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I actually have a post to fds on this, if you'd like to look at it on my profile. I am going to contrast what some of the other comments say, and tell you it has been as amazing as you think it is. Yes it's hard but it is rewarding, and when you know you are meant to be a mom... a man shouldn't stand in your way. My support system are people I know and trust and that makes it easier. My son and I spend our time exploring and traveling. He is full of love and joy and wonder. He makes me laugh and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 12:41 AM
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"You mean healthy boundries?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:16 AM
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Imagine if he was able to purchase without a pin! He never would have told her. That's scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:28 AM
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Yeah and it's a pretty dismissive response from him to you being upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:27 AM
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And be prepared to make a new email. She doesn't sound like a good friend at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:00 AM
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Only men would use the word comfortable like it was negative. 🙄 Like yes, I'm comfortable??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:36 PM
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No reverence for you! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:22 AM
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The thing was, he wasn't horrific. He wasn't a scrote, or negative value... just LV. I was living my life and he wasn't draining me or using me, but certainly not adding to my day to day. He was sort of just tagging along. Seriously it doesn't get any worse or better than that... just some faceless person existing near me. It finally hit me when he went in for a kiss and all I could think was stranger danger. After that he freaked me out, and I ended things almost instantly. Maybe it's not the u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:50 AM
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Lol he gross, for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:50 AM
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Oh I love this. I looove it. "I'm not sorry, these feelings are signs I should be around you." LOL oh yes, yes yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 08:07 PM
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🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:31 PM
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I read the words "financially exploited" and lost it. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:07 AM
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So not only did he do this to impress you and "prove you wrong someday", I'm honestly better he did it because he realized he couldn't be mean to women without some sort of lash-back about his weight. I bet he is terribly mean to women now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:40 AM
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"I'm upset." Yes girl. Be upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:46 AM
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True this. Plus men love to talk about themselves, and they only care what your response is after it's said. So if you turn it around and ask them, it is like a 90% success rate.
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:42 AM
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A few other things about these subs/cultures that I think deserve warning/to be noted: They are vulgar/ not pc, not just towards women After viewing less than a scroll worth of content, I noted multiple prejeduce and discriminative terms. Not just gender related. Their "level up" standard is not the same. You did mention this in a way. But I saw an entire post labeled "No excuses", in which it was described how this man was a "literal god" for moving up in the world. When noting his accomplishme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:28 AM
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"Sarcastic and dark sense of humor" yeah more like "rude and mean" but will gaslight you by saying it was a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:30 AM
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Oh. Nope. Nope. Nopitty nope. "I bought a bed and that should fix this LVM." Like what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:56 AM
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See that look? That looks she has says "Huh maybe that FDS website has a point... maybe I should leave and never see this blob again." There's hope, even for this cartoon bat girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:02 AM
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He saw that post on Instagram and wanted to mess with your head. Almost guaranteed.
/r/askFDS20/05/21 04:50 AM
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Right, now imagine doing all that work and dealing with the husband. That's the point of this post. Not just that being a single parent is hard, but it's even harder when your spouse sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:32 PM
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YesSsSs that would be so amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:46 PM
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Also, not important enough to be in this Goliath of a post but: I discovered FDS less than a month after getting pregnant. Never too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:22 AM
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"Thank you for reading my vent" No. No, venting is when you need to get something irritating off your chest, or share some intense feelings. Not when you admit to what a horrible, despicable person you are. Imagine Jeffery Dahmer or John WG, just ending thier confession tapes with "Thank you for listening to my rant." Sick looser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:53 AM
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I like fat bald men and hate women.. that's what this says... Imagine thinking that statement makes you above someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:28 AM
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I’m so exhausted by him This is how gaslighting makes you feel. This is why you need to leave. They will talk in circles about nonsense until you feel exhausted and confused. Just leave this person behind.
/r/askFDS17/05/21 01:51 AM
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I can't imagine why. He did dishes for her. What else does she need? Commitment, trust, basic respect? Pffft.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:16 AM
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Sleep deprivation. It starts small, like waking you up for sex. Or early mornings, and late nights. This mixed with gaslighting, and creating chaotic scenarios; it will have you so lost, you stay through the abuse. I used to be so baffled by these women who stayed in abusive relationships. If it's so terrible just leave. Until I was in one. He would do things that are so obvious, not even by FDS standards, just so obvious to everyone. This man said "I could beat you and say you did it to yoursel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:44 AM
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I love when I get on FDS and hear about things I not only thought no one else experienced, but they also have names.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:45 AM
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he's scamming her but okay Lol this had me weak 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:55 AM
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I'm really.good at this, and have done in naturally for a long time. I didn't notice this was not the norm until, it was mentioned to me by a boyfriend. He made a comment on my walk. That I walked "fast and angrily". I was completely confused. I'm not angry? I just go where I want to go 🤷‍♀️ Then I started to hear it a lot. All comments made from men. Because I didn't stop and smile and bask in their presence, I walk like an angry prude. Well jokes on them. Now I am angry and I give dirty looks …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:33 AM
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Ok but... why is this so true? The guy who said "I don't know.. eyes you just want to stare into forever" I have actually heard men talk this way 😷 noOoOo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:00 AM
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Same. This is my baby. Why would he not have my name?
/r/askFDS09/05/21 10:07 PM
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So everytime I come to say something on an FDS post the first comment is exactly what I was going to say. I love it. Anyway.. came here to say this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:31 AM
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Decent men are never coming. He said it, not me. It's the spinster life for me ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:07 PM
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We don't blame women for rape, assault, harassment etc. Pickme, low value behavior, though ingrained due to societal standards, is a choice. I don't think any women here would say not to blame her. Especially because there really isn't anything to blame her for. She hasn't done anything to you specifically. She's just a pickme. Annoying as it is, I think the best course of action is to just ignore/avoid it. When she tries to involve you into whatever situation, simply say "I'm not involved in th…
/r/askFDS15/04/21 08:43 PM
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I asked my teacher to just put photos of just me in our high school graduation book. My "high school sweetheart" did not understand why there no photos of us ... lol huh wierd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:16 PM
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Right? I had my own account at 14. And it's like... the easiest thing to get. What can happen is your credit gets so bad you can't have a bank account anymore, or reopen a new one. That's the only way this makes sense. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:40 PM
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What gets me the most though, is this same girl posts stuff that would almost belong on FDS. 🤦‍♀️ No girl, you can't have both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:09 PM
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Today years old is too old guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:51 PM
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Once I started dressing for myself I started getting soo many compliments from women. I was on a date and other women would stop and interrupt my date just to tell me how much they like what I was wearing 😂 He didn't say anything, even after they would. Like ok I should've just hung with these ladies clearly, as you do not appreciate what you're sitting next to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:21 PM
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Someone from high-school messaged me "We should really catch up sometime!". By that he meant he wanted to tell me what he was doing in life... which was seriously equivalent to nothing. Like guy, my recent events blows your entire life out of the water. "We should keep in thouch!" Actually no, that's was last time I listen to what you thing "we should do."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:45 AM
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"Prideful, selfish, high-conflict"... Did he mean confident, independent and not going to be bullied? I think that's what he meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:05 AM
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Had to look up what SMV was.. that is a crappy term. (Sexual market value if you're scouring the comments for the answer.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:11 AM
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fragile little weenie Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:24 AM
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... this man tried to give you homework 😂 like what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:23 AM
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I hate this. "So in love with who I thought you were". He creates grand delusions of who you are as a person, doesn't bother to actually get to know you, and stays in a relationship he seems to claim was filled with gaslighting and abuse. Yet you are the one who ended things, he just "agreed"..? THEN he apparently finds the love of his life.... and what does he do? Sends you a whole a** letter. I bet he "thinks he knows" this new woman too. By that he means he has no idea who she is, he just kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:18 AM
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😭 the photo at the end. I really thought it was over but that broke me. Good sense of humor is right, because he has to be joking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:00 AM
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Not over 30 but I get this a lot. A date kept insisting I was younger, "almost too young!". Over and over. Shudder So I finally said, you either want someone "too young", or you aren't interested. Either way, I need to leave. Men who insist you're younger, want you to be. I personally find it insulting, and a big red banner saying "I'm a pedophile." No matter your age. That man will also be quick to leave/cheat for even the smallest inkling of a younger women's attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:41 AM
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"Literally everything is misogynistic nowadays" ... yeah we know that's the problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:44 AM
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Don't forget hemorrhoids. And they never go away. Have any sort of issues with anything below the waste line ever again? You know what might help? Hemorrhoids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:31 AM
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If he wanted to, he would. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:29 AM
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Yeah if it's followed by something along the lines of him TELLING you "he's a nice guy." Also red flag. But not just in a conversation about previous relationships. That's pretty normal.
/r/askFDS01/04/21 03:52 AM
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Lol it sounds like she chose the cat. Happy for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:23 AM
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I think it really depends where you are from. I am from a very small town. I couldn't even go grocery store without running into an ex or someone I went to school with. Moving certainly gave me more options. However it didn't necessarily give me better options, just more/new options. It also changed my dating experiences. In my town your date had to be at the home town diner, or hours away. In a bigger city, there are better places for a date. More opportunities to see how someone is as a potent…
/r/askFDS30/03/21 05:53 PM
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Saved this to read again and again. You just set me up for a good day, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 11:45 AM
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Something besides her name basically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 11:41 AM
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Ok so this guy bought my car from me, but didn't get a receipt, didn't change the title, plates or anything in his name. He was then arrested for drunk driving. After a collect call he informed me the car had been impounded, he needed me to get it out, and post his bail. I hung up, then went and got my vehicle. While going through the car I found his cell phone and wallet. There were "sext" messages and obvious evidence of cheating for months, in his phone. I took my car back along with keeping …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:36 AM
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Not super relevant but "calls her out of her name" is a seriously awesome term and I will be using it. It prevents me from having to repeat the word itself and really shows how real it is to use language about someone like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:14 AM
