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That was quite the book you wrote. You’re doing what you need to do. You can’t force her to do anything or not do anything. You can focus on you and your kids. You recognized where you fucked up and broke frame. Your wife sounds childish - but that’s not that surprising given she’s the oldest teenager in the house. Very similar actions with my wife. Best advice I can give you is to hold course and continue STFU. This is a marathon not a sprint.
/r/askMRP08/09/19 06:52 PM
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Sounds like you’re having a tough time. The toughest times in your life will harden and forge you to be a stronger man. Keep seeing the therapist and taking your meds. You’re life is being upended on multiple fronts and you need to keep the therapy constant. If you’re not lifting so so as well as any other exercise. That shit helps your mental state. As for your wife - there’s nothing you can do to force her into anything. It sounds like she may need her own help, but continue focusing on yourse…
/r/askMRP07/09/19 08:34 PM
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> Has anybody any recommendation how to push through this? ​ Enjoy your life, stop thinking so damned much. Go spin plates, get rid of your oneitis. You're biggest issue is she sometimes doesn't show you as much affection that you like and you think she may not like you? Stop looking for validation or you'll be back here in a few years with big boy problems.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 01:27 PM
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I'm about halfway through. It's good. Definitely has shown me some weak points in leadership both in my personal and professional life.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 12:17 PM
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little over a week ago I self diagnosed myself with ADHD. Go get help and a formal diagnoses for sure. But also don’t use this as an excuse. It’s a challenge. Maybe it makes things harder - so fucking what? You’ll be better for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 07:56 AM
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Increased work schedule prevented me from getting to the gym or soccer. Only got there twice. The soccer thing - ok. You may have a scheduling conflict. That I can accept. But not the gym. You make time for the gym. It’s that important. I can’t stress this enough... if you have to wake up at 5 - do it. If you have to go at 9 at night - do it. I felt like shit today mentally - a lot of shit on my mind lately. Got home and lifted. Shoved all that mental bullshit into pushing the weight up. And fel…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 07:39 AM
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It’s going Rambo – I’ve only been at this three months. You’re not going Rambo.... not yet anyways. Deal with her shit tests which will increase as you stop asking mommy for permission. Fog / AA / negative inquiry etc. Going Rambo is telling your wife you’re going to cheat on her and/or get hookers (expensive ones) if your needs aren’t met by her. Don’t do that... trust me it’s a bad idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 07:34 AM
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This makes sense. I am feeling like she needs to prove her worth to me. And if she doesn’t - that’s fine too. Don’t get me wrong - I’m still gaming and kinoing and all that. It is definitely a weird feeling for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 01:16 AM
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Good point. With all the recent divorce threats (and a hair from pulling the trigger) the concern that this shit would hurt me during a custody hearing. It’s stupid thinking. I need to kill it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 09:16 PM
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Thanks. She did things for me even when I wouldn’t do them for her, she deferred to me on decisions, she asked my opinion a lot more Exactly this. I was dealing with my own issues this weekend and ignored her a fair amount. Despite this she just randomly did things... and she has been deferring and asking my opinion much more than usual. when the second anger phase hits before your main event. Right now, I feel... indifferent towards her and the relationship. Again - my shit to deal with.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 07:53 PM
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Has it been helping? For some reason, 20 minutes is the tipping point for me - My mind doesn’t truly settle down until 20 minutes. It’s palpable. Even 10 minutes can help me. It may not fully 'settle' but it processes through a lot of shit that I didn't even realize was on my mind. Or are you looking to control what’s ultimately not in your control (i.e. validation seeking/perfection)? Maybe spend some time thinking about what type of life you want (rather than relationship). I need to really co…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 03:03 PM
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A little bit of Focus on one book. and finish it. Set the goal this week to finish ONE book. NMMNG or WISNIFG would both be very good for you. Given your lack of STFU, I lean towards recommending WISNIFG. I constantly need her to accept my logic and it always feels like an uphill battle, and it’s exhausting. She is incapable of accepting logic. You have to move her with feelz and disengage bad behavior. This is hard as hell to do because of ego (you want to prove YOUR way is the RIGHT way), but …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 01:55 PM
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OYS Week 46 Stats: Age: 36; Height: 74 in; Weight: 194; BF: ~15% Wife: 38, (together 17, married 14); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: All of the sidebar. Most 2x. Current: Extreme Ownership Physical / Health Successes IBD flare has subsided. Meditated 4x in the past week for 15 minutes Feel stronger physically. A lot of the pain I had has subsided – back, legs, sciatica. Recovery seems quicker from lifting – probably due to increase in calories Weakness Sleep still an issue Believe anxiety…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 01:28 PM
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there's weird stuff in the water in mexico." I accidentally brushed my teeth once with tap water in Mexico. Was sick for four days. It was horrible. Mexico water is some nasty shit.
/r/askMRP03/09/19 01:09 AM
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You’re all over the place in this long ass post. We can’t answer what you want but consider this: if a woman doesn’t respect you enough to keep another guys dick out of her, why would you continue to be with her? What does that say about you as a man and your boundaries? If cheating isn't a boundary than what is? Get the divorce, start clean in Colorado. No kids so this is straightforward.
/r/askMRP02/09/19 10:50 PM
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Get some duct tape and put it over your mouth. What’s with all this overt communication? She’s not a guy; stop expecting her to act like one. You’re a dumbass - she is communicating, practically screaming at you in womanese and you’re clueless. You’ve gone DNGAF Rambo while not OYS. If you want to give comfort - do it. If you don’t - then you probably don’t like your wife. Do you like your wife?
/r/askMRP01/09/19 01:52 PM
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and i guess I do have evidence from my life that 'not AWALT' No you don’t. Also you could make a spreadsheet with the pros and cons and keep it up to date. Keep a tab of all the times you do and don’t have sex. Then show it to her. She’ll be impressed with your data analytics skills. Then she’ll keep fucking Chad.. and Tom and Steve and whoever else. Fuck man - go focus on yourself for a change.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/19 02:31 AM
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IMO this is why marriage can be a good thing; because people will tend to try harder to work it out; although can be a doubled edged sword. This guy clearly wants to spin plates and fuck other women. Which is all fine and good. Marriage 2.0 is a shitty deal for men. I used to think marriage was important for stability of raising kids, but that’s not necessary. Men risk everything and a woman nothing in the exchange. Hell - if a woman cheats it will be the guys fault for not loving her enough or …
/r/askMRP31/08/19 02:11 AM
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Stop busting your nut in women unless you want a repeat and a bunch of baby mommas. Someone apparently failed sex ed. Friend of mine with six kids once said “I don’t know how I ended up with six kids. We wanted two”... well... hate to break it to him there’s a way to prevent that shit. They’re not even Catholic. Some people are just dumb.
/r/askMRP31/08/19 02:00 AM
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Don't do anything until you see a lawyer regarding child support and custody. You clearly don't want to be with her and have options. This is a refreshing post since the answer isn't STFU, lift, sidebar
/r/askMRP30/08/19 07:13 PM
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You couldn’t cheat if you wanted to. This woman is disgusted by you and just wants the ATM is stay on. Fuck that. Stop feeling guilty and say no. There’s a book about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/19 03:09 PM
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Thanks, I'll check this out.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/19 11:56 AM
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In my case, I saw it as a direct reflection of myself. I was being a dick. I was saying shit just to hurt her... because I was angry. No positive feelz.
/r/askMRP30/08/19 11:27 AM
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You know... I never connected the two. This latest Crohns flare up I have stared with the increase in calories. The good news is it looks to finally be calming down. Down to around 4x a day from 8-10x last week. I should have seen this sooner. Next time - I’ll increase calories more slowly. Thanks for this revelation.
/r/askMRP30/08/19 02:04 AM
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You need to understand that neither of those proposed solutions will cause her immediate pain. They are both non-events for her. Not about pain on anyone - it's about getting her some help. I see it as no different than a child who didn't want to go to the doctor to get shots. She needs to go. I do not recall your test levels, but if/when you start TRT, you will 100% nuke your fucking marriage. You will not care. Last test was 296. Will test again in 1 month. Could be down due to IBD flare up / …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/19 08:13 PM
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My wife has said on multiple occasions if we get divorced she's not interested in another man. Yeah, and mine said she'd be a nun. Women say random shit that means nothing. If she doesn't feel secure she'll eventually leave for Beta Billy. Then she'll leave Beta Billy for Chad because there's no tingles. That's why in an LTR you need the balance -> tingles and security. My wife was 100% convinced I was actively making plans to leave her and was actively cheating due to zero comfort. That's not a…
/r/askMRP29/08/19 06:37 PM
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I see them as different. Regret: You feel sad or angry or disappointed over something you did in the past Mistake: You fucked something up Mistakes we learn from and move on and get better. Regrets we're stuck in the past with an "if I only did this differently". Learn from the past but don't get stuck in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/19 05:59 PM
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I'm currently taking yet another shit. You could say these are... shit responses (terrible pun 100% intended).
/r/askMRP29/08/19 05:53 PM
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nor her dog. I recently realized I am not a dog person and neither is my wife. Thought it was that we kept picking the wrong breed. Nope - we just don't like pets. Pets suck. And my dog is retarded.
/r/askMRP29/08/19 05:52 PM
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I’ve clearly stated STFU more my girl Does this mean you're not married? I’m sure what I want, but I’m unsure if I’m too Rambo about it. Is it to soon to do replace so much our-time with me-time. So you workout for an hour or two everyday after work? Play football 2x per week and you take a weekend every once in awhile for yourself? This seems pretty reasonable and not Rambo to me. Use WISNIFG to deal with this. Fogging, negative inquiry, AA, AM, etc. "You're right, we won't eat together" "Maybe…
/r/askMRP29/08/19 05:47 PM
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Well this sounds familiar. Are you me from 10 months ago? This was really long to read but there’s no advice that can be given except: Start lifting immediately Read the sidebar books - you need No More Mr. Nice Guy first. Read it. And then read it again and do the exercises. And then.... Probably read it again. Then When I say no I feel guilty. Then the others. STFU - stop complaining to your wife. Stop whining. Stop asking for sex. Stop talking about sex. Stop taking about your relationship. S…
/r/askMRP29/08/19 02:58 AM
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The problem with explaining shitty comfort tests is that they’re more to do with the context of what’s going on, body language, tone vs what’s said. What’s being said looks like a shit test but everything else is screaming comfort. This is one of those things guys just have to see and get through.
/r/askMRP29/08/19 02:47 AM
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Fuck that. I plan to haunt the shit out of people.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/19 02:42 AM
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someone is not doing her job Hahahahaha. Typical faggot - blaming a woman instead of owning his shit for not getting his dick wet.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/19 02:21 AM
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Agreed. I took a nap today for an hour because I feel like shit (haha literally... IBD sucks). I got up, finished working, cleaned some shit up, prepped a meal for after Muay Thai and then went there. All with a stomach that feels like I swallowed broken glass. Why? Because it beats the alternative of just laying the fuck around being lazy. It’s tempting - that little voice says “it’s ok”. My wife says “you don’t need to go right? I know you’re not feeling great, so why go”. My kid tells me just…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/19 02:20 AM
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You realized it already - do it from your frame. Don’t do it to get anything in return. Do it because you want to. If she doesn’t appreciate it - so what, that’s a her problem. This is where i was three months ago. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/bwc729/am_i_missing_something_or_awalt/ This was good advice from FereallyRed and applies to you. All I get here is bitterness and resentment from you still living in her frame and reacting like a butthurt little boy. You have no stats and I'm …
/r/askMRP29/08/19 02:08 AM
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Sounds like he has moved into the realm of shitty comfort tests. Each of the things he’s listed here are her (in a shitty way) seeking comfort. *When we separate *You take someone else Instead of “ok” something like “why would I want to separate?”... kiss on the forehead. That’s what she is seeking.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 10:18 PM
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You’re lacking comfort. You’re fearful that comfort = beta = bad and you’ll switch back to the old you. And you got some results - sex came roaring back. But the pendulum has swung too far. I just found this and wish I had months ago. Explains the dynamic happening with you. I fucked this up good too. Much better now that I got out of the whole “this is alpha and alpha = good; this would be beta and beta = bad” mindset. You need both - they’re two sides of the same coin which is the oak. http://…
/r/askMRP28/08/19 10:02 PM
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Besides the petty tit for tat arguing with one another stealing and replacing iPads, how have you set expectations for your family? I had the whole sleeping in another room issue for years (plural). “I expect my wife to sleep in the same bed as me”. (thanks to red-sfpplus). If she respects you enough she will follow. And she did... and this was around 8 months ago when I fucking sucked. At least there was a shred of respect left. You’ve done great shit physically and reading. How are you leading…
/r/askMRP28/08/19 07:32 PM
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What stopped them was lifting, the sidebar, and STFU. Seriously... NMMNG and the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck combined with learning about stoicism had the biggest impact. I was never addicted to Xanax. Used as needed which was rare. It was the sense of security of having it around that helped. I only used for the crippling ones. The others... just dealt with
/r/askMRP28/08/19 11:19 AM
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On the counseling - getting her some help. Sitting her down in front of a professional due to various issues that have arisen from the death of our son. My OYS from last week I was ready to get out when cooler heads prevailed and led me to the conclusion she needs some help and I’ve been a shitty leader in this area.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 11:15 AM
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I got pretty sad when they killed John Wick’s dog. Then excited as hell as he killed the motherfuckers.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 02:34 AM
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I’m revising my original advice. Who the fuck cares if she’s crazy or not. Do not take her back. Ever Run. Run away and never look back.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 02:29 AM
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“that Chappelle special” I enjoyed it. The first fifteen mins were ok but the rest were fucking amazing. He’s still my favorite comedian.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 02:20 AM
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My wife texted me about a headache and how her head may explode. I texted her “if that happens try to have it done on the hardwood floor, easier to clean up”. Yes you can text your wife. But not about feelz, boundaries, being needy, mate guarding, being jealous or whatever. Fucking with your wife is A-OK in my book. But it’s definitely not for new guys who will inevitably text something retarded. “I miss you so much I wish you were here, do you miss me to?” is NOT something you should ever text …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 01:39 AM
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Why do you want to save it? Seriously. It’s a hard lesson to learn but she doesn’t care about you at all to pull this shit. You need to get to the point where you don’t care about her. Whoever cares the least has the power.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 01:32 AM
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This chick sounds crazy as all fuck. Like serious mental illness. The only way you should even consider this is 1) she stops the crazy move out shit and 2) she gets some counseling. Run. Run away and never look back.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 10:22 PM
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Interesting. I’ve tried low carb, low fiber, high fiber, no processed, no gluten, no added sugar and probably a few other things. The biggest driver for me is stress. As long as I get enough sleep (and sometimes that means 10-12 hours a day with this crap), and have low stress. There are no symptoms. Once stress creeps up - even if I think I have it managed mentally - I get a flare. Which stresses me out more. And so on. So... back to meditation.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 09:41 PM
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I’ve always equated body positivity to its ok that you’re fat. 100% agree that people shouldn’t ever be ashamed to go to the gym or be judged for making the effort. It’s the whole “how dare you say I’m unattractive because I’m fat” mentality that doesn’t help anyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 08:10 PM
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Why is he so fucking happy? Apparently it was because I was fucking some imaginary chick at work. Man it was a crazy show of emotion Sunday night. I think it was the big reset button we both needed. She's still going to counseling though or I'm out.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 07:09 PM
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Wife wants to spend time with me vs. old days where I was fighting for attention because I was unattractive. Funny how this works isn't it? My wife and I a week ago were a hair from divorce (ok let's be honest we still probably are close to that), but this morning I slept in to around 8AM (I was up all night shitting in the bathroom and needed the rest). She comes in, plops down next to me and then just lays on me as I'm waking up. She also brought me a coffee - that was nice. Women seem crazy b…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:59 PM
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20.5%bf by scale of questionable accuracy Don't use a scale. Use pretty much any other method. My scale has said I'm ~24% body fat from when I was 265 lbs to now (low 190's). Calipers or navy method or strongur.io or all three and take an average... just no scale. Scales are bad. - Take over some more housework This sounds a lot like choreplay. Here's my general rule: if something needs to get done and I can do it -> I do it. I don't care if that's the dishes, vacuuming, picking shit up. There's…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:55 PM
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Need to anticipate her moves based on her cycles. ​ I work at an engineering firm as well. We can think a little too much along the lines of C&E. You need to be more stupid. By that I mean stop thinking so much. Technical people and engineers are too logical. Logic doesn't apply to women. You can be aware of her cycles but don't anticipate moves. You're going to be playing 4D chess, when she's playing hungry hungry hippos. Logic does not apply.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:48 PM
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I'm getting a passive aggressive vibe... maybe it's me. I'm getting that too. All the responses are aimed right back at her in a negative way. Seems like the type of Rambo responses I used to give. I'm feeling creative... here're some responses less aggressive: "We should open the windows." Alexa, open the windows. Fuck that didn't work. (I used this one last night when she asked me to turn off a closet light that she was closer to and there's no smart light switch hooked up there). Did you fart…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:44 PM
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You have an addictive personality. Porn, video games, weed, drinking. These things all feel good in the short term but suck for you in the long term. What you need is some rigid discipline and to replace these shitty things with good things. Lifting, rock climbing, reading, being social (without booze). Another wedding next weekend What would happen if you swore to yourself not to drink or smoke weed next weekend? Could you do it? Because I do not think that you can do anything in moderation - w…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:33 PM
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MoMC’s gym promotes body positivity Is this when you tell someone you're positive they're obese?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:27 PM
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Sure, I had reasonable excuses, but there's nothing but open road in front of me now and it's on me to punch it. The only reasonable excuse not to lift is severe illness or injury. Everything else is just laziness. This is different than purposefully planning not to lift. Family is visiting? Wake up at 5AM and lift. Going on a business trip for three days? Double up a day or lift 2 days in a row or change up your schedule. This mindset is your beta shit goblin sayings "it's ok you didn't lift be…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 06:25 PM
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Sounds like your wife is (understandably) in a shitty mood because of the pain. I don't see much you can do differently other than project a positive attitude 100% of the time. Keep seeing her as the oldest teenager - one who is just in a shitty situation. Reinforce you got this shit in the house. Send her to bed or pick her up and lay her on the couch. I do this all the time to my wife and she "hates it" (as in she really loves it but says she hates it). "Sweetheart, you're tired, time for bed.…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 05:42 PM
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Congrats on it being over, but it's a bullshit decision - especially with the kids and DV thing. I don't even know you and am pissed the fuck off over this. Your lessons on frame and OI through your divorce has taught me a lot. Thanks for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 05:27 PM
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NMMNG – nice guys hide a shitload of pathologies behind our nice masks. Stop being one (easier said than done) So my wife is smart as fuck. She doesn't know about NMMNG, but she does know that I am no longer lying or apologetic for who I am. A few weeks ago she told me she now has trouble trusting me since I lied to her for 18 years about who I truly was and what I truly wanted and that made me a deceitful liar. And she is 100% right. Nice guys are the biggest assholes there are. After reading t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 05:16 PM
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Yeah - dealing with this for 7 years now. I haven't ever found it related to certain foods. I've played a lot with food elimination. Alcohol is the only thing I actively avoid. For me - it's stress, thus why I added meditation back to my plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 05:04 PM
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OHP -> Chin ups BP -> Rows Squat -> trying to find a good accessory here... I've been doing curls because upper body is a big weak spot. Deadlift -> Hangling leg raises I'm considering swapping to dips on squat day to continue upper body emphasis without just isolating the biceps. edit: format
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 04:07 PM
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Makes sense with always doing the AMRAP for the last set. I'll be sticking with 5/3/1 BBB for awhile. Stronglifts was good to get started. RPT was ok when I was trying not to lose strength... but 5/3/1 is the first program where I really feel like I'm accomplishing something and pushing myself to my absolute limit.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 04:02 PM
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I don't even think OP is married. My Rambo 'worked' with the wife for about 6 months... then bad things happened because she was scared as fuck I was going to leave, cheating, going to cheat. Finally - fucking finally - she spilled it all out this weekend. That she's scared that when I travel or go to a work dinner, or go to Muay Thai or hell go to the store I'm trying to pick up other women to cheat on her with. It has been dread to the extreme with zero comfort. This Athol Kay post was spot on…
/r/askMRP27/08/19 03:59 PM
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And it's an industry I'm not passionate about. This for me is the key statement. I love what I do and I love the industry I'm in. I actually believe in the shit we do here and what we manufacture. If you aren't going to wake up most days and be excited about going to work, then don't take the other job.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 03:51 PM
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I've been looking for opportunities to make a conversation sexual, or somewhere I can drop an innuendo in. This is going to come across weird and unnatural - because it's weird and unnatural. For now, focus on keeping conversations going - playing with the emotions, teasing, vs overtly looking to drop an innuendo in. They'll eventually come naturally and then you can go laugh with your wife about them. Example: We were playing 5-year-old 'pictionary' where she would draw something and we would g…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 03:46 PM
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RP is an awareness of truth RP is also amoral. Not immoral - amoral. You do what you want with it. I can take a hammer and build a house or bash someone's skull in. They're just tools - you define how they apply to your life. Want to go fuck a bunch of plates dark triad style? Go for it Want a solid monogamous marriage? Go for it Want to piss on girls in the shower? Go for it Want to fuck a babysitter - get her pregnant and have her live with you and your wife? Go for it. The same fundamental RP…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 03:40 PM
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Legitimate question - I'm a data guy... so I like to see the graphs of the lifts which is the only reason I track and look at estimated 1RM. When switching up different programs from time to time, how do you 'normalize' the weight + reps data into something simple to track outside of an estimated 1RM to see trends? Would simply measuring the volume be a better indicator of progress than the e1RM?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 03:35 PM
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That's why not being butthurt is vital. This took me a very long time to internalize. But since I did, there's been at least a half dozen times now where she gives a soft no (or even hard no), I go back to reading my book and then she's initiating (in her own subtle way) five minutes later. I'm sure this is responsive desire as well but it's also not being fucking butt hurt. There's always another opportunity for sex - with her, without her, whatever. It's not like if you're turned down you will…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 03:29 PM
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“I’m just a poor boy, I need no sympathy...”.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 03:12 PM
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OYS Week 45 Stats: Age: 36; Height: 74 in; Weight: 192.5; BF: 14 +/- 1% Wife: 38, (together 17, married 14); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: All of the sidebar. Most 2x. Out of all my time here - this past week has been the toughest but most rewarding. The feedback and posts by multiple people (on my OYS, on their OYS, individual posts, etc) were very eye-opening. So, fuck anyone who disparages MRP - the support (and that includes calling me a faggot) here is incredible. New format because…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 03:04 PM
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The recommendation is to read both sidebars. There’s good general life skills to be picked up from both. And if you ever consider a girlfriend or LTR you need to read this one too.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 02:06 AM
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You won’t find sympathy here. Guys have been through way worse than a failed business venture. We all have our struggles. It’s not the struggle that defines you - it’s what your reaction to it is. Hey - you were weak. That’s great you recognize it. So what are you going to do to make yourself mentally stronger in the future?
/r/askMRP27/08/19 02:05 AM
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If you think money means you’re successful in life then you have some hard lessons to learn. Stop living your life for other people. If you think you fail at this business venture means you’re a failure - you also don’t get what being successful at life is. You fail - you learn - you do better. And fuck anyone else who tries to bring you down or get in your way. You have an ego - that’s bad. That means you don’t realize yet how shitty you are. Maybe you’ll get angry at the comments on this post …
/r/askMRP27/08/19 02:02 AM
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Like everything else in life it depends how you say it. Verbal communication is only around 10% of language. Tone, body language, a wink and a grin completely changes the context from butt hurt to AA... the important thing is where you are coming from when you say it - are you intending to hurt her or simply think it’s funny and humorous?
/r/askMRP27/08/19 01:34 AM
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There’s an amazing thing we talk about here. It’s pretty simple. You simply shut... the... fuck.... up. When in doubt stfu. Read those books. Then you’ll be better equipped to deal with it. You’re just me 10 months ago. Do the work... or don’t. Your choice.
/r/askMRP26/08/19 10:55 PM
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Damn straight. That was me. Don’t go Rambo.
/r/askMRP26/08/19 09:47 PM
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Yes she should be kicking you when you're down. She's a woman and you're a man. This is the way things are. Quit being a woman. You should be GLAD she's testing you. The problem isn't her, it's OP. These shit tests he's getting are so easy to pass too... I bet after about a week if work reading the sidebar (especially WISNIFG) he'd be able to pass them.
/r/askMRP26/08/19 08:35 PM
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It's about wanting meat. Read the /r/marriedredpill sidebar or this. That's all the help you get from me.
/r/askMRP26/08/19 08:33 PM
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This is like a neutron star density level of faggotry. I really want to continue pursuing this business, but if I continue to fail I'll continue being weak and vulnerable to those comments by her. Does not matter if you do the business or not - you'll still be vulnerable - with her, without her, doesn't matter. She can't hurt you unless you let her. This was a shit test - you failed the shit test, then you came and DEER'd on here. The only question that matters is: "Will continuing to do this bu…
/r/askMRP26/08/19 08:30 PM
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here this post seems to be saying “don’t overthink it, just do it.” I think this is accurate. Think things through but you can't paralyze yourself thinking about what to do. Take a path and adjust from there. For instance, guys spend too much time thinking about what book to read next, what lifting plan to do, what diet to do. What are the pros and cons of each, should I do this or that. All that effort of thinking about what TO do could be spent in actually DOING. By no means just run blindly o…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/19 05:02 PM
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Everyone can relate to those thoughts ( well except the peeing thing). There's a healthy review of weaknesses (what I see OYS as perfect for) with action plans to correct them. I'm certainly guilty of getting into a play by play of the past vs making a plan to move forward. It is where plans come to life, anxiety is created and people get lost in their history. If you have anxiety - this is where it comes from. It's not only an echo chamber where things bounce around, it's actually a feedback lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/19 02:29 PM
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The key is to find the right therapist who holds similar values. Find one who is most interested in getting YOU Healthy. The approach from her is - my goal is to make sure YOU, not your wife, not your kids, not your parents, not anyone else are in a good place. It’s another tool in the toolbox. I’m not shy about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/19 03:29 AM
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Same to you... I hope you’re in a good place now. I know I am. I’ve finally accepted what happened. Those dark days are still tough to think about - I can without breaking down but I don’t like to. I was the one was his nurse at home. I cleaned his IV, gave him meds. Near the end, I administered morphing to keep him comfortable. I carried his lifeless body to the stretcher the funeral home brought. I covered him up with his Superman blanket. Like you I arranged the funeral. And then - then when …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/19 03:20 AM
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When your close blood relations die, as I have experienced many times now, your first obligation is to yourself. Your first obligation is always to yourself. But the death of a close relative (brother, sister, mom, dad, wife) or friend is different than your kid. For me, the strain was too much. I broke. Between trying to be strong for my wife, my other kids, my parents I fucked up because I broke. Then I was there for no one - and since everyone else was hurting no one could be there for me. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/19 03:02 AM
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I think the stat I’ve seen is around 80% split up. The theory on this is that losing a kid destroys both people and they each become someone else. They then effectively start the process over in the relationship. This may be true in a few cases but I disagree overall with the premise. The cause that I think is more likely is them becoming so absorbed in dealing with the pain however they can that they simply lose any connection to each other. Keep in mind both people are dealing with the greates…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 10:39 PM
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“Im so grateful to have found this place, because it gave me the tools to be the type of man to weather this storm and live a good life for my boy.” I know I would have never found this place without that storm. I would have just continued going on floating in life and it wouldn’t be a good one. Despite all the shit I’m shoveling I’ve never been in a better place mentally that I can remember. I’ve had severe mental issues with anxiety since I was 14... now I don’t.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 12:26 PM
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Thanks for sharing... it was hard to read since it brought back some terrible memories of my son dying from the brain cancer. The good news is you had one slip up... I went into a 2 year depression. Found this place, got me better. That plus therapy. But coming back to your post - AWALT. My wife didn’t know how to handle it and eventually overtly came out and told me “you have to deal with this on your own, I can’t help you”. And she was right. At the time I hated her for it - couldn’t she see I…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 12:10 PM
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I was thinking about this today a lot... I simply can’t fathom in my life not going through the hell I’ve been through. It’s not something I’m sad about or is “oh woe is me”... it just happened. It sucked and nearly destroyed me, but without it... I wouldn’t be nearly as mentally strong as I am. So how do guys who have had it “easy” become strong without serious adversity? Is this possible? I am sure it is but I can’t see how. When people ask “how did you get through that? I never could”. The an…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 12:06 AM
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He's 5, not a baby; YOU set the rules not him. There is no "persuading". On this one - we have a similiar issue with my daughter. She doesn't want to eat what we make most of the time. What has worked is if she starts throwing a fit, 1 warning, then calmly we wrap up her food and put it away. I'd say 90% of the time, 15 mins later she complains she's hungry and we bring out the exact same food for her to eat. She also loses out out no matter what on any dessert if we're having it. When the kids …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 04:47 PM
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This is about me, so what if my wife was drunk but I was sober? Completely different story. Would almost certainly have dealt with the situation in a better way. I'm glad you came to this conclusion yourself... and yes this is what I was hoping you would realize. Nice work.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 04:08 PM
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Do you tell him about the aquifer? I will say I would want to be told about the aquifer. Why? Because the time currently spent in this struggle can be applied and invested in improving something else - maybe build a better hut, maybe he can farm more food and sell it and improve his lifestyle, maybe he can go lift and read the sidebar now. I like efficiency - time is precious and it's the only thing we have and control. So by removing the time to do X, I can now invest that time in Y. If this gu…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 03:42 PM
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Let me ask this a different way... were you drinking heavily when this incident occurred?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 01:41 PM
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The shit testing makes perfect sense. She saw you as the leader for a bit.. then wanted to probe to make sure it's not an act and that you are actually changing for the better. So she gives some shit tests -> (hopefully) you pass (he's hot) -> more shit tests, etc. Eventually there will also be shitty comfort tests and comfort tests. DO NOT TREAT THEM AS SHIT TESTS.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 01:40 PM
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Nah. He would tear shit posters a new asshole. And do it so elegantly well. It was beautiful. A work of art. Brings a tear to my eye.
/r/askMRP22/08/19 11:25 PM
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I think a lot career betas have. Just got to live with it and do better.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 11:14 PM
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I hope you find success on your journey. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 08:21 PM
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However personally I would like to drop to 140 and then do a clean bulk to 145-150lbs. Biggest target goal right now is to drop the body fat %. Then drop to 140 and then do a clean bulk... are you looking for permission to do this? You have my permission. Duty sex happened recently. I took it but getting off was just not as good. Make it what you want it. Use her for your pleasure when this happens. Go caveman on her. Finish out the last 4 weeks of this HIIT program then back to lifting. You nee…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 07:48 PM
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“Can you do the dishes if you see them in the sink?” It's not about the dishes... Saturday with her exclaiming “I’m tired of you” "You'll be tired after I fuck you later" This is perhaps the hardest part of the relationship. I feel like this relationship is still touch and go. Maybe this is the nature of all relationships. I'm still finding my way in this post RP learning phase. Fuck... I wish I had your problems. This is the hardest thing? Seriously? You've had an easy life then. I told her she…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 07:44 PM
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OP - this is solid advice. You are headed for a place where your wife will not want your mom to see the kids. How do I know? Because I'm in that situation with my parents. All because I had zero boundaries and figured it was best to "let her deal with my parents". Hell I have a pretty good excuse even for the incident that caused this to occur but guess what? It's still my fucking fault and doesn't fucking matter. Here's my advice: Apologize to your wife for being a faggot in all this Remember -…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 07:38 PM
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Thank you again, Man! i've read and reread and bookmarked both articles Read them every few days / every week. I still do, they're incredibly helpful. as for the ace/gray article, my wife pretty much checks all those boxes. i have made great strides in coming to terms with the fact that no matter what i do, i will never be able to change this -that's if she is truly an asexual/gray woman. This is a terrible mindset. I've struggled with this at length and still do - my wife's (lack of) sexuality …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 07:14 PM
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That was a long read... I drank almost every day, and drank a lot (~12 drinks) on three of the days. Smoked a fair bit of weed too, although this is not normal behaviour these days. I’m not proud about what happened next, but having spent some hours reflecting on alternatives believe I did what was required. None of the below was conscious thought, simply action. I slapped her back with the same amount of force she had used. I grabbed her hard by the jaw, and twisted her face towards me when she…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 06:46 PM
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What the fuck happend to SBIII! How do I summon that guy. I think you have to make a blood sacrifice to the Gods of Post History. And then say his name three times in front of a mirror.
/r/askMRP22/08/19 06:39 PM
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​ I gave you all the information you need, especially in part 2 of that post series. You need to create a safe place for your wife (aka "the oak on steriods") to land and then feel like she is not judged. Stop judging your wife and you may actually see progress. OP - listen to this and really absorb it... this is the key. I did not realize that until very recently. Fix yourself for sure, but without her feeling safe... well you're going to blow shit up in a bad bad way.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 06:13 PM
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But I still feel drunk and lost and many of the RP principles and strategies are confusing to me. Well you're in the right place... you can't do it all at once so prioritize and take things slowly. A green blue dude trying to become red in a way that leads to me being a better version of myself. FTFY Dread Game This morning for example, my wife met me in the kitchen to make out. She put my hands on her tits and I grabbed her ass and we felt each other up. We dirty talked each other and couldn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 06:02 PM
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Maybe I'll be back in a year, maybe not. Yeah the money is on not. This whole post wasn’t for anyone but yourself. This is honestly one of the most disgusting things I’ve seen posted on here. But it’s a great example of omega level behavior and what not to do as a man. You’ve ironically added value by being such a low value faggot example.
