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| 2 | In which areas do you think that women's rights are lacking when compared to men's rights? Do you think that these differences constitute an issue for the men's rights movement?I'm no feminist but I'll try to answer anyway. I recognize that because a woman is physically weaker than a man and must carry her child in her womb for nine months and then breastfeed it, this can certainly put a woman at a disadvantage in many areas and, for this reason, we might need laws to compensate for these disadvantages. That said, many jurisdictions have already introduced such compensatory laws (such as maternity leave, etc.) but feminists now want to take it way beyond reasonable com… | /r/MensRights | 20/08/22 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Towards an MRA conception of sex-based rightshttps://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inquisitorial_system | /r/MensRights | 10/06/22 02:11 PM |
| 0 | Towards an MRA conception of sex-based rightsStudies have found Esperanto ten times easier to master than English. Why shouldn't the accused have a right to an inquisitorial system on request? | /r/MensRights | 10/06/22 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Towards an MRA conception of sex-based rightsYou have a good point there. How to deal with widows and rape victims though? Perhaps make divorce harder. For example, you must first be legally separate for at least one year before you're even allowed to divorce. Or make fornication an offense punishable by a heavy fine that doubles for each repetition of the offense as a way to deter hookup culture and all the harm it causes. | /r/MensRights | 10/06/22 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Towards an MRA conception of sex-based rightsHere in Canada, in Montreal, I've sat before a judge in a hearing conducted in Broken English. In a bilingual country like Canada, a language easy enough for a judge and a Minister's counsel to master can be quite reassuring. As for an inquisitorial hearing (perhaps with a right to a jury) gives the judge more inquisitorial power to access exculpatory evidence that a prosecutor or Minister's counsel could try to suppress. Unfortunately I'd personally witness that at an adversarial immigration he… | /r/MensRights | 10/06/22 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Should the husband have to split chores with the housewife?Depends. Is she disabled? Is he disabled? Each couple will be different. | /r/MensRights | 04/06/22 01:05 AM |
| 7 | Give feminists what they want pertaining to defamation?That's not a reason to throw innocent men under the bus. I personally would favour more sexual protection for everyone; but to have that, we as a society must be willing to make difficult decisions: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/v2dtl7/question_especially_to_feminists_about_the/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 07:42 PM |
| 5 | Give feminists what they want pertaining to defamation?Heartbreaking! | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 07:30 PM |
| 7 | Give feminists what they want pertaining to defamation?Wow, even with evidence?! | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 07:14 PM |
| 6 | Give feminists what they want pertaining to defamation?And again, if the man can't sue the woman anyway, people would start taking the nonchalant attitude of 'a woman will say what a woman will say.' Then feminists would complain that we don't take public rape accusations seriously. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 07:00 PM |
| 18 | Give feminists what they want pertaining to defamation?They are saying a man should not be allowed to sue a woman for defamation for making a false rape accusation against him. Do they not understand that it's precisely because a man can sue a woman that when a woman makes such an accusation, she's more likely to be believed? Do they not understand how removing this right would make a woman's accusation meaningless? | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 05:36 PM |
| -12 | From r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMenTruth be told, that sub does seem quite misogynistic. Let's talk policy reform, not mock women looking for a partner. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 04:11 PM |
| 1 | when we silence men's rights, we silence women's rights tooI was just going by what my Mom told me which seems very strange for the reasons you mentioned. Anyway, I'm calmer today. I was just shocked at her claim last night and because my Dad can be quite controlling, I wouldn't put it past him to try something like that. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 02:20 PM |
| 1 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.I'd rather a false accuser be acquitted than a truthful accuser be convicted. Wouldn't you agree? | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 10:06 AM |
| 1 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.How else do we determine guilt? If the complainant is lying, then the accused IS the victim and the complainant the abuser. I'm sure most who've experienced abuse would oppose allowing an abuser to weaponize the legal system against a victim. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 09:48 AM |
| 2 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?I oppose rape-shield laws. If a person makes a rape complaint, then that person must be prepared to face legal scrutiny. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?I'd be open to a mixed system, mostly inquisitorial but with a right to a jury too. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?Who said anything about social cret trials? | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 12:54 AM |
| 2 | when we silence men's rights, we silence women's rights tooThat's what she's saying. She does stutter so I'm guessing my dad convinced them she needed his help and she was too afraid to speak up. I asked her a few different ways to be sure I was hearing what I thought I was hearing, which shocked me. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 12:17 AM |
| 2 | when we silence men's rights, we silence women's rights tooPunching walls, hitting, and threatening. I'd say making her let him mark her ballot is quite abusive and illegal and it undermines the principle of one person one vote. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/22 12:11 AM |
| 5 | when we silence men's rights, we silence women's rights tooHe raised me and he was definitely abusive. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 11:54 PM |
| 17 | when we silence men's rights, we silence women's rights tooI'm not trying to put him in jail even if that could be a possible consequence. I once called the police after my Mom told me he'd hit her. She's elderly, isn't particularly internet literate, and struggles with moderate memory problems so I try to help her. Now I can still help her in official contexts by informing the police or calling Elections Ontario when things like this happen. That said, if she fears leaving him, there is not much I can do. She also refuses to press charges out of a fear… | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?Thanks. You too. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?It does. Thanks. You do bring up a good point concerning her legal team. In an adversarial system, the competence of one's counsel is quite important. It might still be important in an inquisitorial system but not as much. I will grant feminists that in an adversarial system, Johnny Depp did have somewhat of an unfair advantage against Amber Heard due to the money he had to hire more reputable lawyers. In an inquisitorial system, the judge could have compensated for that by helping Heard out a b… | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?Thank you for that. I do admit that while I lean in favour of inquisitorial (with maybe some adversarial influence) for criminal and immigration hearings, I do question whether adversarial might work better for other civil cases. A jury certainly has the advantage of keeping a lone judge's prejudices in check too. Though granting an accused a right to an hearing under an inquisitorial system on request for criminal and immigration cases I believe would be a big step forward. I tend to lean in it… | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 05:21 PM |
| 6 | MeToo and similar organizations are preventing people like Ms. Heard from getting proper mental health care.You can't generalize like that. Some Western women are of strong character. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 04:31 PM |
| 4 | MeToo and similar organizations are preventing people like Ms. Heard from getting proper mental health care.I'd mentioned before that to a certain degree, Amber Heard herself was a victim of feminism. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?No worries. I agree that an inquisitorial system could have exposed more embarrassing facts about Johnny Depp; but does Amber Heard not have a right to a fair hearing? I think this is what feminists are trying to get at. Now supposing Heard was given a choice between adversarial and inquisitorial, she probably would have opted for adversarial given the overwhelming evidence against her. That would have been the best way for her to at least limit the damage to her reputation. Had she chosen adver… | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?Yup. And if they think an inquisitorial system will fix that, I say bring it on. Some MRAs have been calling for a right to a hearing under an inquisitorial system for a long time now. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?An inquisitorial system: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inquisitorial_system It's main drawback is that it's more intrusive, yet that drawback is also a strength as it gives the court access to more evidence. In the Depp v Heard case for example, it might have revealed more embarrassing facts about Depp but also more evidence of Heard's abusive behaviour. Truth be told, Heard might have been more truthful under the scrutiny of an inquisitorial system knowing that a lie could be caught more quic… | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?I was referring to granting an accused the right to a hearing under an inquisitorial system on request. I was pointing out how now that prominent feminists are pushing for this (in the false belief that this would somehow have benefitted Heard), it's an opportunity for us to agree with feminists on this because we know that it will probably benefit many men too. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 03:49 PM |
| 5 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?To some degree, I think of the right to a trial under an inquisitorial system on request as a kind of nuclear option. Amber Heard did not believe that Depp would sue her because to do so would expose some embarrassing facts about him too. But her accusations were so horrible that Depp rightly calculated that exposing his addiction problem to the world was a small price to pay to clear his name as a wife beater. Under an inquisitorial system, he might have had to expose even more embarrassing fac… | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Why are prominent feminists now advocating for an inquisitorial system?https://twitter.com/DrProudman/status/1532278596303310848?s=20&t=oK50hFFnvXQdbwu-ko-ZdQ She seems well-known in feminist circles and seems to very sincerely and genuinely believe that Amber Heard was telling the truth. In another Tweet of hers, she seems genuinely surprised that the jury decided in Depp's favour. Does she not understand that with the evidence against her, Amber Heard should be thankful that she had a trial under an adversarial system? Under an inquisitorial system, yes, sure mor… | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 01:59 PM |
| 78 | "Jury Gave Me My Life Back": Johnny Depp After Defamation VerdictIt's a victory for all victims of defamation. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 02:28 AM |
| 1 | Amberturd fan's Twitter profiles RAGE + audiotapeHe won his libel case and she might face perjury charges. Her acting career is probably ruined. Self-inflicted? Yes! Well deserved? Yes! But do we really need add to her punishment? | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Amberturd fan's Twitter profiles RAGE + audiotapeI know that, but still not a reason to call her names. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Amberturd fan's Twitter profiles RAGE + audiotapeWhy do you need to call her Amber Turd? I'm happy Johnny Depp won the case and might agree if Amber Heard is convicted of perjury, but we don't need to stoop to name calling. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 01:37 AM |
| 3 | These days, it seems most women want to receive oral sex and yet.....I'm sorry but this thread is just way too much. No man has any obligation to give a woman cunnilingus and no woman has any obligation to give a man fellatio. If the husband and wife mutually agree to cunnilingus, great; if not, so be it. Same for fellatio. I don't see what any of this has to do with men's rights advocacy on the political stage. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Ben Chew: "We are also most pleased that the trial has resonated for so many people in the public who value truth and justice. Now that the jury has reached its conclusive verdict it's time to turn the page and look into the future." NO MENTION of the significance of the ruling for men as a wholePerhaps. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/22 01:30 AM |
| 16 | Ben Chew: "We are also most pleased that the trial has resonated for so many people in the public who value truth and justice. Now that the jury has reached its conclusive verdict it's time to turn the page and look into the future." NO MENTION of the significance of the ruling for men as a wholeI don't think it would have been appropriate for them to say that. The MRM is trying to break this idea of thinking of a sexual class as a monolyth. Some women abuse, others are abused. Some men abuse, some are abused. The justice system must treat each case independently of the others. That said, it is still a win for men's rights too. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 09:25 PM |
| 1 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.Having experienced sexual abuse myself, I know my answer: I'd rather my rapist be acquitted than that an innocent person be convicted. The courts can decide only on the available evidence, and I'm happy with guilt beyond reasonable doubt. That said, I do think the accused should have a right to a trial under an inquisitorial system on request. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Now that the Johnny Depp saga is over, it's time for the Marilyn Manson sequel.I haven't followed it much so won't comment on it. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 08:49 PM |
| 9 | Women ‘overlooked’ as possible child abusersThink 'gender-based violence' and 'male violence against women.' | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 08:12 PM |
| 25 | Women ‘overlooked’ as possible child abusersI hope you are healing from it. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 05:55 PM |
| 1 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.You do have a point there. If a person makes such a serious allegation, they should step up to the plate to prove it. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 03:51 PM |
| 52 | Women ‘overlooked’ as possible child abusersI think feminists call it women’s sexual liberation now. On the plus side, I was too young to impregnate her. And yes, even when a boy is too young to be fully sexually functional, the woman can use oral on him, bribe him with candy money, make him use his fingers on her, and it really does mess with the boy's mind. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 02:33 PM |
| 59 | Women ‘overlooked’ as possible child abusersMolested me. I won't discuss details here. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 02:24 PM |
| 189 | Women ‘overlooked’ as possible child abusersMy adult female sitter molested me for around a year when I was seven and eight years old. Feminist interpretation: I molested my adult female sitter for around a year when I was seven and eight years old. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 01:48 PM |
| 5 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.Amber Heard asked to meet Depp after she'd filed for a TRO. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 01:31 PM |
| 1 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.It's a subjective term, but in my mind, it applies to all adults of legal are who are deemed capable of giving informed consent. Having experienced sexual abuse both in childhood and adulthood, I'm well aware of how my childhood sexual abuse made me vulnerable to further abuse from my ex-wife through emotional and verbal coercion, unwanted touching, stalking, and even blackmail through threats of self-harm. In the hypothetical scenario of a Right-to-Self-Exclusion Act that would allow me through… | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 01:29 PM |
| 3 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.Yet a decision must be made in the matter. What are your thoughts on a Right-to-Self-Exclusion Act that would allow a person to trade excessive sexual freedom for more adequate sexual protection under the law: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/v2dtl7/question_especially_to_feminists_about_the/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share As a male survivor of sexual abuse myself, I would have happily traded excessive sexual freedom for more adequate sexual protection under the law so as to… | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 12:42 PM |
| 8 | An open invitation for a roundtable to the feminists of redditThe more reasonable feminists are always welcome to visit this sub anyway. It's just a shame that the more insane feminists hold positions of power in academia and politics or as Mods on feminist subs. But the more reasonable ones just want to learn and I respect them for that. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 10:55 AM |
| 3 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.The following might interest you on this subject: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/v2dtl7/question_especially_to_feminists_about_the/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 10:51 AM |
| 1 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.Let's say a woman consents to protected sex and the man then forces her into unprotected sex. Unless it was all recorded or there were witnesses, how will she prove it? If the man has a right to a fair trial, does the judge not have an obligation to consider text messages in which she consented to sex? I agree that in that case the man raped her and that her text messages consenting to sex will make the rape extremely difficult to prove because he has a reason to be in her bed. Let's suppose the… | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 10:50 AM |
| 5 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.I'd once contributed negligently to a woman sexually assaulting me by making myself unreasonably trusting. One reason I didn't report was because of the shame of my own contributary negligence, but I would never in a million years propose rape-shield laws that would allow me to suppress evidence. In fact, I still believe that the woman who'd sexually assaulted me and who could have exposed me to an STI or impregnating her should have a guaranteed right to: A trial under an inquisitorial system o… | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 10:14 AM |
| 1 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.Because an inherent conflict exists between excessive sexual freedom and more adequate sexual protection under the law: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/v1zdm2/uk_campaigner_says_forcing_rape_victims_to_hand/iapm1hg?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 I personally would prefer that we as a society place importance on adequate protection over excessive freedom. But either way, we as a society must make a choice on the matte. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 09:53 AM |
