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Espionagess · 2020-12-19T15:58:18+00:00

This is why you never listen to anyone who says "guys don't care about a girls degree / career". Oh yes they do, HVM respect it and it also helps keep away abusers because education = freedom and independence.

I feel so sorry for all the tradwives and pickmes who fall into this dynamic by putting men first before themselves. It only ever leads to regret. I have never met a single woman in all my life who regretted getting a degree.

Shefthegooddog · 2020-12-19T15:39:16+00:00

Disgusting!

Being financial independent is so important, even if that means not having the most luxurious lifestyle. Its okay to take a step back if it means not being controlled, manipulated etc!

MadamLeFay · 2020-12-19T15:47:19+00:00

but... but... but... wouldn't that make her The Dreaded Gold Digger though???

circescircus · 2020-12-19T16:14:33+00:00

Anyone who chooses to write about money with a font like that has negative net worth.

I sometimes wonder, how dumb are redpillers? They go to communities filled with loser men, they know these subs are filled with unsuccessful men, that is why they are all there. They cry "woe is men" by going on and on about male homelessness, suicide, prison rape, while they do NOTHING about it. Some loser on the internet cries woe is men, the other losers engage in a circle jerk. A few days to a few weeks later, the same loser OP who was crying woe is men, is now a chad spinning plates. Sure buddy, sure. The lies are too grandiose and too ridiculous to be believed.

It's like grown ass men telling each other they are Batman, and because they all have the same mental illness, they all think they're Batman too. OR they think they will MAGICALLY TRANSFORM into Batman when they hit their peak, sometime after age 35, between age 40-60.

souredskittles · 2020-12-19T15:47:13+00:00

How is this groundbreaking advice? Men have been doing this for ages.

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2020-12-19T16:17:56+00:00

And this is why I refuse to date anyone much higher than my own tax bracket or be a SAHM. I have before dated much higher and they generally treat you like shit for it. They act like they own you. I've had a few guys offer for me to quit my job and be a housewife. Hell to the no. I've had them disparage my career and status. I'm a chef. It's a heavily male dominated industry that I fought upstream, tooth and nail, for over a decade to become. I fought for my status, preferred hours, and salary. I'm not quitting any time soon and definitely not quitting so I can be under some dude's thumb.

Money is power, and I refuse to have any type of power imbalance in my partnership. I refuse to give up my power. The book "why men love bitches" has sound advice, especially in the financial chapter. It was a life saver for me.

ontherailstoday · 2020-12-19T16:33:46+00:00

My father did that to my mother. Then the government changed the welfare rules to make single parenthood sort of survivable and also brought in no fault divorce in the mid seventies, and she left. Ultimately it is a strategy that makes sure she WILL leave if she gets a lucky break of any sort.

My father still gripes about how hard done by he thinks he is.

gutsandgorey · 2020-12-19T16:16:29+00:00

Ugh the difference between LVM and HVM is how they share their wealth. LVM use it to trap and control women, HVM use it to spoil and pamper the woman they love.

Softrito · 2020-12-19T15:44:12+00:00

😂 he's not talking from experience. I doubt someone can be this dumb.

MulticoloredCatMug · 2020-12-19T16:42:02+00:00

Lol these boys can’t afford me.

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-badmadAM · 2020-12-19T17:10:42+00:00

Oh yeah, but they still claim that they are more romantic and just want love, and all women are just b***es.

balladwilds · 2020-12-19T17:09:56+00:00

aand this is why this sub exist

FirePreferred · 2020-12-19T17:22:20+00:00

Jokes on him. My happiness doesn't stem from things. Thank God I finally learned that.

2020-12-19T17:32:16+00:00

This used to be the kind of stuff that makes me angry, but now Im amused at these pathetic tactics. All of us FDS queens would see this coming a mile away and block his ass.

AnnieandFish · 2020-12-19T17:52:45+00:00

My sister’s ex tried to pull this so she wouldn’t share her opinions with him. He dumped her for telling him to clean up after himself. Bullet dodged, but she was never at that great a financial disadvantage that it would work.

2020-12-19T19:07:11+00:00

Yet we're a hate group for educating women on shit like this...Which is ABUSE

sunologie · 2020-12-19T19:27:39+00:00

So...abuse? Lol this is literally financial and regular ole abuse.

backforbeskar · 2020-12-19T19:45:26+00:00

LOL. This entire plan wouldn’t work because most men can’t show me the level of luxury and self care I give myself.

Fitncurly · 2020-12-19T21:28:16+00:00

What about when she remembers that there are other men who wanna pay for the privilege of being with her too? Then what? His “power” is delusional. Not to mention she can just get a job...

lival42 · 2020-12-19T18:54:56+00:00

“IF you are in peak financial health” Lol

mtan15 · 2020-12-19T22:08:53+00:00

I think my ex wrote this. He did it to me Is currently exercising the same instructions on his live in pickmeisha who's 19 years younger than him. Given up her job, and her apartment and is about to sell her car and move onto a rural property with him. She desperately wanted kids he can't give her sh she decided marriage was more important. She'll be his 3rd and he won't divorce me because then he'll have no excuse.....

spiritualfairy1997 · 2020-12-20T04:02:32+00:00

Men trying to teach other men how to abuse and manipulate women? Great. Why are they always trying to dehumanize/demoralize us? It's sickening and makes me want to throw up. Men like this shouldn't have any access to women at all. Honestly just throw these scrotes in prison, for all I care.

