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| 3 | Kissing on the first date, rejected/ghosted for the second dateSounds good thanks a lot man | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 02:53 AM |
| 3 | Kissing on the first date, rejected/ghosted for the second dateThanks for that great answer, I think that's probably where things are not good. I did banter more with girls 0 and 3 (for which the outcome has been less bad) than girls 1 and 2 where I think I was more serious. But in general I'm probably not doing it enough. Other posts mention building rapport and earning trust. Any advice to conciliate banter with these? | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 02:51 AM |
| 3 | Kissing on the first date, rejected/ghosted for the second dateSorry bro to hear that. I hope we both break out of this circle soon! | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Kissing on the first date, rejected/ghosted for the second dateSo you'd say it's a sign the date was somewhat decent but not necessarily enough? Just figuring out whether getting frequent kisses (but no sex) in dates is "progress" compared to nothing at all lol | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 02:44 AM |
| 2 | Kissing on the first date, rejected/ghosted for the second dateWhat makes you feel that these replies are for nice guys? | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 02:33 AM |
| 2 | Kissing on the first date, rejected/ghosted for the second dateBut how to "earn trust" without being "boring" in the first place? | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 02:30 AM |
| 2 | Kissing on the first date, rejected/ghosted for the second dateThanks so if I got it well it's about being "normal" first, then escalation kicks off at the moment it is most likely to lead to sex, so not too early actually? | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 10:00 PM |
| 2 | Kissing on the first date, rejected/ghosted for the second dateThanks dude for the advice. How do you build that sexual tension before going to your place if you do not escalate much physically? | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Kissing on the first date, rejected/ghosted for the second dateThanks for the tip. I think that's true for girls 1 and 2, but perhaps less for girl 3 who I felt was making herself ready for the kids as she was getting closer to me and put her handbag on the other shoulder, making the shoulder facing me free. For girl 0, she really seemed into the kiss too. For girl 0 I do not know if it's dead yet, for girl 3 perhaps I kissed badly. | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 03:05 AM |
| 1 | How is casual dating in San Francisco? London?Yes the UK London. I did go to London for weekends and it was fun. Thanks for confirming haha | /r/seduction | 05/01/22 09:59 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Oh I thought you were mentioning the n-count to obtain as a fuckboy or a relationship but you were just mentioning the n-count to declare regardless of your actual sexual history? | /r/seduction | 22/12/21 12:38 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]What if your body count is way below both 15 and 30? Lol | /r/seduction | 21/12/21 10:01 PM |
| 2 | How to make sure the "relationship" evolves into FWB and not serious?Thanks that sounds reasonable. I wrote on all dating apps that I was not looking for something serious. Also I also try to have sex on the first date and I do not want to break the sex vibe by bringing the future of the relationship upon meeting. Should I bring the topic straight away on the first date? | /r/seduction | 17/12/21 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Having a good fwb is much better than having multiple ONSSo I invite her directly to my place on the first date - and we go straight to each other's places at every "date"? | /r/seduction | 16/12/21 09:37 PM |
| 2 | Having a good fwb is much better than having multiple ONSOne question though : how do you make sure the "relationship" becomes FWB and not serious? At least with ONS you are not trapped in a relationship | /r/seduction | 16/12/21 05:16 PM |
| 2 | My IG is (almost) banned, should I bother make a new one for the purpose of dating?Thanks, so it's better in your opinion. Actualy as for social media I also have Facebook. And my profile there is quite bad, perhaps I should update my profile picture to something better lmao | /r/seduction | 15/12/21 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Instagram - How to market yourselfWhat to do if you only have plain pics (like 2-3 travel pics without me or anyone, just some landscape) in your main profile but nice pictures of you and your social life are actually in the "Tagged" section? I think a possibility is to repost them but it's a bit too late for the old tagged posts lol. + my profile is private, should I make it public? | /r/seduction | 11/12/21 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Is anyone using machine learning to identify fat chicks?What are yours? | /r/seduction | 11/12/21 02:04 PM |
| 2 | Is anyone using machine learning to identify fat chicks?Jokes aside, having some add-on automatically finding red flags predefined (mentions of open relationships, drugs, only filter photos, tattoos, ....) by the user on the profile under scrutiny would be great. This would not save them the job of scanning the profile themselves but can highlight some points they should be careful of. | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 05:55 PM |
| 1 | What's the thing with friendzone?Isn't the right option a third one - which is to stop talking to her? | /r/seduction | 26/09/21 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Is this a new trend? THREE Bumble girls suggest to meet again after first date, then unmatch/rejectI did not want you to shut up haha. But yes I guess the order is : 1) set the date, 2) get the number. Thanks, I hope I did not piss you off by insisting! | /r/seduction | 15/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Is this a new trend? THREE Bumble girls suggest to meet again after first date, then unmatch/rejectMakes a lot of sense. I might insist though - and if you do manage to set up a date on the app without getting the number first (which happened in these scenarios), does the number really matter? | /r/seduction | 15/08/21 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Is this a new trend? THREE Bumble girls suggest to meet again after first date, then unmatch/rejectThe worst way? I mean, can you generate 3 dates a week like on OLD with IRL gaming? I find IRL gaming so slow and with less opportunities than OLD. Unless you do 3x parties with new people a week or you cold approach every single woman you find. How can you gain abundance without the place where girls are most present and DTF? | /r/seduction | 15/08/21 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Is this a new trend? THREE Bumble girls suggest to meet again after first date, then unmatch/rejectI did make moves like touching them and suggested to come to my place (slightly different for girl 3 but it was known the second date would be at my place) in all dates. But I probably just failed or did not do it properly. However why bother moving out of the app if we define the first date on it? Does it help with the outcome of this first date? | /r/seduction | 15/08/21 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Is this a new trend? THREE Bumble girls suggest to meet again after first date, then unmatch/rejectWhich is that girls can stop responding or unmatch/reject at any moment? I knew that. But we are talking about receiving second date offers and then the same girls suggesting second dates do a 180 degrees switch | /r/seduction | 13/08/21 11:05 PM |
| 3 | Bumble or tinderDo not ask *a couple of* questions *with witty humour*. One only, not necessarily with the most convoluted humour, even not necessarily tied to her profile, will do the job. Let the conversation flow a bit more as you send 1-2 more texts. Then, suggest the date. You can say something relatively general like "Drinks?" before giving more details (meeting at time T at place P) once she accepts. Have these details in mind. After the date is set, you might ask for the number if you want but I do not … | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Ex wants a relationship without the title, tf?> I wanna block him but don't have the heart to do it again. I like our conversations. Maybe you have to do so. Tell him one last time that you do not want a relationship without the title, and you have moved on from him. If he keeps love-bombing you after this, do block him. | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 04:59 PM |
| 1 | How much time do you guys spend on a first date with sex?Indeed that's not my style - I prefer to see the girl at least once in real life to make sure there is no blatant difference with her pics (I use OLD) . But thanks for the 30 minutes! | /r/seduction | 07/08/21 06:05 PM |
| 1 | How much time do you guys spend on a first date with sex?I must say that I have housemates so it's quite impractical to cook lol. But I can offer wine to taste | /r/seduction | 07/08/21 05:58 PM |
| 1 | How much time do you guys spend on a first date with sex?Gotcha thanks. So you just have a quick first date then you invite her straight to your place for the second one? | /r/seduction | 03/08/21 05:24 PM |
| 1 | How much time do you guys spend on a first date with sex?It's not about her coming back to my place after the first date, it's about fucking her during the first date itself | /r/seduction | 03/08/21 05:17 PM |