| 7 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.Actually in the Ghomeshi case in Canada, there was evidence of the woman still perusing him after her alleged rape. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 09:46 AM |
| 3 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.Paying for sex is a lesser charge than rape, but somewhat easier to prove, so it provides a more effective deterrent. Fornication would be even easier to prove. Fornication could be more specifically consent to fornication, which would apply to the individual. Once it's proved that an individual consented to fornication, that person could pay a fine. You are correct that many MRA's want more sexual freedom, not more sexual protection, but the principle stands whether we talk of men or women. If … | /r/MensRights | 01/06/22 12:54 AM |
| 2 | What is the best way to tackle fake rape accusations?Do you mean legislatively? I believe the accused should have a right to a hearing under an inquisitorial system on request. That could help somewhat. Besides that, an exemption from any rape-shield law. Do you mean personally? Don't sleep around. If you struggle with sexual addiction, then seek help for it because promiscuity can definitely raise your risks of a false accusation. In fact, if you refuse to have sex with a woman, she probably won't accusé you because she can't prove you even had s… | /r/MensRights | 31/05/22 10:57 PM |
| 9 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.Fair enough. If the alleged victim chooses to hand in her device, that could help the prosecution. If she doesn't, then we must presume that it contained no proof of guilt. I think that's fair. It's then up to the alleged victim to decide how much she's willing to reveal to help the prosecutor. | /r/MensRights | 31/05/22 10:52 PM |
| 5 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.I explain it in more detail here: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/v1zdm2/uk_campaigner_says_forcing_rape_victims_to_hand/iapm1hg?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 | /r/MensRights | 31/05/22 10:49 PM |
| 27 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.So should the defendant have the same right too? | /r/MensRights | 31/05/22 10:44 PM |
| 9 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.True; but one problem concerns how difficult rape itself is to prove even in the best of circumstances. This is why we must acknowledge that an inherent conflict exists between excessive sexual freedom and adequate sexual protection under the law. As a society, we must decide how we want to balance these competing interests. | /r/MensRights | 31/05/22 09:37 PM |
| 31 | UK: Campaigner says forcing rape victims to hand over phones to police is 'really intrusive' OP: They want women to be able to make false allegations even more easily.As a man who has experienced physical sexual assault from a woman, I'll share my perspectives here. I never reported the act to the police for the following two main reasons: Shame. I did contribute negligently to my own sexual assault by making myself unreasonably trusting and vulnerable towards her, a situation she then exploited through the element of surprise. Lack of hard proof. Even a rape-kit test would have proved only that a sexual act occurred, not whether or not I'd consented to it. I… | /r/MensRights | 31/05/22 09:34 PM |
| 1 | I'm doing a class presentation on men's rightsThese might help: https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2014/03/coerced-sex https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/08862605211035870 https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/capr.12409 | /r/MensRights | 31/05/22 12:56 PM |
| 14 | What do you want heard?Female sexual and domestic abuse of boys and men. After I'd attempted suicide in Montreal in 2001, the psychiatrist told me based on no proof but her feminist education that I'd done so as an alternative to killing my wife. Luckily for me, however emotionally and sexually abusive my wife was, at least she wasn't the kind to make a false accusation. She just ignored the doctor's comment, turned to me, and then berated me for my attempt. Seeing no help there, I left to work abroad. Feminism defini… | /r/MensRights | 29/05/22 01:55 AM |
| 1 | I actually see Amber Heard as a victim of feminism tooI hope he is awarded his fifty million dollars for her defamation of him. I'm just saying that I doubt she would have so brazenly made such a false accusation in the Washington Post had it not been for feminism teaching her that the world would believe her over him just because she was a woman. | /r/MensRights | 27/05/22 03:07 PM |
| 5 | CBC censoring male victims?I don't knlw; but given the political rhetoric in Canada of sexual and domestic abuse being gendered, that's generally the presumption unless specified. My concern though is that when I posted my experience, the comments section was wiped out. | /r/MensRights | 27/05/22 12:41 AM |
| 16 | Just a little question: What made you a MensRightActivist?If wanting male and female victims of sexual and domestic abuse to be treated equally makes me 'radicalized,' then I'm guilty as charged. After I'd attempted suicide in Montreal in 2001, the psychiatrist told me based on no proof but her feminist education that I'd done so as an alternative to killing my Ethiopian wife. Luckily for me, however emotionally and sexually abusive my wife was, at least she wasn't the kind to make a false accusation. She just ignored the doctor's comment, turned to me… | /r/MensRights | 27/05/22 12:36 AM |
| 17 | Just a little question: What made you a MensRightActivist?At least on Reddit, I was essentially cornered into the MRM. I've been blocked from so many other subs for addressing men's issues that I soon discovered this is among the few places on Reddit where we can discuss men's rights more openly. I guess Reddit feminism made me into a Reddit MRA. I'm feminism's own creation. | /r/MensRights | 27/05/22 12:12 AM |
| 85 | Boys were invited to slap a girlI remember a woman punching me in the face once as I tried to kindly verbally break up a fight between her and a man around her age. I just walked away stunned, confused, surprised. One man told me how after a woman came at him with a knife, he just held her wrists to defend himself. She dropped the knife, yelled for help, and people came to her defense. My ex-wife never threatened physical violence towards me nor did she ever threaten to make a false accusation against me; but she was extremely… | /r/MensRights | 25/05/22 11:11 AM |
| 13 | I’ve never heard a woman say the relationship or marriage didn’t work because of her.No worries. | /r/MensRights | 24/05/22 02:42 PM |
| 46 | I’ve never heard a woman say the relationship or marriage didn’t work because of her.I truly don't know what she was thinking. I'm not even sure she knew what she was thinking, so I don't even want to try to read what was going through her mind at the time. I just hope she got the psychiatric help she needed after the divorce, because she sure as hell messed with my mind in a big way. | /r/MensRights | 24/05/22 02:17 PM |
| 105 | I’ve never heard a woman say the relationship or marriage didn’t work because of her.I have. My ex-wife. She wanted a divorce because she later felt guilty for what she'd done to me. But then she said she thought me like a brother to her and still wanted me to stay with her as a flatmate. As if my brain wasn't messed up enough already, I agreed to separate for a year if that's what she wanted. I made it very clear to her that divorce meant she would never see me again. She applied for divorce anyway, I agreed, and then I left to work abroad. Her brother emailed me a week later t… | /r/MensRights | 24/05/22 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Johnny Depp and privilegeYou're right. But doage and wealth necessarily make a man immune to emotional or verbal coercion, unwanted touching, blackmail, etc.? For example, if he was raised to never hit a woman and she hits him, has he ever learnt how to handle that situation before? Do his age and wealth make him immune to the shame of being abused? Now Johnny Depp has been married and divorced before (though I don't know which wanted the divorce). Might he have some moral standard for what constitutes a valid reason to… | /r/MensRights | 24/05/22 11:57 AM |
| 8 | Johnny Depp and privilegeI remember renting a two-bedroom apartment with a woman just a few years younger than me in my very early twenties. Luckily for me, she was religious and had no sexual interest in me (or if she did, she kept it to herself). For that reason, we actually got along quite well in spite of the different sexes. I can imagine how it could have turned out had she been some sex-addicted feminist who'd thought herself entitled to sex and couldn't take no for an answer. | /r/MensRights | 23/05/22 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Women Uber Drivers can now deny male passengers in AustraliaOver a decade later following a mental breakdown, yes, because then I had to. Prior to that, I didn't trust mental-health professionals due to that experience. | /r/MensRights | 23/05/22 05:18 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone in here been sexually harassed by a woman?I wish I was just harassed. My ex-wife was so emotionally and sexually abusive that she drove me to a suicide attempt. In fact, I married her after she'd pointed a knife to her stomach and threatening to harm herself if I refused. I'll take harassment over that any day. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/22 08:03 PM |
| 19 | Women Uber Drivers can now deny male passengers in AustraliaAfter I'd attempted suicide in Montreal in 2001, the psychiatrist told me based on no proof that I'd done so as an alternative to killing my wife. Luckily for me, however emotionally and sexually abusive my wife was, at least she wasn't the kind to make a false accusation. She just ignored the doctor's comment, turned to me, and then berated me for my attempt. Seeing no help there, I left to work abroad for around eight years. Can you even imagine a psychiatrist telling her female patient for no… | /r/MensRights | 20/05/22 07:03 PM |
| 7 | Women Uber Drivers can now deny male passengers in AustraliaI don't know whether he broke the rules by letting her sit in front. I've never worked for Über and seldom use it myself. But even that still doesn't excuse her behaviour. Imagine if I as a man removed my bottoms and then groped the female driver. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/22 06:53 PM |
| 262 | Women Uber Drivers can now deny male passengers in AustraliaOne man told me how as a Über driver, he'd experienced a female passenger remove her bottoms and grope him. When he called Über to complain about her, Über disbelieved and hung up on him. After a second such incident, he didn't even bother calling Über. Instead, he started to place a book on the front passenger seat to deter women from sitting there and encourage them to sit in the back seat instead. There's a reason men don't report. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/22 01:39 PM |
| 6 | Is this sub right for me? Banned from a feminist sub for discussing parental alienation in a relevant post. Despite that, still agree with the feminist position on some fronts.Yes, the MRM is quite diverse because it has no real 'orthodoxy' as such. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/22 12:14 AM |
| 20 | Is this sub right for me? Banned from a feminist sub for discussing parental alienation in a relevant post. Despite that, still agree with the feminist position on some fronts.Even if you did identify as a feminist, you'd still be welcome in this sub. Since many of us (including I) have been banned from feminist subs, here is the only place where we can interact with feminists on Reddit. Even some sincere feminists will visit to learn for themselves what we actually stand for. You'll find though that the MRM is much broader. Some MRAs are pro-life, some pro-choice. Some oppose male circumcision, some are okay with it. Some favour criminalizing prostitution, others wan… | /r/MensRights | 18/05/22 07:19 PM |
| 12 | Is this sub right for me? Banned from a feminist sub for discussing parental alienation in a relevant post. Despite that, still agree with the feminist position on some fronts.Yes. Many of us identify as MRA simply because we've been banned from feminist subs. So here MRA is somewhat synonymous with non-feminist. | /r/MensRights | 18/05/22 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Major publications have been defending Amber Heard. We need to send e-mails to their advertisers!Let them support her. They'll pay the price after the verdict. | /r/MensRights | 17/05/22 01:14 PM |
| 17 | On the sexist connotations of incelAnd even when a man isn't a virgin, changing circumstances can make him become voluntarily or involuntarily sexually active (involuntary in the case of a sexually coercive relationship for example) and later voluntarily or involuntarily celibate, and back again as his life circumstances change. Truth be told, as a victim of past domestic abuse, I in fact was involuntarily sexually active for a number of years. So was I an insexact (involuntarily sexually active then). Does that now make me a voc… | /r/MensRights | 17/05/22 12:38 AM |
| 5 | "Men invented more than women because women didn't have the same education rights"Ah, thank you for clarifying. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/22 08:32 PM |
| 19 | "Men invented more than women because women didn't have the same education rights"I question how relevant it is that men invented more. Firstly, at many points in history, education discriminated more in favour of boys and men. Add to that that pregnancy and childrearing will probably affect the mother's career over the father's. I think there are more important issues for MRAs than comparing which sex invented what. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/22 08:24 PM |
| 0 | People are losing their minds over the fact that some women may be forced into parenthood against their will - something men already deal withNot all sex is consensual: https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2014/03/coerced-sex | /r/MensRights | 10/05/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Why is that sex addiction or porn addiction or masturbation addiction not recognized as addictions by medical bodies in the USA?Statistics do seem to show that more men than women report addiction issues. | /r/MensRights | 07/05/22 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Why is that sex addiction or porn addiction or masturbation addiction not recognized as addictions by medical bodies in the USA?From what I've read, more men than women seek help for sex addiction. Bear in mind though that due to the stigma around male sexuality, I imagine only a small percentage of men who struggle with it seek help for it. I'm just pointing out though that we should help female sex addicts too. Feminists have long ignored male survivors of domestic abuse. This itself might explain why more men than women struggle with addictions generally,not just sex addiction). However, we should not make the same mi… | /r/MensRights | 07/05/22 08:51 PM |
| 7 | Why is that sex addiction or porn addiction or masturbation addiction not recognized as addictions by medical bodies in the USA?Yes, sexual addiction can destroy women's lives too. More public education about this would help not only male sex addicts but female ones too to get the help they need to learn to better manage their behaviours. | /r/MensRights | 07/05/22 06:50 PM |
| 3 | when a man takes on the woman's last nameAnd that would be fine if that's what you want to do. | /r/MensRights | 07/05/22 01:05 AM |
| 2 | when a man takes on the woman's last nameIn most of the world, the woman keeps her surname. | /r/MensRights | 07/05/22 12:57 AM |
| 3 | when a man takes on the woman's last nameMaybe her surname is easier for people to spell and pronounce? There could be myriad reasons. | /r/MensRights | 07/05/22 12:57 AM |
| 2 | when a man takes on the woman's last nameThat's not the cultural default in most of the world where typically the husband keeps his surname and the wife keeps hers, though the children or at least the suns will take the father's surname. So it certainly can vary from culture to culture. | /r/MensRights | 07/05/22 12:56 AM |
| 0 | Roast me: feminist very upset about losing my right to abortion.I fight for both equally. For instance, I tend to lean against a male eight to a paper abortion out of a fear that a man can abuse that right. Imagine if a man can legally go out, sew his wild oats, get many women pregnant, and then just obtain a paper abortion for each, leaving it to the woman and the taxpayer! That's why I propose that if we do grant men a right to a paper abortion, it should come with caveats to protect women too: https://www.reddit.com/r/changemyview/comments/uilzwa/cmv_a_ma… | /r/MensRights | 07/05/22 12:38 AM |
| -4 | Roast me: feminist very upset about losing my right to abortion.Why mandatory? I'd say the husband should have a right to a DNA test on request that he must pay for out of pocket, but making it standard practice for each child born I think excessive. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 11:50 PM |
| 5 | Roast me: feminist very upset about losing my right to abortion.Why 'first?' | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 11:47 PM |
| 13 | lesbian couple murder 5 year old son out of hatred for men . Women murdered by men is called femicide.How do you call it when women kill men ?Murder. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Roast me: feminist very upset about losing my right to abortion.Firstly, the MRM is not a monolith. Some are pro-choice, some pro-life, and others somewhere in between. I accept that human life starts at conception, but still lean pro-choice because I don't trust that pro-life politicians have put enough thought into the nuances of the abortion laws that they propose. If drafted incompetently, an abortion law can kill the mother: https://www.reuters.com/world/europe/death-pregnant-woman-ignites-debate-about-abortion-ban-poland-2021-11-05/ So how can we more … | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 11:30 PM |
| 1 | when a man takes on the woman's last nameFair enough. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 09:19 PM |
| 0 | when a man takes on the woman's last nameWhy would you lose respect for him for that? There could be thousands of valid reasons why he chose to take her last name. Does it affect you in any way? I think MRAs have much bigger issues to address. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Feminism and chivalry. Nice combo that exposes the fraud of feminism.But she also mentioned in the article that she's sometimes paid for men's meals too whenever she made the invitation. I read the article quickly so can't remember all the details but at least as far as feminist writing goes, it appeared to make at least an effort at equality. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 07:17 PM |