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Ugh I had a LVM who's "best friend" came over in the middle of our dinner. I was like wtf? That's not ok? You're obviously in love with this girl. She uses you for attention, and you follow her around.. like I'm not ok with this. He INSISTED I was wrong. And I was like ok bye 🤷‍♀️ A few months later he came crying back about how I was right and he was being used... Like I'm not sorry? You literally tried to use ME!? Block. Delete. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:08 AM
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I've had this question and this answer is everything. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:02 AM
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Ah yes, being respected, the dirtiest fetish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:49 PM
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Threw up a lil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:16 AM
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That's what I mentioned in my post. That this is not just racially motivated, but specifically towards Asian women. Not just people of Asian decent. That's also why I think more women, such as yourself, should be the ones speaking on the issue. Not JUST Asian men. Which is sadly mostly what I've seen. I don't doubt it the serious difference. I'm sorry it's like that for you. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:15 PM
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Especially when asked if it was racially driven, this man clearly said no it was a "sex addiction". He literally told everyone it was because has problems with sex and entitlement to women. ARE YOU JOKING? I have been going off to anyone who brings this case up. To the point where I am making a scene. This has been infuriating beyond belief. Not to take away from the Asian American movement, but it's Asian women who should be speaking on the issue especially. The news has only had Asian men spea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:40 PM
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This. And also, is it at you? Did you define a boundary and now he's clenching his fists? Or is he venting a stressful situation from work? Not only proportional to the situation, but where is that type of behavior directed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:34 AM
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I really don't think men would be scared as some other other comments mentioned. And I think rather than being made for women would be more like made for all. Women typically have more empathy and are more inclusive, so I don't think we would oppress men necessarily. Like chairs and cars would be made with more range rather than just smaller. I also think mental health and criminal justice would be higher priority. Like you mentioned about men being deemed crazy, it wouldn't be the way men label…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:07 AM
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For some reason they think that because a woman doesn't want kids, she's not to be taken seriously Because they don't view women as people. We are seen as our reproductive organs and that's at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:50 PM
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A fair mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:02 AM
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Ok so if you haven't watched Harley Quinn the cartoon and you're even sorta into that thing it's pretty good. It's like birds of prey, when Harley leaves the Joker. It's her facing misogyny and getting free from an abusive relationship. I don't agree with everything on it but it's got some relatable themes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:38 AM
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Oh I love this! Especially the reference to light vs heat. I'm using that for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:54 PM
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Someone grab my shoes for me like the toddler that I am 🙄 I would never do that to you... you p.o.s.... like ok guy get help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:24 PM
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Yeah but at the end she said see you later sandwich. So there's hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:51 AM
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Single mama loud and proud! Love my son, and no man is messing that up. Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:49 AM
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Read the handbook. This sub is strongly against porn use. It is a deal breaker. Don't bring it up, just leave. Block, delete.
/r/askFDS17/03/21 03:26 AM
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Yes he seemed sort of pushy for asking again.. it would be different if it wasn't over text and he didn't remember. But he could've just seen the previous messages? Showing consistant interest doesn't automatically entail high value, respecting boundaries does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:20 AM
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I have a gay friend in my girls chat and I'm always sending FDS and he's like yup, I feel that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:53 PM
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Can we talk about the fact that at least 2 people saw this and agreed with it or thought it was funny? And then felt confident enough to like/react to this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:33 PM
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Sooo when does the first episode come out... because I've learned patience through FDS.... but apparently not for this 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:20 PM
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I never actually hold the eye contact. I sort of making it look like I was staring and they "caught me". 🤷‍♀️ I can't maintain eye contact with a stranger much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:07 PM
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The fact that he appeals to men's health instead of the constant abuse of women is sad. What's even more sad are the people saying "it's the only way they'll listen". Because it's. absolutely. true. This is how you know men have no empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:53 PM
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Well then I'd also have to talk to him and just... no not worth it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 02:21 AM
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Oooh if I was any lesser of a person I'd forward this to my son's "sperm donar".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 02:06 AM
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So they actually sell them at Walmart or target in the running section. Practice using it too. Pulling out your keys and how to spray it. I carry one and it helps a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:58 AM
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I feel like you can be a nice lady even if you're a man hating spinster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:20 PM
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"I'm sure he's a nice guy but he's probably going to hold you back." "Date a guy who takes you kayaking." (Wierdly specific but ok) "You're too cool for someone who sits at home." Just somethings my dad said about the men I've dated before he passed. Still dated the looser who sits on the couch. If only I could show him I go kayaking all the time now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:01 AM
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Right?? If it wasn't for FDS I'd just be out there lost. Thinking I'm the problem. Lol uh no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:46 AM
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This. I always thought something was wrong with me because whenever I'm single I THRIVE. I thought this meant that I'm just meant to be alone. That I am not programed to love. Turns out all the men I've been in relationships are toxic and trash my mental health 🤦‍♀️ not anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:45 PM
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So I'm not sure where you are but this may be illegal depending on the laws. So that may be something to look into. Otherwise remind her that when she "sees where it will go" it always goes down. Continue to advise against it. Maybe get your parents involved if it comes to it.
/r/askFDS13/03/21 08:45 PM
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"Don't come to me with problems. Come to me with solutions." Something an old boss said to me a long time ago and it translated into advice I use in every aspect of my life. I take the things that make me angry and I work towards a solution. Angry at the patriarchy? Remind myself that when people say sexist things, I'm going to be the voice against it. Angry at an ex? Look at some posts on FDS to remind me I won't do that again. Angry with inappropriate coworker? Report them. channeling that ang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:07 AM
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So once I realized the feeling of loneliness was actually mostly just silence and boredom, I fixed those issues. I started listening to podcasts. (Uh FDS podcast coming soon!!) Also audiobooks. The handbook has a list of good books, and I started a fantasy series I enjoy. So while listening to these, I started painting, cooking and I even listen to them while I hike. (Trained in self defense and pepper spray on hand! Make sure you're being safe.) Then as I started to realize how much time I actu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:52 AM
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I hope to hear an update from you some day on here, when you're set free :) Second this. I'm invested in your level up now, so don't keep us waiting too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:30 AM
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Ok so women almost never keep the father away from their child unless a serious safety concern... so if he wasn't lying about being kept away from his kid, she was keeping him away because he's dangerous... could you imagine thinking "That woman doesn't let him see his own child.. he must be a victim." Always trust other women over a man. Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:20 AM
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What really gets me is when it's not even a secret. They just openly share that they left an entire family behind. There is even a pickme standing beside them thinking they won. I don't know any women who boast about leaving an entire family, saying they "upgraded".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:14 AM
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True. This is why I hate that men use sexual frustration as an excuse for bad behavior. Even when getting laid, they are cruel and mean. Sex won't make them happy, abuse will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:10 AM
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Using this reference whenever men try the "it's our nature" excuse. Well it's nature to drag you out of my house when you don't contribute 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:42 AM
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Same, and I let a conversation happen... (mistake ik) and at the end of it? "You're really mean now." Like no... I just have standards now. Block delete. 🚫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:22 AM
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I wouldn't say "nice face", but it is work. So professional is the best route. Be sure to report inappropriate behavior, but just remain professional when dealing with things you don't agree with.
/r/askFDS12/03/21 03:01 AM
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Ok but if they've made this shift... maybe those new friends are going to have more influence, a more positive influence. Like yes use me for your social media... yes girl dump him... also check out this sub I follow... lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:36 PM
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Ok but cockholm syndrome? I'm so excited to use this in my vocabulary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:32 AM
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So true. Shoot, I did when I first found this sub. I left originally. Like... how dare you tell me how f'd up I am. How dare you make me realize I'm worth more than society treats me. 🤦‍♀️ 🤡 hard cringe*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:29 AM
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As incorrect as that article was about this sub, I couldn't help but think... uh yeah? Like are you trying to make us sounds bad? "They don't want to date garbage men! What a bunch of meanie heads. Hmph." Like ye...yeah. Scrotes can die mad. Thanks FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:16 AM
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🧏‍♀️ hey single mom with abusive ex here! So there are a lot of things you have to just cope with in today's family court system sadly. However there are things you don't. Invest in a good, non dismissive, (preferably woman) lawyer. Then have them be your middle man. Don't have contact with these people (especially your abuser) in any way other than what is court ordered. You NEED to set this boundary. Trying to explain yourself and your situation to these people will NOT help, for the same reas…
/r/askFDS11/03/21 02:01 AM
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1st: That sucks. It's a not super fun thing to do and I've been there sadly. But good on you for getting it straight and fixing it. 2nd: If and when you move past it, make sure it's over with. The second he tries to throw it in your face, leave. My ex seemed ok, but when I brought up anything he did afterward, he would use it as an excuse, or some way to embarrass me out of arguing. Just leave if he can't move past it. You did the right thing and it should be over when it's over.
/r/askFDS10/03/21 11:40 PM
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I posted this on someone elses comment but decided I want to comment on the actual post, so sorry. So I just sent a tiktok to a younger friend and she resonated with it and is now starting to peep the page. It's not as easy with articles and things if your sending it to someone not FDS yet. And who knows, I might have just saved this girl because I found something modern and relatable to share to non FDS. I totally agree with the quality portion, but I don't think we should forgo tiktoks, screen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:30 PM
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Oof. There it is. That is the answer to this sort of comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:10 PM
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If it keeps the scrotes away I'm all about it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:09 PM
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Cockholm syndrome is now a part of my vocabulary and I'm not sorry. You guys... I just want to be a "dreamgirl"... 🤮😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:07 PM
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"This isn't an issue we've had in a court room." I wouldn't honestly say it's an issue. If anything they just saved that women because of zoom. I understand it tempers with the court process, but if there wouldn't have been a call in home; she may have never been able to ask for help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:01 PM
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Single mom here, and I can attest that this accurate. My boss does not believe I should even work. Like... how else would I support my kid? Then I looked at his desk and saw his photo of his wife and kids, and realized this man doesn't believe women belong in the work place, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:47 PM
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Oh I like this idea. Glad I asked because this may be the answer I needed! Thanks!
/r/askFDS10/03/21 03:18 AM
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So if you look up gaslighting in the dictionary, you see this exact post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:40 AM
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"Let me put on my dancing monkey costume and bang cymbals together for your entertainment" My unicycle has a flat tire. Sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:05 AM
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Thiiis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:40 AM
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This is like when guys go "I know I cheated but my cat died when I was seven".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:04 AM
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Sometimes I hate that I was such a pickme. Other times I realize I wasn't as bad as I could've been. Poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:20 AM
9

