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I’m my area having a police officer there is free. But you better hope they don’t get an emergency call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:45 PM
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Rather than listing things a HV man might do, think of what you would do for your best friend, and then add a bit. My best friend and I are also roommates. We do stuff for each other quite regularly. Her knee has been bothering her and she occupies the lower level of the house. The kitchen is upstairs. We hang out in her living room. When she needs a drink or a second serving of dinner or would like a bowl of ice cream, I get up and get it for her without her asking me to. When I got a little to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:11 PM
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Humans aren’t particularly logical though. As a species, we engage in quite a bit of magical thinking. All it really takes is believing that something worked once for someone to believe it should work again. In the case of OLD hookups, a guy could know someone who it worked for once, and then believe that it must work. Do pickmes perpetuate this? Yes. But even they tend to want a hot guy—even if he is LV. So guys who aren’t hot hear about their hot acquaintance that got laid through OLD and beli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:36 PM
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Thank you for the suggestions! I’ll add them to my list!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:35 PM
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Try Circe by Madeline Miller. It’s an “easy” read and a page turner. Realistic female protagonist, and an interesting spin on Greek mythology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:34 PM
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Knitting, crocheting, and sewing are great hobbies. I usually sew clothes, but it definitely came in handy when the pandemic hit. I sewed all my own masks. I’m fixing to make more that match my wardrobe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:31 PM
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I see where you’re coming from. There are definitely better options than romance novels in general. There are better genres. There are amazing female authors out there who deserve much more recognition than their getting. In regards to Austen and Bronte, they’re better than the straight smut that passes as romance. Pride & Prejudice at least has Lizzy telling off a douche and a super rich dude. She wasn’t settling for a LVM. I highly recommend Circe. It’s just fantastic. It’s a retelling of Gree…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:46 PM
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She’s passed away now, but she was an author of incest/rape porn targeted at women. It was all thinly veiled as regular bodice rippers/romance novels. The newer stuff is written by ghost writers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:44 PM
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Yeah… I read VC Andrews at 14. Wtf mom!!! I’m just gobsmacked that I was allowed to read that garbage in middle school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:40 PM
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Maybe you ladies are reading different VC Andrews than I read, but in my experience it’s rape and incest porn. It romanticizes being sexually exploited. The rape scenes are written to be titillating…. Not good reading if you want to foster a HV mindset. Instead I would recommend Austin or Bronte if you really want to read romance novels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 11:52 AM
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I’m too old to worry about pussyfooting around. Lol. The bottom line is that if you want to be HV, you have to do HV stuff, and surround yourself with HV people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:59 PM
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You know that saying “you are what you eat”? It applies to everything, from the tv you watch to the books you read, your hobbies, your friends, EVERYTHING. All of it rubs off on you. If you’re here to level up, have a good life, and have good relationships, then start with what/who you expose yourself to. I’m older than most of you. I watched the OG reality shows. They were a guilty (trashy) pleasure. And holy shit these shows have only gotten worse. They play to the lowest common denominator. D…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:40 PM
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So what are the odds that someone either randomly picked that combination for a username?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:18 PM
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Either he’s telling the truth and maybe an ex of his is trying to stir the pot, or he’s lying. You can snoop and find nothing, which doesn’t absolve him, or find out he was lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 08:26 PM
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Hey. Do you know why divorce is so expensive? Because it’s worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:16 AM
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Listen to how he talks about his father’s feigned incompetence. My SO seriously resents his father for how his father treats his mom. My ex husband on the other hand idolizes his mother for how well she cares for (slaves) for his dad. My SO taught himself to cook, clean, and do laundry in college so he could be a competent adult. He regularly cooks for me. I think I’ve done two loads of his laundry in the two years we’ve been together. My ex left his dirty socks/dishes/tools whenever and then ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 11:46 PM
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This is insane. I’ve posted about my one platonic male friend and my older SO here before. The comments I’ve gotten back have ALL been “make sure you vet the shit outta them, and never stop vetting”. Which I appreciate, because that’s the same advice I’ll give any woman. And quite frankly, even being in an age gap relationship, I’m wary of older men who hit on younger women. Most of them just want someone to manipulate. They know that 35+ year old women aren’t likely to put up with their shit. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:53 PM