/r/askMRP22/08/19 05:43 PM
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I have this tendency... mine vs hers. My house, my kids, my son, my X. Something I've been hyperaware of lately. I need to read Extreme Ownership. safe place with her vulneurability. I haven't been. That probably is the reason for all the other shit (not open sexually, not open emotionally, shut down and finger fucking her phone)... I went from a supplicating / dishonest faggot to an angry/unsafe asshole. Good times... we will see how the next few weeks go. Hopefully the cycle is going to be bro…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/19 01:38 PM
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Thank you. This was very helpful. I can work on myself and will. Your point about the vows (which I do take very seriously) is spot on. My goal is to get her help. There’s likely ptsd, depression, along with some personality stuff that makes things worse going on. At this point we have a counseling session scheduled. I’m going with her. WISNIFG was crucial here. Basically there was two paths - divorce or she gets help. Initially she was all set on divorce and I was making plans for it (still am …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 10:46 PM
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What’s sad is my biggest concern about a separation if an apartment would let me have my power rack and weights in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 09:36 PM
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Cardiologist cleared me yesterday after a stress test. Nothing abnormal whatsoever. “Extremely healthy heart” was what he said. So I’ve had thyroid, pituitary, adrenals and heart checked out. All very healthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 09:24 PM
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Thanks. Your post way back when was the one that gave me an ounce of hope of overcoming my issues. And I’ve done so - well a lot of them. My therapist today (conveniently already has a session) basically said I need to find an attorney and get out - there’s likely no saving this since my wife has created a completely false narrative around life and only lives for one purpose - and that’s my kids. That combined with the videotaping points to only one answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 09:21 PM
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The boundaries have been violated - the videotaping is the big one. It’s not my fault. I’m making plans to get out of the situation. My therapists feedback: - my wife won’t change. - My wife doesn’t love you, maybe never has. - she exhibits clear traits of sociopath - she is abusive towards you and then makes you the bad guy - find a good attorney
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 09:17 PM
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I know this is hard and that it’s easier to look away It's hard but it's not something I've ignored. It's the "doing the same things over and over and expect different results". She doesn't want help. I have tried multiple approaches. It's frustrating because I care for this woman and see her pain and KNOW she needs help.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 04:39 PM
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I think you're right... she claims she would never do such a thing and she's "fine" but her actions scream out she needs help. She can't move past my son dying. And she's killed off one by one her support network with the exact same behavior she's pulling now. I think she WANTS to be miserable. Thanks for the perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 03:32 PM
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See, I don't think you're her safe place. I agree - she has no safe place. There's never been vulnerability in her. To anyone. My good friend gave me this advice: "keep going until it starts to affect you or the kids". Well - it's at the point it's affecting me and the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 03:10 PM
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I think there's another option. Do a separation (hell it's required anyhow by my state). I see this as "listen, you're on a cliff, I don't want you to jump but I can't stop you from jumping. But I am not going to be a party to you being out her standing on the cliff anymore. If you want to back away from the cliff, we can go from there, but it's dangerous for me [and the kids] to be around you when you're on this cliff".
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:56 PM
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She has attempted to use sage on me on more than one occasion.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:41 PM
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I appreciate the assessment. I see things a little differently. It's the overall pattern that is starting to get to me. The negativity, the hostility, the emotional blank use of the kids, not interested in life. I've read your post again on depressed wives. And I get it, but she's in such a state that I am not capable enough to get her out - and she refuses professional treatment. That's where I am this week, trying to figure out how much more effort I can put into something that I really - deep…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:40 PM
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I have my therapist appointment later today. I'll discuss any options with her. She agrees my wife needs help but she also has made it clear that at some point, I need to do what's best for me (and the kids) and that there's a good chance that means separation and then divorce. She thinks separation may be the only thing that gets her into treatment.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:25 PM
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If it is affecting her in relation to the kids, that’s probably the angle you need to push to convince her to finally get some help. Angle pushed. "I just love my kids so much... it's perfectly normal to want them around me 24 hours a day, they're my best friends, they make me feel good to be around them". I really would love to find a way to get her some help. But that goes back to the "saveaho" mentality.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:24 PM
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I'm surprised you don't think your kids can see this, and if you're aware it's having an effect on how they handle their future relationships. Best to stop making this a tough decision, so you no longer have an excuse why you aren't doing anything about it. It's fucking the kids up. I know this. Not just in future relationships but even as growth as kids. My wife uses them as her emotional blanket. If they get mad at her for something she tells them "I guess you're not my best friend anymore". T…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:19 PM
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Time to get her some help, man. And how do you do that when she refuses to 1) acknowledge a problem 2) thinks everyone ELSE is the issue and 3) will "never go to a therapist, I rather die".
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:09 PM
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Thanks for the insight. This is helpful Dig deep, do you really want to do all that shit? Actually - yes I did. Me and the kids worked together to do it. She could care less about this shit, I did it because it was fun and something to do with the kids. Anniversaries, valentine's day, etc. There's nothing except maybe a handwritten note for her. I don't think it's the latter in this case. Me either. What I keep thinking about is how some women can never give up control and rather choose to be mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:08 PM
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I think there is definitely something going on and I have tried (scheduled an appointment for her) to get her in. She 100% refuses to see someone. She's fine - she's normal. I'm the one who is possessed and needs help. She'd be "weak" if she went and (recurring theme) no one can tell her what to do or how to feel. I do see a therapist - have since my son died. It helps. All the game and attractiveness in the world won’t help you if she isn’t in her right state of mind. Agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 01:49 PM
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I control me - sure I know that. Here's how I see it and yes this is getting inside her head, but whatever... She had a controlling dad (like physically abusive type) She has a mindset that anything she doesn't like is a personal attack on her [AWALT for sure] She holds onto these personal attacks... well forever [AWALT] I always backed down when she acted like this (it's been the entire relationship but it's getting worse). My fault I don't back down now. I come up with solutions to problems (a…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 01:39 PM
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I was forcing it in the past, I agree. But now I don’t see that. I am not sure if I like my wife is the honest answer. I would say 80% of the time I don’t. Got the roller coming today. Have the bands already.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 12:48 PM
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Nah, I’m not inviting every day. Once in awhile - every couple of weeks. Can you expand how you feel it is placating? I don’t see it but I may be missing something.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 12:34 PM
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OYS Week 45 Stats: Age: 36; Height: 74 in; Weight: 191; BF: Not going to worry about for 3 months. Was 13-15%. Wife: 38, (together 17, married 14); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: All of the sidebar. Most 2x. Physical / Health Lifts Estimated 1RM: BR: 175, BP: 198, DL: 354, OP:115, SQ: 273 · Libido has been shot and fatigue is very bad. I’m starting to think my ‘dizziness’ and ‘heart racing’ may be a form of anxiety that I never experienced previously – but I have no mental issues when it …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 10:31 AM
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It’s as much them lying to themself than lying to us. The hamster is strong. A guy who can’t look in the mirror and know where he’s fucking up has no hope of getting better.
/r/askMRP20/08/19 12:32 AM
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We should just make a stickied generic "My wife/LTR/girlfriend cheated on me" thread and put in your comment.
/r/askMRP19/08/19 07:54 PM
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I can't answer what YOU want to do. What do YOU want? I can tell you what I would do. I know 100% what the course would be if she was cheating / even sending pics is cheating in my book. I'd be seeing a lawyer, gathering evidence, drawing up papers, and when all the legal shit was in place - drop the papers on her. You'll be fine, kids will be fine. You may go for awhile without pussy, or not if your SMV is high - but it doesn't fucking matter. It should be (in my opinion) an unforgivable offens…
/r/askMRP19/08/19 07:53 PM
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“This is the second my wife cheated and I want to hamster staying but I’m totally 100% RP” posts this week. You do whatever you want but for me (and most guys in here) cheating is an instant divorce. It’s unforgivable and if you stay, what boundaries exactly could you ever enforce? Don’t sleep with... too many men? Don’t get an STD? You don’t have to go scorched Earth but you need to burn down the marriage. It’s over.
/r/askMRP19/08/19 07:03 PM
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Try having inflammatory bowel disease. You’ll shit your pants a lot more than just when you cry.
/r/askMRP19/08/19 06:00 PM
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“Hoping stfu, lift and sidebar can turn it around” Nope, it won’t but it will turn you around. And then your marriage may or may not survive. At that point that’ll be up to you. And trust me - your faggotry doesn’t hold a candle to where I was when I found this place. Just get to work. Best advice I can give you: give it lots of time. There’s no overnight success stories here. Oh and post - every fucking week in the own your shit thread. And be brutally honest in that thread - people will call y…
/r/askMRP18/08/19 11:06 PM
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Exactly this... if you are thinking “is this blue pill/beta” or “I’m sexy now, I’ll buy my wife X and then we will have sex tonight” you don’t get to do nice things for her. I went 7 months without anything nice for my wife. Not because I was being a dick (ok I was but that was a separate issue), but because I kept doing it for validation or a covert contract. Fast forward a bit - her birthday was Friday, put up a bunch of balloons, a streamer, a big bag of Sour Patch Kids. I didn’t expect anyth…
/r/askMRP18/08/19 09:34 PM
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I’d still fucking care. It’s still my car regardless. You’re rationalizing a lot of shit. You do you. For me, cheating is an insta-divorce. There’s no recovery, no staying for the kids, no staying to make her feel better (wtf is this btw?). I don’t understand how any self respecting man can tolerate a woman who cheats.
/r/askMRP18/08/19 03:53 PM
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I got my brothers and two close guy friends. One of my friends is extremely beta, the other is much more alpha. I basically consider what the beta says and do the opposite if he gives any advice. My other friend is great to run stuff through and I can puke at him and he sets me right most of the time. For instance when a couple of weeks ago wife was going crazy and being a bitch: Beta Friend: you should just apologize. Happy wife happy life right? Alpha friend: give her space, ignore her for the…
/r/askMRP17/08/19 12:20 AM
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seems like a desperate last attempt It's her Hail Mary pass. Sounds like she's a pretty loyal wife to let it get this bad that she's throwing up a neon sign that says "YOU SUCK" to him.
/r/askMRP15/08/19 06:26 PM
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Haha haha, you are totally going to try to talk your wife around. Doesn’t 17 years mean something? What about the kids? What about how we talked about growing old together? We built a life together, we can fix this! 99% chance he has or will have this argument. Then he'll go back to angry and rambo.
/r/askMRP15/08/19 06:19 PM
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I don't think that's going to go well for OP based on his level of faggotry. Maybe Grinder would be better for him?
/r/askMRP15/08/19 06:12 PM
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This is all in the /r/marriedredpill sidebar but here's the cliff notes: #1 - realize this is all your fault. Also realize she did you a favor because you know how shitty you are. #2 - start lifting heavy weights a minimum of 3x per week #3 - read the sidebar #4 - STFU - STOP FUCKING TEXTING HER. IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU WANT, ACT LIKE SHE'S DEAD TO YOU. She's laughing to Chad that her faggot ex is still begging to come back to her between choking on his dick and getting fucked in the ass by h…
/r/askMRP15/08/19 06:11 PM
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She tells them she's not ready to make the decision to leave me, but because she equates love with sex we have only had sex twice which she initiated, had an orgasm followed by crying due to her feeling confused. Since the second time she won't go past kissing. You've only ever had sex twice? That's not good. I know that's not what you're saying, but that's how it's written. The crying - you're right on the confused. I think she WANTS to "love" [desire] you but doesn't. The no kissing is a big r…
/r/askMRP15/08/19 06:02 PM
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Says "I will not DEER with you". Proceeds to DEER at least 5 different points. I think you're stuck in anger. But it may be a new anger. It's the "I've done all these things and she's not fucking me THE WAY I WANT" phase. I'm not looking up your history, but aren't you the same guy who a few weeks ago had a "long discussion" with your wife about fight club (as in you made some changes, she should fuck you now?). I'm saying this because I am (I hope) getting out of this phase. It ebbs and flows f…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 07:51 PM
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So I looked at dealing her in more as a way to give comfort. You're definitely onto something here. Tuesday, I came home and she looked at me and asked "what should we have for dinner?". First, I got annoyed - she's been home all day and didn't think about this. I don't care what it is, if it's me picking up food, just have a plan. But then I tried a different tactic. First I said, "we're getting subs". Then I said "You know what? Going forward, I don't want to make the decision for dinner. You'…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 07:22 PM
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Reminds me of this. https://youtu.be/lQlIhraqL7o
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 08:41 PM
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Here’s what we need to internalize: you can provide comfort and not let her treat you like shit. They’re not mutually exclusive. You can care for your wife and provide comfort at the same time pass the shit tests and not tolerate disrespect. That is what I think the lesson is.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 07:29 PM
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No, didn’t even know about this. But symptoms do line up. Makes sense to get checked out. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 07:19 PM
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My wife just sent me an article on how women find dumpy Dad bod's sexier than fit men. I saw that article and it was hilarious from the RP perspective.
/r/askMRP13/08/19 05:52 PM
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Yeah, yeah, normal shit test. Does it matter? "I like fat guys or skinny guys, not muscles". Bull - fucking - shit. You know it, I know it, she knows it. Nothing to see here - just keep lifting.
/r/askMRP13/08/19 05:51 PM
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Comfort is often about wanting to feel appreciated. Most of us do this with praise so the feminine grows. This - I don't praise enough (or at all). I make it seem like I'm indifferent to her completely. Simple shit is all that's needed. "Thanks for doing X, good job doing Y, etc." I just need to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 05:50 PM
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This morning I left her a letter of what I expect from this SAHM of 27 years what I expect of her financially. I'm pissed at myself for what seems like a pansy way of going about this. I emailed my attorney this AM and asked for separation papers A bit extreme here aren't you Rambo? You're married 27 years... my guess is at least 20 of them was BP faggotry if not more. You found MRP around when I did - Nov 2018 and you're 1) demanding things from her, 2) demanding things from her in a pretty bet…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 05:28 PM
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These are the times I need to reject bad sex and just stop, get dressed and leave the room. But it's tough because I want the sex since we only average once a week. Of course, I know when I accept the bad sex it reinforces to her that it's acceptable. Why not just make it like you want? Use her body for you pleasure? Go full caveman on her without regard that she's starfishing? Stop the negative/judgmental talk in my head about other people myself You're in your own head a lot aren't you? Replay…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 05:20 PM
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until or unless you have the "good fortune" to nearly - very fucking nearly - lose it all - all - everything - and I don't mean money - and then realize there's more to fucking life than fucking money. 100% agreed. I don't wish some of the shit I've had to go through on my worst enemy but without it you really don't understand that money is just money - there's so much more important shit to life. Like living your life to the fullest.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 04:47 PM
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Maybe I'll actually do the Breaking Free exercises on this read through - has anyone found them helpful? Yes - do the exercises and really think through them. They were very helpful for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 04:39 PM
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Divorced four years ago, married two weeks ago, not two weeks after the divorce. Four years after the divorce. I understood this. My point is that you're here after 2 weeks of marriage. I got an annulment through the RCC -- we wouldn't have married if I hadn't. Fair enough. You still fucked other women w/o being married :). My point is I think religion can be used as a crutch / excuse when it suits people's opinions. I certainly see that a lot with religious people so I am probably just being an…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 02:34 PM
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Should have worded my body doesn't like 5x10 squats. Sciatica flared up and leg cramped after. Need to do some more stretching.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 02:21 PM
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Chance of marriage lasting? 5% Eh, this doesn't need measurement and it's an opinion anyhow. just can't find anything to do Martial arts. We saw a therapist on Thursday. Well.. that's not going to go well for you. I see a therapist. But "we" will never see one unless it's part of a "look good for divorce" strategy. I also see her emotional disconnection, "the world revolves around my wants" as a major red flag I never identified That's AWALT. Seriously making me question if she is the type of pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 02:20 PM
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I've read MRP and RP forums with profit since my divorce (2015). I've never truly tried. I've never swallowed the pill. I'm truly curious why this is. Did you not believe it? Were you in denial? Did you think there was a better way? I'm curious because I found this place and it was like being hit with lightning - it all made sense, immediately. divorced 4 years married two weeks So... that's not good. I think you fucked up again but if you put in actual work you can save yourself. we're Catholic…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 02:12 PM
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I laid the groundwork for my return days ago so it would not be a surprise when I went and hopefully avoid shit testing. You hamstered shit for days about going to lift and spent how much time worrying and "laying groundwork"? Fuck man, it's not complicated - "I'm going to the gym, see you in an hour". I am not at an obese BMI. Congrats I guess? So you're only a fat ass and not a lard ass now? Stop focusing on BMI - focus on body fat percentages. damn kids! Why... why do you feel the need to pre…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 02:02 PM
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Weighing myself every morning an night. Mornings are now under 160 every day. One morning was 156. I figure the trend matters more than the wildly inaccurate individual readings. Just weigh yourself in the morning, take the average for the week. Use the weekly average to trend / track week to week. Weight fluctuates too much day to day.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 01:56 PM
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when I do I end up rolling around lost in thought for an hour. Meditate. You sound like you need it. She never struck me as the type to play these mindgames... or maybe I'm being too harsh. All women play mindgames if you're attractive enough. When they stop completely, that's a bad sign. Fuck me, I like her so much of course I want to talk with her, make up, see what kind of future can be built with this woman, but I can't help but wonder that if in doing so, I'll sabotage the relationship anyw…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 01:54 PM
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I find I am still reacting to her and instantly go to (and in some cases still do) DEER. I am improving in recognising I have done it, but I am now trying to focus on the trigger point in where I just react to what she has said rather than implementing my reading. Set a harsh standard for yourself that you will not under any circumstance DEER - not only to your wife, but to anyone. You're going to fuck it up a lot. But what will happen is you'll catch it quicker and quicker every time. Then even…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 01:48 PM
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OYS Week 44 Stats: Age: 36; Height: 74 in; Weight: 191; BF: Not going to worry about for 3 months. Was 13-15%. Wife: 38, (together 17, married 14); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: All of the sidebar. Most 2x. Physical / Health Lifts Estimated 1RM: BR: 175, BP: 198, DL: 354, OP:115, SQ: 273 Do not like the scale increasing even a pound but fuck it; plan is the same – lift heavy, eat more for 3 months then reassess/cut if needed. I need to build strength/muscle (especially upper body is weak…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 12:56 PM
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Yesterday I drank I'm not going to say never drink as a hard fast rule for everyone, but for YOU I highly recommend cutting out drinking. Hey - so you fucked up. Now analyze why. I certainly hope you're posting in OYS. As she got angrier with me I got angrier with her Why does this happen to you? Anger comes from three areas - fear, hurt, or frustration. What was it here? When she hauled off and smacked me (didn’t hurt but offended the shit out of me) I've been slapped twice that I can remember …
/r/askMRP12/08/19 01:48 PM
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No problem. Good luck. Get the reading done. The last three pieces of advice on there are just as much to remind myself as you. Anger phase takes awhile.
/r/askMRP09/08/19 01:49 PM
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I can see my anger is rooted in fear of falling back into beta nice-guy mindset, and back into my wife's frame. So my anger has gone through the following phases: Pissed off at myself for letting things get so bad / being a faggot Pissed off at my wife/mom/society for selling me a lie Angry that I saw the matrix and can't ever go back to the way to ignorance Pissed off at my wife for not fulfilling my covert contracts Pissed off at my wife because I didn't want fall back in her frame Pissed off …
/r/askMRP09/08/19 01:29 PM
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I don’t have any of the issues of a broken dick. It’s hard as a rock when I wake up... random times... touching my wife. Whatever. Sex Drive is high too. The energy thing is really the only issue I’m facing. And that apparently may be heart related. Once I get that figured out I’ll worry about the test.
/r/askMRP07/08/19 08:24 PM
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As /u/Westernhagen said, make sure you're not shaming or putting unrealistic expectations on him. I know from my own experience, this is what made me fearful of rejection (still am to an extent). Encourage him to try new things, but be ok if they don't work out. Even on this post, I wonder how much you're pushing him to "just be ok/normal/whatever" and projecting yourself and your feelings onto him. If he has real issues - well yeah, but if it's that he seems a little odd/anti-social/whatever th…
/r/askMRP07/08/19 06:46 PM
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This is very low on details. How old is your son? Is he showing behaviors your recognize? Or is this your own concerns because you feel like there's problems in you or your wife's (also you) parenting?
/r/askMRP07/08/19 02:35 PM
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that you haven’t peed on I’m sitting here in a nice quiet doctor’s office and read this. Involuntary laughter ensued.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/19 12:47 PM
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Ask her if she thinks pirates or ninjas are cooler. Discuss at length. Seriously. Shit like this is fun. Now my wife is Sexy Pirate Ninja in my phone.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 09:46 PM
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Well shit... this is exactly right. Well the second sentence. Not sure how much white knight it is but I certainly trip myself up with thinking too damned much.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 06:01 PM
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Your wife doesn't get a free pass, but until you've sorted your own shit, you're more than likely chasing the wrong things, and pushing or setting the wrong boundaries, so it's usually best to get yourself straight before trying to force change on her. And as you're finding, your own rabbit hole is usually a whole lot deeper than you think. There's a whole lot of shit... I clear a pile and think I've cleared it all so I get excited that the shit is finally gone. "I've done it, I've cleaned out a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 04:21 PM
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Like red said: “even if it’s you who is the problem: who cares?”. This is a really good point. I’m not sure you personally need to be harder on yourself. Pretty sure I don't... I need to let mistakes and failure go better while learning from them. I'm a lot better in this regard but that doesn't mean I have overcome this.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 04:17 PM
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> She has issues and she needs help. I'm going to help her. Does she REALLY need help and have issues? What are you thinking are her issues? 98% of the time it's a reflection of you and yes - you're causing any perceived issues she has. I'd be very wary of any counselor painting you as the bad guy - I haven't heard any success stories from counseling, I have from MRP. > And she proceeded to give the shit test of all shit tests. Divorce. She contacted a lawyer. Do you know how many times my wife …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 04:13 PM
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My issue right now is that I promised her I would take the full paternity leave offered by my company, 8 weeks worth. Ah, you should never even said how many you get. I think it's crazy for a guy to take off more than two weeks for a kid - and that's if your wife had a C-section. I would lose my god damned mind more than a week off hanging around the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 03:59 PM
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you're not perfect and you don't need to be to want what you want This is actually something I really struggle with in general. Hadn't even made the connection to the same "beating myself up" on this type of shit. Hell I get pissed (like for the rest of the day) if I fail a set lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 03:30 PM
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I've found the best responses are when she won't ever know one way or another if you're serious or messing with her.
/r/askMRP06/08/19 02:36 PM
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OYS Week 43 Stats: Age: 36; Height: 74 in; Weight: 189.5; BF: 13% (navy method) / 14.9% strongur.io; Wife: 38, (together 17, married 14); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook (x2), MMSLP (x3), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method (x2), How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage (x2); Reading 48 Laws of Power Physical / Healt…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 01:46 PM
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Sounds like first step is to rule out pituitary as a cause. Once I get that done then find a specialist in the area. (518 isn't the area code, just a random number with no meaning). Thanks, this is very helpful.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 04:27 PM
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I do but it’s usually borderline low. B12 is tough due to where my intestine is fucked up as well. I’ll get both these levels tested.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 01:29 AM
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Biggest issues for me right now are very low energy, irritability/mood swings. But then there’s also dizziness, lightheadedness, nausea and some other shit. Doctor hasn’t found anything out of the ordinary except one day of low blood sugar and blood pressure changes when standing up. Not sure if this is all related or several different things. Only medicine I’m on is a biological for IBD and doesn’t have any of these as side effects.
/r/askMRP04/08/19 10:11 PM
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I stopped alcohol a long time ago. Will add B vitamins into the mix. I am mistrusting of the test too but definitely have something bad going on. Lifting and muscle mass seem to be where I’d expect them to be 10 months in from starting so who knows.
/r/askMRP04/08/19 08:05 PM
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Mine was low 264 - was on clomid and got it to around 500 but it was short lived. Diet is on point. Health, exercise, lifting all there. The kids route is uhh interesting anyhow with fertility issues already so not really worried about that. I also had low blood sugar. Low blood pressure. Not sure if related or different cause. Energy level and mood are terrible lately though. Sex Drive is ok.
/r/askMRP04/08/19 05:11 PM
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Sleep - too much and hit a fatigue wall randomly - where i suddenly am exhausted and need an hour of sleep. Stress is moderate - body fat 13-15% depending on how it’s calculated. Fish - lots. Plus lots of iodine salt. Magnesium supplement. No zinc supplement.
/r/askMRP04/08/19 05:08 PM
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> My wife over the past week has been frantic and whiny about her sister and her mother's drama. I just laugh and poke fun and she'll join in and come to my frame Poking and teasing over is fine... but it may be worthwhile to try to emotionally connect with her as well. She may actually be reaching out for this and you're missing it and treating as a shit test. I don't think these are a shit OR comfort test (Except maybe "I look so fat"). They're just her emoting. If you try the connection, it l…
/r/askMRP02/08/19 12:02 PM
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Is it to get specifically BJ's and anal sex, because this and only this will satisfy your sexual or validation needs? No, it's not. It goes back to validation. It's pretty fucking retarded when I think about it. I need this specific thing to make me what? Feel appreciated? My wife will passionately fuck me but not take it up the ass or suck my dick because of some hang ups she has on it? Who cares? But if your real goal is emotional intimacy, openness, and vulnerability in and through sexuality …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 03:49 PM
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I never considered stopping... especially lifting - that's the foundation for my mental stability.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 12:30 PM
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No kidding. This was one of the easiest things to implement. That reminds me I need a new scale. Broke mine through overuse. I use MyFitnessPal. Anything works. Just be consistent. And if you can’t measure. Guesstimate and error on the high side calorie wise. For instance. Going to Mexican and getting fajitas. Looks for fajitas and pick something reasonable but on the high side. For a good option. Fajitas with no sides except about a half cup of rice. No tortillas. Eat with Pico and a small amou…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 01:12 AM
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On dread: Level 3 and 4: removal of time and attention when she’s bitchy. Busy - around the house, work dinners, Muay Thai, lifting, take the kids out frequently. Level 5: wardrobe replaced. Fix hair in the morning, look good when going out even to the store. Level 6: read the books, practice on wife constantly Level 7: talk to women when out and about. Level 8: talk and hold conversation with women in front of wife - this is fairly recent. I have been fun to be around - kids notice it for sure.…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 11:07 PM
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I PM horns frequently and follow his history and posts significantly. You are right - outside of his wife being more open sexually, our situations are very very similar. Yep - trying to eat more. Not as easy I thought that would be. I am stopping any further IVF stuff for now. Things are way too volatile to continue.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 09:50 PM
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This is an accurate assessment.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 09:37 PM
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And that's exactly what she needs. All this random chaos that she's kicking up needs to be bounded. And she's looking for a leader to do that. Even if that means acknowledging between you that you accept she hurts you and doesn't care. Even if that means leading you both to the conclusion that this wont work. Stop waffling in doubt. Make it concrete and put the ball in her court to change. I was sitting here after the other comments and settled on this as well. Either she doesn't know (doubtful)…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 06:48 PM
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I have discussed this and my doc said stay away for now until the hypoglycemia is figured out. If it's a (non-cancerous) pancreatic tumor keto could make things much worse.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 05:06 PM
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I think again there’s some counter intuitive stuff going on that’s causing some doubt. This... while my overthinking is much better, I still think too much on next steps/actions. At this point, I think intuition and letting things just happen will serve me well.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 05:04 PM
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Stop obsessing over body fat %. How do you look in the mirror? That is all that matters. I look better than I have at any point but need more muscle. All your relationship points remind me of my relationship with my wife prior to filing for divorce. Shit. I give you a 0% chance of righting this ship. But with a 5 year old, not sure you have a choice to grind it out unless you want divorce rape. Eh divorce rape will be bad but I've seen a lawyer awhile ago and it's not as bad as I thought. About …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 03:30 PM
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you're still looking for a change based on your behavior. I would rephrase this to I am hoping for a change (for the reasons you lay out regarding divorce vs staying). I really do not expect one. Not anymore. More about the realistic work you'd still have to put into securing an acceptable sex life for realz I've thought about this a lot. I see the potential in this marriage, but it takes my wife breaking down her walls and fully being honest and vulnerable. I can't force her to do that, so I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 03:25 PM
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The wedding ring will be the last to go. It's stupid but when that goes - it means I'm truly and utterly given up all hope of the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 03:04 PM
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On the eating - I ate ~150 more cals yesterday than normal and feel amazing this morning. Slept like a log too.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 03:03 PM
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I've made some minor progress but even lifting I haven't done nearly consistently enough. If I really want to change stuff I need to start working on it for real. So that's what I'm going to do from here on out. I will also commit to posting an OYS every week. Even if there's not much to tell, this way I can keep myself more accountable. Discipline is so important. Lifting - even when you are tired. Eating right - even when you want to eat that donut. Posting on OYS - even if you feel nothing mu…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:56 PM
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No fear of conflict with anyone, because their frames are all wrong. Not sure if I see agree their frames are wrong. They're different - sure. But that doesn't mean they're wrong. If you mean they're frames are all wrong FOR YOU - then agree 100%.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:54 PM
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I have been using this morning time to own shit around the house but fuck it, I want to do something for me once in a while. Own your lifting shit first and foremost. Then the other shit. You have your priorities screwed up. I can either 1) decrease my calorie deficit to acknowledge that Cronometer is probably underestimating my TDEE or 2) suck it up and stick to the budget. What I can't do it continue to overshoot my goal every day. The process works but only if you respect it. How do you feel …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:52 PM
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Failures of the week Failed to lose weight Failed to track Made the excuse that I needed more food since I'm lifting. I have enough body fat to fuel my lifts. You're fat enough that you have a lot of energy stored up that you don't need more food. And track - everything that goes in your face. That's the only way I was able to do it. And I was (much) fatter than you.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:47 PM
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I think you hit all 4 elements of DEER in this response.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:42 PM
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Your stuck in two worlds one world where you are chasing her (asking for nudes etc) the other where your ngaf and do what you want. I did not even perceive this as chasing. Just having fun with her. Thanks for the observation.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:36 PM
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Stop making excuses. I did not see this as an excuse. My big question for you and /u/Rpeed is when do you stop playing your nice card everyday (aka reset)? On the other points, you're 100% correct. My caring is less and less. Even in the last 48 hours, I realize I've cut affection without even consciously doing it. No kissing her in the morning, not saying I love you, no holding her at night. I just don't feel it's been earned. Presence is starting to fade as well - I didn't say hi when I got ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 02:30 PM
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Nah, I just wanted to see if anything pointed to if he was married or in an LTR since OP didn't mention it. I put way too much effort into this one.
/r/askMRP30/07/19 12:58 PM
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OYS Week 42 Stats: Age: 36; Height: 74 in; Weight: 189.5; BF: 13% (navy method) / 14.9% strongur.io; Wife: 38, (together 17, married 14); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook (x2), MMSLP (x3), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method (x2), How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage (x2); Reading 48 Laws of Power – Half done. Phy…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 12:57 PM
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Unlike you I am capable of reading. You posted this two days ago. “Married going on two months and the sex is a m a z I n g but the only thing is she won't blow me :(”
/r/askMRP29/07/19 09:21 PM
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​ So as far as I'm concerned I'm not sidebar graduated but I understand the importance of the basics like lifting, STFUing, etc. You apparently know nothing... this is a sad post. Please roast me What's with all the requests lately for people to get roasted? She's cried in the past explaining that the reason she's so possessive about where I play is because she doesn't wants sluts coming on to me while im spinning (vinyl, not plates) and she doesn't want to leave me because of something like tha…
/r/askMRP29/07/19 08:30 PM
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The value I find in askMRP is analyzing where the person fucked up and how. Most of the time it is easy, but each time I read it, it helps me look for potential oversights I'm making. And I still remember what a shit show I was when finding this place. Nine times out of ten, they disappear but when one of those askMRP guys gets into a weekly OYS, reading, lifting, STFU, I feel it's worth the time and effort there.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/19 12:50 PM
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Then I said like. What should've I done better?" In most cases, what he said and what she did is totally irrelevant because the OP of these posts cannot even look at the right things. The best OYS I see are when the poster says "here's what I should have done". Then people give feedback on that part and agree/disagree. But at least the person is trying to come up with a solution. That shows they're putting in the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/19 12:46 PM
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But there are some of you guys who just flounder and wait on other people's solutions -- and the reality for those people is they simply won't succeed. They'll be in a groundhogs day loop of Day 1. This is why I personally love OYS - most of the time there's multiple perspectives when there is a problem and I decide the best way forward for me. I fuck it up - a lot, but it's what I choose and not someone else. If every time you fuck something up - you learn, adjust, and move on - you improve. If…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/19 12:44 PM
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Have you tried meditating before bed? That helped me with racing thoughts immensely.
/r/askMRP28/07/19 09:58 PM
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How long has this been going on? What’s your total sleep for the day (do you nap?). Have you had your thyroid and glucose tested? When you go to bed are you thinking about anything (anxiety). What’s your nutrition look like? When is the last time you eat before bed? Do you use TV/computer/phone prior to bed? This could be several things. I went through this a few times. First time it was anxiety. Second time it was I was eating too little.
/r/askMRP28/07/19 08:23 PM
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If you’re just trying to emulate someone else you’re doing it wrong. You’re now just in his frame. Better than your wives probably but not where you want to be. Listen to the “mentors”, consider their advice but make up your own mind - right or wrong, it’s your life. Those who are AMOGing are trying way too hard to fulfill their ego. A true AMOG doesn’t have to try to prove anything - he just is and knows it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/19 12:55 AM
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Initial success can reinforce your resolve, but it can backfire if it comes too easily. We see this time and again. Happened to me for sure. Got some great early sex and figured huh this is easy... it was just the calm before the storm to come. The storm that still rages sometimes - like today. The difference is, I no longer live in a straw house and the storm doesn't affect me (most of the time - working on that).
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 08:45 PM
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The apology is irrelevant. Nice first step. Try not to literally STFU and AA/AM/ pressure flip or whatever back. The beauty of it all, when you know you're "getting it" is when her reaction/what she does is completely irrelevant to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 08:43 PM
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Need some help figuring out how to break the ice. Just tell her you'll stick the tip in.