Cringe. Cringe so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:13 AM
38

Wel duh, you don't get picked if you get mad at the guy. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:25 AM
50

This made me physically sick. Men could light you on fire and not apologize. Oh wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:24 PM
13

They should be used to it. They're all a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:28 AM
39

Lol uh no because they don't want him either. He probably already tried going back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:36 PM
14

High value men don't beg for sex like a dog...Unless he is fluffy with a tail, high value men aren't "dogs".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:27 AM
2

It's cute you keep mementos from elementary school though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:29 AM
29

It's not just reading things like this and thinking "oh yeah I had a similar experience", that makes me feel attached to this sub. It's every other comment here saying "that's not ok." Because as often as I read these and relate, is just as often that I get a reminder that, it wasn't my fault. I didn't allow this - I was manipulated into this. And you can never have enough of those reminders in this society. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:16 AM
31

AH 😂 Some men are just out there waving those 🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:00 AM
11

He posted this then went back to being useless. That girl is posting on parenting subs right now about how worthless her husband is. Those are way worse to read than the relationship subs. It's so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:10 PM
6

That sounds like a bad friend like others said. And it also sounds like you might want to reconsider the marriage thing if you think he can be coerced into going to the strip club..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:45 PM
32

Any sport is unheard of for females to enjoy apparently. "Oh she's one of the guys." And if your not into the specific sport that guy is into or any sport, "She is such a girl." No. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:28 PM
21

You cried over you moving on to better things?? That doesn't make sense to me. Sounds like you should be treating yourself and looking forward to the EPIC level up you're about to achieve! Stay strong and positive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:45 PM
13

I love this. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:13 PM
37

No no you can't compare unless it defends male behavior and it's completely false. Such as "alpha" behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:26 PM
209

Because even if you took JUST the brush, he would have told everyone you took everything anyway. Might as well get what's yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:16 AM
5

Feeling sympathy and being civil is very different than being evolved. I can feel sorry and sad for you way over here with little to no contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:02 AM
59

He saw a porn where a man has sex in his office and thought that if he could get you there he could recreate it. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:54 AM
53

I was pulled over with my ex in the car only to find out he had a warrant the whole time.easiest way to end a date, just have them go to jail. "No I'm not calling your mom for you". Went home and went to bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:52 AM
21

and you can die mad about it. Love this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:44 AM
48

Number 2 is the worst to me. Or even acts different around men and less friendly towards me. Like, hope you get picked, bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:42 AM
24

Being groomed to be abused by older men isn't modern and it's not love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:32 AM
12

Together for 10, married for 4... the first sentence is a red flag. 😂 Why do they make it so easy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:48 AM
91

But you can't because he's blocked and deleted right? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:48 AM
48

As a mom, I could not allow my child to be around this. No court could tell me otherwise. I hope this boys mom saved him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:39 PM
42

My ex from years ago said he'd help me move and then never showed. Spent the whole time being irritated he didn't show. The most recent time I moved I did the whole thing myself with a friend helping me shop to decorate. Actually had fun doing it. Realizing that moving isn't near as bad without added boy drama. (Plus my house is cute af now) Congrats on the move btw!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:15 PM
32