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While I can’t be 100% sure that you aren’t right, he’s been pretty vocal with me and our friends about how morally apprehensible our exes are. The whole kerfluffle went down a few years ago, and he still hasn’t made a move on me. And he’s been taking a new lady out to dinner. A few more dates and he wants to introduce her to me and a couple of our friends. (Just FYI, that’s not my understanding of what trauma bonding is. Iirc, trauma bonding involves abuse then “making up”.)(edit: and now I’m lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:50 PM
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I had my tubes “tied” in my late 20s. I have silicone implants in my tubes. This procedure isn’t available anymore because the company was sued for patent infringement by the manufacturer of Esure/Essure (can’t remember how it’s spelled). The actual procedure is the same though. I had to get a birth control shot before the procedure to be sure I wouldn’t get pregnant in the meantime. The night before I inserted misprolnil (sp) into my vagina to soften my cervix. That morning I went into the hosp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:41 PM
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I have exactly one platonic guy friend. I have plenty of platonic male acquaintances though. My friend and I play Scrabble and nerd out on occasion. We’re compatible as friends, but not as a couple. He’s my second ex husband’s former best friend. My ex and his ex (and mother of his children) got together a few weeks after I left my ex. We’re the only two people in our friend group who really “get” what a kick in the teeth that was. Did I mention that this woman and I were friends since we were t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:30 PM
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In 99% of situations, you’re right. I do know a couple of people who are friends with their one of their exes though. In those cases the breakup was mutual and civil. While they valued each other as people, they just weren’t compatible as a couple. And they were genuinely happy that their ex found someone that they were compatible with. These scenarios are the outliers. They should be treated as red flags. I suppose coparents could eventually become friends with enough time. My first ex MIL was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:19 PM
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Almost? They definitely are. Feigned incompetence. They’ll ruin your clothes so they don’t have to do laundry again. They break dishes or put away dirty dishes so they don’t have to wash dishes again. They’ll burn or severely undercook food so they don’t have to make dinner again. They’ll break the toilet bowl brush and/or vacuum so they don’t have to clean again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 02:01 PM
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An easy way to avoid getting hung up on a guy too soon is to limit the time you spend together. Set a strict time limit on the date. Having dinner at 7? It’s ends at 9 or 10. Then don’t see him again until next week. This gives you plenty of time to calm down and process. Also, don’t date just because you’re lonely. In fact, don’t date if you’re lonely. Fill your life with fun hobbies and time spent with family and friends. A man isn’t going to fill a void in your life. He isn’t going to make ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 02:47 PM
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Idk. I feel like you should get new flair for that comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:10 PM
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That’s what they want you to believe. They’re simultaneously absolute geniuses and completely inept. They’re the smartest people on the planet but can’t remember to not wash your wool sweater in hot water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:34 PM
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All of the Amish men who own businesses/do business with the non-Amish have cell phones. Just saying. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:29 PM
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The bar is in Hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:45 PM
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My ex NVM used to tell me that if I left him, I’d die alone. Joke’s on him. New hotness has more $$, a terminal degree, a $$$ house, an amazing sense of humor, a wicked cute dog, and waits on me hand and foot. Oh, and he’s better (amazing) in bed. Last week he wanted to replace the chairs in the living room. He took me with when he went shopping. He bought a couch instead so we would have room to cuddle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:55 PM
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🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:22 PM
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Good. I don’t have the time or energy for anyone who doesn’t love and respect me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:14 AM
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hotmessexpresspinkstyle I want to drink mimosas with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:39 PM
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For young women who want a family, living together before marriage isn’t recommended. For old ladies like me, who are done having kids, or women who are decidedly childless, it’s a little different. Personally, I’m done having kids. My son is all grown up and living on his own. I’ve been married twice. I’m not doing that shit again. I have a SO; we do not live together. I have an aversion to ever living with, or marrying a man. Forget that. I live my life how I want. My SO has no say in anything…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:30 AM
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I had silicone implants surgically placed in my Fallopian tubes. They’re not on the market anymore due to a patent infringement lawsuit. But Esure (sp?) is still available. Those are tiny copper coils that are inserted into your tubes, then scar tissue forms around the coils, effectively blocking sperm from the eggs. The recovery was pretty easy, and I wasn’t cut open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:35 PM
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The canned ravioli is half the cost though. Spam is surprisingly expensive. Don’t waste that kind of money on someone who won’t appreciate it. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:38 PM
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I’m with you. I’m not getting married again. I’ve been married twice. I’ve been divorced from my second husband for two years now. Independence is a beautiful thing. I do have a SO, but he lives two hours away. I see him a couple of times a month. I get plenty of time to see my friends and engage in my hobbies. When I do see him, we just have fun with none of the domestic stuff. It’s like going on a mini-vacation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:20 PM