/r/askMRP25/07/19 08:35 PM
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It's an easier read than TRM. It's not so much RP as it is stop caring so much about shit outside your control.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 09:19 PM
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Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck was a very helpful book for me to put things in perspective.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 08:55 PM
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Agree with you needing to be stop being so smart and analytical with this stuff. It's going to kill you. Because you're trying to use LOGIC. If I do X then Y will be the result. If Y isn't the result then you go back and question if X was "correct". So here's what you do... you have to do "X" and not care what "Y" is. Decide why the best action is, what you want to do and do it. The outcome doesn't matter (outcome independence mother fucker). It's a tough lesson and you have to deprogram yoursel…
/r/askMRP24/07/19 08:04 PM
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My lifts are only slightly better than yours so the other guys can provide advice on programs to you. That being said the measure I use is simple: am I making progress toward my current goal? Reassess your goal periodically. My current goal is to drop BF. My lifts are still improving but certainly not as quick if I was running a calorie surplus. Slow and steady... the last thing you want is an injury that sidelined you for a few weeks. The key is to always be improving. And that really goes for …
/r/askMRP24/07/19 01:43 AM
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This is in stark contrast to the talk of about 2-3 months ago where she told me that once a week was her sweet spot(our long term average), and doesn’t want to feel pressured into having sex more than that. I think this is the staple of "I'm a good wife and going the extra mile - look I even have sex with him once a week!" mindset. It gets thrown out the window once real desire is there. My value has obviously increased enough in her eyes to get past the mummy hero mode and start putting our sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 06:21 PM
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I want to be more independent but it’s difficult and sometimes I feel like a failure if a relationship goes poorly. NMMNG too... if you read it go back and re-read it because this type of thinking is covered at length in NMMNG.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 06:03 PM
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after deciding to go on this journey, and I've gone nowhere Is this really true? I doubt it is. You're changing for sure. You're recognizing shit tests, you're lifting, you're reading. You need to first and foremost change your mindset. Mission These are goals, not your mission. Mission is hard, goals are not. Still can't muster up the determination and IDGAF required to leave the house without the wife. Her whining gets the best of me. "I don't want to be alone, we don't spend enough time toget…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 06:01 PM
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I went on a Wednesday, then baby came and I haven't had a chance to go back yet. Will try to pick up soon. You need to lift more if you can't pick up the baby.... /s Congrats on the kid, don't stay out of the gym any longer though.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 05:45 PM
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Like a true, independent, alpha male, I hide the fact that I sometimes vape off of my friend's vape. So I did what anyone would do, took the advice, tried it for 10 seconds and then threw it out the fucking windows Love the sarcasm, but this isn't good. You're very far in your wife's frame. She doesn't actually give a shit, it's all in my mind, she just doesn't want to be lied to. First, yes it was stupid for you to care about this. What was your view on this? Was it stupid of you to do this? If…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 05:43 PM
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I know I need to DNGAF and focus on OI, but it fucking stings when we get into it and then she goes as cold and dead as a corps on me. So fix that... cave man her, put in different positions, tell her to fuck you. Whatever ... you need to lead here too. I have a similiar background to you - been with my wife since 17. You really have to LEAD HER in the bedroom. Small incremental steps. But if she's fucking you regularly, start pushing boundaries here and there.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 05:29 PM
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Seems like your relationship is stuck in neutral. MRP will fix you, but she may never budge. It's your second week - don't expect too much for yourself. Don't expect ANYTHING from her. ​ Biggest question to ask yourself in terms of your relationship is do YOU like her? Take the sex out of it, do you like her as a person. If the answer is yes then give it more time. You haven't been leading here at all for 7 years. ​ Best advice is focus on you, don't worry about what she says. What's the worse c…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 05:27 PM
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Not depressed (anymore). If it was just a little dizziness - no issue. It's the tunnel vision and near blacking out that's the unnerving part. 20 point drop and increase of 30 in HR seems to have concerned the doctor at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 05:19 PM
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How did you over come ego and validation. Be aware when it happens and tell yourself to STFU. It takes time. It still crops up, but once you can recognize it then you can stop that line of thinking. I’ve even caught myself trying to have sex when I could care less if I got it, Yep because if we're not fucking X times per week, I'm not high value. At least that was my rationale. Stop the scoreboard in your head. Figure out the core reason you want to have sex - is it validation/ego, is it to hit …
/r/askMRP23/07/19 05:14 PM
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If I’m ever going to get her to the point she’s jumping me Why do you want this? Figure that out first - my guess is it's validation/ego. I know for me it was. My wife initiated twice... in two days but not the "I'm going to jump on top of you, rip my clothes off way" . It was much much more subtle. It's funny when you stop 'needing' her to do these type of things, she starts doing them.
/r/askMRP23/07/19 04:10 PM
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Quantity of sex is there. Just need quality after 18 years with her I need to make it exciting and fun ​ After what I've seen with my wife and her enthusiasm I think there's two basic elements: 1) You have to be attractive - physically, mentally, and emotionally 2) You have to lead her in the bedroom ​ On #1 I relied. “your lazy” I know I fucked up with how fast I reacted but I just replied “ I’m going to bed” But then said some stupid shit like “Yeah so what I worked hard all day and it would h…
/r/askMRP23/07/19 03:21 PM
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It really doesn't matter what she had in her mouth. If OP wants to leave her over the cheating then go for it (I would). But don't invent a story to tell yourself of "she won't bow down and plead fealty out loud" when she's showing in her actions that she ALREADY has submitted. I'd leave the cheating whore if it was me, but it's not so OP needs to decide that on his own.
/r/askMRP23/07/19 02:33 PM
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OYS Week 41 Stats: Age: 36; Height: 74 in; Weight: 191.5; BF: 14% (navy method) / 15.5% strongur.io; Wife: 38, (together 17, married 14); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook (x2), MMSLP (x3), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method (x2), How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage (x2) Reading 48 Laws of Power (Still… I’m fucki…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 02:29 PM
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We got home at 11 at night, is there much else to do at that time? How many times have you turned off the TV and told her: “you know... enough of that I’m going to fuck you instead?” Or don’t even say it and just do it? For me it was less than 24 hours ago. Turned the show off, picked up, threw her on the bed and fucked her. We went back watched the rest of the show. Then went to bed where I fucked her again. You sound boring. Be less boring.
/r/askMRP22/07/19 08:12 PM
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Even worse when you find yourself pre-deering. Almost sent a text two weeks ago when I was leaving work later than usually that talked about why i was... blah blah. Edited that to: on my way home.
/r/askMRP22/07/19 08:04 PM
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You do know she can see right through all your bullshit, right? They don't just see through it. They can smell it. It's a sixth sense. You can be the best actor in the world but if you're butt hurt or in her frame, she knows. Oh she definitely knows.
/r/askMRP22/07/19 03:19 PM
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I need to start realizing any covert contracts that I'm doing and either reduce or eliminate them. This is the key to everything else you wrote. How do I do this without looking like I can't wait until she's done talking about it? Well why do you keep listening if after 15 or 30 mins you can't wait until she's done? Is this another covert contract in some way shape or form? A simple: "Yeah I can see how that would be difficult for you, I'm going to go do X" OR "let's go do X" helps. There's been…
/r/askMRP22/07/19 02:59 PM
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She said, that's a good question, then replied with "comedic relief" This is good shit. I like your LTR. I understand leadership, so if this aspect of leadership is something that I am missing, let me know. Well you're probably not leading shit if you're writing this. If you were leading you wouldn't ask this. I'm leading so hard right now, that I need to ask the internet if I'm leading. Is this a covert contract? Yes Have you guys had explicit conversations about your woman's value add? Yes, at…
/r/askMRP22/07/19 02:47 PM
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This was tough to read. I almost vomited in my mouth. no she didn't cheat/IDGAF if she did, but I know she didn't You care, don't lie. You have some small itch now that she is capable of cheating. It doesn't matter, but YOU care. The rest of your dissertation points to that. I wanted to do it, but it wasn't a huge deal that we didn't. For some reason, I was pretty short fused with her the entire day. I'm going to posit that it WAS a huge deal that you didn't because the next day you were pissed.…
/r/askMRP22/07/19 02:22 PM
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It sounds like she was already operating as a FO. You need to hear her overtly submit only because of your ego. She seems to do everything you want and yet it’s not good enough. That’s for you to decide, but seems like you need her to say magic words like “I submit to you lord and master” to make yourself feel high value. Some women can’t verbalize it and refuse to consciously want to submit. But in everything your wrote she already had... so what’s the issue? Also stop looking at her browser hi…
/r/askMRP22/07/19 12:00 AM
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My mindset is that small improvements add up over time. Don’t kill yourself - that’ll just add to injury. You do need to figure out from time to time what you are working toward. Is it raw strength? Cutting body fat? Aesthetics... what is it you want. Then research and plan appropriately. Review from time to time if you’re improving or not (I review every six weeks or so). If you aren’t then adjust. Long term goals are great but for me, it’s much more important to have continuous improvement. Be…
/r/askMRP20/07/19 02:31 AM
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BJJ for grappling Boxing or Muay Thai for striking. I enjoy hitting things so do Muay Thai.
/r/askMRP20/07/19 12:28 AM
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Well... you did a lot of shit wrong here. We got married and soon my marriage was coasting and not exciting anymore. We went to counseling and my heart wasn’t in it. You went to counseling despite not wanting to About last year at this time I got involved with someone from work and we just clicked. I knew I was going to cheat right off the bat. We went on work trips together and had a blast. You cheated with a girl at work (never a great idea). I’m now heartbroken over the work girl. And then...…
/r/askMRP19/07/19 02:33 PM
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This is a tit for tat thing the way you wrote it. As for "d" -> at the end of the day I think AWALT - regardless of how well you vet, this may come up because she's a woman and emotional. It's also such a standard movie and TV trope that shows the retarded husband sleeping on the stupid couch. My wife pulled this once (replace couch with guest bedroom). "You're going to go sleep alone in the guest bedroom". So the "correct" approach as I see it was to plop down in our bed next to her and start r…
/r/askMRP19/07/19 01:56 PM
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Damn millennial and their participation trophies. I was invited to speak to a young professionals group at work. I half want to do a talk about how millennials suck and then give participation ribbons out at the end. ​ Full disclosure: I'm technically a millennial
/r/askMRP19/07/19 01:50 PM
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Thanks for your input (no sarcasm); it is ALWAYS appreciated. I know it doesn't seem to make sense, but I've made up my decision on this. I want another kid (preferably a boy)... and there's no more time. I get what you're saying, I accept that things may not move as fast due to it. Also, I'm not paying a cent for this luckily. If she gets pregnant - then I'll deal with that. Do I think things will get better? For me - yes because it's getting me one of the things that I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 04:11 PM
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Yes, I'm doing this more and more. It's not good for any of them. Go to the park, take them for ice cream, run to the store with them - whatever. I'm sure the youngest starting school in a month exacerbates this.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 04:07 PM
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Good point. I see signs of it in her. It’s slow coming. Hell she is trying to contribute. Made baked goods for me to bring into work this week. Likes to try and show off these type of things. Thanks for the perspective. Sometimes you get clouded from seeing the bigger picture when you’re in the forest.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 02:22 PM
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Yep. You’re right. Just going to keep going. Edit: I think the dynamic is that she is starting to see you as attractive again but doesn’t want to admit it because she isn’t sure if you are committed and doesn’t want to invest - hence the shitty comfort tests. In essence she is confused and is trying to internalize the changes. This makes the most sense. I do not handle shitty comfort tests very well - I know this and recognize it after the fact.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 12:58 PM
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Not sure to be honest. I think the engine is there. It’s trying to run. Just clogged up with shit from the past. I get weeks of great sex and her adding a lot of value and the she pulls back. This was a one day thing and I wrote this last night when I was angry. I am worrying way too much about her and what she does. That’s the issue here.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 12:47 PM
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Outside going out to dinner and pushing her boundaries sexually this pretty much describes my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 12:44 PM
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I’m well aware.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 12:42 PM
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I can’t get in her head and don’t really want to. You’re right of course. Just needs to keep going. This was definitely some anger driven. More frustration than anger, but still a slip up.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 12:12 PM
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OYS Week 40 Stats: Age: 36; Height: 74 in; Weight: 193; BF: 14% (navy method) / 15.8% strongur.io; Wife: 38, (together 17, married 14); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook (x2), MMSLP (x3), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method (x2), How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage (x2) Reading 48 Laws of Power Physical / Health L…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 11:23 AM
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Excellent post. Those three phrases are key and don't require anything further to say. As a follow up to "I got this", if I ever get a "but what if X, Y, or Z happens". "Then I got that too, it's on me". You have to be the captain and lead. That means taking responsibility for a decision even when it doesn't work out as planned. Example: We're doing IVF but my wife wanted to switch up what the approach was against the Doctor's advice. I told her "We're doing it this way". She wants to know "but …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 02:25 PM
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This is a poorly written question (2 questions really) but here goes... Getting Better Sleep Sleep is important. Make time for it. Are you lifting? Are you owning your shit? Are you exhausted at the end of the day? I know I am. OR are you sitting around all day, no exercise, eating like shit, and not doing anything but staring at the retard screen? I've gone through bouts of sleeping too little (for different reasons). It sucks. You have anxiety over you life. Which means something is causing yo…
/r/askMRP15/07/19 02:09 PM
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None of yours questions matter. You're retarded for asking. There's no cheat code. What year was it? Lift How did you approach? Sidebar What made the difference? STFU This is a really one of the most faggot posts in awhile.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/19 01:51 PM
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This is exactly what I picked up too. Blah blah blah. I didn’t own my shit and don’t water the plants. Blah blah blah. OP also cares way too much about trying to cheat code his wife. Tips: be attractive. Don’t be unattractive. She’ll continue feeling that way then. If all else fails try the Konami code on her tits.
/r/askMRP14/07/19 04:52 PM
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The shitting on itself is productive. Plus it lets us assess where your head is at. Which right now is one with zero frame who DEERs way too much and gets butt hurt in 0.2 seconds.
/r/askMRP13/07/19 05:43 PM
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This 100%. Because nothing did happen. The oldest teenager in the house just threw a tantrum. Eventually it won’t be an act anymore. You’ll just let her bullshit roll off you like water on a duck.
/r/askMRP13/07/19 05:41 PM
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Yes it does. Well not 100% but cuts it down a huge amount. You’re playing a “the I’m mad because this cool one trick I read on the internet didn’t work”. You have to stop caring about these little tantrums your wife throws. And that’s what they are
/r/askMRP13/07/19 05:35 PM
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This use to bother me a lot but it doesn’t anymore. Basically I came on here to get advice on how to break the silent treatment This isn't congruent at all. You obviously care way too much. Let her not talk to you, reset everyday -> be fun and in a good mood. You have zero frame and care way too much what she thinks or does. Enjoy the silence - be busy, get shit done, read some sidebar. lift something heavy. Use the time to your advantage.
/r/askMRP13/07/19 05:23 PM
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Keep going. Ignore what they say. Watch what they do. You won't see a response from her for awhile probably. It'll go from: Neutral -> hostile -> neutral -> receptive -> her engaging. This will take months. Just keep going. Anyhow, seems like you're making progress, so keep making progress. You ARE making progress, she's not the gauge of your progress, you are. ​ For context, my wife used to lose it when I'd touch her "you're perverted, you're like a rapist, you're sick, I don't like when you sl…
/r/askMRP11/07/19 07:54 PM
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He works on body language,speech and self esteem, since I feel like some ALL of my issues here are tied into nice guy behaviours FIFY. You fix you -> you don't need a coach it'll be natural.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 05:52 PM
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If you're not improving you're dying. Always be improving. Improving means suffering but in a good way.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 05:51 PM
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Do something fun, bring kids if you want. Whatever you want to do. If she doesn't want to go along, go do it anyways. Something active, not dinner and goddamned boring movie. Then fuck her when you get home and not in the "I just did this, you should fuck me" sort of way. Pick her up, throw her on the bed, rip her pants off and fuck her hard. If she resists, then go to sleep. ​ Oh the other thing you should do is 1) Lift, 2) Read the sidebar, and 3) STFU
/r/askMRP11/07/19 05:50 PM
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Keep re-reading until you know something was talked about but forget what book it was since you've read so damned much.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 05:47 PM
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Don't forget the foot rub. And not the kind that lasts about 1 minute at the foot and then you're massaging her pussy. OP needs to make sure he's really giving a good foot massage. He may get be privileged enough that his wife depressingly allows herself to be raped by him.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 05:46 PM
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Biggest tool in the chest IMO is lifting. Lifting gives you so much: Measurable improvement in yourself Looking better makes you more attractive -> more confidence which makes you more attractive -> then you want to upgrade your clothes and hair -> more attractive which leads to more confidence, etc. It's a great closed circuit of betterment Time to yourself and your mind to only focus on pushing heavy shit up Getting more fit gives you more energy to be more busy -> ends the codependency with y…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 05:42 PM
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Stop reading /r/Marriage and follow this program. Sure - "do it for your marriage" for now. Soon you'll be saying "fuck the marriage, I'm doing this for myself" and then your life really starts changing for the better. 9 months ago -> luke warm bedroom, no passion, hated my wife - she hated me, we played detente and pretended. My life is better than it has EVER BEEN. Came here for more sex, stayed because it is saving my life. ​ > We are having the dark time with 10 years marriage and 3 kids. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 05:25 PM
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Psychologist told her I am the reason why she has issues She’s right. It is all your fault but it’s because you’re a faggot. You care wayyyy too much what your wife thinks and does.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 01:25 PM
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You have to figure out what is make it or break it for yourself. Don't worry about that though - fix yourself. Life is hard - if she was on a desert island without food I'm sure she could lose the weight. Sucks to be her but life sucks sometimes.
/r/askMRP10/07/19 04:51 PM
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Admittedly I don't know much about Dread yet. (There's so much sidebar information really, you can't just know everything immediately, it'd be nice if we could!) Fuck I just finished reading your vomit post. You're pre-emptively DEERing here. STFU. And it's not hard to get the overview of everything... NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP gives you the foundation and you can (if you tried) read them in 1-2 weeks.
/r/askMRP10/07/19 03:47 PM
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Bitch wouldn’t be asking this if her man was in shape. I found the opposite... the more in shape I'm getting the more I get the "would you love me if..." questions. Easy enough to flip the script have her on the defensive or laughing.
/r/askMRP10/07/19 03:43 PM
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"hell no, are you planning to get fat?" You DEER'd like a little bitch about blah blah I'd love you anyways. Don't do that.
/r/askMRP10/07/19 03:40 PM
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She's been buying my clothes for years, but still manages to complain about the way I dress. Go shopping without your wife. Or if she does come along she is welcome to point things out, but I'll be the judge (not her) if I'm going to get it. Usually she gets annoyed and goes and shops elsewhere in the store/mall. My professional attire is pretty on point bc I need it for work, but my casual wardrobe sucks - will invest some time in improving that. ​Definitely. Buy some cheaper things right now b…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 03:37 PM
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Your current life is nowhere close to being from a Norman Rockwell scene. You do you but to me it seems a pretty dysfunctional dynamic and can’t be good for the kids. I’ve said before you really don’t have a marriage. It’s a fantasy that you keep trying to justify. An “intact family” is going to fuck up the kids a lot more than the alternative.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 02:27 AM
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Dude if she leaves you over going to the fucking gym then good riddance. Take your balls back. One at a time.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 01:17 AM
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Well this is the second time I’ve linked this post today... read this especially the special sex act part. Why do you want anal? To prove something to yourself? To prove you’re worth getting to fuck her ass? https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ab7vt5/validation_needs_that_can_poison_your_sex_life/
/r/askMRP09/07/19 09:56 PM
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Can I, SHOULD I tell my boss this news and how would i eventually do that? Or should I just bite my tongue and wait? What if the offer wont show up? Basically how should i play this. Not sure why this is here and why you're asking us. I don't know your boss or your company. Here's the outcomes: You tell them and they say thanks, now fuck off and go to the new place You tell them and they say, well fuck, you're valuable let's get you that raise now You tell them and they say, well fuck, my hands …
/r/askMRP09/07/19 07:13 PM
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Get a non-fiction book, anything just have to learn something new Where are you with the sidebar materials? They're there for a reason. I asked myself this morning "What are my current goals?" Not a bad one... I ask myself "How did I improve today" at the end of my day as well. Sometimes the answer is as simple as "I lifted" or "I stuck to eating right". I am pro-marriage but this one has become extremely difficult to the point where I find myself wondering if its even worthwhile. I base way too…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 06:23 PM
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If you want to have sex -> initiate. If you don't -> don't initiate. ​ The more you game, flirt, have fun with your wife, the libido should come back on it's own. Don't dwell too much on it. I know I used to think I need to have sex 3-4x a week because that shows I'm high value. In reality some weeks it's 4x, sometimes it's 2, sometimes it's 1... but rejections are next to 0. Just do what you want to do, there's no magic number outside of what YOU want. I wouldn't say no if she initiates though.…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 06:07 PM
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His point was that chores are meant to be a SHARED experience with the family. Everyone does their part. Do you get paid to do the fucking dishes? No. Walk the dog? No. Put away everyone's laundry? no. ​ I'm more along your line of thinking. That she eats on the dishes so she can help put them away. She can let the dog out because it's everyone's dog. I'm not too thrilled about rewarding something that I expect. Hell - my 5 year old understands this right now (probably will fight it later). We a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 06:03 PM
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she refuses to open mouth kiss me. We've talked about it and she says she doesn't like the way I kiss. You're not attractive to her. I read somewhere that kissing can be a lot more intimate for a woman than PIV. She may be doing other stuff, but if she needs to be truly attracted to enjoy kissing. I got this same shit - "I don't like kissing", "it's not you, I just don't like that", "I don't like things touching my face". The thing is - she may actually believe this but it's because you're not a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 05:58 PM
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Don't know if my frame was weak or something else is going on, but I've been more concerned with other people and pleasing them than in the past few months. Its a backslide, but I'm not sure where it is coming from. Thinking about the past week it has been unconscious. If nothing jumps out as the root cause, I'm going to let it go and get back on the DNGAF train, spend less time contemplating and more time working out. Don't dwell on it. You had a bad week, so what? You move on and get back on t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 05:46 PM
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True - they're very few and far between now. Haven't had a truly dark day in months. I find it helpful to treat all the negativity, etc as an external threat / entity. The Beta Shit Goblin post really helped me and now I can yell at the goblin and beat him into submission if he does appear.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 03:47 PM
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Playing my own devil’s advocate here for a second- I need to get better at gaming and actually creating the conditions for sex more. I need to make sex more consistent in my life. Probably, but you have to practice this consciously until it becomes second nature. And just initiate if you want sex. She may say no 90% of the time. Set the mindset - she'll say yes but if she says no - no big deal. That's fine, that's her loss. be OI and go do something else / go to sleep if it's at night. Even if y…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 03:44 PM
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Weight is still coming down slowly. Again, I'm not going to over-think this. I'm barely halfway through my first six months of lifting. I'll let the noob gains continue for the next three months and then start worrying about recomposition. I personally think playing the long-game with the weight drop is the way to go. As long as it's going down consistently - no need to change. I didn't really hit a plateau until about a month ago and then had to change things up. Looking back, I'm seeing more a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 03:39 PM
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Will look into natural methods to raise T and get a retest in 2 months. If I'm not above 400 at that time, I'll look into TRT in more detail. Get on Clomid if you can... I boosted mine from ~260 to 670. Who knows if this was clomid, lifting, losing weight but couldn't hurt. It's not for life either. It's off label so you may have to pay out of pocket - but it's cheap like $20 a month for me. I'm getting my T retested Friday during my annual physical so we'll see if it's still up. Started reading…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 03:29 PM
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I was starting to get judgmental and angry at the wife again due to her lack of meeting my needs when I’ve clearly not mastered the art of DNGAF because when I go more than a 3 days without sex while still initiating I start to go down a self-destructive road where I just want to blow this shit up and say fuck you. I definitely understand your feeling here. What has helped me immensely is to try and remove the keeping track. When you start thinking "it's been X days", shut it down. This is anoth…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 03:22 PM
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​ It is not my desire for hardcore sex, it is not my porn watching, or my jerking off. It is my inability to get exactly what I want. It is my inability to say half assed isn’t good enough. Burn it down. ​ What exactly do you mean by burn it down? Ignoring what your wife says, divorce, cheating, what exactly? You admit yourself that this is all due to your inability... do you like your wife? Can you build what you want with her and simply haven't tried?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 03:08 PM
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I found that once I got busy the ssri meds were no longer needed because I didn't have time to stop and dwell in the negative. 100% agree with this. I needed SSRIs and Xanax to leave the house sometimes... things were that bad. No SSRIs, no Xanax now. Key is to not let your mind go dark places - filling it up with activities is key.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 03:05 PM
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It's amazing that you think you can undo a lifetime of shit impressions magically and suddenly. I don't think it will even take 12 months. Things are already as good or better than when we were married. I definitely get your point though. Setting a fixed clock isn't needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 02:26 PM
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But that's the maze I want What's the reason for the want? Is it because you'll feel validated / good enough? A lot of your OYS reeks of validation seeking. This is a great post to (re)read periodically. I’m finding it hard to keep gaming her interest to be compliant every time I want it. She’s not outright denying me but it just takes more effort on my end to keep things fresh and exciting and to get her turned on. Good or giving lover validation When I can sense that she is just checking boxes…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 01:39 PM
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​ OYS Week 39 (3/4 of a year in) Stats: Age: 36; Height: 74 in; Weight: 194; BF: 14% (navy method) / 16.0% strongur.io; Wife: 38, (together 17, married 14); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook (x2), MMSLP (x3), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method (x2), How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage (x2) Realized I never read 4…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 01:24 PM
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wanted me to follow her on IG This is an actual thing women do now? I must be too old for this social media bullshit... I was on IG for a week a few months ago to see what it was all about. I thought it was just as stupid as the other social media platforms. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but seems like a waste of perfectly good time you can spend improving yourself.
/r/askMRP08/07/19 03:29 PM
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I don’t think one incidence shows it’s back. There are big factors that can influence her - your parents hanging around is likely one. If there’s repeated denials / starfish over the course of 1-2 weeks than that’s a different story.
/r/askMRP07/07/19 01:48 PM
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I really like almost everything about my life, except the sex life. I used to pretend this too. Sex life is a core need for a man. If it's not - go get your T checked. Once I realized the sex life issue was the direct RESULT (not cause) of me being unhappy in lots of areas of life is when real change started to happen. "the enemy of good is better" I have no idea what this is supposed to mean. The enemy is stagnation, you should ALWAYS be trying to get better. We are a great, but sexless team. "…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/19 04:00 PM
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I thought about it and I think it's entirely possible to not complain, and also make clear what needs I have and how I need help with them. Probably you're referring to me... what needs do you have that you need to rely on someone else for? There may be some - fair enough, but assume you have no one and take care of yourself if you can. Examples: Feeling bad/tired does not mean that you need someone else to help you. It just sucks more to help yourself I had Lasik (PRK) and couldn't see shit for…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/19 03:45 PM
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That is something I am thinking about Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and thinking about things and fuck the hot IG chick. You're 49 years old, time is passing and your "wife" hasn't had sex with you in 2 years? Fuck man, why is this even a consideration? "wife" on paper only at this point - you're effectively single, might as well act like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 06:25 PM
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i lift what i have in the garage. Either get a gym membership or get some real weights for the garage. Best $800 I spent was on my power rack, weights, and bench. You need to be doing compound exercises - Squats, Bench, Deadlift, Press, and Rows. I used to go looking for her messages and think to myself why isnt she maging me, i just msged her, she aint got shit going on shes a stay at home mom. Why do you even have time to message her? Keep texting to logistics. Nothing more. I still feel mysel…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 06:21 PM
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Sounds like she is not attracted to you. What was your frame here with the initial comment? Was it because you wanted your wife to go with you or because you wanted to see a movie? You got butt hurt because you arranged a sitter and made plans and then - she didn't want to go along with it. She is influencing YOUR emotions with her actions. As a counter-example here's how I phrased going to see Spider-Man with my 10 year old. "I'm buying tickets to see Spider-man tomorrow with [10 year old], are…
/r/askMRP03/07/19 02:50 PM
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Those pictures are really worth 1000 words. You've gone from looking like a nice guy to "I wouldn't want to meet him in the alley" guy. Most of you guys need to chill the fuck out. You have a long, tough road ahead of you. What I see is a bunch of men who are either unwilling to put in the work to better themselves, put in the work to exit the relationship or just lack patience and ability to execute. This was the crucial revelation to me in the past few weeks - nothing will happen overnight. It…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 02:38 PM
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Sounds good. Definitely would be better for you if she's back working again before you pull the trigger. Probably would make sense to start seeing lawyer's about it and get the facts. Here in the US a consult would be $200-$300, money very worthwhile imo.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 02:28 PM
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Eh, I don't read Vox on principle. Those folks are crazy.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 02:22 PM
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I am starting to get disappointed in my wife What is still lacking with her? Is it just the not initiating and stepping up her game? Sounds like she's trying with your kid and is still very submissive. If you still like her - give it more time. I forget which book I read it in - maybe BPP's, but judge her at her best at something. She's capable of giving that but no more. I know I realized this past week that I do genuinely like/love my wife. She's fun when she's at her best and she's stepping u…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 02:10 PM
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I told my wife, "I cannot sleep in the same bed as you if we're not going to have sex. In the meantime, I need to sleep on the couch in our room." Your wife is overjoyed by your decision to get your disgusting ass out of the bed and stop pawing at her. Never, ever, ever abdicate sleeping in YOUR bed. This seems such a minor thing - but it's huge. I slept on a mattress on the floor of our room for 2 years after our son died because she wanted to 'sleep with the kids'. Fuck that shit - finding MRP…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 01:41 PM
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I plan to post periodically in OYS Define periodically and stick to it. I find OYS is extremely helpful in me taking a good objective look at what I did well and what I fucked up. Career There's a lot of words here... are you happy with your career? If so, what can you do to improve it more? Start your own business, take on more responsibility at work? If you don't like it, why are you still there? A decade and a half doing the same thing would be terrible you don't like it. Hell I look for a ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 01:03 PM
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my marriage is dead because I was too much of a pussy for too long and didn't fix it soon enough. So what are you going to do about this? Are you making an exit plan, building the war chest, etc? Sounds like you've at least realized what you DON'T want and it's your wife. There's the 1000 ft rope and then there's simply not liking your wife. You sound to be in the second bucket.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 12:56 PM
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My wife is the first and only girl I slept with This means nothing. I do not see how this impacts - I do not regularly talk to strangers You're making reasons and excuses for not doing it. It boils down to this real fear of rejection I'm introverted, had anxiety, made lots of excuses, but you just need to get out there and talk to people. Baristas, cashiers, people in elevators. Start conditioning your mind that you talking to someone is a gift FOR THEM. What are they going to do? Attack you for…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 12:47 PM
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Lift... that’s the key to everything else Eat right, sleep STFU Read the sidebar Post in OYS Do all of these things and you will be just fine... in time. It takes time. But anything worth doing in life does.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 09:43 PM
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So you narrowed down the social activities. Great... how are you going to make that happen in the next seven days?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 09:34 PM
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Training daily, between CrossFit and kettlebells etc at home. Going to increase weight training load and probably look at something like 5x5 or 3x3 to add to my CrossFit routine. Any input/links would be appreciated. Be careful not to overtrain. You’re body needs rest. Three to four days of weights, one to two cardio max. Many would say no cardio which is fine too. Make sure you have two days rest a week. You’ll burn yourself out and cause injury with more.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 09:31 PM
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Don’t keep it in mind. Prioritize it. Listen - every fucking second of your life is precious. You can’t get them back. Always always always focus on yourself first. Lifting and diet and sleep should be non-negotiable time. If you don’t have these three than the rest of your precious seconds will be sub-par. By having the foundation in place you can maximize every other second of your life. And it is that powerful. I used to think this was all “nice to have” but that I “didn’t have time”. Lo and …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 09:25 PM
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OYS Week 38 Stats: Age: 36; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 194; BF: 14% (navy method) / 16.0% strongur.io; Wife: 38, (together 17, married 14); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook (x2), MMSLP (x3), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method (x2), How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage (x2) Physical / Health Lifts Estimated 1RM: BR: …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 05:05 PM
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Definitely. OP's taking things very black and white. Like early on when I told my wife to get a fucking drink herself when she was painting with the kids, covered in paint, coughing, and I was getting something in the fridge already.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 07:47 PM
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Is it Rambo to cut attention/affection when she acts out or is shitty? Define shitty. In a bad mood -> I wouldn't cut it out. Shit testing you -> don't cut it out. Denying sex for multiple days -> cut out time and attention. Saving a Low Sex Marriage talks a lot about this. It's a great book and helped me navigate this area on attention/time/affection/presence removal. Just be the fun guy. Let her rage at the world and you just be the oak in the storm.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 04:47 PM
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By the sheer fact he's asking this question screams no frame and is a DLV. Who cares if she makes more? In a year or 5 or 10 maybe you will, maybe not. ​ Sounds like he thinks making more $ is an insurance policy of her leaving or cheating.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 01:44 PM
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On this day the court will release it's decree and my marriage will be dissolved. Congratulations! Go out and celebrate. She was the love of my life. It's the loss of the one I loved. We made beautiful memories together. Oneitis - check I haven't been my true self ever since she expressed her desire to seperate. It'd be an understatement to say I'm frightened. Zero frame - check After this event there's no one. Not one person. I don't know how I'll manage to live. She does try to ameliorate my s…
/r/askMRP01/07/19 01:36 PM
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I show her how I do it every day I'm starting to get the sense that you're a bit of a control freak. Wanting her to do everything YOUR way. Who cares if things get done? If she cooks - even if it's not great but she's tried, do you praise her or cut her down for 'crappy' food? Learn some communication techniques. "This is good! I would have added a bit more salt, but this is good". ​ On the cleaning side - clean your shit and the baby shit up and leave her to her own mess. Alternatively you clea…
/r/askMRP01/07/19 01:19 PM
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Lots of she and her and she doesn’t do X or I wish she’d do Y. Get the If I do this she’ll do that. That’s just a covert contract setting you up to crash and burn. She doesn’t care when you remove time -> she’s happy surfing fuckbook. My guess is despite your physical appearance she’s not that attractive to you. You’ve said she knows you won’t leave due to the baby so you have no power. The one thing you as a man can control is your commitment. You’re so fearful of what happens to the baby you r…
/r/askMRP30/06/19 07:51 PM
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Ah you’re The Who Moved my Weights guy. Ignore her shit behavior. Work on yourself. She threatens, you laugh and walk away. What’s your boundary here? What’s your recourse if it’s violated? If the answer is “I don’t know” and “nothing” then STFU, go read some sidebar books and lift. You can’t do jack shit if you’re SMV is for shit.
/r/askMRP30/06/19 02:33 AM
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Not enough but it doesn’t matter. It’s improving. 195 1RM. Consider a year ago I was 65 lbs heavier. It’s all good. The key is constant improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/19 06:17 PM
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We got ready for bed and I initiated sex, was soft no'd, say okay all good, started watching tv, 5 min passed and I said okay goodnight, gave her a kiss and turned You do realize the reason she got turned on is because you were OI here... you didn't get butt hurt you just started doing something else, no sex = no big deal. That's hot to women. And now SHE knows you want sex AND she is turned on by your reaction to her soft no. Soft no = a special shit test to see how you'll handle yourself. Btw,…
/r/askMRP28/06/19 05:42 PM
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I think a 10 year old is harder to make sexy time than a 1 year old. Those fuckers are curious, becoming more rebellious and don’t sleep as much anymore. My ten year old is certainly harder to work sex around than the five year old. Five year old I can put one of these inane stupid ass brain rotting shows on and she’ll be content for twenty minutes.
/r/askMRP28/06/19 12:59 PM
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I fucked my wife in the mud room once when the kids were watching TV. It’s certainly possible if she’s turned on enough and you’re willing to take a bit of risk.