Why is he even talking about that with her? Yes as far as I'm concerned, that type of conversation with his female coworker is cheating. Not including the strip club, porn, and fact he basically invited her to a "date" to the strip club. No HVM or even remotely respectful person would have that conversation with a coworker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:41 AM
31

no, you didn't see me kiss her, I thought it was an eyelash 😂 I slipped and fell, and now she's pregnant. Raise my baby?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:35 AM
9

I see a lot of women with the "I'm not crazy" note and "if he wanted to, he would", and I feel that so hard. But more so, They aren't as stupid as they pretend to be. They act like they don't do those things because they "didn't know you wanted that" and now you're "crazy for thinking they did". But that is all such garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:33 AM
128

Until she doesn't date you because of it like you suggested. Then it's "Be more open minded. She's a prude, etc." How about if you don't want a woman who wants to be respected and not with a porn sick loser... don't date a woman. And maybe take a long walk off a short pier while you're at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:29 AM
19

She probably doesn't even watch it everyday either. Most women ik who regularly watch porn and are actually addicted don't watch is as much as men. They still live productive lives. (Not that I agree with porn AT ALL) However in comparison I've never known a women to watch it that often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:16 AM
8

My dad and I used to watch it growing up. At that time it was one of the only few strong female bad*ss characters on TV. I've always loved it and still REALLY do, and recently rewatched it with the same mentality you did! Honestly I chocked it up to male writers and just lack of female voice in TV durring that time. Not that now is much better but ooh it would be so cool if they redid it with female perspective! Make Xander not such an incell and Willow and Buffy not such pickmes. But mainly Xan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:42 AM
69

"She blocked me because I have a roommate. It couldn't have possibly been anything I did." - this scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:42 AM
26

Did you save her and send her here? When I read stories like this, it is so obvious the woman is just looking for reassurance that it's ok to leave. That she deserves better. And she won't find it on the other subs with men gaslighting her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:49 AM
19

He did explain it. They are just making accusations to ruin men's lives. Abuse towards women isn't real. THE ENTIRE WORLD is making it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:32 AM
73

There is always some truth behind every joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:35 AM
21

"Not all men are terrible. Now let me verbally abuse you to prove it." Makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:21 AM
17

Act broke and stupid... how is that any different than before?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:20 AM
7

I think this is partly true, and this account very well could be. However I do know men who say things similar/worse than this IN PERSON and IN PUBLIC. Let alone on the internet. The audacity of some LVM knows no bounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:40 AM
6

Nah he probably eats that crap cold. His mom won't let him have a microwave down there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:36 AM
11

"Why he kicked you to the curb." Ah yes use language that makes it sound like I'm garbage, that will keep me engaged in this article 😑 Will women just STOP consuming crap like this??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:33 AM
32

I'm 24 and have been a licensed electrician for about a year... and I had a late start. Why has it taken him so long? And what did he go to college for? Electricians typically go through trade schools. Unless they are electrical engineers, however they don't need an apprenticeship... sooo he's lying about that. I also suspect he's lying about literally. eveything. else. No one actually asks why he's not with anyone, because everyone already knows. Maybe his grandma being nice... and she thinks y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:16 AM
5

Block on everything. He thinks you're still an option.
/r/askFDS03/02/21 08:45 AM
9

I had to stop reading because no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:03 AM
46

That's a terrible deal. The target men who read that she intended to invest and raise those prices have no money to invest... the already spent it on other porn??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:56 AM
36

But this isn’t a me problem. That's what did me in. "Not my problem" is one of my favorite terms now. And I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:44 AM
23

"This face is cute, and these words are powerful, and that's all that matters." YusSsSs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:38 AM
13

Block. The universal language ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:35 AM
3

https://youtu.be/U5xkxTfVLSA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:00 AM
32

Nooo you put hearts! That'll make him think you love him and are a "crazy clingy" type. It has to be more like.. "Pick me to abuse on Sunday and pretend that we're watching movies please!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:51 PM
49

The sex education I had in high school, they separated male and female. They started our presentation by saying "Ladies are you ready to cry? We're going to get into our emotions." We then proceeded to discuss rape and abuse at length. Not how to prevent it, or why it happens. Just that we need to understand it happens. After it was over we saw the males leave their presentation laughing and goofing around.. I was later asked to leave this school permanently 🤷‍♀️ caused too many problems for the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 06:48 PM
17

It starts sad, but look at her face at the end... that reality hit her and she. is. over. it. Seeing that face lifted the sadness right out of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 06:02 AM
6

Just like you said, women only "nag" for things they are passionate about, which could be anything. Men also nag about the things they are passionate about, but that only includes sex and themselves. So if it isn't about sex or themselves they aren't interested and feel the need to complain about the topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:41 AM
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If anything it advocates against taking men's money. Bad. Idea. They should pay for dates and pull their financial weight of course. But women should not take money from men without their own financial security! This is highlighted more in the female level up strategy, but preached pretty frequently in FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:13 PM
8

Yeah this sounds a whole lot like the guys who say "well I was cheated on once in kindergarten" as some sort of insane excuse for all the red flags. Not saying he is. But suggesting therapy is a really good idea! Mainly to see the response. I really like that idea, because this is a stunt men pull a lot, and it's a super simple way to vet excuses for emotion distance. Thanks!
/r/askFDS26/01/21 03:06 PM
3

I didn't know this. But it sure makes a lot of sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:48 PM
25

Oh so bad. Even the song Respect, a song I once thought was about giving this woman respect, is just about pandering to men in order to not be treated like garbage. Seriously listen to the lyrics.. it's actually really disappointing. R.E.S.P.E.C.T find out what it means to me... apparently not a lot. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 10:26 AM
36

Ok but you left out the happy ending where you realized he was a crap sack, found FDS and are living your best life soooo 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:38 AM
188

Ok but can we talk about how men are barely even stronger anymore. Let alone healthy. Men do not prioritize thier physical health near as much as women. Lack of sleep due to video game addiction, unhealthy diet due to inability to cook, sickness due to irresponsibility to make appointments and bad hygiene... I also have not run into something I cannot do physically or with modern tools, that needed to be done. A man could beat me in an arm wrestle... but I don't arm wrestle men. In an altercatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:26 AM
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I feel like porn is like cigarettes, marketed as fine and healthy and normal but 50/100 years later people are going to be like oh shit we made a massive mistake. Ok but that is super uplifting. A reminder that society does actually change. I'm excited to see that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:00 AM
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My ex had his bed on the floor with one blanket and one pillow. I slept on my hoodie when I slept over 🤦‍♀️ When I bought him new sheets and brought my pillows over because he wasted and vomited on his others, he said "Typical. A woman and all her f*ing pillows." ... He now had a total of two pillows on his bed... and I was pregnant and living there so I needed a pillow. When I left he kept my pillows. (Happy ending: FDS and 6 pillows on a giant bed I have to myself.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:24 AM
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But it is being spent on respect, dignity, and a more positive experience later. The cost of not having some crap scrote touch you is worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:59 PM
46

You don't even need to be pretty. If say all you need is a heart beat but they'll like up for cartoons and fake women on the internet. There is no standard for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:07 AM
16

Single mom here! So yes there is a ton of misogyny disrespect and hatred involved with my situation, but... there always is towards all women. 🤷‍♀️ And I have discovered there is a ton of support, love and respect that comes with this situation as well. I also want to mention I still thrive in my career and still do self care. Being a HVW doesn't stop when having a baby. I'm not saying there isn't some serious things that make it hard and need to change, but it can also be an incredibly amazing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:19 AM
39

Can it be the same thing the patriarchy does to women and charge 5x the price of something as simple as a pen, just because it is blue rather than pink?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:27 AM
323

"I need you to give me money so that way it's clear you're not using me, for my money." Ah yes, scrote logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:33 AM
64

Nope. What any child needs is adults that love them, raise them with confidence, good standards, and set good examples for them. Not a father, not a mother, not any specific relationship. Just good, capable, high value adults with a strong positive environment. Two moms, two dads, one mom, and even one dad (HV of course), can raise a strong and confident child. We are beyond the times where only one type/ or relation to a person, has any sort of impact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:57 AM
22