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I’m over 40. I’ve been married twice. I have a SO. I don’t live with him. I will never live with him or any other man ever again. I will never marry again. I value my independence too much. My career, education, and travel goals don’t mesh with marriage or cohabitation. We’re exclusive. We enjoy each other’s company. We spend time together when we want to and do our own stuff the rest of the time. You have to adjust your strategy to your goals. (Hookups are a bad idea 99% of the time. The sex is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:13 PM
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I found that the toxic beliefs and behavior are more closely associated with how attractive he feels than how attractive he actually is. It’s rooted in his insecurities. There are plenty of reasonably attractive men who are insecure about their looks because they aren’t tall, have a perfectly average peen, or can’t grow a beard, etc. Those insecurities then feed into their Chad Delusions. My favorite uncle is HV af. He would be really handsome if he didn’t have scaring on his face. But he’s educ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:04 PM
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Nah. If he needs a muse to inspire him, he’s still a project. I have my shit together for me. He needs to have his shit together for himself. If he sets you up on a pedestal to be his muse to inspire him, he’s going to be really pissed off when you’re just a regular human and not a literal angel/supernatural being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:45 PM
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My SO is a lawyer. He has observed that women will do ANYTHING to try and save the marriage before filing. When women finally file, they’re just done. Whereas men use filing as a manipulation tactic—if they file at all. Even when the marriage is complete shit, men still benefit from being married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:43 PM
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It would depend on how “violence” is defined. We probably use a much broader (and more accurate) definition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:35 PM
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Was he illiterate? There are directions on the box.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:04 PM
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Probably has a thicc wallet too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:54 PM
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Don’t forget the goats. Goats are adorable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:54 PM
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heroin chic I still have body dismorphia from that shit. I look like Venus de Milo and I think I look chubby/fat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:50 PM
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Just a reminder that opening doors, etc, is not a green flag. It’s the absence of a red flag. He can be chivalrous af in public and still abuse you when no one is looking. My exNVM would open my car door, drop me off at the entrance of a store/restaurant, then park the car, and walk in the rain to the door. But at home, he was a monster. He thrived on the praise of being chivalrous and then weaponizing it. I wasn’t allowed to complain about his otherwise lazy behavior or verbal abuse because he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:59 PM
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We could do with some Jane too. Jane was a boss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:42 PM
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Yup. My ex friend Pete developed a funky odor. It was the alcohol seeping out of his pores.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:38 PM
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I’m 40+. My dad is 70. I still call him Daddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:11 PM
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There’s a YA book series called The Uglies. It takes place in a dystopian future and cosmetic surgery is one of the themes. Basically, you’re ugly until you come of age and get your cosmetic surgery and become “a pretty”. Mind control of the masses through cosmetic ideals was not subtle. It was very interesting. I highly recommend it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:25 PM
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All that and a bag of chips!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:50 PM
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Word. Preach. Insert all the other phrases from the 90s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:26 PM
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That’s what Dr Youn says in one of his TikTok videos. 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:39 AM
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The husband stitch. Post birth some disgusting scrotes will ask the doctor to “put in an extra stitch” to make the mother “tighter”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:24 AM
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How gross. A man’s only value is his wallet and a woman’s her looks. How shallow. You’re worth as a person isn’t dependent on your net worth or your looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:52 PM
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I just lurked there. That was... strange. The mental gymnastics is just astounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:09 PM
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In my experience, it’s the small dick havers that are the most insecure. Their insecurities ruin the experience. They seem to have the idea that PIV is the most important part. It’s not. If you can’t make me orgasm before PIV, chances are I’m not going to orgasm. And sex starts before the clothes come off. My current partner is my lover. He’s confident and generous. He buys me dark chocolate, candy, and ice cream quite regularly. He takes care of me during that time of the month. He cooks my fav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:32 PM
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Time. They usually tattle on themselves eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 10:27 PM
