into corporate law to basically living and not doing much else. I remember seeing how happy she was when she switched unis and she basically kissed the law career goodbye in a 2 minute phone call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:17 PM
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Pahahahahaha he couldn't even have said the last bit in a separate text. Talk about low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:38 PM
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Jesus Christ aren't you a ray of sunshine?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:45 PM
10

Oh my god what a cutie patootie!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:43 PM
5

As much as I would adore a car the price is just so big I refuse to have one until I have a decent salary. It's the same with learning how to drive; I really want to but I wanna be able to pass my driving test and then walk into a dealership the next day and buy a car and all the works. Don't really fancy taking the test and then waiting around until I can afford it you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:55 PM
4

Honestly, what's put me off getting a car is how expensive the insurance is in the UK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:42 PM
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I'm in two minds about this because I had parents who doted on my male siblings and only cared about stuff I did if it made them look good. Didn't stop me from getting into a top university and I knew back then I'd have never turned down a good uni for a boy. On the other hand my ex best friend is a HUGE pickme who ditched her friends as soon as she got a boyfriend. She's had a very charmed life, parents encouraged her to get good grades, they had lots of money etc. Whilst I do think upbringing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:55 PM
4

Ah well it makes sense to have a car then. But I feel like in cities with good transport links, there's really no need. I've been to places where it's just easier to cycle or walk it than to drive around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:45 PM
2

Jesus girl, dump him, change the locks and get a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:41 PM
4

You could argue there's taxis he could get. And you say you should get a car for emergencies, that could be hugely expensive on where you end up living, because of upkeep, insurance (not sure about the US but where I live if it's your first car the insurance goes into thousands) and a parking permit. I doubt many people have that much money to spend on something they'll only use for emergency cases. Edit- Wow and I'm literally getting downvoted for saying how expensive maintaining a car is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:36 PM
3

Hugely depends on where you live. One of my colleagues is a HVM who learnt how to drive but he didn't bother getting a car because wherever he ended up living had really good reliable transport links. He only recently just got one because him and his family moved out to a more rural area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:34 PM
3

It can't just be me who thought that was pepperoni on the pancakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:30 PM
6

It was honestly the most endearing thing in the world seeing this tough, manly man cooing over his newborn son, punching the dentist who gatecrashed Leslie's wedding and being a sweetie to his wife. We need more Rons. He's a great example of how you can still be considered masculine but not a dick to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:29 PM
10

For some reason I read the first line as "I'd totally pay for a hitman to make that boy disappear" lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:24 PM
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I know a girl from my school who did this. Was all set to go to a REALLY good university (in the league tables it was considered one of the "elite" universities) and she began dating this guy who lived in a city an hour or so away from her. On results day she switched unis and chose to go to a uni in her boyfriend's city. I'm not even joking, as soon as she confirmed her place at the other uni, he dumped her. She had an offer for law as well and the uni she turned down has a reputation for churn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:21 PM
1

Ben Wyatt from Parks and Rec. I literally couldn't find anything horrible to say about him and I also think Ron was one (I might be horribly wrong I'm rewatching the show for the first time in ages) Also I wanna say the men on Brooklyn Nine Nine (Terry was a sweetie, it was awesome to see Jake mature and him and Amy seemed to have a fun relationship and Boyle came off as a great dad).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 03:42 PM
9

I read about a girl who was being nagged for nudes by a guy so she sent him close-up pictures of Gordon Ramsey's forehead wrinkles and said that was her cleavage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:35 PM
28

I also had a soft spot for Ron
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:33 PM
22

I agree. Some men are just another level of entitled it's unreal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 04:37 PM
18

It's funny because I remember I used to get insulted by my family members for being too Westernised even though people are desperate to come to the West.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 03:07 PM
22

And 99% of the time it's somehow the girl's fault. You could never convince me to live there again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 03:01 PM
32

Ironic how she's saying that men respect her even though India's one of the worst places to be a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:56 PM
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Jacinda Ardern is everything a PM should be. ​ https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7776351/Finnish-parliament-picks-world-s-youngest-sitting-prime-minister.html#comments ​ Read the comments. They'll disgust you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:31 PM
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Don't forget, Problems during the birth and you can't deal with his sexual needs? Your fault, you shouldn't have had an awkward birth in the first place. It saddens me at how stories I've read where women have scumbags of husbands but they can't do anything because they're reliant on them. Edit- There's this fairly well known Indian woman here in Britain whose campaigned against forced marriages and has a charity to deal with it. She did a Ted talk and she mentioned how her sister set herself on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:25 PM
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Speaking as a half Indian, EveningFires pretty much hit everything on the head. I cut my family off a long time ago because I didn't agree with what they thought of women but this are some things my Indian grandfather and my family did: - He raped my grandmother multiple times because he felt entitled to it and he cheated on her because after she had cancer, when she recovered all she wanted to do was sleep (understandably). Even after she recovered she was doing all the housework and he still f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:24 PM
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Oh my god this man needs to be protected at all costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:09 PM
11

Honestly, the only thing I wanna try out in the bedroom is to get a full 8 hours of sleep and actually wake up feeling rested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:04 PM
61