| -19 | On the left : Ukrainian women who fled the war, left the men behind and made Tinder accounts in a new country. On the right : men who died to protect Ukraine.To be fair though, many Ukrainian women have had their lives turned upside down, been raped, fled the country, entered prostitution to survive, been denied abortion, murdered, and yes, some have chosen to stay behind and serve as medics on the front-line. But I absolutely agree that we need to acknowledge the men too. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Do you think men who use sexual entertainement (strippers, prostitutes, etc.) face more social stigma than women ?You're welcome. I have a PTSD diagnosis from past sexual trauma and one of my symptoms was compulsive sexual behaviour. But because of the social stigma around male mental-health and sexuality, I refused to seek help for the longest time. I denied that I might be suffering from trauma and dismissed any thought of speaking to a mental-health professional as my just looking for excuses for my behaviour. It's only following a breakdown and hospitalization that I finally had to face the fact after I… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Do you think men who use sexual entertainement (strippers, prostitutes, etc.) face more social stigma than women ?Maybe start by asking your family doctor or walk-in clinic to arrange a meeting with a psychiatrist to discuss your concern. You can read more about sexual addiction here: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_addiction You can explore Sex-Addicts Anonymous: https://saa-recovery.org/ Or other related twelve-step groups. Other resources that can help certain sex addicts: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=cz.mobilesoft.appblock https://www.maturemetal.com/ https://en.m.wikipedia.org/w… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Feminism and chivalry. Nice combo that exposes the fraud of feminism.As I read it, that people should just respect people regardless of sex. We can certainly find common ground with those kinds of more reasonable feminists even if they represent the minority of feminists and generally have no leadership role in the movement in most cases. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 02:27 PM |
| -2 | Overturn of Roe v. Wade will deter sexual abuse?Punishing? If women stop trying to pressure men into sex they don't want, I see that as a win for respecting men's boundaries. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Ah yes, completely necessary in a game where women already make as much as men.If men tend to outperform women, then I don't see a need for a specifically women-only tournament myself. In that case, it makes sense to allow a women's only competition. Humm... then by that rationale, couldn't we argue that in sports in which men have a natural physical strength advantage over women, that we could scrap women-only sports competitions? In other words, a biological female could choose to compete in a women-only competition or unisex competition. Everyone else must compete in th… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 02:05 PM |
| -14 | Feminism and chivalry. Nice combo that exposes the fraud of feminism.Did you actually read the article? The author paid for meals too. Don't be so quick to dismiss it just because a feminist wrote it. Even feminists are right sometimes. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 08:24 AM |
| 6 | We need to broaden GBV laws!Sorry, but seeing how people are still defending Amber Heard after all of this, I had to vent through sarcasm. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 07:11 AM |
| -1 | Overturn of Roe v. Wade will deter sexual abuse?So whom were the inmates sleeping with? | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 06:38 AM |
| 1 | Right Or Wrong?Overgeneralization. Character is a personal trait, not a national one. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 06:32 AM |
| 2 | Overturn of Roe v. Wade will deter sexual abuse?You might want to reconsider your prison example: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vice.com/amp/en/article/yvq78b/why-do-prison-guards-keep-having-sex-with-inmates-209 | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 06:23 AM |
| 3 | Overturn of Roe v. Wade will deter sexual abuse?As a man who has experienced female sexual abuse and who knows that I'm not the only one: https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2014/03/coerced-sex And who actually leans more pro-choice in principle, I don't think you understand how female sexual aggression can impact a man. I have PTSD and MDD diagnoses and am now receiving long-term-disability insurance benefits and take daily medication for the symptoms. The feminist trope that men always want sex causes severe damage. The idea that a woma… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 05:42 AM |
| 6 | Overturn of Roe v. Wade will deter sexual abuse?Only a feminist would think that withholding sex would work based on the belief that a man can't live without sex. Most women would understand that he'll just go read a book or go for a bicycle instead. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 05:13 AM |
| 11 | Ah yes, completely necessary in a game where women already make as much as men.I never thought of that. So essentially the same idea as while women typically sit in the middle tier, men are more likely to be top earners or poor. Or men likely to be bravest heroes or most violent criminals. Perhaps men are greater risk takers on average? That is a possibility. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 03:37 AM |
| 10 | Overturn of Roe v. Wade will deter sexual abuse?Because a woman now needs to think more seriously before trying to pressure a man into sex if she can't just run off to get an abortion afterwards. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Direct Tweet Copy: Why isn't the media talking about this? Amber Heard literally stole a monologue of "The Talented Mr. Ripley" and used it as her opening speech. Where's the credibility!?Just give her more rope. Let her talk, don't interrupt. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 02:41 AM |
| -19 | Feminism and chivalry. Nice combo that exposes the fraud of feminism.After reading that article, I still refuse to identify as a feminist; but I could certainly find much agreement with a feminist who shared the views expressed in that article. I don't have to identify as a feminist to still be able to agree with the essential point of an article. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 02:31 AM |
| -33 | Feminism and chivalry. Nice combo that exposes the fraud of feminism.Specifically what part of the article did you disagree with? | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 02:28 AM |
| 1 | Ah yes, completely necessary in a game where women already make as much as men.You mean men are better at mind games, strategizing, at least in the context of chess and similar activities? Could be. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 02:11 AM |
| 0 | Ah yes, completely necessary in a game where women already make as much as men.Maybe. It is certainly an interesting question given no strength advantage in chess, no intelligence advantage that I know of. So yes, maybe men tend to use more aggressive tactics? I'm not convinced since it's competitive by nature so even a female player would be as aggressive I presume. Maybe a female player subconsciously plays less aggressively against a male player? And of course, just coincidence? | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 02:08 AM |
| 10 | Ah yes, completely necessary in a game where women already make as much as men.I actually find that odd. I'm aware men generally have a physical advantage over women but I'm not aware of any evidence of men having a superior intelligence. All I can guess is either that one sex seems to show more interest in it than the other or that the sexes might have different types of intelligence? Pure speculation on my part as I think on your statement. Do you have a theory on why men do better in even non-physical sports? | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 01:49 AM |
| 1 | How should a man seeking therapy go about uncovering and avoiding anti-male bias in mental health professionals?I've had comparatively young female psychiatrists and therapists who'd proved quite helpful. The real problem is how much the person has absorbed the feminist bias. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 01:39 AM |
| 27 | How should a man seeking therapy go about uncovering and avoiding anti-male bias in mental health professionals?I think it might depend on context. I'll give an example of a terrible experience with a psychiatrist followed by much more positive experiences. After I'd attempted suicide in Montreal in 2001, the psychiatrist told me based on no proof but her feminist education that I'd done so as an alternative to killing my wife. Luckily for me, however emotionally and sexually abusive my wife was, at least she wasn't the kind to make a false accusation. In the above example, the psychiatrist was probably n… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/22 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Religious women only?You're welcome. Just a point though: you might want to place chastity over virginity. A woman who'd been raped might not be a virgin but still chaste, yet a woman who does everything but penetration with different men might technically still be a virgin. Also, if you are going to marry a religious woman as an atheist, you might first want to establish ground rules that she's free to practice her faith (including teaching her Faith to her children) and you yours. You might also want to read the s… | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Religious women only?Will a religious woman marry an atheist? Maybe. However, you also mentioned that you've had many partners. Will you be truthful with her about that and respect her boundaries (since I presume she won't want sex before marriage and won't want to marry you without first knowing your character)? Also, to avoid hurting her, will you first learn to better manage your own sexual urges before agreeing to marry her? If you want a woman of good character, you'll want to offer her an equivalent man, no? | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 10:35 PM |
| 11 | Do you think men who use sexual entertainement (strippers, prostitutes, etc.) face more social stigma than women ?I voted yes. Just reverse the sex roles in this video for instance: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nrf0xHQgGUs This stigma hurts women too. According to some studies male sexual addiction can sometimes stem from past trauma. If a man feels too ashamed to seek help, then how can he stop the behaviour? I do think more education is needed to ensure men who do struggle with sexual addiction feel comfortable seeking help for it to help them stop the behaviour. While I agree that men and women are trea… | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 10:30 PM |
| 530 | Ah yes, completely necessary in a game where women already make as much as men.Actually, it's quite insulting to women. We can understand the logic behind separating men and women in many sports where physical strength is a factor. But in a board game where men and women have an equal chance of winning based much on strategy (and luck to a degree too), that women are intellectually inferior so we must give them a slight advantage to compensate for that. It also implies that women are sore losers. Feminists aside, most women would feel quite comfortable playing on an equal … | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 09:10 PM |
| 12 | Ah yes, completely necessary in a game where women already make as much as men.Valid point. | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 08:52 PM |
| 6 | Ah yes, completely necessary in a game where women already make as much as men.Truth be told, I'm not sure this is the kind of thing MRAs should be wasting time with. What's wrong with that game? Should we have a law banning such games? Personally, I think the MRM should focus more on educational and/or political objectives, not what harmless games people play at home. | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 08:31 PM |
| 0 | Actionable steps towards the right to a paper abortion?Good point. | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 07:30 PM |
| 0 | Current world eventsI've tended to lean more pro-choice, but the more I discuss paper abortion, the more I start to lean pro-life. | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 07:09 PM |
| 0 | Actionable steps towards the right to a paper abortion?I presume that would be a step 5? | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 06:00 PM |
| 0 | Actionable steps towards the right to a paper abortion?OK. | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 04:38 PM |
| 6 | we need actionable steps: what can we do politically to outlaw circumcision?Good point. That might be the first step. | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 04:10 PM |
| 13 | we need actionable steps: what can we do politically to outlaw circumcision?In jurisdictions that provide state funding for elective circumcisions, the first step would be to cut such funding. In jurisdictions that don't already do so, the second step might be a law guaranteeing a physician the right to refuse to participate in any circumcision that is not medically recommended. In jurisdictions that don't already do so and that refuse to ban circumcision, the third step could be a law requiring both living biological parents to agree to circumcision. The only step I ca… | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 02:43 PM |
| 2 | Amber Heard Tearfully Testifies Her Point Of View During Her Relationship With Johnny DeppThat is true. This hearing mostly showcases a mutually abusive relationship. The real question here is which was more abusive, which still won't excuse the other's behaviour. While it's still a victory in showing that a relationship can be mutually abusive, the next step will be to demonstrate that they can be unidirectionally abusive from woman to man too. In my case, however emotionally and sexually abusive my ex-wife was, I still never abused her in return. Now to be clear, she was never phys… | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 01:09 PM |
| 1 | Defamation case reveals problems with adversarial systemGood point. I grant that especially when we distrust the objectivity of the tribunal itself, adversarial might be preferable. | /r/MensRights | 05/05/22 12:58 PM |
| 7 | Was I wrong to dump my GF because she can’t cook?Having read the OP and taking it at face value, I might have dumped him too, depending on other details. I learnt to cook by buying cookbooks. With the help of cookbooks, I'd cooked North-American, Indian, and Chinese vegan dishes with little difficulty. Now to flip the sex roles, same answer. Not only did he not know how to cook, but he didn't seem to pick up or clean up after himself and seemed not particularly interested in learning how to cook either. It wasn't just that he didn't know how t… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 11:13 PM |
| 7 | Men and boys among alleged rape victims of Russian soldiers in UkraineNow to be fair, since most people are heterosexual, rape or sexual assault for sexual gratification will usually target a victim of the opposite sex. Since most of the Russian soldiers are male, rapes for sexual gratification will usually target female victims. That said, we can't ignore another kind of rape: purely for revenge, punishment, or to vent anger. In this case, the aggressor will likely not use a part of his own body but maybe a bar, a stick, or a rifle barrel. While they could inflic… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Why Men Should Care About Roe V. WadeAnd even many of those who aren't hard-pro-choice will often still lean more towards pro-choice on the spectrum. | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 09:04 PM |
| 6 | Invest in Marriage!Must be feminists! | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 07:47 PM |
| 58 | #MenToo is trending on Twitter because of the Depp/Heard Trial...If a petite woman suddenly sexually assaults a man when his guard is down, that can put him into mental shock. I've experienced it. Yes I contributed negligently to it by unnecessarily and unreasonably letting my guard down. But once that woman attacked, I initially resisted gently while being careful not to injure her. My mind was racing as I was trying to process what was happening in real time. She escalated her aggression and I escalated my resistance back and forth until she finally became … | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Women entirely at fault for false accusations?Unfortunately this was in 2001. I was so shocked I just left to work abroad. It would be hard to identify her or trace her back now. But it does raise questions on whether some women (sometimes even abusers themselves) might be actively encouraged (maybe even pressured in some cases) to identify any act against them that could in any way be interpreted as abuse. Of course the accuser is still at least partially responsible for a false accusation. I can imagine though that in many cases, she migh… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Women entirely at fault for false accusations?Agreed! | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 06:09 PM |
| 1 | where MRAs might commonly disagreeTrue enough. I think MRAs are generally more sensitive to promoting rights for men that do not undermine women's legitimate rights (as opposed to feminist privileges). Feminists show little concern for how the policies they promote might adversely affect men. | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 05:06 PM |
| 2 | where MRAs might commonly disagreeMen's-Rights Advocate. | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Equal reproductive rightsSo as someone who identifies as prolife, do you support absolute LPS or strictly regulated LPS with limitations and, if so, what kind of restrictions? | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 02:44 PM |
| -1 | Equal reproductive rightsI presume you're including LPS in this? As an absolute right? Absolutely not, too much room for abuse. Also, two wrongs don't make a right. Just because a woman can obtain a medically unnecessary abortion at will doesn't automatically mean that we should then allow every womanizer to obtain LPS on demand. Three people must be considered here. Now, I have discussed one possible model for LPS elsewhere. https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/uhfzh0/paper_abortion_through_selfexclusion/?utm_m… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 02:39 PM |
| 0 | where MRAs might commonly disagreeNot all sex is rape, but how would we handle a man who pressures a woman into sex through emotional coercion when she didn't really want sex, and then he runs off to forfeit all parental responsibilities? The woman might choose to keep the child for moral or other reasons, and so who will care for the child? Yes, the mother can give the child away, but can we assure that the adopters won't abuse the child for example? It's not just about men and women since a child is involved too. For this reas… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 02:27 PM |
| 2 | where MRAs might commonly disagreeGood arguments. Thanks for that. | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 02:20 PM |
| 0 | where MRAs might commonly disagreeI'm concerned about both the woman and the child as well as the man. I used to oppose paper abortion for different reasons. After having given more thought, I'm starting to lean in its favour but with strict restrictions. If the MRM itself is divided on this issue, how do you expect the general population to accept it? Think of the MRM as a testing ground for paper abortion by exploring its pros and cons, how it might be regulated to avoid abuse, and how to ensure more MRAs could support it. If … | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 02:17 PM |
| 1 | where MRAs might commonly disagreeIf a man has an absolute right to a paper abortion, how do we deal with a man who irresponsibly sleeps around, impregnates women, and just applies for a paper abortion each time? What about 'grey-rape' cases in which the man encourages or coerces the woman into sex? It's not always easy to know where to draw the line between encouragement and coercion. As for the second point we could simply eliminate the draft. | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 02:03 PM |
| -7 | where MRAs might commonly disagreeTo reduce opposition, why not adopt more moderate goals, such as cutting all public funding for any elective circumcision? Why not explore how we could propose a right-to-paper-abortion law with strict restrictions to deter less responsible men from abusing it? Certainly a solution in peacetime. | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 01:48 PM |