| 1 | How much time do you guys spend on a first date with sex?Lol. Joke aside, how much time do you roughly spend on all of these things? | /r/seduction | 03/08/21 03:00 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys keep up with all the dates?I am a bit in the same situation. My solution so far is to have a dedicated "social slot" in the evening after dinner where I can have social events (including dates). It is still not perfect because if the date lasts too long then I have less time to sleep for the next working day. Also if I drink every night I can end up very exhausted. I am hesitating between : 1) having a date every 2 days at most; and 2) avoiding alcohol from dates and doing walks instead | /r/seduction | 03/08/21 09:16 AM |
| 3 | An exercise for dating apps as a man - don't initiate contact firstEven as an experiment, this will screw up your desirability score on the app and make it more difficult for you to catch up with your former score | /r/TheRedPill | 31/07/21 05:33 PM |
| 2 | What to do with her? Should I stick to befriend her?Possibly unpopular opinion. Does she invite you to parties or any events where you can meet new people and make new friends and (importantly) new lovers? Depending on your patience, you can keep staying in touch with her for a few weeks or months and see if she goes to that point. If you feel it, you can also invite her to a party of yours once. In the meantime, limit as much as possible the time you spend on her - texting and IRL meetings. If nothing comes out of that, just cut her off. | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 01:29 PM |
| 54 | An exercise for dating apps as a man - don't initiate contact firstI assume you are not talking about Bumble. Bad strategy : I did this for a whole year on Tinder and I barely got any dates, even in periods with many matches. When I started to always message girls, I got a few dates every week. Imo the best is to always send the same message or a variation of it, but tailor it to the place you live to avoid a plain "Hey". | /r/TheRedPill | 25/07/21 10:10 AM |
| 5 | She's Not Your Friend. You're Just a Simp.Any similar checklist to the one in the OP to find out when you are using them correctly? Being invited by her to parties? She introduces HER female friends to you? Anything else? | /r/TheRedPill | 20/07/21 06:29 AM |
| 1 | My tinder statsYou got 2 lays in 2 meetups? | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Don't forget to remove dating app girls from your phone contacts...Not bad, I will do this then. Thanks! | /r/seduction | 15/07/21 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Don't forget to remove dating app girls from your phone contacts...Something like 70 lol, even not all of them showed on the list | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 07:41 PM |
| 1 | For those who went from no dates to getting dates all the time what was the turning point for you?One photo on Tinder. Yes literally. I had sent a photo of myself to Photofeeler and to my surprise got 8+/10. So put it as first pic on Tinder and results skyrocketed. In addition, I realised I had to have dates with multiples girls, and made sure my schedule allowed for that. Be aware that you must be able to process multiple matches and it can be difficult at first | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 10:36 AM |
| 1 | Is it bad I'm only learning game to get laidActually I lost my virginity recently, also at the age of 25. Here's how I managed to do it: 1) Make time to date : as obvious as it sounds, you need this daily slot in your schedule for having social activities in general, and dates in particular. The best time to get laid is in the evening, after dinner. So adapt your whole schedule and logistics so you are free after 7:30pm-ish and your place is in order at this time. 2) Focus on the quantity, together with the quality. You want to try differ… | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 12:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys escalate during at the bar? And do you go to your place immediately afterwards?That would be very welcome | /r/askTRP | 19/06/21 11:20 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys escalate during at the bar? And do you go to your place immediately afterwards?Great plan, thanks for all details! | /r/askTRP | 19/06/21 02:56 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys escalate during at the bar? And do you go to your place immediately afterwards?Cool thanks! | /r/askTRP | 19/06/21 02:54 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys escalate during at the bar? And do you go to your place immediately afterwards?Where? | /r/askTRP | 19/06/21 02:54 PM |
| 5 | How to get over the sexual past of a potential LTR?2 dates so far Potential LTR You are well before the stage you might consider her a potential LTR. | /r/askTRP | 18/06/21 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Bumble match asks me the reason to visit my city. Should I be vague or be straighforward and say it's to fuck?Hey all, so I chose a straighforward approach and I replied : ... showing you around then Netflix + chill if we're down x And she replied : Lol I know [City B] very well x no need for a tour x Do you guys think it's a No for the showing you around part (so yes for Netflix+chill directly) or a No for everything? | /r/askTRP | 13/06/21 02:24 PM |
| 1 | 21 y/o Virgin Looking for HelpI'd suggest you just set up a date at your place, where you will obviously try to have sex, with this girl, AND you set up dates with other girls, so you have multiple safety nets to lose your virginity or to improve once you've lost it | /r/askTRP | 13/06/21 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Bumble match asks me the reason to visit my city. Should I be vague or be straighforward and say it's to fuck?Sounds good thanks! | /r/askTRP | 12/06/21 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Bumble match asks me the reason to visit my city. Should I be vague or be straighforward and say it's to fuck?I see, thanks! Drawing on your last suggestion I thought: "... showing you around then Netflix+chill if we're down x" How does that sound? | /r/askTRP | 12/06/21 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Bumble match asks me the reason to visit my city. Should I be vague or be straighforward and say it's to fuck?Thanks, what would you answer exactly then? Something like "... having fun x" ? | /r/askTRP | 12/06/21 10:33 AM |
| 1 | I can't stand alcohol so well... how to manage this during dates at bars?Perfect advice, thanks! | /r/askTRP | 11/06/21 09:51 PM |
| 1 | I can't stand alcohol so well... how to manage this during dates at bars?Not bad thx! | /r/askTRP | 11/06/21 09:51 PM |
| 1 | I can't stand alcohol so well... how to manage this during dates at bars?Nice perspective thanks! | /r/askTRP | 11/06/21 09:51 PM |
| 1 | I can't stand alcohol so well... how to manage this during dates at bars?Agreed. I would be in her frame as well tbh. Thanks both! | /r/askTRP | 10/06/21 12:23 AM |
| 1 | I can't stand alcohol so well... how to manage this during dates at bars?Drinks with zero alcohol? I also thought about it. Possible dumb question : would that not make me look weak? | /r/askTRP | 09/06/21 11:50 PM |
| 1 | LTR wants to go to a dance with another dudeYes that's perfectly fine. Don't forget to put a chastity cage and clean her up next time they meet | /r/askTRP | 09/06/21 02:51 PM |
| 1 | How to tell my female friends I don't give a shit, and how to respond to further BS1 avoid meeting them in real life. Say you're busy. 2. Take more and more time to respond to their texts, until you never respond. | /r/askTRP | 07/06/21 10:09 AM |
| 7 | Preselection, my ultimate setback. How to gain preselection?Good question that particularly resonates with me as a 25yo almost-virgin, as I got laid for the first time a few weeks ago. So still lacking strong preselection. Here are my thoughts, inspired by my own path to lose my virginity. Not sure if any preselection helped me but I am sure no one ever got the thought I was a virgin. Warning : might be controversial. First, prepare now and learn by heart an alternative story of your life where you've banged different girls in different settings - in a c… | /r/askTRP | 03/06/21 09:45 PM |
| 0 | Thoughts about this part of my (prospective) Tinder bio? Does it help for pre-selection?Gotcha thanks | /r/askTRP | 03/06/21 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts about this part of my (prospective) Tinder bio? Does it help for pre-selection?Even if I did receive "You up?" messages when asleep? That's not made up. Even if I can understand that girls might not believe it. | /r/askTRP | 03/06/21 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts about this part of my (prospective) Tinder bio? Does it help for pre-selection?https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=You%20up%3F Very Anglo-American thing imo | /r/askTRP | 03/06/21 02:00 PM |
| 0 | Thoughts about this part of my (prospective) Tinder bio? Does it help for pre-selection?Kind of a joke, but I just want to make known that I'm receiving "You up?" messages. It's what girls (or guys) send when they are bored and horny during the evening/night and want some fun. Instead of just awake, I thought about putting "before 11pm" but awake is more vague and has more humor | /r/askTRP | 03/06/21 01:52 PM |
| 1 | How does your typical successful date look like these days? Any combination of walking, bar and home?Thanks! Does she or you bring up going to her place? | /r/askTRP | 03/06/21 07:24 AM |
| 1 | How does your typical successful date look like these days? Any combination of walking, bar and home?Cool thanks! | /r/askTRP | 03/06/21 07:23 AM |