So one of the countries that's been praised for dealing with Covid so well is Finland and they recently elected a female PM. From what I've read, she's super popular and she comes off as a queen in general (they recently made parental leave equal and they're the first country to do that I think). I remember when I was reading about her getting elected on the DailyMail (Brits on here know what I'm talking about), the comments were insane. They ranged from "OMG she's chosen her entire cabinet to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 02:03 PM
4

I'd consider "Let my family try it" a compliment but if I was him I'd have said, "Oooh we should do a thing where we cook together with my family and we can see how it's made!" 10 whole meals he's taken from her and he's having a hissy fit over buying her a sandwich whilst she's starving. He could so easily turn this around by cooking her 10 meals in return or taking her out for a fancy dinner or making her a massive lasagne but nooo she's the one overreacting smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:58 PM
3

Oh my god did he post an update? What did he say??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:51 PM
13

I understand college students are skint but ducking hell she asked for a sandwich, not caviar on gold infused pizza. He had zero problems taking ten meals away from this girl but god forbid she asks for a sandwich.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:49 PM
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I honestly wish someone had told me a few years back that being called chilled in a romantic context wasn't a compliment. I used to wonder why I'd attract all these douchebags even though I was super nice and "chill" (looking back I just let a lot of their crap slide). My life's become so much easier now that I'm no longer the cool girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:42 PM
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Probably! Like hun I'm at one of the best universities in my country I'm soooo brainwashed. He legit started to dig around in my post history to prove that I was a female and tried to pass off that he didn't care I thought he was sexist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:06 AM
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I was on the politics sub a few days ago and was debating Brexit downsides with someone else. Some guy popped out of nowhere and made a sexist comment, I snapped back at him and some other user sided with me. The idiot had the nerve to say me being at university had brainwashed me. If you REALLY wanna see sensitivity and hysteria argue politics with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:09 PM
23

I literally felt IQ points leaving me as I read this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:07 PM
13

Talk about being smug in a review amirite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:08 PM
18

It looks it totally would. Like dude buy her a Swarovski ring or something. You can get prettier and less cheap looking for slightly more if you wanna make a tiny bit of effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:06 PM
28

Anyone thinks it looks cheap asf? I get the impression if it's a massive diamond it'll just be cheap and pretty shitty quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:38 PM
29

You had me at the second line I won't lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:37 PM
51

Agree totally. My sister told my brother in law not to spend a huge amount of money on the ring when he proposed because they were saving up for a house. I remember him shrugging and telling me, "I'm spending the rest of my life with her, I'm not giving her a cheap ring that'll rust or fall off her finger." He ended up getting her a gorgeous amethyst engagement ring and it was about £300? Took him about 3 months to save up for and when he was buying it he was asking the jeweller questions on how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:36 PM
5

Honestly? There's sperm donors. If I have the money for it, I'd happily just have a baby through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:07 AM
2

I spat water on my shirt when I read "answer some of his calls" and it was worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 10:14 AM
27

Pissing off the right people though. How often do you hear old white men criticising Trump? Never. How often do you hear them criticising someone like Jacinda or Greta Thunberg? All the time because their precious male egos have been affected. Your PM is doing an amazing job. My government (which is run by idiots) could learn a thing or two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 10:05 AM
8

Is it bad I scrolled down a bit too fast and thought it was someone who looked like Doug Judy in the pic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 08:07 PM
13

Yeah I agree. I'm in my early twenties atm and so I can't imagine being engaged after a year. Don't plan on settling down until I'm 30 and ideally I'd rather get engaged after 2/3 years together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:43 PM
6

I love a good African accent gah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:32 PM
1

And she has the best time!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:10 PM
8

It's honestly such a heartwarming film. She turns from a sobbing pickme to the total opposite by the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:10 PM
32

Apparently you ruined your chance with a dude who looks like a shitty salesman. Oh how will you live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:06 PM
34

I don't know is it weird if I'd feel uncomfortable if my SO proposed after a year? I get the impression by a year you still don't know them well enough and if they're super determined they'll keep up the act. 3 years is ideal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:01 PM
11

Made me realise that nagging guys who've expressed interest but half ass with communication isn't crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:37 PM
5

You'd be surprised at how many pickmes do it too. My ex best friend said my best friend had daddy issues because after a breakup she had a "snog whoever I want" phase. Like ?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:03 AM
16

What I find nuts is how whenever he's dated someone significantly younger than him nobody bats an eyelid but when Keanu Reaves revealed his gf (who was roughly his age) everyone went nuts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:00 AM
3

Where's the link to this? I wanna see the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:48 AM
6

I'm probably never gonna be inheritance rich but you can bet I'm signing a pre-nup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:45 AM
9

Honestly as someone whose intermittent fasting and losing weight that way, that picture of her is an inspiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:40 AM
9

I read somewhere she wanted to lose weight for her kid, which is totally understandable. You'd wanna be able to play and run around with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:20 AM
10

It's why I never go for brown boys. They're a walking example of all talk and zero show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:19 AM
38