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Getting your name back will be like Christmas and your birthday on THE SAME DAY. It’s fucking amazing. I walked around giving people high-fives the rest of the week. I’ve had a nickname based off my maiden name since I was 14. I’m 40ish now. I was ecstatic to be nickname again. Just be careful when you change your name back on FB—every fat scrote with a receding hairline that you were ever mildly friendly with will come out of the woodwork, like a pestilence, to “see how you’re doing”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:30 AM
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Do you know why divorce is expensive? Because it’s worth it. Seriously. It’s worth it. For the low cost of a filing fee, you can be rid of that scumbag forever! I divorced my NVX two years ago. Best decision I ever made. The weight off your soul will be so liberating you’ll wonder why you waited so long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:04 AM
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Right? My NVX just started right up with the first woman that he could sell his sob story to. It’s a small town and we have plenty of acquaintances in common, so even two years later, I STILL have people trying to tell me what he’s up to. Thankfully the people who know me know that I did NOT get addicted to drugs and am not out fucking everything in jeans with a heartbeat. And no, I didn’t start dating his best friend. But that was pretty good cover for him to start dating his best friend’s not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:24 PM
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Or they immediately find a new girlfriend to take care of them. I left my NVX on a Wednesday. He was on OLD Friday night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:19 PM
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$200 for you to never talk to me again I’m dying. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:32 PM
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When I was finally done with my NVX I didn’t care who he stuck his dick in. At least he wasn’t bothering me. 😂 He was terrible in bed anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:54 PM
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Opossums are goddess’s gift to women kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:20 AM
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Hell. Yes. https://i.imgur.com/Yp9p63y.jpg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:58 PM
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Most women won’t wear stained sweats outside the house. So... yeah, women look better than men 99% of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:29 PM
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Add an army of trained raccoons and I’m in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:24 PM
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our women I’m sure this dude thinks this is deep/cute, but we don’t belong to anyone. I’m no one’s property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:26 PM
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100%. My NVex was always early to work, completed all assignments on time and accurately, was professional, etc. His bosses and coworkers loved him. Meanwhile he was a monster at home. Even his female coworkers thought he was a catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:45 PM
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We’re all very busy and don’t have a lot in common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:59 PM
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He has at least 3 jobs according to his error-ridden copy pasta. Dude doesn’t have time to date if we take him at his word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 03:00 PM
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Scrote didn’t even spell/grammar check it! Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:59 PM
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Walks are fine in established relationships. A walk is just not a date. A date is a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:01 AM
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Okay. Goddammit. I’ll get Tik Tok. I’m pretty sure I’m too old for that shit. But now I want to watch parts 1-9. ETA: there are 28 parts!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:27 AM
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With the exception of cooking/baking shows, reality tv is trash. All of it. It’s a waste of time and energy. IMHO it’s no different than porn. Watching all that over-the-top drama just desensitizes you, and it robs you of precious time you could be doing something that’s less harmful or even productive. Watch Legally Blonde, a documentary, read a book, or whatever else. If you really need a dopamine fix, play Candy Crush—at least it won’t break your normal/drama meter. Life is too short to waste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:14 AM
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I’m aware. She’s been kinda bitchy lately. It’s mating season.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:41 AM
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She’s my sweet baby. She’s way better than a NVM. And she’s smarter than most men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:22 AM
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The raccoon will break all your shit, eat all your food, sleep all day, and keep you awake half the night (I should know). Still better than a NVM. my baby demon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:14 AM
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My ex husband and I went out for dessert and coffee. He stayed on his phone the entire time texting his friends and then “didn’t know why” I was pissy. Divorcing him was the best decision I ever made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:47 PM
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THANK YOU. Most men suck in bed. Getting older won’t necessarily make him better or worse. Being open to learning new things and having a generous nature will make him better though. I’d rather be with a guy who needs a little pharmaceutical help who is eager to please than a younger man who thinks his dick is magic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:58 AM
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Lucy’s chocolate chip. Best store-bought chocolate chip cookies since my diagnosis 13 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:45 AM