Well I just signed up for a gym. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:35 AM
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Oh and there won't be any quotation marks around the word talk. There will be no question that it is not a relationship. Don't forget that part. Because men will do this same thing but act like they are in a relationship, only to pull this card once they get caught cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:08 AM
37

No no you guys... "he was justifiably angry". He tells us it's justified so we don't get confused by THE COMPLETE LACK OF JUSTIFICATION.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:39 PM
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And they have the audacity to ask that the woman EATS it. Not just deal with it and clean it. But EAT IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:06 AM
36

Oh if she gave it .001 of a second they'd have come back with yelling about how he didn't understand how he was manipulating her. Even though it is clearly explained. 🤦‍♀️ And he wouldn't have used the door. He would've just stood there like an idiot babbling about how he didn't understand and she needs to communicate better. Can't argue with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:16 PM
57

Smug. Hornisness.. yup that's the tone lol I love that description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:32 PM
64

Can we just really appreciate the last edit. Not just that she left him, though that is great in itself. But the fact that it only took a "few hours" of thinking to decide that is not ok and she's leaving! Or the blunt matter of fact way she wrote it. No explaining, no excuses. Because that is all it should take. Someone not respecting you, you deciding to leave, and leaving. End of story, good day sir, it's over. Bravo to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:43 AM
8

Click! Yay for hanging up on people lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:04 AM
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Yup! My NEX was the same about texting. REFUSED to talk to me over text, because then I would have proof he was the crazy one. Would call me or ask to come over. Never had a conversation over text. No one believed me for the longest time, gaslighting for so long. Thanks fds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:13 PM
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This* I'm worried about the other girl now, and you still. If you haven't already, block him. If he is depraved like your friend had described, there is no way he'd be ok with a clean break. Don't leave the door open for him to manipulate or abuse you some way later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 09:44 AM
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Oh my gosh Ashnikko really does make some FDS music! My favorite is Daisy, she mentioned that its based off a vigilante that kills rapists and leaves behind daisies. She also said she wished she could punch the patriarchy in the face. I feel that in my soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:07 AM
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Something my older HVW friend does, that I started doing is saying "What did I just say? Repeat to me what I just said to you." Don't take some bs like "I heard you." Or some half version of what you said. Ask for it verbatim, so they clearly understand what you said. I love doing this, it makes people stop and realize they need to listen. They hate it though. Like really hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:55 AM
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Watching shows or consuming any media 'critically' has saved me honestly. I might not be able to identify with any characters anymore, but at least it's a "what not to do" guide 🤷‍♀️ Otherwise I can't get through anything without hating it for it's pure ludicrously and typically, it's misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:44 AM
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Not a lifter but I like to work out, and I really agree. I've hiked in a thong (On accident. Worst mistake ever.) and can't believe the women running in that nonsense are comfortable?? And can we PLEASE talk about how they don't make good women's workout clothes that aren't skin tight anymore?? I don't like fabric IN MY BUTT while I run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:31 AM
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Spoilers sorta.. but I loved this movie. I figured it was going to be some unrealistic "super" vigilante almost. Where she goes around murdering people. (Which still would have been super cool.) However I loved that it wasn't. This was all realistic behavior. Maybe the last 3 minutes weren't. Like if a woman actually wanted too, she could. She wasn't abnormally strong. She wasn't abnormally forward. She never had the physical upper hand on a man twice her size. Just the mental intimidation, whic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:49 AM
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More effective if your goal is to only prevent the rape... Not more effective if your goal is to also jam a bunch of spikes into a rapists penis 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:41 AM
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I didn't have the sound on first, and thought it was the man getting in the passenger seat, saying he's never helped with groceries... that's how my brain see's men. Contrary to popular belief, FDS posts actually restores my faith in men sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:36 AM
18

I seriously cannot agree more. I really love this realization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:31 AM
25

"The smartest WOMAN I've ever met".. not the smartest person. "Logical 90% of the time".. Those aren't compliments, that is misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:41 PM
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https://youtu.be/MFaDHgXPbUg Hopefully that worked. If not, it's called Nefarious: Merchant of Souls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:16 AM
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All of this except the knowledge of sex work... I don't think a lot these women actually understand the reality of sex work. That documentary that was posted here recently opened my eyes A. LOT. And I realized how little I knew in my libfem pick me days. They don't have legitimate information, just what their opinions are, and what their friend that does onlyfans or cam work said. I shared that video to everyone. Idk, it just made a huge impact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:46 AM
31

His unhealthy and depraved treatment labeled as "trust issues" is excused by some past relationships. However the women who were probably groomed, abused and sold from these stories (if they were even real.. they weren't I'm sure) don't get any excuses and are abominations? This girl needs help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:31 AM
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There has been a few, all from women. However, there was the time in high school someone said "Hey you're the smart one, can you explain this to me." I had just changed into a new school, and had never been told I was smart. Actually, teachers and students made frequent comments about how I did bad in school, and I always had bad grades. After that comment I realized I was actually really smart, and graduated a year early. Biggest turn around in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:03 PM
13

Drink for every sick depraved comment he makes. If this post were a drinking game I'm pretty sure you could get drunk off water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:50 AM
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Woop! There it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:29 AM
4

Literally the word that made me stop listening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:14 AM
5

I never understood men who lie like that.. aren't they embarrassed when they are called out? How are they not?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:02 AM
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Yess, same. I also see myself and my role models in older single women, rather than women with men. Even women in healthy relationships. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:14 AM
7

"I took it from her" ... could you IMAGINE typing this nonsense and asking if you're in the wrong?? I've never just taken another person's things as an adult. For any reason. This is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:53 AM
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Exactly. And I you know what? I hope he convinces himself I was as terrible as he pretends. He deserved it. Now I get to snuggle my cute kid and I'm NVM free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:20 AM
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My ex told me he didn't want to leave because of what a terrible mother I might be. Then he disappeared and I never saw him again.. not that I looked 🤷‍♀️ Anand I'm a great mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:30 AM
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What happened to that one girl? "She said she doesn't like being called boo and blocked me! Females are crazy."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:51 PM
77

Ok... so back in my pick me days, I sat in this man's crap apartment PARKING LOT. Not even inside. Waiting for him for over an hour 🤦‍♀️ He "fell asleep" and left me waiting outside. I DID THIS MORE THAN ONCE 😭 You guys... no. Why?? Thank you FDS. Last time a man "fell asleep" I told him to avert his eyes if he ever saw me again 😂 Block. Delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:27 AM
28

So I actually left FDS after joining at first. It seemed very aggressive and there were somethings I didn't initially agree with, before I really thought/learned about them. It was mainly ignorance, and being uninformed 🤷‍♀️ It only lasted a few weeks at most, until I came back for the things I did agree with. Now I've learned enough were I seldomly see a post I don't agree with. And those posts aren't handbook centered, and I see the validity. So I really do think it is ignorance. Coming from a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:17 PM
10

Oh that last one HIT ME 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:47 AM
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This turned into a game for me and my friend to see how long he would go 😆 Started hanging up and waiting for a call back too. "Oh sorry I got disconnected" 🙄 I eventually just stopped picking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:37 PM
36

I'm too young for this kind of heart pain 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:48 PM
2

The majority of men trying to do this don't actually make enough money/are financially responsible enough to do it either. So it's just a bunch of jerks being jerks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:12 AM
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They found f'd up sh*t on there or "whatever"... Imagine your trauma being classified by this p.o.s, as "whatever". This makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:12 AM
31

Exactly! Console me for hurting you please 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:54 AM
29

There's a difference between spicing things up/working to get the sex drive back after trauma.. and potentially harmful things that lead to more trauma. There's another comment here about how this will likely escalate to glass bottles and other very dangerous things. They need a better therapist.. because she sounds like she's going to be/is in danger honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:38 AM
18