Yep! My ex best friend's boyfriend tagged along to literally all of our hangouts (even if it was meant to be just us girls). We found something quite fishy about him and we told her this but she said we were jel. He's very much a LVM and me and my other best friend don't speak to her anymore. If your friends don't like your boyfriend, there's a very good reason for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 07:56 PM
15

I totally cut my family off because they wanted me married off post uni to someone they wanted (aside from also being very toxic). Until that point they were very racist with who I was meant to go for (he couldn't be white God forbid) and he had to be traditional. I was expected to be submissive and willing to have as many kids as the guy wanted. My dad was a mahoosive douchebag but one thing I'm glad for in a strange way is I inherited his temper and his stubbornness. One thing I hate about Ind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:43 PM
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Looooool yep hun and all you have to offer is a clearly fragile male ego that needs constant validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:34 PM
76

Love how even whilst she's running she looks gorgeous and while I do it I look like a waddling duck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:53 AM
6

It normally takes a lot to throw me in a rage but you could bet if my other half ever broke my dog's legs he'd mysteriously disappear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:48 PM
41

"I am never going to financially recover from this."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:46 PM
14

Louis Theroux did a documentary on the Church of Scientology and when ex members were talking about some of the stuff you had to go through it gave me creeps. No wonder Tom Cruise loves being part of a cult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 01:41 PM
9

The negging is spot on and in my experience they do it because they think we'd ignore it or get upset. I remember on a night out I was wearing a slightly booby top and walked past a guy who called out to me and yelled, "You'd look better with bigger boobs." I turned around, walked upto him and very sweetly replied back "And you'd look better with smaller ones." He went bright red, his mates were speechless and I walked away feeling queen asf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 11:03 PM
47

I vomited in my mouth a little reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 10:56 PM
18

My godmother always told me to never trust or go for a charming guy. It means they have something dark to hide 99% of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 10:55 PM
27

Honestly I'm glad she even mentioned divorce to him. At least part of her knows she's with a manchild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 03:37 PM
226

Right! I've worked with teenagers and in training we always got told to look out for oversexualised behaviour because it can sometimes be a sign of child abuse so who knows what's going through the teen's head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:43 PM
9

Willing to bet money he could pass for a serial killer if he wanted to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:05 PM
429

I felt grim reading that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:02 PM
4

Ahh if there were more cute stories and more guys like that I'd still have tinder lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:20 PM
5

As much as I love sex even I'd be too scared to do it once the bump got bigger. Serious question, how did you find such a nice guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:54 PM
10

Firstly, congrats on the baby! Your boyfriend sounds like a sweetie and that's exactly how any good person in a relationship should act. And for sure! He'd probably complain about going for a few weeks without having sex after a baby too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:41 PM
3

New NSync single right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:20 PM
18

Oh absolutely. If I was a guy and my gf was suffering from back pain because of her boobs I'd fully support her. I'm gobsmacked she had to clarify she's had big boobs her whole life. You took the words out of my mouth. Looks like he was clutching at straws with excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:20 PM
11

I died at "Erase him from your mammary" loooooool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:16 PM
29

Just found the thread and had a quick skim over it and it's a relief seeing guys telling to leave too. Imagine being so entitled you think you have a say in a procedure your gf wants to do to stop back pain smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:15 PM
4

Cheers thank you x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:14 PM
10

I totally agree especially with number 6. Before I came onto this sub the number of times I felt like a psycho for trying to get a guy to actually make effort. I've had a much more peaceful life since FDS :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:13 PM
18

Genuine question, what was the general response on that thread?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 03:09 PM
34

One thing that REALLY bothered me about Tiger King was that they seemed to focus way more on Carole killing her husband when you had Doc running a sex cult of some sort. I wanted to cuddle that girl who worked for him when she said he basically forced her to get a boob job and she said yes just because she wanted a break from working constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:19 PM
6

Who cares if she's a villain she's still an icon :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:33 PM
6

I should've worded by previous quote better lol I defo didn't mean we can ignore the fact she was a puppy killer :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:28 PM
27

No ofc not. I meant if she wasn't a puppy killer at all, she'd still be portrayed as a villain. But she'd be bitchy or bitter over Anita or something like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:26 PM
16

Jessica Lange is perfection honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:20 PM
14

She could run me over and I would still worship her. Meryl Streep nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:42 PM
62

Cruella deVille in 101 Dalmatians. Being a massive dog person, from childhood I hated her with a passion but when I was watching the film again last night for the first time in years, in one scene she said, "More good women have been lost to marriage than to war, famine, disease and disaster. You have talent, darling, don't squander it." No clue why I never processed that quote as a kid but if you got rid of the fact she was a puppy killer, she was assertive, relied on nobody and she had her own…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:04 PM
3

Meanwhile the PM can't even put a definite number of how many kids he has whilst insulting single mothers. Irony amirite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:20 AM
2

The guy's 99 years old, he risked his life for country, he could easily be sitting indoors doing nothing but he's done an amazing thing. Cut him some slack. He deserves to be protected at all costs bless him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:18 AM
6