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I’m with you. The only holiday I care about is my birthday. On that day, I am the queen of the world. But, like yours, my SO is attentive throughout the year. If I mention my feet hurt, I get a foot rub. Back cramps because I’m on my period? Back rub. Dog in my lap? He makes my tea. He surprises me with (expensive) gluten free cookies fairly regularly just because he can. On my birthday? It’s chocolates, wine, books, fancy dinner out, flowers, love songs, hot chocolate and everything else that I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:14 AM
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I hear Love Kernels playing in the background. https://youtu.be/bkAjUBtn_TM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:15 PM
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His wife? I was unaware he had children outside of his marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:55 PM
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Why “be a hoe” when I can buy a vibrator and adopt a couple of cats?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:53 PM
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I LOVE sex. I could have sex every day, sometimes three times a day—when it’s good. It’s like wine or chocolate. It’s nirvana when it’s good. The problem is most men suck in bed. I’ve been around the block a time or two. Out of the dozens of men I’ve been with, only two have put in the effort to make sure I have a good time. All the others have been boring and unimaginative. In one word: lackluster. They don’t eat pussy, they can’t find the clit or g-spot to save their lives, and focus on what f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:40 PM
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Bwahaha! My ex husband went to my BFF and claimed that I just disappeared for 3 days before he realized that I’d left him. Little did he know that I’d already called her. She knew exactly what was up. And so did he. But why THE FUCK didn’t he report me as missing if I just disappeared???? Lol. Dumb Scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:50 PM
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Pickme’s. I guarantee you he love bombed them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:43 PM
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Oh lord, an old coworker tried this shit on me a couple of days ago. “I miss you. I think about you every day”. Scrote, if I didn’t need you for a reference, I’d block you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:31 PM
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The barrage of scrotes that message you when you take your name back on FB is unreal. A boyfriend from HS (I’m 40!) messaged me after I changed my name back. Like holy shit guys! I’ve been single for 5 fucking minutes! Can I take a minute to breath before you try to get in my pants!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:47 PM
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It’s not our job to make your dicks hard. The End
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:49 PM
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The Wall I’m dying of laughter. I’m 40-ish. I get hit on by boys young enough to be my child. I don’t go to the local bar that my classmates go to because the guys are all thirsty. Oh, LostInContentment is single! Let’s get in line to hit on her! No thank you. Lol. The Wall does not exist. It’s a lie LVM tell to manipulate us into fucking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:03 PM
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I’m “older”. I’ve been married and divorced. I’ve lived with a boyfriend. I have 0 plans to marry or cohabitate again. Forget that. I like living alone. I like not having to consult anyone else on how I spend my money, etc. But I do enjoy my SO’s company and care for him deeply. He can just exist at his place most of the time. However, I am in the minority. The woman from the article clearly wanted to get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:15 PM
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Is it nice that he does this? Yes. But it sets off alarms for me. This type of behavior is often performative. It’s virtue signaling. SEE HOW WELL I TREAT YOU!! I CAN’T BE ABUSIVE!! My ex used to open car doors for me and it was so everybody could see how “well” he treated me. And then at home he would manipulate and gaslight me. What’s far more important is how he treats you when no one is there to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:51 PM
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Exactly. ADHD doesn’t make you an abusive asshole. Depression doesn’t make you an abusive asshole. A diagnosis is just the excuse abusive assholes use to try and guilt/gaslight you into staying/coming back. They’re abusive assholes because they want to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 02:54 PM
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I completely agree. But it’s still better than 90 Day Fiancée
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:19 PM
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Corsets on bare skin. (ノಠ益ಠ)ノ彡┻━┻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:18 PM
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But oh! He’ll “get it” when you’re walking out the door. He’ll pretend that you just didn’t explain the issue properly before, but that he “gets it” now so everything will be honkey doorey!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:12 AM
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I like your grandma. Give her a hug for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:20 PM
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And they’re cheap. Dicks are a dime a dozen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:00 AM
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One of my BFFs has been single for a few years now and is loving it. She travels when and where she wants, never had to compromise on anything, justify her decisions to anyone, has full control of her finances, the tv, etc. She’s living her best life. I don’t see a problem with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:48 PM
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My first husband had a porn addiction. He couldn’t get it up without seriously degrading role playing or actual porn. It was such a problem that he’d stay up late watching porn in the living room then come into the bedroom at 3 am and try to fuck me without waking me up. We didn’t live together before we got married, so I was unaware of the problem. I kicked him out less than 9 months after the wedding. There were other issues as well, but this was a contributing factor. Porn addiction is a very…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:21 PM
69