| 3 | where MRAs might commonly disagreeLanguage evolves. It's usually referred to paper abortion in English because: It's only two words. It's only thirteen letters. It's only five syllables. Anyone with a basic understanding of male physiology understands that a biological male cannot get pregnant and so cannot obtain a physical abortion. It therefore becomes understood from context that it's not referring to a medical procedure but an administrative one. I'm just using the commonly used terminology: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Most posters in this sub are extremists and just talk about “feminists” are “oppressing” men instead of ACTUALLY advocating for men’s rights. Change my mind.Some of my best psychiatrists and therapists have been women too. I'm just saying that if even MRAs have voted for female candidates, and even feminists will criticize female candidates for not being feminists, then where does the problem lie? Don't blame men for women's voting options. I trust that most female voters are intelligent and have chosen the candidate they think best. Feminists might want to stop attacking female candidates and encourage women to vote for female candidates too. Don't… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 12:06 PM |
| 4 | Most posters in this sub are extremists and just talk about “feminists” are “oppressing” men instead of ACTUALLY advocating for men’s rights. Change my mind.What does history have to do with today? I wasn't even alive in the 1800s. Were you? What does it matter that most politicians are men? Do you propose a law forcing female voters to vote for female candidates? We have no control over how women vote and have no interest in restricting their voting options. If women keep voting for male candidates, find out why that might be. PS I've voted for female candidates myself. So if even MRAs might vote for female candidates, then that really raises quest… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 11:46 AM |
| 4 | Feminists and other women are losing their minds today over their loss of "rights". What "rights" are exclusive to men that we even have the opportunity to lose? It must be kind of nice to even have rights to lose.If the woman coerced you into sex, that is already a criminal offense. If you freely consented to sex, then that makes it harder to sympathize. On the plus side, the stats for this might now drop a bit: https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2014/03/coerced-sex | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 02:43 AM |
| 6 | Feminists and other women are losing their minds today over their loss of "rights". What "rights" are exclusive to men that we even have the opportunity to lose? It must be kind of nice to even have rights to lose.Fair enough. | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 02:38 AM |
| 0 | an article on why men shouldn't be able to financially abort : spoiler it would make it hard on women!!I grant that a woman can absolutely abuse it. For example, should a woman who sexually assaults or otherwise coerced a man into sex have a right to an abortion? One solution could be for the law to force women to make a choice between excessive sexual freedoms or a freedom to abort. | /r/MensRights | 04/05/22 12:21 AM |
| 2 | Mum sparks debate over parenting rules - like asking son consent to change nappyShe seems to have good intentions at least. The principle of teaching boys to assert their boundaries is a positive one. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 11:29 PM |
| 21 | "All men are responsible for the culture that allowed Sarah Everard's murder"By that logic, all women are responsible for my abusive ex-wife's behaviour. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 11:21 PM |
| 2 | Don’t sweat the small stuffI've emailed my Member of Parliant many times addressing the experiences of male victims of sexual and domestic abuse. She immediately switched to discussing 'gender-based violence.' No concern whatsoever for male victims. I guess I molested my adult female sitter when I was seven and eight years old and then abused my wife by resisting her unwanted sexual advances? | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Don’t sweat the small stuffMy sitter molested me for around a year when I was seven and eight years old. Luckily for me, I was too young to impregnate her. My ex-wife pointed a knife to her stomach threatening suicide if I tried to leave and refused to marry her. In fact, he abuse broke me into marrying her. Teachers abuse tean boys too. You clearly have little understanding of the dynamics of sexual abuse. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Don’t sweat the small stuffIt is illegal, but good luck proving it in most cases. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Don’t sweat the small stuffOne man told me many months ago how he'd impregnated his child's mother when he was passed out. Generally speaking, the abuser doesn't worry about the niceties of putting a condom on him. If the rules were reversed, would you even think of blaming a female rape victim for not being on the pill at all times just in case? Should men just wear condoms ar all times? Oh wait, the woman could rip it off. Maybe require men to use a combination padlock on their pants in case the woman spikes his drink a… | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 10:30 PM |
| -1 | an article on why men shouldn't be able to financially abort : spoiler it would make it hard on women!!I accept that human life starts at conception, yet I still lean mostly pro-choice for medical reasons to avoid things like this: https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/world/2021/nov/06/poles-march-against-abortion-ban-after-pregnant-womans-death As a result, I tend to favour granting women a right to an abortion but hesitate to grant the same to men without some assurance that they couldn't abuse that right too freely. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 09:10 PM |
| -2 | an article on why men shouldn't be able to financially abort : spoiler it would make it hard on women!!Interesting. So what would you think of a law that gave both men and women the choice between the right to fornicate and the right to a medically unnecessary abortion or paper abortion, with each person being free to choose between the two? | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 08:53 PM |
| 1 | being in CF reddit and trying to speak about men's right always becomes "I'm the bad guy"Thanks! | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 08:34 PM |
| 1 | being in CF reddit and trying to speak about men's right always becomes "I'm the bad guy"What's CF? | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 08:22 PM |
| -1 | Paper abortion through self-exclusion?I'm all for men's rights, but not at the expense of women's legitimate rights. I might be open to granting a woman a right only to a medically recommended abortion but not simply any abortion on demand. However, the idea that a man could legally see his wild oats AND obtain a paper abortion are two incompatible rights and even quite harmful to society when granted together. If we are going to grant men a right to a paper abortion, then we should have a right to restrict his sexual freedoms too. … | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 08:10 PM |
| 0 | Paper abortion through self-exclusion?Actually, this would give the government less control. At present, I do not enjoy any right to a paper abortion. Under a Right-to-Self-Exclusion Act, I would then be granted the choice, at my own discretion, to obtain a right to a paper abortion by self-excluding from the freedom to fornicate. Given the potential implications for a man to consensually have sex with a woman even rape her (which is very hard to prove) and then just obtain a paper abortion and leave the mother to deal with the cons… | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Change.orgYou read it correctly. The law doesn't impose a clear definition, which ensures that things like forced to penetrate won't be excluded. Rape, forced to penetrate, all of these just fall under the same broad definition along with slapping someone's butt or groping a person. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Change.orghttp://www.criminal-code.ca/criminal-code-of-canada-section-271-sexual-assault/ | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Change.orghttps://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/acts/c-46/section-271.html It covers any unwanted sexual experience regardless of sex all the way up to include rape. At least it's gender-neutral in the law books, which us a start. Now we just need to ensure that it's applied equally. Canadian law has no separate law for rape. Rape just falls under sexual assault. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 07:14 PM |
| -3 | an article on why men shouldn't be able to financially abort : spoiler it would make it hard on women!!Fair enough. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 06:24 PM |
| -10 | an article on why men shouldn't be able to financially abort : spoiler it would make it hard on women!!There exist fundamental differences between a women's access to an abortion and a man's right to a paper abortion: https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/world/2021/nov/06/poles-march-against-abortion-ban-after-pregnant-womans-death You seem to treat them as completely equal issues. Male and female physiology are different, and so the law must reflect that. Equality is not the same as sameness. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 05:48 PM |
| -17 | an article on why men shouldn't be able to financially abort : spoiler it would make it hard on women!!Up until recently, I leaned against the male right to a paper abortion out of a concern for how it could be abused. Having given it more thought, I suppose it could be a good idea under certain conditions to make abuse more difficult. I present the following as a hypothetical model. Here in Canada, I can legally consent to sex starting at the age of sixteen and, biologically, most boys can impregnate a woman once they reach the age of twelve. Add to that that female sexual abuse of boys and men … | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 05:41 PM |
| 1 | How to help advance the cause for paper abortionUp until recently, I leaned against the male right to a paper abortion out of a concern for how it could be abused. Having given it more thought, I suppose it could be a good idea under certain conditions to make abuse more difficult. I present the following as a hypothetical model. Here in Canada, I can legally consent to sex starting at the age of sixteen and, biologically, most boys can impregnate a woman once they reach the age of twelve. Add to that that female sexual abuse of boys and men … | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionSo should the man be able to just claim he was assaulted? What should be the burden of proof in that case? | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the Male/Paper Abortion?Up until recently, I leaned against the male right to a paper abortion out of a concern for how it could be abused. Having given it more thought, I suppose it could be a good idea under certain conditions to make abuse more difficult. I present the following as a hypothetical model. Here in Canada, I can legally consent to sex starting at the age of sixteen and, biologically, most boys can impregnate a woman once they reach the age of twelve. Add to that that female sexual abuse of boys and men … | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 05:11 PM |
| 10 | Feminists and other women are losing their minds today over their loss of "rights". What "rights" are exclusive to men that we even have the opportunity to lose? It must be kind of nice to even have rights to lose.There is an important difference. An abortion might sometimes be medically necessary: https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/world/2021/nov/06/poles-march-against-abortion-ban-after-pregnant-womans-death https://www.npr.org/2022/02/28/1083536401/texas-abortion-law-6-months | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 04:38 PM |
| 1 | How to address MRA-sympathetic feminists?Through its association with radical feminism, 'Patriarchy' now triggers a very toxic and negative emotional response. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 04:19 PM |
| 1 | I just didI don't understand the humour in that. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 03:47 PM |
| 1 | How to address MRA-sympathetic feminists?But there was a transition period during which she was conflicted. She identified as a feminist due to her misunderstanding it's TRUE aims. In other words, even when she called herself a feminist, her intentions were still sincere. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 03:28 PM |
| 1 | How to address MRA-sympathetic feminists?Cassie Jay originally identified as a feminist too, didn't she? | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 03:17 PM |
| 2 | How can men support female MRAs?I often make mistakes too. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 02:06 PM |
| 1 | How can men support female MRAs?But she still empathizes with male issues. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 01:52 PM |
| 3 | Women use more cosmetics yet men are still more likely to develop cancerI'm balding, but given how baldness has no negative health effects, I would certainly not consider that a research priority. However, given higher addiction rates among men, that is something we need to address more seriously. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 12:21 PM |
| 19 | Thoughts about Depp-Heard hearingPlease bear in mind that many of us who've become MRAs (myself included) are men who have not only experienced severe abuse and trauma from a woman, but then had that experience invalidated sometimes by the very people who were supposed to help them (such as mental-health professionals, police, judges, etc.) Bear in mind that if you do end up with an abusive wife, you could face the same trauma we did. You can learn from us by approaching relationships with extreme caution, really getting to kno… | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 12:19 PM |
| 1 | How can men support female MRAs?I was just asking a question. That's how people learn. One of the main things that pushed me towards the MRM was not my experience of sexual and domestic abuse, but the seeming willingness of feminists to accept male victims (and even female victims of female abusers) as collateral damage in their desire to protect female victims of male abusers. A number of years ago, I'd come across a woman online who had experienced rape from a man but still stood up for male victims too. We must accept that … | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 12:06 PM |
| 3 | Change.orgCanadian law dropped the term 'rape' and now just refers to sexual assault which includes both rape and forced to penetrate. | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 04:11 AM |
| 3 | How can men support female MRAs?How so? Think Erin Pizzey among many others. In fact, Pizzey started the first abused-women's shelter in the UK in the '70s before feminists kicked her out and took over because she dared acknowledge male victims too: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erin_Pizzey As a victim of sexual and domestic abuse myself, including from my ex wife, I don't understand what is so hilarious about promoting basic human rights. Could you please explain that? | /r/MensRights | 03/05/22 03:40 AM |
| 2 | "we cannot give up the terrain of engaging and transforming masculinities to men" - Academic FeministIn many ways, we are. Many misandrist laws hurt not only men, but the women who love them too. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 10:16 PM |
| 4 | How can men support female MRAs?Because they support us for one thing. And I'm sure some of them might face sexism from both sides. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 09:17 PM |
| 5 | How can men support female MRAs?Thank you! | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 04:48 PM |
| 62 | 'Gender corrective mechanism' had the reverse effect.I will happily vote for a female candidate who distances herself from misandry and who promotes justice for all. Unfortunately, some try to suppress any female candidate who doesn't tow the hard feminist party line. They want more women in Parliament, but they also want to decide which women are deserving of the spot. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 04:23 PM |
| 18 | A trend I noticed when woman and men ask about relationship advice.My ex wife was emotionally and sexually abusive to the point of my ending up in hospital for a suicide attempt, yet just because she wasn't physically abusive, I refused to accept until many years later that I'd been a victim of abuse and suffered PTSD. Even after she'd pointed a knife to her stomach threatening suicide, I blamed myself for complying with her wishes because I was too weak to stand my ground even though she was pointing the knife to herself and not threatening my physical safety … | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 03:40 PM |
| 1 | How can men support female MRAs?Thanks! | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 03:20 PM |
| 6 | How to tell between a misandrist MRA and a feminist provocateur?True. I guess the best we can do is give them the benefit of the doubt that they're just ignorant MRAs, kindly educate them, but also remind people generally, without accusing any specific poster, that there might be feminist provocateurs posting a misogynistic MRAs without denying that misogyny might sometimes manifest itself in the MRM unfortunately. I guess that's all we can really do in the end. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 02:44 PM |
| 1 | How can men support female MRAs?'Prim?' | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 02:21 PM |
| 42 | How can men support female MRAs?Feminists really are prepared to throw non-feminist women to the sharks aren't they. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 02:01 PM |
| 45 | How can men support female MRAs?"Pick-mes?" Is that what feminists call non-feminist women now? | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 01:49 PM |
| 11 | How can men support female MRAs?They most certainly do exist: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honey_badger_(men%27s_rights) | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Addiction, right to self-exclusion, MRM issues?Who would pressure him to self-exclude precisely? His spouse? Perhaps, but for that we need to address domestic abuse more broadly, not deny addicts access to self-exclusion. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 12:12 PM |
| 3 | "we cannot give up the terrain of engaging and transforming masculinities to men" - Academic Feminist"We commit to centering gender justice, women’s rights, LGBTQI rights and anti-oppression movements in our individual and collective work. Our members are part of – or strive to work in partnership with – feminist-informed movements seeking justice and equity for all and a healthy planet." https://menengage.org/about/ It seems that this organization welcomes only feminists: non-feminist women need not apply. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 12:00 PM |
| 5 | "we cannot give up the terrain of engaging and transforming masculinities to men" - Academic FeministAnd women too. Even many women now distance themselves from feminism. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 11:48 AM |
| 8 | "we cannot give up the terrain of engaging and transforming masculinities to men" - Academic FeministWorse than that. It divides feminists and non-feminists into two groups. They treat non-feminist women, many of whom are member or even leaders in the MRM, as traitors to the cause. They might hate non-feminist women even more than they do men! | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 11:45 AM |