Oh for sure. It's genuinely tragic that our government continues to underfund and it's come down to this even though they've saved Bojo's life. Plenty of deaths are owed to BoJo because of the cuts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:49 PM
29

And he moved in with her!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 04:02 PM
31

Speaking as a Brit, he's done more for our health service than what the government has done during this pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 04:01 PM
2

It's a good comparison. Her and my best friend lived together this year and apparently the only time they interacted was when my ex best friend wanted to know if either me or my best friend were dating anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:22 PM
1

They always get their comeuppance I guess lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:21 PM
1

She was raised Christian if that helps. But tbh her parents are quite chilled because her boyfriend is agnostic and they love him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:19 PM
2

Hahahahahahaha oh wow. I grew up in a country which was voted "Worst country to be a woman" a few years ago. I'm fully aware that dangerous countries for women exist and I certainly wouldn't travel to them alone. However, I totally disagree with you when you say she was "trying to warn" me. I'm not really sure what you do but if my best friend was travelling to a country that wasn't considered the safest for solo travellers I wouldn't sneer or wrinkle my nose at it. I'd tell her to be careful an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:03 PM
2

From an outsider's point of view it's half sad and half pitiful to watch. It's been like that for me at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:02 PM
2

In clubs they'd be all over each other to the point it was just cringey. She's also one of the types who needs to remind people every 5 minutes she has a boyfriend. Right? There's nothing in her relationship to be jealous about considering it has so many red flags. No thanks I'd rather be alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:59 PM
3

He's defo a manchild. She's 20 and he's 6 years older. Looking back I think now he went for her because girls his age realised how much of a loser he really is. Can't say I envy her. I plan to enjoy my single years. She's stuck to dealing with a manchild and having shit sex her whole life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:40 PM
2

Funnily enough this happened with me too! They met on a night out and whilst she'd gone to the toilet he pulled me aside and asked for my number. I mentioned to her a day later he'd been texting me and she quickly changed her tune about him and how much she actually liked him. I told her plenty of times their relationship was very toxic but she didn't wanna hear it. Before him, she'd say on every single night out we went on that she loved being single and how great it was. Like hun who you kiddi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:37 PM
1

Sad really :/ She doesn't think so though, she told one of my friends I was jealous of her relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:48 PM
4

Oh damn I did not think of it like that. You mean she hates how I'm okay with being single?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:51 PM
3

Oh absolutely. I hate the idea of having stuff paid for me by other people, let alone a husband who I'm completely dependent on. It wouldn't surprise me if she does marry this guy, it'll be one of those marriages where he's cheating on her but she does nothing and stays because he has the money. Yep. I was quite pickme this time last year and before I moved I vowed to stay off Tinder and men in general. I've realised so much about myself and how well I can do alone since then it's unreal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:50 PM
6

Maybe. It's interesting because her sister is going through medical school and has no desire to be in a relationship because she wants to enjoy her twenties and focus on having a career. With my ex best friend though it's nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:45 PM
3

Oh I have. I haven't spoken to her since last summer but I never thought I'd come across someone whose as much of a doormat as her. I thought they only existed in books and movies lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:48 PM
6

Honestly since she got a boyfriend she became 100x nastier and it became quite evident she didn't care about me and my other best friend. I find it quite hard to feel sorry for her and I can't help thinking she deserves the life she's picked by being a backstabbing, two faced pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:43 PM
9

Sad because I thought two years ago she was a friend for life. And honestly, I don't think she's going to ever have that journey considering she's pathetically attached to her LVM and has lost two of her best friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:36 PM
8

If she was a nice person who didn't slut shame and wasn't so two faced I'd actually feel sorry for her tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:32 PM
30

I honestly don't know where she would've been taught something like that. Her mum married a rich man but she's always insisted on earning her own money and she refused to settle down until she found someone who ticked all the boxes. She's so out of touch it's crazy. She wants to be a housewife but she also wants a nanny for her kids :I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:31 PM
9

I swear creeps like these could be a meme sometimes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:13 PM
30

Whoopsy someone has a fragile soul ;) And they say women are the overreactive ones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:33 PM
8

Oh god I'm so sorry to hear that! Hugs to you x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:52 PM
4

They are!! I don't live too far from the Alps luckily so it's a huge amount of effort for me. I will say thought, Norway has equally gorgeous scenery and men ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:41 PM
8

I went hiking in the Alps (planning on going again for my birthday if Covid's died down again) and then I went hiking in Norway a few weeks ago :) Main tips is be mindful of the weather (if it's super rainy/foggy don't go obviously), have a fully charged up portable charger, have a good music playlist, have energy bars and/or something carby and have a compass on your phone or map routes to the nearest town/village). I personally prefer going alone just so I can take things at my own pace but ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:29 PM
28

- I love throwing myself out of my comfort zone. 5 years ago, I'd never have guessed by the age of 22, I'd have done mountain hiking totally alone in two countries (and enjoyed it) - I love my chonky legs (thank you rowing, rugby and hiking!!), my lips and my eyes. - I love that I never get bored of learning new things. I always have my nose in a book and I've picked up three languages from scratch in my life and am fluent in them. - I love that I'm way more likely to get distracted by a cute do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 05:52 PM
2