| 1 | How does your typical successful date look like these days? Any combination of walking, bar and home?Thanks! | /r/askTRP | 02/06/21 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Tips for a morning person?Up, I'd really be down to hear about people's feedback, as I am in a situation similar to OP's | /r/askTRP | 01/06/21 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Should I post on my insta and insta story during no contact?On the contrary, you should perfectly post if you have an interesting life. And that would ultimately show that you do not care about her. The prerequisite, however, is that you actually do not care and are not doing that for attention. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/21 09:15 PM |
| 2 | My brother wants to LTR a 22 year old with 2 kids and two fathersThe one she's gonna have with Chad* while she's with the brother | /r/askTRP | 01/06/21 10:18 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal when your woman has a silent chemistry with another guy?Next her and if you go again for an LTR, find a girl who will have a loud chemistry with you and you alone. | /r/askTRP | 31/05/21 02:02 PM |
| 2 | How to handle multiple plates?First, you do not have multiple plates but one plate and multiple prospective girls. Then, to handle conflicting dates (which is a more correct way to phrase your question), you can set up more than one at the same time and reschedule all of them except your favorite girl. | /r/askTRP | 30/05/21 11:34 AM |
| 3 | Time management thread : Request for tips, ideas, advice, suggested reading materialVast question. In short, your time is your real currency. You can gain back money but never time wasted. So you must be very selective with how you spend your time : Cut out any useless commitment that does not advance your studies/works, social life or fitness. For me, that includes any extracurricular activity which does not bring you friends or professional contacts (real ones, not "potential" ones like fellow students), regular evenings with the same group of people (nice at first but it can… | /r/askTRP | 23/05/21 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Friend of ex replies to my story, next day my ex unfollowsIt is never a good idea to let your ego take over. You seem to realize that your own attitude was nonsense. By waiting her to text you, you entered in her frame. Either she probably felt that and fed you with signs that she'd come back, in short keeping you as an orbiter. Or she genuinely wanted to have sex with you.... but she was waiting for you to text her and was disappointed to not have you come back so removed you. I'd suggest you: 1) text her for the booty call, while absolutely having ze… | /r/askTRP | 22/05/21 01:28 PM |
| 14 | Friend of ex replies to my story, next day my ex unfollowsSuch a waste of time and energy. Move on. | /r/askTRP | 22/05/21 12:38 PM |
| 5 | Girl I like just told me she wants to pursue another guy. How do I steal her back?This is Ask the Red Pill, not Ask the Blue Pill | /r/askTRP | 19/05/21 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Girlfriend hanging out with exes...I think that what matters most is coherence. You edicted a rule? She must follow it. If she does not, the relation is dead. Thereby, in practice, it is already dead, in the way that it will never be the same again. She broke the rule with no consequence and she will remember it. Saying with her is just an attempt to hope that a cadaver will respond to you as you speak to it. | /r/askTRP | 19/05/21 11:55 AM |
| 2 | Girl says we should get sushiYes she prob just wants free sushi tbh | /r/askTRP | 18/05/21 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Is this a situation I should reply to? Or just next and move on.Yes I was not clear on that but do not expect anything from her. If she wanted to see you, she would have put her work aside. And keep texting lol | /r/askTRP | 18/05/21 08:12 AM |
| 3 | Is this a situation I should reply to? Or just next and move on.Just suggest a date, if she has another BS excuse, next and move on. And anyway talk to other girls asap | /r/askTRP | 18/05/21 12:19 AM |
| 1 | They suggest we have a coffee, I say let's meet in the evening instead, then they ghostMore looking for sex tbh. But I can adapt. Thanks | /r/askTRP | 17/05/21 10:46 PM |
| 1 | They suggest we have a coffee, I say let's meet in the evening instead, then they ghostBut is this arrangement even worth it? I'd assume she's then not sexually attracted at all, or not enough to ever have sex, even in a further date. | /r/askTRP | 17/05/21 07:41 PM |
| 1 | They suggest we have a coffee, I say let's meet in the evening instead, then they ghostNo one, that's the point. But you're right, I should clearly state another activity, thanks | /r/askTRP | 17/05/21 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Is there any way to form a better relationship with my bitchy sister, or should I just accept her for who she is?Same with a female cousin of mine. Well just move on and cut her from her life. Try to move out of your house if you're there (recommended regardless of whether you have a sister or not). Then if you have to see her as part of family visits, just ignore her and live your own stuff. Anyway you must focus on your own improvement and forget her. Make yourself so busy she won't come back to your mind! | /r/askTRP | 17/05/21 12:18 PM |
| 1 | They suggest we have a coffee, I say let's meet in the evening instead, then they ghostTrue, indeed when they suggest the coffee, either they come back after a long time, or I suggested to meet on day X but not day X evening at least. It also explains why my evening alternative leads to ghosting. Thanks! | /r/askTRP | 17/05/21 11:28 AM |
| 1 | They suggest we have a coffee, I say let's meet in the evening instead, then they ghostThanks for this comprehensive point of view! | /r/askTRP | 17/05/21 11:26 AM |
| 5 | Been told I’m a terrible texter but the complete opposite face to face.And if you still f-close, it means there is really no problem. Watch her actions, not her words. | /r/askTRP | 16/05/21 06:26 PM |
| 1 | They suggest we have a coffee, I say let's meet in the evening instead, then they ghostAnother point of view, thanks. Do you succceed in f-closing during a daytime first date? with a coffee? | /r/askTRP | 16/05/21 04:18 PM |
| 2 | They suggest we have a coffee, I say let's meet in the evening instead, then they ghostDating apps : Tinder or Bumble. I'm ready to get downvoted lol | /r/askTRP | 16/05/21 04:18 PM |
| 1 | They suggest we have a coffee, I say let's meet in the evening instead, then they ghostI thought saying that I work during the day was enough? Thanks for confirming the need to block my time! | /r/askTRP | 16/05/21 04:17 PM |
| 7 | They suggest we have a coffee, I say let's meet in the evening instead, then they ghostSounds good, then sounds like I am just filtering timewasters. Thanks! | /r/askTRP | 16/05/21 02:33 PM |
| 1 | How do you decide how much energy you invest in the various areas of life (job, fitness, social life)?On my side, I commit as much as possible to a daily schedule with 3-4 hours of work, lifting and sports just before my lunch, then again 3-4 hours of work then dinner and finally a social slot that starts around 7pm or 7:30pm. If the social slot is not filled with friends, parties, dates or other social events, I switch back to work or I do other goals. If there is work pressure, I can calibrate by using the social slot for work then the sports slot for work as well. But I do all of these only i… | /r/askTRP | 15/05/21 01:16 PM |
| 1 | 26 y/o Man with aspergers. I've only recently become somewhat comfortable with escalating girls physically yet I still struggle to closeTake my advice with salt as you seem ahead of me (I lost my virginity recently and I am 25), but reading the post and comments I think I could help. First, make sure you have time in a single day to work, lift/do sports and go out. Personally I do my daily sports at my lunch break, and I have my social slot starting at 7pm or 7:30pm. This social slot can be made up of friends of dates. And if there is nothing, I just advance my goals or go back to work. Absolutely commit to a schedule and organi… | /r/askTRP | 15/05/21 12:46 PM |
| 6 | Oneitus for someone else while in a LTRJust leave the LTR. And as soon as possible. Not only for you but also for her as you are currently making her live in a lie (and even more if you are cheating on her with with the plate, not sure if I understood this properly). Then maybe you might LTR the plate, or not. But that is not what matters most. You will have regained your freedom, and your future ex-LTR will be able to move on. Focus on leaving the LTR, that's the first step. | /r/askTRP | 15/05/21 12:18 PM |
| 6 | Has Anyone here started as an absolute incel but ended up becoming a chad through the teachings of trp? I would like to hear your storyWell, I had my first lay a few weeks ago, at the age of 25. So not a Chad but not an incel anymore. I was not totally genetic trash, but I ended up incel with a lot of bad luck and missed opportunities : - No success in high school, shy, low value, etc... - 4 years of studies with either high pressure or in a remote engineering campus with very few girls. - Started to use dating apps and lift more, but poor lifting and dating tactics and still work pressure for another 3 years. Things really sta… | /r/askTRP | 11/05/21 05:22 PM |