/r/askMRP28/06/19 12:55 PM
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You’re overthinking shit. It was likely responsive desire in her. She initially wasn’t turned on and then her hamster started going when she initially said no. I’m of the opinion (frame) that if she ever initiates you should fuck her. It’s clear she’s horny and you can do a lot of new shit that she may resist. I think you handled it well. When she’s very horny / during ovulation is a great time to Push her boundaries and make sex what you want. The logical mind shuts down then and the primal one…
/r/askMRP28/06/19 12:49 PM
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I’m sure he’ll ask about what this alone time is - and that he’ll figure out what is happening. I figure I’d just keep it vague anyway. A couple months ago my 10 year old woke up earlier than expected. I hadn't locked our door and it was ajar slightly. It was hilarious for me and embarrassing for my wife when she was standing there staring at us next to the bed. Luckily we were fully covered, but she asked why "daddy was exercising on top of mom". She's not dumb. Lesson learned - lock the damn d…
/r/askMRP28/06/19 12:30 PM
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During 1 year old nap time... it's time for you guys to "take a nap" together. Works beautifully. There's also wake up sex. ​ The 10 year old shouldn't be up past 9 (in the bed asleep @ 9). We put our 10 year old to bed at 8:30 and lights out at 9:00. She's free to read or stare at the wall for all I care for those 30 minutes. Edit: I read your response on the bed time for the ten year old. I usually put the kids to bed and if I’m feeling like fucking go downstairs, pick her up and carry her to …
/r/askMRP28/06/19 12:28 PM
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You’re very very misguided. You likely have been all your life to believe in the Disney happy wife happy life mentality. It’s bullshit. I’ve read through the comments and your responses. You are egotistical You do a cursory read and have made huge judgements without knowing the material You think your wife is a unicorn You think talking to your wife will solve problems You think your wife is not capable of cheating You have no frame whatsoever Somehow you think we are all assholes forcing our wi…
/r/askMRP26/06/19 05:41 PM
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Haven't had iron tested - at least in awhile. Will get done though. Doc said there's not much he can do/prescribe (and not sure I want anything either). Stuff to help fall asleep but not stay asleep. I do have inflammatory bowel disease so that certainly affects absorption of vitamins (especially B12). I take a supplement and blood tests show ok here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 05:46 PM
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In the past few months I’m in a cycle where I fall asleep around 10:30-11 then am wide awake around 2 for a few hours. Fall back asleep around 4 and then up at 6:30. So falling asleep usually isn’t an issue. It’s staying asleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 02:05 PM
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Sure, I know it's a problem, my issue is I can't seem to fix the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 12:40 PM
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OYS Week 37 Stats: Age: 36; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 193; BF: 14% (navy method) / 16.0% strongur.io; Wife: 38, (together 17, married 13); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook (x2), MMSLP (x3), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method (x2), How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage (x2) Physical / Health Lifts Estimated 1RM (easi…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 12:10 PM
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Stop putting labels on yourself and making excuses. Too many buzz words and shit here. Boil it down: you suck, you want to get better. Everything else is just noise.
/r/askMRP24/06/19 02:30 PM
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Ignore the women's perspective - that doesn't need to come into play here. Focus on you. 1) Recognize when you are seeking validation 2) Do not act on the validation seeking This is going to be really hard but I recommend you do not initiate if it's due to wanting validation OR if you will be butt hurt if she says no. One day, you'll realize you're not looking for validation anymore. That may be 6, 9, 12, 18 months down the line, but keep working on YOU and you'll get there. As you rightly indic…
/r/askMRP24/06/19 01:54 PM
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I’m not sure. I’m sure I need more sleep but constantly doing shit has made me need less of it. This week i was up for 30 some hours straight and got less than 4 hours a night and yet am feeling fine. Exercise and diet may help? Or I’m just fucked up.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 06:12 PM
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and I have to warn you, this is not a very politically correct theory If you think anyone cares about political correctness on this sub you’re retarded. This plan is retarded. Join a church if you legit believe in it and the values. Not because you think it’d be your social outlet. Jesus Fucking Christ.
/r/askMRP21/06/19 08:04 AM
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Pepperidge Farms remembers.
/r/askMRP21/06/19 07:59 AM
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I upvoted this. Because you’re right. The fucks are just more subtle now - damnit... thanks for pointing this out.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 12:34 AM
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Stole this from Horns... consider just a huge shit test. Her pretending to be clueless about how awesome you are. For instance - everyone I know tells me how amazing I look - family, friends, kids, coworkers... nada from my wife. Actually she shit tests even more about it “I don’t like muscular guys”, “you’re too thin, you’re more comfortable lay on fat”, “I don’t care about looks”. All bullshit. Honestly though the only judge needs to be yourself - do you think you look good?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 10:41 PM
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Hahah. I went from a fat lazy husband who sleeps all the time to one who 1) exercises too much, 2) cares too much about losing body fat and 3) never sleeps “how can you function??” How times change...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 09:27 PM
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Nice post regarding the intermediate phase for MRP. For me this is the most important piece. “The fact is – we should have never let ourselves get to the place where all of this feels like work. It’s not work. It’s how we were designed to be and designed to live. ” You know what gives validation? Getting a heavy weight up for an extra rep, looking in the mirror and realize you look good, being able to talk to women freely, being a fun person to be around. In my job I’ve found the most rewarding …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 09:25 PM
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I find that anytime before 18 months is pretty easy to keep kids calm. Hell you should be able to put her in a playpen with a few toys and get shit done. After that they become a fucking destructive force.
/r/askMRP19/06/19 06:31 PM
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Kids need to get used to sleeping through noise. Fuck at 10 mo she should be self soothing herself back to sleep. If she is crying less than 30 mins ignore. You should know the difference between something is seriously wrong and “I need mommy or daddy to make me go back to sleep”.
/r/askMRP19/06/19 06:23 PM
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Pretty easy... you take time for yourself. That’s it. Wake up earlier. Work out when the kids are asleep. Take the kids out without your wife. Find some hobbies and get out for an hour here and there. I don’t understand this abandoning your spouse thing. Is this something she’s said or your thinking she’s thinking? Own your shit, take care of your kids, but you have to put yourself first. I added up the time I spend on improving myself - around 12-15 hours a week. This is lifting, activities, an…
/r/askMRP19/06/19 05:57 PM
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I just went through six weeks of mid life crisis. I’m sure that’s not the end of it. Fuck it - who cares if it is. I’m happier. That’s really all the matters.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 10:20 PM
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Yeah yeah. Me too. Suck it up cupcake.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:58 PM
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I respect your indifference toward the menu of sex acts, however I view the fact that she knows I like all that and her not doing them as an SMV issue on my part Oh don’t get me wrong... I still want all those things. It’s just intimacy is much more important. Glad sex is good. When I talk about intimacy I mean the immersion of getting so lost on sex that your brains shut off and you’re both fully in the moment animalistic style. Something that’s so primal for both of you. I respect your indiffe…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:36 PM
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Yeah. That’s creepy. I know if some random stranger came up to my wife and gave her a congrats for breast feeding card we’d have both been creeped the fuck out. Wtf do the card say? “Tits out or gtfo?”
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:31 PM
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For instance, during the stag party, the boys said how their wives did not like muscular men. I know my wife liked when I had a toned body. Reminds me of this article. It’s bullshit lies women tell themselves and men like to hear because it’s easier. Complete bullshit. Don’t listen to what they say. https://www.indy100.com/article/fathers-day-dad-bod-six-pack-women-preference-abs-survey-8960856
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:29 PM
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FFS.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:15 PM
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Frame is challenging... I wrote a post on it last week. Once you get there - you'll know... it's hard to describe but simple once you get there. There's a lot of things you have to learn about yourself to get to that vision. Staying in perpetual fear sucks - recognizing fear and doing shit anyways is the way to live live. You're probably not even building frame yet. The first step is to get OUT of everyone else's - your parent's, your wife, your boss, your coworkers, society in general. Then onc…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:10 PM
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> 30+ years of being a Beta is f-ing hard to fix. Eh, you're 34. That means probably at worst -17-18 years to fix. I'm 36 so not much older than you. Once you get out of the self-defeating prophecy this is hard to fix and change the mindset to "I was fucked up, I'm getting better, I'm going to be the baddest motherfucker out there" - you'll start seeing slow and steady progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:07 PM
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r/DeadBedrooms was not actually helping me. Or anyone else... it's just a circle jerk of commiserating that no one is having sex there. > but still drinking coffee Try to drink it black. No sugar in drinks makes a huge difference. > but honestly it's the dessert I'd rather have to cap off the evening. I find lifting is a nice way to cap off the evening. Be careful and don't use food/liquor as an escape for your problems. > This has included telling my wife, instead of asking Good stuff. Make a s…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:05 PM
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> Have read SGM few years back but plan to re-read. I recommend NMMNG, WISNIFG, and WOTSM first. SGM is a good book but it's focus on one specific area that early on really isn't going to matter that much. > Having been using my hectic schedule as an excuse not to lift for the last 2 months. Starting tomorrow we’re back at it. All it takes is waking up an hour earlier or sacrificing an hour of "down time". Don't fuck around on this! This is the MOST important part of the program. > Wife blew up …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:54 PM
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He needs to hit everything hard. Too much fucking around for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:50 PM
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Lifting 1RM (calculated): 210 BP, 320 Leg Press. Bodyfat 19% (Navy method) Squats, deadlift, overhead press, bench press, and some sort of rows. That's what you need. Stronglifts 5x5 - follow it for 3 months. Goal is to have a flat stomach before I turn 40 at the end of this year, then actively add muscle after that. No better way to burn fat than to build up muscle. It burns a shit load more calories at rest. Lifting changed my body comp drastically after a year of high cardio. Lifting + diet w…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:48 PM
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> Status and privilege I much rather spend time with hard working people than people from privilege. I have grown up pretty well-off but never really knew it because my parents forced me to continue to work hard and be around all sorts of people. > I have always felt like a regular person in better-than-average circumstances. This is the right mindset to have. > Most of it is a waste of time. I took a break for a few months, a couple of years ago. It was the right time. I disagree here. At least…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:38 PM
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> Wife shit testing me last night: Really thought I was going to see you hit 185 but you are stuck at 175 Why does she know your weight? Does she ask? > . My identity is wrapped up in the fact that I provide. > I am full of fear and it spikes at times. Fear SUCKS ass. It's no way to live. What's the worst possible thing that happens to you? I was the King of Fearland. It got so bad I couldn't leave the house. You have to figure out WHAT deep down you're fearful of - it's something tied around yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:35 PM
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Awesome week. Great news with the job. That's awesome shit. Amazing how much life gets better with a positive frame to work off of. ​ As always, love your updates and you're great advice to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:25 PM
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Make sure with the SSRI you’re lowering it slowly. Fucked up bad things happen if you go cold turkey. Also if you need it - don’t cut it out completely. I sat at 50mg of Zoloft for a good six months because if I cut out completely anxiety would return. All good now but it’s a slow progression - there is sometimes a need for these things until your mental state gets solid. This may be contentious advice but it’s what worked for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:16 PM
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I need to look into the zma. My dreams are already fucked up.. makes for a more interesting morning
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:12 PM
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This right here is of course the correct approach. I needed a car a few months ago... found what I wanted. Told her i was going to buy a car. She provided her input (I hope it isn’t black again, it should be an suv). So I naturally bought another black sedan.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:08 PM
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Haha Mr. Everything is gay. That’s some funny shit with that flair. OP makes me sad. Well I’m over that sadness now. It was short lived.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:06 PM
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Take the suggestion Rocco... bullet points and paragraphs are your friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:02 PM
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I loved it, but I often found myself thinking is this redpill all this giving and opening and love and passion!! When you switch the mindset to one of giving the gift of yourself to your wife because you generally care for her and enjoy her - an amazing transformation happens. Now you’re not “getting sex” from her... you’re giving the gift sex TO her. If she doesn’t want that gift that’s on her. I definitely need a reread or relisten. It’s been awhile.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 08:01 PM
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I caused a world of hurt in my marriage by demanding certain acts (way too soon by the way). Can you say Rambo? It’s the intimacy you want not specific acts. When you have real intimacy and passion who gives a fuck about the acts? My wife has never done oral - will she? Who the fuck knows but I don’t care anymore. She will or she won’t but the sex is reaching amazing levels due to the INTIMACY between us.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 07:51 PM
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Cut things off with the 22 yo at work; never slept with her and this forum basically saved my ass. After drawing the line, she understood but then dumped all this shit about childhood issues, abuse and feelz. Said she wishes I was either her lover or her father... RP is as real as it gets Chick sounds like she has some issues - great decision that YOU made. We just helped push you in the right direction a bit. Keep on going, this is a great update.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 07:41 PM
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Haha”like riding a bike”. Something like that! I know I still have a lot of unfucking to do, but where I see my life right now is better than I could have imagined a few short months ago. Now I know I’m not nearly done - lots of work to do. I certainly don’t want this coming across as complacent. It’s the opposite of complacency - it’s just a recognition of the fact that what I saw as the optimal outcome when starting is nowhere near where I want to get to. I need to continue along this path to …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 07:35 PM
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OYS Week 36 Stats: Age: 36; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 193; BF: 14% (navy method) / 16.1% strongur.io; Wife: 38, (together 17, married 13); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook (x2), MMSLP (x3), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method x2, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage (x2) Physical / Health Lifts Estimated 1RM (easier…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 03:17 PM
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I used to have this nagging fear anytime I left the house that I’d come back and she would be gone, tired of my sorry ass, or running away with Chad. That’s no way to live. I’m on a business trip this week and after reading this I realize there is no fear anymore and hadn’t been for awhile. Do you know how much mental capacity is freed up without constant fear? It’s fucking amazing.
/r/askMRP17/06/19 11:20 PM
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First off, learn how to write more succinctly. Jesus your post and replies to comments are like a fucking book. You don’t have a marriage. There is no marriage here, maybe you never had one, who knows... but you’re providing for HER to do what SHE wants. There is so much she and her in this it’s sickening. You can’t set a boundary right now - you’re unattractive and she gives zero fucks about you. Don’t threaten divorce - she won’t think it’s credible. Here’s what you do right now - nothing but …
/r/askMRP16/06/19 04:21 PM
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So back to the title of this post - she's a reflection of me... I've fallen off the boat of red pill several times for several reasons which ultimately go back to me being a faggot... Drunk captain, DEER expert. How the hell do you fall off? This is a serious question. I don’t understand how it’s possible if you’re lifting and have read TRM or MMSLP how someone can ever go back to “blue pill ways”. What’s your rationale why this is ok? Also, you’re unattractive that’s why your wife won’t fuck yo…
/r/askMRP15/06/19 01:12 PM
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Ever since I said "I can be happy regardless if you are", she has not used that phrase again.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 05:42 PM
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Most men in their lives will always choose the blue pill. It's easier in their estimation, but what us that have taken the red pill and found our frame discover is that it's actually easier to be red pilled. Do you believe that now? Is that how you live your life now? Is it easier? I can't fathom how anyone who is aware can go back to BP. I really don't see how that's possible unless you completely lie and fool yourself somehow. I wouldn't say life is "easier" but it's more rewarding for sure. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 05:16 PM
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Insightful post. Real-world experience. Nothing better. Thanks... I never thought I'd be this mentally sound in my own head. I'm not sure how many struggle with anxiety and living for others - but it's a crappy way to live. I like your dog story... my current dog I'm convinced is retarded. Pisses on the floor after being out and walked for 30 mins, drinks her piss. Anyhow, dogs are a pain in the ass. p.s. Obviously a pirate ninja goddess is the coolest only way to go. Agree!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 05:04 PM
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Yes, that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 01:00 PM
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Yeah, it sucks in the short term, but long term it's the only way... pfft 2-3 hours. That's amateur stuff. 2-3 hours is mild - I've had days of constant shit. First few days are always fine (and even entertaining!). After that, I find you have got to disengage, be busy... go drive around in the car for an hour just to get out, spend a little more time at work before going home. Reinforce the following in your mind: 1) you're not wrong/incorrect/being unreasonable 2) AWALT and she's pushing to ge…
/r/askMRP14/06/19 12:30 PM
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"I can see this upsets you" or "I am sorry this makes you feel that way" I've tried those. Probably even more triggering to her than the original offense. I don't recommend the sorry this makes you feel that way... that doesn't say anything and you're not really sorry. Have you tried to put yourself in her shoes and mirror it back? Here's a recent example w. mine: "Listen, I know this is hard for you lately. You're confused about why I've changed. I get that - I'd find that difficult too. I know…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 07:29 PM
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Are you a bitch? If not, lay down a boundary and then follow through. Watch what happens to your little princess when you actually lay down boundaries and enforce them. YMMV but it worked wonders for me. Said something similar to my wife last week. Next day she's on her best behavior. I don't think it was a coincidence. 100% would recommend but you have to have real DNGAF, OI, and frame to pull that off. Otherwise she'll smell the weakness a mile away.
/r/askMRP13/06/19 07:19 PM
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I found this at the beginning as well... just be aware that it's very likely you'll start entering into a long cycle of increasing shit tests / tantrums / bad moods as your SMV climbs and she attacks the frame you're developing. Distracting (bringing back to reality) sometimes works, but sometimes the best course is to cease verbal intercourse.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/19 07:07 PM
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Narcissist, asshole, selfish prick, dick, bastard. These are all positive things when she calls me them. Be careful and hear on the autistic one. You still can show emotion without getting upset. You actually need to show emotion in a masculine way. I forgot who it was who recommended this but the line I used worked nicely "if you think I'm not upset, you're wrong. Just because I do not react on my emotions doesn't mean they're not there". Controlled anger is another good one. let he know you're…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 07:04 PM
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Edit: Probably she learned early in life that when she threw a tantrum she got what she wanted (shitty parents). It could take a while for her to un-learn that with you. Or she learned it due to beta faggotry. Looking back I was the one who caused my wife's behavior. Throw a tantrum equaled "I'm so sorry honey, let me rub your feet. Do you need a drink or a snack? What can I do for you?". It just got worse and worse over time. So now by not giving her what she wants - she ratchets up the tantrum…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 06:57 PM
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Just say no, you can pick it up yourself. Assuming your wife is shorter than you, you can use "nah, you're closer" with a grin.
/r/askMRP13/06/19 06:49 PM
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You may have to really distance yourself - as in leave and go to a hotel even if it's late. Take the 15 month old if you can. Sounds like she just gets completely flooded with emotion. Problem is she's self sabotaging (common symptom of LSE). Passing the test makes her angry and fight. When she's angry, she says sex is off the table out of spite. Not passing the test leads to her not wanting to fuck (despite needing it) and more bitchy behavior. The only way to win is not to play. This is exactl…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 06:47 PM
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Attention from other guys is more likely than cheating imo. Assuming your SMV really is higher than hers. She needs to truly believe that cheating = throwing away a great, attractive guy.
/r/askMRP13/06/19 05:44 PM
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For 2 years before I found MRP I was convinced my wife had a personality disorder. Back then sounded just like you, only taking about cluster B personally disorders. I use to read the forms on outofthefog.net and I use to reccomend that site to all kinds of people. I've been on the fence with mine, mostly because of external influences (her family thinking she has a problem). She has some anger issues, but really I think it's AWALT. Pretty sure 99% of us on here at some point thought their wife …
/r/askMRP13/06/19 05:19 PM
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Sounds similar to my wife in terms of behavior. I haven't completed PFP so can't say where she falls in that regard. But I don't think it matters what quadrant she is in. In particular, she can take it personally if I say no to compliance tests or pass shit tests, and will escalate to fighting. I just figured AWALT. My wife can flip out about something as simple as not getting up to turn the light off because she wants it off. There's triggers for sure - certain words that will cause immediate r…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 05:17 PM
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This is excellent. A great guide to what you've been helping me with. Don’t be afraid to be who you are anymore. If there's one key takeaway to frame and MRP it's this. Do not be afraid of who you are, do not apologize for it, do not be shamed into thinking it's wrong. Your wife thinks you're too interested in sex? Own that shit, "Hell ya I love sex". She may get mad, bitchy, whatever, but you're immovable - sex is important to you and that's perfectly fine. If she doesn't like it, she is free t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/19 04:59 PM
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I think we may be done with Season 1... assuming it's a short 13 episode season. Left on a big cliffhanger w. babysitter getting kicked out and wife trying to rekindle... .something in the marriage that was never there before. The B-plot of large financial loans I give a "C". Didn't keep me very engaged.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 05:52 PM
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We’ve never had a passionate marriage (or relationship) if that’s what you’re referring to Funny you say "passionate". That's the latest trigger word for my wife. If I use the terms passion or passionate she goes nuts. Like how dare I imply that we need passion in our marriage? Anyhow, back to you - if you're happy with the situation then keep it going. I don't think happiness is a "this event happened and I felt good"... it's more like an undercurrent of satisfaction in your life. You can get f…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 05:45 PM
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Usually, your ability to paint a graphic picture with words is appreciated, but this time, I may be nauseous for a week.
/r/askMRP12/06/19 01:57 PM
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I really don't want to cut out Muay Thai as I really enjoy it and it relieves a lot of stress. Lifts are pretty straightforward: Day A: OHP, BP, Curls, Deadlift Day B: Squats, Chinups, Barbell Row I think slower progress would be better here. I'm not in a huge rush, I just want to make sure I'm moving forward - which I wasn't before. I'll reread the LG stuff. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 01:17 PM
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Babysitter… …and I were able to patch things up. We had great make-up sex. But then I got into an altercation with her mom - and Babysitter got caught in our crossfire, and ended up getting kicked out of her mom’s house, and that riled things up again. If he’s not by my side at all times - and I mean all times, even when I shower or take a shit - he throws a fuss. We’re now 2 weeks into our trial period and the nanny is talking about opting out. My wife lent out $85k to friends without telling m…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 01:00 PM
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Lonely at the top bro At least I like being with myself now. Workout is Sun (calories - 2200): Lift Mon (calories - 1500): Muay Thai Tue (calories - 2200): Lift Wed (calories - 1500): Muay Thai Thurs (calories - 1500): None Fri (calories - 2200): Lift Sat (calories 1500): None (usually ~2 hours of yard work going on) Total weekly calories: 12,600. TDEE assuming 'light exercise'': 2,742 / day (19,194 per week). Expected weight loss of 1.9 lbs per week. I estimate Muay Thai burns ~500 calories, so…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 12:42 PM
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Also, /u/00Pi is the most enjoyable part of Tuesday. It's like.. .when you don't think it's bad enough.. PLOT TWIST. Better than game of thrones for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 07:08 PM
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On the socialization - the most important thing is just getting around other people. Don't go with an aim to make friends... just aim to be around other people that isn't your wife. Find people at work if you can, talk to them. Be social, be the guy who people want to talk to. Depending on your job, get up every now and then and just go talk to people, see what's going on, talk about work, life, whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 07:04 PM
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Seems more faggot posts than usual the past few days on here... Lost 30 in past month This is hard to beleive... Certainly can't be all fat... 30 lbs of fat would mean you decreased your caloric intake by 3500 a day. Your TDEE assuming 6'0" is ~2400 a day... so unless you were previously eating nearly 6000 calories, this doesn't add up. One day her libido totally cuts off, and she stops saying "I love you" and being intimate. Wife came home from the New Kids concert the other night and gave me h…
/r/askMRP11/06/19 06:58 PM
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Hell as long as they pay for me to move and it's not to a shitty place, I'd pretty much move anywhere in the country. That's probably my upbringing - we moved around a lot so I have little connection with where I live... it's just a place.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 06:44 PM
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I always believed I was incredibly, incredibly awesome and I've put a lot of work into that I always had the opposite. That I sucked, that I was lucky to somehow get what I had, that I didn't deserve it. That's all changed. I use the word awesome to describe myself with a grin to my wife. She called me a cocky asshole a few weeks ago... that's when you know you're doing something right. That she's "a dried up, post wall, harpy" (or whatever that MRP quote was). simply acknowledging she just does…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 06:42 PM
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Kids - absolutely, kids are hilariously awesome. Marriage - yes, but I wouldn't have married the first girl I had a serious relationship with. I would have fucked a lot more when I was younger, vetted much better, and had a prenup.
/r/askMRP11/06/19 06:04 PM
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She felt guilty about her behavior but projected it back onto you to avoid dealing with her guilt I had not even considered this. I effectively held a mirror up and pointed out "this is how you're acting right now"... the deflection of guilt makes a ton of sense WHY this triggered the response. especially not in your own mind by dignifying her crap with any outrage or emotional response. This is where I feel I made a huge amount of progress. I never even considered that it was my issue. It was a…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 06:01 PM
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Daily meditation and CBT exercises. Made the decision to be an optimistic, cheerful person. Have made progress applying this in day to day life. Feeling more positive and content than I have in a long time. First week in months where I haven’t had at least a day of extremely low mood, high anxiety and wallowing in self-pity. This is great! Making the conscious decision right now is critical. Your brain will eventually default to this. Coming from a guy who had severe anxiety for years and year -…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 05:52 PM
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BF: 24.9% fitbit scale I don't ever trust these scales. My scale has said I'm 24ish% body fat for about a year... from when I was a fat ass to now. Use a different method. Easy ones are Navy fat and Strongur. From my recent reading, looks like Strongur is more accurate (unfortunately for me since it's a higher #). Hates that I do jiujitsu and brings it up whenever I go This is good. I've found that the tests come and go based on her feelz. If she's pissed at me, there's no issue. Otherwise I get…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 05:22 PM
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MISSION Get pussy again No, just no. Pussy should never be the mission. You say 19 months of RP and you haven't figured this out? The risk with 22yo is very high. Much much higher than you're thinking. You are hamstering to feel 'safe' enough to fuck this girl. Yay - you got some attention at work, bad you're going to act on it. If you're really after new pussy - go find a truly random chick. One who has no complexities like she works with you and you see her almost every day. The bigger risk co…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 05:05 PM
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My point that I did not make very well when I re-read what I wrote is don't let the guilt that they'll be fucked hold you there. Or that your colleagues will suffer. That's on the company and on them. Eventually, everyone will continue and you'll just be a distant memory. "Remember when Daddy_Thundercock worked here, I wonder what happened to that guy."
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 02:29 PM
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hey have NO idea how fucked they are going to be if I leave. My boss doesn’t even really know what I do or how to replace me. I feel bad for the people on my team who are invariable going to suffer when I leave. I support them very well and they won’t be able to easily replace me. I am a unicorn at work. I think this a lot, but then remember that EVERYONE is replaceable. I see people leave who I think how the fuck are things going to get done now... and then a few weeks later it's all back to no…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 02:15 PM
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I struggle with this as well. Here's what has helped a lot: ask yourself are you initiating because you want to fuck OR because you need some sort of validation. Validation can be as simple of "well it's been X days since we last fucked, we should fuck 2-3x a week because that's what a good relationship looks like". Now, usually if it goes more than 3-4 days without fucking, I really DO want to fuck for the sake of fucking, but not to hit a magic quantity # of times. Affection is all one way, wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 02:12 PM
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Given that all your other posts are regarding World of Warcraft, you have a lot of work to do. Lift, STFU, sidebar. Significantly reduce or eliminate video games. 1) you can't set a boundary 2) that's a stupid boundary 3) who cares if she says goodbye; that's needy as fuck You're projecting bad behavior on her part that she's 'out to get you / being a bitch' when she's just trying to leave the house and you're busy showering. Get out of her head, this really does not matter.
/r/askMRP11/06/19 01:59 PM
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Sometimes it's been two steps forward, 3 back. The important thing is to keep stepping forward. Over time, the gains will happen, they'll be slow (frustratingly so) but they happen. You can even get the rare 2 steps forward, 0 back some weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 12:58 PM
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Good things are going well. Just a caution that this is likely going to be short lived. I found (as well as others) you get some amazing gains after 3-4 weeks. Then you can expect the cycle of shit testing, pass, more shit test, pass, etc. to start for a long time. Expect to ratchet up more and more for months.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 12:57 PM
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“People that love each other don’t do that” People that love each other fuck each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 12:47 PM
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OYS Week 35 Stats: Age: 36; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 193 (-1); BF: 15% (navy method) / 16.5% strongur.io; Wife: 38, (together 17, married 13); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook (x2), MMSLP (x3), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method x2, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage, Re-read Saving a Low Sex Marriage Physical /…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 12:41 PM
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"You know my love language is acts of service. How can you not burst out laughing when she says something like this? Love language. hahaha. So tempting to AA with the word cocktail.
/r/askMRP10/06/19 05:22 PM
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Effectively I've been 'checking out' completely. Not just being busy but not being the fun guy to be around. Not giving any affection. Not giving my presence if I am around. So it's not just "I'm going out, see you later" - happy me, kiss her goodbye. It's "bye", turning around and leaving. BPP makes it clear that her being in a shitty mood = affection and time removal. But not remove affection and presence. That should only be for repeated sexual denials. If presence = giving affection, positiv…
/r/askMRP10/06/19 03:06 PM
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Yep, I've read it twice now. That was my biggest takeaway as well. Trying to put it into practice lately. My failure is I've been removing presence and affection along with time and attention.
/r/askMRP10/06/19 01:40 PM
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Damn you talk a lot. Was there a question here? Stop negotiating desire, it's not going to work.
/r/askMRP10/06/19 01:04 PM
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Part of your aftercare should be to tell he she is a good girl and you love it when she does those things. Not to argue with her! Because those are the facts. This is definitely missing. I wonder how much of her saying she doesn't like it is her conscious and subconscious brain fighting itself. "I liked that" vs "you shouldn't like that, you're not a slut". Almost? Good point. She is. She wants to get the old beta back who she could manipulate and control anytime she cried, took her ring off, th…
/r/askMRP07/06/19 05:06 PM
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What the fuck man? Why do you care if she's bald? Is your ego that fragile that you think you look bad because your CANCER RIDDEN wife is bald? Holy fuck. You're a poor excuse for a human being. This isn't /r/AmItheAsshole but... you're the asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 03:17 PM
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But I'm not passionate about any of these things I'm 32 and I should've figured out by now what I'm passionate about, sadly I don't know. I think this whole 'passion' thing is overblown. I think you're just looking for excuses for being an unemployed loser who does nothing all day except make plans that you never have any intention to follow through on. Of all the men I know, there is only one other guy that I think could keep up with her (has stronger frame than me) So you know one other guy? B…
/r/askMRP06/06/19 01:05 PM
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It's hard fucking work and there's a lot of failures and missteps. But it's the most worthwhile undertaking I have ever done. You fail, you learn, you get better.
/r/askMRP05/06/19 08:11 PM
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Found this. It's doable!
/r/askMRP05/06/19 08:09 PM
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hahahaha. That's a good one. I hope you got a paternity test because it's a coin toss if it's yours based on this post alone. 1) Leaving is always an option. Having a kid no way binds either of you to stay together. Hell you're not even married... fuck 2) She's not a dog you can train. If you expect her to react a certain way because of something you do, you're not getting it. Lift (seems you can do that), STFU, and read.
/r/askMRP05/06/19 08:07 PM
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My schedule is: Sun - Lift Mon - Muay Thai Tue - Lift Wed - Muay Thai Thurs - Nada Fri - Lift Sat - Nada I'm spent after Wednesday and need a day to recover. is doing a Muay Thai class on Monday night going to tire me out and make my Tuesday workout shittier Sometimes it can be shittier. Depends on what the lifts are and what you focused on in Muay Thai. If I'm doing legs and it was a heavy kicking class the day before, yeah squats suck, but it's really not that bad once you get into the routine…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 06:18 PM
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Well, considering this has resulted in my latest failures (here and here), I'll try to sum up what I learned in the past 72 hours: Credit to /u/man_in_the_world, /u/HornsofApathy, and /u/RPeed for a lot of this It's ok to be express emotions You can't be a robot or have neutral emotions Your wife's emotions are real and you can't diminish that she's feeling them (telling her she's emotional, telling her to cheer up, telling her to stop overreacting) You need to recognize her emotions and show th…
/r/askMRP05/06/19 05:43 PM
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this is almost word for word what her issue was: "Does my husband even give a shit about me? Or does he just use my hysterics as an excuse to shut down however I feel about things as quickly as possible?" I've been basically telling her that her emotions are stupid and she shouldn't have them. Thanks.
/r/askMRP05/06/19 03:32 PM
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Just in general I think it's good to get tested. PE, but I know a lot of issues I had were helped a lot w. testosterone meds.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 03:31 PM
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Have you had your testosterone checked at all?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 01:02 PM
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You also need to be very good at aftercare as well. This is likely my issue. That plus her view of herself as a "good girl", she "doesn't do those things".
/r/askMRP04/06/19 06:37 PM
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Physically I’m in better shape than ever but I’m not hawt - will be there in a few months. Don't use this as an excuse. Something is wrong here... I feel you're not telling us the full story. 5x5: SQ 240, DL 220, BP 120, OHP 110, ROW 120 DL, BP, and Row seem low for 11 months of lifting. Always seeking comfort, contact, but not open to sex at all. Where are you with dread?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 06:32 PM
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The way I look at it is I've been refusing to sail in anything but calm seas. Just waiting it out at anchor. But we should all be trying to surf those waves. This is a nice way of putting it. Thanks. We'll see what this week brings.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 06:11 PM
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I did laugh. It was very funny. Then she got madder for me laughing... that was right before I fucked up the shitty comfort test with my AA/AM answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 05:24 PM
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You sir, are a legend. Nope, I am definitely not. Just a guy trying to live a great life. There's others on here much well versed and not nearly as autistic. I fucked up this week, but won't dwell on it and do better.
/r/askMRP04/06/19 05:15 PM
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Wow... thanks for the post. NEUTRAL EMOTION would best describe it. She says robot mode, but it's this exactly based on these two sentences. I'm definitely in the first camp - it's not taking internal effort to maintain composure. I know the difference because you can feel it. Before I would act "cool" but inside be raging and pissed. Now it's just "ok, whatever" inside as well. "if you haven't internalized it and you tell yourself, "I played it cool," but inside it's actually taking any effort …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 05:11 PM
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Also, my wife never rode the CC and had a shitty trainer for the majority of her sexual experiences - not sure if your wives are similar but that has been my take on it. Considering we're the only sexual partners each other's have had, that's definitely a major part of it. Good point on the congruence - "she's a good, strong woman who likes being submissive". This may break her brain and when she's feeling shitty = being taken advantage / used / abused / whatever when she thinks back on the memo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 02:58 PM
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Good point on the calorie deficit. I've been running that for awhile (just a lot more so the past 2 weeks). I killed all sleeping pills and sleep aids a week ago, that I think is actually helping a bit now. Serious question bro: do you like your wife? I like her when she's at her best. I try to judge her on that account. I do not want her to kill the puppy. There's easier/quicker ways than that. I legit care for her, but I think she definitely has some narcissistic tendencies (more-so than AWALT…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 02:55 PM
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1) I'm pretty dense at empathy and emotional intelligence in general 2) I don't think there's been real / major comfort tests previously. I took it as a shit test. I fucked it up. Take the Book of Pook and cram it straight up you ass, as you might digest faster. Will do. Not the shove up the ass part,but will re-read it.