So FDS doesn't typically have single mom posts, and today I read this. Today also happens to be the day after given birth to a handsome future HVM. I've done the entire pregnancy on my own, and will be raising him with no dad on the birth certificate. I was lucky to find FDS a short time after leaving the "father" and having the female support to get me this far, I feel empowered, strong, and a little wheepie... (I just gave birth y'all) I am now an FDS queen, a single mom and crying because tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 08:53 PM
8

How did he remain on the line with her to ask what happened after he tried to call 911... and then after certain death she laughs and is immediately ready to tell this guy (who miraculously has 2 phones 🤷‍♀️) about her dick strategy.. yes, completely feasible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 08:26 PM
42

"Able to admit when she's wrong" ... by that he means, "Willing to compromise on legitimate facts to feed my ego."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:34 AM
20

Block and delete always. There's a difference between communicating and talking to a wall, that will use your every word against you. Real communicating is done when getting to know someone, and making choices together once committed and etc. Yelling or trying to explain why something obviously hurtful... hurt you, that is not communicating. That is wasted energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:39 AM
6

I was going to say.. don't you have to be 18 for online dating? Seems like something a child would put on there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:23 AM
14

"You look like this porn star but with smaller tits." Said to me by NUMEROUS men, including ones I didn't even know.. finally seen her, we don't look alike AT ALL, just same hair color.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:10 AM
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Yesss, seeing the under 20 option makes my heart full. I wish I had this before now for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:08 PM
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There really isn't an age where it just becomes a number IMO. Because think of where you were a few years ago vs today. Even from last year to this year. It may be a a very small difference, but that small difference multiplied by 16, (your age gap) is pretty substantial. Also think about it, he was a teenager when you were born 😬 ick. And on the other end, you'd be 44 when he's sixty... Would he go out with a 60 year old woman? No, because that wouldn't make sense. Plus as everyone else said, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:39 AM
92

This information... just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:24 AM
24

Bunch of prudes. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:57 AM
67

"If she doesn't feel comfortable cooking for me anymore than maybe she should stop." Like... yeah she really should 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:50 AM
6

I wish you would have stopped at "wdym?" Just to see what he would have come up with. Because no way he would've said kids, he would've said something way more misogynistic I'm sure. They don't care about your fertility, they care about your beauty and the social standards of settling down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:16 PM
4

This. This so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:10 PM
32

😂 Oh you are about to level up so hard. At first I was mad but then I realized how happy you're going to be without this sicko, and now I'm just happy for you. Karma is going to work so hard to right this situation, just keep your head up and embrace it because, it, is, coming!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:04 PM
15

Oh yeah that's totally possible! Makes a lot of sense actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:34 PM
70

Your subconscious usually knows 🤷‍♀️ I use to have CRAZY murder dreams about my ex. To the point where they made me scared when I was awake, and I realized... I should be scared, this guy was nuts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:36 AM
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Yup, she just gave them instructions to navigate the first basic messages used for vetting them, if they're smart enough to read. Or just gave something to incels and scrotes to try and argue with her about. (Note at the top where they say "is she serious". Too much typing for no reward. A HVM won't need to be told how to act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:29 AM
7

Am I the only one who couldn't watch the whole thing? I mean after the first part where he cuts her off I was struggling, and didn't even make it half way through before leaving the video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:52 AM
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Also most things media related, plus seemingly innocent conversations with people... and so many other things. The serious enlightenment from FDS has made the super reality of the patriarchy and serious sexism in the world GLARINGLY obvious. But the things I've found to replace the things lost, make me so much more fulfilled and happy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:45 AM
11

If he wanted to HE WOULD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:02 PM
84

Oh yes! I quit shaving too and realized... nobody actually cares! But honestly it wasn't because I had a HVM supporting me, it was the exact opposite. I had a LVM pretty much explain to me that men depravity does not stop for body hair. And honestly... I realized how right he was. So I quit doing the makeup everyday too because it was trashing my skin. Now I don't shave, or wear makeup and there has been zero difference except my skin is amazing and my confidence is way up🤷‍♀️ like why are we tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:35 PM
31

You're posting here because you know this is where you can get support and you know you need it right now. So that already gets you boss up points. Next it's to realize who the fool really is. Spoiler: it's not you. Cheaters, liars, narcissists... those aren't ever the good guys/winners in the story! So now that you have addressed your emotions, dismissed the irrational ones, that leaves the best part. Getting the heck over it and loving yourself, spoiling yourself, and setting yourself up for s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:42 AM
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Ok but don't these men have access to the handbook/website and our principles? If they actually read these things and had a reading compression beyond elementary, they would save themselves some serious idiocy. But no. They hear about any type of female empowerment and it's clearly the dumbest thing imaginable 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:22 AM
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I'm not at the dating stage yet, but I notice I do this in life way more! Not being judgmental for the sake of it, but rather judging how they treat me; before I worry about impressing them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:13 AM
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Doesn't it seem weird that there was never much push to get to the country his family is to meet, until there was also the option of him sleeping with someone else...? Like, never met his family, he asks to sleep with other women, all of a sudden they are now traveling to where other women is to "meet his family"...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:37 AM
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This reminds me of the post about the man saying he was going to start an all male sub in response to FDS, then mentions only certain women would be allowed.. Men are obsessed with women. When they get a night/day out from wives/girlfriends where do they typically go? Strip clubs, hooters, a bar to look at women. If they actually go to a sports event, or "manly event" and it has to have women half naked being paraded around the whole time... advertising for men uses women, video games they play …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:15 AM
11

He doesn't go to weddings... he makes his gf go alone and then whines she left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:27 AM
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Yeah no WAY this guy phrased it like he says he did. It was certainly more like what happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:26 PM
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Yeah I get the point of the poster not wanting it to be the thing that motivates but I also totally feel this.. like that kind of incredible strength you get in order to build your confidence and be strong again is enchanting. Like no I don't want to be heartbroken! But when it happens bet I'll turn it into something amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:01 AM
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Ok but FDS is actually all about improving ourselves... like realistically if a man was HV enough he would be REALLY pleased with the queen status we preach here. He would be pleased with high standards, financial stability, self care, and literally everything we talk about here. But these men who complain we aren't discussing "pleasing them" are the men who are pleased by low standards, vile sex acts and complacency. So yeah, FDS is actually all about healthy relationships and growing ourselves…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:51 AM
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The same men who say "not all men", make jOkEs about women driving, or women in the kitchen, or the incredibly biased/sexist things men think women are responsible for. Had a conversation with someone at work where he repeatedly said "women" in a general sense, and I kept correcting him politely (I was at work remember) saying "the women you seem to be around". And he kept trying to argue his point still saying "women" as in all women... so finally my HVM friend says "Dude she is giving you an o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:06 AM
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Random lurker also taking the unsolicited advice 😂 Love the admiring other women part. A way to build my confidence AND my bond to other women. Taking jealousy completely out, and using the energy into benefiting yourself is such a cool idea. Telling everyone to do this 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:40 AM
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Should have said you didn't get the joke, and had her explain why it was funny. Or even him in the moment. That is usually an eye-opener tactic for people who use "joking" as an excuse for depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:33 AM
11