| 1 | How do you categorise your goals?I distinguish between "operational", "routine" and "do-not" goals : - Routine goals are the most intuitive ones. They include things to do at a given frequency or time : go to gym 3 times a week, call my grand-parents once a week, clean and order my room once a week, etc... They can be tricky and not so exciting. I've found the best way to tackle them is to have an "overall system" that makes them automatic. - Operational goals are projects along the year that require doing more than the plain r… | /r/askTRP | 05/05/21 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Currently approaching 24 hrs soft next on my LTR of one year, am I doing it right?This relationship started on toxic grounds and is even more toxic now. You seem to be under the sunken cost bias. With all other comments, just convince yourself your relationship is dead and any investment (including any "preparation" and "planning" for the soft next) is a waste of time. Dump her. Put a deadline in your agenda where you will have dumped her. Just focus on preparing the message | /r/askTRP | 05/05/21 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Potential transsexualTrust your gut - do not go on a date with "her" if you feel unsecure about all of this. Abundance mentality should tell you that there will be more girls available to you and you will not have to worry about whether they are actual girls. | /r/askTRP | 01/05/21 10:08 PM |
| 11 | Oneitis: she’s not a unicorn but she is uniqueDamn, one of the best mottos I've ever seen on this sub so far | /r/askTRP | 25/04/21 10:13 AM |
| 5 | Tell her? High risk virginity reveal lolI lost my virginity less than 1 month ago... at the age of 25. So MUCH less acceptable than 19. I had trouble erecting after having fapped for more than 10 years with zero real life sex. The condom did not help either. That just made her even hornier. She was worried she was not attractive and she foreplayed even more. She screamed as soon as my soldier was really erect and started pounding her. I am not sure I lasted in her for more than one minute. But she did like it and we're still seeing ea… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/21 06:32 PM |
| 1 | What does your daily schedule look like? How do you combine work + lifting/sports + cooking + dating/plates + sleeping in one day?Do you get enough sleep? | /r/askTRP | 01/04/21 10:08 PM |
| 1 | What does your daily schedule look like? How do you combine work + lifting/sports + cooking + dating/plates + sleeping in one day?What do you mean by "hint"? | /r/askTRP | 01/04/21 10:08 PM |
| 1 | What does your daily schedule look like? How do you combine work + lifting/sports + cooking + dating/plates + sleeping in one day?Is it ok to gain muscle mass? | /r/askTRP | 01/04/21 10:07 PM |
| 1 | What does your daily schedule look like? How do you combine work + lifting/sports + cooking + dating/plates + sleeping in one day?True haha. I'll bear that in mind. Thanks for the tips! | /r/askTRP | 01/04/21 10:07 PM |
| 1 | What does your daily schedule look like? How do you combine work + lifting/sports + cooking + dating/plates + sleeping in one day?Thanks for sharing and the feedback! Actually from 5-7 I also meal prep the lunch of next day, I precised it now | /r/askTRP | 01/04/21 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Girls is down to "have fun" but not vaginal sexHaha true I think I did already pass the threshold. And indeed she does not feel in her right mind, not sure if I should just ditch the date tbh | /r/askTRP | 25/03/21 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Girls is down to "have fun" but not vaginal sexIndeed she's from a Muslim country but not sure she is. I'm thinking that she could give grasps of pity non-vaginal sex to betas. I have no clue about "having fun" means in her mind tbh | /r/askTRP | 25/03/21 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Girls is down to "have fun" but not vaginal sexShe says it's reserved for committed relationships. She said it was easy for her to get guys and when I jokingly asked whether she also refused them vaginal sex, she seriously said she did refuse them. Not sure if ASD or whatever. I must admit I have been quite autistic here haha. Maybe she just enjoys giving grasps of pity sex to betas. It feels unhealthy tbh | /r/askTRP | 25/03/21 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Mixed feelings about a girl (+ slight "Don't shit where you eat")I did see a few posts and comments here referring to "prospects", in opposition to plates that are effectively fucked | /r/askTRP | 20/03/21 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Mixed feelings about a girl (+ slight "Don't shit where you eat")Thanks dude, sounds like you consider the "friend" option to be even less safe than the "plate" option. | /r/askTRP | 20/03/21 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Mixed feelings about a girl (+ slight "Don't shit where you eat")I was thinking about this haha. Thanks bro! | /r/askTRP | 20/03/21 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Mixed feelings about a girl (+ slight "Don't shit where you eat")Sounds good, thanks bro. I am not sure I have enough social skills to handle this ngl. I am more and more thinking about just making her a friend. And we could expand our social circles mutually in this period of lockdown. How does that sound? | /r/askTRP | 20/03/21 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Mixed feelings about a girl (+ slight "Don't shit where you eat")Thanks, you're right, I am more and more thinking about just making her a friend and expanding my social circle through her (and same the other way) | /r/askTRP | 20/03/21 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Mixed feelings about a girl (+ slight "Don't shit where you eat")Should I tell her that during the date before kissing? Or after the kiss later on? | /r/askTRP | 20/03/21 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Ended first date with a hug : success or failure?This might be the first time I ever read something like this on that sub or anywhere. I bet texting is not only for logistics then. Do you mind sharing a few tips or tricks? | /r/askTRP | 18/03/21 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Tips for touching her more during a date?I realised that I never feel there's the mood for that. But at the same time I now realise that it's my job to create the mood! | /r/askTRP | 18/03/21 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Ended first date with a hug : success or failure?Aim for a kiss on the first date? I kiss all my first dates upon greeting. You give the kiss on lips at the very start of the date, in the first seconds you ever see her in real life? | /r/askTRP | 18/03/21 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Ended first date with a hug : success or failure?Gotcha thanks | /r/askTRP | 18/03/21 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Tips for touching her more during a date?Nice, how do you escalate until you ask them back to your place? And what do you say as an invitation to your place? | /r/askTRP | 18/03/21 09:06 AM |
| 2 | Ended first date with a hug : success or failure?Thanks for the advice, it's true that I do not feel the date enough! What do you mean by "Not game ending but it wasn't a net positive in my mind." ? | /r/askTRP | 17/03/21 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Ended first date with a hug : success or failure?She sent her arms in a real hug mode and I think she also oriented her head on the side as in a kissless hug. | /r/askTRP | 17/03/21 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Having a quick first date (<1h) with flirt but not necessarily kiss or sex : does that make sense or not?Ok thanks! | /r/askTRP | 08/03/21 11:08 AM |
| 1 | Having a quick first date (<1h) with flirt but not necessarily kiss or sex : does that make sense or not?Thanks for sharing this. Did this story happen durinh a weekend day? | /r/askTRP | 06/03/21 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Having a quick first date (<1h) with flirt but not necessarily kiss or sex : does that make sense or not?I am a mid-20's virgin so it's true that for me sex is still an objective with requires its strategy ngl. I must say that I do find my life quite unstructured. I mean it's not crap but I have the feeling I am not managing my time adequately to balance work/business, lifting and other stuff required for self-improvement. I used to be a slave to studies/work actually (explaining in big part my current virginity), then I was having a bad dating and it took a lot of my time and my mental energy. Now… | /r/askTRP | 05/03/21 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Having a quick first date (<1h) with flirt but not necessarily kiss or sex : does that make sense or not?Sounds great, thanks. I thought that in general there was actually no flow as I was thinking too much about the outcome. Which in turn ruined my other activities. That's a reason why I try to make the first date "outcome-independent" and force a time budget on it. | /r/askTRP | 05/03/21 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Having a quick first date (<1h) with flirt but not necessarily kiss or sex : does that make sense or not?Sounds great, thanks for the tip of having flexibility. I thought I had too much of it actually but it's because I am thinking too much about the outcome. I had the idea of going out for 30min-1h every day at fixed times anyway, and just "plug in" a girl if I was having a date. I hope it fits the "most enjoyable time as possible" idea. | /r/askTRP | 05/03/21 11:05 PM |