/r/askMRP04/06/19 12:56 PM
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Weird thing started happened as wife is starting to ramp up her ASD. She’s a submissive little thing in bed that does anything I want. I can’t tell if it’s shit-testing or ASD, but when she isn’t a good mood she will say shit like: “You just take me to bed and beat me with your dick every night”, or “I don’t know if you have some kind of fetish where you want a slut”, or “Sometimes you hurt me, why would you hurt me?” …. She doesn’t complain at all during the act but I have taken the feedback ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 12:54 PM
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When she asks for a non-sexual massage I would laugh and start giving her a very sexual massage This 100%. Two things will happen. Either it will escalate or she'll tell you to stop. Her view is irrelevant, you'll give the massage how you want to. She can either enjoy it or stop it. Telling her it's frustrating for you tells her that her vagina hold power over you.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 12:51 PM
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OYS Week 34 Stats: Age: 36; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 194 (-3); BF: 16% (navy method); Wife: 38, (together 17, married 13); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method x2, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage, Re-read Saving a Low Sex Marriage I need to re-read Book of Pook, MMS…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 12:47 PM
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The avenue with my therapist was opened long ago when I started counseling after my son died. The good news is this is only the second time she did this. And the better news is that my therapist thinks my wife is freaking out since I’m not codependent in her anymore. It’s a fair point that she shouldn’t do this any further. I think a huge part of this is she can’t / won’t communicate directly so attempts to use this as an avenue. I’ve beeb considering ending therapy soon... the reasons I started…
/r/askMRP03/06/19 08:13 PM
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I don’t mind it actually. My therapist has a pretty RP mindset on focusing on myself. She’s made the comment “she will eventually catch up or she won’t and you move on”. Sounds pretty 1000 ft rope. What helps is her pointing out where I’m being a fucking idiot.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 07:53 PM
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This is spot on. I shut everything down to not be beta. I have emotions that aren’t out of fear anymore. The fear I have is becoming the faggot I was. Thank you for taking the time and writing this. Helps set things in perspective. I AM missing something and that’s genuine emotion.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 07:52 PM
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Sounds like I'm missing comfort tests... likely because I haven't really seen them before. And when they're shitty comfort tests it's even harder. Time to go back and re-read some posts on this.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 05:23 PM
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It's more like 5000 feet how much of a faggot I was. It can burn down - I am willing to let it burn. I'm not going to light the fuse right now, but she can burn it down if she wants. As I said - either way I'll be fine. 18 years of BP crap, 7 months into MRP. Just getting started. I'll continue working up the dread ladder. The funny thing though is the sex has returned and is not starfish. 3-4x per week unless she goes distant (PMS week usually) and shuts it down.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 04:51 PM
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I am probably autistic. Kino - yes, frequently. 10 sec kiss - no, she's resistant Gaming her - I try... this is a work in progress It's hard to game her when she shuts down completely. That seems to be the current pattern - great fun times, she's following along, we're having fun, then she hits PMS week and closes off and gets bitchy. Starts her period - starts calming down, and then back to a few weeks of fun/great times. You remind me of the Sylvester Stallone character.. what’s his name? Mode…
/r/askMRP03/06/19 04:44 PM
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Thanks. Excellent advice. Why are you doing MRP? If it's for the relationship then you are destined for failure, because you're not changing for you, you are manipulating a sunk cost result. Good luck with your next identical relationship. ​ It was for the relationship at the beginning. It's for me now... to improve myself to be the best I can be. I would be lying if I didn't prefer things to workout here... but I know I'll get what I want with or without her.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 04:41 PM
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My SMV is higher than hers. She'll never admit it of course. 36 years old making 225k a year who is looking pretty good (nowhere near my long term goals here). Who does Muay Thai and skydives. Consider that I am in better shape than when we met and was 255 lbs when we were married. 195 lbs now with some definition now. Her: 38 with 3 kids and looks fading. Of course she wants the old you back, the BETA who she can control and who supports her.. ie financing her life, expensive trips and jewelry,…
/r/askMRP03/06/19 04:26 PM
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I do want to stay but am ok if it breaks down. I play the nice card. Every morning and all the time. I really and honestly do not get affected by her. Show her you want to be the captain by taking the ship on a pleasure cruise now and again. How when she rejects anything I try here? I can't force her to have fun. All I get here is bitterness and resentment from you still living in her frame and reacting like a butthurt little boy. I don't see how I'm butthurt here. Do I want things to work out? …
/r/askMRP03/06/19 04:22 PM
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Sbill or anyone else can rip me a new one. I’ve expressed my vision for a marriage looks like. She does not respond one way or the other. It’s not rocket science and basic shit for any marriage. It’s almost like she’s trying to see how far she can push before I break.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 04:13 PM
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There is huge amount of resentment from being a drunk captain. That’s obvious, she points it out. I just agree and tell her that me is dead. At the same time she “wants the old me back”. But sex has been great and much more frequent in the past few months. Her moods are more extreme. When she’s enjoying life she’s fucking amazing. When she’s bitchy it’s dialed up to 11 now. Sounds like I passed the obvious comfort test but then failed the shitty one. Fuck. That makes a lot of sense.
/r/askMRP03/06/19 04:10 PM
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There is no handling it... you simply be you. It's tough to wrap your head around right now, but you need to stop being influenced by her moods. Beyond that, should I be gone away from her as much as possible? Do you have things to do? Be busy anyways, not just during PMS Should I initiate? If you want to but not out of neediness and for validation I could tell she wasn't as enthused as normal. You think too much, fuck her how you want to.
/r/askMRP31/05/19 04:54 PM
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“The old YOU is dead and a new YOU has to emerge.” This 100%. You will murder the old you and replace him with a better upgraded version. It takes time and work but damn it is so worth it... liberating.
/r/askMRP30/05/19 12:27 AM
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finagle some sex This wording had me burst out laughing. Fuck you since I'm going to be repeating these three words all day to myself and laughing my ass off.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 07:02 PM
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I struggled with the kid thing for a bit. We've been trying for 5 years... who the hell knows why. Thought it was me, doesn't seem to be. She seems fine. We're going through one more round of IVF. I'm ok with being the old 54 year old. Kids are fun, I enjoy them.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 06:51 PM
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My goal is to go until July 3. So six weeks. I’m superstitious too... feel that your body gets used to shit and needs to be changed up every now and then. Thanks for the advice. Hunger at night is my battle at the moment. Like middle of the night 2am. Not overly concerned about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 06:34 PM
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Episode 11 of your OYS wasn't as good as the first 10, but we did have the introduction of estranged brother so that was a new twist. Sounds like the retreat has helped. I’m okay with having more children, but I’d like to know where our marriage stands first (for obvious reasons). She’s in a rush because she turns 37 soon. Yeah, I'm going through this. I want another kid too, so we're on the same page, but the getting older definitely is going to start fucking with her head. You need to figure o…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:48 PM
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guess my T levels are back to non-faggot levels now? I’ve been running a natural T-booster stack for a couple of months now and I feel great. What'd you do here? I can’t do anything nice for my wife. I’ll skip all the details but anytime I do something extraordinary or just nice for her, it results in days of shit testing. Maybe this is her subconsciously trying to probe your frame to make sure you're not going back to beta fag mode? Do you do any "nice" things for her just to fuck with her. I l…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:45 PM
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Agree with Horns on the lingerie. I've been there though, so can tell you that it's not even important - it's validation seeking that you're "worthy" of her wearing it for you. If she wants to buy it and wear it great, if not, no big deal either. I do notice when she wears sexy underwear to bed and give her praise for doing so. Relevant Post The next day we're in the pool and she asks me if I still find her attractive. I ask her if she was there last night and this morning. She says something li…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:36 PM
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#1 - Come on, let's be honest. You may have known about RP, but you haven't even opened the packaging let alone swallowed it. How do I know? I have a seemingly all-encompassing, debilitating extreme fearful reaction to negative emotions of my LTR. This right here. Think about this - what the fuck can your LTR actually do to hurt you? I've had 1,5 years of intense psychotherapy Good for you. I've read countless books, the top 500 posts here and on marriedredpill. And? I am somewhat of a medical w…
/r/askMRP28/05/19 05:21 PM
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But some of my actions makes my wife feel bad and even drives her crazy. ​ Do you feel guilty when you say no? There's a book for that. Get to reading.
/r/askMRP28/05/19 05:08 PM
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OR... alternate idea. Stop feeling sorry for your worthless self and become a high value worthwhile man. Suicide is the ultimate in frame loss. Fuck your wife, it's not about her. It's about you. “You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 02:33 PM
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OYS Week 33 Stats: Age: 36; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 197 (-4); BF: 16% (navy method); Wife: 38, (together 17, married 13); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method x2, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage, Re-read Saving a Low Sex Marriage Physical / Health Lifts Estimated 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 02:05 PM
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How should I live my life? Lift, sidebar, STFU. However the fuck you want. Don't ask us such a unique question to YOUR life. As for the marriage shit - I was married 2 weeks shy of my 22nd birthday. After being with my wife for 5 years prior. Do I regret that decision because of what pussy I may have missed out on? I did once... but you made your decision, you can't go back in time, so you move forward and keep being the best YOU. What you need is some goals. What are your goals? I don't mean fo…
/r/askMRP28/05/19 12:34 PM
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He doesn’t seem to like any of the advice given. The ego is strong in this one.
/r/askMRP27/05/19 05:15 PM
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You’re getting defensive over someone calling you fat at 17% BF? Wtf. It is fat. How do I know? Because I’m 17% and i can feel the disgusting fat on me. I don’t care if it’s better than 80%. I don’t care if it’s better than 95%. I have goals and you should too. One of them is to not be fat.
/r/askMRP27/05/19 05:14 PM
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Take the quickie and caveman the shit out of her. Slap her ass. Rail her hard. Fuck man, you’re way overthinking this shit. And kill those covert contracts. So what you took her out and did shit? She doesn’t owe you jack. You may be physically attractive but your neediness is apparent.
/r/askMRP27/05/19 05:09 PM
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The correct response is to have fun with it and amuse yourself. If you can't do this then STFU. Of course she gets mad at stupid shit. She's a woman. Own your shit and enjoy it. If she's being disrespectful then it's time to state your boundary and walk away. Calmly and in control.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/19 12:58 AM
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"Winning the battle means nothing if it loses you the war." You have to play the long game. You've fucked up for years and can't expect an instant change. This is what caused my Rambo phase. I'm doing all this shit just like the guys on MRP, but my wife is still being a bitch. One day you wake up and the focus is on yourself and finding everything you can do to improve. But that takes months of hard work.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/19 12:54 AM
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There's a few guys in my class with knee problems. They wear a brace, do what they can and stop if necessary. See a doc and get checked out and take it slow. You need to know if it's joint, ligaments, something else and how to rebuild strength in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 07:48 PM
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It's her choice to enjoy time with me. I was having fun, wasn't an ass. She chose to be bitchy. Nothing I can do about that. She got pulled into the fun - just took a few days. ​ Of course I rather she is enjoying time with me. If she's not, she's free to exit the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 12:30 PM
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I have a professional office job, and I am not motivated like I should – But it pays well Do you like the job? Do you find it interesting? Are there things you can get involved in that you like better? Set some plans/goals. If you're a high value employee then you can pretty much work on what you want. How do you get to be a high value employee? If you're not waking up most days looking forward to work, then there's a big problem in your life. I get focussed on the mission What's the mission? I …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 06:02 PM
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I know it’s supposed to take a month per year together but honestly if things aren’t showing some improvement by this time next year I want to end it before we make it to our 20th anniversary. I can’t go the rest of my life without a healthy and fun sex life. ​ This is going to sabotage your progress. There are no shortcuts and don't expect instant satisfaction on anything. Play the long game. You shouldn't even CONSIDER leaving HER for 19 months based on the time you've been together. You fucke…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 05:46 PM
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I’m still trying to craft my new mission. All sounds good with you. I'm just now starting to form in my head what I want out of life. How that translates into a mission is going to take time. Not sure if it's the same with you, but I lived for so long for everyone else, I really had no idea who I was and what I wanted. Hell, I still don't fully know, but am quickly learning what it is that makes me tick.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 05:34 PM
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My (maybe irrational) concern with test is prostate cancer runs in the family and there seems to be some linkage to increase chance there. I don't want to lose a ton of strength but at this point, I need to get the BF down and then rebuild the strength. I've been fucking around too long and just need to bite the bullet and go for 6-8 weeks and see what I can get down to. I'm not looking to get to 8% but damn I'd like to get down to ~13%.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 02:56 PM
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I know I had issue with #3 in the past. Too overt with dread. She's not cheating She may be considering branch swinging... who knows, that would be a stupid thing for her to do given the laws in this state Her reaction here was nothing new... nothing new in 14 years of marriage... same playbook. From the time we were married her reaction to getting angry (she fully admits she goes over the top angry) is to say she wants a divorce, stop wearing her ring, and sleep in another room. The tracking is…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 02:28 PM
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Instead of worrying about the other kids, try to enjoy life with them - treat every day as a gift. When you worry about the future or dwell on the past you'll miss out on the present. The more you live life in the present the better it is for you. Meditation can help too.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 07:19 PM
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This could be... I've been so hungry all the time lately. Doing Muay Thai 2x a week definitely ramps up the hunger. but this is what's so difficult on the fat loss - there's conflicting info on cut more calories + do more cardio to your body is starving + reduce cardio. What I do know is what I'm currently doing is slowly working, changing body comp but I would like to kick start it for the summer. I'm thinking do a dedicated cut for 4-6 weeks then go back to eating normally.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 07:11 PM
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Does anyone else feel like, as a result of reading about RP, they shouldn’t have to answer to women, knowing their true behaviours. And feel indignation (the ego being bruised?) when decisions are questioned? Not anymore... women are women, men are men. I don't feel less respect for women, but just understand them for what they are - emotional creatures. ​ angry (probably too strong a word – more disappointed in the opposite sex) and then that fuels my ego Try to call it whatever - it's anger. Y…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 06:41 PM
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I was referring to her mood Saturday... bitchy, then not. I'm under no illusion there will be more of this. Looking forward to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 06:20 PM
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Will keep this in mind for the future. Well I was having fun... she chose not to.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 06:12 PM
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Thanks! This is easily doable.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 05:44 PM
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Two years ago, one of my twin daughters was diagnosed with a brain tumour. This was definitely the most stressful time of my life, and although she finished treatment a year ago and is doing great, I have developed anxiety and also think I've turned into a hypochondriac. She goes in for her every 6 months MRI at the beginning of June, but have no reason to think anything would be other than positive. Glad she's doing well. My son died of a brain tumor three years ago. I get the hypochondriac thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 04:14 PM
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Thanks... glad you like the bullet points. Was trying to format this in a logical way!.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 03:58 PM
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On a more positive side, I’ve implemented cardio every non-lifting day. I highly recommend replacing cardio with a group/social cardio activity. Team sports, martial arts. Doing martial arts will get your cardio in and get you around other people. I didn’t do the dishes the other night because I honestly just didn’t feel like it. Did you have something better to do? One of the things I started doing early on was just doing shit... like all the time, be busy. Last night, there were dishes, my thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 03:56 PM
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It looks like she is grasping at straws, trying to make sense of it all. Don't take your foot off the gas, but maybe give her some time to settle out, eventually what's new becomes old, then you bring in more new. Sometimes it is a 2 steps forward 1 step back kind of thing. This type of response from her always started after removing a small amount of time and attention. But I never had the frame to see it through. I call it the "kitchen sink" - she's throwing out every trick in her playbook to …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 03:29 PM
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Thanks for keeping me sane when I started to question wtf was going on. What's funny is she's STILL qualifying herself and drops it into conversations randomly. "So and so thought I was in my 20's", "People are shocked that I have three kids". Since her finger is fucked up from breaking it a few months ago, my favorite response "Yeah you look good, except for your freaky old woman witch finger, that thing's creepy". I recommended NMMNG - don't think he ever bit on it. Dude the sex is great, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 03:24 PM
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My response was "wow, it must suck to be your friends".
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 03:20 PM
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Thanks... there's a lot of information out there and hard to make sense of it all. I'll look into the items you listed here. Cycling calories + IF sounds like a good approach combined with some of the supplements or ECA.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 03:18 PM
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I think, for me, it was two things that led to the switch. 1) Finally accepting my wife was AWALT and not special. I deep down believed my wife was not like that, She was a unicorn. 2) Realizing that I'm going to be 36 next week... I have a lot of life to live. You better fucking believe I'm going to enjoy it. And what my life is NOW is not what I want it to be for the next 40-50 years. So fuck it, if the marriage falls down that's my wife's problem... she'll miss out.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 03:13 PM
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OYS Week 32 Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 201; BF: 16% (navy method); Wife: 38, (together 17, married 13); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage, Re-read Saving a Low Sex Marriage Current Reading: Re-read sections of MMSLP,…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 11:50 AM
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This post is a work of art.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 08:04 PM
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I think he may get off on this shit. He asks her, he calls this rando, he then posts it on the internet. What in the world would compel anyone to do this is beyond me. I get the ego/self confidence issue on asking her. He's in her frame, he is worried about his manliness. I was there at one point - hung up on something wife did 18 years ago before we started dating. (This wasn't even sex or a BJ... it was mundane, but I digress). It doesn't FUCKING MATTER unless she starts sucking other dude's d…
/r/askMRP20/05/19 01:25 PM
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She doesn't need more connection. Stop listening to what she says. She means you're boring. ​ I would add stop being boring outside the bedroom. Kino her, game her, tease her, fuck with her. I got this same test. She may not know what she is missing and wants. She says connection - she means you're not fulfilling her feelz. Be more fun with her. She'll probably get pissed about stuff... maintain frame. You're thinking wayyy too much about what she's doing or not doing. Dude - if marriage isn't f…
/r/askMRP20/05/19 01:19 PM
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Sounds like you have a very user error prone process. Not sure what your rate of errors are... humans are error-prone, so you have to poka-yoke that shit if you can. Is this just your problem or is it among all the sales people? ​ Make a list of what could cause the errors between People Process Technology (lack there of) ​ Then figure out if there's an easy fix. I'd try to work with others in the company to brainstorm. Get a process engineer or lean guy if you can to help drive it.
/r/askMRP16/05/19 01:39 PM
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> "Well what if I try all this and it's still not enough for you." I held my ground again - "If this is something you have to try, I don't want it. Either you are going to be this person or you aren't." ​ My 2 cents... if she's willing to make an effort, she's trying to please you. If it's not good enough for you, then you have every right and are in the position to continue to cheat or divorce. I'm not sure this is a main event... it sounds like she's already pretty submissive and wanting to pl…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 01:35 PM
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Set a boundary if you want that's for you to decide, not us, but be prepared to enforce it. violent gentlemen I'm not sure you understand this sub... ​ Why not go to fuck fest 2019 with her?
/r/askMRP15/05/19 02:13 PM
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Ouch... that's a long time per day (2 hours) of sitting and effectively doing nothing. Use that time to lift, or watch 1 hour of TV then go and read for an hour. I'm not anti-TV - there's a handful of shows I watch, but as you progress, I think you'll find out that TV becomes a rarity and you actually feel bad doing it when you can be improving on something (even if it's just reading a sidebar book). I think you're in the 'rut' of marriage. Not sure a better way to call it but same routine, ever…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 02:08 PM
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Do I smell some jealousy that she didn’t get any attention and instead of blaming the friend she actually blamed the man? Explain to me like I’m five jealousy among women ​ Why the fuck do you care?
/r/askMRP15/05/19 01:21 PM
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> I don’t send cards to people for any occasion 100% agree with the sappy stupid shit and I stopped sending cards to most of my family. For the wife, I've started to get amusing cards and gifts that I find hilarious. I don't care if she thinks they're funny, it's hilarious to me. Example: Gardening hat for wife that looks like a Grandma's hat (I tease her about her Grandma hobbies) $1 box of Sour Patch Kids for Mother's Day Small wood sign that says "We go together like Peanut Butter and Jelly" …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 12:57 PM
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have work commitments both on Mon and Tues evenings. Wake up an hour earlier and knock out those workouts. The most important thing right now is getting the habit built. Until then, you're going to find any excuse to miss a workout. Once you have it down, if you miss a workout (say due to being sick), you'll actively work to make it up. Yes, I’m a faggot for using machines but I intend to move to iron once I get a bit more confident with what I’m doing. The compound lifts are great... works more…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 12:38 PM
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What do you suggest here to find out what’s left? This has definitely been an issue for me but it’s much less a need for validation than a need to have sex. Im sure there’s still neediness wrapped up here... but as you said not sure how to find it and kill it for good.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 07:57 PM
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Fuck man... you're trying to rationalize this shit? She's cheating, she's fucking this guy. He's her alpha. You're just beta bucks. Sorry - now drop this chick and get to work. This is all your fault by the way and of course she's only sorry she got caught. ​ Christ... Lift, STFU, and sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 03:56 PM
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"This might be what you need to do better. Ditch the ring if you have to. It's shitty, but you need some abundance dude." Yeah - it's a matter of making the effort. I don't 1) have a huge amount of time but can carve some out and 2) have no idea where to even go / do this shit. Reading Day Game gives me a few ideas, but I never seem to see attractive women when out and about. Well there's this barista at Starbucks... she's fun to talk to.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 03:43 PM
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Yeah, your note kicked my ass out of my feeling sorry for myself. > Ego. What's stopping you from being happy with your progress thus far? Wanting the sex life that others have and wanting to short circuit the program. > looking for your wife’s reactions and actions to indicate that you’re doing a good job being a big strong man. Yep - this is it. I know to STFU, but I want to get to the point my MIND doesn't even go here. > It’s like a script bro – they are hoping that you take your foot off th…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 03:01 PM
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"I like your naked ass next to me". "I understand you like to wear a shirt, I like your naked ass next to me" "Yes, I know your ass is cold, but I like your naked ass next to me" "I understand you want me to get it, but I like your naked ass next to me" "I see you're upset, but I want my meat"
/r/askMRP14/05/19 02:04 PM
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I changed up nutrition and getting around 250g protein a day. It’s likely my bowel disease flaring up causing a bit more stress on my body. I try not to dwell on that though.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 01:43 PM
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This is the third time hitting the wall in the same place. My program recommends using 2.5 lb increments instead of 5 on bench. Do you think it’s better to just keep using 5lbs and deloading? I don’t plan on failing, I just want to break through this wall. Maybe you need to narrow the view? This is a good point. I need to break my goals down more to show progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 01:32 PM
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OYS Week 31 Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 202; BF: 16% (navy method); Wife: 38, (together 17, married 13); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage, Re-read Saving a Low Sex Marriage Current Reading: None… will go back and rer…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 11:34 AM
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STFU Lift Try to see amusement in what she's doing I get angry as well, but with self-reflection she's just being a woman... it can be amusing if you let yourself be amused. I think the key is to really STFU, don't let her get any whiff that you're annoyed or angry because she wins. Swallow it down and use the anger for something productive like lifting.
/r/askMRP13/05/19 06:47 PM
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What benefit do you think you'll get out of a local group more than the weekly OYS which I don't see you posting in anyhow? I think this is a independent path and you need to work through it on your own. The weekly feedback helps guide you and keeps you honest with yourself. have any experience on the topic in which I need to transform myself personally There's this thing called the Internet... I heard it has a lot of information on pretty much any activity you want to do.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 02:51 PM
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A lot of guys come here and say my wife is a narcissist, my wife has BPD, my wife is a psychopath. It doesn't matter. 95% of the time she is just a woman. You may have a narcissist, you may not. I don't know based on your post and I'm not a psychologist. What I can say is I thought my wife was BPD... she's not. She's just AWALT with emotions. All the 'issues' SHE had, it was me. It was all me. 100% ME. It still is ME when there are issues. She may get upset or emotional, but if I don't engage - …
/r/askMRP09/05/19 02:36 PM
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So it sounds like it just comes with time and playing out the scenarios in your head... keep working at becoming a high value man and eventually you'll get to the point of OI / truly DNGAF. I have days where I feel true OI - like I really could give a rat's ass what she thinks or does. Then the next day I'm doing as you did - analyzing why she isn't fucking me or how the hell can I get her back to the way she was those times where she was slutty as hell.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 06:51 PM
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I had extreme highs and lows like that I think this is becoming my issue now... great week then bad week for some perceived 'slight' from her. How'd you work through it? Just STFU and fake that everything is ok (because it is) or something more direct to get rid of the lows.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 05:17 PM
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Just look on youtube for Kino and Escalation.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 01:16 PM
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the BP part of me wants to be cuddled and cared for, to some degree she does this, but the shit tests have increased a lot, I've found the weaker / sicker I am the more she shit tests... especially if it's more than a day. One day of feeling crappier = comfort from her. More than one and she'll still try to help but starts resenting the fact that you're weakened. Found it best to always just assume I need to take care of myself and to ignore / STFU / AA shit tests. It's a hard thing to do when y…
/r/askMRP07/05/19 06:53 PM
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I think honestly what happened is that she was given permission to be a slut by me I think this is a big piece of it.. she feels like she needs to be the good girl, I'd think less of her, or society would, blah blah. Need to reinforce this over time with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 05:28 PM
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Yeah... this hit home... virgin when we met, 35ish now... but married for 14 years. Just reinforces that it's in her to be a slut.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 05:25 PM
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What's the elderly opener? Read Day Bang... it's essentially talking and rambling in a 'safe' way to a girl you meet during the day. Talk about something she has like a book, laptop, computer, etc. If she's walking around ask her about the nearest pet store and start rambling why you need to find one... basically it builds safety in her mind that you're not going to rape and kill her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 03:18 PM
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Thanks for the response. I need to capitalize on the opportunities on my vision, I have made it clear what I do want - fun, flirting, going out. On the baby sitter - I need to make this a more frequent occurance. I did it once in Jan (for the first time ever we got a sitter - she has an irrational fear of leaving the kids alone), and now for our anniversary Jan 1 I have a sitter for a good 7 hours. I remember being that fun guy she wanted to go out with... I've lost that by being boring... reall…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 02:51 PM
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Every time I’m stressed I eat,I’m 2 stone heavier than I should be but at the moment I’m lacking the will power to take control of my own diet Start lifting and exercising. It will be TERRIBLE at first.. but then you'll start to relieve stress through exercise. You have to be disciplined and FORCE yourself (your brain will be very negative) to exercise. I was 265 lbs a year ago... I'm 199, much stronger, and look great... it took a mental shift where bad food is the enemy and not comfort. Good f…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 02:46 PM
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Set yourself 2 goals for next week. Just 2... then put in the discipline to hit them. I'd recommend lifting and reading. Make time for the reading. You can get through 1-2 books a week if you just set aside time each day.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 02:42 PM
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Good to see you doing well again. I realized that my ego was 100% tied to how my wife felt about me I think you nicely put what I am realizing. While I don't think I act differently depending on her mood, I definitely feel differently which she can pick up on. ​ Some crazy shit has come out of my mouth I never thought possible I know for a fact that something has flipped in my wife when it comes to sex now. It felt like an escape now. I never knew really how deep you could escape before. This is…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 02:22 PM
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i've reached the stage in my life where i enjoy being a mother more than a GF I face this. Well I want one more kid but it’s very difficult to get my wife out of mommy mode. Have you found any good ways to doing so?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 01:41 PM
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OYS Week 30 Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 199; BF: 16% (navy method); Wife: 38, (together 17, married 13); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage Current Reading: Re-read Saving a Low Sex Marriage Physical / Health Lifts Est…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 12:48 PM
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This is by far the best response. One word answer. If she doesn't call you an asshole then you gave the wrong response.
/r/askMRP02/05/19 01:14 PM
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My main issue is finding how to initiate then isolate with kids constantly around. I've been successful maybe 10% of the time here.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 04:06 PM
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That being said you could also work on being a man who can pull hot chicks...tends to work better in the long run. I'm certainly working on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 01:10 PM
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Doing more around the house is leaving me fucking wiped at the end of the day. This week is going to be tough. It's buffets for breakfast, lunch, and dinner for six days straight, which is basically my kryptonite. Nothing has nutritional info and I didn't pack a food scale or measuring cups (not that I would want to look like a sperg measuring my food in front of senior leadership!). All I can do is just make a best guess at reasonable portions, avoid the dessert table, and say no to the endless…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 05:07 PM
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Disappointment is the exact word I was looking for I find myself being more disappointed in myself for things getting so bad. It's not her fault if I am unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 03:33 PM
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I'm convinced I actually do have communication issues... 100% agree with you and it was what I was trying to say.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 03:04 PM
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Tear Me Up, Boys, I’m ready This isn't a place to tear anyone up for the sake of it. Sometimes we all need hard truths. 2 dogs I'm not sure why this matters but made me smile for some reason that you listed it. I’m having a hard time seeing my wife’s value. Minor laundry and cleaning service plus a few years of passionless lube sex once or twice a month. It’s just not enough for me to care about her. I do think we can have a life together but I have to lead and command more. But you do realize t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 02:45 PM
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"You don't think I'm good enough for you...", that sounds like a comfort test. I could be wrong. My response: "I never said that." Followed by holding her hand for a few seconds. That's a weak response. Turn her so you're facing directly in her eyes and give some real comfort. "Baby, you're who I choose because ..." Kiss her on the forehead and hug/hold her.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 02:38 PM
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Sex is the last thing on her mind, and has been for the last 3 years. She’s fine with that. Since she knows I’m not fine with indefinite abstinence she says she’s okay with outsourcing the responsibility of fucking me as long as I don’t rub my affairs in her face, get emotionally involved, catch an STI, spend money outside “reasonable bounds” and/or impregnate other women. ​ This is not a marriage. ​ You are already divorced. I repeat: You do not have a wife. Agreed - all but the governmental si…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 02:31 PM
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This was the first thing that crossed my mind too. How long until he fucks her too?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 02:28 PM
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Damn - and I thought I had a bad week. She told me “You think you're hot shit, and whatever if you're getting numbers and women flirting with you, they don't know you. But then they'll find out you have two kids from two different women and NO ONE WILL WANT THAT. SO YEAH!". I clearly see this as a hurdle I may never overcome in her eyes even though my looks are great and my SMV is clearly higher ​ I have a different conclusion than you do which is that your wife is recognizing your SMV is higher…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 02:26 PM
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She negged you bro. Pretty fucking funny. She did. It is funny objectively, was not in the moment. She's very good at this shit which 75% of the time I can laugh at. Maybe try interspersing more comfort throughout the week proactively? Yep - I can't fix her feelings but I can be there for her to crash against.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:58 PM
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OYS Week 29 Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 199; BF: 16% (navy method); Wife: 38, (together 17, married 13); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang, Day Bang, Saving a Low Sex Marriage Saving a Low Sex Marriage has cleared up several areas on frame, seduction, dr…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 12:25 PM
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"No, I am not going to counseling anymore". Read WISNIFG... today.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 07:37 PM
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Wow. This hits right to the core and reads so much like me it’s not even funny. Thinking my success at work was good enough. Constant continuous improvement. Failures, learning and slipping. Then picking yourself up and moving forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/19 02:14 PM
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The first few months are going to be hard - on both of you. The dynamic that has been there for some time has been upset. Follow the plan... keep it going. She will follow along. Or she won't - and this thought will scare the shit out of you right now; as you progress, that anxiety about her leaving will start to go away. And when it does, your relationship will likely get better. See your wife doesn't want you to need her. She wants an independent, strong masculine figure who other women want a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 12:19 PM
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Thanks for the info. The good news is I had 3 kids with her... I mean one died from cancer (not genetic based). We did do ICSI and everything progressed fine until the genetic tests of the embryos. All were not viable... not even like "it will be a birth defect", it was "these are all going to miscarry". There's a sperm DNA fragmentation test I'm going to take, that should confirm or disprove my suspicion.
/r/askMRP26/04/19 12:06 PM
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guilt of getting sucked by strange chick You need to read, "When I get Sucked by a Strange Chick I Feel Guilty" I'm not sure why you care so much that your wife isn't upping her game. Sounds like you still have a mindset of if I do "X" my wife should respond by doing what I want. I’m not motivated to get my wife upping her game. It's not about her game. Just be motivated to up your game. Covertly communicating Covert contract I have about this hasn’t worked, I keep wondering if it’s time to open…
/r/askMRP25/04/19 01:06 PM
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Good point on not over doing it. I’ll keep this in mind.
/r/askMRP24/04/19 09:35 PM
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Well I flat out told my wife I didn't value her and she added nothing to my life about 3 weeks in, so you're doing better than I did!
/r/askMRP24/04/19 08:00 PM
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Yeah there's a lot of similarities between us. At the beginning it's easy to set 'rules' such as I'm not ever doing anything nice for her, but that's just anger. The most important lesson is to do shit because you want to and never to placate her or expect anything in return. Hell that's just good life advice - don't do shit / give people gifts / help people out to placate them or expect things in return. She continues to surprise me (in a good way). Last night after all the fertility shit (othe…
/r/askMRP24/04/19 07:55 PM
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I never could have foreseen seeing someone yelling at me for not putting down the toilet lid, or cry over that there are still dishes in the sink. How is man supposed to be prepared for this? It's not about either of these things... go back and read the sidebar. All will become clear.
/r/askMRP24/04/19 07:48 PM
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Here's what /u/simbarlion told me a few months back: It's new, she doesn't know what to make of it. Especially in the context that you used to be so reliant on her. It's dngaf Rambo. So pull back the changes a little, if you're doing things at the proper pace she should barely notice. If you don't care about her, then don't be with her. You're doing a disservice to yourself. or as the cat she is, silently planning to fuck my life up. i would not care at all if it ended. 20 days in... this sounds…
/r/askMRP24/04/19 06:06 PM
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Interesting. I'll give that a shot and research it more. Thanks!
/r/askMRP24/04/19 05:18 PM
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I want 1-2 more kids. My son passed away three years ago. Preferably have another boy but fine with more girls. If I didn't want more, I wouldn't be going ahead with it.
/r/askMRP24/04/19 03:32 PM
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I've been taking fish oil, CoQ10, vitamin C, vitamin D, daa, pine bark extract with little to no improvement.
/r/askMRP24/04/19 01:57 PM
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This is an excellent question and I struggled with it for awhile. We started this process months ago and I knew it would take time before having to make any real decisions on pregnancy / adoption, etc. At this point, I can say - yes the home is stable, I'm in a good place, I don't see any plans for divorce or separation on either of our parts. If something happens or goes south, I'll deal with it and move on.
/r/askMRP24/04/19 01:55 PM
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Been there done that with prostrate checks. No problem with counts they’re all high. It’s the quality - speed and abnormal ones. My guess is there is DNA fragmentation which a few studies have seen evidence for on the medicine I’m on.
/r/askMRP24/04/19 01:35 AM
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Thanks. I have no doubt I’d love the kid as much as my biological ones. It is a roller coaster but being the oak and having her be able to have me plan what’s happening has improved our relationship. If I hadn’t found RP six months ago I’m pretty sure we’d be on our way to divorce.