Yeah.. I am sure if someone called me a pickme before I did the first time, I would not have accepted it. I honestly would have written off anything they said as condescending. Like the rule, you aren't supposed to tell the crazy person that they are crazy. Your advice is so spot on but I'm sure she stopped reading as soon as she felt she had been called a name, no matter how right it was. Tough love is important, but not if they can't see the love part. Then you're just tough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:29 AM
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So there were a lot of things my dad didn't do right in regards to women, and he might not have been a HVM through and through.. but he sure as heck was a great dad and taught me to be a HVW. I think it was partly because of his own awareness to the male depravity and wanted to ensure I didn't put up with it. However as I got older, it was also noticeable how... Scared? Impressed? Baffled? By how strong and in control I was. He raised me to do all the things "a boy could do", along with the "gir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:12 AM
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Yup, confirmation #2. My dad raised me without my mom and he did and AWESOME job in a lot of ways. But I spent my entire life living somewhere dirty. Friends of mine sort of pick on me (in a friendly tough love way) and I'm trying to overcome my obsessive need to clean/not make mess. Because growing up in filth you learn to ignore it and pretend it isn't there. But I never wanted to be ok with it. So now even dust is un-ignorable for me, even for a day. Edit: And my brother lives in filth...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:40 AM
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I'd say the LVM was like the grinch but even his heart grew 3 times; LVMs don't get better 🤷‍♀️ and nothing on them grows 3 times the size 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:16 AM
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After finding out I was pregnant (my birth control pills failed) he screamed at me saying it was my fault I was pregnant... when I mentioned he didn't do anything on his end to prevent this he said that wasn't his responsibility and I wanted to trap him... left that day and never bothered to reach out to him again. I'd hate for him to feel "trapped". Always use all of the birth control options ladies, condoms are a MUST! (Side note, LOVE my son though, he takes after me thankfully lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:03 AM
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I read this in the most authoritative voice and I just couldn't not be excited for you. Yay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:35 AM
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I made an audible gasp noise and a yuck face before I re-read the first part. That's when I noticed the "married at 7 years." Oh poor girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:31 AM
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I was binging the Simpsons when I found FDS.. I might have cried for Marge at one point. Had to stop watching.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:02 AM
11

"Low funds is not synonymous with low effort." I like that. Being financially stable, not being cheap, those are important; however I've seen some amazing proposals and date ideas that can actually be done with a respectable price.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:53 AM
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True! Must be why my feed is all only cute animals, food and FDS lol 🤷‍♀️ priorities you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:57 AM
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Same! They told me to "scram" over hyping up Michelle Obama's podcast. They HAD to have went through my history. Like... "why are you so obsessed with me" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:49 AM
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That was my question! Honestly I was really upset when I was banned too. Like you said, I felt bullied... like I'm an adult and felt so ridiculous for being bullied. So I'm glad to know I haven't been the only one to be banned for no reason!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:34 AM
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I was banned from the same sub! Was told to "scram" because FDS'ers don't get to pretend to be feminist. It was on a post where I recommended Michelle Obama's new podcast... not even FDS principles. They just saw I was FDS and banned me. Like ok I'd rather be on a platform that isn't for unhealthy libfems and "fEmInIsT mEn" anyway 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:57 AM
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Nobody: This guy: My ex was crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 07:19 PM
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Oh yeah, this is meant as real tough love for this girl for sure! I WAS this girl 🤦‍♀️ I did roughly the same thing; seemingly most women on this sub have! And oh man did it hurt when my friend laughed in my face and told me what a clown I was! Hurt so much I cried my clown makeup off and left that man for good! That's why I love this sub so much, because it's so supportive, but not the fake kind. We don't tell women "oh maybe he'll change, you didn't do anything wrong ever, it's ok to cry and n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:19 PM
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That's why I said potentially because I had a hard time being sure on this one. I was thinking about it (this stuff keeps me up some nights haha), not only did he admit to being a jerk in a previous relationship but then gave her clearly bad relationship advice.. however my comment still stands, this guy along with most, are pretty dumb. Relationship advice from ANY man is useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:52 AM
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Reread this post over and over until he's gone! Don't forget your own words! Stay strong and this man will be gone before you know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:43 AM
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🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:37 AM
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I don't want to dismiss the initial shock for women who don't live without men/have always assumed they needed a man. You know the type that suppress themselves, I can't change a tire, lift that heavy thing, do whatever else I think is a "man's job". But that would pass way quicker and easily than in a vice-versa situation. Women would step up fast to help others and learn themselves how to do new things. Men would just except filth and lowly living standards without women. Then women would star…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:31 AM
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Our female politicians should just show up wearing short skirts and cleavage and just take over the world already 😂 Watch all the old white men get distracted and confused while we actually fix this mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:10 AM
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Notice how he is trying to act like a "hard ass" by saying he stares at his wife with a seething hatred that will end in ugly separation.. anonymously on the internet.. When really we know it's more like a toddler who sticks their tongue out when mom isn't looking. And while she's yelling he's actually just whining worse than the actual crying baby. But yeah.. at least he's honest🤮😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:56 AM
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Men literally change their whole world view/morals after an orgasm.. however women are the ones with no control over emotions or capabilities.. yes men are clearly better meant for power and leadership 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:45 AM
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So why didn't anybody tell me about women gyms until this post? Because I'm a little salty no one did, just saying lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:34 AM
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Even potentially HVM are so dumb I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:56 AM
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Yeah I honestly have never had to emergency poop on the side of the road... but if I did it would have a crazy story to go along with it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:37 AM
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My favorite part is the part where it mentions the media. Like you know how many guys I've had try to do some stuff they've seen on TV, and it's like... if you would have just talked to me you would realize I hate that. Like walk or coffee dates 🙄 or offering me your coat... I'm literally wearing my own coat... no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:09 AM
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I have started to cut out course words in general. My personality and environment has always been one with lots of foul language and has never been an issue. However once I decided to stop using that language and changing my vocabulary I realized how much more I liked other words, and the positive impact that it has. Like "You're a bad b****" is hype and well meaning, my friend actually gets more when I stop and sincerely say "You're really impressive doing this on your own. You are strong. You'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:04 PM
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Yeah this honestly sounds more scary than just annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:48 PM
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Please tell me you told him his product "didn't impress you". 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:33 PM
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"Only for men, some females still allowed"... you guys they need us so bad they can't even have a subredit without mommies 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:57 PM
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Not that some of us make bad decisions 🤦‍♀️ but I like that you mentioned she was written that way. Because I really feel there are tons of strong independent women, but they ALWAYS get written with some LVM/NVM, whether they would even actually make that mistake. Edit: I also love them both, especially Leela.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:37 AM
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The cartoon makes me sick. Guys actually do that face on purpose in real life too. Like they seen it on TV, and are trying to play bashful and cute. No. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 12:20 PM
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Good point. But it'll only go till 7:01! 🙄😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:07 AM
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The giant signs are what kills me about this. You could have just landed here on earth, and easily find your way through a store with a mild amount of effort and the ability to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:10 AM
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😂 Thankful we all know that his date at 7 isn't real. Because if it was, I'd be sad for that girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:06 AM
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So as someone who also travels, it's good practice to ask someone behind a counter (gas station, grocery store, service desk at train stations and airports, etc) for directions because it's safer for you. Approaching a stranger can be just as unsafe as being approached. Just a reminder to be safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:27 PM
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"Being hurt by my pain" ... that is one that cannot be faked. That is genuine empathy, and I love the way you phrased it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:58 AM
19