| 2 | "we cannot give up the terrain of engaging and transforming masculinities to men" - Academic FeministDoesn't the MRM welcome women as equals and sometimes even leaders in the movement? Ah but those women are not feminists, so they don't count the MRM needs to ensure feminists are dictating the rules to keep the treasonous non-feminist women from feeding dangerous ideas to the MRM. Meanwhile the best a man can be in the feminist movement is a second-class "ally" expected to sit down, shut up, and listen. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 11:42 AM |
| 2 | Addiction, right to self-exclusion, MRM issues?I'm not arguing men get molested more, but rather that male victims are more ignored by society, less likely to be believed, less likely to receive adequate psychiatric support until damage is already severe, etc. That might explain much higher suicide, addiction, and homelessness rates in men. Given how these biases against male victims won't disappear any time soon, a right to self exclusion could help such men to help themselves in the meantime. And of course we could allow self-exclusion for… | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 11:34 AM |
| 1 | Addiction, right to self-exclusion, MRM issues?I'm for a right to self-exclusion. Let's say it's for five years autorenewable unless the self-excluded person requests to end the auto renew. As for the example of assisted suicide, I do have concerns about that, but I see it as a separate matter. Also, do we ban abortion out of a fear that a woman might be pressured into one? Do we ban hijabs out of a fear that a woman might be pressured to wear one? | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 11:28 AM |
| 3 | Is it true that in western country generally speaking, if a woman trying to falsely accuse a man of domestic violence by hitting herself to make real bruises, she will likely to success?That was around twenty years ago, but it certainly left enduring scars. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 11:19 AM |
| 1 | How to treat pre-offending female sexual addicts?That is true. But if she already works with children, how do we overcome her fear of losing her job for seeking help? Offer retraining for a different field? Something else? I know it's complicated, but I am open to ideas to overcome this. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Should we have a right to an inquisitorial hearing on request?Good point. I'd personally still prefer an inquisitorial hearing as it would grant the judge more power to investigate and access proof that the prosecutor might otherwise try to suppress. Since it can have pros and cons, I suppose it could be left as a choice; but I would think it reasonable to grant the accused the right to an inquisitorial trial on request. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 02:19 AM |
| 3 | Applying best practice to men's human rights. My new project for bureaucratic activism. Want to help?I had the privilege of molesting my female sitter when I was seven and eight years old and then of abusing my ex wife by resisting her aggressive sexual advances. This might educate you about the male sexual experience: https://canadiancrc.com/FEMALE-SEX-OFFENDERS-PREDATORS-DOCUMENTARY-CTV-WHEN-GIRLS-DO-IT.aspx | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 02:09 AM |
| 8 | Is it true that in western country generally speaking, if a woman trying to falsely accuse a man of domestic violence by hitting herself to make real bruises, she will likely to success?There are good male psychiatrists and therapists too, though that field does tend to be female-dominated, so you're far more likely to get a female for that reason. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 01:38 AM |
| 15 | Is it true that in western country generally speaking, if a woman trying to falsely accuse a man of domestic violence by hitting herself to make real bruises, she will likely to success?I'm doing much better now. Thanks for the concern. That said, I have had much more caring psychiatrists and therapists since, female ones at that. Those psychiatrists and therapists who can keep feminist ideology out of their profession can do much good. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 01:26 AM |
| 1 | How to handle suicide threatsgsdf? | /r/MensRights | 02/05/22 12:30 AM |
| 16 | Is it true that in western country generally speaking, if a woman trying to falsely accuse a man of domestic violence by hitting herself to make real bruises, she will likely to success?Also there is the shame of caving to emotional or verbal coercion, stalking, or blackmail without a threat of physical violence against the man. We're taught that unless the woman is threatening the man's physical safety, he has no excuse for giving in to her demands no matter the pressure. Even after I caved to my wife's suicide threat, I blamed myself for giving in and complying to her wishes. That's just how society has taught many of us. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/22 11:56 PM |
| 43 | Is it true that in western country generally speaking, if a woman trying to falsely accuse a man of domestic violence by hitting herself to make real bruises, she will likely to success?I'd go further. Don't even think of sex until you know her well and, if she pressures you into sex through emotional and verbal coercion, stalking, blackmailing, and just generally refusing to take no for an answer, that's a huge red flag. She pressured me into sex and later escalated by pointing a knife to her stomach threatening suicide because I was trying to leave and refused to marry her. That's why I married her: I was already traumatized long before we married but I just hadn't anticipate… | /r/MensRights | 01/05/22 11:48 PM |
| 10 | Is it true that in western country generally speaking, if a woman trying to falsely accuse a man of domestic violence by hitting herself to make real bruises, she will likely to success?Truth be told, I'm curious to know the answer to the question in the OP myself. From my experience in the medical system though, I can't say I have much optimism. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/22 11:38 PM |
| 90 | Is it true that in western country generally speaking, if a woman trying to falsely accuse a man of domestic violence by hitting herself to make real bruises, she will likely to success?I was lucky. However emotionally and sexually abusive my wife was, at least least she wasn't the kind to make false accusations. She just looked confused at the doctor's statement turned to me, and then berated me for my attempt. Seeing no help there, I left to work abroad. But had my wife been the kind to make false accusations, I can only imagine how it might have turned out. I am getting help now around twenty years later following a mental breakdown and hospitalization a few years ago. I now… | /r/MensRights | 01/05/22 11:36 PM |
| 224 | Is it true that in western country generally speaking, if a woman trying to falsely accuse a man of domestic violence by hitting herself to make real bruises, she will likely to success?I'm not sure about in the legal sense, but in terms of medical bias, definitely. My ex wife had no bruises and never even accused me of abusing her. Yet after I'd ended up in hospital following a suicide attempt, the psychiatrist told me based on no proof but her feminist education that I'd done so as an alternative to killing my wife. Now imagine if my wife had had bruises or had made a false accusation against me. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/22 11:28 PM |
| 7 | I feel like this sub group doesn’t focus on men’s mental issues actually getting help. You are fighting against women. You have a tag called “feminism”Oh I have done that. Males suffer disproportionately from different addictions. I have emailed my representatives suggesting stricter self-exclusion laws like they have in Singapore and elsewhere: https://www.ncpg.org.sg/ And something similar to a cashless welfare card as in Australia: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cashless_Welfare_Card Given the tendency for institutions to invalidate the male experience of IPV, I have contacted my representatives on a number of occasions to better educate l… | /r/MensRights | 01/05/22 10:33 PM |
| 11 | I feel like this sub group doesn’t focus on men’s mental issues actually getting help. You are fighting against women. You have a tag called “feminism”I focus on bringing attention to: female sexual and domestic abuse of boys and men, how education could more effectively teach and prepare boys to define, assert, and defend their boundaries even in the face of female emotional and verbal coercion and blackmail, how laws could better protect men from trauma-induced addiction. I've even emailed my representatives in government and even spoken to one about it through Zoom. After I'd discussed my experiences of childhood sexual abuse from my sitter… | /r/MensRights | 01/05/22 10:18 PM |
| 2 | Just when I thought feminism couldn't be more confusingAnother possible reason for the ban was that at least one feminist on there was agreeing with me on a few points but soon retracted after getting a warning from the MOD to tow the party line. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/22 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Just when I thought feminism couldn't be more confusingI found the most confusing part being how I defended separate washrooms, changerooms, dorm rooms, and shower rooms for women and blocking biological males from competing in any women's sports in which he'd have an unfair advantage (maybe with the exception of tai chi form competitions and the like where biological masculinity would give the man no unfair advantage). To my surprise, I was called a mysoginist and transphobic for proposing that. I imagine most nonfeminist women women would rather n… | /r/MensRights | 01/05/22 05:15 PM |
| 3 | Just when I thought feminism couldn't be more confusingHa, I just got permanently banned from Ask Feminists for cross-posting here. Oh well. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/22 04:49 PM |
| -1 | We can be betterAnd feminists who say 'kill all men' push more women away from feminism. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 11:56 PM |
| 11 | We can be betterAnd feminists getting away with everything is why more women are turning MRA. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 11:54 PM |
| 6 | To male survivors of abusive relationships, how were you treated when you spoke outAfter I'd attempted suicide in Montreal in 2001, the psychiatrist told me based on no proof but her feminist education that I'd done so as an alternative to killing my Ethiopian wife. Luckily for me, however emotionally and sexually abusive my wife was, at least she wasn't the kind to make false accusations. She just looked confused at the doctor's comment and then berated me for my suicide attempt. Seeing no help there, I left to work abroad. At that time, I was in denial that I was in an abusi… | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 09:05 PM |
| 14 | We can be betterWe should address the problem of men who abuse women and female victims who are disbelieved too to the degree that we can. The problem is that most of the advertizing presents violence as male-on-female by default as if the reverse doesn't exist. In that sense, the MRM is an extension of feminism. While acknowledging what women experience, we acknowledge men too. By the way, would you say the queens and empresses of the past had it worse than male slaves? And what does history have to do with th… | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 08:19 PM |
| 15 | We can be betterThanks for the help! | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 08:13 PM |
| 19 | We can be betterWhere do you think we are? | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 08:07 PM |
| 5 | Incels aren't to be laughed at – they're only going to get more dangerousI might have overgeneralized in addressing the more extreme cases. If a man is involuntarily celibate but still respects others' boundaries, then I have no problem with that. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 08:02 PM |
| 21 | We can be betterReference? | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 08:00 PM |
| 15 | We can be betterHow many MRA's have you met who deny that men abuse, beat, rape, or even kill women? Where're just trying to shed light on the fact that any person can abuse any other person. After I'd attempted suicide in Montreal in 2001, the psychiatrist told me based on no proof but her feminist education that I'd done so as an alternative to killing my Ethiopian wife. Luckily for me, however emotionally and sexually abusive my wife was, at least she wasn't the kind to make false accusations. She just looke… | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 07:55 PM |
| 26 | Incels aren't to be laughed at – they're only going to get more dangerousMany incels might be dealing with underlying trauma and don't know where to turn for help, so they join the incel culture. I'm not defending them, but just saying that lack of mental health and abuse services for men might be the primary contributing factor to incel culture. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 07:44 PM |
| 19 | We can be betterSo what does a man not being able to get sex have to do with anything? Just as women enjoy no fundamental right to sex, neither do men: and I'm sure most MRA's would agree with that statement. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 07:42 PM |
| 34 | We can be betterWhy do you presume that men always want sex? I'm a heterosexual male, yet when in an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship with my ex-wife, I tried all kinds of ways to get away from her. I've since been diagnosed with PTSD. The feminist narrative that men always want sex is what leads to the belief that a woman who forces herself onto a man or pressures him into sex causes no harm and is even doing him a favour. Feminist stereotypes aside, no, even a heterosexual man does not necessaril… | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 07:35 PM |
| 2 | auto ban for users of "femanist" subsWell this sub shouldn't be regulating what other subs one can visit. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 03:06 PM |
| 5 | auto ban for users of "femanist" subsI like getting brigades in this sub because it's an opportunity to engage with feminists who otherwise would have little exposure to MRA beliefs. Consider too that they probably screenshot posts from the misogynist fringes of the MRM. By visiting this sub, they soon discover that the fringes do not represent the broader MRM. In fact, to be fair, if I believed that the fringes represented the majority, I'd probably distrust the MRM too. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 02:07 PM |
| 7 | auto ban for users of "femanist" subsThough I lean more MRM, I have occasionally visited feminist subs (at least until I was banned or found my posts regularly removed). Though I lean pro-choice, I've still visited pro-life subs. In fact, I got banned from a pro-choice sub for my participation in this one. Though I don't profess the Christian Faith, I still occasionally post in Christian subs. The presumption that participation in a sub proves agreement with its mainstream beliefs is simplistic and foolish at best. For example, wou… | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 01:51 PM |
| 1 | What’s the vibe here?I agree that you'll find misandry on feminist subs too, so I wasn't comparing. In fact, I'd say misogyny gets called out far more on this sub than misandry does in the feminist subs that I've visited, where misandry sometimes runs rampant. Again, I was just commenting on this sub, not comparing to any other sub. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/22 01:11 PM |
| 9 | What’s the vibe here?You might occasionally find misogyny in this sub unfortunately, but that's the fringe. The vast majority in this sub is simply trying to shine a light on legitimate men's issues that most feminists like to censor. Mysogynist posts are generally called out quite quickly by the majority here. | /r/MensRights | 24/04/22 11:12 PM |
| 3 | Man out on jog tazed by random woman as he passes her. He asks reddit if he should gonto cops, everyone tells him he's in the wrong.He wasn't tazed but pepper spray. There was no reason for the woman to do that and she should be charged with assault. | /r/MensRights | 24/04/22 06:32 PM |
| 3 | Jada Pinkett-Smith and Amber Heard Make Me Question: Why Is No One Talking About 'Toxic Femininity'?Femininity is no more toxic than Masculinity. Toxic feminism, that's another matter. | /r/MensRights | 24/04/22 06:04 PM |
| 85 | 12 year old arrested for rape todayI remember forcing a kiss onto a classmate when I was eight years old. Bear in mind that my sitter had been molesting me during that time too. Just to say that a mentally healthy boy will not normally do such things. | /r/MensRights | 22/04/22 01:38 PM |
| 3 | Abuse by suicide threats?I ended up marrying my ex-wife after she'd pointed a knife to her stomach with tears flowing. I would have been happy to never see her again, but still feared her killing herself. In fact, I believed that she probably wouldn't have acted on her threat, but just the fact that I couldn't be sure was enough to trap me. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 07:42 PM |
| 17 | Our sub is being infiltrated by feminists with some of them creating posts WELCOMING feminists into our Men's Rights Sub-Even older feminists admit modern feminism is "toxic" & "man hating"-so WHY are a few individuals trying to invite MORE here...?How can we educate feminists without interacting with them? Since many of us are already banned from many other subs, we can't engage with them there, so we can only hope they come here to engage with us. Let's not confuse men's-rights advocacy with misogyny. Some feminists sincerely believe in feminism and it's only through a friendly exchange of ideas that we can change their views. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 07:36 PM |
| -2 | Our sub is being infiltrated by feminists with some of them creating posts WELCOMING feminists into our Men's Rights Sub-Even older feminists admit modern feminism is "toxic" & "man hating"-so WHY are a few individuals trying to invite MORE here...?I'm hardly a feminist. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 07:32 PM |
| 6 | Where do Men go for Support?I'm sorry to read that. After I'd attempted suicide in Montreal in 2001, the psychiatrist told me based on no proof but her feminist education that I'd done so as an alternative to killing my wife. Luckily for me, however emotionally and sexually abusive my wife was, at least she wasn't the kind to make false accusations. She just looked confused at the doctor's comment and then berated me for attempting suicide. Seeing no help there, I left to work abroad More recently over two years ago follow… | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 04:31 PM |
| 10 | Where do Men go for Support?Oh no! I've had dangerously horrible therapists and wonderful ones.Have you considered looking for another therapist? | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 04:04 PM |
| 4 | Warning to feminists on this subI'm sure different members here come with different intentions. In my case, I like to discuss the pros and cons of different policies. For example, is a right to a paper abortion a good idea or not? Why or why not? If a good idea in principle, how would we implement it so as to avoid the potential harms of granting such a right? How should we address female sexual abuse of men and women? Public education? Legislation? Programs? What are the pros and cons of these solutions? Should we aim for equ… | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 03:59 PM |
| 6 | Men cannot be rapedAccording to them, I raped my adult female sitter when I was seven and eight years old. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Warning to feminists on this subSo should we put her through a lie-detector test. I personally like to give everyone the benefit of any reasonable doubt. Even some feminists are sincere in their beliefs. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 10:45 AM |