/r/askMRP23/04/19 11:37 PM
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This is more or less the plan. Just need to run it by the GI. Clomid didn’t move the needle on fertility. I’m convinced it’s this meds. There’s studies showing this can cause quality issues but isn’t well established a link but it appears in the small studies to be statistically significant. I had IBD before starting and we conceived three kids with no problems. So it could be the cause or just be coincidence. Only way to find out is to go off the meds or switch to an alternative.
/r/askMRP23/04/19 11:32 PM
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Thanks. Yeah I need to get over the ego hit. I have a plan... my wife is on board and we will execute it. I told her tonight flat out donor sperm is not an option and here’s what we are going to do. Talk to my GI about getting off meds for a few months, try IVF again in 3-4 months time and if that fails we will look into adoption. Having the plan and not getting into a conversation with her of “what do you think we should do” helps immensely.
/r/askMRP23/04/19 11:20 PM
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I don’t think adoption equals beta bux. I want another kid and so does she. We lost a child and always wanted three or four kids. I’m against the sperm donor method though. That just doesn’t sit right with me.
/r/askMRP23/04/19 08:20 PM
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But keep that shit to yourself, therapist or male friends. Don't whinge to your wife about those feelz or it can fuck her perception of you because of YOUR perception of you. Exactly why I made the post. I'm not going to talk to my male friends or family about it. Therapist I won't see until Thursday (monthly appointment). Thanks for your feedback on all this. You're right it's out of my control.
/r/askMRP23/04/19 08:14 PM
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"Do you think our marriage will last?" I engaged. It happens, try to STFU quicker next time. so that's why I do things she says rub her shoulder or back if she asks. I've considered saying no but she doesn't ask in a shitty way or when she was shitty. It doesn't matter if she asks nicely or not ("cute girl shit test" from MMSLP). If you want to do it, go ahead. I like to rub my wife's back and legs. I don't know why - her skin is soft and I like to run my hand across it. But there are times when…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 04:01 PM
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I’m surprised my mood and energy are stable, as long as I keep lifting. Lifting is like meditation. You focus on one thing and there's no room for extraneous thoughts. And you can channel anger into the lift. Now you'll find if you don't / can't lift your mood will slip ​ Trying to get her to talk to me or do something with “this one RP trick” is not frame. Good you're recognizing this. There are no tricks or shortcuts. There are tools in the tool box you can apply or not depending on your frame…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:55 PM
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is it possible to be red pill in a LTR with a great woman, who isn't bullshitting you and you feel a genuine connection to Sure, but it's not the connection you've been conditioned for. It's not open yourself up and share all your vulnerabilities with her. Look up Captain and First Officer model.... that creates the connection once you are aligned with a mission in life. Women are always bullshitting you. They bullshit themselves. There is no logic or rationality to them. Once you accept this an…
/r/askMRP23/04/19 03:32 PM
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OYS Week 28 Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 201; BF: 17% (navy method); Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang. Physical / Health Lifts Estimated 1RM (easier for me to track): BR: 192, BP: 193, DL: 300, OP:120, SQ: 235 Despite…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:01 PM
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That’s about the approach I took. Asked her why she wanted it. Told her that makes sense and we bought it. As you said it’s weird right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 12:02 PM
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OYS Week 27 Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 202; BF: 17% (navy method); Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Bang. Still reading Day Bang, started Right Side of History so splitting time between the two Physical / Health Lifts Es…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 10:34 AM
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You’re in a tough spot. First off - what’s your prognosis? I pray you fully recover and go into remission! You need to worry about your health first and foremost. If she wants to abandon or treat you like shit you definitely don’t need a woman like that. I suggest you own up (to yourself) that yes you have cancer, it sucks, but you’ll get through it. If possible, joke about it. It’s not funny by any means but for me, humor always help me in dark times. What makes you feel uncomfortable sharing i…
/r/askMRP13/04/19 01:24 AM
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Got it... yeah now this makes a huge amount of sense. Happened with my wife because i acted a faggot like you did. You are both acting like children. We expect that from her but not you. You engaged in petty bullshit instead of not giving a fuck and STFU. You had several opportunities to be the oak. Let’s walk through this.: “She told me to stop or I would get it, so I said it one more time and then stopped, because I thought it was a shit test” You could have AA here, grinned and walked away. W…
/r/askMRP12/04/19 08:53 PM
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If you were truly red pill you wouldn’t be asking for advice on here. You wouldn’t need to. Get married. Don’t get married. Whatever the fuck you want to do. It’s your life not ours.
/r/askMRP12/04/19 08:35 PM
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She might be provoking him because she knows he’s a little bitch and is just checking if that is still the case. In this scenario, yup, it’s confirmed. Regardless, the solution likely has less to do with her and more with OP and how he handles the situation. This makes complete sense. When I was at my worst my wife would pull the locked door routine to our bedroom. When I stopped caring and stfu about (and pretended it didn’t bother me), it stopped. She has done that exactly once since finding R…
/r/askMRP12/04/19 08:29 PM
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Buffalo is pretty great meat if you can find it and afford it. Tasty, leaner than beef and higher in protein. I’d spring the extra few bucks for it if you can.
/r/askMRP12/04/19 08:21 PM
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You’re still using kratom. You are trying to escape...something. Sounds like you’re and addict. Not to a particular drug but the escape they give you. You quit a substance, move to another, quit that, move to another, etc. Go spend some time thinking over yourself and your life. Take a serious hard look and figure out what’s missing in your life. You are obviously not happy. Why is that? Hint: it’s something in yourself not your wife.
/r/askMRP12/04/19 08:19 PM
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Never threaten divorce unless you’re willing to walk out. Ultimatums are retarded for this petty shit. You’re just starting this and it’s still a big covert contract. And your wife is pregnant for the first time which means her moods and emotions are all over the place. Something doesn’t add up in your story. Why the fuck is she locking you out of your bedroom? Are you verbally yelling at her? Making her want time away from you? As others have pointed out... I don’t think you’re telling us the f…
/r/askMRP12/04/19 08:14 PM
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Get rid of the alcohol in the house. If he can't he's an alcoholic and this statement leans towards that: I can skip whenever I want to, so just one night won’t hurt. I started getting addicted to Ambien a few months ago. My wife pointed this out - and she was right, took the pills and flushed them down the toilet. Only way to stop the temptation of the 'easy fix'.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 06:17 PM
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Don’t kiss ass. I hate when candidates do this to me... makes me think they’re full of shit. Apply RP thoughts to the job: Preselection: you want to show you are already employed/have work/pretend you’re freelancing/ whatever Value: show the employer you are valuable to them. What can you do for them no one else can? This is the why do you want to work here question. “This position excites me because I love doing XYZ. I think I can add a lot to the team here with my unique skill set... etc”
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 09:24 AM
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I’m just going to leave this here stop thinking
/r/askMRP09/04/19 06:24 PM
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I’m contemplating the lat attachment for mine. Not sure how worthwhile it is. The biggest thing for me is time. I can be in and out of the garage and shower in less than an hour. Same bench. It does the job though I wish it was a bit wider.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 02:48 PM
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Glad you’re back to a good place. Good idea with reassessing the MAP. I’ll aim to do that for next week as well. What are you doing for the home gym? I pulled together 300lbs set, power rack and bench for around $650. Works great and doesn’t take up that much space. “The real me isn’t afraid anymore of who I am and from what I see… that is really fucking attractive.” This is what I’m starting to find as well. It’s liberating.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 02:25 PM
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You can’t AA non stop. And are you actually not butt hurt or just pretending you’re not butthurt? It’s hard to put fully into words but you have to find yourself in all this. Find who you are... and the rest of the world doesn’t factor in anymore. Until then you’re living in someone else’s frame. Right now it’s your wife. Even if you think it’s not. Work on you... slow improvements. It’s not about the sex. It’s never been about the sex. It’s about fixing yourself. Everything else will take care …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 01:50 PM
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Nope. It’s being addressed. I inform the kids when I am not there they need to listen to her. And I lead by example when home. She’s catching on but still in “friend” mode too much of the time. We will see how this week goes without me there. It’s definitely improving as she was having them put away their own laundry yesterday despite their protests.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 01:35 PM
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Yep. All correct. I get shit talent here and take forever to find someone. I had one of my guys quit so have to try and find someone for him. The tax bullshit is crazy. I’ve been on three projects to absorb most of our manufacturing footprint under the Irish entity. I guess we are at least trying to be legit as we have a big presence here in terms of people. 12.5% tax rate hard to beat.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 01:12 PM
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That’s where the office is. I don’t know what the fuck my company was thinking. Oh right cheap construction... in a place no one wants to work. Genius.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 12:47 PM
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Why do people think that doing a good job gets your promoted? It doesn’t get you fired... but you got to go above and beyond to get promoted or a raise or whatever. Damned entitled millennials (I’m assuming he is... and I can say that because I am one technically).
/r/askMRP09/04/19 12:35 PM
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Nice! Been to Ireland way too much. In the middle of the country... not so great.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 12:31 PM
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I have a pain in my right hip at the bottom of my squats I have pains everywhere always (inflammtory bowel disease giving me a side of arthritis). You should be able to recognize pain vs an injury. Hell I can't remember not being in some sort of pain. The issue, though, is my out of state license. It’s a bureaucratic nightmare and will most likely take months to sort out. So, it’s looking like the university job is my best bet for now, anyhow… We’ll see. So take the university job. Hell take any…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 10:50 AM
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OYS Week 26 (182 days in) 6 months in and I’ve seen tremendous progress. But I’m under no illusion that there is still so much work to do. But the work is enjoyable and I’m finding validation in myself and what I’m accomplishing. Each week I’m improving. I cannot wait to see how further improved I’ll be in another 6 months. I started writing a before MRP and now comparison but can sum it up pretty easily. Before MRP, I was floundering on why I was unhappy, why I had anxiety, and why I was depres…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 10:31 AM
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You need to get the kids out of your room. This is important. It will take time but you need to make it happen. Also, I’ve had sex in a different bed when kids were sleeping on the floor. Hell I fucked her in the mud room once (did a FR on this one) when the kids watched a movie and her dad was visiting. Then I fucked it all up by demanding more sex (don’t do this). I was a kid playing with TNT and I damn near blew my dick off. You’re at that point. So in terms of bad feelings. Choose to be happ…
/r/askMRP09/04/19 05:56 AM
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Don’t talk about sex. And define strong negative reaction?
/r/askMRP08/04/19 10:57 PM
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“I dont want her to pull away and think I dont care / get her back on board to spend time and have fun...” Flowers and foot rubs will make her come running back for sure. Make sure you profess your love outside her window.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 10:39 PM
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You suck. You remind me of... me six months ago. I have come to realization that we have nothing in common. You sound boring. We can't agree on a vacation Where do YOU want to go? Then book it, she can come or not. Though you really suck so she probably won't. we have completely different bed times, she sleeps in the other bedroom because of my snoring. Are you a fat fuck? I was a fat fuck, I snored. I am not (as much) a fat fuck and now don't snore. She cooks and cleans but is not very kind. Fo…
/r/askMRP08/04/19 10:28 PM
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“I was right about about all of this - especially the part where I said you sound like a fucking idiot.“ Damn that’s spot on with your prediction. You’re the Nostradamus of MRP.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 07:23 PM
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100% this. OP if you’re not gaming your wife all the time (with no expectation of sex btw), then you’re fucking up. She will likely resist at first, call you a pervert, whatever. When you start getting your SMV higher all of a sudden it will be fun for her. We were in the Starbucks drive thru this week (kids in the car), so I text her “your ass and tits look great”. She 1) rolled her eyes 2) looked down at her shirt and 3) gave a very sexy cute embarrassed laugh. You’re missing out on a huge par…
/r/askMRP05/04/19 09:36 PM
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If it bothers you than clean it. If she doesn’t get the message decide if this is a boundary or not for you. If it is, next her. How far are you in your journey? You may need to give the 1000 ft rope more time to tighten. My wife is extremely diligent in cleaning the majority of the house. The only area it gets to the point where I have an issue is putting the laundry away. So if it gets bad - Saturday I have the kids put away there stuff and I leave her stuff in a pile. Usually she gets the mes…
/r/askMRP05/04/19 09:31 PM
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This is why driving is left to fiction and podcasts.
/r/askMRP04/04/19 02:47 PM
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This is a great post. Its useful to see how many of these things I can cross off the list or have a plan and actively working towards. This is almost all the topics for a MAP except maybe financially.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 02:45 PM
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56k modems were amazing. You mean it only takes me ten minutes to download a song?
/r/askMRP04/04/19 11:48 AM
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It depends if you learn better visually or through audio. I absorb a lot more when I read and highlight areas. I may never even come back to look at the highlights, but it forces me to be aware of what I’m reading thus absorb more. I leave audiobooks for fiction where I don’t need to pay 100% attention.
/r/askMRP04/04/19 11:45 AM
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I missed the leftist angle. This is a dealbreaker.
/r/askMRP03/04/19 10:44 PM
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Keep lifting, sidebar, stfu Improve yourself and stop worrying about her. You don’t sound abused. You sound like a faggot who isn’t leading the relationship or owning his shit. It’s an easy formula but hard to implement. There are no shortcuts or tricks. Figure yourself out... there’s a lot of she, she, she. It’s not about her. It’s about you.
/r/askMRP03/04/19 10:30 PM
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When I said "light fixtures" I meant chandeliers; one in the two-story foyer and one in the dining room with some decorative molding around the canopy that needs to be removed. Both are beyond my current handyman skillz. Fair enough! I thought I had kicked this but it's further proof I am slipping back into my old mindset Key is to first recognize when it happens... then stop it. When I catch myself even approaching asking her for something, I immediately turn it around and make a statement.. th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 05:49 PM
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Upgrade from Lardass to Fatass by getting to 200lb ASAP and get a real BF% measurement done. Evaluate how I look and feel, then set the next waypoint from there. While a real BF is always best... I wouldn't worry about that right now. Focus on the question if your waist is decreasing. I use the Navy method for BF... it's by no means perfect but I'm more interested in a trend towards the goal. Stay under 1600 cals with 16:8 fasting. Keto for now. Strongly considering a few weeks of PSMF. At curre…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 02:59 PM
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When he says no he feels guilty. It only there was a book to help with this...
/r/askMRP03/04/19 01:32 AM
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I don’t want to have another kid right now When do you want another kid? Have thought this through and have many reasons: MAP (Not a good time for me or align with my needs); Financial stability (We are going to take another 20k+ hit and we cannot afford it); Completing my final designation exam in September that’s going to take up a lot of time preparing for and my wife is extremely needy and just putting myself in a situation to potentially fail; shitty/bad behavior that I enabled and allowed …
/r/askMRP02/04/19 07:06 PM
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Maybe I am actually getting stronger You mean lifting makes you stronger? Holy shit what a concept! I am still not logging food in MFP. This is an absolute failure on my part. I keep trying to get it started again but give up when I eat something more difficult to log than scanning a barcode. Make a guess worst case. For instance, my wife makes meatloaf. I find some meatloaf on there, error on the side of higher calories and log it. If I can get the recipe, great, but if not an educated guess is…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:58 PM
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I'm going to try and keep my OYS's focused and more actionable than all the bullshit I initially want to spew out. That's good, but better to spew shit here than to your girlfriend. Been involved with BJJ on and off for about nine years, but still a white belt. Been told my blue is coming soon as for once I'm being dedicated and showing up consistently. Damn - you're not serious about BJJ... do you like it or are you doing it for another reason? If you like it, what is stopping you from going mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:47 PM
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Fat and disgusting. Not gonna change immediately. Just need to keep lifting and eating right. Tracked successfully 5/7 days shooting for 6 this week. Being at this for two years now. There are no quick fixes here. Exercise and eat less you need. That's it, that's the formula. It takes time, but just set small goals for yourself and focus on that. If you fuck up one day, learn from it and keep it going! Reading Add TWOTSM to your upcoming reading list. I've started to accept that there's no savin…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:32 PM
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am pretty sure I have moved to the acceptance phase. Keep your guard up on the anger coming back, but sounds like you're getting out of it. It’s also been tough learning about hypergamy and knowing that I can only trust my wife to behave like a women and AWALT. But it’s better to know the truth than to get burned. It does suck at first... BUT look at the positive and now you know what the game is and how it's played. Now you can have fun and enjoy playing it! Before you were playing chinese chec…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:26 PM
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Welcome! I recommend to post every week on OYS and be 100% honest even though you will get (sometimes) brutal (but useful!) feedback. Lifts Look into stronglifts 5x5... focuses on big 5 compound exercises with the bar. Squats, deadlift, OHP, barbell row, and bench This will probably be very cringeworthy to you. I met my wife while I was in the Navy. I did the classic dumb military guy thing and married my wife very quickly...as in two months after meeting her. To make my decision dumber, she alr…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 06:15 PM
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Sounds like you have a negative loop going on that you need to break. In a funk. I’ve only worked out 4x in last 2 weeks. These two things are related. Go and lift even if you have to drop weight to do so... just get out and lift something. I’m so angry at myself. It has worked so negatively for me this week and I’ve been a huge pussy. Getting sick sapped me of all motivation coming off a high Sure, but you need to let the anger and beating yourself up go. You had a bad couple of weeks. So what?…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 04:26 PM
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How do you know? A few months ago, I fucked up by demanding more sex, sex acts, etc. I also was just being an asshole all the time (to be an asshole). It was 100% dancing monkey. Took awhile to resolve this in myself and get to the point I'm improving for me and not her. ​
/r/askMRP02/04/19 01:39 PM
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OYS Week 25 Quick Background: Married to first serious girlfriend. Was more beta than alpha all my life. Diagnosed with intestinal bowel disease 5 years ago. Wife had miscarriage 4 years ago. Son died of cancer 3 years ago. Falling out with my family over their violating boundaries over and over again 2 years ago. After my son died I became very depressed and relied too much on my wife for support. Finding MRP has started to change this, but there are a lot of ups and downs as I figure myself ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 01:37 PM
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He still hasn't tested his last one! So he may go 0 for 5.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 06:26 PM
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She's mad because she's not first in your priorities... you are. This is normal - just don't do anything stupid and STFU or you'll set everything back (ask me how I know!). One thing I would caution about is over-doing DNGAF with her... it was my big mistake where I was just being an ass and not providing ANY comfort. This was my fear in slipping back into faggot needy behavior. Make sure you have a balance in your relationship.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 02:55 PM
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Similar story only that my wife and I have been together since high school. I have no doubt on paternity but reading stuff like this just lets you know what any woman may be capable of.
/r/askMRP31/03/19 11:55 PM
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I saw this earlier too and can’t believe he is interested in saving the marriage. He is living in fantasy land. Similar story here but my kids share some unique traits from me that are rare. Still makes you wonder though... Edit: similar only that we have been together a long time. Not the rest of the shit show.
/r/askMRP31/03/19 11:42 PM
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That solves 99.999% of the posts here.
/r/askMRP29/03/19 09:50 PM
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/r/SuddenlyGay
/r/askMRP29/03/19 06:49 PM
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However, I feel used in the relationship and am full of anger. I resent her for not paying any bills, for showing zero affection, for getting a dog and letting it do whatever the fuck it wants. Basically just a bunch of small stupid shit that after 4 years became a mountain. She doesn’t thank me for keeping the machine oiled. Aww, he's not getting thank yous? Grow up and own your shit. If she's not adding to your life why are you with her? Can't let pussy be the only thing she gives you. It's yo…
/r/askMRP29/03/19 06:34 PM
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I just ask because a lot of people (including me) were just sheep at our younger days. The path was; Finish School > Get a Job > Get a Girl > Get Married > Have Kids. At times i didn't even stop to consider what I wanted. This 100%. I rarely stopped and figured out what I wanted. It was the 'societal' view of what was expected. Job->Married->Kids->Death. So don't do that... figure out your mission->build your life around it->find someone to support it->have offspring if you want would be a much …
/r/askMRP29/03/19 05:47 PM
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Bro that's way to late for me, wait until 35? I dont want be old tramps watching my kids graduating, there's no fucking point in going that long without starting a family I might as well not even get married at that point ​ I'm 35... fuck there's a lot I wish I knew 10 - 15 years ago. And there's a lot I would have done differently. You don't know what you want till early/mid 30's out life. At least I didn't. Good news is, 35 is still young. Young enough to build the life I want. Let's say you'r…
/r/askMRP29/03/19 05:43 PM
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In your experience, is it better to next her and start fresh seeing we’re not married and without kids or just become a better man and see how she reacts/adjusts? Get better and do it for you not her. Reevaluate if she's a value to your lift once you're not a faggot anymore. In the mean time, fuck her like you mean it. Sidebar, lift, STFU... it's such a simple formula that is magic if you put in the work. ​
/r/askMRP29/03/19 05:24 PM
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Wow, did you sign consent before this? You were clearly raped. ​ I think you need to do like this guy did and call the domestic abuse hotline.
/r/askMRP29/03/19 05:21 PM
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look at your reasoning for wanting to get married so early Ditto... 99% sure it's due to blue pill societal conditioning. That's why I got married @ 21. Dumb dumb dumb.
/r/askMRP29/03/19 02:13 PM
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starting to suspect that it's not true for mine. Do you think this her anti-slut defense is too much of a barrier, she’s asexual, or something else? That’s the concern I have with my wife, but I have a good 12 months before I’d be in any position for a go plan. I think the advice from /u/threekindsoflucky is spot on. Stop thinking about it. Just do. Don’t worry about it. Harder said than done.
/r/askMRP29/03/19 02:02 PM
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Ok so you have 6-7 years? So don't worry about dating advice for now... go fuck a lot of women.
/r/askMRP29/03/19 01:48 PM
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I stopped grinding and stopped working on myself. You can still work on yourself without being able to lift. I've some some real great progress the last week and a half in OI and DNGAF despite not being able to lift. ​ I wouldn't fuck me so why should she. Realize what you need to work on, sure, but start forming the idea that you're the prize. You're the prize that has some things to improve on to make you an even more valuable prize. This is always a good question to ask "Would you fuck you?" …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 02:57 PM
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Lifting: Off an on for last 10 years, nothing too structured, not been trying for gains Start a program... now. Stronglifts 5x5 is a great one. She tried to give me some shit about me objectifying her, all i care about is sex bull shit. There is a lot of AA you can do with this. My wife said I saw her as a piece of meat once (told her she'd be a ribeye as that's my favorite steak). Shes never had it, her pussys getting wetter, and shes loving it. After a while, she wants me instead of a finger, …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 06:18 PM
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Holy shit guys, it's worse than I thought. The wife is clearly feeling the discomfort and is not taking it well at all. She's still sleeping in my youngest kid's room since the main event that I described last OYS. She's completely withdrawn emotionally and I fear that she's slipping into some sort of anger/depression phase. She has been giving me the silent treatment much of the week, and has been overall bitchy and angry all week. Yelling at the kids a lot. Have you told her you have an expect…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 06:14 PM
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It’s been probably a month since PIV. I traveled for 2 weeks, she had IUD side effects, and we haven’t fucked. We can now, but I really haven’t wanted to this week. Same here... for different circumstances but it's not because she hates me anymore. She has some medical stuff/medications causing hormone swings and extremely low sex drive, bloating, random bleeding, etc. She should be all back to normal in a week or two. I found that finding other ways of sharing intimacy outside of sex has given …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 05:43 PM
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OYS Week 24 Quick Background: Married to first serious girlfriend. Was more beta than alpha all my life. Diagnosed with intestinal bowel disease 5 years ago. Wife had miscarriage 4 years ago. Son died of cancer 3 years ago. Falling out with my family over their violating boundaries over and over again 2 years ago. After my son died I became very depressed and relied too much on my wife for support. Finding MRP has started to change this, but there are a lot of ups and downs as I figure myself ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 02:08 PM
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blue pill husband stops being happy Was he truly happy though? Or just unaware of how dissatisfied a life he was living? I know I fall into the latter category. It was everyone else's fault - my parents, my wife, my kids, my boss for all the problems I had and being unhappy. I was miserable every day and didn't know why. The mind shift change from the universe is out to get me / it's everyone else's fault TO it's my fault and I control my life is when you start being truly happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 03:07 PM
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I think the difference this time is I didn’t complain or expect her to do anything for me. I didn’t have a covert contract of “I’m sick so I deserve special treatment”. The relationship is improving. Sex is up and down the last few months. I expect that to improve but regardless I’m improving myself and feel really good.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 01:15 PM
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OYS Week 23 Quick Background: Married to first serious girlfriend. Was more beta than alpha all my life. Diagnosed with intestinal bowel disease 5 years ago. Wife had miscarriage 4 years ago. Son died of cancer 3 years ago. Falling out with my family over their violating boundaries over and over again 2 years ago. After my son died I became very depressed and relied too much on my wife for support. Finding MRP has started to change this, but there are a lot of ups and downs as I figure myself ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 01:21 PM
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What was the medication change? Some meds take a few weeks to affect you. ​ My tips for dealing with anxiety: Work on and figure out what you're overthinking. Write it down. Determine if 1) it's in your control or 2) if it's not in your control. If it's 2 - no sense in worrying because you can't affect it. If 1) figure out what action(s) you want to do and write THEM down. Then start to do them. You need sleep - at least 7 a day. Especially with how hard you're pushing yourself with 80 hours / w…
/r/askMRP15/03/19 01:34 PM
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This is an extremely helpful post. Mentally keeping score all the time. Especially on the sex. All great points. When you focus on sex - you loose sex. I've started to notice this. The more I care about sex the less sex I have. Caring less about sex = more sex. Nothing new to the veterans here I'm sure, but for newer guys - I can say it's definitely true. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 01:14 PM
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“I have no doubt that this incident will carry over to today as i'm off work.” Beta mindset. Wife went through another shitty comfort test yesterday. It was entertaining. I had zero thoughts this morning on her state of mind or if it would continue. OP needs to just reset today, NOT bring it up to her, and act like everything is ok. “stubborn, strong willed wife?” Excuses. My wife is 'strong willed'. But she's also... a woman... who likes me to lead her (though she'll say differently). Guess wha…
/r/askMRP15/03/19 01:07 PM
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my daughter was up multiple times last night, mostly with the I'm scared routine to get into our bed. We both took turns dealing with her antics but on the last one I told her that she would get a swat if it continued. Another trip up to her room and I fulfilled what I told her with a very light spank to get her attention. Good job ruining your relationship with your daughter. You know what one event I'll never forget and was when I started losing the trust I had with my parents? Fourth grade, I…
/r/askMRP15/03/19 12:44 PM
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She claims that none of these scenarios would make her happy, which is most likely true. She tends to have a fixed mindset and is the queen of “why-don’t-you-yes-but.” She wants to know you have your own shit together. She 100% doesn't want to make these decisions. She wants you to. She may not be happy, but that shouldn't factor in here if you think it's the best course of action. Of course listen to her inputs, suggestions, etc. but at the end of the day make up your own mind. Listen - after m…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 05:58 PM
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I'd bring my wife to the fun places Can you do this? With kids it may be harder but early on when I was travelling, my wife got to go to a lot of cool places with me. Drop the kids off w. someone if you can and bring her with you... she can explore while you can work. Last summer I arranged to be in Europe for work for 5 weeks and got them to pick up the bill for all of us to go... it was a great experience. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 01:12 PM
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So soviet terrorists?
/r/askMRP12/03/19 11:48 PM
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Thanks for the tip on Groupon. Found $1800 for both eyes at a highly rated place near here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 06:31 PM
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There is a non-verbal communication that happens when we feel needy and women can sense it from a mile off. I think this is my main problem with sex. I'm not overtly communicating (anymore) but she picks up on body language, tone of voice, etc. Then I try and not feel butt hurt by the rejection, but I still feel a little butt hurt by the rejection... especially if it's the 3rd+ time in a row.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 05:19 PM
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Kill covert contracts I don’t know about everyone else, but this has been the SINGLE MOST DIFFICULT thing in all of MRP. Everytime I think I’ve got this licked, it comes back in a different form. If I do a ton of work to rise above it, I catch myself thinking “well, now that I’ve killed my covert contracts, she’ll find me more attractive…FUCK!” For me, this emerges most powerfully as resentment. Like clockwork, if I get rejected for a week or more (say, 5-6 initiations), I feel resentment buildi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 04:03 PM
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Another driver went into cardiac arrest, lost control of his car and plowed into us. Our 2 year old didn’t make it. Our infant ended up disabled. My wife and I got away with concussions and some broken bones. So sorry for your loss. This just sucks. I lost my 4 year old as well, three years ago. It changes the marriage. A lot don't survive because it is a fundamental, core shaking, event. I'm a different person and so is my wife. You have to process your grief (and so does your wife) in your own…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 03:56 PM
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As I suspected, I was not doing the squat right at all; my stance was wrong, I was not using a thumbless grip on the bar and holding it too high, and I was not driving with my hips. For the barbell row, the shooting pain in my forearms disappeared except for the last rep on the last set, so I think I was just that weak in my arms. Will keep a close eye on it. Make sure you increase weights with keeping form. My issue was my form was not great and getting to heavier weights caused me to fail and …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 03:50 PM
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I find that traveling internationally with a time difference cuts me off from my wife and helps me to embrace that loneliness. It’s in these times that I find myself progress the most. I think this has been very healthy for me in my MRP journey. I find this too. My biggest leaps forward were when I was out of the country. Hell, I found MRP when I was out of the country in one of these times of loneliness. I can clear my head with the disconnect, interact with different people, and I really enjoy…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 01:57 PM
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OYS Week 22 Quick Background: Married to first serious girlfriend. Was more beta than alpha all my life. Diagnosed with intestinal bowel disease 5 years ago. Wife had miscarriage 4 years ago. Son died of cancer 3 years ago. Falling out with my family over their violating boundaries over and over again 2 years ago. After my son died I became very depressed and relied too much on my wife for support. Finding MRP has started to change this, but there are a lot of ups and downs as I figure myself ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 01:46 PM
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Seriously, WHY do you care? For me, I can answer that question - it's about validation seeking behavior. I've been working to break this pattern of behavior and discuss it almost weekly in OYS. Tracking data on a spreadsheet just seems to reinforce you being in her frame. How my wife views me matters to me almost as much as how I see myself. I care for my wife too, but I'm done with anyone else (including her) dictating my view of the world and how I judge my own actions. I fuck up a lot, but it…
/r/askMRP11/03/19 07:03 PM
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To keep track of how my wife sees me consciously and subconsciously Why the fuck do you care how she sees you? Christ man, you've learned nothing from TRP. ​
/r/askMRP11/03/19 06:39 PM
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no one who is a healthy well adjusted adult has sex two times a year. Even when I was at my worst (60 lbs heavier, low T, no lifting, a shitty person to be around), my wife was still DTF 1-2x a month. Mostly initiated by her... in her own subtle way. Something is very wrong here... if it's not hormonal then she's either getting dick elsewhere or doesn't like dick at all.
/r/askMRP11/03/19 12:33 PM
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PM anytime.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/19 01:03 PM
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This is one of my favorite replies of all time.
/r/askMRP06/03/19 10:01 PM
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Mine was the opposite. DTF first and second trimester but had little drive the third. Happened with all three of mine.
/r/askMRP06/03/19 09:55 PM
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You're right. This is just more evidence that I am still stuck in her frame. I fear it will take me longer than I would like to build true inner game, given where I am starting from. Game != Frame. Best definition I can think of: Frame is doing what you think is right/best/go after in life w/o fear of what others will do or think. It's living life on your terms, not someone else's. Writing it out, this is really fucked up and toxic behavior on her part. Is this AWALT or something more? Well 1) y…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 09:09 PM
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i'm Italian What's your recommendation on a hand cranked pasta maker? I've been looking to get one. ​ Do i keep frame even though she's unpredictably hormonal, pregnant and needs help with things? (where do i draw the limit?) You don't get what frame is if you think you keeping frame by helping her / needs help. Frame is your point of reference, mental point of origin, how you perceive the world right and wrong. You are living in her frame as apparent by your victim puke. ​ Should i not ask for …
/r/askMRP06/03/19 08:57 PM
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Saw you are going through sleeping situation issues. I'll reply to a lot of what you wrote... maybe it helps. On Wednesday, I didn't get to go until 10. She doesn't "let" you do anything. You need to get out of this mindset. My wife provides input about potentially a better time to do certain things but doesn't "let" me. Example: I wanted to go see Aquaman with friends on a Saturday. She reminded me she had a hair appointment that day (yeah I should have remembered but didn't). So we met up at a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 04:18 PM
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We always do something special as a family that day (still working on ideas this year, last year we built some shadow boxes with all his favorite things and pictures). Then a month after is his birthday and we take a big trip somewhere. My wife is very protective of our other kids and really doesn't want to leave them overnight with anyone (even family). I'm thinking later this year arranging for her mom to come down for a long weekend and going somewhere with her, but those plans are in their i…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 03:26 PM
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Could be shitty weather in the past few weeks (rain 90% of the days). I'll up by Vit D and look into the other 3 you suggested. It's not been as bad as prior years luckily. If the comfort given comes from #2, you don't need to worry about #7. This is an excellent point. I've just been a dick because I feared backsliding into neediness. The answer is to just do what feels natural in the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 03:22 PM
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OYS Week 21 Quick Background: Married to first serious girlfriend. Was more beta than alpha all my life. Diagnosed with intestinal bowel disease 5 years ago. Wife had miscarriage 4 years ago. Son died of cancer 3 years ago. Falling out with my family over their violating boundaries over and over again 2 years ago. After my son died I became very depressed and relied too much on my wife for support. Finding MRP has started to change this, but there are a lot of ups and downs as I figure myself ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 02:45 PM
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My son died when he was four. Brain tumor diagnosed in Jan three years ago. Gave us 6-12 months. He died in March less than 8 weeks later. Robbed him of every function - paralyzed, couldn’t talk, etc. It destroyed both of us. But life goes on.