That sounds horrible! I hope your sister is okay now x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 09:18 AM
3

Her mum came from a working class background and has always insisted on having her own money even though the husband earns an eye watering amount. It's funny because my ex best friend said that she wants a husband whose rich enough to support them both so she can work "for fun". In contrast, her sister's studying to be a doctor and has said she wants to put her job first before even thinking about a relationship. Not sure if her LVM is going to have terrible career prospects considering he's doi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:50 AM
10

Honestly I'm glad I came across FDS. The number of times I thought I was nuts because I'd have to tell a guy to make an effort but I also didn't wanna come off as pushy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 07:54 PM
14

She sounds exactly like you. Her parents tried every trick in the book to get her married off to him even though they knew she was gay. She had a string of mental health problems and more than once tried to kill herself. All the mental health problems she had slowly went after she cut things off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:36 PM
15

Oh bub I just wanna give you a cuddle after reading that! I'm not sure if you've tried this but have you maybe tried speaking to a counsellor or even a support group for sexual assault survivors? You'd be in a totally non judgemental and men free zone and I do believe it would do a world of good. But only do it if you're comfortable with speaking about it obviously. I had a friend who had a very similar experience to you and she did that as well as taking up kickboxing. They both helped her mass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:20 PM
43

Willing to bet my bottle of wine and my 3 jars of nutella that he's gone for a college student because women his age can see how much of a loser he really is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:13 PM
21

It's a vicious cycle. You have terrible low self esteem, you don't think you're worthy of love and the scum of the earth are attracted to you, you jump on it because you want something, they destroy you emotionally and rinse and repeat with the next one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:11 PM
20

Funnily enough I was talking to an Arab friend of mine whose also a lesbian. Part of the reason as to why she walked away from her family was because they constantly kept telling her, "Oh just get married and settle with him, he's rich and you'll be happy." Whilst I don't doubt you can have some very happy Arab couples, it's sad for women. It's the same in my culture too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:10 PM
14

My ex best friend is one of the biggest pickmes I've ever met and in comparison to me she's had a very charmed life; rich parents, never had to worry about hitting their overdraft limit and wondering how to eat for the next few weeks and all that. I think because she's constantly had people do things and pay for her her whole life she's got low self esteem and hates the idea of being alone. That kind of attitude really came out when she got a boyfriend and she chose to stick with him when he's s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:06 PM
14

Yep it is. This was in the early stages in the relationship too and she kept saying how great they were together despite all that even when I said it was a red flag. They're still together now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 10:33 AM
173

Yes!! My ex best friend once told me her boyfriend degraded her in front of his mates but she didn't care because it was "their humour". ​ Like real men don't find degrading women funny hun x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:52 PM
1

Also I am so sorry to hear that! Some men can be the biggest assclowns ever. I hope it's been cleared up now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:45 AM
1

No I don't think she will listen tbh. She keeps talking about how lovely and charming he is instead and it's honestly cringey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:44 AM
2

It's just strange because when she "attacks" me or is super blunt about my dating choices I normally it slide because I know she's being realistic. I don't think she thinks about the previous red flags, she just goes blank when she sees a guy who pays her a bit of attention. I don't envy her but Jesus I hope I have better luck in dating when I want to get into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 09:09 PM
3

I mean tbf I have low self esteem sometimes but even I can't imagine how being able to function with having a boyfriend one after the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:29 PM
3

As happy as I want her to be I can't understand why she's even willing to take that risk with someone she doesn't know very well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:28 PM
1

Hers normally are. I think the only one where I got genuine HVM with was the guy she was last with but I'm pretty sure she's closed the door on him. Idk sometimes I can't help wondering in a way she's jealous I'm fine on my own and she partly lashes out because of that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:45 AM
3

I think I'm just liking the single life a little bit too much lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:39 PM
3

I'm not sure why because I think with things like my looks I'm so much more insecure compared to her but the idea of getting a boyfriend every few months makes me slightly sick. I think I like my independence way too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 10:32 PM
2

Funny because this time last year I used to envy how easily she used to get boyfriends and now in a weird way I can't help pitying her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:26 PM
4

She's basically been the same after every single relationship where 5 months or so after it ended she'll have another boyfriend, gush about them and how they're the one, it'll end and it's the same thing again. Last time I fell in love was 5 years ago. After my breakup I had a whole load of disappointing experiences off Tinder last year where guys were basically just using me or stringing me along. Last summer I basically told myself I'd only get tinder on holiday and that would purely be for a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:19 PM
3

I've told her I'm not going to say anything more just because she's seemed to have made her mind up about what she wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:01 PM
5

The sad part is I think you're right. Her relationships have normally lasted 6 months at most and I'm not confident this'll last considering they're in the early stage and already doing long distance. She's said after corona their families are going to meet though so she must be serious about this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:19 PM
2

Thank you! Fingers crossed I'm single for another year or so lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:54 PM
6