| 2 | Texting/OLD : how long do you take to respond to her? Do you "adapt" to the time she's taking to respond?Makes lots of sense, thanks | /r/askTRP | 26/02/21 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Texting/OLD : how long do you take to respond to her? Do you "adapt" to the time she's taking to respond?I see, thanks. Doesn't responding right away sometimes push her away compared to taking more time? | /r/askTRP | 26/02/21 10:22 PM |
| 6 | 22, never kissed/fucked a girl, want that to change ASAP before I graduate this summer. What should my plan be?Actually, do try dating apps. Most girls are on it now due to the successive lockdowns, and I bet there will no return to the exact same former dating landscape. Dating apps will be an essential part of dating - even a girl you meet IRL will have dozens of Chads who matched with her. Take it as a way to create even more abundance. Particularly, as a virgin, you want to have more possibilities to try different dating tactics. I'd suggest : 1) Make a shortlist of 5-6 top photos of yourself. 2) Sub… | /r/askTRP | 17/02/21 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?So with one girl, foreplay, entirely naked and fingering. She was unstable mentally and preferred to stop at the last minute before PIV. Another girl, foreplay, not entirely naked but both topless, blowjob and hickies. She had her period so no PIV sex. Edit : any thoughts or comments? | /r/askTRP | 11/02/21 06:57 PM |
| 13 | Girl ask me what do i want to do for the first date, any advice ?Not sure she would jump at your place immediately without knowing you, you can have the walk and then suggest to go to your place because "it's cold". | /r/askTRP | 11/02/21 06:06 PM |
| 1 | She ghosts and does not show up on date : hard next or something else?Nah just wanted to have a walk anyway so went around the area where we were supposed to meet, did not see her and left anyway | /r/askTRP | 07/02/21 02:23 PM |
| -2 | What’s a high status way of deflecting comments about your relationship statusSomeone around spinning plates, maybe like "I have different potential girlfriends these days". | /r/askTRP | 06/02/21 02:15 PM |
| 4 | Asked girl at uni out, she said yes, but when i set up date, she wants it as friendsShould the girl not always pay half the date? | /r/askTRP | 03/02/21 12:17 AM |
| 1 | How to successfully manage the first few seconds/minutes of a date?Cool thanks | /r/askTRP | 02/02/21 05:46 PM |
| 2 | How to successfully manage the first few seconds/minutes of a date?Sounds great thanks! Hugging the tight sounds a good way to start lol. And I agree with cutting the date. I am having a steady stream of matches and dates so I try to apply abundance mentality as much as possible. How much time would you give as a rule of thumb for cutting the date if it is not good enough? | /r/askTRP | 02/02/21 02:35 PM |
| 0 | What was the catalyst in your life that made you Red Pilled?Not a RP Chad yet, just out of the Bluepill lie and the Blackpill darkness. Was in environments with few girls for a long time. It was very hard to date and kept being a virgin at ever higher ages. I knew the RP but had trouble understanding it. Got into online dating but managed it terribly and ended up in the Blackpill. Then, I decided to really retry online dating and got more matches and I had a sort of summerfling. I focused on her and did not pursue other girls. Terrible mistake - I ended … | /r/askTRP | 02/02/21 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Girl left me hickeys on the shoulder and neck. How will other girls react to that?Oh actually it's another girl. I'm more concerned about whether she'll dislike hickies than she'll make new ones. But it's a good point indeed, thanks! | /r/askTRP | 31/01/21 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Girl left me hickeys on the shoulder and neck. How will other girls react to that?Gotcha. So I guess I should try to f-close and just say fuck it for the hickies? | /r/askTRP | 31/01/21 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Girl left me hickeys on the shoulder and neck. How will other girls react to that?Thanks! So I have a date with another girl tomorrow. Should I just reschedule to see if the bruises reduce a little (but it won't disappear in a few days and rescheduling for 2 weeks is odd) or just go and fuck it? Edit : or maybe I have my answer : kiss-close in a first date with the hickies covered and see how it goes for a potential second date. | /r/askTRP | 31/01/21 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Girl left me hickeys on the shoulder and neck. How will other girls react to that?Hey thanks for your reply. Actually I started kissing her neck and maybe I did not do it properly. She did bite harder first but I rejected her, and her next attempts were softer. I was not expecting these to lead to hickeys. The thing is that I am very inexperienced so it was kind of a beginner's mistake. Next times I'll avoid going too much in the neck and reject neck stuff from the girl, and I'll add up neck stuff when I'll have more experience. | /r/askTRP | 31/01/21 04:38 PM |
| 2 | Tommorow is my first date with crush, what should I know or do before to show my best side and make her interested in me.Endlessly set up dates with other girls. | /r/askTRP | 29/01/21 10:06 PM |
| 2 | Did I fail the "What are you looking for?" shit test?Thanks all for your comments. My takeaway: As many mentioned, I talked about a relationship without even having met her or had any sex with her. Although I did not intend to look like I was looking for a relationship, I still looked like it just by mentioning the possibility. Why such a mistake? She baited me with that cool guy stuff, which made me lose my frame and return the favor to her. But that lowered her attraction as proved by her answer. Takeaway : never lose your frame even if complime… | /r/askTRP | 29/01/21 10:01 PM |
| -5 | Did I fail the "What are you looking for?" shit test?That's also what I thought later on | /r/askTRP | 29/01/21 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Potential plate too interested or looking for a LTR?Thanks guys for your replies. So actually it seems like she's having strong self-image issues. She thinks she's not fit and stuff like this. I reassured her a bit and suggested we do not meet until she feels better about her body and her image. But on the contrary, she wants to meet at my place very soon, as planned before. As if she wanted me to fuck her so she feels attractive. Maybe I've given too much validation but I am careful with her, as she looks a bit unstable. I just hope she does not… | /r/askTRP | 27/01/21 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Potential plate too interested or looking for a LTR?Sounds great, thanks | /r/askTRP | 26/01/21 11:37 AM |
| 2 | Potential plate too interested or looking for a LTR?Sounds great, thanks. I just wanted to avoid deceiving her or to making her feel deceived. | /r/askTRP | 26/01/21 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?Thanks very much, that's a very interesting point of view. From another RP perspective, isn't my virginity a certificate of sexual indesirability, exactly like pre-selection but the other way around? I can't imagine how this would make the girl more attracted | /r/askTRP | 24/01/21 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Getting redpilled destroys all hope?You're not Redpilled but Blackpilled. | /r/askTRP | 23/01/21 12:31 PM |
| 1 | "I think you're good looking and nice, but I wasn't feeling the spark unfortunately". Thoughts?Not sure if I can take a break now, I feel I still have remnants of the Bluepill haha. Thanks for the pointer! | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 11:09 PM |
| 2 | "I think you're good looking and nice, but I wasn't feeling the spark unfortunately". Thoughts?> “He is. And he’s so cute. He’d be hot if he had more confidence” I see. Quite a nice lesson. Thanks for sharing | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 10:55 PM |
| 1 | "I think you're good looking and nice, but I wasn't feeling the spark unfortunately". Thoughts?Do you think I should taje a break from here? And are you recommending this book? | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 10:54 PM |
| 2 | "I think you're good looking and nice, but I wasn't feeling the spark unfortunately". Thoughts?Thanks, I see. Yes I did not escalate and muttered a bit. She said "Sorry?" a few times. > She wouldn't have gone out with you if you didn't at least meet whatever her minimum standard for appearance is. Oh that sounds valid. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 10:53 PM |
| 0 | "I think you're good looking and nice, but I wasn't feeling the spark unfortunately". Thoughts?Yes but because of my looks or not? | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 07:46 PM |
| 1 | What is up with guys in their mid-twenties with no previous sexual experience committing to “experienced” women without playing the field themselves?Ok will check that then thanks | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 06:25 PM |
| 0 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?If I am low SMV, why do I get matches on Tinder? | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 02:51 PM |
| 3 | 25 YO - Noticed the Older I get the more IOIs Im gettingStill a virgin at 25 but yes dating got so much better in the last year. That being said, it's also because I got better pics on Tinder, lockdown put so many girls on it and I changed places. I don't know why a 20yo girl would choose a 26+yo Chad when she has 21-24yo Chads at her disposal. In general, they're taller and look more fit, at least where I am. I got a better physique but still, I don't feel well-adjusted as a 25yo. More like a 20yo in the body of a 25yo. I feel this year is my last c… | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Only seem to get laid at the 2nd dateHey all, here's a follow-up question to everyone getting laid on the second date (including OP). Do you guys kiss at the first date though, even if sex "only" happens at the second date? Thanks. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 11:37 AM |