/r/askMRP02/03/19 06:23 PM
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I neg about her withdrawing and start doing my own thing without her a lot more often. She walks on eggshells for awhile, then finally blows up. Rinse & repeat. It usually blows up during her PMS week... every 4 weeks or so it just goes nuclear and I think the cycle you laid out is EXACTLY what is happening. She tries her damnedest, and I respond with the same AA/AM stuff you do "...all my other girlfriends" comments, DNGAF attitude, and the likes. Where's her incentive to keep dealing with her …
/r/askMRP28/02/19 02:25 PM
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somewhat autistic in your "joking" Yes, I've been told this before (by not just her). And yes, I've been reading the Divorce Guide.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 07:23 PM
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Thanks for your feedback. It's appreciated. She slept in the guest room last night. I'll re-post Friday where everything is at.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 05:21 PM
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I appreciate your feedback. Here's my thoughts, maybe I'm playing too nice here? refusal to kill the puppy, Refusal to kill the puppy for the first instance of her trying shit like this and backing down once called out? Seems extreme. relationship at all costs Never said at all costs. We've been through a lot of shit together... and this is the first time she's tried this. She made me more butthurt than usual, so I'm going to have to be even more dramatic than usual. I'm not butthurt or being dr…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 04:48 PM
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I updated the post at the bottom.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 04:44 PM
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Life has been crappy... I’ve made it crappier by my actions. I feel it’s my responsibility to at least try to lead my family... it may be too late. It may not be.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 03:46 PM
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I hadn’t before. Have now. I’ve said something very similiar. That I’d give her the courtesy of separating before cheating. I do like being with her. I probably don’t tell her this enough but I do tell her, do random acts to show appreciation, let her know what I like about her.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 03:45 PM
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Yeah... with this and a colitis flare up weight is going to drop.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 03:33 PM
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I hadn’t enforced boundaries until a few months ago. She was respecting them. She crossed some serious ones last night.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 03:15 PM
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Maybe... it is what it is. She has flat out said she liked me better when I was fat and nice. I read that as liked it better when I was unattractive and did whatever she said.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:16 AM
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Already had a consult a few months back. I’m starting to record and document shit now.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:12 AM
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I think Red is right on this one. She can’t fuck with my kids. It’s bullshit. I’ve lost one kid, I’m not losing the other two to her insanity.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:00 AM
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I’m fine with her doing whatever... it’s her turning the kids against me and making shit up that gets to me.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 01:38 AM
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I thought she was relatively sane and majority of drama and her depression was my lack of leadership. This whole night makes me question her sanity. Edit: I don’t think she’s trying to get me to kill it. She’s going back and forth between wanting me to reassure her and calling me a dick.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 01:36 AM
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I did this. Had them all ready in bed about to read a book. Five year old has a tendency to not pee before bed. Ten year old said she didn’t. I told her she needs to go, she started crying, wife came in a pulled her away and then claimed I left marks on her and she was taking pictures for a lawyer tomorrow. What the fuck has happened? I don’t care what happens with my wife, but fuck she’s not taking my kids and making it out like I abuse them.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 01:33 AM
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She’ll probably accuse you of cheating.. It’s a comfort test. She did do this. She went between basically "you suck, you're such an asshole you won't find anyone else" to "you say you have all these girlfriends, what do I know what you're doing". The latter I used comfort, but she switched back into shit. Sounds like a shitty comfort test... just went for 0 to fucking insane very quickly. ​
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:50 AM
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She is PMSing this week. ​ In any case, just keep doing what you’re doing. Perhaps STFU and remove your presence if it gets really bad. AA and AM are effective only to a point... and it depends on the woman This is why I went and lifted. Wasn't butt hurt, didn't act butt hurt, just didn't want to be around her attitude anymore. ​
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:47 AM
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It gets worse before it gets better. She’s feelzing the dynamic changing and doesn’t like it. This was the first time I really felt I DNGAF. Internalized it. Sounds like I should go do some shit and stop overthinking things. That gets me into trouble. Get ready for a huge comfort test disguised as a shit test soon. Mmslp talks about it. Definitely not yet, but I'll go re-read my MMSLP highlights. ​
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:44 AM
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She convinces the kids to 'camp out' on the floor with her, locks the door. It's some fucked up behavior.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:35 AM
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Fair enough... Week 20 of MAP. Here's the short version of why I found MRP: Sex life sucked. Son died of cancer 3 years ago, became needy and whiny relying on her for emotional support, depression, panic attacks. From Week 16 and the fuck-up. I fucked up and probably set myself back two months by complaining about lack of affection and how sex life was boring. This occurred since it was 4 days since we had sex and I was feeling neglected (stupid). I just couldn't STFU, I wanted to win the argume…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:34 AM
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I’ll add this is her go to trying to get me upset move after her taking her ring off and threatening divorce stopped affecting me. Just means I’ll get the whole bed to myself... should sleep well.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:21 AM
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I’ll go reread TWOTSM and this started because I came home and tried to give comfort. I came home and said “you’re great at making all the food yesterday” (she was cooking up a storm all day and made some tasty shit. This devolved immediately to her being bitchy.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:18 AM
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A month ago I fucked up around blowjobs and Rambo’d but everything was calm and fine for the last two-three weeks. Her comments varied from “you won’t find someone else” to “you’re the one saying you have girlfriends so XXX”. Very random and non-sensical even for her.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:16 AM
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Five months. Dread level 4.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:14 AM
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As a brief update. Shit tests continue tonight. She’s throwing everything at me all because of this comment. I really don’t get what has riled her up this bad... so I went to lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 11:37 PM
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I don’t see many comfort tests. Perhaps they’re too subtle for me to notice, but I haven’t recognized many. She’ll ask me to sit with her as a comfort test is the clearest I’ve seen in the past week. You bring up a great point that even if she isn’t overly crying out as a comfort test she still may need comfort. I am pulling ahead of her and I can tell she’s feeling more insecure. I’ll be more conscious this to add comfort.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 04:24 PM
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^^^ All of this is really to say...who the fuck knows? In the end, I could be Dr. Chadly McChadlenstein, Attorney-at-Dong, and she could STILL only want missionary sex once a week. In the end, I have zero control over what other people do or want. All I can do is continue to improve and give myself the widest variety of possible options.It is absolutely pointless to worry about what is going on in someone else's fucking head. I find my wife is very similar (no fantasies, doesn't masturbate, not …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:58 PM
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Leadership is changing the world to your narrative. I directly manage only a small group of people (5) directly, but I have huge influence as a leader in the organization. I am in demand of every group and I can push my ideas and frame the solutions to problems as I see fit. I see this as leadership - not managing a team into chaos. That's poor management. Also, you can be 'lazy' and a leader. If by lazy you mean have non-work time, that's easy. Just be more efficient in getting your shit done. …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:33 PM
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OYS Week 20 Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 200; BF: 18% (navy method); Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. ​ Physical / Health 3x5+: Squat: 200; BP 165, BR 145 , OHP 100, 1x5+: DL 260 Had my every 6-8 week IV treatment for IBD …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 01:53 PM
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porn for temporary satisfaction If you need porn then you don't need to jack off. Do what you want to do, but I found no porn has helped me significantly. ​ As others recommended - read Sex God Method. Also, read this post. Separating sex from validation is a long process (at least for me it is). Once you start separating the two, you'll find yourself not caring very much about quantity or quality... and by not caring as much quantity and quality both improve. ​
/r/askMRP25/02/19 09:11 PM
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I’ve find it funny. Not a turn off or turn on. Just have realized how her subconscious brain works. Now if she gets into extreme bitchy mode then that’s a different story.
/r/askMRP22/02/19 09:16 PM
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Back at you... it’s a shitty club to be in but I’m trying to look at it as positively as possible... it changed me for sure. At first in a bad way (emotionally wallowing) but now it’s almost forged me to be a better person and realize life is short and I need to go after what I want in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 08:15 PM
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It sucks failing and losing frame, but it just makes you better the next time you’re in that situation. Glad you’re feeling back on track. It occurred to me - my wife has her friends. They have a FB messenger thread, talk every day, and vent their shit in there. I need to build something similar. Do you have any guy friends you just shoot the shit with? I got two guys I work with who I just started venting shit to. At first I was hesitant to puke our relationship issues or whatever. Thought ther…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 02:42 PM
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One of my employees had his last day on Friday so we took him to Mexican for lunch. There were no calorie counts on the menu. Use an app like MyFitnessPal. Pick the closest thing to what you’re eating at a restaurant and if there’s two choices that sound it could fit pick the HIGHER calorie count. I can eat lunch out several times a week and stick to my calories and macros very easily. Sometimes I choose to eat more at lunch and have a small dinner but it’s a conscious choice. Cheat days are dum…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 02:37 PM
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OP is in no position to do any of this. He’s best off lifting and STFU for a good long while.
/r/askMRP21/02/19 01:56 PM
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You want to fuck your SIL? Faggot. Creep. That little gem was really buried in the gayness of the post. Missed it the first read through.
/r/askMRP21/02/19 01:49 PM
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This sums up the areas I have failed and still do. Great post especially for newer guys.
/r/askMRP21/02/19 01:44 PM
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He would based on what I’m becoming... but not where I was. Glad I found this place.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 01:39 PM
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First statement: Your wife is suffering from depression. ​ So... before finding MRP in October, I thought my wife was severely depressed. My son died 3 years ago (cancer sucks), so I thought everything was from that and she needed to get therapy or medications. Now this is a pretty major thing, and I went to therapy - it helped me, but I had to change myself and then she followed. I found MRP, I stopped being such as whiny emotional faggot, and she's done a 180. She used to talk daily about how …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 06:41 PM
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You're over complicating this. This thought process is what you have to end. You're thinking negatively ("may overlook shit") or overthinking ("chances to improve"). Have you read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck? It talks about this type of thought process at length. If there's one thing I've learned thus far that has helped is if I stop thinking and worrying about my behaviors or her behaviors, I enjoy life much much more. So live life, if you feel uncomfortable or don't want to do somethin…
/r/askMRP20/02/19 04:51 PM
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I legit feel like a pussy inside and idk where the fuck it came from or what steps to take to get rid of it. ​ The good news is, unlike me, you were/are a top alpha based on what you've said. The bad news is, you're falling into the mindset that led many down the path to giving their LTR/wife their balls to carry around in her purse. You have to find a way to tell yourself to STFU when you start thinking these things. Just yell at that voice in your head - don't let it creep into a repetitive th…
/r/askMRP20/02/19 03:27 PM
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All she cares about is the present moment, or what have you done for me lately. This also works in the drunk captain’s favor when he starts fixing his shit. If she is feeling good regardless of the past she’s going to desire a man even if he was nearly capsizing the boat prior.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 02:46 PM
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I’ve found that sleep and exercise for me is a must for my mental health. If either of these slip I easily lose frame and feel like a woman (overly emotional). I’ve been in deep depressions, panic attacks multiple times a day. You can get through it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 01:27 PM
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This isn’t OYS. This is kicking your shit down the road to next week (and then it will be the week after that, etc). Post your failures this week, get input and get better. I’ve found being brutally honest with myself in my OYS is the absolute best reflection of my mindset each week. People will rip you a new asshole when it’s deserved (see my OYS a few weeks ago for this), but they reply and respond to help. But only if you help yourself first. Redo your OYS this week. Add some short term goals…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 01:22 PM
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Three months of IDGAF and owning my shit, and the majority of the stuff she says is now relevant and worth paying attention to This is where it gets harder to separate legitimate shit she says with shit tests. Confusing the two isn’t a great thing. I’m still navigating this with my wife. As the real shit tests are decreasing, I read into things as a test when it’s really just her adding value with her input. I almost fucked up since I’m looking at getting a new car. She asked (innocently), what …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 01:18 PM
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Thanks for the suggestion. Killing the validation seeking behavior is tough but I’ve made significant progress in the past two weeks. Removing the mindset sex = “I’m good enough” is going a long way to eliminating overall validation seeking. The less validation I seek the more I feel like the prize. It seems counterintuitive- the less I look for people validating me, the more confident I feel.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 01:10 PM
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OYS Week 19 Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 200; BF: 18% (navy method); Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. Need more reading suggestions - focusing on OI / DNGAF. Physical / Health 3x5+: Squat: 190; BP 165, BR 135 (Deload, form…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 03:43 PM
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This is the plan I’m following. After finding RP I bought a power rack and weight set (about $800). Best money I ever spent. Started Muay Thai a few weeks ago. Learning to fight is fun shit and also humbling. I found my ego needs to die... being humbled helps kill it.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 11:59 PM
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Or he can buy his own weights and have zero excuses.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 06:31 PM
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Best thing I ever bought was my power rack and weights. Was about $800 when all was said and done.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 06:27 PM
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try not to fuck things up by going too hard, too fast and spooking the wife. I can definitely see that going Rambo is almost a problem for me. That's why I seriously need to STFU. Sounds like you're doing pretty well. The missteps you're making everyone makes. As you said, the main thing is to not try too much too fast. I (and many others) learned this lesson. Really check your thoughts and don't let them spiral out of control... you can have a few days or weeks of things going well, then your h…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 04:59 PM
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"Something different is going to have to be done or this is going to be something that will cause us to separate. Is this sport really worth it." She doesn't respect you or your interests. It's not about the money, she's thinking if you stop training you'll spend more time with her - she can reel you in more. AA or just repeating that you are not going to give it up would have acceptable responses. If she's willing to separate over jiu jitsu, she's not worth keeping around.
/r/askMRP15/02/19 04:45 PM
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A buddy of mine went all out. Got his wife a hotel room (for herself), spa treatment, shopping because "she's so great, she works hard at home". He watched his multiple kids (4 of them). He meets his wife for dinner and she asks "that was nice, what are you going to do to top this next year?" Now he's stressing how to top this. I feel really bad for the guy... his wife runs all over him and he becomes more and more beta to try and appease her. ​
/r/askMRP15/02/19 04:34 PM
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My wife hates Valentine's Day, and hates getting shit and told me not to get anything (this isn't some test, she really doesn't want anything). So naturally, I got a card and $100 for Victoria's secret. Told her she's been a good wife lately and needed something sexy. No covert contracts, I don't care what she spends it on, didn't expect sex (didn't even try, I was tired).
/r/askMRP15/02/19 04:15 PM
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At Christmasi went out and bought a few poinsettas. I bring them in and my wife thought they were a special gift for her. “Nope, not for you, the house needed more festive ness”. Next day there was garland and decorations all over the house she put up while I was at work.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 02:44 PM
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OYS Week 18 Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 200; BF: 19.5%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck Physical / Health 3x5+: Squat: 185; BP 160, BR 150, OHP 105 1x5+: DL 275 Fixed squat form which has helped significantly. Learned not…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 04:41 PM
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I hadn’t seen this. It is precisely what’s in my head all the damn time. Seeing it as something external is much better than thinking “what the fuck is wrong with me”.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 01:59 AM
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I want unrelenting feedback. I’m harsh with myself. My honest assessment this week is that I had this thought (divorce) and did not act on it but it was and is still in my head. Logically I know it’s a fucked up dumbass thing to do. I’m afraid of the unknown. My anxiety and what if thinking gets the best of me. What if I don’t see my wife as value add? What if she is disgusted by what I become? What if I keep being an asshole and hurting her. I never want to see the pain on her face that I cause…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 12:14 AM
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While you don't "owe" anybody anything, don't you think you owe it to yourself at least to give it your best shot before calling it quits, Thanks for this... made me really consider what I’m doing here. You’re right... I do owe it to myself to give it 100% and keep getting better. If I give it one month per year together I need to give it a shot for another year and a half minimum. And the pain for her would be huge if I walked out. And on my kids. I need to stop feeling sorry for myself and foc…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 08:21 PM
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If I keep fucking up so much and hurting her, I’ve started to think separating now would cause us both less pain. There’s other past issues regarding my family shutting on her, me not defending her, and past hurt that I can’t fix and she can’t get over. Couple that with the loss of our son three years ago from cancer put a big strain on our relationship. My end goal is to become the man that I should have been - for her and for myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 06:52 PM
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My OYS was regarding how I’ve fucked up. For 18 years. I am not butt hurt by her actions. I’m pissed off that I keep fucking up so bad. I do not want pity or sympathy. I’m surprised she’s stuck around this long. What I have begun to question is if my wife and I really want the same things out of life and marriage. Was I a beta and her frame of what she wanted so long that I’ve given up what I really want? How do I begin to lead her to what I want and will she come along? Does she really deserve …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 05:58 PM
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You're right. I'm being a dumb fuck. I recognize that - it's my want of instant results and gratification. I get that it's a cop out, but find myself thinking how much easier it would be to start fresh. I'm trying to be as honest as possible with myself - even if I'm being a complete retard.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 05:07 PM
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I used to care about knowing what she was texting/ up to. That’s beta faggotry so I’ve stopped caring. Sometimes still find myself curious but that’s rare. If she wants to do something like cheat or flirt with guys, if she’s smart you having her passwords won’t mean shit.
/r/askMRP05/02/19 03:34 PM
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OYS Week 17 Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 200; BF: 19.5%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck Physical / Health 3x5+: Squat: 175; BP 155, BR 140, OHP 105 1x5+: DL 270 Muay Thai has been a great outlet. Wife always seems a bit d…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 11:57 AM
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I know its cheating and I have tried to justify the various forms of services being rendered as not cheating, or "it's just like a strip club lap dance." learning lessons wherein it's not within my value system to suck, fuck, slap, prod, pinch, or pound any other woman if I'm in an LTR. Let's be clear - what you're doing is cheating. You decide whether you're ok with that or not. Not guys here on this forum. Figure out your values... if it's stable LTR with good sex great. If it's risky LTR with…
/r/askMRP01/02/19 06:18 PM
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That's cool ya'll are lifting weights, I found what works for me and that's walking a shit ton. I park far on purpose and pack myself a healthy lunch so I can spend half my lunch eating and the other half walking. I also walk my neighbors dog (poor thing is couped up in the back yard all day). I'll give lifting weights a shot when I'm no longer medically obese, til then I'm shredding pounds ​ I was 265lbs two years ago. Was 245 in May; 205 now. I thought exactly like you did (cardio then weights…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 07:09 PM
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Continuing to escalate now to "If I have another miscarriage because of the stress then it's 100% on you" (I was told I was responsible for 'killing our child' after her first miscarriage at 4 weeks) ​ You can have compassion for her, as well - YOU know she's being irrational. YOU know you did nothing wrong. And now she's lashing out, trying to hurt you, drive you away. She's on, as you say, a train with no brakes. For my wife, she feels she has to blame every situation on something or someone. …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 06:51 PM
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- I look to sex for validation less, so my actual desire level is starting to emerge. I don't need sex every god damn day. Sometimes, I'd rather jerk off. It's fucking fine. Do I still want sex more than her? Yes. More than I'm getting? Yes. But... - ...I just realized I need to work on my attraction level. I had a sense of, "I've made so much progress! I should get sex now!" But that's not how it fucking works. I still need work, I don't inspire much dread, even though there's way more dread no…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 06:43 PM
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Took a 1/2 day to catch up on sleep. That helped immensely. Focusing on positives versus what I don't have. Saw my therapist yesterday which also helped - she rightly concluded I overthink things and gave me some mental exercises to try and stop this. Overall - I need to stop seeing my wife as the enemy and out to get me. She's a woman with emotions and I need to not be affected by her ups and downs and problems. I can't expect her happy all the time but that doesn't reflect on me. Edit: And con…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 09:03 PM
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I did. Because I legitimately felt terrible at what I did.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 05:16 PM
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Let's talk about your calories and macros for a second.. lay it down for me. Goal is 2300 per day as I was trying to reduce BF. Macros 30 carb, 30 fat, 40 protein. Was hitting pretty spot on until mid last week. Probably got 1500 calories Sat/Sun. ​ I suffered anxiety for years full blown on panic, physical pain and all that shit Been dealing with this for 18 years. It was pretty much gone until this past week. I'll use your spreadsheet idea, that probably makes the most sense. I stopped meditat…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 08:03 PM
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OYS Week 16 - I Fucked Up. Mission: Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 200; BF: 19.5%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck Physical / Health 3x5+: Squat: 170; BP 150, BR …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 02:20 PM
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In my estimation she has never had any true desire for me because I have never acted attractive. She married me for beta providing and has always treated me as such. Stop trying to guess what she thinks or thought. That just leaves you in her frame. And honestly, who the fuck cares about the past? Fix yourself, enjoy her if you so choose - not from validation, not from covert contracts but because you legitimately desire and want to fuck her. ​ I have a lot of resentment towards her. I think the…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 06:48 PM
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i know i should leave, i know she will do it again, her words are just bullshit ​ I don't know you but I feel bad for you - seriously. 1) because I see your line of thinking and how you've been living the BP lie and 2) because you don't have any of the tools to gain control of your life. I get it, you found the red-pill, you found your wife cheating, you feel your life is spinning out of control. And it will IF YOU LET IT. So grab it back right now. Start telling yourself that no matter what hap…
/r/askMRP25/01/19 03:47 PM
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might wonder where you learned it. This was a nice surprising way to introduce some dread without even trying to give dread. All her friends were convinced I was cheating on her. AA’d and AM’d the hell out of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 02:17 PM
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Communication solves every problem. He should talk about his feelings with her, how much he got hurt, how he’s so sorry for whatever he did to push her away, and beg her for sex. 100% foolproof plan.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 02:11 PM
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Draw and quarter that puppy. It’s over and you know that. Even if you stay it’s over for you. You can never be happy knowing what she did and then will never respect yourself for staying. Go find a lawyer. Today. Tell her to get out for a week for you to process this. This is hard, I get that. But how much of of a beta are you to excuse this shit? This wasn’t a one night thing, this wasn’t a mistake, this was lengthy and long term emotional and physical affair. You’re second best to her and alwa…
/r/askMRP25/01/19 01:33 PM
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Trouble is my kids are everything to me and i cant stand the though of not liking under the same roof as them 7 days a week. she probably would have left me if the other guy would have left his wife in a few years confront her and end it when the kids are a little older Keep in mind she can leave at any time (and probably will when she finds a willing branch to swing to). Then you're in the same position with the kids. Do not sacrifice your happiness for this woman who values you so little to fu…
/r/askMRP24/01/19 03:54 PM
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Barring a something nuclear like loss of a child This is what ultimately lead me to MRP. It took nearly 3 years through the guilt (nothing I could do, it was cancer), self-hating, depression, anxiety, leaning on my wife for support and to lead the family. Was so frustrated at how shitty I felt and how shitty our marriage was got me here. Now I'm pulling not only myself out of the hell we've been in but the entire family... RP is life changing. Sometimes a tragedy gives you an opportunity; just h…
/r/askMRP24/01/19 02:53 PM
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My life is already so much better. I'm just getting started and fuck up a lot, but at least I know when I fuck up. My anxiety has reduced to a minimum; depression is gone I Care about my fitness and physical appearance My self-confidence increasing every week I don't hate going home at night because I've started to be able to disconnect my wife's emotions from mine
/r/askMRP24/01/19 02:41 PM
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The saddest part is 4 months ago I would have been swallowing this crap and still beating my head on a wall of why my relationship life sucked. ​
/r/askMRP23/01/19 08:17 PM
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how are you building trust Mostly just positive reinforcement and sexual joking with her. It seems to be opening her up. I'm trying to be slowly pull it out of her. What else do you see that I could do to improve trust?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 01:52 PM
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you do not yet view yourself as The Prize. You nailed it. I understand the concept, I know how I should see myself, but internalizing is difficult. I will say there are more and more times I feel that I am the best there is, "the Prize", etc. But those are punctuated by days where my anxiety pops back in and I question it all. Thanks for the article. My wife has been very closed off to her sexuality and the more I'm bringing it out of her, I think frightens her a bit. Trying to push through this…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 07:58 PM
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On the dominance: you’ll probably be surprised that she was into dominance. I thought (as you did) she would not be into this at all, laugh at me, or shut down sex. Figured screw it, I want this. Guess what happened? She loves it! Get her good and wet, start with hair pulling but make sure you do it right and grab the base of the hair. Then add the ass slapping getting progressively harder. You can also hold her arms/shoulders down with some force. You don’t need to act lovey dovey at all, but i…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 04:19 PM
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OYS Week 15 Mission: Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 205; BF: 19.5%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, Ironwood Alpha Moves. Current Reading: Practical Female Psychology Models was a really helpful book regarding being …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 01:53 PM
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Reading a kid’s picture book is a better use of your time than video games.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 01:27 AM
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Probably a better use of your time right now. Asking what should I do when she does X to this forum isn’t going to get you very far. The answers are in the sidebar... post in OYS weekly and take the feedback from there.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 09:20 PM
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Get to reading. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index ​ ​
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:54 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2vykau/a_guide_for_beginners_to_mrp/ ​ You are in scenario 3 OR career beta. Based on MrChad_Thundercock homework looks like the latter. Just accept you suck and need to get better. Sex will dry up if you continue on this path or she'll be having lots of sex with you to cover her shame of having sex with Chad.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:53 PM
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What was she doing during this time? Try and lead her here (if she's not willing that's fine, own your shit). Something like "You do the lunches, I got the dishes"... give her stuff to do. ​ shouldn’t go show mommy all the stuff you do They notice... and even if they don't who cares. Pretend you're single and you'd be doing all this shit that needs to be done anyways. One of two things will happen: She'll follow your lead and start doing more or she won't. Either way it doesn't matter. ​
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:50 PM
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Dude... just do what you think is right in the moment; be your own judge. You're overthinking way too much... and that's coming from a guy who overthinks / plans for contingencies for everything in life (which makes me damn good at my job but not so much my relationship). This isn't 4-D chess. What's your reading list look like? I would spend a lot of quality time with the sidebar readings. Follow this guide if you aren't already. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2vykau/a_guide_f…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:39 PM
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too much kino can appear physically needy and overbearing If you're doing it for the wrong reasons yes. If you do it because you enjoy it versus a covert contract or getting validation, then it's not going to come across needy. You're overthinking things and operating in her frame. I'm not going to do "X" because SHE might think it's needy.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:27 PM
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This wasn't as much of a shit test as a comfort test or a bid for attention Hard to know based on the information given which one it was. Differences can be really subtle and I mistake comfort tests for shit tests all the time. This post always is a good refresher.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:23 PM
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DEER I see this as push/pull. Yes I was checking out other women (push), but you have a nice ass (pull). But you have to have the right mindset to pull this off. It can't be "my wife is mad, so let me say this to make her feel better" - then you are DEERing.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:18 PM
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It’s your advantage- because you know how to learn. Engineer as well, listen to MCT - he knows his shit. And learn what you can but you have to also put it into practice. I find the more I enjoy 'experimenting' with RP tools - especially game, the more enjoyable life is. It truly is like a 'game' to me and getting your wife to react is a helluva lot of fun. One caution - you'll likely go overboard at first (aka Rambo). Try to minimize this as much as possible. You have your wife on a pedestal ri…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:08 PM
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your wife will start pointing out hot women for you to look at. That’s when you know you’ve arrived. Every time I think I'm doing well, one of your posts gives me a much-needed reality check for how far I have to go.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:00 PM
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I work from home usually a day a week. I used to get this shit all the time. I never hear it now because I take care of my shit when I'm home. And I do it to have a well functioning house, not to please my wife. I used to hear how lazy I was and did nothing, I have not heard this in two months since I started owning my shit. This isn't about the snow, it's about you being submissive to your wife while at the same time falling down on jobs you need to do as the man - clearing snow before it becom…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 05:54 PM
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Let her initiate any and all sexual encounters Make sure you spend every waking second with her or at least thinking about her Offer to hold her purse for her when you go on her shopping trips Make sure you defer to her on any and all decisions. Especially regarding raising her kids (if they’re not yours that’s ok because you love her so much)
/r/askMRP19/01/19 12:14 AM
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It really is entertaining to watch... wife was convinced barista poisoned her the other day since she had stomach issues after drinking her coffee. My response: "the plan is in motion, me and (barista) will soon be together".
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 09:07 PM
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If I had a setup like that I’d be embarrassed. That was pretty funny though!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 06:26 PM
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Thanks for the time to write this out. It helps me figure out a few things about myself. 1) i see her quiet as a negative outlook on me (good lover validation). 2) I am leading to better and better and it is helpful to know I am moving in the right direction. And 3) I need to work on building her desire and feelz more outside the bedroom and not just in a “horn dog” way. As I’m recognizing more and more, I just need to stop overthinking and be my true self in any moment in time. And not in the b…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 06:25 PM
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There's no "my money" or "her money" in a marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 02:54 PM
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I am busy and it is cold My weights are in my garage... my garage is cold but I go out there anyways because it's the only way to get better. Wear a sweatshirt. We're all busy, but you can squeeze in another 60 mins a day by waking up an hour earlier or go instead of eating lunch... lots of ways to figure it out. I used to make excuses too.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 02:49 PM
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Before I left on the trip my hamster was kicking into over drive I travel frequently for work (including this week). It was the first time where I saw zero hamster. Usually it was fear if my wife would be mad when I got home, I'm going out with colleagues at night, guilty for her having to take care of the kids, fear she was cheating, fear she was going to pack up her stuff and leave me. because she isn’t currently in a place where she is willing to do what needs to be done to save the marriage …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 02:39 PM
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Women have emotional memory. If she's mad at you in a moment she's always been mad at you and always will be. Same here - once her feelz tell her you're high value, the past shit won't matter. Getting to this point will take a long time, be the hardest shit you've ever done, and will have a lot of failures. ​ The good news is you recognize it. We've ALL been at your point. Best advice outside the usual (lift, stfu, sidebar) is to stop worrying about the past. Yeah, you sucked, just get better ev…
/r/askMRP17/01/19 11:17 AM
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The secret is you can say whatever the fuck you want, really, as long as it's coming from a position of power and not weakness. One of my big issues that I'm finally seeing progress on is saying asshole things to purposefully piss my wife off. Don't do this... because she can see right through this bullshit. I've found saying asshole things for my amusement / not caring how she responds is so much more fun for me - as a side benefit she enjoys this the majority of the time too. ​ I 100% agree th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 10:18 AM
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350 I think is too low at 41... I was at low 300's and it was definitely fucking me up. Luckily my doctor still supported trying to increase it. Up to 600+ now (through use of Clomid, unfucking my diet, and lifting) and the difference in sex, energy, and overall mental state is huge. used to sleep 10+ hours a day.. now my body doesn't want to sleep more than 7. I would set a target to get over 600... regular doctors have way too low a # for low T threshold (something like 270I think) - this is d…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 10:11 AM
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she’s always very quiet which I’m working on What have you done here? I'm struggling with a quiet one as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 10:02 AM
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Wife likes to do it for me and does a good job. She even cleans everything up afterwards. Don’t see this as a problem. Hell I believe MMSLP has a chapter on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 07:20 PM
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Thanks... drove by a Muay Thai that is quite close to home Sunday. Started looking into it more, looks a lot better.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 11:46 AM
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OYS Week 14 Mission: Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 206; BF: 20.5%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Current Reading: Practical Female Psychology Physical / Health 3x5+: Squat: 180, BP 145, BR 140, OHP 105 1x5+: DL 250 Contin…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 09:22 AM
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Great post. You have to have some dread in the relationship for this to even begin working though. I found until the last few weeks negative and non-reinforcement tactics were laughed off or rejected with hostility. Now there’s starting to be slow subtle changes - much less rejection to sex, no starfish, affection outside the bedroom, her wanting me to spend time with her (versus me asking HER for time). No blowjobs or lingerie yet (according to her a month ago those things I’ll never get from h…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/19 10:10 PM
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WHO CHANGES HER MIND ABOUT THINGS EVERY WEEK Every week? Find every day or even hour. Wife is mad - "You're never getting any sex from me ever again.... ever!". 2 hours later we're fucking so you know... AWALT. You're 100% right. Every time I start talking about something hypothetical I realize it's best just to STFU. Until I'm actually ready to do anything, it's not worth bringing things up. ​
/r/askMRP14/01/19 03:13 PM
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Have you read this? https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4br3sm/a_process_for_letting_go_of_anger/
/r/askMRP11/01/19 08:06 PM
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You can't let it all go... not at once. That's going to be impossible. Just like with lifting, you have to build up your frame / stop hating your wife slowly. That begins with seeing your flaws and WHY you hold it against her. If you self-reflect you know it's your flaws. You have flaws, we all do... how do you deal with it? Do you dwell on the past? Stop that shit. Focus on the present - meditate if you can to help with this. I had the issue of focusing on the FUTURE. What might she do, what ma…
/r/askMRP11/01/19 07:57 PM
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I'll be reading this post daily... just like this one The recognition of all the ways that one seeks validation is massive in overcoming it. Once you realize it, you can call yourself a faggot and fix it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 07:11 PM
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Yeah, well this was part of my covert contracts pre-RP. My wife used to ask for her feet rubbed. I hate rubbing feet. Used to do it as a covert contract (which got me nowhere of course). I do rub her back, legs, and ass because I LIKE the way she feels and how it makes ME feel. It's for me, not her and I have zero expectation of anything in return. No more covert contract, no more foot rubbings, I enjoy her for myself.
/r/askMRP11/01/19 06:29 PM
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Be in a good mood and 90% of the time she will be too. And if she's not... still be in a good mood. Have fun with your wife, get her emotions to be what you want. Example: my wife says she's healthy and strong as an ox all the time, so when she's bitchy I started calling her the Ox Bitch (or OB). It's stupid and corny as hell, but guess what? She laughs because I'm having fun with it. Good feelz from a masculine man is what they want biologically need.
/r/askMRP11/01/19 06:23 PM
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And maybe she didn't have a problem with you initiating, you were just initiating like a bitch? Excuse me, but please can I stick my penis in you? I really like to do that and I think it brings us closer together and after we can cuddle and then I'll rub your feet and get you nice things. Pretty please?
/r/askMRP11/01/19 06:03 PM
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A year? And I thought my month of Rambo was a huge failure for me. She's a pain in my ass I want to cuddle Sounds like you're confused as hell. And of course it's hard to do it... it's supposed to be hard, nothing in life that is worthwhile is going to be easy. Here's some of the advice/questions/wisdom I've been given on here when I fuck up (like weekly fuck something up, oh well do better next time): Stop being an ass for the sake of being an ass. Stop reading into what she does or says as a m…
/r/askMRP11/01/19 06:01 PM
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I found when I started owning my shit around the house that needed to get done, this stopped almost immediately. It's NOT ABOUT THE TRASH. If it needs to be done - get it done, don't wait for it. If it's Sunday - go take down the trash at 5PM... did you miss a day in the past? Did you 'forget' ever? Sounds like your wife has contempt for you and holds the power (because it sounds very similar to how my wife was). Where I was 'lazy' now I 'don't sit down'. 'Sleep too much' to 'it's not normal you…
/r/askMRP10/01/19 08:52 PM
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Today everyone just got invited to the work's Women's Group presentation of inherent bias in the workplace in men. Wtf is going on. At least it's not mandatory... this time.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 06:42 PM
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My mental health was terrible UNTIL I started embracing my masculinity and realized that suppressing who I am caused me significant anxiety and depression. In three months my anxiety has virtually vanished. Still there because of insecurities I have yet to overcome but my God what a difference it's made - to me, my kids, my wife, how people at work treat me, how people I don't know treat me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 04:25 PM
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If you push right off for some new uncomfortablr-for-her physical act because Emotion is out of your confidence and comfort zone, you'll likely meet resistance without substantial Dread. Yep - my wife says I talk too much during sex and it's annoying. This is me not being confident and overthinking what I am saying before I say it. Don't try to hard... it needs to be natural for you and work up to things. Don't go read the SGM and then try to do everything at once ... that's not a very good idea…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 03:17 PM
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Social media in general is harmful to everyone. Especially women - it's an echo chamber. I was lucky that my wife quit everything except instagram (this was me leading by quitting everything first) and that's more to share kids pictures with the family than any 'social media' aspects. Without this outlet, she's made some deeper connections with a few close friends. And stop being logical with your wife - it doesn't work. It's really clear to me now that every time I go logical she just finds som…
/r/askMRP10/01/19 02:29 PM
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It hasn’t stopped sex. It’s more now than ever before. One week of 4x then one of 2x. So you’re right. It’s just harder to work out the logistics without her right there next to me. Thanks for your clarity on my puke.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 09:50 PM
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and yes I know I need to find ways to initiate during the day. It’s hard with kids always around. And she’s not down with babysitters either (out of fear). I’ve been able to a few times (morning, afternoon while kids are playing).
