I compiled a list of Bare Minimum traits/treatment here, https://reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/plua71/bare_minimum_the_least_you_should_accept/, but while I’m working on a High Value list, I thought it might be useful to point out differences between Bare Minimum and High Value. Here are a some examples:

Bare Minimum: Puts a teddy bear on you when you’re sick because he can’t be there to care for you. (Yep, I saw that thread and had to point out that it’s, sadly, Bare Minimum.)

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High Value: Puts a teddy bear on you when you’re sick and takes the day off to care for you or find a way to work from home to care for you.

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Bare Minimum: When a flood destroys your parents’ house, your man puts them in a hotel for two weeks and gives them the name of some guys that can help clean up their house for $15,000.

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High Value: When a flood destroys your parents house, your man puts them in a hotel for two weeks, rolls up his sleeves and spends 10 days straight slaving, pumping water, wading in raw sewage, scrubbing, cleaning and saving your parents’ house— everything paid for by himself. (Yep, I saw that thread and had to point out that’s it’s a HV act of kindness.)

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Bare Minimum: Buys you gas station flowers every two weeks. (Yep, I saw that thread and have to call it what it was.)

Versus

High Value: With your permission, tears up your yard, plants a garden— even an herb garden— so you can enjoy freshly cut flowers and herbs every day; all done or paid for by himself.

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Bare Minimum: After a date, (if you don’t have cars) hails you a cab or waits with you until your Uber arrives.

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High Value: After a date, (if you don’t have cars) hails you a cab and PAYS FOR IT or waits with you until your Uber arrives AND PAYS FOR IT.

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Bare Minimum: After a date, calls 1-2 days later to set up another date.

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High Value: Near the end of a date, sets up solid plans for the next date.

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Bare Minimum: On a date, sincerely compliments you, tells you that you look amazing even though you jokingly told him it takes $200 of makeup to look this good.

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High Value: On a date, sincerely compliments you, tells you that you look amazing even though you jokingly told him it takes $200 of makeup to look this good. Then sends you a gift card to Sephora/Ulta because he understands what women do/go through to look nice on dates.

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Bare Minimum: You tell him your back hurts, he gets you pain medicine.

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High Value: You tell him your back hurts, he gets you pain medicine, runs a hot scented bubble bath then gives you an nice back massage— and doesnt try to get a “happy ending”, LOL!

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These are just examples but I hope you are seeing the difference between Bare Minimum and a High Value Man that goes above and beyond.

High Value treatment ALWAYS involves genuine THOUGHTFULNESS, care and kindness! So demand the bare minimum while shooting for HV!

Note: A guy having a few HV traits does NOT make a him HV! He has to consistently display a multitude of HV traits before he can be even considered HV, sisters.

A lot of men will fake and ape HV traits just to try and fool us, then let the mask slip X days/weeks/months/years later, finally showing his true LV self; which is why FDS tells us that we should “never stop vetting”.

Anyway, I’m working on a full HV list but please feel free to refer to my “Bare Minimum” thread posted above, comment, ask questions and/or add your own Bare Minimum vs High Value comparisons.

Cheers, Queens! 👑❤️