| 2 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?I can read that but I am sure that the problem here relies in dating tactics that are on a lower level than this book covers. Also, practice is vital besides reading. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 08:35 AM |
| 1 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?Sounds great thanks :) | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 08:32 AM |
| 2 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?OK I see it much better now. So it sounds like a matter of inviting her to my place. > I said the exact opposite of this. Agreed, I did not see the "weird" > I have to assume english is not your first language. Not it's not but I'm still fluent. What I was confused about was these two sentences in the same message : > You look for excuses to touch them but you try not to make it awkward. > I normally don't touch them until I go for the kiss. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 08:29 AM |
| 5 | My friend thinks I am insecure for not having an LTR with this girl, what do you guys think?Her poor boyfriend. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?So from the first answers, it sounds like I should always target a kiss at the first date, and if it does not, move on. Does everyone agree? | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 12:35 AM |
| 0 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?Unfortunately, no coffee now, just walks :( this time really sucks for dating, especially when I need opportunities the most. Thanks for all these ideas - I'll bear them in mind. However I have a hard time connecting dots and visualising what the date looks like with these ideas in general, from meeting to getting to the bed. So if I got your message right, your process is: - Start the date with something like a hug or a kiss on cheeks. - Have the date, do not touch her during it. But at the sam… | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?Oh that sounds like a great approach - thanks so much! Yeah, going from no contact to kissing without any intermediate step like this one seemed weird to me ngl | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?Thanks, this looks like close to my current approach, and at the same time there's an important difference : kissing the girl at the first date. But question : let's say that she's just close to you but not touching you, and the end is ending, it's time to say goodbye. How do you make the kiss, step by step, in this situation? Or do you touch her beforehand? My two last kisses happened when we clearly touched a lot before (holding hands and so on) so I am still uncomfortable with "guessing" I ca… | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Tinder : I get matches and dates, but fail to turn these dates into sex. How to improve?I think I'm not too bad IRL compared to my pics, but yes the other reason is definitely true. I feel like a NEET since the age of 18 trying to get a job. My workaround is to contact, discuss and then have dates with multiple girls at the same time from Tinder. As if I was virtually spinning plates. But it does require the match pipeline to never stop and sometimes it does. And even if I date 100 girls at the same time, bad IRL dating tactics will likely screw me for all of them. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/21 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Asked 2 different women in my workplace to work together on a document, one accepted and the other is saying she's interested, how do I proceed without ruining any workplace "calm"?She was looking for someone Romantically? Or someone to work with? | /r/askTRP | 21/01/21 12:57 PM |
| 1 | I can't seem to get over my ex girlfriend even after a long time why am I so stuck on her?Spin some plates and you'll forget her | /r/askTRP | 21/01/21 12:54 PM |
| 2 | How to stop feeling like a loser because I don’t have a girlfriend?It sounds like you are exactly like me until a few months ago. If you have little experience, think that : Your goal is not a get a girlfriend, but get a harem of multiple girls you are getting laid with on a regular basis. So go for any girl you're attracted to (maybe lower a bit your standards if that means zero), game as many of them, make your harem and finally choose your girlfriend from the harem. | /r/askTRP | 21/01/21 07:49 AM |
| 15 | Exclusive with girl with red flagsOnlyFans Exclusivity Pick one | /r/askTRP | 21/01/21 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Won't be able to have sex with my FWB (probably soon LTR) for at least two months. What do?Maybe she did not really respect your sexual needs with that surgery? Why would she cut down sex with you for two months due to some small "insecurity" ? You seem to be in her frame. | /r/askTRP | 20/01/21 03:59 PM |
| 1 | What is up with guys in their mid-twenties with no previous sexual experience committing to “experienced” women without playing the field themselves?Thanks for helping me clarify. I have no real world in spinning plates but before spinning plates was not even an idea. Now I see what I should really aim for. And automatically, all of TRP makes so much more sense. | /r/askTRP | 19/01/21 12:52 PM |
| 9 | I used to think spinning plates was a fantasyShe might be attracted to you even more precisely because she knows that (pre-selection). | /r/askTRP | 19/01/21 08:27 AM |
| 6 | What is up with guys in their mid-twenties with no previous sexual experience committing to “experienced” women without playing the field themselves?Well I understand the necessity of spinning plates but obviously no I'm not knowing what it is exactly yet | /r/askTRP | 19/01/21 08:24 AM |
| 3 | What is up with guys in their mid-twenties with no previous sexual experience committing to “experienced” women without playing the field themselves?I think my texting is not the worst - it's the real-life dating which sucks. But both might be connected. I'll check anyway thanks | /r/askTRP | 19/01/21 08:13 AM |
| 12 | What is up with guys in their mid-twenties with no previous sexual experience committing to “experienced” women without playing the field themselves?Thanks for your comment. Totally - it just feels like a rat race. I'm getting ever older and I have to get laid a lot in an ever smaller time frame to compensate. But I did improve over the last year though - maybe I'll win the race. | /r/askTRP | 19/01/21 01:49 AM |
| 16 | What is up with guys in their mid-twenties with no previous sexual experience committing to “experienced” women without playing the field themselves?I am a 25yo virgin and this is EXACTLY what I fear the most these times besides staying a virgin - be totally under the spell of a woman who knows I have no other options. Actually the same happened to me last year, it led to foreplay but we had to stop before PIV sex. I was totally enamored, she was the one, blah blah. She ended up ghosting me. Now I realize it's actually a blessing - I escaped a BB fate and I fully understand the meaning of "spinning plates". I'm much better with girls now but… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/21 01:04 AM |
| 0 | Can't all of TRP be summed up into "Don't target a girlfriend but a harem" ?Which point of the sidebar is not included in that sentence? | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Can't all of TRP be summed up into "Don't target a girlfriend but a harem" ?Actually I think the harem idea is easier to deal with than getting a high paid job. Getting the unicorn and getting a harem are not the same things at all, and it is easier for even the most bluepilled drone to think about what's required for casual sex with multiple women. Thinking about this naturally leads to the Redpill. | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Can't all of TRP be summed up into "Don't target a girlfriend but a harem" ?I understand - yes I'd need to get laid at least once to fully internalize the Redpill and the sidebar. And I think that as a man you can't really love yourself if you are getting scraps of sex or no sex at all, so at the end it amounts to the same. I think the harem idea is really the best RP intro for someone who's trapped in the Bluepill lie and not understanding why he's failing so much. | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Can't all of TRP be summed up into "Don't target a girlfriend but a harem" ?Yes I might be overfocusing on that. It really feels like being deemed genetically inferior or something like that. Honestly, I do not feel like a total failure besides women. Very very far from it. Actually it sounds like my situation with women is still a byproduct of my former self, as if it took years and years to make the past totally disappear. I think I have improved to the point where I am competitive on the dating front and I should focus on dating technicalities while not loosening the… | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 10:49 PM |
| 1 | How to find time and manage timeslots for different girls you're pursuing and plates you're spinning?Sorry for the late reply but this gave me a lot of insight and I'm starting to apply to this, so thanks a lot:) | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 10:17 PM |