I know there are! I'm lucky to have a solid circle of really good friends. Do you think she's a pickme?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:48 PM
9

No it's not tbh. I don't get why she can't take her own advice when she said at the end of the argument she appreciated me looking out for her but she'd thought it through. I think I'm going to distance myself from her and not really talk about any of my dating life if I have any in the next few months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:45 PM
4

She said she hung up because she felt "attacked" and overwhelmed. I normally don't take any crap from her especially so we're not really speaking atm. Do you think I pushed too hard or I was okay? ​ Edit- A word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:41 PM
24

Told him to tbh he looks scary enough to start one. It's funny because when they were at uni his friends who were in relationships used to say he was stupid when he told them he wasn't going to leave her despite the mental health problem or the job abroad. Fast forward a few years, all his friends are either unhappily single or stuck in unhealthy relationships and you'd think my sister and bro in law are like those old married couples you read about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:54 PM
15

HVM in my life will definitely be the future dogs I get lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 03:59 PM
51

My sister's fiance is the reason as to why I'm so picky with who I go for. They met when they were 15 and have been together for about 10 years now. When I met him I was a bit sceptical about him but there are some things he's done over the years that's convinced me guys like him just don't exist anymore or are super rare: - When they were both at university my sister sometimes finished her exams a week or so later than him which meant when he got back home from a celebration night out she'd be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 03:50 PM
2

So far I write for two magazines online and did editorial work experience at a national newspaper so I'm hoping in senior year I'll be applying for a lot of grad schemes :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:12 PM
1

Nope I don't plan to work in academia I want to do something related to journalism or publishing. I'm just worried if I went for a journalism interview they'd ask about my dissertation but then again I'm thinking surely they'd prefer it if I could write under pressure like I do with exams?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:10 PM
2

Not really. Ideally do something related to journalism or publishing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:45 PM
2

Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:55 PM
5

It's more fear that even if I do exams I still won't graduate with a good grade. ​ All the best with yours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:55 PM
5

In my experience a lot of those types are also super insecure in their own sex lives. My ex best friend's boyfriend was super interested in my body count and my other best friend's body count (he was a virgin until he met my ex bestie). When he found out that information, he went on the sloot shaming warpath. Half pathetic and half laughable to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:10 PM
28

I felt sick reading that. Reminds me of when a guy was fingering me and then out of the blue jabbed his two fingers in my mouth. I was so pissed I put my clothes on and told him he got that from porn so he's not as experienced as he made out to be and he's a twat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:37 AM
13

Yep! I've given up on them and I've accepted my ideal guy probably doesn't exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:55 AM
12

Totally relate. At this point you can't tell if they're being nice because they genuinely wanna know you or if they just want a fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:54 AM
20

Yes!! The guy who bullied me mercilessly as a teenager was disgusting to look at and he destroyed my self esteem because of it. We went to different unis but I bumped into him a year or so ago and he had the nerve to ask me out for a drink. Told him to fuck off and the look on his face was priceless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:10 AM
1

Wow I had no idea! Thank you for telling me! I want someone whose gonna be involved with the kid so I'm gonna have to find a gem. Ps. He replied yesterday apologising and saying he was gonna go back into the dating scene... Three weeks after he told me he didn't want a relationship. Left him on read and deleted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 10:37 AM
1

I've had wayyyyy too much ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:53 PM
5

There's another two screenshots but it doesn't allow me to post them too :( Edit- Saw this on insta Rest of convo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:04 PM
12

What thread was this on??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:21 PM
1

That bit is surprising. I thought they'd be quite liberal about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:19 AM
2

Tbh I'm asking myself that this morning. But I'm glad it happened because I know he's a massive tw*t and I can move on with my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:18 AM
2

Yes I did. Definitely don't have time for a douchebag like him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:15 AM
2

Thank you x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:14 AM
2

Least he deserves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 11:54 PM
3

Nope and I want to slap my few hours ago tipsy self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 11:32 PM
2

Tbh he probably thinks he's the best thing to grace the earth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:47 PM
5

Yep. This happened about a year and a bit ago when I was younger and a lot more naive. We never spoke again after that and I reallllly hope karma's bitten his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:52 PM
6

Yep! When we met he came off as shy and sweet so I didn't even think he was capable of being the way he turned out to be. I think the girl strung him along and he just picked her because she was closer. I'd have killed to see his face when I sent him a message telling him to f*ck off because I would never be his backup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:44 PM
6

At least you learnt from that mistake now. I hope your ex caught something nasty there. My ex was sort of like that (he was Dutch too fml) and we were long distance. First few months he was everything I'd wanted. Made time for me, always made me feel great about myself and all that. Two weeks before I was meant to go visit him he drops a text message from me saying he's found a girl back home in the Netherlands and he can't see me. He came crawling back three weeks later (once I was over him) sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:30 PM
5

Yeah they are handsome. It's funny because I saw two or three women saying their HVMs were Dutch and I'm just thinking where tf did you find them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:25 PM
6

You're right. The more I chat to guys the more I wonder if my ideal person actually exists tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:04 PM
1