| 3 | Warning to feminists on this subAnd thank you for joining us! | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 10:24 AM |
| 3 | Warning to feminists on this subCasey Jay was feminist but changed her mind after engaging with MRAs. He had those MRAs refused to engage her, the Red Pill would not exist today or, alternatively, would have presented a much more negative image of the MRM, and perhaps deservedly had they mistreated her. Notice in the film how they all treated her with respect. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Warning to feminists on this subSome feminists come to learn more about MRAs. Nothing wrong with that. We should welcome them. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 10:19 AM |
| 3 | Warning to feminists on this subAh, interesting. In the feminist subs that didn't ban me, they always removed any link I posted to this sub. I disagree with following their example. If this sub allowed posting links to other subs, it would actually improve its content in my opinion. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 10:16 AM |
| 6 | Warning to feminists on this subI've been banned from other subs for having joined this one. | /r/MensRights | 21/04/22 12:00 AM |
| 3 | Warning to feminists on this subThey should rename those subs to feministechochamber. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 08:59 PM |
| 11 | Warning to feminists on this subSo no feminist has ever turned MRA later? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 08:50 PM |
| 16 | Warning to feminists on this subNever mind women. Even feminists are welcome as long as they engage in a respectful manner. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Warning to feminists on this subFrom my understanding, it's very unpredictable. I've been banned from some subs merely due to my having joined this sub. Some subs didn't ban me per se, but disallowed discussion on such a wide range of topics and gave warnings if we did that it was a waste of time to even try to engage in those subs. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 07:38 PM |
| 6 | Warning to feminists on this subI presume that the feminists who visit this sub are not the same ones who are banning us from other subs. I presume that the ones who visit this sub are either: Trying to convert us into feminist allies (or feminists in the case of female MRAs), Want to learn more about the men's rights movement, or Both. Either way, if they are respectful, I personally welcome them. It's not like MRAs and feminists can interact much elsewhere on Reddit, right? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Warning to feminists on this subYou'd have to become belligerent, confrontational. If you're just sharing your ideas in a civil manner and respect others' right to share theirs too (no need to agree necessarily, just show common respect and courtesy), you're not likely to get banned from this sub. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 07:26 PM |
| 14 | Warning to feminists on this subActually, even MRAs often disagree on these matters. There are pro-life MRAs and MRAs who lean against the male right to a paper abortion, etc. Overall, I'd say the MRM is a reaction to feminism.If you fall outside of feminist orthodoxy, you'll be labeled an MRA. Many of just just decided to own that term after awhile. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 01:33 PM |
| 31 | Warning to feminists on this subI'd been banned from a pro-choice sub even though I lean pro-choice myself just because of my having joined this sub. I hope you don't get banned from other subs. I'm just giving you a heads up. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 12:11 PM |
| 25 | Warning to feminists on this subI'd been banned from another sub merely for having joined this one. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menFair enough. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:46 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menI'm sorry you had to meet the more foolish MRA's. But at least in this sub, you can defend yourself against them and even some MRAs will step in to defend you. I've been banned from other subs for my mere participation in this one. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:43 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menIt was to explain why more women than men might attend university | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menJust read up the thread about how more women go to university because men are lazy. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menBy all means. I don't think you'll be banned from this sub unless you really become belligerent. By the way, I welcome you into the MRM with open arms. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:37 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menYou called me lazy earlier without knowing my life experience. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:34 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menI've been banned from subs for my mere participation in this one. Why do you think we're so welcoming of feminists on MRA subs? Because here is the only place we can interact with feminists without getting banned. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:33 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menI helped to put my wife (now ex) through university. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:29 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menFemale MRAs are not just allies, but equals. We also stand up for female victims of female aggressors by providing them a platform to share their stories here. We even welcome victims of male aggression too. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menIf women are oppressed, why do more women attend university? I have no qualms about more women attending university. My issue is with feminists claiming to be oppressed. I can guarantee you have more freedom to express your feminist ideas in this sub than I would to express MRM ideas in a feminist sub. I'm sure many of us would happily share our ideas on feminist subs but we've often already been banned from all kinds of other subs just for our mere participation in this sub.Feminism reigns. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:22 AM |
| 3 | Question about feminist menWhy is it that in feminism, a male could become an ally at best, whereas in the MRM, women are accepted as equals and can even take leadership roles as has Errin Pizzey. She's not just an MRA, but very much a leader in the movement. Refuge is the first domestic abuse shelter in the west that she started in the 1950's. Feminists kicked her out of it after she spoke on behalf of male victims too. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:16 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menDid you help put your husband through university? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:09 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menDo you know me? I have emailed my representatives proposing ideas to more effectively deter the rate of sexual abuse for men and women both. The reason we speak more about men's issues is simply to counterbalance the excessive focus on women's issues, just like Errin Pizzey. Few MRAs deny women get abused too.Few MRAs would disbelieve a women's rape claim by default. Such MRAs represent the fringes of the movement. Why are male feminists merely 'allies' whereas female MRAs are our equals and som… | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menI never made it to college. I was saving for university while working before I'd met my abusive ex-wife. In fact, I was helping pay food and rent while she went to university. Did you know more women than men attend university? Why is that? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 10:55 AM |
| 1 | Question about feminist menHave you noticed how freely you can Express your feminist beliefs here in the Men's Rights sub? That's what I like about the MRM, we can actually freely express our beliefs. My guess is that if we were having this discussion on a feminist sub, I'd have been banned long ago. Adam I right? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 10:52 AM |
| 2 | Question about feminist menHow was that study I linked to unreliable? Are you saying any research study pertaining to male experiences must be viewed as suspect? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 10:49 AM |
| 2 | Question about feminist menWhat's your take on this study? https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/08862605211035870 My own experience confirms the results of that study. After I'd attempted suicide in Montreal in 2001, the psychiatrist told me based on no proof but her feminist education that I'd attempted suicide as an alternative to killing my wife. Luckily for me,however emotionally and sexually abusive my wife was, at least she wasn't the kind to make false accusations. She just looked confused at the doctor's … | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 10:37 AM |
| 2 | Question about feminist menSo what's your take on male victims, female abusers, and the male help-seeking experience of often being disbelieved even when seeking help? What's your take on domestic-assault posters that tell men to listen to women while ignoring that many men have been abused by women? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 10:12 AM |
| 2 | Question about feminist menSo how did she later start to speak out for the rights of male victims too? And why did she distance herself from the feminist movement? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 10:06 AM |
| 2 | Question about feminist menOh, my mistake, so she wasn't even a feminist when she started refuge? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 09:57 AM |
| 2 | Question about feminist menYe shall know them by their fruits. At best, a man can be a feminist ally expected to sit down, shut up, and listen and apologize for having a penis. Women in the MRM are not just allies but equals and, in some cases, even take leadership roles in the MRM, like Errin Pizzey, Karen Straughn, and many other examples. If feminism is for equality and the MRM oppresses women, howcan that be? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 09:56 AM |
| 4 | Question about feminist menDidn't she leave because they opposed her desire to help battered men too in their insistence that all domestic violence is male on female, that a man is always the aggressor and a woman is always the victim? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 09:51 AM |
| 3 | Question about feminist menWhy did Erin Pizzey, the originator of Refuge, leave feminism to join the MRM? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 09:42 AM |
| 4 | Question about feminist menNot at all. Even after she left feminism, she continued to champion female victims. But why did feminists kick her out of Refuge and refuse to acknowledge her accomplishment? What made her leave feminism and join the MRM in spite of her still caring for female victims? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 09:39 AM |
| 6 | Question about feminist menWasn't Erin Pizzey a feminist when she first started Refuge? | /r/MensRights | 20/04/22 01:21 AM |
| 21 | Question about feminist menThe fact that the MRM welcomes women as equals and even in leadership roles does say a lot about the MRM. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/22 03:27 PM |
| 6 | Question about feminist menCaricaturization aside, I'm sure many intelligent men who identify as feminists might still hold to some beliefs that fall outside of feminist orthodoxy. I know that even though I lean more towards MRA than feminist, I too agree with feminists on some points that many MRAs might dislike. Intelligent human beings are usually more nuanced than caricaturization allows. That's why the feminist movement is shooting itself in the foot by trying to act as gatekeeper to approved ideas. Anyone who falls … | /r/MensRights | 19/04/22 03:24 PM |
| 15 | Question about feminist menGood point. Some can be quite disrespectful themselves. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/22 12:45 PM |
| 6 | Question about feminist menI remember once debating a white nationalist online a few years ago.He mentioned that whites shouldn't marry out of their race. To test him, I asked him which he'd choose, all else being equal, between a wife of the same race but with whom he shared no common language and a wife of a different race with whom he shared a common language. He answered that he'd still marry the white woman because he could learn her language, but the black woman couldn't become white. Surprised at his answer, I reco… | /r/MensRights | 19/04/22 11:46 AM |
| 2 | Wow. Just wowOr it will turn ever more women against feminism. Feminism has become so extreme that it now deplatforms even women who have been abused by another women. Some of these women are more readily welcome in the men's rights movement than in the feminist movement. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/22 11:17 AM |
| 3 | Got permbanned from MensLibProbably. Who understands men's issues better than privileged feminist women who've been taught in university that even women who aren't feminists are self-hating misogynist traitors to the cause? On a serious note, why do some women seem to prefer this sub to that one? | /r/MensRights | 19/04/22 11:11 AM |
| 9 | Wow. Just wowI've also been banned before I could even comment. As far as I'm concerned, if someone posts misandry all over Reddit but follows this sub's rules and is respectful in this sub, I'd ignore her misandry from the other subs and treat her with respect in this one. I essentially treat each thread like it's a different person. I could be really friendly with you in one thread while at the same time telling you in another thread to take a hike. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/22 12:32 AM |
| 27 | Wow. Just wowI've been banned from other subs just for being a member of this one. I believe (and hope) that this sub doesn't block others for what they do outside of this sub. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/22 12:18 AM |
| 3 | Simple tips to make spotting Femtroll Lurkers easier: More and more feminists are organising & brigading & lurking in our sub all the time, pretending to be MRA posters but derailing/posting hate/disrupting Here's a collection of tips from various MRA posters on tell tale signs of such femlurkers.Sounds good. Thank you. That said, while I certainly don't condone it, I still don't think the men's rights sub should ban anyone for having posted misandrist content on another sub. What they do on another sub is not this sub's business as long as they follow the rules of this sub when posting in this sub. I might be wrong for believing that, but that's just how I feel about it. | /r/MensRights | 18/04/22 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Simple tips to make spotting Femtroll Lurkers easier: More and more feminists are organising & brigading & lurking in our sub all the time, pretending to be MRA posters but derailing/posting hate/disrupting Here's a collection of tips from various MRA posters on tell tale signs of such femlurkers.Not reliable at all. I've been banned from other subs for my having participated on this one, the presumption being that since I post here, that somehow proves that I'm a misogynist. Now here's the irony: though I've been banned from a pro-choice sub but not from a pro-life sub, I actually lean more pro-choice. It seemed they made presumptions based on where I post. I'm sure many people post on subs with which they disagree in whole or in part. What sub one participates in says little about them… | /r/MensRights | 18/04/22 08:47 PM |
| 0 | Would the right to a paper abortion reduce female sexual abuse?I especially agree with your last point. I might lean against the right to a paper abortion due to my belief its potential negative side effects outweigh its advantages, but I can still understand that it does have advantages and why some might perceive its benefits as outweighing its negatives. We don't necessarily need to agree to understand one another's point of view. Even I stand to have my mind changed and am open to an alternative hybrid proposal that gives us the advantages of a paper ab… | /r/MensRights | 18/04/22 06:34 PM |
| 0 | Would the right to a paper abortion reduce female sexual abuse?I agree. A man who knows how difficult rape is to prove might still be deterred from the fear of child support. So it might deter a few. | /r/MensRights | 18/04/22 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Would the right to a paper abortion reduce female sexual abuse?Perhaps, but it could increase the rate of male rape of women more than it would reduce the female rate of assault. It's hard to prove, so a rapist would appreciate the paper abortion.Just as a woman will usually assault the man purely for sexual gratification, I presume than male rapists are probably not planning to impregnate the female victim either. | /r/MensRights | 18/04/22 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Would the right to a paper abortion reduce female sexual abuse?It might lower the rate by a bit due to some women intending to deliver the child to entrap the father then thinking twice about it. I just question whether it would lower it enough to make it worthwhile given all of the cons listed in the other bullet points. | /r/MensRights | 18/04/22 12:08 PM |
| 23 | Male Contraceptive Pill Found 99% Effective in Mice, With No Observable Side EffectsDoes that mean that if a man who didn't take this impregnates a woman while she is sexually assaulting him, it's his fault? | /r/MensRights | 17/04/22 05:28 PM |
| 8 | Did I miss a memo somewhere? Apparently men are no longer allowed to have sexual boundaries.No one is entitled to any sex. | /r/MensRights | 16/04/22 01:23 PM |
| 28 | Did I miss a memo somewhere? Apparently men are no longer allowed to have sexual boundaries.If the state gave these women free dildos... | /r/MensRights | 15/04/22 10:13 PM |
| 1 | which do you fear most: false accusation or sexual assault?Are you suggesting that when faced with a threat of suicide or other extreme violence, we should expect a man to be able to just disconnect from his emotions? Do we expect the same of female victims? | /r/MensRights | 10/04/22 07:55 PM |
| 2 | which do you fear most: false accusation or sexual assault?When a woman threatens suicide with a knife pointed to her stomach if the man leaves her, depending on the nature of the relationship and his own mental health prior to that threat (for example, he might already have a past of childhood abuse), and given how past trauma can make him more prone to a fight-flight-freeze-or-comply response, it's much easier said than done. | /r/MensRights | 10/04/22 01:26 PM |
| 3 | which do you fear most: false accusation or sexual assault?Unless the assaults for part of a continuous abusive relationship. Even without that, pregnancy, STI's, even just psychological trauma. Not saying one's necessarily worse than the other, just that sexual assault can have long-term effects. | /r/MensRights | 10/04/22 01:02 AM |
| 1 | which do you fear most: false accusation or sexual assault?How did you vote? | /r/MensRights | 09/04/22 08:31 PM |
| 13 | which do you fear most: false accusation or sexual assault?I personally voted sexual assault, though that probably has to do with my own experiences of experiencing female sexual abuse but never a false accusation, though I'm sure personal experiences will influence how we vote on this. | /r/MensRights | 09/04/22 08:09 PM |
| 6 | A member of the national board of a Polish far left party- Razem, says that in the case of rape there should be a presumption of guilt and the rapist can only be a man(English translation below)Yeah, but by going through the first part, the accusation becomes salt in the wound. | /r/MensRights | 09/04/22 07:59 PM |