Baggy clothes are easier to grab and drag you by. They’re also easier to remove. Rapists also tend to look for victims who look like they won’t put up much of a fight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:11 PM
6

I will acknowledge that for some men, processing disapproval/unhappiness from their partner is extremely difficult. However: You are not his therapist. His inability to deal with negative emotions is above your pay grade. His issues are just that: his issues. And HE needs to deal with them/see a therapist. It’s not your job to fix him. And if you try to fix him, you’ll end up resenting him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 11:17 PM
5

Oh, lord. I can’t even. (Yes, I’ve been drinking.) He found Jesus. They’re both ridiculously active in their church. He a deacon or something and she leads the ladies bible study. It’s Handmaid’s Tale level shit. They sent my ex BIL (whom I ADORE) to CONVERSION THERAPY. She thought it was wonderfully scandalous that I drink Ménage Á Toi (sp) wine. The name of the brand is just so naughty. Seriously Karen? (yes, that’s her name).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:39 AM
3

I’m in my early 40s. My ex husband told me the same thing. You have plenty of time to do whatever you want. I’m pretty sure my life is really just starting now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:50 PM
93

This situation is what “if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my best” actually refers to. If he can’t pull up his big boy pants and help you get through a difficult time, then he doesn’t deserve you when things are peachy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:17 PM
80

Men really can be busy. However, he will make time to see you if he’s interested. He will call/text just to hear your voice. He will make actual plans with you. He won’t just leave you hanging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:28 PM
17

Idk. My ex FIL bragged up his (3rd) wife because she was chaste when they married. 🤮 Dude, you were in the Navy. You had two kids with my ex MIL. There was a second wife. Finally you landed the third and you’re excited that she was a virgin? Fucking hypocrite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:24 PM
1

(This means that some guy can be totally high value and still not be right for you.) Exactly. No matter if you’re both HV, if you don’t have enough in common (politics, religion, hobbies, interests, goals, etc) it’s just not going to work. You can both be good people and just not work as a couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:47 PM
3

There’s no harm in cutting off toxic family members.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:48 PM
39

Oh! I got this! A mid century house 30 minutes outside of Lansing, (3 bed, 2 bath, with a study/library) on 2 acres (fenced) with a small pond for my raccoon and otter to play in; a collection of first edition Tolkien; a steady supply of Swiss dark chocolates and good Cabernet Sauvignon; and my dream job at the bureau of elections, or maybe director at a non-profit serving the elderly and disabled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:17 PM
27

Or bald spot. I know too many guys that wear a hat to cover the bald spot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:43 PM
9

Exactly. My HS BFF and her husband play video games together. It’s a shared hobby for them. They have snacks, drink, and laugh their asses off. Me? I can’t play first person games or watch them. They make me dizzy and nauseous. But that didn’t stop my ex from getting pissy when I would leave the room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:07 PM
30

When I left my NegativeVM ex, a (LVM) acquaintance asked who I left my ex for. Ugh... no one? Myself? I was miserable and would rather die single than spend another moment with that life-sucking man-child. That was an alien concept to him. And it was worse to him that I left so I could be alone than if I’d left for someone else. If she leaves you for another man, then the other guy must have offered her something that you didn’t—ie you still had baseline value, he just had more. If she just leav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:54 PM
15

Similar boat. My aunt wants to set me up with her new neighbor who graduated a year behind me in school. My own son is an adult. This dude has small children. Hard no. I’m not raising someone else’s kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:31 PM
32

Sex is like chocolate. Good chocolate is amazing. I love chocolate so much, that I’m a chocolate snob. I can easily hurt myself eating good chocolate. But I’d rather eat no chocolate at all than shitty, waxy, chocolate-flavored bullshit. Likewise, good sex is a beautiful thing. I’m a sex snob. I’ve pulled muscles, skinned my knees, and walked funny after good sex. I’ve had sex so good I’ve forgotten my name. And I’d rather have no sex at all than disappointing, bland, rushed, “how dare you call …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:26 AM
4

