there is so much wrong I don’t know where to start

karichar · 2020-12-08T03:08:43+00:00

I’m going to start anyways: 1. Age gap 2. Deferring to mommy 3. Humiliating your wife by announcing her sexual history at the wedding and essentially calling her a whore

Edited to add: 4. Hyper religion 5. Calling her his wife already?

so many red flags

karichar · 2020-12-08T03:10:53+00:00

Spot the red flags! 1. Age Gap, 2. Hyper religious bullshit 3. Slut-shaming 4. Abusing and humiliating RUN RUN RUN

RiasXgremoryX · 2020-12-08T03:30:43+00:00

Men don't deserve us. At ALL.

The more depraved, messed up, hypocritical, nonsense I read, the more I am convinced of this. I really hope she doesn't break her resolve and marry this guy because he already hates her guts! plus he's one of those religious types meaning he believes her place is in the kitchen or the bedroom which is also the reason he picked a younger women so he could easily manipulate her.

Maude2010 · 2020-12-08T03:58:31+00:00

To add insult to injury, he’s divorced.

MonicaLSolis · 2020-12-08T05:05:28+00:00

Also, why the fuck would a man, especially a divorced 32 year old man, talk to his mother about his fiance's sexual past? What the fuck? Is this a typical subject men discuss with their mothers about?

Maude2010 · 2020-12-08T04:11:54+00:00

The white dress isn't even in Christianity. It started with some queen or a princess in England and then everyone liked the idea. Wtf is wrong with people

Nat_at_all · 2020-12-08T03:56:57+00:00

"Cristian" LOL

jalapenohooker · 2020-12-08T03:58:40+00:00

The nerve. Luckily they’re tearing him apart in the comments section.

2020-12-08T04:32:00+00:00

Literally praying this girl sticks to her guns and dumps this crazy fucker before it's too late.

You're only 23 child, run! RUUUUN!

chateauduchat · 2020-12-08T04:08:40+00:00

I’d go to the malicious compliance route and say she show up in the most sexiest, revealing, bomb ass slaying dress, and then decided to marry herself at the alter, leave him at the aisle, and then throw the wedding party for her and her real friends.

UNeed2CalmDownn · 2020-12-08T03:42:37+00:00

Yes, you are the f-king asshole.

my_curated_life · 2020-12-08T04:02:26+00:00

It’s so problematic that women who have had sex are now “impure” and women who haven’t are “pure”. I grew up fundamentally Christian and the entire organization is a breed of Stockholm syndrome, I swear.

SavingsStrength0 · 2020-12-08T04:52:41+00:00

That age gap. Girl, run. I’m sure the comments are clowning him and I hope she sees them and finds an actual good dude to marry that’s closer to her own age.

misszazie · 2020-12-08T03:57:00+00:00

Beyond an asshole, he's the whole fucking colon

MonicaLSolis · 2020-12-08T05:01:01+00:00

Religious men are the worst. They are the most misogynistic and treat women like automatons who only exist to fulfill a male partner's will

Oomlotte99 · 2020-12-08T03:16:09+00:00

Is he pure? What color does he wear if not?

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-12-08T05:02:34+00:00

Came to shame a blue glitter dress. 😬 I think/ hope it’s a troll.

2020-12-08T04:55:44+00:00

Public humiliation.

Hope she gets away.

It'd be one thing if she offered, but he and his family are clearly trying to glorify him and his side of the family at her expense.

Dildo_Emporium · 2020-12-08T12:52:22+00:00

What do you want to bet that the reason he gives for being divorced is that his ex-wife was "crazy"?

SwirlyButterfly · 2020-12-08T05:17:16+00:00

This has to be satire, at least I'm hoping it is. AITA is full of rage bait posts.

roselynn_sapphire · 2020-12-08T05:20:51+00:00

Not to mention the obvious problems, slut-shaming, the age-gap, being controlling over what she should wear, why is he already calling her his wife when they're not married yet. That's just so weird.

nonchalance77 · 2020-12-08T12:08:24+00:00

The best part of the story is when she decided not to marry him.

thinktwiceorelse · 2020-12-08T10:18:25+00:00

Don't they wanna stick a scarlet letter on her too? You know, to mark her properly, JFC. And what kind of color wears sexually experienced groome? I hope he hasn't slept with her not even once. Sis, ruuuuuun like a wind.

2020-12-08T09:58:29+00:00

OH HELL NO!!!

fdsonlynoscrubs · 2020-12-08T12:36:25+00:00

I’m grateful the commenters all agreed YTA. I never know what I’m going to find on Reddit.

ItsFreezen · 2020-12-08T12:34:15+00:00

This Scrote is not PURE by any means.

NurseBubbleGum · 2020-12-08T12:53:44+00:00

What is this? The Scarlett Letter? Way to slut shame your fiance.

Austenma · 2020-12-08T13:31:00+00:00

So many signs of disrespect!!!! Yes, you the asshole.

Half_Halt · 2020-12-08T13:43:05+00:00

A divorced Christian who can't even spell the word "Christian" correctly. Can confirm from living in the southern US that this is basically par for the course.

karichar · 2020-12-08T16:53:12+00:00

I was raised Catholic, and I've never heard that very Christian people are supposed to strictly follow a 'white dress only if you're a virgin' rule.

Can anyone confirm this? Is this a real tradition that anyone actually cares about, follows, or enforces?

Pretty sure this is just an incel writing woman-humiliation fiction, either way.

ItsFreezen · 2020-12-08T12:36:54+00:00

This guy is divorced.
" I’m divorced, I’ve only ever been with my ex wife. "

Meadow97 · 2020-12-08T13:12:26+00:00

The age gap gave me whiplash, i didn't even read the rest but i know it's gonna be a shitstorm.

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-12-08T13:11:42+00:00

murdertoothbrush · 2020-12-08T17:18:02+00:00

This guy is so clueless... I hope to god she calls it off in favor of not humiliating herself. What you wear on your wedding day should be solely your choice. I wore an emerald green wedding dress because A). It's my favorite color. B) I'm pale and look ghastly in white, but amazing in jewelry tones and C) Fuck misogynistic conservative tradition. No one's going into this believing I'm a virgin anyhow 🤣

Noemie_Mathilde · 2020-12-09T01:58:01+00:00

A GLITTERY BLUE DRESS sounds so tacky. Run girl!

fairywakes · 2020-12-09T02:58:06+00:00

🚨 age gap 🚨

You don’t see it as a big deal because your entire worth was never based on some idiotic sexual construct.

you ARE the asshole

Title	there is so much wrong I don’t know where to start
Author	karichar
Upvotes	401
Comments	80
Date	December 8, 2020 3:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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