She ghosts and does not show up on date : hard next or something else?

looseonthemoose1321 · 2021-02-06T16:58:12+00:00

Hard next without question. Like, delete her contact number from your phone the very second you read this and never communicate with her again.

It’s one thing to respond and say you’re not able to make it to the date, but to go radio silent on the day of is a huge “I’m not that interested in you and don’t even respect you enough to tell you I’m not coming” red flag.

If Brad Pitt were to ask her on a date, do you think she would flake on him? Chances are, probably not.

Although, to be frank, you kind of fucked up by leaving your house to even go on the date without first getting confirmation from her, but that’s whatever.

Essentially, you even communicating with her still shows that you don’t value yourself or your time and that it’s okay for her to flake on you. There is no excuse for that.

BTW: This isn’t a useless question. Yes, you may be dating other women, but you still need to know what to do in situations like this incase it arises again at some point ;)

throwitdownman · 2021-02-06T17:52:42+00:00

That’s such a fucking rude thing to do. Sometimes I take a break off Reddit to practice what the sidebar teaches, feel good about putting things into practice, and then I come here to see blatant disrespect and it makes me sick.

Take a step back. You’re doing yourself a disservice by not hard nexting her. Put yourself first. If she is ignoring you, put effort into improving yourself. She’ll come running back and beg for a date. Then, you can ignore her. Once you do, she’ll keep chasing you, and you’ll realize ‘it’s pretty unattractive when someone chases so hard’.

kushapedia · 2021-02-06T16:54:00+00:00

Sorry but she already nexted you, the only option you have is to cut contact and move on. She might try to come back later on but if I was you I wouldn't give her another chance if I was you

ImprovingTalent · 2021-02-06T17:02:15+00:00

I mean it depends on what’s been up prior but imo you can’t soft next someone you haven’t met even once. It’s either a hard next or you take it easy and just let see what she has to say. If she even talks around a 2nd date just giga Turbo hard next her.

But the most important thing is that you shouldn’t think a lot about. She doesn’t want to? Fine. It doesn’t matter anyway

2021-02-07T06:10:05+00:00

Hard next.

Anything less shows utter desperation.

Edit: Just saw your edit. Good job, bro.

SublimePimp · 2021-02-07T08:30:01+00:00

Total disrespect. Delete her number.

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halleluiaiaia9292 · 2021-02-07T13:35:56+00:00

Why did you show up when she didnt confirm?

Tells something about you already

Title	She ghosts and does not show up on date : hard next or something else?
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Date	February 6, 2021 4:23 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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