Ladies, if at all possible, have fuck you $$. Even just enough to hop on a bus is better than nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:44 PM
8

I just heard Bob the Builder. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:01 AM
37

The difference is that you probably picked out exactly what you wanted and he made it happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:15 AM
6

I bought that book for my husband. Guess who never read it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:19 PM
77

Once upon a time, I was a RPW mod. I can’t verify that because I’ve deleted that account. I bought into the RP model hook, line, and sinker. I truly believed that if I was just a good enough wife, that my husband would finally treat me with love and respect. I put him on a pedestal. I stayed home with the kids, cooked, cleaned, carried 100% of the mental and emotional load, wore makeup and dresses daily. I was a model Stepford Wife. So RPW made me a mod. I wrote about how wonderful my life was. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:06 AM
3

https://i.imgur.com/PL6L679.jpg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:01 PM
3

She’s dead serious. r/FundieSnark makes fun of her quite regularly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 07:51 PM
25

Tom Hanks, Bob Ross, and Keanu Reeves too. Oh, and Carl Sagan. Though Sagan and Bob Ross weren’t celebrities in the same way that Hanks and Reeves are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:37 PM
2

High Libido
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:25 PM
6

I agree, to an extent. This could just be virtue signaling. If they’re words don’t match their actions then they’re still LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:50 PM
3

I have a friend who identifies as straight, but married a woman. She fell in love. They even have a baby together. So who knows?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 11:54 PM
53

Financial abuse is real. Abusers will take any opportunity they can to keep you from leaving. Keeping you poor is a good way to do that. Always have fuck you money that they don’t have access to. You can still declare it in a divorce, but they don’t need access to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 07:38 PM
9

And a lot of that is age-dependent as well. Older (40+) men didn’t grow up with social media or cell phones. They literally don’t see the point in typing out a text when they could just call you. Why learn about what your friends did over the weekend from FB when they can ask in person or over the phone? My SO very rarely texts anyone. But he does call the people that are important to him. And he does text back when I text him. Half the time he just calls me instead of responding to my text. He’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 08:04 PM
68

Not worth it. shudders
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:35 PM
22

Oh, they’re definitely lonely. Any guy with a half-decent personality can get laid for free/buying drinks/dinner. Only bottom of the barrel scrotes are paying for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:34 PM
6

I compliment my SO. He’s a damn competent cook, a good dad, and has interesting hobbies. I also compliment my male friends. They’re good guys. I called my friend, “Tom”, on his birthday, Monday, and sang him “Happy Birthday”. I could hear his shit-eating grin over the phone. And I know when my birthday comes up, he’ll do the same for me. Tom is also one of the only men that’s never hit on me. We’ve been friends since middle school band. If my car breaks down, he’ll come rescue me (he has access …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:28 PM
14

Maybe buy him a new one? My best friend complimented her SO’s shirt. It really does look good on him. The color really makes his eyes “pop”. I’m 90% sure that’s the only shirt I’ve seen him wear. 😂 It’s really cute because he knows that she likes that shirt, so he keeps wearing it to make her happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:11 PM
47

Oh, it was interesting to watch. Most of his friends have abandoned him. None of them want him around now. They openly admit to me that they don’t want him getting any ideas. They’ve cut him off, and still talk to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:04 PM
135

I hope she’s racking in that $$$. She should get something out of dealing with lonely, porn sick scrotes all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:02 PM
4

Sisterhood is underrated. My friends are my family. Especially Amanda. We’re closer than sisters. She’s my roommate. She’s... amazing. I worked 28 hours straight for the election. That was after working until 9p Monday night getting things ready for Tuesday. I got home around 6a Wednesday morning. Amanda postponed Taco Tuesday until Wednesday so I could have tacos with her and her kiddos. She brought me water and ibuprofen so I could lay on the couch all day and rest. Monday night I’m watching t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:01 PM
121

I told my ex husband I was leaving on a Wednesday night. He kept me up until 4 am trying to convince/manipulate me into staying. He swore that he would change. That Friday he begged me to come back in a gas station parking lot. He begged me to go to counseling after years of me asking for counseling and him refusing. Saturday he was on POF/OLD looking for his next victim. LVMs will not change for you. They will however get better at manipulating/gaslighting you or their next victim. My ex is now…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:39 PM
23