Thank you x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:03 PM
5

No offence taken at all. I don't know now in all honesty. I think a part of me was warming upto the idea of something but another wanted to keep it casual. And he mentioned "Let's keep talking because I do enjoy talking to you" and he clearly was BSing on that as I've learnt from tonight. Thank you though. It helps that I've got a few travel plans for this year and he lives in a different country from me. I'll give it a few weeks and hopefully I'll put it behind me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:42 PM
6

I live in France and I haven't been dating around at all (not because of him just because I didn't wanna deal with the emotional clutter that comes with dating apps). I go back to university in a few months and I have zero plans to date around then either :I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:30 PM
4

Well they value equality in a relationship apparently. Which I want too but jesus be consistent ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:19 PM
7

Self reflection's happening atm and I'm starting to become more glad in a weird way that it happened now as opposed to a few more months down the line. I'm still upset but I'm calming down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:18 PM
18

No he definitely isn't my ideal guy. I want to kick myself for being such an idiot. And tbh if he is pursuing other women it wouldn't surprise me because he's good looking and he can be charming (as I learnt that hard way). Jesus your ex was trash :I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:16 PM
4

Number 5 hit home oh my lord. I'm quite friendly but I'm closed off as hell and I still manage to attract douchebags
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:41 PM
8

You had me at the first half ngl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:35 AM
2

No I shouldn't. She's made comments like "Oh I don't think you're ready to be in a relationship" and I'm thinking woman I might not be but I'm not gonna be as naive as you when I am like??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:27 AM
1

With her, it's more talk about it until it starts to seriously annoy you. I'm not a massively lovey dovey person but she is so the talking is annoying asf. During all my heartbreaks she's been everything a good friend should be but I just don't get why she can't go 5 minutes without having a boyfriend and then when I mention I'm casually talking to someone she gets critical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:21 AM
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I'm lucky because I have friends who are single and don't really take BS from anyone, let alone a guy. I'm just gobsmacked because since I moved there too I've been doing nothing but travelling but I don't even think she's left the region she's in because of this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:17 AM
1

I know that I want a relationship in the future so I can have some form of stability. I'm just wondering why she can't stay single for longer than 5/6 months considering her last boyfriend she said was "the one"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:13 AM
2

It annoys me because she's super supportive of me doing things like travelling around. But oml if I had a pound for everytime she spoke about her boyfriend during holiday I would have an amazing holiday alone somewhere in a 5 star hotel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:11 AM
42

Whenever a guy does that I just say "Oh goody I've been ready to be a mum for so long now!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:10 PM
21

"And if he's willing to cut off a side chick with bigger boobs than me he must DEFO love me!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:32 PM
26

I legit had one guy message me calling me a hoe when I made a post about how a guy who I had a horrible sexual experience with tried to pressure me for nudes. ​ Like okay hun don't get annoyed you get zero action from Mummy's basement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:04 PM
4

Yep! She's said how he's super needy and he acts like a douchebag and I'm thinking why tf don't you leave him. Like honestly cry me a river I'd rather be single than deal with a manchild. She's defo become bitchier. I distanced myself from her months ago thankfully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:31 AM
2

Oh he definitely is. We tried to organise stuff with just us three (even tho she saw him twice a day) but the whole time either he came along or she talked about him constantly. Looks like that's the same road I'm gonna go down. I can't see myself being friends with her again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:40 AM
6

Yep! He even admitted he'd been flirting with me and I think she got pissed that she had basically put herself out there and yet he was messaging me more than her. Honestly me too. Caramel's been in situations where she's had to pick the guy or me and she's chosen me everytime so she's genuine. I doubt she'll see the error of her ways. She's both too arrogant and pathetic. Dammit now I want pastries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:37 AM
2

I agree with the venting bit but she made it pretty clear early on that she was willing to ditch her friends for a guy. Back in the summer she was laughing and was quite happy that a friend of hers that I hate with a passion had bonded with him over how much they disliked me. Cba for friends like that. She's done too much damage and she's welcome to relying on her toxicass boyfriend for validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:35 AM
2

What gobsmacks me is that they have such a toxic relationship and she insists that everyone's jealous of her relationship. If my new boyfriend had told me to ditch my best friend I'd have dumped him on the spot. And I shall do! But tbh I can see her marrying him and becoming a Stepford wife so I don't plan to lose sleep over it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:27 AM
8

I think she definitely has a fear of being single because she used to overcompensate for her single life by saying how much she loved being single and all that. She defo has low self esteem issues. Not sure about abandonment considering she has a very stable family life and she's had a very charmed life compared to me and Caramel. Honestly whilst I don't put it past him, I doubt he had to do much. She was telling him our secrets like a month into them seeing each other and a close friend of hers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:33 AM
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Tbh me and Caramel have agreed between ourselves we don't really want to deal with someone as toxic as her if they do breakup and she comes back. Her parents are actually quite supportive and they really like him. At first he comes off as really quiet and shy which is probably why they've warmed up to him. And Coconut's painted a bad pic of me and Caramel but an amazing one of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:28 AM
12