| 62 | A member of the national board of a Polish far left party- Razem, says that in the case of rape there should be a presumption of guilt and the rapist can only be a man(English translation below)So a woman could sexually assault a man then accuse him of raping her just to satisfy her sadistic urges? Wow! | /r/MensRights | 09/04/22 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortion'A total of 43 percent of high school boys and young college men reported they had an unwanted sexual experience and of those, 95 percent said a female acquaintance was the aggressor, according to a study published online in the APA journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity®.' https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2014/03/coerced-sex One man told me how is child' s mother made him impregnate her when he was passed out. My ex-wife forced me into a non-sexual relationship and later a sexual one,… | /r/MensRights | 12/03/22 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionBut do you acknowledge that after a sexual assault, a man can't just reclaim his sperm, and that an inherent conflict exists between excessive sexual freedom and more adequate sexual protection under the law? Also, how does allowing a man to self-exclude restrict the sexual freedom of other men who choose to not self-exclude? | /r/MensRights | 12/03/22 01:51 PM |
| 0 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionhttps://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/tbuhm4/why_i_fundamentally_oppose_the_male_right_to_a/i09immq?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 | /r/MensRights | 12/03/22 01:46 PM |
| 0 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionYes, it is a valid argument. However, if we allow a man the right to a paper abortion, should we not allow allow him the right to self-exclusion so as to more effectively deter sexual abuse in the first place? | /r/MensRights | 12/03/22 01:42 PM |
| -1 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionIsn't an MRA anyone who promotes more rights for men? Actually, I'm advocating to grant men more freedom (and consequently more rights) to freely choose between excessive sexual freedom and more adequate sexual protection under the law. Remember that a male victim of female sexual abuse's reproductive rights end at conception, so a man does not enjoy the freedom to decide whether to obtain an abortion or keep the child after a sexual assault. For this reason, the state has an obligation to grant… | /r/MensRights | 12/03/22 01:39 PM |
| 2 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionFair enough. I'm always open to giving the male right to a paper abortion a second thought. | /r/MensRights | 11/03/22 09:19 PM |
| 0 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionSo if you impregnated a woman who sexually assaulted you, you would have no feeling or interest towards the child at all? | /r/MensRights | 11/03/22 08:09 PM |
| 0 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionAre you sure that freedoms are never imposed? For instance, imagine the state grantong a five-year-old, or even an adult survivor of sexual trauma, the freedom to consent to all kinds of sexual acts, could we not say that that is a freedom the state is imposing onto that person at the expense of adequate protection under the law? Also, given how rights often go hand-in-hand with obligations, isn't it reasonable to presume that granting men a right to a paper abortion could legitimize further for… | /r/MensRights | 11/03/22 07:15 PM |
| -2 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionAt present, a woman does not enjoy the right to freely forfeit excessive sexual freedom for more adequate sexual protection under the law. Extreme sexual freedom is imposed on both men and women resulting in little deterrence against sexual abuse. This probably explains sky-high abuse statistics of epidemic proportions for both sexes. While I would not oppose granting women a right to self-exclude too, I would still promote such a right for men regardless of whether women wanted that same right … | /r/MensRights | 11/03/22 06:10 PM |
| -1 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionJust start somewhere! | /r/MensRights | 11/03/22 05:53 PM |
| -6 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionEven though male reproductive rights end at conception, you would still refuse to grant aman a free choice, should he wish to do so, to exchange excessive sexual freedom for more adequate sexual protection under the law? How would giveng men more choice in the matter be abad thing? | /r/MensRights | 11/03/22 05:52 PM |
| 0 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionWell, such an act could cut out the first part I supposed. But men who struggle with addictions could benefit from that too. But again, if we wanted a Right-to-Self-Exclusion Act to address only sexual matters, feel free to ignore that part. | /r/MensRights | 11/03/22 05:35 PM |
| -2 | Why I fundamentally oppose the male right to a paper abortionIt could take many forms, but the below presents a basic example of what a Right-to-Self-Exclusion Act could resemble: Given how difficult sexual assault is to prove beyond reasonable doubt and their potential life-long consequences and cost to the economy, imposing excessive sexual freedom on a boy or man who has no intention of exercising that freedom denies him the right to adequate sexual protection under the law. With that in mind, I would like to propose a Right-to-Self-Exclusion Act (RSEA… | /r/MensRights | 11/03/22 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Anyone here ever consider just paying women you like to do the exact thing you want?That's up to you. But when you play with fire, expect to get burnt. | /r/MensRights | 10/03/22 03:39 PM |
| 3 | What conscription law would you propose for your country?I disagree for a few reasons: Since no one would be conscripted in peace time, would this mean that no one gets the right to vote until conscription happens? A widow raising her child would have sacrificed her husband and her child's father in the war effort. Even if the husband survives the war, the mother must still care for the child alone while the father is away. If we look at WW2 as an example, while the men went to war, the women filled the factories and other businesses. By working full … | /r/MensRights | 08/03/22 09:07 PM |
| -4 | What conscription law would you propose for your country?I admit though that I hesitate to support a law that conscripts women at all. Men are, on average, physically stronger than women. That said, feminists need to stop their misandry. | /r/MensRights | 08/03/22 08:56 PM |
| 25 | Disturbing feminist attempt to give Lorena Bobbit a redemption arcIf he was sleeping and she was awake with a knife in her hand, she therefore had an opportunity to escape, no? Also, if he was that abusive and she feared him that much, why worry about the precision of cutting his penis when she could just slice his jugular. Doesn't add up. | /r/MensRights | 08/03/22 08:50 PM |
| 5 | Alternatives to International Men's Day?V. 20 May: Mill Day: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Stuart_Mill John Stuart Mill actively promoted the equality of the sexes: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Subjection_of_Women Without the support of men like him, women would never have achieved equality. This also reminds us how without the support of women like Erin Pizzey, we too will never reclaim equality with women. | /r/MensRights | 08/03/22 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else think Google should create a International Mens Day Doodle?Erin Pizzey is hardly superficial. I think you meant 'superficiality is for feminists.' | /r/MensRights | 08/03/22 02:00 PM |
| 10 | Anyone here ever consider just paying women you like to do the exact thing you want?Many MRA's (including I) believe in treating women with respect, compassion, and kindness. I believe (and hope) that you represent a fringe minority of MRAs. Think how you would like your mother, sister, daughter, and other women you love to be treated! | /r/MensRights | 08/03/22 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Happy International Women's Day!I did clarify that the more moderate ones among them were in fact simply standing for the right to vote, which at face value is reasonable. The Suffragette movement was not a monolithic movement. | /r/MensRights | 08/03/22 01:45 PM |
| 30 | So International Women's Day's Tomorrow...It's her birthday: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erin_Pizzey | /r/MensRights | 07/03/22 10:07 PM |
| 3 | What are your personal examples of internalized misandry?I guess we can reverse the sexes in this too. A straight woman finds a well-designed workout app that just happens to present handsome immodestly dressed male models. She chooses it in spite that because it's a well-designed app for her purposes but then worries whether other women who see it and know she's straight will presume that she chose it just for the images. | /r/MensRights | 07/03/22 08:36 PM |
| 10 | Stop Abuse for Everyone - SAFE's Woman of the Year 2022 - Erin PizzeyI know 19 February was a while back now, but still. Happy belated Pizzey Day everyone! | /r/MensRights | 07/03/22 08:27 PM |
| 8 | What are your personal examples of internalized misandry?Very insightful reply. Thank you for that. I guess you're right that it's not an accurate example of internalized misandry but rather more concern for how misandrist stereotypes affect my perceptions of what others might think of me. | /r/MensRights | 07/03/22 08:05 PM |
| 96 | So International Women's Day's Tomorrow...I've given up on International Men's Day as feminists have already appropriated it for their own ends. We should shift our efforts to 19 February, Pizzey Day, or some other similar day that feminists could appropriate only with much more difficulty. | /r/MensRights | 07/03/22 06:54 PM |
| 10 | So International Women's Day's Tomorrow...Happy International Women's Day! Celebrate the women who've made great contributions to our world, like Erin Pizzey among many other great women. There are so many great women to celebrate. Also don't forget 19 February, Pizzey Day: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erin_Pizzey | /r/MensRights | 07/03/22 06:51 PM |
| 5 | A very happy birthday to Erin PizzeyHappy Pizzey Day! | /r/MensRights | 19/02/22 11:59 PM |
| 1 | I wish we didn’t live in a society that shamed male virginsThat's terrible. Many men choose to wait for many different reasons. Women need to learn to respect men's sexual boundaries. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/22 03:01 PM |
| 2 | New subreddit on male sexual rightsNot sure what to think of them? Should a woman be allowed to keep her pregnancy secret from the father and then just give it away? I guess a safe-haven law might be better than some alternatives. And if a woman can give it away, then a man should be allowed to too. So yes, I'm leaning towards safe-haven laws depending on the details. Should the father want the child, should the mother still be allowed to give it away without the father's consent unless he wants to take it? And if he takes it, if… | /r/MensRights | 05/02/22 12:35 PM |
| 20 | How to deal with a College Professor (female) who call all men rapists with male privilege etc. (Alberta, Canada)Share this with her: https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2014/03/coerced-sex And: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/08862605211035870 | /r/MensRights | 05/02/22 12:10 PM |
| 0 | New subreddit on male sexual rightsWouldn't the right to a paper abortion allow the male victim to forfeit all rights and obligations? I believe that the father should be granted equal parental rights by default; but how do we do that without also giving him equal obligations too? | /r/MensRights | 05/02/22 11:53 AM |
| -2 | New subreddit on male sexual rightsI've already softened my stance on paper abortion since last night through conversation with others: https://www.reddit.com/r/male_sexual_rights/comments/skqnmu/what_sexual_freedoms_and_obligations_should_males/hvn01ac?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 So I guess such a subreddit does have benefits. Though I still hesitate to support the male right to a paper abortion, I have read some valid arguments in its favour last night too that have forced to think about it more critically… | /r/MensRights | 05/02/22 10:01 AM |
| -4 | New subreddit on male sexual rightsI post in this forum too, so I guess this isn't the forum for you too. I started that sub precisely since there is no other sub dedicated specifically to male sexual rights. If you support the male right to a paper abortion, please share your views there by all means. I did not intend for it to be an echo chamber in which to preach to the choir. | /r/MensRights | 05/02/22 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Sex addict men may have elevated levels of the love hormoneI don't take fluoxetine to lower my libido (that's just a side effect). I take it to moderate PTSD and MDD symptoms. I was just describing the symptoms on myself, not saying whether they are good or bad. | /r/MensRights | 03/02/22 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Sex addict men may have elevated levels of the love hormoneThat's not been my experience. I've been taking it for a few years now for PTSD and MDD and while it's lowered my libido, it certainly hasn't killed it. I can still perform on request. | /r/MensRights | 02/02/22 07:44 PM |
| 7 | Sex addict men may have elevated levels of the love hormoneSuch a pill might already exist: fluoxetine, which lowers libido. That said, since sexual addiction is often linked to past emotional, physical or sexual trauma, and fluoxetine helps at least somewhat with PTSD symptoms, we should not hold such medication back from a patient who could benefit from it and who has made an informed decision to take that medication knowing its potential side effects. But I do agree we should not let feminists manage the health system. We should be thankful not all w… | /r/MensRights | 02/02/22 07:23 PM |
| 0 | UK: Undercover female officers will walk streets to catch drivers shouting sexist commentsNo, for harassment. | /r/MensRights | 02/02/22 02:01 PM |
| 3 | Just falsely accused of rape, in need of advice.Sounds like blackmail. See if you can legally stop him. If he sincerely believes you raped her, he's supposed to report that to police, not blackmail you with it. He might be breaking a law by doing that. | /r/MensRights | 02/02/22 12:00 PM |
| 0 | What MRA beliefs might surprise feminists?I disagree, but I appreciate that you can present a reasoned argument for why you believe that. Thank you! | /r/MensRights | 02/02/22 11:46 AM |
| -2 | UK: Undercover female officers will walk streets to catch drivers shouting sexist commentsHow am I a misandrist for wanting people to stop harassing other people? | /r/MensRights | 01/02/22 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Don’t Fight With ThisI support women's rights. | /r/MensRights | 01/02/22 02:59 PM |
| -2 | What MRA beliefs might surprise feminists?I was referring to the poorest countries in the world where the father genuinely must choose. I'm not referring to wealthier countries here. | /r/MensRights | 01/02/22 11:27 AM |
| -1 | UK: Undercover female officers will walk streets to catch drivers shouting sexist commentsDefine feminist. | /r/MensRights | 01/02/22 10:08 AM |
| 11 | Hi, I just wanted to say this to all the men here. Go to therapy and stop antagonizing women for a living.If it makes you feel any better, after I attempted suicide in Montreal in 2001, the doctor told me based on no proof but her feminist education that I'd done so as an alternative to killing my wife. Luckily for me, however emotionally and sexually abusive my wife was, at least she wasn't the kind to make false accusations. She just looked confused at the doctor's comment and then chided me for attempting suicide. Seeing no help there, I left to work abroad. It's good to know that even some menta… | /r/MensRights | 01/02/22 02:09 AM |
| 4 | Hi, I just wanted to say this to all the men here. Go to therapy and stop antagonizing women for a living.So what did you mean? Would I not be mansplaining by presuming to read your mind? | /r/MensRights | 01/02/22 02:03 AM |
| 11 | Hi, I just wanted to say this to all the men here. Go to therapy and stop antagonizing women for a living.I apologize if I antagonized my adult female sitter who molested me when I was seven and eight years old and my ex by resisting her aggressive sexual advances. I really should learn to respect molesters and other aggressors more eh? | /r/MensRights | 01/02/22 01:59 AM |
| -6 | UK: Undercover female officers will walk streets to catch drivers shouting sexist commentsGood idea! Feminists weaponize the few men who do this to then slander all men. The sooner we nip such behaviour in the bud, the sooner we can deprive feminists of one more weapon in their arsenal. | /r/MensRights | 01/02/22 12:28 AM |
| 5 | QuestionThe statistics do show high rates of women having unwanted sexual experiences and in the vast majority of cases, the aggressor is male. I don't dispute that. What angers me rather is how feminists invalidate the male sexual experience: 'A total of 43 percent of high school boys and young college men reported they had an unwanted sexual experience and of those, 95 percent said a female acquaintance was the aggressor, according to a study published online in the APA journal Psychology of Men and M… | /r/MensRights | 31/01/22 12:36 PM |
| 4 | Is there anything a man can do to protect himself against a false accusation?A man can certainly reduce the odds. Don't ever give consent to fornication, and odds are you'll never face a false allegation. Instead you'll just have to put up with abusive women trying to coerce you into sex. | /r/MensRights | 30/01/22 12:16 PM |
| 1 | UK: Grieving woman, 22, is told she can't use her dead fiance's frozen sperm for IVF because he didn't give permission before dying from pneumoniaEssentially what I said. | /r/MensRights | 28/01/22 12:43 AM |
| 5 | UK: Grieving woman, 22, is told she can't use her dead fiance's frozen sperm for IVF because he didn't give permission before dying from pneumoniaMaybe that was his wish, which is why we should refuse to give her the sperm. In fact, maybe just before he died, he told he hated her, wanted nothing to do with her anymore and now she wants his sperm just to stick it to him. My point is that regardless what he wanted, I still agree with this law and the onus is on the woman to prove that he wanted her to have it. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/22 03:35 PM |
| 11 | UK: Grieving woman, 22, is told she can't use her dead fiance's frozen sperm for IVF because he didn't give permission before dying from pneumoniaI don't. My point was that even if he gave her permission verbally but with no witness around and didn't get around to putting it in writing , we still should not give her his sperm unless she could prove it. If that was his wish but she just can't prove it, however heartbreaking it is, I still agree with that law. Then it was just up to him to put it in writing, but we can't just take her word without proof. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/22 10:50 AM |
| 9 | If it's acceptable for women to make men wait for sex, it's acceptable for men to pretend to want a relationshipIs it acceptable for men to make women wait for sex? Yes. Women need to learn to respect men's boundaries: 'A total of 43 percent of high school boys and young college men reported they had an unwanted sexual experience and of those, 95 percent said a female acquaintance was the aggressor, according to a study published online in the APA journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity®.' https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2014/03/coerced-sex# We need to end these misandrist stereotypes that the m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/22 10:56 PM |
| 45 | UK: Grieving woman, 22, is told she can't use her dead fiance's frozen sperm for IVF because he didn't give permission before dying from pneumoniaIt might have been a mistake on his part to not give permission beforehand, but I do agree with this law. It's just up to the man then to make sure he gives permission. | /r/MensRights | 26/01/22 07:32 PM |