| 3 | Sliding into DMsShould you not focus on your cancer these times? Best of luck, once it is beaten you'll recover and slide back to girls | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Can't all of TRP be summed up into "Don't target a girlfriend but a harem" ?Yes it sounds like a vital step to be done anyway, thanks. Tbh I think you can't really say you are winning anything in life, even if you're the President or a CEO, when no woman wants to reproduce with you. | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Can't all of TRP be summed up into "Don't target a girlfriend but a harem" ?An infectious disease, treated with a daily dose of red pills | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Can't all of TRP be summed up into "Don't target a girlfriend but a harem" ?I do not exactly understand how my post showed I missed or misunderstood anything in the sidebar. I can be my own man but if I exclude the harem from my objectives, regardless of what else I'm doing, I will just end up as a sexless drone betabuxing a single mother who would force her children upon me and have me call them "my children" and tell my parents these kids are "their grandchildren". This is obviously the opposite of the lifestyle TRP promotes in any concept. | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 01:44 AM |
| 2 | Can't all of TRP be summed up into "Don't target a girlfriend but a harem" ?Do you mean that getting the harem should be my main focus these times? (It can also include all the lifting and improving required for it) | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Can't all of TRP be summed up into "Don't target a girlfriend but a harem" ?But there is something I do not understand: how is the objective of having a single girl or a LTR better achieved by pursuing her alone (thereby being entirely in her frame) instead of first having a harem (and then choosing the girl from the harem)? It sounds like the Bluepill tbh. I am not speaking about personal preferences. I am speaking about the methods to achieve these preferences. Amd they seem to all boil down to a single common prerequisite : gain a harem. | /r/askTRP | 18/01/21 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Can't all of TRP be summed up into "Don't target a girlfriend but a harem" ?Yes they often post problems related to a single woman. But aren't they just not TRPing then? | /r/askTRP | 17/01/21 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Am I supposed to have any motivation to approach women beyond sex?Dumb beginner question but still: how do you spin plates and go bare at the same time? Isn't that bad in terms of sexual health? | /r/askTRP | 17/01/21 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Is Black Pill full of shit?Former Blackpiller, I wanted to bring another perspective. I first heard about the Redpill around 4 years ago, but I did not really cling. I was understanding that the Bluepill narrative, with its "you should be yourself" and "you'll find someone one day", was false, but I was not seeing how concepts in the Redpill like frame, shit tests and others were a solution. Tbh they just sounded like a lame PUA thing. I was seeing so few girls that I found them impossible to implement in practice. After … | /r/askTRP | 16/01/21 09:37 PM |
| 5 | I feel like I still have to be loyal to my ex.Talk to more girls. If you are using Tinder, message every match you find fuckable. Set up dates with as many of them as possible. Fuck as many of them as possible. Repeat until your ex is fully out of your mind. Continue spinning plates. Edit : think that now you have a new mission and it is spinning as many plates as possible. This might help your mind automatically wash your ex up. | /r/askTRP | 16/01/21 09:08 PM |
| 5 | “Ok perfect. Should be good”Assume she will come and it's not conditional Date other girls online Have multiple dates set up If the first girl cancels or does not come, it's too bad for her Enjoy your other dates anyway | /r/askTRP | 16/01/21 08:31 PM |
| 1 | How to find time and manage timeslots for different girls you're pursuing and plates you're spinning?Thanks for this comprehensive overview :) among the non-negotiables you mention, it sounds like sleep also should be there and comes at the very top, right? | /r/askTRP | 15/01/21 07:07 PM |
| 1 | How to find time and manage timeslots for different girls you're pursuing and plates you're spinning?Superb, thank you so much for all of this, it will be extremely helpful :) | /r/askTRP | 15/01/21 07:05 PM |
| 1 | How to find time and manage timeslots for different girls you're pursuing and plates you're spinning?Sounds great, thanks so much for all of this! It sounds like a great organization. I'd just have a few follow-up questions : 1) On meetup #2, do you invite them straight over to your place? Or are you doing something similar to meetup #1 again? 2) Are you swiping on the weekend because you get more matches if you swipe on these days rather than another day in the week ? Or just because it's more practical for you in terms of time? Or both? 3) If asked anything about exclusivity by one of your "p… | /r/askTRP | 14/01/21 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Tinder : ask for number or suggest to meet first?Original, thanks! | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Girl I have been seeing is being cold, should I just let things fade away? I was way too available in the past and think she was turned off. She rather stay at home than see me.Wait at the very least that the story with her behaviour has been washed out. And if after that you still really want to suggest a date, suggest more like a date + time + place. | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Girl I have been seeing is being cold, should I just let things fade away? I was way too available in the past and think she was turned off. She rather stay at home than see me.Then go no contact. You should somehow punish her for her behavior. But to implement this effectively : do not forget to date other girls. For now your mind is blocked on this girl. But trust me (I experienced a similar story as you), once you will have other options, you will feel so much more relaxed about your first girl. | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 12:07 PM |
| 2 | Girl I have been seeing is being cold, should I just let things fade away? I was way too available in the past and think she was turned off. She rather stay at home than see me.When was the last time you had any contact? I'd say to at least wait for a few days before contacting her, ideally do not contact her and start dating other girls so you have more options if she does come back to you. You do not want to give her undeserved attention. I'd even say do not even watch her stories. You are absolutely not meant to see anything she posts. Do not put yourself in her frame. | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 11:49 AM |
| 8 | Girl I have been seeing is being cold, should I just let things fade away? I was way too available in the past and think she was turned off. She rather stay at home than see me.Yes. Yes. + give yourself space as well and date other girls to avoid pursuing her too much. | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 11:34 AM |
| 1 | Tinder : ask for number or suggest to meet first?So go for suggesting the date first? | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 11:16 AM |
| 2 | Tinder : ask for number or suggest to meet first?Indeed, theoretically, none of the two approaches should be better as the girl should be interested enough anyway. But maybe in practice, she would prefer A who directly suggests a date over B who is "slow" and only asking for a number? | /r/askTRP | 09/01/21 10:40 AM |
| 0 | My best girl - friend randomly told me she wanted to give me headYou shouldn't want 1 girlfriend, you should date a bunch of girls at the same time. Fucking this! I only understood it no sooner than last year. And I am 25 now, and still a virgin. OP, do not throw your life away. You have time but time flies and still is too scarce to be wasted on 1 girl at a time. Edit : oh and obviously accept the BJ, as everyone said it might not lead to anything more, but it will form the first step of your further sexual education. Maybe you'll never such an opportunity u… | /r/askTRP | 08/01/21 12:08 PM |
| 0 | I had basically 0 interaction with girls in 2 years, its eating at me every day and just getting worse and worse, what can I do?It's funny, I am your age but we seem to be totally opposite on the dating spectrum. Never had a girlfriend or any sex with a girl from offline dating, but started doing great on Tinder, with more than 10 matches a week, sometimes a day, and many dates. In general, you should try to regrow an abundance mentality. Get as many numbers, as many dates and as much action as possible. Besides IRL dating, for which I can't really speak and which I think is down these days due to covid, I'd suggest you … | /r/askTRP | 07/01/21 09:01 PM |
| -1 | How much should I be texting a Tinder match?Yes IRL is not great these days but many girls are on dating apps now - probably more than ever. Your main problem seems to have a supply of girls. But it does have a solution. I was also not getting a lot of matches (once every few days) until I added a great picture which I put in the first position. This increased a lot the number of matches and I bought Tinder Gold to get even more of them. Now I always have a constant "supply" of matches. How to make sure your picture can work on Tinder? I … | /r/askTRP | 03/01/21 01:29 PM |