See also: don’t light yourself on fire to keep others warm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:59 PM
17

Maybe it’s because I’m older than most of you, but OLD has never appealed to me. There was a huge stigma against it back in the 90s/00s. It was thought that you had to be desperate to try it/couldn’t get a date otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 12:18 PM
101

The flair says it all. These bottom feeders think a woman isn’t capable of choosing who she should vote for. Apparently our silly, female brains can’t handle voting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 06:38 PM
8

Do not disclose ANY abuse early on. LVM/manipulators latch onto that and will use it against you. My (second) ex husband knew that I developed an eating disorder while married to my first ex husband. I’m 5’7” and weighed 96 lbs when I divorced him. Second ex literally threw a tantrum because I weighed 130 lbs and he wanted me to lose weight. He was JEALOUS that I “had starved myself for first husband”. But second ex wasn’t abusive because he never hit me. eyeroll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:33 PM
21

Holy shit. SmallDickProblems. What a strange place. ETA: So true. Honestly man sex is more stressful than fun for guys, at least until you’re in a committed relationship. Gotta do a good job and perform or you know you’re getting tossed aside. (Emphasis is mine) Ugh, wtf? Yeah, I want to have a good time. Why would a woman want to have sex if she’s not having a good time? It’s just assumed that the guy is going to orgasm. So why wouldn’t a woman want one (or five) too? This guy genuinely thinks …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:03 PM
19

I’m not sure I’d go that far, but they definitely like having a dog to kick/mat to walk all over/feeling powerful by manipulating this shit out of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:22 PM
55

Yup. My ex husband LOVED to use “ strong, independent woman” as an insult. Thank Zeus I came out of the fog and divorced his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:19 PM
1

😂 the batteries are internal and recharge kinda like a Mac book. But you’re right. I need another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:37 AM
17

She’s disgusting. I thank Zeus I had my tubes tied years ago. Maybe I can be a Martha when the zealots take over. Or sent to the colonies. At least I won’t be a handmaid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:37 PM
3

I used to work for a quadriplegic who had full feeling all the way down to his shoes. He had limited use of his arms, but not his hands. Thank Zeus he never propositioned me. But he very well could have seen escorts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 09:06 PM
9

It always bums me out when the batteries die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 10:16 AM
23

It’s kinda like when they break dishes “on accident” when they’re supposed to be loading the dishwasher. If they mess it up bad enough, we’ll never ask them to do it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:42 PM
113

My ex husband is one of those dumbfucks. The lack of awareness is mind blowing. You fail to pay any attention to your partner, act like a spoiled child until she gives you sex, and then cry about how she starfished you. Well no shit Sherlock. She’s not getting anything out of it! Why should she pretend to have fun when you kissed her for 30 seconds, rubbed in the general vicinity of her clit for 15 seconds, and then shoved your weenie in dry? You think she’s going to orgasm from 60 seconds of yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 06:39 PM
139

This really hits home. I stayed home to raise kids. All I got for my efforts was: yOuVe neVer HaD tO worK!! I SuppOrted YOu!! No dipshit. I stayed home to raise the kids because YOUR son is an asshole who got kicked out of every daycare you put him in. I supported your career. Ladies, marriage and children can wait. Get yourself in a good financial position before you get married and have kids. Never be in a position where you can’t financially afford to walk. If you want to stay home to raise k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:05 PM
2

The problem with this kind of framing is that most men can’t imagine not wanting a woman coming on to them. I get what you’re saying, but most men just won’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 05:58 PM
3

My bestie and I had a girl’s night and watched it when it first came out. We both cried. It was amazing. I’m super stoked to watch it again this weekend with another bestie and her 14yo daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:10 PM
14

First, crying because you’re husband hasn’t spoken to you in eight weeks is not overly emotional. Crying is a perfectly healthy response in that situation. He’s emotionally constipated. Second, do not tell him you’re leaving until you’re already gone. He had his chance in counseling. He chose not to participate. He knows you’re miserable, he just doesn’t care. He will only care that you left because now he has to take care of himself. But don’t worry, he’ll find himself a new girlfriend to take …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:27 PM
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