| 8 | The derivation of pleasure by underage males who're raped is exactly what is used to excuse female rapists too.Even for males, pleasure does not equal enjoyment, let alone consent. One of my most arousing sexual experiences was of a woman who forced herself on me. In shock, I initially hesitated as I wondered whether to give consent or not. Hesitation does not equal consent and even if I had given consent from that point forward, everything prior would still have remained sexual assault. Consent can never be retroactive, even for men. I decided to resist by dipping my butt into the bed, but she immediate… | /r/MensRights | 25/01/22 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Social stigma and general acceptance (or lack thereof) of men's makeup useI don't wear makeup because it's just never crossed my mind to do so. | /r/MensRights | 25/01/22 12:58 PM |
| -11 | Man has to pay $30,000 for child that not hisDidn't you watch the video? The mother had no interest in pulling him into this and openly states that she'd written his name down only because the state forced her to identify a father to get assistance. | /r/MensRights | 25/01/22 02:43 AM |
| -19 | Man has to pay $30,000 for child that not hisTo find the father, they'd have to match the child's DNA to his. How many billions of potential fathers do we have in this world? Also before you accuse her of 'whoring around,' is it possible the child was conceived through a rape that she did not report for one of many possible reasons? | /r/MensRights | 25/01/22 02:25 AM |
| 9 | Man has to pay $30,000 for child that not hisDid the video even clarify whether he'd ever had sex with her, or are you presuming that? It seems to me like she just had to identify someone, anyone, as the father or the state would refuse to help her. | /r/MensRights | 24/01/22 06:45 PM |
| 11 | Joyce Fegan: Dear all men — Turn your offence into action. Man up. Attend a vigil. Talk to your boys. Tackle your own misogyny, no shame, we all have it.So did I molest my adult female sitter when I was 7 and 8 years old? That is what they seem to be telling me. | /r/MensRights | 24/01/22 04:01 PM |
| -58 | Man has to pay $30,000 for child that not hisI'm not excusing her behaviour, just saying that she did do that under duress imposed by the state. It is a factor to consider: identify a father or watch your kid starve. Is that not blackmail by the state? | /r/MensRights | 24/01/22 02:40 PM |
| -82 | Man has to pay $30,000 for child that not hisI don't entirely blame the woman in this case. She needed assistance and the state refused unless she identified a father. Between letting her child starve and write any random name as the father, she chose the latter under duress. That was essentially state blackmail against her. Both she and the man should sue the state for emotional damages. Now wouldn't that be funny! | /r/MensRights | 24/01/22 02:27 PM |
| 5 | An Erection Is Not ConsentBecause men are physically stronger than women, a woman will more likely resort to verbal and emotional coercion, unwanted touching, and blackmail. In such cases, since the man might give his consent under duress, he then blames himself for not being strong enough to defend his boundaries against a woman. That's probably why men generally don't report, because they blame themselves. It was easy for her to coerce me. I'd experienced sexual abuse from my sitter when I was 7 and 8 years old, so my … | /r/MensRights | 24/01/22 11:57 AM |
| 31 | An Erection Is Not ConsentDamn right! One man told me how he impregnated his child's mother while he was passed out unconscious. My wife (now ex) forced me into a sexual relationship through stalking and verbal and emotional coercion, and then kept me in that relationship through suicide threats. I'll go even farther than say an erection is not consent. Even consent can be coerced. It should be free and informed consent, not consent under duress and especially not under extreme duress. | /r/MensRights | 23/01/22 09:32 PM |
| 1 | what if the guy don't want a child and it was discussed before, isn't it unfair for him to pay child support if he is ready to pay expenses for an abortion ?My stance might be a little controversial. Even if a teenaged boy impregnates an adult woman while she is sexually assaulting him and she delivers the baby from her prison cell after her conviction, I still believe that the state should uphold his paternal obligations. His obligations stem not from whether he consented to the act or not, but rather from his biological paternity. Whether the state should provide him with financial, psychiatric, or other assistance is a separate matter. That said,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/22 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Woman pepper sprays male friend as ‘joke’The fruits of feminism in action. Then feminists wonder why so many women reject feminism. | /r/MensRights | 23/01/22 06:47 PM |
| 1 | How men's-rights education could better deter male violence against women.Your comment raises an important question. Is it preferable to shame people like me into silence and so deprive the next generation of boys and men of an opportunity to learn from the gaps in our education that contributed to this behaviour, and so let them repeat the same mistakes from generation to generation? Or is it preferable to encourage us to share our knowledge so as to help the next generation of educators to fix these gaps in the education of boys? If these problems continue to occur … | /r/MensRights | 11/01/22 07:48 PM |
| 1 | How men's-rights education could better deter male violence against women.I especially agree with that last point. My wife's behavior terrified me; and so in the false belief that women fear men even more, I wrongly presumed that making an unwanted advance would terrify her into letting me leave. Essentially it was a game of chicken gone wrong as my therapist described it. In a game of chicken, each side expects the other to flinch first. I'd grossly miscalculated. She didn't fear me so didn't flinch. This threw me into confusion as the situation just kept escalating … | /r/MensRights | 08/01/22 03:13 PM |
| 1 | How men's-rights education could better deter male violence against women.So on a practical level, how could the education system have better prepared me for these situations, to more confidently and assertively refuse to spend the night at her home, to not freeze at her pleading and pouting, at not feeling so compelled to return to her home to fulfil a forced promise, to not fear so much that by refusing her, being perceived as racist or finding her ugly (very ingrained in our society)? Also, after each advance, I failed to escape. She never feared my advances and wo… | /r/MensRights | 07/01/22 08:17 PM |
| 1 | How men's-rights education could better deter male violence against women.I am getting therapy. If you read from the start, you'll see I was molested as a child. That is what led me to believe that my wife would fear a sexual advance as per my feminist education. When she didn't fear my advances, I was confused, not knowing how to respond. That was the whole point of the Op, that feminism ever taught me how to manage interactions with women who won't take no for an answer. If you read it through, you'll see that none of my tactics scared her. We need more psychologica… | /r/MensRights | 06/01/22 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Should we declare 19 February Pizzey Day?I said they'd look foolish if they attacked what Pizzey was trying to accomplish. Wouldn't they? | /r/MensRights | 31/12/21 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Should we declare 19 February Pizzey Day?Perhaps. But Pizzey stood for all victims including men. | /r/MensRights | 31/12/21 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Should we declare 19 February Pizzey Day?They've already started to appropriate Men's day, and successfully too. Time to give men's day to the feminists: they'll take it anyway. Pizzey Day would be far more difficult for feminists to appropriate. | /r/MensRights | 30/12/21 02:33 PM |
| 4 | Do you think the world is a matriarchy?Not at all! I've heard female victims of female sexual violence say that they were turned away by feminist agencies supposed to help women. Erin Pizzey was chewed up and spat out by feminists. Feminists turn on non-feminist women all the time. Not a matriarchy, but a feminist state designed to benefit feminists only. | /r/MensRights | 27/09/21 01:10 AM |
| -2 | Curiosity: How do men here feel about legalizing sex work?Have you ever experienced sexual abuse? | /r/MensRights | 21/09/21 03:28 PM |
| 0 | Curiosity: How do men here feel about legalizing sex work?I oppose legalizing sex work because it hurts men too, and I explain my reasons here: https://www.reddit.com/r/antipornography/comments/phqjti/a_former_buyers_argument_on_why_and_how_to/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share | /r/MensRights | 21/09/21 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?That raises questions though. If human life starts at conception, then sex is a significant social act. How can we ratially criminalize abortion but not fornication (a primary cause of unplanned pregnancies)? | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?My thought on Esperanto came from personal experience: After my divorce and a few suicide attempts, I'd left to work in China where I'd later experienced a sexual assault. A few days later, struggling with depression and the shame of having contributed negligently by foolishly lowering my guard unnecessarily and then hesitating to escalate my defensive action to the point of risking her physical safety even as she laughingly kept escalating with no concern for mine, I went to see a psychiatrist.… | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?One concern with the paper abortion is a man raping a woman and then just filing for a paper abortion. Rape is hard to prove after all. I could see a combination of some variant of self exclusion and paper abortion. That way, by self-excluding from the freedom to give his consent to fornication, he's imposing a deterrence on himself against aggressive or otherwise irresponsible sexual behaviour (since that would be essier to prive than rape ir sexual assault. Also, he could file for a paper abor… | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 11:58 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?Ok, I'll just post it here then: Pro-Self-Exclusion (PSE) This posion follows the same rationale as the PCF position above, but just doesn't take it to its logical conclusion. Instead, it proposes to keep fornication legal by default but allow a man to self-exclude through some kind of administrative process (such as through an online passport account) from the freedom to give his consent to fornication under threat of a heavy fine that doubles for each repetition of the offence. In exchange, a … | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 11:33 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?Due to the character limit, I responded to that one. | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?It's the third post down in the letter. It starts with Pro-self-Exclusion PSE). | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?Wouldn't joint custody as the default undeemine the argument for Option 1? That's why I'm not so fond of Option 1 and Option 2. | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 11:16 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?By Option 4, I meant pro-right-self-exclusion (PSE). | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?And what do you think of option 4? | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 10:50 AM |
| 3 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?True. The problem though is that feminists actively campaign against men's rights. The weaker side needs to fight asymmetrically. | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 10:05 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?Pro-Self-Exclusion (PSE) This posion follows the same rationale as the PCF position above, but just doesn't take it to its logical conclusion. Instead, it proposes to keep fornication legal by default but allow a man to self-exclude through some kind of administrative process (such as through an online passport account) from the freedom to give his consent to fornication under threat of a heavy fine that doubles for each repetition of the offence. In exchange, a woman who encourages him (beyond … | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?Pro-paper-abortion (PPA) According to this position, human life starts at delivery as a result of the woman's decision to not obtain an abortion. A man might not have consented to the sexual act leading to the pregnancy. Sexual assault is extremely difficult to prove beyond reasonable doubt and when it can, it might take too long to do so. Therefore the man should have the right to file for a paper abortion within the first eighteen weeks of pregnancy to permanently forfeit all paternal rights a… | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 10:01 AM |
| 2 | Am I the only pro-choice-leaning man who votes pro-life in protest?Here's a letter I'd sent to my Member of Parliament: How to give pro-choice-leaning men more pro-choice voting options As a man who has experienced female sexual abuse, I lean pro-choice; but I've consistently voted pro-life for a few elections now due to the lack of alternative options in the promotion of male sexual and reproductive rights. While people know about male sexual aggression, we often ignore the scale of female sexual aggression and how this in turn can affect the way a man might v… | /r/MensRights | 02/11/20 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Asian women outearn white men: we defeated sexism!And from my experience, unlike white women, Chinese women seldim ID as feminists or engage in misandry. For that alone, they've earned it. | /r/MensRights | 01/11/20 05:28 PM |
| 1 | what the fuck is the MRA movement actually accomplishingPro-Self-Exclusion (PSE) This posion follows the same rationale as the PCF position above, but just doesn't take it to its logical conclusion. Instead, it proposes to keep fornication legal by default but allow a man to self-exclude through some kind of administrative process (such as through an online passport account) from the freedom to give his consent to fornication under threat of a heavy fine that doubles for each repetition of the offence. In exchange, a woman who encourages him (beyond … | /r/MensRights | 01/11/20 09:44 AM |
| 1 | what the fuck is the MRA movement actually accomplishingPro-criminalization-of-fornication (PCF) According to this position: Human life starts at conception; but while the mother may have a legitimate reason to obtain an abortion and so should be free to decide according to her own conscience, the father does not. Consent to fornication is a primary cause of unplanned pregnancies. Consent to fornication is easier to prove than sexual assault so provides a more effective deterrent against sexual assault Therefore, to deter unnecessary abortions in the… | /r/MensRights | 01/11/20 09:43 AM |
| 3 | what the fuck is the MRA movement actually accomplishingTo be successful, we need to grab the attention of people in power. For example, I'e sent the following email to a few pro-choice politicians: How to give pro-choice-leaning men more pro-choice voting options As a man who has experienced female sexual abuse, I lean pro-choice; but I've consistently voted pro-life for a few elections now due to the lack of alternative options in the promotion of male sexual and reproductive rights. While people know about male sexual aggression, we often ignore t… | /r/MensRights | 01/11/20 09:40 AM |
| 2 | Male victims of sexual violence are being ignored by the governmentPro-Self-Exclusion (PSE) This posion follows the same rationale as the PCF position above, but just doesn't take it to its logical conclusion. Instead, it proposes to keep fornication legal by default but allow a man to self-exclude through some kind of administrative process (such as through an online passport account) from the freedom to give his consent to fornication under threat of a heavy fine that doubles for each repetition of the offence. In exchange, a woman who encourages him (beyond … | /r/MensRights | 31/10/20 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Male victims of sexual violence are being ignored by the governmentThe five male pro-choice positions I see are as follows: Pro-paper-abortion (PPA) According to this position, human life starts at delivery as a result of the woman's decision to not obtain an abortion. A man might not have consented to the sexual act leading to the pregnancy. Sexual assault is extremely difficult to prove beyond reasonable doubt and when it can, it might take too long to do so. Therefore the man should have the right to file for a paper abortion within the first eighteen weeks … | /r/MensRights | 31/10/20 10:22 PM |
| 5 | Male victims of sexual violence are being ignored by the governmentAs a man who has experienced female sexual abuse, I lean pro-choice; but I've consistently voted pro-life for a few elections now due to the lack of alternative options in the promotion of male sexual and reproductive rights. While people know about male sexual aggression, we often ignore the scale of female sexual aggression and how this in turn can affect the way a man might vote. Whereas feminists perceive two positions on male sexual and reproductive rights (pro-paper-abortion and pro-opt-in… | /r/MensRights | 31/10/20 10:11 PM |
| 1 | How to give pro-choice men more pro-choice voting optionsSomeone asked me about the relevance of Esperanto, so I'll some of my linguistic experiences here: After my divorce and a few suicide attempts, I'd left to work in China where I'd later experienced a sexual assault. A few days later, struggling with depression and the shame of having contributed negligently by foolishly lowering my guard unnecessarily and then hesitating to escalate my defensive action to the point of risking her physical safety even as she laughingly kept escalating with no con… | /r/MensRights | 30/10/20 01:22 PM |
| 1 | How to give pro-choice men more pro-choice voting optionsPro-Self-Exclusion (PSE) This posion follows the same rationale as the PCF position above, but just doesn't take it to its logical conclusion. Instead, it proposes to keep fornication legal by default but allow a man to self-exclude through some kind of administrative process (such as through an online passport account) from the freedom to give his consent to fornication under threat of a heavy fine that doubles for each repetition of the offence. In exchange, a woman who encourages him (beyond … | /r/MensRights | 29/10/20 06:19 PM |
| 1 | How to give pro-choice men more pro-choice voting optionsThe five male pro-choice positions I see are as follows: Pro-paper-abortion (PPA) According to this position, human life starts at delivery as a result of the woman's decision to not obtain an abortion. A man might not have consented to the sexual act leading to the pregnancy. Sexual assault is extremely difficult to prove beyond reasonable doubt and when it can, it might take too long to do so. Therefore the man should have the right to file for a paper abortion within the first eighteen weeks … | /r/MensRights | 29/10/20 06:19 PM |
| 1 | How to give pro-choice men more pro-choice voting optionsAs a man who has experienced female sexual abuse, I lean pro-choice; but I've consistently voted pro-life for a few elections now due to the lack of alternative options in the promotion of male sexual and reproductive rights. While people know about male sexual aggression, we often ignore the scale of female sexual aggression and how this in turn can affect the way a man might vote. Whereas feminists perceive two positions on male sexual and reproductive rights (pro-paper-abortion and pro-opt-in… | /r/MensRights | 29/10/20 06:16 PM |
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