| 2 | How much should I be texting a Tinder match?I think that every answer given here (so far or in the future) can be so much facilitated by this simple trick : Talk to and date other girls at the same time This will help you avoid becoming needy for a specific girl, adjust your response times, escalate in dates with some confidence. Among so many perks which reduce to a common denominator : you'll have other options if one, including your favorite one, fails. I'd even say that dating more than one girl is necessary for online dating. | /r/askTRP | 03/01/21 01:11 PM |
| 1 | girl asked if I was a player or had been seeing anyoneWait what, is it not doomed with the girl once you say the first sentence ? | /r/askTRP | 03/01/21 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Getting better at online dating but still sucking at IRL dating - especially in group settings. How to improve?Thanks for your answer ; how do you even separate a girl however? I'd be happy to have tips on that | /r/askTRP | 31/12/20 07:32 AM |
| 1 | How to avoid being trapped into a boring, sexless, settle-down relationship?I did have a "relationship" this past year. This is what actually unlocked my understanding of the Red Pill and other social skill stuff. My value is not so low anymore. I did have lots of dates and some success recently, but covid blew everything up. I am just writing this as I know I can still get fooled so easily on the sexual and romantic front. And isn't that subreddit the place to ask these questions? I am not trying to get plates here | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 01:12 PM |
| 1 | How to avoid being trapped into a boring, sexless, settle-down relationship?Actually I've had this sort of girl this year. So I think I'm past this stage. But I was asking myself a lot of questions which you answered here. Thanks! | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 01:08 PM |
| 2 | How to avoid being trapped into a boring, sexless, settle-down relationship?This makes a lot of sense, thanks! I was thinking metrics more as a way of thinking about boundaries and red flags before I get the actual experience. But better jump straight into this experience, indeed | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 01:07 PM |
| 1 | How to avoid being trapped into a boring, sexless, settle-down relationship?Thanks, this makes a lot of sense! Any practical advice of when I can think if I start to have a clear picture and I have enough experience? Like I have fucked at least X women or done positions Y and Z? I am asking this in order to absolutely not think I am ready when I am not. As a virgin, I can easily get fooled. | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:50 AM |
| 1 | How to avoid being trapped into a boring, sexless, settle-down relationship?They are not so high but I mean one year ago I was at a ground-zero stage. I had terrible dating tactics, I was unable to including dating in my schedule, I was not understanding the very sense of basic TRP concepts, and so on. And this year, I've had increasingly more success, compared to before. | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:35 AM |
| 1 | How to avoid being trapped into a boring, sexless, settle-down relationship?I know precisely because I do not know ;) | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:32 AM |
| -1 | How to avoid being trapped into a boring, sexless, settle-down relationship?You're right but I am the kind of guy that can easily be trapped in such this sort of things. | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:17 AM |
| 1 | How to avoid being trapped into a boring, sexless, settle-down relationship?Sounds like a great rule of thumb, thanks! | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:13 AM |
| 1 | How to avoid being trapped into a boring, sexless, settle-down relationship?I said there is a chance I might start having sex in 2021 | /r/askTRP | 26/12/20 10:12 AM |
| 1 | Nothing can save me from becoming a 25-year-old (male) virgin anymore :(Gotcha. Indeed girls apply to me | /r/seduction | 16/11/20 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Nothing can save me from becoming a 25-year-old (male) virgin anymore :("Lady or man" hum. Outside that, thanks for the advice, sounds like the only way of getting outta here is having dates. | /r/seduction | 16/11/20 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Nothing can save me from becoming a 25-year-old (male) virgin anymore :(Makes sense, thanks, these ages are part of what I have on Tinder. | /r/seduction | 16/11/20 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Nothing can save me from becoming a 25-year-old (male) virgin anymore :(How is it supposed to be "easier" for men past 25 or past 30, when testosterone levels are dropping, some are becoming bald, and so on? | /r/seduction | 16/11/20 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Nothing can save me from becoming a 25-year-old (male) virgin anymore :(And how is it? | /r/seduction | 16/11/20 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Possible advice for absolute dating begginers. Do they make sense?Thanks for your feedback. Exactly, as a stressed/anxious guy, I can easily let these things escape but it's a big shortcoming. I did not think abour the agenda/outcome stuff. Makes much sense. | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Possible advice for absolute dating begginers. Do they make sense?Well maybe I am going too far, but it is a sad truth : either she's attracted to you and she'll come back, or she's not and you'll bleed yourself to make her come back. These two patterns were clearly noticeable in all my dates. That being said, it's bad to give her too much control of the interaction. Finding the balance is, I guess, the biggest shortcoming of my post. | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Girl who ghosted me : hard or soft next?Hey guys, many thanks for your comments. I am surprised by the diversity of opinions on that sub tbh lol. I decided to not delete/block but still mute her on FB/IG in order to not have her (rare) posts show up. Not sure whether that's hard or soft next. Deletion would not be so effective compared to move on as her profiles are public, which means that impulsive stalking is still possible. I also agreed with comments saying that deleting/blocking can look weak. But we almost all agree that it's t… | /r/askTRP | 29/08/20 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Girl who ghosted me : hard or soft next?Interesting reply. You think I should double text her after she ghosted me? Is that not a sign of absolute betaness? | /r/askTRP | 29/08/20 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Girl who ghosted me : hard or soft next?Indeed, better not to hit her up then. I think that will sound as an approval of her behavior and a sign of weakness/betaness. Thanks! | /r/askTRP | 28/08/20 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Girl who ghosted me : hard or soft next?That's weird, I did not find it in the glossary and other parts of the sidebar that I read so far. And that sidebar is huge. I also CTRL+F-ed the sidebar PDF and found nothing lol. Can anyone tell me in which section is it? | /r/askTRP | 28/08/20 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Girl who ghosted me : hard or soft next?What are the correct definitions of hard and soft next? And yes, I absolutely moved to other chicks. | /r/askTRP | 28/08/20 06:01 AM |
| 0 | Girl who ghosted me : hard or soft next?She did not delete me from social media (FB, IG). But she does not appear in my Tinder matches anymore so she probably deleted me off her matches, even if it's not impossible that she deleted her account. Did she not soft next me? | /r/askTRP | 28/08/20 05:59 AM |
| 2 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?I forgot to reply to you but I am happy to get to know some good phrases for it :) thanks! | /r/seduction | 10/07/20 09:21 PM |
| 2 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Sounds good to not think, thanks :) | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Big thanks man :) looking forward to experience that sex is fun, it is so unknown atm haha | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Let's hope so :) | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Ok great then, sounds like a story to bear in mind! Thanks :) | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 06:53 PM |
| 3 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Thanks for your feedback. Isn't it a turnoff for her that I ask so directly, though? I did ask for the kiss but I phrased in a less sharp package | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Thanks for the tip! However, when did you tell her? Before the intercourse? In the middle? At the end? | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 06:47 PM |
| 4 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Thanks, this sounds like the entire escalation summarized in one key principle :) | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Thanks for the reply! Sounds like I should just let it happen then :) what if she asks anything about my past sexual history? Maybe I should tell her? | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Thanks! I hope to not make it awkward haha | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 05:11 PM |
| 4 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Thanks, I guess I should just be mentally prepared and not stress then :) | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 05:08 PM |
| 5 | Any tips for my [mid-20's M, *virgin*] first sex ever ? And how do I even escalate to sex ?Thanks, I guess it means just let things happen then :) | /r/seduction | 08/07/20 05:08 PM |
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