Gives you food scraps, "But I made it for you 😯."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:53 AM
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"Projection refers to unconsciously taking unwanted emotions or traits you don't like about yourself and attributing them to someone else." LVMs are typically mentally unstable and want to project that on to women... (Another of the many reason this happens.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:10 AM
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Yeah, I think it gets confused with value meaning monetary value...? But when you have enough of that on your own, that no longer becomes value to you. Just how dick is low in value, money certainly isn't much more valuable without everything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:34 AM
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Don't forget how naive you are when you would like to look nice though. Taking a while to do your hair, picking out your outfit, and making sure you look nice. All naive women things. The reason we shouldn't be political figures, leaders, or even respect. But he is a man, and he should be told he looks nice, because they don't hear it enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:17 AM
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I love reading this for the first time after the edits 😂 Watching growth all in one post is heart warming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:33 AM
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Yes, please chill about having basic human rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:25 PM
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Most subs have regulations on who can post and comment based on relevence.. Scrotes aren't relevant here. And I couldn't imagine this sub with men 😑 Bad enough they're allowed on the feminist sites I follow. "Is FeMiNiSm ReAl? Do WoMeN aCtUaLly NoT hAvE rIgHtS?" Like just leave guy. Seriously just go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:52 AM
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Probably has tons of men following her because she is super gorgeous, and because they can't read, they don't even realize she's hating on their antics 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:29 PM
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The fact that he used your son as a manipulation tactic, makes me a lil light headed and sweaty. Good for you on protecting your babes and yourself! Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:04 PM
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Yes! I saw this and was intrigued by the super cute animation, until I saw how toxic it was! Not only teaching boys and girls misogynistic views, but also COMPLETELY dismisses consent for girls AND boys. Double whammy for abuse culture in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:18 AM
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This made me stand up and make dissing noises involuntary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 08:40 PM
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😂 You own your house, make good money, and sound pretty great... and you're putting up with any of this because?? Yes, read the handbook, get out of there and live your best life. You don't need this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:38 PM
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They say we romanticize lesbians in a wierd way... like making graphic videos of their sexual encounters and being obsessed with "who is the man", and hoping that every female I talk to is willing to play out the graphic videos involving "lesbianism" (quotes because lesbian porn isn't real lesbian sex) I've seen on the internet? Oh wait... that is porn sick LVMs... I guess giving women, no matter their sexual preference, respect and dignity is "romanticized". Listening to their political opinion…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:40 PM
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I'd rather be a political lesbian than a pickme...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:44 AM
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Back in my pickme days my ex told me he was an ass hole. Later when he started to get abusive he was like 🤷‍♀️ told you. Nah you're not just an ass hole, you're mentally unstable. You left that part out 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:52 AM
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I'm most proud of the fact that I could actually make of list of things I'm proud of. Being this sure and confident in myself is almost scary, it's so amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 11:45 PM
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Not only did she not get you a chanel bag, she failed to get you some self respect too. I'd be more mad about the latter option..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:43 PM
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Right and if you were to actually play this game they push for more and more of your time and resources until they cross into boundaries beyond just sex. Then they decide once you actually ask for something in return, that they really "just wanted sex". Men don't just use women for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 04:22 AM
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Lol January 1st, 2021: Sends a message to every pickme he has ever met no matter their status "Happy New Year." Edit; Also note how he has given himself until 2021 to be depraved and gross without standards 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:15 AM
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Had a man say toesies to me once on a first date.. now I know that's not in the handbook, and maybe even a little too picky, even for fds... but toesies? Ghosted and I'm not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:09 AM
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I had this conversation with my older HVW friend, and she brought up that I put myself in different environments now and that is why things seem different. I think what the OP says is true; however only depending on the environment. Like you mentioned, you lived abroad, and expanded your environments. I also did a lot of traveling and am quick to find women I connect with. However the attitude from people in my home town (small, rural, generally miserable place imo), even my own family, are very…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:22 PM
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Yeah "ugh I can't BELIEVE I ever loved them" works preeeetty good for me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:02 PM
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This also makes me happy haha. My sperm donor is a serious LVM and it's nice to be reassured that nurture really does go above nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:58 PM
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Single pregnant mama to a boy! Made my heart tingle to hear a success story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:01 AM
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So durring my level up phase, I have created a REAL circle of support and friends. Growing up with severe pickmeishas and LVM, has really impacted me. The other day while telling one of my close friends some of my trauma to explain another story, I almost felt sick afterwards. I started to panic about what she might do with this information.. then I realized; nothing. She was a HVW who heard that and connected with me over it and that is the end of that... it didn't change my reputation to her, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:29 AM
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Didn't even come up with women, had to type in the whole thing. Idk why I thought my phone would be less sexist than others, but I'm angry it isn't lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:16 AM
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And when we don't stick up for ourselves, or maintain standards (durring the sad pickmeisha days) we were "Desperate" for actually engaging them "Sluts" for not waiting to sleep with them "Push over and weak" for being feminine, and not argumentative... LVM don't want women to actually be a certain way at all, they just want to abuse and belittle women. Might as well look out for ourselves, be safe and actually enjoy our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:09 AM
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Yes, very true. Which is why you should not be worried if you were kinky, or good enough, or anything other than a queen. You should be thankful you realized it, learned from it and you don't have to deal with a sick sociopath anymore. You didn't loose anything, you gained.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:59 AM
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There is no reason or significance... Men like this are literally incapable of doing things with reason or significance. They're like small children trying to grab as much of something as they can. Men don't just use women for sex, they use them for status, money, emotional support, ect. That other girl was also getting used, along with even more females I'm sure. For no reason other than he wants to collect whatever he can take from women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:51 AM
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And then invite girls over for Netflix and chill.. where would your pick me even chill?? The floor?? *Also men complain about being alone but then buy furniture for being alone... like you anticipated this..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:14 AM
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Raccoons are at least cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:32 AM
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Oh there's a little underlying anger about the injustice under that sadness, just gotta bring that out to get over it I guess. I just haven't read something that hit THIS hard on this sub (and some of this stuff hits hard haha). I think it's because it is something you really can't avoid.. like you could never send a nude, always block and delete at red flags, follow the handbook, be extra safe, and some man can still make a fake and ruin your reputation, sexualize you, and just be sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:15 AM
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This actually made me depressed. Normally I can laugh at the incel behavior, get angry at the injustice and be uplifted by others stories.. but this article really has me nauseous and sad. Like I don't want to be on the internet anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:06 AM
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It's even more depressing that when they do, other women seem to be just as bad/worse than men in supporting them. Pick me girls really will say and do anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:57 AM
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"He lets me drive all the time" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:43 AM
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I like that you mention friends and SO. Because I really do the same thing, especially just people, who wouldn't ever do the same. This is the first year I'm only buying 3 Christmas presents... all of which are affordable and actually match the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 06:01 AM
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I recently saw a study (don't think it was on here), about the bonobo primate. Which is actually our closest living genetic relative, rather than the chimpanze. They are a female led society. So you know... it really just makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:24 AM
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Also very true. And like everyone else said, it was a red flag that should nooot have been ignored on her part. Even if it was a real issue, not her problem to fix it for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:17 AM
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"What Taylor Swifts long list of botfriends say about..." men and how they need to be dropped so often because they are such scrotes? Is that what the rest of that headline is? Because that is what it should say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 11:12 PM
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Is it wrong that I immediately assume that he really isn't even that attached to the bear and has been faking for an abuse tactic and attention... or is that from my issues and I'm dismissing someone's trauma?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:54 PM
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I hate when guys say "and I know you loved me." Yes, I, the feeble minded female am glad you are here to tell me how I felt. The one time he talks about her feelings and it's to tell her what they are. 🙄 Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:29 PM
11

Everytime she wants to do anything, or go anywhere, "I turned down 5 paid scholarships for you!" Sounds like he gave it up as a control tactic.. if they were even real at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 11:32 AM
48

And when he is clearly not doing a great job, and you manage to get on top and take over, he tries to like... do it from the bottom? Or take back over and it's like no... you suck at this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:10 PM
114

"This is likely to be another story that ends in divorce." There's a tiny glimer of hope.. 😔 I hope it does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:39 PM
22

And then calling her an ass hole on the internet... yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:17 AM
9

"Scythe the lawn" actually has me dying right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:12 AM
3

"Even if he met someone as beautiful and loving as me." That is my favorite line ever. Proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:33 AM
4

Well you have to wonder why this guy doesn't have wrapping paper... realizing he probably doesn't even buy gifts for anyone other than the person he feels obligated too for sex/other uses. Scrote probably has mom buy all the Christmas presents and write his name on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:54 AM
1

""As a man I believe empowering women is toxic and unhealthy. Don't you agree young girls?" Posts a definitely adult man, to a sub for TEEN GIRLS. Also at the end he mentions he will post to multiple female subs to get "a wide array of input from you GUYS"... He clearly knows his real audience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:30 AM
7

It's a habit for me to plan escape routes and over analyze my/another female's safety when with a male. Some abusive trauma in the past, but it mainly comes from the reality that men really could just snap and kill me if they wanted..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:44 PM
1

Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 03:54 AM
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