Understandably. I can't imagine having such low standards that I stay with someone abusive :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:00 PM
11

Oh my that's straight up stupid of Lisa. I'd have jumped at the chance if I was her :I What's happened to her now? Men like that never change tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:17 PM
15

Shocks me how some girls are willing to throw away everything for a LVM just because being single scares them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:50 PM
8

Having dated a few Dutch guys, I will say lots of LVM there exist but they also seem to be a lot more open to the idea of a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:45 PM
6

Convinced that she is tbh she looks better than me and I'm in my early 20s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:43 PM
24

Looking back I should have. I'm glad I ditched her sooner than later now I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:34 PM
22

He's actually gaslighted her a few times but when two of our other friends (a psychology and a law student of all degrees) she ignored it and said she loved him and he wasn't like that and we were just picking on him. One thing we all agree on (apart from her) is that he's a narcissist. A huge one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:26 PM
22

Said it louder for the people in the back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:29 PM
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My godmother used to say to me when I was a teenager, "Never trust a charming man" and I never really understood what she meant until I went to university and began sleeping/dating around. And I found out the ones who'd been the most charming were also the most LVM I'd ever come across. ​ Not saying all charming men are douchebags but that piece of advice is definitely something I take seriously now. My guard goes up around them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:57 PM
40

Hahahahaha I'm screaming! I'm using this next time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:55 PM
8

You go girl!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:18 PM
1

As mean as it sounds I'm glad asf that I'm single at my age. Literally cba for crap like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:06 PM
1

Honestly I think she's only converted in the hopes she gets laid finally. Which is a totally legit reason to convert amirite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:02 PM
1

I completely agree with you and that's the sad thing. I don't think she's gonna realise it until it's too late. It's weird, he doesn't believe in divorce but he's more than happy to have slept around but god forbid she tries to end things with him because he's treated her like crap. ​ Thing is I don't want to push too much in case she becomes resentful. But her naivety astonishes me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:56 PM
2

I've tried to point out to her it's not fair that she has to wait around for him while he's the one who basically got to enjoy his early twenties whereas she's just starting out. ​ I think Peaches is so easily manipulated because she's never had a boyfriend and for some reason she's too nervous to lose this one even though he's not even a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:53 PM
2

Amen to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:08 AM
2

I'm almost 22 and I'm sick of the vast majority of guys my age being like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:08 AM
2

Like honestly if he wants to feel wanted why doesn't he get a prostitute or something smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:07 AM
13

Seriously who in their right mind thinks that kind of comment will get them nudes??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:03 PM
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I'd hate that kind of fair oh god hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:38 PM
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Thanks girl I already have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:11 PM
27

The tweet screams "Sad, little, bitter man"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:01 PM
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The ones who call men who have basic hygiene "gay" are the ones who've been used to women doing everything for them all their lives and they know they're useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 09:30 PM
1

Honey you're creating conclusions out of nothing so I suggest you go read a book or something . It's definitely not because she's black that I dislike her. Perhaps Kate Middleton does but she's been in the RF for much longer and she doesn't boast about her charity work. Anyway at least you now know why a lot of Brits don't like her :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 09:44 AM
3

Wow I never thought of dating like that what an eye opener
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 02:07 PM
0

I'll tell you why a lot of Brits don't like her. She preaches being humanitarian but spends god knows how much of tax payer's money on outfits. She talks about climate change but constantly jets around in planes. Kate Middleton was called a gold digger originally but the main difference before her and Meghan is that she's kept a fairly low profile as a royal in comparison hence why she's a lot more popular. And you haven't had her old friends coming out and calling her a user like Meghan's have.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 02:04 PM
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She just comes off as incredibly narcissistic and I get the impression she's with him for the money and nothing else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 12:42 PM
0

It's become very strained to the point they're both thinking of leaving the country. Nobody really cares though, a massive number of Brits (myself included) don't like Markle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 09:25 AM
5

Nothing more terrifying than an independent women nowadays it seems like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 07:19 PM
1

I don't have any sadly. Only my memories and her mentioning it. My other best friend could back me up but she's living with my ex best friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 01:20 PM
3

Oh I did when I found out what she'd told him. She then proceeded to call me a liar (she'd told him she'd never done anything with a boy before him when she used to hookup with guys the most after nights out) and he believed her lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 10:20 AM
5

Oh yes my ex best friend's boyfriend did this! She told him about my sexual past for some reason and he went around telling his friends I slept with different guys every week lmao. Like hun do you have any idea how exhausting it is sleeping with one guy let alone multiple? I think it was jealousy in this situation because he was 25 when he had his first proper girlfriend and nobody wanted to date him before whereas I obviously was being a sort of typical student.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/19 11:07 PM
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It's funny because during my first year of university I had a bit of a casual sex phase and I remember chatting to this guy who seemed nice enough at first and he mentioned "Oh be honest about your sexual past", I mention I slept around during uni and he immediately began slut shaming. ​ ??? Like okay hun don't get pissed at me just because I have more game than you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 03:11 PM
16

If I had a pound for every time a boy on Tinder told me that when I still had it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 03:23 PM
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