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 09:34 PM
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No... it's completely out of my control and talking never helped things at all, she just gets pissed. I have focused on my reactions with her and at least have not gotten angry or complained to her about this in the past week (can't say the same the week before). It's going to still bother me for awhile, but you're 100% right - I can't control it and need to stop wanting to/trying.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 09:22 PM
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That's a good point - she does like to lay with the kids and has fallen asleep more frequently because of schedules. Also, because sex. If she's ALWAYS around the kids, where does that leave time for sex? I do think it's part of her grieving still after my son died and not wanting to lose them. I see it negatively reflecting on me because I have a shitty self-image that I thought I had overcome, but nope - more work to do here. I still don't think it's healthy for the kids to have mom every nigh…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 09:04 PM
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I know I shouldn't care so much. It's validation seeking. Getting out of my head on this one has been really tough. I've been using the anger during lifts, but it's affecting my sleep now as well. I know it's me being a faggot, but I also know I'm can't continue forever with my wife not sleeping in our bed. Since we're owning our shit here... My main line of thinking: "She doesn't want to lay in here because I'll try and initiate and she finds me unattractive" "Things were going well and now she…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 08:52 PM
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You should know whether she adds value to your life or not. If she does then great. Women will change their views on EVERYTHING depending on the moment and their emotions. The more important thing is what do you want and does she fit into that picture. Don't be like me and wait 18 years to start assessing that. ​ If you're 4 years in you know the answer to whether to get married, continue the LTR , or cut her loose.
/r/askMRP08/01/19 07:19 PM
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Where she sleeps (in the middle of their two beds pushed together) makes picking her up impossible without stepping on a kid (I've tried). I had in the past been walking in around 10/11 and waking her up, leading her to our bed. The last time I did this and initiated she got pissed (probably since I pressured her and was beta about it), slammed a door and broke her finger so that's definitely on my mind. It's also me overthinking that I being needy by wanting her with me. So it sounds like I sho…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 04:21 PM
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My frame has been ok, but I don't think I have been tested this week much either. As things improve at home this actually disappoints me - the shit testing getting less frequent and less intense. I guess it's a good thing, but some of the shit tests I started finding entertaining.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 04:14 PM
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We talked for about 40 minutes naked in bed, then she was ready to sleep. That's a long time to talk. I have learned that talking about my needs for sex = dry vagina. Glad it worked out for you Sunday though. She said she feels a lot of pressure to have sex with me a certain number of days a week, and that it turns her off even when she wants to have sex with me. Where is this pressure coming from? There should be no pressure on her to have sex with you for the sake of having sex with you. You d…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 04:09 PM
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It's hard to turn off the harsh self-criticism right now but that's exactly what I need to do, stop caring what other people (including myself) think. This is a moment for unfettered exploration and fearless creation. I think a lot of us self-criticize and look for external validation. As the need for external validation diminishes it almost feels an empty feeling. This feeling is needing to convince yourself you're the prize, that you're becoming better and you don't need anyone to tell me this…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 03:58 PM
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This is what is so challenging... especially when you put your marriage above your children (for their sake), but your wife doesn't. I am struggling with this now as seen in my OYS this week... I think mothers can easily get overly attached to the kids and it's very hard to break this pattern.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 03:38 PM
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Kids are the biggest pain in the ass in life, the biggest heartache, and the greatest joy. There is no better feeling in the world than when your kid runs to you when you walk in the door and grabs on to you and says "I love you daddy". On the flip side if anything happens to your kids you're going to feel it 100x worse. You won't be ready because there is no 'ready'... you do it and deal with it. Honestly, 1 kid is a life style change but at least you can still schedule time around their schedu…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 03:36 PM
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OYS Week 13 Mission: Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: · Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 207; BF: 21%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Current Reading: Practical Female Psychology Physical / Health 3 workouts last week. Squat: 175, BP 137.5, BR 137.5, OHP 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 03:26 PM
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Your relationship sounds about where mine is now. It's frustrating since things aren't 'horrible' but they're definitely not 'great'. I think you're overthinking this strategy and that's coming from someone who overthinks fucking everything. I have to train my brain to just live in the moment of what I want to do. Consider if 'it's too late' a quick hard 5 minute fuck if YOU want to. Make it what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 02:54 PM
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I'm exactly where you are... except I don't get BJ/HJ. Just PIV. And it sucks - why can't she serve me, why doesn't she want ME to have pleasure? This thinking it sucks puts us in her frame and is validation seeking. I do it, I know I do it, I'm getting better at internalizing that I don't need her validation. It's a process and I look at it this way - once I can honestly look at myself physically (you have this one looking good at least), mentally (knowing what I want and my purpose) and emotio…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 02:43 PM
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She still thinks im very attractive, but has no desire to have sex with me. No she doesn't or she'd be having sex with you. Since you're not married - reassess your relationship and if this is how you want the next 50 years of your life playing out. If you want to stay for some reason - lift, sidebar, STFU, etc. etc. Realize this is all caused by you in one way or another. BTW pet peeve is I hate the word "Partner" or "Better Half" or "Other Half". It implies that you're not whole without her. S…
/r/askMRP04/01/19 04:40 PM
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Great on the weight loss. 40 lbs in 9 months is very good progress. I still have BF to lose but got my weight down from 265->208 in about 2 years with a lot of fucking around. With the weight loss - think of it this way. If I lose x lbs per week then in a year I'll be x weight. And just know as long as you're hitting your weekly goals, you'll hit your long term goal. Also I remind myself that it took me 18 years to get into this mess and me to instantly fix it is a retarded way of thinking.
/r/askMRP04/01/19 03:36 PM
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I see a lot of similarities between us... my guess is you are an instant results guy. And measure yourself by where you think you should be versus honest assessment of where you are. This makes you a victim immediately (and me too since I do it). We have to stop doing this and the only way I've found that I'm improving is recognizing that this is a journey, ask myself am I improving each month, and what I can do differently. You need some self-reflection here. I can't stop myself either sometime…
/r/askMRP04/01/19 02:55 PM
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Yeah you fucked up... we all do. Fuck up less. I found the best thing to do here is self-reflection: 1) Why did I act that way? 2) Did it get me what I wanted? (I'm guessing this is going to be no about 100% of the time) 3) What can I do differently next time? ​ Don't dwell on it, that'll just keep your wheels spinning. I fuck up and do something I immediately regret like once a week still. Usually it's small shit where I know I was creating covert contracts in my head. Usually the victim puke i…
/r/askMRP04/01/19 02:44 PM
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Things are definitely improving quicker than I could have imagined... the more OI I am about not having sex, the more sex I get. I still fuck this up by being butthurt some days which I need to work on (and have improved on). I have arbitrary numbers in my head for what a 'good' number of times per week is. This has negatively caused my OI issues. I really need to stop giving a fuck if it's 1x, 2x, or 4x in a given week. I also need to stop initiating just to get the # per week up. What I mean h…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 02:05 PM
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Just start with the default program. SLs is great and start light - with the bar to focus on form. It gets hard quick. The app is great too and if you spring for the cheap subscription (I think it's like $20 for a year) gives you warm ups, assistance exercises if you want, etc. You don't really need the subscription but it is convenient. I'd worry about gaining strength. I saw some great appearance changes since I started in October and plan to stick with SL until I run out of steam and need to …
/r/askMRP03/01/19 03:29 PM
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Exactly. It’s not apoligizing. Never apologize. This is as close as you should come. Removing the word “sorry” from my vocabulary was a good first step. I rarely say anything unless I know I was being a dumb shit because of my own judgement. I think it was in MMSLP but be your own judge and the most you should ever do is apologize once and move on.
/r/askMRP02/01/19 06:06 PM
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If you felt bad for your actions (not because she felt bad) and she brings it up you can either say nothing or simply say “mistakes were made” or something to that effect. This sounds like you were on your knees begging forgiveness. Also if she brings it up again simply tell her the matter is closed in your mind and you’re not discussing it. If she keeps bringing it up maybe you should call her friend nd rethink your LTR.
/r/askMRP02/01/19 05:23 PM
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OYS Week 12 Mission: Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: · Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 208; BF: 23%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method. Current Reading: How to Win Friends and Influence People. Physical / Health Stronglifts 5x5. 4 workouts last week. Squat: 170, BP 135, BR 145, OHP 100, DL 240 3 da…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 04:46 PM
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Yeah I’m now aware and can beat that voice in my head down 60% of the time now. 30% of the time I STFU and just deal with my thoughts. The other ten percent is when I really fuck up and lose my shit with her. There is no reason or excuse for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/18 10:05 PM
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Timely post. I victim puked today about my wife falling asleep in one of the kids beds. No reason for it other than not feeling validation that she’s choose me over them. Hell I’ve gotten more sex the last two weeks than in the months prior. She’s warm, not as bitchy, things going great. Then I get pulled into her frame wondering if this is an act, is she truly becoming attracted to me, etc. I fucked up and this is the primary area to focus on. I got a lot of work to do. Other than the standard …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/18 04:49 PM
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PCP recommended it. And injections could as you’re putting in T versus having your balls make it. Regardless it seemed to have worked combined with lifting. Not going to change something that’s working.
/r/askMRP23/12/18 06:22 PM
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You are thinking way too much about her here. I’ve wanted my wife to go out more with me pre RP. She used kids an excuse. Now she’s bringing up trying to find time without the kids. So do what you want, stop taking about what you want her to do and she’ll figure out for herself what she needs to do. Talking and logic are stupid with women. Stop being emotional and overthinking. Let your wife be the emotional one. Once she realizes she can be her feminine self and emotional and you’re the oak, ev…
/r/askMRP23/12/18 05:21 PM
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Awesome post. You condense the journey nicely as well as how you’ll fuck up along the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/18 12:53 PM
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Your husband sucks. He can’t defend to his own father shit it in his house. I know this because I did this exact fucking thing. I was so beta I figured my wife would handle it. Guess what? You don’t need to handle anything here. Your husband needs to grow some balls and get out of his dads frame and your frame. For Christmas I wouldn’t do anything. Maybe fuck Chad for yourself. I bet you feel betrayed that your husband won’t defend you to his family. How could he defend you if a guy with a knife…
/r/askMRP21/12/18 10:02 AM
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Mine was very low a year ago... 220 range. Got on clomid which helps I think the thyroid to trigger more production. It helped some... got up to 300 didn’t feel any better. My guess is it skyrocketed after dropping weight and lifting and is now 650 ish. It makes a world of difference having the energy, wanting to do shit (any shit just want to be busy), being assertive, whatever. The only reason I didn’t do injections was it could hurt chances for a kid and I want one more.
/r/askMRP21/12/18 09:56 AM
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MRP cured my depression and anxiety after 18 years. No joke. This is life changing but you have to want to change and it’s probably the hardest thing you’ll do. And it never fucking ends. But it’ll be worth it because you’ll feel free. Like you’ve never felt before.
/r/askMRP21/12/18 02:07 AM
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Ugh. What makes this so sickening to read is I would have written something like this three months ago. God I know I have a lot of fucking work to do but at least I’m not this guy. I originally thought troll but looking back this is the massive taking it up the ass faggot I was. Lots of work to do, but when my wife says she’s mad me and I say “is it because I want to fuck you in the ass” I actually get a grin and called a sick fuck. Ah how much more fun life can be when you start not caring. Edi…
/r/askMRP21/12/18 01:47 AM
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Follow the levels of dread. Slowly. It’ll take at least a month per year you’ve been together. You have a great start since you said you’re in shape. I think most guys on here started the same as you. But one of the first things you have to realize that your needs are a priority. And if that means divorce or cheating... then it could come to that. But since you’ve been the one who fucked things up... get unfucked, give your wife some time to catch up, then you’re in a position to make some decis…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 07:46 PM
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Everything that happens to you is your fault. Embrace this and use it advantageously. The only way to truly grow is to use your failures as lessons so you can succeed next time I would say here that everything is either in your control or not. If it is then it’s your fault. If it’s not than it’s not worth worrying/stressing over. There’s lots of tragedy and hardships you aren’t at fault for but they’re not in your control. Example. When my son was diagnosed with brain cancer and passed away that…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 08:31 PM
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Yep. I’ve emphasized this with AA a lot. She has lots of ASD going on.
/r/askMRP19/12/18 03:22 PM
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You need to decide if it’s inevitable but simply taking to them will help to reduce the fear you have of losing the kids and let you make an informed decision one way or another. Fear and ego are what bring men down.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 01:28 PM
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So you’re in a much better position as me but I’ll tell you my plan. So I was a dumb ass, poor vetting, beta, didn’t ask or push for anything for fear of rejection/scaring her off. Sex has always been vanilla... some different positions but never oral for me once for her. Let me say that again... she’s never given me a BJ. Yeah I fucked up. Her reasons are it’s something sluts do and is degrading. I continue to AA this but also give her the knowledge that i would not think less of her for being …
/r/askMRP19/12/18 12:12 PM
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Definitely do this. Even if you have no intention of leaving right now, just knowing how things would play out helps get your mindset right regarding the kids and whatever else. It really helped me realize how fine life would be for me and the kids if we ever split. Ironically that is one of the key things for me in turning my life and starting to turn our relationship around by focusing on what I want. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 01:00 AM
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Ignore or AA... sounds like manipulation to me though. Especially if it's frequent. Just tell her to blow you and that'll make you happy for the day or something. ​
/r/askMRP18/12/18 08:00 PM
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The only thing that sticks for me is the thought of losing my kids. Have you talked to a lawyer to see where you'd stand for custody? Is it better for them to see you and your wife unhappy and arguing or see two healthy parents? It's up to you to decide if this is salvageable or not but don't analyze it to death or factor in anything else other than what's best for YOU. If she's still high value in your mind (she wouldn't be in mine; cheating = immediate divorce) then try to fix. May be worth re…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 07:57 PM
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I'd like to say that I don't know that guy, that I was sick and overtrained (I was) but that isn't the real me. Except it is When I was feeling great = good mood and fairly good frame... Feeling shitty this week = failure all around on OI and DNGAF. I agree with you - you know you've made it when you're feeling shitty physically (for whatever) but can still can keep your mental shit together.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 07:23 PM
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The best you can do is plant a seed in his mind. Don't speak to anything specific RP. Maybe asking him if he's truly happy in life (he'll say yes) would be enough or get him to think what the worst that could happen if she left him permanently would be. The seed may never grow but that's on him not you. One day he may wake up (as we all have) and realize there's more to this life than being miserable due to some woman.
/r/askMRP18/12/18 04:28 PM
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OYS Week 10 – Failure to Comfort Mission: Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: · Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 209; BF: 24%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method. Current Reading: How to Win Friends and Influence People. Any recommendations for books after this? I think I have Practical Female Psychology…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 04:08 PM
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I think this is why almost everyone goes through a Rambo stage. Some worse than others. You think you’re being “the alpha” when you’re just being a pouty little beta poorly pretending to be an alpha. Once you stop pretending to be something you’re not and simply be you - what you truly want not with regard to your wife, parents, children, friends, society, whoever - then you start getting what this is all about.
/r/askMRP15/12/18 02:33 AM
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I’ve just entered month 3 and am starting to realize this. Lots of guys have pointed it out to me. I’ve been wrapped up that my success is changing her behavior. But it’s not. It’s making me better. And this is a long game that takes hard work. Lots of hard work with only little improvements here and there. But looking down the road these will add up. I’ve been trying to be too much like some of the chads on here and being fake / laying on the AA/AM/ sexy all non stop. That’s not at all what thi…
/r/askMRP14/12/18 07:01 PM
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That’s your ego. Kill the ego. Post your shit. The only reason you want to go at it alone is for some sort of sense of self pride (aka ego).
/r/askMRP13/12/18 08:45 PM
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Start doing the work and improve. Or don’t and be shitty until you die. Your choice. No one else’s.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 05:25 PM
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Thanks. I think your last line is my main issue. I just need to get up and find something better to do. Your point on not hanging around someone disinterested is spot on. I’ll remember this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 12:36 AM
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I used to feel hurt when called an asshole. Now I love it. It means I’m putting me first. Half the time it’s said with a joking smile. The other half is just a shit test. She loves the asshole in you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 11:28 PM
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I’d have come across butthurt when I went to bed - she would rather play on her phone than talk to me? How’d you break out of feeling butthurt? I’m butthirt by this. Don’t complain anymore about it but it does bother me. How’d you get fully to DNGAF?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 10:28 PM
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; OYS Week 9 - 2 Months in Mission: Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: · Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 209.6; BF: 24%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Lifts: Stronglifts 5x5. 3 workouts last week. Squat: 170, BP 105, BR 125, OHP 100, DL 210 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man, Sex God Method. Current Reading: How to Win Friends and Influence People…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 05:39 PM
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Yep. I’m not as far along as you but I’ve started getting that. Great sex with her super enthusiastic and then the next day shit tests. I see a correlation the more I dominate her in the bedroom the more I see testing the next day. Makes perfect sense on buyers remorse testing.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/18 03:35 PM
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The latter... I see progress in all areas of my life. Physical, career, parenting and her. She knows (she’s said it not me) that I’ll get what I want with her or someone else.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 05:21 PM
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I’m realizing there’s a lot of hot women out there and once I make myself attractive I’ll have options. My wife shows signs of mild dread. Especially when I travel (usually 1 wk per month). It will take time and I’m ready for it. She came to bed last night and we had a quick fuck so I’m not too concerned by what she says. Only what she does.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 04:52 PM
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Hide it. I had Low T... got on Clomid (off label use but protects fertility). This all happened months ago before finding RP. Increased a bit but still low. Started lifting and numbers shot up back to normal for my age. Wife blames the Clomid for wanting to fuck all the time and suggested I stop it. Don’t you dare share this. If she finds out it’s one thing and own it. But it your business not hers. Are you doing it for you or her?
/r/askMRP07/12/18 04:47 PM
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I need to remind myself of the logic. I’m very logical and good at debate but there’s no logic here. It’s all emotion. Will continue to work on this. Good news is it’s usually small stuff that I get into. When she goes full on bitchy it’s very easy to see her as an emotional child that is flailing to try and put me in my place to regain power.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 12:37 AM
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She is spoiled. No fucking on kitchen floor but some great fucks in the bedroom. More in the past week than the prior 2 months. Back to her not wanting to be a “hooker”. Figured a fun response would be “Yeah but you’re my hooker”. She did not like that lol. She goes from ready to fuck to cold as ice. I think as you (or someone pointed out) it’s the Madonna/whore complex. Anyhow sex god method pretty interesting book. Added some spanking and no protesting.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 12:12 AM
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My wife goes into emotional rage mode. Fogging usually doesn’t help when she’s in that mood. Not arguing with her (though I do still find myself starting to and then stop quickly) and removing attention helps. She’ll be pissy for a few hours or a day but then it’s magic like nothing happened. Going through that right now. Overall it’s a good thing. She’s shit testing me and I laugh it off or remove myself. Try just leaving her be, reset the next day. If she wants to be bitchy so be it, don’t let…
/r/askMRP06/12/18 11:46 PM
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I’m finding my wife shows signs of being turned on then gives me shit about how she’s not a whore. Usually I can break through this but last night we got in this cycle of trying to break through 5-6 times and then went to sleep. Is there a point when to stop trying break through here or do I push until I get a hard emphatic no?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 02:45 PM
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Definitely an area I need to read up more on (prepping and what to eat). I'll aim for the 1.2-1.4g.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 03:10 PM
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Just shift things (slowly). Don’t respond to her emotions... be happy and do what you want to do. Don’t want to text? Don’t. She throws a fit... who cares... STFU. Start seeing texting for logistics and not emotional discussions. Maybe sexting too but you seem so far away from that probably not. Own the changes. “Yeah I’m improving to keep my options open” is a fun one. There will be shit tests to prove your frame since she thinks your faking it. Just keep a positive attitude. Don’t let her mood…
/r/askMRP04/12/18 02:42 PM
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OYS Week 8 Mission: Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: · Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 210.0 lbs; BF: 24.1%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Lifts: Stronglifts 5x5. 4 workouts last week. Squat: 155, BP 100, BR 120, OHP 100, DL 190 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man. Next reading: Sex God Method Goals Improve Fitness – Complete 3 months Stronglift …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 01:50 PM
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Lift, STFU, read sidebar. Read the basic books. They apply regardless of having a LTR/Marriage or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/18 04:16 PM
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Just remember with the Gaming, the correct mindset is that it’s for you, not her. You grind that ass because you like it, don’t do it looking for a certain reaction from her. I didn't even expect things to escalate the way they did... it was fun for me. I want life to be fun especially at home. That she was openly receptive came as a huge surprise. Now she's gone from thinking I'm perverted to engaging in sexual innuendo/talk/texts - all in a few weeks. Starfish to throwing her against the wall …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 05:56 PM
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It's a marathon that never ends. I get it. There's a long long way to go and something that will never ever end. And why would you want it to?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 02:30 PM
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OYS Week 7 Mission: Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: · Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 211.0 lbs; BF: 24.7%; Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Lifts: Stronglifts 5x5. 4 workouts last week. Squat: 140, BP 90, BR 110, OHP 95, DL 170 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man. Current Reading: 48 laws of power. Background: Life has sucked for me… I was just su…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 01:49 PM
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This was six days long of increasing hysterics. Maybe first of many. But I’ll take the good now. Haven’t had “good” in a long time.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/18 09:14 PM
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OYS Week 6 – Main Event 1 Mission: Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: · Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 211.0 lbs (-1); BF: 24.7% (based on scale so not very accurate); Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Lifts: Stronglifts 5x5. 4 workouts last week. Squat: 125, BP 85, BR 105, OHP 90, DL 160 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations, Way of the Superior Man. Current Reading: 48 laws o…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/18 01:55 AM
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I talked to her mom tonight and she was so happy for me that it looked like we are separating. Said I don’t deserve the treatment from her. The only reason she didn’t speak up is she knows my wife would cut off access to her grand kids. Also that my wife is a narcissist. Completely validates everything for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/18 01:48 AM
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Thank you! It’s nearing the end (big blow up tonight from her). I need more time but so be it. You’re right on all accounts here. I can’t save her. I’ve given her two and a half years but she is convinced nothing is wrong with her and it’s all me. The one positive note is MRP has prepared me mentally. I’d have been a wreck reaching this point five weeks ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/18 01:15 AM
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I am in therapy for the last 2 years. It's helped... actually helped get me to this point. Surprisingly she says a lot of the same stuff as RP (no talking about RP) - focus on yourself, she'll come along or won't, etc. My wife absolutely refuses therapy as she says there's nothing wrong with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 06:25 PM
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It IS fucked up, but I can only fix me. The most important thing these last two years was to make sure the kids were ok. We did a pretty good job of it but now the situation may be FUBAR. 80% of marriages don't survive a loss of a child... exactly for similar reasons (one is ready to move on, the other is not).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 05:11 PM
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But I can also read your words and know this (as I am sure you do as well), you are useless to your living children and your "wife" if you don't get your shit sorted. Exactly, I know this. I've let them all down. No sense in focusing on the past though. It is an exercise in stoicism and knowing that life needs to be lived in the now (Check out "31 Days to Masculinity") I'll check out the book. Trying to practice stoicism has really really helped me. Especially knowing that NO ONE can injure me u…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 04:23 PM
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Primary goal for me is to get more and better sex and to have her respond in kind. Unsolicited ANYTHING would be an unbelievable end result. Better yet, I want for her to not be ashamed to be in my presence when we go out. I want to feel better about myself. I want to live a healthier and more fulfilling lifestyle. I want to look good. I want more confidence. I want to be a better father to our child. This may be a goal, but is it your mission? On your deathbed do you want to say "my life has be…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 04:17 PM
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Why aren't you putting away the laundry (yours and the kids) to show her how to do it? My wife sucks at laundry - it's the only house chore she has a problem with. I've taken the initiative to do my own stuff, get the kids to help fold and put away their stuff. Her stuff gets left (not to be an asshole but I don't know what to do with it and her crazy closet). Since doing this, I've found the laundry sometimes even gets done during the week now... before it'd just pile up. If it does, I just spe…
/r/askMRP13/11/18 03:34 PM
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OYS Week 5 – One Month In Mission: Steer my family back into a path of direction and leadership while becoming high value. Have a passionate life and share myself fully with the world. Stats: · Age: 35; Heights: 74 in; Weight: 212.8 lbs (-1); BF: 24.9% (based on scale so not very accurate); Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12); Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Lifts: Stronglifts 5x5. 4 workouts last week. Squat: 105, BP 75, BR 95, OHP 80, DL 140 Readings: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 03:12 PM
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MCT is brutal but gives great advice. Shit tests are being passed now more and more... she's still pissed and says she's not a slut, blah blah, but I just AA it. I'm strangely enjoying it. She's still going to bed early - I see this as a continued shit test looking for a reaction from me. She at least is going to sleep so maybe she has been tired. It still pissed me off, but I don't let her know that.
/r/askMRP12/11/18 01:57 PM
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This is the same for me... never very alpha. Some alpha traits that died early on. I believed in the true love/ soul mate myth. Your explanation makes a lot of sense on the testing to see if she made a mistake.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 09:41 PM
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I’ve been with her since end of HS. She definitely has hangups. Lots of sexual shame and it’s always been hard to get her to relax regarding sex. If I can get things started it’s fine, it’s this mental block that she thinks she’s slutty. Not sure where it came from but it’s there. This could be a big factor as I don’t think she ever came so hard as these days. Full body, gasping, couldn’t touch her for a minute it was so intense. Then fucked her hard from behind with her ass in the air. Never di…
/r/askMRP09/11/18 06:37 PM
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Good advice. I’ll slow it down a little and stop over analyzing her words.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 06:24 PM
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Not butt hurt at all. I think it’s a funny delusion on her part.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 06:12 PM
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That she has zero interest in sex with anyone (not just me).
/r/askMRP09/11/18 05:53 PM
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She went to sleep. Daughter started up school so it’s possible she was really tired. Good point.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 05:36 PM
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That’s what I hear (with you), but her lying claim is she has zero desire and should be a nun. Oh well. I’ll go lift more.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 05:22 PM
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I’m done with the lying and contracts. Either she’s a NAWALT who really does not have any sexual desire or she’ll come around. If she doesn’t in a year after running my MAP I’ll be in a prime position to make a decision. All I know is life feels pretty great regardless of her.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 04:54 PM
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Reading comprehension fail. Hard to do with kids around. Morning sex a week and a half ago it was light out so that counts.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 04:49 PM
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Perfect. If she brings up up again, I'll throw some AA... I've done some of it but mostly just fogging. The biggest thing for me, is a month ago I would have apologized and told her I'm not like other guys, blah blah. This time it's hell yes, you're absolutely right I want to fuck your brains out all the time. I think the attractiveness is getting to her - I still am a fat fuck and just started lifting a month ago, but had dropped significant weight in the past few months, had to get wedding rin…
/r/askMRP09/11/18 04:44 PM
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When was the last time you just flirted, with no intention of escalation? I think I just suck at flirting w/o making it overtly sexual. When was the last time you tried to initiate when it was still light out? Last night - hard no
/r/askMRP09/11/18 04:26 PM
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I told her I owned my mistake for not checking. It's not a big deal they're just tater tots She was crying and saying that I've changed she used to like me. I got a similiar statement though more extreme: "You were fatter but nice, and now you're not as fat and an asshole, I married that fat one". The coldness from her went on for a week and a half, no touching, no comfort testing, just sheer contempt. Then like a light switch it turned off and things the past 4 days have been great. Went from I…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 06:25 PM
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OYS Week 4 Mission: Steer my family back into a path of direction and leadership while becoming high value. Stats: · Age: 35 · Heights: 74 in · Weight: 213.8 lbs (+0.2) · BF: 24.8% (based on scale so not perfect) · Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12) · Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Lifts: Stronglifts 5x5. 4 workouts last week. Sidebar Reads: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations. Current reading: Way of the Superior Man. Anything else to read next that ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 12:59 PM
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This... you see things as a war with your wife. I did too and royally fucked things up. It’s not about her... stop hating her and live a fun life. Go read Meditations or at least some quotes from it. Nothing she does can affect you unless YOU let it.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 08:13 PM
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I've been somewhat of an asshat but no more than usual. I just have ignored bad behavior which for now has resulted in increased level of bad behavior. She's now sending me divorce lawyers. This is starting to get comical.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 07:01 PM
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The last thing I've probably done is gone to see Infinity War when it came out. I did feel guilty about spending time by myself though. In general, I don't know what I want at this point... the anxiety I had since I was a kid led me to always be concerned what I thought other people wanted me to do... I have never in my memory been 'alone in my head' and my sense of not giving a fuck has increased significantly. It's frankly scary as shit. ​ I do know that I want a happy healthy relationship - a…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 12:44 PM
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Thank you for this.. it has helped me see things differently. If you remain full and strong, humorous and happy, your truth unperturbed by her testing, then you pass the test. This has been my main problem (newly unplugged). I get angry with her testing and push back thus failing the test. She's currently mad at me because I didn't get her a drink (in retrospect not a shit test, she had paint all over her and I was already standing up). But since I was overthinking it WAS a compliance test I rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 12:38 PM
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OYS Week 3 Mission: Steer my family back into a path of direction and leadership while becoming high value within a year. Stats: · Age: 35 · Heights: 74 in · Weight: 213.5 lbs (-3.5) · BF: 25.0% (based on scale so not perfect) · Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12) · Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Lifts: Stronglifts 5x5. 3 workouts last week. Sidebar Reads: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP, Meditations. Current reading: Way of the Superior Man Background: Knew I ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 11:58 AM
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Thanks for all the feedback. I think all the anger I’ve had with not being happy for so long wants to lash out. I’ll do this on the weights as you suggested versus at my wife. Nothing gained from that. On nutrition I track calories via MyFitnessPal. My appetite has been significantly reduced and while not sustainable long term only eat around 1500 cal per day.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 04:26 PM
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You're right on all accounts. Time to do better.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 06:55 PM
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OYS Week 2 – Need feedback See frame section at bottom for where I need some feedback. Mission: Steer my family back into a path of direction and leadership while becoming high value within a year. Stats: · Age: 35 · Heights: 74 in · Weight: 216 lbs (-3) · BF: 25.3% (based on scale so not perfect) · Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12) · Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 · Lifts: Stronglifts 5x5. 4 workouts every other day last week. Sidebar Reads: WISNIFG, NMMNG (x2), Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSL…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 01:52 PM
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I'm a fucking speed reader.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 04:50 PM
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Holy shit... I thought I was in a bad spot but you made me feel much better. This shit = divorce. No working through it.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 04:34 PM
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Thanks for the response. STFU is the go to. I think the "He's gonna pop" is exactly what happened. It's the brain fighting with itself for what was real. It was not so much anger (I am still angry at time to time but at myself for this getting so bad), but just a really weird, I can't describe it feeling. I was incredibly surprised the 180 degree turn around from Sat to Sunday.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 03:37 PM
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Shit happens with kids, especially if there's one parent around trying to get shit done. My daughter at 2 yo split her chin open due to a fall while my wife was making dinner. My other daughter popped her elbow out of the socket since she tried to escape me holding her, fell and I caught by the arm. Kids get hurt, that's life, that's how they learn. Your wife probably already feels like shit for it happening and you compounded it. The kid's fine and unless this is a common occurrence, chalk it u…
/r/askMRP17/10/18 06:21 PM
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OYS Week 1 Mission: Steer my family back into a path of direction and leadership while becoming high value within a year. Stats Age: 35 Heights: 72 in Weight: 219 lbs BF: 26.8% Wife: 38, (together 16, married 12) Children: 2 kids – 5 and 10 Lifts: Started Stronglifts 5x5 yesterday Sidebar Reads: WISNIFG, NMMNG, Rational Male, Book of Pook, MMSLP (x2), MAP. Will be rereading NMMNG this week. Background: Knew I had to change being needy and looking to others for validation about 3 months ago. Foun…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 05:49 PM
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Second link was very helpful. As everyone says here... judge actions not words. Her actions Sunday and today have been remarkably 180 degree turn starting with Sun morning sex. Then Sun night sex. Then Monday morning sex. Could be her trying to pull me back into compliance but I’m taking the sex right now while just having fun with life. I know I’m on an epic long journey here and will improve myself to be significantly better man than I am now. But little wins (in terms of my mindset not hers) …
/r/askMRP15/10/18 02:46 PM
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So I’ve been STFU up all day but she comes out and vents that I’m not the person she married (beta fag). My response was the it’s because I’m super awesome now. Then she said I’m going to end up single and I should look into how to start that. I swear I haven’t done anything except: 1) order weights, power rack and bench which came and she asked what was up 2) dropped 40 lbs since May (cardio my BF and lifts I’m sure suck). Will find out exactly how bad when I get everything setup tomorrow 3) th…
/r/askMRP13/10/18 09:44 PM
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By everything I mean fitness, frame, STFU, OI.
/r/askMRP13/10/18 03:14 PM
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Not thinking Rambo. Not going to run to get and demand a BJ. The shit tests will be tough. I will fail a lot of them, get mostly base hits for the ones I pass and rarely if ever hit one out of the park. AA is good but I need to get wittier.
/r/askMRP13/10/18 03:13 PM
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I’ve read NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, MAP, Rational Male, I’ve put together the start of my plan and am executing on it. First get my home gym built (that’s this weekend). Then lift (StrongLifts 5x5). The physical part is straightforward. Frame and OI is going to be my bigger challenge. I’ve been in her frame so long it’s taken me a nervous fucking breakdown (ok it was one day) to realize what I really want and if I’m not getting it from her then I need to really shape up and fix shit I let go on way…
/r/askMRP13/10/18 02:49 PM
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I agree with you 100%. That’s why I’m going to turn this shit around.
/r/askMRP13/10/18 02:17 PM
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I’m clearing out my garage since I got weights to put in there. On the morning reset do I just not bring it up and treat her as normal until she does something bitchy again?
/r/askMRP13/10/18 02:05 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/askMRP13/10/18 01:51 PM
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