QQueenie · 2020-12-19T17:54:37+00:00

Ugh, this is disgusting.

BungalowBootieBitch · 2020-12-19T21:29:46+00:00

This dude couldn't afford wingstop he needs to stfu.

berned-out · 2020-12-19T22:32:55+00:00

LOL Crush her self esteem then sit back and reap the "benefits" of ............? Catching a domestic violence case most likely. This approach of conquering someone is a sad, dysfunctional race to the grave.

NotSoSmartChick · 2020-12-19T18:55:46+00:00

I wanted to be a housewife, and my husband wanted a housewife. I didn’t want to wind up stuck, so I made sure my name was on everything from the house deed to car titles to all bank accounts. My husband used to brag about that to people - that I was no dummy and I made sure I had myself sitting pretty financially.

ItsFreezen · 2020-12-19T21:09:23+00:00

And that's why men created marriage.

ivy176 · 2020-12-19T23:37:42+00:00

I tend to stick to blue collar men and this is one reason. Another reason is they can be more down to earth. They can even have better assets and overall financial position that some guy on 200k a year who blows all his money on a crazy expensive rental, really expensive cars and other depreciating junk

PalmTreePhilosophy · 2020-12-20T02:24:22+00:00

Seriously is anyone going to build a mental health centre slash jail to house these emotionally damaged men?

He's an abuser. Can we please doxx these guys? Nobody that stupid should be allowed to walk around untreated. At least the authorities would know of his intentions.

Still it is confirmation that you can never rely on a man's support. Always have your own money. Money he knows nothing about. Once you know how damaged and dangerous men are you will cease to rely on them for anything. By all means prioritise a high earner because some men want to be providers but always be prepared that they might have untreated psychological issues that causes them to let you know they could leave you any moment with nothing then milk the power.

kalina95 · 2020-12-20T08:55:37+00:00

Interesting how he begins his monologue calling them "gentlemen" 🤭

The dissonance is real.

MiaNaim · 2020-12-19T19:16:00+00:00

flowers4u · 2020-12-19T19:34:48+00:00

This is horrifying and stupid of this guy to think this since there are a million ways this will backfire

CWchump · 2020-12-19T19:36:50+00:00

Nice try a-hole (not OP - the guy who's 'adivising' his fellas). This would only work on someone who doesn't have self-respect. A good woman will only put up with so much, before she decides 'enough' and leaves your sorry behind.

And if you're not with a good woman - it's only a matter of time before she leaves you for someone who has "more" than you do.

GamerGirlLinda · 2020-12-19T20:10:19+00:00

Or, you can, stay with me now, give her great sex and a wonderful friendship where nobody can even hope to possibly compete and she wants nothing more than to make you happy because you’re worth it. Just an idea.

SeaHerSwim · 2020-12-19T22:38:47+00:00

It’s as if he wanted to use the Disney font to write this up to sound so magical and enchanting!! hard eye roll

seekingcodingjedi · 2020-12-20T02:18:27+00:00

I could never be with a guy who doesn't care about my goals and ambitions and wants me to sit home like some accessory - no matter how rich/kind/great he is. It just shows he doesn't really have any respect for your wants and needs.

klumptastic · 2020-12-19T22:26:47+00:00

Definitely could have been written by my ex-husband. The pickme version of myself that was around years ago fell for it for way too long. Turns out, I never needed him.

posprov · 2020-12-19T23:21:01+00:00

When a man opens with "Gentlemen!" you know it's going to be a load of rubbish

2020-12-20T00:34:59+00:00

Step two! Wake up from your dream.

768908 · 2020-12-20T00:49:12+00:00

Sounds like my ex fiancé smh

ChocolateBiscuit96 · 2020-12-20T01:08:34+00:00

And that’s when you go to the bank, take out hundreds, head back home and throw those crisp hundreds in his face and leave. Never entertain/acknowledge that man ever again. I hate people like that

Jiou112 · 2020-12-20T05:12:04+00:00

The majority of men trying to do this don't actually make enough money/are financially responsible enough to do it either. So it's just a bunch of jerks being jerks.

lessadessa · 2020-12-20T12:41:04+00:00

I honestly feel like this post is more of a male fantasy than anything. I’ve never encountered a male who wasn’t greedy and stingy af with their money, if they had any to begin with. They are mostly broke and unwilling to pay for a goddamn thing. They want to believe if they pay for things women will jump on their dick even if they are assholes.

Shoddy_Glam · 2020-12-20T21:19:08+00:00

I’ll eat out of the f*cking trash cans behind Pizza Hut and be thankful for it before this happens.

2020-12-19T20:38:18+00:00

That's the kind of motivation I need to become an independent women!!

Salt_Satisfaction · 2020-12-20T04:45:50+00:00

But men wear their hearts in their sleeves! Men say what they mean instead of playing mind games! Women are so calculating and manipulative!

Cool-Fill9819 · 2020-12-20T06:21:27+00:00

That's exactly why many women are becoming academically and professionally accomplished. These men think we are dumb. Get out of here with that shit.

2020-12-20T11:21:18+00:00

👏👏👏Congrats on getting where you are! Seriously, more women need to wake up and realize this. Never fall into their trap!

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Title	Horrifying
Author	ThatTexasBitch
Upvotes	693
Comments	110
Date	December 19, 2020 3:29 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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